Sept. 3, 2025

(no music) Tidying Up | LMBYTS #1427 | Jason Newland | 3rd September 2025

(no music) Tidying Up | LMBYTS #1427 | Jason Newland | 3rd September 2025
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Hello and welcome to Jasondewland dot com. My name's Jason Newland. This.

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What's he doing? This is let me boy to sleep.

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Before I started this recording, then he was cuddled up

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to me on the sofa, just chilling out. As soon

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as I start talking, literally I'm getting a thing set up,

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getting a microphone put there in front of me and

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all that stuff. The second I start talking. As soon

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as I say hello and welcome to Jasonnewland dot com,

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he jumps off and goes and finds something to chew on.

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It's the same as when he's like down, because you'll

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probably end up at the end of this recording back

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here lying down next to me. And as soon as

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I say, well, thank you for listening, Remember to be

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kind to yourself, blah blah blah, lots of love bye,

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it jumps up. So I don't know why. I think

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it might be because he's a dog. I don't know.

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I don't know. So it's Wednesday, I don't know what

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day of the month. What month is September, Yes, definitely September, Thursday,

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the third of September, two thoy and twenty five. It's

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currently eleven minutes to nine pm M hmm, I haven't.

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I haven't made a recording since Saturday. Not really felt

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particularly well, not not really yeah, not not yeah, just

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not not felt great. So I'm still not feeling particularly great.

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But I thought, because the statistics are so ridiculously bad

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on my podcast statistics, I thought I'd better make a

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recording because literally, honest, today, according to the stats right

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now so far today, bearing in mind, is only three

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hours or four hours left, because I think it starts

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at one in the morning, but let's say it's just

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over three hours left of the day. One hundred and

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seventy four downloads, So my podcasts have been listened by

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maximum one hundred and seventy four people in a whole day. Now,

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I'm not bragging, obviously that's really low. That's like now,

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I'd be pleased with that. Probably the first few months,

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maybe even the first year or two of making recordings,

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I wouldn't. But you know, I'm just saying it's like,

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potentially it's one hundred and seventy four people. That's quite

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a lot of people. But I always thought that maybe

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some of my older stuff might be listen to if

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I don't make a new recording every day, but doesn't

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seem to be the case, which you know, it's fair

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enough whatever, because you know, we want what we want,

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don't we or we like what we like. And I

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suppose it would be kind of weird in some ways

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listening to a recording from two thoy and nineteen, for example,

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because I'm talking about things, very different things to what

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I would talk about now, and there'd be a different

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animal running around making noise. I remember this one time,

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I was sitting over there. I'm pointing. It's not useful,

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it really is it when you can't see what I'm doing,

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but see the other side of the room, and I'm

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at my table and Andre, my little ferret has got

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strategically placed. I think about five different carrier bags dotted

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around the room, and he's literally running from one to

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the other, rolling around in it, making as much noise

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as possible, and then running over to the next one

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and making as much noise. Like the really crinkly carrier bags,

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ones that perhaps you get from a petrol station, you know,

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the white, white white. They might not be white, but

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they're particularly crinkly, or maybe you get your takeaway in them,

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if you get a takeaway meal or something just you know,

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they'd like the really cheap, flimsy ones that basically you

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can't hold much in them. You wouldn't use it to

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go on holiday with, you know, to packing all your

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gear and all your stuff in me generally you shouldn't

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be taking gear on holiday. Depend depends how you use

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that word. I suppose you could get arrested. Rah. So yeah,

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I that might be weird to listen back to those recordings.

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It might even be weird for me because I have

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started when I've started as and I've never done it.

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But over the last few months, I've been listening to

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my recordings a bit more often, just to get a

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sense of what it's like to listen to me me me,

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and I do send myself to sleep, and I've noticed that,

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even if it's just for a nap, I kind of

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feel better afterwards. So it's kind of yeah, I mean

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it's not the best. Is it a litmus test what

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I call it? But you know, doing it on myself.

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But there's someone in the garden showing that drummy. I

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don't know who that is. I don't know what drummy

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is with Yeah, it's weird drummy. What's drummy. Maybe it's

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a cat. Oh when I was in London. Well, here

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she goes again. Really weird because the window is open.

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Vinnie's just noticed it. He didn't even notice it, but

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normally that gets embarking. He hears someone in the garden shouting.

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We're not shouting but calling rather. Maybe Vinnie was just

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like slightly looking around, thinking, who's making more noise than me?

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How dare they? Ah, he's loving that. Wow. It was

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ever a nap a little while ago, about an hour ago,

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half seven, and he woke me up and he just

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stared at me, started licking my face and basically pushing

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me because he wanted me to get up. So in

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the end I said okay, and I go to take

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the covers off and he's pushing the covers on me,

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so I can't get the covers off. But make your

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mind up. You want me to get up or you

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don't want me to get up. But I think what

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he wanted was like a little fight, you know, a

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little playtime. So we had a little play He does

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this thing where he just stares. It's really weird waking

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up to that stare, just like just you know, and

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then he turns his head from side to side. Sometimes

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it goes all the way around and it's just like

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just stairs and I'm like, what do you want? And

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then other times he completely ignores me. You know. I

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try and give him something, a little bit of food

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or something which I know he normally likes, and it'll

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turn his head away. I don't think I'm never going

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to figure it out. What was I going to say?

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What else? I don't know. Oh, yeah, I've been tidying

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up the last few days. Well I've been tidying up

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about a month okay, three years, but being focused on

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it for about a month, and they're not they're not

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focusing on it. It kind of all started when I

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decided to ask my neighbors downstairs if they'd helped me

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to put my TV onto the wall. I already had

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a bracket, bought a bracket like two three years ago whatever,

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when I got the TV four years ago, I think,

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so they came up the bracket was too small, so

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and I'm thinking, oh, because I had this it was

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originally well I had the TV on top of a wardrobe,

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but it was like I had the wardrobe on inside

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and it was just the right size. To hold this

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TV because it's quite a big TV, but also down.

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But I took the door off the wardrobe and it

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left me with that big bit in you know, the space.

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And Andre used to use that space for his play area,

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so all his toys was in there, his water and

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his food. I also used it for Vinnie for his

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water and food as well, and it was just a

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good place to have stuff that could be his stuff.

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And I kind of kept it. So I had it

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like that for years, even though I had the bracket.

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I kind of liked it as it was because it

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suited the situation, you know. And then more recently I

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decided I didn't want that thing here anymore. I wanted

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it gone, and I wanted to it just seemed a

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little bit cluttered in here in this room, in the

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living room, a little bit a little bit too too

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much stuff. It's not really but two, what I mean

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is I don't like stuff. I don't like obstacles in

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a room. If possible for me, this is my personal preference.

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I like things to be on the near the wall,

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so the area between the walls is kind of clear

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clear I'm not talking about empty, but clearish, so I

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can get out from here and walk over to the

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door and not have any obstacles and not have to

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walk around anything. In the same way, I wouldn't have

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a table in front of my chair. And I've got

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reclined chair. And before you're thinking, wow, he's doing well

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for himself, he's got a big reclining sofa. This is

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probably about nine hundred years old. It's not even it's

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like probably fifth hand, not secondhand. It's been through I

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don't even want to know where it's been in the past,

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and its falling apart. It's broken in fact, but it's

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relatively comfortable, so I'm going to keep a bit for

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a while longer. I've only had it, probably only had

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it only for a few years. Well, I probably have

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had it for about five years. It's ridiculous and it

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only seems like a couple of years, but maybe five

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or six years or had this because I used to

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have a reclining chair, which was I can tell exactly.

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It's about one hundred and forty nine pounds. It was.

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I liked that chair, but I broke it on the

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very first day. Before you shout out, what what did

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you do? Sit in it? Your big fat bum like

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OI would be rude to me pretty much? It really Yeah,

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And there was one time where I sat I was

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sitting in it and I limped back and the thing

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did break and I got trapped whilst I was doing

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a recording. It wasn't on camera, but I literally got

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trapped backwards against the wall. In fact, I'm still there

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now help. A similar thing happened in a shop. Where

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was that shop? Wow? Where was it? Because I went

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into this shop and they had these chairs way out

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of my price range, but they were really really nice

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chairs and also kind of mechanical. I think some of

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them had like message and things like that, you know,

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and electrical reclining. I think that we basically for very

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elderly people. I think that's maybe people with physical I

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don't want the right word, is the correct word, that

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need a bit of help physically to kind of to

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recline and stuff like that. Because my Nan had a

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chair because she was disabled. I don't want to use

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the word disabled. But it's not it's not a swear word,

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is it. I'm disabled just mentally, I'm not not physically.

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My Nan was disabled because she broke a hip and

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she had this chair which used to Not only did

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it recline, it unclined. I'm not sure if that's the

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right word. She could she could sit down. Sitting down

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wasn't really difficult for her. Getting up was so he

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used to help her get up, used to push her

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out culor hands cutlor hands would just like appear from

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behind and push her out of the chair. No, it

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would kind of mechanically straighten up, which would help her

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to get out of the chair, which is amazing. I'm

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not sure what they're called. It's a very expensive chair,

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but it was really good and she didn't like it.

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She didn't I think when she first got it, because

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she had two chairs and a little table in between,

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and there was a sofa the other side of the room.

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This is when she had the sheltered accommodation. So I

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should explain what sheltered accommodation is for people that don't

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live in the UK. It might be the same term

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wherever you are, but it was basically what happened is

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she broke a hip in two thousand and two thousand, No,

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in yeah, two thousand and one summer, and she was

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still she was living in the house where she lived

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with my granddad, for many years, but there were stairs,

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and she went back to the house, continued to live

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her life. Finny, can you make a bit more noise please? Thanks?

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He always does as well, whenever say that, it always

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makes more noise. Very clever. She Yeah, she went back

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to living there because she she loved that house. That

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was her at my granddad's house. It was a family

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house because we lived there before they did, so it's

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always had always been in the family, and that was

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her home and she would have had it to be

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her home forever, you know, for the rest of her life.

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But then she was struggling with the stairs, and then

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she unfortunately broke a hip again and the other I

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think was the other hip, and then I might not

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have the timeline correct, but I think then she kind

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of had to move somewhere where there was no stairs

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and where there was at least someone that could look

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out for her, somewhere where there was someone on call,

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you know, someone was there most of the time. But

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she still had her own independence. So this flat she had,

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well I'm sure there was some upstairs flats as well,

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so it wasn't just for people that were needed ground floor,

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but she had it's mainly ground floor she had I

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think they even had couples living there. But she had

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his flat one bedroom flat, and there was a bedroom

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which is quite small, like it was big enough for

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the bed, a wardrobe, built in wardrobe, and that's about it.

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So there wasn't, you know, not ideal if for someone

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that was stuck in bed, or someone that was in

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bed a lot of the time, that would not be

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an ideal flat. But I suppose technically you could just

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put the bed into the living room so there would

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be a lot more room, So you know, depends. You've

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just got to kind of figure away around it, I suppose.

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So she just did what I did in my bedroom. Okay,

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that sounded weird, but I mean as far as she

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just slept in there and then wasn't in there the

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rest of the day. She was out in the living room.

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And I'm the same. I don't spend any time in

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my bedroom other than when I'm in bed. Now, some

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people listen to this might think yeah, and everyone else

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as well, everyone does that. Well, not necessarily, because in

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the past I lived in many, many, many many rooms

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where all it was was just a bed, sometimes a

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table and a chair. So I would watch TV. I

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would live in a room. You know, I'd be going

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out to work, then I'd get home and I'd be

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in that room. And other weekend, I'd be in that

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room the whole time unless I went out. And yeah,

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I'm just just I guess trying to explain it. It's

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like I got used to living like that. I lived

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like that for a long long time, pretty much most

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of my adult life until I was forty five, so

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you know, for nearly thirty years I lived like that.

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There's been times when I didn't, but most of the time,

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you know, I've had a couple of studio apartments, never

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had a flat before like this, not like this, like

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a council flat. I've lived in. I've lived in flats,

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I've lived in different places, but most of where I've

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lived has been in one room in a house like shared.

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What do they call it multiple occupancy MBOBOM multiple occupancy

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property MOP MOP. I don't know there's a certain term

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for it. It didn't used to be. It just used

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to be somewhere to live. How they've got terms multiple

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occupancy property MOP. It's a MOP A game, multiple occupancy

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of mom, occupancy of multiple OM M I don't know.

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So that's kind of how I lived my life for

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nearly thirty years on and off, so I was used

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to it. And when I moved in here, cause that's

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how I was. I mean, yes, that's how I was

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living before. Before I moved in here, I was just

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in one room and a and before that, I was

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in one room. And before that, I was in one room.

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And before that, I was in one room. Although I

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did a I did have access to a living room downstairs,

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and before that I was in one room. And before that,

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I was in a studio apartment, so it's still one room. Uh.

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Before that, I was in one room. Before that, I

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was in one room. Before that, I was in one room.

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Before that, I was in one room. BlimE me. Before that,

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I was in one room. No, I was sharing a flat,

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so it was a living room and I had a bedroom,

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so I was sharing a flat of a friend. Before that,

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I was in one room. Before that, I was in

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a blame me, I was sharing a room with someone.

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Before that I was, I was in one room. There

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was a living room, but I didn't use it. I

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basically just used to sort of spend all my time

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on my own in the room. So yeah, I lived

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in one room. Before that, I lived like shared a house.

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I was just renting a room in the house. But

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I was friends with a person, so you know, it

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wasn't so much just living in one room. Before that,

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I was living in one room for four years. And

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then before that, I was living in one room. There's

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quite a few rooms. Yeah, before I was living in

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one room. Before that, I had a studio, a little

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studio thing, so it was one room. So yeah. And

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before that, I was in a room, but I could

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use living room because I was staying at my dad's

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and before that it was his previous house as well.

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So again I had a bedroom and it was only

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for a few couple of months, about three months, and

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I stayed there, but I could use the living room.

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So I kind of wasn't really stuck to one room.

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But I did used to do that because I've watched

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TV and stuff so when I was working. So yeah,

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before that, I'm doing quite well. I'm going back to

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all different rooms. So before that I was living oh

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oh yeah, I was in London, so again, so I

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was in one room. Before that, I was just staying

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with someone temporarily on the couch. Before that I was living.

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It was a weird setup because me and a friend

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rented two rooms. I had one room, he had the

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other room. And this was in a house and I

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had the bedroom and he had the living room or

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we used his bedroom as a living room. I don't know.

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It's kind of a strange setup. But previously that I

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was living, I was living in a room with him.

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There was two beds, so I was sharing a room,

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sharing a room. I'll be honest with you, I don't

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know how many should do it, but yeah I did.

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I shared a room for it wasn't long it was

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I don't think it was more much more than a

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month or so. Before that, I had a room, one room.

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But that room that we shared of just one room.

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So yeah, and before that I was in just one room.

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And before that, I was justing, well, I'm just going

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to figure this one out. I moved from there? Where

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did I moved? He there from? Oh? Do do? Do do?

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I can't remember? Oh? Okay, Yeah, I was sharing. I

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was living in someone's flat. I was sleeping on the

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floor while a little basically cushions made from the sofa

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from the sofa cushions, so it wasn't really a home

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as such. And before that I was living in a room.

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And before that, this is very repetitive, isn't it. Before that,

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now this isn't This isn't the same, This isn't organized correctly.

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Wait a minute, before that, before that, before that? Where

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was I? Before that? I'm losing track of where I

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am now, okay on yeah, yeah, that's weird, not fair enough.

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So before that I was in a room. And then

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because yeah, I went to Spain for the day and

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then got kicked out there. So before yeah, so before

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that place, I was living at my dad's for a

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little while for a couple of months. And before that

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I was living in a room. Before that, I was

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living in a room. And before that I was living

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in a flat above the co op supermarket. That was

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what nineteen eighty eight, and I had a room. I mean,

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there was I s I've I always I spent most

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of my time in my room, but there was a

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l there was a living room there as well, sort

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of a TV and stuff. But I've always kind of

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preferred to just be on me own anyway, so that

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would be thought. I quite liked living there. Well, it

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was handy cause it was downstairs the walk. In fact,

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I think I was later. I was getting getting to

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it later than I was before. Yeah, And then going

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back I was Yeah. Then before that I was living

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at my dad's again for a little while. Then f

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I'm going backwardsn't I Wow? Then before that I was

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living at the chip shop, so I had my own flat.

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I'm gonna have missed. I've missed some of the things out,

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but it's fine. And then before that, I can't remember

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every single place I've moved around so many. Oh, I've

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missed the whole I've missed a chunk out. There was

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another place I lived in a council flat. This was

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a few years back, and I had a room. It

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was weird. It's quite a sad story, but I won't

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tell you the whole story. But it was Jim, my

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friend Jim who I worked with, and he just said,

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you want to move in. Lovely man, really lovely, really

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got on well with him, and I worked with him

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for a little while and then I didn't see him

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for Yeah, I didn't see him, probably just a couple

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of weeks. I didn't see him because it's something that

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happened at work and then I see him outside of

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work and he's like saying, well, things aren't going so well,

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and he's wants to try and rent his room out.

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So I thought, well, I'll help him out. He's helping

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me out as well. And yes, I moved into his

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council flat. Spent most of my time in the room

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when I wasn't working. But I didn't have to. You know,

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I could have gone, well I did. I always went

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and said low to him. I didn't. The thing is

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he was he liked to drink, but he was he was.

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He was a nice person, whether sober or drunk. He

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was just just a really nice person. And but I

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didn't back then, I never drunk alcohol. Yeah, because I

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was what was I um bum ba bum bum bum.

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I was nineteen. Yeah, I was nineteen at the time.

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I didn't didn't never was still a teenager. I didn't

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just drink. Just didn't drink. It wasn't wasn't something I did.

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And then yeah, So going back in further to the

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chip shop, I lived above the chip shop, so I

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did have my own living room. So I had a bedroom,

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living room, kitchen, and bathroom. Had to share the bathroom

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with the public. The customers from downstairs, which wasn't ideal.

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And eventually I moved pretty much everything into the living

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room and I just it's weird. So I ended up

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just sleeping on the floor. I sold everything I do. It.

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It just one of those things. I ended up with

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nothing but a few tapes to listen to, Michael Jackson

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tapes and a few little bit of clothing and that

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was it. And then before that, I was sleeping on

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the floor. Well it was a little camper bed in

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another council flat where I Yeah, that was when I

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was fifteen, and then I turned sixteen, so I was

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there from what kind of I don't know, early summertime

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and till March the next year, so nineteen eighty seven,

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and I just basically I slept in the living room.

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So I mean technically, you know, I did have a

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TV in my room, but unfortunately, when I turned it on,

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my step mother's or my step grandmother, my step mother's

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mother would come in and turn it off, which wasn't

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ideal because you know, I'd be on my mind. I

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was what fifteen years old, sixteen years old, and I

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just got back from work, didn't finish work till nine

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I'll get back from work and then we're going to

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bed and I want to watch some TV. So I mean,

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maybe I had the TV on too loud. Well I'll

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keep getting told I did. But she would just walking

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and just turn it off. It was like, really, wow,

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it was Yeah, it's not easy, but then it wouldn't

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have been easy for her. She was used to living

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on her own, so well, yeah, she was used to

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living on her own, so it must have been weird

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having me there. And then before that, I was living

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in a room, but I was living in a room

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at the top of this right at the top of

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the house. This is the family house, the new Land

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family house, and we were there from nineteen seventy nine

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till nineteen eighty six, so they're seven years and so

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I was in the room at the top of the

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bit of the top of the building. I had a

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TV for the last year I lived there, probably about

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a year. Oh man, I fell in love with that TV.

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It was so obviously it changed my change my life,

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just being able to watch for the first time, not

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the first time, because I could watch what I wanted

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on TV provide there was no one else in the house,

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you know, and that was rare. The only programs I

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got to watch that I wanted to watch on the

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main television in the living room was generally the kids

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programs because both my brothers were older than me and

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they didn't watch that stuff anymore. So I was able

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to watch that. And then my little brother was old

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enough and he wanted to watch the same stuff, and

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I'd end up watching it with him, things like Musket

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Hounds and I don't know, I can't remember different Muppet Babies,

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things like that, and then yeah, what was it Terror Hawks?

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Wasn't that one as well? Terror Hawks? He Man? Danger Mouse?

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Mini Mouse? Was that Mini Mouse? Danger Mouse? Anyway? Remember

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that Danger Mouse? Great show? Mister, what's the one? And

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he had lots of different gadget Gadget Man? Wasn't it

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Gadget It Man? That used to be good Pink Panther.

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So there used to be lots of things, and I'd

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watch them with my little brother, a couple of my

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favorite things on a Saturday morning. We'd watch these and

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then continue to watch these when we moved again out

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of that house for you know, a few months. Saturday

470
00:43:22.320 --> 00:43:25.960
Morning Muppet Babies. But there was the Wide aweight Club

471
00:43:26.039 --> 00:43:31.199
that would be on during the holidays and on weekends.

472
00:43:31.719 --> 00:43:34.239
I'm not sure about Sundays, but definitely on a Saturday morning,

473
00:43:39.039 --> 00:43:41.360
and I would get my brother to wake me up.

474
00:43:43.800 --> 00:43:46.280
I just say to look, wake me up. Wait, wait,

475
00:43:46.480 --> 00:43:53.199
because you know, I didn't necessarily want to be woken

476
00:43:53.320 --> 00:43:58.320
up on a day, you know, like normal weekday, but

477
00:43:58.400 --> 00:44:00.599
on a Saturday morning. It was a good start to

478
00:44:00.679 --> 00:44:05.280
the day because I always worked on a Saturday. But

479
00:44:05.559 --> 00:44:09.199
I liked I liked being woken up at seven o'clock

480
00:44:10.000 --> 00:44:12.679
or six thirty or something like that because I could

481
00:44:12.719 --> 00:44:21.280
just watch the cartoons with my little brother. And I

482
00:44:21.400 --> 00:44:24.239
kind of knew that that time was coming near to

483
00:44:24.280 --> 00:44:32.199
an end because he was, you know, he was heading

484
00:44:32.239 --> 00:44:35.039
off to a different part of the country with her

485
00:44:36.039 --> 00:44:39.239
and I kind of that little period of time of

486
00:44:39.400 --> 00:44:44.800
us sort of sitting there watching cartoons was a valuable

487
00:44:44.880 --> 00:44:51.440
time for me, I guess. And yeah, it was like

488
00:44:51.519 --> 00:44:56.039
what was it the Fragle Rock, Fragle Rock, Muppet Babies.

489
00:44:59.239 --> 00:45:01.039
And then of course you at the Wide Away Club,

490
00:45:01.960 --> 00:45:05.199
we're wired a week. It's good to know you're already

491
00:45:05.400 --> 00:45:08.320
and we're wired a week? Did do do do? Let's

492
00:45:08.320 --> 00:45:15.920
get see go. That's fairly by the way that noise

493
00:45:16.039 --> 00:45:28.320
in the back ground Oho. Before that, I was downstairs

494
00:45:28.920 --> 00:45:32.880
in a different room, which was a much bigger room,

495
00:45:33.239 --> 00:45:36.559
which ended up being my little brother's room. So we

496
00:45:36.719 --> 00:45:42.519
kind of moved around around him really as he got older,

497
00:45:44.039 --> 00:45:46.519
because to start with, when he moved when we moved there,

498
00:45:46.599 --> 00:45:50.840
he had which you would probably classes like the box room.

499
00:45:51.480 --> 00:45:53.079
It had big enough for a bed. It was a

500
00:45:53.119 --> 00:45:54.960
small room, but it was big enough for a bed

501
00:45:55.000 --> 00:45:58.559
and toys and stuff. But he was tiny, you know,

502
00:45:58.599 --> 00:46:01.880
It's just it was like a year old. So he

503
00:46:02.000 --> 00:46:06.679
had that area. And then when he got to about oh,

504
00:46:07.239 --> 00:46:11.760
I don't know what year it was, I would argue

505
00:46:12.119 --> 00:46:18.719
and I wouldn't argue, but I would say probably probably

506
00:46:23.199 --> 00:46:28.199
the last two years of my schooling I was upstairs.

507
00:46:29.039 --> 00:46:33.039
Bearing in mind that a year last heck of a

508
00:46:33.119 --> 00:46:40.840
long time, you know, at the age of fourteen, a

509
00:46:40.920 --> 00:46:44.679
year is It's not a quick period, is it. Unfortunately

510
00:46:45.159 --> 00:46:47.199
or fortunately, depending on which way you look at it.

511
00:46:50.760 --> 00:46:52.840
So it might have been two years, but it might

512
00:46:52.840 --> 00:47:00.320
have been less because I'm thinking seventy nine, eighty eight,

513
00:47:00.960 --> 00:47:05.719
eighty three. Yeah, I thinking probably about nineteen eighty three,

514
00:47:06.920 --> 00:47:12.119
maybe nineteen eighty two. But I'm thinking nineteen eighty three

515
00:47:13.599 --> 00:47:18.559
was when I went upstairs to the other room, which

516
00:47:18.599 --> 00:47:22.000
means I was only there for two years. I got

517
00:47:22.039 --> 00:47:24.039
more memories of being up there than I ever being

518
00:47:24.079 --> 00:47:27.599
down in the other room, which I was probably there

519
00:47:27.639 --> 00:47:36.360
for longer, BlimE me. So yeah, I think the only

520
00:47:36.480 --> 00:47:39.599
reason he really moved into the bigger room probably because

521
00:47:39.599 --> 00:47:42.599
he had his toys were getting He was getting more

522
00:47:42.599 --> 00:47:48.159
and more toys, so we needed more space, and also

523
00:47:48.320 --> 00:47:53.199
because I think my stepmum wanted a solarium or sunbed

524
00:47:54.079 --> 00:48:02.119
in that room, and so yeah, I think that's that's

525
00:48:02.119 --> 00:48:04.239
what the cover. Everything kind of changed around a bit.

526
00:48:04.920 --> 00:48:09.440
So what happened is our games room upstairs, where we

527
00:48:09.519 --> 00:48:14.079
had a snooker table or Paul table was it Paul,

528
00:48:14.400 --> 00:48:17.440
I don't know, but also a tennis table went over it,

529
00:48:18.320 --> 00:48:25.920
and I think my granddad made that, and then we

530
00:48:26.039 --> 00:48:30.360
had music player and sort of sofa, so we'd kind

531
00:48:30.360 --> 00:48:33.440
of hang out up there, take friends at dance board

532
00:48:33.480 --> 00:48:39.960
as well, have friends up there that got taken away

533
00:48:41.760 --> 00:48:43.960
or got taken away, but that that kind of got emptied.

534
00:48:44.960 --> 00:48:47.639
So my oldest brother, who was living in the room

535
00:48:47.679 --> 00:48:51.760
I ended up in, moved and I moved into his room,

536
00:48:54.599 --> 00:48:57.960
and then my little brother moved into my room that

537
00:48:58.039 --> 00:49:04.320
I was in before, which was arguably the best room

538
00:49:04.320 --> 00:49:07.079
in the house, the best bedroom out of all of ours.

539
00:49:08.320 --> 00:49:10.360
And the reason I say that just because of the

540
00:49:10.480 --> 00:49:14.559
light and a lot of light coming in, and it

541
00:49:14.639 --> 00:49:19.880
was bigger than the other my other two brothers rooms

542
00:49:21.039 --> 00:49:24.239
because the one I ended up in was a lot smaller,

543
00:49:25.719 --> 00:49:29.320
although I actually liked it. I liked that room. And

544
00:49:29.360 --> 00:49:34.039
then my other brother's room was kind of probably i'm

545
00:49:34.079 --> 00:49:36.920
not sure, maybe even smaller than mine, maybe the same size.

546
00:49:37.000 --> 00:49:43.599
I can't remember. I liked the room upstairs. I think

547
00:49:43.639 --> 00:49:45.760
I liked because it was upstairs. It was a bit

548
00:49:45.760 --> 00:49:52.840
out of the way no longer, I don't know. It

549
00:49:52.920 --> 00:49:54.920
was nice to it's sort of like a little bit

550
00:49:54.920 --> 00:50:02.440
of privacy kind of. Yes, I'd probably in that room

551
00:50:02.480 --> 00:50:12.440
for about two years. So anyway, So before that, I

552
00:50:12.519 --> 00:50:16.519
was in the little room in my NaN's house where

553
00:50:20.559 --> 00:50:23.599
we moved to as a family first time as a

554
00:50:23.639 --> 00:50:29.079
family in nineteen seventy eight, I think it was or

555
00:50:29.480 --> 00:50:34.280
nineteen No, it's about nineteen seventy eight, so you moved there.

556
00:50:36.400 --> 00:50:39.079
I had my own bedroom for the very first time

557
00:50:39.119 --> 00:50:45.719
in my life. It was amazing and my other two

558
00:50:45.719 --> 00:50:49.360
brothers had bunk beds because I had a much bigger room.

559
00:50:49.760 --> 00:50:52.920
My room was again kind of like a box room,

560
00:50:53.360 --> 00:50:57.280
and that's where my little brother would have ended up

561
00:50:58.800 --> 00:51:00.760
if we had more rooms, but we didn't, so we

562
00:51:00.840 --> 00:51:03.000
had to kind of move out. Because my little brother

563
00:51:03.119 --> 00:51:06.440
was living in me or when he was born in

564
00:51:06.480 --> 00:51:10.920
the August of seventy eight, he's he was in the

565
00:51:10.960 --> 00:51:17.760
bedroom with my with the parents. And it's weird because

566
00:51:19.119 --> 00:51:21.559
We're nice to visit my nan. Sometimes I'd stay over

567
00:51:21.639 --> 00:51:26.800
and sleep in her house and I'd sleep in that

568
00:51:26.800 --> 00:51:36.039
that bedroom and to this day, it's still the best

569
00:51:36.079 --> 00:51:47.199
bedroom I think I ever slept in. And being in

570
00:51:47.239 --> 00:51:54.039
there next to my nan is and when I was

571
00:51:54.079 --> 00:51:56.519
in there before, I was next to my dad. You know,

572
00:51:56.559 --> 00:51:59.599
my parents were next to it when I was. They

573
00:51:59.599 --> 00:52:03.159
were they kind of my new parents, really, but there

574
00:52:03.199 --> 00:52:08.360
was that safety safety not issue, but safety factor. There

575
00:52:08.400 --> 00:52:13.000
was that kind of feeling more safe, and I always

576
00:52:13.039 --> 00:52:14.960
had that as well. With my nan. I felt safe

577
00:52:14.960 --> 00:52:20.599
when I was in her company and sleeping in that

578
00:52:20.679 --> 00:52:26.199
bed in that little room, my original first bedroom, even

579
00:52:26.239 --> 00:52:31.000
at the age of thirty nine or whatever I was,

580
00:52:32.079 --> 00:52:39.039
I can't remember how when my Nan moved into the place,

581
00:52:39.840 --> 00:52:45.920
but I was in my late thirties. No, I think

582
00:52:45.960 --> 00:52:48.639
the last time I remember sleeping in that place, and

583
00:52:48.679 --> 00:52:50.840
it might not be the last time, but the last

584
00:52:50.840 --> 00:52:53.960
time I remember, which was at Christmas, which was two

585
00:52:54.039 --> 00:53:00.039
thousand and four, when I was thirty four years old.

586
00:53:00.239 --> 00:53:12.719
So so that's twenty six years. The twenty six year

587
00:53:12.880 --> 00:53:17.800
kind of period of sleeping in that room kind of,

588
00:53:18.480 --> 00:53:21.840
but you know, it wasn't that often. I mean sometimes

589
00:53:22.119 --> 00:53:27.440
I would sleep in the big bed. I once spent

590
00:53:27.480 --> 00:53:31.480
a whole week with them, where MYNN and granddad were

591
00:53:31.480 --> 00:53:34.880
both my granddad were still around, and I slept in

592
00:53:34.880 --> 00:53:38.239
a big bed, and I think they at that time

593
00:53:38.280 --> 00:53:41.079
they were using the small room. I'm not quite sure

594
00:53:41.119 --> 00:53:44.800
what for I think, And this is a weird memory.

595
00:53:44.880 --> 00:53:48.039
I think MYNN had like a sewing machine in there.

596
00:53:50.679 --> 00:53:58.239
What weird memory. And then before that, so before that,

597
00:54:01.079 --> 00:54:06.599
living in that house when I was like so, I

598
00:54:06.639 --> 00:54:10.159
had actually I didn't have my own TV. And I

599
00:54:10.199 --> 00:54:12.360
didn't spend time in that room other than when I

600
00:54:12.440 --> 00:54:14.159
was playing or when I was in bed, you know,

601
00:54:14.920 --> 00:54:20.639
so I'd be downstairs watching TV. I still have the

602
00:54:20.800 --> 00:54:26.360
memory of when we were packing up and getting ready

603
00:54:26.400 --> 00:54:32.639
to move to the new house, and everything was moved

604
00:54:32.760 --> 00:54:38.159
pretty much apart from the beds. In fact, I think

605
00:54:38.199 --> 00:54:42.360
we might have even been sleeping bags. Literally everything was

606
00:54:42.400 --> 00:54:47.760
packed away to be moved. There was in all the

607
00:54:47.880 --> 00:54:54.840
rooms were pretty much empty and just sitting on or

608
00:54:54.960 --> 00:55:00.480
standing at the window sill in my brother's bed room.

609
00:55:01.159 --> 00:55:04.000
My two brothers had bunk bits in there and just

610
00:55:04.079 --> 00:55:08.000
looking out at the motorway because we had a motorway

611
00:55:08.360 --> 00:55:12.320
in the back, and she's looking at the guard and

612
00:55:12.400 --> 00:55:17.960
then kind of it felt weird. I I was eight

613
00:55:18.079 --> 00:55:20.559
years old, but I kind of I feel it was

614
00:55:20.639 --> 00:55:28.400
quite I don't want to I was a thinker. A thinker,

615
00:55:28.760 --> 00:55:32.039
I don't know. I think I used to think about things.

616
00:55:32.159 --> 00:55:33.960
I mean, I'm sure everyone thinks about things, but I

617
00:55:34.039 --> 00:55:39.239
used to just really contemplate, like what does this mean?

618
00:55:43.840 --> 00:55:47.039
I used to do that sometimes when you know, when

619
00:55:47.079 --> 00:55:49.079
I was around my family, like what does this mean?

620
00:55:50.280 --> 00:55:53.519
What we're doing now? What does this mean? Was? What's

621
00:55:53.599 --> 00:55:56.760
the meaning of this? And sometimes I just hear it

622
00:55:56.880 --> 00:56:01.519
always saying, like, especially if I verbalized it, said, it's

623
00:56:01.559 --> 00:56:04.920
just a piece of lettuce, Jason, It's just it's on

624
00:56:04.960 --> 00:56:07.679
your plate. It's part of the salad. You can eat

625
00:56:07.719 --> 00:56:09.400
it or not. It's up to you. You don't have to

626
00:56:09.440 --> 00:56:12.519
eat it. There's plenty of other bits, you know. There's tomatoes,

627
00:56:12.639 --> 00:56:17.880
there's cucumber, there's other things on there. There's some cheese.

628
00:56:18.800 --> 00:56:22.960
You don't have to eat the lettuce. I was like, okay, wow,

629
00:56:24.559 --> 00:56:26.800
you know I have to go to put a spotlight

630
00:56:26.840 --> 00:56:31.119
on media and she'd say sorry about that, and she

631
00:56:31.239 --> 00:56:40.760
turned the light off. But that was weird. So I'm

632
00:56:40.800 --> 00:56:56.920
trying to think what did I do? Did did do? What? What? What? What? What? Oh? Yes,

633
00:56:57.000 --> 00:57:02.880
So before that, I can't even remember. I know where

634
00:57:02.880 --> 00:57:11.079
he was. Were in a house with the new parents.

635
00:57:14.559 --> 00:57:19.119
The two kids were two brothers, rather older brothers, and

636
00:57:19.159 --> 00:57:24.159
the step mom the step grandparent rather sorry. So there

637
00:57:24.239 --> 00:57:28.639
was one, two, three, four, five, six of us in

638
00:57:28.679 --> 00:57:33.639
this house. I don't remember anywhere that I slept. I

639
00:57:33.719 --> 00:57:38.599
can't remember exactly where it was, but we weren't there

640
00:57:38.639 --> 00:57:45.119
for long. And then before that, so I probably shared

641
00:57:45.119 --> 00:57:50.000
a room with my brothers possibly, So before that I

642
00:57:50.159 --> 00:57:57.559
lived in a dormitory with quite a few other kids.

643
00:57:59.800 --> 00:58:07.000
And before that I lived in the dormitory with other kids.

644
00:58:08.679 --> 00:58:14.440
Before that, I lived in My memory is I lived

645
00:58:14.480 --> 00:58:22.280
in a flat council flat in Newcastle. Now I don't remember,

646
00:58:25.960 --> 00:58:29.920
and the sleeping arrangements, although I've got kind of a

647
00:58:29.920 --> 00:58:34.920
little outline on outlay of the flat in my head,

648
00:58:36.039 --> 00:58:38.920
which is kind of weird. But then I might have

649
00:58:38.920 --> 00:58:40.679
lived in more than one flats. It might be a

650
00:58:40.719 --> 00:58:47.719
mixture different flats. But I definitely didn't have my own TV.

651
00:58:48.039 --> 00:58:55.199
I know that for a fact. And in the children's

652
00:58:55.239 --> 00:59:01.440
homes we had a room for TV, so there would be,

653
00:59:01.880 --> 00:59:08.079
you know, a TV room or a lounge or something,

654
00:59:09.519 --> 00:59:15.639
so that would be there. I'm just trying to think

655
00:59:15.800 --> 00:59:21.880
maybe the girl that made me the or the lady

656
00:59:21.920 --> 00:59:27.840
that tickled me during the Planet of the Apes movie

657
00:59:28.480 --> 00:59:34.559
that might have been a Newcastle because for some reason,

658
00:59:34.639 --> 00:59:39.880
I've got more of a kind of there's more color

659
00:59:39.920 --> 00:59:43.880
in that memory than there is in the South End

660
00:59:43.920 --> 00:59:49.199
one for me, that's just very kind of very gray ish.

661
00:59:50.480 --> 00:59:56.719
And the my memory of watching TV there was it'd

662
00:59:56.760 --> 01:00:00.320
really be whatever the nuns wanted to watch, and they

663
01:00:00.360 --> 01:00:08.760
would sit around watching Crossroads or Emmerdale, I think, and

664
01:00:08.800 --> 01:00:10.519
it'd be on and then it'd be time for bed,

665
01:00:11.280 --> 01:00:14.800
not not for them but for us, and that would

666
01:00:14.800 --> 01:00:18.559
be like six o'clock six point thirty something like that,

667
01:00:22.199 --> 01:00:24.119
maybe seven, I don't, I don't know, but it was

668
01:00:24.239 --> 01:00:29.119
very early, bearing in mind I was twenty five, Yes,

669
01:00:29.199 --> 01:00:34.000
it's very early. And then before that anyway, so before that,

670
01:00:34.079 --> 01:00:45.440
going backwards from new Castle, yeah, so in the council flat,

671
01:00:45.880 --> 01:00:53.119
and then before that I remember, yes, I didn't would

672
01:00:53.159 --> 01:00:58.519
have had a TV then, so well, just shared rooms

673
01:00:58.519 --> 01:01:03.159
with my brothers. Before that, I can't remember. There was

674
01:01:03.199 --> 01:01:05.719
a house. I remember this house. It was a terroracet house.

675
01:01:07.119 --> 01:01:09.400
Is it a terrorist house for or just one one

676
01:01:09.440 --> 01:01:14.719
connected to another for long as the eyes can see.

677
01:01:16.039 --> 01:01:17.920
And I was in a place like that. I don't

678
01:01:17.960 --> 01:01:21.599
know where it was, whether it was in London, whether

679
01:01:21.639 --> 01:01:26.639
it was in Newcastle. Apparently my oldest brother he was

680
01:01:26.679 --> 01:01:29.159
not apparently, but he told me that we were in

681
01:01:29.159 --> 01:01:33.159
Scotland for a while, so he remembers a lot more

682
01:01:33.159 --> 01:01:34.880
than I do, because he's four years older than me.

683
01:01:37.800 --> 01:01:41.079
Not that I've conversed with him about it, not for

684
01:01:41.119 --> 01:01:46.559
a long time. He kind of filled me in twenty

685
01:01:46.599 --> 01:01:49.079
odd years ago, kind of got together and he told

686
01:01:49.119 --> 01:01:57.480
me some stuff. And before that, I don't know, moved

687
01:01:57.519 --> 01:02:03.119
around a bit, so I didn't have I lived in

688
01:02:03.159 --> 01:02:10.400
one room most of the time as an adult. As

689
01:02:10.400 --> 01:02:13.039
a kid, I suppose, you know, it's just standard living

690
01:02:13.039 --> 01:02:15.840
in a room either with my brothers or sharing a

691
01:02:15.920 --> 01:02:19.639
room with other kids. But I didn't have my own

692
01:02:19.679 --> 01:02:30.760
room until I was seven eight Sorry, no seven, Yeah

693
01:02:30.880 --> 01:02:32.679
it was I was four. I was just before I

694
01:02:32.719 --> 01:02:38.000
was eight. So yeah, that's when I got my first room. Yeah,

695
01:02:38.159 --> 01:02:43.199
my first room. I loved it. I love, love, love

696
01:02:43.239 --> 01:02:48.800
loved it. I so loved it. I loved that house.

697
01:02:50.800 --> 01:02:53.559
I did just everything about it. It was just great.

698
01:02:54.639 --> 01:02:59.280
It was it's brand new. There was nothing to do,

699
01:03:00.519 --> 01:03:04.079
you know. I mean when we moved to the next house,

700
01:03:04.159 --> 01:03:09.280
which was this big, old, derelict part of the pass, and

701
01:03:10.840 --> 01:03:15.880
it was a dure upper as it were, and that

702
01:03:16.000 --> 01:03:18.920
was horrible. Like I didn't it's like it was permanently

703
01:03:19.679 --> 01:03:25.559
in as like being rebuilt, Like there was always at

704
01:03:25.639 --> 01:03:32.960
least one room that was being redecorated, it seemed, and yeah,

705
01:03:33.119 --> 01:03:39.000
all the garden, and it's okay because that's something my

706
01:03:39.079 --> 01:03:41.920
dad used to enjoy doing, but none of us did.

707
01:03:43.480 --> 01:03:47.840
It's you know, it's just everyone's got their own hobbies

708
01:03:47.880 --> 01:03:52.000
and their own likes, and I guess it was frustrating

709
01:03:52.639 --> 01:03:56.480
for him being in this new build this little place

710
01:03:56.519 --> 01:04:00.639
of like a little garden, which for me was nicee garden.

711
01:04:00.679 --> 01:04:03.920
But he he wanted to be doing things, and he

712
01:04:03.960 --> 01:04:07.119
wanted to probably want to be knocking through doors, and

713
01:04:07.159 --> 01:04:13.199
they wanted to be redoing stuff. And that's not something

714
01:04:13.239 --> 01:04:17.599
that I really was interested in doing. I was still

715
01:04:17.599 --> 01:04:22.440
having painted this place, and I've been here for ten years.

716
01:04:22.719 --> 01:04:27.119
Huh about the time I put a carpet down. Now

717
01:04:27.159 --> 01:04:31.639
I've got a carpets worn out now between Andre and

718
01:04:31.920 --> 01:04:39.880
little Vinnie. This carpet is well and truly worn. Need

719
01:04:39.920 --> 01:04:45.760
a new one. I don't know how I got talking

720
01:04:45.800 --> 01:04:53.679
about rooms, but I don't know how I got talking

721
01:04:53.639 --> 01:04:56.159
about rooms. I really don't, but yeah, when I moved

722
01:04:56.199 --> 01:04:59.320
in here, I decided that's what I was talking about.

723
01:04:59.519 --> 01:05:01.880
When I moved in the here, I decided I'm no

724
01:05:01.960 --> 01:05:05.519
longer going to just be in one room because I

725
01:05:05.559 --> 01:05:10.239
don't need to. So I purposefully didn't have a TV

726
01:05:10.280 --> 01:05:12.800
in my bedroom and never have the whole time I've

727
01:05:12.840 --> 01:05:17.760
lived there. Sometimes I wish I did have one, because

728
01:05:21.880 --> 01:05:24.559
it'd be nice, but it also make me really lazy,

729
01:05:24.599 --> 01:05:31.480
I think at times. But it's not like a long distance,

730
01:05:31.519 --> 01:05:33.840
it's not like I have to book a train to

731
01:05:33.880 --> 01:05:36.679
get to the living room, is it. It's not far

732
01:05:38.920 --> 01:05:43.480
so yeah, I've kind of stuck to that one TV

733
01:05:44.280 --> 01:05:50.239
in one room. The bedroom's for sleeping. Unfortunately, that's all

734
01:05:50.280 --> 01:06:04.000
it's for. But yeah, that's okay, that's okay. Sorry, Vinnie.

735
01:06:04.000 --> 01:06:08.960
I know it's our bedroom, it's his bedroom and he

736
01:06:09.079 --> 01:06:11.880
allows me to sleep in the bed with him if

737
01:06:11.880 --> 01:06:17.280
I'm a good boy. Basically, he this is his flat.

738
01:06:17.320 --> 01:06:26.599
Now I just I'm his lodger. So yeah, I do

739
01:06:26.760 --> 01:06:40.559
believe that is that. I don't know how I'm going

740
01:06:40.599 --> 01:06:45.480
to edit this because everything's all messy everywhere. You know,

741
01:06:45.599 --> 01:06:48.639
my little set up I had before, because the TV

742
01:06:48.880 --> 01:06:51.480
was on the table, its two tables to two desks together,

743
01:06:52.079 --> 01:06:55.480
the computer was up. Everything was set up. And now

744
01:06:55.920 --> 01:06:58.039
I think that's what I was going to say. I

745
01:06:58.159 --> 01:07:00.400
got my neighbor downstairs to help me to put the

746
01:07:00.480 --> 01:07:04.440
TV on a rack on the wall. So I got

747
01:07:04.440 --> 01:07:07.599
a new rack was big enough, put it on the wall.

748
01:07:08.440 --> 01:07:17.119
And this was Sunday, Friday, Monday, I don't know, it

749
01:07:17.159 --> 01:07:25.760
was a few days ago. And it's yeah, it's freed

750
01:07:25.800 --> 01:07:30.199
all that space in front of it. So I moved

751
01:07:30.199 --> 01:07:35.719
the tables away or the desks and in the process

752
01:07:35.760 --> 01:07:38.599
started to get rid of some stuff and move things around.

753
01:07:38.719 --> 01:07:46.920
And yeah, it seems to have called it more mess

754
01:07:47.239 --> 01:07:54.559
than before, although technically I probably could. Tomorrow. Yeah, tomorrow

755
01:07:54.840 --> 01:08:04.039
I'm going to start organizing the desks. Got two tables,

756
01:08:04.159 --> 01:08:12.320
two desks, and one chair, so I'm thinking it's going

757
01:08:12.400 --> 01:08:15.239
to be the other side of the room. Figure out

758
01:08:15.280 --> 01:08:24.319
how I want them to be. Yeah, that'd be fine.

759
01:08:24.600 --> 01:08:26.359
I kind of know what I wanted, how I want

760
01:08:26.399 --> 01:08:29.359
it to be, so it'll be okay. Just gotta figure

761
01:08:29.359 --> 01:08:34.079
it out tomorrow, the logistics of it, and then i'll

762
01:08:34.119 --> 01:08:36.239
be able to edit this because I won't be able

763
01:08:36.239 --> 01:08:42.880
to edit this until unless my iPad is charged, because

764
01:08:42.880 --> 01:08:46.399
it hasn't been plugged in for quite a few days,

765
01:08:46.880 --> 01:08:51.319
so it might have uncharged itself. If it's still charged,

766
01:08:51.560 --> 01:08:55.319
you know, if it hasn't worn down, then I can

767
01:08:55.439 --> 01:09:03.640
upload this and do some editing and release it like

768
01:09:03.760 --> 01:09:10.119
the precious gem that it is. Ooh, or a little dove.

769
01:09:10.479 --> 01:09:18.239
Release the dove. So I'm going to go. Thank you

770
01:09:18.279 --> 01:09:22.039
for listening. Remember to be kind to yourself because you

771
01:09:22.159 --> 01:09:25.359
do deserve to be happy and be gentle of yourself.

772
01:09:25.720 --> 01:09:31.439
You deserve to feel safe, don't forget Q and A Friday.

773
01:09:31.920 --> 01:09:34.479
If you got any questions, please go to my Facebook

774
01:09:34.479 --> 01:09:40.840
group Lots of Love. Bye,