April 26, 2025

(no music) Sending Healing | Let me bore your pain away #29 | Jason Newland | 26th April 2025

(no music) Sending Healing | Let me bore your pain away #29 | Jason Newland | 26th April 2025
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Hello, and welcome to jasonneuland dot com. My name's Jason Newland.

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Please only listen when you can safety closure eyes. This

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is let me boil your pain away, and also only

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listen when you have permission from your doctor because you

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do need to know the cause of the chronic pain before.

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I would advise before listening to any recording. And this

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is also not a replacement for professional therapy or advice.

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I'm just a random English person talking, That's it. But

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at the same time, hopefully I've got something useful to say.

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So this is not a sleep recording, this is not

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a hypnosis recording, this is not therapy. This is just

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me talking about Well today I'm going to talk about

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sending healing to others and I'm just going to discuss

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that and how doing that can be useful for you

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to give yourself more comfort. And it's kind of a

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weird concept. And I'm not coming from a spiritual perspective.

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I'm not coming from a religious perspective, just coming from

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a I suppose scientific plus tried and tested perspective. You know,

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over the last probably hundreds of years, to be fair,

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imagination has been used to help people to increase comfort

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and to change the way you feel, just by our thoughts,

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by your thoughts. Now, Vinnie is in the background, chomping

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on a bony thing, so you may hear him. Also,

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his neighbors in the garden, so you might hear a

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little bit from that. Hopefully there shouldn't be too much

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background sound, but if there is, I'm just going to continue.

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Unless a helicopter lands in the garden or something like that,

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that would be weird. But yeah, I don't think there's

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enough room in that little garden for a helicopter. No,

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I don't think so. Mikay Perry might land in what

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I have spaceship. In that case, I will stop the

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recording because I'll just assume she's come to take me

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out on a date. I don't worry, Katie, you don't

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have I've got to change the suit. It's fine. We'll

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go out like this. It's fine, it's okay. Or you

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want me to change, I'd have a bath, Okay, I

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can do that. You want me to have a bath,

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and you want me to wash my hair and have

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a shave. Forget it, Katy, you just go away. I can't. No, No,

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you're too needy. You want too much from me. So

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I'm going to start by talking about the science of

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imagination and pain relief. So I try and looking do

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a little bit of research into the science. I've been

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making recordings to help people with chronic pain for nineteen

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years now, so this is not a new thing for me.

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But I do think that sometimes factual stuff really can

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help us. It helps me, but I think it can

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help to almost open that door to allow the ideas

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to kind of circulate and percolate and be absorbed and

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to wrap your mind around some of the ideas that

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I'm going to be discussing. So I'm going to kind

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of start off with some facts, some scientific facts. So

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guided imagery it basically involves visualizing calm or a healing scenario,

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and it can lead to significant pain reduction. And there's

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also can lead to deep deep relaxation, can lead to sleep,

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can lead to feeling more confident about something upcoming, like

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an exam or job interview or driving test, you know

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those kinds of things. It can make you by visualizing something.

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It can help you prepare for an event that's coming up.

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So maybe you're going on stage. It can prepare you

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for that so that you feel more positive about that. So, yeah,

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it's lots of different things studies and I don't I mean,

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I can try and read out some of the studies.

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But studies have shown that visualization the technique can improve

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mobility and reduce the need for pain medication in some

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conditions such as arthritis. Now I know someone well, I

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don't know them really anymore, but I used to know

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them quite well who actually had their leg amputated using

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hypnosis and add a local anesthetic. I mean, you can't

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not have local anesthetic, really, I think it would be

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illegal to do it otherwise. But he didn't get put

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under general anesthetic, and he used self hypnosis throughout the

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whole process. There's no amount of money in the world

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you could offer me to do that, even though I

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feel a fairly, you know, fairly kind of a little

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bit knowledgeable, I guess about hypnosis, but I wouldn't want

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to be awake during that. But he chose to do that.

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Maybe it was a medical reason he didn't want to

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go under. Perhaps he just wanted to have a nice

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meal before the operation, because you can't do that with anesthetic,

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with general anesthetic, can you? Maybe you wanted to eat

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a burger during I don't know if that's a thing.

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Mind you, was a vegetarian, so it would have been tofu?

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Was it torfu? Tofu? Mind you? If it was a

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tofu burger, I think I'd rather be knocked out. I'd

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rather go without any food than eat a tofu burger.

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Just yeah, it's just personal preference. But yeah, it's just

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it can be done. And also I did some hypnosis,

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or I did some visualization, let's say, because hypnosis, you

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could argue, is very much visualization with suggestions. And I

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had this lady back in two thousand and six. She

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needed a double lung transplant. She asked me. She was

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a friend of a friend, so she asked, my friend,

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can you ask him to come and see me? And

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I did. It was on a Saturday afternoon, about four o'clock,

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and she had an appointment to go into Yes, she

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had to go to the hospital Tuesday morning, the following

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Tuesday or the next Tuesday to have tests, medical tests

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to ensure that she was able to have this transplant.

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You know, she was compared cat. She was physically able

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to go through it. But the problem is she'd already

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turned up something like twice before and couldn't step inside

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the hospital because she had a phobia of hospitals. And

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this was just beyond you know, this is way way

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bigger than that as well. And the doctors or the

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specialists said to her, if she didn't come into the

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hospital and have the tests on this Tuesday, she would

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be removed from the This is what she told me,

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She would be removed from the transplant list. So she

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kind of had to go or not have the transplant. Now,

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one of the weird parts of this is, firstly, I

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didn't know who she was, never met her before I

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got taxi to her house. I went into her went

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to her house, she was there, and she was on oxygen,

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and there was zero rapport between us. Like it's like

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she didn't like me instantly, which has happened before, surprisingly

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but not usually that quickly. BlimE me. She just really

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didn't seem like she even wanted me to be there,

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which I suppose in a way she possibly didn't. But

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back then, I never gave up, and I spent two

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and a half hours with her, and in the end

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she just she had to concede. I guess she had

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to just give in and go along with what I

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was trying to do, which was to relax her and

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get her to feel comfortable and to rehearse going in

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there and feeling calm and all that stuff. And I

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did everything within my knowledge in those two and a

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half hours. I came from every single angle, and eventually

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I broke through that wall that she had. Even so

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I didn't feel particularly confident that I had. But at

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the end of it, she liked me. She seemed to

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like me. I mean, I don't know if she was

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just smiling because she liked me all because I was

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leaving her house. It might have been that I'm getting

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rid of him if he's going. And so I spoke

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to her on the day before she was going into hospital,

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did I I might not actually know she she went

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to hospital. She contacted me when she got out. So

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she was in there for like a day and a half,

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I think, having tests, and she sent she I spoke

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to on the phone. I've actually got a letter that

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I got her to do a testimonial for me, which

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says I should really I should find these They're in

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the storage somewhere. That it was easy. She went in there.

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She couldn't believe how easy it was to just go

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into the hospital. She was laughing with the nurses and

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laughing with the other patients. Zero zero stress, zero attention,

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no discomfort really And it's quite weird because within I

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think a week and a half she got the operation.

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Is one of those just went really quick. Happened very quickly,

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and I visited her in the hospital in the transplant place,

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and she was She said that she was relaxed, she

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was calm throughout the whole thing. Yeah, she was nervous,

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and who wouldn't be. It's a natural. I mean, you're

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about to have two organs replaces going to be nervous.

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But she wasn't, didn't have the anxiety that she'd had before,

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and she went into hospital had it done. I visited her,

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I think probably a couple of days after she'd had

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the op, and she was up and about. I mean

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she had to be careful, but she was able to

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move around, and I was going to do some do

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this a bit of pain relief with her as well,

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which is quite difficult because the nurses kept coming into

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the room and they weren't quiet. They are really loud,

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and it's quite hard in a hospital setting to ask

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people to be quiet really because also it's different people

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coming and going constantly, so it was just one person.

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It's like, can you just give us twenty minutes so

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we can just you know, talk, And so I didn't

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get didn't give very far with that. But there's a

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couple of more a couple of more examples as well

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of preparing. So I had another lady who was a

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friend of He was the wife of a friend I

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had who had to have a mistectomy and reconstruction of

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surgery as well, all at the same time. She was

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terrified of going into the hospital and worried about, you know,

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the pain and all that stuff as well, which is,

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as I said, it's the most natural thing in the world,

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isn't it to be worried about something like that. I

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think worried is an understatement, to be fair. So I

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went and visit her, and I spent probably a couple

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of hours with her, and she went and had the operation.

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I saw her probably five days before the op. She

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had the operation, she came out of it, she had

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minimal pain, hardly any distress or tension. And again I

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kind of went from every angle with her because back

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then in two thousand and six, two thousand and seven.

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You know, in my kind of early days of seeing

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people and doing online stuff, I was not ferocious. That's

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not the right way, but I was very like a

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dog with a bone. I wasn't going to give up.

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And when I got someone in front of me, I

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want to get the job done. If someone wants to

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someone comes for a phobia of a bridge, I've got

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to sort that out. And it's the most important thing

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in the world in that moment for me, nothing else

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is more important than getting them where they want to be,

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which is being able to walk across a bridge completely relaxed.

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So I don't have that pressure now because I'm dealing

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with I've got one line, so I don't, you know,

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not speaking directly to people, and I'm speaking directly to you,

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but it's you're not in the same room as me.

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So that's the thing. If it's stuck in the room

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with me, I will keep going until it's done, and

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I will keep going on and on and on, and

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then I think sometimes it is it sounds it's in

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a nice way. I wasn't like shouting. You must relax, obviously,

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but it's by not giving up I think that sets

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the tone as well as I think in a sense

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of making his recordings, still doing this after nineteen years,

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I've not quit. I've not given up. And I think

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if someone like me who's making his recordings will not quit,

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will not give up, keeps going regardless, then that can

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also be a little bit of a message to those

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people listening to keep going, never quit, unless it cause

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it's cigarettes, then please quit, you know, because cigarettes aren't great. Apparently,

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So she sent me a letter as well saying thank you.

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This is a lady that had misseectomy, and she was

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calm and relaxed, pretty much felt comfortable after the op

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as well, and becovered much quicker than the doctors could understand.

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They couldn't believe. She actually got released in the hospital

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a lot quicker than they would normally release people. I'm

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not saying it's because of me. I mean, I'd like

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to think it is, but it's it's really it's because

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of her, because of her own mind and because of

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how she had changed the way that she was thinking.

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So you change the way you think about something that's

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going to happen or about how you feel, and you

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realize that actually you can feel relaxed you can enjoy

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comfort and physical sensations. Is it weird having him crunching

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on a bone because he s been making I haven't.

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I haven't actually had a bone for him. They're not bones,

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but they're kind of these bony things. I haven't had

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any for two weeks. And I got in the pack

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yesterday and I forgot how noisy they were. Obviously he

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attributes the noise with his teeth. Teeth, so they were

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surprised at how she was able to recover so quickly

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and be able to leave the hospital. And I've got

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some I actually got some long term update and yeah,

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she was did really well, recovered perfectly and still going strong.

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So this was nearly twenty years ago. The there was

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another person who was there, another person operation. Oh yeah,

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as again, and I'm talking about quite serious stuff. I

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will move away from this, but this is just examples.

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It's partly to show off how great I am, but

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also just to let you know that how in quite

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extreme situations. And I think you can agree both of

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those are quite extreme. I mean compared to I've got

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our rights in my lower back, which I can't compare

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that to someone having a double transplant of their lungs,

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you know, as far as the level of tension and

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stress and anxiety. But that's not to play down how

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I feel, because we all feel differently, and our feelings

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are Your feelings are legitimate and just as important as

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anybody else's. And the last person and I talk about

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is this who was it? All? Right? See? This was

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like a false offer. Do you ever give your ever

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offer someone something and you don't mean it? Should I

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explain what I mean? Have you ever liked in at

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a friend's house or you're at work and it's someone

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you get on really well with and you say, what

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are you doing a weekend? Or what were you doing there?

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I'm just planning what you're planning for? Oh I'm moving

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at the weekend and you shout out, would you need

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a hand? Empty offer? An empty offer? Didn't mean it?

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Why did I say it? Did not mean it? And

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a couple of times I've had someone say, yeah, okay, thanks,

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but I didn't mean it. I didn't want to waste

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my saturday helping someone move. I mean genuinely, I'd just

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It's not that I didn't care, I just didn't want

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to do it. So yeah, it's those kinds of things,

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or my dad does this. When we're at dinner table

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and there's one Yorkshire pudding left right, my dad will say,

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does anybody else? Does anybody want that last Yorkshire pudding?

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It's an empty offer. He wants everybody to say no

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so that he can have it because he wants it.

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That's why he's a wha. He's asking. I say, oh, yes, thanks,

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I'll have it, and I take it. I don't. I

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go to take it and I look at his face

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and I say, only kidding because I know he wants it.

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Why doesn't he just grab it? And whoops, I'm knocking

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stuff over? So it's like an empty offer. It's not

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nothing bad in it. It's just like he's not really

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wanting anyone else to take the Yorkshire pudding. Although we

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did have a Yeah, there was once when we locked horns.

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I really wanted the Yorkshire pudding, so did he, so

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we had half each. I don't think he's ever forgiven

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me for that. I'm sure I over heard him in

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the kitchen with my stepmum saying we can write him

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out of the will. Now. I think you were ow

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that was an expense of half a Yorkshire pudding. That

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three hundred pounds. I was going to get in a will.

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Whow So this friend, this is an empty offer that

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I offered someone I was at college with who I

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got on pretty well with. This was okay, This was blimey.

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I was at college with her two thousand and three,

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so this was in two thousand and six. She asked,

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it's beginning probably about April May time, two thousand and six,

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around about this time, so twenty nineteen years ago, through

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another friend, because I hadn't really seen her for ages.

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Through another friend who contacted me and says, do you

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want to do you want to come to what's her name?

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She's getting married? I said, what, she's getting married, and

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you're invited to come to the stag Night. No, it

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wasn't invited to go. What she wanted was me, because

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we did meet up sporadically, you know, for lunch and

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stuff for all the people. It was a message course,

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and she wanted me to stand there as a dorman

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for the hen knight. Did I say stag night for

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the hen night? And I was going to stand there

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on the door and tell people, you know, have a

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door list, and all the women that came in, I'd

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have to tick them off and everything on the door list,

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and I thought, yeah, why not. It turned out I

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didn't know this but her. It's really quite a sad story,

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but it was very sad. Her husband to be was

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terminal and he was getting married. They were getting married

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to I think she'd all. I think they both always

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wanted to get married and had been together a long time,

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so they got married. So this was the hen night.

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So I went along to that and I did that,

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and then they invited me in. Hen nights are brilliant.

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I mean I've never I've been to hen nights as

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in a nightclub when I was there, but I've never

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actually been invited to a hen night a room. Just yeah,

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it's great, a lot of fun. I went to the wedding,

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but just a reception. Bit again, I didn't she didn't

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like me enough to invite me to the actual wedding,

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which is fine. I'm not bitter. In fact, I'm still

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mentioning it nineteen years later. So I went to do

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but at the end in the evening in the pub,

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I met him for the first time. And because the

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person I was going with she was my friend as well,

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we went there. She had a present for him or

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for them, and I thought, I ain't got no money,

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I don't know what to get. I'll get a card.

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And then I thought, I know what i'd do. I'll

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make some little vouchers, just a few pieces of paper

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offering five, like a voucher offering five three hypnosis sessions. Okay,

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empty offer. It really was. I didn't expect. I just

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thought saved me spending any money, and you know, it's done.

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It's a gift. So that's what I did. And I

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was never charging anyone anyway, so it's not really it's

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not like I was known anyone. I did see a

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didn't charge. It was all three when I was doing

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the Chronic Pain Relief Service and doing the rehab relaxation

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groups and stuff like that. So I gave this gift

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to them both in a card. It didn't even see it.

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They didn't open it in front of me. They must

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have opened it when they got home. And I thought,

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that's all right, got away with that. Didn't save me

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ten twenty good or whatever. I don't think I was

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quite that. I wasn't quite that tight, but it was,

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you know, if money was a little bit tight at

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that time, even though I was working. I just I

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didn't know what to get. What do you get to

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someone you don't know very well? Yeah? So I left

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it at that. I get a phone call while I'm

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at work from my friend that the one that just

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the one that I speak to regularly, not the one

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who's married to the man. She says, he wants to

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see you. I said, who wants to see me? He said?

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She said, whatever his name was? I said, who was that?

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She said, what's the name's husband? Oh? Okay, what do

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you mean he wants to see me? She said, he's

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in hospital. He has to have a medical procedure we

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ha had before, which was really horrible, and he won't

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have it done unless you turn up, unless you come

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along and talk to him. See, this was weird because

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I don't know why I didn't know him. I'd shook

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his hand at his wedding reception. He never met him before.

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I hadn't seen her for a couple of years, probably

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or a year and a half other than at the

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hen night. And he's seems to have this faith in

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me that I'm going to be able to help. I'm

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basically a stranger, and nobody he knew would know if

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I was any okay, maybe my friend knew that I

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was okay what I did, but his wife didn't anyway,

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so I was I don't know if I ah, or

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was it two thousand and seven. It might have been

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early two thousand and seven. Actually, no, I'm pretty sure

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it's two thousand and six. Well, I went there after work.

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I think it's when I was doing a Friday finishing

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at two o'clock on the shift. So I went there.

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Some of these details might be completely wrong, but it

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doesn't matter. Unless you like things to be correct, then

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it does matter, I suppose, But then you're never going

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to know about you. I mean, I can't prove what

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time what they it was that I went there. I

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really don't know. So I went to the hospital, went

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to the cancer ward and I met my friend first

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to one that was did I no, I didn't know.

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She wasn't with me. I went as went up to

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the thing. I didn't know where I was looking. Luckily,

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and the person I was in college with was there,

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so she waved and I went over and he was

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behind the curtains. I so I went, you know, pulled

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the curtain over, so right, I said, yeah, he said, obviously,

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I'm not am I. I said, okay, fair enough, So

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why would you ask me if I'm all right? I'm

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in hospital? I said, all right, I'm not not charging you,

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am I? He said sorry. So we had a little

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kiss and then I I basically didn't know what I

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was going to do. I really didn't know. But what

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I did have it in a huge amount in me

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was the wish to help other people. I wanted to

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help him as much as I've ever wanted to help

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anyone in my life. You know, I couldn't have wanted

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to help him more than if i'd see a puppy

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fall into a river. You know. It's that kind of

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not quite that extreme level, but it really did feel

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like a life for death situation. Although it wasn't, but

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to me it felt like that. So they asked the

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nurses to leave us alone for half an hour. That is,

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his wife said, I'm gonna go and get a cup

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of coffee on the standout of reception. Make sure no

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one disturbs you. Pull the curtains around. Now. It was

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super noisy in there. I mean, the only way to

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make it noisier is if a brass band walked through seriously,

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or a jet Parlot went past, honking its horn like

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the dukes of hazard. It was very noisy, and there's

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you know, there's nothing wrong with that, it's just how

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it is a very noisy environment. But it didn't seem

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to matter because he was about to have this procedure.

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He refused to have it done until I'd spent some

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time talking to him. So I spent half an hour

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focusing on relaxing him and preparing him for the procedure.

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He knew what the procedure was. I didn't need to

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know about it. He knew what it was because had

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it done before, so he knew exactly what was going

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to be done. But in his imagination it went well.

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In his imagine nation it felt he felt relaxed, And

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for me, however weird this is I was sending from

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my perspective, I was sending relaxation to him. I was

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imagining that I was sending him healing and I was

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sending him comfort. And if I'm honest, that is what

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I've always done when I was face to face with

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someone doing chronic pain relief or whatever the hypnosis thing

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would be. When their eyes closed, I would imagine sending

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the feeling that they want to them. Now what that does.

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Regardless of whether or not it helped them, it helped me.

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And that's something that I kind of noted in my

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head because although it did make sense from a meditative state,

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from a meditation angle, I still thought there's something in this.

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But I wasn't doing it so that I could feel

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more relaxed. I generally wanted him or whoever I was with,

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to feel to feel more comfort in that part of

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your body that needs to have more comfort. And at

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the end of it, he felt really relaxed. He was

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absolutely zero discomfort. Bearing in mind, you know, he had

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a really serious condition and it's maybe the first time

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he had zero discomfort for a while. I left him alone.

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He went and had his had his procedure, and I

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spoke to him probably the next day to see how

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he was, and I'd already received note that it gone

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really well, and it wasn't. It was completely different this

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time because he expected it to go well. He expected

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to feel comfort and confident, he expected to feel relaxed,

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and it was that kind of because it has an

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effect when he obviously doesn't it when if you expect

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calmness and comfort. It's gonna have that positive reaction for you.

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I mean, it's just standing. It's not it's not even

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it's not even scientific. Really, it's just obvious, isn't it.

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And it's as obvious as gravity. So mind you do

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sometimes wonder Daddy longlegs? How how has nature created Daddy

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long legs one of the most poisonous insects, but can't bite,

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there's no way of releasing the poison, cannot fly in

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a straight line, even if it was offered a million pounds. It's, yeah, phenomenal.

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I love Daddy longlegs. I like them a lot. I

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00:36:34.440 --> 00:36:35.760
used to eat them when I was a kid, so

471
00:36:35.960 --> 00:36:38.519
I'm not proud of that, you know, but I was

472
00:36:38.559 --> 00:36:44.159
like three years old, so okay, I was forty five.

473
00:36:44.360 --> 00:36:48.760
But you know, it doesn't matter. When you got a

474
00:36:48.800 --> 00:36:53.320
hospital out of hospital and they couldn't they couldn't do anything.

475
00:36:53.639 --> 00:36:55.800
They couldn't. All they could do is treat it. There

476
00:36:55.840 --> 00:36:59.599
was nothing else that they could do. So it's you know,

477
00:36:59.599 --> 00:37:01.360
I don't want to get all heavy and talk about that,

478
00:37:01.440 --> 00:37:03.960
but I did visit him at home and do some

479
00:37:04.000 --> 00:37:08.559
pain relief with him, and that also helped, and it

480
00:37:08.679 --> 00:37:16.079
seemed something a bit strange that he not strange, but

481
00:37:16.119 --> 00:37:22.000
because he'd already spent time listening to me, he felt

482
00:37:22.039 --> 00:37:27.360
more relaxed just me being there, just hearing my voice.

483
00:37:28.800 --> 00:37:32.639
And that's another thing that I kind of ticked like that.

484
00:37:32.719 --> 00:37:35.519
I just kind of remembered in my mind for future

485
00:37:35.599 --> 00:37:38.960
with the audios, because I was making videos and audios

486
00:37:38.960 --> 00:37:41.960
back then, but I was quite early into doing that.

487
00:37:43.519 --> 00:37:51.599
I was focusing more on real life people sort of. Yeah,

488
00:37:52.039 --> 00:37:57.440
I mean the first recordings that I yeah, I think

489
00:37:57.480 --> 00:38:01.239
the first recordings I uploaded to the endnet were actual

490
00:38:01.400 --> 00:38:07.039
live recordings that I had done with the drug rehab

491
00:38:07.079 --> 00:38:10.880
and the alcohol charity groups, the relaxation groups I did.

492
00:38:11.239 --> 00:38:14.639
So I would record them on a little dickation thing

493
00:38:16.280 --> 00:38:20.440
and then uploaded to my website or uploaded to I

494
00:38:20.480 --> 00:38:25.760
think MySpace, and then you know, wherever else I could find.

495
00:38:27.199 --> 00:38:36.000
That's before I started doing videos. So we got the

496
00:38:38.119 --> 00:38:44.000
level of comfort up, the distressed way down, so he

497
00:38:44.079 --> 00:38:50.760
felt comfortable again, and then he had the thing is

498
00:38:55.159 --> 00:38:56.880
it would have been better to have both of them

499
00:38:56.920 --> 00:39:01.360
sit in there, because her stress levels were a level

500
00:39:03.760 --> 00:39:07.199
I mean, you know, for good reason. She also needed

501
00:39:07.239 --> 00:39:12.440
to relax deeply and so he was kind of quite

502
00:39:12.559 --> 00:39:16.920
jovial and calm, but she wasn't. And again she is

503
00:39:16.960 --> 00:39:23.119
not a judgment. I mean this is you know, who

504
00:39:23.159 --> 00:39:31.199
would be calm in that situation. But it was just nice.

505
00:39:31.280 --> 00:39:36.599
It felt nice to know that. Actually imagination, because even

506
00:39:36.639 --> 00:39:39.000
if it's me talking, you're the one doing the imagining.

507
00:39:40.440 --> 00:39:45.639
You know. If I say, for example, visualize a gentle

508
00:39:47.000 --> 00:39:55.760
warm beam of light moving to the part of your

509
00:39:55.760 --> 00:40:01.760
body that you would like to have more comfort. Visualize

510
00:40:01.840 --> 00:40:10.760
that gentle warm beam of light maybe traveling from the

511
00:40:10.960 --> 00:40:16.239
heart of someone that you love deeply, maybe someone that

512
00:40:16.280 --> 00:40:18.920
you used to love deeply, maybe someone's not around anymore.

513
00:40:19.119 --> 00:40:21.920
But imagine that beam of light shining down from heaven

514
00:40:23.119 --> 00:40:34.840
into your part of your body. It has an effect

515
00:40:37.239 --> 00:40:40.280
changes how you feel. So I'm the one saying it,

516
00:40:40.320 --> 00:40:49.880
but you're the one imagining it. So there's certain things

517
00:40:50.000 --> 00:41:01.079
mental imagery affects the brain activity. So when you imagine,

518
00:41:01.159 --> 00:41:03.840
is this something that's done with things like skiing and golf,

519
00:41:04.480 --> 00:41:08.119
practicing in your mind, in your in your remind in

520
00:41:08.159 --> 00:41:15.760
your mind imagining it, or practicing taking basketball shots, things

521
00:41:15.840 --> 00:41:23.599
like that actually, or rifling, you know, do like Olympic games,

522
00:41:23.639 --> 00:41:27.119
things you know where you target practice or bow and

523
00:41:27.239 --> 00:41:36.599
arrow things. Mental rehearsing can be just as effective as

524
00:41:36.719 --> 00:41:43.000
physical rehearsals. You do need both, but someone that mentally rehearses,

525
00:41:44.039 --> 00:41:49.559
as opposed to someone that just physically rehearses, has an edge.

526
00:41:51.239 --> 00:41:58.679
It affects the the muscles, it affects the movement, it

527
00:41:58.760 --> 00:42:06.679
affects how we feel, and it changes expectation because, as

528
00:42:06.719 --> 00:42:11.639
we all know, if we expect, really really expect things

529
00:42:11.679 --> 00:42:17.760
to go well, generally they do. There's a good example

530
00:42:17.800 --> 00:42:22.280
of this. It's two really good examples of and they've

531
00:42:22.280 --> 00:42:28.480
done this in research. It's an old thing, but two tests.

532
00:42:28.880 --> 00:42:33.119
So if you have someone on a typrope, walk in

533
00:42:34.239 --> 00:42:36.599
on a typrope that knows how to do it but

534
00:42:36.920 --> 00:42:39.480
isn't particularly good, but they you know, it's not a

535
00:42:39.519 --> 00:42:43.360
long typrope or actually no, let's say a planka would

536
00:42:43.679 --> 00:42:46.719
forget the typerope, So just a planka would it's on

537
00:42:46.719 --> 00:42:52.280
the floor. They'll walk along easy, you know, they walk

538
00:42:52.559 --> 00:42:56.199
six foot maybe ten foot planka would. They'll walk on it,

539
00:43:00.039 --> 00:43:06.960
but it's six foot in the air, or put it

540
00:43:07.239 --> 00:43:10.000
three foot in the air. Well, even if they fall off,

541
00:43:10.039 --> 00:43:11.760
they're not going to hurt themselves or two foot in

542
00:43:11.760 --> 00:43:20.000
the air changes how they feel about it. So if

543
00:43:20.039 --> 00:43:25.480
they imagine to themselves, everything's fine, even the one on

544
00:43:25.480 --> 00:43:28.360
the peak on the floor. If those imagine, you know,

545
00:43:28.400 --> 00:43:32.280
let's say it's a twelve fifteen foot and they say

546
00:43:32.320 --> 00:43:38.599
to themselves, I'm going to do this easy. This is easy,

547
00:43:38.800 --> 00:43:41.199
this is easy, this is easy. I'm going to do

548
00:43:41.239 --> 00:43:45.639
this easily, and do this easily, and they will. But

549
00:43:45.760 --> 00:43:47.559
some people, if they if you get them to say

550
00:43:48.280 --> 00:43:50.000
I'm going to fall off, I'm going to fall off.

551
00:43:50.000 --> 00:43:51.719
I'm going to fall off. I'm going to fall off,

552
00:43:52.679 --> 00:43:54.760
and get them to rehearsed out before they do it,

553
00:43:54.800 --> 00:43:57.679
and then get them to say that, either out loud

554
00:43:58.079 --> 00:44:01.519
or to themselves, then chants there will actually fall off,

555
00:44:01.800 --> 00:44:06.679
even when it's on the floor. Another one would be

556
00:44:07.440 --> 00:44:12.760
if you put a bunch of plates or maybe glasses

557
00:44:13.079 --> 00:44:17.320
with whining on a tray or water on a tray,

558
00:44:19.199 --> 00:44:22.519
and you're walking through a busy restaurant, you can walk

559
00:44:22.559 --> 00:44:24.920
into the other side of the restaurant. Now, if you're

560
00:44:24.920 --> 00:44:31.679
saying to yourself or you expect everything to be fine,

561
00:44:32.599 --> 00:44:35.719
it's going to be fine. But if you're saying to

562
00:44:35.760 --> 00:44:37.880
yourself I'm going to drop it. I'm going to drop it.

563
00:44:37.960 --> 00:44:39.840
I'm going to drop it. I'm going to drop it.

564
00:44:39.880 --> 00:44:42.960
I'm going to drop it. Then the chance that you're

565
00:44:43.000 --> 00:44:46.800
dropping it is quite high. So we affect ourselves by

566
00:44:46.800 --> 00:44:50.760
what we think. If before that all it did was

567
00:44:50.760 --> 00:44:52.920
focus I'm going to drop it. I'm going to drop it,

568
00:44:52.920 --> 00:44:54.880
for like half an hour before they actually got there.

569
00:44:56.599 --> 00:45:03.960
It's it's again, this is so obvious, isn't that. But

570
00:45:04.079 --> 00:45:12.000
mental practice can enhance motor processes control, and also mental

571
00:45:12.039 --> 00:45:20.920
imagery can reduce physical discomfort as well, and it can

572
00:45:20.960 --> 00:45:26.199
affect the healing processes that can activate the same brain

573
00:45:26.320 --> 00:45:32.400
regions as the actual experience, So you actually activating the

574
00:45:32.440 --> 00:45:34.320
same part of your brain as you would if you

575
00:45:34.360 --> 00:45:41.480
were a physically doing that thing, which is kind of amazing. Really,

576
00:45:44.880 --> 00:45:47.360
it's almost like the brain doesn't know the difference between

577
00:45:47.719 --> 00:45:53.800
doing it and thinking about it, which then really brings

578
00:45:53.880 --> 00:46:02.280
to just really really focuses on the idea of what

579
00:46:02.360 --> 00:46:05.800
do you say to yourself, what do you feel about yourself,

580
00:46:06.920 --> 00:46:14.639
what do you expect? Because that has an effect. How

581
00:46:14.679 --> 00:46:19.800
you feel about yourself affects how you feel, how you are,

582
00:46:20.039 --> 00:46:25.719
how you behave in the same ways what we think

583
00:46:25.760 --> 00:46:30.079
about someone else. You know, I don't know about you,

584
00:46:30.119 --> 00:46:32.920
but there's been times when I've I've gone into a

585
00:46:32.960 --> 00:46:38.480
situation and I've expected that person to be rude and

586
00:46:38.559 --> 00:46:43.760
really rehearse that in my mind. There's no benefit to

587
00:46:43.800 --> 00:46:46.320
doing that. But it's just stuff that I've done in

588
00:46:46.360 --> 00:46:49.239
the past, not on purpose, just it was just going

589
00:46:49.320 --> 00:46:52.320
on and on. I didn't necessarily know how to stop

590
00:46:52.360 --> 00:46:56.079
it at the time. And then'd go into that scenario

591
00:46:57.920 --> 00:47:00.280
and I would dislike that person, and I would feel

592
00:47:00.320 --> 00:47:09.159
that they disliked me, but actually they probably didn't, or

593
00:47:09.159 --> 00:47:14.159
maybe they did. Maybe my attitude was not nice because

594
00:47:14.199 --> 00:47:17.679
I had, as zig Ziggler would say, I had stinking thinking.

595
00:47:22.480 --> 00:47:27.280
There's no thing called a thing called mirror therapy where

596
00:47:27.320 --> 00:47:31.119
patients view a reflection of their unaffected limb and can

597
00:47:31.119 --> 00:47:34.559
trick the brain into perceiving movement in the affected limb,

598
00:47:35.280 --> 00:47:40.000
thereby reducing physical discomfort. So if you've got a mirror,

599
00:47:40.079 --> 00:47:42.000
Let's say someone's got a problem with their left hand

600
00:47:42.679 --> 00:47:47.800
and that's the problematic hand. For example, put a mirror

601
00:47:48.559 --> 00:47:51.119
the right hand. You know, it looks like your left

602
00:47:51.119 --> 00:47:57.119
hand is there, and you can focus on your left

603
00:47:57.119 --> 00:48:01.239
hand and I'm looking at that image, looking that mirror image.

604
00:48:01.639 --> 00:48:08.920
Just imagine it's feeling calm, relaxed, and someone could actually

605
00:48:09.000 --> 00:48:13.280
stand there, be next to you and just tap tap

606
00:48:13.320 --> 00:48:16.000
that hand, that right hand, and you can feel that

607
00:48:16.119 --> 00:48:20.639
it feels fine, and that's not how the left hand

608
00:48:20.639 --> 00:48:27.159
would feel normally. It changes the way your left hand feels.

609
00:48:28.679 --> 00:48:32.239
It's also being done with people who have lost a

610
00:48:32.280 --> 00:48:36.239
limb in a way to relax. So that's someone that's

611
00:48:36.400 --> 00:48:39.960
maybe got phantom they call it phantom, but you know,

612
00:48:40.079 --> 00:48:45.000
got problems, still got discomfort in let's say a hand

613
00:48:45.039 --> 00:48:48.519
that's not there anymore. So they can use that mirror technique.

614
00:48:49.280 --> 00:48:52.000
So what they do is they're looking at image and

615
00:48:52.079 --> 00:48:57.000
they really relax that hand that they're looking at in

616
00:48:57.039 --> 00:49:05.159
the mirror, which in turn reduces that physical discomfort that

617
00:49:05.199 --> 00:49:10.079
they were having before. And it's a brain thing. It's

618
00:49:10.119 --> 00:49:16.679
actually it feels real because the brain on a level

619
00:49:16.719 --> 00:49:21.400
of course knows it's a mirror, but in another way doesn't.

620
00:49:22.920 --> 00:49:28.679
It's quite interesting. I think you got neurofeedback so using

621
00:49:29.400 --> 00:49:31.280
I mean I don't have that. I wish I did

622
00:49:31.320 --> 00:49:34.079
have access to this stuff. It would be so much fun.

623
00:49:34.719 --> 00:49:40.320
But you can use real time brain imaging to learn

624
00:49:40.440 --> 00:49:46.480
to control the physical sensations and to activate those related

625
00:49:46.960 --> 00:49:54.119
brain regions, which can lead to significant reductions in that

626
00:49:54.360 --> 00:50:00.280
you know, discomfort you had before. And I think also

627
00:50:00.320 --> 00:50:05.599
you got things like Buiyo feedback machines, and I'd love

628
00:50:05.639 --> 00:50:07.679
to get one of those skull cap things, you know

629
00:50:07.719 --> 00:50:09.960
that they put on with all those wires and you

630
00:50:10.000 --> 00:50:14.559
can just see which parts of the brain are being activated.

631
00:50:15.719 --> 00:50:20.840
I'm pretty sure the more you the more time you

632
00:50:20.920 --> 00:50:23.719
spend with one of those hats on. I won't call

633
00:50:23.719 --> 00:50:25.440
them hats, but I don't know what the correct term

634
00:50:25.519 --> 00:50:29.360
is looking at that image, the more you can start

635
00:50:29.440 --> 00:50:37.159
activating different parts. Because now they've got limbs like mechanical

636
00:50:38.440 --> 00:50:42.679
robotic limbs that can be activated by the brain, by

637
00:50:42.719 --> 00:50:46.480
the person's brain, Like they can imagine the hand and

638
00:50:46.519 --> 00:50:52.360
the right finger move in and it moves, which is phenomenal.

639
00:50:52.480 --> 00:50:56.159
I mean, it's just it is. I know the bionic

640
00:50:56.239 --> 00:51:02.320
Man had this fifty years ago, but you know he

641
00:51:02.360 --> 00:51:07.519
had six million dollars to play with, didn't he. But

642
00:51:07.960 --> 00:51:14.199
this phenomenal stuff. And there's technology now where someone that's

643
00:51:14.360 --> 00:51:19.360
maybe a quadriplegic can use a computer with their mind

644
00:51:19.920 --> 00:51:24.639
and can you know, play a game or type stuff

645
00:51:24.639 --> 00:51:29.599
out talk you know, type stuff to talk out to screen.

646
00:51:30.360 --> 00:51:36.079
You know, it's like phenomenal, amazing. So this is only

647
00:51:36.119 --> 00:51:39.000
going to improve and get better. I don't know why

648
00:51:39.000 --> 00:51:41.079
I said it improve and get better, because it's the

649
00:51:41.119 --> 00:51:46.159
same thing, isn't it. So I'm just looking at the

650
00:51:46.199 --> 00:51:49.360
practical sides of this. This is much more sensible than

651
00:51:49.440 --> 00:51:54.599
yesterday's recording. Oh so pleased because you know, I'm winning

652
00:51:54.639 --> 00:51:58.719
a weird I mean, they're not supposed to be super

653
00:51:59.079 --> 00:52:04.599
super serious. Sometimes I go off on a tangent. So

654
00:52:05.960 --> 00:52:13.880
the practical, some practical techniques you can explore when it

655
00:52:13.960 --> 00:52:18.639
comes to imagining for ourselves, because this is really about

656
00:52:18.679 --> 00:52:23.400
imagining sending healing to someone else. But it's kind of

657
00:52:23.559 --> 00:52:28.039
first Awards exploring the power of your mind from a

658
00:52:28.119 --> 00:52:35.519
scientific perspective, not from a wah wah or from a

659
00:52:35.599 --> 00:52:40.880
spiritual perspective that not everybody would potentially agree with. But

660
00:52:40.920 --> 00:52:44.039
when it comes to science, when it comes to should

661
00:52:44.039 --> 00:52:48.679
we say fact, something that's been studied for decades and

662
00:52:48.760 --> 00:52:58.119
decades and decades, you can pretty much have a bit

663
00:52:58.159 --> 00:53:04.440
of faith in that something that you can research yourself.

664
00:53:06.039 --> 00:53:09.559
You know, I think it's quite nice sometimes to say, Okay,

665
00:53:09.599 --> 00:53:16.519
well I want to find out what's this? What's guided imagery?

666
00:53:16.920 --> 00:53:19.639
What's this bloke talking about guard guided imagery? Is it

667
00:53:19.679 --> 00:53:22.800
a real thing? And you can you can see you

668
00:53:22.800 --> 00:53:25.239
can google it or whatever, and it is. What's this

669
00:53:25.400 --> 00:53:32.599
mental imagery and brain activity? You can search it, neuro feedback,

670
00:53:32.800 --> 00:53:34.960
you can search it. It's all, you know, it's all

671
00:53:35.000 --> 00:53:39.360
on the internet. There's books written about it, there's lectures

672
00:53:39.400 --> 00:53:45.360
on YouTube. It's this is you know. There are inventions

673
00:53:45.440 --> 00:53:52.599
being created probably every day based on this technology that's

674
00:53:52.679 --> 00:53:58.719
continually growing. So if you're going to do something for yourself,

675
00:53:59.280 --> 00:54:05.920
and we mentioned and like a healing visualization, I saw

676
00:54:05.920 --> 00:54:10.440
about that beam coming down and going into that part

677
00:54:10.440 --> 00:54:14.760
of your body that you would like to have more comfort.

678
00:54:16.559 --> 00:54:19.199
So this that's something you could do, or imagine healing

679
00:54:19.280 --> 00:54:22.599
moving into that part of your body. You can imagine

680
00:54:22.639 --> 00:54:25.159
healing moving into the top of your head. This is

681
00:54:25.199 --> 00:54:29.880
something that I quite like to do. And for some reason,

682
00:54:29.920 --> 00:54:39.440
it's kind of it's yellow, but it's liquid, almost like sunshine.

683
00:54:39.599 --> 00:54:42.039
And imagine it pouring into the top of my head

684
00:54:42.400 --> 00:54:45.880
and it's moving through my body all the way down

685
00:54:46.000 --> 00:54:53.280
to my toes and just filling, gradually filling my entire body,

686
00:54:53.440 --> 00:55:01.920
you know, my fingers, hands, feet, legs, knees, thar is, bum, groin,

687
00:55:03.039 --> 00:55:13.079
lower back, upper back, stomach, chest, arms, shoulders, neck, throat,

688
00:55:13.679 --> 00:55:23.400
then jaw, my ears, my nose, my eyes, my face,

689
00:55:24.639 --> 00:55:29.119
my scalp, and then I imagine it overflowing a little

690
00:55:29.119 --> 00:55:35.480
bit like a volcano, but less hot, you know, healing

691
00:55:36.400 --> 00:55:40.760
and then overflowing so it's covered. It's you know, it's

692
00:55:40.800 --> 00:55:46.079
filled inside my body, and now it's overflowing to cover

693
00:55:46.159 --> 00:55:51.199
your skin. So now it's covering the outside of your

694
00:55:51.239 --> 00:56:00.199
body with this healing liquid energy. So that's the thing

695
00:56:00.280 --> 00:56:04.079
I do because it feels quite nice. I think you've

696
00:56:04.119 --> 00:56:09.039
got a positive imagery that you can do. Encourage, you

697
00:56:09.079 --> 00:56:12.400
can envision, you can think about a place where you

698
00:56:12.559 --> 00:56:19.360
feel safe and comfortable. And I suppose it's not everybody's

699
00:56:19.400 --> 00:56:24.920
into visualization. I'm not great myself a visualization. I'm pretty

700
00:56:24.960 --> 00:56:28.239
good when I'm asleep. I've good a lot of things

701
00:56:28.239 --> 00:56:38.000
on i'm asleep, especially sleeping. But you've got the ideas.

702
00:56:38.039 --> 00:56:41.360
You use as many senses as you can. So if

703
00:56:41.400 --> 00:56:48.800
it was, for example, laying next to a lake, maybe

704
00:56:48.800 --> 00:56:51.880
it's a place from the past, that you loved, that

705
00:56:51.960 --> 00:56:55.119
you used to lie down and feel so relaxed. So

706
00:56:55.159 --> 00:56:59.559
you can perhaps smell the air, smell the trees, the flowers,

707
00:57:00.159 --> 00:57:05.239
hear the lake gently tinkling by or whatever they do sprinkling,

708
00:57:06.599 --> 00:57:14.800
and maybe hear a cow in the field going, I

709
00:57:14.800 --> 00:57:19.440
don't know whatever sounds that you would hear, maybe another

710
00:57:19.559 --> 00:57:24.760
cow going mm hmmm, because it couldn't hear what the

711
00:57:24.800 --> 00:57:27.199
other one was saying because I'm talking too much and

712
00:57:27.199 --> 00:57:30.039
they can't hear over me. But you know, whatever it

713
00:57:30.039 --> 00:57:34.320
could be. You can imagine how it feels to have

714
00:57:34.639 --> 00:57:38.920
the ground support in your body, or maybe you're in

715
00:57:38.960 --> 00:57:44.199
a hammock or sitting in a chair in a that

716
00:57:44.239 --> 00:57:48.079
are like a beach bed thing, whatever whatever it is

717
00:57:48.159 --> 00:57:54.280
that feels comfortable, and then maybe you can also have

718
00:57:54.440 --> 00:57:59.320
like all a taste. Maybe you can because sometimes if

719
00:57:59.320 --> 00:58:02.239
you're in a beach, for example, you can maybe taste

720
00:58:02.360 --> 00:58:08.239
the salty air of the sea, and then you've got

721
00:58:08.280 --> 00:58:12.280
the feeling not just a feeling of being supported by

722
00:58:12.360 --> 00:58:16.239
the chair or the ground, but maybe the feeling of

723
00:58:17.000 --> 00:58:20.360
a breeze on your face or on your hands, on

724
00:58:20.440 --> 00:58:27.039
your body, So you know, it's kind of that's just

725
00:58:27.280 --> 00:58:34.920
an example It could be anything, and it can be

726
00:58:34.960 --> 00:58:39.440
a way to let go and to feel comfort. Because

727
00:58:40.679 --> 00:58:43.760
the good thing about it is you think you're kind

728
00:58:43.760 --> 00:58:48.800
of outside because you're imagining it, you start to feel

729
00:58:48.800 --> 00:58:56.199
it in your own body, and that comfort you're imagining,

730
00:58:59.159 --> 00:59:01.440
you're it's like you're your mind doesn't know the difference,

731
00:59:02.039 --> 00:59:06.280
or your brain doesn't know the difference, and you just

732
00:59:06.320 --> 00:59:12.000
feel relaxed. You've got positive injury, so they've got that.

733
00:59:12.000 --> 00:59:15.559
You've got mirror visualization. So I already kind of talked

734
00:59:15.599 --> 00:59:22.559
about that, but you could do it in a different way.

735
00:59:22.639 --> 00:59:25.239
You could actually imagine the mirror. I've done these kind

736
00:59:25.239 --> 00:59:31.639
of recordings before where you imagine yourself looking in the

737
00:59:31.679 --> 00:59:43.239
mirror and see yourself feeling really relaxed, really peaceful, and

738
00:59:43.400 --> 00:59:46.000
just notice how that feels as you look at yourself

739
00:59:46.679 --> 00:59:55.400
feeling really relaxed and really peaceful. And I've done like

740
00:59:55.519 --> 00:59:59.760
magic mirrors in the past. Word ask you to step

741
00:59:59.800 --> 01:00:05.239
in to that feeling experience again. So maybe it's a

742
01:00:05.239 --> 01:00:09.679
feeling for the past when you felt so relaxed and calm,

743
01:00:09.960 --> 01:00:14.639
and you step in there and absorb and reexperience that

744
01:00:14.760 --> 01:00:22.559
feeling of calmness, looseness, and then you can step out again,

745
01:00:22.800 --> 01:00:26.760
but you can leave that old feeling that was there before.

746
01:00:27.280 --> 01:00:29.800
You can leave that in the mirror and step out

747
01:00:30.679 --> 01:00:35.639
just bringing the good feelings, just keeping the sense of comfort.

748
01:00:40.800 --> 01:00:43.480
So there's lots of different things you can do. So

749
01:00:43.599 --> 01:00:48.360
these are things you can do for yourself. Now, this

750
01:00:48.400 --> 01:00:57.639
session really is about sending healing to others, and I

751
01:00:57.679 --> 01:01:02.159
think it's there's different ways to look at this. I'm

752
01:01:02.199 --> 01:01:05.559
going to look at both the positive and the negatives

753
01:01:05.599 --> 01:01:09.920
of sending of the way we think towards other people,

754
01:01:10.679 --> 01:01:15.199
because both are valid, and the negative explains the positive

755
01:01:15.800 --> 01:01:23.480
in a way. It does that make sense. So our

756
01:01:23.599 --> 01:01:31.599
thoughts towards other people amplifies our own pain. Now, anyone

757
01:01:31.719 --> 01:01:35.119
can argue this, but this is fact. No one can

758
01:01:35.280 --> 01:01:38.639
really really argue. And I know some people that I'm

759
01:01:38.679 --> 01:01:41.199
never going to forgive the person. Why would I forgive

760
01:01:41.239 --> 01:01:45.599
someone for what they did? But the point of forgiveness

761
01:01:45.639 --> 01:01:51.400
is not to let them off, it's to help you,

762
01:01:53.599 --> 01:01:57.039
is to let yourself off. It's not to release them,

763
01:01:57.079 --> 01:02:01.199
it's to release you. And I don't know if that's

764
01:02:01.239 --> 01:02:05.599
always explained. You know, like we need to forgive other people,

765
01:02:05.719 --> 01:02:10.599
it's forgive and it can be a bit like just

766
01:02:11.599 --> 01:02:16.920
go away. Of course I'm not. It's almost as if

767
01:02:17.119 --> 01:02:21.119
they're being asked, well by forgiving that person, I'm going

768
01:02:21.199 --> 01:02:23.760
to say that it's okay what they did, and it's

769
01:02:23.840 --> 01:02:29.480
never okay, and it isn't that forgiving someone's not saying

770
01:02:29.480 --> 01:02:33.639
it's okay. Forgiving someone is not letting them off. It's

771
01:02:33.679 --> 01:02:42.000
not releasing them. It's releasing you. It's healing you. So

772
01:02:43.239 --> 01:02:46.800
that's an example where I'm going with this. This is

773
01:02:46.840 --> 01:02:48.880
I'm not going to focus much on the negative. But

774
01:02:48.960 --> 01:02:55.880
the fact is, if if we're angry towards someone, how

775
01:02:55.920 --> 01:03:01.599
does that feel for us? Because we kind of when

776
01:03:01.599 --> 01:03:05.760
we think about someone and we're angry towards them, we're

777
01:03:05.760 --> 01:03:09.760
basically sending angry negative energy to them in our minds,

778
01:03:11.519 --> 01:03:14.119
and all it does is bounce off of them, comes

779
01:03:14.159 --> 01:03:21.400
back to us increased, it increases. And there's an old

780
01:03:21.400 --> 01:03:25.159
Buddhist or it might be Zen or Buddhist term saying

781
01:03:25.239 --> 01:03:28.679
being angry. If someone is like someone chucking hot coals

782
01:03:28.679 --> 01:03:33.480
at you and you catch them in your hand, that's

783
01:03:33.480 --> 01:03:37.519
what anger's like. You're worse off than they wire. You know,

784
01:03:37.840 --> 01:03:41.079
you're angry. They they got rid of the hot coal.

785
01:03:41.159 --> 01:03:43.679
You're still holding it and it's burning a hole in

786
01:03:43.719 --> 01:03:50.039
your hand. So someone chucks a hot coal at you,

787
01:03:50.079 --> 01:03:56.079
move out away. That's their stuff, isn't it. That's their anger,

788
01:03:56.679 --> 01:04:01.639
and you can let them keep it. There's another thing

789
01:04:01.719 --> 01:04:07.400
that is probably worth looking at, thinking about. And I

790
01:04:07.519 --> 01:04:09.920
spent a lot of time around people that were unwell,

791
01:04:12.119 --> 01:04:16.920
and something I've noticed. I mean, talking is important. Talking

792
01:04:17.039 --> 01:04:20.280
is really important, having someone to talk to, to discuss

793
01:04:20.320 --> 01:04:26.360
things with, someone to be kind to you and to

794
01:04:26.480 --> 01:04:33.360
show consideration and love, someone to show caring. But there's

795
01:04:33.360 --> 01:04:37.639
also a level of as there comes a time when

796
01:04:39.360 --> 01:04:42.480
when you look at the situation, how much time you

797
01:04:42.599 --> 01:04:47.000
spending or how much time is that person spending focusing

798
01:04:47.159 --> 01:04:55.360
on the negative, wanting to tell everyone about it. And

799
01:04:56.320 --> 01:04:59.719
I don't know if you notice some people and again

800
01:04:59.760 --> 01:05:03.159
it's not a criticism really because they don't know what

801
01:05:03.199 --> 01:05:07.639
they're doing, but they talk in a way of they're

802
01:05:07.679 --> 01:05:14.800
explaining how they feel, and they're explaining in graphic detail

803
01:05:15.480 --> 01:05:20.440
how awful they feel. And while they're saying it, they're saying,

804
01:05:21.000 --> 01:05:24.039
and you feel this, and then you feel this there,

805
01:05:24.320 --> 01:05:26.960
and then you feel that there, and then this happens

806
01:05:27.119 --> 01:05:29.599
and then you feel like this. They're using that word

807
01:05:29.760 --> 01:05:32.599
you feel like this as they're explaining how they feel,

808
01:05:34.199 --> 01:05:37.880
And that's fine. If I'm telling you about something really positive,

809
01:05:39.719 --> 01:05:43.159
if I want you to feel really relaxed and to

810
01:05:43.199 --> 01:05:47.280
feel really calm, I can tell you about something that

811
01:05:47.400 --> 01:05:51.840
happened where I felt really calm and relaxed and peaceful,

812
01:05:52.440 --> 01:05:54.559
and I can talk to you about how it felt,

813
01:05:54.920 --> 01:05:59.880
because you know I was lying lying on this. Something happened. Actually,

814
01:06:01.239 --> 01:06:04.559
it was during quite a weird period. I was kicked

815
01:06:04.559 --> 01:06:06.000
out of where I was living. What I had to

816
01:06:06.039 --> 01:06:09.400
find someone new to live. It was student accommodation, so

817
01:06:09.639 --> 01:06:13.800
to be fair, I had finished college seventeen years earlier.

818
01:06:14.320 --> 01:06:18.199
But I it was getting a little bit too much

819
01:06:20.800 --> 01:06:23.199
and I sat down on his chair that reclined a

820
01:06:23.199 --> 01:06:25.599
little bit. This was in the counseling office that I

821
01:06:25.639 --> 01:06:31.159
used to work, and every muscle in my body relaxed.

822
01:06:33.760 --> 01:06:35.719
So if I'd explain this to you for you to

823
01:06:35.760 --> 01:06:40.920
have this feeling, I'll go through like every it was

824
01:06:40.960 --> 01:06:48.639
like your shoulders relaxed, Yeah, your hands relaxed. It's like

825
01:06:48.880 --> 01:06:54.199
explaining to you how to do it. But when someone's ill,

826
01:06:54.280 --> 01:06:56.360
you don't want them to explain to you how to

827
01:06:56.559 --> 01:07:00.440
be that way, or when someone's going through physical comfort,

828
01:07:00.519 --> 01:07:04.599
we don't want to hear how to do it, even

829
01:07:04.639 --> 01:07:07.840
though they're not really trying to tell people how to

830
01:07:07.880 --> 01:07:12.719
do it. So it might be useful just to notice.

831
01:07:13.199 --> 01:07:16.119
I try and notice if I ever do that, which

832
01:07:16.159 --> 01:07:20.400
I'm sure I do, and I try and change it

833
01:07:22.679 --> 01:07:25.840
in the same way. Even just by talking about how

834
01:07:25.880 --> 01:07:29.639
it felt for me, it still can have an effect

835
01:07:29.920 --> 01:07:34.119
on you or the listener. If I'm talking about how

836
01:07:34.400 --> 01:07:40.679
just to relax in my back my shoulders, my hands

837
01:07:40.800 --> 01:07:47.159
felt heavy but almost light at the same time, and

838
01:07:47.199 --> 01:07:51.719
it kind of was just weird how when my hands

839
01:07:52.199 --> 01:07:59.800
felt relaxed and heavy, my feet seemed to copy. And

840
01:08:00.079 --> 01:08:04.280
then for some reason, I notice my eyes and my eyes.

841
01:08:06.559 --> 01:08:11.199
For some reason, when my eyes are relaxed, my jaw

842
01:08:11.280 --> 01:08:17.239
becomes relaxed. And when I raise my eyebrows with my

843
01:08:17.279 --> 01:08:22.039
eyes closed and look up, there's a certain feeling I get.

844
01:08:23.000 --> 01:08:28.840
It's almost like being in a bubble of safety where

845
01:08:28.880 --> 01:08:36.319
no physical feeling touches me. It's just comfort. It's almost

846
01:08:36.479 --> 01:08:46.000
like being in some kind of imaginary safe womb, completely safe,

847
01:08:47.199 --> 01:08:52.159
everything I need, peaceful, don't have to do anything, don't

848
01:08:52.159 --> 01:08:56.760
have to say anything. I don't have to think about anything,

849
01:09:00.119 --> 01:09:07.399
really peaceful place. I think I just heard the biggest

850
01:09:07.479 --> 01:09:11.600
yawn in the world from downstairs. Maybe she's listening to me.

851
01:09:12.720 --> 01:09:15.239
Maybe I'm talking too loudly. I'll send her to sleep.

852
01:09:16.800 --> 01:09:23.239
So these are things by sending thinking angrily or thinking

853
01:09:23.319 --> 01:09:31.920
negatively towards someone has an effect on us. So if

854
01:09:31.920 --> 01:09:44.159
that's the case, then obviously thinking positively has the opposite effect.

855
01:09:46.920 --> 01:09:49.600
According to this found A two thousand and one study

856
01:09:49.880 --> 01:09:53.640
in the Journal of Behavioral Medicine showed that people who

857
01:09:53.720 --> 01:10:00.039
practice forgiveness had lower blood pressure, heart rate, and I

858
01:10:00.079 --> 01:10:04.520
parted less pain than those who were held onto resentment.

859
01:10:07.600 --> 01:10:10.720
Now again, I mean I'm pretty because I'm so so old.

860
01:10:11.520 --> 01:10:14.079
I've met a lot of people full of resentment. It

861
01:10:14.079 --> 01:10:20.880
seems they're not happy, and the resentment doesn't give them anything.

862
01:10:21.279 --> 01:10:24.079
There's no there's no upside to it, there's no benefit

863
01:10:24.159 --> 01:10:31.039
to it. Pride, maybe I will not forgive. Yeah, but

864
01:10:31.560 --> 01:10:34.199
if the forgiveness isn't for the other person, it's for you.

865
01:10:36.560 --> 01:10:42.159
Really isn't for them, it's for you, and a negativity

866
01:10:43.079 --> 01:10:49.560
it traps us. We keep ourselves. If you if you're

867
01:10:49.560 --> 01:10:55.279
focus on replaying arguments wishing them harm, blaming them, all

868
01:10:55.279 --> 01:11:00.840
that stuff. We keep ourselves locked into that feeling. Flip

869
01:11:00.840 --> 01:11:06.920
at the other side, sending people kindness, wishing people well,

870
01:11:07.880 --> 01:11:13.399
sending healing. It freezes us. But if it was to

871
01:11:13.439 --> 01:11:16.039
lock us into anything, or lock us into a feeling,

872
01:11:16.079 --> 01:11:26.880
what would that feeling be? Positivity, feeling, kindness, healing. It

873
01:11:26.920 --> 01:11:31.600
is quite weird though you think about it. It's to

874
01:11:31.680 --> 01:11:33.800
be able to still be angry about something that happened

875
01:11:33.840 --> 01:11:39.279
such a long time ago, holding us back. What's the

876
01:11:39.319 --> 01:11:45.239
point in that, you know? It increases it just it

877
01:11:45.279 --> 01:11:50.239
makes everything worse. So that's why I'm focusing on the

878
01:11:50.239 --> 01:11:52.960
opposite of that. But I thought I just mentioned the

879
01:11:52.960 --> 01:11:57.239
the negative side just so we can kind of get

880
01:11:57.239 --> 01:12:02.479
more of a grip on the positive side, because even

881
01:12:02.479 --> 01:12:11.720
though it's obvious, I think it's sometimes useful to say,

882
01:12:12.319 --> 01:12:18.000
so you can send. Imagine sending healing to somebody, doesn't

883
01:12:18.000 --> 01:12:21.800
matter if they need it. I would argue that everybody

884
01:12:21.960 --> 01:12:24.479
could do with some healing. There's no one in the

885
01:12:24.520 --> 01:12:26.439
world that would like turn down a bit of healing,

886
01:12:26.479 --> 01:12:29.479
a bit of love, bit of kindness, whether they know

887
01:12:29.560 --> 01:12:33.760
it or not. I think everybody could use that from

888
01:12:33.840 --> 01:12:41.840
all around the world, and you can send healing in

889
01:12:41.920 --> 01:12:45.600
your mind to anybody. It can be someone that you know.

890
01:12:46.159 --> 01:12:48.159
It could be someone that you love deeply. It could

891
01:12:48.159 --> 01:12:51.600
be someone that you don't know at all. He's someone

892
01:12:51.680 --> 01:12:57.680
the complete stranger. It doesn't really matter. So there's different

893
01:12:57.720 --> 01:13:03.560
ways you can send the healing. You just imagine it.

894
01:13:05.640 --> 01:13:09.000
You can take a breath in, filling yourself with calmness

895
01:13:09.000 --> 01:13:14.520
and relaxation as you excel, imagine sending that calm breath

896
01:13:14.560 --> 01:13:20.399
towards the other person that you're imagining. So each in

897
01:13:20.600 --> 01:13:26.239
how every time you breathe in it can recharge you

898
01:13:27.520 --> 01:13:35.800
with more of that sense of peace, more of that

899
01:13:36.000 --> 01:13:40.000
sense of calmness, more of that sense of healing. And

900
01:13:40.079 --> 01:13:42.600
every time you breathe out, you send it out again.

901
01:13:44.079 --> 01:13:45.720
And you can keep doing that for as long as

902
01:13:45.720 --> 01:13:52.720
you want. You could, technically, I suppose do it all

903
01:13:52.760 --> 01:13:57.319
the time, but then not choose a particular person, just

904
01:13:57.319 --> 01:14:02.640
to let that healing with every exhale just spread to

905
01:14:02.720 --> 01:14:12.079
anyone and everyone whoever needs it. You can do a

906
01:14:12.079 --> 01:14:14.359
thing as well, where you can loosen your own body

907
01:14:14.399 --> 01:14:18.720
with each breath, so when you breathe in the healing

908
01:14:21.520 --> 01:14:27.039
it moves into your body because in the same way, ironically,

909
01:14:27.560 --> 01:14:30.199
the same way that when you send out anger to someone,

910
01:14:30.439 --> 01:14:35.159
you get it back and it's stronger. The anger is stronger,

911
01:14:35.560 --> 01:14:46.760
the same as with the healing you send out love, healing, respect, kindness, comfort, relaxation, peacefulness.

912
01:14:47.079 --> 01:14:52.640
You send that energy out, it doesn't bounce off the person.

913
01:14:53.439 --> 01:14:56.880
They absorb it, but it also comes back to you

914
01:14:59.279 --> 01:15:04.560
and it turns in to this continuous back and forth

915
01:15:04.920 --> 01:15:09.239
of healing and comfort, And the more you send, the

916
01:15:09.239 --> 01:15:15.399
more you get back, because it just grows, just the

917
01:15:15.399 --> 01:15:21.479
way the anger can grow, Resentment can grow, healing can grow,

918
01:15:23.359 --> 01:15:31.399
peacefulness grows, peacefulness, just serenity or whatever words you want

919
01:15:31.399 --> 01:15:34.479
to use. Really, it's something I used to like to do.

920
01:15:35.479 --> 01:15:39.960
If you can hear the screeching in the garden, bliss them.

921
01:15:40.079 --> 01:15:43.720
I'm going to send peace and love. It worked, they've

922
01:15:43.760 --> 01:15:48.359
gone away. So I used to do this on a bus. Well,

923
01:15:48.399 --> 01:15:52.640
I would imagine that, do you know sprinklers, like if

924
01:15:52.680 --> 01:15:55.119
there was I guess a fire or whatever, or if

925
01:15:55.159 --> 01:15:56.880
you put little light and there were a sprinkler, it

926
01:15:56.880 --> 01:15:59.479
would just set it off of the whole bus. Maybe.

927
01:16:00.199 --> 01:16:05.239
I used to imagine that sprinkler would be sprinkling and

928
01:16:05.319 --> 01:16:10.520
invisible sprinklers of healing would spray over everybody on the

929
01:16:10.560 --> 01:16:17.640
bus and completely just cover them with healing, with peace,

930
01:16:18.439 --> 01:16:26.279
with relaxation. And it was weird because people seemed to

931
01:16:26.279 --> 01:16:28.439
go quiet when I did it. I'm not saying it

932
01:16:28.479 --> 01:16:30.880
for any reason. It might be more to do with

933
01:16:30.920 --> 01:16:33.840
the fact that I just farted and no one else

934
01:16:33.880 --> 01:16:36.159
wanted to be blamed for it. I don't know, but

935
01:16:38.479 --> 01:16:41.039
it felt good to me. I'm not just letting the air,

936
01:16:41.119 --> 01:16:47.359
letting the gas out, but imagining that the healing was spreading. Yeah,

937
01:16:47.399 --> 01:16:49.680
the bus driver went around and opened all the windows.

938
01:16:52.279 --> 01:16:55.000
You could also picture writing a letter of card or

939
01:16:55.039 --> 01:16:58.399
a card in your mind full of kind healing words.

940
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Now I've done this years ago. I was really going

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for a difficult time, and I wrote a letter to

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the person, not just telling them how I felt, but

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also kindness as well. It helped, really helped. But imagine

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sending a letter a card in your mind full of

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kind healing words to someone that could be anyone, doesn't

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matter who it is, but you seal it in an

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imaginary envelope and you mail it through the air to them.

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You don't have to know the exact words. It can

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just be a feeling. You just put a feeling in

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that envelope, sending the feeling of comfort, just trusting it.

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But as you send it off, you can feel a

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lightness in your body. There's so many different things. You

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can hold them in a healing bubble, which kind of

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like you know when we're looking up with your eyebrows

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risen and you can look up into that healing bubble,

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maybe join them, maybe have them join you peacefulness, or

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maybe just imagine they're in their own healing bubble, just

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giving them some space to calm, feel relaxed. Also, remember

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that we're all sharing the same oxygen, the same breath,

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We're really sharing the same air, and we are all

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connected by energy, so we can choose whether it's positive

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energy or otherwise. I'd go for the positive makes more sense.

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And the more kindness, the more relaxation, the more healing

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you send out, the better that you feel. There's little,

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tiny little things you can do. Just smiling gently when

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you're thinking of a person, even if it's just in

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your own mind, just thinking kind towards someone can help

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you feel better. Sometimes whispering kind words, just like things

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like comfort or feeling relaxed, because that goes both ways.

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It can go to them, it can go to you

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just whispering those words. You don't have to believe anything mystical.

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Just allowing your mind to care can activate deep, deep

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biological shifts really can affect you in a really big way.

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Positive and sending the healing. It's not about fixing the person,

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it's not about anything like that. It's just simply offering

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space for positivity and renewal for them and for you,

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knowing that that will come back. Doing it for that

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reason giving, not wanting anything in return giving, but the

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fact is it does come back. And also kind imagination.

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It changes body chemistry, leading to lower physical perception so

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you feel better, It improves your immune responses and better

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overall well being. So positive, I mean, you know, you

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could say, well, this is just about positive thinking, but

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it's much much more than that, much much more than that.

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And it's not about pretending. You know, you're not trying

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to force yourself to love everyone. You don't have to

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like them or forgive everything they've done. It's about choosing

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what you carry inside you, and when you send a healing,

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you're not letting them off the hook. Like I said, earlier,

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you're unhooking yourself from the suffering. So ultimately, sending healing

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isn't just a gift to them. It's a gift you

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give to yourself. A softer body, a calmer mind, and

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a heart free enough to finally maybe just hurt a

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little less, feel more calm, feel more relaxed, allow your

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body to also improve. So thank you for listening. Remember

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to be kind to yourself because you do deserve to

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be happy and be gentle with yourself. You deserve to

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feel safe. Lots of love. Bye,