May 8, 2025

(no music) Relaxing body part | Let me bore your pain away #34 | Jason Newland | 8th May 2025

(no music) Relaxing body part | Let me bore your pain away #34 | Jason Newland | 8th May 2025
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Hello, and welcome to Jasonnewland dot com. That's my website.

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My name's Jason new Land. That's my name. So I'm

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being silly, so please only listen when you can safety

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close your eyes. This is let me bore your pain away,

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and only listen to this when, first of all, you

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know the cause of your chronic pain. Secondly, you have

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permission from your doctor to listen to this. Okay. This

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is not a replacement for medical attention, for medicine for

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and it's also it is not any type of medical

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advice because I'm not a doctor. This so not I

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had something else to say then, didn't it I'm not

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a doctor, but but no, nothing, no, but I'm not

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a doctor. And you know that's it. Really got an

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itchy knee, my left knees itchy. I don't know why.

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So albo website there is all my recordings, thousands of

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different recordings. I've also you can stream, you can download.

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They're all broken up into different categories and different podcasts,

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There's also let you know, this SoundCloud account is back,

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so SoundCloud podcast is back online. What else I do

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have a YouTube channel at Jason Newland, which is also

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my podcast. It's another podcast. All my latest recordings are

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on there, and I have a Facebook group called Jason

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Newland's Boring Group, so if you'd like to join, there's

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a link on my website to there as well. I

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actually had a topic I was going to discuss today,

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had all in my mind, had it kind of planned out,

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been thinking about it since this morning, well since yesterday actually,

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but now I've decided to do something different. I guess

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it's kind of a you could call it a technique.

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It's not really, I suppose it is kind of it's

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something I've done before, but in this way, it's you know,

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it's not hypnosis. It's just a little bit of focusing,

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that's all. So I'm going to ask you to focus

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on two parts of your body. Now. The first part

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of your body would be a part of your body

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where there's chronic pain. Okay, that's the first part. I'm

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going to ask you to keep coming back and focusing

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on the other part of your body. I'm going to

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ask you to focus on is any part of your

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body that feels absolutely fine, might even feel good, might

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feel comfortable, relaxed, may even be pleasure. I don't know.

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It depends where you focus on. I mean, if I

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was to focus on my biceps, it feels quite nice

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because I've just been working out, so I've got a

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slight little bulge there, tiny little it's like a little pea,

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but to me that's a big bicep. So it feels

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quite nice right now. So you can you can choose

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on a part of your body that even feels just

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completely fine, maybe almost neutral in a sense, but there's

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just nothing going on there, you know, it's just just

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how it feels. It's your choice. You got your whole

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body to choose from. So you got that part which

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has it was painful and before you start listen into this,

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that's kind of the reason why you're listening to this maybe,

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and then you've got the other part, the comfortable part.

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So what I'm going to focus I'm going to call

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them that. Do I don't know, should we call one

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part becoming relaxed and the other part already relaxed? Do

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you do that? Because I don't like kind now focus

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on the part that's really painful, that doesn't seem like

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very good word in So if you focus you call

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we'll call that part the starting to relax or becoming relaxed,

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because that's kind of what's going to be happening. And

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then you've got the other part, which is even more relaxed,

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which is the part that's already relaxed. Okay, So I

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don't want to keep saying the word pai n throughout

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the recording because we're not focusing on that. We're focused

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on the opposite to that. We're focusing on comfort, relaxation, looseness, peacefulness,

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letting go. You know. However that can be the expectation.

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But all we're going to do in this recording just

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focus on the different parts of your body. That's it.

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That's all we're going to do. Going to tell you

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to relax either of those parts of your body. All

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I'm going to ask you to do is focus on

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each part and notice how they feel. Now, because I

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can't know what parts of your body you're talking about,

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That's why I'll say, just focus on relaxing compared to

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really relaxed. So there's relaxing and really relaxed. So the

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relaxing part is the one that you'd like to relax more.

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Any other part is already relaxed, relaxing and really relaxed. Okay,

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So and I'll talk throughout this as well, just chatting

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about stuff. You know. It's not like some serious, super

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duper focusing attention blah blah blah. It's just a gentle chat.

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And I'll keep coming back to the different parts of

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your body throughout and then he will occasionally flap his

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ears because that's what he likes to do. He hasn't

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had his dinner yet. He had a bad tommy yesterday,

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but he seems to have Yeah, it seems to have recovered,

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which is good. So just wanted to get in touch

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with Notice how the part that feels that's already relaxed,

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the really relaxed part. Notice how that part of your

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body feels. And if you're going to give that a

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I don't know to gauge between zero and ten, ten

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being completely relaxed, zero being completely relax in, ten being

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like unpleasant. What would you give that now? Not hopefully

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it's a zero because that's the part that we need

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to be a zero at the moment. Maybe it's a one.

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Maybe it's got improvement, it can be improved. And now

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focus on the part of your body that is relaxin

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that we're looking to relax as you focus on that

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part of your body. As you're focusing on that part

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of your body, notice what you would give it between

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zero and ten. Maybe it'd be higher than ten on

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that scale of discomfort, or you could call it at

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the scale of comfort and zero being completely comfortable, ten

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being complete opposite. Just notice what you would give it now,

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and maybe also notice how it's changed since before you

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press the play button on this recording. Maybe surprisingly, not

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surprisingly that you press the button, the play button, but

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perhaps you're a little bit surprised that you feel you're

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feel indifferent, but maybe unsure why. But then it doesn't

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have to really make sense, not really, it's really for me.

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It's a case of does it help It's as simple

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as that, and how much does it help you to

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feel more comfortable even though really we're not doing much,

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just moving your focus from relaxing to really relaxed, and

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then back to relaxing and really relaxed, So we go

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back to the feeling of really relaxed. Notice how that

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feels in that part of your body, maybe noticing even

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though you're not actually trying to relax that part of

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your body. You're not actually actively doing anything, but just

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focusing on it, noticing the physical sensations as well as

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the sounds of Vinnie in the background, clicking away as

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he chumps on his jaw bone thing, whatever it is,

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keeping relaxed and keeping focused on that relaxing more part

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of your body, and just noticing maybe there's different parts

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of that body part that feel different. For example, if

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it was your leg, maybe it's your thigh. You might

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feel more relaxed at the top of your thigh than

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you do at the bottom of your thigh, might feel

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more relaxed in the side rather than the bottom, or

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maybe the middle part is the most relaxed. If you're

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focusing on your hand, maybe you notice that your thumb

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is the most relaxed part, or the palm of your

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hand is the most relaxed part. It's strange, you know,

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because when I mentioned these parts of my body, they

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really relax I don't know if you have the same feeling.

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When I mentioned my thumb, both my fumbs relaxed, and

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when I mentioned the palms of my hands, both my

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hands that are still relaxed. Maybe you're focusing on your eyes. Wow,

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it's just focusing on my eyes causes your eyes to relax.

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I can almost feel the tension leave in my eyes

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starting to shrink and dissolve. Hmm. It's quite nice. So

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now I think, as you focus on the relaxing part

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of your body, just notice how it feels. Again. You're

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not trying to get that part of your body to

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let go completely. You're just focusing on it. You're just

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noticing how it feels in this moment. Maybe moving around

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that that body part, focusing on different parts, perhaps different

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different areas of the skin feel slightly changed, as if

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the feelings are they're not static, they're actually moving. The

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physical sensations are moving around like liquid, not static, not

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set the fluid and changeable mhm. As we move back

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to that focus of the other part of your body,

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the part that's relaxing even more deeper on its own.

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We're not trying to cause it to relax. It's just relaxing.

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Just continues to relax in its own way, in its

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own time. And notice how that feels. Maybe you notice

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that actually that sense of relaxation is way more powerful

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than the other part of your body. The feeling of

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comfort is way stronger way stronger, noticing how nice it

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feels to just be aware of the comfort that's naturally

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in that part of your body that's relaxing. Even deeper,

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you may notice that that feeling of comfort is automatically

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starting to spread through your body. But even though we're

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not focusing on that, and even though you've not requested

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that to have happen, it may just naturally occur on

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its own as you move back to that part of

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your body that is relaxing. With Annie chasing a fly

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in the background, every time I get every time things

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get a little bit quiet, Vinnie has to kind of

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point out that this is my recording Daddy, I'm in charge,

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and I'm letting everyone know that I'm still here. Who

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would have thought that a fly would give him so

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much pleasure? Honestly, nothing else gets him as excited as

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a fly, All them toys I bought him, and all

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he really wanted was a fly, horrible thing flying around

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because he can't catch it, well, not yet, maybe he

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will do one day, you never know. Sorry, I didn't

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mean to distract you. So let's focus back on the

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relaxing part and just notice how it feels the game.

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We're not really child. We've called it relaxing in the

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other part relaxing even more or even more relaxed, whatever

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you want to call it. But even though we're calling

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this part relaxing, it's just so that you can differentiate

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between the two different parts, because as you start to

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focus and on them, that may also almost seem like

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they're kind of melting together. So you know, I'm trying

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to differentiate between them so that you can focus on

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the relaxing part and give yourself the opportunity to really

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just focus and notice how that part of your body

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feels in this moment. And I guess it's also an

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opportunity to compare and maybe even to challenge the feelings

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or to question the feelings the physical sensations. In one

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question would be why is one part feeling that way

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and another part feels this way? But then another question

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might also be, how come this part that was feeling

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a different way before now is starting to feel more

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like the other part feeling that way, So you can

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get a little bit confused, in a little bit up

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in the air. You know. It's a bit like you know,

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when you're counting something. You're counting whether it's well you're

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working something out on a calculator even you know, and

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there's lots of different things, and maybe you're working out

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the prices of all the groceries you've bought, and you're

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working it out and adding it all up, and then

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someone just the window cleaner pops up and starts cleaning

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the window from outside, and like, but live sixteen claws up?

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Where did you come from? How do you get such

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a long ladder? It could be a distraction, or you

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could do just something simple. You're having a picnic on

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a park and someone in a parachute drops down and

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lands on your and squashes your cake because you might

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have had like a fairy cake that you had to

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you be looking forward to eating for hours, but because

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you're with another human, you feel better eat the sandwiches first,

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even though if there was no one else around, you

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just be eating a cream cake because they are so yummy,

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so you've been waiting to eat it. You've had the sandwiches.

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You didn't mind the sandwiches, but it wasn't really your

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first choice. You really would have just gone with a cake.

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And the fact that you've got a KitKat as well,

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that's probably you know, the fairy cake, then a sandwich dinner,

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a kit cat reward you for eating the sandwiches, because

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that's what dessert is, really, isn't it. It's just a

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reward for eating the real food. That's what I used

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to think it was when I was a kid. Eat

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or your dinner, otherwise you won't get any dessert. You

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won't get any ice cream if you don't eat or

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your cabbage or whatever it was, cabbage, soup, cabbage. I

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don't mind cabbage. Well, I don't like cabbage. I don't.

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I have had cabbage that was nice. A cabbage can

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be really cooked nicely and presented nicely and tastes nice.

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I've just never managed to do it myself. When I

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cook cabbage, it tastes like cabbage. I mean, you could argue,

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or what do you expect it to taste like candy floss?

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And that would be nice, wouldn't it. I can't remember

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the last time I had candy floss, but I still

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know what it tastes like, and I still remember how

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sticky it is on the face. Yeah, I'm not sure

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if they've even had candy floss as an adult. Genuinely,

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I'm not sure. Love candy floss. Wow, I need to

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get some candy floss. Not now, but where do they

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sell candy floss? That's fair? I need to go to

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a fair, so kind of fair or Fate or something

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like that where they sell candy flosses. Ah, it feels

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so nice. I'm just imagining eating a candy floss mm

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and the whole melting in your mouth and ah. And

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also when you're a kid, it's just there's something nice

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about making a mess, you know, having your whole face

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covering and candy floss, you making yourself a little beard

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and mustache and stuff. It's this the big pink beard, brilliant,

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so much fun. I'm not sure if I do that

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now that I had a friend years ago. I'll tell

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you about this in a second. So now go back

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to the part that's relaxing even deeper. Just focus on

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that part again. Sometimes it's it can get hard to

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even get hold of any feelings. It's almost not that

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it's numb, but it's it can feel like it's kind

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of just I don't know, like it's just it's there.

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It feels relaxed. And you know, when I just said

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the word relaxed, just then my forehead and my scalp

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just felt nice. I'm gonna say again, see if it

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works again. Relaxed it did? It worked again, relaxed. Wow,

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that's nice. It's like it's trickling down to my eyes

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almost that feeling. But then I'm noticing because I'm moving

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my arms around a little bit. I'm a bit I

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do like to wave my hands around when I talk sometimes,

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and I've noticed that my shoulders are very loose, my

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arms are very light and apart from all the muscles

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that make them incredibly heavy. No, but did they light?

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I feel very quite fluffy? Is that a word? Fluffy?

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Is that a good expression of feeling? On my lower

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back where the arthritis is, it feels the same as

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any other part of my body. Which it's strange because

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I've not even been focusing on it. It's just naturally

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gone that way, followed the rest of the body. So

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focus on that bar again, the part that's relaxing even more,

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relaxing even more deeply. Just notice it may be harder

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to even get in touch with much of a feeling

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outside of just comfort. And then go back and focus

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on the relaxing part, the relaxing part, and again, you're

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not trying to change anything. You're just observing it, really

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just observing it and noticing how it feels. And maybe

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you may even be surprised at how it feels. But

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I know what you really want to hear about is

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a story about the ice cream. So I was probably

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about fourteen, and me and my friend Dean, we went

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down to the seafront and I don't think it was

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it was in the summer, but it wasn't busy, so

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it's probably kind of maybe springtime, but it was during

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the week, so it's probably on Monday evening or something,

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so there wasn't a lot going on. We went into

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the arcade and I saw someone working in the ice

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cream parlor in the arcade, right, so I see the

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ice cream vendor and there's a bloke behind the counter,

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and like, I know him, and it was Danny. I

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suppose I just tell you more, should because you probably

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don't know who Danny is. Danny was a hurricane, probably

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about nineteen maybe twenty, but it was it was still

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it was older than me, a but a bit, you know,

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a few years older. But he was going to cry

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where I used to go, and he'd going for a

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few weeks, so I kind of knew him from there.

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So I'm like, hey, Danny, because I wanted to pretend

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to my friend Dean that I knew other people. And

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I said hey Danny and he said that's not my name,

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and who are you? And I said, it's Jason JJ

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from Karate. He said, no, I don't know who you are.

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Why are you calling me Danny? I said it is

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it's you. It's Danny, Danny from Karate And no, that

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didn't happen. He said hello. I said you're right. He

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said yeah you. He said yeah. I said you're busy.

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He said, well you can see I'm not busy. There's

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no one here, is there? That did actually happen. I said, okay,

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how come it's so quiet? He said, because there's no

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one here. I know that. Bit like, why is it

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so quiet? He said, what am I supposed to know?

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I'm I'm here. I can't I don't know what all

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the world events are going on outside this building that

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would cause it to be quiet. I don't know. We

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don't have the internet yet. I said that's true. And

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he said, are you're still doing your podcast? I said no,

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I haven't started yet. He said, when are you going

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to start it? I said, probably two thousand and six.

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He said that's like twenty years or twenty years from now?

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What nineteen eighty four now ninety, Yes, like twenty years

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over twenty years. I said, no, I know. When are

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you going to talk about me and the ice cream

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and Dean? And I said, wow, that's probably going to

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be around forty years from now, possibly forty one years.

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Why are you waiting so long? Why don't you do it?

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You know when you start doing the podcast? Why don't

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you do it in twenty years? Why are you going

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to wait or twenty one years? Why are you waiting

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for forty years? I said, I don't know. I might

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not get round to it. He said, okay, he said, anyway,

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what do you want? I said, well, nothing, just what

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I come and say hello? He said, are you just

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pretending you've got a friend so you can show that

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that he's not your only friend? Have you been arguing

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about that? Have you been arguing sort of? He's saying

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you've got no other friends? And you said, yes I have?

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And he said, oh, where are they? Then? How can

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I never see them? We'll be friends for ten years.

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I've never seen any other friends. And I said, well,

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I haven't known him for ten years, have I I've

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known him since I was nine, so it's only five

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years at this point. But then he did make a valid,

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a valid kind of statement. Five years is a long

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time to a fourteen year old, isn't it? I said,

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fair enough? Fair enough? I said, well, no, I'm not

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pretending you're my friend, because you are my friend. Well,

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a friend is a strong It's a strong word, isn't it.

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What do you mean? He said, Oh, there's a bit

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of an age difference between us. Yeah, we attend the

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same karate club. But you're thirteen years old, fourteen years old,

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and I'm an adult. I said, yeah, but you're still

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a teenager. He's still only nineteen, he's still pretty much

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just still a kid. Really, you're a teenager and he

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said true. He said anyway, would you want? I said nothing,

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and I said, oh, sorry, am I in the way

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of all the customers? Oh, I'm sorry about that. Let

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me turn around and apologize to them all. Oh, I'll

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wait a minute. There are there are no customers, so

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I'm not in the way. We laughed, and he said,

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do you want? Do you want? An ice cream. I said, yeah,

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of course. So he goes he starts to get like

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a cone. I said, I have two, Please start to

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get a cone. And I said no, no, no, I

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got no money, you know, because I thought, oh God,

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better not. Because we didn't have any money. That's why

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we're in arcade to start with, to actually go through

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all the machines to see if anyone will drop money,

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like left them in the little what do you call it,

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the little slot at the bottom where the money comes

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out when you win stuff. Sometimes we'd find a couple

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of pound if we were lucky. I didn't find anything

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that day, and then we'd start looking underneath the machines

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we could. One of us would tip it over and yeah,

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it was. It seemed better than working. It's better than

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having a paper round. It wasn't really Financially, it wasn't.

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So let's just go back to the part of your

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body that is relaxing even further. Just notice how that

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feels trying not to focus on ice cream. Mind you, you

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can focus on ice cream, It doesn't really make any difference.

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Just focus on the feeling you have. Notice how calm

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it is. The whole of that part of your body.

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Maybe you might notice how that has also spread even

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more throughout your body to the point where you just

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really chilled out, really calm, feeling really peaceful. And now

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focus again on the part that's relaxing, more of a focus,

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this time noticing what changes have occurred, noticing how it

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feels different from before, not needing a reason, not needing

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an explanation, Maybe just a bit of acceptance, a bit

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of realizing that, Ah, that's interesting, but it's not as

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interested as my story about the ice cream. So I

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stopped Danny that was his real name. I said stop.

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He said, what, put its hands up like, No, don't worry, said,

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I don't need I can't. I don't got no money,

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got no money, can't pay you for the ice creams.

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And he said, well, don't worry, I'll give you. You

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can have ice cream on the house. I said, thanks.

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So he did an ice cream. I think that. I'm

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not sure if I've got a cone like a chocolate

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flake thing. I can't remember that exact detail. And I

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was so grad thank you so much. So we're walking

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home and my friend Deane said, why didn't I get one?

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I said, what? He said, why didn't I get I

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want an ice cream. I said, we're going buy one.

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Then he said, I ain't got no money either. I said, well,

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go go join the karate club. Join a club with

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someone who works at an ice cream place. Goes to

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the club so you can get to know them, do

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the work that I had to do. And he got

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he got annoyed. So oh, come on, then let's go back.

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And I said, Danny baby. He said, don't ever call

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me Danny baby. I said, okay, I said, I suppose

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no be here can have one as well, can he?

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He said okay, so he did. He made him an

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ice cream in a cone. I don't know if he

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got a flake. I can't remember if I got a flake.

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I can't be held responsible for the truthfulness of this

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story because I can't tell you whether or not I've

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got a flake or not. I think I might have done,

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but I think also I might not have done. I

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might have settled for a bit of strawberry, you know,

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maybe some sprinkles something like that. But I might had

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that and a flake. It is possible. So we're walking

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up the hill again, so we' walk all the way back.

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He's I'm just eating mine I'm taking my time just

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eating it. He's eating it and it's all over his face,

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dripped all down his top, but it's all around his

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face almost like he just like he'd put lipstick on

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and decided to just, I don't know, cover his face

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with ice cream. And I said, why are you doing that? Why?

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He said, what do you mean? I said, why are

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you covering your face with ice cream? So go back

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focus on your relax an even deeper part. That's not

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what he said. This is never going back to this thing.

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Focus on that. That would be weird, wouldn't it. Why

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Why are you spreading ice cream all over your face?

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Because focus on your back, Focus on your leg, Focus

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on that part that's relaxed. We're talking about, Dean, We're

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doing and so yeah, just focus back on the relaxing

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even more part and then just skip back to the

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other parts. Jump over to the other part lightly, the

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relaxing part, notice that feeling, then skip back again to

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the relaxing more deeply, then skip back again, then again,

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and just skip between them. Relaxing deeply relaxed, relaxing more

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deeply relaxed, relaxing more deeply relaxed, relaxing more deeply relaxed,

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relaxing more deeply relaxed, relaxing more deeply relaxed. And as

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you move between each one, notice how it affects the

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relaxed part even more in a positive way. Relaxing more

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deeply relaxed, relaxing more deeply relaxed, relaxing more deeply relaxed,

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relaxing more deeply relaxed, relaxing more deeply relaxed, relaxing more

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deeply relaxed, relaxing more deeply relaxed, relaxing more deeply relaxed,

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relaxing more deeply relaxed, relaxing more deeply relaxed, relaxing more

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deeply relaxed, relaxing more deeply relaxed. And just keep moving

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it back and forward, relaxing more deeply relaxed, relaxing more

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deeply relaxed, relaxing more deeply relaxed, relaxing more deeply relaxed.

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So I say to my friend Deane, I said, why

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are you rubbing ice cream all over your face? And

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he said, I'm not rubbing. I haven't rubbed ice cream

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all over my face. I thought, why is ice cream

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all over your face? Then he said, because I was

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eating ice cream. Okay, it doesn't explain why it's all

469
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over your face. He said that, Okay, I miss the eater.

470
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I said, is that breeding the reason? He said, no, well, partly, yes,

471
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that's the reason. I thought. In that case, why don't

472
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you wipe it off? He said, I don't want to

473
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wipe it off? Why why don't? I said, why why

474
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don't you want to? You want to walk down the

475
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street and go home with ice cream all over your face?

476
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He said yes? I said why? He said, because when

477
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I get home, I'm going to tell my dad that

478
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I had ice cream and I've got a free ice

479
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cream and he won't believe me. But if I go

480
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in with ice cream all over my face and the

481
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cone on my head and the flake sticking out of

482
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my ear a chocolate flake, he can't not believe me,

483
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can he? I said, yeah? But it isn't a bit

484
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of a waste of an ice cream and a flake

485
00:45:50.079 --> 00:45:53.239
and a corn, you know, the cone thing? I mean,

486
00:45:53.239 --> 00:45:56.079
wouldn't he better just to have eaten it rather than

487
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to spread it all over your body? He said, I

488
00:45:58.519 --> 00:46:00.519
didn't spread it all over my body. Don't get weird,

489
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I said, no, I mean not on you on your face.

490
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He said, okay, this is went in a different direction, then,

491
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didn't it. I said, yeah, I know, I didn't mean that.

492
00:46:10.039 --> 00:46:13.320
I said why why? It's like, why doesn't your dad

493
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believe you? Why doesn't he believe anything you say? He said, simple?

494
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He said why, he said, I'm a liar. I constantly lie.

495
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I thought, I really? He said yeah, I've been friends

496
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with your best friends for five years, and now you're

497
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telling me that you're a liar. So have you been

498
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lying to me? He said yes? Why are you saying yes?

499
00:46:39.880 --> 00:46:45.519
Like I should know? Wow? Did you really believe I

500
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was a lion tamer and I was half scorpion, and

501
00:46:53.239 --> 00:46:57.599
that I could swim underwater and I was born with

502
00:46:57.679 --> 00:47:01.880
a parachute sticking out my foot? Did you believe any

503
00:47:01.920 --> 00:47:08.440
of that stuff? I don't know. I just perhaps I

504
00:47:08.519 --> 00:47:11.559
just wasn't listening. So the actual problem, I might be

505
00:47:11.599 --> 00:47:13.920
a liar. At least I listened to people. You just

506
00:47:13.920 --> 00:47:16.639
don't listen. That's why you didn't even notice I was lying.

507
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I said, well, what do you mean? Give me an example?

508
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He said, what about the other day last Friday? I

509
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told you I actually sat you down and told you

510
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that I had had my head removed and they put

511
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a new head on, but this one was a week

512
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older than a week the one before, so that I

513
00:47:35.639 --> 00:47:39.599
could know what the answer would be to the exam

514
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in a couple of days time. I said, yeah, So

515
00:47:44.960 --> 00:47:50.960
you didn't question that. No, I said, question what he said.

516
00:47:50.960 --> 00:47:55.519
You're not even listening. Now, listen about what to what

517
00:47:56.639 --> 00:47:59.519
I am listening. You said something about my head, the

518
00:47:59.559 --> 00:48:07.639
head tea whichure marked an exam or something. No, I

519
00:48:07.639 --> 00:48:09.519
didn't say that, I said, No, I know you said

520
00:48:09.840 --> 00:48:13.880
something about her head and an exam and stuff. He

521
00:48:13.920 --> 00:48:15.760
said to me. Just because you can tell me what

522
00:48:15.760 --> 00:48:19.639
I said doesn't mean you were listening. It's just it's

523
00:48:19.840 --> 00:48:25.119
basic short term memory. You just regurgitated to me what

524
00:48:25.159 --> 00:48:28.119
you remember, I said, even though you weren't actually giving

525
00:48:28.199 --> 00:48:32.679
any kind of attention to what I was saying. And

526
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I said, what's this got to do with ice cream?

527
00:48:36.280 --> 00:48:38.480
He said nothing. But it's also got nothing to do

528
00:48:38.559 --> 00:48:43.599
with the you know, relaxing different parts of your body either,

529
00:48:43.679 --> 00:48:50.440
is it? I said what he said? The podcast? The

530
00:48:50.559 --> 00:48:55.920
recording you're doing, Oh yeah, I forgot all about that.

531
00:48:56.840 --> 00:48:59.079
You shouldn't, really, that's the point of what you're doing. Here.

532
00:49:00.000 --> 00:49:01.639
I mean, this isn't you don't want to give the

533
00:49:01.679 --> 00:49:06.920
title old the ice Cream Story, are you? Probably not?

534
00:49:08.760 --> 00:49:11.119
So perhaps you should get back with talking about what

535
00:49:11.159 --> 00:49:15.519
you were originally talking about and leave me alone, all right,

536
00:49:15.599 --> 00:49:22.159
Dean liked me? All right, Okay, we go, so one

537
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last time, focus on the relaxed, even deeper part of

538
00:49:34.320 --> 00:49:43.480
your body. Then jump over to the other part of

539
00:49:43.519 --> 00:50:02.320
your body relaxing, relaxed. Move over to the other part,

540
00:50:02.920 --> 00:50:16.599
relaxing even deeper. Jump over relaxed, relaxing even deeper, relaxed.

541
00:50:18.840 --> 00:50:21.480
And you may be thinking, but you just said relaxing.

542
00:50:21.559 --> 00:50:25.320
Now you change it to relaxed. Yeah, because it works

543
00:50:25.400 --> 00:50:29.400
smoother with the other one. Yeah, but you can't just

544
00:50:29.599 --> 00:50:34.639
change things midterm. I said, yes I can. I can.

545
00:50:35.159 --> 00:50:45.519
I just you know, just focus on how relaxed you feel. Okay, relaxing,

546
00:50:45.639 --> 00:51:08.159
even deeper, relaxed, relaxing even deeper, relaxed, relaxing even deeper, relaxed,

547
00:51:14.920 --> 00:51:26.239
relaxing even deeper, relaxed. As a plane go past in

548
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the background, waving goodbye, let us know it's the end

549
00:51:36.159 --> 00:51:42.960
of the recording. Thank you for listening. Remember to be

550
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kind to yourself, because you deserve to be happy, be

551
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gentle with yourself. You deserve to feel safe. Lots of

552
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love five