May 27, 2025

(no music) PLEASANT MEMORIES | Let me bore your pain away #35 | Jason Newland | 27th May 2025

(no music) PLEASANT MEMORIES | Let me bore your pain away #35 | Jason Newland | 27th May 2025
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Hello, and welcome to Jasonnewland dot com. My name's Jason

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new Land, and this is let me boil your pain away.

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Please only listen when you can safely close your eyes.

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So this is a chronic pain relief session really that

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I'm going to talk about.

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You know, just a few ideas.

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Now, it's really important that before you listen to this recording,

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you first of all know the cause of that physical pain.

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So you do need to have had a diagnosis from

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a doctor, a medical practitioner, you know, someone like that specialist.

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And also you need to get permission from a doctor

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gp medical specialist before listening to this. So saying that

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I'll get on with it, they we'll get on with it. It's

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very early in the morning.

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Blimey gosh.

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It's five forty seven am on Tuesday, the twenty seventh

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of May twenty twenty five. I'm still fifty four, Still fifty.

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I'm holding on to being fifty four. I never thought

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that would happen. End of August, I'm fifty five.

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So I'm not really in.

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A hurry for the year to go by.

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I'm happy for the next couple of months, June and July.

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I'm happy for them to just to relax fully flutter by.

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So Finny is fast asleep in bed, and I've been

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creeping around trying not to wake him up, because once

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he's awake, he has a bit of energy first thing

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in the morning sometimes and it might start hustling me

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and wanting to do something.

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And so.

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Hopefully he'll stay in there in bed, and I've closed

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the door in here, i'd be very quiet. So this

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is about chronic pain, and I should explain the difference

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between chronic pain and acute pain for those that are

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not aware of what the difference is. Basically, acute pain

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would be when there's something that needs medical attention.

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You know.

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Generally now that would be acute pain. Appendicitis is a

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really good example of that. Or a pain in the

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chest is something that should always, you know, be taken

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seriously and go to the doctor's called an ambulance or whatever, especially.

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You know if you're.

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Ancient like me, But you know it's thinks certain things.

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Acute pain compared to chronic pain, which would be classed

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as really pain you don't need. It's like unnecessary pain.

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So your body's healed the warnings because it's just a

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warning of danger. That's sort of is is just to

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let you let you know to be careful with that

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part of your body or that there's something wrong. Maybe

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for example, you break your leg, you're break your arm

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or whatever something like that. You know it's painful, but

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it's painful for a reason because it needs medical attention.

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You know, if there's a break in your body, especially

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like limb, if it doesn't get fixed or a dislocation

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needs to be undislocated, and then it doesn't hurt anymore,

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or it might be sore, but you know it won't

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be like it was. So it's just it's basic, isn't

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it really? Obviously he needs you need it's getting your attention.

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It's like a crying baby, it's getting your attention. Chronic

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pain is afterwards, when you've healed.

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It's not needed.

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I mean, technically, there's that little middle bit that I

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think of when I think of broken arms, broken legs,

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postop when you know you're fine or even I don't

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like to say.

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It, but you know the end of life or.

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Illnesses diseases that are there, you know that that can't

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be maybe changed. So there's chronic pain involved maybe, and

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sometimes there's acuter pain as well, but so fibromyalgia, chronic pain, arthritis,

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chronic pain. But it's not needed, if you know what

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I mean. It's not something so I have our thrice

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in my lower back. There's no warning danger signals needed

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for me because it's what it is. It's a danger signal,

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and it's not needed because I know what it is.

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And that's all it is.

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So I don't know why I'm trying to explain this,

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So I guess I'm trying to understand it myself. It's

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still a bit of a weird subject.

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Really.

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Oh, it is an interesting thing. He's too, I like

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because I'm fascinated with the subject of chronic pain. I'm

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more interested in reducing it. But I'm just in fascinated

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by the whole thing. Here's two bits of trivia for you.

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Okay, okay, So.

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With hypnosis, uh do do?

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Let's have a look. No, that's not what I want.

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H right.

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I don't know if you knew, but hypnosis was used

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for pain relief. I go even further than that. Hypnosis

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was used quite regularly to help people to anathetize or

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to at least relax or calm down during operations. Before

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there was anything else that could be helped.

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You know.

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It's either that or give them a bop on the

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head with a hammer, you know, or drink until they

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passed out. So there was a time and then I

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think just checking the correct drug. Ether was discovered, and

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this was eighteen hundred and something, so basically hypnosis is

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being used. Then EPHA a chemical anesthetic which acts on

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brain receptors which shuts down your awareness.

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Of kind of what's going on.

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I guess it was easier, much easier, So hypnosis was

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just knocked on ahead, just like as far as surgical

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hypnosis went, didn't bother anymore because I didn't need to that.

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EPHA didn't need chron it didn't need hypnosis for pain

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relief for EFA. So drugs from then on to gover.

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It's just easier. And yeah, I mean to be fair,

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further than if I was going to have a coration,

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if it was choice between hypnosis or drugs, so I'll

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choose the drugs knock me out. I'm not interested in

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being awake, you know, I just honest, that's true. I

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had my appendix out when I was the twelve. Yeah,

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I'd want to be unconscious for that. Yeah, thanks, But

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unfortunately it kind of put things back for hypnosis in

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chronic pain because it I mean, you know, hypnotists still

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continued to help people with chronic pain, still continue to

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advance it and develop it, and you know, study as

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I do, as I am kind of in my own

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little way to find different ways of addressing it, different

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ways of using utilizing the coming. Technically, this isn't hypnosis, but.

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You know it's it's.

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Still using the same process, still using emotions, still using imagination,

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still using expectation. Still you know that kind of stuff,

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as well as education. I don't mean that it's like

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I'm educating you. I don't mean it like that. I

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mean just give you a bit of information that you

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may not often had before. But the other thing that

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I just find is fascinating. Okay, I'm looking it up

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because I know what it is, but I don't want

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to get the information wrong. Okay, kah, okay, right, So

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this is to do with chronic pain. Right here we go, So.

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This look do do do do do?

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Hm?

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Okay, I got that wrong? Then, Nope.

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I thought guillotine was connected to had sort of pain relief.

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Uh, that's weird.

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Oh, yeah, Joseph eagerness, He's very eagerness. Guillotine. While he

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didn't explicitly work with on chronic pain relief and medical sense,

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his core philosophy was deeply rooted and reducing unnecessary pain.

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The quilotine as a form of pain relief. So before

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it's introduction, before it's the introduction, executions in France were

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often gruesome and drawn out. Guillotine proposed a method that

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would ensure instant death, meaning zero physical suffering.

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In theory.

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His reason was both medical and moral, let us end barbarism.

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Wow, so you know, uh, yeah, I'm going this.

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There is a guillotine, a person called Guillotine involved in.

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M hm m hmm.

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Yeah, there was something to do with it, is there's that.

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I think there's a like a whole things the guillotine.

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By the way, you know how he died on a guillotine.

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No he didn't.

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So, yeah, as I just got caught away with that one,

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caught away, caught up, drawn away, Just found that funny,

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just the idea that someone that created a machine like

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that would be interested in relieving suffering. But that kind

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of is the reason why he did it, because he

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wanted to to cause less pain and m hmm, I

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don't know it's I mean, it makes sense. I mean

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it is logical kind of. I suppose a modern day

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version that would be to send the missile from space

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to the person that I don't know.

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It's So.

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That's a very very over longed description of pain relief

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and blah blah blah, without even having got to the

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point of why I was doing this recording in the

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first place. However, how do you feel now? Even though

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I've just been gobbling on about whatever it is I've

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been talking about, how do you feel? How do you

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feel emotionally? How do you feel physically? How's your mind

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right now? Is your mind calmer, less activity, less chitter chatter?

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Does your body feel more relaxed? Maybe that part of

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your body that felt maybe had unpleasant feelings. Maybe you

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feel different now than you did before. Now, there's a

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technique for relaxation, which not just relaxation, but there's this

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is a I wanna use a word technique, but it's

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something that can be used where you think back to

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a previous time in your life, a memory, as it were.

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So in the case of relaxing, so relax in case

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of wanting to relax. You imagine maybe a time when

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you were on holiday, maybe lying on a beach or

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on a sun bed at the side of the hotel,

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barbecue or.

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Swimming pool.

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I think for me it'd be a barbecue. I definitely

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prefer food over swimming, especially as I don't swim.

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I wouldn't want to be.

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Too close to the barbecue, also not too far away.

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I want to be close enough so that person cooking

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can bring it to me and hold it while I

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take bites out of the burger. I'm on holiday. Plus,

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it's my fantasy. It's my fantasy. I'm allowed to be

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fed in my own fantasy. At least I'm chewing my food.

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It's not like I'm getting someone to chew it and

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spit in my mouth, is it. So that's super lazy,

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so you know, and also a little bit disgusted. Possibly,

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I don't know. Maybe and animals do it. I did

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it for Andre sometimes.

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Anyway.

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Birds do it, squirrels do it. Even tiny shoes do it.

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So by thinking back to a memory, it's not just

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about thinking of something from the past, but our brains

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kind of don't know the difference between a that and

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now it's a weird thing. Is like when you focus.

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If you spend all day long just focusing and imagining.

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You were.

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Lying down, relaxed in a beautiful you're like your perfect

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place wherever that is. It might be in the snow

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on a mountain. You know, everyone's different, So wherever your

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perfect places, I mean, it might be balancing on the

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edge of a volcano. Weirdo, but you know it could be.

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If that's what you like, then great, Why would you

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do that though? I mean, I imagine it's quite on

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a cold day, it keeps you warm, but blind me

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get some thick socks and a hat. So if you

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just if you use to do that all day long,

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imagine that scenario where you were completely relaxed. Your brain

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would not know the difference, Your body would not know

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the difference. You would have all those feelings, all those

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physical sensations, possibly the same thoughts, the same emotions, the

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same expectations.

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As if you were there, like literally there.

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So when you think about that, realizing that that's how

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powerful our imagination is. So something we think about can

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actually cause the body, can cause the brain to believe

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that that's what's really going on, and that's where we are.

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It's almost like we're telling the brain I want those feelings,

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and the brain just gives it to you. Because ultimately,

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the brain is in control of how you feel. It's

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the control center, it's the engine, it's the computer, it's

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all that stuff or whatever you want to call it.

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But you, your mind, you you, you, you personality, person that you're.

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The one.

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That controls the brain. And it's not even a controls

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controlled like do this, do that?

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You work together. You know your.

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Body, your mind, your brain, unconscious mind, your conscious mind,

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your toenails. You know, it's all one, but there's different

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parts do different things. So by thinking about something, so

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you're not actually saying to your brain, now, i'd like

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you to think to have these personal physical sensations. I

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want you to imagine my knees are becoming hairy. I

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don't know why you would want to imagine your needs

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becoming hairy. That sounds like a bit of a strange

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thing to be doing, but each to their own. I'm

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not one to judge, unless, of course, you want to

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imagine that your needs are getting hairy, then I will judge. Actually, sorry,

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there's a line. There's a line. I won't cross leave

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your knees alone. They're hairy enough.

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So if you.

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I don't think I've got any hairs on my knees.

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But the opposite, it's also true. You focus on a

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negative or just an unpleasant experience, and you're telling your brain,

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we want more of that, please, a bit more that please.

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And the more you think about that, the more your

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brain realizes, oh, that's what you want, and it starts

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to give it to you a little bit like the

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YouTube algorithm or adverts on Google or Facebook, you know,

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I mean there are times that I just get the

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more the more you look for something, or you click

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on an advert, or you click on something, the more

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that stuff you get, don't you On Facebook? And also YouTube?

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I mean, I couldn't believe it on YouTube.

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The other day.

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I was just doing a little bit of research, a

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little bit of I like to educate myself if I can, always,

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you know, even at this advanced stage of nine hundred

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years old, still looking to.

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Learn new things.

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So I spent I don't know, a day decide I'm

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going to learn a different subject.

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This was about.

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About three weeks ago. Okay, even now, even though I've

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not really you know, I'm just gone back to my

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normal kind of viewing. I'm still getting inundated with hand

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expression lactating videos, you know, self expression tutorials. I was like,

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start sending this stuff to me. But YouTube is very

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much It's like that if you look at something, you

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look at a few videos or maybe a few hundred,

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and it just gives you more of that. And that's

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how the brain is. It's kind of like an algorithm.

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It learns from what you do, what we do, and

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it just.

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Expects that.

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What we think about is what we want to think

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about more. And when you realize that, when you realize

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that our brain work kind of similar in some ways

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to the YouTube algorithm or the Facebook advertising algorithm. I mean,

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the amount of what do they call this penis enlargement

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adverts on Facebook, like continuously. I don't know why I don't.

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It's annoying and anyway, so yeah, I just got to

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come up one pop up.

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Now go away.

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Okay, that's a good price. Wow, eighty percent discount. All right,

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I'll save that one.

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So it's oh.

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God, right, I think that's quite interesting. I know this

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is supposed to be boring, but I think I've just

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broken that rule and become super interesting instantly. The algorithm.

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Maybe I should use the Facebook algorithm or the YouTube

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algorithm as a you know, it could be Instagram, it

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could be.

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TikTok.

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To go on TikTok, but I guess it's the same

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for TikTok if.

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You show an interest in.

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I don't know, I don't know what the latest trends

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are on TikTok, but let's say it's hang gliding and

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eating full English breakfast at the same time, I don't know,

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dressed as a chicken. So whatever the latest craze is,

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if you go on to them, maybe go on to

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couple of videos. Suddenly you're going to be sent loads

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of those videos, or maybe you're into something a bit

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more obscure, something that maybe you didn't even know there

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was a lot of stuff about that. So on YouTube,

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if you go to yeah, if you put in nineteen

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seventy sitcoms and full episodes let's say step Step Tone

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Son or Sorry, which was with Ronnie Corbett, full episodes,

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and that will come up and you might find some

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And then does YouTuber start like sending might say when

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I say sending them and they're not actually you know,

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knocking on the door, so we had to have another

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episode here.

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You'd like to look at it.

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But they're pushing it, you know, kind of look, look

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look at this, And I ended up seeing stuff that

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didn't even know was on YouTube or old TV shows

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that I've not seen for decades, some.

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Even forgotten about.

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So the.

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If you think about it like this, that what you

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think about, the memories that you think about from the past,

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you're or just generally what you're thinking about, what you

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think about is almost like a command to your brain

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to give you more of that. But it's very subtle

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or subtle. I think the bee is silent. I think

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some people do use to be what did what did

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I hear someone say the other day? They said a word,

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but they said it wrong, They used there was a

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silent letter, and they used a silent letter. I mean

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in this country where we are come from, h is

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silent in ouse, But I guess it depends where you're from.

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What was that word? I'm forgetting, I'm forgetting what the

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word was. I mean that could be.

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Part of how, why, how? Why it's not even a

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proper sentence of it?

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How and why?

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Maybe listening to me helps now it could you know,

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that could be. It could be the reason that you

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can experience a sense of relief, a sense of calmness.

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And you know, just by relaxation, it reduces any physical

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discomfort by pretty much fifty percent there straight away, just

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from relaxing, without even any kind of focus on you know,

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any kind of technique or particular special process, thinking process,

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or you know, without doing anything, just relaxing can have

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a super positive effect, not just a positive, but super positive.

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Now I'm not really sure what super positive means. I

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guess it just means it's positive and you feel super

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about it. So if someone says, how positive do you feel?

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So the unpositive, Well, how do you feel about feeling positive?

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I feel super?

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I don't know, maybe maybe it's the wrong word. No,

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it still still feels right, feels right. So what you

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think about is almost affecting. It's telling your brain to

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think more about that stuff. So technically, you could if

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you've got a part of your body that you you

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can remember felt fine in the past, let me think

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how would that be useful? You see what I mean?

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You can imagine that part of your body how relaxed

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it felt. Maybe it was twenty years ago, maybe it

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was yesterday, maybe it was thirty, forty, fifty years ago,

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just a memory that you have, maybe lots of different memories.

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And the thing about it is, I don't know about you,

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but daydreaming is quite nice. Just having a little bit

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of a fantasy, a little bit m not just had

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a fantasy, but just letting your mind wander a bit,

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but semi focused.

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So you're.

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You're letting your mind wander, So it's a fantasy with

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a semi you know, you're there with a semi focusing

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on past times when that part of your body, maybe

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a particular part of your body, felt really really comfortable,

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but not just one time, but multiple times, thinking only

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of positive events from the past.

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Which.

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If you're three thousand years old like me, there'll be

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plenty of times to think about loads of past memories

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where it's not even a case of like it could

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just be that part of your body felt fine, okay,

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so fit with me. It's my lower back. I can

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remember times when I felt relaxed. It's it's not that

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I'm saying I'll think of a time when you felt

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like really amazing in that part of your body. Because

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I don't have any memories of me ever walking around

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screaming with ecstasy because of my lower back felt so great,

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like you know, running around, oh everyone in my back,

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Oh oh, it feels amazing. It's like of a cloud

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tickling me.

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It's you know, it's it's never it's never felt that good.

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I mean, it's felt nice and relaxed, and there's definitely

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relief and release and a sense of pleasure.

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I've got.

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I've got this tendency of becomes a little bit itchy inside.

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Not itchy needing to scratch it, but that's there's that

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little point where inside it's just a little bit a

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little bit itchy. And sometimes as I focus on it

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now it changes straight away. There's that little itchiness inside

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that body part. As I said, you don't need to

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scratch your skin or anything like that. It's a different

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kind of itch. It's I guess, more pleasurable when itches

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are more pleasurable when you scratch the monthly, that's the

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pleasure you get from scratching an itch. This is it

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doesn't need scratching. Maybe maybe it's the itch after it's

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been scratched. Maybe it's that feeling, that feeling of oh oh,

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I mean whatever sound you make. I mean, you might

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sound like a hyaena.

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I don't know. You may be a hyaena. But it's

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ex all sorts.

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You know.

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I'm here for everyone, and I'm still focusing on my

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lower back. Whenever I focus on inside that little itchy side,

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a little itchy feeling doesn't need scratching. But when it's

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inside my lower back, my lower back feels fine. You

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feel fine when that feeling is there.

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Ah.

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So I suppose an exercise you could do is just

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spend a bit of time and we could do that now,

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just spend a bit of time thinking about times when.

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You know, let's.

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Focus on one particular part of your body. If you like,

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where that part of your body felt completely relaxed, and

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it could be recently. You can go all the way

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back to maybe a time before when there was never

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ever any issues at all with that part of your body,

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and just focus on how it felt. And then think

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at different times when you perhaps we're in a really

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good mood, you were enjoying yourself, there was physical pleasure.

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Maybe.

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Yeah, I make's your imagination, so you can think of

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any any situations you want. Oh yeah, you think about that. See, yeah,

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you can really think of some interesting memories.

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I'm going to test this.

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I'm not going to tell you what I'm thinking about,

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and he won't know, boy, no, because obviously you.

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It's in my brain.

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But I think about something while I focus on my

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lower backs, see if it helps all, and I think

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of like a personal memory. But you know, I'll keep

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his secrets so he won't know what it is.

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Oh oh yeah, oh.

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Yeah, keep doing that. Oh, I can't make it any bigger.

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It's as big as it gets. Oh oh, stop focusing

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on size, come on.

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Oh oh oh yeah, what do you mean you're disappointed?

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Yeah, that's the longest I've ever gone so far.

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H h.

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Oh so yeah, I drifted off a bit there, so yeah,

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so as I was silently imagining that memory, a pleasant memory.

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Yeah, my lower back it feels.

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Very very loose, very loose. In fact, it it feels like, yes, why,

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it's like there's not even any blood in there.

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It's weird. Or my chair just rattled.

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Huh.

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I feel quite tired now. But yeah, you can just

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think about stuff during the day. You don't need me.

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I mean I could technically by spending some time focusing

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on pleasant experiences. It might be easier when I'm not

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we haven't got me talking in the background. But at

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the same time.

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You may.

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Notice or discover that something different has.

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Happened, and you may not know why. You may not.

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Understand how listening to me just talking could be of

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any benefit, how listening to a recording like this.

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Can actually have.

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A positive impact on your well being and how you

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feel right now, how you feel differently, how the physicality

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those physical sensations change.

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As you relax more and more.

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So I think it's time for me to have my

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breakfast and have some ready break So when I finished this,

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I'm going to go go into the kitchen, put the catalog,

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put some fresh in a kettle, put the kettle on,

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and then make sure the bowls clean. So I rinsed

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the bowl out. It's the bowls clean, but I'll rinse

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it out. I always have to rinse out bowls for

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I use them and put some milk in. Stick that

487
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in a microwave for two minutes and twenty seconds. Then

488
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I wait until the kettle's boiled. Put a tea bag

489
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into my mug something. I don't wait until the kettle's boiled.

490
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Always sometimes I put the tea bag in before the

491
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kettle's boiled. And then I poured the water onto the

492
00:47:40.519 --> 00:47:45.760
tea bag into the cup. And then what I do

493
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is I just pour a little dash of milk in

494
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there so the tea can you know, a tea bag

495
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and the milk cold, all kind of you know, work

496
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its magic. And then I go into the bathroom and

497
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make myself look beautiful.

498
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And then.

499
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Ten hours later the milk's cold. It's weird. Now I

500
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just do my little things, you know, do we rease,

501
00:48:18.360 --> 00:48:24.679
brush my teeth, clean my face. I admire. I admire

502
00:48:24.719 --> 00:48:29.119
myself in the mirror for a few minutes. It's hard

503
00:48:29.199 --> 00:48:34.480
not to, really, especially with all those mirrors I've got,

504
00:48:39.119 --> 00:48:42.280
the ones on the ceiling. It's very strange being in

505
00:48:42.280 --> 00:48:46.119
a bath and seeing yourself on the mirror, in the

506
00:48:46.159 --> 00:48:52.079
mirror other on the ceiling. What a strange place to

507
00:48:52.119 --> 00:48:57.079
put a mirror. Remember that's what the council people said

508
00:48:57.079 --> 00:48:59.400
when they came to look at the flat to see

509
00:48:59.440 --> 00:49:02.840
what I've done with that. What strange place to put

510
00:49:02.880 --> 00:49:05.119
a mirror, they said to me. I said, it's not

511
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that strange. I said, We've never you know, I've been

512
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doing this show for what twenty three years? And I've

513
00:49:12.760 --> 00:49:16.800
never seen anyone put a mirror on their bathroom ceiling.

514
00:49:19.480 --> 00:49:21.159
I said, well, I don't need permission to do it,

515
00:49:21.199 --> 00:49:26.400
I said. She said, no, you don't, but I just

516
00:49:26.480 --> 00:49:34.760
never seen anyone do it before. It's okay, uh h,

517
00:49:37.920 --> 00:49:41.079
So she said no, so nothing, just just be for

518
00:49:41.239 --> 00:49:48.679
I'd mentioned it. So, well, now tell me something nice.

519
00:49:49.119 --> 00:49:51.440
What do you mean I used to do that with

520
00:49:51.559 --> 00:49:55.239
my friend. Whatever he said something negative, I'd say something.

521
00:49:55.239 --> 00:49:58.719
I say something nice. So he said, if he told

522
00:49:58.719 --> 00:50:01.119
me something you didn't like, so now tell me something

523
00:50:01.159 --> 00:50:04.440
that you do like you justed to wind them, wind them.

524
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Up and did.

525
00:50:08.559 --> 00:50:13.920
Bless right. I'm going to go that might be something

526
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that you could do or we all could might benefit from.

527
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So whenever we catch ourselves being negative, force ourselves to

528
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think or to say something positive, almost like as a

529
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little punishment. So thank you for listening. Remember to be

530
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kind to yourself because you do deserve to be happy

531
00:50:41.960 --> 00:50:47.480
and be gentle with yourself. You deserve to feel safe.

532
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Lots of love, Bye,