June 1, 2025

(no music) PING PONG | Let me bore your pain away #36 | Jason Newland | 1st June 2025

(no music) PING PONG | Let me bore your pain away #36 | Jason Newland | 1st June 2025
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Hello, and welcome to Jasonnewland dot com. My name's Jason Newland.

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This is a chronic pain relief session. Stress and pain relief.

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Please only listen when you can safety close your eyes,

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and I only ever listen to not just my recordings

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for chronic pain, but any recordings ever. I only listen

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when you've got permission from your doctor. And you do

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need to know the cause of the chronic pain, so

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it's important. Now you may wonder why stress and pain relief,

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It's two different things. You enjoy the sound effects. That's Vinny.

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He was behind me cleaning, giving himself a little bed bath,

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but now he's not. I literally move the camera around

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so you could see him because I like, I kind

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of like to think that you can see that that's him,

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rather than that I've edited it and added my own

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little sound effects. You know that sounds like a dog

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licking himself. I don't do that. It literally is a

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dog licking himself. You know, I'm not pretending to have

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a dog, That's what I'm saying. I do actually have

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a little Vinnie running around. So I figured if you

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can see him on camera, then when you hear him

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drinking water, you know that I've not just added that

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as a as a super special effect. Why would I

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Why would anyone do that? I don't know. M So,

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what I realized a long, long, long time ago is

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stress relief equals pain relief, you know, relaxation equals pain relief.

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And then I realized a bit more recently, probably the

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last ten years or so, the same techniques, the same

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little things you can play around with that helped to

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reduce pain also help to reduce stress, so on and

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so forth. So the same techniques can be used, I mean,

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they can be adapted a little bit differently. I mean,

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you know, if you're focusing on a particular part of

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your body, whether it's chronic pain or stress, it reduces

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in the same way. It's kind of strange, really, it's

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quite quite cool. I'm not sure if I said this already.

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I have said already, because I've already started this recording.

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I got about ten minutes in I realized I hadn't

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pressed record, So you missed a lot of gold. That

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was a golden moment. It's like a shower of authentic, new, original,

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glorious golden material. It was like a glorious golden shower

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and unfortunately I maybe that's not the right term, but

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unfortunately I didn't press record. So I'm doing it again,

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and this is the second best version. Probably it might improve,

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so don't go. It might get better. Probably won't, but

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it might it might. Now I should say what I

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don't have to could could say. What I do and

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how I do it is very unconventional. It's very unlikely

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you'll find anyone else, probably in the world that does

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this the way that I do it. It doesn't mean

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to say that it's any good, it's just it's different. So,

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you know, I think it's nice to have variety, and

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it's nice if you can find a person to listen

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to or to watch on video that firstly doesn't take

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themselves too seriously. I think that can be quite nice,

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even if it's a serious subject. And chronic pain is

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a very serious subject. So at no point am I,

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you know, making fun of what I'm doing and making

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fun of the topic, because I'm not. I have chronic

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pain myself. I've got arfter rights in my lower back,

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so and I had years, probably about fifteen years of

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real problems with my right shoulder after an injury, and

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it's still there. A bit, but it's I think if

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I stopped tapping it, it probably won't hurt so much.

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But yeah, it's better than it used to be. But

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my lower back, it's just a continuous thing to manage.

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So even though for those that haven't seen me before,

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those that haven't, if you haven't seen me before, if

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you or you haven't listened to my podcast, because I do,

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six different versions of this recording will be on my podcasts,

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one just normal link, five and ten hours of out music,

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and then five and ten hours with music, So six

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different recordings. Only one video on YouTube will be this one,

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which is just standard recording with no music. Although I

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suppose I could look into putting some music on. We'll say,

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you know, in the future, maybe do two versions, one

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with one without music A DINNI no, But I think

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the bottom line is you test it. How do you

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feel different compared to how you felt before. That's the

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bottom line. And if someone's sitting thinking all this person

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sounds so unprofessional, which could you know? It's fair enough,

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but that means that you're inside your own mind moaning

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instead of relaxing, instead of letting go. Because if you're

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in your own mind, judging, you know, sort of judging.

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You know, some people would be like, oh, it's not

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fair that I'm making videos. Come just too handsome. I'm

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too sexy, and it's a distraction and it's really hard

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to close your eyes because you just want to look

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at this sexy body of mine. I understand that. But

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and guaranteed there'll be someone that responds, Oh, you're really

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up yourself. You really think you're look you're an old man.

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You think you're really sexy. Mean, you've got a big

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pink tomato face.

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You mean me?

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Me?

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You. It's like, yeah, I know what I look like.

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Fifty four years I've been looking in the mirror. Havn't

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much time to do anything else. Really, that's my advice.

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You've got the advice of someone, my neighbor downstairs twenty

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years old. I said, yeah, don't spend all your time

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looking in the mirror. You just don't get anything done. So

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that was weird. That's got nothing to do with a recording.

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So what hell do you feel? Even? Right? If I

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was to sit here with my little bottle of water,

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or it's a big bottle of water and my hands

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have grown, but it's a little bottle of water. And

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it's not that little. It's what is it, fifty cla

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whatever that is, cubic liters, etc. I don't know, but

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I could just talk about this bottle of water for

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twenty minutes and I could, I really could, which is weird.

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But yeah, not that I would necessarily stay focused on

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the water. But a technique is to focus on something,

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something that's so random that it takes your attention. I mean,

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you know, moves your attention away from yourself, so you're

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not thinking about yourself. And that's kind of what these

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recordings are. At the very very least, it's well, at

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the very least, it's just me being annoying. I suppose,

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you know, in reality, some people like, Okay, it's just annoying.

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That's the worst case scenario. But generally, for those that

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are able to tolerate me, the worst case scenario is

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you feel more relaxed at the end of it, at

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the end of the video, at the end of the recording,

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the audio podcast. And so in a way, and I

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have set up I've got podcasts, let me boy to sleep,

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let me Boil your pain away. Where the whole idea

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of those recordings really was, especially with the lett Me

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Boy to Sleep that I've been doing for seven years.

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I feel I've got one thousand, three hundred and fifty

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odd recordings and they're all odd or pretty odd, and

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I the idea really was to just partially a distraction,

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but partially why you're listening to my voice. You're not

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worrying about stuff while you listen to my voice. You're

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not thinking about the past. You know why you're listening

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to my voice. You're no longer concerned about the future.

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Why you're listening to my voice. It's almost that, not

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that you've given me control of your mind, which you haven't,

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of course, but you kind of maybe allowed my voice

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to be your internal voice for a little while. So

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instead of that moaning and maybe even your internal dialogue

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might be rude to you, which is not good. So

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it might be dismissive, it might be telling you, oh,

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you're no good at this whatever. So you just quieten

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that down and let me be your internal voice for

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just this period of time. And I'm not going to

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tell you negative things about yourself. I'm not going to

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tell you what you can't do. I'm not going to

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tell you what you should do. I can tell you

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or mention what you could do, which would be relaxed,

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which would be not to take yourself too seriously. And

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there's also a concept that I think can be quite

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difficult even for me to really grasp at times, and

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that's to let go. And when I mean let go,

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I don't mean forever. I mean, wow, I think I

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just pressed on my chest and I think it's hot

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in it. I'm sweating. Either that or my nipples are leaking.

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I'm lactating. I can't believe it. You might think, but

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that's in the middle of your chest. Okay, there's no

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rules about where your nipples should be. But I spoke

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anatomically maybe, but yeah, I've got five So what was

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I saying? The thing that can be difficult, the idea

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that can be a little bit difficult to sort of

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think through. There's two actually. One is forgiveness. That's a really,

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really complicated one for some people to get their head around.

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And I'm one of those people that, yeah, I can

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see why it's complicated, but forgiveness. You know, we're not

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talking about forgiveness really, but although I am so, I

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guess I am talking about forgiveness. But it's not about

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letting someone else off. It's about helping you. You're not

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helping that other person.

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You're helping you. You know, you're It's the whole Buddhist

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an old Buddhist thing is anger, or you know, let's

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say someone that doesn't forgive someone holding onto angers like

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someone chucking a hot coal at you and instead of

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ducking out.

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The way, you catch it. So you're just going to

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stand there with this hot coal. It's quite an outdated idea, really,

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isn't it. I mean, when's the last time someone chucked

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a hot coal at you? I can't remember last time

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and saw hot coal. Probably when I was about ten

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eleven maybe twelve. We used to have a fire in

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our house were potential heating as well. I'm not that old.

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We did have central heating, but there was a fireplace

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downstairs and it was a mixture of coal and logs

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as well. Yeah, I used to like that. But anyway,

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if you ever tried to pick one and things up,

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don't because it's hot. I mean you'd think like it's

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just come out of a fire, it's going to be hot.

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But there's also that feeling like okay, you know, when

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you get something out of the oven and if you

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if you pick up quickly, it doesn't burn you. That

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doesn't work with hot coals. You know, if you've got

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sponge cake and it's come out the oven, and maybe

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or a biscuit, and you think, well, just quickly move

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it from the tray onto the take onto like a

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plate without touching the metal tray. There is and sometimes

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you know, do just about if you do it cook

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enough because I like to eat them straight away. Ideally, see,

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there's not a cooker that does this. If there was

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a cooker that cooked biscuits right like a biscuit maker,

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cooker that cooked the food, but when it had finished

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the food would be the cookies let's say, for example,

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would be exactly the right temperature to eat instantly as

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soon as it comes out the oven. So maybe some

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kind of fan to cool down the cookies. That's an invention.

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If your invention minded and you you've got to think

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about cookers that you can invent something. You know, I'll

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be happy to share some of the profit with you,

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as it was my idea, thank you very much. So

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a fan of them, but actually one that cools down

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the food. For the last five minutes, ten minutes. I

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don't know, sodden. When it comes out, you can just

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maybe some milk, cup of tea. It'd be more like

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crunchy crunchy. But I can't do that sound. I like

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crunchy biscuits, cookies. You know, I don't want it to

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be soft. I'm not prejudiced, but I just don't, you know,

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I prefer like a nice mind you if it's just

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sad the oven. Sometimes they just taste so good it

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doesn't really matter what texture they are, because it's about

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the taste. That's a problem with making these recordings. When

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I'm hungry, I start talking about food. So yeah, if

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you for forgiveness, that can be a hard one, but

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it can be good for relieving physical sensations. It can

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be good for because if he was able to, for example,

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decide that that person that may be called those problems

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all those years ago, and you decide to just let

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it go, not for them, but for you, just to

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say I forgive them again, not for them, but for you.

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It can change how you physically feel. It definitely can

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change how you emotionally feel, But then that changes how

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you physically feel, because if you're feeling calm in your mind,

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you will also be affected in your body by feeling calm.

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It works the opposite way as well, of course, so

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someone that has so if I have affright, well, I

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do have alf right this in my back. If I

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get stressed, my lower back hurts more. If I get angry,

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my lower back hurts more. If I relax we're doing

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these recordings are quite relaxing, actually, because there's something about

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my voice. It's like my squeaky virus. It's so calming.

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It's quite relaxing to just focus on relaxation, and that's

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what this is really focusing on relaxing. Talking about relaxation

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in itself can be relaxing. Talking about your body feeling

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more comfortable and calm can cause your body to feel

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more comfortable and calm. Because our minds are so powerful,

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you know, in a sense, you know, we get what

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we think about. If you're focusing and expecting a certain

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physical response to listening to me talking, then there's a

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good chance you can have that physical response because that's

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what you expected, which is why these can be very useful.

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When you start to listen or play the video, listening

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to the podcast with that expectation of actually feeling more

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calm in your mind and your body, because maybe that's

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what's happened previously, that's what's happened in the past, when

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you've listened to me, when you've heard my voice, when

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you think of me, perhaps as a sense of your

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mind's slowing down, your internal dialogue no longer racing around

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and maybe being petty or being negative, perhaps and it

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calms down. It gives you a break and a thing

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that I know some people it can be a complicated

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idea of letting go of everything. And it's not about

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letting go of everything forever. It's for me. It's when

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I say just when I do a recording, and I'm

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kind of aiming at you letting go of everything during

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the time that we spend together. And when I say everything,

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I do mean everything. Whether you're visiting someone in a hospital,

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whether you've got a loved one that's in trouble, whether

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you're in trouble, whatever, any of that worldly stuff. You're

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letting it go temporarily. It doesn't mean that you don't care,

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because of course you do. It's not about that. It's like, well,

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I can't. I've heard people say to me or I can't.

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I can't let that go because I care too much.

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It doesn't stop you caring, but in that moment, you're

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not thinking about that. In this moment, you don't care

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about anything. You're not worried about anything, you're not concerned

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about anything. Maybe you're not even thinking about anything. It's

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an opportunity for your mind and your body to kind

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of sink together in a way. If you think of

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it as a sink, a literal physical sink, you can

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just pull the plug hole out and let all that

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stuff just drain away. All the stress, all the tension,

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just strain out of that down that plug hole in

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the sink. I'm a little bit pleased with that analogy.

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If any of mine, what my arms were longer, I

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could pat myself on the back unfortunately, mind you, Oh nourse,

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I can a little bit, but it's about the back

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of my Oh that was lovely. Yeah, I could just

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about manage. So a distraction, letting yourself, choosing to relax,

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choosing to let go, even if it is just for

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a short time, has that same physical effect. Whether it's

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a part of your body that was problematic before you

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started listening to me or whether it's to do with

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tension or something that you previously were concerned or worried about,

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and now you have let that go, and you can

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test it as well. Test letting it go, test taking

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a step back, Test how it feels, and whether you

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like that feeling. How does it feel to just relax,

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to just move away and let your mind calm down. Almost.

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I quite like the idea of the mines surrounded by

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windows and you just open the windows and it's very windy,

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so you open all the windows and the room's all stuffy,

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like the mine's all stuffy, full of this just maybe

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dust and cockbribs, maybe a bit like my flat, oh

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my underpants, and the wind blows through one window and

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out of the other window and completely clears the air

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in your mind. I kind of like that idea. It's weird,

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As I said it, I felt like a a lot

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of breeze on my face, which is weird because the

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windows are not open here, and on my chest as well,

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and my face. It's like a coolness, almost as if

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the wind or the breeze was blowing through my through

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my head and clearing out almost literally like the wind

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was blown through my brain. Through my mind. Oh that's

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quite nice. I'm pretty good at this. I'm joking. If

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it does feel nice, it's quite relaxing. I've been doing

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this for nineteen years. Can you believe it? Nineteen years?

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I know you thought I'd actually have some kind of

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skill by now, wouldn't you. It might happen one day.

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I mean, I do believe everyone's got something that they're

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good at. I just eating biscuits and watching television. I

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don't think that's necessarily a skill great at that. You

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should see me devour an easter egg. Wow, poor, I'm

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talking about chocolate and food again.

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I know, okay, I just noticed.

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How you feel? How do you physically feel? How do

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you feel in your face, your shoulders, your neck, your arms,

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your hands and fingers, your chest, your stomach, your back,

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your bumb your groin, hips, your thighs, knees, lower legs,

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your shins, your calfs, ankles, your knees, your elbows, your feet,

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your heels, tops of your feet, bottoms of your feet,

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your toes, your eyes, your jaw, your ears, your lips,

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your mouth, your tongue, maybe your teeth or your gums,

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your throat. Noticing what it feels like to breathe. You

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may have noticed that you're breathing is increased. You know,

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it's got a bit deeper, but also slower, but naturally

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without any effort, without focusing, just naturally slower and deeper.

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And that breathes again. It's on my face and my chest.

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Hm for a minute after I just checked the windowsill

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and make sure Vinn' is not farting in my direction.

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But then it wouldn't be a cold breeze, would it

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be a smelly one? And what I notice is if

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this background sounds, I find it's actually helpful. It tends

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to increase the relaxation. When I say that, I mean

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obviously not if if you've got a workman out in

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the garden digging for oil, then yeah, that's shaking the

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whole building. Perhaps that wouldn't be particularly relaxing, but generally,

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or a couple of helicopters playing table tennis with each other,

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I don't know how that would work. But helicopters are

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quite noisy, an't they. That's a strange visual, isn't it.

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Two helicopters playing table tennis or ping pong. I don't

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know why I always find that word of weird tickles,

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be a little bit. Ping pong. I don't know why.

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I think is a word. Pong is another word for smelly,

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isn't it? And ping is another word for ping, ping

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like a little sound like a ping. I suppose like

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a mobile phone text message or something like that.

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Ping.

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Yeah, maybe, So I don't know what that's got to

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do with table tennis. Some would ask her, what's two

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helicopters playing table tennis in your garden got to do

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if feeling relaxed and calm? And my answer to that

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would be, it wouldn't be in the garden. Would it

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be on the roof? That just be ridiculous. How they're

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going to fit in the garden. It's only a tiny

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little garden. Helicopters they need to be on the roof.

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And then I think, well, it's not a flat roof,

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so that would be very difficult. They have to reconstruct

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the whole building. I've been on some roofs that were

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big enough for two helicopters and a big table tennis

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table or ping pong table. Ping pong, it's one of

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those words. Although there's like just it sounds strange, ping pong,

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Ping Pong's I don't know why it is. I kind

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of can't of imagine inventing a game and getting all

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excited and going to the bank. Hey, missus, bank manager,

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I got an idea for a new game. I need

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some financing to help. What is it? What's the game? Well,

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you know tennis, Yes, I've heard of the thing. It's

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like tennis, except it's done on a table and the

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net is across the middle of the table and the

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two participants use little bats and they stand up and play,

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and it's just like a miniature version of tennis. Really.

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And the bank manager might be and it might not be.

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The bank manager might just be someone who works in

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the bank. But for this story, let's say it's a

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bank manager called Dorothy. She's got three cats, and she

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enjoys going on a holiday scuba diving. It's a little

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bit of a backstory. She once dated a man called Jeremy,

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and she found out, after about three years into a relationship,

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that he enjoyed disco dancing, and she couldn't handle that.

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She also planted a tree near to where she was

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living when she was a child, and now that tree's grown,

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it's very big. But the thing that she doesn't realize

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is that actually the tree that she goes and hugs

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and you know, visits, it's a different tree. She forgot

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which tree it was. And when she visits and she

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takes people with her and she shows people around, say well,

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let me show you my special tree. It's not her

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tree at all. Her trees and one next to it,

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and her tree is a bit upset about that it's

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not getting any attention. The thing is, the reason she

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thinks that that's her tree is because she went away

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for quite a while and she came back and the

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tree was big. She knew the next tree next to her,

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the tree wasn't hers because it was small, and her

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tree would have grown after ten years, would have grown

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a lot bigger. So she knew that the big tree

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was hers. What she didn't know is what she actually

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planted wasn't a tree. It was a daffodil. Daffodile, daffodial

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dial that's not even a word, is it a daffodil?

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So she planted this daffodil thinking it was a tree,

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but it wasn't a tree. It was a daffodil. Why

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did I say daffodil? But anyway, that's her backstory and

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she wants She once fell out of a tree, so

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she had a thing about trees. But she was okay

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because luckily she was wearing shoes with her springs at

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the bottom and she just bounced back into the tree.

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Then she joined the circus, so it worked quite well.

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But eventually she realized that she she wanted to settle

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down a little bit, especially once she met Jeremy and

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she thought to herself, I'm going to get a different job.

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You know. It's when she got that job in the

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bank for well, prospects are there and there's nothing can

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get in a way. Now I found the man of

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my dreams, got a lovely home. The only thing that

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could ruin this is if I found out that Jeremy

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was into disco dancing, but that's unlikely to happen anyway.

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She if you go and she's saying, oh, that's a

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really good idea. That's a really good idea. You can

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you can, we could put that together. It's going to

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cost money to promote it, and you know, if you've

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already got the design for it, you're going to need

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money and you're probably going to need investment. And yeah,

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it's great so you'd be Whoever was inventing it probably

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felt brilliant. So what are you going to call it?

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Ping pong?

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No?

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See you later. I can't help you with that, ping pong.

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Who's going to buy ping pong? Ping? I can see

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it now, ping pong? No, No one's going to buy that.

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We could call it something different. Whoa what? Well? Think

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about it? Is tennis on a table, so we'll call

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it tennis on a table. That's a mouthful, though, isn't

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it not as much as ping pong? I think ping

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pongs are more than a mouthful than tennis on a table?

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Mmm?

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Could just shorten it like two words? What on tennis?

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No on a tennis? No? Tennis on No? What table?

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Tennis table? Tennis? It's like tennis but on a table.

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But you're not reading out the whole sentence. It's kind

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of self explicit. Explicit it you know, it explicits itself.

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Oh do you mean describes explains? Yeah? Okay, but not

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ping pong. No. But I really like the term ping pong.

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I think it's a really catchy word, really catchy name

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like no. But yeah, if those kind of sounds, it

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would probably be quite noisy. But generally background sounds like

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the birds singing. I like the birds singing because this

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isn't a I mean, you may listen to this and

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fall asleep and stuff.

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But I really really love the sounds of birds. I

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always have done.

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I'm not always, I mean there was I'm sure there's

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been times when I've not wanted to hear birds. I

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can't think of any of those times. I mean, it's

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hard to say I've always. I mean like since I

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was born. I was lying in my mother's arms on

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the first I was born, and like, oh, it's like

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we look so content, so so relaxed, and I'd say, yeah,

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I'd be more relaxed. I could hear some birds. Where's

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the birds at? I find parrots very noisy, very right.

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That's probably not a good example of a parrot, but

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it yeah, they're not quite as sweet. And this is

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bird outside it goes, it whistles, but it sounds like

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a human whistling, or unless it's one of those birds

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that copies humans. Well, they meet not mere cats. There's

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a certain bird that could mimic humans, isn't there. I

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wasn't thinking of parrots, but maybe, but there's another one.

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There's another bird that can do it. I forget what

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it is. Is it budgie? Can budgies learn words? I

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don't know. We can't full circle because I'm sure I

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saw budgies playing table tennis on a video. Maybe it

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was ping pong, ping pong, I don't know. That's just

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stuck in my head today. I don't know why why,

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I don't know where the word came from. And you

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can notice how you're feeling, or maybe you don't want

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to notice how you're feeling. Maybe you don't care how

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you're feeling. Maybe you're just happy to feel the way

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you feel without examining it. Just being with yourself, accepting yourself.

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I suppose, being in the moment, not needing anything, feeling peaceful.

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Mm hmm.

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It's nice, isn't it. And that brings me to the

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end of this recording about ping pong and other stuff

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that I've talked about. I got no idea what I'm

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gonna what title I'm going to get this recording, no idea.

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Maybe I'll just call it ping pong. So thank you

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for listening. Remember to be kind to yourself because you

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do deserve to feel happy, and be gentle with yourself

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because you deserve to feel safe. Lots of love, Bye,