April 28, 2025

(no music) Pain Dissociation | Let me bore your pain away #30 | Jason Newland | 28th April 2025

(no music) Pain Dissociation | Let me bore your pain away #30 | Jason Newland | 28th April 2025
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Hello, and welcome to Let Me Boil Your Pain Away.

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My name's Jason Newland. My website jasone dot com. It's

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a really groovy place to go to. All my recordings

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are on there and you really should visit. It's a

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lovely place to holiday. Oh if please only listen when

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you can safety close your eyes. What else? If you've

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got any questions for Q and a Friday, there's a

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form that you can fill in on my website. And

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I do have a Facebook group called Jason Newlands Boring

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Group which you can join. There's a link to that

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on my website as well. And lastly, my YouTube channel

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is at Jason Land. I forgot what it was for

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a second. So yeah, all my latest recordings I also

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upload to YouTube and all the podcast episodes so you

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can listen to them there as well. That is everything

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I think. Uh yeah, theific So today today to day,

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I hope everyone's well. As I said, this is the

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let Me Boil Your Pain Away. These recordings, it's just

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me talking. I usually focus on a specific, specific kind

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of thing and I go from there. Just it depends.

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It all depends. So what I do. I do quite

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a bit of research for these recordings. When I say

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quite a bitter, I do a little bit try and

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look through some of the research papers and the books

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and stuff that have been written over the years, and also,

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you know, try and include some up to dates information

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as well as me just chatting and discussing some kind

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of techniques that you could use if you wanted to,

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or you can just sow now. So I also need

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to just add this is not replacement for therapy or

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medical advice. Only listen to this recording when you know

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the cause of the chronic pain and you have permission

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from your doctor. Oki doki. Basically just me chatting, just

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me chatting, and if it helps, great, you know. And

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I think it's a little bit like the let Me

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Boy to Sleep. It's very similar to let Me Boy

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to Sleep in a sense of me just waffling on

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a little bit more focused on this one. On this

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one a little bit more focused because I do try

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and keep bringing it back to the subject. However, I

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think that over time, as with the let Me Boy

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to sleeps, you get used to my voice and you

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kind of get used to feeling a certain way, feeling relaxed,

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feeling calm, feeling comfortable, your mind slows down, your body relaxes,

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there's a sense of peacefulness that can come over you,

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and you may also find that your mind drifts, so

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you know, it's these are kind of things that would

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be natural. It's probably no different from really in the

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same way kind of if you listen to a favorite

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piece of music, it brings back maybe the feelings that

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you have about that particular bit of music. So I'll

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give you an example of my own there totally Clips

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of the Heart or down Under? Do you come from

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a landown under that one? Or Africa? Okay, that wasn't

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a very good example of that one, but Toto could

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have been or whatever would a man a man Africa

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that one? So those songs give me a sense of

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I get a sense of well being when I hear

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those songs because they remind me of you know, that

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period when I've I really first got into music the

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early eighties. That's when I liked music before that, but

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I kind of really got into music like late seventies,

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early eighties. With the late seventies, I was kind of,

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I suppose, following my brother's leads in a way, you know,

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I was kind of into what they were into. Trying

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to copy them maybe, But in the eighties I went

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in my own direction because I liked stuff that they

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didn't necessarily like because different age groups. So I was

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the only one in my family that loved Shaking Stevens.

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Absolutely loved he was the king. But no one else

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in the family loved him. They all knew that I

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loved him, and they accepted that, but no one else.

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I'm not saying they didn't like him, but no one

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was the kind of fan that I was. In fact,

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in fact, I should have gone to see him in concert.

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That's what a big fan I was. But I never

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never even thought about it. I don't know if I'd

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want to have gone to a big place with lots

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of people, lots of people. So what I did this

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is I did this, I think a couple of days ago.

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I went on to chat GPTO, which is my little assistant,

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my little study assistant. I just asked, please list all

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books that discuss chronic pain relief in detail. So I

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went through a few books and I said, can you

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put now listen them all together? So they did so

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the core books. So what I did, then, let's dive

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into book one, which is Hypnosis for Chronic Pain Management

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Therapists Guide by Mark P. Jensen, published twenty eleven Oxford

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University Press. So, Mark P. Jensen, Hypnosis for Chronic Pain

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Management Therapist Guide. I think I've got that book on

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my bookshelf as well, anyway, because I've got pretty much

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all books. I haven't got all chronic pain books, but

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I think I've got all the hypnosis books for chronic

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pain that have got like hypnosis and chronic pain in

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the title. I've got most of those, I think, if

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not all of them. So apparently, he says he this

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is the most, probably the most important textbook specifically dedicated

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to using hypnosis for chronic pain. Now, the good thing

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about I'm not like pumping myself up. That's weird, but

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you know, I can see something and now I kind

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of know what it means and I can explain it

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without having it explained to me from the book. So

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the science and principles overview chronic pain psychological psychological aspects

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or physiological hypnosis basics. So what I was interested in

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is summer things that they're talking about. So the key

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stuff that they're focusing on for me is techniques pain

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dissociation altered sensory experience time distortion. So I've talked about

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time distortion as well, which would be in the past.

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It's kind of shrinking painful episodes into smaller timeframes. And

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this is ideal if you're not driving or you're not

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doing something that needs your attention, because ultimately you would

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not go to sleep, but it kind of wouldn't really

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necessarily be aware of the time when the discomfort was there,

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and then you'd kind of become more alert at the

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end of it when it's kind of gone. In a

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sense time distortion. I mean, in the same as you know,

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when we go to sleep, we wake up. There's no

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really any way of knowing how many hours were being

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in bed. You can guess by how light it is outside,

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or if you've got a clock next to you, by

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somebody guesses it, if you've got a clock next to

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your bed, but you can't. You know. Sometimes I don't

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know about you, but I'll wake up for a bladder

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empty in session and it might feel like I've only

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been in bed for a little while, and maybe I

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might have been in bed for three or four hours.

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Other times I might think, oh, it's got to be

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at least five in the morning, and it's only I've

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only been in bed for an hour, so it's you know,

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it just changes. It's hard to really I guess that

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is time distortion in a way, so pain blocking imagery.

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So I did something like this the other day as well,

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using things like shields, filters, clouds, lights, et cetera. I

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was tall about having a cast, like having a cast

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which protects that part of the body, and I was

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talking about here's something I used to do, not for

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chronic pain necessarily, but definitely for my own safety as

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far as I suppose germs. I know it's going to

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sound a bit weird, but in the past, when I've

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been sitting on a bus, I do a few different

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things when I'm sitting on the bus. Nothing illegal. I'm

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talking about in my mind, and I would imagine that

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I was surrounded by a bubble, like a protective bubble,

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so that if there's anyone around that was coffeeing or

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sneezing or breathing. Most of them were breathing, but just

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to keep their germs away from me. And this is

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long before any kind of international incident that led to

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people in masks. I mean, this is like ten fifteen

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years ago, and it just eased my attension, caused me

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to feel more relaxed by imagining that that barrier was

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there and it wasn't just a barrier from germs and

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stuff in my mind, it was also a barrier from negativity.

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But then I realized I kind of added to it,

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and I started sending healing energy to other people, imagined

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it raining down on them like sprinklers, like a smoke

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alarm sprinkler thing, because I realized I was focusing too

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much on me and realizing that actually by sending out

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healing to them would be more beneficial to me than

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trying to keep them out. And sometimes I actually imagined

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that I all had bubbles around them, each being protected

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but at the same time filling up with healing energy.

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Now I realize it sounds a bit wacky, maybe, and

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it's just it's imagination, that's all, but I found it

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helped I did. So you've got empowerment where you think

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about things that help you to feel more in control.

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I guess being reminded that you have a lot more

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control over how you feel that maybe you realized before.

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And if you listen to this and you're an adult.

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You'll know this anyway, there's more control and now over

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maybe how you react, how you feel then you maybe

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did when you was little, when you was a young kid.

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Then there's muscles, uh whatever, Look, what's the other thing

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that's weird? I've just clicked on the wrong page. What

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other things that we got here? I was all right

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until the second ago. Now it's just all gone, it's

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all disappeared in her. Really, it's very okay. So post

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hypnotic cues teaching a brain to automatically dial down pain.

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So I've done recordings on that. It's it's something A

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lot of that is to do with expectation, and expectation

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can be very powerfully affected by previous memories and previous

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physical feelings. So by listening to this recording, let's say,

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for example, you feel more relaxed. That's the very least

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really that I would hope that you'd benefit from, is

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you'd feel more relaxed, feel calmer, Your mind would be

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a bit slower, maybe your body feel more peaceful, and

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you may have a sense of well being, maybe more

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of a sense of positivity even, which is quite nice.

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But then the next time you listen to my recording,

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whether it's a new one, whether it's the old one,

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whether it's one from ten years ago or one from

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you know, a new one that I do, or even

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a different kind of podcast. You'll almost be expecting to

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feel relaxed. And when you hear my voice, there's that

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maybe that expectation, and when you do hear my voice,

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you'll feel calmer and your mind will slow down, maybe

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you'll drift. Maybe your mind will drift and absorb the

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just absorb anything that is useful for you that I say,

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because I'm going to be saying a lot of things,

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and some of us is going to be a bit pointless,

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but some of it might really be useful and that

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can just be absorbed into your mind and potentially shape

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the way that you feel about your body and your

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physical sensations in a more positive way moving into the

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future as well as now. So other things strengths of

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some of these things. So you've got highly evidence based

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and so these techniques are evidence based and not just

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made up random stuff. I do make up a lot

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of random stuff as well, But I like that. I

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like that idea of trying things out because it's never ending.

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You're we're never going to run out of ideas. And

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that's why I've spent nineteen years doing this stuff, is

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because I never run out of ideas. There's always something

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new that I can try. Doesn't mean it's going to

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be perfect, but it might be really good. It might

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be useful and ad that's the bottle, that's the name

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of the day. Useful. Does it help A relaxation equals

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chronic pain relief? You know that's just again that's based

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in science, not an opinion. So when you relax, your

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focus changes in the same way as when you listen

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to me. Your focus changes, and it would do regardless

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of where you were, what you were doing, how you

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were feeling before, who you're with. You know, even if

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you was at a birthday part seeing you decided to

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go and sit in the guarden and listen to this,

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You're going to feel very different to how you felt

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when you was at the party. You're not going to

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notice necessarily the other people as much as you used

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to when you were there, even though it might be

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the same volume level of the people of the party

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of music maybe, but as you listen to my voice,

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you would go more inward, more focused on how you

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feel calmer and more relaxed and peaceful. Everything I do,

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I try and make practical and use a friendly and

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the exercises, whether they're my exercises or ones that are

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just copied. Don't really take credit for anything that I say,

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because I don't know how much of it is unique

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and how much of it is just stuff that I've

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remembered from books I've read or lectures I've listened to,

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or whatever. But hopefully it's useful. If it does come

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from somewhere that I know, I do try and give

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the source, and like today, I'm given a source from

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this book. But even if I go through a technique,

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because I don't go through any of these techniques, probably

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without even looking at the book, just with an outline

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of it, but I will probably do it differently. I'll

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add my own little spin, which means I might not

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be doing it properly, but hey, customizable. I think the

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point is you can use these in a way that

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suits you because you don't have to do anything. You

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don't have to listen to this. It's not compulsory, so

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the fact do you remember the actually you're choosing to

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spend your time, and time is very valuable. You're choosing

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to spend your time listening to my squeaky voice. It

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can give you a little bit of comfort and a

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little bit of relief. You know that this is your

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choice to listen, and you're choosing to listen because you're

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expecting to feel more comfort, more peace, and that's useful.

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So and it's out the potential weaknesses of listening to this.

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I'm not taking on a role as a therapist, and

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it's not the same as a one on one session.

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this stuff, it'd be different. I mean, this might be better

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than that. I don't know. It depends on what it

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shouldn't be. It should be better if you're in a

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room with a therapist. But this you're probably not going

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to get. It's not going to be the same. You

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won't be sitting in a room with a therapist just

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rambling on like this because that's this isn't professional. This

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is not a professional way to do it. This is

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relatively unfocused in a sense of I'm not asking you

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to do anything. I'm not trying to control your thoughts

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or manipulate you, even in a positive way. I mean

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not trying to get you to focus on this. Now

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do this now, one, two, three, four. And even if

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I do read out you know an exercise, you can

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do it or not do it. I might go through

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it and I'm going to do this and I'll do it.

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Do it or not, it's up to you. But it's

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just me going through some things. So the pain disassociation technique,

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that's the one I'm going to focus on today. From

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that book. Now it's not from that, but I mean

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it is from that book, but it's not. It's not

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an original idea. Is something that's been around for probably centuries,

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but it's it's a very powerful and dissociation can be

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it can be really easy for some reason for children,

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really really young people have a tendency to dissociate a

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lot easier, and imagination to imagine things that you know,

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it can be a little bit easier for really really

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young kids. So hypnosis, for example, I'm not I'm not

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going to I'm not doing hypnosis here, but hypnosis really

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could be useful. So if you're if you've got a

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child that needs that could do with use help with

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hypnosis and stuff, then seek out a professional hypnotist or

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hypnotherapist and maybe or if you've got a clinical psychologist

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that does hypnosis, and I'm pretty certain that's a young child,

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you can sit in a room with them as well,

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and it could be something really useful. I mean, this

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isn't aimed at I mean it's it's aimed at anyone

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that wants to listen to it. It's not aimed at children,

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it's not aimed at adults. It's just aimed at whoever

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wants to listen. Generally at adults, to be fair, but whoever.

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I don't know if little kids would want to be

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listening to this. I can't imagine anyone would want to

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be listening to this really in a way. But oh

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the positivity, so pained association. It makes sense, really, doesn't it.

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So you're focusing there's different ways of doing it. You

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can focus on something else, you know, when you're watching

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a movie, you're listening to a song, you're having a

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conversation with somebody, maybe you're traveling in a car, and

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it's not so much dissociation from what you're doing, it's

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you're focusing on something else. So instead of focusing on

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that part of your body that you may have been

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focusing on before, You're now focusing on an outside external

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stimuli or stimulus. So right now it's my voice and

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you might be thinking his voice is so squeaky. Why

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is it so squeaky? He's like like a little squeaky

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dog's toy. What's going on? He can't be human? And yeah,

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I am kind of I'm kind of an alien, but

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you know, I don't know. I'm waiting. I'm waiting for

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the more of a ship to come back and get me.

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Hasn't yet. So you've got different ways. I mean, you

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can move that physical feeling mentally and imaginatively so it

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no longer dominates your consciousness. And that's one of those

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things is we get more of what we think about.

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Whatever you focus on is what you're going to get

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more of. And it's it's just standard. We all kind

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of know that, really, don't we. You know, if you're

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gonna if you if you focus on your right knee

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or if you, let's say you, it could be anything

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kind of like sometimes Vinnie does a big old fart

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because I'm focusing on it. It's all I can smell.

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That might not be a good example, but there's this

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car I'm locally where I live, and they parked on

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the pavement. It's a big car and you can't literally

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have to walk in the road to get around it.

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It's bugged me a little bit. It has its bugged me.

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It's bugged me. And there's a couple of people in

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wheelchairs that can't get past. And I probably wouldn't even

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notice it. I might be like, oh, but I got

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talking to this man in a wheelchair and he said

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he had problems with someone that was parked on the

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pavement and he couldn't get passed. And I don't think

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it was even his car, but it kind of a

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connected the two together, and whenever I go past it,

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I've been having this negative feeling. But today I thought,

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you know what, what's the point in that? There's nothing

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I can do about it. There is nothing because the

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law doesn't prevent them from doing it. It's against the

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law to park on the pavement, but there's no fine,

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there's no there's no there's nothing for it. It's like

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profer against the law in London and you will get

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towed away or whatever. But outside of London generally, it's

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just one of those laws that the police don't do

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anything about you're not allowed to, but do what you want.

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Is that's kind of the attitude. So I just let

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it go. I don't focus not on it anymore. I'll

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focus on something else. I'll focused on it now though,

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aren't they? But but sometimes focusing on that. When I'm

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focusing on that car, I'm not thinking about my lower

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back where my arthritis is. It's weird, but I don't

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want to rep placed that with something that's also negative,

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or that might have a negative kind of feeling or

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an unpleasurable feeling. Rather, there's nothing negative about my back.

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It's just that is It's just a physical thing. It's

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not negative or positive. It's just it is what it is.

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Something to deal with, isn't it. And there's so many

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ways of dissociation the move in the pain. That's something

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I find interesting because I learned some of this years ago.

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I'm talking for when I first got into hypnosis and

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NLP two thousand and no. Nineteen ninety eight, sorry, nineteen

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ninety eight. I think it's around ninety nine that I

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learned this technique, and it was it was about moving

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the physical discomfort or that physical feeling. It's called it

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feeling because it may have changed anyway, the physical feeling

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from the part of the body it's currently at to

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a different part of the body. And this is based

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on I'm pretty sure it's Milton nature Erickson, but it

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might have been another hypnotist. And they said to their

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client or their patient, right, so it's difficult, you know,

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it's The patient was saying, it's unbearable and I can't

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handle it. Where would you be able to handle it?

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And the patient said, what do you mean, weird? Would

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I be able to so? Well? You said, it's like

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it's in a lower back, which is causing problems like

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you know, walking around or whatever. Where would it not

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be a problem. In fact, I don't think. I think

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this patient might have said, I wish it was in

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my I wish it was in my finger. So he said,

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you prefer it to be in your finger? She said, yeah,

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I don't because it wouldn't bother me. Then it's like

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it's in my finger, So what, it's not going to

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affect my my ability, it's not going to affect my day.

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It's just going to be irritating. I can handle irritation,

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and I'll be distracted anyway. From that by other things

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irritating don't don't bother me. But what I've got at

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the moment does. So what you did is you got

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her to move that physical feeling from let's say a

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lower back, just move it into a finger. There's different ways.

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You can just imagine it moving out of your body

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and just moving into your finger, and you can rehearse

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this feeling. You can imagine different feeling is where you

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can just take a little bit at a time. And

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the weird thing about it is, so they say, if

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I focus on my right finger, the end of my

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right big finger, is it a big I don't want

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it's so big thing because the big thing is the

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middle one, isn't it first finger and the one next

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sort of fun So if I focus on the end

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of that, it's weird because as I focus on it,

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it's a little bit pulsating, just a little bit. So

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if I move the feeling that I'd got to move

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the feeling if I focus on my lower back, and

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you know, maybe you focused on the part of your

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body that you wanted to If you want to do,

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you know, it's up to you. But so if I

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focus on my back, on my lower back. Then I

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focus on my right finger. Just knows how my right

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finger feels, and I'll focus back on the body part

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straight away. It's changed. It's really weird. It's weird. It's

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all I don't know. Don't ask me why, but it's changed.

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It's still there's still something there, but it's changed. And

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I focus on my right finger again and it's there's

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a different feeling in my right finger, but it's not

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it's not unpleasant. It's just a feeling that wasn't there before,

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like I don't know, like maybe a heaviness or a tightness.

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Maybe it just just feels a a little bit different.

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So I moved back to my to the body parts.

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So if you've moved back to your body part, focus

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on there for some reason. There's not a lot to

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focus on. And I'd be understandable if it was McGrain,

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But this is me a lower back, like it hasn't shrunk.

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There's not a lot there though. It's not not a

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lot going on. So I'll go back to my finger again,

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focus on that. It doesn't feel pleasurable. I'll be honest.

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My finger doesn't. It doesn't feel it doesn't really feel horrible.

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Eive it just feels a bit different, a little bit different.

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It's I guess it's a unique perspective. It's going to

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have a different physical sensation to my lower back anyway.

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It's almost like the nervous system is confused by the

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focusing on one to the other and the idea, even

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though I'm not actually trying to move it really, but

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the idea of moving it from your body to your finger.

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And it's a feeling. It's almost not numbness, but a

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little bit of little bits of fizziness I suppose, kind

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of like pins and needles a little bit. And I noticed, like,

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obviously nothing a way about it, because I'm the one

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that's caused it, and I so I go back to

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my back again. So you go back to your body.

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By the way, you might hear some shouting in the garden,

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but it's because it's a beautiful day and the sun

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gets the shouters out. The shouters. This is weird. I

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focused on the back. It's almost like it's hiding from me.

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And as I here is a weird thing. Every time

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I go back, you go back to your body, and

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it kind of seems to bounce off onto your finger

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like that focus goes straight to the finger. It's like

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it's becoming harder to focus on my body because it

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keeps bouncing back to the finger. The focus. Ah, I'm

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just moving my finger around a little bit. It just

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it does feel different the end of it. But it's yeah,

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it's weird. That's strange. Yeah, So that's sort of something

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you could do, moving it, detaching, shifting, or even distancing

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the physical feeling from you. So you could just imagine

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stepping out of your body, just leaving your body behind

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and just stepping out, but the version of you that

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you step out, it's still your body, but you've left

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that one part of your body behind and you just

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move away. I guess, almost like waking, kind of like

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astra walking away, kind of like an out of body experience,

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00:39:13.920 --> 00:39:20.079
but not really. You're just moved away from that physical

471
00:39:20.280 --> 00:39:23.880
feeling that you had before and you just move away

472
00:39:23.880 --> 00:39:36.000
from it, have some distance from it. And this can

473
00:39:36.039 --> 00:39:38.079
work for lots of different things as well, can't it.

474
00:39:38.639 --> 00:39:42.000
I don't know about you, but there's been times when

475
00:39:42.719 --> 00:39:49.320
sometimes just having some distance, some physical distance from a situation,

476
00:39:49.920 --> 00:39:53.599
whether it's a person, whether it's a relationship, whether it's

477
00:39:53.639 --> 00:39:59.320
a job, whether it's where I live, just sometimes a

478
00:39:59.360 --> 00:40:02.159
little bit of di even if it's just a couple

479
00:40:02.199 --> 00:40:05.920
of miles just to walk round field, a little bit

480
00:40:05.960 --> 00:40:21.400
of distance can really be useful. Now neuroscience, because this

481
00:40:21.480 --> 00:40:24.920
is all based in I think with neuroscience. The weird

482
00:40:24.920 --> 00:40:30.119
thing about it is what's already been used for decades

483
00:40:30.159 --> 00:40:36.960
and maybe centuries has now been proven to work scientifically.

484
00:40:38.360 --> 00:40:43.559
It's always worked for those that it works for. But

485
00:40:43.760 --> 00:40:46.960
now neuroscience, now it's kind of come along the last

486
00:40:47.000 --> 00:40:55.360
twenty years or whatever and can almost explain why this

487
00:40:55.400 --> 00:41:04.039
stuff works in a scientific way when before and I

488
00:41:04.199 --> 00:41:07.920
kind of still have the attitude, really, it works, it works,

489
00:41:07.960 --> 00:41:12.079
it works brilliant, But I do realize and I am

490
00:41:12.079 --> 00:41:15.960
more interested in why and how than I used to be,

491
00:41:18.199 --> 00:41:25.000
so I try to include factual information in these recordings

492
00:41:25.960 --> 00:41:34.159
around things like neuroscience and scientific studies. So neuroscience has

493
00:41:34.239 --> 00:41:41.599
shown that at tension amplifies let's say, focus or attention

494
00:41:42.119 --> 00:41:57.360
amplifies whatever physical experience you're focusing on, which means you

495
00:41:57.480 --> 00:42:03.599
get to choose what you focus on, and there's never

496
00:42:03.760 --> 00:42:14.679
only one physical feeling occurring. There's always more than one

497
00:42:14.760 --> 00:42:19.400
physical feeling happening. At any one time, You've got a

498
00:42:19.400 --> 00:42:23.679
whole body. So with me, for example, my lower back,

499
00:42:25.199 --> 00:42:27.920
I've got my arms, got my hands, got my legs,

500
00:42:28.079 --> 00:42:32.599
got my back, the upper back rather, I've got my chest,

501
00:42:32.800 --> 00:42:38.280
my stomach, my shoulders, my face. Most of that stuff's

502
00:42:38.320 --> 00:42:43.800
fine so far as to focus on my jaw, for example.

503
00:42:45.599 --> 00:42:47.320
And it's a little bit harder to focus on my

504
00:42:47.400 --> 00:42:51.119
jaw when I'm talking, but it still does. It still

505
00:42:51.159 --> 00:42:54.800
relaxes even when I'm talking, when I focus on it,

506
00:42:59.559 --> 00:43:04.840
and the feeling, the attention amplifies the feeling. And because

507
00:43:05.079 --> 00:43:12.360
I guess I'm fairly relaxed anyway, especially when I make

508
00:43:13.360 --> 00:43:17.199
these recordings, because I don't think it would really work

509
00:43:17.280 --> 00:43:20.960
that well if I was all tense and stressed. I mean,

510
00:43:22.199 --> 00:43:25.119
it defeats the object, doesn't it. And I think that

511
00:43:25.159 --> 00:43:33.679
would come across. And I'm fairly fairly calm when I

512
00:43:33.760 --> 00:43:43.039
do these and when I talk, and personally it says

513
00:43:43.079 --> 00:43:48.599
like neuroscience shows that attention amplifies a physical experience. I

514
00:43:48.639 --> 00:43:57.920
would agree. However, I'm going to add, and however, because

515
00:43:59.159 --> 00:44:02.320
I'm not saying I'm more than neuroscientists, because obviously I

516
00:44:02.360 --> 00:44:04.960
don't I know, but I might know some different things,

517
00:44:05.039 --> 00:44:07.840
but I don't know. I'm not an expert on anything.

518
00:44:09.559 --> 00:44:13.519
Apart from eating cookies. We're really good at eating cookies.

519
00:44:16.000 --> 00:44:21.239
I could win a gold medal at eating cookies. Not quantity,

520
00:44:22.039 --> 00:44:27.280
but just I'm just really good at eating them. So

521
00:44:30.679 --> 00:44:35.440
when it comes to meditation and something like a body scan,

522
00:44:36.480 --> 00:44:47.199
I've noticed over decades that just by focusing on the

523
00:44:47.320 --> 00:44:55.159
different parts of your body, they start to relax. So

524
00:44:57.360 --> 00:45:02.920
I think it's not just that the attention amplifies the

525
00:45:03.039 --> 00:45:09.280
physical sensation, but it's also dependent upon how or what

526
00:45:09.320 --> 00:45:14.679
you're thinking when you're focusing on that particular part of

527
00:45:14.719 --> 00:45:24.679
your body. So if it is if you're focusing on discomfort,

528
00:45:24.719 --> 00:45:29.159
for example, and that's what you're focusing on, and that's

529
00:45:29.159 --> 00:45:32.679
what you're thinking about, and that's you know, then it's

530
00:45:32.679 --> 00:45:34.920
going to get hot, it's going to get stronger, and

531
00:45:34.960 --> 00:45:39.840
it's going to amplify. But if you think about in

532
00:45:39.880 --> 00:45:41.599
the same way as if you think about a part

533
00:45:41.599 --> 00:45:45.360
of your body that feels relaxed and you're focusing on

534
00:45:45.440 --> 00:45:47.920
how relaxed it is, it's going to become more relaxed.

535
00:45:51.960 --> 00:45:54.000
But then if you think about you focus on a

536
00:45:54.039 --> 00:45:56.480
neutral part of your body, so maybe you're doing a

537
00:45:56.519 --> 00:45:59.920
body scan. I've done quite a few body scanned recordings

538
00:46:00.840 --> 00:46:03.800
where you're just listening and I'm going through the different

539
00:46:03.840 --> 00:46:06.599
parts of your body, starting at the top of your head,

540
00:46:07.440 --> 00:46:13.679
your foe, hair, your eyes, and I won't ask you

541
00:46:13.719 --> 00:46:18.559
to relax those parts of your body. And you might

542
00:46:18.679 --> 00:46:22.880
literally have just sat down or just laid down and

543
00:46:22.920 --> 00:46:28.679
only begun to listen to me at that point. So

544
00:46:29.679 --> 00:46:32.320
you're not bored yet, you might not be in a

545
00:46:32.360 --> 00:46:37.039
position of I might not have bored you into submission

546
00:46:37.440 --> 00:46:43.199
of feeling relaxed and calm, But by focusing on a

547
00:46:43.239 --> 00:46:46.519
neutral part of your body, a part that doesn't really

548
00:46:47.000 --> 00:46:57.239
it's not feeling particularly relaxed or particularly any other way,

549
00:46:58.360 --> 00:47:03.320
has a tendency of relaxing. But then when you're doing

550
00:47:03.360 --> 00:47:08.599
a body scan, you're focusing with the intent of comfort

551
00:47:09.679 --> 00:47:22.440
and peace, coming from a perspective of positivity, kindness, kindness

552
00:47:22.480 --> 00:47:30.800
towards yourself, feeling well towards yourself. So that has an effect.

553
00:47:31.639 --> 00:47:34.719
And the more, I don't think many people are going

554
00:47:34.760 --> 00:47:42.000
to listen to a recording, a mindfulness recording or a

555
00:47:42.039 --> 00:47:50.840
body scan recording without having a degree of expectation that

556
00:47:51.559 --> 00:47:54.639
they're going to relax, that you're going to relax all

557
00:47:54.679 --> 00:48:00.480
the different parts of your body. It's kind of implicit,

558
00:48:00.599 --> 00:48:11.000
I guess in the actual recording. Well, in the same

559
00:48:11.039 --> 00:48:17.360
way is if you focus on a part of your

560
00:48:17.400 --> 00:48:26.119
body and you're thinking differently about it. So if I

561
00:48:26.239 --> 00:48:30.639
focus on my lower back and if I'm expecting it

562
00:48:30.679 --> 00:48:35.000
to feel worse, it's going to start feeling worse if

563
00:48:35.039 --> 00:48:40.159
I'm expecting it to loosen and almost like all the

564
00:48:40.159 --> 00:48:46.000
fibers are just I just had a little disturbisation there

565
00:48:46.559 --> 00:48:52.199
from a neighbor. But then he started barking, And what

566
00:48:52.320 --> 00:48:56.800
it was is he's put sausages. His uncle from across

567
00:48:56.840 --> 00:49:01.039
the road, all across the hallway, got him some sausages.

568
00:49:04.000 --> 00:49:07.719
The thing is gives you an idea of his mentality. Finny,

569
00:49:09.079 --> 00:49:14.000
by the way, he's my little jack Russell. He's begging

570
00:49:14.159 --> 00:49:18.159
for one, right, it's already got one. He's dropped on

571
00:49:18.159 --> 00:49:21.679
the floor, and he's come for more because he tries

572
00:49:21.719 --> 00:49:24.760
to get as many as he can so then he

573
00:49:24.760 --> 00:49:28.000
can just enjoy the feast. There goes another one, though

574
00:49:28.400 --> 00:49:33.440
you're not getting any more to be feeding them, right,

575
00:49:35.000 --> 00:49:37.239
I'm not one hundred percent sure what I was talking about.

576
00:49:37.760 --> 00:49:42.679
But I'll try and get back to it. So we're

577
00:49:42.679 --> 00:49:45.559
talking about focus. Really, if you change where the attention

578
00:49:45.719 --> 00:49:56.239
goes and the brain lowers the intensity, and because it changes,

579
00:49:56.280 --> 00:49:59.159
I guess how the pain or the physical feeling is

580
00:49:59.239 --> 00:50:06.079
mentally cod did it's in the same way as some

581
00:50:06.199 --> 00:50:13.199
people without getting you know, weird. But some people enjoy

582
00:50:14.119 --> 00:50:17.800
a degree of or enjoy things that perhaps other people

583
00:50:17.880 --> 00:50:23.920
wouldn't when it comes to romantic encounters. And when I

584
00:50:23.920 --> 00:50:29.360
think about that, I'm thinking hot wax is one thing

585
00:50:29.440 --> 00:50:32.800
that comes to mind, which in a million years I

586
00:50:32.840 --> 00:50:38.440
would not, well not in a million years, but actually,

587
00:50:38.440 --> 00:50:40.360
to be fair, I don't know anymore. But yeah, generally

588
00:50:40.400 --> 00:50:43.480
not something I would do. But some people love it

589
00:50:43.519 --> 00:50:47.360
and they don't. It's a it's a different feeling to

590
00:50:47.440 --> 00:50:50.559
what it would because I'm sure it's someone just poured

591
00:50:50.599 --> 00:50:54.079
hot wax in them or hot poured hot wax on

592
00:50:54.199 --> 00:50:58.599
them while they were waiting on a bus, and they

593
00:50:58.639 --> 00:51:03.159
wouldn't enjoy it. They've probably been wouldn't sitting on a

594
00:51:03.199 --> 00:51:07.320
bus dressed in bondage gear. That Yeah, anyway, let's move

595
00:51:07.360 --> 00:51:14.840
away from that. So feelings change, they feel differently depending

596
00:51:14.880 --> 00:51:21.000
on the situation and the scenario. I think he's hassling

597
00:51:21.000 --> 00:51:23.440
me again. All right, you want to know the sausage.

598
00:51:23.440 --> 00:51:27.199
You're not having the whole pack bin. You've been so good,

599
00:51:27.239 --> 00:51:31.360
you've left me alone. The music downstairs is now light louder,

600
00:51:37.039 --> 00:51:41.679
and he's been in and nicked some biscuits. He's a

601
00:51:41.679 --> 00:51:49.679
little thief, that one. So if you move it with

602
00:51:49.880 --> 00:51:54.280
the you know the dissociation, I mean, it can be

603
00:51:54.360 --> 00:52:01.719
dissociation when you focus on something completely separate. You know,

604
00:52:01.760 --> 00:52:04.400
if you're focusing on a telly, or you're focus on

605
00:52:05.440 --> 00:52:10.199
drawing a picture, focusing on music or maybe playing a

606
00:52:10.280 --> 00:52:17.800
musical instrument, it can change how you physically feel because

607
00:52:17.840 --> 00:52:20.480
you're not focusing on that part of the body that

608
00:52:20.559 --> 00:52:26.199
you were before, but in a sense of literally moving

609
00:52:26.920 --> 00:52:32.119
the physical sensation elsewhere to a different part of your

610
00:52:32.159 --> 00:52:36.679
body where it feels less harmful, as I said, like

611
00:52:36.760 --> 00:52:41.440
moving to your finger or to an object outside of

612
00:52:41.440 --> 00:52:45.480
the body. So you could, for example, move it into

613
00:52:45.519 --> 00:52:48.159
a imagine in your mind, you can move it into

614
00:52:48.159 --> 00:52:54.880
a balloon or a hot air balloon and just watch

615
00:52:54.920 --> 00:52:59.480
that balloon float away. Or you can imagine moving it

616
00:52:59.519 --> 00:53:06.639
into a and chucking that rock into the sea or

617
00:53:06.639 --> 00:53:14.159
off a cliff giving you that distance again, you could

618
00:53:14.239 --> 00:53:19.159
imagine moving it into a visual container of something like

619
00:53:19.639 --> 00:53:25.280
a box or a cloud, a flowing river. I quite

620
00:53:25.360 --> 00:53:29.519
liked the idea of the flowing river because anything you

621
00:53:29.599 --> 00:53:32.960
put in there, it would disperse, wouldn't it, because it's

622
00:53:33.039 --> 00:53:39.920
moved very quickly. But also it would just disperse, and

623
00:53:40.000 --> 00:53:42.000
it couldn't feel the same, and he wouldn't be able

624
00:53:42.039 --> 00:53:46.760
to get it back, you know, not easily. So if

625
00:53:46.800 --> 00:53:50.000
you drop that physical feeling, dropped it in a fast

626
00:53:50.039 --> 00:53:59.079
flowing river, it's kind of just gone off. Or imagine

627
00:53:59.119 --> 00:54:02.840
in the clouds moving into a cloud, but then you

628
00:54:02.960 --> 00:54:06.960
move up, take your eyes off the clouds for a second,

629
00:54:07.199 --> 00:54:09.480
and then you look back at the clouds, where is it?

630
00:54:10.159 --> 00:54:13.800
Which cloud is it in? Because of the clouds are moving,

631
00:54:14.880 --> 00:54:17.519
they often look very very similar to each other, maybe

632
00:54:17.519 --> 00:54:24.079
different different sizes, slightly different colors, but they're moving. Maybe

633
00:54:24.320 --> 00:54:26.760
some signs seems like the clouds are moving to the right,

634
00:54:27.079 --> 00:54:29.400
and sometimes it seems like they're moving to the left.

635
00:54:30.760 --> 00:54:34.239
Sometimes they feel closer to the ground than further than

636
00:54:34.280 --> 00:54:38.800
to the ground further away. And it's kind of weird

637
00:54:39.000 --> 00:54:44.039
because also sometimes you know, it feels windy here on

638
00:54:44.079 --> 00:54:48.119
the ground where we are, the clouds don't seem to

639
00:54:48.159 --> 00:54:51.679
be moving at all. But other times when it's really

640
00:54:51.840 --> 00:54:56.920
really mild, just not even a really light breeze, and

641
00:54:56.960 --> 00:55:04.000
the clouds are moving quickly, so different ways. It tricks.

642
00:55:04.559 --> 00:55:11.480
It tricks the century pathways into disconnecting emotional issues connected

643
00:55:12.239 --> 00:55:15.519
to the part of your body, so that I guess

644
00:55:15.599 --> 00:55:20.840
that kind of that signal of danger being removed, realizing

645
00:55:20.960 --> 00:55:25.559
it's not danger, it's the opposite to that. It's peaceful,

646
00:55:25.639 --> 00:55:36.239
it's calm, it's safe. So examples I said, you can

647
00:55:36.320 --> 00:55:39.320
let a helium bloom. You can have a helium bloom

648
00:55:39.400 --> 00:55:44.360
tied to your wrist, and you can allow that feeling

649
00:55:44.400 --> 00:55:49.119
from your body to move all the way to where

650
00:55:49.119 --> 00:55:53.800
the helium bloom is bloom bloom, moving up the string

651
00:55:55.079 --> 00:55:58.920
and filling the helium bloom. Maybe it's an empty bloom.

652
00:55:59.440 --> 00:56:05.320
Maybe that that energy fills the blue nup and then

653
00:56:05.360 --> 00:56:08.079
you can just untie the string and watch it float away,

654
00:56:09.880 --> 00:56:19.840
higher and higher, further and further away. Or you can

655
00:56:20.199 --> 00:56:27.440
imagine placing that physical sensation inside a box, a big

656
00:56:27.480 --> 00:56:35.760
box or a small box with a soft, thick blanket inside.

657
00:56:36.639 --> 00:56:42.000
Close the lid and notice how your body feels lighter now,

658
00:56:54.800 --> 00:57:01.519
then you've got partials dissociation. If total move feels overwhelming,

659
00:57:01.679 --> 00:57:09.559
just lose some of the sensations elsewhere. So you could

660
00:57:09.559 --> 00:57:15.320
do the same techniques, but just some of them. There's

661
00:57:15.360 --> 00:57:18.320
no there's no right or wrong thing to do. There's

662
00:57:18.360 --> 00:57:22.440
no you don't have to do anything, but the idea

663
00:57:22.480 --> 00:57:27.119
of it, the wrapping your mind around the idea that

664
00:57:27.159 --> 00:57:29.960
actually this is possible. And these are things that have

665
00:57:30.039 --> 00:57:37.880
been done for many, many, many many years, like decades

666
00:57:37.880 --> 00:57:42.599
and decades and decades, tried and tested techniques handed down

667
00:57:42.719 --> 00:57:45.239
through the years. People have been doing them for a

668
00:57:45.320 --> 00:57:49.280
long time and helping millions of people around the world

669
00:57:49.519 --> 00:58:01.639
for long time. And why is it so effective? So

670
00:58:03.199 --> 00:58:08.679
it takes advantage of neuroplasticity, where which is quite a

671
00:58:08.719 --> 00:58:13.719
new thing. Really, neuroscience isn't that new new, But neuroplasticity

672
00:58:14.559 --> 00:58:16.880
kind of blew my mind a bit when I first

673
00:58:16.920 --> 00:58:21.880
started reading about this, The idea that your brain is

674
00:58:21.920 --> 00:58:27.280
not set. Your brain can change, and I like to

675
00:58:27.280 --> 00:58:31.679
think of it like plaster scene in this sense, it

676
00:58:32.360 --> 00:58:38.599
can change to suit the situation. So like for example,

677
00:58:38.639 --> 00:58:46.440
you introduce a new skill, whether it's learning a new language,

678
00:58:48.599 --> 00:58:54.639
learning a new instrument, musical instrument, starting a new job.

679
00:58:58.480 --> 00:59:05.480
Our brain's changed, our brain's adapt so that those things

680
00:59:05.519 --> 00:59:10.400
that may have seemed impossible before, although it might not

681
00:59:10.480 --> 00:59:17.239
be easy to start with, become easier, and our brains

682
00:59:17.519 --> 00:59:23.760
change and adapt to what we do. Our brains adapt

683
00:59:23.840 --> 00:59:27.800
to what we focus on. It's quite I think it's quite.

684
00:59:31.159 --> 00:59:35.559
It's quite amazing really that a brain can rewire its

685
00:59:35.599 --> 00:59:42.679
own processing, you know, of feelings. I think it's amazing.

686
00:59:44.519 --> 00:59:50.960
There's also that automatic loop or the automatic attention loop.

687
00:59:52.079 --> 00:59:53.559
You know, like when I was talking about my low

688
00:59:53.599 --> 00:59:56.960
back and then my finger, I kind of created a

689
00:59:57.039 --> 01:00:06.320
new automatic loop and changing the old one. Whether it

690
01:00:06.360 --> 01:00:09.440
was temporarily breaking the old one, whether just for a

691
01:00:09.519 --> 01:00:14.159
few minutes, but it's still it changed and started to

692
01:00:14.199 --> 01:00:17.480
set up a new loop because the more often I

693
01:00:17.519 --> 01:00:20.440
went back to focusing on my lower back, it was

694
01:00:20.519 --> 01:00:28.880
bouncing straight back to my finger. Also, it gives you

695
01:00:29.039 --> 01:00:35.360
empowerment because you realize that you're not leaving things to chance.

696
01:00:37.440 --> 01:00:42.920
You're in control, you're taking charge of your own experience,

697
01:00:44.039 --> 01:00:51.320
and you can actively enjoy the changes that are occurring.

698
01:00:59.280 --> 01:01:01.480
So you've also I've got some other things you can do.

699
01:01:02.119 --> 01:01:06.760
You can fragment the physical feeling, but basically breaking it

700
01:01:06.800 --> 01:01:13.800
into smaller pieces, mentally moving them one by one. So

701
01:01:13.880 --> 01:01:16.519
I guess a little bit like a jigsaw puzzle. So

702
01:01:16.559 --> 01:01:21.039
if you've got that part of your body for me

703
01:01:21.159 --> 01:01:25.360
is my lower back, so that's the jigsaw puzzle. So

704
01:01:25.440 --> 01:01:29.639
you got the jigsaw puzzle of my whole body, it'd

705
01:01:29.719 --> 01:01:31.679
have to be quite a big jigsaw puzzle to be fair.

706
01:01:33.280 --> 01:01:42.239
And start to remove the pieces of jigsaw. Let's say

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it's just start ten thousand pieces or whatever. Start to

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remove the pieces connected to my back, my lower back,

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one by one, and just drop that in a river.

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It's probably not a good idea to be dropping bits

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of cardboarding the river, but you know, for the it's

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an imaginary thing. And then take another piece, maybe not

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connected to that, but another piece is also in that area,

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and just dropping it in that fast flowing stream, and

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then another piece, and then another piece, and you can

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just take your time with it, then another piece, then

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another piece. You can even focus on that part of

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your body and wherever you feel, whether it's a bit

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of pressure, whether it's a physical sensation, you can just

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focus on that part of body and imagine that's the

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piece that you're taking out and drop that in the stream.

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So by these kind of dissociation techniques, physical discomfort is

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mentally moved, shrunk, softened, or transformed, and it can lead

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you to experienced reduced physical intensity that was there before,

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and it can restore your sense of personal control. You

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can feel better, you feel more relaxed, you can actually

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feel good about yourself because you've made changes and you

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know that you can make changes because you've made changes

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in the past, and you can make more changes in

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the future. And that brings us to the end of

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this recording, So thank you for listening. Remember to be

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kind to yourself because you do deserve to be happy,

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and be gentle with yourself because you do deserve to

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feel safe. Lots of love, Bye,