April 16, 2025

(no music) Let me bore your PERFORMANCE ANXIETY away | Jason Newland | 16th April 2025

(no music) Let me bore your PERFORMANCE ANXIETY away | Jason Newland | 16th April 2025
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Hello, and welcome two Jasonnewland dot com. My name's Jason Newland.

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Please only listen when you can safely close your eyes.

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Today's sixteenth of April twenty twenty five. It is exactly

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two minutes to nine pm. I know what I'm telling

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you that I don't know. This is requested recording for Maria.

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So I'm going to read you out the letter or

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the email that I received from my website. I won't

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read all of it out, but i'll read out the

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main bits and Hi, Jason, I'm writing to you. Firstly,

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thank you for the Bore You to Sleep podcast as

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well as a Bore You're paying Away one. They are

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brilliant and work well for me. I like the way

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the pain podcasts help distract with chronic pain symptoms, as

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I have both siatica and or is it sciatica and

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ostapenia in the lumber spine. Secondly, please can I request

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a recording. I am a drama and recently have been

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feeling anxious and tense to the point where I now

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get pain in my shoulders. There is also a tendency

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to clench my jaw. This is effecting how I play

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and perform at gigs. I would like to be able

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to relax more and enjoy the performance rather than be

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rigid and tense, which comes across in some videos. I

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assume that you'll got videos of your performances when you

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say that, ask me, adding that she didn't write that

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in I started playing around eight years ago, being in

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several bands, but I haven't felt this anxious before. There's

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always been the adrenaline that helps with focus in clarity,

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which I think is necessary to perform. Please, can I

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request something to help me relax more for performance anxiety.

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We have an important gig on a twenty seventh April,

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and I feel that I need to keep a grip

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on things.

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I'm sure you have some.

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Experience as a previous performer in comedy that you will understand.

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I'll stop now as I may have brought you to

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sleep now you haven't bought me many thanks, Jason, and

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best wishes to you and Vinnie. So as for Maria

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from Maria, So, I was trying to figure how thik

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are how to go about this and make it available

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for a wider audience, and you know, focus on the

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performance anxiety aspect. And I've just come out of the request.

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I don't need. It's fine. I've got it written down somewhere.

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There is so there's a few ways, a few things

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I could sort of talk about, and so I'm just

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going to talk I do. This would be like a

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let me bore your performance anxiety away. The first thing

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to remember, I would say is you don't have to

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do this. I don't mean listen to me. You don't

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have to perform. You don't have to.

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So you're choosing to.

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The reason I'm saying that is because the pressure is

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really possibly being put on by yourself. You're putting pressure

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on yourself which you don't need to. And it's not

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your first time. So if it's your first time performing,

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then you will have performance anxiety. And that's natural. It's

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just you know, there is no The only way to

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get good at anything is by doing it regularly, or

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you know, doing it a lot over a certain amount

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of time. So you've been doing it for six years,

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and for anyone else listening, however long you've been doing

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what you do. When it comes to performance anxiety, why

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is it? Whenever I think of performance anxiety, I think

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of myself and how rubbish I am in bed? It's weird,

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isn't it. It's like strange anyway, performance anxiety just to

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keep going back to, like the word floppy comes up again.

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So if you.

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I've known people, I've not known many musicians. I've known

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a couple, but I've known hundreds of comedians over the years,

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not not these days but in the past, and pretty

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much all of them seem to be have a degree

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of anxiety or nerves before going on stage. Even the

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ones that wouldn't say it, you could see them pacing.

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And then there was some.

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That could literally.

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Have a conversation with someone at the bar and then

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hear the name called out and then just go on

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stage and do their act. Rich Hall was that kind

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of comic. I think Mark Thomas was another one that

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was kind of like that. He's just very relaxed. Its

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kind of day. I think it's something that I remember

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hearing Mark Thomas say, and it was just chatting at

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the beginning of his gig, and he said, Oh, don't worry,

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I haven't started yet. It's just that that confidence. So

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I think it's about confidence because when you do, you

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know how to do what you're going to be doing

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when you're on stage. I was absolutely. I wasn't very

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good comedian at all. I had moments when I shone,

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But you know, I know this isn't about me, but

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I'm going to find a way to make it about

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me if I can so. I mean, I would never

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be able to give anyone advice on how to do comedy.

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But as far as standing on stage, I did do it.

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I'm still on stage over two hundred and fifty times.

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I got on stage, and it's it is a weird experience.

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I think when you're confident, and even for me it

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wasn't so much. I was confident that I was going

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to be good. But if I was confident that I

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remember what I was going to say, then I wouldn't

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have as many nerves. And if you're confident in a

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sense of you know what you're going to do, so

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your drummer, play the keyboard, you sing, whatever you're doing

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on if you're on performing, whatever it is, if you

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know how to do what you're doing, then there's a

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degree of confidence comes from that and that might be

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worth remembering. In the same way as if you're a driver,

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you don't have to think about every time you go

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to indicate or every time you put the clutch. I

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don't know if about cars, but every time you operate

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a car, when you're driving, most of its automatic because

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you have confidence you've done it before. It's almost like

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you can walk, perhaps from your bedroom to the bathroom

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in the middle of the night with all the lights

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off maybe and know that you're gonna not wet the floor,

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unless you're a bloke and wetting the floor is part

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of the plan. Really, this is just fun. But you've

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got that automatic process going on there. So I'm thinking,

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if you listen to me regularly, which I know Maria

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you do, you know how to relax if you don't

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have If you don't know how, if someone's listening to

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this and I'm not sure how to relax, you can

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rehearse it in your mind. So if there's anxiety stress

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about something that's going to happen, then this is a guest.

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Tell me if I'm right or wrong. My guess is,

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when you think about that thing happening, you're not so

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far you haven't been picturing it in a nice light.

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You haven't been seeing yourself on stage performing easily and

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naturally and happily. We were smile on your face because

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you're feeling good and you're not alone. You've got other

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people with you. I'm in less of course you're on

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stage and you're a singer, but even then, if you're

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performing on stage, and generally you'd have someone, if you're

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a talent content, you'd have someone in the audience that

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you're with, or if someone at the backstage, or if

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you're the show style of the show, you'll have people

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that are on your side, that have got your back.

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So when you imagine yourself on that stage, you can

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actually see yourself looking relaxed, because before, before you started

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listening to this, in order to have tension and anxiety

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and stress about the performances coming up, you need if

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you if you were thinking about that on imagining that,

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visualizing that time that's coming up, it couldn't It's impossible

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for it to have been pleasant because otherwise you wouldn't

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have anxiety. Because if you're thinking about it and it's

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place and it's a nice experience and you get around

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of applause and everyone's happy, there is no anxiety there.

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You might have the normal stage nerves just before you

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go on stage, but that's normal. It's normal. It's like

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as you said, as Maria said here, it's like the adrenaline.

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It's a normal thing, but that's a different thing to

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be in anxious and stressful. You know, two weeks before

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the event, which means what you could do is prepare

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in your mind, rehearse in your mind the event. And

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a good thing about rehearsing is you can have it

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go anywhere you want. Now, if you want it to

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be a complete mess and a catastrophe and all go wrong, well,

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there's no point really listening to this because you're possibly

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already doing that. You know, perhaps you're already imagining that,

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and that's why the anxiety is there. But the fact is,

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and if we go if we go extreme. I like

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to go extreme sometimes. Even if everything did go wrong,

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what does it matter really in the great scheme of things.

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You know, if you get on and the instrument doesn't

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work or the you know whatever, or there's a power cut,

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it's not your fault, is it? And the audience will understand.

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So it's not unless you get on stage and you know,

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so you're playing the drums, you let it get on

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stage and you literally put your trous down to a

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big poop on the drums. Yeah, that's your fault, and

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you probably won't get asked back. Other than that, you're

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pretty much safe to just you know, feel relaxed that

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things are going to be all right, and you got

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to get that image out of your head now if

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you can. My biggest do you want to know? Okay?

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Should I tell you this? My biggest thing because when

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I started doing comedy, I was twenty, and if you

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know anything about men when they're twenty, I'm another. I've

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had like bipolar and stuff, so I've always had problems

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controlling my moods and whatever. But it wasn't the only

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part of my body I couldn't control. When I was twenty,

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and I remember I was talking to someone at the

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bar that I liked, and it seemed like maybe there

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was you know, she was going to have a drink

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with me after I'd done the gig. And now I

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get my name called and I go on stage, so

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I have to I have to pull my shirt out

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and try and cover up my jeans or my trousers

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or whatever, because I was there was no blood left

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in my head, That's what I'm saying. It was embarrassing.

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I thought, I hope no one notices and ironically, the

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most embarrassing part of that is the fact that no

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one did notice. Now i'd want someone to notice, but

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that's crazy, but that actually happens. Oh, so it's sometimes

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it doesn't matter. I've seen the most ridiculous things happen

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in the past, Phoenix being a really attention seeking At

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the moment, he's got a toy and he's just playing

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around with it and chucking it around. I think I've

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been particularly boring to him today. I've made three recordings

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and I think I haven't given him the attention he needed.

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So if you hear that in the background as him

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playing with one of his toys, I can't help it.

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It's like, just I don't know what he There's only

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so much we can do. My neighbor knocked earlier, so

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I took him over to his flat. He lives opposite me.

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Then he loves going in there. He's running around, having

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the time of his life, exploring the flat. And I

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think he's bored, bored being here with me because he

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knows every inch of this flat and none of it

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is exciting to him. But if he goes into a

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new place, it's just like an adventure. He's completely open

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minded to doing new things and just yeah, he's just

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he's excited. There's an excitement there. I sometimes wonder, though,

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imagine how good it would be to be like a dog,

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to be able to get excited over things. The only

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thing he doesn't like is being left alone. Literally, it's

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the only thing outside of that. He's not bothered. Nothing

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bothers him. He just doesn't like being on his own.

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I don't know why. I love being on my own.

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So we're not that, we're not that similar in that way.

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So you imagine you like you're you look forward to

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this next gig, that you've got, this next performance, And

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what's interesting about it? Why are you doing this in

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the first place? You know, is it a chore? Is

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it something you want to do? Is it something you

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don't want to do? Because there's something you don't want

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to do. I'm not talking about this one particular gig

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coming up, but if generally you don't want to do it,

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you don't have to. You can't be arrested for not

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doing something like that. So if you do actually want

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to do it, why do you want to do it?

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What do you get out of it? He's really annoying

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me right now with all annoyes he's making. So is

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it fun? You're doing it because it's fun, I'm guessing.

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I mean, maybe there's a financial aspect to it, depending

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on who's listening and that, but it's fun. So if

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it's fun kind of isn't mature? It can't, there's no need.

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It's like sometimes with anxiety or with tension, or with

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stress regarding something that's coming up, you know, it can

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be a question like, really, is is it helpful to

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have these feelings? Is it going to make you a

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better performer? I don't have the answer to that, but

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I do have the answer to that actually, But you know,

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I'm guessing that the difference between having two weeks of

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what's not even too let's say, yeah, a week or

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whatever of looking forward, you know, looking towards something that's

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going to happen. You can feel negative about it and

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be worried, or you can feel positive about it and

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be excited. Which week is going to be more enjoyable? Hmm? Yeah,

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I'm pretty sure we know the answer to that one.

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So where's the benefit in choosing one over the other?

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Is there any benefit in feeling anything other than positive

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and looking forward to it. Is there a benefit to that?

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Maybe there is, you know, in reality, it may be

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a safe thing. Some people do have that idea of

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expect the worst so you won't be disappointed kind of attitude,

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which I don't. I kind of understand in a way,

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but I don't think it's useful when it comes to performance.

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I'm not sure for Zebra useful because it's going to affect,

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isn't it. I think imagine you go for a job

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interview and you if someone went if I went for

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a job interview and all I thought about was I'm

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not going to get the job, expecting to not get

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the job, How well am I going to perform in

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that job interview when I've got that in my mind

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for a few days before the job interview? How how

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well prepared am I going to be to show the

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best of me to be somebody that they would want

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to work with. Because that energy comes off, doesn't it.

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That energy shows It's a weird thing about energy. You know,

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you even walk into a room and two people you know,

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like you don't know anything else's gone on, but you

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walk in and you know that they've been arguing because

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of this the energy. There's something going on. You don't

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know what's going on. There's a disagreement of some kind,

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but you've got no idea what it is. You've literally

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walked into a quiet room and you can just they're

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not even looking at each other. You can tense it,

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tense it, sense it, sense the tension straight away. Because

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we admit that stuff, don't we. We We let that

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energy show, whether we mean to or not. So it

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affects us, it affects other people people. So there's also

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that to think about as well. So if you're in

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a band, it goes two ways. Your positivity, So feeling positive,

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feeling excited, looking forward to a really enjoyable performance.

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Will actually help.

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Not help the audience to enjoy it, it will also

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help the other members of the band. If you've got

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other members of the band to also enjoy it and

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bring out the best in them. As I said, even

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the audience will feel that they'll get that energy. I

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saw that in comedy sometimes. I actually saw some comedians

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and their confidence was more impressive than their jokes. There

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was just absolute confidence and it came across any audience

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just felt it. And the confidence does often come from

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what comes from being confident, doesn't it ultimately from expecting

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things to go well, you're doing this for a reason.

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You know you can't. No one's making you do it. Well,

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you know, I'm guessing that's the case, So you're choosing.

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You don't have to do it, even if.

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It was a paid gig and you were paid.

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To be performing at the Hollywood Bowl or you know,

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the Wembley Arena or wherever a major arena is in

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your country, even if you were the headliner there, you

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don't have to perform. You don't have to turn up.

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I mean recently, there was a heavyweight title fight and

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the world champion and world champion didn't turn up. Well,

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he did not turn up, but he got ill about

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two days before the fight, so someone else came in

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and took their place, took his place. So you know,

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I've seen gigs where people haven't turned up or they've

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turned up late. It just sometimes happens, and you can

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choose whether you turn up or not. You don't have

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to do it, so it takes a pressure off. If

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you're doing this because you want to, you're doing it

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because you choose to, You're doing it because it's fun.

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You're playing an instrument or you're being on stage doing

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whatever it is you're doing because it's fun, because you're

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i'm guessing, excited to do it. Otherwise, why why would

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you do it? If you don't want to, there'd be

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no point. So my advice is, firstly, only do it

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if you want to. Really, there's just there's no point

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if if it's your job, if it's your career, then

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you know that's a different situation. But if you're doing

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it for fun, if you're doing it because you love

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doing it, hopefully you'd be doing it if it was

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your career as well. So it's a choice. How do

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you view it. Here's something I used to do when

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I had this job once where I liked part of

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the job, but I absolutely detested another part of it.

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So the early part of the.

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Evening I really didn't like it. So I was dealing

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with the public. Sometimes it went really easy, sometimes it

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was very complicated and difficult, dealing with drunk people and whatever.

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Later in the evening was the part that I enjoyed.

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So what I used to do is I would imagine

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and I do this on the way to the place,

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and I wish i'd done this when I was doing

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gigs because it might have helped, but I didn't. I

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didn't know anything about this stuff back then. I mean

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literally the first time. The last time I did a

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gig was nineteen ninety eight January, and the first two

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hypnosis books I bought was January nineteen ninety eight. The

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first hypnosis training I did was Yeah, nineteen eighty eight,

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nineteen ninety eight as well, So yeah, BlimE me. So

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it kind of it's weird as went from that to this,

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although this has lasted a lot longer. What it has

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lasted a while, isn't it? Woh? So, what I used

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to do is I would imagine the end of the night,

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like everything's done, I was home in bed, relaxed, and

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I'd go backwards in my mind. I'd go backwards through

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the whole evening, including what I did in the evening,

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what I did, you know, during the evening, what I

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did right at the beginning of the evening, the part

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that I didn't really look forward to, And I'd skip

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all the way back to the front, to the beginning,

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and then I'd go all the way forward to the end,

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and notice how relaxed I am at the end of it,

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and also notice how relaxed you are while you think

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of it as well, because if you feel relaxed while

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you're imagining yourself feeling relaxed, it's a pretty good I

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guess it's quite a nice balance to have, isn't it.

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But then imagining yourself feeling relaxed, what else can it

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really do but cause you to feel relaxed? Is that

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would be weird? Otherwise, wouldn't it. Imagine sitting on the

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edge of the bed all scrunched up, your jaw tents,

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your shoulders tense, like, yeah, I'm really relaxed. Now I

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can imagine myself feeling relaxed. That doesn't work, does it.

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So when you imagine yourself on stage with all the

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different parts of your body, just loose your eyes, just

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calm your face, peaceful your jaw. I mean, the only

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thing really that's going to happen with your mouth and

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your jaw is probably smiling because you're enjoying yourself. And

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also you'll be noticing how other people are enjoying themselves.

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And there's a sense I don't know about you, but

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there's a sense of when you imagine that and you

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imagine performing on that occasion and when you realize how

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relaxed you are as you imagine it, and then you

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realize how relaxed do you feel imagining how relaxed you

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will be on that occasion when you're performing, And imagine

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on that night or that day when you're about to perform,

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you could remember how relaxed you were back now when

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you were thinking about performing or about to go on stage.

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And although it may be a bit of adrenaline there,

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it's a different type. It's like a relaxed adrenaline. It's

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almost ready to get going. You see it's a car.

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You know these races. I don't really watch them, but

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I've seen them. How do you seen them? If you

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don't watch them, I mean I've seen it, but I

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don't like follow them so much. But you see these

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racing cars and they're ready to take off. I mean

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they go from zero to sixty in like seconds. They'd

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really fast. But they're not holding the the the whatls

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practically are in their face something, but they're not holding

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them really like ah, and the cars not like oh, really,

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everything's relaxed. Everyone's relaxed. The same with tennis. You see

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people a ready and they look relaxed at the beginning

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of the game when it comes to serving. When it

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comes to that, you see people playing snooker, they look relaxed.

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People at the beginning of a football game. Even people

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in boxing, quite often they look fairly relaxed, even though

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they're about to punch each other. There's a degree of

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like they've done everything that needs to be done. I've

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heard a lot of boxer say this, that there's no

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nerves on the night because they've done all the work

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in the gym. This is now time to just have fun.

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So they've done the rehearsing, they've done they're preparing, the

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mental preparation, the imagining the outcome being really good, positive,

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going really well. You've imagined that you get to that

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time and you just get on stage and everything goes

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really nice. There's no reason for it not to, really is.

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Everything goes nice. You do what you need to do,

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you do what you want to do, you do what

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you're there to do, you do what you've done before,

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and it's a groove. It just there's a groove that

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you fit into where it doesn't take really much thought,

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just need to be there. It's almost like you if

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you're in a band, you're all on the same coach,

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you're all going traveling to the same destination together. You're

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just sitting in different seats, but you're still going together.

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You're still traveling together. So going back to rehearsing, feeling

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relaxed in your face, your jaw, your neck, your shoulders,

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your arms, your fingers, your legs, your feet, your back,

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your chest, and your stomach, your throat, your mouth, and

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notice that if you imagine feeling that way and looking

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forward to that event that's coming up, imagine how a

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relaxed you're going to be when you're on that stage,

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enjoying yourself, because that's the ultimate thing, isn't it. You

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get to enjoy yourself. You get to have fun, which

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is I would argue the main reason to do it

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to have fun. And I know that sometimes I've got

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a tendensee. In the past, I used to clench my

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jaw quite a bit, and sometimes you've got to just

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remember because when you're smiling, when you're feeling good, when

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you're thinking of something funny, it relaxes your jaw or

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there's a different type of tension. Like if you're smiling,

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it's a different feeling, and it loosens the jaw. It's

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almost like the antidote attention. And there was the old thing,

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wasn't it like, if you want to relax on stage,

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imagine the audience is naked. Now. As I said when

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I first started on stage, I was twenty. Imagining a

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naked audience was not going to make me feel relaxed.

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I was going to do the opposite. But you can

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see something that's funny. Maybe notice something that's funny. Maybe

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notice certain mistake that one of your band members, if

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you're in a band, and notice something that they've done

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that has made you giggle a little bit inside, not

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like full on laughing, but just like ah. Or maybe

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you can even see the funny side of actually the

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idea that you were nervous about even doing this. Why

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would you be stressed over doing this when you enjoyed

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doing it? You know, maybe saved attention for doing things

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you don't like doing. If you have to have that,

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I mean I would argue maybe you not have it

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then either. Yeah, that's a weird concept. Isn't it feel

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more relaxed generally? So? I guess there's lots of different

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things you could do to help you to change how

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you feel. One thing you could do is actually see

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if you play an instrument. Maria plays the drums.

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What you can do is.

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Or if you sing even you can focus on different

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parts of your body while you play that instrument. And

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I want to think of the as your voice as

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an instrument as well.

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So or.

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In some ways, it's even easier if you've got movement,

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because when you move, if you think about tai chi

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or chigong, a lot of it is about movement and

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the energy. There's a real energy changes and it feels nice.

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So for example, if you're if you're holding an instrument,

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notice how it feels. You could like practice it without

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the instrument in your hands or without the drum. You

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can imagine there's a drum sticks and there's a drum

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in front of you, and just move in your arms

473
00:40:32.599 --> 00:40:35.559
and notice how good it feels in your arms, how

474
00:40:35.599 --> 00:40:37.960
good it feels in your chest and in your back,

475
00:40:38.920 --> 00:40:41.960
Just that movement. I'm doing it now and pretending on

476
00:40:42.039 --> 00:40:45.440
playing the drums. Did I ever tell you I used

477
00:40:45.440 --> 00:40:49.519
to actually play the drums in the cecredets? I did?

478
00:40:49.880 --> 00:40:54.519
I used to perform It was weird. Thousands of people,

479
00:40:54.559 --> 00:40:56.000
because he used to be used to do it down

480
00:40:56.000 --> 00:40:59.119
the street like at carnivals and things like that and

481
00:40:59.159 --> 00:41:03.480
Trafalgar Day and there will literally be thousands upon thousands

482
00:41:03.519 --> 00:41:08.679
of people. And the good thing I liked is by

483
00:41:08.800 --> 00:41:16.000
focusing on the drum, by focusing on the vibration, I

484
00:41:16.039 --> 00:41:23.920
found it quite relaxing, and also knowing that I wasn't

485
00:41:23.920 --> 00:41:27.039
the only one there. Those people like I always have

486
00:41:27.039 --> 00:41:33.320
played the bugle as well at some point, and it

487
00:41:33.360 --> 00:41:35.960
wasn't just me. There was other people, and there was

488
00:41:36.000 --> 00:41:40.960
other secredets. So there was what twenty of us maybe more,

489
00:41:41.719 --> 00:41:48.639
or marching, so I wasn't alone doing it. But even

490
00:41:48.679 --> 00:41:52.199
if I had been alone, if I'm marching, if I'm

491
00:41:52.239 --> 00:41:55.880
in a situation when there's other people about, you're not

492
00:41:55.920 --> 00:42:00.440
on your own. Even if you're on stage in an

493
00:42:00.440 --> 00:42:07.079
arena and you've got ten twenty thousand people watching you,

494
00:42:07.079 --> 00:42:13.440
you're not alone because it's twenty thousand people there and

495
00:42:13.480 --> 00:42:15.559
you don't really need to worry about messing up.

496
00:42:15.480 --> 00:42:18.840
Because they're there.

497
00:42:21.480 --> 00:42:26.960
They're already there, and they're there for a reason because

498
00:42:27.000 --> 00:42:29.760
they want to have fun, they want to enjoy themselves,

499
00:42:29.880 --> 00:42:35.639
and they're going to feel that sense of pleasure from

500
00:42:35.679 --> 00:42:40.800
you when you're on stage, because that will radiate from you,

501
00:42:41.840 --> 00:42:44.559
and you'll also get those good vibes from the audience

502
00:42:45.360 --> 00:42:50.239
towards you. So it's like positivity coming in, positivity going out.

503
00:42:51.320 --> 00:42:58.679
It's like the endless stream of calm. And I want

504
00:42:58.679 --> 00:43:04.119
to go on stage now. It feels quite nice. Oh

505
00:43:04.559 --> 00:43:07.519
and a good thing about imagining. A good thing about

506
00:43:07.639 --> 00:43:19.039
rehearsing in your mind is every performance is great. It

507
00:43:19.079 --> 00:43:20.719
can be as great as you want it to be,

508
00:43:24.519 --> 00:43:28.559
which I think is pretty cool. It can be as

509
00:43:29.639 --> 00:43:35.840
groovy as you wish. You can be as talented as

510
00:43:35.840 --> 00:43:45.800
you want. Everything can go perfectly, but most of all,

511
00:43:47.840 --> 00:43:54.679
you can enjoy it. I really enjoy the whole event,

512
00:43:55.880 --> 00:44:03.239
including the build up, because instead of I mean, if

513
00:44:03.239 --> 00:44:07.840
you change dreading something to looking forward to it with excitement,

514
00:44:08.360 --> 00:44:12.760
optimism and actually feeling really good, I know which one

515
00:44:12.760 --> 00:44:17.519
i'd choose. I don't think the you know, dreading something

516
00:44:17.639 --> 00:44:28.480
is a good place to be, really looking forward to

517
00:44:28.519 --> 00:44:32.519
something positively and realizing that you're doing what you can

518
00:44:32.519 --> 00:44:39.360
already do. Now. You know, if you play the drums

519
00:44:39.719 --> 00:44:42.440
and you get on stage and they suddenly say to you, oh,

520
00:44:42.519 --> 00:44:47.159
by the way, can you play the Can you play

521
00:44:47.159 --> 00:44:53.920
the violin instead? Then yeah, I mean if you don't

522
00:44:53.920 --> 00:44:57.000
play the violin, then that would be that wouldn't be

523
00:44:57.239 --> 00:45:01.800
a great situation. But that's not going to happen, is it.

524
00:45:03.760 --> 00:45:06.239
You know what you're playing, you know what you're doing

525
00:45:06.559 --> 00:45:10.519
when you get on stage. If you're listening to this

526
00:45:10.599 --> 00:45:14.719
because you've got a play coming up, just remember the words.

527
00:45:16.079 --> 00:45:17.679
If you know what you're going to say, you know

528
00:45:17.760 --> 00:45:20.599
what you're going to do. Actors help each other out,

529
00:45:20.639 --> 00:45:23.280
don't they.

530
00:45:23.320 --> 00:45:26.079
And it's quite weird. I noticed this I used to do.

531
00:45:27.760 --> 00:45:28.280
I used to do.

532
00:45:28.320 --> 00:45:31.960
Drama at school. I was I wasn't very good at it.

533
00:45:32.119 --> 00:45:34.239
I used to just play around. I didn't really take

534
00:45:34.280 --> 00:45:43.679
it seriously. But I noticed that people would They wouldn't

535
00:45:43.679 --> 00:45:49.559
necessarily remember everything they had to say until they were

536
00:45:49.599 --> 00:45:55.679
on stage, and then they got into the groove a

537
00:45:55.719 --> 00:46:00.119
bit like a say, like a CD, or like a

538
00:46:00.119 --> 00:46:06.039
a record, like an old vinyl, get into that groove

539
00:46:06.639 --> 00:46:09.400
like a train on the tracks. There's nothing to do.

540
00:46:10.199 --> 00:46:11.880
You just keep going and you're going to end up

541
00:46:11.920 --> 00:46:22.119
where where you want to end up. And I don't know,

542
00:46:22.239 --> 00:46:24.280
does it help remembering why you're doing it in the

543
00:46:24.320 --> 00:46:30.719
first place. Does it help remembering that you don't have

544
00:46:30.800 --> 00:46:34.719
to do anything. You're doing it because you want to

545
00:46:34.719 --> 00:46:41.960
do it, and you always have a choice. Always, even

546
00:46:42.000 --> 00:46:46.639
in the most extreme situations, we always have a choice. Sometimes,

547
00:46:47.039 --> 00:46:50.920
you know, it makes a lot of sense to make

548
00:46:51.039 --> 00:46:55.159
certain choices. But ultimately, if it's if it's something, do

549
00:46:55.199 --> 00:46:57.440
you want to do it or not. If you want

550
00:46:57.480 --> 00:47:01.159
to do it, do it, enjoy it, and break look

551
00:47:01.239 --> 00:47:05.719
forward to it. Nothing to lose, what is there to lose?

552
00:47:10.519 --> 00:47:12.760
I mean, you know, I'm know I mentioned earlier, like

553
00:47:14.039 --> 00:47:18.199
doing a pool on a drum set, that that probably

554
00:47:18.239 --> 00:47:22.800
wouldn't go down so well. I just remember the sea

555
00:47:22.840 --> 00:47:27.119
cadets I was trying to get out of. I didn't

556
00:47:27.119 --> 00:47:33.079
want to march anymore. But it didn't work the hand

557
00:47:33.119 --> 00:47:35.320
of me a violin. No, they didn't. I don't know

558
00:47:35.360 --> 00:47:40.960
why I said that. That was weird though, being in

559
00:47:40.960 --> 00:47:45.440
the middle of town, you know, playing the drums and

560
00:47:45.480 --> 00:47:47.360
just seeing all these people I went to school with.

561
00:47:47.800 --> 00:47:54.239
It's very weird. It it broke through the confidence that

562
00:47:54.599 --> 00:48:00.519
I didn't know. It wasn't even it got to the

563
00:48:00.519 --> 00:48:04.440
point where I just didn't care. I'd do it, and

564
00:48:04.519 --> 00:48:06.599
maybe I was to start the first time I ever

565
00:48:06.679 --> 00:48:12.840
marched through the town knowing that my classmates, maybe teachers,

566
00:48:13.840 --> 00:48:20.320
family members were going to be watching at the side,

567
00:48:20.880 --> 00:48:27.000
and it was a little bit oh but after.

568
00:48:26.760 --> 00:48:27.760
A little while.

569
00:48:29.360 --> 00:48:32.719
Of doing it, I mean within the first time, after

570
00:48:32.760 --> 00:48:37.960
a few minutes, so it's like, I don't care. It

571
00:48:38.079 --> 00:48:40.920
just doesn't matter. And they're probably in reality, they're not

572
00:48:40.960 --> 00:48:44.039
really looking at me anyway. There's all these other people

573
00:48:44.039 --> 00:48:47.400
that are looking at so the parents of the other

574
00:48:47.480 --> 00:48:50.800
kids will be looking at them their kids, the friends

575
00:48:50.800 --> 00:48:55.559
of the other kids were looking at their kids. None

576
00:48:55.559 --> 00:48:57.599
of my teachers liked me anyway, so they probably weren't

577
00:48:57.599 --> 00:49:03.079
looking at meerhaps hopeing it I'll trip over. I don't

578
00:49:03.079 --> 00:49:07.880
know why I say that. I don't know if they would. Plus,

579
00:49:08.079 --> 00:49:12.800
I had these big drumsticks that I could defend myself

580
00:49:12.880 --> 00:49:16.079
with if I had to. So if a ninja just

581
00:49:16.559 --> 00:49:20.079
jumped down all dressed in black with, as I gonna say,

582
00:49:20.079 --> 00:49:24.079
samurai sword, I could just fend them off with my drumsticks.

583
00:49:26.679 --> 00:49:28.239
That's the kind of things I used to think about

584
00:49:28.280 --> 00:49:32.679
back then. Admittedly I suppose I still do, because I

585
00:49:32.719 --> 00:49:42.800
just said it. I never understood why. I just wonder

586
00:49:42.880 --> 00:49:49.760
how drums, how they got to do it. How they

587
00:49:49.800 --> 00:49:59.039
came about probably not relevant, but just how it's weird,

588
00:49:59.079 --> 00:50:05.079
isn't it how things come about over time? I mean,

589
00:50:05.119 --> 00:50:07.400
I don't know it was an animal skin to start with.

590
00:50:07.440 --> 00:50:09.760
I suppose, wasn't it.

591
00:50:09.840 --> 00:50:13.639
Maybe I don't know.

592
00:50:13.719 --> 00:50:19.719
Maybe they were going through a drought, the people were hungry.

593
00:50:20.079 --> 00:50:23.519
They had a cow that was hungry, so they just

594
00:50:23.719 --> 00:50:25.719
like trying to make the cow feel a bit better,

595
00:50:25.760 --> 00:50:29.679
and they patting him on the back or whatever because

596
00:50:29.679 --> 00:50:32.880
he's hungry, he's hot. You know, he's like collow inside,

597
00:50:33.000 --> 00:50:37.159
isn't it. And it's like a drum kind of sound.

598
00:50:37.559 --> 00:50:42.920
It's like, oh, this is good, and decides always sounds

599
00:50:42.920 --> 00:50:49.079
better with sticks and ended up walking around of a

600
00:50:49.119 --> 00:50:55.559
cow wrapped around his neck. I imagine a cow would

601
00:50:55.559 --> 00:50:56.960
get a bit annoyed after a while.

602
00:50:57.000 --> 00:51:03.360
But don't mess with a cow.

603
00:51:03.400 --> 00:51:08.760
They will get their own back, always out for revenge, spiteful,

604
00:51:11.000 --> 00:51:13.440
don't honestly, don't get on the wrong side of the cow.

605
00:51:15.840 --> 00:51:26.400
Tricksters and never forget. So this is turned weird. I

606
00:51:26.440 --> 00:51:30.719
can I'm moving on something you can do with the

607
00:51:30.960 --> 00:51:34.480
if you play an instrument, as in Maria plays the drums,

608
00:51:34.480 --> 00:51:37.840
If you play a trumpet, you play the guitar, maybe

609
00:51:37.880 --> 00:51:44.239
you sing whatever. You can actually rehearse in real time,

610
00:51:45.360 --> 00:51:50.199
not on stage, but you can rehearse just like you

611
00:51:50.239 --> 00:51:54.559
do rehearse the instrument. And notice, so if you play

612
00:51:54.559 --> 00:52:03.599
the guitar, every time you drum the keys, strong the keys,

613
00:52:03.599 --> 00:52:08.960
strum the strings rather or press on the strings, it

614
00:52:09.079 --> 00:52:14.400
sends a signal for you to relax, to feel confident,

615
00:52:14.519 --> 00:52:19.880
to be focused, and to play at your best. But

616
00:52:19.880 --> 00:52:26.679
at the same time, feel relaxed and have that focus

617
00:52:26.800 --> 00:52:29.599
that you need, so you're not thinking about anything else

618
00:52:29.800 --> 00:52:33.760
because nothing else is relative, nothing else is important in

619
00:52:33.800 --> 00:52:43.360
that moment, just what you're doing. And when it comes

620
00:52:43.400 --> 00:52:48.199
to the night of performing, you're already prepared for that.

621
00:52:49.000 --> 00:52:51.360
And as soon as you even look at the instrument

622
00:52:51.400 --> 00:52:59.519
that you're going to be playing, you feel relaxed and

623
00:53:00.079 --> 00:53:05.400
I'm k you sit down. If you're sitting down, it

624
00:53:05.440 --> 00:53:08.280
gets you into that zone. It's almost like you become

625
00:53:08.360 --> 00:53:13.599
part of the instrument. You become part of the guitar,

626
00:53:14.039 --> 00:53:20.119
You become part of the trumpet, or if you're dancing,

627
00:53:20.239 --> 00:53:30.039
you become part of the song of the stage. If

628
00:53:30.039 --> 00:53:33.360
you're performing, you almost like you become part of the audience.

629
00:53:34.280 --> 00:53:37.440
There's that energy. You all joined together, and we are

630
00:53:37.519 --> 00:53:42.960
all literally joined together by energy. We're not really separate.

631
00:53:44.760 --> 00:53:48.719
Everyone listening to this is connected to me by energy.

632
00:53:49.639 --> 00:53:54.159
We're all connected together in a weird way. We're not

633
00:53:54.559 --> 00:53:54.840
in a.

634
00:53:56.639 --> 00:53:58.239
Yeah, I mean, it's.

635
00:54:00.239 --> 00:54:02.760
I just can't think of the movie Centerpede, So let's

636
00:54:02.800 --> 00:54:05.239
move on from that. But I'm just saying we're all

637
00:54:05.280 --> 00:54:12.599
connected in an energetic sense, and there's energy through voices,

638
00:54:12.719 --> 00:54:17.639
energy through words, and even though I am possibly in

639
00:54:17.679 --> 00:54:21.679
a completely different country to where you are, my words

640
00:54:21.920 --> 00:54:28.320
and my voice can reach you calm you.

641
00:54:32.519 --> 00:54:34.360
Allow you to feel.

642
00:54:35.559 --> 00:54:49.519
Relaxed and present, and also reconnect with the joy that

643
00:54:49.679 --> 00:55:00.000
you have for performing, because there's something quite special about

644
00:55:00.039 --> 00:55:03.719
out performing. You know, there's there's a there's a buzz

645
00:55:03.880 --> 00:55:11.559
that I haven't done everything in the world, but I

646
00:55:11.599 --> 00:55:14.440
think a lot of people would agree that there's a

647
00:55:14.480 --> 00:55:17.920
certain buzz that comes from performing in front of an

648
00:55:17.920 --> 00:55:25.400
audience that you just won't get anywhere else. And of

649
00:55:25.400 --> 00:55:28.159
course it's going to be different for different people. It's

650
00:55:28.159 --> 00:55:29.960
also going to be different depending on what you do,

651
00:55:30.440 --> 00:55:35.880
but there's going to be similarities whether you're in the band,

652
00:55:38.039 --> 00:55:43.920
whether you're in a play, whether it's a carol service,

653
00:55:44.480 --> 00:55:48.400
whether it's even if it was some kind of political

654
00:55:48.480 --> 00:55:52.639
debate or you're doing a spelling bee or something like that.

655
00:55:52.920 --> 00:55:59.400
You're on stage in front of people, and there's an

656
00:55:59.519 --> 00:56:08.079
energy it, there's an excitement about it. It can be

657
00:56:08.159 --> 00:56:16.360
quite moorish. I mean, some people never want to quit.

658
00:56:16.440 --> 00:56:20.000
They never want to stop performing. Some people performing until

659
00:56:20.039 --> 00:56:23.000
they're in their nineties if they can, because they love

660
00:56:23.039 --> 00:56:31.079
it so much. I mean, there's actors that are still

661
00:56:31.119 --> 00:56:41.519
performing in their nineties when acts Arose is about one

662
00:56:41.639 --> 00:56:42.800
hundred and five.

663
00:56:44.119 --> 00:56:44.400
Is not.

664
00:56:44.480 --> 00:56:48.400
I'm sure he's not. But while they're Rolling Stones, they're

665
00:56:48.400 --> 00:57:00.639
all in their eighties, aren't they. They're still performing. I'm

666
00:57:00.639 --> 00:57:02.519
not going to say anything about the Rolling Stones. I'm

667
00:57:02.519 --> 00:57:08.639
not gonna imagine Axel Rose fans dare Jason? I was

668
00:57:08.679 --> 00:57:11.079
with you until a bit about Axl Rose. I have

669
00:57:11.199 --> 00:57:14.079
been a fan of his since nineteen twenty three. How

670
00:57:14.159 --> 00:57:20.280
dare you say that he's old? Visualize so visualize it,

671
00:57:20.559 --> 00:57:32.519
you know, the visualizing imagining that performance going really well

672
00:57:35.400 --> 00:57:37.519
is something that you can do over and over and

673
00:57:37.559 --> 00:57:44.400
over again, rehearsing it over and over and over to

674
00:57:44.440 --> 00:57:47.559
the point where it feels it may feel like you've

675
00:57:47.599 --> 00:57:53.800
already performed, you've already done it, like you know how

676
00:57:53.840 --> 00:57:59.760
it feels after the event, you skipped forward all the

677
00:57:59.760 --> 00:58:03.639
way to the end and you're looking back thinking that

678
00:58:03.679 --> 00:58:08.440
it's really good. I'm so pleased it went so well,

679
00:58:14.679 --> 00:58:23.440
and then you're looking forward to the next one. And

680
00:58:23.559 --> 00:58:26.960
of course there's something to be said for being prepared,

681
00:58:29.039 --> 00:58:33.840
so you can also include that in any visualizations you do.

682
00:58:34.280 --> 00:58:42.679
Being prepared for doing it, knowing what you're going to do, rehearsing,

683
00:58:43.119 --> 00:58:47.400
just being prepared. I want you to know you're prepared.

684
00:58:49.000 --> 00:58:58.119
Everything else. As I say, it's just cheese. Actually, I'm

685
00:58:58.159 --> 00:59:01.480
not sure if anyone's ever said that. What was it?

686
00:59:01.639 --> 00:59:04.800
Just chocolate? Just coffee? Gravy?

687
00:59:04.840 --> 00:59:10.079
That's it, just gravy. That's what the young people used

688
00:59:10.119 --> 00:59:20.280
to say twenty five years ago. You could also prepare

689
00:59:20.360 --> 00:59:33.920
yourself by saying some affirmations, reminding yourself that you can

690
00:59:33.960 --> 00:59:37.800
feel calm, reminding yourself that you know what you're doing,

691
00:59:38.280 --> 00:59:41.159
and reminding yourself that there's a reason you're doing this

692
00:59:42.000 --> 00:59:46.599
and you want to do it. You want to be

693
00:59:46.719 --> 00:59:50.880
up there on stage, that's why you're doing it. You

694
00:59:50.920 --> 00:59:57.199
want to enjoy it. So an example I suppose of

695
00:59:57.239 --> 01:00:01.400
an affirmation, I'll give you a few, but you can

696
01:00:01.440 --> 01:00:05.239
think upside of your own. You think up something that

697
01:00:05.440 --> 01:00:12.920
suits you personally, maybe something to do with your own

698
01:00:14.119 --> 01:00:23.760
particular performance situation. So for example, if you're playing the drums,

699
01:00:25.760 --> 01:00:33.360
you can just you know, say, my shoulders and my

700
01:00:33.480 --> 01:00:40.639
jaw feel relaxed. My shoulders and my jaw feel relaxed.

701
01:00:44.840 --> 01:00:48.519
If you're in a play, you can just say to yourself,

702
01:00:49.039 --> 01:01:06.320
I remember everything I need to remember. There's more general

703
01:01:06.519 --> 01:01:17.800
things like I embrace my performance, feeling calm and feeling positive.

704
01:01:25.639 --> 01:01:28.159
And it's another This is one that you can actually

705
01:01:28.239 --> 01:01:39.840
really focus on before and during the performance. So you

706
01:01:39.880 --> 01:01:43.639
can do this as you practice also in your mind

707
01:01:44.320 --> 01:01:53.880
and as you practice in real life. Each time I play,

708
01:01:54.559 --> 01:02:06.280
I relax more deeply into the music. Each time I play,

709
01:02:07.119 --> 01:02:19.559
I relax more deeply into the music. Because ultimately, if

710
01:02:19.639 --> 01:02:26.000
you're in a band, or if you're an acquire, if

711
01:02:26.000 --> 01:02:30.760
you're in a play, if you're dancing, whatever, you become

712
01:02:30.960 --> 01:02:39.960
part of that The instrument becomes part of that performance,

713
01:02:40.639 --> 01:02:45.400
and you become part of the instrument. Therefore, you become

714
01:02:45.519 --> 01:02:50.960
part of the performance. If you're dancing, you become part

715
01:02:51.159 --> 01:03:01.599
of the dancing. If you're in a play, you're also

716
01:03:01.719 --> 01:03:08.199
part of that play. You become the play with other people.

717
01:03:13.840 --> 01:03:22.880
That energy from the audience makes everything a lot easier

718
01:03:22.880 --> 01:03:32.639
as well, because ultimately most audiences want you to do well.

719
01:03:33.840 --> 01:03:35.000
They've not come out.

720
01:03:37.360 --> 01:03:38.400
With negativity.

721
01:03:38.440 --> 01:03:40.679
They're coming out because they want to have fun, they

722
01:03:40.679 --> 01:03:43.679
want to enjoy themselves, and they want to see you

723
01:03:43.840 --> 01:04:05.639
enjoy yourself. I've seen people do karaoke and sung so well,

724
01:04:09.440 --> 01:04:12.320
but people in the audience are just I've seen the

725
01:04:12.320 --> 01:04:17.039
pub so no one has necessarily taken much notice. They

726
01:04:17.320 --> 01:04:20.840
all clap, but they're just like okay. And then I've

727
01:04:20.840 --> 01:04:26.320
seen someone go on and didn't do didn't sing particularly great,

728
01:04:27.400 --> 01:04:32.400
but put effort in and the whole place goes up

729
01:04:32.440 --> 01:04:43.039
in cheers because they appreciate the fact that the person

730
01:04:43.519 --> 01:04:46.840
has made an effort. Or maybe it's a young kid

731
01:04:47.119 --> 01:04:52.440
that's gone on and everyone's cheering with the kid on

732
01:04:54.679 --> 01:04:57.960
and it's nice. I think that's why some of these

733
01:04:57.960 --> 01:05:01.599
talent shows like Britain's Got Talent are popular because I

734
01:05:01.719 --> 01:05:07.239
have people on their young people, elderly people, people have

735
01:05:07.320 --> 01:05:14.880
all played all or types performing some that maybe not

736
01:05:14.880 --> 01:05:17.639
want to say, shouldn't perform, but maybe wouldn't get to

737
01:05:17.679 --> 01:05:22.280
perform otherwise. Yet they get an opportunity to be on

738
01:05:22.400 --> 01:05:28.840
stage and a good thing about something like a choir.

739
01:05:31.440 --> 01:05:33.679
Or when I was in a band, I wasn't particularly

740
01:05:33.760 --> 01:05:36.599
good at any of the music instruments that I played,

741
01:05:38.480 --> 01:05:40.559
but the rest of the band drowned me out. So

742
01:05:41.679 --> 01:05:47.760
even if I did above note or I just couldn't

743
01:05:47.760 --> 01:05:56.400
played a completely different tune, which happened once, and it

744
01:05:56.599 --> 01:05:59.760
wasn't my fault. The tune was supposed to go to

745
01:06:00.039 --> 01:06:03.239
do do do do do do do do do do

746
01:06:03.400 --> 01:06:05.519
do do do do do do do do do do

747
01:06:05.519 --> 01:06:07.119
do do.

748
01:06:06.559 --> 01:06:08.280
Do do Do do do do do do.

749
01:06:08.320 --> 01:06:15.280
Do do do do do do do do do do. Now,

750
01:06:16.440 --> 01:06:18.719
this was on a Sunday morning. It was Trafalgar Day.

751
01:06:19.079 --> 01:06:19.559
There was.

752
01:06:21.079 --> 01:06:27.760
Cic cadets from every town. There probably the hundreds if

753
01:06:27.800 --> 01:06:34.159
not more ciccadets all walk in the streets on Trafalgar Day,

754
01:06:34.639 --> 01:06:39.920
which is a really big like naval day. The night

755
01:06:39.960 --> 01:06:45.199
before or the evening before, I got a little bit

756
01:06:45.199 --> 01:06:48.440
distracted and I was thinking about the Duke's a hazard.

757
01:06:49.760 --> 01:06:52.039
So I was going do do do do do do

758
01:06:52.039 --> 01:06:56.360
do do do do, but no one heard it. The

759
01:06:56.400 --> 01:06:58.280
person next to me heard it and started laughing, but

760
01:07:01.719 --> 01:07:08.000
it wasn't heard and no one cared because no one's

761
01:07:08.039 --> 01:07:13.000
really looking at me anyway. Okay, one person said, can

762
01:07:13.039 --> 01:07:16.000
you pull your trousers up please? But other than that,

763
01:07:18.880 --> 01:07:37.559
you know, so, what was I talking about? Oh? Yeah,

764
01:07:37.559 --> 01:07:42.800
So the bottom line really is to look forward to

765
01:07:42.880 --> 01:07:46.679
it because you want to do it, because you enjoy

766
01:07:46.800 --> 01:07:55.519
doing it, and because it's fun. And what other reason

767
01:07:55.639 --> 01:08:10.119
is there really which means anything other than feeling calm

768
01:08:10.159 --> 01:08:14.719
and relaxed. Yeah, a bit excited. You know this the

769
01:08:14.760 --> 01:08:20.119
adrenaline adrenalines there are standard when it comes to tonight,

770
01:08:21.479 --> 01:08:26.560
but it's a different type of adrenaline. It's positive adrenaline.

771
01:08:26.600 --> 01:08:32.199
It's a there's no no negativity involved or attached. That's

772
01:08:32.279 --> 01:08:36.079
not there at all, because it's it doesn't fit. There's

773
01:08:36.079 --> 01:08:42.439
no room, there's no space for it. It's not relevant,

774
01:08:43.880 --> 01:08:49.960
it's not required. You can't you can't have you can't

775
01:08:50.000 --> 01:08:52.399
feel relaxed and stressed at the same time.

776
01:08:52.720 --> 01:08:53.600
The two don't.

777
01:08:53.399 --> 01:08:59.359
Really go together, not really, not when you've really relaxed,

778
01:09:08.000 --> 01:09:12.399
And a good thing is you can also feel focused

779
01:09:12.640 --> 01:09:16.159
and relaxed at the same time, which is good. A nice,

780
01:09:18.560 --> 01:09:26.000
focused relaxation where you can do and enjoy doing what

781
01:09:26.079 --> 01:09:34.199
you want to do on stage, performing doing what you

782
01:09:34.239 --> 01:09:37.359
know you can do, what you've rehearsed, what you practiced,

783
01:09:39.479 --> 01:09:47.479
ultimately doing what you've chosen to do, and when you

784
01:09:47.560 --> 01:09:54.159
realize you've chosen to do it, what possible reason is

785
01:09:54.159 --> 01:10:01.239
there to feel anything but positive? Really? In reality, there

786
01:10:01.279 --> 01:10:14.199
isn't is there? Comfort and calmness and a degree of

787
01:10:14.239 --> 01:10:20.279
excitement surely is pretty much all you can have now

788
01:10:21.800 --> 01:10:35.239
because you've chosen to do this. It's your choice. And

789
01:10:35.319 --> 01:10:42.399
if you're doing something you've chosen to do, what it

790
01:10:42.439 --> 01:10:46.760
can't be anything, especially in this situation like this, What

791
01:10:46.880 --> 01:10:53.359
can it be but calm? How can you feel but

792
01:10:53.760 --> 01:11:04.000
relaxed and positive. It's not like you're going to get

793
01:11:04.039 --> 01:11:07.000
on stage and someone's going to say, now, build me

794
01:11:07.079 --> 01:11:08.159
a space rocket.

795
01:11:09.640 --> 01:11:09.840
Yeah.

796
01:11:10.159 --> 01:11:11.880
I mean if someone did that to me, I'd be

797
01:11:14.000 --> 01:11:16.560
that that would be a bit distressing. Mind you, I

798
01:11:16.600 --> 01:11:19.239
am a rocket scientist, so it be okay for me.

799
01:11:20.159 --> 01:11:20.479
I'm not.

800
01:11:20.520 --> 01:11:22.840
I don't know why I said that. Why would someone

801
01:11:22.880 --> 01:11:25.359
ask you to build a space rocket? But it's not

802
01:11:25.399 --> 01:11:30.199
going to happen, is it? You know why you're there?

803
01:11:30.279 --> 01:11:33.399
You know why you're going there. And also you've got

804
01:11:33.399 --> 01:11:36.399
the support of the other people, and that does include

805
01:11:36.399 --> 01:11:42.039
the audience. They want to see you succeed. But they're

806
01:11:42.039 --> 01:11:47.039
not bothered. They're not examining you. They're not it's like, oh,

807
01:11:47.199 --> 01:11:50.520
watching every move you make. They're just there to have fun.

808
01:11:51.560 --> 01:11:56.399
They're more focused on their own in the feelings than

809
01:11:56.399 --> 01:12:04.359
what's going on in anyone else's mind. So I'll leave

810
01:12:04.399 --> 01:12:08.640
you with that. Let me know if it's useful or

811
01:12:08.640 --> 01:12:10.960
if it was just a punch of rubbish. I don't

812
01:12:11.000 --> 01:12:14.399
know who it might have been, so hopefully it was

813
01:12:15.840 --> 01:12:19.239
a little bit useful for you, So thank you for listening.

814
01:12:19.319 --> 01:12:21.920
Remember to be kind to yourself because you deserve to

815
01:12:21.920 --> 01:12:26.319
be happy. Be gentle with yourself. You do deserve to

816
01:12:26.359 --> 01:12:32.680
feel safe and good luck with your performance, feeling relaxed

817
01:12:32.720 --> 01:12:38.239
and confident because you want to, because you choose to.

818
01:12:41.079 --> 01:12:44.840
Lots of love. Bye,