April 15, 2025

(no music) Let me bore your pain away #23 | Jason Newland | 15th April 2025

(no music) Let me bore your pain away #23 | Jason Newland | 15th April 2025
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Hello, and welcome to Jasonnewland dot com. My name is

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Jason new Land. Please only listen when you can safely

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close your eyes. Hello, Hello, how are you. It's quite

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warm in here today. We've had to close the window

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just to block out the the found from the garden

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because even though it's raining, there's still sound in the garden.

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People are still out there. So I've got one neighbor

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just continuously. We're not continuously, but every now eh ah.

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I don't know why they're yelling out.

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There.

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So this is let me bow your pain away. And

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just to let you know, I do have a YouTube

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channel at Jason Newland, a Facebook group called Jason Newland's

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Boring Group. So so a look, yeah, Jason Newland's Boring Group.

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I'm just doning to look at this. I've got a

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message from Hillary a message. It's a post a massive

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thank you for the trivia Tuesday menopause. Had to listen

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five times and still not sure I got to hear it. Yeah,

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I kept falling asleep. Also, the Frozen Shoulder episode was great,

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but the game was asleep ten minutes in. You rock

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at what you do? Thank you. My eyesight's getting bad.

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I really thought that was a different word. Then I

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need to get my eyes done, not done tested. I'm

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never going to get my eyes done. I don't know.

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Remember one name got eyes lasered, and she was she

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must have been in her eighties then, and she said

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she couldn't believe how old she looked. After, you know,

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her eyes heeled up. She couldn't believe how old she looked.

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And I said, you just should have asked me. I

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have told you. We laughed. So m mmm mmmmmm mmmmmm.

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See I just opened a window. Oh so if there's

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a bit of sound outside, it doesn't matter. This isn't

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a sleep recording anyway, although when I do the deeps

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and let me boy to sleep recordings, I do also

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have background sounds. I just kind of figure. I mean,

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it took me quite a while to kind of get

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my head around this, but I figured that it's not

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necessarily very useful to get in that frame of mind

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where you need complete silence, because that's how I used

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to be. And I got to the point where I could.

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I had to wear ear plugs. Just the slightest sound

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used to bug me, and then I burst my ear

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drum with the ear plugs. I just basically pushed them

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in too far, pulled them out or pulled one over

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them out and my ear ear drum or my ear

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drum was bust. Had to go to the doctors, and

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I was I had I can never think of the word,

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that dizzy thing, So yeah, I had that for a

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while because of the balance issue with my ear. So

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after that, I had to stop wearing earplugs. So I

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kind of had no choice but to just to get

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used to the sounds around me. And the weird thing

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about it, I'll tell you. Even the place I used

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to live in the YMCA two thousand and one to

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two thousand and four and the beginning two thousand and four,

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it was like a studio apartment, and I was always

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wearing the air plugs, you know, through a lot of

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that time. And the it's kind of weird because I

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took a lady home with me, you know, someone that

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i'd met, and she wanted to come home with me,

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so I did, because well I did, and I had

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a very confused expression on my face because why do

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you want to come home with me? But she had

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a good night and stuff whatever, So she came home

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to my flat or my studio apartment, and I had

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to get her to just stand outside while I tried

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to clear away all the stuff on the floor. It's

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because I didn't know this was going to happen. I

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just really didn't expect it. I thought it would be.

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When I said, I thought it might be in the

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alleyway or in a shop and a shop doorway out,

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nothing weird like that, But just I genuinely didn't just

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didn't think that far ahead.

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And then we, you know, we spend a little bit

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of time together intimately, yeah, as adults sometimes do, apparently.

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And so it's time to go to sleep. She had

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to get up early in the morning because she was

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a nurse. I he didn't have to get out so early,

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but I did have an appointment to go to about

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eleven o'clock. So I'm laying there and I'm thinking, and

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this is long before I burst my ear drums. This

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is a few years a few years before that, And

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I realized I had to find a way to put

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my ear plugs in so that she didn't see it,

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because I'd suddenly become a little bit embarrassed about wearing

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ear plugs at night. And whenever I got the men

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there'd be a tap on my shoulder like this, are

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you asleep? Can you not hear me? So I had

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to kind of leave one out. In the end, I

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just gave up and I just chucked them on the

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floor with all the other rubbish and pots and pans, dishes.

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And that's the first time I realized that it was

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noisy downstairs that night, because I'd never slept in that

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particular place, the studio apartment flat thing, never slept there

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without earplugs, and I was like, oh no, So I

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had to move out of there because it's sort of

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just I think it's new neighbors. Maybe I don't know,

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But over time I realized that it doesn't matter. I'm

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not saying that, you know, I can sleep through a

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drilling or you know, like a marching band in the

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garden or marching through my bedroom. That might be a

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little bit disruptive, or the tree outside started singing to me,

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but that that'd be just that would be just disruptive

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on different levels, I guess. But it's something quite nice

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for it, just lying in bed and listening to the sounds,

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being aware of now and I know that this isn't

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an an insomnia recording or a sleep recording, but it

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is relaxation as part of this, and I find I

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find that my voice makes weird noises. Sometimes I'm actually

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probably ready for some food, but it's weird. I don't

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actually feel pritgularly hungry, but my my tummy is kind

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of maybe I've just got a greedy tell me because

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I don't actually feel like I need to eat right now,

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but my stomach's kind of doing a little bit of

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a gurgle like feed me, which is a bit strange.

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So what this recording is, it's I just waffle on.

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Sometimes I will talk about different pain relief techniques. This

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is for people chronic pain, and only listen when you

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have permission from your doctor, because you know you need

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to know the cause of that physical discomfort before you

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do anything to relinquish it, to reduce it, to send

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it away, to feel better. Sometimes I will just talk

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about random stuff that has got nothing to do with

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physical discomfort or ways to reduce that and increased comfort

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and relaxation. And sometimes I will be very focused, very

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focused on maybe a particular type of chronic pain relief,

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a technique that I've that I'm interested in, or something

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that perhaps I've just discovered or rediscovered, you know, kind

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of a technique that I've used many many years ago

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and haven't really revisited it before. And it's also quite

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nice to mix and match as well. But you know,

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sometimes just having the intention, the intention in your mind

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to have more relief in that part of your body

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as well as the rest of your body as well.

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But it's something about, you know, when the rest of

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your body relaxes. So let's say your shoulders feel looser,

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that can have a role on effect to your arms,

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you know, the upper arms, your elbows, your forearms, your wrists.

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And it's not just because they're all connected, because that

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does have an effect, but ultimately, every part of your

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body is connected. Your hands and your fingers. Your fingers

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are connected to your toes. That's a song, isn't it.

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And every part is connected to every other part. So when,

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for example, I say it was to focus on your

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right hand, and that's all you're doing, just focusing on

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your right hand. So I'm going to do it myself.

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I want to put my right hand on my knee,

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I'll move it to my right knee. That's more comfortable

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and it's palm down, and all I'm going to do

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is just focus on my hand. By the way, Vinnie's

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chewed on a bone in the background, just in case

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you're wondering what all that clicking sound is. I put

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him some dinner out, well breakfast, because it's ten fifty

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one in the morning, but he's keeps going up to

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it and he's like, oh, no, no thanks, And it's

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the really good stuff. I mean, I wouldn't eat it,

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but you know, I say good stuff as in it's

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I don't know, well, it was just more expensive. I

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you know, like to not give them the same thing

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every day. So now although I focused on my right hand,

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I can When I first started focusing on my right hand,

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I was also noticing my right knee, which I have

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again now a little bit because I'm mentioning it. Which

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just shows the power of our minds and the power

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of words. You know, if I mentioned your left shoulder,

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that's what you think about. It's not it's no, almost

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like it's a natural thing. Yeah, I focus on your

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back of your neck. But even if I say don't

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focus on your left knee, your left leg, even if

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I say don't focus on it, you're going to focus

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on it because it's been mentioned, which just shows you

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how powerful words are, how much influence just a simple

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sentence like that can have on your physical feelings. I

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find that quite fascinating. Really, I always have done, and

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it's nothing new to me. I'm not I'm not come

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up with something creatively genius by saying this is just

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the way things are. It doesn't mean I'm not creative genius.

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But you know, one day I might find someone who

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believes that. You never know, it's possible. So you got

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your right hand, now you can use the other hand

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if you want. It doesn't matter. It's not that important

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to focus on one particular hand. In fact, if you

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don't want to focus on your hand, you can focus

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on your foot. It's just really about focusing on one

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part of your body. That's really the main thing. But

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I'm going to focus on my right hand, and the

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more I focus on it, even though I'm not giving

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it all my attention because clearly I'm talking to you.

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I can also hear the birds in the trees in

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the you know, outside, no trees inside that. I can

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hear Vinny doing his thing. I can hear what sounds

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like the distant traffic or maybe a train or even

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a plane. It's so so distant, I can't really make

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it out because you know, motorways there's that gentle hum

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like continuous be there's a really really busy motorway. It's

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not close, it's not far away, but it's you know,

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it's a fair enough distance, so I don't I don't

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hear the traffic much other than maybe on a really clear,

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quiet night. Sometimes it's a very quiet day to day.

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It's been raining outside, which means there's less people about.

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It's just there's almost a sense of peacefulness, which I

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quite like cleansliness. Like we haven't had any rain really

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for quite a while. We had a little bit yesterday

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to be fair, but just a little bit. But this

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seems to have just washed away stuff, made the air

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seem a little bit cleaner, a little bit fresher. There's

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the smell of the grass, you know, when the rains

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on the grass and on the trees. It's a different

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kind of smell, isn't there. Yeah, feels a bit more fresh.

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So I'm still noticing that stuff. And if I'm on

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this while I was focus on that, I'll probably gain

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more attention to that than I did in my hand.

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But my hands were really relaxed, and as I focus

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on it, I'm noticing that the fingers, or my fingers

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rather on my right hand are it kind of relaxing

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on their own separately, almost moving a little bit, not

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not in a kind of a dancing way, but just

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how to explain it, really maybe stretching a bit, relaxing,

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letting go. Now. The thing is, when you focus on

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just one part of your body, it has an effect

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on the rest of your body, has an effect on

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your mind because when you consider that, maybe your mind

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and whatever's going on inside your mind and whatever speed

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the thoughts are, when you relax your hand or any

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particular part of your body, it can slow down thoughts

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in your mind. Maybe it's just because you're not giving

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attention to your mind. You're giving your attention to your hand, relaxing, loose, peaceful.

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The rest of my body is feeling relaxed, but the

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most relaxed part is my right hand now. But I've

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noticed my lower back, where I have arthritis, there's zero

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feeling there. There was now, there's nothing going on. It

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just feels exactly the same as the rest of my body.

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I got no idea why that is, because ironically, sitting

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in this chair is can be quite uncomfortable for me

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on my lower back. And right now, nothing, there's nothing

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this is. This is one of the most ridiculous things

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as well that I've noticed with myself and also with

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people that I've seen in the past. Helping them to relieve,

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you know, their physical discomfort is one it once it

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does actually reduce who reduces sometimes just disappearing the natural

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thing is to start looking for it. Now, I'm as

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guilty as anyone else for doing this, like where is it?

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Where's it gone? And it's It's kind of a weird thing,

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isn't it? Because if you you don't flush the toilet

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when you've done a poo and think I want to

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find where that went to you, I started looking through

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the drains, going through the drainage system for the sewers.

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I want to find my poo. No, you wouldn't do that.

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So that's a weird visual, isn't it. With your little

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hat with a light on it sifting through the sewers,

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how would you know? How would you know it's your one?

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I mean, they don't have our names on them, do

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they I suppose unless you put a little flag in it.

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But then even if you did put a flag in it,

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it would like just it still might fall off. You know.

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I'm trying to move back to the hand now, okay,

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but it's strange, just the feeling of relaxation. I mean,

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when you think about it, all our lives using the

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different parts of our body, hands, her feet, our mouths

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our eyes, our jaw, every part of the body really

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is just being used from day one. And can you

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imagine if you was working all the time for in

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my case, quite a few I don't want to say

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my age anymore. I'm getting to that point where, no,

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guess how ol do you think I am? And I

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hope they say something younger, they say something older. That's

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when I just walk away, you know, That's what I did.

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Someone says, if I say how old are you, then

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I figured out about my age, and they said, yes,

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I always go like twenty years older, soy eighty three.

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Sometimes they laugh, sometimes they don't actually messed up. I

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got to be kept. My mouth has got me in

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trouble A few times there was this was it? Oh yeah,

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I had this dinner party thing. We're all around the

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table eating and the the host was just going to

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get the food. So we're all sitting around. I think

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we had bread rolls and one there was a lady

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that I knew. I knew everyone on the table. Really.

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She said, Oh, I've got a special it's a secret

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I'm going to announce later to my boyfriend. Our boyfriend

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was in the kitchen bring the food in, and I

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just blurred out, you're pregnant, and she said yeah, and

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I kind of ruined it. I didn't ruin the pregnancy,

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I'm sure. She went on to a happy, happy birth

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and baby and stuff, and bearing in mind that was wow.

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The baby probably be about thirteen, fourteen years old. Now,

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that's crazy. The babies. The baby's probably now leaving school

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to get their first job or to go to university

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that or college. That's just wild. It's so yeah. The hand,

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I'm looking at it, so I'm not got. I did

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have my eyes closed a little bit while I'm talking

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to you, but I've opened my eyes just to look

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at my hand, and I don't know what I was

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expecting to see. I mean, it's a hand. It looks

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the same as it ever does, but it does look relaxed.

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I think sometimes also, you know, with when it comes

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to discomfort physical parts of the body, I'm using that

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word instead of the pai in And it's weird that

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sometimes as a part of the body can almost feel

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like it's outside of the body. And I think that's

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that's the problem when it comes to the discomfort, it

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feels like it's too inside the body, and maybe it

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can do with being a bit dislodged, having a little

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bit of distance from it, maybe moving it outside and

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observe it like you would something that was detached separated.

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And you may be thinking, we know what the word

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detached is. It means Why did you have to say separated?

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Don't need both those words? It's fine. Sometimes I use

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two words that mean the same thing or similar words.

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Why did you have to do it twice exactly as

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that's what I do sometimes or often maybe occasionally. So

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the right hand I'm looking at it, and you know,

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there's that I've now managed to connect it with the

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my lower back. Just in my mind. I've managed to

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connect the two my right hand and my lower back

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because that's where my personal thing is. And so what

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I'm going to do, I'm going to increase the sensation

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in my lower back. Okay, so it's more I can

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feel a bit more. That's what I'm going to do.

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You can do this as well if you want. This

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is something where focus on a part of your body

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that you'd like to reduce the physical sensation in. And

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what I'm going to do is I'm going to make

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a fist with my hand and then I'm just going

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to hold it for a couple of seconds. I'm gonna

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count from five down to one, and I'm gonna let

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it just drop. And so i want to hold it above

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my above my knee, put it into a fist, and

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then five four three two one, and then just drop

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it back on my knee, open palm. So by putting

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it into a fist, I'm focusing on that part of

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my body that I wanted to relax. Counting five four

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three two one, relax, open my palm. Then it dropped

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to my knee, and just notice how that feels in

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that part of your body that you were connected to.

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So I'm going to do it now. Maybe you want

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to do it with me. If you want, it's up

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to you. So I'm going to do a fist, focus

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on my lower back one like five sorry, five four

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three two one. Relax. At this time, I'm going to

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do it a little bit higher up because my thing

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has got caught on my knee, So I'm gonna do

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a bit higher up so I can open like that,

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so it kind of right. So I'm gonna lift it up,

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make my hand into a fist, focus on my lower back.

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Five four three two one.

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Relax. Ay, it's better. I'm gonna do it again.

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Five four three two one.

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Relax. I tell you what's weird is when the part

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of your body that used to be problematic before you

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started listening to me starts to feel nice. That that's

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a strange experience. I had that with my lower back

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a few years back. I remember, I was, I was

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just walking, I was. I just said the word walking.

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I shouldn't say that. When villas around. I was in

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the field and my back actually felt pleasurable, like really pleasurable.

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It was weird. I noticed. One thing that seems to

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happen is the sensation of mild itchiness often replaces the

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feeling that was there before, but not the kind of

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itchiness that you need to scratch, just real gentle, gentle itchiness.

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I suppose similar to the feeling of healing. Do you

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know when you've got a cut and you cut, it

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starts to heal, and then there's a lot of slight

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bit of itchiness there underneath the skin. You don't need

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to scratch it. It's just it's so very mild, so

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very mild. Yeah, I don't know why that happens ether Really,

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it's one of those things I've never really understood. But

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I know one thing's for sure. There's a heck of

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a nicer feeling than the previous feeling I was having.

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It sometimes feels like, I mean, this isn't even me

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imagining it, but it's like every part of your body

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can be replaced in your mind, you know, a bit

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like we're just made of lego. Like our whole body

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is made of lego, and you can just take out

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a bit. But it's the bits on the outside are

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just sliding legos. So it's a new type of lego

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and you can just slide out that part of your

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body and replace it. Vine's eating his dinner, by the way,

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in case you're wondering what that's slopping sound is, it's him. Okay,

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my right hand is still relaxed. Here's something else you

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can do when you focus on your hand and completely

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focus on your hand as well as him sloping away

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at his dinner. It's really weird because he only had

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he was playing with it, and he's like he didn't

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want it, but it's like his bone thing. It seems

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to have cleansed his palette so that he became more

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interested in eating his dinner. Oh, he's a good boy.

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Hasn't had all of it though, it's still a bit

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on a plate that he's kind of left. Because that

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food's got like vegetables in it, and it's really a

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lot better than the stuff. Well, I think it's better

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than the other stuff he gets, but I think he

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prefers the other stuff, even though you know, I think

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there's carrots, there's peas and all kinds of stuff in there,

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which is good for animals. I think. I don't think

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humans need vegetables, but animals do. Not sticking to that vegetables,

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I don't eat anything I can't spell. So when you focus,

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you imagine being able to take parts out of your

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body and just replace them with a new part, or

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even you could just take that part out of your body.

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You know, just the small section of your body. Just

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take that off and you could put one replace with

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a colder version or a warmer version, whatever you think

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would suit you. So you could put a warmer version in,

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and notice how that feels when that part of your

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body now feels warmer, and you can imagine Vinnie flapping

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his ears sends that cool breeze, relaxing you even more.

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I think that's what they call integration, integrating your background sounds.

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So I'm just testing at myself that warmness does seem

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to help. I wonder if you do it with some

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cold something that feels like maybe not icy cold, maybe

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icy cold if you want it to be, but just cool.

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And imagine putting that part of the body on into

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that part but it's cool this time. How does that

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change how it feels while Vinnie drinks some water. We've

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got some proper sound effects on this recording, So imagine

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that body being cool being replaced by a cool part. Okay, yes,

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that's all right. I think I prefer the warmth though,

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to be honest. Yeah, I'm going to go back to

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the walls to take the output the warp back in

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war Yeah, that's nicer, just a bit of warm being radiated.

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I wonder what that's what they call them radiators because

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warmth radiates from them, heat radiates, doesn't it. Never thought

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about that before, so yeah, focusing on my lower back.

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It's definitely the warmth is doing it. If anything, it's

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actually it feels quite nice. Yeah, I think that warmth

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is more useful to me. And the sound of inn

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in the background. Really, yeah, it's good. It's now, just

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focus on it's nice. It feels nice. It feels actually,

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I mean the rest of my body. Notice if the

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rest of your body's feeling more relaxed after relaxing your

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hand and listening to my boring voice for the last

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forty five fifty minutes whatever, it's been. Ah, and there's

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not a lot going on inside of my brain, not

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in my mind. I mean, people that know me might

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argue that maybe that's always the case, but you know,

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right now, it feels like everything's going fairly slow. My

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right hand still relaxed, but then so's my left hand,

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so my feet, my legs, arms, shoulders, chest, stomach, and back. Okay,

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that's nice. Wasn't really aiming for any particular type of relaxation,

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but maybe my body just got bored listening to my

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voice after all, that is what this is. I think

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all the birds have got together with Finny, like how

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can we disturb his recording? He's done everything he can

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and now the birds, I mean, how many pigeons can

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literally fit on one branch? So this is just something

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you can It's a case of like, how do you

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feel now? How do you feel different from how you

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did before? And the background sounds will always be around.

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This isn't one of those recordings. I'm just aware. I'm

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a bit more aware of it today than recently because

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the birds seem to be a lot more active and

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Annie seems to be well. Sometimes he just falls asleep,

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but he's definitely got a lot of energy in him

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right now, bless him. So it's a case of how

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do you feel different to how you felt before you

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started listening to this recording? When I have a little

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word with Herbert, that's the pigeon like he used to

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He hasn't done it lately, but he used to come

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onto the window still and like wave to me. Doesn't

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do that so much. I mean he used to do

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it more before I got Vinnie. I don't know if

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he's maybe he's just a bit jealous when I got Vinnie,

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because I've had Vinnie for two and two years and

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what five two years and four months, So maybe, yeah,

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maybe Herbert it's a little bit. You know, he wanted

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me offer himself. But I keep saying, I say to

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all the birds that you know, there's plenty of me

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to go around, plenty of love loved. There's some loud

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people out there. Ray rare rare ruh, bless bless them all.

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So and I realized that I'm quite conscious that these

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sessions are very probably very very different from what is normal.

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I say normal, but what is? But I don't think

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it's anyone else possibly in the world while doing this

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what I do like relief of pai n by boring you,

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like they let me bore your pain away. I don't

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think it's no one else doing anything like this. And

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it's probably a good reason for it. It's probably a

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very good reason. It's like, yeah, because it's ridiculous idea,

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but yeah, some people seem to like it. So we're

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just going I want to continue. I mean, this is

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a twenty third recording, twenty third version of this, and

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you just need to let me know, because if it's useful,

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even if it relaxes you, because the relaxation in itself

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reduces the physical discomfort. It just naturally does that because

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stressing it, so reducing the stress decreases it. So hopefully

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by listening to me boring you, you will feel more

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relaxed in your body, your mind slows down, and you

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have more comfort. And maybe maybe some of the few

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little techniques and ideas that I have may also be

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useful as well. So thank you for listening. Remember to

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be kind to yourself because you do deserve to be

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happy and be gentle with yourself. You deserve to feel safe.

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Lots of love, Bye,