April 10, 2025

(no music) Let me bore your pain away #18 | Jason Newland | 10th March 2025

(no music) Let me bore your pain away #18 | Jason Newland | 10th March 2025
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Hello, and welcome to Jasonnewland dot com. My name's Jason Newland.

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Please only listen to this groovy recording when you can

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safely close your eyes. Now, I'm going to focus on

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reducing chronic pain. That's what this record is about, and

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only find out. Only listen to this when you found

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out the cause of the discomfort and with permission from

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your doctor. Okay, so this is let me boil your

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pain away. Done if few of these, I think this

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is number eighteen. I'm not going to focus on any

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particular part of the body with this one. The last

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one I did I focused on shoulder, frozen shoulder. This

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is just going to be it's not going to be vague,

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but it's you can use. Listen to this recording and

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Vinny in the background chomping on his bone. It's not euphemism.

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And the main really how it works is this, I

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just chat and you notice how the part of your

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body feels like now as we're starting the recording, So

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maybe give it a judgment zero out of ten, zero

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being nothing, ten being a big old ouch. And then

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at the end of the recording we can revisit that

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scale and see how much it's changed. I may discuss

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certain techniques that you may be able to play around with,

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but ultimately I'm just going to talk and it will

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be a case of boring that part of your body

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so that you feel more relaxed. I mean generally you'll

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feel more relaxed all over. Your mind will slow down,

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and that's kind of just what naturally happens. You may

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even fall asleep. So that's why I say at the beginning,

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only listen when you can safely close your eyes. So

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if you're if you're parlor on an airline, please don't

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listen to this do you get home, oruntil you get

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into the airport. Well maybe not in the airport either,

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I mean you wait till you're landed. So there's not

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really anything for you to do. And because I don't know,

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I feel like I have to do like an introduction

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every time I do these recordings, but really that is

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the introduction. So I'm just going to get on with

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the conversation. Whatever the conversation is. Now, what I do

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is I look through I look, you know, do some research.

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I've got quite a few books and I'm always on

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the lookout for some kind of new or maybe not

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new but you know, a pain relief or chronic pain

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relief technique that either I haven't done before, because I've

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done lots over the years since two thousand and six,

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but just you know, like to test things out. Sometimes

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it's nice to go back to an old thing that

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I used to do in person with people, which I

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did the other day I did with this frozen shoulder.

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The thing is, you can, you know, sometimes with a

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long recording, if I was going to do a hypnosis recording,

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specifically hypnosis, I would voe focus probably not necessarily on

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one part of body, but there would be just one technique,

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one thing that I would focus on doing. So if

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I was going to go through like a guided imagery

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of your shoulders mobility or your legs mobility, or you know,

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something like that, and so I would be very very focused,

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possibly on a particular part of the body, and also

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on the actual technique itself. With these recordings, it's more

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a case of just delving, dabbling. I like to think

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of it like a buffet. You know, you just use

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what works. You know, you go through, choose what's right

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for you. Maybe you're vegetarian, you don't like cheese a

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little bit, buggered reallyant. You know, if you don't like cheese,

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if you're vegan, we'll need cheese. So or if you're

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a non vegetarian but you don't like beef, mind you

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sampiers at all. I don't eat pork. It's a dirty animal.

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Name a clean animal? No, no, McLean. Even humans aren't clean. Okay,

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don't get me started. So what we do is we

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focus would sometimes focus on a particular technique. In this recording,

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you've got everything. So if you're vegan, vegetarian, meat eater,

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fish eats someone that only eats raw food, some people do.

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I've known people that eat like literally they'll only eat

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vegetables that are raw. And he was very tall. I

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don't know if that was the reason. He was about

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six foot five six foot six, but I think he

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started eating raw vegetables after he'd fully grown, so I

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don't think that was the reason. I can say otherwise

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I would study in raw vegetables because I could definitely

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do with a bit of a boost of me height.

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So if you think of it like a buffet, I

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just go through some stuff, discuss it. One of the

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things that I'm really really fascinated with is time distortion

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for pain perception. Now, this is something that I first discovered.

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It was Milton Ericson or Milton h Ericson or Milton

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h Ericson, depends how you want to pronounce it. He

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actually wrote a book called time distortion. I don't know

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if I've got it. I've read it, I had it

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in the past. I'm not sure I've got it now.

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One of his techniques for people with chronic pain is

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or actually people with end of life pain. Actually sometimes

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people like serious conditions that he would get them to

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baseasically have did time distortion, so when when that physical

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discomfort came on, time would speed up so that it

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would be over and done with in an instant. It's

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almost like the person going to a trance for however

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long was necessary, and even may not even be aware

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that they're done so, which I find fascinating. I have

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dabbled with this before in a recording, but I just

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liked the idea. Can you imagine just whenever it's whenever

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you it's like coming on, whether it's chronic pain. Of

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course I can't really address acute pain. But then there's

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that fine line with acute pain, because if someone's got Uh,

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let's either got an illness, a disease, which is, you know,

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it's hard to like chronic pain. Technically, if it goes

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over a certain period of time and you still got pain,

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then it's cast as chronic pain. Or if it's caused

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by something, which is the pain is not actually helpful

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because pain, you know, chronic pain is a danger signal.

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It's a signal to your brain to let you know.

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What's the signal from your brain to let you know

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it's danger. You have to be careful. Now if you

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let your brain know that, that's not necessary because it's

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you know, arthritis. Providing you're careful is not an issue.

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Doesn't have to be an issue as far as I'm

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talking about general arthritis like what I've got, Like what

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I've got, So I've got arthritis in my lower back.

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I have to be a little bit careful. Yeah, I

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know that. So I don't need the warnings from the arthritis,

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and I definitely need. I do not need my arthritis

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to tell me when it's raining outside, you know, like

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oh it's a damp day. Is that I can look

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out the window. Mate. I don't need my body to

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have pain in that situation. And I thought it was

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an old wife's tale, but genuinely, like when it's cold,

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when it's wet, it seems to be a little bit

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more agitated. But then we're going to be affected by water,

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aren't we? When you consider how much of us is

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actual water, Our bodies and many oceans are affected by

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the moon, don it only makes sense that we're going

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to be affected by things. That's as much as I

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know about that. But see only an old analogy. If

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you've got a broken leg, you don't need the pain

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if you know to keep off it, and after us,

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it doesn't take long before the leg starts to just

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be If anything is to be itchy from the cast, maybe,

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but if you put weight on it, it lets you

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know like no, no, no, no, no, no, what are

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you doing? Don't put weight on it. But then if

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that turns into chronic pain, because that's a cute pain,

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that turns into chronic pain because the legs healed, Yeah,

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but there's still discomfort there that there's no necessary. If

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you've been to a doctor checked it out, there's nothing wrong,

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then you don't need that. So it's no longer a

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danger signal. And sometimes the brain thinks it's a danger

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signal and it's not. Once you let the brain know

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that it's not a danger signal and it's not necessary,

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I don't need it. You can just let it go.

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Might take a bit of reminding. So if you've got

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chronic pain and you've had it diagnosed that it's fine.

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There's no reason to have it, or it's due to

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a condition, but you know about the condition and that

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physical discomfort, it is not necessary because you're going to

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be careful. You know, if someone's got like dodgy k nee,

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might need to knee replacement. So you know the danger

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is real, isn't it like it's you. It's you're basically

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your your body and your brain saying, don't be putting

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weight on me because this part of my body is damaged.

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But if you know that it's damaged, and if you

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accept that, you need to be careful and you know

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what it is, you know, maybe you're waiting to have

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a replacement operation. My stomach is gurgling. Now that's weird.

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You don't need that discomfort anymore. You don't need to

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It's almost like it's pointless because it's not a dangerous

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situation anymore. Is if you ignore it. But once you

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acknowledge it and say, okay, you're going to be careful,

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you definitely don't need it when you're sitting down or

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lying down or watching TV, and providing you don't put

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any weight on it, you don't need it doesn't need

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to give you a warning. So there's no danger warning

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signals necessary for a situation like that, just like you

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know if you break your finger, of course it's going

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to hurt, because it's supposed to do. It's a day.

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It's like to protect you to first of all get

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medical attention, to get it, to acknowledge it, because if

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we didn't have pain. There's actually a movie out now

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called An Overcaine, and I've been fascinated with this subject

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for decades. Some people are born without the ability to

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feel pain. They can't just don't feel it. And imagine

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what that would be like in that part of your

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body that you'd like to feel different in where just

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whenever the feeling comes on, it just it's almost like

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it switches off for that pieced wow. So but this

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is a good movie. It's a bloke that's in The

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Boys TV show and so he's a good actor and

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he's I mean they've gone down the direction of being

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drama and action and all that stuff, and I'm enjoying

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it's good. I've watched about half an hour of it

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last night. But the with a finger, even just a finger,

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I mean, it's the old things that people used to

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get gangreen in the olden days when they had a

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break but it wasn't set back properly, and they get infectious,

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to get infections, and it's all kinds of stuff. If

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we ignore things and don't get it seen to, sometimes

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things can go a bit wrong. But if you've been

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to the doctor, I brought a hospital and you've you've

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had an xtray and you've got it fixed so that

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it's in a sling or in a brace or wrapped up,

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whether it's a break or a cut, or maybe you've

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been told what it is and you just on a

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waiting list to get an operation to get it fixed.

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But there's nothing to worry about because it's just you

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need to be careful, then, doesn't I mean, is this

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this is a question really in that situation, isn't there

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a an emotional release, like almost like a bit of

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relief of like, oh, that's what it is. So I mean, no,

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one probably wants to go to hospital and have an operation,

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but things like knee replacements and stuff is there're you know,

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thousands and thousands and thousands of those have done every

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single day, probably just in my country, and I know

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at least three people who had them, and it's amazing,

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like amazing what they can do. Just wow. I don't

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think that was even a thing when I was a kid.

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It might have been, but we didn't really discuss needs

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very often. Yeah, I don't think. I don't know. I'm

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actually interested. Now, when was the first knee replacement? Okay,

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eighteen sixty eight, I'm not that old. Okay, okay, okay,

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here we go. The first was a right, the first

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time it was done properly in this country. It's fifty

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years ago, where like the way that's being done now.

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Fifty years of total knee athroplastic bone en joint. So

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that was since nineteen eighty nineteen eighty. Yeah, it was

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developed in nineteen eighty, so I guess this was fifty

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five years now, No, fifty years nineteen eighty, fifty years ago,

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it's nineteen is it? No? Wait a minute, I'm fifty

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five and it's twenty twenty five. I was born in seventy,

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so that's forty five years ago. Anyway, it wasn't around

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the people, it wasn't being done when I was little,

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so I was right, although the first one had been

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done a little bit before I was born, ninety years

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before I was born. So do we need this? Do

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we need the discomfort? Is it useful? And that's one

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of those stupid questions in a way, like, course it's

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not useful, but actually it is useful in certain circumstances,

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especially things like appendix bursting and things like that. Of

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course it's useful. It's life saving. So you know, you know,

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if someone had the appendix burst and they couldn't feel it,

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then unless they have medical attention, they're very likely not

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going to survive that. So yeah, like I can't feel pain,

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but no, no, sometimes we need to. So that's obvious.

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I had my appendix out. I partly kin'd of pretend

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to have appendicitis to get tired off school. Didn't realize

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they're going to operate on me. Oh so that's something

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you can decide. That's kind of what I'm thinking about here.

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It's a bit vague, it's a bit up and down.

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It's a bit around the around the ours is this recording?

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But is the discomfort useful? Is a question? Is is

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there any point to it? Maybe if you do have

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a dodgy n which needs maybe it doesn't need an operation.

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Maybe it's just a dodging ee. You know. Sometimes I

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have a dodgy knee. I tried to kneel over the

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other day. Oh, my kneeling days are over and done with.

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And before you say, oh, does that mean you have

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to get a new job, no, rude. So I'm basically

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it's fine. However, I've got dodgy knee. Sometimes I got

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an injured shoulder from like two thousand and five, so

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it's what twenty years I've edge an injured shoulder and

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it plays up sometimes, but I know what it is.

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I'm bothered my authritis in my lower back. It plays up.

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I'm not bothered. I'm not emotionally bothered by it. Usually

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sometimes it can get a little bitter, but most of

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the times, like, I know what it is, so what

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it's you know, it's not I'm not if I sat

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here all day long focusing on it and going, oh,

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just moaning and feeling sorry for myself. Then, yeah, it

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would be really way worse than it is. It would

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feel made way worse than it needs to. And I

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did go for a little period of that few years

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back where it was just getting a little bit too much.

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But then I've made a change, you know, sort of.

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It's one of those things. It's okay making recordings for

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other people, but what about me? You know what am

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I doing? I'm making recordings to help people to relax,

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So am I relaxing? I've got to take on some

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of that as well. I mean, I've had a lot

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of broken bones over the years, and it hasn't really

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bothered me. It's it can be annoying. I broke my

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hand twice. I mean, that's definitely annoying. It's two things

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I can't really do anymore with and it's just like, okay,

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I have to kind of read three things actually because

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it's a shower because I'm right handed to the four

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can't write. It's a lot of things I can't what

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wasn't able to do for about five six weeks until

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the they were healed. But that's all right, just get

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used to it. I likely to go again. Although funny enough,

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the I've so you got two bones. The years ago,

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two thousand and four. It's when I broke it the

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first time, my right hand and the knuckles compressed into

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the basically into the hand, and I had a friend

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who was a surgeon, and she said, well, she explained

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what it was because I said, she said, you got

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no knuckle. I said, no, it's only one. Well now

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it's two because I broke the other one. And she said, well,

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if you ever break your hand again, that big one

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in the middle, go But it didn't. She was wrong. So, yeah,

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my right hand is a bit deformed. It's been broken twice,

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but it's all right. Might be arthritick in the future,

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I don't know, but not bothered. Not you know, I

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don't want it to be like that, but I'm not

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not concerned because just deal with whatever happens, as long

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as it's not serious something I need to go and

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start to have treatment for. You know, it doesn't worry me.

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I remember the I tell you I had this real

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It was a very big awakening. I don't mean like spiritually,

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but it was two thousand and not did I say

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two thousand and four, nineteen ninety fours when I broke

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my hand the first time. The second time was about

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two thousand and eighteen. I think something like that. When

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I moved in it, I fell out the bath and

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I broke my left wrist. I mean I'd been in

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there for about two weeks a week two weeks slipped

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out the bath. Who does that? It's ridiculous. And well,

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I broke my I broke my rib, broke my rib

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twice two different times. I broke my foot twice, and

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I fractured my back in two places a couple of

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years ago. I think that's it. Yeah, there's not that many,

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but yeah, I think that's about it. Oh, I broke toes.

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I broke by blind me. Yeah. I broke my toes

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about four times, different toes. So yeah, and I brought

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I broke my foot twice at the front, the top

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foot and the heel. Oh, it takes that takes even longer.

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That seem to take longer to heal. The heel takes

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longer to heel, just because I guess I was using it.

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But anyway, I was sitting in the office of this

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little shop that I was working in called Evolution, and

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so two thousand and four I was going through huge

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amounts of anxiety. Back then, I had to leave my

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job because of it, and it was basically ruling my

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life for a while, and I had to work work

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really hard to sort of get it under control. At

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this point, I was it was semi under control. Semi, yeah,

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I can't. I was over the worst of it. So

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this would be in the summer two thousand and four,

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and it really started. It started quite badly in two

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thousand and two November, so I had over a year

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of it, like full on. So I'm in this office,

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I'm at a computer. I might have been cashing up

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something like that for the shop, and I was so

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aware of all my physical like my physicality, the parts

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of my body and stuff, because it's like almost always

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expecting to have a feeling. And I had a feeling

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in my grin and it's a weird feeling. And I

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went into like a vibration and I went into full

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on panic mode, like full on anxiety, and stood up

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ready to walk outside to try and get my breath,

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and you know, realize, oh, this is going to be

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another half an hour an hour of me like not

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being able to function. I realized it was my phone.

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It's on vibrate, and that confused me because it's something

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there was no logic that it was such a ridiculous

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situation that a vibrating phone. And this is quite early

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days of vibration vibrating phone as well, fairly early, but

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I did It's like, wait a minute, and instantly I'm

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no longer in panic mode. So not only did I

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realize that something external I was allowing something external to

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affect my physical and mental well being, but also I

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had the ability to switch off a panic attack instantly.

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So this I didn't realize that. It's almost like I'd

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given power away. When a mobile phone is able to

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instigate or create or start an unwanted feeling in the body,

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I kind of given the depth power away. And as

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soon as I realized it was a mobile phone, I

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had nothing against the phone. You know, I like the phone.

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It was one of those flip ones. I just I

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love it. Potend I was on Star Trek beat me up.

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I never said it was no one else around, but

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I liked it. It was a little bit, you know

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that I could do one finger. That's nice. So I wasn't.

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I didn't have an issue with the phone, and it

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was one of those really tiny ones as well. That's

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why I didn't realize it was in my pocket, but

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knowing that I could, and I didn't stop the panic attack.

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I didn't stop those feelings in my body instantly by

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thinking about it, by having to think about it, by

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having to do anything, just by realizing that it was

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the phone. It finished, It ended straight away, And that

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was a big, big, big turning point. And I realized

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this recording isn't about anxiety attacks and stuff, but it's

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still unwanted feelings, realizing that maybe you don't need them,

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they might not be necessary. Because you know, if I

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sat down on a now and I had a feeling,

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I'd want to feel it. Man, I want to feel

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the I want to sit on and now. I don't

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want to have that pain, but I would want to

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know that it's happened so I can scream and get

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help and you know, get it sorted. I don't want

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to be sitting there completely oblivious to it and then

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get up and you know, go back into the shop

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talking to the customers with blood dripping everywhere. That you know,

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that just be grim and dangerous for my health and

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slippery for the customers as well. Probably. So it got

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me wondering how much can our the way we think,

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how much can it affect the physical sensation that you

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experience just by expectation, because I was at that time

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constantly expecting the next horrible feeling that I'll be honest,

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that's what I was expecting, and that's what I was getting.

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But you flip that on its head and spin it

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around a little bit, not too fast, otherwise you have

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to wait. And that's another thing you can do. You

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can put a gap between it, a gap between the

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stimulus and the effect or the feeling, a bit like

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you know on the tubes. We've got is it bank

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one of the tubes in London? They're like the underground,

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like the metro or the subway or whatever the names

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for it in other countries. So and there's a gap,

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so you can't And if someone says, mind the gap,

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mine the gap, I'm not sure if it's the same

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voice as thirty years ago, but it used to be

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mine the gap. We are? Was it? We are? You

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are approaching bank station? Mind the gap. So I guess

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some people if they don't understand, if they don't know English,

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then they're at a disadvantage. However, the gap is quite large,

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so I mean, I don't know how often people fall

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down there, but you know you could definitely, like I

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don't think i'd be able to fit down, but I've

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never tried, but my body's a bit bigger than it

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used to be. But knowing that that, like that message

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mind the gap, it's kind of what I noticed is

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stayed with me no matter what tube station I was at,

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whether I was at Tottenham Court Road or at my

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Land in Twickenham, if I was at Stratford, Houston, Houston, Houston,

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notting Hill, Romford, where it's like I would mind the gap.

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Did I say Romford? Is there a tube station in Romford?

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I'm not sure there's an overground, but I would always

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mind the gap, even though they wouldn't say mind the

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gap in most of those stations. And sometimes having that

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gap between something happening and then the feeling just having

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a little gap, maybe eventually you could perhaps increase that gap.

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So in a sense of ooops, there's this metal thing

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sticking at my desk, I need to get rid of it.

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It's like a not a cup holder, I guess, like

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a microphone, a mic headphones holder or something. But it's

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very annoying. I mean to get rid of it for ages,

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but it's just, oh, so you got this thing. Instead

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of mind the gap, probably remember the gap, remember the gap.

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Remember to have a gap there, so you remember, oh,

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the knees, the knee, and instead of instantly going to

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physical discomfort, you have a gap, and you remember when

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you think, wow, I don't need physical anything but physical

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comfort there because I know to be careful with it.

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It's my knee. I love my knee or my elbow

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or any part of your body. And that's another thing,

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maybe like really start to cherish your body because let's

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face it's the only one we've got. I mean, you

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could argue that. So yeah, okay, so the easier one

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I got, Well about when I get a new one,

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all right, the only one who got at the moment, okay.

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And in the future will be transplanting everything in the feuse,

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not me personally, but in the future everything. You know,

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technology is going to be phenomenal, even more phenomenal than

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it already is. But right this minute, this is our bodies.

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This is what we've got. So when you focus on

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that part of the body that was causing new problems

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in the past, and like you just okay, remember the gap.

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What's required here? What's necessary here? Do I have to

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be careful with this part of the body? Do you

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need to just be gentle with this part of the body.

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Or is the fact that that part of your body

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is absolutely fine. It's just faulty signals and you don't

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need to feel anything but comfort there. It's of no

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benefit to you. It's not protecting you against anything. So

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therefore you comforts all you need. And it's weird. It's

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a little bit you ever get the like a sand

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castle you have when you're a kid. I don't know

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if some adults might do it, but I used to

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build sand castles, and there is like I mean, if

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I was lucky enough for one of brothers not to

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like smash it down, but I'd build a sand castle,

468
00:44:06.360 --> 00:44:09.159
I'd like to build it near the sea and watch

469
00:44:09.199 --> 00:44:16.239
the sea come in and just basically wash it away

470
00:44:16.480 --> 00:44:21.800
to nothing. And sometimes it feels a little bit like

471
00:44:21.880 --> 00:44:26.920
that with because you think about it, that part of

472
00:44:26.960 --> 00:44:29.519
your body that's been causing problems in the past. It's

473
00:44:29.559 --> 00:44:34.480
like a sand castle, but it's it's like it's on

474
00:44:34.599 --> 00:44:40.199
some kind of little island a little bit. And this

475
00:44:41.239 --> 00:44:47.239
basically it's in the middle of two different oceans, So

476
00:44:47.280 --> 00:44:50.199
it's on a beach that's shared with two different oceans

477
00:44:50.599 --> 00:44:54.199
or maybe four for all angles. And that's the other

478
00:44:54.280 --> 00:44:58.880
parts of your body that feel fine. So for example,

479
00:44:59.239 --> 00:45:03.519
with my lower back, my hips feel fine, my upper

480
00:45:03.519 --> 00:45:06.960
back feels fine, the other side of my lower back

481
00:45:06.960 --> 00:45:14.079
feels fine, my legs feel fine, my hands feel fine,

482
00:45:14.360 --> 00:45:19.280
my bottom feels fine. It's a weird, weird it's weird

483
00:45:19.320 --> 00:45:21.079
to say that out loud, but you know what I mean.

484
00:45:21.559 --> 00:45:28.039
So the one bit which has been problematic that in

485
00:45:28.079 --> 00:45:33.880
the past was the lower back on the left hand side.

486
00:45:34.480 --> 00:45:36.480
And that's kind of like a castle that I've been

487
00:45:37.360 --> 00:45:42.960
almost trying to protect for some reason, while protecting because

488
00:45:42.960 --> 00:45:47.360
I want it to be safe. But if you realize

489
00:45:47.400 --> 00:45:52.239
it is already safe and you don't actually have to

490
00:45:52.320 --> 00:46:04.719
do anything, then the sea will come in and just

491
00:46:05.119 --> 00:46:11.639
spread over that castle, and the feelings from the other

492
00:46:11.719 --> 00:46:17.760
parts of your body will just flow over it, almost

493
00:46:17.840 --> 00:46:20.400
to get that part feeling the same as the rest

494
00:46:20.440 --> 00:46:27.480
of your body. I quite like that idea. Quite like

495
00:46:27.559 --> 00:46:33.480
that idea that in a sense, you remove that separation

496
00:46:41.480 --> 00:46:43.719
and when I think about getting up from this chair,

497
00:46:46.559 --> 00:46:49.320
you know, I know that sometimes, you know, I might think,

498
00:46:50.920 --> 00:46:54.400
watch out for me back. So that's when the gap

499
00:46:54.480 --> 00:47:00.880
comes in. It's like, wait a minute, well that's fine.

500
00:47:03.119 --> 00:47:05.599
My back's all right. I can I can stand up,

501
00:47:06.480 --> 00:47:08.639
I can sit down, I can stand up. It's not

502
00:47:09.199 --> 00:47:12.039
there's no reason for me not to be able to

503
00:47:12.079 --> 00:47:15.920
just move around and do what I know would normally do.

504
00:47:18.880 --> 00:47:20.639
I don't think I'm going to be a rock climber

505
00:47:20.679 --> 00:47:24.639
anytime soon. And kicking's pretty much out, and there's certain

506
00:47:24.639 --> 00:47:28.039
things I can't do. But I know that, and it's okay.

507
00:47:28.760 --> 00:47:33.639
My stomach knows that as well. My stomach I feed me,

508
00:47:35.760 --> 00:47:40.079
BlimE me. If it isn't Vinny disturbing me, it's my

509
00:47:40.159 --> 00:47:51.719
own gut. It's ridiculous. So having that realization, and it

510
00:47:51.760 --> 00:47:55.199
can be Some would say it's a choice. Could just

511
00:47:55.199 --> 00:48:00.760
be a choice, like you know what chews to feel

512
00:48:00.760 --> 00:48:09.760
relaxed and no longer give away that control to something else.

513
00:48:11.199 --> 00:48:14.599
I'd give my control over to a mobile phone vibrating

514
00:48:14.679 --> 00:48:19.000
in my pocket to stimulate a panic attack. I mean,

515
00:48:19.039 --> 00:48:24.840
come on, that that was just and I laughed afterwards,

516
00:48:26.280 --> 00:48:28.599
but it woke me up. To the fact that actually,

517
00:48:31.079 --> 00:48:37.639
how real is a panic attack. I'm not saying they're

518
00:48:37.760 --> 00:48:43.079
fake or anything, because it absolutely crumbled my life for

519
00:48:43.079 --> 00:48:49.400
a little while while for over a year. But if

520
00:48:49.440 --> 00:48:54.519
something can come on and then vanish so very quickly,

521
00:48:57.639 --> 00:49:06.199
what else can also fanish very very quickly. What else

522
00:49:06.280 --> 00:49:11.280
that isn't needed can just disappear if it's not needed.

523
00:49:14.039 --> 00:49:17.519
You know, sometimes it might feel like, well, make a will,

524
00:49:17.519 --> 00:49:27.039
make a make a deal. If I need you, I'll ask,

525
00:49:31.159 --> 00:49:34.159
or if I do something, you know, you make a

526
00:49:34.239 --> 00:49:36.320
deal with that part of your body. If you do

527
00:49:36.440 --> 00:49:41.559
something that's harmful towards that part of your body, then

528
00:49:42.239 --> 00:49:53.199
please return that physical discomfort outside of that. Just feel

529
00:49:53.199 --> 00:49:59.679
relaxed in that part of your body, feel calm and

530
00:49:59.760 --> 00:50:07.280
lose in that part of your body. You could also

531
00:50:07.320 --> 00:50:10.079
always you can mean, you can imagine yourself right in

532
00:50:10.119 --> 00:50:13.360
a contract or signing a contract that that is it.

533
00:50:13.719 --> 00:50:18.400
From now on, from this moment onwards, You're going to

534
00:50:18.440 --> 00:50:20.719
stick to your side of the bargain. You're going to

535
00:50:20.800 --> 00:50:25.880
be careful. So for example, I cannot kick I would

536
00:50:25.920 --> 00:50:27.800
I could if an emergency I would be able to,

537
00:50:27.800 --> 00:50:29.880
but I can't. You know, I had to give up

538
00:50:29.880 --> 00:50:32.840
doing taekwondo because of my back and I couldn't go

539
00:50:32.920 --> 00:50:35.079
back to that. It's as simple as that. It's just

540
00:50:35.960 --> 00:50:40.000
it's it's a it's a physical movement continuous that. It's

541
00:50:40.039 --> 00:50:45.199
just I can't uphold with my with my left or

542
00:50:45.280 --> 00:50:47.519
is the left leg thing really rather than right right

543
00:50:47.599 --> 00:50:51.840
leg thing? Mind you both both kicking both legs affects

544
00:50:52.400 --> 00:51:04.360
easiers back. But if I'm careful, it's fine. And that's

545
00:51:04.360 --> 00:51:06.960
all it is. I do exercises every day to stretch

546
00:51:07.000 --> 00:51:09.840
it and to strengthen and keep my lower back strengthened.

547
00:51:10.519 --> 00:51:18.639
But you know, it's kind of like I've got they

548
00:51:18.719 --> 00:51:20.840
really think about it like this before it's I got

549
00:51:20.880 --> 00:51:25.960
of an unsaid contract and unwritten contract. So maybe you

550
00:51:25.960 --> 00:51:30.599
could have the same kind of thing yourself where you

551
00:51:30.719 --> 00:51:33.400
make peek. I think sometimes you need to make peace

552
00:51:33.559 --> 00:51:37.719
with that part of your body so instead of because

553
00:51:37.719 --> 00:51:40.360
sometimes it's like, you know, if you're trying to stop

554
00:51:42.000 --> 00:51:45.119
something from happening. So let's say you've got you've got

555
00:51:45.119 --> 00:51:46.880
something the other side of the door, and you're pushing

556
00:51:46.880 --> 00:51:51.920
the door, and the harder they push, the harder you push,

557
00:51:52.000 --> 00:51:56.480
and it just gets well, there's no winners, can It's

558
00:51:56.519 --> 00:51:59.239
kind of like, you know, you're both struggling, or what

559
00:51:59.400 --> 00:52:03.920
is it rope rope fight? You know, when you got

560
00:52:04.239 --> 00:52:06.599
what do they call it a rope fight? Tug a

561
00:52:06.679 --> 00:52:11.119
war where you kind of just it's going nowhere, or

562
00:52:11.360 --> 00:52:16.840
someone with equal strength doing an arm wrestle. Eventually they've

563
00:52:16.840 --> 00:52:18.599
just got to say, okay, we'll just call this a

564
00:52:18.679 --> 00:52:29.320
day perhaus. We don't need this anymore. There's an old thing.

565
00:52:29.360 --> 00:52:33.199
It's it's I saw this set of workshop once they

566
00:52:33.199 --> 00:52:38.119
said put your hands together, now, push with your right hand,

567
00:52:40.800 --> 00:52:46.119
and every single person, including myself at the time, pushed

568
00:52:46.599 --> 00:52:49.119
with the right hand, but also pushed with a left hand,

569
00:52:49.559 --> 00:52:54.639
stopping the right hand from moving. When actually push for

570
00:52:54.760 --> 00:52:58.679
your right hand means you just don't do anything with

571
00:52:58.719 --> 00:53:05.239
your left hand. So there's a seems to be a

572
00:53:05.280 --> 00:53:09.760
tendency of humans to do that, almost to push against

573
00:53:09.760 --> 00:53:26.239
ourselves instead of with so that restriction, you know, if

574
00:53:26.239 --> 00:53:28.880
it's like a constant restriction, I don't want to feel

575
00:53:28.920 --> 00:53:30.480
that way, and I want to feel that way that

576
00:53:30.519 --> 00:53:32.719
body feels this. I don't want it to be like that.

577
00:53:33.639 --> 00:53:35.400
And then that part of the body is thinking, well,

578
00:53:36.760 --> 00:53:38.840
you're not listening to me, are you. So I've got

579
00:53:38.840 --> 00:53:41.840
to keep doing it until you listen. I got to

580
00:53:41.880 --> 00:53:44.519
keep giving you this physical discomfort until you listen to

581
00:53:44.559 --> 00:53:49.920
me and do what you're supposed to do. Take me seriously.

582
00:53:51.960 --> 00:53:57.000
But when you do listen, take it seriously, realize that

583
00:53:57.679 --> 00:54:00.840
maybe there's some things that you need to change. Maybe

584
00:54:00.880 --> 00:54:04.280
there isn't. You can take it seriously. If it's being

585
00:54:04.400 --> 00:54:10.079
checked out, you've taken it seriously. If there's nothing physically

586
00:54:10.719 --> 00:54:15.400
necessarily going on, is where you don't need it anymore.

587
00:54:15.559 --> 00:54:18.760
Maybe it's something that had you had before and now

588
00:54:18.800 --> 00:54:26.480
it's healed and you don't need it. Or if you

589
00:54:26.559 --> 00:54:30.440
know the cause of it and it's unnecessary, you know

590
00:54:30.519 --> 00:54:38.719
that you're going to be careful. So all it's necessary

591
00:54:39.239 --> 00:54:42.320
is physical comfort, and the rest of your body surround

592
00:54:42.440 --> 00:54:46.119
in the area can just like with the sand cast

593
00:54:46.239 --> 00:54:49.840
or just wash over and also sort of spread that

594
00:54:49.920 --> 00:54:54.119
feeling overwards. So it's just it's almost like it's joining

595
00:54:54.159 --> 00:55:00.320
the body again and then the rest of the body

596
00:55:00.360 --> 00:55:10.239
looks out for it. So for me, I feel like

597
00:55:10.559 --> 00:55:14.519
I've done that with my lower back and instead of

598
00:55:14.519 --> 00:55:19.719
being isolated, it's no longer isolated, so the other parts

599
00:55:19.760 --> 00:55:25.239
of my back look out for my lower back. My

600
00:55:25.360 --> 00:55:29.519
hips look out for my lower back. The other side

601
00:55:29.519 --> 00:55:36.320
of my lower back looks out for it. Like everything's

602
00:55:36.440 --> 00:55:44.920
kind of just, I guess loving in a way. It's

603
00:55:44.960 --> 00:55:52.400
sounding it's soppy, but the body's loving each part. Your knees,

604
00:55:52.480 --> 00:55:58.000
loving your hands, your feet are loving your ankles. You

605
00:55:58.039 --> 00:56:01.039
know they're connected. The whole thing is connected. It's one thing.

606
00:56:02.360 --> 00:56:06.800
We call things different things. It's one. It's literally one thing.

607
00:56:09.719 --> 00:56:16.159
And I think it's quite nice when you think about that.

608
00:56:16.199 --> 00:56:23.039
The because there's a time when you know, you get

609
00:56:23.039 --> 00:56:27.320
a puppy, your kitten, you no longer hold it in

610
00:56:27.360 --> 00:56:30.000
your hands. You have to let it down. You have

611
00:56:30.039 --> 00:56:32.440
to let it go. I don't mean let it go go,

612
00:56:32.519 --> 00:56:34.480
but you have to. You have to put it down.

613
00:56:34.559 --> 00:56:38.039
You can't you take a puppy home with you or kitten.

614
00:56:39.119 --> 00:56:42.360
You can't hold it in your hands forever, no matter

615
00:56:42.360 --> 00:56:45.519
how much you want to. You know you want to

616
00:56:45.599 --> 00:56:48.280
keep it safe, you want to cuddle it, and let's

617
00:56:48.280 --> 00:56:52.159
face it, a little kitten. It's like, what's what's cutter

618
00:56:52.239 --> 00:56:57.960
than a little kitten or a little puppy. There's so cute.

619
00:56:58.199 --> 00:57:02.840
It's so cute. I suppose some people with a baby

620
00:57:03.679 --> 00:57:07.480
a baby, you know, but you don't spend you don't

621
00:57:07.519 --> 00:57:10.320
carry them around twenty four hours a day. You put

622
00:57:10.360 --> 00:57:12.639
them down, you put them into a bed. Do you

623
00:57:12.679 --> 00:57:19.800
put you know otherwise that you need to have that

624
00:57:19.960 --> 00:57:23.480
little bit of distance and allow it to just be

625
00:57:23.639 --> 00:57:31.320
itself and allow it, that part of your body to

626
00:57:31.480 --> 00:57:40.679
realize that it is supported by its surroundings. Allow that

627
00:57:40.760 --> 00:57:46.639
part of your body to know that it's safe. It

628
00:57:46.679 --> 00:57:52.880
doesn't have to do anything, just be, just be there,

629
00:57:56.000 --> 00:58:01.159
and for it to know that you appreciate it. Maybe

630
00:58:01.320 --> 00:58:05.719
your body appreciates you because now you're looking after it

631
00:58:06.880 --> 00:58:11.400
and all that discomfort you used to have was you

632
00:58:11.559 --> 00:58:23.480
looking after your that body part. But it's not necessary

633
00:58:24.159 --> 00:58:36.679
because that contract that you signed in your mind the

634
00:58:36.800 --> 00:58:49.480
comforts all you need and providing you treat your body safely,

635
00:58:53.199 --> 00:59:02.960
with love, with care, you can feel comfortable and relaxed

636
00:59:05.039 --> 00:59:19.480
and loose and peaceful. Now I've rabbited on for a bit,

637
00:59:20.360 --> 00:59:23.440
which is what I do. I don't know if any

638
00:59:23.480 --> 00:59:29.320
of this was useful. So where are you now? If

639
00:59:29.320 --> 00:59:37.280
you focus on that part of body? We did the

640
00:59:37.679 --> 00:59:41.199
zero to ten scale earlier at the beginning. Where is

641
00:59:41.239 --> 00:59:46.320
it now? And how much has it changed? How much

642
00:59:46.360 --> 00:59:51.239
has it gone down, How pleased do you, how relaxed

643
00:59:51.239 --> 00:59:56.599
are you? And please let me know how you get on.

644
01:00:00.480 --> 01:00:03.679
So I am going to bring this record into an end.

645
01:00:05.920 --> 01:00:08.880
Remember to be kind to yourself because you do deserve

646
01:00:08.960 --> 01:00:16.639
to be happy. Be gentle with yourself. You deserve to

647
01:00:16.760 --> 01:00:26.679
feel safe. Lots of love by