Aug. 3, 2025
(no music) GRIEF | A Place to Remember and Reclaim | 3rd August 2025
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Hello, and welcome to jasonneuland dot com. My name's Jason Newland.
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Please only listen when you safely close your eyes and
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loul Finnie has come to join us. Do you come
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to join us? Do you come to love a little
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lie down, little cuddle? Oh he's been asleep in bed
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for hours. Hey you have? And now you're doing big unions,
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doing bigons. Okay, so I hope you. I'm doing big
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onions myself. So this is going to be a hypnosis
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recording for grief. And mm hmmm, ah, you being very
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vocal today, if you are being very vocal unfortunately, And
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what I've just heard is there is a cat in
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the garden making a lot of noise, and I hope, well,
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the fact that I've heard it, you'd think that Vinnie
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would hear it, but his is are pricking up at
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the moment, so I'm hoping he doesn't because once he really,
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you know, locks into that sound, he will be barking.
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So this is a recording about grief. It's called a
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place to Remember and Reclaim. So you don't have to
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you don't have to do anything, but you don't have
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to listen closely to every word I say, in fact,
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you may even find that as you listen, and Vinnie
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is giving me a lot of attention right now for
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some reason. As you listen, your mind drifts, drifts to
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other places, memories and sensation. And that's perfectly okay, because
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we're not here to force anything. You're just here to
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let some part of you rest. Just rest now. I
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think Finny has established that he's going to be making
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some of his own little background sounds, So I'll tell
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you that now in case you want to just turn
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the recording off, because he seems to be very much
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intent on cleaning himself and being part of this recording,
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don't you. Yes, you do, Yes, you do. I don't
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know why it beards so gentle. It's because you're on
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your dinner. Hey, it's nice to just rest. I love
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closing my eyes and just letting go listening to something calming, peaceful,
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because sometimes grief feels really heavy. I mean, it's like
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something you carry around in your chest m or like
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a fog that makes the world seem like a plane
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going past in the background. You can feel like the
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world feels that it's changed, something's changed in a way
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that never quite be the same again, and in a
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way it has changed. The world is changed. Your world
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has changed because that person that's lost there has been
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a part of your life, and now it'll just be memories.
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So this is your time, a time not to fix anything,
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not to forget anything, but to explore, explore some possibilities
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of remembering and gently reclaiming what's been lost in a
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new way. Now, if you're not already lying or sitting
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in a comfortable place, please go ahead and allow yourself
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to adjust, maybe even sigh out the air from the lungs.
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I do that quite a lot. Actually, sighing or yawning
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seems to be quite a nice physical sensation of breathing out.
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And let your body soften, Let in your shoulders release
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just a little, all your hands grow heavier, and you
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might notice the sensation of the surface supporting you. Maybe
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it's your bed, a chair, And just how little effort
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it actually takes to just be here now, in this moment.
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And I don't know which part of you will begin
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to relax first, but some part of you knows how
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to rest because you've done it before many times without
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even trying. So if your eyes want to blink slower,
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hm or close. You can allow that to happen whenever
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it's ready, and there's the outside world fades into the background.
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I invite you to go inside the pinside, to that
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quiet space we're feelings, images and memories can surface, not forced,
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never rushed. And maybe as you imagine descending a gentle staircase,
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going down with each step leading you a little th
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inside yourself, or maybe you'd prefer imagining a soft, winding
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path through a peaceful forest with birds on somewhere in
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the distance and filtered lights through the leaves. With each
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step you take, the didn't you a little deeper to
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that place within where change begins? And as you continue long,
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you may find that you'll breathing deepens almost on its own,
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as if your body is saying finally, I can let
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go now. There's no right way to grieve, because grief
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is a shape shifter. It can be quiet and aching
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or loud and missy. He can calm and go like waves,
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or arrive when you least expect it. And perhaps there's
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part of you that's been trying to make sense of it,
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trying to hold on or let go or both at
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the same time. That can be so exhausting. Can't it
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so tiring? And you don't need to resolve anything right now,
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You don't even need to feel better. But maybe you
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could feel a little more held, a little more understood
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by yourself, looking after yourself, caring for yourself, supporting yourself.
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So I'd like to invite you to imagine a quiet,
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sacred place, a place only you know about. It could
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be a garden, a cottage by a lake, a soft
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hill with tall grasses, or a small room filled with light,
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whatever you choose. Wherever you choose, this place is safe,
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it's private, it's peaceful, and it's a place where memory
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and presence can gently meet. You might even sense a
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doorway appearing a threshold to this healing place. And as
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you cross it, you bring with you everything you need,
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everything you're ready to carry, and perhaps some things you're
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ready to lay down. And maybe in this special place
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you can invite the memory of the person you've lost,
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or the essence of them, not to explain and not
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to apologize, but just to be. You might feel their
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presence in a chair across from you, or sense a warmth,
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or remember a smile, a laugh, for look, or even
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just feeling that they're near, and there's no need to
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do anything more than that. Just be with them, And
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there's no need to do anything more than that. Just
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be with them as long as you like, and if
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it feels okay to do so. You could imagine having
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a conversation from the heart. Maybe you say the words
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you didn't get to say, or maybe you hear the
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words you wish that they had said to you, because
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sometimes in trance we can allow those inner voices to speak,
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the voices of love, of connection, of peace. And I
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wonder what they would want for you right now? What
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would they hope you carry forward? What parts of them
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live on in you? Perhaps they left you with more
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than pain. Maybe they gave you a way of laughing,
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or a favorite story, the strength you didn't know you'd need,
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but now you have, And just for now, just for
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this moment, you might allow yourself to receive that, because
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grief is not the end of love. Grief is what
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love looks like when it loses its form. But love
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doesn't disappear. It changes shape. And you may find that
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even now you're already carrying something forward, a legacy, a lesson,
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a feeling that you'll return to again and again in dreams,
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in quiet mornings, in surprise, in moments of laughter. And
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that doesn't mean forgetting, It means honoring. And you get
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to choose how you get to build a new relationship ship,
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not with the body, but with the memory, the spirit,
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the essence, and some part of you already knows how.
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So now, just for a moment, I invite you to imagine,
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some time in the future, a day when the sharpest
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pain has softened, a day when the sun feels warm
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on your skin again, a moment when you find yourself
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smiling and it doesn't feel like a betrayal. That day
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might not be to day, but it's coming, and maybe
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you can even imagine what you'll be doing, who you'll
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be with, and how you'll feel, and how the memory
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of your loved one is still there, nought as a wound,
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but as a thread woven into the tapestry of your
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life that's not letting go, that's taken them with you.
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So as you begin to return, you can bring with
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you anything that's useful, any feelings of peace or clarity,
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or simply the knowing that you took this time for yourself.
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And as you slowly return to the present moment, you
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may notice the sounds around you, the feeling of the
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chair or bed beneath you, and the air on your skin.
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And in a moment when you're ready, you can begin
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to stretch or wiggle your fingers and toes. Bring in
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back with you whatever matters most, Because something in you
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has shifted or maybe softened, and you did that, you
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allowed it, and now you can rejoin in the world
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at your own pace. Bring in with you the memory
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of love and the possibility of peace. Thank you for listening.
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Remember to be kind to yourself. You deserved to be
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happy and be gentle with yourself. You deserve to feel safe.
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Lots of Love by
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