April 17, 2025

(no music) EARNEST | Let me bore your pain away #25 | Jason Newland | 17th April 2025

(no music) EARNEST | Let me bore your pain away #25 | Jason Newland | 17th April 2025
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Hello, and welcome to Jasonnewland dot com. My name's Jason Newland.

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Please pledge, ple pleige. Only listen when you can safely closize.

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So this is let me boil your pain away. It's

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basically just me wabbling on about various things they can

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hopefully help to reduce the physical sensations of your chronic pain. Ultimately,

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I guess it's just I mean, it's very base. It

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could be a relaxation session, you know, just a distraction maybe,

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and only listen, of course, I said when you can

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safe you close your eyes, but also with the permission

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of your doctor, because you do need to know the

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cause of the chronic pain. You need to know the

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cause of the pain basically before you listen. And I

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would advise that about any thing, any kind of real

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life therapy as well. Find out the cause first before

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you get any kind of treatment. Although this isn't treatment,

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and this is not a replacement for treatment. This is

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just a middle aged Englishman just talking. I saw this

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is if it helps, brilliant and I hope it does.

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But I'm not a replacement for anything else. The only

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thing I could really replace is, you know, if you

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had a really boring friend who used to talk to

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or listen to, because let's face it, maybe they just

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talked at you, and maybe they've moved away and you

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don't have contact with them anymore. I can be a

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replacement for that some boring person talks at you. Or

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if you've got someone that likes to eat all your

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chocolate and maybe they're not around anymore forever, reason, I

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can replace that person because I do or I love chocolate.

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I could go on, but I won't. I was going

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to say, if you've got someone that maybe that you

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don't see anymore, that had a really weird beard, that's

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me as well. I'm thinking of growing my beard, like

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really big, like it was twenty twenty. It was so

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big even scared the cashier at the garage at the

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petrol station. She because I had I was trying to

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wear a mask, and a mask basically just didn't even

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cover it. It was just that the mask looked tiny,

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my head looked massive. And when I trimmed it, she

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said to me, I'm so glad you got rid of

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that beard. I used to get so scared when i'd

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see you walking up here. So it was just a beard,

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she said, yeah, but it was it was just so wide.

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So what do you mean, She said, like you were

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knocking things off the shelves. Eat dating a little bit.

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He said, you like people keeping a distance here, not

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because they had to, because I didn't have any choice.

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Because your beard was about six foot long. She went

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on a bit. She went over the top with this.

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It wasn't six foot long. It was quite big. There's

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actually a video of me on YouTube somewhere, a couple

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of videos with that beard, and it's really large, like

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really a big, fat beard. It was. Some may argue

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that's not relevant to the recording, and I would say, yeah, yeah,

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maybe maybe not. Depends. I might talk about beards, I

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might not talk about beards. I never know what I'm

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going to talk about. Oh yeah, So I have a

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Facebook group, Jason Newland's Boring Group if you want to

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get together with other people that like the recordings I do,

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and you can also send me messages on there. I've

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also got a YouTube channel where I now post every

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new recording I do, including all six versions without music,

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five and ten hours about music with music, five and

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ten with music. So that's the new thing I'm doing.

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It's just another place where you can listen to my

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podcasts and and my website Jasonnewland dot com. Well, by

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the way, the YouTube channel is at Jason Newland and

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you sew a website. All the latest recordings are on

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there and whenever. If you would like to ask me

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a question or submit a quequestion for the upcoming Q

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and A Friday, which I do every week, then please

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go on there and you can fill a form in

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tiny little form with your question and your name. That's

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pretty much it, and I will whatever questions I get

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between each Friday, so between finishing the Friday and Friday

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recording and the next beginning of recording it, whatever questions

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I get during that week I will include, and I'll

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mention your name. I only mentioned first names, and I'll

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try and answer the question. Some could would argue that

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I perhaps don't answer the questions correctly, but there is

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no right and wrong way to answer a question you

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might ask. You know, for example, you might ask me

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what was the first first time I wore a tie

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and or the first time I wore a suit? And

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I might tell you about a bicycle that I had

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that got a puncture and I had to push it

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all the way up a hill. So there's no guaranteed

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that I'm going to necessarily focus on the question. I

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might get a little bit sidetracked. Sometimes I do try

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and bring it back, but you know, these occasions when

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I'm not as focused as maybe some may wish I was.

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I'm quite happy with the way I do it it,

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but I don't always I try and answer the questions,

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but sometimes I get a question it's a little bit like, oh,

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I have to be careful because, you know, especially if

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it involves other people in my life and I don't.

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I can't you know, if they listen to this, I

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have to be careful. They don't say anything derogatory, you know,

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so I have to. But generally, any question, if I

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can answer it, I will. If I can't, I'll still

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answer it. But it might be but plus I didn't

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even finish that sentence. Plus you can ask me the

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same question every week for a whole year, and you'll

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probably get a different answer every week, because it depends

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what my mood is depends. And also, you know, sometimes

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I'll answer a question on Q and a Friday, and

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I'd be sitting over there afterwards thinking, especially when it

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things like what's your favorite movie or what's your favorite song?

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And I was thinking, oh, wait a minute, no, my

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favorite movie is that this you know? Not kind of

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I forgot to mention this thing, or you know, it

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reminds me, blind me to again. This is a true story.

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Someone came to me and they had a phobia or

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not a phobia, but they just traveling to the airport.

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Because this person has gone on holiday, traveling to the

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airport was causing like a lot of anxiety and the

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person couldn't figure out why. It's like, I don't know why.

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It's like he had a phobia. He had a phobia

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of traveling to the airport in a car, like get

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a taxi, I think, or drove I don't know. And

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I was like, okay, you got an issue with a plane. No,

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I ain't got an issue with a plane. Is that

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you've got an issue with the people you're going with?

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Not really? I mean, I got three kids, but you

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get used to them after a while, don't you what.

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I can't leave my own these days, got to take

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them with you, okay. And it was like okay, so

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trying to figure it out. She came and this might

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have been a hypnosis. I don't know if it's a

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hypnosis or it was counseling. I can't remember in what's

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what words were gomage head I had on that day. Anyway,

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after about the third session, she said, she mentioned that

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she'd been in a car crash on the way to

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the airport, like about five years ago, quite a serious

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car crash. Like okay, it's the dots weren't joining in

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his mind, I'm saying his in her because I can't

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remember if it was a bloke or woman. I've got

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no idea, don't care. But they didn't. They didn't have

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like it seems so obvious, like well, obviously if if

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you've got this issue because something bad happened, something you

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know quite you know hard happened on the way to

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an airport, because traveling to the airport wasn't something that

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they did regularly. It was like a once a year

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thing or twice a year. I don't know. And unless

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of course he was an air like it could have

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been a pilot. I suppose. No, no, I don't think

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he was a pilot. So it's amazing that sometimes you know,

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forgetting things, and it's it's all about forgetting things that

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I remember on my chairs falling apart. I keep picking

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at the Do you know I've got like a gaming chair?

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I don't. I'm not a gamer. The last time I

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even attempted to play a computer game two thousand and five,

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and somebody sold me their game Boy. I think it

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was game Boy? Is it game Boy? What is it?

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Not the Xbox? But the other one? Is it a

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game Boy? So he sold me that, and I just like,

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I don't know what to do with this. The chair

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is not falling apart because I've had it for twenty years.

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I just haven't. I keep picking it. I'm just thinking

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if that was my fingers I was picking it. I

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don't have no fingers left. So yeah, there's been times

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when I've forgotten about my lower back. See, I've very,

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very skillfully pulled it back to the reason I'm doing

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this recording, and I'm very pleased with myself. Perhaps I

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shouldn't have mentioned it because it takes away the potential

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cleverness of what I did. But now thinking about it,

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maybe it wasn't that clever. Maybe it was just too

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I kind of get a senses like the arrows are

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basically pulling pointing at the fact that he's now mentioning forgetting.

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He's going to start talking about forgetting about the pain.

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That's what you're going to do now, isn't it? Ah? Yeah,

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but not always. Put my finger in my ear. Just

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pulled out some ear wax. He is it? Do you

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wonder like white ear wax is such a weird color? See?

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I have to be careful with my ears. Not because

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they're so big. I don't get them to get stuck

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in between buildings because are so big. No, not because

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they're that big. Orthough they are fairly big. Although it's weird.

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I had a friend at school and he had his

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ears pinned back. He actually had an operation. His ears

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didn't even stick out. I didn't. It's just like it

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wasn't even to me that noticeable. You know, it's weird.

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It's like I thought my ears probably stuck out just

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as much as his did. But he, you know, he

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had a thing about it, so he got his ears

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pinned back. And yeah, I think that's another thing about distraction,

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isn't it is? Because I'm trying to keep coming back

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to my lower back. But when I was thinking about

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my friend's ears, I don't get I don't spend a

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lot of time thinking about his ears. By the way.

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I mean, it's like back when I was about eleven

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or twelve, so so it's, you know, a few years ago.

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It's over fifteen years ago, so I don't spend a

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lot of time thinking of his ears. But when I

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was thinking of his ears, I wasn't fol be on

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my lower back. And you might be thinking that's because

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he had such big ears. He didn't, And it's rude.

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Don't make fun of my friend who I haven't seen

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for forty years. I suppose technically, is he still a friend?

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I don't know. See I'm the way I see it,

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and it's weird, But I got what di I left

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school in nineteen eighty six, so it's nearly forty years ago,

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is that right? Eighty six, ninety six, two thousand and six,

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twoenty sixteen, twenty twenty six, so many years time, So

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it's thirty nine years. There are people I went to

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school with who are still have high regard for, and

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I haven't seen them pretty much since I left school.

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Like a song called Stephan or Stephan Stephan. I remember

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his surname. I remember what he looked like. He was

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tall and he was cool and I remember him. I

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just he was one of these people. He's someone that

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I kind of want to be like. Obviously nothing like him,

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but I would, you know, if I could have chosen

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to be like anyone, probably in my year, he would

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have been one of the people I've chosen to be like,

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because he was. He was a man, that's the one thing.

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He was already a man physically, but he seemed to

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be a man mentally as well. It was more clue together,

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it was more sensible. He wasn't scared of anything. He

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just was strong. But it was also nice, you know.

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He looked out for people, and I just, yeah, it's weird.

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I'm hoping that the old I'm not going to say

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his name, but the I and E E E E

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E E doesn't start shouting because of the conversations, the

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very loud conversations going on in the garden yesterday. Man,

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they were playing music, but I think they're doing it

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from a phone, so it's just all distorted from a distance.

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It's distorted, isn't if you hear someone's phone music. And

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I had it blasting like all day, all all day,

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right till about eleven at night. I was like, what

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the heck? It was very strange. I hope that's not

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a sign of things to come. I can I can

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imagine I'm getting going to get a letter. Dear Jason.

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I quite like some of you will let me boy,

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you're let me bore your pain away recordings. But you

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did one third day, the seventeenth of April, and it

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was more like, let me bore you by moaning about stuff.

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Let me moan at you and we you know, just

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just moaned all the way through it. How is that useful?

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It's useful to me. Lets me get rid of it.

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I feel better now, Oh, letting all the negativity out war.

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I'm not moaning. I'm just pointing out. You want to

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hear a moan, this is a moan, but it's not really.

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It's kind of as a funny moan. I can't believe

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this happened. I'll tell you in a minute. So when

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I was focuing on my on my friends, foking in,

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focusing on my friend's ears. To be fair, actually, anything

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I do when I make these recordings, my lower back relaxes.

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There's something about my voice. I'm not saying that in like, oh,

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I have such a calm voice. I don't mean like that,

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but just there's something about recording or doing these recordings

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that has a tendency to relax me. Sometimes I do

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feel tired when I make them a yawn. Sometimes my

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body feels well. My whole body feels quite relaxed right now.

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But my lower back I'm focusing on it because where

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the old arthritis is in my lower back, left side,

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and you know, I'm kind of stretching it. I can

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feel that. It's this I don't know. You know, you

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know when you have local anesthetic, so you can still

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feel the pressure, but you can't there's no physical discomfort,

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but you can feel the pressure. So if a dentist

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is doing stuff, or maybe you're having stitches and giving

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you local anesthetic in your hand or your foot or whatever.

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I had it when I had an ingrind tonail sorted

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once I had a local anesthetic, and it's weird. You

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can feel the pressure, but it's like that's it. It's

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a bit like that. I can kind of I'm pressing

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on my lower back, not hard, just so I can feel.

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I can feel it, but it's just nothing. It just

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feels the same as the other side. Really it's kind

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of weird. What was I going to tell you? All Right?

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I went out today, So I was in here and

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I was just doing some What did I do? Yeah,

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I was just finishing up with because I do the

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recordings and I upload them and after editing them and

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all that stuff, there was a few bits and bobs

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I needed to do. One of those things was to

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add the images to some of the podcast episodes. So

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I did that. So that took a little while. Itchy bumps, Sorry,

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oh that's better. The buttock I should say buttock really,

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just in case you think, well, should you go and

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wash your an? Shouldn't you? I've got trousers on, so

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I I need to cut my fingernails. Actually, So I

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was just finishing off some of the old classic is

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administration stuff, you know, some of that stuff that needs

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to be done. And I had two pieces of chocolate.

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I don't genuinely eat chocolate, but on this occasion, I

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had a dairy milk caramel Kapy's Dairy milk caramel bar

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with two bits left from last night. But it was warm,

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and I thought to myself, it seems a shame to

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not eat it right now. It just do you know,

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you ever get that that situation where you think it

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just seems like the right thing to do. It's just

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seemed like if you if you're walking down the street

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and you see someone struggling with an elderly person struggling with.

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Some really really heavy, heavy shopping, and then you see

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someone like a young woman who's maybe.

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Struggling to do a brolly get out. You know, maybe

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she's her hairs getting wet. So you go and help

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the young person, the attractive and I'm joking and joking

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and joking, so you help the person needs help, and

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it feels like the right thing to do. That's how

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I am with the chocolate. It's but morally it felt

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the right decision to eat that chocolate. There's only two pieces.

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I mean, I lost the stone, well, I lost the

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stone in the heart. I said, I've lost the stone

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and I've not put it back on. I lost the

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stone in half and I put half a stone back on.

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So technically, I suppose I can't really be dancing around

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doing somersaults making out that one are good because I've

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not put the weight back on, because technically I've put

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one third of it back on. But if you move

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away from that. I'm still I'm fifteen, not sixteen stone,

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so that's good. What I'll be by Christmas I might

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be seventeen stone. I don't think so well that bit

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of melt thing. Honestly, I've got this bracket on this desk.

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It reminds me. Okay, you ever see it's a wonderful life,

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and they've got he's got that banister, like the thing

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that he holds onto the banister right at the top

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of the bottom of the stairs and it just comes off,

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and he's like, oh, damn banister. And then when he

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comes back off the pier and all his family there

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and all his friends come to save him financially, and

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the old old man zone Zion or whatever it is

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is playing, and you know, he goes upstairs to see

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his daughter because he's Juju, because he had a petal.

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It's didn't he in a in his pocket, Juju's pedal,

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Juju's pedal, And and he puts his hand on the

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banister and it comes off like oh oh, and he's happy,

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where like an hour earlier he was like annoyed. He's like,

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oh girl, And I was like, oh, it was a

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bit like that. I lost my training fought there. What

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was I talking about? I was talking about eating chocolate

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and I ended up focusing on a banister on Oh,

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this metal thing, it's like that. That's it, this metal

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thing on my desk. And it's not like a banister

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because that would be weird because it's nothing like that.

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But it's something that's just annoying me, and I just like,

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I wish I could do something about it, but that

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would involve effort, and it's just there. I just need

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this screwdriver. But I lent my screwdriver to my neighbor,

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and my neighbor never re basically gave it back. I

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don't want to read it was going to be repeated, reported, reprieved, returned.

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That's it. Never returned it. Oh, I've got an email.

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Disney's had a few problems. We need your money please.

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Plus we we kind of did everything we could to

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ruin the Marvel franchise. I still stick with Marvel, even

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though Disney really have gone out of their way to

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destroy it. I don't know why, because that was I mean,

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they have the rights, they own Star Wars and the

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Marvel all the Marvel movies and stuff, and I don't know,

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I'm not quite sure why they've kind of done what

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they've done. And they really need some pr they need

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someone to have a word with some of their stars

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as well, just to be quiet when they're promoting a movie.

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It's really I reckon that snow White. If it had

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got good ratings, regardless of it was good or not,

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it might be a really good movie. I don't know,

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I've not watched it, but if it had good ratings,

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it would have been probably the biggest hit of the year,

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even if it wasn't particularly good, just because it's a

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Disney movie. It's a remaker, one of the most famous

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Disney movies of all time, and it's got some famous

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people in it, and you know, it's got wonder woman.

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She's in it, isn't she. It just shows you how

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easily because of social networking, social media, the Internet and

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all that stuff. It's like they go to town in

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a much a stronger way than the national press ever

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used to. It used to be like a slow burning

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thing with the newspapers. You know, they try and do

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something and if everyone else followed then it would be good.

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Sometimes it wouldn't work. And they did one recently about

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it was Stephen Srye. So Stephen fry made a controversial

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comment Stephen Frye contraversy contra This is recently and oh

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he's got another one now. The thing is, I don't

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know if it was it was accused of making racist

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and sexist jokes or I don't know what it was.

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Oh yeah, I know what it was. He made had

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been criticized for controversial comments regarding some yeah, quite serious stuff.

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They posted it whoever it was online. No one showed

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the slightest bit of interest because he would have been well,

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he wasn't canceled, and it seems like he's above being canceled.

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Some people just ah above that. Russell Brand seems to

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be above that. John Tate what was his name? Tate?

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Wherever that name is the bloke Tate, what's his first name?

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Tate used to be tit and lyon if you put

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Tate in Jenny used to be like Tate and Nile Sugar.

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That's weird. I put in Tate into Google enough it's

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coming up other than okay, if I just check Tate

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Modern Hotels, Andrew is it Andrew? I bet if I

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just put Andrew, it'll probably come up in the distance.

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And that's a very slurpy word. Then andrews Andrew Andrew. Yeah,

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a n the first word Andrew Tate's the first person

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that comes up as soon as I put a in,

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So Andrew Tate is. It's quite funny because the Ricky

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Gervais said that Andrew Tate is what a fourteen year

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old boy thinks a man is supposed to be like.

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And I thought it's quite funny because he's not really

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representative of the male population. I would say it's kind

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of a fantasy, kind of. I don't know, it's weird.

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I mean it's see in England we saw Andrew Tate

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years ago, long before he was famous worldwide, long long

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long before, because he was in Big Brother. And I

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don't know if he was. He wasn't even in what

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year was that? What year was he in Big Brother?

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He don't off cut? What does he say about? Okay?

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So A look I honestly, some of the rubbish he

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comes out with. See, I quite like people that come

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out of crap because it's funny. But doesn't you know,

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people just say stuff like it's It's almost like they

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it was created kind of like a Frankenstein's monster or AI.

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They sort of said, okay, create the perfect version of

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a misogynist, like the perfect version that has every single

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misogynistic attribute. And he seemed to have come out the

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other end. I think I've got no issue with him.

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I don't know him, but is there's a lot of

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that stuff online at the moment. I watch a lot

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of the YouTube channels, and I do. I see some

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of these YouTube channels, and there's quite a few really

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popular YouTube channels that are so anti the opposite. Sex

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is ridiculous. I don't understand it. I think women are lovely,

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not all of them, but not all men are either.

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Not all anyone thinks lovely, but everyone's got something good

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about them. Big Brother twenty sixteen, So it wasn't celebrity

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Big Brother ever. No one knew who he was. He

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was just some he had hair back then, he was

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a bloke, and they kept talking about and being a

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kickboxer champion, and he was he was controversial, argumentative, but

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he was unknown, and he had a weird accent, a

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mixture between English and American. He came under scrutiny for

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previously having made homophobic and racist posts on Twitter. He

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was removed from the show after six days, saying which

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produces saying it was because of events outside the house.

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Oh okay, well that didn't come up when I talked

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about that. When I was trying to look at people

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for people that had been kicked off a big brother,

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how I think I wanted to talk about Taiti Peti,

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but Taiti so as distractions. I mean, in some ways,

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you know, I'd rather have an apritis than be him,

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you know. So yeah, it's weird. I don't understand. I

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do sometimes wonder how do people get to be so

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angry take themselves so seriously? And that is something that

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can really get in a way of relaxing, seeing that

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over the years a lot where some people just take

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themselves a little bit too seriously. It's not that they

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should see themselves as a joke, of course not, but

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or sometimes like really earnest people, let's some look, if

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I've got the word right earnest. The word earnest is

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defined as being characterized by or proceeding from an intense

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and serious state of mind. Yeah serious, I do get

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it right. It implies seriousness and determination, often indicating that

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someone is sincere and committed to their intentions or actions.

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And there's nothing wrong with sincerity, BlimE me. So it's

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an amazing trait and being earnest, you know, if you're

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climbing a mountain, or you're searching for someone's missing, or

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you know, you're trying to say someone's life or yeah,

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being earnest is it's an amazing characteristic. But in just

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everyday life it might not be always useful, especially with

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physical issues. And I've noticed that I've known a lot

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of people over the years that have just been very

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very I don't use the word earnest, but serious, very

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taking themselves serious, maybe taking other people serious, taking their

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own views really seriously. And I understand, you know, it's

467
00:37:50.920 --> 00:37:55.880
probably quite hard for some people to realize that their

468
00:37:56.000 --> 00:38:00.840
views are only really important to them, and maybe people

469
00:38:00.880 --> 00:38:04.159
that have the same views, but there are millions, if

470
00:38:04.159 --> 00:38:08.199
not billions of people around the world don't feel the

471
00:38:08.199 --> 00:38:14.159
same way. So it doesn't mean that they're right, doesn't

472
00:38:14.199 --> 00:38:17.320
mean that you're right or I'm right. We're just right.

473
00:38:17.400 --> 00:38:21.440
For us, it's our opinion and it's how we choose

474
00:38:21.519 --> 00:38:24.840
to think and live our life. But then when you

475
00:38:24.880 --> 00:38:27.039
break it down, how much it is is it free

476
00:38:27.119 --> 00:38:30.679
choice of thinking if we're being indoctrinated into it, being

477
00:38:30.719 --> 00:38:35.360
born into it, Because you know the amount of things

478
00:38:35.360 --> 00:38:41.360
that I've probably indoctrinated from living in this country. I

479
00:38:41.360 --> 00:38:47.840
mean when I was a kid, I grew up. Eventually

480
00:38:47.960 --> 00:38:55.559
I grew up, and there was a certain mindset, very

481
00:38:56.400 --> 00:39:02.440
dismissive mindset to anyone that was out of the norm.

482
00:39:02.800 --> 00:39:08.280
People with disabilities were generally you wouldn't see them, maybe

483
00:39:08.400 --> 00:39:12.840
people in wheelchairs, but outside of that, they'd be locked up.

484
00:39:15.239 --> 00:39:17.719
You know. There was the care in the community kind

485
00:39:17.719 --> 00:39:20.719
of came in in the nineties where people were allowed

486
00:39:20.760 --> 00:39:29.960
to live outside of hospitals. There was a real misunderstood

487
00:39:30.280 --> 00:39:34.119
just not it wasn't misunderstanding, it wasn't even attempted understanding

488
00:39:34.519 --> 00:39:42.119
of differences. So any kind of difference was mocked. And yeah,

489
00:39:42.199 --> 00:39:46.000
a lot of time it was funny in a way

490
00:39:47.960 --> 00:39:51.199
if you're not the one being mocked, but if you

491
00:39:51.239 --> 00:39:54.079
are the one being mocked, it's probably not quite as humorous.

492
00:39:55.159 --> 00:39:58.719
And I had been the one being mocked, and I

493
00:39:58.719 --> 00:40:04.840
didn't enjoy it, and I learned from that until the

494
00:40:04.880 --> 00:40:09.199
next time I decided to mock someone. No, I don't. Generally,

495
00:40:10.360 --> 00:40:15.519
I like to go the other way so well used to.

496
00:40:16.079 --> 00:40:21.920
If I see someone mocking somebody, I join forces with

497
00:40:22.039 --> 00:40:25.719
the other person that's being mocked and turn it on

498
00:40:25.800 --> 00:40:30.559
them and either coach them on what to say, or

499
00:40:30.639 --> 00:40:33.800
just join in and sort of say and basically be there,

500
00:40:35.360 --> 00:40:40.360
be their voice temporarily, because I've known people that won't

501
00:40:40.400 --> 00:40:43.559
say anything back. They just sit there or stand there

502
00:40:43.639 --> 00:40:47.960
and let it happen. And I can't. I can't allow

503
00:40:48.039 --> 00:40:53.000
that because I'm earnest. I'm very serious about things like that,

504
00:40:54.159 --> 00:41:02.280
serious and determined. So sincere admitted to my intentions or actions,

505
00:41:03.480 --> 00:41:07.199
I'm just trying to learn what the word ernest means.

506
00:41:07.840 --> 00:41:16.519
What's that famous book Earnest something Earnest? So that is

507
00:41:16.559 --> 00:41:21.360
something I've noticed. Is So you thought I was going

508
00:41:21.400 --> 00:41:24.920
to talk about forgetting things. No, No, nope, mind you.

509
00:41:25.079 --> 00:41:30.920
There has been times when I've just forgotten about my back.

510
00:41:34.360 --> 00:41:36.119
I mean, there was one time when I fractured my

511
00:41:36.159 --> 00:41:41.159
back in two places. The week I got Vinny, I

512
00:41:41.320 --> 00:41:47.239
had a well it wasn't a walking stick, but it

513
00:41:47.320 --> 00:41:52.920
was very sturdy umberella with like a a handle, and

514
00:41:53.000 --> 00:41:55.840
I used it as a walking stick just to help

515
00:41:55.880 --> 00:42:00.960
me get through because I was Oh man, that was ooh.

516
00:42:02.000 --> 00:42:06.840
That was a very interesting time. And then one day

517
00:42:06.840 --> 00:42:09.360
I went out without it and I forgot that I

518
00:42:09.400 --> 00:42:15.079
needed it, and I realized that I was really making

519
00:42:15.119 --> 00:42:20.320
a meal of it. I was almost over exaggerating my

520
00:42:20.400 --> 00:42:25.920
limping and I didn't realize I was doing that until

521
00:42:27.079 --> 00:42:30.119
I forgot to take the brollie out. I mean, I

522
00:42:30.159 --> 00:42:32.760
wasn't walking normally. I still had a limp, and I

523
00:42:32.800 --> 00:42:39.400
was being careful, but it almost like made brought me

524
00:42:39.440 --> 00:42:46.840
down to earth to realize that if I was able

525
00:42:46.880 --> 00:42:52.880
to forget that I needed some kind of support, then

526
00:42:52.920 --> 00:42:58.639
I possibly didn't need the support. And then I fell over,

527
00:42:58.760 --> 00:43:03.000
so I did need it. I haven't full nos since.

528
00:43:03.800 --> 00:43:08.119
BlimE me. That was weird. My friend said, you know,

529
00:43:09.400 --> 00:43:12.800
like we had snow that week, so the last time

530
00:43:12.840 --> 00:43:16.440
we had settled snow, So this is over two years ago,

531
00:43:17.320 --> 00:43:21.400
two years and four months. That's the last time we

532
00:43:21.440 --> 00:43:24.480
had in where I live. I mean, had any kind

533
00:43:24.519 --> 00:43:29.000
of settled, proper settled snow where it settled, you know

534
00:43:29.079 --> 00:43:30.719
what I mean, like it's there for a few days,

535
00:43:30.719 --> 00:43:35.079
and that it all melted on that day. I think

536
00:43:35.079 --> 00:43:41.079
it was a Wednesday or Thursday, all melted. It didn't

537
00:43:41.119 --> 00:43:44.519
stay settled for a long time, maybe a few days,

538
00:43:45.960 --> 00:43:51.559
maybe five days. I don't know. I lose track. And

539
00:43:51.639 --> 00:43:54.119
all I'm doing is just my friend knocked on. No,

540
00:43:54.199 --> 00:43:56.960
he shouted up. It's a bit late at night to

541
00:43:57.039 --> 00:44:00.719
be doing that, but he showered up to bring Vinnie

542
00:44:00.719 --> 00:44:04.519
down or go in the garden. Logi and Vinnie and

543
00:44:04.519 --> 00:44:06.920
and I've only had Vinnie literally for a week. That

544
00:44:07.000 --> 00:44:09.000
was the first week of having him, so there's a

545
00:44:09.039 --> 00:44:12.719
lot of excitement about having him here. And Logi loved

546
00:44:12.800 --> 00:44:17.239
him Vinnie. Vinnie loved Luke, he loved Logi. He loved

547
00:44:17.280 --> 00:44:20.800
going in there of that flat. You know, this was

548
00:44:20.920 --> 00:44:24.599
all new for him. He was having time of his life.

549
00:44:25.159 --> 00:44:27.880
I guess he's you know, I think he'd have preferred

550
00:44:27.920 --> 00:44:29.880
to be downstairs and to be up here with me.

551
00:44:31.119 --> 00:44:35.920
But I think he's he's given up on the dream.

552
00:44:36.360 --> 00:44:39.920
He's just he's settled. I think that's the most I

553
00:44:39.920 --> 00:44:41.760
could ever really hope for anyone with me. It's just

554
00:44:41.800 --> 00:44:45.199
to settle, just to That's what I was hoping in

555
00:44:45.239 --> 00:44:48.599
life for, Like relationships, I don't need anyone to fall

556
00:44:48.599 --> 00:44:50.239
in love with me. I just want someone just to

557
00:44:50.559 --> 00:44:55.519
just to settle, just to to give up looking for

558
00:44:55.559 --> 00:44:59.519
something better. That's all I want. It's not much to ask.

559
00:45:01.840 --> 00:45:07.840
Oh that's terrible. Oh some water. I got a little

560
00:45:07.840 --> 00:45:12.920
delivery earlier, some food to get me through till next week,

561
00:45:13.039 --> 00:45:19.039
because tomorrow is good Friday, then it's well, it's basically

562
00:45:19.239 --> 00:45:22.599
Easter weekends, so I think everything kind of goes back

563
00:45:22.639 --> 00:45:27.199
to normal Saturday. Then it's Easter Day Sunday, Easter Monday

564
00:45:27.679 --> 00:45:31.440
or good sort of like a bank holiday Monday, and

565
00:45:31.480 --> 00:45:35.440
then things go back to normal Tuesday. So I'm going

566
00:45:35.519 --> 00:45:39.000
to be other than doing what well, I should be

567
00:45:39.039 --> 00:45:47.159
doing what normally do really, yeah, making recordings and watching

568
00:45:47.199 --> 00:45:49.840
some Telly. I hope to watch them Telly over the weekend.

569
00:45:52.000 --> 00:45:58.760
I just started watching the movie, but I thought it

570
00:45:58.880 --> 00:46:01.559
was getting on. It's like, I mean, now it's quarter

571
00:46:01.559 --> 00:46:05.960
to three and I almost feel like I haven't done

572
00:46:06.000 --> 00:46:10.639
anything today. It's kind of weird. So I thought I

573
00:46:10.719 --> 00:46:14.039
might as well just get on and make a recording.

574
00:46:14.119 --> 00:46:26.400
But that's seriousness. I have mentioned this before. I'm not

575
00:46:26.440 --> 00:46:36.159
one hundred percentual how to really kind of move well,

576
00:46:38.320 --> 00:46:42.159
I've been there, sometimes i'm there. Sometimes I'm super serious.

577
00:46:43.559 --> 00:46:51.400
But generally, I think having I'm not going to say

578
00:46:51.480 --> 00:46:53.559
a sense of humor, because serious people can have a

579
00:46:53.599 --> 00:46:55.840
sense of humor as well. I think everybody's got a

580
00:46:55.880 --> 00:47:00.079
sense of humor. It's just different for each person. But

581
00:47:00.159 --> 00:47:03.880
to be a bit more lighter, to be a bit

582
00:47:07.559 --> 00:47:10.199
what does it take for you to feel less serious?

583
00:47:11.599 --> 00:47:13.199
I mean, the fact is some people have got a

584
00:47:13.280 --> 00:47:18.559
lot of serious stuff going on, So it's I would

585
00:47:18.599 --> 00:47:22.320
never really say to someone generally unless I learn them

586
00:47:22.440 --> 00:47:27.880
very well to just try not to take themselves too seriously.

587
00:47:31.559 --> 00:47:35.480
But then you can take other things seriously without taking

588
00:47:35.519 --> 00:47:42.920
yourself seriously, can't you? Is is that possible? Is it

589
00:47:42.960 --> 00:47:46.840
possible to take a break from all that stuff and

590
00:47:48.199 --> 00:47:54.679
just remembering we get what we think about, so whatever

591
00:47:54.719 --> 00:47:58.000
we focus on has an effect on how we feel.

592
00:48:00.000 --> 00:48:03.280
I mean, this is just scientific fact. It's not an opinion.

593
00:48:04.679 --> 00:48:07.480
I was angry, the sound quite aggressive. It's not an opinion.

594
00:48:07.800 --> 00:48:13.360
It's fact. I'm taking myself I being very earnest. That's

595
00:48:13.400 --> 00:48:15.119
going to be the word this That's what it's going

596
00:48:15.199 --> 00:48:18.039
to be called. Earnest. That's what I'm going to call

597
00:48:18.079 --> 00:48:23.920
this recording earnest. I'm never going to use the word

598
00:48:24.000 --> 00:48:26.920
ernest again after this. It's not one of the words

599
00:48:26.960 --> 00:48:32.400
I use. I don't know why I just said a

600
00:48:32.679 --> 00:48:36.920
very old fashioned what is that? What is that book?

601
00:48:37.079 --> 00:48:41.360
Something Earnest? It's a very very famous book. I'm going

602
00:48:41.400 --> 00:48:49.920
to look it up, book The Importance of Being Earnest

603
00:48:50.559 --> 00:49:00.800
O Scar Wild. I've never read it, never read it Ernest. Okay,

604
00:49:00.960 --> 00:49:11.519
let's have a look. I'm just gonna have a look

605
00:49:11.599 --> 00:49:20.599
for something. Kah h, this is gonna be weird. I'm

606
00:49:20.639 --> 00:49:31.440
gonna ask all right, here we go and ask chat

607
00:49:31.559 --> 00:49:50.559
GPT do you do you have any techniques force to

608
00:49:50.639 --> 00:49:56.360
stop being earnest? Okay, here we go. Let's see what

609
00:49:56.440 --> 00:50:00.320
it comes up with. Do you have any here knows

610
00:50:00.400 --> 00:50:07.880
his techniques for stopping being earnest? So, although I mean

611
00:50:08.000 --> 00:50:11.280
recently I've been making recordings and I've kind of focused

612
00:50:11.280 --> 00:50:18.599
on some relief techniques and stuff, this is a little

613
00:50:18.639 --> 00:50:22.519
bit different. But it's a kind of a distractions. I

614
00:50:22.559 --> 00:50:28.280
didn't tell you, did I about the chocolate? Oh, i'll

615
00:50:28.280 --> 00:50:31.199
tell you in a minute. It's honestly, I'm embarrassed by it.

616
00:50:32.199 --> 00:50:35.960
I'm actually embarrassed, and I can't believe no one told

617
00:50:36.000 --> 00:50:43.840
me so this is. Oh, it's given me a whole

618
00:50:43.960 --> 00:50:49.440
I just want. Oh no, okay, no, it's given me

619
00:50:49.519 --> 00:50:51.719
lots of like a whole thing. I don't want a

620
00:50:51.719 --> 00:51:07.079
whole thing. Just if I say stop, just ten different techniques, techniques, right,

621
00:51:07.119 --> 00:51:11.719
I don't want a whole hypnosis script, just ten different techniques.

622
00:51:15.239 --> 00:51:21.280
Just interested because I know some things. I know some things.

623
00:51:21.320 --> 00:51:26.880
I'm so clever. There are ways of It's about dislodging.

624
00:51:27.480 --> 00:51:32.039
It's about moving away from a fixed mind. I'm not

625
00:51:32.079 --> 00:51:33.840
reading this off the screen, by the way. I'm still

626
00:51:33.840 --> 00:51:40.159
waiting for it to load up and moving away from

627
00:51:40.239 --> 00:51:48.320
that fixedness. I suppose in a way, it's like stretching

628
00:51:48.440 --> 00:51:53.559
exercises for your mind, stretching your mind so you have

629
00:51:53.639 --> 00:51:57.599
a bit more flexibility. So it is what's coming up

630
00:51:57.639 --> 00:52:02.559
with this the playful observer. Imagine yourself stepping outside your body,

631
00:52:03.039 --> 00:52:10.119
observing yourself interacting earnestly with others, but also seeing the

632
00:52:10.239 --> 00:52:14.800
humor in these moments. Notice a playful absurdity in being

633
00:52:14.920 --> 00:52:20.559
overly serious. Okay, So imagine like it was a good example.

634
00:52:21.239 --> 00:52:26.880
I've seen that. I've seen it when and sometimes it

635
00:52:27.000 --> 00:52:34.199
can be so I've seen people if it's just like

636
00:52:34.320 --> 00:52:41.960
an average joke, sometimes people won't laugh because it goes

637
00:52:42.039 --> 00:52:46.559
against their you know, it's a subject matter that they

638
00:52:46.559 --> 00:52:53.960
don't like, which is understandable. But if something when something

639
00:52:54.039 --> 00:53:02.599
makes someone laugh, it's uncontrollable, that real laughter. Something might

640
00:53:02.639 --> 00:53:06.320
be humorous, like yeah, it's funny, but something that makes

641
00:53:06.360 --> 00:53:12.199
you just really laugh, you know, proper, proper laugh, that's uncontrollable.

642
00:53:12.239 --> 00:53:16.400
That's out of our control. We know what uncontrollable is. Okay,

643
00:53:16.440 --> 00:53:23.239
fair enough, blame me. It's so serious it's it's out

644
00:53:23.239 --> 00:53:28.519
of our control. So it doesn't mean So if if

645
00:53:28.519 --> 00:53:32.280
someone told me a joke about the Pope that made

646
00:53:32.320 --> 00:53:35.280
me laugh, doesn't mean that I'm against the Pope or

647
00:53:35.320 --> 00:53:39.400
I find anything funny about the Pope water skiing or

648
00:53:39.440 --> 00:53:43.239
whatever the joke would be. You know, it's just that

649
00:53:43.360 --> 00:53:46.800
it made me laugh, and it wasn't. It caught me

650
00:53:46.840 --> 00:53:53.000
off guard. And that's something I think some people struggle with,

651
00:53:53.199 --> 00:53:56.920
Like you can't laugh at that, can't laugh at this? Well,

652
00:53:59.400 --> 00:54:03.480
and I'll should handler, he said, you know, with stuff

653
00:54:03.519 --> 00:54:05.840
that's serious now and you're like, one day we'll laugh

654
00:54:05.880 --> 00:54:11.480
about this. Why wait, why I laugh about it now?

655
00:54:12.400 --> 00:54:17.119
And I'm not talking about super serious, horrible things, but

656
00:54:18.239 --> 00:54:20.320
I remember there. I had a neighbor who had an

657
00:54:20.360 --> 00:54:25.639
ambulance called and if they hurt, this person heard the

658
00:54:25.679 --> 00:54:32.599
ambulance drivers or the paramedics joking, and I had to

659
00:54:32.639 --> 00:54:40.400
explain to him that it's it's a natural thing to do.

660
00:54:40.760 --> 00:54:46.719
They're not laughing at you, they're not laughing at your situation. Basically,

661
00:54:47.039 --> 00:54:49.679
it's a thing called gallows humor. And he had not

662
00:54:49.719 --> 00:54:52.079
heard that because he's young, very very young, hadn't heard

663
00:54:52.079 --> 00:54:55.360
of the term. So I had to explains it's basically,

664
00:54:55.360 --> 00:55:00.920
they're doing such a difficult job at times that the

665
00:55:00.960 --> 00:55:04.000
only way to really cope with it is by laughing

666
00:55:04.000 --> 00:55:07.079
at what's going on. They're not really laughing at what's

667
00:55:07.119 --> 00:55:11.679
going on. They're not they find something's funny, but you know,

668
00:55:11.840 --> 00:55:15.679
it's a way of coping. And it's just similar with

669
00:55:15.880 --> 00:55:21.719
I'm sure with the police, with doctors, with nurses, with

670
00:55:22.320 --> 00:55:26.119
even in counseling, it was sort of you know, even

671
00:55:26.159 --> 00:55:30.760
in the call center, but laugh at someone make fun

672
00:55:30.800 --> 00:55:34.719
of a customer, or make fun of a team leader

673
00:55:34.719 --> 00:55:38.559
that was a bit over the top, you know, moaning

674
00:55:38.599 --> 00:55:43.519
and stuff. Just it was a way of letting that

675
00:55:44.599 --> 00:55:52.599
tension out, a way of release, you know. So it's

676
00:55:52.639 --> 00:55:57.000
not necessarily that you find it funny like that you

677
00:55:57.079 --> 00:56:02.360
find their situation funny, or you're really mocking them. It's

678
00:56:02.360 --> 00:56:07.480
just that it's a way to let out, a way

679
00:56:07.519 --> 00:56:13.480
to release. Oh, brilliant, you've now explain humor to us. Thanks. No,

680
00:56:13.639 --> 00:56:17.239
I'm not trying to explain humor here. I'm saying that

681
00:56:18.400 --> 00:56:25.159
this is what I told this person, that sometimes people

682
00:56:25.159 --> 00:56:30.639
will laugh, but they're not really laughing at you. Now,

683
00:56:32.880 --> 00:56:37.079
I still have to convince myself that if someone's if

684
00:56:37.119 --> 00:56:40.119
I'm walking down the street in my shorts and every

685
00:56:40.119 --> 00:56:43.039
single person points at my legs and laughs, they're not

686
00:56:43.159 --> 00:56:46.719
laughing at me, They're laughing with me. Okay, there's the

687
00:56:46.800 --> 00:56:52.639
bloom release. Picture your earnest thoughts and serious feelings as

688
00:56:52.719 --> 00:56:56.679
helium ballooms, gently letting them go one by one, watching

689
00:56:56.679 --> 00:57:00.679
them float peacefully away, feeling lighter and freer as each

690
00:57:00.719 --> 00:57:05.440
balloon disappears into the sky. That's just another version of

691
00:57:05.519 --> 00:57:12.679
the helium release or the stress release. Another version of

692
00:57:12.719 --> 00:57:17.199
that is you can imagine getting all the all the

693
00:57:17.199 --> 00:57:22.760
things you're concerned about, putting them into a wheelbarrow, pushing

694
00:57:22.760 --> 00:57:26.679
a wheelbarrower towards a hot air balloon, you know, ones

695
00:57:26.719 --> 00:57:32.840
with the baskets, and then just the basket's got a

696
00:57:32.880 --> 00:57:36.880
couple of pieces of wood like a ramp. Push the

697
00:57:37.480 --> 00:57:41.440
wheelbarrow in, empty it in there, pull up the side

698
00:57:41.480 --> 00:57:45.159
of the basket and then just cut the cut the

699
00:57:45.320 --> 00:57:48.440
cord or the rope that's keeping the hot air bloom

700
00:57:50.480 --> 00:57:56.719
on the ground. And watch all that crap, all that stress,

701
00:57:57.239 --> 00:58:04.639
all that negativity, discomfort, just slowly rise slowly and just

702
00:58:04.800 --> 00:58:10.000
notice how good it feels. I used to have that

703
00:58:10.039 --> 00:58:12.719
feeling when I would whenever I got into a ferry

704
00:58:13.159 --> 00:58:17.960
and I would leave this country. I always felt a

705
00:58:18.000 --> 00:58:23.760
relief as I moved away from the shore, you know,

706
00:58:23.800 --> 00:58:29.320
whether it's going to Belgium, whether it was France, Ireland.

707
00:58:29.719 --> 00:58:32.920
That's the only three different places I've been to on

708
00:58:32.960 --> 00:58:42.800
a ferry, France, Belgium and Ireland. Yeah, I think that's it. Oh,

709
00:58:42.880 --> 00:58:46.639
Isle of Man as well, so four. I always had

710
00:58:46.639 --> 00:58:50.639
that same feeling, although I wasn't able to watch with

711
00:58:50.719 --> 00:58:52.639
the Isle of Man one the winds were too strong.

712
00:58:52.639 --> 00:58:57.639
We weren't even allowed outside, but all the other fairies

713
00:58:57.679 --> 00:59:01.320
it was lovely. Just it was like in a negative

714
00:59:01.360 --> 00:59:04.639
way like all England. Who it wasn't like that, It

715
00:59:04.719 --> 00:59:12.440
was just ah. It was that separation. It was that

716
00:59:12.440 --> 00:59:22.840
that break, that physical separation of being away from well,

717
00:59:22.840 --> 00:59:26.679
basically I was leaving everything there. I was leaving any worries,

718
00:59:26.760 --> 00:59:32.559
any concerns, my past. Everything was there and I was

719
00:59:32.639 --> 00:59:35.840
moving away from it. It was nice, felt nice. It

720
00:59:35.880 --> 00:59:47.719
feels nice even imagining it, to be honest, Yeah, I

721
00:59:47.719 --> 00:59:51.039
can feel like that. Sometimes you can leave stuff like

722
00:59:51.079 --> 00:59:54.199
in the hot air blown. You can leave the physical discomfort.

723
00:59:54.639 --> 00:59:57.159
You can leave that on the shore as well as

724
00:59:57.159 --> 01:00:00.719
you move away on the boat. You can leave it

725
01:00:00.840 --> 01:00:08.320
at home whenever you go out. There's so many little

726
01:00:08.360 --> 01:00:14.119
things you can do that. I know it's imagination, but

727
01:00:14.280 --> 01:00:22.599
sometimes you know, if you carried around a little pad

728
01:00:22.679 --> 01:00:31.800
with you, piece of paper, I'm not talking about big pad,

729
01:00:31.920 --> 01:00:35.599
just a little pad, just a little just you know,

730
01:00:36.199 --> 01:00:42.239
it doesn't have to be anything big, and but you

731
01:00:42.280 --> 01:00:44.400
could do this at home as well. But whenever you

732
01:00:44.400 --> 01:00:50.119
get a feeling, whenever you get a feeling, you don't

733
01:00:50.199 --> 01:00:53.280
enjoy whether it's a thought that you're not enjoying, whether

734
01:00:53.320 --> 01:00:59.480
it's a physical feeling that just feels quite horrible. You

735
01:00:59.480 --> 01:01:03.960
could write how you feel down, rip it off the pad,

736
01:01:04.079 --> 01:01:07.440
off the pad whatever, screw it up and just put

737
01:01:07.440 --> 01:01:12.159
it in the bin, or if you live around here,

738
01:01:12.280 --> 01:01:15.360
just chuck it out a window for the for the

739
01:01:15.360 --> 01:01:19.960
cleanest to pick up in a month's time by doing

740
01:01:20.000 --> 01:01:25.039
their nappies. Oh dear, honestly, there's there's a there's a

741
01:01:25.079 --> 01:01:29.440
flat downstairs. There's eggshells all outside the kitchen window on

742
01:01:29.519 --> 01:01:38.320
the floor outside. How what they were chucking nappies out

743
01:01:38.280 --> 01:01:42.239
of the front It's on camera, They've got the other

744
01:01:42.360 --> 01:01:48.280
people obviously got on camera. But how how what part

745
01:01:48.320 --> 01:01:53.599
of the brain needs to be turned off to be

746
01:01:53.719 --> 01:01:59.000
cooking and then just chucking food checking empty eggshells out

747
01:01:59.000 --> 01:02:01.159
of the kitchen window. What part of the brain has

748
01:02:01.199 --> 01:02:03.280
to be switched off to do that, or to check

749
01:02:03.519 --> 01:02:11.280
a dirty nappy out of the living room window. I mean,

750
01:02:11.280 --> 01:02:16.719
maybe we can switch parts of the brain off, maybe

751
01:02:16.719 --> 01:02:20.000
the part for that bit of your body that you

752
01:02:20.079 --> 01:02:25.960
want to feel relaxed. Maybe switch that part of the body,

753
01:02:26.159 --> 01:02:30.159
that part of the brain off, just that one small part,

754
01:02:30.840 --> 01:02:33.559
and I guess there's I mean, if you think about it,

755
01:02:33.639 --> 01:02:38.880
like a traffic light system, so you've got that part

756
01:02:38.880 --> 01:02:44.679
of your body is green as yellow and it's red,

757
01:02:45.960 --> 01:02:51.159
so red kind of means it can Each color can

758
01:02:51.239 --> 01:02:54.800
mean what you want them to mean, so you can

759
01:02:54.880 --> 01:02:56.840
just change the color. Maybe the one in the middle

760
01:02:56.960 --> 01:03:06.800
is a you know, hm. One color is maybe unpleasant

761
01:03:07.039 --> 01:03:14.880
feeling and then the other color would be feeling relaxed.

762
01:03:15.079 --> 01:03:17.440
I mean, I want to go, like you know, stop

763
01:03:17.679 --> 01:03:31.079
go and prepare to go. Although in this country, there

764
01:03:31.519 --> 01:03:33.800
that there's something that happens at turning off part of

765
01:03:33.880 --> 01:03:38.320
your brain. When people get a driving license in this country,

766
01:03:38.039 --> 01:03:42.000
they get a part of the botomy, and what happens

767
01:03:42.239 --> 01:03:44.880
is they get a part of their brain removed, the

768
01:03:46.119 --> 01:03:50.800
I don't know, the sensible part that only really it

769
01:03:50.840 --> 01:03:54.360
activates when they're in the car. The rest of the time,

770
01:03:54.400 --> 01:04:00.559
they're fine, but something happens, so they learn the red

771
01:04:00.960 --> 01:04:07.880
is stop, Green is go. Yellow depends on where you are.

772
01:04:08.119 --> 01:04:11.159
So if you're stopped at the traffic lights, yellow means

773
01:04:12.440 --> 01:04:15.920
prepare to go and when it goes to green. So

774
01:04:15.960 --> 01:04:20.599
if you're on red yellow, prepare to go ready and

775
01:04:20.639 --> 01:04:22.920
when it goes to green, you can go and if

776
01:04:22.920 --> 01:04:25.480
you're pulling up to traffic lights and it's on green,

777
01:04:25.880 --> 01:04:30.719
then it turns to yellow, prepare to stop, and it

778
01:04:30.760 --> 01:04:33.599
goes to red. Now you might drive up and not

779
01:04:33.719 --> 01:04:35.760
know what it is. It might just be on a yellow,

780
01:04:35.800 --> 01:04:39.159
so you don't know if it's about to stop or

781
01:04:39.199 --> 01:04:41.719
if it's about to go, so you slow down. You

782
01:04:42.480 --> 01:04:47.679
become very aware of it. Preparing. That's kind of what

783
01:04:47.719 --> 01:04:51.639
it's supposed to be, says the man that's never actually

784
01:04:51.719 --> 01:04:55.239
driven a car. I did add three driving lessons, so there.

785
01:04:56.519 --> 01:05:02.079
But what it turned into is in this country, the

786
01:05:02.119 --> 01:05:05.159
part of the brain gets switched off when you get

787
01:05:05.159 --> 01:05:15.599
your driving license. Is you when you're driving up towards

788
01:05:15.599 --> 01:05:20.039
the traffic lights and it's on yellow. What that means

789
01:05:20.079 --> 01:05:25.119
to the person in their brain is speed up. Whether

790
01:05:25.199 --> 01:05:27.119
it's going to green or whether it's going to red.

791
01:05:27.159 --> 01:05:32.280
They don't know. If it's on yellow, speed up. That's

792
01:05:32.320 --> 01:05:34.880
what it means if you're knowing any of the traffic lights.

793
01:05:34.880 --> 01:05:38.960
But if you see that, if you're sitting at the

794
01:05:38.960 --> 01:05:41.679
traffic lights and you've stopped because it's been on red,

795
01:05:45.079 --> 01:05:50.199
the yellow instead of meaning prepare for green when you

796
01:05:50.239 --> 01:05:57.320
can start driving again, yellow means go to the driver's brain.

797
01:05:58.360 --> 01:06:01.400
So it goes from red to yellow, it means I

798
01:06:01.480 --> 01:06:03.000
can just go, And that's not what it means. It

799
01:06:03.000 --> 01:06:06.199
means prepared to go. You don't go yet until it

800
01:06:06.199 --> 01:06:11.760
goes to green. So something happens to drivers brains and

801
01:06:11.800 --> 01:06:15.199
it's weird. I just don't know what it is. It's

802
01:06:18.159 --> 01:06:22.800
I guess it's just I don't know. I really I

803
01:06:22.840 --> 01:06:26.239
don't who knows, I don't know. There's a die down

804
01:06:26.920 --> 01:06:34.239
dial down technique. Visualize a controlled dial clearly marked earnestness.

805
01:06:34.960 --> 01:06:38.960
It was high, slowly and deliberately turned the dial down,

806
01:06:39.760 --> 01:06:43.280
feeling more playful, relaxed, and less serious of each reduction.

807
01:06:45.000 --> 01:06:48.199
So I've done the die down technique in the past

808
01:06:49.159 --> 01:06:56.440
quite probably quite a few times. But imagine if you

809
01:06:56.480 --> 01:07:02.159
just did do that with your level of seriousness, if

810
01:07:04.119 --> 01:07:10.840
you know, if that's the case, being able to relax,

811
01:07:10.960 --> 01:07:13.599
because you know, I this is something I've said for

812
01:07:13.719 --> 01:07:17.679
years and years and years. When you're listening to me,

813
01:07:18.800 --> 01:07:21.079
they say, if you're lying down or you're sitting down,

814
01:07:21.519 --> 01:07:26.199
you're giving yourself half an hour, an hour, or whatever

815
01:07:26.280 --> 01:07:30.440
time it is to just take some time out and

816
01:07:30.480 --> 01:07:36.000
not care about anything. Don't take anything I say seriously,

817
01:07:36.000 --> 01:07:39.280
because I'm just talking a load of rubbish most of

818
01:07:39.280 --> 01:07:50.800
the time. This is just time out from life and

819
01:07:50.880 --> 01:08:00.880
nothing matters right now. And I try to put this

820
01:08:01.000 --> 01:08:04.320
idea forward, and I know it's it's a weird, a

821
01:08:04.360 --> 01:08:12.159
weird concept sometimes because I don't know if it might

822
01:08:12.199 --> 01:08:16.359
come across as me saying, you know, nothing in your

823
01:08:16.399 --> 01:08:19.000
life matters, And I'm not saying that that's a really

824
01:08:19.079 --> 01:08:23.600
ridiculous thing to say. I'm saying that, for the period

825
01:08:23.640 --> 01:08:30.880
of time that you're listening to my super exciting voice,

826
01:08:31.680 --> 01:08:37.319
take a break from that stuff that literally, don't care

827
01:08:37.520 --> 01:08:48.319
about anything nothing, whether it's illness, other people's illness, I'm

828
01:08:48.359 --> 01:08:53.920
talking anything, let everything go. If you're able to get

829
01:08:53.920 --> 01:08:57.840
into that zone of not caring but not in a way.

830
01:08:57.840 --> 01:09:01.479
Of course, she's still care, but you're taking a break

831
01:09:01.479 --> 01:09:06.640
from it. You're having a rest from it. And we

832
01:09:06.800 --> 01:09:13.159
all need to put stuff down sometimes. I mean talking

833
01:09:13.199 --> 01:09:17.960
from my own perspective. A few times over the years,

834
01:09:19.439 --> 01:09:24.760
I ended up carrying too much stuff like baggage, stress, tension.

835
01:09:25.640 --> 01:09:28.960
It made me ill to the point where I couldn't

836
01:09:28.960 --> 01:09:33.359
function and I lost my job. It happened three times

837
01:09:33.640 --> 01:09:36.680
four It happened three times officially, but it happened in

838
01:09:36.720 --> 01:09:39.119
the past when I was younger. I just didn't really

839
01:09:39.159 --> 01:09:42.800
know what was going on. I kind of a little

840
01:09:42.800 --> 01:09:47.119
bit more clued up about what's happening now. And I

841
01:09:47.119 --> 01:09:51.560
had to drop everything. And it was a case of like,

842
01:09:52.039 --> 01:09:57.960
I was not so much juggling, but carrying such a

843
01:09:58.000 --> 01:10:06.760
heavy weight of different things, to the point where if

844
01:10:06.920 --> 01:10:09.439
I just had to let them go. But if i'd

845
01:10:09.439 --> 01:10:15.119
have taken a break, as this lady the other day,

846
01:10:15.359 --> 01:10:20.560
that reminds me. I can't remember the toffee, the toffee thing,

847
01:10:20.840 --> 01:10:26.600
but that chocolate. I embarrassed myself so badly. But anyway,

848
01:10:26.640 --> 01:10:28.399
this woman I saw her again. I think today it

849
01:10:28.520 --> 01:10:32.079
was yesterday, but a couple of days ago, me and

850
01:10:32.159 --> 01:10:36.399
Vinnie were in the park. We see this lady with

851
01:10:36.520 --> 01:10:40.079
these two big, massive bags. They were bigger than she was,

852
01:10:40.119 --> 01:10:46.039
both of them, and the bags weren't on wheels, but

853
01:10:46.119 --> 01:10:48.760
she was no, I don't know. She was struggling with

854
01:10:48.800 --> 01:10:54.479
the bags. She put them down, and I think she

855
01:10:54.600 --> 01:10:57.039
was looking at her hands, see you see like it's

856
01:10:57.079 --> 01:11:03.119
obviously she was struggling with the bags. So after I

857
01:11:03.159 --> 01:11:09.399
stopped laughing, I went over to help her. And you know,

858
01:11:09.560 --> 01:11:11.119
Vinnie had to pick me off the floor because I

859
01:11:11.119 --> 01:11:14.239
found it so funny, I didn't, I didn't laugh blind me,

860
01:11:15.159 --> 01:11:18.720
so I went over. This is kind of a bit silly.

861
01:11:18.720 --> 01:11:20.479
I went over to help her, but I always like

862
01:11:20.520 --> 01:11:25.079
the other side of the park, and I was shouting, well,

863
01:11:25.319 --> 01:11:28.279
calling out aloud, not shouting, shouting because I do. I

864
01:11:28.279 --> 01:11:30.359
do have a very loud voice on a shout, so

865
01:11:30.399 --> 01:11:37.760
I don't shout, but like, excuse me, excuse me, bag lady.

866
01:11:38.479 --> 01:11:40.840
I realized that probably wasn't a good thing to shout out,

867
01:11:41.159 --> 01:11:47.399
lady with the bags, excuse me, wiggy. No, I didn't

868
01:11:47.399 --> 01:11:49.680
show that, but just like I was trying to get

869
01:11:49.720 --> 01:11:54.399
her attention, but she wasn't hearing me. And I'm like,

870
01:11:56.640 --> 01:11:58.560
it seemed like the closer I got to her, the

871
01:11:58.640 --> 01:12:01.720
further she got away. One of those visual weird things

872
01:12:01.760 --> 01:12:05.319
you know that you see on strange movies and cartoons,

873
01:12:05.319 --> 01:12:08.680
and that I couldn't catch up to her by walking.

874
01:12:10.119 --> 01:12:16.439
But I didn't want to run because I've heard comments

875
01:12:16.479 --> 01:12:19.800
about what I look like when I run. Another dog

876
01:12:19.840 --> 01:12:24.359
walker told me, I've seen you run, and I thought, wow,

877
01:12:25.000 --> 01:12:27.439
you kept that hidden in your pocket. Because I was

878
01:12:27.479 --> 01:12:29.279
making fun of her, and she said, oh, I've seen

879
01:12:29.319 --> 01:12:33.680
you run and like so she was holding onto that

880
01:12:33.680 --> 01:12:38.560
one for a rainy day got me right back. I

881
01:12:38.560 --> 01:12:44.960
guess I run a little bit like I probably run

882
01:12:45.079 --> 01:12:47.840
the way I looked like I run, So if you

883
01:12:47.960 --> 01:12:52.279
was to see me, you just looked at me. That's

884
01:12:52.319 --> 01:12:55.720
how I run. Yes, it's not necessarily a good thing.

885
01:12:57.239 --> 01:13:00.840
So I'm walking really fast. Eventually she puts the bags

886
01:13:00.880 --> 01:13:06.199
down and I say, excuse me, hello. I didn't want

887
01:13:06.199 --> 01:13:08.800
to tap her on the shoulder. I didn't well, I

888
01:13:08.800 --> 01:13:10.600
didn't want to touch I don't want to touch anyone,

889
01:13:10.600 --> 01:13:13.600
but I don't want to startle or anything. But I

890
01:13:13.640 --> 01:13:16.840
couldn't get in front of her because the two bags

891
01:13:16.840 --> 01:13:19.840
were there blocking the whole thing, and there was a

892
01:13:19.880 --> 01:13:21.720
car to the side of us. I couldn't get around,

893
01:13:23.000 --> 01:13:27.000
and luckily she turned around. I said hello. She said

894
01:13:27.319 --> 01:13:30.960
what I said? Are you okay? He said, what's it

895
01:13:31.000 --> 01:13:33.359
got to do with you? I said, I wonder if

896
01:13:33.359 --> 01:13:35.119
you need a So you look like you're struggling with

897
01:13:35.159 --> 01:13:38.159
the bags. She said, looks like you're struggling with your

898
01:13:38.159 --> 01:13:41.920
Belly's like, Wow, this isn't going how I thought it

899
01:13:41.960 --> 01:13:45.399
would go. I said, do you want me to give

900
01:13:45.399 --> 01:13:49.159
you a hand. She said, give me a hand? What

901
01:13:49.159 --> 01:13:51.359
do you mean? I said, you want me to carry

902
01:13:51.399 --> 01:13:53.800
the bags for you? She said, doesn't look like you'd

903
01:13:53.800 --> 01:13:55.680
be able to carry anything. I don't think even if

904
01:13:55.720 --> 01:13:57.039
I empty the bags, you'd be able to carry the

905
01:13:57.079 --> 01:14:02.439
empty bags. You're so weak. Okay, none of this happened,

906
01:14:02.479 --> 01:14:08.560
but that is what Vinnie is telling people. He lies

907
01:14:08.760 --> 01:14:12.680
all the time. He's things happen because we have such

908
01:14:12.720 --> 01:14:16.800
a boring life. He has to make stuff up. So

909
01:14:16.840 --> 01:14:19.520
he's when he when he meets up with Archie. I

910
01:14:19.560 --> 01:14:23.079
heard him the other day, like he sees Archie. This

911
01:14:23.159 --> 01:14:25.279
is Archie's mom that was making fun of me walking

912
01:14:25.439 --> 01:14:30.760
running and stuff. And they were just he was off,

913
01:14:30.840 --> 01:14:33.000
it was on the lead, but I was talking to

914
01:14:33.039 --> 01:14:35.800
his mum and they were just like taking turns urinating

915
01:14:35.800 --> 01:14:38.880
on each other, which is weird. They literally do do that.

916
01:14:39.880 --> 01:14:46.760
And I heard Archie. Archie said stuff like, so what's

917
01:14:46.760 --> 01:14:52.039
he been up to this week? I thought, what, what's

918
01:14:52.319 --> 01:14:55.359
who's been up to? And then he and then he

919
01:14:55.439 --> 01:15:00.760
said to him he had some chocolate. H you wouldn't

920
01:15:00.800 --> 01:15:03.960
believe what happened. He just had two bits of chocolate.

921
01:15:05.279 --> 01:15:09.239
It was melted chocolate, and I thought eight. Then he stopped.

922
01:15:09.520 --> 01:15:14.720
Stop talking about me. Why are you telling him? He said,

923
01:15:14.760 --> 01:15:16.720
because you need to tell the story. You've been talking

924
01:15:16.720 --> 01:15:19.199
about it. You keep mentioning it, but you haven't actually

925
01:15:19.199 --> 01:15:21.680
told that story about the chocolate yet and how you

926
01:15:21.720 --> 01:15:25.439
got embarrassed. You know, you can't keep putting it off.

927
01:15:26.399 --> 01:15:30.279
You've been talking for about three hours now, and besides,

928
01:15:30.600 --> 01:15:33.479
this is supposed to be you know, let me boil

929
01:15:33.479 --> 01:15:37.960
your pain away. You've just been talking about absolute rubbish

930
01:15:38.640 --> 01:15:42.520
for the last seven hours. So it's gone up from

931
01:15:42.880 --> 01:15:48.479
three hours to seven hours. Yeah, including this conversation, it's

932
01:15:48.479 --> 01:15:55.760
probably about nine hours. I said, look, this kind of speak,

933
01:15:55.800 --> 01:15:58.359
can you? I said, yes, I can speak sometimes I

934
01:15:58.359 --> 01:16:02.079
have a bit of a stutter. He laughed, which I

935
01:16:02.079 --> 01:16:07.319
think is rude. And I said, look, the fact is,

936
01:16:08.640 --> 01:16:11.840
I said to him, look, there's more did you consider

937
01:16:11.880 --> 01:16:15.520
than maybe even though it just seems like I'm talking

938
01:16:15.560 --> 01:16:20.640
about random things that possibly some of this might be

939
01:16:20.840 --> 01:16:26.960
useful at the very least as a distraction technique and

940
01:16:27.079 --> 01:16:38.520
maybe relaxation and stuff like that. He said, no, why not? Why?

941
01:16:38.840 --> 01:16:42.439
I said, Look, you've lived here for two years and

942
01:16:42.840 --> 01:16:47.359
what four or five months nearly nearly two years, over

943
01:16:47.399 --> 01:16:53.039
two years and four months, and for eight so two

944
01:16:53.079 --> 01:16:58.640
and a third years. Why did you say no to

945
01:16:58.720 --> 01:17:01.880
that question? You don't think that maybe I know that,

946
01:17:01.960 --> 01:17:04.479
maybe you know that I know what I'm doing? He

947
01:17:04.520 --> 01:17:09.079
said no, I said, why not? He said, because my dog.

948
01:17:09.840 --> 01:17:13.920
That's fair enough, he said, while you're having a conversation

949
01:17:14.000 --> 01:17:24.279
with a dog. I had no answer for him. Movie

950
01:17:24.319 --> 01:17:29.479
screen reframe it's another thing. Imagine you're watching yourself behaving

951
01:17:29.640 --> 01:17:34.319
earnestly on a cinema screen. Then playfully change the film,

952
01:17:34.800 --> 01:17:40.760
replay serious scenes with humorous, playful interactions, shifting your emotional

953
01:17:41.119 --> 01:17:47.600
response to laughter or gentle amusement. I think sometimes just

954
01:17:47.640 --> 01:17:53.640
remembering something that happened that was funny. Is you know

955
01:17:53.840 --> 01:17:56.760
something you see on TV, or something you see it

956
01:17:56.800 --> 01:18:00.439
in a movie, or something you heard someone say, and

957
01:18:00.560 --> 01:18:05.840
just remembering it, it can just be funny. It changes

958
01:18:05.920 --> 01:18:10.479
because when you laugh or if you find something humorous,

959
01:18:10.680 --> 01:18:15.319
it changes how you feel. It changes for all of us,

960
01:18:15.399 --> 01:18:22.920
you know. So there's a mirror smile technique. Imagine yourself

961
01:18:23.000 --> 01:18:27.279
standing in front of a mirror looking overly, earnest then

962
01:18:27.359 --> 01:18:31.960
gradually see your reflection breaking into a warm, spontaneous smile,

963
01:18:32.680 --> 01:18:37.119
feel the ease, and enjoy this springs as seriousness dissolves. Naturally,

964
01:18:39.239 --> 01:18:42.640
this sounds a horror movie. So you look at in

965
01:18:42.640 --> 01:18:47.840
the mirror and your reflection starts laughing at you. Wow, Okay,

966
01:18:47.880 --> 01:18:51.920
I mean that that's a bit freaky. I mean it

967
01:18:52.000 --> 01:18:56.960
might be really good, but that would I would definitely

968
01:18:56.960 --> 01:19:02.600
be wondering what was been put in my drink. I

969
01:19:02.600 --> 01:19:09.319
shouldn't be making fun of the techniques. But yeah, I

970
01:19:09.359 --> 01:19:15.279
think sometimes there's a technique of it's an old It's

971
01:19:15.319 --> 01:19:20.479
not my technique, it's an old technique where if you

972
01:19:20.760 --> 01:19:27.239
if there was an incident that you struggled thinking about

973
01:19:27.279 --> 01:19:32.119
because it's just like an interaction, a verbal interaction at work,

974
01:19:32.239 --> 01:19:37.840
or something that's just just left a an unpleasant feeling,

975
01:19:38.960 --> 01:19:43.039
you can kind of have that memory. But then you know,

976
01:19:43.119 --> 01:19:45.239
say it's your boss telling you off or having a

977
01:19:45.279 --> 01:19:52.560
go at you, or you can imagine behind them like

978
01:19:52.720 --> 01:20:01.239
a mermaid dancing behind them, or like all the other managers,

979
01:20:01.359 --> 01:20:04.840
just like doing a little strip tease behind your manager

980
01:20:05.119 --> 01:20:08.640
when he's being so serious and or you're like just

981
01:20:08.920 --> 01:20:11.920
something silly like that. I mean, you can you can

982
01:20:11.960 --> 01:20:14.560
be extreme with it as well, make it even funnier,

983
01:20:15.199 --> 01:20:19.119
don't make yeah, something that makes you laugh, but or

984
01:20:19.199 --> 01:20:29.319
you can just imagine that maybe they've just but you know,

985
01:20:29.600 --> 01:20:34.079
partially naked that in a way that they didn't realize.

986
01:20:34.159 --> 01:20:41.159
Maybe there's it was undone and you know, it could

987
01:20:41.199 --> 01:20:47.119
be anything, just if it makes you laugh. Or imagine

988
01:20:47.159 --> 01:20:54.319
them with maybe every time they talk, a piece of

989
01:20:54.399 --> 01:21:00.439
carrot falls on the floor, piece of broccoli, bits of food,

990
01:21:00.920 --> 01:21:03.600
so there's like this big pile of food on the

991
01:21:03.680 --> 01:21:06.279
floor in front of them as it falls out of

992
01:21:06.319 --> 01:21:11.560
their mouth whenever they talk, or maybe every time they

993
01:21:11.600 --> 01:21:16.560
talk they just shrink. So the more they moan, the

994
01:21:16.680 --> 01:21:22.039
smaller they get, and their voice starts to get squeaky,

995
01:21:22.239 --> 01:21:26.399
you know, just little things like that. Imagine a friendly,

996
01:21:26.479 --> 01:21:30.319
humorous version of yourself, a comedian or playful inner guide

997
01:21:30.800 --> 01:21:36.319
who whispers humorous comments into your mind during earnest moments,

998
01:21:36.600 --> 01:21:42.119
making it impossible to remain overly serious. I've had this

999
01:21:42.199 --> 01:21:50.600
in the past at the really wrong times, and well,

1000
01:21:50.720 --> 01:21:56.439
I just I've just been thinking about the wrong thing,

1001
01:21:58.640 --> 01:22:07.079
and it it's weird. It's kind of say, definitely changes

1002
01:22:07.119 --> 01:22:12.560
how you feel if you start like just it's kind

1003
01:22:12.600 --> 01:22:17.239
of just whispering to yourself like even if it's if

1004
01:22:17.239 --> 01:22:19.359
someone is saying something to you and it is all

1005
01:22:19.399 --> 01:22:20.079
just good notes.

1006
01:22:20.000 --> 01:22:26.119
Blah blah blah blah blah blah, and or you imagine

1007
01:22:26.199 --> 01:22:28.840
like just like I'll bet you need a big poo,

1008
01:22:28.920 --> 01:22:33.680
don't you, Or you can imagine what they're thinking while

1009
01:22:33.680 --> 01:22:34.359
they're talking.

1010
01:22:35.640 --> 01:22:37.479
You know, it's like if it's an interaction, I mean,

1011
01:22:38.279 --> 01:22:42.560
but you can imagine they're thinking to themselves or or

1012
01:22:44.840 --> 01:22:48.239
you know whatever it could be. I wish I hadn't

1013
01:22:48.279 --> 01:22:54.800
had that last cup of coffee and they're needing to

1014
01:22:54.840 --> 01:22:59.199
go to a toilet, or maybe they just realized that

1015
01:22:59.279 --> 01:23:05.199
they've left the big damp patch on their trousers and

1016
01:23:05.199 --> 01:23:08.000
I'm hoping that no one notices it, but you notice it.

1017
01:23:09.680 --> 01:23:14.279
So yeah, there's a soap bubble technique. What's this? I mean,

1018
01:23:14.319 --> 01:23:17.920
it's going to have something to do with bobbing popping bubbles.

1019
01:23:18.840 --> 01:23:25.319
Visualize your earnest thoughts in case with soapy bubbles. Gently

1020
01:23:25.319 --> 01:23:29.840
pop each bubble, experiencing the release of seriousness as each pops,

1021
01:23:30.640 --> 01:23:37.479
replaced by calmness, ease, and gentle amusement. Ah. I mean,

1022
01:23:37.680 --> 01:23:39.720
I'm not quite sure what soap is, but I have

1023
01:23:39.760 --> 01:23:44.720
to look that one up a feather touch technique. Picture

1024
01:23:44.880 --> 01:23:49.439
a feather, a feather, a feather gently brushing away seriousness

1025
01:23:49.439 --> 01:23:54.359
from your forehead, shoulders, and chest, softly sweeping earnestness away,

1026
01:23:54.560 --> 01:24:00.760
leaving you feeling light, freeer and gently amused. I mean,

1027
01:24:00.880 --> 01:24:03.720
when I call that woman. The lady caught up with

1028
01:24:03.800 --> 01:24:07.479
her and just said, look, I'm not trying to you know,

1029
01:24:07.520 --> 01:24:10.039
I'm just going to. I saw you as struggling with

1030
01:24:10.039 --> 01:24:13.399
your bags. Can I help you pick them and carry them?

1031
01:24:13.680 --> 01:24:16.079
And she said, okay, thank you. I said, you're going

1032
01:24:16.119 --> 01:24:18.800
to have to take Vinido because I can't. I can't

1033
01:24:18.880 --> 01:24:23.000
do both. And she said, I forget it then, and

1034
01:24:23.159 --> 01:24:25.800
she didn't she see she took him. I said, can

1035
01:24:25.800 --> 01:24:27.279
you keep it on a Can you keep them on

1036
01:24:27.319 --> 01:24:29.199
a short lead though, because there's got a habit trying

1037
01:24:29.199 --> 01:24:32.600
to run in the road. She said, this is getting

1038
01:24:32.720 --> 01:24:35.600
more this is this more problematic than carrying the bags?

1039
01:24:36.079 --> 01:24:38.880
And how many more rules are there? I said, no

1040
01:24:38.920 --> 01:24:42.760
more rules, that's it. So we cheerfully walked back to

1041
01:24:42.800 --> 01:24:44.359
where she lives. She lives at the end of the road.

1042
01:24:44.880 --> 01:24:47.399
I didn't know where she lived, but I was thankful

1043
01:24:47.439 --> 01:24:53.560
it wasn't too far. And that was it really and

1044
01:24:53.600 --> 01:24:58.560
I thought, what if only I had done what she did?

1045
01:24:59.760 --> 01:25:04.880
Is she carried the bags. I think she carried too much.

1046
01:25:05.199 --> 01:25:09.479
She had too much to carry, and I don't think

1047
01:25:09.520 --> 01:25:14.199
that was particularly good. She's fairly elderly, I don't know,

1048
01:25:14.399 --> 01:25:18.399
age wise, maybe in her seventies, elderly, I don't know

1049
01:25:18.399 --> 01:25:22.159
if that's the right word anymore. But she's probably possibly

1050
01:25:22.199 --> 01:25:27.159
carrying too much because they were heavy. They were heavy bags,

1051
01:25:29.239 --> 01:25:32.920
but she was putting them down, having arrest, then carrying them,

1052
01:25:33.199 --> 01:25:40.439
then putting them down. I think someone that takes themselves

1053
01:25:40.439 --> 01:25:45.479
seriously perhaps has a tendency of carrying those bags and

1054
01:25:45.600 --> 01:25:52.439
keep adding more and won't put them down, refusing to

1055
01:25:52.439 --> 01:25:58.600
put them down until they have no choice. So that

1056
01:25:58.720 --> 01:26:02.159
happened to me a few times, where instead of just

1057
01:26:02.279 --> 01:26:05.960
putting the bags down, having a break and taking a

1058
01:26:06.039 --> 01:26:10.600
rest from caring about anything, which again I said, it's

1059
01:26:10.840 --> 01:26:17.159
a weird concept to not care for a period of time,

1060
01:26:17.319 --> 01:26:21.800
not care about anyone, not care about anything, including yourself,

1061
01:26:22.159 --> 01:26:26.119
including your loved ones, including the day, including your job,

1062
01:26:26.239 --> 01:26:31.199
including where you live, including your health, anything, letting go

1063
01:26:31.239 --> 01:26:34.479
of all that stuff just for a period of time.

1064
01:26:37.319 --> 01:26:43.239
And when you do that, there's some freedom there and

1065
01:26:43.439 --> 01:26:49.319
things like you physically, you just feel relaxed. There's nowhere else,

1066
01:26:49.479 --> 01:26:53.319
there's no other way to feel because it's free, it's freeing.

1067
01:26:58.039 --> 01:27:00.720
But then the benefit of when you go back, you know,

1068
01:27:00.800 --> 01:27:03.239
when you like, I say, go back, but when the

1069
01:27:03.279 --> 01:27:07.439
recordings finished or the session's finished, whether it's listening to

1070
01:27:07.479 --> 01:27:09.760
me or whether it's it could be doing yoga, could

1071
01:27:09.800 --> 01:27:12.159
be doing meditation, it could be just going for a

1072
01:27:12.239 --> 01:27:17.119
nice walk, anything where you can just move everything else

1073
01:27:17.159 --> 01:27:20.960
away and ignore that, take a break from that stuff,

1074
01:27:21.079 --> 01:27:25.680
just don't care about it for a while, and let

1075
01:27:25.800 --> 01:27:28.560
go of any guilt that you might have about not

1076
01:27:28.680 --> 01:27:30.840
caring about it. You've also got to not care about

1077
01:27:30.840 --> 01:27:37.159
the guilt because ultimately you don't really you're not really

1078
01:27:37.199 --> 01:27:40.359
not caring. Of course, you still care, but you're letting

1079
01:27:40.399 --> 01:27:45.359
it go. You're having a break from it. You know,

1080
01:27:45.439 --> 01:27:47.199
it's the same way as you don't eat when you're

1081
01:27:47.239 --> 01:27:51.279
on a toilet. The two don't really go together. Well though,

1082
01:27:51.279 --> 01:27:54.119
the process is kind of the beginning and ending of

1083
01:27:54.159 --> 01:28:00.520
the process, but you know, it's two separate things. So

1084
01:28:00.720 --> 01:28:02.560
may say, how does everything seems to come back to

1085
01:28:02.600 --> 01:28:06.840
pooing with you? Doesn't it? I said no, And then

1086
01:28:06.840 --> 01:28:08.479
I think about it and like, yeah, it does things,

1087
01:28:08.479 --> 01:28:13.319
it doesn't it. Oh, well, you've got the laughing stream.

1088
01:28:13.760 --> 01:28:20.960
Imagine stepping into a warm, clear stream stream. Imagine okay,

1089
01:28:21.479 --> 01:28:27.079
clear stream whose water contains laughter, joy and playfulness, feel

1090
01:28:27.399 --> 01:28:39.680
earnestly being washed away, effortlessly replaced by a joyful, carefree attitude.

1091
01:28:40.039 --> 01:28:44.159
I mean, I think that's part that can be a

1092
01:28:44.199 --> 01:28:48.800
benefit of dressing up. And I know I've heard that

1093
01:28:48.920 --> 01:28:52.760
quite a few people dress up, like dressing up or

1094
01:28:53.159 --> 01:28:57.239
maybe acting, doing drama, taking on a different role because

1095
01:28:57.279 --> 01:29:03.439
they have a break from themselves. Maybe at the weekend

1096
01:29:03.479 --> 01:29:06.640
I'll go out and there'll be a different person, or

1097
01:29:06.640 --> 01:29:12.560
maybe even moving to a different place, a new job.

1098
01:29:14.000 --> 01:29:18.159
H It's almost that you get a chance to reinvent yourself.

1099
01:29:23.399 --> 01:29:27.079
So oh so before I go, I've got to tell

1100
01:29:27.079 --> 01:29:30.199
you that story about the chocolate. This is Oh, it

1101
01:29:30.399 --> 01:29:38.960
is so embarrassing. Right, my friend opposite needs his stuff removed.

1102
01:29:40.159 --> 01:29:43.680
He's sort of like got fridge. He's got I think

1103
01:29:43.720 --> 01:29:46.880
the freezing easygo because it's it's rusty on the outside.

1104
01:29:47.000 --> 01:29:49.079
And he's now just got this brand new kitchen in

1105
01:29:50.079 --> 01:29:55.920
he said, all but it works. Yeah, but just because

1106
01:29:55.960 --> 01:29:59.439
it works, doesn't mean you need to keep it. I

1107
01:29:59.479 --> 01:30:05.000
mean it's is probably about thirty years old, and it's rusty.

1108
01:30:05.239 --> 01:30:10.600
It's literally rusty on the outside. It's awful, and I'm

1109
01:30:10.600 --> 01:30:12.840
not sure how safe it is either, if it's that old.

1110
01:30:14.119 --> 01:30:18.920
But we've organized for him to get a new but

1111
01:30:19.600 --> 01:30:23.239
it's a second anthriage, but from Del Boy, who's another

1112
01:30:23.319 --> 01:30:26.640
neighbor who buys and sells stuff. So he's got it

1113
01:30:26.640 --> 01:30:30.960
in his garage. So we're going to get that when

1114
01:30:31.359 --> 01:30:36.399
the kitchen's finished in a couple of weeks. So I'm

1115
01:30:36.479 --> 01:30:44.199
going I go for a walk. I said the word

1116
01:30:44.840 --> 01:30:50.399
I took Vinnie out, so yeah, I had the chocolate. Anyway,

1117
01:30:50.760 --> 01:30:55.640
I'm finishing what I'm doing, I go out, take him

1118
01:30:55.680 --> 01:30:58.359
out and just walk around. I must have been out

1119
01:30:58.359 --> 01:31:01.439
for about I don't know how for an hour. He

1120
01:31:01.560 --> 01:31:09.359
was just smelling the grass as he does normally. Did

1121
01:31:09.399 --> 01:31:12.199
I see anyone? Oh? Yeah, I saw there was one

1122
01:31:12.239 --> 01:31:15.880
man that said a load to him, and he actually

1123
01:31:15.960 --> 01:31:18.840
said thank you for stopping and talking to me, so

1124
01:31:18.920 --> 01:31:24.239
that was nice. And then he said, why are you

1125
01:31:24.239 --> 01:31:29.239
holding your hand out? I said, money. You don't get

1126
01:31:29.239 --> 01:31:33.640
a conversation with me for nothing. It is I charge

1127
01:31:34.159 --> 01:31:40.520
a pound a minute. We laughed, and I saw a cut.

1128
01:31:40.560 --> 01:31:47.039
I think we saw another dog owner. Wasn't a lot

1129
01:31:47.079 --> 01:31:54.680
going on. Actually, I took my hat off, so I

1130
01:31:54.680 --> 01:31:56.560
have my hat on, but it was too warm to

1131
01:31:56.600 --> 01:32:01.960
have my hat on. The thing is I roughly remembered

1132
01:32:02.159 --> 01:32:05.319
saying that to somebody that I had my hat on,

1133
01:32:05.640 --> 01:32:08.159
but then I took it off because it was warm.

1134
01:32:09.640 --> 01:32:13.439
I don't know who it was. Anyway, we come back.

1135
01:32:13.479 --> 01:32:15.560
He did a did a he went to a toilet,

1136
01:32:16.279 --> 01:32:20.920
got rid of that, picked it up, used the bag

1137
01:32:21.000 --> 01:32:25.960
this time, less washing, less soap, you know, and so

1138
01:32:26.079 --> 01:32:35.720
get back and I think I'm just on the way upstairs,

1139
01:32:37.640 --> 01:32:44.000
and I see the the person that takes the rubbish

1140
01:32:44.439 --> 01:32:47.960
like he's like a it's certainly like take stuff and

1141
01:32:48.399 --> 01:32:51.359
pick stuff up for people in that, you know, big

1142
01:32:51.399 --> 01:32:54.680
things and stuff. And I asked him about because I

1143
01:32:54.680 --> 01:32:56.279
spoke to him before, and I said, is there any

1144
01:32:56.439 --> 01:32:59.159
can you help with the with my friend's stuff. So

1145
01:32:59.239 --> 01:33:02.640
we said a couple of weeks time, So I arranged

1146
01:33:02.680 --> 01:33:04.560
that with him, and I said, he may just give

1147
01:33:04.600 --> 01:33:11.199
me a knock and then I said not now, I'm

1148
01:33:11.279 --> 01:33:14.680
not in my head, so he's okay. So I went

1149
01:33:15.119 --> 01:33:19.680
went not, gave my neighbor a knock and said, here's

1150
01:33:19.680 --> 01:33:23.039
what's going on. You see you down there? I said,

1151
01:33:23.199 --> 01:33:24.960
if you come out and just look at that van.

1152
01:33:25.880 --> 01:33:29.279
He spent about ten minutes step coming out of the door.

1153
01:33:32.039 --> 01:33:34.079
I don't know why he spent so I know he's

1154
01:33:34.159 --> 01:33:38.680
nearly eighty, but he really it's almost like you're you're

1155
01:33:38.800 --> 01:33:42.239
moving really slowly on purpose there. I mean, it was

1156
01:33:42.359 --> 01:33:48.760
like super slow. We guaranteed if I said to him, oh,

1157
01:33:49.399 --> 01:33:57.800
the chip vans out there, he'd have moved super fast. Anyway.

1158
01:33:58.680 --> 01:34:02.279
The I just explained to him what's going to happen

1159
01:34:03.760 --> 01:34:06.159
that I've organized for him to have the old stuff

1160
01:34:06.159 --> 01:34:07.720
that he's got a cooker as well that he doesn't

1161
01:34:07.840 --> 01:34:12.239
use that's going out the new it's old. All this

1162
01:34:12.359 --> 01:34:14.800
has been there for a long long time. He's got

1163
01:34:14.800 --> 01:34:17.640
the same cooker as me, really, and he's got a

1164
01:34:17.640 --> 01:34:19.720
fridge that's going to go into the same gap as

1165
01:34:19.720 --> 01:34:22.479
where the cooker was because he uses the air fryer,

1166
01:34:23.520 --> 01:34:32.199
doesn't need doesn't need a cooker. So I do that

1167
01:34:32.319 --> 01:34:35.560
and like, okay, everything's fine. He wants to talk about golf,

1168
01:34:35.600 --> 01:34:40.239
and I'm like, no, I can't talk about golf. Because

1169
01:34:40.439 --> 01:34:42.359
I showed a bit of interest in golf, and he

1170
01:34:42.520 --> 01:34:46.239
just he thinks I like golf. I don't. I don't

1171
01:34:46.239 --> 01:34:49.359
dislike any sport. I'm just only interested in boxing. It's

1172
01:34:49.399 --> 01:34:53.520
the only one I've got, seriously, no interest in any

1173
01:34:53.560 --> 01:35:01.319
other spot. You know, boxing I know about. That's the

1174
01:35:01.359 --> 01:35:05.039
only sport I really know about. That I know quite

1175
01:35:05.039 --> 01:35:07.399
a bit about, and I've been following it since I

1176
01:35:07.439 --> 01:35:17.880
was a kid. So anyway, I get indoors. I think

1177
01:35:18.199 --> 01:35:24.680
the delivery comes, so I've ordered the delivery before I

1178
01:35:24.720 --> 01:35:29.479
went out. I go back and sit down. The delivery comes,

1179
01:35:30.279 --> 01:35:35.399
and so I walk outside. Oh no, this is what happens. No,

1180
01:35:35.640 --> 01:35:38.760
I got it the wrong way around. I come upstairs,

1181
01:35:39.079 --> 01:35:42.600
the delivery comes. I then go downstairs help with the delivery.

1182
01:35:43.239 --> 01:35:46.359
Then I see the person outside speak to him about

1183
01:35:46.399 --> 01:35:50.840
the fridge because I had Uber EAT's deliver me some groceries.

1184
01:35:52.079 --> 01:35:55.800
And then I knocked on my friends at the neighbor's door,

1185
01:35:56.279 --> 01:35:58.640
explain to him what's going on. Two weeks time. They'll

1186
01:35:58.640 --> 01:36:01.960
take that stuff and all that and then we'll come in.

1187
01:36:02.319 --> 01:36:05.800
Then we Then I came into my flat put the

1188
01:36:05.840 --> 01:36:11.159
stuff away. Vinny he had some treats he loves them. Yeah,

1189
01:36:11.199 --> 01:36:13.199
you heard the word treats, didn't you, sign mate, I

1190
01:36:13.239 --> 01:36:18.479
shouldn't be saying that. And then I came with treats

1191
01:36:18.560 --> 01:36:21.279
and I sit down and I thought, oh, I need

1192
01:36:21.319 --> 01:36:24.279
a wei wei, So I go into the into the bathroom,

1193
01:36:24.880 --> 01:36:28.680
go into the kitchen. Wow, I nearly said that, didn'tight.

1194
01:36:28.680 --> 01:36:28.720
No.

1195
01:36:28.800 --> 01:36:32.279
I went to the bathroom and did did a we

1196
01:36:32.239 --> 01:36:37.479
wie wash my hands, and I you know, that's quite

1197
01:36:37.520 --> 01:36:39.640
often I do. I just was look in the mirror

1198
01:36:39.680 --> 01:36:43.199
and just feel sorry for myself for a few minutes.

1199
01:36:45.399 --> 01:36:48.039
I couldn't leave what I saw. There was toffee sticking

1200
01:36:48.079 --> 01:36:51.199
out my beard, all over my beard from the the

1201
01:36:51.239 --> 01:36:57.279
caramel Cabri's dairy milk caramel, so the the caramel midd

1202
01:36:57.359 --> 01:37:00.920
or whatever. It was sticking in my beard because my

1203
01:37:00.960 --> 01:37:03.159
beer is now too long to even feel it, so

1204
01:37:03.159 --> 01:37:05.319
it wasn't against my skin, but it was just all

1205
01:37:05.439 --> 01:37:13.920
dripping down. I couldn't believe it. I was walking around

1206
01:37:14.520 --> 01:37:23.079
with that on my chin for the last hour. I've

1207
01:37:23.119 --> 01:37:29.960
been embarrassed before many times, many many, many times, but

1208
01:37:30.039 --> 01:37:40.680
this this was yeah, this was wrong. It was just

1209
01:37:40.680 --> 01:37:47.279
just anyway, that's it. Really. I hope this has been

1210
01:37:47.920 --> 01:37:51.079
mildly helpful. I can't see how it would be, but

1211
01:37:51.159 --> 01:37:55.119
if it was, then good. If it wasn't, then I

1212
01:37:55.159 --> 01:37:58.279
hope it was. I got no idea how long I

1213
01:37:58.319 --> 01:38:02.279
was talking for. It seems like a long time, but

1214
01:38:02.319 --> 01:38:04.680
then in a way it doesn't. Should we have a look?

1215
01:38:05.840 --> 01:38:09.840
According to that one hour and over an hour and

1216
01:38:09.880 --> 01:38:16.000
a half I've been talking blind me. So I'm going

1217
01:38:16.079 --> 01:38:22.399
to go give Vinya another t r e e e

1218
01:38:22.399 --> 01:38:29.399
e e e e e e e T And that's

1219
01:38:29.479 --> 01:38:33.000
that's it for me for now. So thank you for listening.

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01:38:33.319 --> 01:38:35.920
Remember to be kind to yourself, because you do deserve

1221
01:38:36.000 --> 01:38:41.479
to be happy a be gentle with yourself. Notice how

1222
01:38:43.319 --> 01:38:46.399
the way you feel has changed since you started listening

1223
01:38:46.439 --> 01:38:52.439
to this. And if this is useful and it helps beneficial,

1224
01:38:53.920 --> 01:38:58.640
maybe let me know lot other people know share the

1225
01:38:58.760 --> 01:39:04.840
love man, just I sometimes think that it's almost like

1226
01:39:04.920 --> 01:39:08.079
on people's dirty little secret. You know, they found me

1227
01:39:08.119 --> 01:39:10.520
on a weird part of the internet. It's like I

1228
01:39:10.560 --> 01:39:16.239
stopped telling anyone else. I wonder if people were embarrassed

1229
01:39:16.239 --> 01:39:22.039
about me. I don't know. Anyway, Thanks for listening and

1230
01:39:23.800 --> 01:39:32.800
I will be back again soon. Take care, lots of love, Bye,