April 14, 2025

(no music) (5 hours) NEGOTIATION | Let me bore your pain away #22 | Jason Newland | 14th April 2025

(no music) (5 hours) NEGOTIATION | Let me bore your pain away #22 | Jason Newland | 14th April 2025
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Hello, and welcome to Jasonnewland dot com. My name's Jason Newland.

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Please only listen when you can safely close rise. This

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is let me boil your pain away. So basically what

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this is is just me chatting. That's all. It is,

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really just chatting, having a little look look at different

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techniques that might be useful, and that's what it is.

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So how it works really is I ask you to

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gauge the chronic pain level, the discomfort level zero to

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ten on a scale, ten being the worst, zero being

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the lowest, where is it right now? And then at

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the end I ask you to do that again and

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notice how it's changed.

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Now.

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This works on different levels. There's I mean, there's the

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distraction of listening to me rambling on, so that can

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always be a useful thing. There's the focusing on now

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because as you listen to my voice, you're focusing on

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this moment instead of thinking about the past or thinking

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about the future. So you've already reduced the physical discomfort

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by two thirds because you're not thinking about the previous

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you know, the past pain. You're not thinking about or

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expect in future discomfort. You're just focusing on where you

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are now. And then as we go through and just chat,

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there's relaxation. You know, your body starts to relax, your

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mind slows down, and that in itself, also naturally, in

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its own way, automatically reduces chronic pain. So there's a

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lot going on. It might just seem like it's a

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random chat about nothing, and in some ways that is

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exactly what it is. But underneath that, underneath the pointlessness

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of me talking, there are also underlying benefits. Just what

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I said, you know, the distraction focusing on now, the

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focusing on my voice, the relaxation that automatically happens. And

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there's this metal thing sticking out of my desk and

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I keep banging on it. I want to get rid

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of it. It's like a I used to use it

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to hold the headphones. I don't know what it's for.

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I don't know why I screwed it into the desk

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to start with.

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This.

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In a way, I just need to get a screwdriver.

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I don't even I don't think I even own a

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screwdriver anymore. I want to get it eventually. I've been

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complaining about it for months. Eventually I'm going to remove

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it now. So I'm just thinking yesterday I did a

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recording and I've talked about some quite strange ideas, some

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quite strange techniques that have been used to help people

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to help you reduce that physical discomfort. And I thought

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to myself, and I said this out loud yesterday as well,

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maybe I'll go through some of those techniques and just

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devote a whole recording to each one. So I think

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I'm going to do that, and you can just follow

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me along. I'll be doing the techniques myself. I'll be

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playing around of it, having a bit of fun with it.

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And one of the main things really is that this

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is not a serious recording. It's also important that you

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only listen with the permission of your doctor, and you

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need to know the cause of the chronic pain, that

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physical discomfort before listening any further. So, if you do

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not have permission from your medical practitioner or doctor to

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say that it's chronic pain and there's no harm in

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reducing it, okay, that the physical discomfort is not actually needed,

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no longer required, unless you have that permission, then please

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turn the recording off and go and do something else

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more enjoyable. Perhaps So that being said, I shall continue

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you and as I was saying, this is not supposed

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to be a serious recording. It's a serious subject, but

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I like to do things lighthearted and with a bit

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of fun. I try not to take myself too seriously.

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So I'm coming from this different perspectives. The first perspective

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is from a like a hypnosis NLP. That's a neurolinguistic

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programming counseling kind of perspective. Just trying to help people,

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trying to be of use, be useful, do something that helps,

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and that is the bottom line. If what I do helps,

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then brilliant. Please continue listening, tell other people, Let other

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people know that this is useful. If it's not useful,

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then you know, I apologize. It's not going to be

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for everyone. But you know, I make a lot of recordings.

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I've made thousands of recordings over the years. I've been

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doing this for nineteen years now online, so a little

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bit of experience. But I'm not an expert on anything.

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I never pretend i am, and it never will pretend

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I am an expert on anything. I know a few things,

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but we all do, don't We We all know a

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few we all know something. We all know a few things.

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And when you're interested in the subject, you get to

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know more about it, and I can only I can

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only really learn stuff when I'm interested. That's the only

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time it really sticks in my brain for some reason.

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And one of the things that I've been I wouldn't

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even say passionate about. I would say probably a bit.

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I don't know what the right word is I when

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I am passionate about it now. But in the past,

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I was a bit obsessed with anything to do with

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chronic pain, chronic pain relief. I was studying via books

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and textbooks, not at college or anything like that, but

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I was. And then when the Internet came along, like

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a YouTube rather when the internet was around, but you know,

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I started studying it. I got interested in chronic pain

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back in about nineteen ninety nine, and it wasn't until

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two thousand and four that I started a free chronic

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pain relief service in my local town. But for two

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years I got no takers, like, no one was interested

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apart from my nan. I did some hypnosis with my

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nan because she had osteoporosis, so her bones were crumbling.

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A lot of that was it wasn't just due to age,

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because it runs in the family, so it's hereditary, but

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her age did definitely have her have a bearing on it,

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because she was very elderly at the time. And it

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wasn't till two thousand and six when I relaunched myself.

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Relaunched a free pain relief service locally, and I put

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some money into it, got some leaflets, built a new website.

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All this stuff advertised a bit because I had a

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job at the time, so I could invest a little

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bit advertising and it took off. So I started to

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get people that were calling me up. And at the beginning,

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I was actually going around their house. They were getting

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a family member or they themselves were picking up from

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Blockbusters Video funny enough, just near where I used to live,

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and they'd take me to blame me, yeah, Blockbuster Video,

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and they'd take me to their house and I'd do

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some hypnosis or relaxation and different techniques to help them

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to feel more relief. And this is only based on

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now this is coming from the people themselves, so it's

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not my personal opinion, but this is what everyone told me,

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and every single person at the time told me that

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it helped the pain level reduced. So I had one

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hundred percent success rate according to it. I mean that

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you never know, they might have lied some of them.

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They might just said it to make me feel better

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about myself. It's possible. But according to then, you know,

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it was one hundred percent success. I've never had one

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hundred percent success righting anything in my entire life, so

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that was quite nice. I don't know how many people

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I actually saw during that period. I don't know, maybe

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one hundred, one hundred different people, maybe maybe more. So

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it went on. Yeah, I did it for about eight months. Yeah,

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so that was that was good. And then I decided

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to start doing stuff online, making recordings online, because it

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justs to me it seemed like, you know what, because

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I used to get people to say, well, it's nice

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to listen to you, and it's nice to see you

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once a week or whatever. People that used to come

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and do groups with me for relaxation, and it'd say, well,

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I'd quite like to be able to hear you like

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other times. So I did some CDs where I just

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recorded live recordings, like live sessions, and I kept running

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out of the CDs because they were so popular. I

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want to say popular, I mean just running out of CDs.

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There wasn't thousands of CDs, but it was costing because

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I was volunteering the two charities Rehab and Alcohol Charity

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when we were doing the relaxation groups when I was

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running them, So it was just costing the charities a

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bit too much money like making the CDs. So in

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the end I thought, i'll I'll put them on my website.

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So I put the live recordings. I started recording all

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my new recordings. Every time I did a live recording

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in a group, and I was doing maybe four a

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week at one point, I would upload them onto my website.

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Then I started putting them onto podcasts, and then YouTube

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came along. I think ninety two thousand and seven hours

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on MySpace, I think two thousand and six. I was

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uploading them and they were getting a lot of good feedback.

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Awful quality sound, really bad like an old digital recorder.

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It was really bad, seriously bad quality sound, but people

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seem to like it, and it kind of went from there.

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Oh got itchy bum See my professionalism comes out sometimes,

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and I just continued. I then went on to become

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a counselor, got a degree in counseling. I had numerous

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different trainings and hypnosis and different things like that read

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a lot of books. And since two thousand and six,

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I've been making recordings online videos and audio recordings. So

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it's over nineteen years. So I've got a little bit

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of experiences. It doesn't mean I'm many good, but I

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kind of I think it was it. I might be

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rubbish at what I do, but at least I'm confident.

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I'm confident. I'm incompetent, but confident. Yay, I don't know.

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I kind of figure. I mean, I get a little

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bit of feedback from people saying that it's helpful. I mean,

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I had one today actually on my Facebook group, which

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is Jason Newland's Boring group. And you might be thinking,

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when you're gonna get on with the chronic pain relief?

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All right, okay, but I just let me just have

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a look at this. For those that haven't, I've had

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a few nice comments on that group lately. There's rich

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I think, let's look. It's hard to find them because

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I do so many recordings these days. Rich was said, Hey, Jason,

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your podcast has become my new favorite. I listen almost

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every night, thanks for the Sunday papers. Has to let

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me boy to sleep podcasts, So I do I kind

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of have a different theme throughout the week, with the

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let Me Boy You to Sleep, Monday's Sleepy Bit, boring Objects, Tuesdays,

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Trivia Tuesday, Wednesday's Whisper Wednesday or was it Wednesday whispers

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Whisper Wednesday? Thursday don't really have a set one for that,

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Friday's Q and a Friday Saturday's Saturday Summary, which is

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just the week, a summary of the week that's gone by.

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And in Sunday Sunday Papers, which is I go through

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the newspapers on Sunday, usually just one newspaper because it

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takes me forever to get through it. So yeah, and

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what do you say, which says I do like some

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of the rags, like The Inquirer. Okay, I should have

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I should have pointed that outcause I did mention that

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I couldn't find I didn't have it on the app.

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The National Inquirer. Alright, I'm going to have to go back.

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There was something else on here. I think it was

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Hilary Greg says, I'm so impressed that you're still churning

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out sleep, churning, churning out I like that word, churning

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sleep hypnosis videos. After all this time, you must have

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the YouTube record for the most videos like this. I

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haven't seen anyone even close. I missed your live Q.

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So yeah, thanks Greg, I mean doing it a while,

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now doing it a while? Oh yes, Jackie says, I

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so love. Oh I've only I didn't realize I didn't

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see this one, Jackie. I'm sorry that I did not

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reply to your comment on there because I didn't see it.

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Jackie says, I so love and I so appreciate how

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you completely leave politics alone when you talk to us folks.

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It means a heck of a lot. And know that

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we know that you and know that we know that

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you know exactly what we know and how much we

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are all suffering together. Okay, yeah, I don't thanks. I'm

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going to put a bit of comment on this reply

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thank you, just only just see this. It's I do

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try and steer away when I do. It's not just

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the newspapers, but generally if I can. I Okay, I'm

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struggling to find stuff here, right I am. There is

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another way I can do it. Actually, let me see

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there was, Hillary wrote. If I go to Hillary, I

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should be able to see click on that. She'd see

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stuff she's posted on my thank you for Okay, now

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I can't find it. I'm sorry, I can he find it?

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Oh well, but I did read it out at the time.

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There's too much stuff on the group. When I do

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my recordings, I do generally miss out politics, don't talk

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about politics, don't talk about horrible news stories, which is

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most news stories to be fair, and I talk about

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my own life, so not everything's like. I'd sometimes broach

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a few subjects that maybe are not like perfectly wonderful,

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but generally I try and keep it as light as possible.

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I do. But you know, if I was if I

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was in hospital, I would let you know that I

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was in hospital, and I'll tell you why I was

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in hospital in my recordings. I wouldn't like just not

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make any recordings and pretend it didn't happen or you know,

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it's not doesn't mean i'd go into graphic detail about

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the castration or whatever it is. I went in there

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for castration blind me, so yeah, it's I try and

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keep it light. But you just said castration. That's not light. Yeah. No,

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I didn't know that was going to pop out of

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my mouth. So just gives you an idea I've got

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I should I if I could find the letters that

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I had. I still got letters that I received back

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in two thousand and six, two thousand and seven from

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people that I saw during that period for the chronic

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pain relief, and it was I kept them so were lovely.

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I've got a few letters sent from people here as well,

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and messages, loads of message but I didn't. I don't

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know where I stored them. They've got to be somewhere.

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I wonder where they are. HM. Also let you know

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that my on my websites because I do the Q

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and a Friday every Friday now, I've been doing that

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for a year. There's a little form you can fill in,

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or you can go to the page. There's a natural

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page for it, and it is basically if I go

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to views site and said, look the very very top

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of the page, just below the latest recordings, ask me

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anything dash Q and a Friday submission, just your name, email,

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just post a message and I will read it out

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the question and answer the question in the next Q

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and a Friday. Or if you go into the menu,

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you can actually go into the list of pages Q

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and A Friday questions. Again, it's just that page and

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that form on its site in one page. So it

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just gives us another way of doing it. Because last

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week I only got one question and I posted it.

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I posted like any questions for Q and a Friday

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on Wednesday of the last week, and I didn't get

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any I think it just got lost because of all

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the recordings I've been making. It just kind of got camouflaged,

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as it were, it went missing. So I'm trying to

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avoid that happening again. You know, I was partly thinking,

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is it because you don't want Q and a Friday anymore?

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Is it run? Is it run its course? Or just

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because people didn't see it, didn't see the question. So

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now anyone who visits let anybody who visits my website,

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I have a little bit of stutter sometimes it's just like,

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you know, I don't know why. I have a little

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bit of stutter, a little bit of a lisp, a

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little bit of it. I've got a little bit of everything.

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forty eight percent Irish. I don't know if you knew that.

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I don't mention it very often, but yeah, so here

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we are. Yesterday was very busy. I had the most

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amount of listeners that I've had for ages and ages.

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I mean, if I go for the last the current year,

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the last twelve months, No, that's by month. So yeah,

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thirty the last thirty days. Yesterday was the biggest amount

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of listeners I've had, and two days before that was

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the second biggest. I'm just going back. So what March.

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So if I go to March, yep, even in March,

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not in nothing in March. February or no, I did ever? Okay,

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So it's the biggest I've had since the fourteenth of February.

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Fourteenth of February is that valen Time's Day? Is that

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fourteenth February? Do you think people listening? Because there's all

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these people out there that just love me secretly love well,

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if you love me so much? Where is my Valentine's chocolates?

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Don't care about the cards? Can't eat the cards? Chocolates?

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Where's my Valentine's gifts? And well? Cards? Even balloons? Airfare?

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A yacht? My Valentine's yacht? Where was Where's my Valentine's Mercedes? Yes? Yes,

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I had one, two, three really good days in February,

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but February fourteenth was probably even better than yesterday. Yeah,

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I wonder why that is? How strange? Not really strange,

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but I'll tell you what has happened. Though, I'm getting

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more and more people visiting my website and listening on there.

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So I'm pleased about that because you know, it's cost

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me money to have that website going. So it's quite nice,

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quite nice to to think that people are actually listening

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on there. I mean yesterday and not the day before

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the day before that. So what was it yesterday Sunday

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and from I had the most I think I've ever

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had on my website Jasonnewland dot com. This is a

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bit of what it relaxes you. I just chitter and

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chatter and just blah blah blah. So I don't know

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why sometimes I feel the need to just do an

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introduction to what let me bore your pain away is.

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And I think the way I've been talking about the

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the what's it but the past when I was doing

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recordings and when I was seeing people in person, and

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it's like I'm trying to not justify, but almost trying

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to convince you that I'm worth listening to. But there's

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no point in that. It's really it's up to each

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individual person, and thousands of people every day listen to me.

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But it doesn't mean that. I mean, it doesn't mean

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it's always the same same few thousand people. It might

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be it might be new. There might only be six

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people that listen to me every day, and there might

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be like three thousand new people that listen to me

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once and think, what on earth is he talking about?

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What if I landed in? This is so weird. I've

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arrived in a weird space, a weird podcast. This is thought.

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Hopefully not, but it might happen. I mean, I've always

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been a bit strange. I like to think in a

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good way, but maybe there is no good way and strange.

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I don't know. So here's what I was thinking, right,

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I quite like the talking pain negotiation. This was number

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eight on the list of these ten techniques. Now I

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hadn't really heard it described this way. So I go

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into chat GPT. I asked the questions, and this is

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the four point five, which is the good for writing

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and exploring ideas, use advanced reason. I think four point

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five is the newist, that's the best one. I'm not

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one hundred percent sure, but I kind of know my

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way around this stuff. Anyway, And I've done some of

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these techniques in the past but didn't have a name

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for them. So there's one called the blue ascension method.

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I have never used the word sex x extension, ascension

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ascan s io n. I've never even said that word before.

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Maybe yes, sir, I did, but before that ascension, I

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know what it means. I just never used that word rise.

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I would probably use floating off and it is just

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getting tying helium balloons to stuff and just allowing it

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just to flow, flow away or blow away or fly

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away or float away. But that's not the technique I'm

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going to focus on. And I want to focus on

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the talking negotiation. And I've also done a version of

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this before. I didn't again, I didn't call it that.

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I guess I probably wouldn't have called it a technique ever,

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just something where when you are relaxed, your mind has

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slowed down. And you may have noticed that now anyway,

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because you listen to me. I mean, the word bore

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is in the title of this recording, and it can

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be and you know what, the way I see it,

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something that's boring to one person could be super interesting

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to another person. Now, if I was going to stand

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here and talk stand I'm not standing if I was

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going to sit here. I don't know why I did.

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I made that distinction because there's no way of you known,

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is there. But I suppose I imagine if you're listening

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into kind of a relaxing sort of recording like this,

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I can't You're probably not imagining that I'm standing here

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on one leg, balancing an egg on my head and

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juggling knives or you know, it's like you kind of

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know that that wouldn't be very relaxing with it. So

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the negotiation I have sometimes it's just nice to get

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in touch with that part of you and instead of

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doing what's natural, because a natural thing to do with

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a feeling of discomfort is to try to avoids It's

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just the natural thing to do. But it's not necessarily

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the useful thing to do. Sometimes it really is the

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useful thing to do. It's the best thing to do. Sometimes.

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You know, if someone's needs to run and you know,

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as I say, someone's got a broken leg, they know

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they can't put any pressure on it. But if there's

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an emergency and that person has to get out of

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a building or has to move very quickly. Then it's

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good that they, you know, they can focus on it

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or completely try to ignore it rather because that helps

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them to get out of that situation. So someone's like

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needing to get down some stairs because there's an emergency

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and everyone has to get out of a building, They're

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not going to be like focusing on the on their

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broken leg, like, oh, let's focus on it. No, they're

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going to be like, sod the leg, we're getting down

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these stairs. Not allowed to use the lifts. So that

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wouldn't be It wasn't because the emergency is just I've

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got a habit of farting in lifts. See, that's where

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the professionalism goes wrong. I mean I genuinely, this is genuinely.

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I was going to write a book about therapy, about

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being a counselor with one of my colleagues, and I thought,

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I'm not going to do a book about how to

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be a counselor. I'm not going to do a book

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because you know, I was. We were both, you know,

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in the first few years of being professional counselors. So

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and we work together quite often in this at the

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same time in the same building. So I got to

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know her and I thought it'd be nice if we

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wrote a book together, but for student counselors, people that

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were just starting out, maybe just qualified.

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And.

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You know, I went through some of the ideas. Just

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the things that come up that aren't taught in the

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counseling course, not taught. Maybe they might be in some courses,

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but they weren't sort of covered in the counseling degree

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that I did, and just things like it could be

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lots of different things, lots just little things. I mean,

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there's one definitely weird thing that happened when I had

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a well twice, I had a woman come back. She

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was this is when I was training and I was

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at college, and she came. The room is in the college,

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and I finished the session. Then I saw another person

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and then I saw I had three people in a row.

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And I was coming ready to leave at six o'clock.

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There was nowhere else around. And I come out of

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the door and she's there. I mean, there's a lock

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on the door, so people can't just walk in and out.

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It's a therapy room. You can get out the easy enough.

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But then she was there like saying oh, and she

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was hovering. I said, how are you able to hover.

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I mean that you're defining gravity. No, she wasn't actually hovering,

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but she was like, you know there, and she was

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asking me if I wanted to go for a coffee

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and spend some time with her, and I said no,

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Well I kind of trying to say, like, you know,

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I can't, it's not allowed, and she was. It seemed

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very upset, you know, just generally a said know what

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to do, and it was there was no one to call,

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there was nobody around who it was. I felt a

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bit vulnerable, to be honest, and that was a situation

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that I didn't know, you know, like what do we

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do in these situations. I had another client who actually

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asked me out for a date and I wanted to

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say yes, but I said no, because you know, I

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just not can't be dating. I mean, if the therapy

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has finished what she came to me for. She was

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on the waiting list for so long. By the time

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she actually got to see me, nearly everything was sorted.

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It was a very practical situation that had caused emotional distress,

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but most of it was sorted. And I think part

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of the reason why she stayed for six weeks because

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we enjoyed chatting. I think, you know, she just uses

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six sessions up to just chat me. To start with,

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it was about the situation, but it was kind of

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sorted after the first week or so, any remnants of it.

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And she asked me on the last session, I wanted

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to go out on a date. And I didn't tell

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her I did. I mean, the fact is I did.

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I didn't. I didn't tell her I did, but I did. Know.

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What I mean is I didn't tell her that I

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liked her, because I did. I fancied her, but I

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didn't tell her that because it seemed unprofessional. So I

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just said, oh, no, I can't, I explained to her,

471
00:40:09.559 --> 00:40:16.079
I just can't do it, not allowed could lose my career. See,

472
00:40:16.119 --> 00:40:19.719
at the time, I thought I had a career. And

473
00:40:19.760 --> 00:40:25.639
then a few months later, this is true that all

474
00:40:25.719 --> 00:40:29.320
the government cuts, that all the government funding stopped, so

475
00:40:29.400 --> 00:40:32.679
I basically lost all my work apart from four sessions

476
00:40:32.679 --> 00:40:36.320
a week, and I ended up having to get another job,

477
00:40:36.880 --> 00:40:41.599
like a normal job. So you know, I might have

478
00:40:41.679 --> 00:40:47.719
missed out on the the romance of my life, but hey,

479
00:40:48.039 --> 00:40:50.519
it seemed like the right thing to do at the time.

480
00:40:52.400 --> 00:40:58.800
So there and then, So if you're listening. This is

481
00:40:58.880 --> 00:41:03.960
like BlimE me twelve years ago. It's a long time ago, now,

482
00:41:08.599 --> 00:41:14.400
I was. My concern was that what if we went

483
00:41:14.440 --> 00:41:18.840
out and she decided she didn't like me, and I

484
00:41:18.960 --> 00:41:23.039
can I continued to be a counselor. She'd have the

485
00:41:23.159 --> 00:41:27.039
power at any time to pretty much end my career.

486
00:41:29.360 --> 00:41:31.880
So I thought, nah, I'm not gonna not want to

487
00:41:31.920 --> 00:41:36.920
give anyone that power. If I'd known that the job,

488
00:41:37.039 --> 00:41:40.039
the career, the whatever I thought it was was about

489
00:41:40.079 --> 00:41:44.039
to end quite soon, then I'd have had a different attitude.

490
00:41:45.599 --> 00:41:49.199
But then I saw my supervisor, who I saw every week,

491
00:41:49.880 --> 00:41:53.960
and she said, oh, you can date, potentially date someone,

492
00:41:54.400 --> 00:41:56.599
but you have to leave it a certain amount of

493
00:41:56.599 --> 00:42:04.000
time after the therapeans. Okay, now you tell me, but

494
00:42:04.039 --> 00:42:05.920
at that point it is too late. I didn't have

495
00:42:05.960 --> 00:42:10.719
any other information. I never stored people's telephone numbers or

496
00:42:10.760 --> 00:42:13.719
anything like that. It was always on the on the paperwork,

497
00:42:14.159 --> 00:42:17.480
and once the once the sessions were finished, that went

498
00:42:18.199 --> 00:42:22.400
back to the charity, and that's the last. I couldn't

499
00:42:22.400 --> 00:42:25.159
even tell you what names. Didn't have anyone's names or

500
00:42:25.199 --> 00:42:32.039
anything on my phone. So because it was only ever

501
00:42:32.119 --> 00:42:36.599
for six weeks, sometimes I get extensions, but it wasn't

502
00:42:37.079 --> 00:42:40.199
it wasn't long enough to really be saving people's names

503
00:42:40.199 --> 00:42:48.440
on my phone, so I didn't do that. So, yeah,

504
00:42:49.239 --> 00:42:52.960
the I don't know how I got on talking about that,

505
00:42:53.119 --> 00:43:01.559
but I quite liked the idea of negotiation, the idea

506
00:43:01.719 --> 00:43:09.079
of I don't know there's a fine line between negotiating,

507
00:43:09.239 --> 00:43:13.039
because you think of a negotiating it's almost like, okay,

508
00:43:13.239 --> 00:43:20.679
that feelings kind of is that physical discomfort, that that

509
00:43:20.840 --> 00:43:24.119
sensation that was a problem before you start listening to

510
00:43:24.159 --> 00:43:31.480
this recording? Is that taking that body part hostage? That's

511
00:43:31.480 --> 00:43:33.679
what when I think of negotiations, I think of like

512
00:43:33.760 --> 00:43:38.599
hostage negotiations. I know you can have business negotiations, you

513
00:43:38.679 --> 00:43:42.239
kind of I suppose you can negotiate the price of

514
00:43:42.320 --> 00:43:46.440
something to try and get it lower or higher, depending

515
00:43:46.440 --> 00:43:54.960
on which side of the desk is sitting. But do

516
00:43:55.000 --> 00:43:57.840
you think it from that perspective that I suppose in

517
00:43:57.880 --> 00:44:00.320
some ways it can feel like that, can't it. So

518
00:44:00.440 --> 00:44:07.599
someone's got an icky knee and there's discomfort there, I

519
00:44:07.599 --> 00:44:10.239
guess it can feel like that's taken over the knee,

520
00:44:11.000 --> 00:44:13.280
like it's taking the knee hostage, or even the whole

521
00:44:13.360 --> 00:44:20.239
leg hostage. When it's a small part of the leg.

522
00:44:21.599 --> 00:44:23.800
It's an important part of the leg, but it's a

523
00:44:23.920 --> 00:44:27.360
small part compared to the rest of the leg, you know,

524
00:44:27.440 --> 00:44:33.079
the ankle, calfs, shins, thighs. The thighs are a big, big,

525
00:44:33.119 --> 00:44:38.559
old chunk of the of the leg, only especially mine.

526
00:44:38.760 --> 00:44:46.599
I actually have the biggest thighs in history. I do,

527
00:44:48.440 --> 00:44:51.239
I can. Actually I remember walking through a forest, I

528
00:44:51.280 --> 00:44:54.400
started a fire just from the friction of my thighs.

529
00:44:54.639 --> 00:44:58.159
It didn't happen. Don't know why I'm saying it. So

530
00:44:58.239 --> 00:45:04.360
you got your knee, and just one small part of

531
00:45:04.480 --> 00:45:08.679
the knee can sometimes feel like it's taken your knee

532
00:45:08.719 --> 00:45:14.679
hostage because of a physical sensation. I mean sometimes I

533
00:45:14.719 --> 00:45:23.920
guess when we try to ignore or distract ourselves from

534
00:45:23.960 --> 00:45:31.960
a physical sensation, it can maybe be harder to know

535
00:45:33.039 --> 00:45:38.800
exactly how much of that body part is in reality

536
00:45:40.039 --> 00:45:50.440
being affected by that physical sensation. However, when you do

537
00:45:50.559 --> 00:45:53.199
focus on something, I mean, there can be too much

538
00:45:53.239 --> 00:45:56.679
focusing as well. I mean, how many people do you

539
00:45:56.760 --> 00:46:01.039
know in your life who constantly going on about how

540
00:46:01.079 --> 00:46:06.000
their their illness or their whatever. All. It's like it's

541
00:46:06.039 --> 00:46:08.519
almost like you want to avoid if you see them

542
00:46:08.519 --> 00:46:10.800
in the street. You want to avoid them. You want

543
00:46:10.840 --> 00:46:13.880
to kind of cross the street or jump down a

544
00:46:13.880 --> 00:46:18.079
manhole or just you know, wish you could call a

545
00:46:18.119 --> 00:46:23.400
helicopter to come and pick you up, but you know

546
00:46:23.480 --> 00:46:26.760
you can't because have seen you. And even though you

547
00:46:26.840 --> 00:46:30.159
might you might really love them, you might absolutely adore

548
00:46:30.199 --> 00:46:34.159
the person, but it's like your heart sinks a little bit. Ah,

549
00:46:34.760 --> 00:46:38.039
I've got to listen to all their problems now for

550
00:46:38.079 --> 00:46:42.559
the next year. It seems like a year. It'll only

551
00:46:42.559 --> 00:46:47.400
be five minutes. But just that is time distortion. When

552
00:46:47.480 --> 00:46:52.000
someone's going on and on and on about all their

553
00:46:52.039 --> 00:46:57.159
woes and about their suffering, and it doesn't it's not

554
00:46:57.199 --> 00:47:00.800
going against it. I'm not mocking the suffering. It's just

555
00:47:00.880 --> 00:47:05.079
it's very hard I find and maybe you do too

556
00:47:05.760 --> 00:47:09.920
to Sometimes you listen to it, especially if you're in

557
00:47:10.000 --> 00:47:16.880
a good mood. So I had a friend who sometimes

558
00:47:16.880 --> 00:47:18.880
I'd just like, oh, he'd knock on the door. I'd

559
00:47:19.000 --> 00:47:22.760
dread it because I knew it'd be like in a

560
00:47:23.679 --> 00:47:26.800
a not great place. And on that particular day, I

561
00:47:26.880 --> 00:47:29.079
was in a good mood. I was in a really

562
00:47:29.119 --> 00:47:32.920
good mood. I was uplifted, I was enjoying the day.

563
00:47:33.239 --> 00:47:39.480
Just enjoying being alive generally, you know, just yeah, things

564
00:47:39.519 --> 00:47:46.320
are okay, and then there's like knock knock, ah, oh man,

565
00:47:48.320 --> 00:47:51.000
and this is someone that I cared for deeply, So

566
00:47:51.039 --> 00:47:55.440
it wasn't that I was being rude. It's just it's

567
00:47:55.519 --> 00:48:01.440
just really really realistically like sometimes, oh right, I got

568
00:48:01.480 --> 00:48:09.119
distracted by Vinnie Barkin. But yeah, it's sometimes in the

569
00:48:09.159 --> 00:48:14.239
same way when there's someone's like they're constantly focusing on

570
00:48:14.320 --> 00:48:20.159
the negative, it's almost like that increases the negativity. And

571
00:48:20.239 --> 00:48:26.039
someone's always focusing on the physical discomfort that maybe they had,

572
00:48:27.119 --> 00:48:30.000
they seem to get more of it. So we get

573
00:48:30.039 --> 00:48:32.360
what we focus on, we get what we think about,

574
00:48:32.480 --> 00:48:35.239
get more of what we think about. So when you

575
00:48:35.320 --> 00:48:42.719
start thinking about feeling relaxed and feeling calm, having your

576
00:48:42.760 --> 00:48:46.079
mind slowed down, and having that part of your body

577
00:48:48.199 --> 00:48:57.119
feel more calmer, more looser, So it kind of in

578
00:48:57.199 --> 00:49:02.039
that middle bit where you're not focusing on it, but

579
00:49:02.079 --> 00:49:06.480
you're not ignoring it. You're not pushing it away, but

580
00:49:06.559 --> 00:49:14.599
you're not pulling it towards yourself. It's a fine line.

581
00:49:15.440 --> 00:49:23.800
But then it's no longer fine, it's just normal. It's

582
00:49:23.840 --> 00:49:31.920
almost there's a certain state of mind. It might at

583
00:49:32.000 --> 00:49:35.199
first sound a little bit negative, but it can be

584
00:49:35.239 --> 00:49:41.519
negative depending on the situation. But sometimes just not caring.

585
00:49:44.320 --> 00:49:46.320
I don't mean about the other person. I'm talking about

586
00:49:47.480 --> 00:49:54.880
the body part, which was problematic before you start listening

587
00:49:54.920 --> 00:49:59.920
to me. Sometimes it's like, you know what, I think

588
00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:03.960
I care about that at the moment, I'm not bothered.

589
00:50:07.039 --> 00:50:11.159
And then you stop pushing, you stop pulling. You know,

590
00:50:11.840 --> 00:50:24.199
it's almost like you're pushing against the door, and you

591
00:50:24.320 --> 00:50:29.800
realize that actually you keep pushing it, trying to push

592
00:50:29.840 --> 00:50:33.679
it open, trying to push it open, and then you stop.

593
00:50:34.840 --> 00:50:37.800
You're like, say, you know what, I don't care anymore.

594
00:50:38.440 --> 00:50:44.599
I can't bother. You know, it will open eventually, and

595
00:50:44.679 --> 00:50:47.960
then someone just comes in from outside and the door

596
00:50:48.039 --> 00:50:52.760
opens inwards, not outwards. It's an innie, not an out,

597
00:50:57.679 --> 00:51:01.639
and you realize you put that effort into something that

598
00:51:01.760 --> 00:51:05.880
was pointless. It's a little bit well, there's probably nothing

599
00:51:05.920 --> 00:51:08.000
like this, but I'm going to give this as an analogy.

600
00:51:09.039 --> 00:51:11.599
I got We've got a fence outside, was a gate

601
00:51:11.800 --> 00:51:15.639
fence with a gate, and the gate bangs, especially when

602
00:51:15.639 --> 00:51:21.719
it's windy, like all day long. So on a windy day,

603
00:51:22.800 --> 00:51:28.199
the gate just like opens and closes. There's no lock thing,

604
00:51:28.360 --> 00:51:31.119
you know, the you know the the I was going

605
00:51:31.159 --> 00:51:32.760
to say, the wazz or whatever. It is, a thing

606
00:51:32.840 --> 00:51:38.440
that you pull up that's broken so that the gate

607
00:51:38.559 --> 00:51:41.679
just closes. It doesn't actually close properly either, so that's

608
00:51:41.679 --> 00:51:46.039
why it keeps blowing open and closing with a wind like.

609
00:51:46.559 --> 00:51:49.119
It's not like full on slamming, but it can be annoying.

610
00:51:51.920 --> 00:51:53.679
Used to wind me up. I used to keep going

611
00:51:53.679 --> 00:51:58.599
out there closing the gate, like pushing it closed, so

612
00:51:58.760 --> 00:52:01.360
it's stopped banging for a while. Then someone had come

613
00:52:01.400 --> 00:52:05.000
in and they'd leave it open and I have to

614
00:52:05.039 --> 00:52:10.360
go down again and close the gate. And then I realized,

615
00:52:10.400 --> 00:52:14.760
you know what, I'm just not going to bother anymore,

616
00:52:17.639 --> 00:52:22.840
keep getting up, walking down. And this was in the winter,

617
00:52:22.960 --> 00:52:25.639
so it was cold, so I had to put some

618
00:52:25.679 --> 00:52:31.559
pents on. Well it's not the only reason, I mean,

619
00:52:33.119 --> 00:52:38.639
some of the neighbors complained, but anyway, I just thought,

620
00:52:42.719 --> 00:52:51.679
I don't care, and that attitude changed my response or

621
00:52:51.719 --> 00:52:57.880
my reaction to hearing the gate like slamming. I mean,

622
00:52:57.920 --> 00:53:05.039
it's not even slamming, it's just banging. Occasionally. It's to

623
00:53:05.159 --> 00:53:10.639
the point where I don't even notice it anymore. Now,

624
00:53:10.679 --> 00:53:12.039
all I've got to do is try and find a

625
00:53:12.039 --> 00:53:16.079
way to do that with Vinnie's barking. But there's no

626
00:53:16.119 --> 00:53:18.599
way of knowing when he's going to do it because

627
00:53:18.639 --> 00:53:21.840
it just starts barking. He's barked about six times during

628
00:53:21.840 --> 00:53:26.880
this recording, and he goes from zero to a million

629
00:53:27.000 --> 00:53:31.760
in like a second. Because my neighbor opposite is having

630
00:53:31.840 --> 00:53:35.519
a new kitchen put in, so the work people are

631
00:53:35.599 --> 00:53:39.039
up and down the stairs. He hardly barked it all

632
00:53:39.159 --> 00:53:46.320
last week today for some reason. What it is it

633
00:53:46.480 --> 00:53:52.960
sounds almost like there that someone's touching the front door.

634
00:53:57.280 --> 00:54:00.199
That's what's weird about it, because I actually went out

635
00:54:00.199 --> 00:54:03.960
there myself earlier thought someone puts something through the letter

636
00:54:04.000 --> 00:54:06.400
box or someone was at the front door knocked. No

637
00:54:06.480 --> 00:54:12.639
one there, so I think that might be what it is. Well,

638
00:54:13.920 --> 00:54:16.119
it's unlikely that they're coming and knocking on the door

639
00:54:16.199 --> 00:54:19.119
and just but it does sound like someone's pushing against

640
00:54:19.159 --> 00:54:22.159
the door, which is why you're barking, isn't it. N

641
00:54:24.760 --> 00:54:27.440
I told him Master. He's a bit grumpy with me now.

642
00:54:28.119 --> 00:54:34.199
I was like, just stop it. Please, didn't bother you

643
00:54:34.320 --> 00:54:39.280
last week, did it? You weren't bothered last week by it.

644
00:54:39.800 --> 00:54:41.719
This has been going on. This is the third week

645
00:54:41.760 --> 00:54:47.800
it's being worked on. So it's Monday today, all week

646
00:54:47.920 --> 00:54:52.719
last week, and in the previous week it started on Thursday,

647
00:54:53.079 --> 00:54:59.239
so this is a third week like actual week. Don't

648
00:54:59.280 --> 00:55:03.360
be grumpy, Vinny, I just want you to stop barking

649
00:55:04.559 --> 00:55:08.239
and a guard to him. He growls at me. I

650
00:55:08.400 --> 00:55:14.440
do not be growling at me, little growler, little grounder,

651
00:55:20.119 --> 00:55:26.920
with such a little sausage. You know that. Ah. So

652
00:55:27.039 --> 00:55:34.079
sometimes you know, the whole idea of like negotiating with it,

653
00:55:34.079 --> 00:55:44.960
it feels like maybe just giving it some space sometimes

654
00:55:45.000 --> 00:55:48.360
just a little bit of acknowledgement, you know, like we

655
00:55:48.400 --> 00:55:50.320
were a baby, I said, I used to always like

656
00:55:50.360 --> 00:55:55.639
give the analogy with with the thing that we're focusing on,

657
00:55:56.119 --> 00:56:01.239
that physical feeling, that sensation that you used to have

658
00:56:01.280 --> 00:56:05.800
before you listen to this recording, almost like a baby crying.

659
00:56:06.639 --> 00:56:11.119
And sometimes a baby cries for no other reason they

660
00:56:11.280 --> 00:56:13.920
other than they just want to be held or they

661
00:56:14.000 --> 00:56:18.119
just want to be to see a parent or a

662
00:56:18.159 --> 00:56:23.000
friendly face. They might not need changing, they might not

663
00:56:23.119 --> 00:56:26.000
need food, they might not want to play, they might

664
00:56:26.039 --> 00:56:29.360
not want anything. They're just happy just to see your face,

665
00:56:29.679 --> 00:56:32.159
or to have a cuddle and they go back to sleep.

666
00:56:34.000 --> 00:56:37.519
Sometimes that's all they need. And I think it's the

667
00:56:37.559 --> 00:56:42.079
same with what we're talking about. Sometimes it can be

668
00:56:42.199 --> 00:56:47.880
like a baby just wants a bit of love, maybe

669
00:56:49.159 --> 00:56:54.159
because you think about it. In reality, we can have

670
00:56:55.840 --> 00:57:04.199
respect and caring towards our body, But how much positivity

671
00:57:04.239 --> 00:57:08.840
do we have towards that part of the body or

672
00:57:08.920 --> 00:57:17.280
that small part that it's been playing up. I'm guessing

673
00:57:18.920 --> 00:57:22.440
not much kindness there at all, which it makes sense,

674
00:57:22.679 --> 00:57:27.360
you know, I'm not judging it. But if it's an

675
00:57:27.400 --> 00:57:34.400
ongoing situation, an ongoing condition that you don't really need anymore,

676
00:57:34.400 --> 00:57:38.800
you don't need that physical sensation to let you know

677
00:57:39.000 --> 00:57:41.519
and to remind you that just to be a bit

678
00:57:41.559 --> 00:57:45.280
more careful with that part of the body. I once

679
00:57:45.360 --> 00:57:50.920
you remember that, you don't need to be reminded. That

680
00:57:51.039 --> 00:57:54.880
alarm doesn't need to go off. And sometimes I think

681
00:57:54.960 --> 00:58:06.119
with alarms, maybe you can just make it a little

682
00:58:06.119 --> 00:58:12.679
bit less sensitive. Do you ever get like car alarms

683
00:58:12.719 --> 00:58:14.760
and you put them in for the first time or

684
00:58:14.800 --> 00:58:17.760
you get them new for the first time, and literally

685
00:58:18.559 --> 00:58:25.639
every time there's a butterfly goes past, the alarm goes off.

686
00:58:25.679 --> 00:58:29.920
Someone sneezes in the next town. Your car alarm goes

687
00:58:29.960 --> 00:58:37.159
off too sensitive, it needs to be retuned or maybe

688
00:58:37.320 --> 00:58:39.760
just needs to wear in so that it gets back

689
00:58:39.800 --> 00:58:42.480
to normal, because you know, it's not supposed to go

690
00:58:42.519 --> 00:58:50.000
off just because a little gust of wind. And then

691
00:58:50.039 --> 00:58:54.039
you get it changed, you get it refitted or fine tuned,

692
00:58:54.159 --> 00:58:56.280
or just leave it as it is if you don't

693
00:58:56.320 --> 00:59:03.119
like your neighbors. I suppose so that could be something

694
00:59:03.639 --> 00:59:07.360
a way of looking at this situation. We just fine

695
00:59:07.480 --> 00:59:13.320
tune it so that it's no longer as sensitive. You know,

696
00:59:13.400 --> 00:59:17.679
the alarm doesn't need to go off unless it needs

697
00:59:17.760 --> 00:59:26.639
to go off. And there's something quite useful about that,

698
00:59:29.840 --> 00:59:34.840
quite helpful. I think I realized what it is what

699
00:59:35.000 --> 00:59:40.360
he's barking. I've got the bathroom window open, and I

700
00:59:40.400 --> 00:59:42.840
think it's rattling the door, and that's what he's That's

701
00:59:42.840 --> 00:59:46.360
what you're hearing, isn't it. I'm sorry, Viny, it was

702
00:59:46.440 --> 00:59:56.199
my fault. I'm sorry. Now he's hearing something outside. It's

703
00:59:56.280 --> 00:59:58.320
not all it is like he's so. I suppose he's

704
00:59:58.360 --> 01:00:01.400
got the window in the bathroom open outside in the

705
01:00:01.639 --> 01:00:04.559
in the garden. There's always the odd stuff going on

706
01:00:05.119 --> 01:00:09.559
because he hears other dog's barking or kids playing, and because

707
01:00:10.039 --> 01:00:11.920
the kids are on holiday, so you can hear that

708
01:00:14.320 --> 01:00:18.880
all He isn't you. He always listening, taking it all in.

709
01:00:21.960 --> 01:00:24.679
He's stays, he's only got a staring contest with me.

710
01:00:26.440 --> 01:00:28.159
I want I can stare with you. I want to

711
01:00:28.159 --> 01:00:31.880
steal your tails are regling. When we've done this, I'll

712
01:00:31.880 --> 01:00:35.400
get you a t R e A T A t

713
01:00:35.599 --> 01:00:41.000
r e E T. Will I won't say the word

714
01:00:41.039 --> 01:00:46.039
because then you won't leave me alone. So in a way,

715
01:00:46.159 --> 01:00:52.440
you could just ask, and I've done this in the past,

716
01:00:52.480 --> 01:00:57.639
and I've done it myself, ask the part of your

717
01:00:57.679 --> 01:01:08.360
body just to feel more comfortable, to relax, safely, leave

718
01:01:08.400 --> 01:01:15.920
your body just you know, give you a rest. And

719
01:01:16.039 --> 01:01:19.559
sometimes you can just do that and literally just sit

720
01:01:19.679 --> 01:01:28.320
back and wait. Trust that your body's listening, that your

721
01:01:28.480 --> 01:01:32.360
unconscious mind is listening, that you know there's that alignment

722
01:01:33.800 --> 01:01:37.519
between your mind and your body because it's constantly you know,

723
01:01:37.599 --> 01:01:46.760
there's that constant continuity, continuity, that connection that's always there.

724
01:01:49.719 --> 01:01:51.639
I know that I've been focusing on the knee just

725
01:01:51.679 --> 01:02:03.239
as an example. But when you decide to just you know,

726
01:02:04.480 --> 01:02:16.159
ask politely, just you know, maybe just give me a break,

727
01:02:16.960 --> 01:02:25.400
please feel comfortable, feel more relaxed. You can put it

728
01:02:25.440 --> 01:02:29.360
in a sentence like I'd like my whatever part of

729
01:02:29.440 --> 01:02:36.760
body to feel more relaxed. You could say it three

730
01:02:36.840 --> 01:02:48.639
times and then just wait and observe, or maybe just

731
01:02:48.760 --> 01:02:57.000
carry on with what you were doing. Because when you

732
01:02:57.039 --> 01:03:04.480
focus on feeling more relaxed, as I said earlier, you

733
01:03:04.480 --> 01:03:06.800
you think about it, you get more of it, You

734
01:03:06.880 --> 01:03:11.480
get more of what we think about. So you focus

735
01:03:11.559 --> 01:03:18.480
in on calmness, looseness, peaceful, and that's what you get

736
01:03:18.519 --> 01:03:38.119
more of naturally easily. So that brings me to the

737
01:03:38.199 --> 01:03:41.199
end of this recording, which was very much a matter

738
01:03:41.320 --> 01:03:47.360
really it was just a chat a chitty chatter neta.

739
01:03:48.000 --> 01:03:50.639
It's going to take me ages to edit it because

740
01:03:50.679 --> 01:03:55.840
of all of the Vinny's barking breaks, so that's going

741
01:03:55.920 --> 01:03:58.039
to be interesting to trend. It's going to take me

742
01:03:58.079 --> 01:04:03.400
probably about an hour just to edit the thing. Yes,

743
01:04:03.519 --> 01:04:08.800
because of you. You want to treat? Are you hungry?

744
01:04:08.880 --> 01:04:12.360
Do you want your dinner? Do you want some food?

745
01:04:12.840 --> 01:04:19.760
What do you want to treat? I don't know anyway,

746
01:04:19.800 --> 01:04:22.960
I'm going to go Thank you for listening. Remember to

747
01:04:23.000 --> 01:04:25.480
be kind to yourself, because you do deserve to be

748
01:04:25.519 --> 01:04:32.280
happy and be gentle with yourself. You deserve to feel safe,

749
01:04:35.519 --> 01:04:52.519
lots of love. Bye, relax in a more deep and

750
01:04:55.519 --> 01:05:02.920
meaningful way, maybe in a way that can not just

751
01:05:03.159 --> 01:05:13.280
allow you to feel calmer now and throughout the time

752
01:05:13.960 --> 01:05:22.280
we spend together here, not just relaxed at the end

753
01:05:22.360 --> 01:05:26.800
of the recording when it's finished and you can enjoy

754
01:05:27.000 --> 01:05:44.400
that sense of comfort and peace, but also I think

755
01:05:44.440 --> 01:05:55.639
it would be nice to have those feelings of relaxation

756
01:05:57.960 --> 01:06:12.199
continue for longer after the recording has ended, so that

757
01:06:12.320 --> 01:06:24.800
you can still benefit from listening to my voice, maybe

758
01:06:24.840 --> 01:06:36.199
in a few hours time, perhaps tomorrow, and then by

759
01:06:36.320 --> 01:06:44.280
listening regularly, especially if you find like some people do

760
01:06:44.639 --> 01:06:48.320
and myself as well. I sometimes I find one particular

761
01:06:48.440 --> 01:06:58.480
recording that really resonates with me, and I just listen

762
01:06:58.559 --> 01:07:03.840
to it over and over again every morning, every evening.

763
01:07:11.480 --> 01:07:16.079
There was this recording from We're going back to about

764
01:07:16.239 --> 01:07:21.480
nineteen ninety nine. It wasn't hypnosis, but it was a

765
01:07:21.599 --> 01:07:31.079
guided visualizations. It kind of was hypnosis, really, and I

766
01:07:31.159 --> 01:07:34.480
managed to find it again and it still has the

767
01:07:34.480 --> 01:07:43.719
same effect on me. And part of it was the

768
01:07:43.800 --> 01:07:57.039
person's voice relaxed me just felt so peaceful, and I'd

769
01:07:57.119 --> 01:07:59.760
look forward to listening to.

770
01:07:59.840 --> 01:08:05.960
Her in the morning and in the evening.

771
01:08:11.480 --> 01:08:20.479
And I knew before even pressing the play button that

772
01:08:20.840 --> 01:08:25.199
since I've done that, pressed the play button. This was

773
01:08:25.600 --> 01:08:36.600
in the days of CD players pressed the play button.

774
01:08:40.000 --> 01:08:42.880
I fact, it might have even been a tape tape recorder.

775
01:08:44.119 --> 01:08:52.479
I'd lie down on the bed and then even without

776
01:08:53.000 --> 01:09:06.000
necessarily listening to her words because I had to memorized. Really,

777
01:09:10.680 --> 01:09:16.640
it was as if my body knew exactly what to do,

778
01:09:21.439 --> 01:09:43.279
and the muscles just almost went into automatic relaxation, and

779
01:09:43.399 --> 01:09:57.039
I remember my mind would slow down. Now. Now, I

780
01:09:57.439 --> 01:10:03.680
was listening to this recording in the early days of

781
01:10:03.800 --> 01:10:14.399
learning hypnosis, and long before I ever made any videos

782
01:10:14.600 --> 01:10:19.319
or audio recordings myself, because I didn't start doing that

783
01:10:19.479 --> 01:10:21.640
till two thousand and six.

784
01:10:28.239 --> 01:10:34.319
I knew, I knew how.

785
01:10:35.680 --> 01:10:49.439
Helpful I found being able to just let go, to

786
01:10:49.560 --> 01:10:54.760
have that trust in the person that I'm listening to,

787
01:11:02.439 --> 01:11:09.199
knowing that it's going to be just as relaxing, if

788
01:11:10.600 --> 01:11:20.000
not more so. Each time you hear my voice, you

789
01:11:20.079 --> 01:11:31.680
may feel the same. Some people have been listening to

790
01:11:31.760 --> 01:11:45.680
me for over a decade, maybe not solidly. Obviously not

791
01:11:45.720 --> 01:11:52.000
twenty four hours a day, but maybe people come back.

792
01:11:53.840 --> 01:12:07.520
Some people may be listen every day. That's something that

793
01:12:07.640 --> 01:12:20.640
I do which you may not realize by listening, is

794
01:12:24.720 --> 01:12:39.720
when I record these recordings now, for example, I also

795
01:12:40.520 --> 01:12:51.760
am affected by the words that I say. So if

796
01:12:51.800 --> 01:13:02.199
I set you focus on your feet, notice your feet relaxing,

797
01:13:05.680 --> 01:13:13.600
I will be focusing on my feet. I will be

798
01:13:13.680 --> 01:13:31.760
noticing my feet relaxing. If I said, focus on your hands,

799
01:13:34.560 --> 01:13:44.079
and maybe notice the difference between each hand. Perhaps notice

800
01:13:44.199 --> 01:13:50.279
the the air in the room, the temperature of the room.

801
01:13:52.119 --> 01:14:02.560
On the backs of your hands. You may start to

802
01:14:03.119 --> 01:14:11.159
notice what almost feels like a very light breeze, even

803
01:14:11.239 --> 01:14:15.479
though there may not be any type of breeze at

804
01:14:15.520 --> 01:14:28.479
all where you are right now. And as you become

805
01:14:29.119 --> 01:14:43.520
aware of your hands, I'm also aware of how relaxed

806
01:14:43.800 --> 01:15:07.560
my hands are feeling now. And when it comes to

807
01:15:09.119 --> 01:15:15.119
potentially drifting off to sleep, which may be the reason

808
01:15:15.439 --> 01:15:31.720
you're listening, I also feel drowsy when I make these recordings.

809
01:15:36.399 --> 01:15:52.840
I also notice my mind drifting. In fact, at times

810
01:15:54.880 --> 01:16:09.039
I've actually fallen asleep without even noticing, and then I

811
01:16:09.199 --> 01:16:20.520
carry on talking. And it's only when I listen back

812
01:16:20.720 --> 01:16:29.720
to do the editing. I hear snoring, and I think,

813
01:16:30.159 --> 01:16:39.920
I don't remember snoring. I remember talking. It is snoring

814
01:16:40.239 --> 01:16:47.000
was a pick turned up. That's why I sound like

815
01:16:47.039 --> 01:16:58.159
when I snare and I get really into the whole experience.

816
01:17:06.079 --> 01:17:15.560
I don't know how you feel, how relaxed you feel

817
01:17:15.560 --> 01:17:26.199
in your feet, how relaxed you feel in your hands.

818
01:17:41.239 --> 01:17:53.479
I have noticed more and more that the more relaxed,

819
01:17:55.199 --> 01:18:11.399
deeper level of comfort you feel, the easier your breathing becomes.

820
01:18:17.560 --> 01:18:34.239
It's almost like that additional muscle relaxation. So this allows

821
01:18:34.319 --> 01:19:05.399
you to breathe easier without necessarily focusing on your breath, however,

822
01:19:05.640 --> 01:19:34.439
being able to notice the ease in which you breathe

823
01:19:34.600 --> 01:20:24.479
so naturally. You breathe so very easily and smoothly. Whenever

824
01:20:24.600 --> 01:20:42.920
I imagine my breathing improving, when I've got my eyes closed,

825
01:20:48.920 --> 01:21:01.840
I tend to visualize a beautiful field with trees and

826
01:21:02.039 --> 01:21:42.479
flowers producing all that life giving oxygen. It feels nice too,

827
01:21:44.079 --> 01:22:05.279
if nothing else, just taking some time away from everything,

828
01:22:14.319 --> 01:22:46.880
enjoying that feeling of peace serenity with a joyful heart.

829
01:23:12.239 --> 01:23:37.760
Time seems to just drip by so very slowly. Relaxed,

830
01:23:43.640 --> 01:24:22.760
so deeply, peaceful, completely unattached to any thoughts whatsoever in

831
01:24:22.960 --> 01:25:27.359
this moment, completely free, noticing that your mind has slowed down.

832
01:25:35.600 --> 01:26:22.319
Slowed down because nothing really requires your attention. You can

833
01:26:22.560 --> 01:26:38.680
enjoy the physical sensations of allowing the stress to drip

834
01:26:39.439 --> 01:26:53.399
out of your body, to appear out of every part

835
01:26:59.239 --> 01:27:18.000
of your body. Yeah, and being released from your brain

836
01:27:23.239 --> 01:27:58.479
in your mind slowly but surely. The muscles in your

837
01:27:58.600 --> 01:29:10.439
legs relax so very deeply, so deeply, And the feelings,

838
01:29:13.039 --> 01:29:37.960
the pleasant feelings in your arms and shoulders, deepening each

839
01:29:38.359 --> 01:30:16.399
part of your body further and deeper and deeper. Noticing

840
01:30:19.680 --> 01:30:46.239
the feelings in the back of your neck, the feelings

841
01:30:46.359 --> 01:31:35.239
in your wrists, muscles in front of your body. I

842
01:31:35.439 --> 01:32:19.279
all say, feeling peaceful deeply, There's a sense of peace

843
01:32:23.760 --> 01:32:27.880
spreads through your fairy core.

844
01:32:58.439 --> 01:33:19.039
Even when you Yeah, focus on your mind, your mind becomes.

845
01:33:25.680 --> 01:34:48.560
Eve and slower, even deeper, relax so fery slow his stomach,

846
01:35:02.640 --> 01:35:44.640
peace fall in your stomach. You're back. Notice Notice how

847
01:35:44.880 --> 01:36:02.800
relaxed you'd never feel in the hole of your back.

848
01:36:28.039 --> 01:36:37.159
You spy from your brain all the way down the

849
01:36:37.199 --> 01:36:47.920
middle of your back, sending and receiving millions of messages

850
01:36:48.640 --> 01:38:19.640
every day, deep comfort increasing deeply relaxed, unis legs, spreading

851
01:38:19.840 --> 01:38:28.239
those signals down your spine or cord in the air,

852
01:38:28.520 --> 01:38:47.960
every part of your body, your shins and your calf, muscles,

853
01:39:15.159 --> 01:39:48.880
your elbows, Feelings of peace and tranquility spreading through your body,

854
01:39:49.680 --> 01:40:05.960
tips of your toes, to your eyes, your fingers, all

855
01:40:05.960 --> 01:40:22.840
the way till you lower back, letting he read there

856
01:40:22.960 --> 01:41:34.159
lettinker peace, drifting mind just wandering away, happy to let go,

857
01:41:37.399 --> 01:42:38.720
let go completely, let go, so tranquil, the whole body

858
01:42:43.039 --> 01:45:00.439
enjoying a sense listening God heph more peace for joy. Hmm.

859
01:45:05.079 --> 01:45:50.079
The space, this space of peace and safety, so very fary, relaxed,

860
01:47:19.840 --> 01:47:44.600
letting go. Maybe we can just focus on the different

861
01:47:44.920 --> 01:48:19.720
parts of your body, just to notice a forehead and

862
01:48:19.960 --> 01:49:26.439
your eyes uo loose, noticing in the sense of complete freedom,

863
01:49:38.479 --> 01:51:30.880
absolute freedom, drif draf hee's for energy peace to breeze

864
01:51:34.760 --> 01:52:45.560
such easier loose. You may have or may not have

865
01:52:45.840 --> 01:53:52.720
noticed your mind drifting peaceful, move even more deeply in

866
01:53:52.880 --> 01:54:40.640
the direction of total bliss for pace, bliss for pace, terrefting,

867
01:55:28.399 --> 01:56:40.800
total peace, come so calm, letting go, peace with mind

868
01:56:50.439 --> 01:57:54.640
rexed body so relaxed, so relaxed. Your body feels almost invisible,

869
01:58:09.840 --> 01:59:30.359
so very relaxed. I'm peaceful, so peaceful, relax Liqa, And

870
01:59:30.520 --> 01:59:37.800
you could start to notice that you are feeling more relaxed,

871
01:59:40.800 --> 01:59:50.560
even though I've not purposely focused your mind upon that

872
01:59:51.920 --> 01:59:58.000
sense of physical comfort that is growing within you throughout

873
01:59:58.079 --> 02:00:10.880
your body, and your mind starts to slow down, and

874
02:00:11.039 --> 02:00:18.520
that could be almost in recognition of I guess my

875
02:00:18.800 --> 02:00:33.520
speech not being particularly fast, and things just generally feel calmer.

876
02:00:37.079 --> 02:00:45.000
Just by listening to my voice, you give yourself an

877
02:00:45.079 --> 02:00:53.039
opportunity to take a break from the day, take a

878
02:00:53.119 --> 02:01:00.760
break from your life as it is, and to give

879
02:01:00.840 --> 02:01:09.239
yourself a rest, giving yourself permission to take some time off,

880
02:01:11.520 --> 02:01:16.880
and to allow your body to relax and allow your

881
02:01:17.039 --> 02:01:27.640
mind to slow down, which in turn releases the tension

882
02:01:29.079 --> 02:01:37.800
and he stresses that you had in your body. It's

883
02:01:37.880 --> 02:01:42.399
almost as if the parts of your body just open up,

884
02:01:43.760 --> 02:01:55.359
allowing the negativity out and at the same time replacing

885
02:01:56.239 --> 02:02:05.760
that negativity with positive heathing energy, which then fills your

886
02:02:05.840 --> 02:02:17.640
body up and your mind to also starts to appreciate

887
02:02:18.560 --> 02:02:36.880
those feelings of increasing confidence, an almost uplifting feeling, positive healing,

888
02:02:40.119 --> 02:02:48.680
an energy that spreads through your body like a wave

889
02:02:51.000 --> 02:03:03.119
of comfort, and all this comes and just allowing yourself

890
02:03:05.960 --> 02:03:11.159
a few minutes, maybe half an hour, however long you

891
02:03:11.239 --> 02:03:23.800
want it to be, to just rest and allow your

892
02:03:23.960 --> 02:03:34.359
mind and your body to almost reset itself to the

893
02:03:34.520 --> 02:03:50.399
settings of comfort and relaxation, calmness, which allows more room

894
02:03:50.880 --> 02:04:03.920
for feelings of pleasure and happiness to move around your

895
02:04:04.000 --> 02:04:12.439
body and into your mind, almost as if your mind

896
02:04:12.560 --> 02:04:23.159
and your body are sinking together, almost mirroring each other

897
02:04:24.199 --> 02:04:36.239
with that growing positivity and calmness. And it feels nice.

898
02:04:38.640 --> 02:04:44.680
It really does feel nice to know that you are

899
02:04:44.720 --> 02:04:54.880
the one that has allowed yourself to feel more comfort

900
02:04:58.119 --> 02:05:11.600
and to experience more of this deep relaxation spreading throughout

901
02:05:11.720 --> 02:05:23.920
your body. And as I focus on each part of

902
02:05:24.039 --> 02:05:36.199
your body, you can notice that that part becomes even

903
02:05:37.439 --> 02:05:46.760
more relaxed just by focusing on it. It becomes even

904
02:05:47.000 --> 02:05:59.720
more calm and comfortable just by focusing. And as I'm

905
02:05:59.800 --> 02:06:08.199
move down your body, starting at your head, the parts

906
02:06:08.359 --> 02:06:15.760
that you've already focused on will continue to relax deeply,

907
02:06:18.560 --> 02:06:24.600
and those parts that we've not yet focused on or

908
02:06:24.720 --> 02:06:36.520
just automatically release any remain intention in anticipation of even

909
02:06:36.920 --> 02:06:49.479
more comfort about to come. Now, I'm going to start

910
02:06:49.600 --> 02:06:57.439
by focusing on your forehead. Just being aware the feelings

911
02:06:57.520 --> 02:07:07.840
of your forehead and any background sounds like mister Herbert

912
02:07:07.920 --> 02:07:13.399
the pigeon can just allow you to feel even more relaxed.

913
02:07:17.319 --> 02:07:23.439
Just means you're in the moment. This isn't this isn't

914
02:07:23.479 --> 02:07:31.439
a sterile environment. This is the world. I live in

915
02:07:31.560 --> 02:07:43.840
the countryside, so there's lots of nature sounds around. So

916
02:07:43.920 --> 02:07:49.039
as you focus on your forehead, just notice how it

917
02:07:49.319 --> 02:08:00.119
becomes even more relaxed as you focus only on my voice, ye,

918
02:08:01.159 --> 02:08:09.760
and that part of your body. Moving down to your eyes,

919
02:08:11.880 --> 02:08:23.000
focusing on your eyes, noticing how your eyelids feel so

920
02:08:23.319 --> 02:08:33.079
heavy yet so light at the same time, and all

921
02:08:33.119 --> 02:08:44.399
the muscles around your eyes relaxing completely. Moving your focus

922
02:08:45.920 --> 02:08:52.520
down to your mouth, your lips, your tongue, your teeth,

923
02:08:52.640 --> 02:09:03.800
and your gums, the whole of your mouth relaxing, calm

924
02:09:05.319 --> 02:09:16.760
and lease. As you focus now on your jawl not

925
02:09:17.079 --> 02:09:21.119
just the parts of your jaw near your mouth and

926
02:09:21.239 --> 02:09:25.479
your chin, but all the way up the size of

927
02:09:25.600 --> 02:09:32.239
your face to your ears, that hole of your jaw

928
02:09:34.920 --> 02:10:02.000
feeding more relaxed and calm, focusing on your neck, the

929
02:10:02.159 --> 02:10:09.640
front of your neck and your throat relaxing and loose

930
02:10:10.399 --> 02:10:19.960
and calm. The side of your neck, the right and

931
02:10:20.239 --> 02:10:32.840
left side of your neck relax and loose and calm.

932
02:10:39.199 --> 02:10:45.880
And now the back of your neck, focusing on the

933
02:10:46.159 --> 02:10:56.560
back of your neck, letting go of any tension that

934
02:10:56.760 --> 02:11:05.640
may have been there before, and enjoying that sense of

935
02:11:06.680 --> 02:11:17.279
increasing comfort and release that you can experience in the

936
02:11:17.439 --> 02:11:29.680
back of your neck. Moving down your back and moving

937
02:11:29.920 --> 02:11:34.279
either side of your spine right from the top of

938
02:11:34.399 --> 02:11:39.920
your back all the way down to the bottom of

939
02:11:40.000 --> 02:11:56.960
your back down to your lower back. And as you

940
02:11:57.199 --> 02:12:04.520
move up and down your spine, you can feel the

941
02:12:04.760 --> 02:12:19.760
muscles either side of your spine relaxing even more. And

942
02:12:19.920 --> 02:12:26.640
as those muscles relax, that sense of comfort starts to

943
02:12:26.840 --> 02:12:37.239
spread outwards from your spine into both sides of your back,

944
02:12:41.039 --> 02:12:44.760
the top of your back, the middle and your lower back.

945
02:12:48.279 --> 02:12:55.399
And as you scan gently and slowly up and down

946
02:12:55.600 --> 02:13:00.640
your back, there's the muscles in the top of your

947
02:13:00.760 --> 02:13:10.720
back relax and become looser. The muscles in the middle

948
02:13:10.760 --> 02:13:18.039
of your back also seem to just almost divide from

949
02:13:18.119 --> 02:13:31.880
each other, separating and almost melting and in your lower back.

950
02:13:35.640 --> 02:13:43.159
There seems to be an extra special feeling of comfort.

951
02:13:48.439 --> 02:13:54.600
The spreads into your hips. Sit down your lower back,

952
02:13:54.920 --> 02:14:02.880
into your hips, into the area where your cosicks are,

953
02:14:06.479 --> 02:14:12.640
and into your buttocks, and all these muscles that spread

954
02:14:15.399 --> 02:14:25.119
from your lower back into your hip area start to melt,

955
02:14:29.560 --> 02:14:41.880
start to really let go. I don't even nowhere about

956
02:14:42.039 --> 02:14:48.039
to focus on your shoulders. Your back and your spine

957
02:14:49.079 --> 02:15:05.840
will continue to let go, continue to relax so calmly,

958
02:15:10.560 --> 02:15:15.479
And as you focus on your shoulders, you may notice

959
02:15:15.720 --> 02:15:39.840
that they're already feeding really loose, They're already feeding calm

960
02:15:46.199 --> 02:15:58.920
and feeling. Those muscles then move from your neck into

961
02:15:59.000 --> 02:16:24.399
your shoulders. Feel so soft and gentle, so smooth and calm,

962
02:16:35.799 --> 02:16:48.319
and the feeling in your shoulders seems to spread deep

963
02:16:48.600 --> 02:16:58.360
into your shoulders, that sense of relaxation not just traveling

964
02:16:58.879 --> 02:17:16.079
deeply to your muscles, but also relaxing the bones and

965
02:17:16.399 --> 02:17:24.600
move it all away to underneath your arms, relaxing that

966
02:17:24.799 --> 02:17:30.120
whole area between the tops of your shoulders and underneath

967
02:17:30.159 --> 02:17:49.280
your arms healing. You feel so relaxed and comfortable in

968
02:17:49.399 --> 02:18:08.719
your shoulders. Who sends that deep healing message into your

969
02:18:09.159 --> 02:18:20.760
arms and you may feel almost as if your arms

970
02:18:20.840 --> 02:18:32.719
are not even there because they're so relaxed, so deeply relaxed,

971
02:18:39.959 --> 02:19:20.399
so so calm, so loose, not feeling spreading all the

972
02:19:20.559 --> 02:19:44.760
way down your arms, two elbows, including your elbows circumforts

973
02:19:44.959 --> 02:20:01.280
spreads or away into your wrists, your forearms sender wrists

974
02:20:08.040 --> 02:20:28.319
so heavy, yet at the same time so light and gentle.

975
02:20:53.079 --> 02:21:33.840
Focus Now on your hands, my hands, so peaceful. In

976
02:21:34.079 --> 02:22:11.319
your hands, there's a sense of real peace y. It

977
02:22:11.600 --> 02:22:25.040
just seems to I feel so familiar when your hands

978
02:22:25.399 --> 02:23:33.040
relax deeply ees your thing is you think this sadly

979
02:24:02.360 --> 02:24:36.079
your finger tips, moving your attention to the front of

980
02:24:36.239 --> 02:25:06.840
your body, so comfortable. Move on your focus your legs,

981
02:26:25.639 --> 02:27:20.280
a muscles in your thighs, your knees so relaxed, a

982
02:27:20.520 --> 02:29:28.719
calf muscles, and just shains co pusya four and the

983
02:29:28.959 --> 02:29:49.920
feathing and your feet so peaceful, so calm, so peaceful,

984
02:29:57.040 --> 02:30:50.760
so calm, so peaceful, so calm, so peace fa rea

985
02:30:51.799 --> 02:31:15.879
sin peace fa so calm, allowing that deep relaxation to

986
02:31:16.120 --> 02:31:38.040
spread your chest, in your stomach, so letting go of everything.

987
02:31:49.280 --> 02:31:55.280
So I'm gonna start counting down now, from twenty down

988
02:31:55.360 --> 02:32:03.479
to one. You can imagine in a way, it's like

989
02:32:04.280 --> 02:32:10.719
just walking down some steps and each step or twenty steps,

990
02:32:10.799 --> 02:32:19.920
and each step represents a level of comfort. Each step

991
02:32:20.440 --> 02:32:36.000
represents a deepening of that comfort, and the furvies you

992
02:32:36.159 --> 02:32:42.159
walk down those steps, the deeper and more relaxed you feel.

993
02:32:48.920 --> 02:35:23.799
So starting with number twenty twenty, nineteen, eighteen, seventeen, sixteen

994
02:36:39.319 --> 02:45:48.120
three four four two too well five eight nine eight seven.

995
02:45:06.959 --> 02:49:00.920
Six five us four.

996
02:50:18.120 --> 02:52:38.920
Two one.

997
02:53:28.479 --> 02:53:29.200
And now.

998
02:53:33.559 --> 02:53:46.239
As you focus on your eyes, we're gonna count down

999
02:53:46.639 --> 02:54:02.399
from ten touts one, focusing just on your eyes, your eyelids,

1000
02:54:02.840 --> 02:54:11.680
the muscles around your eyes, your eye waves themselves, our

1001
02:54:11.799 --> 02:54:28.680
whole area that makes up your eye. And as we

1002
02:54:28.920 --> 02:54:37.200
count down from ten down to one, whilst focus in

1003
02:54:37.440 --> 02:54:52.799
on your eyes, you'll become twice is relaxed with each

1004
02:54:53.239 --> 02:55:06.360
number counting down. May find the all you want to

1005
02:55:06.520 --> 02:55:15.680
do is just drift off to sleep. And if that's

1006
02:55:15.959 --> 02:55:28.799
what you want, then just allow yourself to do that. Now,

1007
02:55:31.760 --> 02:55:37.719
focus in on your eyes. I'm going to begin counting

1008
02:55:37.920 --> 02:56:21.600
down from ten down to one right now, ten nine

1009
02:56:55.959 --> 02:58:50.440
eight seven y y.

1010
02:59:53.719 --> 03:02:09.200
Five four.

1011
03:02:18.360 --> 03:05:09.360
Three two one two. Counting down from ten to one

1012
03:05:11.440 --> 03:05:35.719
ten nine eight seven six five four three two one.

1013
03:05:42.719 --> 03:05:45.600
And maybe that was a bit too quick in order

1014
03:05:45.719 --> 03:05:49.600
to relax. Maybe it's a bit too fast for you

1015
03:05:49.959 --> 03:05:59.600
to notice the calming of your body, maybe even a

1016
03:05:59.639 --> 03:06:03.520
little bit of pressure there. Like you're counted down from

1017
03:06:03.600 --> 03:06:06.280
ten to one. What do you expect me to do? Man?

1018
03:06:07.200 --> 03:06:11.760
Expect me to stick gold floppy just because you're counting down.

1019
03:06:17.360 --> 03:06:20.639
We could try it again, but this time I go

1020
03:06:20.799 --> 03:06:28.200
this slower. This time, as you focus on the whole

1021
03:06:28.280 --> 03:06:34.520
of your body before we focus on your legs. Just

1022
03:06:34.799 --> 03:06:44.760
notice how your body does start to feel more relaxed

1023
03:06:49.520 --> 03:07:43.760
with every number that I count down ten nine, eight, seven, six, five, four,

1024
03:07:51.200 --> 03:08:42.680
three two one, And just notice how how you feel generally,

1025
03:08:43.120 --> 03:08:57.399
how your body feels. It's not necessarily even about counting

1026
03:08:57.559 --> 03:09:04.639
down from ten to one. It's that space that you have,

1027
03:09:06.000 --> 03:09:24.479
that space between being active physically or mentally to just

1028
03:09:29.200 --> 03:09:34.360
sitting or lying down and just being there, not doing anything,

1029
03:09:34.559 --> 03:09:41.200
not saying anything, not needing to think about anything. So

1030
03:09:41.879 --> 03:09:44.879
it opens up a space, you know, a bit of

1031
03:09:44.959 --> 03:09:55.920
a space, a gap. And the more I came down

1032
03:09:56.000 --> 03:10:03.360
from ten to one, the bigger that gap. Because so

1033
03:10:03.520 --> 03:10:15.920
there's that gap of calmness, of comfort, relaxation. It's a

1034
03:10:16.040 --> 03:10:30.079
nice feeling and it moves those stresses or discomforts physically

1035
03:10:30.280 --> 03:10:42.399
or emotionally, moves them away, allows you.

1036
03:10:45.120 --> 03:10:45.639
To just.

1037
03:10:48.600 --> 03:10:54.639
Slow down. So I'm going to count again from ten

1038
03:10:54.760 --> 03:11:03.120
down to one, and notice that gap odening, the gap,

1039
03:11:04.920 --> 03:11:09.520
and as it widens, it's almost like the stress and

1040
03:11:09.680 --> 03:11:27.239
attention falls into the gap and gives you that distance,

1041
03:11:29.280 --> 03:12:33.360
that space. Now ten nine, eight, seven, six, five, four

1042
03:12:51.680 --> 03:13:08.680
three two.

1043
03:13:26.959 --> 03:13:27.159
One.

1044
03:13:39.079 --> 03:13:59.159
How does your body feel now? Can you notice the

1045
03:14:00.200 --> 03:14:14.239
do you feel in calmer? Do you feeling more relaxed?

1046
03:14:36.680 --> 03:14:41.040
As we now focus on your legs, just your legs.

1047
03:14:57.040 --> 03:15:17.200
We're just gonna start with focusing on your thighs. Of course,

1048
03:15:17.319 --> 03:15:22.200
it's not the most exciting thing to be doing, because

1049
03:15:25.639 --> 03:15:28.319
I'm sure like most of your body is not a

1050
03:15:28.399 --> 03:15:40.840
lot going on right now. Just focusing on the whole

1051
03:15:40.959 --> 03:15:47.360
of your thighs, the tops of your thighs, the sides

1052
03:15:47.520 --> 03:15:54.479
of your thighs, the bottoms of your thighs, your outer thighs,

1053
03:15:54.600 --> 03:15:59.479
and you're inner thighs. Basically the whole of your thigh

1054
03:15:59.600 --> 03:16:08.159
that leads eats into your hip and it goes down

1055
03:16:08.319 --> 03:16:18.000
to your knee joints. Now, this is a big area.

1056
03:16:22.479 --> 03:16:27.399
It's a very heavy area. It's very strong, probably the

1057
03:16:27.559 --> 03:16:42.239
strongest muscles in your body or in your thighs. But

1058
03:16:42.280 --> 03:16:50.680
I don't think we perhaps give enough attention to our thighs.

1059
03:16:56.639 --> 03:17:04.239
Perhaps we don't acknowledge wh how important our thighs are

1060
03:17:07.360 --> 03:17:24.159
to our lives, how much they actually do for us

1061
03:17:28.040 --> 03:17:38.079
all through our lives. And it may seem to sound

1062
03:17:38.159 --> 03:17:38.920
really weird, but.

1063
03:17:41.799 --> 03:17:42.879
I think that all of.

1064
03:17:42.920 --> 03:17:53.719
Our body parts, especially our thighs, need some TLC, a

1065
03:17:53.799 --> 03:18:06.719
bit of love shown, a bit of acknowledgement. I thank

1066
03:18:06.840 --> 03:18:22.159
you gratitude for what our thighs do for us. And

1067
03:18:22.280 --> 03:18:28.159
I know this may sound a bit strange. Maybe you think,

1068
03:18:28.600 --> 03:18:30.959
why am I surely how I should be out in

1069
03:18:31.479 --> 03:18:40.040
the garden hugging a tree or something. Well, it's hard

1070
03:18:40.120 --> 03:18:43.239
to set a microphone up on a tree. That's why

1071
03:18:43.239 --> 03:18:45.920
I'm doing this indoors. Otherwise I would be outside hugging

1072
03:18:45.959 --> 03:18:49.440
a tree. Now I can't see the television from the tree.

1073
03:18:56.159 --> 03:19:00.440
If you move down to your knees, agains such an

1074
03:19:00.520 --> 03:19:10.200
important part. And I think we don't necessarily I'll speak

1075
03:19:10.280 --> 03:19:17.600
for myself here, I don't necessarily appreciate all that my

1076
03:19:17.799 --> 03:19:22.959
needs do for me until I have a problem with

1077
03:19:23.079 --> 03:19:28.040
my knee. It's occasionally, if I ever maybe i'll pash

1078
03:19:28.120 --> 03:19:34.159
it or it's aching for some reason. It's then that

1079
03:19:34.319 --> 03:19:39.879
I realize how much it does. You know, the benefit

1080
03:19:39.959 --> 03:19:47.479
of being able to use my legs without any kind

1081
03:19:47.479 --> 03:19:55.159
of physical discomfort is a beautiful thing that's possibly not

1082
03:19:55.280 --> 03:20:02.840
appreciated until it's temporarily re moved. You know that's comfort.

1083
03:20:06.959 --> 03:20:11.559
But as you focus on your knees, regardless of how

1084
03:20:11.639 --> 03:20:19.159
your knees feel, you can have that sense of gratitude

1085
03:20:20.680 --> 03:20:23.280
and love to your knees for all that they do

1086
03:20:23.479 --> 03:20:36.479
for you, And you can still have that attention on

1087
03:20:36.600 --> 03:20:42.799
your thighs and maybe notice how your thighs feel. Maybe

1088
03:20:43.079 --> 03:21:00.520
you've noticed that they are relaxing more deeply as you

1089
03:21:00.680 --> 03:21:05.840
focus now on the bottoms of your legs, your shins,

1090
03:21:06.760 --> 03:21:12.319
and your calf muscles, and the bones between your knees

1091
03:21:13.200 --> 03:21:20.920
and your feet, incorporating of course, your ankles so important.

1092
03:21:26.440 --> 03:21:31.040
You know, anyone that's had even like the slightest sprain

1093
03:21:31.159 --> 03:21:38.120
of an ankle knows how how much we take our

1094
03:21:38.360 --> 03:21:46.879
ankles for granted. And it's kind of strange in a

1095
03:21:46.959 --> 03:21:52.520
way when you think that. You know, logically, our wrists

1096
03:21:52.719 --> 03:21:55.559
are a lot thinner than the rest of our arms,

1097
03:21:56.680 --> 03:22:00.360
which is okay, it doesn't can't see any with that

1098
03:22:01.639 --> 03:22:07.600
because we're just picking stuff up. But our ankles so

1099
03:22:07.799 --> 03:22:17.799
much thinner than the rest of our legs, and from

1100
03:22:17.840 --> 03:22:22.360
a physics perspective or logical even it doesn't really make

1101
03:22:22.520 --> 03:22:30.520
sense that all this weight would ultimately be resting on

1102
03:22:31.399 --> 03:22:40.479
your ankles then leading to your feet, that thin area,

1103
03:22:41.959 --> 03:22:51.559
thin bone. Yeah, it does so much great work. Supports us,

1104
03:22:51.639 --> 03:23:01.639
supports our body for a lifetime, helps us to balance,

1105
03:23:03.840 --> 03:23:16.680
It helps you to get around and be mobile. And

1106
03:23:16.760 --> 03:23:24.440
there's the calf muscles. Of course, when I was younger,

1107
03:23:24.799 --> 03:23:28.120
I couldn't see the point in calf muscles. Didn't seem

1108
03:23:28.159 --> 03:23:33.239
to do anything. Okay, if I walked around on tiptoes,

1109
03:23:34.040 --> 03:23:37.879
then my calf muscles get some work. But of course

1110
03:23:37.959 --> 03:23:42.079
that's not true. The calf muscles are being used whenever

1111
03:23:42.200 --> 03:23:54.079
we use our legs, and your shins there to protect

1112
03:23:56.079 --> 03:24:04.719
your lower legs, shaped in a way almost as a

1113
03:24:04.799 --> 03:24:17.079
protector for the bone, leading of course to your ankles

1114
03:24:20.479 --> 03:24:27.040
and your feet. But we're not going to focus on

1115
03:24:27.120 --> 03:24:29.239
your feet. We're just going to focus on the legs.

1116
03:24:31.319 --> 03:24:35.959
I realize that now that I've mentioned your feet, it

1117
03:24:36.079 --> 03:24:40.959
probably focuses on them anyway. For maybe I should focus

1118
03:24:41.079 --> 03:24:46.920
on your feet a little bit. You can have them

1119
03:24:46.959 --> 03:24:52.479
in your awareness the same as you have your thighs

1120
03:24:52.799 --> 03:24:57.079
in your awareness. Even though we haven't been focusing on

1121
03:24:57.239 --> 03:25:01.959
your thighs for a few minutes, who were focusing on

1122
03:25:02.120 --> 03:25:19.280
your ankles, there's still that sensation of comfort in your thighs,

1123
03:25:24.280 --> 03:25:31.639
and there's that movement of energy because the thighs hold

1124
03:25:33.600 --> 03:25:38.840
lots of different sensations. Of course, there's the muscles, the

1125
03:25:39.159 --> 03:25:51.639
big straw muscles that we have in our thighs. But

1126
03:25:51.840 --> 03:25:57.440
the skin on the outside of the thighs, as in

1127
03:25:57.959 --> 03:26:03.719
the outside of all of our body, can be very sensitive,

1128
03:26:07.639 --> 03:26:20.840
sensitive to the touch, sensitive to temperature, and inside your

1129
03:26:20.959 --> 03:26:28.399
thighs the bones, there's the muscle, there's the blood, vessels,

1130
03:26:28.559 --> 03:26:34.360
the arch trees, all this stuff that's inside your thighs.

1131
03:26:38.680 --> 03:26:41.879
And I guess sometimes it'd be nice if you could

1132
03:26:41.879 --> 03:26:47.239
actually put your fingers inside your thighs and a message,

1133
03:26:49.600 --> 03:26:53.159
so you can message on the outside, of course, but

1134
03:26:53.239 --> 03:26:56.360
to be able to get deep into the muscles and

1135
03:26:56.440 --> 03:27:00.280
to be able to just message inside your thigh eyes,

1136
03:27:01.120 --> 03:27:09.520
message in the bones of your leg, massage in or

1137
03:27:09.639 --> 03:27:20.120
the veins, and just gently heathing your thighs, and you

1138
03:27:20.239 --> 03:27:27.360
could move down message and inside your knees, just message

1139
03:27:27.440 --> 03:27:34.360
in those bones, but with healing fingertips, spreading that healing

1140
03:27:34.600 --> 03:27:45.120
energy deep into the joints of your knees. Of course,

1141
03:27:45.200 --> 03:27:48.520
there's the back of your your knee, you know, the

1142
03:27:48.719 --> 03:27:55.680
inside crease where your knee is. It's a very sensitive area.

1143
03:27:57.719 --> 03:28:02.040
Very it feels very nice when you stroke it. That

1144
03:28:02.200 --> 03:28:05.920
might be because it's an area that's not really touched

1145
03:28:06.120 --> 03:28:13.000
very often. It's almost like a hidden part, that crease.

1146
03:28:14.799 --> 03:28:15.520
In your legs.

1147
03:28:15.600 --> 03:28:22.639
It's almost it's like a part that has a sensitivity,

1148
03:28:22.760 --> 03:28:33.159
which is a little bit different. Of course, it's protected

1149
03:28:33.319 --> 03:28:44.520
by your legs. So you can imagine putting your fingers

1150
03:28:44.680 --> 03:28:54.079
into that crease in your legs, that fold in between

1151
03:28:54.159 --> 03:28:59.239
your legs. You can just message with your fingertips. Imagine

1152
03:28:59.239 --> 03:29:10.280
your fingertips going inside, massage in the muscle tissue. You

1153
03:29:10.399 --> 03:29:16.399
can of course fiel the bones of your knees, healing

1154
03:29:16.680 --> 03:29:29.360
through your fingertips, and then as you go down to

1155
03:29:29.440 --> 03:29:32.239
your calf muscles. Now that's the part I'd like to

1156
03:29:32.280 --> 03:29:37.719
be able to really put my fingertips deep inside my

1157
03:29:37.920 --> 03:29:46.600
calf muscles. Massage in every single tissue of that muscle,

1158
03:29:48.200 --> 03:29:58.120
healing every part, and then doing the same for my shins,

1159
03:30:01.319 --> 03:30:08.200
massage in and gently stroking the bones, gently stroking them,

1160
03:30:09.079 --> 03:30:13.239
healing in a loving way, because they deserve to be

1161
03:30:13.399 --> 03:30:20.639
treated as the precious bones that they are, because our

1162
03:30:20.719 --> 03:30:24.280
legs are so precious as in all the other parts

1163
03:30:24.360 --> 03:30:32.000
of our body, and more precious of any jure on

1164
03:30:32.120 --> 03:30:48.440
the planet. When you start to think about your legs

1165
03:30:48.600 --> 03:30:59.680
in this way, it can change your perspective. It might

1166
03:30:59.760 --> 03:31:05.239
see out a bit, a bit silly to start with

1167
03:31:06.440 --> 03:31:12.799
the idea of having love for your legs, showing appreciation

1168
03:31:14.799 --> 03:31:20.399
for your thighs, wanting to be able to put your

1169
03:31:20.559 --> 03:31:28.840
hands in your thighs, massage the muscles and the bones,

1170
03:31:30.719 --> 03:31:36.399
and to get your fingers deep in there, releasing all tension,

1171
03:31:39.280 --> 03:31:47.879
just to show how much you care about your legs,

1172
03:31:48.799 --> 03:31:52.559
how much you care for what your legs do for

1173
03:31:52.680 --> 03:32:06.280
you regularly, your knees, your calves, your ankles, the strength

1174
03:32:06.440 --> 03:32:14.479
of your ankles, considering how thin they are compared to

1175
03:32:14.639 --> 03:32:21.319
the rest of your legs, especially your thighs, yet they're

1176
03:32:21.479 --> 03:32:33.760
so strong, so flexible, absolutely amazing things. Your ankles are

1177
03:32:37.600 --> 03:32:42.680
truly a gift because of what they do for you,

1178
03:32:48.159 --> 03:32:55.120
supporting all that weight. Regardless of how what weight you are,

1179
03:32:56.280 --> 03:33:01.079
even if you only ate stone, it's still a lot

1180
03:33:01.120 --> 03:33:07.799
of weight for these little ankles. Now I'm a lot

1181
03:33:08.000 --> 03:33:17.959
heavier than eight stone double down, Yet my ankles support

1182
03:33:18.040 --> 03:33:25.399
my body all the time. Although they do give off

1183
03:33:25.440 --> 03:33:27.319
a sigh of relief when I sit down.

1184
03:33:29.639 --> 03:33:31.000
That's a fact.

1185
03:33:31.040 --> 03:33:40.040
My whole legs do. My feet feet also go, my

1186
03:33:40.200 --> 03:34:07.719
toes clap. I'm so happy. Your legs really are amazing.

1187
03:34:10.360 --> 03:34:14.600
And I know that talking about your legs is probably

1188
03:34:17.120 --> 03:34:21.799
possibly among the most most boring things you've ever heard

1189
03:34:21.840 --> 03:34:30.239
anyone say. Possibly, but boring or not, everything I said

1190
03:34:30.360 --> 03:34:47.040
is true. Your legs are amazing. Your legs deserve not

1191
03:34:47.399 --> 03:35:05.879
just respect, They deserve to relax deeply. They deserve to

1192
03:35:06.000 --> 03:35:11.280
take some time out of the day to just let

1193
03:35:11.440 --> 03:35:47.399
go completely. Your legs really can relax. And because the

1194
03:35:47.520 --> 03:35:52.000
legs are so such a most, you know, very important

1195
03:35:52.680 --> 03:35:57.200
part of your body. When you relax your legs, the

1196
03:35:57.360 --> 03:36:08.520
rest of your body also naturally follows in that journey

1197
03:36:08.680 --> 03:36:20.399
of comfort. I can feel it in my hips. My

1198
03:36:20.600 --> 03:36:27.920
hips feel really loose, and also my lwer back as well,

1199
03:36:29.959 --> 03:36:35.680
my lower back really feels it feels stretched, even though

1200
03:36:35.719 --> 03:36:39.360
I'm just sitting in a chair and there's no stretching

1201
03:36:42.040 --> 03:36:44.879
as far as I'm aware that I'm doing. But it's

1202
03:36:44.879 --> 03:36:47.760
almost as if the muscles are just relaxed so much

1203
03:36:49.000 --> 03:36:54.559
that there is a natural stretch as the tension has

1204
03:36:55.520 --> 03:37:15.920
reduced a lot. And I'm now going to count down

1205
03:37:16.079 --> 03:37:25.479
from ten down to one, and you can continue to

1206
03:37:25.680 --> 03:37:52.040
fill wonderfully relaxed ten nine, eight, seven, six, five.

1207
03:37:56.360 --> 03:38:00.440
Four real.

1208
03:38:04.399 --> 03:38:25.079
Twoe one relax. So I'm just going to count down

1209
03:38:26.600 --> 03:38:31.280
from five down to one, and as a countdown, if

1210
03:38:31.319 --> 03:38:38.399
you just focus on the numbers, just the numbers counting down,

1211
03:38:39.479 --> 03:38:48.600
and notice how you feel in this moment as you

1212
03:38:48.760 --> 03:38:56.280
hear the numbers counting down, knowing that those numbers counting

1213
03:38:56.360 --> 03:39:06.479
down represent you feeling calmer, not just in your body,

1214
03:39:06.680 --> 03:39:15.000
but also relaxing your mind. I just notice how you feel.

1215
03:39:15.920 --> 03:39:21.799
There's nothing to do, there's nothing to say, there's nothing

1216
03:39:21.959 --> 03:40:05.000
to think about, starting with number five, four, three two one.

1217
03:40:14.440 --> 03:40:26.280
And as you notice the gradual letting go that the

1218
03:40:26.440 --> 03:40:34.040
tension in your body, you may also begin to notice

1219
03:40:34.200 --> 03:40:41.399
and be aware of how your mind is starting to

1220
03:40:42.719 --> 03:40:49.360
slow down. This is just a natural thing that happens.

1221
03:40:51.959 --> 03:40:57.159
It's not really a special procedure. It's just natural because

1222
03:40:57.200 --> 03:41:02.559
as your body relaxing is, your mind also starts to

1223
03:41:02.680 --> 03:41:07.399
relax and the more your mind relaxes, the more your

1224
03:41:07.440 --> 03:41:18.600
body relaxes. It's just a continuous circle of relaxation. And

1225
03:41:18.680 --> 03:41:27.079
there's that calmness that comes from relative quietness. You know,

1226
03:41:27.239 --> 03:41:32.840
even even if there's background sounds, either your side or mine,

1227
03:41:34.559 --> 03:41:40.479
it's still going to be quite calm. You know, you

1228
03:41:40.520 --> 03:41:45.200
haven't got the television on, there's no music in the

1229
03:41:45.280 --> 03:41:48.479
background unless you're listening to the recording. With music, of course,

1230
03:41:53.360 --> 03:41:55.520
you're very likely not going to be sitting in a

1231
03:41:55.639 --> 03:41:58.760
room with other people. Of course you might be, but

1232
03:42:00.120 --> 03:42:03.319
generally it's more ideal if you can do this on

1233
03:42:03.440 --> 03:42:14.760
your own, so no distractions, and when you stop thinking

1234
03:42:14.840 --> 03:42:32.000
about stuff, relaxation automatically rises. A sense of comfort starts

1235
03:42:32.040 --> 03:42:40.799
to grow, and without trying to build it up into

1236
03:42:40.920 --> 03:42:53.040
something fantastical or something magical, this is just a natural process,

1237
03:42:55.360 --> 03:43:06.079
something that's easy to accomplish. In fact, it's almost know.

1238
03:43:06.200 --> 03:43:13.040
The sense of relaxing completely happens really when you put

1239
03:43:13.239 --> 03:43:17.079
no effort into it. It's not something that you can

1240
03:43:17.200 --> 03:43:28.840
really force. It's something that happens naturally, and part of

1241
03:43:29.239 --> 03:43:39.479
the process of this recording and others is simply two

1242
03:43:41.079 --> 03:43:51.440
allow you to take advantage of this space. This time,

1243
03:43:54.360 --> 03:44:05.319
it's just let go, to just be here, to be

1244
03:44:06.000 --> 03:44:19.399
in tune with how you feel, yet with the intention

1245
03:44:21.639 --> 03:44:33.079
of wanting to relax deeply and maybe even to fall asleep,

1246
03:44:34.280 --> 03:44:39.440
depending on what it is that you wish for yourself

1247
03:44:41.200 --> 03:44:56.239
in this moment. As we know, relaxing is the majority

1248
03:44:57.479 --> 03:45:01.520
of the process of falling asleep, the actual fall. The

1249
03:45:01.639 --> 03:45:08.280
sleep part is the tiny bit at the end. The

1250
03:45:08.440 --> 03:45:22.920
deeper relaxed you become, the easier you find yourself drifting.

1251
03:45:32.520 --> 03:45:39.120
You can also if you choose stay focused on my

1252
03:45:39.319 --> 03:46:07.319
voice and really enjoy the process of gradually relaxing each

1253
03:46:07.840 --> 03:46:34.399
muscle in your body effortlessly and just observing the sensation

1254
03:46:39.680 --> 03:46:55.600
of letting go completely. This time on an account from

1255
03:46:55.840 --> 03:47:06.000
six down to one, and you can notice your mind

1256
03:47:08.639 --> 03:47:22.040
calming down more with each number that you hear me say, naturally,

1257
03:47:23.120 --> 03:48:05.280
feeling calm and slow and be peaceful sex five.

1258
03:48:25.040 --> 03:49:43.079
Four, three, two.

1259
03:50:04.399 --> 03:50:35.360
What being aware how your mind to slowed right down,

1260
03:50:38.639 --> 03:51:02.000
sinking deeply into relaxation, and as you focus on your mind,

1261
03:51:02.319 --> 03:51:12.280
you may notice that there are some thoughts still there,

1262
03:51:14.840 --> 03:51:24.399
maybe some stubborn thoughts that for some reason perhaps need

1263
03:51:24.479 --> 03:51:25.079
your attention.

1264
03:51:32.000 --> 03:51:33.360
That's what you can do is.

1265
03:51:38.920 --> 03:51:51.399
Send love to those thoughts. Sprinkle those thoughts with love,

1266
03:51:53.159 --> 03:51:57.399
like all petals from a flower. Just sprinkle it over them,

1267
03:51:58.840 --> 03:52:05.959
petals filled with love towards those thoughts, to let those

1268
03:52:06.200 --> 03:52:12.639
thoughts know that you're not abandoned in them. You just

1269
03:52:13.120 --> 03:52:23.159
need them. You require them to just calm down, slow down,

1270
03:52:25.479 --> 03:52:40.360
quiet down for now. So as you focus on those

1271
03:52:41.120 --> 03:52:46.000
remaining thoughts. As we count down this time from seven

1272
03:52:46.920 --> 03:52:55.600
down to one, with each number, just imagine sprinkling those

1273
03:52:55.840 --> 03:53:15.280
flower petals of love, kindness, gratitude over those thoughts, which

1274
03:53:15.319 --> 03:53:21.280
will allow them to just melt away and relax deeply.

1275
03:53:25.479 --> 03:53:39.879
Of every number, those thoughts will become more and more relaxed,

1276
03:53:45.479 --> 03:55:08.079
starting with number seven, six, five, four three.

1277
03:56:00.040 --> 03:56:17.719
Yeah, And as you now.

1278
03:56:21.840 --> 03:56:43.040
Notice how relaxed you're feeling in your body, we're going

1279
03:56:43.159 --> 03:56:56.799
to focus on your hands, because the more relaxed your

1280
03:56:57.040 --> 03:57:18.879
hands are, more relaxed your body and mind are. And

1281
03:57:19.040 --> 03:57:30.639
there's you focus on your hands and your fingers. There's

1282
03:57:30.719 --> 03:57:36.040
nothing needed to be done. There's no clenching of fists

1283
03:57:36.319 --> 03:57:47.440
or dents in the fingers or anything like that. It's

1284
03:57:47.680 --> 03:58:02.280
just noticing and focusing on your hands, noticing how they feel.

1285
03:58:16.920 --> 03:58:27.399
Because the more relaxed your hands feel, the calmer your

1286
03:58:27.639 --> 03:58:39.479
mind feels, and the more comfort you feel throughout your body.

1287
03:58:44.719 --> 03:58:45.559
And you.

1288
03:58:48.200 --> 03:59:19.520
May have already noticed you mind is starting to dress

1289
03:59:33.319 --> 03:59:47.600
like sense just on your hands and fingers, allowing them

1290
03:59:48.680 --> 04:00:02.079
to experience a real deepening of that relaxation in your

1291
04:00:02.280 --> 04:00:20.680
hands and fingers, more and more relaxed. With each number

1292
04:00:28.600 --> 04:00:41.079
from eight down to one, you can almost feel that

1293
04:00:41.920 --> 04:00:56.239
healing and relaxing energy spreading into your hands and fingers, becoming.

1294
04:01:00.239 --> 04:01:01.799
Year more.

1295
04:01:03.719 --> 04:01:20.520
Relaxing with each number you hear, going down eight down

1296
04:01:21.239 --> 04:04:17.239
to one, drifting, drifting again starting with number eight, seven, six, five, four, three,

1297
04:05:37.000 --> 04:05:46.280
just being here now, nothing to think about, nothing to do,

1298
04:05:47.920 --> 04:06:01.840
nothing to say, and everything just feels calm. And this

1299
04:06:02.120 --> 04:06:09.719
is your natural state of being. This is how you

1300
04:06:10.040 --> 04:06:16.920
just normally feel when you take away all that other

1301
04:06:17.319 --> 04:06:24.239
stuff that we add, you know, things like stress and

1302
04:06:24.479 --> 04:06:40.639
worrying and overthinking, anxiety, tension, just generally thinking about stuff.

1303
04:06:42.879 --> 04:06:46.799
You take that away, which is what we do. What

1304
04:06:46.920 --> 04:07:00.959
we do. Now you're left with a real sense of peacefulness,

1305
04:07:04.520 --> 04:07:12.879
which comes to you very quickly, because ultimately it's just

1306
04:07:14.079 --> 04:07:26.479
a feeling, a feeling of comfort. It's almost as if

1307
04:07:26.520 --> 04:07:30.879
you've gone inside yourself and you've found a special place

1308
04:07:32.280 --> 04:07:44.680
where everything is peaceful, a place where you can feel

1309
04:07:45.920 --> 04:07:55.319
relaxed and your natural sense of comfort, a place where

1310
04:07:55.399 --> 04:08:04.920
you can be you, where you can accept yourself for

1311
04:08:05.079 --> 04:08:10.079
who you are, the place where you're not trying to

1312
04:08:12.360 --> 04:08:22.559
please anybody else ever, the place where you can actually

1313
04:08:25.920 --> 04:08:30.879
not just love yourself, but in some ways more importantly,

1314
04:08:31.479 --> 04:08:48.559
you can like yourself appreciate who you are. That sense

1315
04:08:48.680 --> 04:09:02.319
of gratitude is in the air all around you. That's

1316
04:09:02.440 --> 04:09:10.760
also a place where you can actually feel the healing

1317
04:09:11.360 --> 04:09:26.239
energy soaking into your body. Healing energy soaking into your body,

1318
04:09:31.159 --> 04:09:40.120
and that healing energy spreads through your veins, traveling to

1319
04:09:40.479 --> 04:09:52.479
each and every single part of your body, and you

1320
04:09:52.639 --> 04:09:59.559
start to realize that actually that healing energy, it's not

1321
04:09:59.760 --> 04:10:07.319
just entered into your brain, it's become part of your brain,

1322
04:10:12.280 --> 04:10:18.920
and that spinal fluid is now mixed with healing energy,

1323
04:10:24.200 --> 04:10:30.440
not just allowing you to feel so much more relaxed

1324
04:10:32.520 --> 04:10:44.520
and healthy in this moment, but also you start to

1325
04:10:44.680 --> 04:10:54.040
realize that actually, what's happening now with that healing, relaxing

1326
04:10:55.159 --> 04:11:03.040
energy spreading through your body is actually changing your life.

1327
04:11:08.200 --> 04:11:13.319
It's actually changing the way you're going to feel, not

1328
04:11:13.600 --> 04:11:20.959
just now, but tomorrow and the next day. There's your

1329
04:11:21.120 --> 04:11:29.159
health improves, not just your physical health, but your mental health.

1330
04:11:33.120 --> 04:11:38.280
Things that used to bother you in the past, for

1331
04:11:38.479 --> 04:11:44.479
some reason, no longer have the effect that they used

1332
04:11:44.520 --> 04:11:58.799
to because something has changed deep within you. Maybe things

1333
04:11:59.120 --> 04:12:08.760
that used to cause you to feel anger no longer

1334
04:12:09.159 --> 04:12:18.799
have that power to control you the way they seem

1335
04:12:18.959 --> 04:12:27.799
to be able to before. As you realize that you're

1336
04:12:27.920 --> 04:12:40.600
the one who decides what affects you, you're the one

1337
04:12:41.239 --> 04:12:51.680
who decides to feel relaxed and calm when you choose

1338
04:12:55.239 --> 04:13:09.319
to enjoy noticing these men actual developments of healing continuing

1339
04:13:09.680 --> 04:13:23.639
to grow and improve your life day by day, including

1340
04:13:23.760 --> 04:13:36.159
of course, your ability to relax so much easier. And

1341
04:13:36.600 --> 04:13:47.440
sleeping is the most natural thing in the world to you,

1342
04:13:51.959 --> 04:13:55.520
because fell in the sleep is something that you've done

1343
04:13:58.559 --> 04:14:06.200
so many times in your life, and you know that

1344
04:14:06.440 --> 04:14:11.680
you were born, as we all were, with the ability

1345
04:14:13.280 --> 04:14:23.600
to fall asleep naturally. We were born with that ability

1346
04:14:26.559 --> 04:14:40.799
to just drift off into a deep, healing sleep. Even

1347
04:14:40.879 --> 04:14:45.600
when we're kids, sometimes will fall asleep and we don't

1348
04:14:45.639 --> 04:14:51.639
even want to try to tell us stay awake. Maybe

1349
04:14:51.719 --> 04:14:55.079
it's a birthday in the morning, or it's Christmas or

1350
04:14:55.920 --> 04:14:57.879
holiday or something we look forward to.

1351
04:14:58.479 --> 04:14:59.680
We don't want to go to sleep.

1352
04:15:01.920 --> 04:15:06.920
But the more we want to stay awake, the more

1353
04:15:07.159 --> 04:15:15.479
we just start to drift. And the more you fight drifting,

1354
04:15:16.159 --> 04:15:18.479
the more you try to stop yourself and drift in

1355
04:15:18.559 --> 04:15:31.600
a safe the deeper and stronger that drifting becomes. Because

1356
04:15:31.639 --> 04:15:37.079
we're born not just with the need to relax deeply

1357
04:15:38.799 --> 04:15:48.639
and to naturally fall asleep, but it's our birthright, it's

1358
04:15:48.719 --> 04:15:59.239
part of our DNA. And sometimes as we get older

1359
04:15:59.360 --> 04:16:10.719
in life, perhaps at times we have forgotten that relaxing

1360
04:16:12.040 --> 04:16:26.520
completely is not only a wonderfully pleasant experience, it's also

1361
04:16:26.879 --> 04:16:46.319
really easy. It's very very easy to let go, because

1362
04:16:46.399 --> 04:16:55.600
that's all it is. It's just deciding to let go.

1363
04:17:00.840 --> 04:17:06.799
And when you press the play button on my recordings,

1364
04:17:08.680 --> 04:17:16.000
you have given permission for my voice to relax you.

1365
04:17:19.719 --> 04:17:23.239
When you press that play button, you have given me

1366
04:17:23.440 --> 04:17:35.120
permission for my words to effect you in a positive,

1367
04:17:38.559 --> 04:17:57.280
only a positive way. Opening up your mind too useful

1368
04:17:58.879 --> 04:18:15.319
and healing suggestions that can have such an amazing effect

1369
04:18:18.159 --> 04:18:29.479
on how you feel right now, as well as those

1370
04:18:29.879 --> 04:18:39.440
changes that continue long after the recording ends, those changes

1371
04:18:40.239 --> 04:18:54.000
within you that continue to flourish and grow, transforming your

1372
04:18:54.120 --> 04:19:06.959
life in the positive, beautiful way, allowing you to move

1373
04:19:08.319 --> 04:19:13.600
forward in your life in the direction that you choose

1374
04:19:15.120 --> 04:19:31.280
for yourself. And this feeling, this feeling that you can

1375
04:19:31.440 --> 04:19:55.840
experience of safety, comfort, calmness, This feels so nice. It's

1376
04:19:56.000 --> 04:20:10.200
such a healthy place to be, and that positivity grows

1377
04:20:11.479 --> 04:20:29.040
within you each and every day. Moving forward, you're going

1378
04:20:29.159 --> 04:20:39.959
to find that you're more relaxed physically and in your

1379
04:20:40.040 --> 04:20:50.120
mind is more relaxed. And it's not that you're thinking slower,

1380
04:20:52.399 --> 04:20:56.040
it's just that your mind will be less clogged up

1381
04:20:57.120 --> 04:21:10.440
with unnecessary negativity because from now on, your mind rejects negativity.

1382
04:21:14.440 --> 04:21:21.879
From now on, you're going to start noticing when negativity

1383
04:21:22.040 --> 04:21:36.440
arises and you can just say stop, stop, and that

1384
04:21:36.680 --> 04:21:55.639
negativity will turn around and leave you alone. Stop and

1385
04:21:55.799 --> 04:22:10.920
that negativity would disappear. And as you notice that you

1386
04:22:12.280 --> 04:22:25.520
feel way more relaxed than you probably expected, you can

1387
04:22:25.840 --> 04:22:35.440
now congratulate yourself because you're the person that has done this.

1388
04:22:37.200 --> 04:22:42.639
You are the one that has opened your mind up

1389
04:22:43.360 --> 04:22:51.399
to the simple facts that you can feel more relaxed

1390
04:22:51.479 --> 04:22:52.520
in your body.

1391
04:22:52.959 --> 04:22:53.879
And in your mind.

1392
04:23:00.120 --> 04:23:06.000
You've opened your mind up to the birthright of being

1393
04:23:06.040 --> 04:23:22.920
able to just fall asleep easily when you choose. And

1394
04:23:23.040 --> 04:23:24.319
that's a nice feeling.

1395
04:23:25.920 --> 04:23:26.719
Don't you think.

1396
04:23:29.159 --> 04:23:38.000
It feels nice? Doesn't it? To feel calm full, that

1397
04:23:38.360 --> 04:23:42.959
healing energy is spreading through your body and your mind

1398
04:23:49.440 --> 04:24:01.479
to spend time a special place where negativity no longer enter.

1399
04:24:07.920 --> 04:24:17.120
Negativity is banned. It's barred, it's not allowed. Entrigue doesn't

1400
04:24:17.399 --> 04:24:20.879
it doesn't. This doesn't deserve to be here. It doesn't

1401
04:24:21.040 --> 04:24:39.760
belong here. Negativity has no place in your life, which

1402
04:24:39.920 --> 04:24:54.639
makes room for more comfort, more heathing, more relaxation, more peace.

1403
04:25:11.639 --> 04:25:13.040
It feels nice, doesn't it?

1404
04:25:14.879 --> 04:25:19.079
Just let go.

1405
04:25:20.959 --> 04:25:40.920
With everything. I'm gonna count down now from twenty down

1406
04:25:41.000 --> 04:25:50.360
to one. You can continue to relax. If you choose,

1407
04:25:50.760 --> 04:26:04.360
you can drift to sleep. With every number you hear

1408
04:26:04.520 --> 04:26:16.040
me say, you can fill twice as relaxed, or if

1409
04:26:16.120 --> 04:27:24.680
you choose, you can fill twice as sleeping now twenty nineteen, eighteen, seventeen, sixteen, fifteen, fourteen,

1410
04:27:33.760 --> 04:28:32.559
thirteen to twelve, eleven, ten, nine, eight, seven, six.

1411
04:28:40.680 --> 04:28:41.319
Five.

1412
04:28:47.959 --> 04:28:48.239
Four.

1413
04:29:21.559 --> 04:29:31.360
This is your time to just take a break, your

1414
04:29:31.520 --> 04:29:42.239
time to relax, to allow your mind to slow down,

1415
04:29:50.920 --> 04:30:05.000
to give yourself a permission to take a break from everything.

1416
04:30:09.680 --> 04:30:12.799
And you're the only person that can.

1417
04:30:12.879 --> 04:30:17.719
Make that decision. You're the only.

1418
04:30:17.680 --> 04:30:25.840
Person that can actually tell your mind to just relax,

1419
04:30:33.959 --> 04:30:34.399
to just.

1420
04:30:38.079 --> 04:30:39.399
Take some time.

1421
04:30:41.040 --> 04:30:52.879
Off so that you can focus on your body, getting

1422
04:30:53.280 --> 04:31:07.639
in touch with how you feel physically. And in the

1423
04:31:07.760 --> 04:31:15.879
process of this buddy scan, where you focus on different

1424
04:31:15.959 --> 04:31:25.799
parts of your body, those parts that you focus on

1425
04:31:26.559 --> 04:31:37.959
and observe. Even though you're not purposely requesting for those

1426
04:31:38.159 --> 04:31:43.719
parts of your body to relax, it's kind of expected.

1427
04:31:45.319 --> 04:31:50.879
You expect when you listen to my voice to feel

1428
04:31:51.879 --> 04:32:05.600
more relaxed naturally, because when you're listening to me, your

1429
04:32:05.639 --> 04:32:17.920
attention is focused on my words, and as my words

1430
04:32:18.879 --> 04:32:29.040
guide you to focus on those parts of your body,

1431
04:32:32.879 --> 04:32:55.000
your focus increases, which actually calms your mind. And when

1432
04:32:55.040 --> 04:33:14.400
your mind calms down, your body relaxes. And when your

1433
04:33:14.479 --> 04:33:25.799
body calms down, your mind.

1434
04:33:27.479 --> 04:33:28.159
Relaxes.

1435
04:33:35.639 --> 04:33:42.639
And even though you have not really started to focus

1436
04:33:43.119 --> 04:33:55.439
on your body, you can already feel that healing energy

1437
04:33:56.200 --> 04:34:14.159
spreading through your body, pushing out stress and tension, heathing

1438
04:34:16.159 --> 04:34:22.919
all the parts of your body, including your skin, your bones,

1439
04:34:24.479 --> 04:34:29.040
your blood, all of your organs inside.

1440
04:34:28.599 --> 04:34:33.279
Your body, all of the muscles, all of.

1441
04:34:33.319 --> 04:34:43.000
The fat, all everything, every hair on your body is

1442
04:34:43.240 --> 04:34:59.400
filled with that healing energy. And when your brain fills

1443
04:34:59.520 --> 04:35:13.959
with that healing energy, the feeling of comforts of relaxation.

1444
04:35:17.080 --> 04:35:27.880
Increases deeply increases.

1445
04:35:33.479 --> 04:35:34.360
In a way that.

1446
04:35:37.840 --> 04:35:38.720
Your mind.

1447
04:35:42.000 --> 04:35:55.560
Starts to feel perhaps bit drowsing because it's not needed,

1448
04:35:58.919 --> 04:36:00.880
and it may start.

1449
04:36:03.840 --> 04:36:04.880
To drift.

1450
04:36:13.319 --> 04:36:19.959
If that's what's needed. So if you're listening to this

1451
04:36:22.040 --> 04:36:25.520
and what you need is deep relaxation.

1452
04:36:25.479 --> 04:36:29.959
That's what you get. If what you need is.

1453
04:36:31.639 --> 04:36:33.279
To fall asleep.

1454
04:36:34.560 --> 04:36:42.319
Naturally and easily, your mind drifts, that's also.

1455
04:36:43.560 --> 04:36:44.639
Or what happened.

1456
04:36:49.840 --> 04:36:57.560
Because by pressing that play button on the podcast and

1457
04:36:57.880 --> 04:37:04.880
listening to me, give permission for your body and your mind.

1458
04:37:07.959 --> 04:37:16.959
In fact, you give the command to your body in

1459
04:37:17.119 --> 04:37:17.959
your mind.

1460
04:37:18.000 --> 04:37:19.279
To relx.

1461
04:37:22.560 --> 04:37:31.319
Deeply and to drift off to sleep if that's what.

1462
04:37:31.720 --> 04:37:33.080
You want.

1463
04:37:36.360 --> 04:37:36.720
Or need.

1464
04:37:44.479 --> 04:37:46.159
And as I focus.

1465
04:37:47.360 --> 04:37:57.400
On the different parts of your body, you may start

1466
04:37:57.799 --> 04:37:59.520
to just drift.

1467
04:38:03.200 --> 04:38:06.520
And then you come back again. And do you hear me.

1468
04:38:06.759 --> 04:38:11.639
Talking and I'm focusing on a different parts of your body,

1469
04:38:16.439 --> 04:38:26.040
and you may find yourself drifting, but you don't realize

1470
04:38:26.159 --> 04:38:27.200
you're drifting.

1471
04:38:28.560 --> 04:38:30.040
Until you stop drifting.

1472
04:38:32.360 --> 04:38:35.439
You're alert again to my voice.

1473
04:38:36.880 --> 04:38:42.759
Focusing on a different parts of your body starts to

1474
04:38:42.919 --> 04:38:50.520
relax in defail, because that drifting.

1475
04:38:51.840 --> 04:38:54.279
Is basically you already.

1476
04:38:56.080 --> 04:38:57.279
In the sleep side.

1477
04:39:03.880 --> 04:39:08.840
And the more you drift, the longer you drift, the

1478
04:39:09.159 --> 04:39:16.959
longer you dreat. Eventually, that drifting.

1479
04:39:16.720 --> 04:39:25.040
Continues into sleep, and that's.

1480
04:39:24.919 --> 04:39:26.720
The last you remember.

1481
04:39:28.319 --> 04:39:29.439
Until you wake up.

1482
04:39:33.759 --> 04:39:39.080
In your own time, when you experience the my amount of.

1483
04:39:39.200 --> 04:39:50.240
Sleep, because when you do, and if you do all asleep, its.

1484
04:39:52.479 --> 04:39:59.119
Extremely pleasant, so relaxing.

1485
04:40:01.520 --> 04:40:19.000
So deep sleep feels so nice.

1486
04:40:20.880 --> 04:40:31.319
To relaxine too, the woman putty in mind. You feel

1487
04:40:31.439 --> 04:40:39.040
that he imag is spreading through it. Relaxing is so

1488
04:40:39.439 --> 04:40:47.360
deeply relaxing, so.

1489
04:40:49.479 --> 04:40:50.599
So deeply.

1490
04:41:00.200 --> 04:41:02.040
Start to focus.

1491
04:41:03.360 --> 04:41:25.599
On your eyes. Let down to your jewel. Now do

1492
04:41:25.720 --> 04:41:26.439
you make.

1493
04:41:34.159 --> 04:41:42.799
Sure this, oh.

1494
04:41:58.279 --> 04:43:06.240
Pheus, yes, yes, boy, you hate you think you your soose.

1495
04:43:23.159 --> 04:43:31.240
And being spreading grime.

1496
04:43:32.400 --> 04:43:34.520
Inside your body.

1497
04:43:36.200 --> 04:43:37.159
And you are.

1498
04:43:40.040 --> 04:43:53.560
Now let's focus again, what parts of your body, focusing

1499
04:43:53.720 --> 04:43:54.479
this time.

1500
04:43:54.319 --> 04:44:07.319
On your forehead, Now on your mouth, your lips, your tongue,

1501
04:44:10.599 --> 04:44:11.560
all of your mouth.

1502
04:44:23.799 --> 04:44:27.080
What you then on your fingers.

1503
04:44:32.000 --> 04:44:36.919
Maybe a kid the you fingers little ads. You can

1504
04:44:38.040 --> 04:44:48.159
focus on each one individually, both hands.

1505
04:44:52.000 --> 04:44:54.479
And even though you focus on both.

1506
04:44:54.319 --> 04:45:00.439
Of your hands now they almost seemed just melting to one.

1507
04:45:05.799 --> 04:45:13.959
Maybe sure right hand, start to live hand and lester,

1508
04:45:14.080 --> 04:45:25.479
is it just mixed together? Now? Focusing on your knees

1509
04:45:31.439 --> 04:45:35.439
just maga, sine, have your knees fill.

1510
04:45:51.880 --> 04:45:58.400
Now, focusing your helpers, focusing.

1511
04:45:58.080 --> 04:46:00.040
On birth of your elbers.

1512
04:46:05.799 --> 04:46:07.240
Just absurd.

1513
04:46:09.200 --> 04:46:13.799
Easing noting alms.

1514
04:46:37.439 --> 04:46:42.319
Now listen, observing.

1515
04:46:43.240 --> 04:46:44.400
What do you think.

1516
04:46:54.240 --> 04:47:49.080
Ething energy, the fact you'll make it so becus its

1517
04:47:49.279 --> 04:49:13.159
cool sensations as us twice what your thames being aware

1518
04:49:14.919 --> 04:49:57.360
now you toye fell right now, es.

1519
04:50:09.040 --> 04:50:12.680
Sire, booty fails.

1520
04:50:22.319 --> 04:50:23.360
I said.

1521
04:50:30.240 --> 04:50:31.279
You mind.

1522
04:50:34.439 --> 04:51:17.599
Feels now, let him go, let's go, let's see go.

1523
04:51:21.680 --> 04:51:22.479
Everything.

1524
04:51:30.840 --> 04:51:48.639
Lets you go, let's go, let's go.

1525
04:51:56.040 --> 04:51:56.799
Everything.

1526
04:52:12.200 --> 04:52:15.880
I'm going to start now, and I'd like it just

1527
04:52:16.040 --> 04:52:17.560
first of all, just to see.

1528
04:52:17.360 --> 04:52:20.200
Yourself lying down.

1529
04:52:21.599 --> 04:52:27.200
On that message table, lying on the front. Your head

1530
04:52:27.279 --> 04:52:35.680
is supported, the arms are supported, and you feel comfortable

1531
04:52:36.159 --> 04:52:41.840
and you're breathing. It's really easy, and you feel.

1532
04:52:45.040 --> 04:52:47.119
You feel confident in how you.

1533
04:52:47.200 --> 04:52:47.799
Look as well.

1534
04:52:47.959 --> 04:52:52.599
So there's none of that issue of body problems or shyness,

1535
04:52:53.520 --> 04:53:01.599
because I'm a professional and this is a therapy session,

1536
04:53:02.439 --> 04:53:09.840
so none of that stuff matters and whatsoever. This is

1537
04:53:09.880 --> 04:53:18.040
about you. This is about how you feel, how you

1538
04:53:18.799 --> 04:53:25.720
can enjoy that sense of comfort and relaxation that comes

1539
04:53:25.840 --> 04:53:32.560
from letting go and allowing my hands and my fingers

1540
04:53:33.119 --> 04:53:44.680
to relax you by a messagy nor body. I want

1541
04:53:44.720 --> 04:53:49.680
to start off just by placing my hands on the

1542
04:53:49.720 --> 04:53:54.680
back of your head, just generally, just you can feel

1543
04:53:55.000 --> 04:54:03.439
my hands feel like really on you, so you can

1544
04:54:03.520 --> 04:54:05.840
maybe feel the warmth of my hands on the back

1545
04:54:05.880 --> 04:54:11.360
of your head. And with my hands to the side

1546
04:54:11.400 --> 04:54:16.000
of your head, not pressing, but just holding there very gently,

1547
04:54:19.000 --> 04:54:21.599
maybe over your ears, and a little bit on your

1548
04:54:21.639 --> 04:54:24.639
face to so you can feel.

1549
04:54:25.319 --> 04:54:26.200
My hands.

1550
04:54:28.000 --> 04:54:30.200
So you can become accustomed.

1551
04:54:31.159 --> 04:54:31.599
To them.

1552
04:54:40.240 --> 04:54:42.799
And now put my hands in the back of your head.

1553
04:54:42.680 --> 04:54:44.439
Again and gently.

1554
04:54:45.680 --> 04:54:47.159
Let them slide down.

1555
04:54:49.520 --> 04:54:50.680
Onto the back of your neck.

1556
04:54:58.319 --> 04:55:07.840
You can feel my hands. Gim me stroke in the

1557
04:55:07.919 --> 04:55:09.520
back of your neck and start with.

1558
04:55:14.080 --> 04:55:15.639
Just so you can get used to the.

1559
04:55:17.439 --> 04:55:25.599
Feeling my hands on your skin, get accustomed to realize

1560
04:55:25.680 --> 04:55:26.880
that you're safe.

1561
04:55:27.919 --> 04:55:36.599
It's all good. It's all fine, and we.

1562
04:55:36.759 --> 04:55:40.400
Start chinking, messaging the muscles in.

1563
04:55:40.439 --> 04:55:49.919
The back of your neck with both hands.

1564
04:55:56.040 --> 04:55:57.880
And this is a very trusting.

1565
04:55:59.599 --> 04:56:05.360
Situation really because our next is so fragile. To have

1566
04:56:05.520 --> 04:56:09.799
someone have their hands around your neck in that way

1567
04:56:10.639 --> 04:56:15.639
and sometimes be problematic for people, which is why messages

1568
04:56:15.799 --> 04:56:21.119
are quite good, because it allows you to relax and

1569
04:56:21.360 --> 04:56:35.439
to it in touch with trust, to feel peaceful and can't.

1570
04:56:43.680 --> 04:56:47.880
It's a message the side of your neck, gently.

1571
04:56:50.759 --> 04:56:54.000
Moving from the bottom of your neck.

1572
04:56:55.680 --> 04:56:58.040
To be sort of near where your shoulders start.

1573
04:56:58.119 --> 04:57:04.720
I guess all the way up to your jaw. Who

1574
04:57:05.080 --> 04:57:11.360
is in the area and started your neck. Of course,

1575
04:57:11.400 --> 04:57:13.880
there's a lot longer than the fun of the neck.

1576
04:57:26.919 --> 04:57:34.000
I'm message in the back of your neck, especially that

1577
04:57:34.240 --> 04:57:43.639
area where perhaps we hold tension, and it's that area's message.

1578
04:57:44.040 --> 04:57:48.000
You can actually feel a sense of release.

1579
04:57:47.919 --> 04:57:48.919
In the back of your neck.

1580
04:57:50.200 --> 04:57:56.200
Yeah, maybe you can read.

1581
04:57:56.000 --> 04:58:12.040
Al as well, you don't, just how we feel. And

1582
04:58:12.279 --> 04:58:16.400
leaving down to that area between the making the shoulders,

1583
04:58:17.919 --> 04:58:23.799
that must the area started to message.

1584
04:58:25.319 --> 04:58:29.799
The area of this side, and this would be the

1585
04:58:29.959 --> 04:58:31.360
area that a lot of.

1586
04:58:31.360 --> 04:58:34.680
People would the message. I better given vil like the

1587
04:58:34.799 --> 04:58:40.840
shoulder message even that's not technically the shoulders, but it's

1588
04:58:40.840 --> 04:58:42.919
sort of the muscles that would ned to the shoulders.

1589
04:58:44.840 --> 04:58:45.560
Oh yeah.

1590
04:58:47.680 --> 04:58:53.759
Again that people want to show that spread a message.

1591
04:58:54.680 --> 04:59:04.720
Sometimes the dess you the story, don't that face.

1592
04:59:16.400 --> 04:59:19.240
Now, I'm a fool

1593
04:59:20.759 --> 04:59:21.040
Of you.