June 10, 2025

(no music) #48 Comfort Chart - Stress & Pain Relief (Jason Newland) (10th June 2025)

(no music) #48 Comfort Chart - Stress & Pain Relief (Jason Newland) (10th June 2025)
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Hello, and welcome to Jasonnewland dot com. My name's Jason

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Newland and I'm here cuddling my little boy, Vinnie Vinnie

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Solo solo. That was him saying no by flapping his ears.

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Well maybe it's he might have been saying hello. I

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don't know, so please only listen when you can safely

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close your eyes. This is going to be a stress

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and pain relief session. Stress and pain relief. Yeah, stress

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and pain relief. That's it. So it's one of those

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recordings which basically can be listened to whether you're trying

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to reduce your stress or whether you're trying to reduce

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your chronic pain. So you must know that cause the

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chronic pain if that's why you're listening, and get permission

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from your doctor before listening. Now, I'm not really going

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to ask you to do much. I'm just gonna waffle on.

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Then he's going to fidget a little bit until he

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gets comfortable and then hopefully he will settle down. He's

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a little bit thrown off because I haven't got my

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chair in recline position, so my feet are on the ground.

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Because when I've got in a reclined position, my neck

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goes back, And it's a little bit uncomfortable sometimes to

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talk like that because it's yeah, it's almost my neck

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is at a weird angle. Sometimes I'm makeay doing that,

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but you know, it depends. But he's calmed down now,

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so I'm just going to talk and maybe you can

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feel different. So let's do a quick kind of body scan.

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Just focus on how you're feeling. How does your face feel,

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how does your head feel, your eyes, your jaw, your neck,

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How does your shoulders feel, your arms, your wrists, your

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hands and your fingers. How does your back feel? How

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does your chest and your stomach feel, your hips, your legs,

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your feeds, and your toes. Now, I can't focus on

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a particular part of your body to relax, because I

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don't know what part of your body needs the most

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attention to let go to feel different. What you can

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do now, you can just focus on that part of

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your body which maybe has been problematic. And if you're

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listening for stress relief, well, I find there's usually a

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part of my body that feels the most stress, the

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most uptight. Quite often that'll be maybe in my lower

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my lower back, maybe sometimes my back of my neck,

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my shoulders used to be in my stomach when I

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had stomach muscles, but now it's just flab there, So yeah,

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I don't get so much tension in my belly anymore.

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But we're all different, we all feel it differently. Some

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people would feel it in their forehead and their eyes,

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the jaw, a tense jaw. So you can just focus

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on where that feeling is that you'd like to change,

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that you'd like to for it to feel different. And

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we're going to do something a little bit different. We're

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going to focus on the comfort level. How comfortable is

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it from zero or maybe minus zero, so minus fifty

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to plus fifty or minus twenty to plus twenty, Where

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would it be on that scale of comfort? Where is

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it now? And now focus on the other parts of

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your body, you know, as a whole, where are those parts?

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How does the rest of your body feel on that

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scale of comfort in this moment? And now as you

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focus on your mind, where is your mind on that

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scale of comfort? And is there a part of your

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body that feels really really comfortable? So if you can

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serve through your body, notice a part of your body

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that feels really like the most comfortable out of your

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entire body, And where is that on the scale. Now

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as you listen to my voice, maybe that feeling's going up.

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And as you focus now on the initial feeling, no desist,

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there's any change on the scale there. Perhaps it's feeling

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more comfortable now even though I haven't actually done anything.

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But then again, how often do feelings change apparently on

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their own anyway, without any obvious reason. Now again, focus

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on the rest of your body. What level of comfort

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is the rest of your body? Now? Has that changed?

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How much has that increased? It might just be a

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sense of well being. It might just be that you're

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giving attention to a feeling of comfort that was already there,

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but you just weren't paying attention to it before, But

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now you are. The whole thing, isn't it. We we

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notice things that we focus on. It's It's an old

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game that I used to play when I was a kid.

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Me and my brothers, we used to like decide for

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a journey. I'm going to notice yellow cars, and I

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tell my brothers, you notice the red one, and you

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notice blue cars. And when we got to the journey,

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or maybe we got to the the petrol station or whatever,

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you know, we would sort of I tell them that

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we'd all count and would share how many we found.

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And it's amazing how many yellow cars I noticed that

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I wasn't noticing before. That's the one thing that amazed me.

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They're a thing that surprised me is my brothers never

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played the same They didn't play the game. They're always

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just like, oh, forgot, why do you say you're going

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to do it? Then? But what we focus on is

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often what we get more of. It's almost like we're

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requesting it in a weird way. So as you focus

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on your mind, how does your mind feel on that

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scale of comfort? Maybe your mind slowed down, maybe the

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volume has reduced, maybe your internal dialogue has changed somehow.

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Some people may find that their internal dialogue, your internal

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dialogue almost slows down to the speed of my voice

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and feels relaxing. And this type of speed and relaxing

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voice is often incompatible with worrying about things. It doesn't

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fit together. You know, someone says to me, all, how

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you doing us? So, yeah, I'm just worried. You know,

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sound worried? Yeah, just it's just concerned. Mm hmm, yeah,

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really angry? Ye're angry? Yeah? Yeah, it doesn't really fit,

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does it? When your voice is slower, not in a

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controlled way, but just in a natural way, you know,

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not in the like I think therefore, you know, not

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that kind of because that can be quite angry and tense.

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So you're not necessarily emphasizing every syllable. There's a much quieter,

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a much slower pace. And now as you think and

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focus again on the most comfortable part of your body,

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where is that now on the scale of comfort? The

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scale of comfort? I think I'm going to call this

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recording that the scale of comfort. It sounds like a book.

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Maybe maybe it could be a book, a very boring book.

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Maybe you're starting to notice the emotions, changing your emotions,

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because often I find that when you pretty much give

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yourself permission to relax, give yourself permission, it takes some

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time out and listen to me. There's my stomach gurgles.

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I think it's time to eat.

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That's good, not that my I don't think I.

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Really need to eat too much. The one title of

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a recording that you're never going to hear me do

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is how to stop being distracted. I'm clearly easily distracted.

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I distract myself seriously. If a fly flew past I

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might spend the next hour talking about a fly living

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in a tree knitting hats for a living.

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I don't know.

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You may have noticed a lightness within you, a lightness,

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a kind of or maybe a sense of relief, and

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those feelings of your mind. It's your focus on your mind,

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and all of those different comfort levels maybe start to

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kind of mix together, maybe become mildly overlapping, perhaps even

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from a distance, looking the same rising up. And the

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thing is, as you are in touch with the feelings

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that come from noticing the comfort levels in your body

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and in your mind raising there can be a sense

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of maybe a sense of achievement, just something nice to

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know that, because sometimes feeling good is just nice to

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feel good. It's nice to feel uplifted. It's nice to

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feel comfortable for no reason, just to enjoy the feeling

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of positivity, the feeling of pleasure. Maybe even a sense

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of enthusiasm coming through. I'm not sure why I said

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enthusiasm instead of just enthusiasm. That's a bit with a

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weird way to say it. Enthusiasm. I guess that's what

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happens when I don't prepare what I'm about to say.

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I don't think that would come as a shock to

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anyone that I'm not reading off a script. Yeah, probably

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wouldn't have anything about flying the script, or probably wouldn't

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have me correcting myself on my pronunciation. I always thought

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that that word should be pronounced pronunciation, because about how

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you pronounce a word. Yet my stomach gurgling. Wow, I

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guess it's also, from my perspective, can be useful to

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take a break from seriousness, have a rest from drama,

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or that internal moaning voice that you maybe we all

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have at times, that negativity that sometimes if it's not

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kept in check.

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And get a little bit out of hand, sometimes needs

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to be put back in its box.

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Well, you could say tension and any kind of unpleasant feelings.

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Sometimes they need to be put onto the naughty step.

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My gurgling tummy needs to be put onto the naughty

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step as well. I think, mind you, that would annoy

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the negativity, wouldn't it. Imagine if the negativity was on

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the naughty step, would my gurgling tummy it's just been

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moaning the whole time. Why'd you keep gurgling? Why did

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you keep gurgling? Maybe not? The problem is my stomach.

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I'd have to be there as well. I wouldn't it.

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I can't take my stomach off, so it'd be me

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sitting there on the naughty step, and there's no room

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for anything else. I got such a massive bump, So yeah,

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i'd take up all the step, all of the naughty steps.

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I probably wouldn't be able to. There be no room

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for negativity. There's no room for negativity. It gets pushed away,

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or there's a chance it might be on the step,

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but I actually sit on it and squash it, so

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that negativity squashed. Those bad feelings are just squashed by

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my big fat bump. Those feelings that were there before.

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Squashed.

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And that's not a good sound effect for what would

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sound like, because unless my bomb was wet. I suppose

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if i'd just got out of the swimming pool. I

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say the swimming pool, like I go swimming. Yeah, I

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can't remember the last time it's swimming, probably thirty five

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years ago, probably, So maybe getting out of a bath

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and just sitting down so I could get out of

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the bath and just sitting down on a concrete steps

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and said, that's a naughty step. You wouldn't want to

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be sitting on that step. Before I sat down so yeah, definitely,

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it would pretty much get rid of all, let's say,

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not just negativity. I'm measured. All the neighbors would move

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out as well. Probably the whole road would probably go running.

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Less.

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Of course, I had some clothes on, but anyway, we

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don't really need that visual, do we. I said it before,

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but no one seems to believe me. I'm actually taller

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when I sit down. Then I want to stand up

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because my big bomb so said, when I sit down,

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my head actually touches the ceiling when I sit on

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the floor. Some may argue, what's that got to do

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with the subject at hand. Maybe it's a distraction. I

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don't know, I'm not sure. Ultimately, it's about how you feel.

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How do you feel now compared to how you felt before?

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That's really all that matters is the listening to me

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is real accent, and when you relax, your whole body

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feels different. Your mind slows down, your emotions change, You

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feel lighter as a person emotionally, maybe even physically. What

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could happen, though, unfortunately, because of what I've been saying,

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you might now have a choice to make. So whenever

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you feel sorry and you're like we always feel sorry

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for ourselves. Sometimes I do, and maybe you get a twinge,

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or you get that feeling of discomfort that you used

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to have. You suddenly start thinking of my big fat

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bum sitting on the naughty step, water dripping everywhere, neighbors

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running screaming. A weird visual, But helicopters flying over all

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you can see is just my head sticking out of

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the ceiling, out of the roof, because I'm much taller

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when I sit down. I don't know why it'd be helicopters,

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to be fair, just dropping down some clothes for me

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to put on, not like I'm King Kong or something. BlimE.

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Me would probably just be normal size clothes. Maybe, but

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perhaps that image tickles you, And I don't mean like

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like being tickled under your armpits or whatever. I can't

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remember the last time I got tickled under my armpits.

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I had a girlfriend. It did it once, and I

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did a massive fart because I was laughing. I did

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a massive fart and that made me laugh, but it

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seemed to ruin the moment. That's what I said to her,

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You know, I made it. This made a feel like

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in future, no more tickling at funerals, So you kind

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of that was okay after that. They have to have

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boundaries sometimes. So how do you feel, how you feeling physically,

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how you feeling in your mind overall on that comfort chart?

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Where are you if you put it all together, where

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are you on that comfort chart? Maybe it's all blurred

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into one. Maybe you don't even care now about the

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comfort chart. Perhaps you're just enjoying how you feel right now, calm, loose, positive.

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Maybe there's just very little going on in your mind

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because you don't need to think about anything, and it

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feels so nice to just take a break from that,

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feels so nice to give yourself permission to relax deeply,

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And that brings us to the end of this recording.

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Remember to be kind to yourself because you do deserve

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to be happy and be gentle with yourself. You deserve

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to feel safe. Lots of love, Bye,