April 26, 2025

(music) Sending Healing | Let me bore your pain away #29 | Jason Newland | 26th April 2025

(music) Sending Healing | Let me bore your pain away #29 | Jason Newland | 26th April 2025
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Hello, and welcome to jasonneuland dot com. My name's Jason Newland.

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Please only listen when you can safety closure eyes. This

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is let me boil your pain away, and also only

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listen when you have permission from your doctor because you

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do need to know the cause of the chronic pain before.

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I would advise before listening to any recording. And this

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is also not a replacement for professional therapy or advice.

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I'm just a random English person talking, That's it. But

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at the same time, hopefully I've got something useful to say.

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So this is not a sleep recording, this is not

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a hypnosis recording, this is not therapy. This is just

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me talking about Well today I'm going to talk about

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sending healing to others and I'm just going to discuss that.

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And how.

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Doing that can be useful for you to.

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Give yourself more comfort.

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And it's kind of a weird concept. And I'm not

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coming from a spiritual perspective. I'm not coming from a

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religious perspective, just coming from a I suppose a scientific

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plus tried and tested perspective. You know, overuld last probably

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hundreds of years, to be fair, imagination has been used

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to help people to increase comfort and to change the

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way you feel, just by our thoughts, by your thoughts. Now,

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Vinnie is in the background, chomping on a bony thing,

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so you may hear him. Also, his neighbors in the garden,

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so you might hear a little bit from that. Hopefully

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there shouldn't be too much background sound, but if there is,

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I'm just going to continue. Unless a helicopter lands in

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the garden or something like that, that would be weird.

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But yeah, I don't think there's enough room in that

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little garden for a helicopter. No, I don't think so.

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Mikay Perry might land in what I have spaceship. In

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that case, I will stop the recording because I'll just

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assume she's come to take me on a date. I

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don't worry, Katie, don't. I've got to change the suit.

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It's fine. We'll go out like this.

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It's fine, it's okay.

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Or you want me to change and have a bath, Okay,

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I can do that. You want me to have a bath,

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and you want me to wash my hair and have

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a shave, forget it, kay, you just go away, can't. No, No,

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you're too needy, you want too much from me. So

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I'm going to start by talking about the science of

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imagination and pain relief. So I try and looking do

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a little bit of research into the science. I've been

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making recordings to help people with chronic pain for nineteen

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years now, so this is not a new thing for me.

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But I do think that sometimes factual stuff really can help.

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Us.

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It helps me, but I think it can help to

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almost open that door to allow the ideas to kind

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of circulate and percolate and be absorbed and to wrap

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your mind around some of the ideas that I'm going

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to be discussing. So I'm going to kind of start

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off with some facts, some scientific facts. So guided imagery

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it basically involves visualizing calm or a healing scenario, and

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it can lead to significant pain reduction. And there's also

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can lead to deep deep relaxation, can lead to sleep,

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can lead to feeling more confident about something upcoming, like

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an exam or job interview or driving test, you know

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those kinds of things. It can make you by visualizing something.

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It can help you prepare for an event that's coming up.

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So maybe you're going on stage. It can prepare you

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for that so that you feel more positive about that. So, yeah,

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it's lots of different things studies and I don't I mean,

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I can try and read out some of the studies.

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But studies have shown that visualization the technique can improve

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mobility and reduce the need for pain medication in some conditions,

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such as arthritis. Now I know someone well, I don't

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know them really anymore, but I used to know them

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quite well who actually had their leg amputated using hypnosis

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and had a local anesthetic. I mean, you can't not

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have local anesthetic really, I think it'd be illegal to

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do it otherwise. But he didn't get put under general anesthetic,

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and he used self hypnosis throughout the whole process. There's

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no amount of money in the world you could offer

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me to do that, even though I feel a fairly,

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you know, fairly kind of a little bit knowledgeable, I

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guess about hypnosis, but I wouldn't want to be awake

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during that. But he chose to do that. Maybe it

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was a medical reason he didn't want to go under.

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Perhaps he just wanted to have a nice meal before

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the operation, because you can't do that with anesthetic, with

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general anesthetic, can you? Maybe you wanted to eat a

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burger during I don't know if that's a thing. Mind

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year was a vegetarian, so it would have been tofu?

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Was it torfu? Tofu? Mind you?

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If it was a tofu burger, I think I'd rather

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be knocked out. I'd rather go without any food than

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eat a tofu burger. Just yeah, it's just personal preference.

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But yeah, that's just it can be done. And also

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I did some hypnosis, or I did some visualization, let's say,

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because hypnosis, you could argue, is very much visualization with suggestions.

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And I had this lady back in two thousand and six.

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She needed a double lung transplant.

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She asked me.

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She was a friend of a friend, so she asked,

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my friend, can you ask him to come and see me?

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And I did.

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It was on a Saturday afternoon, about four o'clock, and

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she had an appointment.

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To go into.

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Yes, she had to go to the hospital Tuesday morning,

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the following Tuesday or the next Tuesday to have tests,

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medical tests to ensure that she was able to have

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this transplant. You know, she was compared cator if she

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was physically able to go through it. But the problem

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is she'd already turned up something like twice before and

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couldn't step inside the hospital because she had a phobia

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of hospitals, and this was just beyond you know, this

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is way way bigger.

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Than that as well.

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And the doctors or the specialists said to her, if

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she didn't come into the hospital and have the tests

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on this Tuesday, she would be removed from the This

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is what she told me, she'd be removed from the

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transplant list. So she kind of had to go or

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not have the transplant. Now, one of the weird parts

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of this is, firstly, I didn't know who she was,

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never met her before I got taxi to her house.

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I went into her went to her house, she was there,

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she was on oxygen, and.

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There was zero.

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Rapport between us. Like it's like she didn't like me instantly,

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which has happened before, surprisingly but.

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Not usually that quickly. BlimE me.

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She just really didn't seem like she even wanted me

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to be there, which I suppose in a way she

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possibly didn't. But back then, I never gave up, and

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I spent two and a half hours with her, and

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in the end, she just she had to concede. I

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guess she had to just give in and go along

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with what I was trying to do, which was to

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relax her and get her to feel comfortable and to

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rehearse going in there and feeling calm and all that stuff.

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And I did everything within my knowledge in those two

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and a half hours. I came from every single angle,

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and eventually I broke through that wall that she had.

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Even so I didn't feel particularly confident that I had.

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But at the end of it, she liked me. She

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seemed to like me.

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I mean, I don't know if she was just smiling

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because she liked me, or because I was leaving her house.

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It might have been that I'm getting rid of him

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if he's going. And so.

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I spoke to her on the day before she was

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going into hospital. Did I I might not actually know

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she she went to hospital. She contacted me when she

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got out. So she was in there for like a

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day and a half, I think, having tests, and she

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sent them. I spoke to her on the phone. I've

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actually got a letter that I got her to do

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a testimonial for me, which says I should read I

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should find these They're in the storage somewhere.

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That it was easy. She went in there.

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She couldn't believe how easy it was to just go

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into the hospital. She was laughing with the nurses and

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laughing with the other patients. Zero zero stress, zero attention,

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no discomfort really, And it's quite weird because within I

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think a week and a half she got the operation.

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Is one of those just went really quick, happened very quickly,

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and I visited her in the hospital in the transplant place,

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and she was She said that she was relaxed, she

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was calm throughout the whole thing. Yeah, she was nervous,

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and who wouldn't be. It's a natural I mean, you're

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about to have two organs replaces going to be nervous,

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But she wasn't, didn't have the anxiety that she'd had before,

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and she went into hospital had it done. I visited her,

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I think probably a couple of days after she'd had

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the op, and she was.

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Up and about.

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I mean, she had to be careful, but she was

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able to move around. And I was going to do

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some to this a bit of pain relief with her

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as well, which is quite difficult because the nurses kept

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coming into the room and they weren't quiet, really loud,

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and it's quite hard in a hospital setting to ask

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people to be quiet, really because also it's different people

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coming and going constantly, So it was just one person.

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It's like, can you just give us twenty minutes so

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we can just you know, talk, And so I didn't

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get didn't give very far with that. But there's a

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couple of more a couple of more examples as well

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of preparing. So I had another lady who was a

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friend of She was the wife of a friend I

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had who had to have a mistectomy and reconstruction of

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surgery as well, all at the same time. She was

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terrified of going into the hospital and worried about, you know,

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the pain and all that stuff as well, which is,

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as I said, it's the most natural thing in the world,

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isn't it to be worried about something like that. I

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think worried is an understatement, to be fair. So I

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went and visit her, and I spent probably a couple

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of algebra and she went and had the operation. I

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saw her probably five days before the op. She had

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the operation, she came out of it, she had minimal pain,

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hardly any distress or tension. And again I kind of

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went from every angle with her because back then in

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two thousand and six, two thousand and seven, you know,

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in my kind of early days of seeing people and

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doing online.

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Stuff, I was not ferocious.

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That's not the right way, but I was very like

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a dog with a bone. I wasn't going to give up.

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And when I got someone in front of me, I

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want to get the job done. If someone wants to

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someone comes for a phobia of a bridge, I've got.

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To sort that out.

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And it's the most important thing in the world in

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that moment for me, nothing else is more important than

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getting them where they want to be, which is being

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able to walk across a bridge completely relaxed.

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So I don't have.

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That pressure now because I'm dealing with I've one line,

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so I don't, you know, not speaking directly to people.

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I know I'm speaking directly to you, but it's you're

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not in the same room as me saying that's the thing.

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If he's stuck in the room with me, I will

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keep going until it's done, and I will keep going

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on and on and on, and then I think sometimes

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it is it sounds it's in a nice way. I

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wasn't like shouting you must relax.

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Obviously, but.

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It's by not giving up. I think that sets the

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tone as well as I think in a sense of

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making his recordings, still doing this after nineteen years, I've

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not quit. I've not given up. And I think if

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someone like me who's making his recordings will not quit,

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will not give up, keeps going regardless, then that can

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also be a little bit of a message to those

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people listening to keep going, never quit unless it cause

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it's cigarettes, then please quit, you know, because cigarettes aren't great. Apparently,

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So she sent me a letter as well saying thank you.

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This is a lady that had mis ectomy, and she

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was calm and relaxed, pretty much felt comfortable after the

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op as well, and becovered much quicker than the doctors

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could understand. They couldn't believe. She actually got released in

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the hospital a lot quicker than they would normally release people.

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I'm not saying it's because of me. I mean, I'd

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like to think it is, but it's really it's because

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of her, because of her own mind and because of

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how she had changed the way that she was thinking.

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So you change the way you think about something that's

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going to happen, well about how you feel, and you

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realize that actually you can feel relaxed, you can enjoy

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comfort and physical sensations. Is it weird having him crunching

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on a bone because he s been making I haven't

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I haven't actually had a bone for him. They're not bones,

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but they're kind of these bony things. I haven't had

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any for two weeks, and I've got in the pack

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yesterday and I forgot how noisy they were. Obviously he

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attributes the noise with his teeth. Teeth, so they were

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surprised at how she was able to recover so quickly

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and be able to leave the hospital. And I got

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some I actually got some long term update and yeah,

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she was did really well, recovered perfectly and still going strong.

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So this was nearly twenty years ago. The there was

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another person who was there, another person.

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Operation.

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Oh yeah, as again, and I'm talking about quite serious stuff.

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I will move away from this, but this is just examples.

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It's partly to show off how great I am, but

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also just to let you know that how in quite

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extreme situations. And I think you can agree both of

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those are quite extreme. I mean compared to I've got

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our rights in my lower back, which I can't compare

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that to someone having a double transplant of their lungs,

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you know, as far as the level of tension and

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stress and anxiety. But that's not to play down how

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I feel, because we all feel differently, and our feelings

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are Your feelings are legitimate and just as important as

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anybody else's. And the last person and I talk about

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is this, who was it?

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All? Right? See?

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This was like a false offer you ever give? You

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ever offer someone something and you don't mean it? Should

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I explain what I mean? Have you ever liked in

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a at a friend's house, or you're at work and

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it's someone you get on really well with and you say,

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what are you doing a weekend or what were you

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doing there? I'm just planning what you're planning for. Oh

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I'm moving at the weekend and you shout out, would

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you need a hand? Empty offer? An empty offer? Didn't

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mean it? Why did I say it? Did not mean it?

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And a couple of times I've had someone say, yeah, okay, thanks,

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but I didn't mean it. I didn't want to waste

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my saturday helping someone move. I mean genuinely, I'd just

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It's not that I didn't care, I just didn't want

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to do it. So, yeah, it's those kinds of things.

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Or my dad does this when We're at a dinner

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table and there's one Yorkshire pudding left. Right, my dad

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will say, does anybody else? Does anybody want that last

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Yorkshire pudding? It's an empty offer. He wants everybody to

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say no so that he can have it because he

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wants it. That's why he's a ways asking. I say, oh, yes, thanks,

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I'll have it, and I take it.

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I don't.

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I go to take it, and I look at his

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face and I say, only kidding, because I know he

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wants it. Why doesn't he just grab it? And whoops,

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I'm knocking stuff over. So it's like an empty offer.

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It's not nothing bad in it. It's just like he's

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not really wanting anyone else to take the Yorkshire pudding.

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Although we did have a Yeah, there was once when

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we locked horns. I really wanted the Yorkshire pudding, so

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did he, so we had half each. I don't think

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he's ever forgiven me for that. I'm sure I over

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heard him in the kitchen with my stepmom saying we

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will write him out of the will.

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Now.

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I think you're ow that was an expense of half

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a Yorkshire pudding, that three hundred pounds I was going

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to get in a will whole. So this friend, this

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is an empty offer that I offered someone I was

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at college with who I got on pretty well with.

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This was okay, this was blimey.

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I was at.

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College of her two thousand and three, so this was

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in two thousand and six. She asked her It's beginning

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probably about April May time, two thousand and six, round

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about this time, so twenty nineteen years ago, through another friend,

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because I hadn't really seen her for ages. Through another

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friend who contacted me and says, do you want to

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do you want to come to what's her name? She's

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getting married? I said, what, she's getting married, and you're

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invited to come to the stag Night. No, it wasn't

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invited to go. What she wanted was me, because we

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did meet up sporadically, you know, for lunch and stuff

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for all the people. And it was a message, of course,

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and she wanted me to stand there as a dorman

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for the hen knight. Did I say stag night for

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the hen night? And I was going to stand there

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on the door and tell people, you know, have a

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door list, and all the women that came in, I'd

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have to tick them off and everything on the door list,

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and I thought, yeah, why not. It turned out I

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didn't know this but her. It's really quite a sad story,

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but it was very sad. Her husband to be was

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terminal and he was getting married. They were getting married

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to I think she'd I think they both always wanted

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to get married and had been together a long time,

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so they got married.

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So this was the hen night.

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So I went along to that and I did that,

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and then they invited me in. Hen nights are brilliant.

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I mean I've never I've been to hen nights as

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in a nightclub when I was there, but I've never

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actually been invited to a hen night a room.

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Just yeah, it's great, a lot of fun. I went

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to the wedding, but just a reception.

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Bit again, I didn't she didn't like me enough to

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invite me to the actual wedding, which is fine. I'm

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not bitter. In fact, I'm still mentioning it nineteen years later.

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So I went to the reception, but at the end,

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in the evening in the pub, I met him for.

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The first time.

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And because the person I was going with she was

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my friend as well, we went there. She had a

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present for him or for them, and I thought, I

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ain't got no money, I don't know what to get.

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I'll get a card. And then I thought, I know

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what i'd do. I'll make some little vouchers, just a

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few pieces of paper offering five, like a voucher offering

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five three hypnosis sessions. Okay, empty offer.

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It really was. I didn't expect.

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I just thought saved me spending any money, and you know,

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it's done.

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It's a gift. So that's what I did.

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And I was never charging anyone anyway, so it's not

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really it's not like I was anyone.

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I did see a didn't charge.

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It was all free when I was doing the Chronic

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Pain Relief Service and doing the rehab relaxation groups.

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And stuff like that.

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So I gave this gift to them both in a card.

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It didn't even see it. They didn't open it in

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front of me. They must have opened it when they

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got home. And I thought, that's all right, got away

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with that. Didn't save me ten twenty good or whatever.

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I don't think I was quite that. I wasn't quite

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that tight, but it was, you know, if money was

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a little bit tight at that time, even though I

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was working. I just I didn't know what to get.

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What do you get to someone you don't know very well? Yeah,

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So I left it at that. I get a phone

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call while I'm at work from my friend that the

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one that just the one that I speak to regularly,

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not the one who's married to the man. She says,

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he wants to see you.

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I said, who wants to see me? He said?

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She said, whatever his name was? I said, who's that?

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She said, what's the name of his husband? Oh?

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Okay, what do you mean he.

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Wants to see me? She said, he's in hospital. He

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has to have a medical procedure we just had before,

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which was really horrible, and he won't have it done

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unless you turn up, unless you come along and talk

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to him. See, this was weird because I don't know

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why I didn't know him. I'd shook his hand at

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his wedding reception. He never met him before. I hadn't

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seen her for a couple of years, probably or a

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year and a half other than at the hen night.

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And he's seems to have this faith in me that

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I'm going to be able to help. I'm basically a stranger,

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and nobody he knew would know if I was in okay.

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Maybe my friend knew that I was okay what I did,

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but his wife didn't anyway, So I was I don't

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know if I or was it two thousand and seven?

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It might have been early two thousand and seven. Actually, no,

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I'm pretty sure it's two thousand and six. Well, I

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went there after work. I think it's when I was

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doing a Friday finishing at two o'clock on the shift.

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So I went there.

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Some of these details might be completely wrong, but it

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doesn't matter. Unless you like things to be correct, then

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it does matter, I suppose, but then you're never going

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to know you. I mean, I can't prove what time,

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what day.

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Was that I went there. I really don't know.

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So I went to the hospital, went to the cancer

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ward and.

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I went.

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I met my friend first, the one that was did

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I no.

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I didn't actually wasn't with me. I went.

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As went up to the thing. I didn't know where

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I was looking. Luckily, and the person I was in

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college with was there, so she waved and I went

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over and he was behind the curtains. So I went

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and I pulled the curtain over, so right, I said, yeah,

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he said, obviously I'm not am I I said, okay,

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fair enough. So why would you ask me if I'm

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all right? I'm in hospital? I said, all right, I'm

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not not charging you, am I?

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He said sorry?

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So ye had a little kiss and then I I

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basically didn't know what I was going to do. I

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really didn't know. But what I did have.

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It in.

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A huge amount in me was the wish to help

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other people. I wanted to help him as much as

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I've ever wanted to help anyone in my life. You know,

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I couldn't have wanted to help him more than if

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i'd see a puppy fall into a river.

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You know.

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It's that kind of not quite that extreme level, but

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it really did feel like a life for death situation,

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although it wasn't, but to me it felt like that.

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So they asked the nurses to leave us alone for

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half an hour. That is, his wife said, I'm gonna

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go and get a cup of coffee on the standout

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of reception. Make sure no one disturbs you. Pull the

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curtains around.

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Now.

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It was super noisy in there. I mean, the only

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way to make it noisier is if a brass band

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walked through seriously, or a jet pilot went past honking

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its horn like the dukes of Hazard. It was very noisy,

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and there's you know, it's nothing wrong with that, it's

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just how it is a very noisy environment. But it

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didn't seem to matter because he was about to have

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this procedure.

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He refused to have.

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It done until I'd spent some time talking to him.

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So I spent half an hour focusing on relaxing him

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and preparing him for the procedure. He knew what the

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procedure was. I didn't need to know about it. He

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knew what it was because had it done before, so

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he knew exactly what was going to be done. But

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in his imagination.

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It went well. In his imagine nation.

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It felt he felt relaxed. And for me, however weird,

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this is I was sending from my perspective, I was

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sending relaxation to him. I was imagining that I was

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sending him healing and I was sending him comfort. And

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if I'm honest, that is what I've always done when

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I was face to face with someone doing chronic pain

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relief or whatever the hypnosis thing would be. When that

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eyes closed, I would imagine sending the feeling that they

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want to them now what that does. Regardless of whether

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or not it helped them, it helped me. And that's

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something that I kind of noted in my head because

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although it did make sense from a meditative state, from

484
00:34:13.199 --> 00:34:18.360
a meditation angle, I still thought there's something in this.

485
00:34:19.800 --> 00:34:22.679
But I wasn't doing it so that I could feel

486
00:34:22.800 --> 00:34:28.159
more relaxed. I generally wanted him or whoever I was with,

487
00:34:28.559 --> 00:34:32.239
to feel to feel more comfort in that part of

488
00:34:32.280 --> 00:34:34.360
your body that needs to.

489
00:34:34.280 --> 00:34:35.119
Have more comfort.

490
00:34:40.079 --> 00:34:44.360
And at the end of it, he felt really relaxed.

491
00:34:44.920 --> 00:34:50.480
He was absolutely zero discomfort. Bearing in mind, you know,

492
00:34:50.559 --> 00:34:54.800
he had a really serious condition and it's maybe the

493
00:34:54.800 --> 00:35:01.280
first time he had zero discomfort for a while. I

494
00:35:01.360 --> 00:35:06.840
left him alone. He went and had his had his procedure,

495
00:35:09.840 --> 00:35:14.480
and I spoke to him probably the next day to

496
00:35:14.559 --> 00:35:19.360
see how he was, and I'd already received note that

497
00:35:20.320 --> 00:35:23.440
it had gone really well, and it wasn't. It was

498
00:35:23.480 --> 00:35:27.840
completely different this time because he expected it to go well.

499
00:35:28.760 --> 00:35:34.519
He expected to feel comfort and confident, he expected to

500
00:35:34.519 --> 00:35:37.800
feel relaxed, and there was that kind of because it

501
00:35:37.840 --> 00:35:39.800
has an effect when he obviously doesn't it. When if

502
00:35:39.840 --> 00:35:45.239
you expect calmness and comfort, it's gonna have that positive

503
00:35:45.840 --> 00:35:46.679
reaction for you.

504
00:35:48.000 --> 00:35:49.280
I mean, it's just standing.

505
00:35:49.360 --> 00:35:53.159
It's not it's not even it's not even scientific. Really,

506
00:35:53.199 --> 00:35:59.639
it's just obvious, isn't it. And it's as obvious as gravity.

507
00:36:00.239 --> 00:36:08.719
So mind you do sometimes wonder Daddy longlegs? How how

508
00:36:08.760 --> 00:36:15.000
has nature created Daddy long legs one of the most

509
00:36:15.199 --> 00:36:19.960
poisonous insects, but can't bite, there's no way of releasing

510
00:36:19.960 --> 00:36:24.440
the poison, cannot fly in a straight line, even if

511
00:36:24.480 --> 00:36:31.760
it was offered a million pounds. It's, yeah, phenomenal. I

512
00:36:31.800 --> 00:36:34.599
love Daddy longlegs. I like them a lot. I used

513
00:36:34.599 --> 00:36:36.119
to eat them when I was a kid, so I'm

514
00:36:36.119 --> 00:36:38.639
not proud of that, you know, But I was like

515
00:36:38.679 --> 00:36:44.440
three years old, so okay, I was forty five. But

516
00:36:44.760 --> 00:36:48.800
you know, it doesn't matter. When you got to a

517
00:36:48.800 --> 00:36:53.320
hospital out of hospital and they couldn't they couldn't do anything.

518
00:36:53.639 --> 00:36:54.159
They couldn't.

519
00:36:54.480 --> 00:36:56.360
All they could do is treat it. There was nothing

520
00:36:56.400 --> 00:36:59.679
else that they could do. So it's you know, I

521
00:36:59.679 --> 00:37:01.360
don't want to get all heavy and talk about that,

522
00:37:01.440 --> 00:37:03.960
but I did visit him at home and do some

523
00:37:04.000 --> 00:37:08.559
pain relief with him, and that also helped. And it

524
00:37:08.679 --> 00:37:16.079
seemed something a bit strange that he not strange, but

525
00:37:16.119 --> 00:37:22.000
because he'd already spent time listening to me, he felt

526
00:37:22.039 --> 00:37:28.440
more relaxed just me being there, just hearing my voice.

527
00:37:28.800 --> 00:37:32.599
And that's another thing that I kind of ticked like that.

528
00:37:32.679 --> 00:37:35.519
I just kind of remembered in my mind for future

529
00:37:35.599 --> 00:37:38.960
with the audios, because I was making videos and audios

530
00:37:38.960 --> 00:37:41.960
back then, but I was quite early into doing that.

531
00:37:43.519 --> 00:37:48.400
I was focusing more on real life people sort of.

532
00:37:50.559 --> 00:37:51.639
Yeah.

533
00:37:52.039 --> 00:37:57.440
I mean the first recordings that I yeah, I think

534
00:37:57.480 --> 00:38:00.679
the first recordings I uploaded to the end that were

535
00:38:00.840 --> 00:38:06.559
actual live recordings that I had done with the drug

536
00:38:06.599 --> 00:38:10.880
rehab and the alcohol charity groups, the relaxation groups I did.

537
00:38:11.239 --> 00:38:14.639
So I would record them on a little dickation thing

538
00:38:16.280 --> 00:38:20.440
and then uploaded to my website or uploaded to I

539
00:38:20.480 --> 00:38:25.760
think MySpace, and then you know, wherever else I could find.

540
00:38:27.199 --> 00:38:31.920
That's before I started doing videos.

541
00:38:35.280 --> 00:38:36.039
So we got the.

542
00:38:38.119 --> 00:38:44.000
Level of comfort up, the distressed way down, so he

543
00:38:44.079 --> 00:38:50.760
felt comfortable again, and then he had the thing is

544
00:38:55.159 --> 00:38:56.880
it would have been better to have both of them

545
00:38:56.920 --> 00:39:01.360
sit in there, because her stress levels were a level

546
00:39:03.760 --> 00:39:07.239
I mean, you know, for good reason. She also needed

547
00:39:07.239 --> 00:39:12.440
to relax deeply, and so he was kind of quite

548
00:39:12.559 --> 00:39:15.000
jovial and calm.

549
00:39:15.199 --> 00:39:17.920
But she wasn't. Again, she's not a judgment. I mean

550
00:39:18.480 --> 00:39:18.960
this is.

551
00:39:21.960 --> 00:39:30.039
You know, who would be calm in that situation. But

552
00:39:30.119 --> 00:39:35.519
it was nice. It felt nice to know that. Actually imagination,

553
00:39:36.159 --> 00:39:38.360
because even if it's me talking, you're the one doing

554
00:39:38.360 --> 00:39:39.000
the imagining.

555
00:39:40.440 --> 00:39:41.800
You know. If I say, for.

556
00:39:41.679 --> 00:39:54.039
Example, visualize a gentle warm beam of light moving to

557
00:39:55.159 --> 00:39:58.199
the part of your body that you would like to

558
00:39:58.280 --> 00:40:03.679
have more comfort. Visualize that gentle warm beam of light

559
00:40:04.400 --> 00:40:15.039
maybe traveling from the heart of someone that you love deeply,

560
00:40:15.400 --> 00:40:18.000
maybe someone that you used to love deeply, maybe someone's

561
00:40:18.039 --> 00:40:21.039
not around anymore. But imagine that beam of light shining

562
00:40:21.079 --> 00:40:34.000
down from heaven into your part of your body. It

563
00:40:34.079 --> 00:40:39.559
has an effect changes how you feel. So I'm the

564
00:40:39.599 --> 00:40:48.679
one saying it, but you're the one imagining it. So

565
00:40:48.920 --> 00:41:00.199
there's certain things mental imagery affects the brain activity. So

566
00:41:00.239 --> 00:41:02.559
when you imagine, is this something that's done with things

567
00:41:02.599 --> 00:41:06.920
like skiing and golf, practicing in your mind, in your

568
00:41:07.079 --> 00:41:12.000
in your remind, in your mind imagining it, or practicing

569
00:41:12.199 --> 00:41:19.320
taking basketball shots things like that actually, or rifling, you know,

570
00:41:19.400 --> 00:41:25.920
do like Olympic games, things you know where you target

571
00:41:25.960 --> 00:41:34.360
practice or bow and arrow things. Mental rehearsing can be

572
00:41:34.480 --> 00:41:39.480
just as effective as physical rehearsals. You do need both.

573
00:41:41.159 --> 00:41:44.960
But someone that mentally rehearses, as opposed to someone that

574
00:41:45.079 --> 00:41:56.400
just physically rehearses, has an edge. It affects the the muscles,

575
00:41:56.960 --> 00:42:02.119
it affects the movement, it affects how we feel, and

576
00:42:02.400 --> 00:42:08.480
it changes expectation because, as we all know, if we expect,

577
00:42:09.280 --> 00:42:13.760
really really expect things to go well, generally they do.

578
00:42:16.679 --> 00:42:19.039
There's a good example of this. It's two really good

579
00:42:19.039 --> 00:42:23.960
examples of and they've done this in research. It's an

580
00:42:24.000 --> 00:42:30.159
old thing, but two tests. So if you have someone

581
00:42:30.639 --> 00:42:35.679
on a typrope, walk in on a typrope that knows

582
00:42:35.719 --> 00:42:38.199
how to do it but isn't particularly good, but they

583
00:42:38.360 --> 00:42:42.079
you know, it's not a long typrope or actually no,

584
00:42:42.159 --> 00:42:45.239
let's say a planka would forget the typerope, So just

585
00:42:45.239 --> 00:42:46.039
a planka wood.

586
00:42:46.400 --> 00:42:48.840
It's on the floor. They'll walk along.

587
00:42:48.760 --> 00:42:54.360
Easy, you know, they walk six foot maybe ten foot

588
00:42:54.360 --> 00:43:00.719
planka would they'll walk on it, but it's six foot

589
00:43:00.760 --> 00:43:09.079
in the air, or put it three foot in the year. Well,

590
00:43:09.119 --> 00:43:11.079
even if they fall off, they're not going to hurt themselves.

591
00:43:11.159 --> 00:43:14.880
Or two foot in the air, changes how they feel

592
00:43:14.920 --> 00:43:23.480
about it. So if they imagine to themselves, everything's fine,

593
00:43:24.840 --> 00:43:27.039
even the one on the peak on the floor. If

594
00:43:27.039 --> 00:43:29.920
those imagine, you know, let's say it's a twelve fifteen

595
00:43:29.960 --> 00:43:37.280
foot and they say to themselves, I'm going to do

596
00:43:37.320 --> 00:43:40.400
this easy. This is easy, this is easy, this is easy.

597
00:43:40.719 --> 00:43:42.800
I'm going to do this easily, and do this easily,

598
00:43:43.559 --> 00:43:46.840
and they will. But some people, if they if you

599
00:43:46.880 --> 00:43:49.360
get them to say I'm going to fall off, I'm

600
00:43:49.360 --> 00:43:50.000
going to fall off.

601
00:43:50.000 --> 00:43:51.639
I'm going to fall off. I'm going to fall.

602
00:43:51.480 --> 00:43:54.760
Off, and get them to rehearsed out before they do it,

603
00:43:54.800 --> 00:43:57.719
and then get them to say that, either out loud

604
00:43:58.079 --> 00:44:01.519
or to themselves, didn't charts there will actually fall off,

605
00:44:01.800 --> 00:44:06.679
even when it's on the floor. Another one would be

606
00:44:07.440 --> 00:44:12.760
if you put a bunch of plates or maybe glasses

607
00:44:13.079 --> 00:44:17.320
with whining on a tray or water on a tray,

608
00:44:19.199 --> 00:44:22.519
and you're walking through a busy restaurant. You can walk

609
00:44:22.559 --> 00:44:24.920
into the other side of the restaurant. Now, if you're

610
00:44:24.920 --> 00:44:29.639
saying to yourself or you expect everything to be fine,

611
00:44:32.599 --> 00:44:36.159
it's going to be fine. But if you're saying to yourself,

612
00:44:36.199 --> 00:44:37.880
I'm going to drop it, I'm going to drop it.

613
00:44:37.960 --> 00:44:39.840
I'm going to drop it. I'm going to drop it.

614
00:44:39.880 --> 00:44:42.960
I'm going to drop it. Then the chance that you're

615
00:44:43.000 --> 00:44:46.800
dropping it is quite high. So we affect ourselves by

616
00:44:46.800 --> 00:44:50.760
what we think. If before that all it did was

617
00:44:50.760 --> 00:44:51.800
focus I'm going to drop it.

618
00:44:51.800 --> 00:44:52.880
I'm going to drop it.

619
00:44:52.920 --> 00:44:54.920
For about half an hour before they actually got there.

620
00:44:56.639 --> 00:45:03.960
It's it's again, this is so obvious, isn't that. But

621
00:45:04.079 --> 00:45:12.000
mental practice can enhance motor processes control, and also mental

622
00:45:12.039 --> 00:45:20.920
imagery can reduce physical discomfort as well, and it can

623
00:45:20.960 --> 00:45:26.199
affect the healing processes that can activate the same brain

624
00:45:26.320 --> 00:45:32.400
regions as the actual experience, So you actually activating the

625
00:45:32.440 --> 00:45:34.320
same part of your brain as you would if you

626
00:45:34.360 --> 00:45:41.480
were a physically doing that thing, which is kind of amazing. Really,

627
00:45:44.880 --> 00:45:47.320
it's almost like the brain doesn't know the difference between

628
00:45:47.719 --> 00:45:53.800
doing it and thinking about it, which then really brings

629
00:45:53.880 --> 00:46:00.960
to just really really focus as you on the idea

630
00:46:01.079 --> 00:46:04.639
of what do you say to yourself, what do you

631
00:46:04.679 --> 00:46:12.360
feel about yourself, what do you expect? Because that has

632
00:46:12.400 --> 00:46:19.079
an effect. How you feel about yourself affects how you feel,

633
00:46:19.239 --> 00:46:24.159
how you are, how you behave in the same ways

634
00:46:25.199 --> 00:46:29.639
what we think about someone else. You know, I don't

635
00:46:29.639 --> 00:46:32.440
know about you, but there's been times when I've I've

636
00:46:32.440 --> 00:46:35.800
gone into a situation and I've expected that person to

637
00:46:35.840 --> 00:46:43.039
be rude and really rehearse that in my mind, there's

638
00:46:43.079 --> 00:46:45.800
no benefit of doing that. But it's just stuff that

639
00:46:45.840 --> 00:46:48.679
I've done in the past, not on purpose, just it

640
00:46:48.760 --> 00:46:51.400
was just going on and on. I didn't necessarily know

641
00:46:51.679 --> 00:46:55.159
how to stop it at the time. And then'd go

642
00:46:55.199 --> 00:46:59.679
into that scenario and I would dislike that person, and

643
00:46:59.679 --> 00:47:08.400
I would feel that they disliked me, but actually they

644
00:47:08.400 --> 00:47:12.199
probably didn't, or maybe they did. Maybe my attitude was

645
00:47:12.280 --> 00:47:16.360
not nice because I had, as zig Ziggler would say,

646
00:47:16.400 --> 00:47:25.360
I had stinking thinking. There's no thing called a thing

647
00:47:25.440 --> 00:47:28.920
called mirror therapy where patients for your reflection of their

648
00:47:29.000 --> 00:47:33.079
unaffected limb and can trick the brain into perceiving movement

649
00:47:33.599 --> 00:47:39.239
in the affected limb, thereby reducing physical discomfort. So if

650
00:47:39.280 --> 00:47:41.199
you've got a mirror, Let's say someone's got a problem

651
00:47:41.239 --> 00:47:46.280
with their left hand and that's the problematic hand. For example,

652
00:47:47.119 --> 00:47:50.440
put a mirror the right hand. You know, it looks

653
00:47:50.519 --> 00:47:55.679
like your left hand is there, and you can focus

654
00:47:55.840 --> 00:47:59.639
on your left hand and just looking at that image,

655
00:47:59.719 --> 00:48:05.079
looking that mirror image just imagine it's feeling calm and relaxed,

656
00:48:07.800 --> 00:48:10.719
and someone could actually stand there, be next to you

657
00:48:10.760 --> 00:48:15.280
and just tap tap that hand, that right hand, and

658
00:48:15.320 --> 00:48:19.760
you can feel that it feels fine, and that's not

659
00:48:19.840 --> 00:48:24.559
how the left hand would feel normally. It changes the

660
00:48:24.599 --> 00:48:29.840
way your left hand feels. It's also being done with

661
00:48:29.960 --> 00:48:34.679
people who have lost a limb in a way to relax.

662
00:48:35.320 --> 00:48:39.599
So that's someone that's maybe got phantom they call it phantom,

663
00:48:39.599 --> 00:48:44.079
but you know, got problems, still got discomfort in let's

664
00:48:44.079 --> 00:48:47.039
say a hand that's not there anymore. So they can

665
00:48:47.159 --> 00:48:50.360
use that mirror technique. So what they do is they're

666
00:48:50.360 --> 00:48:56.320
looking at image and they really relax that hand that

667
00:48:56.320 --> 00:49:03.679
they're looking at in the mirror, which in turn reduces

668
00:49:03.719 --> 00:49:06.119
that physical discomfort that they were having before.

669
00:49:08.239 --> 00:49:09.519
And it's a brain thing.

670
00:49:09.679 --> 00:49:16.320
It's actually it feels real because the brain on a

671
00:49:16.400 --> 00:49:20.159
level of course knows it's a mirror, but in another

672
00:49:20.199 --> 00:49:21.360
way doesn't.

673
00:49:22.920 --> 00:49:25.639
That's quite interesting. I think you.

674
00:49:25.719 --> 00:49:30.239
Got neurofeedback so using I mean, I don't have that.

675
00:49:30.480 --> 00:49:32.960
I wish I did have access to this stuff. It

676
00:49:32.960 --> 00:49:35.679
would be so much fun. But you can use real

677
00:49:35.719 --> 00:49:43.840
time brain imaging to learn to control the physical sensations

678
00:49:44.159 --> 00:49:49.679
and to activate those related brain regions, which can lead

679
00:49:49.679 --> 00:49:56.039
to significant reductions in that you know, discomfort you had before.

680
00:49:58.880 --> 00:50:02.480
And I think also you got things like biofeedback machines

681
00:50:03.440 --> 00:50:07.480
and I'd love to get one of those skull cap things,

682
00:50:07.519 --> 00:50:09.320
you know that they put on with all those wires

683
00:50:09.719 --> 00:50:12.320
and you can just see which parts of the brain

684
00:50:12.360 --> 00:50:20.199
are being activated. I'm pretty sure the more you the

685
00:50:20.280 --> 00:50:22.559
more time you spend with one of those hats on.

686
00:50:23.239 --> 00:50:24.840
I won't call them hats, but I don't know what

687
00:50:24.840 --> 00:50:28.679
the correct term is looking at that image, the more

688
00:50:28.719 --> 00:50:34.519
you can start activating different parts. Because now they've got

689
00:50:35.079 --> 00:50:41.840
limbs like mechanical robotic limbs that can be activated by

690
00:50:41.880 --> 00:50:45.840
the brain, by the person's brain, Like they can imagine

691
00:50:45.840 --> 00:50:49.320
the hand and the right finger move in and it moves,

692
00:50:51.079 --> 00:50:55.400
which is phenomenal. I mean, it's just it is. I

693
00:50:55.440 --> 00:51:00.400
know the bionic Man had this fifty years ago, but

694
00:51:01.239 --> 00:51:04.119
you know he had six million dollars to play with,

695
00:51:05.000 --> 00:51:12.800
didn't he. But this phenomenal stuff. And there's technology now

696
00:51:12.880 --> 00:51:18.159
where someone that's maybe a quadriplegic can use a computer

697
00:51:18.360 --> 00:51:22.880
with their mind and can you know, play a game

698
00:51:23.639 --> 00:51:28.400
or type stuff out talk you know type stuff to

699
00:51:28.440 --> 00:51:32.639
talk out to screen. You know, it's like phenomenal, amazing.

700
00:51:33.679 --> 00:51:37.960
So this is only going to improve and get better.

701
00:51:38.519 --> 00:51:40.519
I don't know why I said it improve and get better,

702
00:51:40.519 --> 00:51:45.280
because it's the same thing, isn't it. So I'm just

703
00:51:45.320 --> 00:51:48.559
looking at the practical sides of this. This is much

704
00:51:48.599 --> 00:51:53.239
more sensible than yesterday's recording. Oh so pleased because you know,

705
00:51:54.159 --> 00:51:58.119
I'm winning a weird I mean, they're not supposed to

706
00:51:58.159 --> 00:52:03.400
be super super serious. Sometimes I go off on a tangent.

707
00:52:04.480 --> 00:52:13.880
So the practical, practical techniques you can explore when it

708
00:52:13.960 --> 00:52:18.639
comes to imagining for ourselves, because this is really about

709
00:52:18.679 --> 00:52:23.400
imagining sending healing to someone else. But it's kind of

710
00:52:23.559 --> 00:52:28.039
first Awards exploring the power of your mind from a

711
00:52:28.119 --> 00:52:35.519
scientific perspective, not from a wah wah or from a

712
00:52:35.599 --> 00:52:40.880
spiritual perspective that not everybody would potentially agree with. But

713
00:52:40.920 --> 00:52:44.039
when it comes to science, when it comes to should

714
00:52:44.039 --> 00:52:48.679
we say fact, something that's been studied for decades and

715
00:52:48.760 --> 00:52:58.119
decades and decades, you can pretty much have a bit

716
00:52:58.159 --> 00:53:04.440
of faith in that something that you can research yourself.

717
00:53:06.039 --> 00:53:09.559
You know, I think it's quite nice sometimes to say, Okay,

718
00:53:09.599 --> 00:53:16.519
well I want to find out what's this? What's guided imagery?

719
00:53:16.920 --> 00:53:19.639
What's this bloke talking about? Guard guided imagery? Is it

720
00:53:19.679 --> 00:53:22.800
a real thing? And you can you can see you

721
00:53:22.800 --> 00:53:25.239
can google it or whatever, and it is. What's this

722
00:53:25.400 --> 00:53:32.599
mental imagery and brain activity? You can search it, neuro feedback,

723
00:53:32.800 --> 00:53:34.960
you can search it. It's all, you know, it's all

724
00:53:35.000 --> 00:53:39.360
on the internet. There's books written about it, there's lectures

725
00:53:39.400 --> 00:53:40.840
on YouTube.

726
00:53:41.199 --> 00:53:42.840
It's this is you know.

727
00:53:44.239 --> 00:53:48.559
There are inventions being created probably every day based on

728
00:53:49.960 --> 00:53:57.480
this technology that's continually growing. So if you're going to

729
00:53:57.519 --> 00:54:03.599
do something for yourself, and we mentioned and like a

730
00:54:03.639 --> 00:54:09.400
healing visualization, I saw about that beam coming down and

731
00:54:09.440 --> 00:54:10.239
going into.

732
00:54:10.039 --> 00:54:12.119
That part of your body that you would.

733
00:54:11.840 --> 00:54:17.719
Like to have more comfort. So this that's something you

734
00:54:17.719 --> 00:54:20.000
could do, or imagine healing moving into.

735
00:54:19.760 --> 00:54:20.599
That part of your body.

736
00:54:21.880 --> 00:54:24.119
You can imagine healing moving into the top of your

737
00:54:24.119 --> 00:54:27.639
head is something that I quite like to do. And

738
00:54:29.199 --> 00:54:34.199
for some reason, it's kind of it's yellow, but it's liquid,

739
00:54:35.760 --> 00:54:41.440
almost like sunshine. And imagine it pouring into the top

740
00:54:41.440 --> 00:54:45.119
of my head and it's moving through my body all

741
00:54:45.119 --> 00:54:50.480
the way down to my toes and just filling, gradually

742
00:54:51.119 --> 00:54:58.559
filling my entire body, you know, fingers, hands, feet, legs, knees,

743
00:54:59.679 --> 00:55:11.119
thar is, bum groin, lower back, upper back, stomach, chest, arms, shoulders, neck, throat,

744
00:55:13.719 --> 00:55:23.400
the jaw, my ears, my nose, my eyes, my face,

745
00:55:24.639 --> 00:55:29.119
my scalp, and then I imagine it overflowing a little

746
00:55:29.119 --> 00:55:35.480
bit like a volcano, but less hot, you know, healing

747
00:55:36.400 --> 00:55:40.760
and then overflowing so it's covered. It's you know, it's

748
00:55:40.800 --> 00:55:46.079
filled inside my body, and now it's overflowing to cover

749
00:55:46.159 --> 00:55:51.199
your skin. So now it's covering the outside of your

750
00:55:51.239 --> 00:56:00.239
body with this healing liquid energy. So that's the thing

751
00:56:00.280 --> 00:56:01.639
I do because it feels quite nice.

752
00:56:01.679 --> 00:56:04.400
I think you've got a.

753
00:56:04.360 --> 00:56:10.480
Positive imagery that you can do. Encourage, you can envision,

754
00:56:10.599 --> 00:56:13.320
you can think about a place where you feel safe

755
00:56:13.440 --> 00:56:20.480
and comfortable. And I suppose it's not everybody's into visualization.

756
00:56:21.760 --> 00:56:25.239
I'm not great myself a visualization. I'm pretty good when

757
00:56:25.239 --> 00:56:28.880
I'm asleep. I've good a lot of things on I'm asleep,

758
00:56:30.679 --> 00:56:38.519
especially sleeping. But you've got the ideas. You use as

759
00:56:38.519 --> 00:56:42.480
many senses as you can. So if it was, for example,

760
00:56:46.159 --> 00:56:50.119
laying next to a lake, maybe it's a place from

761
00:56:50.159 --> 00:56:52.800
the past that you loved that you used to lie

762
00:56:52.840 --> 00:56:57.039
down and feel so relaxed, so you can perhaps smell

763
00:56:57.159 --> 00:57:01.000
the air, smell the trees, the flowers, hear the lake

764
00:57:01.199 --> 00:57:08.280
gently tinkling by or whatever they do sprinkling, and maybe

765
00:57:08.360 --> 00:57:15.159
hear a cow in the field going, I don't know

766
00:57:15.239 --> 00:57:20.119
whatever sounds that you would hear, maybe another cow going

767
00:57:21.760 --> 00:57:25.079
mm hmmm, because it couldn't hear what the other one

768
00:57:25.159 --> 00:57:27.599
was saying because I'm talking too much and they can't

769
00:57:27.639 --> 00:57:30.440
hear over me. But you know, whatever it could be,

770
00:57:30.800 --> 00:57:35.360
you can imagine how it feels to have the ground

771
00:57:35.599 --> 00:57:39.679
support in your body, or maybe you're in a hammock

772
00:57:39.880 --> 00:57:44.519
or sitting in a chair in a that are like

773
00:57:44.599 --> 00:57:49.280
a beach bed thing whatever, whatever it is that feels comfortable.

774
00:57:52.119 --> 00:57:55.559
And then maybe you can also have like all a taste.

775
00:57:57.639 --> 00:57:59.960
Maybe you can, because sometimes if you're in a beach,

776
00:58:00.480 --> 00:58:04.400
for example, you can maybe taste the salty air of

777
00:58:04.440 --> 00:58:09.639
the sea, and then you've got the feeling not just

778
00:58:09.679 --> 00:58:13.599
a feeling of being supported by the chair or the ground,

779
00:58:14.599 --> 00:58:18.480
but maybe the feeling of a breeze on your face

780
00:58:19.239 --> 00:58:24.599
or on your hands, on your body. So you know,

781
00:58:24.639 --> 00:58:31.559
it's kind of that's just an example. It could be anything,

782
00:58:34.360 --> 00:58:38.079
and it can be a way to let go and

783
00:58:38.159 --> 00:58:41.920
to feel comfort, because the good thing about it is

784
00:58:41.960 --> 00:58:47.119
you think you're kind of outside because you're imagining it,

785
00:58:47.960 --> 00:58:54.760
you start to feel it in your own body, and

786
00:58:54.800 --> 00:59:00.400
that comfort you're imagining, you're it's like you're your mind

787
00:59:00.400 --> 00:59:03.599
doesn't know the difference, or your brain doesn't know the difference,

788
00:59:05.800 --> 00:59:11.599
and you just feel relaxed. You've got positive injury, so

789
00:59:11.639 --> 00:59:14.960
I've got that. You've got mirror visualization, so I already

790
00:59:15.000 --> 00:59:21.760
kind of talked about that, but you could do it

791
00:59:21.760 --> 00:59:24.239
in a different way. You could actually imagine the mirror.

792
00:59:24.400 --> 00:59:28.000
I've done these kind of recordings before where you imagine

793
00:59:28.039 --> 00:59:36.400
yourself looking in the mirror and see yourself feeling really relaxed,

794
00:59:37.519 --> 00:59:45.159
really peaceful, and just notice how that feels as you

795
00:59:45.199 --> 00:59:54.519
look at yourself feeling really relaxed and really peaceful. And

796
00:59:54.679 --> 00:59:58.559
I've done like magic mirrors in the past. Word ask

797
00:59:58.679 --> 01:00:04.679
you to step in to that feeling experience again. So

798
01:00:04.719 --> 01:00:07.599
maybe it's a feeling for the past when you felt

799
01:00:07.880 --> 01:00:11.840
so relaxed and calm. Then you step in there and

800
01:00:11.960 --> 01:00:21.400
absorb and reexperience that feeling of calmness, looseness, and then

801
01:00:21.400 --> 01:00:24.480
you can step out again, but you can leave that

802
01:00:24.679 --> 01:00:27.920
old feeling that was there before. You can leave that

803
01:00:27.960 --> 01:00:32.159
in the mirror and step out just bringing the good feelings,

804
01:00:32.880 --> 01:00:41.639
just keeping the sense of comfort. So there's lots of

805
01:00:41.679 --> 01:00:44.239
different things you can do. So these are things you

806
01:00:44.239 --> 01:00:49.599
can do for yourself. Now, this session really is about

807
01:00:49.639 --> 01:01:00.840
sending healing to others, and I think it's there's different

808
01:01:00.880 --> 01:01:02.679
ways to look at this. I'm going to look at

809
01:01:02.719 --> 01:01:08.199
both the positive and the negatives of sending of the

810
01:01:08.199 --> 01:01:12.119
way we think towards other people, because both are valid,

811
01:01:12.320 --> 01:01:16.320
and the negative explains the positive in a way.

812
01:01:17.599 --> 01:01:18.599
It does that make sense.

813
01:01:20.000 --> 01:01:31.079
So our thoughts towards other people amplifies our own pain. Now,

814
01:01:31.119 --> 01:01:34.880
anyone can argue this, but this is fact. No one

815
01:01:34.920 --> 01:01:38.400
can really really argue. And I know some people that

816
01:01:38.480 --> 01:01:40.880
I'm never going to forgive the person. Why would I

817
01:01:40.920 --> 01:01:44.960
forgive someone for what they did? But the point of

818
01:01:45.000 --> 01:01:51.480
forgiveness is not to let them off. It's to help you,

819
01:01:53.599 --> 01:01:57.039
is to let yourself off. It's not to release them,

820
01:01:57.079 --> 01:02:01.199
it's to release you. And I don't know if that's

821
01:02:01.239 --> 01:02:05.199
always explained, you know, like we need to forgive other

822
01:02:05.280 --> 01:02:10.599
people's forgive and it can be a bit like just

823
01:02:11.599 --> 01:02:12.679
go away.

824
01:02:13.280 --> 01:02:13.920
Of course I'm not.

825
01:02:15.280 --> 01:02:19.599
It's almost as if they're being asked well by forgiving

826
01:02:19.599 --> 01:02:22.360
that person, I'm going to say that it's okay what

827
01:02:22.480 --> 01:02:26.159
they did, and it's never okay, and it isn't that

828
01:02:28.119 --> 01:02:32.119
Forgiving someone's not saying it's okay. Forgiving someone is not

829
01:02:32.199 --> 01:02:35.440
letting them off. It's not releasing them. It's releasing you.

830
01:02:38.920 --> 01:02:45.199
It's healing you. So that's an example where I'm going

831
01:02:45.239 --> 01:02:47.960
with this. This is I'm not going to focus much

832
01:02:48.000 --> 01:02:51.920
on the negative. But the fact is, if if we're

833
01:02:51.920 --> 01:03:00.679
angry towards someone, how does that feel for us? Because

834
01:03:00.679 --> 01:03:04.039
we kind of when we think about someone and we're

835
01:03:04.079 --> 01:03:08.239
angry towards them, we're basically sending angry negative energy to.

836
01:03:08.280 --> 01:03:10.119
Them in our minds.

837
01:03:11.519 --> 01:03:14.119
And all it does is bounce off of them, comes

838
01:03:14.159 --> 01:03:21.400
back to us increased, it increases. And there's an old

839
01:03:21.400 --> 01:03:25.159
Buddhist or it might be Zen or Buddhist term saying

840
01:03:25.239 --> 01:03:28.800
being angry someone is like someone chucking hot coals at

841
01:03:28.840 --> 01:03:33.599
you and you catch them in your hand. That's what

842
01:03:33.679 --> 01:03:37.519
anger's like. You're worse off than they will. You know,

843
01:03:37.840 --> 01:03:41.079
you're angry. They they got rid of the hot coal,

844
01:03:41.159 --> 01:03:43.679
you're still holding it and it's burning a hole in

845
01:03:43.719 --> 01:03:50.039
your hand. So someone chucks a hot coal at you,

846
01:03:50.079 --> 01:03:56.119
move out away. That's their stuff, isn't it. That's their anger,

847
01:03:56.679 --> 01:04:01.639
and you can let them keep it. There's another thing

848
01:04:01.719 --> 01:04:07.400
that is probably worth looking at, thinking about. And I

849
01:04:07.519 --> 01:04:09.920
spent a lot of time around people that were unwell

850
01:04:12.119 --> 01:04:16.920
and something I've noticed, I mean, talking is important. Talking

851
01:04:17.039 --> 01:04:20.280
is really important, having someone to talk to, to discuss

852
01:04:20.360 --> 01:04:26.360
things with, someone to be kind to you and to

853
01:04:26.480 --> 01:04:33.360
show consideration and love, someone to show caring. But there's

854
01:04:33.360 --> 01:04:39.559
also a level of it comes a time when when

855
01:04:39.599 --> 01:04:43.079
you look at the situation, how much time you spending

856
01:04:43.360 --> 01:04:47.280
or how much time is that person spending focusing on

857
01:04:47.400 --> 01:04:56.400
the negative wanting to tell everyone about it. And I

858
01:04:56.400 --> 01:04:59.960
don't know if you notice some people and again it's

859
01:05:00.159 --> 01:05:03.719
not a criticism really because they don't know what they're doing,

860
01:05:04.440 --> 01:05:08.519
but they talk in a way of they're explaining how

861
01:05:08.559 --> 01:05:16.840
they feel and explaining in graphic detail how awful they feel.

862
01:05:17.920 --> 01:05:22.280
And while they're saying it, they're saying, and you feel this,

863
01:05:22.760 --> 01:05:25.000
and then you feel this there, and then you feel

864
01:05:25.039 --> 01:05:27.840
that there, and then this happens and then you feel

865
01:05:27.880 --> 01:05:30.719
like this. They're using that word, you feel like this.

866
01:05:30.960 --> 01:05:35.840
As they're explaining how they feel and that's fine if

867
01:05:35.920 --> 01:05:40.320
I'm telling you about something really positive. If I want

868
01:05:40.360 --> 01:05:44.760
you to feel really relaxed and to feel really calm,

869
01:05:45.239 --> 01:05:49.079
I can tell you about something that happened where I

870
01:05:49.119 --> 01:05:52.880
felt really calm and relaxed and peaceful, and I can

871
01:05:52.960 --> 01:05:55.400
talk to you about how it felt, because you know

872
01:05:55.440 --> 01:06:01.480
I was lying lying on this something happened. Actually, it

873
01:06:01.519 --> 01:06:04.719
was during quite a weird period. I was kicked out

874
01:06:04.760 --> 01:06:06.280
of where I was living. What I had to find

875
01:06:06.320 --> 01:06:09.719
someone new to live. It was student accommodation, so to

876
01:06:09.760 --> 01:06:14.480
be fair, I had finished college seventeen years earlier, but.

877
01:06:16.639 --> 01:06:18.480
It was getting a little bit too much.

878
01:06:20.800 --> 01:06:23.199
And I sat down on his chair that reclined a

879
01:06:23.199 --> 01:06:25.599
little bit. This was in the counseling office that I

880
01:06:25.639 --> 01:06:31.159
used to work, and every muscle in my body relaxed.

881
01:06:33.760 --> 01:06:35.719
So if i'd explain this to you for you to

882
01:06:35.760 --> 01:06:40.880
have this feeling, I'll go through like every it was

883
01:06:40.960 --> 01:06:48.639
like your shoulders relaxed, Yeah, your hands relaxed. It's like

884
01:06:48.880 --> 01:06:54.199
explaining to you how to do it. But when someone's ill,

885
01:06:54.280 --> 01:06:56.400
you don't want them to explain to you how to

886
01:06:56.519 --> 01:07:00.440
be that way, or when someone's going through physical comfort,

887
01:07:00.519 --> 01:07:04.599
we don't want to hear how to do it, even

888
01:07:04.639 --> 01:07:07.840
though they're not really trying to tell people how to

889
01:07:07.880 --> 01:07:12.760
do it, so it might be useful just to notice.

890
01:07:13.199 --> 01:07:16.159
I try and notice if I ever do that, which

891
01:07:16.159 --> 01:07:20.400
I'm sure I do, and I try and change it

892
01:07:22.679 --> 01:07:25.840
in the same way. Even just by talking about how

893
01:07:25.920 --> 01:07:29.639
it felt for me, it still can have an effect

894
01:07:29.920 --> 01:07:34.119
on you or the listener. If I'm talking about how

895
01:07:34.400 --> 01:07:41.119
just relax in my back, my shoulders, my hands felt

896
01:07:41.159 --> 01:07:47.280
heavy but almost light at the same time, and it

897
01:07:47.559 --> 01:07:52.599
kind of was just weird how when my hands felt

898
01:07:53.119 --> 01:08:00.239
relaxed and heavy, my feet seemed to copy. And then

899
01:08:00.519 --> 01:08:04.280
for some reason I noticed my eyes and my eyes

900
01:08:06.599 --> 01:08:11.199
for some reason, when my eyes are relaxed, my jaw

901
01:08:11.280 --> 01:08:17.239
becomes relaxed. And when I raise my eyebrows with my

902
01:08:17.279 --> 01:08:22.039
eyes closed and look up, there's a certain feeling I get,

903
01:08:23.279 --> 01:08:29.000
almost like being in a bubble of safety where no

904
01:08:29.199 --> 01:08:36.560
physical feeling touches me. It's just comfort. It's almost like

905
01:08:36.680 --> 01:08:46.000
being in some kind of imaginary safe womb, completely safe,

906
01:08:47.199 --> 01:08:52.159
everything I need, peaceful, don't have to do anything, don't

907
01:08:52.159 --> 01:08:56.760
have to say anything, I don't have to think about anything,

908
01:09:00.119 --> 01:09:07.800
really peaceful place. Okay, I just heard the biggest yawn

909
01:09:07.840 --> 01:09:11.600
in the world from downstairs. Maybe she's listening to me.

910
01:09:12.720 --> 01:09:15.239
Maybe I'm talking too loudly. I'll send her to sleep.

911
01:09:16.800 --> 01:09:23.920
So these things by sending thinking angrily or thinking negatively

912
01:09:23.960 --> 01:09:32.159
towards someone has an effect on us. So if that's

913
01:09:32.199 --> 01:09:44.159
the case, then obviously thinking positively has the opposite effect.

914
01:09:46.920 --> 01:09:49.600
According to this found a two thousand and one study

915
01:09:49.880 --> 01:09:53.640
in the Journal of Behavioral Medicine showed that people who

916
01:09:53.720 --> 01:10:00.359
practice forgiveness had lower blood pressure, heart rate, and parted

917
01:10:00.479 --> 01:10:08.000
less pain than those who were held onto resentment. Again,

918
01:10:08.159 --> 01:10:11.720
I mean, I'm pretty because I'm so so old. I've

919
01:10:11.720 --> 01:10:14.439
met a lot of people full of resentment. It seems

920
01:10:15.960 --> 01:10:20.880
they're not happy, and the resentment doesn't give them anything.

921
01:10:21.279 --> 01:10:24.079
There's no there's no upside to it, there's no benefit

922
01:10:24.159 --> 01:10:31.039
to it. Pride, maybe I will not forgive. Yeah, but

923
01:10:31.560 --> 01:10:34.199
if the forgiveness isn't for the other person, it's for you.

924
01:10:36.560 --> 01:10:43.159
Really isn't for them, it's for you, And negativity it

925
01:10:43.319 --> 01:10:49.960
traps us. We keep ourselves If you if you're focus

926
01:10:50.039 --> 01:10:55.880
on replaying arguments, wishing them harm, blaming them, all that stuff,

927
01:10:56.319 --> 01:11:01.039
we keep ourselves locked into that feeling. Flip at the

928
01:11:01.039 --> 01:11:08.880
other side, sending people kindness, wishing people well, sending healing,

929
01:11:11.720 --> 01:11:13.800
it freezes us. But if it was to lock us

930
01:11:13.840 --> 01:11:16.399
into anything, or lock us into a feeling, what would

931
01:11:16.439 --> 01:11:27.520
that feeling be, positivity, feeling, kindness, healing. It's quite weird,

932
01:11:27.520 --> 01:11:32.079
though you think about it, is to be able to

933
01:11:32.079 --> 01:11:34.359
still be angry about something that happened such a long

934
01:11:34.359 --> 01:11:40.039
time ago, holding us back. What's the point in that,

935
01:11:41.760 --> 01:11:46.239
you know, it increases it just it makes everything worse.

936
01:11:47.159 --> 01:11:50.880
So that's why I'm focusing on the opposite of that.

937
01:11:50.920 --> 01:11:56.000
But I thought I just mentioned the the negative side

938
01:11:56.199 --> 01:11:57.520
just so we can kind of get more of a

939
01:11:57.520 --> 01:12:03.319
grip on the positive side, because even though it's obvious,

940
01:12:04.479 --> 01:12:13.439
I think it's sometimes useful to say. So you can send,

941
01:12:14.520 --> 01:12:18.880
imagine sending healing to somebody, doesn't matter if they need it.

942
01:12:20.119 --> 01:12:23.000
I would argue that everybody could do with some healing.

943
01:12:23.800 --> 01:12:25.479
There's no one in the world that would like turn

944
01:12:25.560 --> 01:12:27.319
down a bit of healing, a bit of love, bit

945
01:12:27.359 --> 01:12:30.600
of kindness, whether they know it or not. I think

946
01:12:30.640 --> 01:12:36.159
everybody could use that from all around the world. And

947
01:12:36.199 --> 01:12:44.399
you can send healing in your mind to anybody. It

948
01:12:44.399 --> 01:12:46.840
can be someone that you know, it could be someone

949
01:12:46.840 --> 01:12:48.840
that you love deeply. It could be someone that you

950
01:12:48.880 --> 01:12:54.560
don't know at all. He's someone the complete stranger. It

951
01:12:54.560 --> 01:12:58.720
doesn't really matter. So there's different ways you can send

952
01:12:59.039 --> 01:13:06.239
the healing. You just imagine it. You can take a

953
01:13:06.800 --> 01:13:11.600
breath in, filling yourself with calmness and relaxation as you excel,

954
01:13:12.279 --> 01:13:16.000
imagine sending that calm breath towards the other person that

955
01:13:16.039 --> 01:13:24.520
you're imagining. So each in how every time you breathe

956
01:13:24.560 --> 01:13:30.439
in it can recharge you with more of that sense

957
01:13:30.479 --> 01:13:37.760
of peace, more of that sense of calmness, more of

958
01:13:37.800 --> 01:13:41.199
that sense of healing, And every time you breathe out,

959
01:13:41.560 --> 01:13:45.000
you send it out again, And you can keep doing

960
01:13:45.000 --> 01:13:49.520
that for as long as you want. You could, technically,

961
01:13:49.800 --> 01:13:55.520
I suppose, do it all the time, but then not

962
01:13:55.800 --> 01:14:00.199
choose a particular person, just to let that healing with

963
01:14:00.239 --> 01:14:05.640
every exhale just spread to anyone and everyone whoever needs it.

964
01:14:11.039 --> 01:14:13.199
You can do a thing as well, where you can

965
01:14:13.239 --> 01:14:17.520
loosen your own body with each breath, so when you

966
01:14:17.640 --> 01:14:24.279
breathe in the healing, it moves into your body because

967
01:14:24.319 --> 01:14:28.520
in the same way, ironically, the same way that when

968
01:14:28.560 --> 01:14:31.199
you send out anger to someone, you get it back

969
01:14:32.680 --> 01:14:36.119
and it's stronger the anger is stronger, the same as

970
01:14:36.119 --> 01:14:46.760
with the healing. You send out love, healing, respect, kindness, comfort, relaxation, peacefulness.

971
01:14:47.079 --> 01:14:52.640
You send that energy out, it doesn't bounce off the person.

972
01:14:53.439 --> 01:14:56.920
They absorb it, but it also comes back to you

973
01:14:59.279 --> 01:15:04.560
and it turns in to this continuous back and forth

974
01:15:04.920 --> 01:15:09.239
of healing and comfort, And the more you send, the

975
01:15:09.239 --> 01:15:15.399
more you get back, because it just grows, just the

976
01:15:15.399 --> 01:15:21.479
way the anger can grow, Resentment can grow, healing can grow,

977
01:15:23.359 --> 01:15:31.399
peacefulness grows, peacefulness, just serenity or whatever words you want

978
01:15:31.399 --> 01:15:34.119
to use. Really, and it's something I used to like

979
01:15:34.199 --> 01:15:38.039
to do. If you can hear the screeching in the garden,

980
01:15:38.159 --> 01:15:43.520
bliss them, I'm going to send peace and love. It worked,

981
01:15:43.520 --> 01:15:47.199
they've gone away. So I used to do this on

982
01:15:47.239 --> 01:15:52.279
a bus. Well, I would imagine that, do you know sprinklers,

983
01:15:52.319 --> 01:15:54.600
like if there was I guess a fire or whatever,

984
01:15:54.960 --> 01:15:56.399
or if you put little light and there were a

985
01:15:56.399 --> 01:15:58.560
sprinkler it which I set it off of the whole bus.

986
01:15:58.560 --> 01:16:05.039
Maybe I used to imagine that sprinkler would be sprinkling

987
01:16:05.199 --> 01:16:10.359
and invisible sprinklers of healing would spray over everybody on

988
01:16:10.439 --> 01:16:17.079
the bus and completely just cover them with healing, with

989
01:16:17.279 --> 01:16:26.159
peace with relaxation. And it was weird because people seemed

990
01:16:26.199 --> 01:16:28.399
to go quiet when I did it. I'm not saying

991
01:16:28.399 --> 01:16:30.760
that for any reason. It might be more to do

992
01:16:30.800 --> 01:16:33.640
with the fact that I just farted and no one

993
01:16:33.640 --> 01:16:35.439
else wanted to be blamed for it. I don't know,

994
01:16:36.079 --> 01:16:40.760
but it felt good to me. I'm not just letting

995
01:16:40.800 --> 01:16:44.960
the air, letting the gas out, but imagining that the

996
01:16:45.079 --> 01:16:48.640
healing was spreading. Yeah, the bus driver went around and

997
01:16:48.680 --> 01:16:53.920
opened all the windows. You could also picture writing a

998
01:16:53.960 --> 01:16:56.960
letter of card or a card in your mind full

999
01:16:57.000 --> 01:16:58.399
of kind, healing words.

1000
01:16:59.399 --> 01:17:00.920
Now. I've done this years ago.

1001
01:17:01.119 --> 01:17:03.960
I was really going for a difficult time, and I

1002
01:17:03.960 --> 01:17:08.159
wrote a letter to the person, not just telling them

1003
01:17:08.199 --> 01:17:11.000
how I felt, but also kindness as well.

1004
01:17:11.640 --> 01:17:13.399
It helped, really helped.

1005
01:17:14.479 --> 01:17:17.000
But imagine sending a letter of card in your mind,

1006
01:17:17.159 --> 01:17:21.199
full of kind, healing words to someone that could be anyone,

1007
01:17:21.399 --> 01:17:24.640
doesn't matter who it is, but you seal it in

1008
01:17:24.640 --> 01:17:26.920
an imaginary envelope and you mail it through the air

1009
01:17:26.960 --> 01:17:30.199
to them. You don't have to know the exact words.

1010
01:17:30.279 --> 01:17:32.359
It can just be a feeling. You just put a

1011
01:17:32.399 --> 01:17:38.079
feeling in that envelope, sending the feeling of comfort, just

1012
01:17:38.119 --> 01:17:42.399
trusting it, but as you send it off, you can

1013
01:17:42.439 --> 01:17:47.279
feel a lightness in your body. There's so many different things.

1014
01:17:47.319 --> 01:17:50.119
You can hold them in a healing bubble, which kind

1015
01:17:50.159 --> 01:17:52.680
of like you know when we're looking up with your

1016
01:17:52.680 --> 01:17:55.960
eyebrows risen and you can look up into that like

1017
01:17:56.079 --> 01:18:02.560
healing bubble. Maybe join them, maybe have them join you peacefulness,

1018
01:18:02.640 --> 01:18:06.439
or maybe just imagine they're in their own healing bubble,

1019
01:18:11.239 --> 01:18:20.039
just giving them some space to calm, feel relaxed. Also,

1020
01:18:20.159 --> 01:18:23.720
remember that we're all sharing the same oxygen, the same breath,

1021
01:18:24.600 --> 01:18:29.199
we're really sharing the same air, and we are all

1022
01:18:29.239 --> 01:18:33.680
connected by energy, so we can choose whether it's positive

1023
01:18:34.439 --> 01:18:38.960
energy or otherwise. I'd go for the positive makes more sense.

1024
01:18:40.039 --> 01:18:43.600
And the more kindness, the more relaxation, the more healing

1025
01:18:43.680 --> 01:18:49.800
you send out, the better that you feel. There's little,

1026
01:18:49.960 --> 01:18:54.960
tiny little things you can do. Just smiling gently when

1027
01:18:54.960 --> 01:18:58.199
you're thinking of a person, even if it's just in

1028
01:18:58.239 --> 01:19:03.600
your own mind, just thinking kind be towards someone can

1029
01:19:03.640 --> 01:19:13.439
help you feel better. Sometimes Whispering kind words, just like

1030
01:19:13.479 --> 01:19:21.880
things like comfort or feeling relaxed, because that goes both ways.

1031
01:19:21.880 --> 01:19:23.439
It can go to them, it can go to you.

1032
01:19:24.039 --> 01:19:31.880
Just whispering those words you don't have to believe anything mystical.

1033
01:19:32.439 --> 01:19:37.239
Just allowing your mind to care can activate deep, deep

1034
01:19:37.439 --> 01:19:43.479
biological shifts really can affect you in a really big way.

1035
01:19:43.800 --> 01:19:50.399
Positive and sending the healing, it's not about fixing the person.

1036
01:19:50.680 --> 01:19:54.000
It's not about anything like that. It's just simply offering

1037
01:19:54.079 --> 01:19:57.640
space for positivity and renewal for them and for you,

1038
01:19:58.239 --> 01:20:00.680
knowing that that will come back. Doing it for that

1039
01:20:00.760 --> 01:20:07.880
reason giving, not wanting anything in return giving, But the

1040
01:20:07.920 --> 01:20:13.199
fact is it does come back. And also kind imagination.

1041
01:20:14.920 --> 01:20:19.720
It changes body chemistry, leading to lower physical perception so

1042
01:20:19.920 --> 01:20:24.840
you feel better, It improves your immune responses and better

1043
01:20:25.760 --> 01:20:33.199
overall well being. So positive I mean, you know, you

1044
01:20:33.199 --> 01:20:35.279
could say, well, this is just about positive thinking, but

1045
01:20:35.960 --> 01:20:40.520
it's much much more than that, much much more than that.

1046
01:20:40.920 --> 01:20:42.199
And it's not about pretending.

1047
01:20:44.159 --> 01:20:46.520
You know, you're not trying to force yourself to love everyone.

1048
01:20:46.840 --> 01:20:50.039
You don't have to like them or forgive everything they've done.

1049
01:20:50.439 --> 01:20:53.960
It's about choosing what you carry inside you.

1050
01:20:55.279 --> 01:20:55.960
And when you.

1051
01:20:55.840 --> 01:20:58.479
Send a healing, you're not letting them off the hook.

1052
01:20:58.600 --> 01:21:03.840
Like I said earlier, you're unhooking yourself from the suffering.

1053
01:21:07.680 --> 01:21:11.079
So ultimately sending healing isn't just a gift to them.

1054
01:21:11.600 --> 01:21:17.039
It's a gift you give to yourself. A softer body,

1055
01:21:17.199 --> 01:21:21.359
a calmer mind, and a heart free enough to finally

1056
01:21:23.119 --> 01:21:29.000
maybe just hurt a little less, feel more calm, feel

1057
01:21:29.000 --> 01:21:36.920
more relaxed, allow your body to also improve. So thank

1058
01:21:36.960 --> 01:21:40.479
you for listening. Remember to be kind to yourself because

1059
01:21:40.520 --> 01:21:44.760
you do deserve to be happy and be gentle with yourself.

1060
01:21:46.039 --> 01:21:53.000
You deserve to feel safe. Lots of love, Bye,