May 8, 2025

(music) Relaxing body part | Let me bore your pain away #34 | Jason Newland | 8th May 2025

(music) Relaxing body part | Let me bore your pain away #34 | Jason Newland | 8th May 2025
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Hello, and welcome to Jasonnewland dot com. That's my website.

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My name's Jason new Land. That's my name. So I'm

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being silly, so please only listen when you can safety

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close your eyes. This is let me bore your pain away,

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and only listen to this when, first of all, you

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know the cause of your chronic pain. Secondly, you have

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permission from your doctor to listen to this. Okay. This

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is not a replacement for medical attention, for medicine for

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and it's also it's not any type of medical advice

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because I'm not a doctor. It's that not I had

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something else to say then, didn't it I'm not a doctor,

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but but no, nothing, no, but I'm not a doctor.

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And you know that's it. Really got an itchy knee,

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my left knees itchy. I don't know why. So albo

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website there is all my recordings, thousands of different recordings.

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podcast is back online. What else I do have a

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YouTube channel at Jason Newland, which is also my podcast.

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It's another podcast. All my latest recordings are on there,

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and I have a Facebook group called Jason Newland's Boring Group,

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So if you'd like to join, there's a link on

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my website to there as well. I actually had a

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topic I was going to discuss today, had all in

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my mind, had it kind of planned out, been thinking

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about it since this morning, well since yesterday actually, but

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now I've decided to do something different. I guess it's

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kind of a you could call it a technique. I

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really I suppose it is kind of It's something I've

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done before, but in this way, it's you know, it's

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not hypnosis. It's just a little bit of focusing, that's all.

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So I'm going to ask you to focus on two

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parts of your body. Yeah, Now, the first part of

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your body would be a part of your body where

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there's chronic pain. Okay, that's the first part. I'm going

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to ask you to keep coming back and focusing on

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the other part of your body. I'm going to ask

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you to focus on is any part of your body

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that feels absolutely fine, might even feel good, might feel comfortable, relaxed, pleasure.

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I don't know. It depends where you focus on. I mean,

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if I was to focus on my biceps, it feels

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quite nice because I've just been working out, so I've

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got a slight little bulge there, tiny little it's like

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a little pea, but to me that's a big bicep.

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So it feels quite nice right now. So you can

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you can choose on a part of your body that

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even feels just completely fine, maybe almost neutral in a sense,

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but there's just nothing going on there, you know, it's

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just just how it feels. It's your choice. You got

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your whole body to choose from. So you got that

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part which has it was painful and before you start

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listen into this, it's kind of the reason why you're

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listening to this maybe, and then you've got the other part,

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the comfortable part. So what I'm going to focus I'm

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going to call them that. Do I don't know, should

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we call one part becoming relaxed and the other part

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already relaxed? Do you do that? Because I don't like

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kind now focus on the part that's really painful, that

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doesn't seem like very good word in So if you focus,

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you call we'll call that part, the starting to relax

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or becoming relaxed, because that's kind of what's going to

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be happening. And then you've got the other part, which

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is even more relaxed, which is the part that's already relaxed. Okay,

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So I don't want to keep saying the word pai

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n throughout the recording because we're not focusing on that.

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We're focused on the opposite to that. We're focusing on comfort, relaxation, looseness, peacefulness,

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letting go. You know. However that can be the expectation.

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But all we're going to do in this recording just

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focus on the different parts of your body. That's it.

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That's all we're going to do. Going to tell you

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to relax either of those parts of your body. All

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I'm going to ask you to do is focus on

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each part and notice how they feel. Now, because I

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can't know what parts of your body you're talking about,

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That's why I'll say, just focus on relaxing compared to

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really relaxed. So there's relaxing and really relaxed. So the

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relaxing part is the one that you'd like to relax more,

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an the other part is already relaxed. Relaxing and really relaxed. Okay, So,

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and I'll talk throughout this as well, just chatting about stuff.

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You know. It's not like some serious, super duper focusing

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attention blah blah blah. It's just a gentle chat. And

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I'll keep coming back to the different parts of your

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body throughout and then he will occasionally flap his ears

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because that's what he likes to do. Well, he hasn't

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had his dinner yet. He had a bad tommy yesterday,

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but he seems to have Yeah, it seems to have recovered,

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which is good. So just wanted to get in touch

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with Notice how the part that feels that's already relaxed,

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the really relaxed part, and notice how that part of

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your body feels. And if you're going to give that

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a I don't know to gauge between zero and ten,

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ten being completely relaxed, zero being too relax in, ten

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being like unpleasant. What would you give that? Now? Hopefully

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it's a zero, because that's the part that we need

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to be a zero at the moment. Maybe it's the one.

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Maybe it's got improvement, it can be improved. And now

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focus on the part of your body that is relaxin

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that we're looking to relax as you focus on that

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part of your body. As you're focusing on that part

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of your body, notice what you would give it between

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zero and ten. Maybe it'd be higher than ten on

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that scale of discomfort, or you could call it at

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the scale of comfort and zero being completely comfortable, ten

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being complete opposite. Just notice what you would give it now,

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and maybe you also notice how it's changed since before

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you press the play button on this recording. Maybe surprisingly,

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not surprisingly that you press the button, the play button,

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but perhaps you're a little bit surprised that you feel

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you're feel indifferent, but maybe unsure why. But then it

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doesn't have to really make sense, not really, it's really

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for me. It's a case of does it help It's

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as simple as that, and how much does it help

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you to feel more comfortable, even though really we're not

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doing much, just moving your focus from relaxing to really relaxed,

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and then back to relaxing and really relaxed. So we

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go back to the feeling of really relaxed. Notice how

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that feels in that part of your body, maybe noticing

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even though you're not actually trying to relax that part

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of your body. You're not actually actively doing anything, but

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just focusing on it, noticing the physical sensations as well

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as the sounds of Vinny in the background, clicking away

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as he chumps on his jaw bone thing, whatever it is,

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keeping relaxed and beeting focused on that relaxing more part

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of your body, and just noticing maybe there's different parts

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of that body part that feel different. For example, if

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it was your leg, maybe it's your thigh. You might

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feel more relaxed at the top of your thigh than

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you do at the bottom of your thigh, might feel

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more relaxed in the side rather than the bottom, or

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maybe the middle part is the most relaxed. If you're

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focusing on your hand, maybe you notice that your thumb

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is the most relaxed part, or the palm of your

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hand is the most relaxed part. It's strange, you know,

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because when I mentioned these parts of my body, they

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really relax I don't know if you have the same feeling.

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When I mentioned my thumb, both my fumbs relaxed, and

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when I mentioned the palms of my hands, both my

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hands that are still relaxed. Maybe you're focusing on your eyes. Wow,

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it's just focusing on my eyes causes your eyes to relax.

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I can almost feel the tension leave in my eyes

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starting to shrink and dissolve. Hmm. It's quite nice. So

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now I think, as you focus on the relaxing part

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of your body, just notice how it feels. Again. You're

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not trying to get that part of your body to

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let go completely. You're just focusing on it. You're just

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noticing how it feels in this moment. Maybe moving around

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that that body part, focusing on different parts, perhaps different

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different areas of the skin feel slightly changed, as if

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the feelings are they're not static, they're actually moving. The

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physical sensations are moving around like liquid, not static, not

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set the fluid and changeable m hm. As we move

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back to that focus of the other part of your body,

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the part that's relaxing even more deeper on its own.

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We're not trying to cause it to relax. It's just relaxing.

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Just continues to relax in its own way, in its

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own time. And notice how that feels. Maybe you notice

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that actually that sense of relaxation is way more powerful

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than the other part of your body. The feeling of

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comfort is way stronger way stronger, noticing how nice it

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feels to just be aware of the comfort that's naturally

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in that part of your body that's relaxing. Even deeper,

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you may notice that that feeling of comfort is automatically

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starting to spread through your body. But even though we're

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not focusing on that, and even though you've not requested

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that to have happen, it may just naturally occur on

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its own as you move back to that part of

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your body that is relaxing. We've any chasing a fly

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in the background every time I get every time things

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get a little bit quiet. Then he has to kind

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of point out that this is my recording daddy, I'm

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in charge, and I'm letting everyone know that I'm still here.

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Who would have thought that a fly would give him

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so much pleasure? Honestly, nothing else gets him as excited

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as a fly, All them toys I bought him, and

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all he really wanted was a fly, horrible thing flying

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around because he can't catch it, well, not yet, maybe

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he will do one day, you never know, So I

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didn't mean to distract you. So let's focus back on

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the relaxing part and just notice how it feels. The

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game we're not really charged. We've called it relaxing in

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the other part relaxing even more or even more relaxed,

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whatever you want to call it. But even though we're

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calling this part relaxing, it's just so that you can

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differentiate between the two different parts, because as you start

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to focus and on them, that may also almost seem

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like they're kind of melting together. So, you know, I'm

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trying to differentiate between them so that you can focus

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on the relaxing part and give yourself the opportunity to

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really just focus and notice how that part of your

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body feels in this moment. And I guess it's also

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an opportunity to compare and maybe even to challenge the

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feelings or to question the feelings the physical sensations. In

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one question would be why is one part feeling that

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way and another part feels this way? But then another

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question might also be, how come this part that was

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feeling a different way before now it's starting to feel

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more like the other part feeling that way, So you

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can get a little bit confused, in a little bit

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up in the air. You know. It's a bit like

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you know, when you're counting something. You're counting whether it's well,

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you're working something out on a calculator even you know,

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and there's lots of different things, and maybe you're working

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out the prices of all the groceries you've bought, and

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you're working it out and adding it all up, and

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then someone just the window cleaner pops up and starts

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cleaning the window from outside, and you're like, but live

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sixteen claws up? Where did you come from? How did

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you get such a long ladder? It could be a distraction,

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or you could do just something simple. You're having a

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picnic on a park and someone in a parachute drops

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down and lands on you and squashes your cake because

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you might have had like a fairy cake that you

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had to you been looking forward to eating for hours,

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but because you're with another human, you feel better eat

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the sandwiches first, even though if there was no one

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else around, you just be eating a cream cake because

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they are so yummy, so you've been waiting to eat it.

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You've had the sandwiches. You didn't mind the sandwiches, but

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it wasn't really your first choice. You really would have

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just gone with a cake. And the fact that you've

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got a KitKat as well, that's probably, you know, the

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fairy cake, then a sandwich dinner, a kit cat reward

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you for eating the sandwiches, because that's what dessert is, really,

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isn't it. It's just a reward for eating the real food.

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That's what I used to think it was when I

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was a kid. Eat or eat dinner, otherwise you won't

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get any dessert. You won't get any ice cream if

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you don't eat or your cabbage or whatever it was, cabbage, soup, cabbage.

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I don't mind cabbage. Well, I don't like cabbage. I don't.

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I have had cabbage that was nice. A cabbage can

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be really cooked nicely and presented nicely and tastes nice.

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I've just never managed to do it myself. When I

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cook cabbage, it tastes like cabbage. I mean, you could argue,

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or what do you expect to taste like candy floss?

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And that would be nice, wouldn't it. I can't remember

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the last time I had candy floss, but I still

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know what it tastes like, and I still remember how

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sticky it is on the face. Yeah, I'm not sure

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if they've even had candy floss as an adult, genuinely

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I'm not sure love candy floss. Wow, I need to

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get some candy floss. Not now, but where do they

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sell candy floss? That fair? I need to go to

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a fair, some kind of fair or Fate or something

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like that where they sell candy flosses. Ah, it feels

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so nice. I'm just imagining eating a candy floss m

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and that whole melting in your mouth and ah. And

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also when you're a kid, it's just there's something nice

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about making a mess, you know, having your whole face

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covering candy floss. You know, it's not making yourself a

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little beard and mustache and stuff. It's this the big

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pink beard, brilliant, so much fun. I'm not sure if

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I do that now that I had a friend years ago.

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I'll tell you about this in a second. So now

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go back to the part that's relaxing even deeper. Just

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focus on that part again. Sometimes it's it can get

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hard to even get hold of any feelings. It's almost

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not that it's numb, but it's it can feel like

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it's kind of just I don't know, like it's just

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it's there. It feels relaxed. And you know, when I

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just said the word relaxed. Just then my forehead and

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my scalp just felt nice. I'm would say again, see

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if it works again. Relaxed it did? It worked again, relaxed. Wow,

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that's nice. So like it's trickling down to my eyes

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almost that feeling. But then I'm noticing because I'm moving

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my arms around a little bit. I'm a bit I

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do like to wave my hands around when I talk sometimes,

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and I've noticed that my shoulders are very loose, my

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arms are very light and apart from all the muscles

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that make them incredibly heavy. No, but did they light?

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I feel very quite fluffy? Is that a word? Fluffy?

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Is that a good expression of feeling? On my lower

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back where the arthritis is, it feels the same as

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any other part of my body. Which it's strange because

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I've not even been focused on it. It's just naturally

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gone that way, followed the rest of the body. So

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focus on that bar again, the part that's relaxing even more, relaxing,

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even more deeply. Just notice it may be harder to

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even get in touch with much of a feeling outside

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of just comfort. And then go back and focus on

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the relaxing part. The relaxing part. And again you're not

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trying to change anything. You're just observing it, really just

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observing it and noticing how it feels. And maybe you

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may even be surprised at how it feels. But I

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know what you really want to hear about is a

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story about the ice cream. So I was probably about fourteen,

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and me and my friend Dean, we went down to

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the seafront and I don't think it was it was

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in the summer, but it wasn't busy, so it's probably

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kind of maybe springtime, but it was during the week,

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so it's probably about Monday evening or something, so there

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wasn't a lot going on. We went into the arcade

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and I saw someone working in the ice cream parlor

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in the arcade, right, so I see the ice cream

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vendor and there's a bloke behind the counter, and like,

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I know him, and it was Danny. I suppose I

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just tell you more, should because you probably don't know

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who Danny is. Danny was a hurricane, probably about nineteen

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maybe twenty, but it was it was still it was

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older than me, a bit a bit, you know, a

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few years older. But he was going to cry where

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I used to go and he'd going for a few weeks,

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so I kind of knew him from there. So I'm like,

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hey Danny, because I wanted to pretend to my friend

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Dean that I knew other people. And I said hey

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Danny and he said that's not my name, and who

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are you? And I said it's Jason JJ from Karate.

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He said, no, I don't know who you are. Why

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are you calling me Danny? I said it is, it's you.

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It's Danny, Danny from Karate. And no, that didn't happen.

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He said hello. I said you're right. He said yeah you.

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He said yeah. I said you're busy. He said, well

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you can see I'm not busy. There's no one here,

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is there. That did actually happen. I said, okay, how

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come it's so quiet? He said, because there's no one here.

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I know that. Bit like, why is it so quiet?

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He said, what am I supposed to know? I'm I'm here.

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I can't I don't know what all the world events

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are going on outside this building that would cause it

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to be quiet. I don't know. We don't have the

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internet yet. I said, that's true. He said, you're still

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doing an your podcast? I said no, I haven't started yet.

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He said, when are you going to start it? I said,

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probably two thousand and six. He said that's like twenty

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years or twenty years from now? What nineteen eighty four

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now ninety Y's like twenty years over twenty years. I said, no,

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I know. When are you going to talk about me

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and the ice cream and Dean? And I said, wow,

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that's probably going to be around forty years from now,

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possibly forty one years. Why are you waiting so long?

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Why don't you do it? You know when you start

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doing the podcast? Why don't you do it in twenty years?

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Why are you going to wait or twenty one years?

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Why are you waiting for forty years? I said, I

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don't know. I might not get round to it. He said, okay,

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He said, anyway, what do you want? I said, well, nothing,

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just for what I come and say hello? He said,

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are you just pretending you've got a friend so you

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can show that that he's not your only friend? Have

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you been arguing about that? Have you been arguing sort of?

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He's saying you've got no other friends? And you said, yes,

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I have? And he said, oh, where are they? Then?

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How can I never see them? We'll be friends for

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ten years. I've never seen any other friends. And I said, well,

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I haven't known him for ten years, have I. I've

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known him since I was nine, so it's only five

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years at this point. But then he did make a valid,

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a valid kind of statement. Five years is a long

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time to a fourteen year old, isn't it? I said?

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Fair enough? Fair enough? I said, well, no, I'm not

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pretending you're my friend, because you are my friend. He said, well,

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a friend is a strong It's a strong word, isn't it.

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What do you mean? He said, Oh, there's a bit

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of an age difference between us. Yeah, we attend the

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same karate club. But you're thirteen years old, fourteen years old,

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and I'm an adult. I said, yeah, but you're still

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a teenager. He's still only nineteen. He's still pretty much

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just still a kid. Really, you're a teenager. And he

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said true. He said, anyway, would you want? I said nothing?

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And I said, oh, sorry, am I in the way

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of all the customers? Oh, I'm sorry about that. Let

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me turn around and apologize to them all. Oh, I'll

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wait a minute. There are there are no customers, so

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I'm not in the way. We laughed and he said,

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do you want Do you want an ice cream? I said, yeah,

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of course. So he goes he starts to get like

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a cone. I said, I have two, Please start to

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get a cone. And I said no, no, no, I

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got no money, you know, because I thought, oh God,

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better not. Because we didn't have any money. That's why

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we're in arcade to start with, to actually go through

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all the machines to see if anyone will drop money,

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like left them in the little what do you call it,

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the little slot at the bottom where the money comes

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out when you win stuff. Sometimes we'd find a couple

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of pound if we were lucky. I didn't find anything

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that day, and then we'd start looking underneath the machines

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if we could. One of us had tip it over,

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and yeah, it was. It seemed better than working. It's

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better than having a paper round. It wasn't really. Financially

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it wasn't. So let's just go back to the part

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of your body that is relaxing even further. Just notice

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how that feels trying not to focus on ice cream.

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Mind you, you can focus on ice cream, It doesn't really

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make any difference. Just focus on the feeling you have.

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Notice how calm it is the whole of that part

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of your body. Maybe you might notice how that has

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also spread even more throughout your body to the point

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where you just really chilled out, really calm, feeling really peaceful.

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And now focus again on the part that's relaxing. War

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of a focus, this time noticing what changes have occurred,

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noticing how it feels different from before, not needing a reason,

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not needing an explanation, maybe just a bit of acceptance,

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a bit of realizing that, ah, that's interesting, but it's

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not as interested as my story about the ice cream.

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So I stopped Danny, that was his room name. I

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said stop. He said, what, put its hands up like, no,

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don't worry, said, I don't need I can't. I don't

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got no money, got no money, can't pay you for

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the ice creams. And he said, well, don't worry, I'll

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give you. You can have an ice cream on the house.

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I said, thanks. So he did an ice cream. I

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think that I'm not sure if I've got a cone

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like a chocolate flake thing. I can't remember that exact detail.

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And I was so grad thank you so much. So

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we're walking home and my friend Deane said, why didn't

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I get one. I said, what he said, why didn't

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I get I want an ice cream? I said, we're

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going buy one. Then he said, I ain't got no

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money either. I said, well, go go join the karate club.

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Join a club with someone who works at an ice

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cream place. Goes to the club so you can get

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to know them, do the work that I had to do.

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And he got he got annoyed. So oh, come on,

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then let's go back. And I said, Danny baby. He said,

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don't ever call me Danny baby. I said, okay, I said,

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I suppose no be here. Can have one as well, Kenny.

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He said, okay, so he did. He made him an

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ice cream in a cone. I don't know if you've

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got a flake. I can't remember if I got a flake.

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I can't be held responsible for the truthfulness of this

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story because I can't tell you whether or not I've

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got a flake or not. I think I might have done,

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but I think also I might not have done. I

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might have settled for a bit of strawberry, you know,

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maybe some sprinkles something like that. But I might had

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that and a flake. It is possible. So we're walking

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up the hill again. So we walk all the way back.

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He's I'm just eating mine. I'm taking my time, just

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eating it. He's eating it and it's all over his face,

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dripped all down his top, but it's all around his

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face almost like he just like he put lipstick on

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and decided to just, I don't know, cover his face

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with ice cream. And I said, why are you doing that? Why?

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He said, what do you mean? I said, why are

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you covering your face with ice cream? So go back

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focus on your relax an even deeper part. That's not

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what he said. This is never going back to this thing.

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Focus on that. That would be weird, wouldn't it. Why

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are you spreading ice cream all over your face? Because

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focus on your back, focus on your leg, Focus on

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that part that's relaxed. We're talking about, Dean, We're doing

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and so yeah, just focus back on the relaxing even

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more part and then just skip back to the other parts.

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Jump over to the other part lightly, the relaxing part,

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notice that feeling, then skip back again to the relaxing

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more deeply, Then skip back again, then again, and just

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skip between them. Relaxing deeply relaxed, relaxing more deeply relaxed,

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relaxing more deeply relaxed, relaxing more deeply relaxed, relaxing more

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deeply relaxed, relaxing more deeply relaxed. And as you move

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between each one, notice how it affects the relaxed part

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even more in a positive way. Relaxing more deeply relaxed,

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relaxing more deeply relaxed, relaxing more deeply relaxed, relaxing more

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deeply relaxed, relaxing more deeply relaxed, relaxing more deeply relaxed,

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relaxing more deeply relaxed, relaxing more deeply relaxed, relaxing more

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deeply relaxed, relaxing more deeply relaxed, relaxing more deeply relaxed,

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relaxing more deeply relaxed. And just keep moving it back

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and forward, relaxing more deeply relaxed, relaxing more deeply relaxed,

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relaxing more deeply relaxed, relaxing more deeply relaxed. So I

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said to my friend Deane, I said, why are you

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rubbing ice cream all over your face? And he said,

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I'm not rubbing. I haven't rubbed ice cream all over

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my face. I thought, why is ice cream all over

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your face. Then he said, because I was eating ice cream. Okay,

466
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it doesn't explain why it's all over your face. He

467
00:44:43.119 --> 00:44:47.320
said that, Okay, I miss the eater. I said, is

468
00:44:47.360 --> 00:44:55.320
that really the reason? He said, no, well partly, yes,

469
00:44:55.440 --> 00:45:00.320
that's the reason. I thought. In that case, why don't

470
00:45:00.360 --> 00:45:02.280
you wipe it off? He said, I don't want to

471
00:45:02.320 --> 00:45:09.440
wipe it off? Why why don't? I said, why why

472
00:45:09.440 --> 00:45:11.039
don't you want to? You want to walk down the

473
00:45:11.079 --> 00:45:13.719
street and go home with ice cream all over your face?

474
00:45:13.760 --> 00:45:19.800
He said yes, I said why? He said, because when

475
00:45:19.800 --> 00:45:22.519
I get home, I'm going to tell my dad that

476
00:45:22.559 --> 00:45:24.199
I had ice cream and I've got a free ice

477
00:45:24.239 --> 00:45:30.920
cream and he won't believe me. But if I go

478
00:45:31.039 --> 00:45:35.400
in with ice cream all over my face and the

479
00:45:35.400 --> 00:45:40.360
cone on my head and the flake sticking out of

480
00:45:40.360 --> 00:45:43.760
my ear, the chocolate flake, he can't not believe me,

481
00:45:43.800 --> 00:45:47.159
can he? I said, yeah? But it isn't a bit

482
00:45:47.199 --> 00:45:49.719
of a waste of an ice cream and a flake

483
00:45:50.079 --> 00:45:53.239
and a corn, you know, the cone thing? I mean,

484
00:45:53.239 --> 00:45:56.079
wouldn't it better just to have eaten it rather than

485
00:45:56.159 --> 00:45:58.519
to spread it all over your body? He said, I

486
00:45:58.519 --> 00:46:00.480
didn't spread it all over my body. Don't get weird.

487
00:46:00.760 --> 00:46:02.920
I said no, I mean not on you on your face.

488
00:46:04.559 --> 00:46:07.199
He said, okay, this is went in a different direction then,

489
00:46:07.239 --> 00:46:09.480
didn't it. I said, yeah, I know, I didn't mean that.

490
00:46:10.039 --> 00:46:13.320
I said why why? It's like, why doesn't your dad

491
00:46:13.360 --> 00:46:16.719
believe you? Why doesn't he believe anything you say? He

492
00:46:16.760 --> 00:46:19.880
said simple? He said why, he said, I'm a liar.

493
00:46:20.519 --> 00:46:27.440
I constantly lie. I thought, I really? He said yeah,

494
00:46:27.599 --> 00:46:29.480
So I've been friends with your best friends for five

495
00:46:29.559 --> 00:46:31.559
years and now you're telling me that you're a liar.

496
00:46:32.159 --> 00:46:36.119
So have you been lying to me? He said yes?

497
00:46:38.800 --> 00:46:44.320
Why are you saying yes? Like I should know? Wow?

498
00:46:44.360 --> 00:46:49.679
Did you really believe I was a lion tamer and

499
00:46:49.719 --> 00:46:54.800
I was half scorpion, and that I could swim underwater

500
00:46:56.519 --> 00:47:00.679
and I was born with a parachute sticking out my foot?

501
00:47:01.000 --> 00:47:06.199
Did you believe any of that stuff? I don't know.

502
00:47:06.480 --> 00:47:10.599
I just perhaps I just wasn't listening. So the actual

503
00:47:10.639 --> 00:47:12.760
problem I might be a liar. At least I listened

504
00:47:12.800 --> 00:47:15.559
to people. You just don't listen. That's why you didn't

505
00:47:15.559 --> 00:47:19.119
even notice I was lying. I said, well, what do

506
00:47:19.159 --> 00:47:22.239
you mean? Give me an example? He said, what about

507
00:47:22.280 --> 00:47:25.480
the other day last Friday? I told you I actually

508
00:47:25.519 --> 00:47:27.599
sat you down and told you that I had had

509
00:47:27.639 --> 00:47:30.599
my head removed and then put a new head on,

510
00:47:31.280 --> 00:47:33.480
but this one was a week older than a week

511
00:47:33.519 --> 00:47:36.840
the one before, so that I could know what the

512
00:47:36.880 --> 00:47:40.159
answer would be to the exam in a couple of

513
00:47:40.199 --> 00:47:45.920
days time. I said, Yeah, so you didn't question that. No,

514
00:47:48.239 --> 00:47:52.199
I said, question what he said. You're not even listening now,

515
00:47:54.320 --> 00:47:57.639
listen about what to what I am listening. You said

516
00:47:57.679 --> 00:48:02.480
something about my head, the head tea, whichure marked an

517
00:48:02.519 --> 00:48:08.559
exam or something. No, I didn't say that, I said, No,

518
00:48:08.679 --> 00:48:11.159
I know you said something about her head and an

519
00:48:11.239 --> 00:48:15.039
exam and stuff. He said to me. Just because you

520
00:48:15.079 --> 00:48:17.159
can tell me what I said doesn't mean you were listening.

521
00:48:18.440 --> 00:48:24.480
It's just it's basic short term memory. You just regurgitated

522
00:48:24.480 --> 00:48:26.840
to me what you remember, I said, even though you

523
00:48:26.840 --> 00:48:29.559
weren't actually giving any kind of attention to what I

524
00:48:29.599 --> 00:48:33.800
was saying. And I said, what's this got to do

525
00:48:33.840 --> 00:48:37.840
with ice cream? He said nothing. But it's also got

526
00:48:37.880 --> 00:48:42.840
nothing to do with the you know, relaxing different parts

527
00:48:42.840 --> 00:48:49.360
of your body either, is it? I said? What he said?

528
00:48:49.400 --> 00:48:55.239
The podcast? The recording you're doing? Oh yeah, I forgot

529
00:48:55.239 --> 00:48:58.280
all about that. You shouldn't really that's the point of

530
00:48:58.320 --> 00:49:01.199
what you're doing here. I mean, this isn't You don't

531
00:49:01.199 --> 00:49:04.039
want to give the title old the ice Cream Story,

532
00:49:04.079 --> 00:49:10.079
are you? Probably not? So perhaps you should get back

533
00:49:10.079 --> 00:49:13.119
with talking about what you were originally talking about and

534
00:49:13.280 --> 00:49:19.400
leave me alone, all right, Dean liked me? All right, Okay,

535
00:49:19.480 --> 00:49:27.760
we go, so one last time, focus on the relaxed,

536
00:49:29.719 --> 00:49:42.960
even deeper part of your body. Then jump over to

537
00:49:43.000 --> 00:50:01.480
the other part of your body, relaxing, relaxed. Move over

538
00:50:01.559 --> 00:50:08.480
to the other part, relaxing even deeper. Jump over relaxed,

539
00:50:11.400 --> 00:50:20.400
relaxing even deeper, relaxed. And you may be thinking, but

540
00:50:20.440 --> 00:50:24.199
you just said relaxing. Now you change it to relaxed, Yeah,

541
00:50:24.199 --> 00:50:28.360
because it works smoother with the other one. Yeah, but

542
00:50:28.639 --> 00:50:32.800
you can't just change things midterm. I said, yes, I can,

543
00:50:33.360 --> 00:50:38.760
I can. I just you know, just focus on how

544
00:50:38.840 --> 00:50:58.320
relaxed you feel. Okay, relaxing, even deeper, relaxed, relaxing even deeper, relaxed,

545
00:51:02.960 --> 00:51:24.880
relaxing even deeper, relaxed, relaxing even deeper, relaxed. As a

546
00:51:24.920 --> 00:51:35.239
plane go past in the background, waving goodbye, let us

547
00:51:35.320 --> 00:51:42.159
know it's the end of the recording. Thank you for listening.

548
00:51:42.360 --> 00:51:46.199
Remember to be kind to yourself because you deserve to

549
00:51:46.239 --> 00:51:56.800
be happy. Be gentle with yourself. You deserve to feel safe.

550
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Lots of love five