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Hello, and welcome to Jason Newland dot com. My name
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is Jason Land. Hello, Helloa loa lolo he lolo. This
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is q and A Friday. Let me boyd sleep QUNA Friday. Yeah,
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so little Phinney's here at my side like a good boy. Yes,
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he is a you his little towels wagon waggon weaggling, wiggling,
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warbling waglin wagling. Yes, it's Friday, the eighth of August
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two thousand and twenty five. Please only listen when you
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can safety close your eyes if I have not already
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said that. Earlier on, I did do a recording five
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bromyalgia relief hypnosis. So that's something I've done today this week.
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What have I done this week? So I've gone a
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Monday's boring objects. I did a whisper Monday, so one, two, three, four, five,
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six seven. So this will be my eighth record in
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this week. And I still got two more days left,
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two more days of the week, that is. And I
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ordered a window cover to try and soundproof the window,
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and that should be getting delivered at some point today. Whilch.
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Would be interesting to see how that works out. It's
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all worth a try. Isn't it. It's worth a try, yes,
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you know. So the last few days I've been trying
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to work, we're trying to trying to tidy up this place.
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I had a bit of a I don't know if
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it's an extrastential stench extra stench eel moment lately, but
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having been over the last few weeks, I've been going
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through uncle's sausages stuff, partly because he asked me to.
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You know, I wasn't just having a little nose and
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he wanted me to find some things. And then when
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I told him about the magazines and there's a little
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bit of a mouse issue, he said, well, firstly, he
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didn't want to go back to the flat, and I
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said what about your magazines? And he said, well clear
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it out. So he asked me to clear the clear
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his flat out, get rid of the rubbish. So I
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did that and I did five bags to start with.
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And that was just stuff on the just stuff on
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the floor, biscuit wrappers and you stuff like that, which
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I'm not going to judge him because I'm similar myself.
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Sometimes I blame it on Vinnie, but it's not really
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all him. I mean, the bones that's Vinnie and then
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I started going through his books and the you know,
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the books had to be chucked out, and his magazines,
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and I found photographs, and I started putting stuff away,
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just like that he might want to be kept, or
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maybe someone might want. You know, it's like the passport
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of his mum, his mum's old passport, and his mum's
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been she's been gone for a long time, yeah, decades,
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So it was kind of, I don't know, a bit weird.
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There's baby pictures of him. Well, I'm guessing they're him.
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I mean they're black and white pictures of a baby boy.
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I don't know if it's a boy, but a baby.
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Some kind of figuring it might be him. I mean,
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he didn't. It's hard to tell, to be honest, I
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just imagine it was. He had these. They're kind of
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hidden away in this container that you wouldn't even know
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anything was in it, and it was just a bunch
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of photographs and you know, that's personal stuff. But no
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one wants it. No one wants it. No one just
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there's without seeming harsh. I don't want it either. It's
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of no, I don't. I don't really collect stuff from
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my own life or my own family, never mind someone else's.
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But I thought there'd be someone that would because of
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you know, a part of me would like to think
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that maybe when my time's up, that somebody would want
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a keepsake of me. But I've come to realize that
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that's possibly not going to be the case. And I
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looked at all these books, all the things that he's
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collected over well, there it's a lifetime, I guess, or
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being chucked out. Everything nothing, nothing being kept. It's like
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all his belongings gone, every bit of clothing. Unfortunately, it
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can't be recycled as it were, can't be given to
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the second end shop. But everything that meant something to
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him material wise, it's gone. He's going to be chucked out.
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But you're taken by the council now. A lot of
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it is because it's of the mice and it's unhealthy,
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you know what I mean. This stuff has to be
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backed up. I went in there with gloves on and
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just trying to kind of sort it out because the
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council asked me to do it. And then the councilor
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has said they didn't need me to do it, they
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were going to come and do it themselves. And they
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were going to come and get the mice people into
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sought out the vermin, and they came today because I've
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had a key to his flat, so they came in.
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They I let them in, and they went and did
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what they needed to do, and they're coming back in
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a week's time to sort of check out the situation.
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But he was taking photographs and he was looking and
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he said, well, it's pretty bad, but he did say
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he seems worse. It's basically hoarders. It's a horder situation
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because people and I'm he was a hoarder. But at
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the same time, a hoarder is just someone that's clicks things.
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You know, if you get into the big hoarder blah
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blah blah. You know those those TV programs always show
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the very very most extreme cases. Now, you know, where
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someone literally they've got everything stacked up nearly to the ceiling,
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and it's interesting to watch because it's almost unbelievable that
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anyone could live like that. I saw his flat one
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that was halfway through being emptied back before Christmas because
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he was a hoarder, and it was quite high, but
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it wasn't as high as a ceiling, but it was
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you know, up to his knees maybe, yeah, yeah, up
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to his knees pretty much higher in some places you couldn't.
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I didn't even know he had a sofa until they
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had finished. I don't think he even knew he had
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a bed. I said, why do you sleep in your chair?
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He said, I don't know. I was meaning to get
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myself a bed, and then I made that bit up.
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Although he did sleep in the inner cety and on
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the sofa a chair, actually he didn't sleep in bed.
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But it's just someone that gets out of hand, that's
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all it is with I think with the collecting, and
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I can't see he didn't like having someone coming in
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and taking his stuff, but he didn't have any choice.
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The counsel came in and basically told him they had
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to sort it out because of being a health hazard,
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of fire hazard and all that stuff. And this is
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you know, about November time. But it was very distressing
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for him because he didn't have enough time to sort
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through his own stuff to choose what he wanted to keep.
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So what he did is he made sure that they
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didn't go into any of his drawers or any of
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his cupboards, which are also full of stuff. I found
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newspapers from nineteen ninety nine. I helped him move all
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the stuff the kitchen. Just before this is I think
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it's the start of the year he had a new
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kitchen put in. It might have been the end of
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last year. I lose track of time, but he had
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a new kitchen put in. So the week and before
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they came to do the kitchen, I helped him to
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move everything out of the kitchen into his bedroom. And
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we were going through the drawers and I couldn't believe
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stuff we were finding. There was carrier bags that had
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been in there so long they've disintegrated, and it was
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kind of there was one that was so bad as
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like I said, sim uncle, sausages. You're going to have
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to deal with this. This I'm not. I'm not touching
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that draw You can deal without yourself. But you know,
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to try and help him out a little bit if
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I could. But the people from the council when they
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did what was the subcontracted when they did it, they
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didn't no surfaces were cleared from the looks of it,
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you know, nothing was no cupboards were looked in all
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the stuff where I don't know. Basically, I think he
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needed to have been put into a hotel or go
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and stay somewhere for a week while the whole place
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was just emptied and bearing in mind his age, and
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he wasn't really so much able to look after himself.
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He was independent, but there were certain aspects that he
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wasn't doing great with, maybe doing really well compared to
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a lot of people his age, but he wasn't. He wasn't.
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He needed help, but he didn't ask for any help
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other than from me, And most of that was just
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helping with bills and talking to people on the phone
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and getting his front door sorted out, and helping get
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his kitchen cleared and help him with bits and bobs
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like that and ordering stuff on nine, you know, things
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that he sort of didn't enjoy doing, but he it's
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just really weird. I went in there again today and
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showed the the mice men around and I said, I
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know it's really it's a bit grotty in these two rooms,
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but the kitchen in the bathroom are fine. The kitchens.
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I said, I think there's like rat droppings in the
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kitchen and he said, no, it's not rat droppings. They're
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like these beetle shellfings, like rad droppings, but they're not
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and the bathroom perfect. Uncle Sausages hadn't hadn't even seen
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the finished article of his bathroom because it was in
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the process of being rebuilt, refurbished or whatever while he was.
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He was still there when they started it, so they
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were there for the first week. He was there for
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the first week of them doing it from Tuesday to Friday,
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and on Friday night he went in Tosspital. So they
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hadn't I don't think they put the bath in yet.
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I hadn't put in and put the toilet in, but
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I hadn't put in. I can't remember. I'm pretty sure
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they asked me even what kind of tiles did he want?
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And I just said they were asking me, like, I
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don't know, but the because i' let them in every day,
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So you know, there was like the plumber, then there
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was the electrician, then there was the plaster, then there
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was the painter. All the different kind of trades people
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that came in, and he never got to see it.
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He never got to see the end result. And he's down,
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he's waiting, well, he was waiting later in the year,
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I don't know when, but this year, sometime in the
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next few months he's going to have all new windows
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in there as well, so practically a whole new flat
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other than the living room and the bedroom, although that
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will now be all cleared out. And I mean they
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don't the council don't refurbish the flat. When you don't
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like the living room in the bedroom. They they will
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strip the place get everything out of there in this
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kind of situation. They did the same with my friend
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Luke downstairs, and Trina who also lived downstairs, did the
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same there as well, who she passed away as well.
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So this is a third third person who I've lived
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in this block with that's passed away in the last
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five years. It's crazy, really, Yeah, Trina was the first. First, Yeah,
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it was the beginning of twenty twenty and Luke ended
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twenty twenty three November, and now Uncle Sausages. It's kind
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of weird. It's just just weird. But anyway, I don't
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want to keep talking about that. But orthough, I am.
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I'm starting to wonder though. This is I know this
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isn't really anything to do with Q and A Friday,
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but you know, this to let me boy to sleep
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is it's kind of like a I don't know, like
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a journal or a diary, a verbal you know, vlog, blog,
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whatever you want to call it. And so I do
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talk about my life. I talk about what's gone on
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and how I'm feeling. I try to keep it light,
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and you know, I don't talk about things like this
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when it's not happening. You know, it's like like I'm
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constantly talking about bereavement and things like that because I'm not.
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I don't. If you listen regularly, you know that I
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do try and keep it quite light. And I'm trying
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to keep this light as well. It's just a little
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bit hard because there's also the reality, or at least
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my reality, of the situation. And it just seems like
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he's if I don't talk about him, he's forgotten. Now
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it's not going to be forgotten or remembered by anyone listening,
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because no one listening knows him, you know, in a
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sense of you don't know, just like Luke or anyone
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else sort of in my life. You don't know these people,
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but it kind of keeps I feel like it keeps
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them alive, keeps as long as the memory is alive,
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it keeps them alive, like you know, really famous people
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that live on are Charles Dickens or Elvis Presley or
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you know famous musicians, composers, authors, actors, people like that
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that are kind of just gonna I mean, it doesn't
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seem like Elvis Presley is ever gonna be forgotten. I
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know there's millions and millions, maybe billions of people on
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the planet that have got no idea who he is
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or who he was. But every generation is going to
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find a new group of people that will fall in
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love with Elvis Presley and his songs, and it might
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be mean for me. The reason I love Elvis is
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because my oldest brother who was obsessed with Elvis. So
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I spent years of my childhood listening to Elvis songs
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because my brother would play them and he was in charge.
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He was the oldest brother. If he decided we were