July 12, 2025

(music) Q&A Friday | LMBYTS #1391 | Jason Newland | 12th July 2025

(music) Q&A Friday | LMBYTS #1391 | Jason Newland | 12th July 2025
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Hello, and welcome to Jasonnewland dot com. My name's Jason Newland.

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Please only listen when you can safely close your ese.

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And this is q any Friday. Let's say its story

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is rubbish, isn't that? Sorry? Sorry about that? It was

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terrible And before I proceed, I would like to say

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a big thank you to I literally just posted it.

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What what on earth is going on? This is ridiculous.

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I literally just posted it on my Facebook group. For

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some reason, it's disappeared. That is really weird. How can

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it just disappear when I just posted it there? It

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is wow? Right, I posted something on my Facebook group,

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which is Jason Newland's boring group on faith book, And

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thank you for your kind and much needed PayPal gifts,

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Maria Ing and Sanpha, So thank you very much. Things

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have been going weird, you know. Financially, I spent a fortune.

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I spent my entire, my entire life's savings of over

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one hundred and seventy pounds on taxis and then all

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my other money that's been coming in getting them backwards

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and forward to the hospital to see uncle's sausages. But

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now I'm just going to have to I'm just gonna

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have to get the bus. It's just I can't explain

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it is because I was taking stuff up for him,

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and also a taxi journey is twenty five minutes half hour.

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The buses can take up to two hours. There's two

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buses and waiting around and walking and stuff. So just

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from a perspective of time, so I choose a taxi.

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Although I don't necessarily enjoy traveling on the roads myself personally,

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but at the same time not I'm not a huge

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fan of public transport either, because I'm not used to

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going out. You know, this is the first time. I

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mean now I'm into the fourth week of traveling. Well

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it literally is. It was three weeks ago yesterday that

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Uncle Sausages was tained hospital in an ambulance, and it

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seems like months ago. Seriously, he's now in the fourth

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ward that he's been in this ward. I'm not a

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big fan of this ward. The last ward was nice.

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It was quite airy, there was big windows, it was

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bright in there, and it was more open. You could

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see the recept you could see I don't know, it's

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a lot. I can't explain it. I probably can, but

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this one is just a scene, is a bit more

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closed off and not much air, and it smells of

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farts and boredom in there. It's just among my uncle's sausages.

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Is so bored. But what I did yesterday is I

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took him in my iPad and I subscribed for all

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the all the sports channels streaming, because he does have Sky,

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which is what he prefers, that's what his main place is.

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But he doesn't know the passwords, so if he was

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at home, he could just watch it. So I subscribed

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myself on there for him, and I took in there.

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So he's got Netflix as well, because he has Netflix

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at home. He's got Netflix now TV, which also has

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Sky Sports, Sky Movies and Sky TVs. He's got all those,

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all those different channels. He's Netflix. He needed because he

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wanted to watch the Serrano Katie Taylor fight because he's

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a big Katie Taylor fan. So I've got all that done.

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I've got radio channels apps downloaded for him, like Talk sport,

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all the things that he likes, because well, he loves

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he loves the sport, absolutely loves sport. I'd say he

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loves sport as much as Vinnie loves sausages. But i

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don't think that's possible actually, because Vinnie loves the sausages.

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He loves the sausages. Oh yes, yes, yes, so yeah,

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it's been weird. It's just been weird. But no matter

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how weird it is for me, it's a lot weirder

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for him, So, you know, getting a perspective on the

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whole thing. He phoned me up this morning saying, and

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I phoned me up last night because I was in bed.

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So I called him up this morning and he couldn't

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log into the into the sports channel. So I kind

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of went through it with him on the phone and

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got him back on there. That was hard work. Is

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literally working blind, isn't it like? Because I can't see

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what he's got, can't I can't do face to face

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FaceTime because the phone he's got it doesn't fit with

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the photophone the phone that I have. But managed to

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do it. I did say to us while the conversations going,

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just grab someone, ask someone to do it, because fifty

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percent of the population are going to know how to

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use an iPad. I would say, you know, there's some

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people prefer tablets that aren't Apple, some people, but you know, generally,

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I would say a lot of people that can know

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how to use an iPad, probably way better than I do.

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I'm basic. Really, I just use the iPad for editing.

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It's quite good for editing stuff like that. And yeah,

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it was, So he's this, he's now being moved. He's

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in the discharge ward. So he's he's a waiting to

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go into either this is okay, I won't I won't

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go into heavy stuff after this. Just he's waiting to

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go into care, how more hospice. That's basically the situation

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he's in. And physically I would done a bad stomach.

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He's fine, Like physically at the moment, he's okay. So

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he's doing pretty good. Yeah, really all things considered. And yeah,

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it's a weird one. He fowed me up last night

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moaning about the food. I don't like the food here. Yeah,

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you're in hospital, you're not supposed to like the food.

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It's a cliche. It's been a cliche since I was

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a kid that hospital food is awful. I mean, I

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don't know if it is or not. It's like school

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dinners are awful. I'm sure that's not the case everywhere,

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but it's just one of those kind of cliches. Isn't

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that you don't expect hospital food to be good. I

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don't know, just I don't remember what it was like.

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So I've been in the hospital twice when I was

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a kid, and I don't remember the food. All I

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remember is it was brilliant being getting our house for me.

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Holiday at the hospital was a holiday, really, So I

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don't remember the quality of the food. But I did

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say to him, just ask ask someone if you can

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get something different, if you can get because he said

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it was hungry. Okay, So he said, you know, i'd

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pay someone to come up here in a taxi and

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pay for the taxi for them to come and go

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and get some food from the shops downstairs. And I said, well,

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i'd have done it for you while I was there,

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because I it did yesterday morning. So why didn't you know?

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I kept saying to you, do you want anything from

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the shops? And you kept saying no. This is like

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three hours later, and he's saying, no, I want to

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I can't. I can't go back. I can't keep going

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backwards and forwards. You know, I've already been there. So

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I did a like probably three hours traveling today already

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or yesterday there and back, and he was like, oh,

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the food's horrible. It's like he just I thought the

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food would be the same whatever ward you was on,

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because don't you use the same contractor I can't imagine

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they'd have a different menu for a different ward. Maybe

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I'm wrong, but there wasn't a lot I could do,

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But I just said, so what I said, Look, what

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I'd do, uncle is is I'll phone up the main

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reception in that wardre in in the block and ask

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if there's anyone that can go down with you to

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get some food, to go and buy some food. So

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he's not allowed to leave the ward. So for medical reasons,

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he's not allowed to leave the ward. So I said, okay,

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he said, all right, okay, So I've phoned up the

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reception right. So this this, this lady answered the phone laughing.

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So I guess she was having a giggle or whatever

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with a colleague. And to be fair, you know, if

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you can have a laugh in a place like that,

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then good on you. You know, need to need to

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break it up somehow. But then she became a little

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bit mmm, I can do you think the word piss

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taking with me a little bit? A little bit rude,

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and I said, Hi, it's you know, I'm just here

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for uncle's sausages. And basically he's he wants to he's

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wondering if he's aware of him getting some food. He

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wants to go down and get some food. And she said,

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and she laughed. I think she perhaps she was in

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a giggly mood, but it was a little bit annoying.

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She laughed, we serve food here, We have food here.

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I said, no, he's had his dinner, but he didn't

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like it. She laughed again at that, and I said, well,

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I didn't know if there was any way, because at

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this point I'm getting a little bit This is not

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the problem, is right. And I found this out the

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other day. They're all on really really bad money because

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most of them are not nurses or doctors. They're care

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workers on some of them on minimum wage agency or whatever.

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So you're going to get some that are there because

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they care, some are there because they just need the job.

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And in that kind of environment, if you've got someone

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there that's solely there because they can't get any other

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job at the moment, they might not be completely like

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with any job. And now I've had jobs where I

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didn't care about the job, so I didn't perhaps do

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a very good job. Admittedly, you know, this was like

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putting meters in boxes and or rubbing bits and meat

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to put stickers on. It didn't involve human beings that

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were seriously ill, you know. I guess it's a little

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bit different, isn't it possibly? And then I said, I sad,

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I said that here's a situation. Really, Uncle Sausages wants

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to know. He wanted me to ask you if there's

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any way of if there's a member of staff that

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could possibly take him down to the shops downstairs so

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he could go and get himselves some food. She laughed again,

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and she said, we're not a delivery service, we're not

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shopping service, something like that. And I said it's something

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funny and she stopped laughing, and she said, wait a minute,

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I see what I can do. And she went quiet

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for a second and she came back said I'll try

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and have a word with someone I can't, you know, guarantee.

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I said, that's that's all I was asking. I know

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you're busy, you know, just understaffed and really busy, you know,

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but he's the situation for me is like he's not

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asking for a pole dance. You know, he's not asking

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for extravagant things. He's not asking for caviat And if

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they're too busy to do it, then fine. But I

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don't think it should be weird to be able to

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ask for him to be able to eat something that's edible.

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Plus he's not used to eating food. I think it's

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the food. If anything, the food is probably too good.

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It's probably it's not that it's bad food probably maybe

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doesn't taste very nice. Mass produced food often doesn't taste

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very nice. It's hard to make it taste nice. I've

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worked in and catering, and it there's a degree. If

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I don't know, it's harder to do it if you

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cook for twenty people or if you cook for two hundred.

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It's hard to get the same quality for two hundred

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meals as you would for two twenty. And again, I've

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worked in Catrid and I've seen it. I've seen two

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hundred meals come out on a Christmas dinner and plenty

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of complaints. This is too cold, this is too warm,

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this is too I'm not cooked enough. There was one

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woman in the comedy club. She actually or man could

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have been a man. It wasn't. And she came up

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and said, it could just wll have been a man.

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I'm just I keep mentioning women as if like that's

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the only people I talked to. It just happens to

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be these stories I have spoken. I've spoken to men

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as well I have, and as far as you know,

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the comedy club goes, it was that men were just

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as disruptive as you know. It's not really about that.

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This is about food. This lady, this customer, let's just

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say customer. This customer came up to the Yeah, she

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come to manager. This was like a long time ago,

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it's about nineteen ninety nine or something, and she said

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she'd had a dinner. I think it was during the

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Christmas season, and she said, I asked for vegetarian meal

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because they booked the meals ahead, you know, people they

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booked tables for ten, twenty, thirty, forty whatever, and then

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they call the meals. So she ordered before she even

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got a vegetarian mill. They served her chicken, okay, And

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she came up and she said she had the plate.

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She said, I haven't eaten meat five years. I'm absolutely furious,

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and the manager said, so, what did we give you?

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She said, chicken? He said, I think it was a

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lady manager of it just happens to be a lady manager.

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I'm not not like focusing on women in the story.

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It's just she was her name was Gina. I can't

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help that if it's just a fact. And she said, well,

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where's where is it? The customer said where what? Gena says,

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where's the chicken? She said, I ate it? She said,

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so this was more than a mouthful. It's not like

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she just had it was a chicken nugget and you

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thought it was a vegetarian nugget, and you put it

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in your mouth and you ate it. And then so

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one says, all these chicken nuggets are nice? What their chicken?

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I thought they were vegetan vegetarian, No wonder, They're tasted nice,

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and you know, but this was like a chicken meal.

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There were slices. In fact, it was turkey. I think

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slices of turkey. She hate the whole lot. So there

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was that weird question like, well why did you eat it?

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Then you must have known after the first mouthful that

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it was, you know, not vegetarian. And there's a very

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confused look on her face, almost like she was in

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a lot a lift and she smelt afart, but she

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didn't feel it. She didn't feel herself fart or him.

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Could have been a man in a lift smelt a

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fart but couldn't feel the fart, like they can't be me?

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But who is it? Where's the fart coming from? It's

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not coming from my bum, because I can usually feel

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the air leaving. Yeah, it's it's that you know that

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can't There's a certain vibration that you only get with

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a fart and you don't get any other time, isn't there?

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I might be talking about farts just to ease ease

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the subject matter of Uncle's sausages. Possibly, but anyway, she

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the lady on a reception at the hospital said, okay,

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And it's the second time in one week that I've

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had two people with that kind of weird attitude on

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the phone when I've been really nice. I mean, I

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always on the phone. I'm really good on the phone.

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I'm polite. I'm very calm and very like maybe too

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polite sometimes, but I really will you know, I'm good

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on the phone. I spent years working on the phone.

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I kind of managed to learn how to do it.

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I was a professional person on the phone. I guess

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well an the end, she didn't send anyone, but I

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organized for someone else, his other visitor, to buy him

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some food. So I told her yesterday because she wanted

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me to sign sign a legal document or something given

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her rights her and another one of his friend's rights

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to be in control of his estate. Which this is

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all stuff that Uncle Sausages wanted me to do, so

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he's asked me to do this. So basically Uncle Sausages

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has got two best friends and me. One's in another country,

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who's his pastor that he knew for the first he's

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known his whole life since he was a kid, since

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he's about twelve years older than him or ten years

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old in him. And another person is known for forty

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years who lives in this country, lives in this area.

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She was down as his next to kin when he

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first went into hospital, because I was with him when

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he went into hospital, and I was with him for

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the first two weeks every single day, and then you know,

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every other day. I can't lost a count of how

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many days I've been in there. So he put me

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down as his next to King, so that they could

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talk to me, so that I could phone up and

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ask how he is, so I could ask the doctors

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questions and stuff like that. So I'm also down on

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his medical records as his next to king. But it's

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more just for that, it's no other reason. And because

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we got to the point where I'll be asking questions

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and they're saying, who are you? I'm with Uncle Sausages,

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but who are you? Are you his son? Are you?

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I said no, well, we can't talk to you then,

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So in the end Uncle Sausage himself said to them

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you can talk to him. This is my not being neighbor.

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That's what he calls me, not be neighbor. I don't

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know why I have to be rude in it. So

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now I'm down as that. But in order for his friend,

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were his two best friends, one abroad and one here

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to be in control of his estate, so looking after

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his the arrangements in a few months time. But you

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know about going too deep into it, they're going to

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be the ones that are going to be dealing with that.

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So I just had to witness it. So I put

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my signature and everything. So it's cool because I said

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to Uncle Sausages. I don't want anything to do with money.

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I don't want anything to do with that side of things.

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I can't be organizing events. I don't want to say

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the word, but I can't. I don't. Yeah, that's not

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really my thing. You need to that needs to be

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done by one person or someone that you've known a

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long time. So that something happened the other day. It

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was just weird. Two nurses or care workers came up

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to him and asked him if he was being taken

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advantage of by his visitors, but he would try to

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get money out of him. I couldn't believe it because

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I've gone in there at this point. I've been going

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in in Elie every day and the staff know my name.

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I know their name, some of them. And it was

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because Uncle Sausages asked his friend, the other one to

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go down to the cash machine take his card. He

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couldn't go down there with her. He couldn't leave the

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ward draw money out for him. That was it. So

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he asked her to do this. She phoned him up.

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I wasn't there that night. She phoned him up and said,

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Uncle Sausages, she's Auntie Landlord. She thinks I think she

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used to be his landlord forty years ago or something.

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So he suggests Auntie Landlord and she said, Uncle Sausages,

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the pin number you gave me is not working. So

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Uncle Sosages said, oh, but at this point he's got

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it on loud speaker because he can't he can't hear

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very well. Generally he can't hear very well, and he

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he's got it on loud speaker, and I guess the

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staff are listening to this conversation and then eventually they

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sought it out and get the right pin. He gives

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her the card to take home with her. So Auntie

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Landlord leaves money with Uncle Sosages his money and he

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tells her to take the card because he didn't he

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didn't feel safe having a card in the hospital. He

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actually had it locked up because he fought his next

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or neighbor was going to steal it. There you go,

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and I say next door neighbor that the person in

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the bed next to him he got this. Yeah, it's

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a little bit of a conspiracy thing going on anyway.

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So Auntie Landlord took Uncle Sasages bank card home home

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and a husband took it home on because Uncle Sausages

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requested this. I spoke to Sausages and he's also said

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this as well. Well. An hour later, apparently Uncle Sausages

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was making a fuss saying that he couldn't find his card,

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couldn't find his bank cards. Someone stolen it. So the

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nurses care workers were looking around for it, and they

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phoned up. Yeah, they must have phoned up he Auntie

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Landlord because she's as direct next to Ken to tell

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her and and she said, I've got it. He gave

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it to me to take home, to bring home here.

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So because of that, I think the next day, because

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Uncle Sosage, I guess, was a bit confused about the

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situation or whatever. I suppose the whole like what's your

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pin number? And maybe that was confusing, plus the environment

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and that. But then he had Uncle Sostge had I

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came around to see him. I think the next day, No,

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is the day after that before I came Oh wait

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a minute, no, it was, yeah, it was after I

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saw him. Apparently they came up to him and said,

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your visitors taking advantage you financially? They are they are

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you okay? Because of the whole you know, bank card fiasco.

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Now I understand, you know, duty of care and safety,

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and I know some people do get taken advantage of us,

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I guess in these situations, but he's really not. It's

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the complete opposite. He's being cared for. Bearing in mine

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he's got. You know, there's no one there for him

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other than me and her, really Auntie Landlord. He's mister pastor.

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Is I like mister Pasty. Mister Pasty abroad. He's actually

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he hasn't seen him for quite a few years, probably

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about five years the last time I saw him, and

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neither of them can travel, so realistically he's never going

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to see him again. But he does speak to him

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on the phone every day, so it's kind of it's

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this whole weird situation. Why did I mention mister Pasty,

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I don't know, but yeah, so he can't be there.

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It's only really me and Missus Landlord that can be

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able to come visit him. And it's weird because I

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was going to go visit him. This was on a Thursday,

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so I saw him on a Wednesday. This was on

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a Thursday. They came round I think on the Friday,

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so Missus Landlord saw him on a Tuesday night. I've

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visited him on a Wednesday morning, Thursday or Thursday they

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when the nurses came around and said to him, what

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did you know? Are you being the people trying to

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get your money? And he told me in the evening

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or the afternoon on the phone, and I thought, well,

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I need to say something when I go in there.

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But then he was moved to a different ward and

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it's so far out of the way, I'm not sure

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if I can remember where his old ward was. So honestly,

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it's like the other side of the hospital there's the

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discharge ward. So this is his last stop before he

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leaves the hospital. He may be there. He still may

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be there a few weeks, but you know, hopefully not Hopefully.

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I hope he's out body by the next within the

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next week that he gets moved to his new place,

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whether it's or wherever it is. I hope that he

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he's just thinking that he will be have a bit more,

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it'll be quieter. Hopefully he'll have his own room. He

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might not. I don't know quite how it works, but

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it would be yeah, definitely, he'll get it'll just be

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better than because this place is there's more people in

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the ward. Now than there was in the other wards.

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And yeah, it's a weird one. I don't know. It's

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almost like this with the other ward he was in,

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if someone needed you, you could the staff could hear

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them because they were going between wards. Here the staff

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can't hear because they're too far away, because awards are

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like a walk to get to the different wards within

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this block. Because the one he was in before there

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was ABC DN E and probably four beds in each,

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maybe six beds in some but I think four beds

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in each. That's four eight, so that's that's over seven

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beds all together. And they were kind of going in

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between so there was always they could kind of keep

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an eye on everything. Here, it's you know, when you're

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in a different ward because I don't know what you quanticot,

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but it's the Yeah, it's it's not the same. I

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don't seem to have the definitely don't have the same

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amount of staff in because the one I was on before,

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the one he was on before, busy, busy, constant, you know,

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staff all the time here there, it seems to be

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a lot less going on. I'm sure they're just as great,

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it's just it's a lot less but anyway, Uncle's sausages

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doesn't like it there, and he's been told off a

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couple of times, and he's not a big fan, as

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I'm sure most people are been told off. It's yeah,

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it's weird. Can you imagine getting to seventy eight and

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being told what You're not allowed to leave your bed?

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You're not allowed to have ice cubes? He was told.

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He said, ice cubes are banned. I don't know if

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that's true or not. That's what you said. That's a

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weird one. I'm not sure what the context was of

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that conversation. Unless he was just chucking them at the staff.

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It should be banned, then, shouldn't they anyway, if he

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was playing hockey with them or something cooling his nipples off.

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So Michelle says, does uncle Sauses have any family? You're

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so kind to be there for him. Oh, thank you, Michelle.

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I don't feel very kind. I don't not not. I

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don't feel very kind, But I don't feel I don't

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feel that I'm necessarily helping him. I do, but I don't.

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But I do, but I don't. It's I tell you

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what it is. He wouldn't be in hospital if it

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wasn't for me. I mean, I'm not the cause of

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his illness. Clearly, I'm not the cause of that. But

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bearing in mind, he's very symptomatic free pretty much. I

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mean he's on medication, so yeah, his symptoms would be

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he'd have a lot more symptoms if he wasn't on medication.

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So in those three weeks since I saw him, when

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he opened the door and he was yellow, and I

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basically bamboozled him or lambooned him or kind of pushed

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him into opening the door to paramedics because he didn't

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want to. I kind of force his hand a little

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bit for that, because I was so worried about him.

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And I was right to be worried about him, because

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it was way worse than I thought. I didn't think

465
00:36:45.039 --> 00:36:50.800
it was. I could see there was clevia a jaundice situation,

466
00:36:51.039 --> 00:36:55.679
possibly just because of the coloring. But I thought it

467
00:36:55.840 --> 00:36:59.920
just it would be something simple, you know, just needed

468
00:37:00.079 --> 00:37:05.480
to some medication and he'd be fine. I was wrong.

469
00:37:11.760 --> 00:37:16.639
But he didn't want to go in there. All he

470
00:37:16.760 --> 00:37:19.159
wanted to do is be left alone, watch his sport

471
00:37:19.280 --> 00:37:27.599
at home. And just I get it, I do well,

472
00:37:27.760 --> 00:37:31.320
I think I do not the Sport Parkers. That wouldn't

473
00:37:31.320 --> 00:37:34.760
interest me, but just the wanting to be left alone.

474
00:37:39.119 --> 00:37:42.760
The chances I wouldn't be here now if I had

475
00:37:42.840 --> 00:37:50.199
done that, pretty big chances actually, And if he was here,

476
00:37:50.320 --> 00:37:53.000
it'd be in hospital, so you know, he would have

477
00:37:53.079 --> 00:37:58.800
ended up in hospital anyway. But it's I don't know.

478
00:37:59.519 --> 00:38:01.880
I think it's part of them. I think really dislikes

479
00:38:01.920 --> 00:38:07.960
me for that. He's mentioned it a few times that

480
00:38:08.159 --> 00:38:12.920
Friday night. It's the infinitous Friday night when I did

481
00:38:13.000 --> 00:38:18.440
everything I could to get him to listen to me

482
00:38:18.920 --> 00:38:23.480
because he wouldn't and clanned the door in my face

483
00:38:23.559 --> 00:38:31.760
that day. But at the same time, he agreed, you know,

484
00:38:32.079 --> 00:38:34.440
he agreed on the phone to see the paramedics. When

485
00:38:34.480 --> 00:38:37.960
they phoned him up, he answered the door and they

486
00:38:38.000 --> 00:38:41.320
were all going out. He didn't knock on my door nothing.

487
00:38:42.239 --> 00:38:45.000
So I went out to see how he was and

488
00:38:45.119 --> 00:38:48.280
the paramedics said, all tame to the hospital and Alex

489
00:38:48.360 --> 00:38:52.719
looked at me. I said, you want me to come,

490
00:38:54.159 --> 00:38:59.239
and he said yes, please. So from then on we're

491
00:38:59.239 --> 00:39:03.559
being good. But you know, he was just going to

492
00:39:03.599 --> 00:39:05.039
go on his own. I think the fact that he

493
00:39:05.119 --> 00:39:07.840
slammed the door in my face probably thought that I

494
00:39:07.920 --> 00:39:11.199
possibly wasn't the right person for him to ask for

495
00:39:11.320 --> 00:39:17.760
help after he'd done that. But I've had worse. I mean,

496
00:39:18.079 --> 00:39:21.960
I've had slapped, doors slammed in my face before, I've

497
00:39:22.000 --> 00:39:28.480
had people say nasty things to me. But you should

498
00:39:28.480 --> 00:39:30.239
have seen me and Luke some of the things he

499
00:39:30.320 --> 00:39:35.679
said to me. But when you know someone's unwell, I

500
00:39:35.760 --> 00:39:40.639
think it's kind of making a few adjustments. I think

501
00:39:40.880 --> 00:39:45.159
he's required. So I've done that while he's been in

502
00:39:45.239 --> 00:39:48.920
the hospital as well. Uncle's Sausages. Kind of got to

503
00:39:49.039 --> 00:39:53.239
realize that he's going through something that I've never gone through.

504
00:39:56.159 --> 00:39:59.599
I've not really got any way of understanding what he's

505
00:39:59.639 --> 00:40:05.760
going through through. And because everyone experiences things differently anyway,

506
00:40:08.639 --> 00:40:10.440
you know, we can I mean, you can say someone,

507
00:40:10.559 --> 00:40:13.480
you get ten people going through the same experience, you

508
00:40:13.599 --> 00:40:16.559
can swap notes and say, okay, well, there's a few

509
00:40:17.000 --> 00:40:23.719
similarities in how we're feeling about this particular situation, but ultimately,

510
00:40:23.760 --> 00:40:27.159
when it comes to feelings, when it comes to emotions,

511
00:40:27.760 --> 00:40:32.000
it's going to be different for everyone. So I have

512
00:40:32.239 --> 00:40:36.280
no clue really how he's feeling. And he doesn't like

513
00:40:36.360 --> 00:40:43.079
to talk about his feelings unless he's angry that seems

514
00:40:43.119 --> 00:40:45.280
to be and it's usually got nothing to do with

515
00:40:45.400 --> 00:40:49.760
the situation, is to do with an an outside thing,

516
00:40:50.400 --> 00:40:54.440
something that's annoyeding, rather like the food and not being

517
00:40:56.039 --> 00:41:03.679
tasty or something like that. But he's not. Yeah, I

518
00:41:03.800 --> 00:41:10.159
guess they Again, I can't judge it because I have

519
00:41:10.519 --> 00:41:15.159
no idea, this zero, zero idea what he's going through

520
00:41:16.400 --> 00:41:22.079
emotionally or physically. I don't know. I don't know. Oh,

521
00:41:22.159 --> 00:41:23.840
I know what he tells me, but I still don't

522
00:41:23.920 --> 00:41:35.039
know what it's like for him. So it's this been weird,

523
00:41:35.360 --> 00:41:41.159
been very very weird. Yeah, I just I hope that

524
00:41:43.800 --> 00:41:47.239
within the he's gone through a point where he was

525
00:41:47.280 --> 00:41:50.519
going to walk out. Now he's got to a point

526
00:41:50.559 --> 00:41:56.960
where he's just waiting to be moved, that that that

527
00:41:57.159 --> 00:42:00.320
mention of just walking out is gone now because he

528
00:42:00.440 --> 00:42:04.639
knows he's not allowed out and he knows that he can't.

529
00:42:06.400 --> 00:42:08.400
It's not going to work out if he just walks out.

530
00:42:08.559 --> 00:42:13.280
He realizes that now for a few medical physical reasons,

531
00:42:15.519 --> 00:42:20.239
and it seems to have come to accept that he

532
00:42:20.360 --> 00:42:22.719
can't just walk out of the hospital and come home.

533
00:42:26.000 --> 00:42:31.519
Not not not that he can't, but it'd be possibly

534
00:42:31.679 --> 00:42:36.719
unable to himself do it in a from a physical perspective,

535
00:42:37.119 --> 00:42:41.159
there's a few there's a few barriers, a few physical barriers,

536
00:42:41.519 --> 00:42:45.199
and also there's the medication which possibly having a bit

537
00:42:45.239 --> 00:42:49.920
of an effect on him, and if he walked out,

538
00:42:49.920 --> 00:42:53.199
he wouldn't have the medication, or if he did, would

539
00:42:53.239 --> 00:42:57.280
he take it? You know, stuff like that. So, oh,

540
00:43:01.079 --> 00:43:05.079
it's been very strange. Oh yeah, I had another one

541
00:43:05.280 --> 00:43:10.239
this lady. I phoned a taxi. All I did is

542
00:43:10.440 --> 00:43:13.599
I phoned for taxi. Can you please pick me up

543
00:43:13.599 --> 00:43:18.000
from the hospital and take me to this address or whatever?

544
00:43:18.199 --> 00:43:21.480
She said? Okay again she answered the phone and laughing.

545
00:43:22.559 --> 00:43:24.320
It's a weird one. Just I think it's the same

546
00:43:24.400 --> 00:43:32.239
person and she's basically laughing at me when I was talking.

547
00:43:32.679 --> 00:43:34.920
It seemed to me because I've been on the other

548
00:43:35.079 --> 00:43:39.039
end of that situation where someone's making fun of the customer,

549
00:43:40.800 --> 00:43:44.079
whether it's because of the way they're talking, or because

550
00:43:44.119 --> 00:43:52.559
of their accent or maybe anything, or perhaps the two

551
00:43:52.679 --> 00:43:57.079
people on the other side are just you know, so

552
00:43:57.199 --> 00:44:00.400
it's got the person answering the phone, walking on the

553
00:44:00.440 --> 00:44:03.039
phone to the customer, but they might have been in

554
00:44:03.119 --> 00:44:09.039
the middle of her something hilarious. Who knows or maybe

555
00:44:09.760 --> 00:44:13.159
she was watching a video on YouTube at the same

556
00:44:13.239 --> 00:44:18.000
time as talking in anyone's guess, but super rude, just

557
00:44:18.199 --> 00:44:25.519
laughing at me. And again I was like okay, and

558
00:44:25.599 --> 00:44:30.599
I thought, maybe say not I'm just moaning, but maybe

559
00:44:30.639 --> 00:44:35.440
I am. If you pick it, it's I phoning for

560
00:44:35.559 --> 00:44:40.280
taxi from the hospital. So the way my brain works

561
00:44:40.599 --> 00:44:45.000
it goes this way. Say if you're phone in for

562
00:44:45.039 --> 00:44:48.280
a taxi and you're answering, you're answering the taxi. Yeah,

563
00:44:48.519 --> 00:44:52.519
your job is to answer the phone to organize a

564
00:44:52.599 --> 00:44:56.159
taxi for a customer and they're phoning from the hospital.

565
00:44:57.280 --> 00:45:01.719
Then treat that person with respect. I must say, treat

566
00:45:01.760 --> 00:45:06.480
everyone with respect. But nobody who's phone in through a

567
00:45:06.599 --> 00:45:12.000
taxi to be taken away from the hospital is being

568
00:45:12.239 --> 00:45:14.599
No one's been having a jolly. No one's been having

569
00:45:14.639 --> 00:45:21.400
a good time. Either there a patient, a visiting a patient,

570
00:45:22.639 --> 00:45:25.960
or they work in the hospital. That's kind of pretty

571
00:45:26.039 --> 00:45:29.960
much the three types of people that are going to

572
00:45:30.000 --> 00:45:36.880
be at the hospital, I want to say working there,

573
00:45:36.920 --> 00:45:40.559
even people that work in costers, working w a smith.

574
00:45:41.320 --> 00:45:44.920
It's got had is an extra element to work in

575
00:45:45.039 --> 00:45:49.159
those places in a hospital that you wouldn't get in

576
00:45:49.239 --> 00:45:58.519
a normal costs or a normal supermarket because of just

577
00:45:59.239 --> 00:46:03.519
it's a different a voment. It's this, it's not it's

578
00:46:03.559 --> 00:46:07.840
not easy. It's not an easy environment. So yeah, I

579
00:46:08.000 --> 00:46:10.280
was that was a weird because I don't get that

580
00:46:10.400 --> 00:46:13.519
very often when people are rude on the phone, but

581
00:46:14.400 --> 00:46:19.360
I had it twice this week. So this is what

582
00:46:19.400 --> 00:46:20.880
I'm going to let you know. This is how I

583
00:46:21.119 --> 00:46:23.280
talk when I when I phone up. This is what

584
00:46:23.400 --> 00:46:27.199
I first say to the person who answers the phone. Okay,

585
00:46:27.320 --> 00:46:29.960
so tell me whether or not this deserves for the

586
00:46:30.039 --> 00:46:32.559
other person to be rude to me. So this is

587
00:46:32.639 --> 00:46:36.719
how I spoke when I phoned up the hospital reception,

588
00:46:36.920 --> 00:46:40.079
you know, for Uncle sausages, about getting him some food.

589
00:46:40.920 --> 00:46:41.480
And it is.

590
00:46:41.760 --> 00:46:44.400
Exactly the same way when I phone up for my taxi.

591
00:46:45.480 --> 00:46:47.320
So I'll be honest, right, you can write in the

592
00:46:47.360 --> 00:46:50.519
comments or whatever you want. Tell me if this really

593
00:46:50.760 --> 00:46:53.039
deserved for me for them to be rude to me.

594
00:46:54.880 --> 00:46:59.800
So you got like ring ring ring ring, and it

595
00:47:00.039 --> 00:47:06.880
answers hello taxi or hello hospital. I said, yeah, now

596
00:47:07.039 --> 00:47:10.400
listen to me. I'm the boss. I want you to

597
00:47:10.480 --> 00:47:13.360
do what I say. I'm the king of the castle.

598
00:47:13.679 --> 00:47:17.400
You're the dirty rascal. Now take take a pair. If

599
00:47:17.400 --> 00:47:19.639
you've got a pen, write this down because you're probably

600
00:47:19.639 --> 00:47:23.039
going to forget it. Come on now, chop chop. What

601
00:47:23.159 --> 00:47:29.639
I want is this? Now? Tell me? Does that deserve?

602
00:47:31.480 --> 00:47:35.119
Does that? Does that deserve for people to be rude

603
00:47:35.159 --> 00:47:38.960
to me? From that? It's a perfectly kind and gentle

604
00:47:39.039 --> 00:47:45.960
way to start a phone a telephone conversation. Don't you

605
00:47:46.039 --> 00:47:52.159
think It's like, yeah, oh I saw Shakira and in

606
00:47:52.159 --> 00:47:53.639
an interview the other day.

607
00:47:55.039 --> 00:48:01.280
She's hardly changed. She just looks she just looks the same.

608
00:48:02.800 --> 00:48:06.039
It's like, I don't know, it's weird.

609
00:48:07.400 --> 00:48:09.400
Mess that means don't look exactly the same, but she's

610
00:48:09.400 --> 00:48:15.599
still She's just doesn't seem to have aged hardly. It's weird.

611
00:48:17.519 --> 00:48:21.280
Sow'd you ever see that fling on Facebook where they say, oh,

612
00:48:22.199 --> 00:48:26.599
guess who this celebrity is and they show you a

613
00:48:26.679 --> 00:48:39.920
picture of them now in their seventies and they're so surprised,

614
00:48:40.000 --> 00:48:45.400
like I can't believe it. There's seventy eight and they

615
00:48:45.440 --> 00:48:47.440
don't look like they did when they were twenty three.

616
00:48:48.920 --> 00:48:55.559
That's just crazy. It's like, why why have those photographs?

617
00:48:57.239 --> 00:48:58.679
At least we haven't got to put up with that.

618
00:48:58.840 --> 00:49:02.119
If you're like you might be famous, but for non

619
00:49:02.239 --> 00:49:06.960
famous people, we haven't got to have that. We to

620
00:49:07.119 --> 00:49:10.800
have publicly pictures of us when we was young compared

621
00:49:10.840 --> 00:49:13.679
to out how we look now or when we're older.

622
00:49:18.519 --> 00:49:21.440
I don't know what's going on down there. A lot

623
00:49:21.440 --> 00:49:25.079
of noise, that's what's going on. I actually listen to

624
00:49:25.159 --> 00:49:28.119
my podcast the other day and I could hear and

625
00:49:28.480 --> 00:49:32.679
God to be out there raw rah rah rah rah.

626
00:49:37.719 --> 00:49:44.480
I don't know why. So Michelle asks, yes, I'm still

627
00:49:44.519 --> 00:49:48.559
doing Q and A Friday, believe or not. Michelle asks,

628
00:49:48.800 --> 00:49:53.159
does Uncle Sausages have any family? Oh, yeah, I've already

629
00:49:53.199 --> 00:50:03.239
done this. No, no, zero, zero, family, none whatsoever. I

630
00:50:03.320 --> 00:50:13.519
think he he would probably class. I think he pretty

631
00:50:13.599 --> 00:50:24.000
much classes Auntie Landlord and Uncle Pasty to be his family.

632
00:50:27.119 --> 00:50:31.960
And I'm not be the neighbor, as I said. And

633
00:50:32.079 --> 00:50:37.760
also little Vinnie. He loves Uncle Sausages, loves Little Vinnie.

634
00:50:38.280 --> 00:50:42.920
Little Vinnie loves Uncle Sausages. He does. They talked to

635
00:50:43.000 --> 00:50:46.480
each other through the door what they used to. So

636
00:50:46.519 --> 00:50:48.679
I'll be in here and I'll mention this the other day,

637
00:50:48.719 --> 00:50:50.639
I think. But i'd be in here, they'd be having

638
00:50:50.679 --> 00:50:54.119
this full on conversation through the doorway because the door

639
00:50:54.159 --> 00:50:57.360
would be locked closed because I didn't want him getting in,

640
00:50:57.480 --> 00:51:01.719
and I and he'd be outside the door talking to Vinnie,

641
00:51:01.960 --> 00:51:05.199
and they'd be like talking like it would go on

642
00:51:05.320 --> 00:51:09.079
for about five minutes. I don't know what they were saying.

643
00:51:10.280 --> 00:51:11.960
I could hear what he was saying, but I couldn't.

644
00:51:12.280 --> 00:51:17.320
Vinnie was just going, oh, like that, maybe barking a bit.

645
00:51:20.719 --> 00:51:26.119
You can understand Uncle's sausages, couldn't you. He understands anyone

646
00:51:26.599 --> 00:51:30.119
that gives him sausages. He can just sew into their language.

647
00:51:30.599 --> 00:51:35.119
If sausages are involved, you turning, he turns into a genius,

648
00:51:36.199 --> 00:51:41.159
don't you. Vin. I'm getting a sense that someone's about

649
00:51:41.199 --> 00:51:46.800
to cut the lawn, That's what I'm getting. Did I

650
00:51:46.840 --> 00:51:51.079
tell you they took the scaffolding down outside? I feel

651
00:51:51.119 --> 00:51:53.079
like I'm giving you an update on the whole week

652
00:51:53.920 --> 00:51:56.599
because I haven't done as many recordings as I normally do,

653
00:51:57.480 --> 00:52:00.920
so I didn't do one Thursday. I'm doing this on Saturday,

654
00:52:01.199 --> 00:52:03.880
and it's terrible. But I should have done this yesterday,

655
00:52:03.960 --> 00:52:09.440
but I was too tired. Yesterday. I got the weekend

656
00:52:09.519 --> 00:52:13.440
off to got today end Sunday off and I'm going

657
00:52:13.519 --> 00:52:20.679
in Monday, and his auntie Landlord went in to see

658
00:52:20.760 --> 00:52:25.920
him last night. No, not last night, Thursday night, and

659
00:52:26.079 --> 00:52:29.360
she's going in tonight. So he's literally only going one

660
00:52:29.440 --> 00:52:34.960
day without seeing anyone. I kind of do the Monday.

661
00:52:35.079 --> 00:52:37.119
I'm trying to do it the Monday, Wednesday, Friday at

662
00:52:37.159 --> 00:52:41.599
the moment, but leaving those other days open in case

663
00:52:41.679 --> 00:52:45.440
he needs me to go in, so you know, they're

664
00:52:45.440 --> 00:52:49.719
still open, it's still available, and I have you know,

665
00:52:49.920 --> 00:52:52.800
last week I was going to have I did the

666
00:52:52.840 --> 00:52:57.199
whole week and then I was going to have Saturday

667
00:52:57.239 --> 00:53:03.119
and Sunday off, but Saturday morning he wanted me to

668
00:53:03.199 --> 00:53:05.760
go in, so I went in. So you know, if

669
00:53:05.800 --> 00:53:08.079
he needs me to go in, because for whatever reason,

670
00:53:08.719 --> 00:53:11.119
if I can't sort it out on the phone, then

671
00:53:11.159 --> 00:53:14.599
I'll go in. Or if you just really needs be

672
00:53:14.840 --> 00:53:17.840
to go in, then I will if I can, if

673
00:53:17.880 --> 00:53:23.760
I can afford to get in. Oh god, yeah, yesterday

674
00:53:23.760 --> 00:53:26.880
he was going about, oh yeah, I'll get someone to

675
00:53:27.000 --> 00:53:30.559
buy off to get a taxi in and and get

676
00:53:31.119 --> 00:53:33.800
the sandwiches from the petrol station across the road from

677
00:53:33.800 --> 00:53:36.599
where we live and bring them in to me, because

678
00:53:36.639 --> 00:53:38.320
that's what he used to do. Every day, go to

679
00:53:38.400 --> 00:53:43.239
the petrol station, buy some sandwiches, maybe a drink, and

680
00:53:43.360 --> 00:53:45.239
then he'd come home and eat it. That would that

681
00:53:45.480 --> 00:53:52.559
be his food? And I said, I'm not. You know,

682
00:53:53.280 --> 00:53:56.559
he wouldn't say. He didn't ask me directly. He said,

683
00:53:56.559 --> 00:54:00.639
if if only someone could do that. I kept saying

684
00:54:00.639 --> 00:54:03.320
to him, Look, I was there with you two hours ago.

685
00:54:04.320 --> 00:54:06.440
I was with you for three hours or whatever it was.

686
00:54:07.400 --> 00:54:09.360
I could have got you anything. I kept asking you

687
00:54:09.400 --> 00:54:12.800
if he needed anything. I mean, I can take him

688
00:54:12.840 --> 00:54:14.480
down in a wheelchair if he wants to go down

689
00:54:14.519 --> 00:54:19.599
with me. It's a ramp the whole way, and lifts

690
00:54:19.639 --> 00:54:22.880
and everything, so i't got like bumping bumping up and

691
00:54:22.960 --> 00:54:32.079
down the stairs. It'd be weird, isn't it. But I thought, no,

692
00:54:32.199 --> 00:54:37.480
I'm not. I can't. First all was gonna he wanted

693
00:54:37.519 --> 00:54:40.320
to pay for us. It's going to cost forty pound, well,

694
00:54:40.840 --> 00:54:44.639
seventeen pound there, seventeen pounds back. I always give twenty

695
00:54:44.679 --> 00:54:50.920
pounds give a tip. But that puts me in an

696
00:54:50.920 --> 00:54:54.360
awkward position because firstly, I couldn't afford to spend that

697
00:54:54.440 --> 00:54:58.639
money myself, so I'd have to go there, walk all

698
00:54:58.679 --> 00:55:02.400
the way up to the ward get that money. From

699
00:55:02.519 --> 00:55:05.360
him to take it back down to the taxi driver.

700
00:55:05.880 --> 00:55:08.239
So by this time it's probably going to be twenty

701
00:55:08.320 --> 00:55:12.599
five pound because a long old walk, so waiting time,

702
00:55:13.039 --> 00:55:15.880
you know. But then I'd have to ask him for money,

703
00:55:16.079 --> 00:55:20.000
which means going into the ward and the staff seeing

704
00:55:20.119 --> 00:55:23.719
him give me money. And I'm not prepared for that,

705
00:55:24.280 --> 00:55:29.280
especially after those nurses questioning him about it. So I thought,

706
00:55:29.599 --> 00:55:31.119
and I said that to him. I said, don't ever

707
00:55:31.199 --> 00:55:34.519
give me anything. I said, I've never, You've never. He's

708
00:55:34.599 --> 00:55:37.960
been offering me stuff for years whenever I help him out,

709
00:55:38.039 --> 00:55:40.320
so I can help you, and I've lent him some

710
00:55:40.400 --> 00:55:42.559
money and he always pays it back. It's only a

711
00:55:42.599 --> 00:55:45.239
couple of times. Helped him when he got locked out,

712
00:55:46.039 --> 00:55:49.480
Helped him with his bathroom, helped him with just various

713
00:55:49.480 --> 00:55:54.079
different bits and bobs, helped him get his water built

714
00:55:54.159 --> 00:55:58.440
down from ninety pounds a month to twelve pounds fifty. Literally,

715
00:55:58.519 --> 00:56:03.320
he's been ripped off by out about twelve pounds he's

716
00:56:03.360 --> 00:56:06.400
probably spent that he didn't need to spend over the

717
00:56:06.480 --> 00:56:11.360
last thirty years twenty five years. Helped him with his

718
00:56:11.480 --> 00:56:15.079
banking just because he can't hear on the phone, he

719
00:56:15.159 --> 00:56:18.119
can't hear the person he's talking to very well. So

720
00:56:18.239 --> 00:56:19.519
what I do is I do it with him. So

721
00:56:19.559 --> 00:56:22.079
he's in the room with me and we do it together.

722
00:56:23.599 --> 00:56:25.480
So it's just been the last year or so that

723
00:56:25.519 --> 00:56:37.079
we've been doing that, and he's he's offered me stuff

724
00:56:37.119 --> 00:56:39.119
like I'll give you this, give you that. No, don't

725
00:56:39.159 --> 00:56:46.559
want anything. He got a like a loan thing which

726
00:56:46.840 --> 00:56:49.599
wasn't alone, but it was one that you don't have

727
00:56:49.679 --> 00:56:54.840
to pay back from the government, which was to help

728
00:56:55.679 --> 00:56:57.840
him with his flax. He has the problems with his flat,

729
00:56:58.480 --> 00:57:02.000
so to buy some new stuff and he needed it

730
00:57:02.079 --> 00:57:07.079
through his new kitchen. That's that was being done. He

731
00:57:07.199 --> 00:57:10.039
had four weeks to use it and he didn't use it,

732
00:57:11.599 --> 00:57:15.960
and the expirer date was the thirty first of I

733
00:57:16.079 --> 00:57:19.039
don't know when I think he could use it for

734
00:57:20.239 --> 00:57:23.440
anything he was, I think groceries whatever, So I think

735
00:57:23.519 --> 00:57:26.519
it needed to be using a supermarket. So what I

736
00:57:26.599 --> 00:57:29.360
did is I said, we need to use it. He

737
00:57:29.360 --> 00:57:31.679
said no, no, you just have it. I said, I

738
00:57:31.719 --> 00:57:33.119
don't want it. It's not for me, it's for you.

739
00:57:34.239 --> 00:57:36.199
He said, well, you just just buy stuff for yourself.

740
00:57:36.280 --> 00:57:41.000
I said no, Like three hundred and fifty nine pounds.

741
00:57:41.000 --> 00:57:44.239
I think it was like he said, we'll just chuck

742
00:57:44.320 --> 00:57:46.840
it away. Then I said, no, you wouldn't just chuck

743
00:57:46.880 --> 00:57:48.920
three hundred and fifty nine pound in the bit, would you.

744
00:57:50.400 --> 00:57:51.840
He said, I might do what's he got to do

745
00:57:51.920 --> 00:57:56.280
with you? He didn't say that, So I almost had

746
00:57:56.360 --> 00:57:59.639
to kind of talk him into coming in there, going

747
00:57:59.679 --> 00:58:02.559
on a copewter and him choosing what he wanted to

748
00:58:02.599 --> 00:58:06.639
buy for himself and then doing it on the card.

749
00:58:06.960 --> 00:58:08.880
He just didn't want to do it on He didn't

750
00:58:09.119 --> 00:58:11.599
know how to use the card, and I think he

751
00:58:11.679 --> 00:58:13.800
was a little bit afraid of it, which I understand,

752
00:58:15.000 --> 00:58:18.360
but it was just like that's a lot of money

753
00:58:18.440 --> 00:58:22.440
to just let fall on the floor, especially as he

754
00:58:22.760 --> 00:58:26.840
needed he needed a kettle, He needed a what did

755
00:58:26.880 --> 00:58:35.639
he get kettle? Toaster, cutlery, dishes and plates, towels, all

756
00:58:35.719 --> 00:58:38.840
things like that through his new kitchen that he didn't

757
00:58:38.880 --> 00:58:43.920
have before, and a toaster or those you know those

758
00:58:44.199 --> 00:58:51.199
revel not revel, but it's makes toasted sandwiches and a

759
00:58:51.280 --> 00:58:54.199
few other bits and bobs that kind of he really needed.

760
00:58:57.280 --> 00:59:00.360
And it's like, okay, well this is you got the livery.

761
00:59:01.039 --> 00:59:04.239
I said, it's going to be delivered to my address

762
00:59:04.320 --> 00:59:09.320
because this is my supermarket that I'm using it on

763
00:59:09.880 --> 00:59:13.559
like online. But you need to keep the receipt and

764
00:59:13.719 --> 00:59:17.079
keep hold of it and know that you've got the

765
00:59:17.159 --> 00:59:20.320
stuff that I didn't order it myself for me. You know,

766
00:59:20.559 --> 00:59:23.119
it's just I'm trying to cover myself because that could

767
00:59:23.119 --> 00:59:26.719
look bad, couldn't it Like I've stolen his card or something,

768
00:59:26.760 --> 00:59:29.599
which I haven't. So all the stuff said is in

769
00:59:29.719 --> 00:59:35.039
his flat. Anyway, he started using some of it, but

770
00:59:35.159 --> 00:59:40.079
he was waiting for the because the kitchen hadn't been Yeah,

771
00:59:40.079 --> 00:59:43.440
at this point, the kitchen hadn't even been started, so

772
00:59:43.559 --> 00:59:47.280
it's about to be started, and we here we had

773
00:59:47.360 --> 00:59:49.719
to get the Yeah, that's that's it. So we had

774
00:59:49.840 --> 00:59:53.159
all stacked in his bedroom while the kitchen was being done,

775
00:59:53.440 --> 00:59:57.000
and once the kitchen was finished, then he started taking

776
00:59:57.360 --> 01:00:00.760
the stuff into the kitchen. Really quite a few of

777
01:00:00.760 --> 01:00:05.960
the boxes the other day. So yeah, but even then, like, oh,

778
01:00:06.119 --> 01:00:12.639
you take it. No, I'm not taking it. I'm sure

779
01:00:12.679 --> 01:00:16.440
plenty of people will have done. But I just know, Oh,

780
01:00:16.679 --> 01:00:18.840
I'll give you some money. No, I don't want any money.

781
01:00:19.199 --> 01:00:21.599
I don't want his stuff. I don't want anything from him,

782
01:00:22.559 --> 01:00:26.719
just like, come on, just all I want, all I

783
01:00:26.800 --> 01:00:28.440
ever wanted for him is for him just to be

784
01:00:29.320 --> 01:00:31.880
safe and happy and help him out. If I can

785
01:00:31.960 --> 01:00:36.079
help him, I will. He's elderly, he's not that much

786
01:00:36.119 --> 01:00:38.840
older than me, though he's like twenty four years older

787
01:00:38.840 --> 01:00:44.320
than me. But what I see in him is kind

788
01:00:44.360 --> 01:00:48.760
of me in a sense, living on my own, got nobody,

789
01:00:49.920 --> 01:00:54.559
nobody to look after me, nobody visits, I don't let

790
01:00:54.559 --> 01:00:57.159
anyone in. I'm very very similar to him in that way.

791
01:00:57.679 --> 01:01:01.360
I live my own life, very independent. I only go

792
01:01:01.440 --> 01:01:03.239
out because of Vinny. If it wasn't for him, I

793
01:01:03.239 --> 01:01:11.360
probably wouldn't leave the house. And he's obsessed with football

794
01:01:11.519 --> 01:01:16.800
and sport. I'm obsessed with this stuff, so it's kind

795
01:01:16.840 --> 01:01:25.000
of I can see that similarity. We're both very verbal,

796
01:01:25.400 --> 01:01:33.320
very you know, talkative, chatty, energetic. I'm not sure how

797
01:01:33.519 --> 01:01:36.239
energetic I am, but he's a way more energetic than

798
01:01:36.280 --> 01:01:39.639
I am even now. But that's more to do with

799
01:01:39.760 --> 01:01:45.519
his passion. He's absolutely obsessed with sport, and that's what

800
01:01:45.960 --> 01:01:49.280
that's what that's what annoys me, probably more than annoys

801
01:01:49.360 --> 01:01:53.960
me about his situation, because he's more enthusiastic. In fact,

802
01:01:53.960 --> 01:01:58.079
I don't think i've ever met anyone more enthusiastic about

803
01:01:58.119 --> 01:02:02.280
being alive than him in my whole life. And I'm

804
01:02:02.320 --> 01:02:06.199
including the kids, I'm including everyone. The energy he's got,

805
01:02:06.239 --> 01:02:09.639
He's got the energy of a small child. It's endless

806
01:02:10.960 --> 01:02:14.400
as far as his enthusiasm goes. Yeah, he can't run, it,

807
01:02:14.599 --> 01:02:16.639
can't probably climb a tree anymore. I don't mean it

808
01:02:16.679 --> 01:02:21.920
in that way, but his enthusiasm for football and for

809
01:02:22.679 --> 01:02:27.920
rugby and golf and stuff like that, and I've always

810
01:02:27.920 --> 01:02:33.639
found it annoying just because I'm not interested in sport

811
01:02:34.920 --> 01:02:39.800
other than boxing. And he can't match me with boxing

812
01:02:39.880 --> 01:02:41.440
because I know a lot more about it than he does.

813
01:02:42.639 --> 01:02:52.159
But I can't even when it comes to football, rugby, golf, tennis, cricket.

814
01:02:53.320 --> 01:02:55.800
I mean, that's a lot of sports. He knows the

815
01:02:56.000 --> 01:02:58.679
name well. His memory is not as good as what

816
01:02:58.760 --> 01:03:01.880
he used to be, but he's a bit more groggy,

817
01:03:01.960 --> 01:03:04.360
but again that might be due to the medication or

818
01:03:06.119 --> 01:03:10.920
the other things. So, but he's always been so passionate,

819
01:03:11.639 --> 01:03:14.280
and that's the thing that I've respected. It's the thing

820
01:03:14.320 --> 01:03:17.239
that annoyed me just because he just talks and talks

821
01:03:17.280 --> 01:03:22.519
and talks and talks and talks, and in the past

822
01:03:22.559 --> 01:03:25.639
I've told him I'm not interested in what you're talking about,

823
01:03:26.760 --> 01:03:28.719
not in a bad way, I just like, you know,

824
01:03:28.800 --> 01:03:31.960
I don't care about football. Yeah, you want to talk

825
01:03:31.960 --> 01:03:35.920
to me about football? And he laughs because he knows

826
01:03:36.000 --> 01:03:38.639
that I'm not. That it's just not something I want.

827
01:03:39.119 --> 01:03:46.960
I want to talk about. And but to have that passion,

828
01:03:48.079 --> 01:03:52.639
and he's so friendly to everyone generally. I mean he's

829
01:03:52.639 --> 01:03:54.440
a little bit grumpy at the moment, but hey, who

830
01:03:54.480 --> 01:04:02.320
could blame him, but generally he's friendly. He his start

831
01:04:02.360 --> 01:04:07.360
in the conversation is if he meets someone, if he

832
01:04:07.480 --> 01:04:11.679
hears the accent, or he can kind of roughly tell

833
01:04:11.719 --> 01:04:17.119
where someone's from and he'll guess their football team that

834
01:04:17.239 --> 01:04:19.360
they support, or if you can't, he just say who's

835
01:04:19.400 --> 01:04:24.360
your favor football team? That's his opener. Or if he's

836
01:04:24.440 --> 01:04:26.960
never met the person. Because he met the lady that

837
01:04:27.039 --> 01:04:29.119
lives downstairs for the first time and he said, do

838
01:04:29.239 --> 01:04:33.840
you like sport? And I was behind him shaking my head,

839
01:04:33.880 --> 01:04:37.760
say say no, say no, do you like sport? And

840
01:04:38.079 --> 01:04:42.880
that's his opener because that's his passion. It's not just

841
01:04:43.519 --> 01:04:49.480
an interest, it's his whole life. Really, sport is his

842
01:04:49.639 --> 01:04:57.719
whole life. And I have nothing but admiration for anyone

843
01:04:57.920 --> 01:05:02.159
that can live their life life doing what they love.

844
01:05:03.199 --> 01:05:10.400
And that's what he's done. He's lived his life every day. Okay,

845
01:05:10.559 --> 01:05:14.199
I'm exaggerating because I've not in inside his head. I

846
01:05:14.320 --> 01:05:17.400
don't know how he feels every day, but it seems

847
01:05:17.679 --> 01:05:20.599
I get a sense that he wakes up when he

848
01:05:20.679 --> 01:05:22.400
goes to bed at night, he's looking forward to the

849
01:05:22.519 --> 01:05:27.639
next day, or he's looking forward to the next sporting event,

850
01:05:28.480 --> 01:05:30.960
which is usually because because he watched sports all over

851
01:05:31.000 --> 01:05:34.800
the world, whether it's because he cricket ten you know,

852
01:05:35.159 --> 01:05:38.119
all year round, so there's always something that he's looking

853
01:05:38.159 --> 01:05:47.159
forward to watching, and he wakes up with something to

854
01:05:47.239 --> 01:05:54.559
look forward to. And I think you can't put well personally,

855
01:05:54.599 --> 01:05:56.159
I don't think we can put a price on that

856
01:05:57.119 --> 01:06:04.800
it's something that it's a gift. I mean, maybe, you know,

857
01:06:06.199 --> 01:06:10.880
some possibly would argue that it's to be obsessed with

858
01:06:11.000 --> 01:06:17.000
something isn't necessarily good, which I understand if it is

859
01:06:17.199 --> 01:06:24.639
an obsession with something harmful that's going to harm harm

860
01:06:24.760 --> 01:06:27.599
the person, Yet it's not a good thing. If it's

861
01:06:27.639 --> 01:06:32.039
an obsession with another person who doesn't want you near them,

862
01:06:32.920 --> 01:06:34.800
you know, it does not interro that that obviously that

863
01:06:34.880 --> 01:06:41.239
could be very, very difficult too. But he's obsessed. He's

864
01:06:41.280 --> 01:06:45.239
not obsessed in He doesn't drink alcohol, doesn't do anything.

865
01:06:45.440 --> 01:06:49.119
Just he watches sport and he reads about sport and

866
01:06:49.199 --> 01:06:55.840
he talks about sport. He loves it. And that's in

867
01:06:55.960 --> 01:06:58.800
a way, and I don't mean this in a bad way.

868
01:07:01.320 --> 01:07:04.400
When I started doing They Let Me Boy to Sleep, Okay,

869
01:07:04.599 --> 01:07:06.719
right when I started doing They Let Me Boy to

870
01:07:06.760 --> 01:07:11.960
Sleep podcasts, I was thinking about two people that I've

871
01:07:12.039 --> 01:07:18.039
met in my life as an inspiration for doing this, Okay,

872
01:07:20.079 --> 01:07:26.679
one was him. It's not that he's boring. It's just

873
01:07:31.119 --> 01:07:33.280
I'll try I've tried to explain this quite a few

874
01:07:33.320 --> 01:07:38.320
times in the past. It for me, if you're not

875
01:07:38.480 --> 01:07:43.320
interested in a subject it's boring, doesn't mean the subject's boring.

876
01:07:43.719 --> 01:07:48.360
It's just from a personal perspective. You know, I've got

877
01:07:48.400 --> 01:07:55.199
no interest in trainspotting, for example, but I've got nothing

878
01:07:55.280 --> 01:08:02.559
but admiration for trainspots because they're happy, they're enjoying themselves,

879
01:08:03.239 --> 01:08:06.320
they're doing something that you know, I bet the ones

880
01:08:06.440 --> 01:08:09.119
that are maybe working all week that's what they're looking

881
01:08:09.159 --> 01:08:15.239
forward to doing at the weekend. Having a great time,

882
01:08:15.639 --> 01:08:19.680
because then they're doing what they love doing. So whatever

883
01:08:19.800 --> 01:08:25.479
it is, whether it's martial arts, whether it's I don't know,

884
01:08:25.840 --> 01:08:31.479
being a leader in the Scouts, or writing, doing jigsaw puzzles,

885
01:08:32.319 --> 01:08:36.840
watching television, I don't think it matters fishing, whatever it is.

886
01:08:39.279 --> 01:08:43.119
If you absolutely love doing something and you get a

887
01:08:43.239 --> 01:08:47.239
chance to do it more often as often as you

888
01:08:47.520 --> 01:08:52.399
want to. In a way, that's kind of like a dream,

889
01:08:52.960 --> 01:09:01.760
you know, it's like a dream scenario. And it hasn't

890
01:09:01.880 --> 01:09:05.880
cost him much in a way of money. I mean,

891
01:09:05.920 --> 01:09:08.840
he's probably spent he's spent a lot of money traveling

892
01:09:08.880 --> 01:09:12.199
around going to different sporting events when he was younger,

893
01:09:13.760 --> 01:09:16.399
but he hasn't done much traveling in the last five years.

894
01:09:17.439 --> 01:09:20.600
When I first met him, he was out and about

895
01:09:20.920 --> 01:09:25.520
all the time, you know, he was away going abroad

896
01:09:25.680 --> 01:09:29.960
to watch sporting events, going to football, coming back early

897
01:09:30.039 --> 01:09:34.920
hours of the morning. In two thousand, that kind of changed.

898
01:09:35.800 --> 01:09:40.119
So the last five years really slowed down. It might

899
01:09:40.159 --> 01:09:42.560
have just been a physical thing. He just maybe he

900
01:09:42.640 --> 01:09:47.960
struggled to get around as much, which I struggled a

901
01:09:48.000 --> 01:09:51.039
little bit, you know, with my back in that and

902
01:09:51.840 --> 01:09:55.439
I'm just still a kid, really, And I compared to him,

903
01:09:55.720 --> 01:10:04.359
I'm still a baby, Okay. So what I did is

904
01:10:04.399 --> 01:10:08.399
I looked at that situation of someone talking about their

905
01:10:08.640 --> 01:10:17.119
particular interest to someone that has zero interest in that subject.

906
01:10:20.600 --> 01:10:24.319
So what I thought i'd do is that I'd kind

907
01:10:24.359 --> 01:10:31.600
of do that kind of podcast talking. But also it's

908
01:10:31.640 --> 01:10:33.760
a mixture of myself as well well. Obviously what I

909
01:10:33.840 --> 01:10:42.159
talk about is myself. I mean, probably sleepy Boring objects

910
01:10:42.319 --> 01:10:47.960
was the Monday's Boring Objects that's kind of based on that. Really,

911
01:10:47.960 --> 01:10:52.359
he's talking about something that's going to be interesting to

912
01:10:52.439 --> 01:10:58.079
some people boring to a lot of other people. And

913
01:10:58.159 --> 01:11:00.239
then I added myself to it in a sense of

914
01:11:02.039 --> 01:11:07.119
someone told me, you know, they message or left a

915
01:11:07.199 --> 01:11:11.159
comment on a YouTube video which was just Jason Chatz

916
01:11:11.199 --> 01:11:14.000
where I was talking about my life, and they said,

917
01:11:14.119 --> 01:11:17.199
I fall asleep every time you talk, even when you're

918
01:11:17.239 --> 01:11:23.119
not doing hypnosis. And I thought, oh, okay, it's interesting.

919
01:11:25.960 --> 01:11:29.359
And then I've got another friend who see, none of

920
01:11:29.399 --> 01:11:32.760
these people are boring, including myself, I hope, But none

921
01:11:32.800 --> 01:11:35.760
of the people are boring that I'm talking about these friends.

922
01:11:35.880 --> 01:11:39.880
But it's just if you talk at someone about a

923
01:11:39.920 --> 01:11:43.359
subject that they're not interested in, that person is going

924
01:11:43.439 --> 01:11:47.520
to glaze over, and I've seen people's eyes glaze over

925
01:11:48.279 --> 01:11:53.199
multiple times. I only started noticing it when I was

926
01:11:53.279 --> 01:11:58.600
in my late twenties, I suppose once I started learning

927
01:11:58.600 --> 01:12:04.279
about hypnosis. So I started realizing that, Okay, I'm basically

928
01:12:04.680 --> 01:12:09.479
zoning people out when I'm talking to them. I didn't know.

929
01:12:09.760 --> 01:12:13.520
I didn't know what I was doing, so I wasn't

930
01:12:13.600 --> 01:12:16.039
purposely doing it. Then I played around with it a bit.

931
01:12:18.520 --> 01:12:25.840
So the other person is somebody another like close friend

932
01:12:25.920 --> 01:12:28.359
that I've known a long time. I don't see anymore much,

933
01:12:28.520 --> 01:12:34.319
but still someone that's close to my heart. And this

934
01:12:34.600 --> 01:12:42.359
person would talk, but then they go off and they

935
01:12:42.439 --> 01:12:44.399
talk about something else. Then they talk about something, so

936
01:12:44.600 --> 01:12:51.479
they talk about Bob, and then they talk about Then

937
01:12:51.520 --> 01:12:56.960
they'll be talking about Steve, who was Bob's friend, and

938
01:12:57.039 --> 01:12:59.640
then then they zone in on Steve. Then they talk

939
01:12:59.640 --> 01:13:06.760
about Steve's sister, who went to college with Adrian, who

940
01:13:06.880 --> 01:13:13.359
was in a rock band, and that rock band was

941
01:13:13.439 --> 01:13:21.560
also Oliver Pete and Roger now Pete. He used to

942
01:13:21.800 --> 01:13:25.159
like to he used to work in like a florist,

943
01:13:26.479 --> 01:13:30.159
and his favorite music was Elwen John and he saw

944
01:13:30.239 --> 01:13:34.920
Ellen John in concert and he met this He met

945
01:13:34.960 --> 01:13:38.880
his girlfriend at that concert, Ellen John's concert, and they

946
01:13:38.920 --> 01:13:43.239
had a baby, and that baby grew up to be

947
01:13:46.680 --> 01:13:47.960
you know what I mean. It's like just go on

948
01:13:48.239 --> 01:13:50.640
and on and on and on, and you can't follow it.

949
01:13:52.159 --> 01:13:57.319
It's almost impossible to follow. And within that it'll talk

950
01:13:57.359 --> 01:14:06.279
about music, songs, movies, and just like I can't follow this.

951
01:14:12.119 --> 01:14:14.920
And he was the expert at that, but he didn't

952
01:14:14.960 --> 01:14:18.960
mean to do it. He just did it. He just

953
01:14:19.359 --> 01:14:24.039
followed his thought pattern and it was hard to follow.

954
01:14:24.079 --> 01:14:26.359
And I'd like to bring it back, bring it back,

955
01:14:27.760 --> 01:14:32.199
because I generally can't do that if I'm with someone,

956
01:14:33.680 --> 01:14:37.319
you know, I like the conversation to be focused. If

957
01:14:37.359 --> 01:14:39.319
I'm in a room with someone in it's that one.

958
01:14:39.560 --> 01:14:42.199
You know, it's a give and take a conversation, which

959
01:14:42.239 --> 01:14:44.520
is what conversations kind of supposed to be, isn't it,

960
01:14:45.319 --> 01:14:51.319
not talking at them like I am here? Then I

961
01:14:51.479 --> 01:14:55.159
really needed to be focused and to stick to the point,

962
01:14:56.680 --> 01:14:59.920
which is weird considering I don't stick to the point

963
01:15:00.880 --> 01:15:07.079
necessarily when I'm making recording. But when I talk into

964
01:15:07.079 --> 01:15:11.439
a microphone, I didn't realize I did it until probably

965
01:15:11.840 --> 01:15:17.600
you know, much later on that once I just go

966
01:15:17.800 --> 01:15:21.199
into I don't know if you want to call it

967
01:15:21.199 --> 01:15:25.800
a stream of consciousness. Just talk talk just I guess

968
01:15:25.920 --> 01:15:27.600
just talking out loud, isn't it. That's all it is,

969
01:15:28.520 --> 01:15:35.239
talking out loud, just my internal dialogue being external, I suppose.

970
01:15:39.359 --> 01:15:40.960
And I kind of mixed it up a bit when

971
01:15:41.039 --> 01:15:45.439
I first started. I was trying to get a happy

972
01:15:45.439 --> 01:15:52.960
relaxation and include hypnosis and then talking perfect on purpose,

973
01:15:53.359 --> 01:16:00.359
really slowly. But then it felt false to me. This

974
01:16:00.439 --> 01:16:02.920
is right. At the beginning, it didn't feel quite myself.

975
01:16:03.960 --> 01:16:11.520
And now I just am me. This is me whatever,

976
01:16:11.640 --> 01:16:14.319
this is, This is me now. It might not be

977
01:16:14.439 --> 01:16:17.800
me tomorrow, but this is me now. This is the

978
01:16:17.920 --> 01:16:22.399
speed I'm talking out. I'm not controlling the speed. I'm

979
01:16:22.560 --> 01:16:28.359
not controlling the speed. I'm not controlling any aspect of

980
01:16:28.600 --> 01:16:33.159
how I talk. This is me talking normally. This is

981
01:16:33.239 --> 01:16:36.479
how I talk. If I'm not if there's no if

982
01:16:36.520 --> 01:16:40.119
there's no one else around, if there's other people around,

983
01:16:40.199 --> 01:16:44.079
I would probably talk a bit quicker. Maybe it's a

984
01:16:44.079 --> 01:16:52.640
whistle end, and I would say quicker quicker. And I

985
01:16:52.760 --> 01:16:58.560
don't purposefully go into a sort of a weird tangent.

986
01:16:58.680 --> 01:17:02.520
It just happens naturally, you know. So nothing is planned.

987
01:17:02.640 --> 01:17:06.000
Nothing I say is planned in these recordings other than

988
01:17:06.119 --> 01:17:09.680
answering questions, which I'm supposed to be doing today with

989
01:17:09.840 --> 01:17:17.079
the Q and a Friday. So Michelle, Uncle Sausages doesn't

990
01:17:17.119 --> 01:17:22.079
have any family. But I feel like I've expanded a

991
01:17:22.159 --> 01:17:25.199
bit more on that because I've pretty much that's all

992
01:17:25.239 --> 01:17:28.359
I talked about. Isn't it today? So far? Can you

993
01:17:28.399 --> 01:17:34.840
hear that there's a helicopter? It sounds like more than

994
01:17:34.880 --> 01:17:44.079
one helicopter. NG says. In one episode you talked about

995
01:17:44.159 --> 01:17:49.800
the biscuits, the biscuit habits in England. I thought that

996
01:17:49.960 --> 01:17:55.399
it was very funny. Well, thank you. That's a stupid

997
01:17:55.479 --> 01:18:02.319
plain man. It's the same one that used to they

998
01:18:02.399 --> 01:18:06.800
go over this just over where I am. I like,

999
01:18:07.239 --> 01:18:16.399
dip down and then swerve right over my flat. Do

1000
01:18:16.600 --> 01:18:19.199
the English have any other quirks? I hope the word

1001
01:18:19.279 --> 01:18:24.119
quirks doesn't have a negative connotation. No quirks is fine,

1002
01:18:24.199 --> 01:18:31.239
It's yeah, No quirks is fine. I'm trying to think

1003
01:18:31.800 --> 01:18:37.479
talking about the weather that's a very English thing. It's

1004
01:18:37.640 --> 01:18:41.920
probably the most English thing there is talking about the

1005
01:18:41.960 --> 01:18:47.119
weather and moaning about the weather. Another thing is blaming

1006
01:18:47.159 --> 01:18:51.279
everything on politicians. But I think that's possibly a universal

1007
01:18:51.880 --> 01:19:00.520
worldwide thing. Possibly, I don't know, Uncle sausages everything. It's

1008
01:19:01.199 --> 01:19:04.479
Starmer's fault. I think at some point he even blamed

1009
01:19:04.520 --> 01:19:09.239
his illness on Starmar's like, you can't blame him for everything. Oh,

1010
01:19:09.319 --> 01:19:14.720
Stalmas the current president of England or whatever it is.

1011
01:19:16.760 --> 01:19:22.760
So but she's a nice lady though she's a nice Starmer.

1012
01:19:23.119 --> 01:19:28.920
It's a very nice Shakira Shakira Starmer. I hope that

1013
01:19:30.119 --> 01:19:33.720
the weather. I would guess the weather is really the

1014
01:19:33.920 --> 01:19:42.720
thing moaning negativity as well, but not necessarily meaning to

1015
01:19:42.760 --> 01:19:46.520
be negative. So let's say one person. You might go

1016
01:19:46.600 --> 01:19:51.600
up to someone and so, how you doing? Not too bad?

1017
01:19:54.319 --> 01:19:56.720
That's kind of an answer. This is a negative answer,

1018
01:19:57.319 --> 01:20:01.760
but it's not kind of in a negative way. They

1019
01:20:01.840 --> 01:20:03.319
might be having a really good day, so I'm not

1020
01:20:03.439 --> 01:20:11.079
too bad. It could be worse, could be dead, and

1021
01:20:11.319 --> 01:20:15.199
that is honestly, it's like it is quite negative, but

1022
01:20:15.479 --> 01:20:23.399
it almost doesn't feel negative. For example, you might get

1023
01:20:23.439 --> 01:20:25.800
it a little bit more nowadays, but if you go

1024
01:20:25.920 --> 01:20:30.560
into a shop here until recently, you would not hear

1025
01:20:30.640 --> 01:20:35.199
the words have a nice day. That was an alien

1026
01:20:35.520 --> 01:20:42.119
phrase in England. I've noticed it a little bit more

1027
01:20:43.560 --> 01:20:53.279
maybe have a good day. But it's because it's false

1028
01:20:53.520 --> 01:20:56.399
if it's in this country, it's false because English people

1029
01:20:56.560 --> 01:21:01.000
generally don't. Maybe the younger general do, but just my

1030
01:21:01.159 --> 01:21:06.800
generation or whatever, we don't say have a great days.

1031
01:21:07.960 --> 01:21:10.520
But I've noticed some younger people do seem to say it,

1032
01:21:11.319 --> 01:21:15.119
and it it's a little bit of a jolt for

1033
01:21:15.239 --> 01:21:18.600
me because I'm not used to it, because I never

1034
01:21:19.920 --> 01:21:23.760
My dad's generation didn't say it. My generation didn't say it,

1035
01:21:23.920 --> 01:21:26.840
my granddad's generation didn't say it, and I think the

1036
01:21:26.920 --> 01:21:29.520
generation after me didn't say it. But now maybe the

1037
01:21:29.600 --> 01:21:33.920
younger ones. I guess my grandchildren's generation if I had grandchildren,

1038
01:21:35.199 --> 01:21:40.279
and perhaps, But then sometimes it sounds a bit threatening,

1039
01:21:40.680 --> 01:21:44.960
like yeah, you have a good day, Like really, it

1040
01:21:45.000 --> 01:21:46.600
didn't sound like you want me to have a good day.

1041
01:21:47.439 --> 01:21:49.680
You take care of it, you look after yourself. Yeah

1042
01:21:50.760 --> 01:21:56.159
that sounds threatening. So yeah, I don't. I don't. That's

1043
01:21:56.279 --> 01:22:00.720
not how I was. It's not the England that I

1044
01:22:00.880 --> 01:22:06.399
kind of really grew up in. It was negative, but

1045
01:22:06.680 --> 01:22:13.600
not really negative. It just had to explain it and

1046
01:22:18.279 --> 01:22:21.000
it just passed down, wasn't it just passed down people?

1047
01:22:21.800 --> 01:22:24.600
I think it's quite natural for people just to talk,

1048
01:22:25.119 --> 01:22:28.079
have expressions, and they don't question anything. They just say

1049
01:22:28.159 --> 01:22:31.239
what they were taught to say, say what their parents said,

1050
01:22:31.800 --> 01:22:34.560
use the same expressions as their friends, and then just

1051
01:22:34.640 --> 01:22:40.159
go through life doing that. But other people might question,

1052
01:22:40.399 --> 01:22:44.399
like why am I saying this? I started doing that

1053
01:22:44.479 --> 01:22:48.760
probably in my late twenties. I stopped saying not too bad,

1054
01:22:50.840 --> 01:22:54.520
So I thought, this is really negative. This is this

1055
01:22:55.239 --> 01:22:57.840
I started to notice. I noticed I noticed when I

1056
01:22:57.960 --> 01:23:00.800
was a teenager, but I became a bit more aware

1057
01:23:00.840 --> 01:23:06.720
of it. And there's other things that are some statements

1058
01:23:06.880 --> 01:23:10.960
like oh, no good deed goes unpunished, or that's in

1059
01:23:11.039 --> 01:23:15.439
the same category as there's no smoke about fire. Just

1060
01:23:15.840 --> 01:23:19.640
stupid stupid sentences like that. It doesn't mean the person

1061
01:23:20.000 --> 01:23:24.520
who uses those sentences are stupid, but they're not useful.

1062
01:23:27.279 --> 01:23:31.880
It's not useful stuff to be saying, no good deed

1063
01:23:31.920 --> 01:23:34.640
goes unpunished. Okay, so don't do anything nice for anyone. Yeah,

1064
01:23:35.600 --> 01:23:39.239
no smoke about fire. So everybody is guilty because use

1065
01:23:39.239 --> 01:23:41.600
that's what it's usually used for, isn't it. So I's

1066
01:23:41.640 --> 01:23:45.079
being accused of something that they must be guilty. Okay, Well,

1067
01:23:45.199 --> 01:23:47.640
just get rid of the courts. Bring back the fire

1068
01:23:47.720 --> 01:23:55.920
in squads, baby, No, So what's the other one? Plan

1069
01:23:56.119 --> 01:24:00.399
for the plan for the best, but it's hope for

1070
01:24:00.479 --> 01:24:07.359
the best, but plan for the worst. Really no. Yeah,

1071
01:24:07.439 --> 01:24:09.760
so I don't really sign up for some of those

1072
01:24:10.359 --> 01:24:15.199
old sayings that some people still hold on to because

1073
01:24:15.439 --> 01:24:20.359
it's a negative country. And maybe it's because it's such

1074
01:24:20.399 --> 01:24:23.520
a gray country. Not the whole of the country, but

1075
01:24:25.399 --> 01:24:27.720
there's times of the year when it's just very gray

1076
01:24:28.760 --> 01:24:31.239
because we don't get a huge amount of sunshine. Even

1077
01:24:31.239 --> 01:24:34.359
though it's we're having a nice bit of sunshine now,

1078
01:24:35.319 --> 01:24:38.279
there's large parts of the year where because we have

1079
01:24:38.439 --> 01:24:45.840
seasons here and only one season is really well springs

1080
01:24:45.880 --> 01:24:48.880
not too bad. Actually not too bad. That's another expression,

1081
01:24:49.479 --> 01:24:55.520
not too bad? How are you not too bad? Still alive?

1082
01:24:56.840 --> 01:24:59.640
My dad says that I phone him up at this

1083
01:25:00.000 --> 01:25:03.560
so Daddy said, yeah, still above ground, Still above ground,

1084
01:25:04.520 --> 01:25:07.199
Like not something you want to hear. That he's in

1085
01:25:07.279 --> 01:25:11.720
the middle of having serious medical treatment at the moment,

1086
01:25:12.359 --> 01:25:15.279
four weeks of it. I know it's his humor and stuff,

1087
01:25:15.279 --> 01:25:19.880
but it's like his wife said to him, stop saying it, Daddy,

1088
01:25:21.239 --> 01:25:24.279
because it's weird. Wonder why she calls him daddy. That's strange.

1089
01:25:24.319 --> 01:25:31.359
And Jason's daddy, she calls him. M hm. I actually

1090
01:25:31.399 --> 01:25:34.359
send him when I send him Christmas cards or Birthday cards,

1091
01:25:34.920 --> 01:25:36.479
I just put his address on it and at the

1092
01:25:36.520 --> 01:25:44.079
top of us says dad, Dad, Daddy, that's his name, Daddy,

1093
01:25:44.159 --> 01:25:51.079
Dad Daddy. Trying to think of any other weird stuff

1094
01:25:51.199 --> 01:26:03.520
in the country. Uh, yeah, nobody likes rain, even though

1095
01:26:03.600 --> 01:26:06.680
technically it's one of the most important weathers that we have,

1096
01:26:07.640 --> 01:26:12.600
especially for the agri culture, you know, all the food

1097
01:26:12.640 --> 01:26:19.720
and stuff. But yeah, it's a universal dislike for rain.

1098
01:26:24.000 --> 01:26:27.960
But then another thing is sort of starting to think

1099
01:26:28.000 --> 01:26:31.720
of like, oh, it'll soon be Christmas. You'll hear that

1100
01:26:31.880 --> 01:26:36.920
in like February, ll soon be Christmas. Or if it's

1101
01:26:36.920 --> 01:26:40.359
a really nice day as it's soon be winter. It's

1102
01:26:40.399 --> 01:26:44.479
almost like by cheering them being negative to cheer yourself up.

1103
01:26:45.359 --> 01:26:47.680
It's a weird one, like or you're enjoying yourself on

1104
01:26:47.760 --> 01:26:50.680
the beach today. A couple of months time, will we

1105
01:26:50.880 --> 01:26:57.880
freezing cold? Yeah, it's I think it's just a I

1106
01:26:57.920 --> 01:27:02.960
think it's maybe just a humorous thing. It's I'll tell

1107
01:27:02.960 --> 01:27:05.199
you what we are good at England, and I don't

1108
01:27:05.239 --> 01:27:07.800
know other countries might be just as good here, but

1109
01:27:07.880 --> 01:27:11.880
I don't have anything to compare with. But what I

1110
01:27:12.039 --> 01:27:15.880
noticed that since I've lived here most of my life.

1111
01:27:15.920 --> 01:27:17.399
I've lived in island for a little bit, but I've

1112
01:27:17.439 --> 01:27:24.359
lived here my whole life pretty much gallows humor, and

1113
01:27:27.039 --> 01:27:30.560
it's just that kind of laughing in the fate. Well,

1114
01:27:30.960 --> 01:27:33.640
if you're not gallows humor as good, but if you don't,

1115
01:27:33.680 --> 01:27:38.840
then it's basically just it's called that because it's maybe

1116
01:27:38.960 --> 01:27:43.680
a very unpleasant experience or situation and managing to see

1117
01:27:44.159 --> 01:27:46.760
a joke in it, to make light of it, just

1118
01:27:46.840 --> 01:27:52.880
to make it more I don't know, palatable, I guess,

1119
01:27:53.279 --> 01:27:55.520
you know, just to make it a bit easier to

1120
01:27:55.960 --> 01:28:00.520
get through it. So I think gallow humors that the

1121
01:28:00.560 --> 01:28:08.319
English people tend to have inherited, being able to make

1122
01:28:08.399 --> 01:28:11.600
fun of situations and to say stuff that isn't true

1123
01:28:13.199 --> 01:28:18.520
but as a joke, you know. So, Like I was

1124
01:28:18.600 --> 01:28:23.279
talking to someone the other day and we were talking

1125
01:28:23.319 --> 01:28:32.079
about yeah it was it was in the lift, and

1126
01:28:32.199 --> 01:28:38.479
I was with this another neighbor, and this person was

1127
01:28:38.520 --> 01:28:43.199
talking about their father and how she'd go through this

1128
01:28:43.399 --> 01:28:48.039
big court case because her father had been mistreated in

1129
01:28:48.159 --> 01:28:54.399
this care home, which is super serious and everything. And

1130
01:28:54.520 --> 01:28:56.880
as we came out, she said, oh, I have to

1131
01:28:58.800 --> 01:29:01.760
she said, I have to remember that care home. I thought, okay,

1132
01:29:02.479 --> 01:29:05.439
you know, to make sure no one goes there. She said,

1133
01:29:05.479 --> 01:29:09.479
I try and send my mum there. But she was

1134
01:29:09.520 --> 01:29:13.000
just joking. It's just like because it was such a serious,

1135
01:29:13.720 --> 01:29:20.600
serious conversation and she was in hospital herself. She was

1136
01:29:20.600 --> 01:29:25.880
an oxygen so she really didn't need a super serious conversation.

1137
01:29:26.079 --> 01:29:29.600
And I've just been visiting Uncle's sausages and I'd seen

1138
01:29:29.680 --> 01:29:34.760
her as well. So it's that kind of humor that's

1139
01:29:34.920 --> 01:29:41.399
inappropriate but at the same time cuts through the tension

1140
01:29:43.319 --> 01:29:52.479
and gives maybe a momentary release, you know. And she

1141
01:29:52.640 --> 01:29:55.119
wasn't making fun of the situation. She wasn't making fun

1142
01:29:55.199 --> 01:29:59.279
of that. She was just it was a need to

1143
01:30:00.199 --> 01:30:03.159
gallows human that's all it is. I'm sure people that

1144
01:30:03.279 --> 01:30:05.359
worked on the gallows and that's people that used to

1145
01:30:06.760 --> 01:30:08.479
you look it up if you don't know what gallows is.

1146
01:30:10.600 --> 01:30:14.600
It's it's a way of dealing with the emotions. Really,

1147
01:30:16.439 --> 01:30:22.760
people deal with things differently. And I said, I'll see

1148
01:30:22.800 --> 01:30:25.560
if I can get uncle Sausages in there. I didn't,

1149
01:30:25.720 --> 01:30:31.680
and maybe I did. Maybe it's because some people get

1150
01:30:31.840 --> 01:30:35.479
confused and it's oh the subject. You if you talk

1151
01:30:35.520 --> 01:30:37.399
about subject, then you're making in front of the subject.

1152
01:30:37.520 --> 01:30:43.000
And it's not the case necessarily. It's just you're you're

1153
01:30:43.039 --> 01:30:48.039
making a situation absurd, something serious. Turn it into an

1154
01:30:48.079 --> 01:30:53.880
absurd thing to make it a bit more easier to digest. Perhaps,

1155
01:30:55.479 --> 01:30:59.920
But hey, I'm not here to it's not a tadlick

1156
01:31:00.479 --> 01:31:06.720
BlimE me dev asks me all no Tammy says, please

1157
01:31:06.760 --> 01:31:10.479
send loves and hugs to Uncle Sausages. Give Vinnie a

1158
01:31:10.520 --> 01:31:13.359
belly rub for me, and you're a big virtual hug

1159
01:31:13.439 --> 01:31:17.159
for being an awesome person at this moment I'm giving Vinnie.

1160
01:31:17.880 --> 01:31:20.000
He likes I tell you what he does like to

1161
01:31:20.039 --> 01:31:23.600
be rubbed. I shouldn't leave a big pause, the readier

1162
01:31:23.640 --> 01:31:28.119
they should. I he loves his chest being stroked. That's

1163
01:31:28.159 --> 01:31:32.600
almost like one of his favorite things. Ever. Honestly, I

1164
01:31:32.640 --> 01:31:38.000
think he'd lay there for hours just having his chest stroked. So, yeah,

1165
01:31:38.079 --> 01:31:40.840
that's his favorite things. I'm doing that now, Hey, Vy,

1166
01:31:41.359 --> 01:31:48.159
you only little chest stroked? Hey, yeah, he likes that,

1167
01:31:48.720 --> 01:31:54.399
so thank you tell me, And I'm hoping Uncle Sausages

1168
01:31:54.479 --> 01:32:00.239
is okay. He's going to just yeah, I'll probably talked

1169
01:32:00.279 --> 01:32:04.600
about him too much, but it's what I tend to do.

1170
01:32:04.720 --> 01:32:08.000
I talk about what's going on in my life. Dev

1171
01:32:08.159 --> 01:32:12.319
says best wishes for Uncle sausages. Just wondering have you

1172
01:32:13.279 --> 01:32:20.119
tried ready made Angel Delight dessert selling in Sainsbury's. I

1173
01:32:20.199 --> 01:32:22.159
wish i'd seen that before I did my order. I

1174
01:32:22.279 --> 01:32:26.960
just got a few groceries Angel Delight. I did not

1175
01:32:27.119 --> 01:32:31.560
even sold it anymore. I could do some. I tell

1176
01:32:31.560 --> 01:32:33.399
you what I used to like. The answer is no,

1177
01:32:35.279 --> 01:32:41.079
but I'm gonna. I'm definitely going to. Thanks Dev, tell

1178
01:32:41.119 --> 01:32:44.880
what I oh, what I want to do now I

1179
01:32:45.000 --> 01:32:47.960
can't do it. But what I want to do is

1180
01:32:48.479 --> 01:32:53.119
make myself a Nickerbocker Glory or some kind of Sunday

1181
01:32:53.199 --> 01:33:03.399
you know, So Angel Delight, some ice cream, maybe some

1182
01:33:03.640 --> 01:33:10.279
sponges like those little sponge fingers, fruit, so it won't

1183
01:33:10.319 --> 01:33:12.960
be a Nickerbocker Gloria as in a big tall thing,

1184
01:33:13.079 --> 01:33:16.520
but maybe just in a bowl, mix it together perhaps,

1185
01:33:17.479 --> 01:33:27.720
and some like a Cabri's flake. Yeah, I turn it's weird, right.

1186
01:33:29.279 --> 01:33:31.000
I don't know if you if you feel the same.

1187
01:33:32.800 --> 01:33:40.199
I like Cabri's flakes, but there's something about Cabri's flakes

1188
01:33:40.199 --> 01:33:45.720
when they're on an ice cream. See, I don't get

1189
01:33:45.800 --> 01:33:51.039
excited about Cabri's flake if I buy any shop. But

1190
01:33:51.159 --> 01:33:53.560
if I buy an ice cream, if I'm out at

1191
01:33:53.600 --> 01:33:55.640
the beach or you know, somewhere with ie buying an

1192
01:33:55.640 --> 01:34:03.560
ice cream, that flake becomes the most amazing thing in

1193
01:34:03.720 --> 01:34:06.560
the world. And it's only half a flake. It's not

1194
01:34:06.600 --> 01:34:11.439
even a full flake, generally, for half of a I

1195
01:34:11.560 --> 01:34:20.600
think it becomes the pivotal focus of my life. It's

1196
01:34:20.840 --> 01:34:24.319
the most exciting thing that's ever happened to anyone ever,

1197
01:34:25.319 --> 01:34:28.000
That chocolate flake in the ice cream at the top,

1198
01:34:28.159 --> 01:34:31.319
sticking out the ice cream. Well, without the chocolate flake,

1199
01:34:32.119 --> 01:34:37.239
ash just boring ice cream with the chocolate flake. It

1200
01:34:37.439 --> 01:34:48.359
is It's the universe. It is just infinite happiness. It's weird,

1201
01:34:48.399 --> 01:34:55.199
isn't it. Don't you think I want an ice cream now?

1202
01:34:55.279 --> 01:35:00.680
For some reason? This is bad? Okay, it's too bad.

1203
01:35:00.760 --> 01:35:04.640
But and I've been given permission, Okay, so it's not

1204
01:35:04.760 --> 01:35:08.600
like I'm doing anything wrong. But Uncle Sausages said that

1205
01:35:08.640 --> 01:35:10.600
I can just help myself to what's in this freezer.

1206
01:35:11.760 --> 01:35:14.000
And I looked in this freezer yesterday because I had

1207
01:35:14.039 --> 01:35:15.960
to go in there. I didn't have to go in

1208
01:35:16.039 --> 01:35:17.680
a freezer, but I had to go in there to

1209
01:35:17.880 --> 01:35:23.600
sign a thing, and he got some. They're not Cornetto's,

1210
01:35:23.640 --> 01:35:35.560
but they're Sainsbury's versions of Cornetto's, and I think I

1211
01:35:35.800 --> 01:35:40.920
might I'm thinking of going and getting one, but he

1212
01:35:41.000 --> 01:35:43.439
did say to me, help yourself because he's not eating them.

1213
01:35:43.800 --> 01:35:47.000
And I can't take frozen stuff into the hospital because

1214
01:35:47.000 --> 01:35:49.000
I've been melted. By the time I get there, I'll

1215
01:35:49.079 --> 01:35:51.760
just be a mush. I'll just be a trail of

1216
01:35:53.119 --> 01:35:57.319
ice cream dripping out of my pocket. Because that's why

1217
01:35:57.359 --> 01:36:00.640
I would put the cornetto in my pocket. I probably

1218
01:36:00.640 --> 01:36:09.680
wouldn't help to keep it frozen with it. Vinnie's been

1219
01:36:09.680 --> 01:36:12.039
a good boy today, he said a little bit of

1220
01:36:12.079 --> 01:36:15.640
a bark earlier, but generally the rest of the day

1221
01:36:15.680 --> 01:36:18.239
has been good, haven't you, Vinny, You've been a good

1222
01:36:18.279 --> 01:36:23.600
little boy. I'd tell you another feel like, Oh, there

1223
01:36:23.720 --> 01:36:26.560
was a thing when I was a kid. There was

1224
01:36:26.680 --> 01:36:32.079
this squirty stuff that you could put on ice cream,

1225
01:36:35.199 --> 01:36:41.279
and it was chocolate or chocolate with let's say mint

1226
01:36:41.359 --> 01:36:47.520
flavored chocolate, and it would go hard. Yeah, you just

1227
01:36:47.600 --> 01:36:52.399
basically squirt it on the ice cream. And it would

1228
01:36:54.680 --> 01:36:59.439
freeze quite quickly hard, so if you are sloppy, and

1229
01:36:59.520 --> 01:37:03.119
then it'd be a crust. He'd have to break through

1230
01:37:03.199 --> 01:37:09.159
the chocolate to get to the ice cream. I liked that.

1231
01:37:09.560 --> 01:37:15.439
I really really liked that so much. But then other

1232
01:37:15.560 --> 01:37:21.000
companies started producing it, maybe the supermarkets made their own version,

1233
01:37:21.319 --> 01:37:24.760
and it didn't work. It just sort of just laid

1234
01:37:24.840 --> 01:37:29.359
there like a puddle of poo. I don't know, it

1235
01:37:29.760 --> 01:37:34.000
just laid that. It wasn't a nice it didn't get

1236
01:37:34.039 --> 01:37:37.720
all hard, and you know, it's like, what's the point

1237
01:37:40.640 --> 01:37:42.359
but that? And I don't remember what it's called. It

1238
01:37:42.399 --> 01:37:47.079
had a specific name, and it was brilliant. I can

1239
01:37:47.199 --> 01:37:54.239
even slightly remember the packaging. It was so good, but

1240
01:37:54.319 --> 01:37:56.640
don't know what happened to it if it seemed still around.

1241
01:38:03.800 --> 01:38:07.000
Worse worse things happen at sea. That's another thing I

1242
01:38:07.119 --> 01:38:09.720
used to hear a lot when other kid Now that's

1243
01:38:09.800 --> 01:38:17.840
not that was just weird, just things like that. Another

1244
01:38:17.880 --> 01:38:20.560
thing like that. This'd be like this, these sayings that

1245
01:38:20.640 --> 01:38:23.920
people would say to each other, almost like it was

1246
01:38:24.119 --> 01:38:26.199
they said it for the first time or heard it

1247
01:38:26.319 --> 01:38:28.760
for the first time, but they probably all both heard

1248
01:38:28.800 --> 01:38:31.439
and said it hundreds of times before in their life,

1249
01:38:32.000 --> 01:38:34.520
yet found it hilarious to say it, and they'd say

1250
01:38:34.520 --> 01:38:37.840
it and then they'd laugh like, ah, maybe not like that.

1251
01:38:38.079 --> 01:38:45.359
But one example, if someone said, oh in hell, you know, swearing,

1252
01:38:45.640 --> 01:38:50.000
but like maybe they'd stubbed their toe or lost their

1253
01:38:50.079 --> 01:38:54.600
car or whatever and lost their family in the poker

1254
01:38:54.640 --> 01:38:59.880
game out it's just something minimal and it's oh in hell,

1255
01:39:00.119 --> 01:39:03.680
and someone else that could heard and Saya said, Oh,

1256
01:39:03.720 --> 01:39:14.840
I hope so, because there's no TV there right right right, Okay.

1257
01:39:16.680 --> 01:39:20.000
I mean the first time it probably was absolutely hilarious,

1258
01:39:21.760 --> 01:39:26.479
but after five six hundred times of saying it, you

1259
01:39:26.560 --> 01:39:30.319
know what I mean in it? Hm? Hm, you get me.

1260
01:39:31.880 --> 01:39:34.520
I don't know. There was this I remember there there

1261
01:39:34.600 --> 01:39:37.600
this bloke at work. I had this job in a

1262
01:39:38.119 --> 01:39:43.359
factory and for some reason he decided to attempt to

1263
01:39:43.479 --> 01:39:46.760
pick on me blessing. And I was a young bloke.

1264
01:39:46.800 --> 01:39:50.039
I was in my early twenties, my twenty one probably,

1265
01:39:51.079 --> 01:39:52.960
and he used to shout stuff out from the other

1266
01:39:53.039 --> 01:39:55.720
side of the room. It's a big old room, and

1267
01:39:55.880 --> 01:39:59.920
he decided to call me ugly and it was an

1268
01:40:00.000 --> 01:40:05.800
we drunk he was he was he was drunk, and

1269
01:40:05.880 --> 01:40:07.439
I kind of put up with it for a little while,

1270
01:40:09.600 --> 01:40:12.520
but he kept shouting stuff out and then laughing hysterically.

1271
01:40:15.319 --> 01:40:20.760
No supervisor to say anything, and in the end I

1272
01:40:20.840 --> 01:40:25.159
got a little bit annoyed a little bit, so I

1273
01:40:25.279 --> 01:40:30.479
turned around and I started speaking, and everyone stopped working

1274
01:40:30.560 --> 01:40:33.680
and watched. There was only like six of us in there,

1275
01:40:33.720 --> 01:40:37.039
so it wasn't like there was all seven thousand people

1276
01:40:37.399 --> 01:40:41.000
in the stadium. It's just a few people. And I

1277
01:40:41.079 --> 01:40:48.039
shouted over to him. I said, hi, I said, do

1278
01:40:48.159 --> 01:40:52.119
you wanna okay, I used, I used nice words. Do

1279
01:40:52.199 --> 01:40:56.079
you want to sleep with me? Martin? That might be

1280
01:40:56.239 --> 01:40:58.479
his name, it was his name. Do you want to

1281
01:40:58.520 --> 01:41:01.800
sleep with me Martin? I said no. I said, well,

1282
01:41:01.840 --> 01:41:05.520
why do you care what I look like? And the

1283
01:41:05.600 --> 01:41:09.079
rest of the people in there clapped and cheered, carried

1284
01:41:09.119 --> 01:41:13.479
me on their shoulders. All around London, you know, there

1285
01:41:13.600 --> 01:41:16.720
was open top buses of people, fireworks going off. It

1286
01:41:16.800 --> 01:41:19.720
was brilliant. So I was quite pleased with that at

1287
01:41:19.760 --> 01:41:23.600
the time, and after that he was nice to me.

1288
01:41:25.439 --> 01:41:28.520
Turned out he did want to sleep with me. Yeah.

1289
01:41:28.560 --> 01:41:30.720
We were together for about five years. It was lovely.

1290
01:41:32.239 --> 01:41:34.159
Oh it's a weird though, isn't it. So when you've

1291
01:41:34.199 --> 01:41:37.359
got a story like an origin story, you know, in

1292
01:41:37.399 --> 01:41:40.359
the beginning of a relationship that was always a bit weird.

1293
01:41:41.079 --> 01:41:45.520
So how did you and Martin meet? You and Jason? Okay, Well,

1294
01:41:46.880 --> 01:41:51.560
Martin was being horrible to me. I never had a relationship.

1295
01:41:54.079 --> 01:41:56.119
I wonder how much stuff of what I say people

1296
01:41:56.239 --> 01:42:01.600
believe that the first bit was true, that story did happen.

1297
01:42:01.680 --> 01:42:06.399
But he was, he did, he did become kind of friends. Actually,

1298
01:42:08.880 --> 01:42:11.520
I just don't. I think he just couldn't control his mouth.

1299
01:42:12.800 --> 01:42:16.840
Once you realize that it's it's not really because it's

1300
01:42:16.920 --> 01:42:20.960
weird because someone was in his probably fifties, late forties, fifties,

1301
01:42:21.000 --> 01:42:24.399
probably about my age, and he was mouth and after

1302
01:42:24.520 --> 01:42:28.960
people in their twenties. It's never a good idea, you know.

1303
01:42:29.199 --> 01:42:34.840
It's almost like a ridiculous thing to do, because the

1304
01:42:34.880 --> 01:42:38.680
odds are against you, against a young person in their prime,

1305
01:42:39.680 --> 01:42:44.359
against an old fart like me, you know. So yeah,

1306
01:42:44.560 --> 01:42:48.640
it's see, I'm aware of that, but he didn't seem

1307
01:42:48.680 --> 01:42:53.680
to be aware of it, because the you could defume

1308
01:42:53.880 --> 01:43:03.800
it's quite weird. Actually, because my job was wiping frozen meat,

1309
01:43:05.159 --> 01:43:07.239
trying to get the ice off so that the person

1310
01:43:07.359 --> 01:43:09.079
next to me, I put it on the scales. The

1311
01:43:09.159 --> 01:43:12.119
person next to me would then get the ticket. The

1312
01:43:12.199 --> 01:43:14.119
weight of it, the ticket would caut of machine and

1313
01:43:14.159 --> 01:43:16.720
then put the ticket onto the meat. My job was

1314
01:43:16.760 --> 01:43:18.720
to make that bit of an area so that he

1315
01:43:18.760 --> 01:43:22.039
could get the ticket on. So I'd be scraping and

1316
01:43:22.079 --> 01:43:24.800
it'd be hard work for me. Martin. He just breathed

1317
01:43:24.840 --> 01:43:28.520
on the meat and it just melted once. The whole

1318
01:43:28.600 --> 01:43:33.119
thing just melted and turned into a into a mush.

1319
01:43:34.239 --> 01:43:36.520
A whole leg of lamb just melted in front of him.

1320
01:43:36.840 --> 01:43:39.000
In fact, he cooked it. We had just had time

1321
01:43:39.039 --> 01:43:41.720
to eat. It was lovely. Just breathe on that, Martin.

1322
01:43:43.000 --> 01:43:48.560
I want to see. It was like a walking barbecue. Oh, anyway,

1323
01:43:48.640 --> 01:43:52.159
I'm going to go. So I talked enough about silly

1324
01:43:52.239 --> 01:43:55.960
things and serious things that I try I don't want

1325
01:43:56.079 --> 01:44:00.079
these recordings to be serious. I genuinely don't try and

1326
01:44:00.159 --> 01:44:04.600
keep it as light as possible. It's I think one

1327
01:44:04.600 --> 01:44:07.159
of the problems is when I'm talking about my life,

1328
01:44:08.000 --> 01:44:11.600
this is the main thing that's going on in my

1329
01:44:11.800 --> 01:44:17.439
life at the moment, So therefore it's the thing that

1330
01:44:17.760 --> 01:44:20.520
I guess I'm going to be focusing on, you know

1331
01:44:20.560 --> 01:44:27.640
what I mean. So there we have it or there.

1332
01:44:27.680 --> 01:44:29.119
We have it. We have it, we have it, we

1333
01:44:29.239 --> 01:44:35.760
have it, So thank you for listening. Remember to be

1334
01:44:35.880 --> 01:44:38.520
kind to yourself because you do deserve to be happy

1335
01:44:40.399 --> 01:44:43.840
and be gentle with yourself. You deserve to feel safe.

1336
01:44:45.760 --> 01:44:49.039
Lots of love, bye,