May 27, 2025

(music) PLEASANT MEMORIES | Let me bore your pain away #35 | Jason Newland | 27th May 2025

(music) PLEASANT MEMORIES | Let me bore your pain away #35 | Jason Newland | 27th May 2025
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Hello, and welcome to Jasonnewland dot com. My name's Jason

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new Land, and this is let me boil your pain away.

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Please only listen when you can safely close your eyes.

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So this is a chronic pain relief session. Really, I'm

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going to talk about, you know, just a few ideas. Now,

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It's really important that before you listen to this recording,

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you first of all know because of that physical pain,

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So you do need to have had a diagnosis from

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a doctor, a medical practitioner, you know, someone like that specialist.

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And also you need to get permission from a doctor

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gp medical specialist before listening to this. So saying that

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I'll get on with it, they will get on with it.

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It's very early in the morning. Blimey gosh. It's five

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forty seven am on Tuesday, the twenty seventh of May

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twenty twenty five. I'm still fifty four, still fifty. I'm

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holding on to being fifty four. I never thought that

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would happen end of August fifty five, so I'm not

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really in a hurry for the year to go by.

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I'm happy for the next couple of months, June and July.

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I'm happy for them to just to relax fully flutter by.

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So Finny is fast asleep in bed, and I've been

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creeping around trying not to wake him up, because once

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he's awake, he has a bit of energy first thing

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in the morning sometimes and it might start hustling me

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and wanting to do something, and so hopefully he'll stay

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in there in bed, and I've closed the door in here.

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I've been very quiet. So this is about chronic pain,

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and I should explain the difference between chronic pain and

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acute pain for those that are not aware of what

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the difference is. Basically, acute pain would be when there's

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something that needs medical attention. You know, generally now that

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would be acute pain. Appendicitis is a really good example

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of that. Or a pain in the chest is something

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that should always you know, be taken seriously and go

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to the doctor's called an ambulance or whatever, especially you

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know if you're ancient like me. But you know, it's

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thinks certain things. Acute pain compared to chronic pain, which

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would be classed as really pain you don't need. It's

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like unnecessary pain. So your body's healed the warnings because

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it's just a warning of danger. That's what it is

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is just to let you let you know to be

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careful with that part of your body or that there's

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something wrong. Maybe for example, you break your leg, you

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break your arm or whatever something like that. You know

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it's painful, but it's painful for a reason because it

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needs medical attention. You know, if there's a break in

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your body, especially like a limb, if it doesn't get fixed,

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or a dislocation needs to be undislocated and then it

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doesn't hurt anymore, or it might be sore, but you

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know it won't be like it was. So it's just

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it's basic, isn't it really? Obviously he needs you need

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it's getting your attention. It's like a crying baby, it's

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getting your attention. Chronic pain is afterwards, when you've healed.

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It's not needed. I mean, technically, there's that little middle

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bit that I think of when I think of broken arms,

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broken legs, postop, when you know you're fine or even

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I don't like to say it, but you know the

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end of life or illnesses diseases that are there, you

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know that that can't be maybe changed. So there's chronic

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pain involved. Maybe, I mean sometimes there's acuter pain as well.

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But so fibromyalgia, chronic pain, arthritis, chronic pain. But it's

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not needed, if you know what I mean. It's not

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something so I have our price in my lower back.

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There's no warning danger signals needed for me because it's

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what it is. It's a danger signal, and it's not

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needed because I know what it is and that's all

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it is. So I don't know why I'm trying to

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explain this, So I guess I'm trying to understand themselves.

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It's still a bit of a weird subject, really, Oh,

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it is an interesting thing. He's too a lot because

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I'm fascinated with the subject of chronic pain. I'm more

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interested in reducing it, but I'm just in fascinated by

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the whole thing. Here's two bits of trivia for you. Okay, okay,

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So with hypnosis, uh, let's have a look. No, that's

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not what I want, right. I don't know if you knew,

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but hypnosis was used for pain relief. I go even

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further than that. Hypnosis was used quite regularly to help

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people to anathetize or to at least relax or calm

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down during operations, before there was anything else that could

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be helped you know, it's either that or give them

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a bop on the head with a hammer, you know,

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or drink until they passed out. So there was a

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time and then I think just checking the correct drug.

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Ether was discovered, and this was eighteen hundred and something,

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so basically hypnosis is being used. Then epha a chemical

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anesthetic which acts on brain receptors which shuts down your

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awareness of kind of what's going on. I guess it

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was easier, much easier. So hypnosis was just knocked on ahead,

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just like as far as surgical hypnosis went, didn't bother

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anymore because I didn't need to add EFA, didn't need it,

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didn't need hypnosis for pain relief EFA. So drugs from

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then on took over. It's just easier. And yeah, I

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mean to be fair, if other than if I was

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going to have a ceration, if it was choice between

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hypnosis or drugs, so I'll choose the drugs knock me out.

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I'm not interested in being awake, you know, just honest,

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that's true. I had my appendix out when I was

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the twelve. Yeah, i'd want to be unconscious for that. Yeah, thanks,

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But unfortunately it kind of put things back for hypnosis

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in chronic pain because it I mean, you know, hypnotists

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still continued to help people with chronic pain, still continue

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to advance it and develop it, and you know, study

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as I do, as I am kind of in my

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own little way to find different ways of addressing it,

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different ways of using utilizing the coming. Technically, this isn't hypnosis,

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but you know it's it's still using the same process,

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still using emotions, still using imagination, still using expectation, you

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know that kind of stuff, as well as education. I

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don't mean that it's like I'm educating you. I don't

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mean it like that. I mean, just give you a

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bit of information that you may not often had before.

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But the other thing that I just find is fascinating. Okay,

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I'm looking it up because I know what it is,

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but I don't want to get the information wrong. Okay, okay, okay, Right,

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So this is to do with chronic pain. Right here

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we go. So let's did didn't do mm hmm Okay,

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I got that wrong then, Nope. I thought guillotine I

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was connected to had sort of pain relief. H that's weird.

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Oh yeah. Joseph Eagerness, He's very Eagerness guillotine. While he

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didn't explicitly work with on chronic pain relief and medical sense,

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his core philosophy was deeply rooted and reducing unnecessary pain.

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The quilotine as a form of pain relief. So before

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it's introduction, before it's the introduction, executions in trance were

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often gruesome and drawn out. Guillotine proposed a method that

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would ensure instant death, meaning zero physical suffering. In theory.

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His reason was both medical and moral. Let us end barbarism. Wow,

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so you know, uh, yeah, I'm going this. There is

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a guillotine, a person called guillotine involved in h yeah,

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there was something to do with it, is there's that.

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I think there's a like a whole thing then a guillotine.

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By the way, you know how he died on a guillotine,

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No he didn't. So yeah, as I just got caught

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away with that one, caught away, caught up, drawn away.

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Just found that funny, just the idea that someone that

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created a machine like that would be interested in relieving suffering.

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That that kind of is the reason why he did it,

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because he wanted to to cause less pain. And mm hmmm,

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I don't know, it's I mean it makes sense. I mean,

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it is logical kind of. I suppose a modern day

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version that would be to send the missile from space

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to the person that I don't know. It's so it's

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a very very over long description of pain, relief and

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blah blah blah, without even having got to the point

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of why I was doing this recording in the first place. However,

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how do you feel now? Even though I've just been

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gobbling on about whatever it is I've been talking about,

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how do you feel? How do you feel emotionally? How

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do you feel physically? How's your mind right now? Is

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your mind calmer, less activity, less chitter chatter? Does your

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body feel more relaxed? Maybe that part of your body

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that felt maybe had unpleasant feelings. Maybe you feel different

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now than you did before. Now, there's a technique for relaxation,

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which not just relaxation, but there's this is a I

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wanna use a word technique, but it's something that can

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be used where you think back to a previous time

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in your life, a memory, as it were. So in

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the case of relaxing, so relax in case of wanting

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to relax, you imagine maybe a time when you were

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on holiday, maybe lying on a beach or on a

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sun bed at the side of the hotel, barbecue or

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swimming pool. I think for me, i'd be a barbecue.

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I definitely prefer food over swimming, especially as I don't swim.

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I wouldn't want to be too close to the barbecue,

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also not too far away. I want to be close

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enough so that the person cooking can bring it to

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me and hold it while I take bites out of

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the burger. I'm on holiday. Plus, it's my fantasy. It's

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my fantasy. I'm allowed to be fed in my own fantasy.

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At least I'm chewing my food. It's not like I'm

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getting someone to chew it and spit in my mouth,

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is it. So that's super lazy, so you know, and

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also a little bit disgusted. Possibly, I don't know. Maybe

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the animals do it. I did it for Andre sometimes anyway,

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birds do it, squirrels do it. Even tiny shoes do it.

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So by thinking back to a memory, it's not just

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about thinking of something from the past, but our brains

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kind of don't know the difference between a that and now.

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It's a weird thing. Is like when you focus, if

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you spend all day long, just focusing and imagining you

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were lying down, relaxed in a beautiful You're like your

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perfect place, wherever that is. It might be in the

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snow on a mountain. You know, everyone's different, So wherever

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your perfect places, I mean, it might be balancing on

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the edge of a volcano weirdo, but you know it

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could be. If that's what you like, then great, Why

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would you do that though? I mean, I imagine it's

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quite on a cold day, it keeps you warm, but

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blind me get some thick socks and a hat. So

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if you just if you use to do that all

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day long, imagine that scenario where you were completely relaxed.

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Your brain would not know the difference, Your body would

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not know the difference. You would have all those feelings,

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all those physical sensations, possibly the same thoughts, the same emotions,

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the same expectations as if you were there, like literally there.

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So when you think about that, realizing that that's how

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powerful our imagination is. So something we think about can

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actually cause the body, can cause the brain to believe

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that that's what's really going on, and that's where we are.

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It's almost like we're telling the brain I want those

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feelings and the brain just gives it to you. Because ultimately,

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the brain is in control of how you feel. It's

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the control center, it's the engine, it's the computer, it's

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all that stuff or whatever you want to call it.

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But you, your mind, you you, you, you personality, person

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that you're the one that controls the brain and it's

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not even the controls controlled like do this, do that?

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You work together. You know, your body, your mind, your brain,

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unconscious mind, your conscious mind, your toenails. You know, it's

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all one, but there's different parts do different things. So

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by thinking about something, so you're not actually saying to

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your brain, now, I'd like you to think to have

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these personal physical sensations. I want you to imagine my

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knees are becoming hairy. I don't know why you would

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want to imagine your needs becoming hairy. That sounds like

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a bit of a strange thing to be doing, but

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each to their own. I'm not one to judge, unless,

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of course, you want to imagine that your needs are

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getting hairy, then I will judge. Actually, sorry, there's a line.

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There's a line. I won't cross. Leave your knees alone.

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They're hairy enough. So if you I don't I've got

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any hairs on my knees. But the opposite, It's also true.

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You focus on a negative or just an unpleasant experience,

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and you're telling your brain, we want more of that, please,

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a bit more that please. And the more you think

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about that, the more your brain realizes, oh, that's what

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you want, and it starts to give it to you

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a little bit like the YouTube algorithm or adverts on

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Google or Facebook, you know. I mean there are times

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that I just get the more the more you look

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for something, or you click on an advert or you

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click on something, the more that stuff you get, don't you?

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On Facebook? And also YouTube? I mean, I couldn't believe

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it on YouTube the other day. I was just doing

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a little bit of research, so a little bit of

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I like to educate myself if I can. Always, you know,

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even at this advanced stage of nine hundred years old,

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still looking to learn new things. So I spent I

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don't know, a day decide I'm going to learn a

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different subject. This was about about three weeks ago. Okay,

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even now, even though I've not really you know, I'm

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just gone back to my normal kind of viewing. I'm

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still getting inundated with hand expression lactating videos, you know,

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self expression tutorials. I was like, start sending this stuff

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to me. But YouTube is very much It's like that

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if you look at something, you look at a few

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videos or maybe a few hundred, and it just gives

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you more of that. And that's how the brain is.

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It's kind of like an algorithm. It learns from what

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you do, what we do, and it just expects that

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what we think about is what we want to think

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about more. And when you realize that, when you realize

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that our brain work kind of similar in some ways

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to the YouTube algorithm or the Facebook advertising algorithm. I mean,

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the amount of what do they call this penis enlargement

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adverts on Facebook, like continuously. I don't know why, how

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don't it's annoying anyway? So yeah, I just got to

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come up one pop up now go away. Okay, that's

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a good price. Wow, eighty percent discount? All right, I'll

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save that one. So it's oh god, right, I think

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that's quite interesting. I know this is supposed to be boring,

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but I think I've just broken that rule and become

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super interesting instantly the algorithm. Maybe I should use the

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Facebook algorithm or the YouTube algorithm as a you know,

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it could be Instagram, it could be TikTok. To go

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on TikTok, but I guess it's the same for TikTok

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if you show an interest in I don't know, I

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don't know what the latest trends are on TikTok. But

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let's say it's hang gliding and eating a full English

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breakfast at the same time, I don't know, dressed as

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a chicken. So whatever the latest craze is, if you

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go on to them, maybe go on to couple of videos.

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Suddenly you're going to be sent loads of those videos,

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or maybe you're into something a bit more obscure, something

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that maybe you didn't even know. There was a lot

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of stuff about that. So on YouTube, if you go

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to yeah, if you put in nineteen seventy sitcoms and

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full episodes let's say Step Step Tone Son or Sorry,

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which was with Ronnie Corbett, full episodes, and that will

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come up and you might find some And then does

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YouTuber start like sending my say when I say sending them,

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and then I actually, you know, knocking on the door,

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so I had to have another episode here. You'd like

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to look at it, but they're pushing it, you know,

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kind of look, look, look at this, and I end

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up seeing stuff that didn't even know was on YouTube

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or old TV shows that I've not seen for decades,

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some even forgotten about. So the if you think about

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it like this, that what you think about, the memories

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that you think about from the past, you're or just

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generally what you're thinking about. What you think about is

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almost like a command to your brain to give you

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more of that. But it's very subtle or sub at all.

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I think the bee is silent, So I think some

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people do use to be what did what did I

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hear someone say the other day? They said a word,

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but they said it wrong. They used there was a

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silent letter, and they used a side of letter. I

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mean in this country where we are coming from, h

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is silent in ouse. But I guess it depends where

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you're from. What was that word? I'm forgetting, I'm forgetting

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what the word was? I mean that could be part

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of how, why? How? Why it's not in a proper

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sentence of it? How and why? Maybe listening to me

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helps now it? Could you know? That could be It

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could be the reason that you can experience a sense

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of relief, a sense of calmness. And you know, just

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by relaxation, it reduces any physical discomfort by pretty much

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fifty percent there straight away, just from relaxing, without even

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any kind of focus on you know, any kind of

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technique or particular special process, thinking process, or you know,

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without doing anything, just relaxing can have a super positive effect,

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not just a positive, but super positive. Now, I'm not

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really sure what super positive means. I guess it just

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means it's positive and you feel super about it. So

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if someone says, how positive do you feel so the unpositive, well,

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how do you feel about feeling positive? I feel super?

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I don't know, maybe maybe it's the wrong word. No,

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it still still feels right, feels right. So what you

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think about is almost affecting. It's telling your brain to

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think more about that stuff. So technically you could if

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you've got a part of your body that you you

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can remember felt fine in the past, let me think,

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how would that be useful? You see what I mean?

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You can imagine that part of your body how relaxed

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it felt. Maybe it was twenty years ago, maybe it

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was yesterday, maybe it was thirty forty fifty years ago,

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just a memory that you have, maybe lots of different memories.

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And the thing about it is, I don't know about you,

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but daydreaming is quite nice, just having a little bit

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of a fantasy, a little bit m not just said

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a fantasy, but just letting your mind wander a bit,

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but semi focused. So so you're you're letting your mind wander,

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So it's a fantasy with a semi you know, you're

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there with a semi focusing on past times when that

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part of your body, maybe a particular part of your body,

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felt really really comfortable, but not just one time, but

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multiple times, thinking only of positive events from the past,

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which if you're three thousand years old like me, there'll

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be plenty of times to think about loads of past

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memories where it's not even a case of like it

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could just be that part of your body felt fine. Okay,

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So with me, it's my lower back. I can remember

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times when I felt relaxed. It's not that I'm saying

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I'll think of a time when you felt like really

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amazing in that part of your body, because I don't

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have any memories of me ever walking around screaming with

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ecstasy because of my lower back felt so great, like

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you know, running around, Oh everyone in my back. Oh oh,

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it feels amazing. It's like a cloud tickling me. It's

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you know, it's it's never it's never felt that good.

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I mean, it's felt nice and relaxed, and there's definitely

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relief and release and a sense of pleasure. I've got.

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I've got this tendency of it becomes a little bit

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itchy inside. Not itchy needing to scratch it, but that's

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there's that little point where inside it's just a little

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bit a little bit itchy. And sometimes as I focus

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on it now it changes straight away. There's that little

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itchiness inside that body part. As I said, you don't

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need to scratch your skin or anything like that. It's

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a different kind of itch. It's I guess, more pleasurable.

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When itches are more pleasurable when you scratch the monthly,

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that's the pleasure you get from a scratching an itch.

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This is it doesn't need scratching. Maybe maybe it's the

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itch after it's been scratched. Maybe it's that feeling, that

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feeling of oh oh, I mean, whatever sound you make,

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I mean you might sound like a hyaena. I don't know.

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You may be a hyaena, but it'sakes all sorts. You know,

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I'm here for everyone, and I'm still focusing on my

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lower back. Whenever I focus on inside that little itchy side,

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a little itchy feeling doesn't need scratching. But when it's

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inside my lower back, my lower back feels fine. If

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you feel fine when that feelings there. H So I

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suppose an exercise you could do is just spend a

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bit of time and we could do that now, just

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spend a bit of time thinking about times when you know,

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let's focus on one particular part of your body. If

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you're like where that part of your body felt completely relaxed,

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and it could be recently. You can go all the

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way back to maybe a time before when there was

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never ever any issues at all with that part of

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your body, and just focus on how it felt. And

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then think at different times when you perhaps with in

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a really good mood, you were enjoying yourself, there was

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physical pleasure. Maybe yeah, And it's your imagination, so you

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can think of any any situations you want. Oh yeah,

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you think about that. See, yeah, you can really think

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of some interesting memories. I'm going to test this I'm

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not going to tell you what I'm thinking about, and

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he won't know. Boy, no, because obviously you it's in

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my brain. But I think about something while I focus

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on my lower backs, see if it helps it all,

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and I think of like a personal memory. But you know,

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I'll keep his secrets. He won't know what it is.

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Oh oh yeah, oh yeah, keep doing that. Oh, I

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can't make it any biggers as big as it gets.

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Oh oh, stop focusing on size. Come on. Oh oh yeah,

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what do you mean you're disappointed. Yeah, that's the longest

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I've ever gone so far. M hm. Oh so yeah,

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I drifted off a bit there, so yeah, so as

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I was silently imagining that memory, a pleasant memory. Yeah,

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my lower back, it feels very very loose, very loose.

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In fact, it feels like, yes, why, it's like there's

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not even any blood in there. It's weird or my

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chair just rattled. Huh. I feel quite tired now. But yeah,

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you can just think about stuff during the day. You

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don't need me. I mean I could technically by spending

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some time focusing on pleasant experiences. It might be easier

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when I'm not you haven't got me talking in the background.

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But at the same time, you may notice or discover

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that something different has happened, and you may not know why.

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You may not understand how listening to me just talking

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could be of any benefit, how listening to a recording

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like this can actually have a positive impact on your

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well being, How you feel right now, how you feel differently,

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how the physicality those physical sensations change as you relax

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more and more. So, I think it's time for me

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to have my breakfast and have some ready break So

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when I finished this, I'm going to go go into

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the kitchen, put the catalog, put some fresh or in

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a kettle, put the kettle on, and then make sure

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the bowls clean. So I rinsed the bowl at the

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bowls clean, but rinse it out. I always have to

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rinse out bowls for I use them and put some

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milk in. Stick that in a microwave for two minutes

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and twenty seconds. Then I wait until the kettle's boiled.

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Put a tea bag into my mug. Something. I don't

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wait until the kettle's boored. Always sometimes I put the

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tea bag in before the kettle's boiled, and then I

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poured the water onto the tea bag. Into the cup.

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And then what I do is I just pour a

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little dash of milk in there, so the tea can

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you know, a tea bag, and the milk and all

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kind of you know, work its magic. And then I

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go into the bathroom and make myself look beautiful. And

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then ten hours later the milk's cold. It's weird. Now

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I just do my little things, you know, do we rease,

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brush my teeth, cleaning my face. I admire admire myself

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in the mirror for a few minutes. It's hard not to, really,

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especially with all those mirrors I've got, the ones on

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the ceiling. It's very strange being in a bath and

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seeing yourself on the mirror, in the mirror other on

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the ceiling. What a strange place to put a mirror.

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Remember that's what the council people said when they came

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to look at the flat to see what I've done

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with that. What strange place to put a mirror, they

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said to me. I said, it's not that strange. I said,

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We've never you know, I've been doing this show for

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what twenty three years, and I've never seen anyone put

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a mirror on their bathroom ceiling. I said, well, I

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don't need permission to do it, I said. She said, no,

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you don't, but I just never see anyone do it before.

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It's okay. Uh so she said, no, so nothing, just

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just I'd mentioned it. So well, now tell me something nice.

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What do you mean. I used to do that with

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my friend. Whatever he said something negative, I'd say something.

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I say something nice. So he said, if he told

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me something you didn't like, So now tell me something

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that you do like you used to wind them, wind

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him up and did bless right, I'm going to go

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that might be something that you could do or we

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all could might benefit from. So whenever we catch ourselves

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being negative, force ourselves to think or to say something positive,

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almost like as a little punishment. So thank you for listening.

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Remember to be kind to yourself because you do deserve

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to be happy and be gentle with yourself. You deserve

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to feel safe. Lots of love, Bye,