June 1, 2025

(music) PING PONG | Let me bore your pain away #36 | Jason Newland | 1st June 2025

(music) PING PONG | Let me bore your pain away #36 | Jason Newland | 1st June 2025
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Hello, and welcome to Jasonewland dot com. My name's Jason Newland.

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This is a chronic pain relief session. Stress and pain relief.

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Please only listen when you can safely close your eyes,

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and I only ever listen to not just my recordings

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for chronic pain, but any recordings ever. I only listen

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when you've got permission from your doctor. And you do

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need to know the cause of the chronic pain, so

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it's important. Now you may wonder why stress and pain relief,

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It's two different things. You enjoying the sound effects. That's Finny.

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He was behind me cleaning, giving himself a little bed bath,

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but now he's not. I literally move the camera around

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so you could see him because I like, I kind

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of like to think that you can see that that's him,

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rather than that I've edited it and added my own

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little sound effects. You know that sounds like a dog

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licking himself. I don't do that. It literally is a

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dog licking himself. You know, I'm not pretending to have

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a dog, That's what I'm saying. I do actually have

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a little Vinnie running around. So I figured if you

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can see him on camera, then when you hear him

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drinking water. You know that I've not just added that

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as a as a super special effect. Why would I,

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Why would anyone do that? I don't know. So what

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I realized a long, long, long time ago is stress

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relief equals pain relief, you know, relaxation equals pain relief.

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And then I realized a bit more recently, probably the

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last ten years or so, the same techniques, the same

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little things you can play around with that helped to

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reduce pain also help to reduce stress, so on and

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so forth. So the same techniques can be used, I mean,

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they can be adapted a little bit differently. I mean,

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you know, if you're focusing on a particular part of

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your body, whether it's chronic pain or stress, it reduces

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in the same way. It's kind of strange, really, it's

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quite quite cool. I'm not sure if I said this already.

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I have said already, because I've already started this recording.

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I got about ten minutes in I realized I hadn't

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pressed record, So you missed a lot of gold. That

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was a golden moment. It's like a shower of authentic, new, original,

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glorious golden material. It's like a glorious golden shower and unfortunately,

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I maybe that's not the right term, but unfortunately I

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didn't press record. So I'm doing it again, and this

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is the second best version. Probably it might improve, so

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don't go. It might get better. Probably won't, but it might.

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Now I should say what I don't have to could

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could say. What I do and how I do it

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is very unconventional. It's very unlikely you'll find anyone else,

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probably in the world that does this the way that

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I do it. It doesn't mean to say that it's

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any good, it's just it's different. So, you know, I

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think it's nice to have variety, and it's nice if

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you can find a person to listen to or to

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watch on video that firstly doesn't take themselves too seriously.

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I think that can be quite nice, even if it's

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a serious subject. And chronic pain is a very serious subject.

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So at no point am I, you know, making fun

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of what I'm doing and making fun of the topic

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because I'm not. I have chronic pain myself. I got

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Arthur Right's in my lower back, so and I had years,

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probably about fifteen years of real problems with my right

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shoulder after an injury, and it's still there. A bit,

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but it's I think if I stopped tapping it, it

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probably won't hurt so much. But yeah, it's better than

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it used to be. But my lower back, it's just

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a continuous thing to manage. So even though for those

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that haven't seen me before, those that haven't, if you

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haven't seen me before, if you or you haven't listened

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to my podcast, because I do six different versions of

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this recording will be on my podcasts, one just normal length,

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five and ten hours of out music, and then five

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and ten hours with music, So six different recordings. Only

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one video on YouTube will be this one, which is

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just standard recording with no music. Although I suppose I

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could look into putting some music on. We'll say, you know,

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in the future, maybe do two versions, one with one

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without music. A diny no, But I think the bottom

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line is you test it. How do you feel different

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compared to how you felt before. That's the bottom line.

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And if someone's sitting thinking all this person sounds so unprofessional,

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which could you know, it's fair enough, but that means

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that you're inside your own mind moaning instead of relaxing,

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instead of letting go. Because if you're in your own

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mind judging you know, sort of judging. You know, some

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people would be like, Oh, it's not fair that I'm

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making videos. Come just too handsome. I'm too sexy, and

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it's a distraction and it's really hard to close your

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eyes because you just want to look at this sexy

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body of mind. I understand that. But and guarantee there'll

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be someone that responds, Oh, you're really up yourself. You

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really think you're look you're an old man. You think

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you're really sexy. Mean, you've got a big pink tomato face.

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You mean me?

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Me?

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You like, yeah, I know what I look like. Fifty

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four years I've been looking in the mirror. Havn't much

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time to do anything else. Really, that's my advice. You've

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got the advice for someone. My neighbor downstairs twenty years old.

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I said, yeah, don't spend all your time looking in

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the mirror. You just don't get anything done. So that was weird.

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That's got nothing to do with a recording. So what

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how do you feel even right? If I was to

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sit here with my little bottle of water, or it's

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a big bottle of water and my hands have grown,

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but it's a little bottle of water and it's not

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that little. It's what is it, fifty cla whatever that is,

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cubic liters, etc. I don't know, but I could just

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talk about this bottle of water for twenty minutes and

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I could, I really could, which is weird. But yeah,

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not that I would necessarily stay focused on the water.

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But a technique is to focus on something, something that's

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so random that it takes your attention. I mean, you know,

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moves your attention away from yourself, so you're not thinking

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about yourself. And that's kind of what these recordings are.

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At the very very least, it's well, at the very least,

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it's just me being annoying. I suppose, you know, in reality,

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some people like, Okay, it's just annoying. That's the worst

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case scenario. But generally, for those that are able to

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tolerate me, the worst case scenario is you feel more

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relaxed at the end of it, at the end of

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the video, at the end of the recording, the audio

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podcast and so in a way, and I have set

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up I've got podcasts, let me boy to sleep, let

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me boil your pain away. Where the whole idea of

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those recordings really was, especially with the lett me boy

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to sleep that I've been doing for seven years. I

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feel I've got one thousand, three hundred and fifty odd

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recordings and they're all odd or pretty odd.

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And.

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I the idea really was to just partially a distraction,

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but partially why you're listening to my voice. You're not

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worrying about stuff while you listen to my voice. You're

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not thinking about the past. You know why you're listening

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to my voice. You're no longer concerned about the future.

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Why you're listening to my voice. It's almost that, not

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that you've given me control of your mind, which you haven't,

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of course, but you kind of maybe allowed my voice

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to be your internal voice for a little while. So

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instead of that moaning and maybe even your internal dialogue

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might be rude to you, which is not good. So

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it might be dismissive, it might be telling you, oh,

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you're no good at this or whatever. So you just

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quieten that down and let me be your internal voice

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for just this period of time. And I'm not going

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to tell you negative things about yourself. I'm not going

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to tell you what you can't do. I'm not going

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to tell you what you should do. I can tell

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you or mention what you could do which would be relaxed,

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which would be not to take yourself too seriously. And

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there's also a concept that I think can be quite

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difficult even for me to really grasp at times, and

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that's to let go. And when I mean let go,

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I don't mean forever. I mean, wow, I felt I

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just pressed on my chest and I think it's hot

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in it. I'm sweating. Either that or my nipples are leaking.

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I'm lactating. I can't believe it. You might think, but

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that's in the middle of your chest. Okay, there's no

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rules about where your nipples should be. But I spoke

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anatomically maybe, but yeah, I've got five So what was

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I saying? The thing that can be difficult, the idea

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that can be a little bit difficult to sort of

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think through. There's two actually. One is forgiveness. That's a really,

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really complicated one for some people to get their head around.

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And I'm one of those people that, yeah, I can

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see why it's complicated, but forgiveness. You know, we're not

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talking about forgiveness really, But although I am so, I

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guess I am talking about forgiveness, but it's not about

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letting someone else off. It's about helping you. You're not

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helping that other person. You're helping you. You know, you're

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It's the whole Buddhist An old Buddhist thing is anger

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or you know, let's say someone who doesn't forgive someone

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holding onto anger is like someone chucking a hot coal

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at you and instead of ducking out the way, you

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catch it. So you're just going to stand there with

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this hot coal. It's quite an outdated idea, really, isn't it.

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I mean, when's the last time someone chucked a hot

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coal at you? I can't remember last time even saw

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hot coal. Probably when I was about ten eleven, maybe twelve.

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We used to have a fire in our house. We

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potential heating as well, I'm not that old. We did

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have central heating, but there was a fireplace downstairs and

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it was a mixture of coal and logs as well. Yeah,

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I used to like that. But anyway, if you ever

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tried to pick one and things up, don't because it's hot.

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I mean you'd think like it's just come out of

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a fire, it's going to be hot. But there's also

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that feeling like okay, you know, when you get something

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out of the oven and if you if you pick

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up quickly, it doesn't burn you. That doesn't work with

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hot coals. You know, if you've got sponge cake and

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it's come out the oven and maybe or a biscuit,

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and you think, well, just quickly move it from the

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tray onto the tap onto like a plate without touching

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the metal tray. There is and sometimes you know you

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can do just about if you do it cook enough

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because I like to eat them straight away. Ideally said,

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there's not a cooker that does this. If there was

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a cooker that cooked biscuits right like a biscuit maker,

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cooker that cooked the food, but when it had finished

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the food would be the cookies let's say, for example,

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would be exactly the right temperature to eat instantly as

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soon as it comes out of the oven. So maybe

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some kind of fan to cool down the cookies. That's

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an invention. If your invention minded and you you've got

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to think about cookers, you can invent something. You know,

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I'd be happy to share some of the profit with you,

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as it was my idea, thank you very much. So

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a fan of them, but actually one that cals down

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the food for the last five minutes ten minutes. I

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don't know, sodden. When it comes out, you can just

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maybe some milk, cup of tea. It'd be more like

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crunchy crunchy. But I can't do that sound. I like

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crunchy biscuits, cookies. You know, I don't want it to

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be soft. I'm not prejudiced, but I just don't, you know,

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I prefer like a nice mind you if it's just

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sadly up. And sometimes they just taste so good it

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doesn't really matter what texture they are, because it's about

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the taste. That's a problem with making these recordings. When

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I'm hungry, I start talking about food. So yeah, if

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you for forgiveness, that can be a hard one, but

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it can be good for relieving physical sensations. It can

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be good for because if he was able to, for example,

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decide that that person that may be called those problems

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all those years ago, and you decide to just let

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it go, not for them, but for you, just to

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say I forgive them again, not for them, but for you.

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It can change how you physically feel. It definitely can

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change how you emotionally feel, but then that changes how

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you physically feel, because if you're feeling calm in your mind,

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you will also be affected in your body by feeling calm.

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It works the opposite way as well, of course, so

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someone that has so if I have affrighted, well, I

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do have alf right this in my back. If I

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get stressed, my lower back hurts more. If I get angry,

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my lower back hurts more. If I relax we're doing

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these recordings are quite relaxing, actually, because there's something about

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my voice. It's like my squeaky virus. It's so calming.

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It's quite relaxing to just focus on relaxation, and that's

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what this is really focusing on relaxing. Talking about relaxation

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in itself can be relaxing. Talking about your body feeling

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more comfortable and calm can cause your body to feel

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more comfortable and calm. Because our minds are so powerful,

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you know, in a sense, you know, we get what

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we think about. If you're focusing and expecting a certain

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physical response to listening to me talking, then there's a

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good chance you can have that physical response because that's

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what you expected, which is why these can be very useful.

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When you start to listen or play the video, listening

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to the podcast with that expectation of actually feeling more

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calm in your mind and your body, because maybe that's

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what's happened previously, that's what's happened in the past, when

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you've listened to me, when you've heard my voice, when

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you think of me, perhaps as a sense of your

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mind's slowing down, your internal dialogue no longer racing around

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and maybe being petty or being negative, p perhaps and

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it calms down. It gives you a break and a

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thing that I know some people it can be a

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complicated idea of letting go of everything. And it's not

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about letting go of everything forever. It's for me. It's

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when I say just when I do a recording, and

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I'm kind of aiming at you letting go of everything

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during the time that we spend together. And when I

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say everything, I do mean everything. Whether you're visiting someone

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in a hospital, whether you've got a loved one that's

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in trouble, whether you're in trouble, whatever, any of that

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worldly stuff. You're letting it go temporarily. It doesn't mean

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that you don't care, because of course you do it.

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It's not about that. It's like, well, I can't I've

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heard people say to me, or I can't, I can't

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let that go because I care too much. It doesn't

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stop you caring, but in that moment, you're not thinking

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about that. In this moment, you don't care about anything.

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You're not worried about anything, you're not concerned about anything.

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Maybe you're not even thinking about anything. It's an opportunity

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for your mind and your body to kind of sink

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together in a way. If you think of it as

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a sink, a literal physical sink, you can just pull

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the plug hole out and let all that stuff just

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drain away. All the stress, all the tension, just strain

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out of that down that plug hole in the sink.

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I'm a little bit pleased with that analogy. If any mind,

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what my arms were longer, I could pack myself on

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the back unfortunately mind you. Oh no, I can a

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little bit, but it's about the back of my head.

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Oh that was lovely. Yeah, I could just about manage.

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So a distraction, letting yourself, choosing to relax, choosing to

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let go, even if it is just for a short time,

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has that same physical effect. Whether it's a part of

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your body that was problematic before you started listening to me,

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or whether it's to do with tension or something that

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you previously were concerned or worried about, and now you

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have let that go, and you can test it as well.

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Test letting it go, test taking a step back, Test

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how it feels, and whether you like that feeling. How

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does it feel to just relax, to just move away

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and let your mind calm down? Almost. I quite like

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the idea of the mines surrounded by windows and you

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just open the windows and it's very windy, so you

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open all the windows and the room's all stuffy, like

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the mine's all stuffy, full of this just maybe dust

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and cockbribs, maybe a bit like my flat, oh my underpants.

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And.

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The wind blows through one window and out of the

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other window and completely clears the air in your mind.

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I kind of like that idea.

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It's weird, As I said it, I felt like a

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breeze on my face, which is weird because the windows

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are not open here, and on my chest as well.

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And my face. It's like a coolness, almost as if

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the wind or the breeze was blowing through my through

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my head and clearing out almost literally, like the wind

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was blown through my brain, through my mind, that's quite nice.

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I'm pretty good at this. I'm joking. If it does

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feel nice, it's quite relaxing. I've been doing this for

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nineteen years, can you believe it? Nineteen years? I know

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you thought I'd actually have some kind of skill by now,

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wouldn't you. It might happen one day. I mean, I

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do believe everyone's got something that they're good at. I

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just eating biscuits and watching television. I don't think that's

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necessarily a skill great at that. You should see me

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devour an easter egg. Wow. Poor, we'll talk about chocolate

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and food again. I know, okay. I just notice how

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you feel. How do you physically feel? How do you

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feel in your face, your shoulders, your neck, your arms,

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your hands and fingers, your chest, your stomach, your back,

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your bomb, your groin, hips, your thighs, knees, lower legs,

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your shins, your calfs, ankles, your knees, your elbows, your feet,

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your heels, tops of your feet, bottoms of your feet,

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your toes, your eyes, your jaw, your ears, your lips,

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your mouth, your tongue, maybe your teeth or your guns,

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your throat. Noticing what it feels like to breathe. You

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may have noticed that you're breathing is increased. You know,

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it's got a bit deeper, but also slower, but naturally

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without any effort, without focusing, just naturally slower and deeper.

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And that breathes again, it's on my face and my chest.

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Hm for a minute, afar, I just checked the window

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still and make sure Vinnie's not farting in my direction.

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But then it wouldn't be a cold breeze, would it

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be a smelly one? And what I notice is if

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this background sounds, I find it's actually helpful. It tends

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to increase the relaxation. How when I say that, I

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mean obviously not if her If you've got a workman

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out in the garden digging for oil, then yeah, they're

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shaking the whole building. Perhaps that wouldn't be particularly relaxing,

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but generally, well, a couple of helicopters playing table tennis

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with each other, I don't know how that would work.

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But helicopters are quite noisy, an't they. That's a strange visual,

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isn't it. Two helicopters playing table tennis or ping pong.

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I don't know why I always find that word of

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weird tickles, be a little bit. Ping pong. I don't

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know why. I think is a word. Pong is another

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word for smelly, isn't it? And ping is another word

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for ping, ping like a little sound like a ping.

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I suppose like a mobile phone text message or something

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like that. Ping. Yeah, maybe, So I don't know what

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that's got to do with table tennis. Some would ask her,

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what's two helicopters playing table tennis in your garden got

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to do if feeling relaxed and calm? And my answer

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to that would be, it wouldn't be in the garden.

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Would it be on the roof? That just be ridiculous.

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How they're going to fit in the garden. It's only

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a tiny little garden. Helicopters they need to be on

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the roof. And then I think, well, it's not a

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flat roof, so that would be very difficult. They have

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to reconstruct the whole building. I've been on some roofs

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that were big enough for two helicopters and a big

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table tennis table or ping pong table. Ping pong, it's

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one of those words. Although there's like just this sounds strange,

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ping pong, ping Pong's I don't know why it is.

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I kind of can't of imagine inventing a game and

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getting all excited and going to the bank. Hey, missus,

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bank manager, I got an idea for a new game.

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I need some financing to help. What is it? What's

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the game? Well, you know tennis, Yes, I've heard of

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the thing. It's like tennis, except it's done on a

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table and the net is across the middle of the

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table and the two participants use little bats and they

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stand up and play, and it's just like a miniature

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version of tennis. Really, And the bank manager might be

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and it might not be. The bank manager might just

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be someone who works in the bank. But for this

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story's say it's a bank manager called Dorothy. She's got

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three cats, and she enjoys going on a holiday scuba diving.

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It's a little bit of a backstory. She once dated

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a man called Jeremy, and she found out, after about

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three years into a relationship, that he enjoyed disco dancing,

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and she couldn't handle that. She also planted a tree

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near to where she was living when she was a child,

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and now that tree's grown, it's very big. But the

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thing that she doesn't realize, is that actually the tree

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that she goes and hugs and you know, visits, it's

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a different tree. She forgot which tree it was. And

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when she visits and she takes people with her and

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she shows people around saying, well, let me show you

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my special tree. It's not her tree at all. Her

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trees and one next to it, and her trees a

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bit upset about that it's not getting any attention. The

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thing is, the reason she thinks that that's her tree

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is because she went away for quite a while and

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she came back and the tree was big. She knew

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that the tree next to her, the tree wasn't hers

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because it was small, and her tree would have grown

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after ten years, would have grown a lot bigger. So

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she knew that the big tree was hers. What she

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didn't know is what she actually planted wasn't a tree.

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It was a daffodil. Daffodile, daff a deal dial. That's

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not even a word, is it a daffodil? So she

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planted this daffodil thinking it was a tree, but it

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wasn't a tree. It was a daffodil. Why did I

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say daffodil? But anyway, that's her backstory, and she wants

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She once fell out of a tree, so she had

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a thing about trees. But she was okay because luckily

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she was wearing shoes with her springs at the bottom,

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and she just bounced back into the tree. Then she

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joined the circus, so it worked quite well. But eventually

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she realized that she she wanted to settle down a

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little bit, especially once she met Jeremy and she thought

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to herself, I'm going to get a different job. You know, No,

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it's she when she got that job in the bank. Well,

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prospects are there and there's nothing can get in a way.

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Now I found the man of my dreams, got a

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lovely home. The only thing that could could ruin this

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is if I found out that Jeremy was into disco dancing,

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but that's unlikely to happen anyway. She if you go

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and she's saying, oh, that's a really good idea. That's

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a really good idea. You can you can, we could

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put that together. It's going to cost money to promote it,

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and you know, if you've already got the design for it,

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you're going to need money and you're probably going to

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need investment. And yeah, it's great, so you'd be whoever

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was invented it probably felt brilliant. So what are you

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going to call it? Ping pong?

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No?

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See you later. I can't help you with that, ping pong.

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Who's going to buy ping pong? Ping? I can see

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it now, ping pong? No, No one's going to buy that.

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We could call it something different. Whoa what? Well? Think

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about it? Is tennis on a table, so we'll call

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it tennis on a table. That's a mouthful, though, isn't

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it not as much as ping pong? I've think ping

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pongs are more than a mouthful, and tennis on a table?

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MM could just shorten it like two words? What on tennis?

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No on a tennis? No? Tennis on no? What table? Tennis? Table? Tennis?

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It's like tennis but on a table. But you're not

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reading out the whole sentence. It's kind of self explicit explicit,

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you know, it explicits itself. Oh do you mean describes explains? Yeah? Okay,

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but not ping pong. No. But I really like the

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term ping pong. I think it's a really catchy word,

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really catchy name like no. But yeah, if those kind

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of sounds, it would probably be quite noisy. But generally

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background sounds like the birds singing. I like the birds

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singing because this isn't I mean, you may listen to

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this and fall asleep and stuff. But I really really

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love the sounds of birds. I always have done. I'm

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not always, I mean there was I'm sure there's been

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times when I've not wanted to hear birds. I can't

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think of any of those times. I mean, it's hard

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to say I've always. I mean, like since I was born.

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I was lying in my mother's arms on the first

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I was born, and like, oh, like, we look so content,

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so so relaxed, and I'd say, yeah, I'd be more relaxed.

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I could hear some birds. Where's the birds at? I

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find parrots very noisy, very right. That's probably not a

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good example of a parrot, but it yeah, they're not

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quite as sweet. And this is bird outside it goes,

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it whistles, but it sounds like a human whistling, or

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unless it's one of those birds that copies humans. Well

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they meet not mere cats. There's a certain bird that

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could mimic humans, isn't there. I wasn't thinking of parrots,

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but maybe, but it's another one. There's another bird that

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can do it. I forget what it is. Is it budgie?

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Can budgies learn words? I don't know. We can't full

472
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circle because I'm sure I saw budgies playing table tennis

473
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on a video. Maybe it was ping pong, ping pong,

474
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I don't know. That's just stuck in my head today.

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I don't know why why, I don't know where the

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word came from. And you can notice how you're feeling,

477
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or maybe you don't want to notice how you're feeling.

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Maybe you don't care how you're feeling. Maybe you're just

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happy to feel the way you feel without examining it.

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Just being with yourself, accepting yourself. I suppose, being in

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the moment, not needing anything, feeling peaceful. Mm hmm.

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It's nice, isn't it?

483
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And it brings me to the end of this recording

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about ping pong and other stuff that I've talked about.

485
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No idea, what I'm gonna what tidesle I'm going to

486
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get this recording, no idea. Maybe I'll just call it

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ping pong. So thank you for listening. Remember to be

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kind to yourself because you do deserve to feel happy

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and be gentle with yourself. Because you deserve to feel safe.

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Lots of love, Bye,