April 15, 2025

(music) Let me bore your pain away #23 | Jason Newland | 15th April 2025

(music) Let me bore your pain away #23 | Jason Newland | 15th April 2025
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Hello, and welcome to Jasonnewland dot com. My name is

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Jason new Land. Please only listen when you can safely

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close your eyes. Hello, Hello, how are you? It's quite

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warm in here today. We've had to close the window

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just to block out the the found from the garden

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because even though it's raining, there's still sound in the garden.

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People are still out there. So we've got one neighbor

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just continuously. We're not continuously, but every now are. I

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don't know why they're yelling it out there. So this

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is let me bow your pain away. And just to

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let you know, I do have a YouTube channel at

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Jason Newland, a Facebook group called Jason Newland's Boring Group.

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So have a look. Yeah, Jason Newland's Boring Group. I'm

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just doning to look at this. I've got a message

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from Hillary a message at what it's a post a

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massive thank you for the trivia Tuesday menopause. Had to

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listen five times and still not sure I got to

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hear it. Yeah, I kept falling asleep. Also, the Frozen

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Shoulder episode was great, but the game was asleep ten

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minutes in. You rock at what you do? Think you?

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My eyesight's getting bad. I really thought that was a

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different word. Then I need to get my eyes done,

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not done tested. I'm never going to get my eyes done.

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I don't I don't know. Remember one nang got eyes

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lasered and she was she must have been in her

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eighties then, and she said she couldn't believe how old

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she looked. After, you know, her eyes heeled up. She

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couldn't believe how old she looked. And I said, you

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just should have asked me. I told you. We laughed.

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So m mmmmmmmmmmmmmm. See I just opened a window. Oh

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so if there's a bit of sound outside, it doesn't matter.

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This isn't a sleep recording anyway, although when I do

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the deeps and let me boy to sleep recordings, I

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do also have background sounds. I just kind of figure.

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I mean, it took me quite a while to kind

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of get my head around this, but I figured that

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it's not necessarily very useful to get in that frame

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of mind where you need complete silence, because that's how

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I used to be. And I got to the point

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where I could. I had to wear ear plugs. Just

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the slightest sound used to bug me. And then I

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burst my ear drum with the ear plugs. I just

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basically pushed them in too far, pulled them out or

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pulled one over them out and my ear ear drum

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or my ear drum was bust. Had to go to

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the doctors, and I was I had I can never

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think of the word, that dizzy thing. So yeah, I

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had that for a while because of the balance issue

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with my ear. So after that, I had to stop

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wearing earplugs. So I kind of had no choice but

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to just to get used to the sounds around me.

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And a weird thing about it, I'll tell you. Even

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the place I used to live in the YMCA two

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thousand and one to two thousand and four and the

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beginning two thousand and four, it was like a studio apartment,

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and I was always wearing the air plugs, you know,

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through a lot of that time. And the it's kind

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of weird because I took a lady home with me,

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you know, someone that i'd met, and she wanted to

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come home with me, so I did, because well I did,

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and I had a very confused expression on my face

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because why do you want to come home with me?

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But I she had a good night and stuff whatever,

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so she came home to my flat or my studio apartment,

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and I had to get her to just stand outside

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while I tried to clear away all the stuff on

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the floor because I didn't know this was going to happen.

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I just really didn't expect it. I thought it would

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be when I said, I thought it might be in

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the alleyway or in a shop and a shopped doorway out,

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nothing weird like that, but just I genuinely didn't just

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didn't think that far ahead. And then we, you know,

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we spend a little bit of time together intimately, yeah,

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as adults sometimes do, apparently. And so it's time to

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go to sleep. She had to get up early in

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the morning because she was a nurse. I he didn't

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have to get out so early, but I did have

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an appointment to go to about eleven o'clock. So I'm

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laying there and I'm thinking, and this is long before

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I burst my ear round. This is a few years

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a few years before that, and I realized I had

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to find a way to put my ear plugs in

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so that she didn't see it. So I'd suddenly become

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a little bit embarrassed about wearing ear plugs at night,

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and whenever I got the men, there'd be a tap

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on my shoulder like are you asleep? Can you not

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hear me? So I had to kind of leave one out.

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In the end, I just gave up and I just

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chucked them on the floor with all the other rubbish

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and pots and pans, dishes. And that's the first time

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I realized that it was noisy downstairs that night, because

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I'd never slept in that particular place, the studio apartment

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flat thing, never slept there without earplus, and I was like,

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oh no, So I had to move out of there

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because it's sort of just I think it's new neighbors.

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Maybe I don't know, But over time I realized that

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it doesn't matter. I'm not saying that, you know, I

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can sleep through a drilling, or like a marching band

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in the garden or marching through my bedroom. That might

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be a little bit disruptive, or the tree outside started

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singing to me, but that that'd be just that'd be

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just disruptive on different levels, I guess. But it's something

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quite nice for just lying in bed and listening to

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the sounds, being aware of now and I know that

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this isn't an an insomnia recording or a sleep recording.

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It is relaxation as part of this, and I find

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I find that my voice makes weird noises. Sometimes I'm

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actually probably ready for some food, but it's weird. I

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don't actually feel particularly hungry, but my tonguey is kind

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of maybe I've just got a greedy tell me because

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I don't actually feel like I need to eat right now,

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but my stomach's kind of doing a little bit of

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a gurgle like freed me, which is a bit strange.

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So what this recording is, it's I just waffle on.

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Sometimes I will talk about different pain relief techniques. This

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is for people chronic pain, and only listen when you

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have permission from your doctor, because you know you need

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to know the cause of that physical discomfort before you

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do anything to relinquish it, to reduce it, to send

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it away, to feel better. Sometimes I will just talk

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about random stuff that has got nothing to do with

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physical discomfort or ways to reduce that and increased comfort

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and relaxation. And sometimes I will be very focused, very

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focused on maybe a particular type of chronic pain relief,

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the technique that I've that I'm interested in, or something

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that perhaps I've just discovered or rediscovered, you know, kind

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of a technique that I've used many many years ago

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and haven't really revisited it before. And it's also quite

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nice to mix and match as well. But you know,

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sometimes just having the intention, the intention in your mind

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to have more relief in that part of your body

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as well as the rest of your body as well.

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But it's something about you know, when the rest of

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your body relaxes. So let's say your shoulders feel looser,

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that can have a role on effect to your arms,

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you know, the upper arms, your elbows, your forearms, your wrists,

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And it's not just because they're all connected, because that

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does have an effect, but ultimately, every part of your

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body is connected. Your hands and your fingers. Your fingers

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are connected to your toes. That's a song, isn't it.

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And every part is connected to every other part. So when,

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for example, I say it was to focus on your

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right hand, and that's all you're doing. You're just focusing

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on your right hand. So I'm going to do it myself.

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I want to put my right hand on my knee,

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I'll move it to my right knee. That's more comfortable,

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and it's palm down and all I'm going to do

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is just focus on my hand. By the way, Vinnied's

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chewed on a bone in the background, just in case

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you're wondering what all that clicking sound is. I putting

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some dinner out, well breakfast because it's ten fifty one

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in the morning, but it's keeps going up to it,

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and he's like, ah, nah, no thanks, And it's the

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really good stuff. I mean, I wouldn't eat it, but

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you know, I say good stuff as in it's I

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don't know, well, it was just more expensive. I you know,

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like to not give them the same thing every day.

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So now although I focused on my right hand, I

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can When I first started focusing on my right hand,

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I was also noticing my right knee, which I have

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again now a little bit because I'm mentioning it. Which

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just shows the power of our minds and the power

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of words. You know, if I mentioned your left shoulder,

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that's what you think about. It's not it's no, almost

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like it's a natural thing. You know, I focus on

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your back of your neck. Even if I say don't

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focus on your left knee, your left leg, even if

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I say don't focus on it, you're going to focus

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on it because it's been mentioned, which just shows you

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how powerful words are, how much influence just a simple

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sentence like that can have on your physical feelings. I

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find that quite fascinating. Really, I always have done, and

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it's nothing new to me. I'm not I'm not come

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up with something creatively genius by saying this is just

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the way things are. It doesn't mean I'm not creative genius.

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But you know, one day I might find someone who

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believes that. You never know it's possible. So you got

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your right hand, now you can use the other hand

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if you want it. It doesn't matter. It's not that important

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to focus on one particular hand. In fact, if you

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don't want to focus on your hand, you can focus

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on your foot. It's just really about focusing on one

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part of your body. That's really the main thing. But

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I'm going to focus on my right hand, and the

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more I focus on it, even though I'm not giving

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it all my attention because clearly I'm talking to you.

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I can also hear the birds in the trees in

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the you know, outside, no trees inside that. I can

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hear Vinny doing his thing. I can hear what sounds

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like the distant traffic or maybe a train or even

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a plane. It's so so distant, I can't really make

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it out because you know, motorways there's that gentle hum

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like continuous be there's a really really busy motorway. It's

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not close, it's not far away, but it's you know,

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it's a fair enough distance, so I don't I don't

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hear the traffic much other than maybe on a really clear,

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quiet night. Sometimes it's a very quiet day to day.

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It's been raining outside, which means there's less people about.

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It's just there's almost a sense of peacefulness, which I

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quite like, like cleansliness. Like we haven't had any rain

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really for quite a while. We had a little bit

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yesterday to be fair, but just a little bit. But

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this seems to have just washed away stuff, made the

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air seem a little bit cleaner, a little bit fresher.

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There's the smell of the grass, you know, when the

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rains on the grass and on the trees. It's a

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different kind of smell, isn't there. Yeah, feels a bit

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more fresh. So I'm still noticing that stuff. And if

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I'm on this while I was focus on that, I'll

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probably gain more attention to that than I did in

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my hand. But my hands were really relaxed. And as

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I focus on it, I'm noticing that the fingers, or

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my fingers rather on my right hand are it kind

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of relaxing on their own, separately, almost moving a little bit,

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not you, not in a kind of a dancing way.

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But just how to explain it, really maybe stretching a bit, relaxing,

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letting go. Now. The thing is, when you focus on

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just one part of your body, it has an effect

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on the rest of your body, has an effect on

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your mind because when you consider that, maybe your mind

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and whatever's going on inside your mind and whatever speed

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the thoughts are, when you relax your hand or any

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particular part of your body, it can slow down thoughts

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in your mind. Maybe it's just because you're not giving

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attention to your mind. You've given you attention to your hand, relaxing, loose, peaceful.

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The rest of my body is feeling relaxed. But the

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most relaxed part is my right hand now. But I've

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noticed my lower back, where I have arthritis, there's zero

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feeling there. There was now, there's nothing going on. It

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just feels exactly the same as the rest of my body.

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I got no idea why that is, because ironically, sitting

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in this chair is can be quite uncomfortable for me

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on my lower back. And right now, nothing, there's nothing

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this is. This is one of the most ridiculous things

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as well that I've noticed with myself and also with

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people that I've seen in the past. Helping them to relieve,

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you know, their physical discomfort is one it once it

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does actually reduce who reduces sometimes just disappearing the natural

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thing is to start looking for it. Now, I'm as

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guilty as anyone else are doing this, like where is it?

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Where's it gone? And it's It's kind of a weird thing,

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isn't that Because if you you don't flush the toilet

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when you've done a poo and think I want to

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find where that went to. I started looking through the drains,

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going through the drainage system, through the sewers, I want

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to find my poo. No, you wouldn't do that. So

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that's a weird visual, isn't it. With your little hat

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with a light on it sifting through the sewers. How

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would you know? How would you know it's your one?

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I mean, you don't have our names on them today.

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I suppose unless you put a little flag in it.

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But then even if you did put a flag in it,

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it would like just it's still might fall off. You know.

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I'm trying to move back to the hand now. Okay,

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it's strange, just the feeling of relaxation. I mean, what

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do you think about it? All our lives using the

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different parts of our body, hands, her feet, our mouths

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our eyes, our jaw, every part of the body really

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is just being used from day one, And can you

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imagine if you was working all the time for in

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my case, quite a few I don't want to say

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my age anymore. I'm getting to that point where, no,

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guess how do you think I am? And I hope

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they say something younger, they say something older. That's when

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I just walk away. You know, That's what idea someone says,

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if I say how old are you? Then I figured

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out about my age, and they said, yes, I always

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go like twenty years older, say eighty three. Sometimes they laugh,

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sometimes they don't actually messed up. I got to be kept.

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My mouth's got me in trouble. A few times there

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was this was it? Oh yeah, I had this dinner

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party thing. We're all around the table eating, and the

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host was just going to get the food. So we're

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all sitting around. I think we had bread rolls and

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one there was a lady that I knew. I knew

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everyone on the table. Really. She said, Oh, I've got

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a special it's a secret I'm going to announce later

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to my boyfriend. Our boyfriend was in the kitchen bring

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the food in, and I just blurred out, you're pregnant,

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and she said yeah, and I kind of ruined it.

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I didn't ruin the pregnancy. I'm sure. She went on

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to a happy, happy birth and baby and stuff, and

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bearing in mind, that was wow. The baby probably be

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about thirteen, fourteen years old. Now, that's crazy. The babies.

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The baby's probably now leaving school to get their first

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job or to go to university that or college. That's

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just wild. It's so yeah. The hand, I'm looking at it,

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so I'm not got. I did have my eyes closed

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a little bit while I'm talking to you, but I've

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opened the eyes just to look at my hand. And

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I don't know what I was expecting to see. I mean,

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it's a hand. It looks the same as it ever does,

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but it does look relaxed. I think sometimes also, you know,

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with when it comes to discomfort physical parts of the body,

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I'm using that word instead of the pai in. And

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it's weird that sometimes as a part of the body

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can almost feel like it's outside of the body. And

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I think that's that's the problem when it comes to

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the discomfort, it feels like it's too inside the body.

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And maybe it can do with being a bit dislodged,

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having a little bit of distance from it, maybe moving

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it outside and observe it like you would something that

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was detached separated. And you may be thinking, you know

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what the word detached is. It means why did you

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have to say separated? Don't need both those words? It's fine.

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Sometimes I use two words that mean the same thing

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or similar words. Why did you have to do it

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twice exactly that That's what I do sometimes or often

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maybe occasionally. So the right hand I'm looking at it,

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and you know, there's that I've now managed to connect

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it with the my lower back. Just in my mind.

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I've managed to connect the two my right hand and

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my lower back because that's where my personal thing is.

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And so what I'm going to do, I'm going to

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increase the sensation in my lower back. Okay, so it's

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more I can feel a bit more. That's what I'm

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going to do. You can do this as well if

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you want. This is something where focus on a part

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of your body that you'd like to reduce the physical

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sensation in. And what I'm going to do is I'm

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going to make a fist with my hand and then

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I'm just going to hold it for a couple of seconds.

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I'm gonna count from five down to one, and I'm

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gonna let it just drop. And so I hold it

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above my above my knee, put it into a fist,

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and then five four three two one, and then just

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drop it back on my knee, open pald. So by

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putting it into a fist, I'm focusing on that part

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of my body that I wanted to relax. Counting five

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four three two one, relax, open my palm. Then it

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dropped to my knee, and just notice how that feels

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in that part of your body that you are connected to.

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So I'm going to do it now. Maybe you want

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to do it with me, if you want, it's up

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to you. So I'm going to do a fist, focus

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on my lower back one like five, so iry five

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four three two one. Relax. At least I'm going to

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do it a little bit higher up because I think

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it's got caught on my knee, So I'm gonna do

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it a bit higher up so I can open like that,

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so we kind of right. So I'm gonna lift it up,

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make my hand into a fist, focus on a lower

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back five four three two one. Relax. Ay, it's better.

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I'm gonna do it again five four three two one. Relax.

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I tell you what's weird is when the part of

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your body that used to be problematic before you started

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listening to me starts to feel nice. That that's a

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strange experience. I had that with my lower back a

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few years back. I remember, I was, I was just walking,

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I was. I just said the word walking. I shouldn't

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say that when villas around. I was in the field

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and my back actually felt pleasurable, like really pleasurable. It

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was weird. I noticed. One thing that seems to happen

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is the sensation of mild itchiness often replaces the feeling

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that was there before, but not the kind of itchiness

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that you need to scratch, just real gentle, gentle itchiness.

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I suppose similar to the feeling of healing. Do you

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know when you've got a cut and you cut, it

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starts to heal, and then there's a lot of slight

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bit of itchiness there underneath the skin. You don't need

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to scratch it. It's just it's so very mild, so

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very mild. Yeah, I don't know why that happens either. Really,

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It's one of those things I've never really understood. But

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I know one thing's for sure. There's a heck of

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a nicer feeling than the previous feeling I was having.

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It sometimes feels like, I mean, this isn't even me

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imagining it, but it's like every part of your body

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can be replaced in your mind, you know, a bit

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like we're just made of lego. Like our whole body

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is made of lego, and you can just take out

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a bit, but it's the bits on the outside are

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just sliding legos. So it's a new type of lego

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and you can just slide out that part of your

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body and replace it. Vineys and his dinner, by the way,

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in case you're wondering what that's slopping sound is, it's him. Okay,

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my right hand is still relaxed and here's something else

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you can do when you focus on your hand and

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completely focus on your hand as well as him sloping

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away at his dinner. It's really weird because he only

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had he was playing with it, and he's like he

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didn't want it, but it's like his bone thing. It

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seems to have cleansed his palette so that he became

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more interested in eating his dinner. Oh, he's a good boy.

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Hasn't had all of it, though, it's still a bit

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on a plate that he's kind of left. Because that

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food's got like vegetables in it, and it's really a

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lot better than the stuff. Well, I think it's better

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than the other stuff he gets, but I think he

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prefers the other stuff, even though you know, I think

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there's carrots, there's peas and all kinds of stuff in there,

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which is good for animals. I think. I don't think

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humans need vegetables, but our animals do, not. Sticking to that,

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vegetables don't eat anything. I can't spell. So when you focus,

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you imagine being able to take parts out of your

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body and just replace them with a new part, or

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even you could just take that part out of your body,

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you know, just the small section of your body. Just

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take that off and you could put one replace with

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a colder version or a warmer version, whatever you think

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would suit you. So you could put a warmer version

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in and notice how that feels when that part of

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your body now feels warmer, and you can imagine Vinny

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flapping his ears sends that cool breeze, relaxing you even more.

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I think that's what they call integration, integrating your background sounds.

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So I'm just testing at myself that warmness does seem

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to help. I wonder if you do it with some

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cold something that feels like maybe not icy cold, maybe

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icy cold if you want it to be, but just cool,

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And imagine putting that part of the body on into

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that part but it's cool this time. How does that

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change how it feels while Vinnie drinks some water. You've

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got some proper sound effects on this recording, So imagine

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that body being cool being replaced by a cool part. Okay, yes,

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that's all right. I think I prefer the warf though,

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to be honest. Yeah, I want to go back to

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the walls to take the output the warf back in

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war Yeah, it's nicer, just a bit of warm being radiated.

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I wonder what that's what they call them radiators because

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warmth radiates from them, heat radiates, doesn't it. Never thought

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about that before, so yeah, focusing on my lower back

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is definitely the warmth is doing it. If anything, it's

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actually it feels quite nice. Yeah, I think that warmth

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is more useful to me. And the sound of INNI

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in the background. Really, yeah, it's good. It's now just

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focus on it's nice. It feels nice. It feels actually,

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I mean the rest of my body. Notice if the

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rest of your body's feeling more relaxed after relaxing your

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hand and listening to my boring voice for the last

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forty five fifty minutes whatever, it's been Ah, and there's

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not a lot going on inside my brain, like in

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my mind. I mean, people that know me might argue

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that maybe that's always the case, but you know, right now,

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it feels like everything's going fairly slow. My right hands

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still relaxed, but then so's my left hand, so my feet,

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my legs, arms, shoulders, chest, stomach, and back. Yeah, okay,

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that's nice. I wasn't really aiming for any particular type

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of relaxation, but maybe my body just got bored listening

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to my voice. After all, that is what this is.

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I think all the birds have got together with Finny,

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like how can we disturb his recording? He's done everything

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he can and now the birds, I mean, how many

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pigeons can you fit on one branch? So this is just

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something you can It's a case of like, how do

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you feel now? How do you feel different from how

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you did before? And the background sounds will always be around.

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This isn't one of those recordings. I'm just aware. I'm

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a bit more aware of it today than recently because

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a bird seem to be a lot more active and

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an he seems to do well. Sometimes he just falls asleep,

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but he's definitely got a lot of energy in him

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right now. Bless him. So it's a case of how

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do you feel different to how you felt before you

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started listening to this recording? When I have a little

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word with Herbert, that's the pigeon like he used to

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He hasn't done it lately, but he used to come

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onto the window still and like wave to me. Doesn't

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do that so much. I mean he used to do it

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more before I got Vinnie. I don't know if he's

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maybe he's just a bit jealous when I got Vini,

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because I've had Hinny for two and two years and

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what five two years and four months, So maybe, yeah,

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maybe Herbert, it's a little bit, you know, who wanted

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me offer himself. But I keep saying, I say to

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all the birds that you know, there's plenty of me

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to go around, plenty of love love. There some loud

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people out there right, rare, rare rah bless bless them all.

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So and I realized that I'm quite conscious that these

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sessions are very probably, very very different from what is normal.

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I say normal, but what is? But I don't think

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it's anyone else possibly in the world while doing this

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what I do, like relief of pai n by boring you,

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like let me bore your pain away. I don't think

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it's no one else doing anything like this, And it's

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probably a good reason for it. It's probably a very

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good reason, Like yeah, because it's ridiculous idea, but yeh,

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some people seem to like it. So we're just going

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I want to continue. I mean, this is a twenty

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third recording, twenty third version of this, and you just

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need to let me know because if It's useful even

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if it relaxes you, because the relaxation in itself reduces

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the physical discomfort. It just naturally does that because stressing

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it so, reducing the stress decreases it. So hopefully by

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listening to me boring you, you will feel more relaxed

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in your body, your mind slows down, and you have

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more comfort. And maybe maybe some of the few little

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techniques and ideas that I have may also be useful

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as well, So thank you for listening. Remember to be

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kind to yourself because you do deserve to be happy

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and be gentle with yourself. You deserve to feel safe.

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Lots of love, Bye,