April 9, 2025

(music) Frozen Shoulder | Let me bore your pain away #17 | Jason Newland | 9th March 2025

(music) Frozen Shoulder | Let me bore your pain away #17 | Jason Newland | 9th March 2025
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Hello, and welcome to Jasonnewland dot com. My name's Jason

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Newland and this is let me bore your frozen shoulder away.

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Now I'd like to say that title again and say

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the word frozen instead of frozen. But hey, too late, now,

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please only this someone you can safely close your eyes.

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And this is I'm gonna call this a requested recording

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for Hillary, although Hillary has not actually requested me to

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do this recording, but mentioned if I should read it

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out for you, or read part of it out for you.

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Where are we? Where are we? Where are we? Where

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are we? Oh? Okay, mm hmmm. So Hillary posted this

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on my Jason Newland's Boring group a fate boring face. Yeah,

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Jason Newland's boring group. It's my Facebook group, Joan. If

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you like, hey, just want to come and say messive.

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Thank you help me sleep every night, and I would

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be lost about you. You're really like a close friend.

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I don't know absolutely. I've been having a difficult time

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with stuff which has led to me having a frozen shoulder,

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so menopause issues and stuff, and ask me if I

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do let me bore you to sleep? Kind of trivia

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Tuesday talking about menopause, which I did yesterday. To be fair,

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I don't think it was very good, and you know,

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it's not something I really know a lot about. I

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discovered a bit more about it, you know, by looking

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at the the by you know, learning a bit about

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it from going online. However, what I thought I would

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do is, I mean, I could potentially do a separate

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podcast for menopause, for issues surrounding menopause, and do some recordings,

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but this is going to be focusing specifically on frozen shoulder.

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So for those I mean, I guess anyone listening to

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this would know what a frozen shoulder is, but for

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those that don't, it's classed as frozen shoulder or adhesive

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I didn't even know this. Adhesive capsulitess, which can be

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a challenging condition characterized by stiffness and pain in the

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shoulder joint, and that you can get it from just

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sleeping wrongly or from lots of different ways it can

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be caused, that it can cause it, and it's basically just

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it's hard to use your shoulder because it's it can

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feel tensed, almost like it's frozen, or be very painful sometimes.

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So this is what this recording is about I'm going

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to talk about various things that you could use, techniques

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that you could use to help with your frozen shoulder.

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If you don't have a frozen shoulder, you could still

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listen to this and use exactly the same ideas or

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a different part of your body. But I will be

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talking about the shoulder, okay, So you know it could

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be a knee, but I'll be talking about the shoulder. Okay.

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I might actually do recording specifically for the knee. And

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quite often when I do a let me bore your

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pain away, it's a very vague, you know, so you

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cann't focus on whichever part of the body you want

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to choose to focus on, which you can anyway. But

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I'm going to mention in the shoulder. I don't know

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how many times I'm going to say the word shoulder

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in this recording. Really stop moaning. He's moaning. I took

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him in the garden. He did a weie. What do

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you want? We need to find some way of communicating

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with dogs because he's hassling me and I don't know

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what he wants. I think he wants another treat. And

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the way he turns his head there but he's not

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eating his dinner. So I put his dinner back in

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the fridge because it's been there for like an hour

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and a half. Put it back in the fridge. If

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you don't eat your dinner, you don't get treats. I'm

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trying to explain to him. By the way, Hinny's my

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twenty five year old son, Vinny. No, if you don't

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eat your dinner up, you don't get treats. No, you don't.

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I don't care how old you are. We'll go and

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get a job then if you want. No, he's my

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dog in Phinnie, Hinny. So he's hassling me. Okay, I'll

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give you one more treat, one more and you can

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leave me alone, not forever. I just why I do this,

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Thank you very much. I always disrupting my recordings constantly.

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He woke up right, Well, we woke up three o'clock

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this morning. It's a little bit earlier than normal. I

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don't know. Maybe it was like car pass three. So

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I think to myself, as my neighbors having the kitchen done,

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it starts around half seven, start coming in and sometimes

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the noise is quite loud, and then other neighbors put

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their music up to cover the mute the noise up,

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and it's hard for me to make a recording. And

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today's recording was a whisper Wednesday. Let me boy to sleep.

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So I thought, okay, I'll just make a recording I

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do a whisper Wednesday, because if I was whispering on

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a Wednesday, and I'll do it while there's nothing around,

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no one around, no noise or anything. He didn't stop

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hassling me. He started whining and moaning. At one point

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even started barking, you're not having anymore, stop begging. That's enough.

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I've never been so angry with you. Okay, I have

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so all. I'm going to ask you to do right.

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Two things. Firstly, if this is useful, tell other people.

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Let other people know. Maybe share it online on your

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Facebook group, or tell friends, family, lovers, phone past, phone

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people from the past they haven't seen for thirty years.

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You know, like hello, I don't remember me. We dated

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in high school, we went to you know, we went

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to prompt together. We're not together, but you were in

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the same room. Yeah, check out this recording. That's what

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you have a problem with. Your shoulders to you. I

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don't mean quite like that, but just you know, and

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also let me know. So all I'm going to ask

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you to do is focus. Notice how your shoulder is. Now,

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I'm going to say shoulder. Of course it could be both.

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I'm just gonna say the word shoulder because I've got

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a thing about saying a word shoulder today it's who'd

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thought it would be a shoulder day? And ironically, I've

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got a bit of an issue with my shoulder and

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that's caused by sleeping because I have to sleep on

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my side because I have sleep apenar. I can't sleep

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on my back, so I have to sleep on my side.

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Otherwise I have a few problems. It's just a physical thing.

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It's nothing else. And had it for a long, long,

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long long time. But sometimes I will sleep on it

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and I was like, oh, it gets a little bit

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frozen and it yeah, it hurts, and it means I

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can't sleep on it anymore. So I'm going to focus

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on my own shoulder while I do this. Focus on

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your shoulder. Notice where it is on the discomfort level

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zero being nothing, ten being owl like a really ouch,

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And just notice where it is now. And then at

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the end of it, if I remember, I'll ask you

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to notice where it is when it's changed. When I've

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just been chatting complete nonsense at you for an hour,

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it won't all be nonsense. A lot of it will

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be nonsense. A lot of it may not seem like

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it's even irrelevant. That's because it's not. But don't tell anyone.

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I like people think that I've created some kind of

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strange hypnotic technique, psychological magic or formula, which sounds like

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I'm just talking about mundane stuff, but in reality, I'm

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embedding these suggestions and bypassing your brain your mind and

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then getting into your unconscious mind of making these changes

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which are good for you, which will help you, which

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will actually relax your shoulder, and you'll feel calm and

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comfortable at the end, and you'll be like, Wow, what

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did he do? How did you do that? You just

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spent the last hour talking about tone now clippings, you

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know it kind of but none of that's happening. I

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really talk about a rubbish Sometimes some of that might

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be happening. Who knows. You have to make your mind

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up yourself, So it's really I'm going to go through

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some techniques and I'll kind of talk through them, but

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I think to start with. I mean, we're going to

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have Finnie being a little bit chaotic throughout the recording,

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which it's just the way it is. I can't do

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anything about that. He's a little bit he wants attention,

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which is weird because he doesn't like me trying to

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get his attention. You know, if I try, and if

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I'm like trying to do something, he'll be all over me.

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Give me attention, Give me attention, Daddy, Come on, daddy,

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give me attention. Am I your favorite son? But then

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when he's in bed and he's asleep, and I go

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to him and said, oh, and I want a little

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bit of cuddles. I want a bit of loving, a

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bit of you know, attention. Get off of me. You're

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not my real dad. He changed turns. So get in touch.

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I suppose a good thing. We could start by saying,

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you know, get in touch with your body. Just notice

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how you feel overall, like a short body scan. I

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would say, close your eyes, but it's up to you.

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Don't have to close your eyes for this, But again,

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only listen when you can safely close your eyes. And

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and I say, don't you know if you're in the

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middle of digging to this center of the earth. Probably

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wait until you've finished. Although I saw this document and

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it's about this. I think it was in Russia and

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it's the deepest hole on the planet, and they were

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trying to dig to the center of the earth. They

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wanted to see how far down they could go, and

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I suppose partly probably to see what minerals were down

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there to see. I mean, you imagine if they find fossils,

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like really far down, because the further down the fossils are,

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the older the planet is to be like trees, isn't it.

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Or layers. It's kind of I don't know if it

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is like like rocks. You know, you've got the formations

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and the layers are further. You break down a truck

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the rocks, you see fossils something that was there before,

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like millions of years ago or two thousand years ago,

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depending on what your time scale is for the planet.

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And they had to stop doing it because the tools

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couldn't handle the heat once you got down to a

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certain point. And I'm not talking about the core. I'm

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talking you know, just it got too hot and none

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of their equipment could handle it, and it just met.

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The digging equipment was melting, so they stopped. Even I

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don't know what the relevances of that. That doesn't happen

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very often. I'm like, why did I just talk about?

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What am I talking about? The Russians dig in a hole,

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the biggest hole in the world and their instruments melting.

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What's that got to do with the price of bananas?

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But I don't know. I don't know. It just seemed

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like it could have could have helped the shoulder. Do

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your shoulder feel better? I haven't heard that story. Maybe not,

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I don't know. It's weird. So you can do a

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little body scan, just notice how you feel from their

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head down to your toes. The weird thing about it.

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And this is just my personal opinion, my personal experience

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really rather than opinion. I've been doing a body scan

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since nineteen probably two thousand, two thousand, so twenty five years,

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and I've noticed that there's something about getting in touch

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with not just how you feel in this moment, but

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you also become aware of this moment. And when you're

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aware of this moment, you're not no longer concern and

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about the past or worried about the future. It's it

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takes two quarters of the stress away from you, because

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you know, if you break this stress up by it's

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you know, should I say two quarters two thirds? Sorry?

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Geography never was my strongest subject. So if you go

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you've got three thirds, obviously cut it in three bits.

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If that was with it, three thirds, you wouldn't need

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to cut it in three bits because it would already

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be in three bits, wouldn't it. Otherwise it just be

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one bit, you know what I mean. So you've got

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the past, the present, and the future. So that's stress,

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which stress and tention makes the shoulder worse. Stress and

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tension increases physical chronic pain. I'll, by the way, if

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just make sure you get permission from your doctor before

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listening to this. I realized we're twenty minutes in, so

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maybe it's a bit late to say that. But find

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out the cause of the shoulder stuff first. I mean,

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I personally wouldn't go to the doctor with a frozen shoulder,

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but I've had it so many times I kind of

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know what it is. But if it's you know, if

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you don't know what the cause is, then do go

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and see a medical practitioner and get permission before listening

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to this. And yeah, something I noticed a long long

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time ago when I first started making his recordings in

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two thousand and six, and I used to do chronic

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pain relief face to face for people for free, had

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a free service in my local town because there's a

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hero and it's me. The one thing I noticed, apart

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from how difficult it was sometimes to sit there for

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an hour without farting, that's something that was new to

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me because I've never had to sit in a room

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for a whole hour. Didn't realize how often I farted,

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and you know, being in a small room with very

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little ventilation, it was Yeah, it was a bit awkward.

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But again, that's not really what I was mentioning when

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we relax. When you relax, I'm not talking about relaxing

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your shoulder, just when your mind feels calmer. And that's

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part of the reason I've had a degree of success

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online making recordings, because I used to think that I

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was being relaxing through skill. I thought I was using

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sophisticated techniques and it was due to my relaxing tone

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of my voice and using the correct words in order

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to lead someone from being stressed and in pain to

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feeling more relaxed and calm and to just generally have

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a bit more freedom in your shoulder. But it turned

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out it was just because I was boring, and I

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was boring people to feel relaxed, and I was boring

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people to sleep. So about six seven years ago I

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started doing They let Me Boy to Sleep recordings. Bearing

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in mind that six seven years ago I'd already been

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doing recordings for over a decade. It took me over

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ten years to realize that people telling me so like,

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you know, I did a podcast once just all about

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my life, and they said, oh, you bored me to sleep.

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That wasn't the point. I thought what I was telling

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people was exciting and interesting. But no, no, they thought,

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oh this is really good, this is so relaxing and calming.

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So it's almost like it's weird the idea that your

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shoulder has ears. It's a weird concept. But it's almost

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like the different parts of the body that need to

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listen seem to listen themselves, even when our mind, your

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conscious mind is listening to some of the maybe not

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so relevant things that I might be saying and my

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squeaky voice, but your shoulders listening, and your shoulder realizes

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the intent rather than the content. I'm quite pleased with that.

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I didn't know that was coming out of my mouth,

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the intent rather than the content. I wish I could

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write that down, but unfortunately I'm left handed because I

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don't understand me I'm writing. I can't write, I can't

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right of a left hand. And it's like wow, but

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it is. It's because you know, do you ever get

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that if you was in so I used in hospital,

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or I was in hospital for example that used me

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as myself as an example. I was in hospital and

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the nurse was sitting by my bedside and I woke up.

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Maybe I'd fallen out of a helicopter. I don't I

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don't know what it was. The bungee jump went wrong.

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Who knows what it is. Maybe I was trying to

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surf a crocodile. You don't know. It could be anything.

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And I kind of opened my eyes and I I

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don't know if i'd make that noise, but I would

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open my eyes and I see this person whoever it was, man, woman, whatever,

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looking at me. Even if there was no communication, let's

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say they didn't speak English or they were from another country.

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I mean, I suppose it could happen and I would

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be able to tell if they were kind, if they

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cared without verbal communication. You don't need verbal communication to

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see if someone actually cares, if they're being gentle, and

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the intention, which would be to care, which I'd say

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most nurses do have that intention, is because they've chosen

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that occupation because they do care. And maybe your shoulders

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a bit like me in that hospital bed seeing that

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friendly face, or maybe not even be able to see

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the face. Just get even if I had a I had,

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you know, something wrapped around my head so I couldn't

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see anything, or maybe I didn't have my glasses. Maybe

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I thought I had something wrapped around my ears and

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my head and my eyes were covered as like I

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can't see anything, so I just's all right, your glasses

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got broken. Oh, thank for goodness for that. Everything's fuzzy

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because my eyesight is not great. And I just could

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hear the voice, hear a voice going and it could

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be anything. It could be like a language I didn't understand,

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And to be fair, I don't understand most languages. But

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that's an honest, honest thing. It's probably most languages in

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the world don't understand. I don't know how God got

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so far in life really, But yeah, I don't know

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a lot of languages, just one. Still sort of learning

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this one. I found out yesterday that menopause men's men

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stands for a month. Pause stands for a pause, like

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a pause of the month, but men stands for a month.

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Who'd have thought? But sometimes you can tell by the intention.

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Do you ever get someone just like you know that

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they have good intention? You meet someone who just there's

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something about them and you know, you know that almost

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straight away that you can trust them. You don't know why,

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but you know. Maybe it's the expression, maybe it's the

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way they talk, maybe it's the energy coming from them,

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but you know that you're safe, emotionally safe. And when

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you feel emotionally safe, you start to relax more, You

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feel more comfort, and any of that physical DIFFICULTI zoom

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may have had will reduce, just automatically will reduce. And

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I noticed that back in two thousand and six when

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I was helping people the chronic pain, sometimes it really

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was just relaxing call, you know, doing a relaxation session.

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Nothing else was necessary, And it wasn't just about relaxing

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just your shoulder, not just about your shoulder relaxing, but

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it's the whole of the body, because when you think

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about it, what percentage of your shoulder is your body,

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or what percentage of your shoulder of your body is

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your shoulder? That might be a better way to say it.

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It's a small part of the body, isn't it overall

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when you've got your back and your chest and your

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belly and your well, my belly takes up about seventy

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five percent of my body. But you know, it depends

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on what size you are, what shape you are. There's

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no name for a shape for me. You know. Some

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people's all got like a pear shape or I mean no,

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there is no like a really.

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Really bad potato, like a really weird shaped potato would

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probably be my body, a potato that maybe got together

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with a misshaped turn it.

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But it's not about my amazing body. So you cut

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it into three, so you've got three parts, the past

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and the future and now. So when you take away

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the past, like you know, it's hard to focus on

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the past when you've got me blabbing on your ear,

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and the future it's not happened yet anyway, so it's

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not relevant right now. So you're dealing with just now

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so you've already And this is not my idea. By

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the way, this splitting it up into three thirds. Milton

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Erickson mentioned this in a book probably sixty years ago.

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So it's not my and it's not a technique. Eve,

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just I like that idea. Don't mention it very often,

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but yeah, I do something that I've kind of adapted

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as part of what I do. So you've got how

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much of your body is your shoulder? And I mean

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this is a vinny leave me alone? Man, leave me alone? No,

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stop it? Go away, go away, go away, go away.

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Don't maybe say go away again, go away, go away,

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good boy. I was laying on his back. Where are

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you being such a willihead? Where are you being such

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a WILLI ahead? Eh? Yes, sausage. You know Uncle Alex

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is going to get you a sausage. Yes he is.

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It's going to get your packets, should from the garbage?

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Yes he is right back to work, So leave me alone,

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please mate. Look, you've been in the garden. Is this

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is ridiculous? I know I should edit this out, but

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I can't bother Finny. If he barks, I will let

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it out. But can you please leave me alone? I'll

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tell you what, it would be a distraction. That's there

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is a distraction technique. So if you had him here,

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you would not be focusing on your shoulder at all,

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because he would be just annoying. You give me more

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more more, like, really, it's not Tom Sawyer. What's the

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Oliver twist? All it's missing is a bowl, an empty bowl.

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He's got the facial expressions like I've never eaten in

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my entire life. My daddy doesn't feed me. And then

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he realized, oh, when he's talking to his daddy doesn't

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work when you talk to me, does it. Constant frown

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is Jack Russell. He's got a constant frown on his face,

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and he's got little eyebrows. What are you doing there for? Okay,

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you want another tree? I want to buy you some more.

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That's the last one, Vinny. In fact, I'm gonna give

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him the bag. Let's see if he can try and

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get it out of the bag. There you go. So, yeah,

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so you've got all the different parts of your body.

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Oh really, there you go. I actually cleared this place

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up yesterday, and he's determined. Do you know, you know

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when you kind of when you like vacuum, the carpet

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and then any little bit of fluff gets on it,

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or a little bit of something like gott to pick

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it up. I'm in that stage. It will go, you know.

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Eventually they'll probably be just covered in absolutely rubbish and

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the banana skins and never slipped on a banana skin.

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Do you know. Okay, I've got a story. It's not

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necessarily relevant. But so when your body relaxes, which is

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just natural, when you hear my voice because I'm so boring,

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and there's a calmness that can come. I mean, it

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might be some frustration. Some people were like, want to

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get on with it? Dance from me, monkey boy, which no,

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you know, it's not gonna be for everyone, but this

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is how I do it, and thousands of people switch

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off every day. I get thousands of complaints every single hour. Phinny,

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don't make so much noise. Please complain about him. It's

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just a distraction. It's fine. So I don't need it

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to be completely quiet to relax. I realized that years ago.

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I realized a lot of things years ago. Perhaps I

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should get back into, as I said myself, getting to

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now that's it, Hnny, have a nice quiet drink. Really

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like he's never had a drink before. He sounds like

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a huge dog. That's a lot of noise for just

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have a little drink, isn't it a bit of water?

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So just notice how your shoulder is now, how your

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shoulders feeling, Notice how the rest of your body is feeling,

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and you can go through your body. You can just

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like focus on different parts. But maybe notice how just

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over this time, you haven't purposely tried to relax any

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part of your body. You're just allowing yourself to feel

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however you feel. But during that time, the last thirty

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odd minutes of listening to me, your body is going

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to relax. It's just natural for that to happen. And

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to be fair, if you're lying down or sitting in

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a chair that supports your body and you close your eyes,

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that in itself is relaxing. You know, this is just

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a relaxing thing to do. And when you take away

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the visuals, you know, take away your eyes in the

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sense of that's what that's a big sense to remove.

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In the same way as if you block your ears

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up so you can't hear anything, it changes your perception

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not just of your surroundings, but of how you feel now.

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I don't suggest blocking off the sound because we're going

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to hear me, would you, But with your eyes closed,

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just that action of closing your eyes is a signal

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to your mind, to your brain, to your body, to

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your nervous system to calm down, to let go, to relax,

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Even if it isn't a sign to Vinnie to shut

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up and go and lay down on the settee. You know,

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if he stopped doing what he was doing, if you

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could hear that he hears and never talk about him,

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he hears me. I wonder how much he understands. Maybe

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he understands everything, because it might be a case of

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dogs do understand everything, but they get bored and it's

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like they don't want to do what they're told or

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what they're asked to do. And perhaps that's what it is.

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They're just pretending not to understand. Perhaps they understand every

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single thing, there's no way of us knowing. So you've

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got guided imagery for shoulder mobility, so you know this

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is something you could do. You can visualize the shoulder

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as it has been in the past, free and flexible,

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so it's kind of like thinking back to the last

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time that your shoulder felt completely relaxed. Think back to

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how that felt. Maybe remember where you were, what you

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were doing. It doesn't have to be anything it's extravagant.

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It's not like you've you're saluting a member of the

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all family or waving to a helicopter full of giraffes.

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It doesn't have to be anything out of the ordinary.

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Just like, remember when you could just move it around,

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which might have been yesterday. It will definitely be in

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the future, but it might have been a few days

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ago when it was fine, a few weeks ago maybe,

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But you can imagine how it felt just moving it

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around in your mind. Moved it around, easy, smooth, the

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joints working perfectly. You can imagine yourself in a sauna,

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because you know, when you're in a sauna with that

468
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heat on your joints, all of your chants will feel

469
00:39:11.920 --> 00:39:16.559
so much better. The cause the sauna might not be

470
00:39:16.840 --> 00:39:19.119
a place that you like to be. It's not my

471
00:39:19.440 --> 00:39:22.960
favorite place. It's a bit too hot, a bit too

472
00:39:23.000 --> 00:39:28.199
stuffy for me. I mean, technically it's supposed to be,

473
00:39:29.400 --> 00:39:38.440
but still yeah, and I don't know if it's the

474
00:39:38.480 --> 00:39:41.400
whole beard. It's like the setup. I like the smell,

475
00:39:43.920 --> 00:39:52.519
but there's whole kind of a little room and there's

476
00:39:52.519 --> 00:39:55.119
other people. Even if you know the people, you can't

477
00:39:55.159 --> 00:39:59.199
see them because of the steam. It's weird. It's a

478
00:39:59.239 --> 00:40:04.039
weird kind of thing. But I do like the smell,

479
00:40:05.000 --> 00:40:10.119
like the smell of saunas. But it definitely can image

480
00:40:10.119 --> 00:40:12.840
of being in the sawn and just moving your body around,

481
00:40:13.920 --> 00:40:18.719
just moving that shoulder around, or being in the swimming

482
00:40:18.760 --> 00:40:25.480
pool or jacuzzie even tell what I like the bubble makers?

483
00:40:26.679 --> 00:40:30.079
Do you know that there's the stream that shoots out?

484
00:40:30.719 --> 00:40:33.159
Will you get it in swim pools as well? The water?

485
00:40:33.239 --> 00:40:34.719
Do you know is it? Does it blow out or

486
00:40:34.719 --> 00:40:37.639
does it suck? I can't remember. In the swimming pool.

487
00:40:39.079 --> 00:40:41.039
I've not been in the swimming pool for a long

488
00:40:41.079 --> 00:40:43.639
time since I was much younger, but I used to

489
00:40:43.679 --> 00:40:47.199
like to lean against it and just feel the bubbles

490
00:40:47.440 --> 00:40:53.199
or you know, the water just I think sometimes some

491
00:40:53.239 --> 00:40:55.559
of it blue water in and there's some of it

492
00:40:55.599 --> 00:41:03.159
blue water out, I think. But with a kuzzie, it's

493
00:41:03.400 --> 00:41:08.320
you know, pushing the bubbles and stuff and whatever part

494
00:41:08.320 --> 00:41:11.039
of your body you push against it. It feels nice.

495
00:41:11.760 --> 00:41:15.679
It's like a message, isn't it. I don't know if

496
00:41:15.679 --> 00:41:23.440
anyone's ever attempted to use that message in pleasure for

497
00:41:23.559 --> 00:41:31.960
the shoulder, but could do. But being in a chacuzzi

498
00:41:33.159 --> 00:41:36.440
or being in a swimming pool minchakuzi is a lot warmer,

499
00:41:36.480 --> 00:41:38.760
isn't it, But once you're in a swimming pool, it's

500
00:41:38.840 --> 00:41:44.960
quite warm anyway. Or being in a shower, a nice

501
00:41:45.000 --> 00:41:50.480
warm shower or a big bath, just being able to

502
00:41:50.519 --> 00:41:57.360
just move the shoulder around in that heat, so that

503
00:41:57.400 --> 00:42:00.199
can be nice. So you're going to rehearse that in

504
00:42:00.239 --> 00:42:13.440
your brain. Another thing you could do is just tell yourself,

505
00:42:15.719 --> 00:42:19.960
say to yourself, to the say to yourself, tell yourself

506
00:42:20.039 --> 00:42:25.440
these words my shoulder, and if it's your right or

507
00:42:25.480 --> 00:42:32.519
your left shoulder, if it's both, just specify I want

508
00:42:32.760 --> 00:42:41.440
my shoulder to relax. You can put it like that,

509
00:42:41.599 --> 00:43:01.719
or my shoulder is relaxed, my shoulder is relaxed, your

510
00:43:01.719 --> 00:43:12.960
shoulder is relaxed, And you've basically asked your unconscious mind

511
00:43:13.559 --> 00:43:16.639
to relax your shoulder, and there's nothing more that you

512
00:43:16.719 --> 00:43:20.679
need to do. You can just observe it while it relaxes,

513
00:43:25.000 --> 00:43:27.519
or you can just continue to listen to me as

514
00:43:27.519 --> 00:43:37.000
your shoulder relaxes. Another thing you can do The weird

515
00:43:37.000 --> 00:43:38.920
thing about it is with your mind, you can still

516
00:43:38.920 --> 00:43:52.119
be rehearsing moving your shoulder around, manipulating your shoulder in

517
00:43:52.239 --> 00:43:58.599
that sauna or in that jacuzzi, or remembering another time

518
00:43:58.719 --> 00:44:03.920
in the past when your shoulder felt absolutely fine. That

519
00:44:04.079 --> 00:44:13.360
rehearsal of feeding fine, feeding relaxed can still continue. Now

520
00:44:15.320 --> 00:44:23.840
let's have a little what else do we have? Do

521
00:44:23.199 --> 00:44:31.840
you do so so you can imagine an image of

522
00:44:31.920 --> 00:44:38.840
your shoulder and you can change that image. So for me,

523
00:44:38.960 --> 00:44:42.920
I've been thinking about this recently, and I call it

524
00:44:43.000 --> 00:44:46.840
like a cut and paste technique. It's a little bit

525
00:44:46.920 --> 00:44:50.960
like if you was going to edit a video, or

526
00:44:51.079 --> 00:44:53.079
it could be a bit like a jigsaw puzzle in

527
00:44:53.119 --> 00:44:56.000
a way. So if you've got let's say, let's do

528
00:44:56.039 --> 00:44:58.480
it as a jigsaw puzzle. So you've got a jigsaw

529
00:44:58.480 --> 00:45:05.239
puzzle of your right, it's quite big jigsaw pieces, though

530
00:45:06.079 --> 00:45:11.079
not one of those like thousand piece set that takes

531
00:45:11.119 --> 00:45:14.679
six years to put together. And then when you finally

532
00:45:14.719 --> 00:45:19.880
get to the to the last piece, it's missing, and

533
00:45:19.920 --> 00:45:22.679
then you trip over and it falls out of the window.

534
00:45:24.199 --> 00:45:26.360
Not not as that's happened, but just you know, I'm

535
00:45:26.360 --> 00:45:29.679
just saying that it's not really big jigsaw puzzle, but

536
00:45:30.159 --> 00:45:34.280
it's got big pieces I suppose for like a kid,

537
00:45:34.760 --> 00:45:40.840
which would suit me probably. So the shoulder is one

538
00:45:40.880 --> 00:45:44.199
piece of the jigsaw puzzle, or two pieces of it's

539
00:45:44.239 --> 00:45:50.239
both shoulders. It's just a face on image. It doesn't

540
00:45:50.280 --> 00:45:52.159
have to be a clear image. You just can see

541
00:45:52.239 --> 00:45:57.360
roughly with a body. You've got another jigsaw puzzle. So

542
00:45:57.519 --> 00:46:06.840
one's how your shoulder is before, feeling completely relaxed, and

543
00:46:06.920 --> 00:46:13.920
the other jigsaw puzzle is of you feeling absolutely fine

544
00:46:14.079 --> 00:46:18.440
and your shoulders feeling just the same as the rest

545
00:46:18.440 --> 00:46:23.639
of your body, just fine, absolutely relaxed and calm, or

546
00:46:23.679 --> 00:46:26.639
even more relaxed than the rest of your body. Loose,

547
00:46:28.840 --> 00:46:33.760
it's completely fine. So what you can do is literally

548
00:46:35.800 --> 00:46:41.440
take out the piece from the new jigsaw puzzle of

549
00:46:41.559 --> 00:46:48.280
that shoulder where you feel exactly fine, feel great, take

550
00:46:48.320 --> 00:46:52.840
out the piece from the other jigsaw puzzle, and then

551
00:46:52.920 --> 00:46:58.639
just replace it with the new piece. Still exactly the

552
00:46:58.679 --> 00:47:06.519
same picture, but now changes the way you feel. And

553
00:47:06.599 --> 00:47:09.920
with that old piece, what you can do is you

554
00:47:09.920 --> 00:47:12.960
can just rip it up because you know it's made

555
00:47:13.000 --> 00:47:17.039
of cardboard. I mean, if I suppose you could have

556
00:47:17.079 --> 00:47:19.760
a jigsaw like what my jigsaw puzzle is made of metal?

557
00:47:19.920 --> 00:47:22.159
How am I supposed to rip it up? Why would

558
00:47:22.199 --> 00:47:26.199
you imagine a metal jigsaw puzzle? Are you just trying

559
00:47:26.239 --> 00:47:30.400
to get into your own why get out of your

560
00:47:30.400 --> 00:47:34.599
own way? Make it easy to rip cardboard as well,

561
00:47:35.519 --> 00:47:39.320
not that hard cardboard. That's like, really, you know, I

562
00:47:39.360 --> 00:47:43.920
can't get through it. I feel so weak, even though

563
00:47:44.079 --> 00:47:48.400
you should be able to get No, easy to rip up.

564
00:47:50.119 --> 00:47:56.559
And then you can just I don't know, drop it

565
00:47:56.559 --> 00:48:02.840
in the bin, check it out window, but it just

566
00:48:03.199 --> 00:48:11.800
blow away and then you've got So that's something else

567
00:48:11.840 --> 00:48:20.880
you could do. You've got progressive muscle relaxation. It's kind

568
00:48:20.880 --> 00:48:26.599
of like a body scan, but focusing on relaxation. So

569
00:48:27.239 --> 00:48:35.679
for example, focusing on your shoulder now, just noticing the

570
00:48:35.760 --> 00:48:44.920
muscles in your shoulders just starting to let go. Maybe

571
00:48:44.960 --> 00:48:48.840
every time you breathe out, it releases more of that

572
00:48:49.000 --> 00:48:54.679
tension from your shoulder, and then you're naturally breathe in

573
00:48:55.159 --> 00:49:01.840
hate your own pace. You're breathing in comfort and relaxation

574
00:49:03.280 --> 00:49:11.280
into your shoulder, and when you breathe out again, releasing

575
00:49:12.239 --> 00:49:20.639
any remaining tension, and that just continues. Anyway, while we talk,

576
00:49:23.119 --> 00:49:25.639
we could we could have just done that for an hour,

577
00:49:26.679 --> 00:49:36.800
just focused solely on relaxing your shoulder. Here's something I

578
00:49:36.880 --> 00:49:40.320
quite like the idea of, and I'm going to I'm

579
00:49:40.320 --> 00:49:42.079
going to make a reference to the Wizard of Us,

580
00:49:44.000 --> 00:49:50.079
the original movie. You don't need a broomstick, don't worry,

581
00:49:52.840 --> 00:49:55.880
or a yellow prick road. You don't need any of

582
00:49:55.880 --> 00:49:58.239
the cast, you don't don't need any of the props

583
00:49:58.239 --> 00:50:01.559
from the movie. All it is. I'm just gonna do

584
00:50:01.760 --> 00:50:09.599
you remember when Dorothy finds the tin Man and he's like,

585
00:50:09.840 --> 00:50:18.440
oh oh, but he's stuck because he needs oiling so

586
00:50:18.480 --> 00:50:23.079
he can't move, And I say, it's weird. I've always

587
00:50:23.079 --> 00:50:27.920
thought of like frozen parts of the body, like frozen shoulder.

588
00:50:28.599 --> 00:50:31.079
Even when I was a kid, I thought it's like

589
00:50:31.159 --> 00:50:35.280
a tin man. It just needs oiling on. Someone's got

590
00:50:36.159 --> 00:50:40.280
a need. That's maybe not the joint's not working quite

591
00:50:40.320 --> 00:50:45.559
so well. And I'm not saying that my knee is

592
00:50:45.599 --> 00:50:49.360
exactly the same as a tin man's knees, because you know,

593
00:50:49.480 --> 00:50:53.320
technically it's probably a fictional character. It might be based

594
00:50:53.360 --> 00:50:55.559
on fact. I'm not sure. I haven't done my research.

595
00:50:56.559 --> 00:51:00.639
But what you can do is like the tin man,

596
00:51:03.880 --> 00:51:07.639
because the rest of your body is fine. Hopefully your

597
00:51:07.639 --> 00:51:11.840
shoulder is now as well. But you can just imagine

598
00:51:12.559 --> 00:51:20.119
sprinkling some oil into your shoulder joints. Yeah, it feels

599
00:51:20.159 --> 00:51:23.920
quite relaxing. I've just imagined doing it. I'm physically moving

600
00:51:24.000 --> 00:51:28.559
my hand and pretending to squirt oil into the joints

601
00:51:28.559 --> 00:51:33.039
of my shoulder. I'm kind of doing it in my mind.

602
00:51:33.079 --> 00:51:37.760
I'm actually using my hand. Use the opposite hand. It's

603
00:51:37.800 --> 00:51:44.960
easier unless you're double jointed. And could you do it

604
00:51:44.960 --> 00:51:52.159
if you was double jointed? I don't know another thing

605
00:51:52.199 --> 00:51:54.039
of I've not really looked into that. I don't think

606
00:51:54.039 --> 00:51:57.800
I will either. I don't think having that knowledge would

607
00:51:57.840 --> 00:52:04.559
really improve my life. I don't know. It feels relaxing,

608
00:52:04.639 --> 00:52:10.320
it feels quite nice. Actually, So you've got another thing.

609
00:52:11.840 --> 00:52:15.519
You can change the colors. This is something that I did.

610
00:52:16.519 --> 00:52:19.159
This is one of my first techniques I ever did

611
00:52:19.840 --> 00:52:24.480
with helping people with chronic pain issues. I got them.

612
00:52:24.519 --> 00:52:26.320
I'll go for a technique with you, so you can

613
00:52:27.079 --> 00:52:31.400
do it if you want. Here we go, So just

614
00:52:31.679 --> 00:52:37.000
focus on your shoulder. I wouldn't always say focus on

615
00:52:37.039 --> 00:52:39.159
your shoulder, because I did have people with other parts

616
00:52:39.199 --> 00:52:43.079
of their body, you know, It wasn't that. I was like,

617
00:52:43.960 --> 00:52:45.960
I've been coming to you, to you for three months now.

618
00:52:46.519 --> 00:52:49.079
You know you're very relaxing, but why do you keep

619
00:52:49.119 --> 00:52:52.239
focusing on my shoulder? I came to you about my knee.

620
00:52:52.719 --> 00:52:56.320
It's like, no, I don't. They didn't keep mentioning the shoulders,

621
00:52:56.880 --> 00:52:59.039
but on this occasion, and because that's what we're here for,

622
00:53:06.199 --> 00:53:08.920
just relaxing. I bet you wondered if I was going

623
00:53:08.960 --> 00:53:12.519
to talk again, then, didn't you. That's the longest I

624
00:53:12.559 --> 00:53:16.960
went without talking. Even I thought I wonder if I'd

625
00:53:17.039 --> 00:53:22.280
just keep quiet for a minute or so. I think

626
00:53:22.320 --> 00:53:31.039
everyone would appreciate that, especially if Anny. He falls asleep eventually,

627
00:53:31.199 --> 00:53:33.880
once he gets fed up, and he doesn't you know,

628
00:53:34.039 --> 00:53:36.679
he's not getting his own way. He just gives up.

629
00:53:36.760 --> 00:53:40.000
He lays down by my feet and he goes fast asleep.

630
00:53:45.360 --> 00:53:49.119
He doesn't realize how lucky he is to live with

631
00:53:49.159 --> 00:53:56.119
such an exciting person. So basically, all it is you

632
00:53:56.199 --> 00:54:02.320
focus on your shoulder, focus on the feeling of your shoulder.

633
00:54:03.440 --> 00:54:09.440
You move that feeling out of your shoulder and like

634
00:54:09.519 --> 00:54:16.480
a ball in front of you, just turning. There's different

635
00:54:16.519 --> 00:54:19.119
things you can do once it's out in front of

636
00:54:19.159 --> 00:54:26.079
you turning. So maybe it's got a color. Now, maybe

637
00:54:26.119 --> 00:54:30.039
it's got a color red or green, or blue or

638
00:54:30.079 --> 00:54:34.079
purple or whatever it is. If it hasn't got a color,

639
00:54:34.960 --> 00:54:40.159
maybe it's transparent. Give it a new color, turn it

640
00:54:40.199 --> 00:54:47.440
to yellow. Maybe it's got a sound, Notice what sound

641
00:54:47.480 --> 00:54:56.239
it is, and you can change the color to green.

642
00:54:59.360 --> 00:55:01.400
Of course, if I mention the color that it always

643
00:55:01.559 --> 00:55:04.760
was or already was, then just ignore that. So it's

644
00:55:04.800 --> 00:55:07.480
the case is just changing the color, so I won't

645
00:55:07.519 --> 00:55:17.000
mention any new colors. Change the color again, and change

646
00:55:17.000 --> 00:55:28.079
the color again and again, and just push it out

647
00:55:28.079 --> 00:55:38.159
a bit further further away. You can still see it,

648
00:55:38.199 --> 00:55:45.239
but it's further away. Notice which way it's spinning. It

649
00:55:45.320 --> 00:55:49.400
might be spinning clockwise or anti clockwise. Maybe there's a

650
00:55:49.400 --> 00:55:52.719
way it's spinning that's it might be just spinning forward

651
00:55:53.840 --> 00:56:01.519
or spinning backwards. So whichever way it's spinning, just reverse it,

652
00:56:01.599 --> 00:56:19.400
spin it the opposite way. Notice how that changes it

653
00:56:19.440 --> 00:56:22.159
so that feeling. What you can do now is you

654
00:56:22.199 --> 00:56:27.320
can freeze it. Just turn it into a piece of ice,

655
00:56:36.480 --> 00:56:40.320
and you can travel with that piece of ice to

656
00:56:40.440 --> 00:56:44.639
that hole, that really large hole we were talking about earlier.

657
00:56:46.159 --> 00:56:49.000
That's too hot to dig, and you can drop that

658
00:56:49.039 --> 00:56:58.039
piece of ice all the way down there and they'll

659
00:56:58.079 --> 00:57:06.199
be falling for quite a while, but of course it'll

660
00:57:06.320 --> 00:57:08.760
me it will melt. One exits so hot down there,

661
00:57:09.599 --> 00:57:27.559
it will disappear. And I suppose something you can do

662
00:57:27.679 --> 00:57:32.559
is you can start to think of the future, how

663
00:57:32.599 --> 00:57:36.000
you're going to feel tomorrow, how you're going to feel

664
00:57:36.320 --> 00:57:43.119
the next day. With a calm and relaxed shoulder, imagine

665
00:57:44.199 --> 00:57:48.239
being fully active, doing all the things that you would

666
00:57:48.280 --> 00:58:08.920
normally do naturally feeling completely relaxed and peaceful. Completely can't serene,

667
00:58:11.880 --> 00:58:16.960
and there may be a strange sensation in your mind,

668
00:58:18.559 --> 00:58:22.400
almost like ah, you know, a bit like when you

669
00:58:22.440 --> 00:58:29.599
see a magic trick and it's like, okay, how did

670
00:58:29.639 --> 00:58:42.199
that happen? I saw something the other day. Well it's

671
00:58:42.199 --> 00:58:45.159
a while back, but and there was that kind of situation.

672
00:58:45.320 --> 00:58:50.519
I thought, how on earth this cat? It's down my

673
00:58:50.639 --> 00:58:53.880
road where I live. So I'm just with Vidie walking

674
00:58:53.880 --> 00:58:57.440
towards the park and I hear this noise. Viny he

675
00:58:57.440 --> 00:59:00.599
hears every cat everywhere. So he turns around and I

676
00:59:00.639 --> 00:59:04.480
look where he's looking. This cat jumps out of the

677
00:59:04.480 --> 00:59:09.119
bathroom window, which is upstairs. On someone's you know, and

678
00:59:09.119 --> 00:59:14.000
there's this like a verandah or whatever. It is just

679
00:59:14.119 --> 00:59:18.920
above the front door, like a shelter kind of if

680
00:59:18.960 --> 00:59:22.639
that makes sense. So jumps from the bedroom window, kitchen

681
00:59:22.679 --> 00:59:28.119
window onto this patio thing, and then jumps onto the

682
00:59:28.159 --> 00:59:33.440
car roof, then the car bonnet, and then onto the ground.

683
00:59:38.800 --> 00:59:43.159
As I explain it, it doesn't sound so spectacular, but

684
00:59:43.199 --> 00:59:49.000
at the time, I've never seen anything like it. And

685
00:59:49.079 --> 00:59:54.400
maybe that's how people felt in the West when they

686
00:59:54.440 --> 01:00:00.320
first saw an elephant. It's like, what is that the

687
01:00:00.440 --> 01:00:04.480
size of a well, but it's got a willie on

688
01:00:04.519 --> 01:00:07.519
its face, like you know, I don't know, it must

689
01:00:07.559 --> 01:00:12.880
be really, it must have been weird. I don't know

690
01:00:12.920 --> 01:00:15.320
if I should have ended on that blind me. I

691
01:00:15.320 --> 01:00:17.960
didn't know that was coming out of my mouth. So yeah,

692
01:00:18.039 --> 01:00:22.760
it's just sometimes like what how I used to get

693
01:00:22.760 --> 01:00:25.480
that a lot when I was younger, Like no, I

694
01:00:25.480 --> 01:00:27.800
don't mean at school or why have you just what

695
01:00:27.920 --> 01:00:30.519
you're talking about? I don't mean I did get that.

696
01:00:31.320 --> 01:00:42.719
But sometimes there's the whole like why it's changed? Why

697
01:00:42.840 --> 01:00:48.039
why well, you just spent the last hour listening to me.

698
01:00:49.840 --> 01:00:52.280
Didn't you want it? Then you want your shoulder? To relax.

699
01:00:52.840 --> 01:00:56.719
Don't you didn't you want your shoulder to feel different

700
01:00:57.679 --> 01:01:01.800
now to how it did before you decided to listen

701
01:01:01.840 --> 01:01:07.239
to me for the single, single for the single purpose,

702
01:01:09.920 --> 01:01:17.480
to feel more comfortable, to feel more relaxed, more peaceful.

703
01:01:25.400 --> 01:01:29.639
And sometimes it can almost be feel a bit unbelievable,

704
01:01:29.760 --> 01:01:35.599
like how it's literally been talking absolutely rubbish for an hour.

705
01:01:36.159 --> 01:01:38.880
How can that benefit? How can that be of use?

706
01:01:41.679 --> 01:01:52.119
But then you've got the proof that actually, oh it

707
01:01:52.119 --> 01:01:57.159
feels different. Yeah I'm not I'm not expecting you to

708
01:01:57.199 --> 01:02:01.199
do cartwheels or you know, send me a birthday cake.

709
01:02:01.760 --> 01:02:04.599
Well it's not my birthday. You know, I'm not expecting

710
01:02:04.599 --> 01:02:09.360
a firework display my honor. But you know it's nice

711
01:02:09.679 --> 01:02:18.360
let me know how you get on, and the more

712
01:02:18.400 --> 01:02:29.880
often you listen to this, the more benefit you can gain. Plus,

713
01:02:29.920 --> 01:02:38.559
I do regular recordings for lots of different things, so

714
01:02:38.719 --> 01:02:43.960
much of it is relaxation, even though let Me Boy

715
01:02:44.079 --> 01:02:51.079
to Sleep recordings are basically it's about calming, feeling more relaxed,

716
01:02:56.239 --> 01:03:07.239
and it's nice to just let go take a break,

717
01:03:07.320 --> 01:03:11.920
you know, for an hour, and allow your body to

718
01:03:12.119 --> 01:03:32.960
realign so that you feel more refreshed, invigorated and I'm

719
01:03:33.000 --> 01:03:35.719
probably the only person you'll ever hear say the words

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01:03:36.320 --> 01:03:43.079
refreshed and invigorated in such a boring manner. Wasn't a

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01:03:43.159 --> 01:03:48.480
huge amount of energy behind those words, was there. I'm

722
01:03:48.559 --> 01:03:53.079
just very relaxed, very very relaxed talker. You know, if

723
01:03:53.119 --> 01:04:03.440
I started shouting invigorated and completely your shoulder feels amazing. Now, Oh,

724
01:04:03.480 --> 01:04:09.559
that probably wouldn't fit in with the The way that

725
01:04:09.679 --> 01:04:19.039
I talk doesn't change. How you feel is how you feel,

726
01:04:20.920 --> 01:04:32.639
relaxed and calm, peaceful and Herbert the pigeons out there.

727
01:04:32.800 --> 01:04:44.119
He agrees. Well, actually just showed why. Jane like, I

728
01:04:44.280 --> 01:04:46.079
can't talk right now, mate, I'm in the middle of

729
01:04:46.119 --> 01:04:52.119
the recording. Don't know if you can hear me. Again, I

730
01:04:52.119 --> 01:04:53.960
didn't want to shout because that wouldn't have been good.

731
01:04:57.199 --> 01:04:59.679
Oh he did hear me. He said, that's okay, but

732
01:05:03.159 --> 01:05:10.599
blind me. That's a lot of chatting, right He just said, yeah,

733
01:05:10.800 --> 01:05:12.519
did I tell you about the new shoes I bought?

734
01:05:13.800 --> 01:05:21.679
I'll I'll chat to him later. The thing is imagine

735
01:05:21.760 --> 01:05:24.440
like if something you told someone old. I'm going to

736
01:05:24.480 --> 01:05:32.320
listen to this recording. You know about this bloke Jason's maid,

737
01:05:34.320 --> 01:05:35.920
and they asked you later, I said, howd you get

738
01:05:35.960 --> 01:05:39.280
on the recording? And so I was really relaxing, and

739
01:05:39.320 --> 01:05:42.159
then he started shouting at a pigeon that's in a tree,

740
01:05:42.559 --> 01:05:45.800
started talking really loudly, and then in this big conversation

741
01:05:45.920 --> 01:05:50.760
with a pigeon. It was just weird. So that's why

742
01:05:50.800 --> 01:05:55.599
I'm not gonna Well, I had a part partial conversation

743
01:05:55.679 --> 01:05:57.880
with the pigeon, but I'm not going to be talking

744
01:05:58.079 --> 01:06:03.000
loudly to the pigeon because that just be weird, wouldn't

745
01:06:02.159 --> 01:06:05.239
That's it's like just getting up and going to the

746
01:06:05.280 --> 01:06:10.280
toilet and not editing it out. Actually it's nothing like that,

747
01:06:10.440 --> 01:06:16.599
is It's not really Well, no, it's nothing like that.

748
01:06:16.599 --> 01:06:22.039
That might happen one day by accident. I did actually

749
01:06:22.039 --> 01:06:24.400
make a recording. I made a video once where I

750
01:06:24.400 --> 01:06:27.920
fell asleep. I don't know if I was doing a

751
01:06:27.960 --> 01:06:31.320
live session or not, but I can't remember. It might

752
01:06:31.360 --> 01:06:38.400
have been a live Facebook or YouTube post stream and

753
01:06:38.440 --> 01:06:45.159
it was just me snoring for about two hours. Oh well,

754
01:06:46.360 --> 01:06:49.679
so I'm going to go and have some teacakes and

755
01:06:49.719 --> 01:06:52.360
a cup of tea. Toasted tea cakes and a cup

756
01:06:52.360 --> 01:06:56.440
of tea. That's what I'm going to do. And what's

757
01:06:56.480 --> 01:07:06.119
a bit Telly, so thank you for listening. Remember to

758
01:07:06.199 --> 01:07:11.519
be kind to yourself because you do deserve to be happy,

759
01:07:14.519 --> 01:07:21.000
and also be gentle with yourself because you deserve to

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01:07:21.039 --> 01:07:29.199
feel safe. Lots of love, bye,