April 17, 2025

(music) EARNEST | Let me bore your pain away #25 | Jason Newland | 17th April 2025

(music) EARNEST | Let me bore your pain away #25 | Jason Newland | 17th April 2025
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Hello, and welcome to Jasonnewland dot com. My name's Jason Newland.

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Please plish plesh pledge only listen when you can safely closeize.

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So this is let me boil your pain away. Its

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basically just me wabbling on about various things you can

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hopefully help to reduce the physical sensations of your chronic pain. Ultimately,

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I guess it's just I mean that it's very base.

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It could be a relaxation session, you know, just a

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distraction maybe, and only listen, of course, I said when

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you can safety close your eyes, but also with the

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permission of your doctor, because you do need to know

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the cause of the chronic pain. You need to know

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the cause of the pain basically before you listen. And

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I would advise that about any thing, any kind of

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real life therapy as well. Find out the cause first

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before you get any kind of treatment. Although this isn't treatment,

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and this is not a replacement for treatment. This is

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just a middle aged Englishman just talking. I saw this

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is if it helps, brilliant and I hope it does.

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But I'm not a replacement for anything else. The only

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thing I could really replace is, you know, if you

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had a really boring friend who used to talk to

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or listen to, because let's face it, maybe they just

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talked at you, and maybe they've moved away and you

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don't have contact with them anymore. I can be a

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replacement for that some boring person talks at you. Or

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if you've got someone that likes to eat all your

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chocolate and maybe they're not around anymore for whatever reason,

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I can replace that person because I do or I

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love chocolate. I could go on, but I won't. I

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was going to say, if you've got someone that maybe

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that you don't see anymore, that had a really weird beard,

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that's me as well. I'm thinking of growing my beard,

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like really big, like it was twenty twenty. It was

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so big even scared the cashier at the garage with

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the petrol station. She because I had I was trying

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to wear a mask, and the mask basically it just

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didn't even cover it. It was just that the mask

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looked tiny, my head looked massive. And when I trimmed it,

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she said to me, I'm so glad you got rid

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of that beard. I used to get so scared when

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i'd see you walking up here. So it was just

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a beard, she said, yeah, but it was. It was

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just so wide. So what do you mean She said,

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like you were knocking things off the shelves. Eat dating

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a little bit. He said, you like people keeping their

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distance here, not because they had to, because I didn't

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have any choice. Because your beard was about six foot long.

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She went on a bit. She went over the top

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with this. It wasn't six foot long. It was quite big.

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There's actually a video of me on YouTube somewhere, a

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couple of videos with that beard, and it's really large,

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like really a big, fat beard. It was. Some may

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argue that's not relevant to the recording, and I would say, yeah, yeah,

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maybe maybe not. Depends. I might talk about beards, I

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might not talk about beards. I never know what I'm

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going to talk about. Oh yeah, So I have a

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Facebook group, Jason Newland's Boring Group if you want to

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get together with other people that like the recordings I do,

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and you can also sell me messages on there. I've

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also got a YouTube channel where I now post every

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new recording I do, including all six versions without music,

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five and ten hours about music with music, five and

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ten with music. So that's the new thing I'm doing.

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It's just another place where you can listen to my

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podcasts and my website Jasonnewland dot com. Well, by the way,

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the YouTube channel is at Jason Newland and you sew

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a website. All the latest recordings are on there and whenever.

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If you would like to ask me a question or

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submit a quequestion for the upcoming Q and A Friday,

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which I do every week, then please go on there

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and you can fill a form in this tiny little

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form with your question and your name. That's pretty much it,

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and I will whatever questions I get between each Friday,

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so between finishing the Friday and a Friday recording and

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the next beginning of recording it, whatever questions I get

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during that week I will include, and I'll mention your name.

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I only mentioned first names, and I'll try and answer

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the question. Some would argue that I perhaps don't answer

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the questions correctly, but there is no right and wrong

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way to answer a question you might ask. You know,

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for example, you might ask me what was the first

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first time I wore a tie and or the first

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time I wore a suit? And I might tell you

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about a bicycle that I had that got a puncture

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and I had to push it all the way up

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a hill. So there's no guaranteed that I'm going to

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necessarily focus on the question. I might get a little

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bit sidetracked. Sometimes I do try and bring it back,

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but you know, these occasions when I'm not as focused

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as maybe some may wish I was. I'm quite happy

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with the way I do it, but I don't always

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I try and answer the questions, but sometimes I get

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a question it's a little bit like, oh, I have

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to be careful because, you know, especially if it involves

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other people in my life and I don't. I can't

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you know, if they listen to this, I have to

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be careful. They don't say anything derogatory, you know, So

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I have to. But generally, any question, if I can

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answer it, I will. If I can't, I'll still answer it.

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But it might be but plus I didn't even finish

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that sentence. Plus you can ask me the same question

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every week for a whole year, and you'll probably get

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a different answer every week, because it depends what my

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mood is depends And also, you know, sometimes I'll answer

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a question on Q and a Friday, and I'd be

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sitting over there afterwards thinking, especially when it thinks like

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what's your favorite movie or what's your favorite song, or

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and I was thinking, oh, wait a minute, no, my

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favorite movie is that this you know? Not kind of

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I forgot to mention this thing, or you know, it

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reminds me blind me to forget. This is a true story.

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Someone came to me and they had a phobia or

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not a phobia, but they just traveling to the airport.

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Because this person has gone on holiday, traveling to the

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airport was causing like a lot of anxiety. And the

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person couldn't figure out why. It's like, I don't know why.

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It's like he had a phobia. He had a phobia

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of traveling to the airport in a car, like get

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a taxi, I think, or drove I don't know. And

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I was like, okay, you got an issue with a plane. No,

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I ain't got an issue with a plane, is it?

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You've got an issue with the people you're going with?

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Not really? I mean, I got three kids, but you

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get used to the math for a while, don't you what.

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I can't leave my own these days, got to take

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them with you, okay. And it was like, okay, trying

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to figure it out. She came and this might have

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been a hypnosis. I don't know if it's a hypnosis

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or it was counseling. I can't remember in what what

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words were going into head I had on that day. Anyway,

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after about the third session, she said, she mentioned that

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she'd been in a car crash on the way to

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the airport, like about five years ago, quite a serious

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car crash. Like okay, it's the dots weren't joining in

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his mind, I'm saying his in her because I can't

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remember if it was a bloke or woman. I've got

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no idea, don't care. But they didn't. They didn't have

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like it seems so obvious, like well, obviously if if

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you've got this issue because something bad happened, something you

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know quite you know hard, happened on the way to

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an airport, because traveling to the airport wasn't something that

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they did regularly. It was like a once a year

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thing or twice a year. I don't know. And unless,

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of course he was an air like it could have

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been a pilot. I suppose. No, no, I don't think

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he was a pilot. So it's amazing that sometimes you know,

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forgetting things, and it's it's all about forgetting things that

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I remember on my chairs falling apart. I keep picking

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at the Do you know I've got like a gaming chair?

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I don't. I'm not a gamer. The last time I

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even attempted to play a computer game two thousand and five,

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and somebody sold me their game Boy. I think it

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was game Boy? Is it game Boy? What is it?

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Not the Xbox? But the other one? Is it a

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game Boy? So he sold me that, and I was like,

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I don't know what to do with this. The chair

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is not falling apart because I've had it for twenty years.

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I just haven't. I keep picking it. I'm just thinking

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if that was my fingers I was picking it. I

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don't have no fingers left. So yeah, there's been times

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when I've forgotten about my lower back. See, I've very,

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very skillfully pulled it back to the reason I'm doing

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this recording, and I'm very pleased with myself. Perhaps I

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shouldn't have mentioned it because it takes away the potential

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cleverness of what I did. But now thinking about it,

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maybe it wasn't that clever. Maybe it was just too

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I kind of get a senses like the arrows are

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basically pulling the point at the fact that he's now

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mentioned in forgetting, he's going to start talking about forgetting

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about the pain. That's what you're going to do now,

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isn't it? Ah? Yeah, but not always put my finger

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in my ear. I just pulled out some ear wax.

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Is it? Do you wonder? Like white ear wax is

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such a weird color. See. I have to be careful

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with my ears. Not because they're so big. I don't

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get them get stuck in between buildings because are so big. No,

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not because they're that big, but they are fairly big.

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Although until it's weird. I had a friend at school

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and he had his ears pinned back. He actually went

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and had an operation. His ear didn't even stick out.

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I didn't. It's just like it wasn't even to me

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that noticeable. You know, it's weird. It's like I thought

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my ears probably stuck out just as much as his did.

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But he, you know, he had a thing about it,

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so he got his ears pinned back. And yeah, I

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think that's another thing about distraction, isn't it is? Because

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I'm trying to keep coming back to my lower back.

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But when I was thinking about my friend's ears, I

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don't get I don't spend a lot of time thinking

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about his ears. By the way I mean, it's like

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back when I was about eleven or twelve, so so it's,

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you know, a few years ago. It's over fifteen years ago,

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so I don't spend a lot of time thinking of

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his ears. But when I was thinking of his ears,

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I wasn't folk be on my lower back. And you

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might be thinking that's because he had such big ears.

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He didn't, And it's rude. Don't make fun of my

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friend who I haven't seen for forty years. I suppose technically,

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is he still a friend? I don't know, see the

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way I see it, And it's weird. But I've got

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what DI left school in nineteen eighty six, so it's

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nearly forty years ago, is that right? Eighty six, ninety six,

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two thousand and six, two thy sixteen, twenty twenty six,

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so many years time, So it's thirty nine years. There

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are people I went to school with who are still

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have high regard for, and I haven't seen them pretty

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much since I left school. Like a song called Stephan

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or Stephan Stefan. I remember his surname. I remember what

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he looked like. He was tall, and he was cool

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and I remember him. I just he was on these people.

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He's someone that I kind of want to be like.

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Obviously nothing like him, but I would, you know, if

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I could have chosen to be like anyone, probably in

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my year, he would have been one of the people

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I've chosen to be like, because he was. He was

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a man, That's the one thing. He was already a

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man physically, but he seemed to be a man mentally

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as well. It was more clue together, it was more sensible.

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He wasn't scared of anything. He just was strong. But

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it was also nice, you know. He looked out for people,

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and I just, yeah, it's weird. I'm hoping that the

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older I'm not going to say his name, but the

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I E E E E e E doesn't start shouting

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because of the conversations, the very loud conversations going on

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in the garden. Yesterday. Man, they were playing music, but

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I think they're doing it from a phone, so it's

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just all distorted from a distance. It's distorted, isn't If

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you hear someone's phone music and had it blasting like

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all day, all all day, right till about eleven at night.

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I was like, what the heck, it was very strange.

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I hope that's not a sign of things to come.

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I can I can imagine I'm getting going to get

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a letter. Dear Jason. I quite like some of you

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will let me boy, you'll let me bore your pain

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away recordings. But you did one third day, the seventeenth

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of April, and it was more like, let me bore

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you by moaning about stuff. Let me moan at you

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and we you know, just just moaned all the way

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through it. How is that useful? It's useful to me.

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Lets me get rid of it. I feel better now, Oh,

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letting all the negativity out more. I'm not moaning. I'm

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just pointing out. You want to hear a moan, this

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is a moan, but it's not really. It's kind of

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as a funny moan. I can't believe this happened. I'll

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tell you in a minute. So when I was focusing

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on my on my friends, fokinging, focusing on my friend's ears.

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To be fair, actually, anything I do when I make

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these recordings, my lower back relaxes. There's something about my voice.

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I'm not saying that in like, oh, I have such

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a calm voice. I don't mean like that, but just

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there's something about recording or doing these recordings that has

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a tendency to relax me. Sometimes I do feel tired

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when I make them a yawn. Sometimes my body feels well.

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My whole body feels quite relaxed right now. But my

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lower back, I'm focusing on it. That's where the old

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arthritis is in my lower back, left side, and you know,

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I'm kind of stretching it. I can feel that. It's

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this I don't know. You know, you know when you

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have local anesthetic, so you can still feel the pressure,

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but you can't there's no physical discomfort, but you can

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feel the pressure. So if a dentist is doing stuff,

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or maybe you're having stitches and giving you local anesthetic

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in your hand or your foot or whatever. I had

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it when I had an ingrind tonail sorted. Once I

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had a local anesthetic, and it's weird. You can feel

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the pressure, but it's like that's it. It's a bit

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like that. I can kind of I'm pressing on my

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lower back, not hard, just so I can feel. I

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can feel it, but it's just nothing. It just feels

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the same as the other side. Really, it's kind of weird.

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What was I going to tell you? All Right? I

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went out today, So I was in here and I

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was just doing some What did I do? Yeah, I

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was just finishing up with because I do the recordings

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and I upload them and after editing them and all

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that stuff, there was a few bits and bobs I

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needed to do. One of those things was to add

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the images to some of the podcast episodes. So I

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did that. So that took a little while. Itchy bummed. Sorry,

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oh that's better. The buttock I should say buttock really,

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just in case you think, well, should you go wash

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your an? Shouldn't you? I've got trousers on, so I

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I need to cut my fingernails. Actually, So I was

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just finishing off some of the I would classic is

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administration stuff, you know, some of that stuff that needed

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to be done. And I had two pieces of chocolate.

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I don't generally eat chocolate, but on this occasion I

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had a dairy milk caramel Kapy's Dairy milk caramel bar

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with two bits left from last night. But it was warm,

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and I thought to myself, it seems a shame to

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not eat it right now. It just do you know,

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you ever get that that situation where you think it

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just seems like the right thing to do. It's just

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seemed like if you if you're walking down the street

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and you see someone struggling with an elderly person struggling

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with some really really heavy, heavy shopping, and then you

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see someone like a young woman who's maybe struggling to

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do a bolly get out. You know, maybe she's her

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hairs getting wet. So you go and help the young person,

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the attractive and I'm joking and joking and joking, so

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you help the person needs help, and it feels like

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the right thing to do. That's how I am with

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the chocolate. It's but morally it felt the right decision

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to eat that chocolate. There's only two pieces. I mean,

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I lost the stone. Well, I lost the stone in

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the heart and said I've lost the stone and I've

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not put it back on. I lost the stone in

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half and I put half a stone back on. So

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technically I suppose I can't really be dancing around doing

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somersaults making out that one are good because I've not

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put the weight back on, because technically I've put one

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third of it back on. But if you move away

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from that I'm still I'm fifteen, not sixteen stone, so

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that's good. What I'll be by Christmas? I might be

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seventeen stone. I don't think so. Don that bit of

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melt thing. Honestly, I've got this bracket on this desk.

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It reminds me. Okay, you ever see it's a wonderful life.

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And they've got he's got that banister, like the thing

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that he holds onto the banister right at the top

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of the bottom of the stairs and it just comes off,

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and he's like, oh, damn banister. And then when he

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comes back off the pier and all his family there

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and all his friends come to save him financially, and

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the old man Zion Zion or whatever it is, is playing,

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and you know, he goes upstairs to see his daughter

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because he's Juju, because he had a petal. It's didn't

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he in a in his pocket Ju's pedal, Ju's pedal,

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it comes off like oh oh, and he's happy, where

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like an hour earlier he was like annoyed. He's like,

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oh girl, And I was like, oh, it was a

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bit like that. I lost my training fought there what

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was I talking about. I was talking about eating chocolate,

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and I ended up focusing on a banister on Oh,

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this metal thing, it's like that. That's it, this metal

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thing on my desk. And it's not like a banister

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because that would be weird because it's nothing like that.

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But it's something that's just annoying me, and I just like,

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I wish I could do something about it, but that

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would that would involve effort, and it's just there. I

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just need this screwdriver. But I lent my screwdriver to

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my neighbor, and my neighbor never re basically gave it back.

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I don't want to read it was going to be repeated, reported,

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reprieved returned, that's it never returned it, or I've got

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another one. We need your money. Recently things ain't been

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so good. Disney's had a few problems. We need your

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money please. Plus we we kind of did everything we

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could to ruin the Marvel franchise. I still stick with

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Marvel even though Disney really have gone out of their

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way to destroy it. I don't know why, because that

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was I mean, they have the rights, they owned Star

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Wars and the Marvel all the Marvel movies and stuff,

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and I don't know, I'm not quite sure why they've

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kind of done what they've done. And they really need

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some pr They need someone to have a word with

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some of their stars as well, just to be quiet

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when they're promoting a movie. It's really I reckon that

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snow White. If it had got good ratings, regardless if

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it was good or not, it might be a really

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good movie. I don't know, I've not watched it, but

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if it had good ratings, it would have been probably

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the biggest hit of the year, even if it wasn't

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particularly good, just because it's a Disney movie. It's a remaker,

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one of the most famous Disney movies of all time,

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and it's got some famous people in it. You know,

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it's got wonder Woman. She's in it, isn't she. It

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just shows you how easily because of social networking, social media,

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the Internet and all that stuff. It's like they go

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to town in a much a stronger way than the

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national press ever used to. It used to be like

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a slow burning thing with the newspapers. You know, they

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try and do something and if everyone else followed, then

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it would be good. Sometimes it wouldn't work. And they

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did one recently about it was Stephen Frye. So Stephen

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fry made a controversial comment Stephen Frye contraversy contra This

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is recently and oh he's got another one now. The

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thing is, I don't know if it was it was

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accused of making racist and sexist jokes or I don't

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know what it was. Oh yeah, I know what it was.

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He made had been criticized for controversial comments regarding some yeah,

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quite serious stuff. They posted it whoever it was online.

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No one showed the slightest bit of interest because he

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would have been well, he wasn't canceled, and it seems

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like he's above being canceled. Some people just are above that.

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Russell Brand seems to be above that. John Tate what

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was his name, Tate? Wherever that name is the bloke Tate,

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what's his first name? Tate used to be Tit and

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lyon if you put Tate in Jenny used to be

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like Tate and Nile Sugar that's weird. I put in

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Tate into Google, enough it's coming up other than okay,

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if I just check Tate modern Hotels, Andrew is it Andrew?

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I bet if I just put Andrew, it'll probably come

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up in the distance. And that was a very slurpy word.

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Then andrews Andrew Andrew. Yeah, a n the first word

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Andrew Tate's the first person that comes up as soon

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as I put a in, So Andrew Tate is. It's

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quite funny because the what Ricky Gervai said that Andrew

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Tate is what a fourteen year old boy thinks a

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man is supposed to be like. And I thought it's

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quite funny because he's not really representative of the male population.

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I would say it's kind of a fantasy, kind of

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I don't know, it's weird. I mean it's see in

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England we saw Andrew Tate years ago, long before he

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was famous worldwide, long long long before, because he was

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in Big Brother. And I don't know if he was.

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He wasn't even in what year was that? What year

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was he in Big Brother? He don't off cut what

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does he say about? Okay? So A look, Honestly, some

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of the rubbish. He comes out with, See, I quite

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like people that come out of crap because it's funny,

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but it doesn't you know, people just say stuff like

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it's it's almost like they it's created, kind of like

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a Frankenstein's monster or AI. They sort of said, okay,

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create the perfect version of a misogynist, like the perfect

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version that has every single misogynistic attribute. And he seemed

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to have come out the other end. I think I've

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got no issue with him. I don't know him, but

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is there's a lot of that stuff online at the moment.

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I watch a lot of the YouTube channels, and I do.

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I see some of the YouTube channels and there's quite

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a few really popular YouTube channels that are so anti

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the opposite. Sex is ridiculous. I don't understand it. I

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think women are lovely, not all of them, but not

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all men are either. Not all anyone thinks lovely, but

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everyone's got something good about them. Big Brother twenty sixteen,

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So it wasn't celebrity Big Brother ever. No one knew

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who he was. He was just some he had hair

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back then, he was a bloke and they kept talking

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about him being a kickboxer champion and he was. He

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was controversial, argumentative, but he was unknown, and he had

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a weird accent, a mixture between English and American. He

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came under scrutiny for previously having made homophobic and racist

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posts on Twitter. He was removed from the show after

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six days, saying which produces saying it was because of

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events outside the house. Oh okay, well that didn't come

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up when I talked about that. When I was trying

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to look at people for people that had been kicked

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off a big brother, how I think I wanted to

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talk about Taiti Peti, but Taiti so as distractions. I mean,

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in some ways, you know, I'd rather have an apritis

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than be him, you know. So, yeah, it's weird. I

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don't understand. I do sometimes wonder how do people get

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to be so angry take themselves so seriously? And that

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is something that can really get in a way of relaxing.

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See that over the years a lot where some people

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just take themselves a little bit too seriously. It's not

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that they should see themselves as a joke, of course not,

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but or sometimes like really earnest people, I said, look,

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if I've got the right the word right, earnest The

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word earnest is defined as being characterized by or proceeding from,

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an intense and serious that in mind. Yeah serious, I

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do get it right. It implies seriousness and determination, often

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indicating that someone is sincere and committed to their intentions

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or actions. And there's nothing wrong with sincerity, BlimE me.

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So it's an amazing trait and being earnest, you know,

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if you're climbing a mountain, or you're searching for someone's missing,

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or you know, you're trying to say someone's life or yeah,

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being earnest is it's an amazing characteristic. But in just

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everyday life it might not be always useful, especially with

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physical issues. And I've noticed that I've known a lot

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of people over the years that have just been very

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very I don't use the word earnest, but serious, very

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taking themselves serious, maybe taking other people serious, taking their

468
00:37:40.000 --> 00:37:50.880
own views really seriously. And I understand, you know, it's

469
00:37:50.920 --> 00:37:55.880
probably quite hard for some people to realize that their

470
00:37:56.000 --> 00:38:00.840
views are only really important to them, and maybe people

471
00:38:00.880 --> 00:38:04.159
that have the same views, but there are millions, if

472
00:38:04.199 --> 00:38:08.199
not billions of people around the world don't feel the

473
00:38:08.199 --> 00:38:14.159
same way. So it doesn't mean that they're right doesn't

474
00:38:14.199 --> 00:38:17.320
mean that you're right or I'm right. We're just right

475
00:38:17.400 --> 00:38:21.440
for us. It's our opinion and it's how we choose

476
00:38:21.519 --> 00:38:24.840
to think and live our life. But then when you

477
00:38:24.880 --> 00:38:27.039
break it down, how much it is is it free

478
00:38:27.119 --> 00:38:30.960
choice of thinking. We're being indoctrinated into it, being born

479
00:38:31.039 --> 00:38:35.440
into it, because you know the amount of things that

480
00:38:35.480 --> 00:38:41.559
I've probably indoctrinated from living in this country. I mean

481
00:38:41.760 --> 00:38:48.079
when I was a kid, I grew up. Eventually I

482
00:38:48.119 --> 00:38:57.159
grew up, and there was a certain mindset, very dismissive

483
00:38:57.199 --> 00:39:03.079
mindset to anyone that was out of the norm. People

484
00:39:03.119 --> 00:39:08.679
with disabilities were generally you wouldn't see them, maybe people

485
00:39:08.679 --> 00:39:12.840
in wheelchairs, but outside of that, they'd be locked up.

486
00:39:15.239 --> 00:39:17.719
You know, there was the care in the community kind

487
00:39:17.719 --> 00:39:20.719
of came in in the nineties where people were allowed

488
00:39:20.760 --> 00:39:29.960
to live outside of hospitals. There was a real misunderstood

489
00:39:30.800 --> 00:39:36.159
It wasn't misunderstanding, it wasn't even attempted understanding of differences.

490
00:39:36.920 --> 00:39:42.280
So any kind of difference was mocked. And yeah, a

491
00:39:42.280 --> 00:39:48.119
lot of time it was funny in a way if

492
00:39:48.159 --> 00:39:51.360
you're not the one being mocked, but if you are

493
00:39:51.400 --> 00:39:54.079
the one being mocked, it's probably not quite as humorous

494
00:39:55.199 --> 00:39:58.719
and I had been the one being mocked and I

495
00:39:58.719 --> 00:40:04.840
didn't enjoy it. And I learned from that until the

496
00:40:04.880 --> 00:40:09.199
next time I decided to mock someone. No, I don't. Generally,

497
00:40:09.800 --> 00:40:15.440
I like to go the other way so well used to.

498
00:40:16.079 --> 00:40:21.920
If I see someone mocking somebody, I join forces with

499
00:40:22.039 --> 00:40:25.719
the other person that's being mocked and turn it on

500
00:40:25.800 --> 00:40:30.559
them and either coach them on what to say, or

501
00:40:30.679 --> 00:40:33.800
just join in and sort of say and basically be there,

502
00:40:35.360 --> 00:40:40.360
be their voice temporarily, because I've known people that won't

503
00:40:40.400 --> 00:40:43.559
say anything back. They just sit there or stand there

504
00:40:43.639 --> 00:40:47.960
and let it happen. And I can't. I can't allow

505
00:40:48.039 --> 00:40:53.000
that because I'm earnest. I'm very serious about things like that,

506
00:40:54.159 --> 00:41:01.519
serious and the determined. So sincere admitted to my intentions

507
00:41:01.599 --> 00:41:04.679
or actions, I'm just trying to learn what the word

508
00:41:04.760 --> 00:41:16.119
ernest means. What's that famous book Earnest Something Earnest? So

509
00:41:16.199 --> 00:41:21.079
that is something I've noticed. Is So you thought I

510
00:41:21.119 --> 00:41:24.239
was going to talk about forgetting things. No, no, no,

511
00:41:24.480 --> 00:41:29.320
mind you. There has been times when I'd just forgotten

512
00:41:30.199 --> 00:41:35.480
about my back. I mean, there was one time when

513
00:41:35.480 --> 00:41:38.119
I fractured my back in two places. The week I

514
00:41:38.159 --> 00:41:46.920
got Vinny. I had a well, it wasn't a walking stick,

515
00:41:46.960 --> 00:41:52.800
but it was very sturdy umberella with like a a handle,

516
00:41:52.880 --> 00:41:55.639
and I used it as a walking stick just to

517
00:41:55.639 --> 00:42:01.960
help me get through because I was mad. That was ooh,

518
00:42:02.039 --> 00:42:06.840
that was a very interesting time. And then one day

519
00:42:06.840 --> 00:42:09.360
I went out without it and I forgot that I

520
00:42:09.400 --> 00:42:15.079
needed it, and I realized that I was really making

521
00:42:15.119 --> 00:42:20.320
a meal of it. I was almost over exaggerating my

522
00:42:20.400 --> 00:42:25.920
limping and I didn't realize I was doing that until

523
00:42:27.079 --> 00:42:30.119
I forgot to take the brolley out. I mean, I

524
00:42:30.159 --> 00:42:32.760
wasn't walking normally. I still had a limp and I

525
00:42:32.800 --> 00:42:39.400
was being careful. But it almost like made brought me

526
00:42:39.440 --> 00:42:46.840
down to earth to realize that if I was able

527
00:42:46.880 --> 00:42:52.880
to forget that I needed some kind of support, then

528
00:42:52.920 --> 00:42:58.639
I possibly didn't need the support. And then I fell over,

529
00:42:58.760 --> 00:43:03.000
so I did need it. I haven't full norvous since.

530
00:43:03.800 --> 00:43:08.119
BlimE me. That was weird. My friend said, you know,

531
00:43:09.400 --> 00:43:12.920
like we had snow that week, so last time we

532
00:43:13.000 --> 00:43:16.440
had settled snow. So this is over two years ago,

533
00:43:17.320 --> 00:43:21.400
two years and four months. That's the last time we

534
00:43:21.440 --> 00:43:24.480
had in where I live, I mean, had any kind

535
00:43:24.519 --> 00:43:29.000
of settled, proper settled snow. Where it settled, you know

536
00:43:29.079 --> 00:43:30.719
what I mean, like it's there for a few days,

537
00:43:30.719 --> 00:43:35.079
and that it all melted on that day. I think

538
00:43:35.079 --> 00:43:41.079
it was a Wednesday or Thursday, all melted. It didn't

539
00:43:41.119 --> 00:43:44.519
stay settled for a long time, maybe a few days,

540
00:43:45.960 --> 00:43:51.559
maybe five days. I don't know. I lose track. And

541
00:43:51.639 --> 00:43:54.119
all I'm doing is just my friend knocked on. No,

542
00:43:54.199 --> 00:43:56.960
he shouted up. It's a bit late at I to

543
00:43:57.039 --> 00:44:00.719
be doing that, but he showered up to bring Vinnie

544
00:44:00.719 --> 00:44:04.519
down or go in the garden. Logi and Vinnie and

545
00:44:04.519 --> 00:44:06.920
and I've only had Vinnie literally for a week. That

546
00:44:07.000 --> 00:44:09.000
was the first week of having him, so there's a

547
00:44:09.039 --> 00:44:12.719
lot of excitement about having him here. And Logi loved

548
00:44:12.800 --> 00:44:17.239
him Vinnie. Vinnie loved Luke, he loved Logi. He loved

549
00:44:17.239 --> 00:44:20.800
going in out of that flat. You know, this was

550
00:44:20.920 --> 00:44:23.559
all new for him. He was having time of his life.

551
00:44:25.159 --> 00:44:27.880
I guess he's you know, I think he'd have preferred

552
00:44:27.880 --> 00:44:29.880
to be downstairs and to be up here with me.

553
00:44:31.119 --> 00:44:35.920
But I think he's he's given up on the dream.

554
00:44:36.039 --> 00:44:39.559
I think he's just he's settled. I think that's the

555
00:44:39.599 --> 00:44:41.440
most I could ever really hope for anyone with me.

556
00:44:41.480 --> 00:44:44.760
It's just to settle, just to That's what I was

557
00:44:44.800 --> 00:44:48.280
hoping in life for. Like relationships, I don't need anyone

558
00:44:48.360 --> 00:44:49.840
to fall in love with me. I just want someone

559
00:44:49.960 --> 00:44:55.119
just to just to settle, just to to give up

560
00:44:55.119 --> 00:44:58.639
looking for something better. That's all I want. It's not

561
00:44:58.719 --> 00:45:07.519
much to ask. Oh that's terrible. Oh some water. Got

562
00:45:07.559 --> 00:45:12.039
a little delivery earlier. Some food to get me through

563
00:45:12.119 --> 00:45:18.480
till next week, because tomorrow is good Friday, then it's well,

564
00:45:18.519 --> 00:45:22.159
it's basically Easter weekends, so I think everything kind of

565
00:45:22.199 --> 00:45:25.559
goes back to normal Saturday. Then it's Easter Day Sunday,

566
00:45:26.320 --> 00:45:31.159
Easter Monday or good sort of like a bank holiday Monday,

567
00:45:31.320 --> 00:45:35.280
and then things go back to normal Tuesday. So I'm

568
00:45:35.320 --> 00:45:38.920
going to be other than doing what well, I should

569
00:45:38.920 --> 00:45:44.880
be doing what normally do really, yeah, making recordings and

570
00:45:46.800 --> 00:45:49.280
watching some Telly. I hope to watch them Telly over

571
00:45:49.320 --> 00:45:57.239
the weekend. I just started watching the movie, but I

572
00:45:58.360 --> 00:46:01.159
thought was getting on. It's like, I mean, now it's

573
00:46:01.239 --> 00:46:05.960
quarter three and I almost feel like I haven't done

574
00:46:06.000 --> 00:46:10.639
anything today. It's kind of weird, so I thought I

575
00:46:10.719 --> 00:46:14.039
might as well just get on and make a recording.

576
00:46:14.119 --> 00:46:26.400
But that's seriousness. I have mentioned this before. I'm not

577
00:46:26.440 --> 00:46:36.159
one hundred percential how to really kind of move Well,

578
00:46:38.320 --> 00:46:42.159
I've been there, mysel sometimes I'm there, sometimes I'm super serious.

579
00:46:43.559 --> 00:46:51.400
But generally I think having I'm not going to say

580
00:46:51.480 --> 00:46:53.559
a sense of humor, because serious people can have a

581
00:46:53.599 --> 00:46:55.800
sense of humor as well. I think everybody's got a

582
00:46:55.880 --> 00:47:00.079
sense of humor. It's just different for each person. But

583
00:47:00.159 --> 00:47:07.519
to be a bit more lighter, to be a bit well,

584
00:47:07.559 --> 00:47:10.199
what does it take for you to feel less serious?

585
00:47:11.599 --> 00:47:13.199
I mean, the fact is some people have got a

586
00:47:13.280 --> 00:47:18.559
lot of serious stuff going on, So it's I would

587
00:47:18.599 --> 00:47:22.280
never really say to someone, generally unless I don't them

588
00:47:22.440 --> 00:47:27.880
very well, to just try not to take themselves too seriously.

589
00:47:31.559 --> 00:47:35.480
But then you can take other things seriously without taking

590
00:47:35.519 --> 00:47:42.920
yourself seriously, can't you? Is is that possible? Is it

591
00:47:42.960 --> 00:47:46.840
possible to take a break from all that stuff? And

592
00:47:48.000 --> 00:47:54.679
because remembering, we get what we think about, so whatever

593
00:47:54.719 --> 00:47:58.000
we focus on has an effect on how we feel.

594
00:48:00.000 --> 00:48:03.280
I mean, this is just scientific fact, not an opinion.

595
00:48:04.679 --> 00:48:07.480
I was angry. That sound quite aggressive. It's not an opinion,

596
00:48:07.800 --> 00:48:13.320
it's fact. I'm taking myself I being very earnest. That's

597
00:48:13.400 --> 00:48:15.119
going to be the word this, That's what it's going

598
00:48:15.199 --> 00:48:18.039
to be called earnest. That's what I'm going to call

599
00:48:18.079 --> 00:48:23.920
this recording earnest. I'm never going to use the word

600
00:48:24.000 --> 00:48:26.920
ernest again after this. It's not one of the words

601
00:48:26.960 --> 00:48:32.800
I use. I don't know why I just said, very

602
00:48:32.880 --> 00:48:38.119
old fashioned? What is that? What is that book? Something Earnest?

603
00:48:38.440 --> 00:48:41.679
It's a very very famous book. I'm going to look

604
00:48:41.679 --> 00:48:52.039
it up, book The Importance of Being Earnest O Scar Wild.

605
00:48:53.599 --> 00:49:01.199
I've never read it, never read it Ernest. Okay, let's

606
00:49:01.199 --> 00:49:12.239
have a look. I'm just gonna have a look for something.

607
00:49:18.400 --> 00:49:26.639
This is gonna be weird. I'm gonna ask all right,

608
00:49:26.679 --> 00:49:35.880
here we go and ask chat GPT do you do

609
00:49:36.000 --> 00:49:55.360
you have any techniques just to stop being earnest? K Okay,

610
00:49:55.440 --> 00:49:57.000
here we go. Let's see what it comes up with.

611
00:49:59.239 --> 00:50:01.559
Do you have any here knows his techniques for stopping

612
00:50:01.639 --> 00:50:09.320
being earnest? So, although I mean recently I've been making

613
00:50:09.400 --> 00:50:16.239
recordings and I've kind of focused on some relief techniques

614
00:50:16.320 --> 00:50:19.599
and stuff, this is a little bit different. But it's

615
00:50:19.920 --> 00:50:24.679
kind of a distractions. I didn't tell you, did I

616
00:50:24.719 --> 00:50:28.960
about the chocolate? Oh, I'll tell you in a minute.

617
00:50:29.239 --> 00:50:34.440
It's honestly, I'm embarrassed by it. I'm actually embarrassed, and

618
00:50:34.480 --> 00:50:42.719
I can't believe no one told me so this is. Oh,

619
00:50:42.800 --> 00:50:48.800
it's given me a whole I just want Oh no, okay, no,

620
00:50:48.880 --> 00:50:51.320
it's given me lots of like a whole thing. I

621
00:50:51.320 --> 00:50:54.239
don't want a whole thing. Just if I say stop,

622
00:50:57.239 --> 00:51:07.760
just ten different techniques techniques, right, I don't want a

623
00:51:07.760 --> 00:51:16.440
whole hypnosis script, Just ten different techniques. Just interested because

624
00:51:19.119 --> 00:51:22.039
I know some things. I know some things. I'm so clever.

625
00:51:23.440 --> 00:51:28.920
There are ways of It's about dislodging. It's about moving

626
00:51:28.960 --> 00:51:32.599
away from a fixed mind. I'm not reading this off

627
00:51:32.639 --> 00:51:34.280
the screen, by the way, I'm still waiting for it

628
00:51:34.280 --> 00:51:46.440
to load up. Moving away from that fixedness. I suppose

629
00:51:46.480 --> 00:51:51.000
in a way, it's like stretching exercises for your mind,

630
00:51:51.880 --> 00:51:54.960
stretching your mind so you have a bit more flexibility.

631
00:51:56.440 --> 00:51:59.840
So it is what's coming up with this the playful observer.

632
00:52:00.239 --> 00:52:06.199
Imagine yourself stepping outside your body, observing yourself interacting earnestly

633
00:52:06.280 --> 00:52:12.039
with others, but also seeing the humor in these moments.

634
00:52:12.559 --> 00:52:18.239
Notice a playful absurdity in being overly serious. Okay, so

635
00:52:18.400 --> 00:52:23.239
imagine it is a good example. I've seen that I've

636
00:52:23.280 --> 00:52:30.159
seen it when and sometimes it can be so I've seen.

637
00:52:29.960 --> 00:52:39.800
People if it's just like an average joke that sometimes

638
00:52:39.840 --> 00:52:43.039
people not won't laugh because it goes against their.

639
00:52:44.920 --> 00:52:47.719
You know, it's a subject matter that they don't like,

640
00:52:48.480 --> 00:52:55.039
which is understandable. But if something when something makes someone laugh,

641
00:52:56.519 --> 00:53:04.000
it's uncontrollable, but real laughter. Something might be humorous, like yeah,

642
00:53:04.039 --> 00:53:08.239
it's funny, but something that makes you just really laugh,

643
00:53:08.320 --> 00:53:13.360
you know, proper, proper laugh, that's uncontrollable. That's out of

644
00:53:13.400 --> 00:53:16.920
our control. We know what uncontrollable is okay, fair enough

645
00:53:17.119 --> 00:53:23.960
blind me. It's so serious it's it's out of our control.

646
00:53:24.079 --> 00:53:29.119
So it doesn't mean so if if someone told me

647
00:53:29.159 --> 00:53:33.079
a joke about the Pope that made me laugh, doesn't

648
00:53:33.079 --> 00:53:36.159
mean that I'm against the Pope or I find anything

649
00:53:36.239 --> 00:53:40.119
funny about the Pope water skiing or whatever the joke

650
00:53:40.199 --> 00:53:44.400
would be. You know, it's just that it made me laugh,

651
00:53:44.760 --> 00:53:51.199
and it wasn't. It caught me off guard. And that's

652
00:53:51.239 --> 00:53:55.079
something I think some people struggle with, like you can't

653
00:53:55.159 --> 00:53:59.800
laugh at that, can't laugh at this? Well, and I'll

654
00:54:00.039 --> 00:54:04.239
should handler he said, you know, with stuff that's serious

655
00:54:04.360 --> 00:54:06.280
now and you're like one day we'll laugh about this.

656
00:54:06.639 --> 00:54:12.719
Why wait, why I laugh about it now? And I'm

657
00:54:12.719 --> 00:54:18.920
not talking about super serious, horrible things, but I remember there.

658
00:54:18.960 --> 00:54:22.719
I had a neighbor who had an ambulance called and

659
00:54:22.760 --> 00:54:27.199
if they hurt, this person heard the ambulance drivers or

660
00:54:27.239 --> 00:54:33.599
the paramedics joking, and I had to explain to him

661
00:54:33.639 --> 00:54:41.079
that it's it's a natural thing to do. They're not

662
00:54:41.280 --> 00:54:46.719
laughing at you, they're not laughing at your situation. Basically,

663
00:54:47.039 --> 00:54:49.679
it's a thing called gallows humor. And he had not

664
00:54:49.719 --> 00:54:52.079
heard that because he's young, very very young, hadn't heard

665
00:54:52.079 --> 00:54:55.360
of the term. So I had to explain it's basically,

666
00:54:55.360 --> 00:55:00.920
they're doing such a difficult job at times that the

667
00:55:00.960 --> 00:55:04.000
only way to really cope with it is by laughing

668
00:55:04.000 --> 00:55:07.079
at what's going on. They're not really laughing at what's

669
00:55:07.119 --> 00:55:11.679
going on. They're not they find something's funny, but you know,

670
00:55:11.840 --> 00:55:15.679
it's a way of coping. And it's just similar with

671
00:55:15.880 --> 00:55:22.559
I'm sure with the police, with doctors, nurses, with even

672
00:55:22.639 --> 00:55:26.239
in counseling. It was sort of you know, even in

673
00:55:26.239 --> 00:55:30.840
the call center, but laugh at someone make fun of

674
00:55:30.880 --> 00:55:34.800
a customer, or make fun of a team leader. That

675
00:55:34.960 --> 00:55:39.039
was a bit over the top. You know, moaning and stuff.

676
00:55:39.159 --> 00:55:45.800
Just it was a way of letting that tension out,

677
00:55:46.000 --> 00:55:53.800
a way of release, you know. So it's not necessarily

678
00:55:53.840 --> 00:55:57.599
that you find it funny like that you find their

679
00:55:57.639 --> 00:56:03.559
situation funny or you're really mocking them. It's just that

680
00:56:03.679 --> 00:56:10.519
it's a way to let out, a way to release. Oor. Brilliant,

681
00:56:10.559 --> 00:56:13.960
You've now explain humor to us. Thanks. No, I'm not

682
00:56:13.960 --> 00:56:18.480
trying to explain humor to here. I'm saying that this

683
00:56:18.599 --> 00:56:25.719
is what I told this person, that sometimes people will laugh,

684
00:56:25.800 --> 00:56:33.360
but they're not really laughing at you. Now, I still

685
00:56:33.400 --> 00:56:37.599
have to convince myself that if someone's if I'm walking

686
00:56:37.639 --> 00:56:40.800
down the street in my shorts and every single person

687
00:56:40.840 --> 00:56:43.800
points at my legs and laughs, they're not laughing at me,

688
00:56:43.840 --> 00:56:48.800
They're laughing with me. Okay, there's the bloom release. Picture

689
00:56:48.840 --> 00:56:54.519
your earnest thoughts and serious feelings as helium ballooons, generally

690
00:56:54.639 --> 00:56:57.880
letting them go one by one, watching them float peacefully away,

691
00:56:58.320 --> 00:57:02.400
feeling lighter and freer as each balloon disappears into the sky.

692
00:57:04.119 --> 00:57:08.559
That's just another version of the helium release or the

693
00:57:08.599 --> 00:57:16.119
stress release. Another version of that is you can imagine

694
00:57:16.159 --> 00:57:20.719
getting all all the things you're concerned about putting them

695
00:57:20.719 --> 00:57:25.719
into a wheelbarrow, pushing a wheelbarrower towards a hot air balloon,

696
00:57:26.119 --> 00:57:32.079
you know, ones with the baskets, and then just the baskets,

697
00:57:32.119 --> 00:57:34.840
got a couple of pieces of wood like a ramp,

698
00:57:35.360 --> 00:57:40.960
push the wheelbarrow in, empty it in there, pull up

699
00:57:41.000 --> 00:57:44.599
the side of the basket and then just cut the

700
00:57:44.840 --> 00:57:47.920
cut the cord or the rope that's keeping the hot

701
00:57:47.960 --> 00:57:55.000
air bloom on the ground. And watch all that crap,

702
00:57:55.320 --> 00:58:02.119
all that stress, all that negativity, discomfort, just slowly rise

703
00:58:03.679 --> 00:58:09.519
slowly and just notice how good it feels. I used

704
00:58:09.519 --> 00:58:11.960
to have that feeling when I would whenever I got

705
00:58:11.960 --> 00:58:16.760
into a ferry and I would leave this country. I

706
00:58:16.760 --> 00:58:22.159
always felt a relief as I moved away from the shore.

707
00:58:23.559 --> 00:58:29.320
You know, whether it's going to Belgium, whether it was France, Ireland.

708
00:58:29.719 --> 00:58:32.920
That's the only three different places I've been to on

709
00:58:32.960 --> 00:58:40.239
a ferry, France, Belgium and Ireland. Yeah, I think that's it.

710
00:58:42.199 --> 00:58:46.639
Oh Island Man as well, so four. I always had

711
00:58:46.639 --> 00:58:50.639
that same feeling. Although I wasn't able to watch with

712
00:58:50.719 --> 00:58:52.639
the Isle of Man one the winds were too strong.

713
00:58:52.639 --> 00:58:57.679
We weren't even allowed outside. But all the other fairies.

714
00:58:57.679 --> 00:59:01.320
It was lovely, just it was like in a negative

715
00:59:01.360 --> 00:59:04.800
way like all England. Lou wasn't like that. It was

716
00:59:04.880 --> 00:59:13.159
just ah. It was that separation. It was that that break,

717
00:59:13.679 --> 00:59:23.239
that physical separation of being away from well, basically I

718
00:59:23.280 --> 00:59:27.679
was leaving everything there. I was leaving any worries, any concerns,

719
00:59:28.559 --> 00:59:33.239
my past. Everything was there and I was moving away

720
00:59:33.280 --> 00:59:36.480
from it. It was nice, felt nice. It feels nice

721
00:59:36.519 --> 00:59:48.159
even imagining it, to be honest, Yeah, I can feel

722
00:59:48.199 --> 00:59:51.280
like that. Sometimes you can leave stuff like in the

723
00:59:51.320 --> 00:59:54.719
hot air blown. You can leave the physical discomfort. You

724
00:59:54.760 --> 00:59:57.239
can leave that on the shore as well as you

725
00:59:57.320 --> 01:00:00.960
move away on the boat. You can leave that at

726
01:00:01.000 --> 01:00:08.679
home whenever you go out. There's so many little things

727
01:00:08.719 --> 01:00:15.079
you can do that. I know it's imagination, but sometimes

728
01:00:17.199 --> 01:00:22.960
you know, if you carried around a little pad with you,

729
01:00:24.239 --> 01:00:32.039
piece of paper. I'm not talking about big pad, just

730
01:00:32.079 --> 01:00:36.239
a little pad, just a little just you know, it

731
01:00:36.320 --> 01:00:42.440
doesn't have to be anything big and but you could

732
01:00:42.480 --> 01:00:44.559
do this at home as well. But whenever you get

733
01:00:44.559 --> 01:00:50.440
a feeling, whenever you get a feeling you don't enjoy,

734
01:00:50.480 --> 01:00:53.440
whether it's a thought that you're not enjoying, whether it's

735
01:00:53.480 --> 01:00:59.719
a physical feeling that just feels quite horrible. You could

736
01:00:59.719 --> 01:01:03.960
write how you feel down, rip it off, the pad,

737
01:01:04.079 --> 01:01:07.440
off the pad whatever, screw it up and just put

738
01:01:07.440 --> 01:01:12.199
it in the bin, or if you live around here,

739
01:01:12.280 --> 01:01:15.360
just check it out a window for the for the

740
01:01:15.360 --> 01:01:19.960
cleanest to pick up in a month's time by doing

741
01:01:20.000 --> 01:01:25.039
their nappies. Oh dear, honestly, there's there's a there's a

742
01:01:25.079 --> 01:01:29.440
flat downstairs. There's eggshells all outside the kitchen window on

743
01:01:29.519 --> 01:01:38.280
the floor outside. How what they were chucking nappies out

744
01:01:38.360 --> 01:01:42.639
the front? It's on camera, They've got the other people

745
01:01:42.639 --> 01:01:48.400
obviously got on camera. But how how what part of

746
01:01:48.400 --> 01:01:54.119
the brain needs to be turned off to be cooking

747
01:01:56.079 --> 01:01:59.039
and then just chucking food checking empty eggshells out of

748
01:01:59.079 --> 01:02:01.239
the kitchen window. What part of the brain has to

749
01:02:01.280 --> 01:02:03.639
be switched off to do that, or to check a

750
01:02:03.679 --> 01:02:11.280
dirty nappy out of the living room window. I mean,

751
01:02:11.280 --> 01:02:16.719
maybe we can switch parts of the brain off, maybe

752
01:02:16.719 --> 01:02:20.000
the part for that bit of your body that you

753
01:02:20.079 --> 01:02:25.960
want to feel relaxed. Maybe switch that part of the body,

754
01:02:26.159 --> 01:02:30.159
that part of the brain off, just that one small part.

755
01:02:30.840 --> 01:02:33.360
And I guess there's I mean, if you think about

756
01:02:33.360 --> 01:02:38.119
it like a traffic light system, So you've got that

757
01:02:38.639 --> 01:02:41.920
part of your body is green as yellow and there's red,

758
01:02:45.960 --> 01:02:51.159
so red kind of means it can each color can

759
01:02:51.239 --> 01:02:54.840
mean what you want them to mean, so you can

760
01:02:54.880 --> 01:02:56.840
just change the color. Maybe the one in the middle

761
01:02:56.960 --> 01:03:07.440
is you know, hm, one color is maybe unpleasant feeling

762
01:03:10.119 --> 01:03:15.159
and then the other color would be feeling relaxed. I

763
01:03:15.199 --> 01:03:17.960
mean I want to go, like you know, stop, go

764
01:03:18.960 --> 01:03:31.599
and prepare to go. Although in this country, there that

765
01:03:31.639 --> 01:03:34.239
there's something that happens turning off part to your brain.

766
01:03:34.880 --> 01:03:38.159
When people get a driving license in this country, they

767
01:03:39.000 --> 01:03:42.360
get a part of the botomy. And what happens is

768
01:03:43.039 --> 01:03:46.199
they get a part of their brain removed the I

769
01:03:46.199 --> 01:03:51.559
don't know the sensible part. The only really it activates

770
01:03:51.599 --> 01:03:54.360
when they're in the car. The rest of the time

771
01:03:54.400 --> 01:04:00.559
they're fine, but something happens. So they learn that red

772
01:04:00.960 --> 01:04:07.840
is stop, green is go. Yellow depends on where you are.

773
01:04:08.159 --> 01:04:11.159
So if you're stopped at the traffic lights, yellow means

774
01:04:12.440 --> 01:04:15.920
prepare to go, and when it goes to green. So

775
01:04:15.960 --> 01:04:20.599
if you're on red yellow, prepared to go ready, and

776
01:04:20.639 --> 01:04:22.920
when it goes to green, you can go. And if

777
01:04:22.920 --> 01:04:25.440
you're pulling up to traffic lights and it's on green,

778
01:04:25.880 --> 01:04:30.719
then it turns to yellow, prepare to stop, and it

779
01:04:30.760 --> 01:04:33.599
goes to red. Now you might drive up and not

780
01:04:33.719 --> 01:04:35.760
know what it is. It might just be on a yellow,

781
01:04:35.800 --> 01:04:39.159
so you don't know if it's about to stop or

782
01:04:39.199 --> 01:04:41.719
if it's about to go, So you slow down. You

783
01:04:42.480 --> 01:04:47.679
become very aware of it preparing. That's kind of what

784
01:04:47.719 --> 01:04:51.639
it's supposed to be, says the man that's never actually

785
01:04:51.719 --> 01:04:55.239
driven a car. I did add three driving lessons, so there.

786
01:04:56.519 --> 01:05:02.079
But what it turned into is in this country, the

787
01:05:02.119 --> 01:05:05.159
part of the brain gets switched off when you get

788
01:05:05.159 --> 01:05:06.079
your driving license.

789
01:05:07.119 --> 01:05:09.199
Is you.

790
01:05:12.079 --> 01:05:17.039
When you're driving up towards the traffic lights and it's

791
01:05:17.039 --> 01:05:21.239
on yellow. What that means to the person in their

792
01:05:21.239 --> 01:05:26.199
brain is speed up. Whether it's going to green or

793
01:05:26.199 --> 01:05:28.199
whether it's going to red. They don't know. If it's

794
01:05:28.239 --> 01:05:33.440
on yellow, speed up. That's what it means if you're

795
01:05:33.760 --> 01:05:35.599
knowing any of the traffic lights. But if you see that,

796
01:05:37.920 --> 01:05:40.559
if you're sitting at the traffic lights and you've stopped

797
01:05:40.599 --> 01:05:46.559
because it's been on red, the yellow instead of meaning

798
01:05:47.199 --> 01:05:53.079
prepare for green when you can start driving again, yellow

799
01:05:53.199 --> 01:05:59.079
means go to the driver's brain. So it goes from

800
01:05:59.159 --> 01:06:02.039
red to yellow, it means I can just go, and

801
01:06:02.079 --> 01:06:04.039
that's not what it means. It means prepared to go.

802
01:06:05.159 --> 01:06:08.559
You don't go yet until it goes to green. So

803
01:06:09.000 --> 01:06:12.599
something happens to drivers brains and it's weird. I just

804
01:06:12.639 --> 01:06:19.199
don't know what it is. It's I guess, it's just

805
01:06:21.480 --> 01:06:24.039
I don't know. I really I don't who knows, I

806
01:06:24.039 --> 01:06:31.000
don't know. There's a die down dial down technique. Visualize

807
01:06:31.039 --> 01:06:36.880
a controlled dial clearly marked earnestness. It was high, slowly

808
01:06:36.920 --> 01:06:41.519
and deliberately turned the dial down, feeling more playful, relaxed,

809
01:06:41.559 --> 01:06:45.679
and less serious of each reduction. So I've done the

810
01:06:45.800 --> 01:06:50.360
die down technique in the past quite probably quite a

811
01:06:50.360 --> 01:06:58.360
few times. But imagine if you just did do that

812
01:06:59.480 --> 01:07:04.800
with your level of seriousness, if you know, if that's

813
01:07:04.840 --> 01:07:12.199
the case, being able to relax because you know, I

814
01:07:12.239 --> 01:07:14.719
this is something I've said for years and years and years.

815
01:07:16.599 --> 01:07:19.719
When you're listening to me, they say, if you're lying

816
01:07:19.760 --> 01:07:24.199
down or you're sitting down, you're giving yourself half an hour,

817
01:07:24.400 --> 01:07:28.119
an hour or whatever time it is to just take

818
01:07:28.159 --> 01:07:34.800
some time out and not care about anything. Don't take

819
01:07:34.840 --> 01:07:38.440
anything I say seriously because I'm just talking a load

820
01:07:38.440 --> 01:07:42.400
of rubbish. Most of the time. This is just time

821
01:07:42.440 --> 01:07:58.360
out from life and nothing matters right now. And I

822
01:07:58.599 --> 01:08:02.840
try to put this idea forward, and I know it's

823
01:08:03.320 --> 01:08:11.519
a weird or weird concept sometimes because I don't know

824
01:08:11.559 --> 01:08:15.199
if it might come across as me saying, you know,

825
01:08:15.719 --> 01:08:18.560
nothing in your life matters. And I'm not saying that

826
01:08:18.560 --> 01:08:22.159
that's a really ridiculous thing to say. I'm saying that,

827
01:08:22.880 --> 01:08:26.800
for the period of time that you're listening to my

828
01:08:27.039 --> 01:08:35.039
super exciting voice, take a break from that stuff that

829
01:08:35.279 --> 01:08:45.279
literally don't care about anything nothing, whether it's illness, other

830
01:08:45.359 --> 01:08:51.880
people's illness, I'm talking anything, let everything go. If you're

831
01:08:51.920 --> 01:08:57.239
able to get into that zone of not caring but

832
01:08:57.279 --> 01:09:00.560
not in a way. Of course, she still care, but

833
01:09:00.600 --> 01:09:05.840
you're taking a break from it. You're having to rest

834
01:09:05.880 --> 01:09:10.199
from it. And we all need to put stuff down sometimes.

835
01:09:12.479 --> 01:09:17.119
I mean talking from my own perspective. A few times

836
01:09:17.159 --> 01:09:21.359
over the years, I ended up carrying too much stuff

837
01:09:21.560 --> 01:09:27.079
like baggage, stress, tension. It made me ill to the

838
01:09:27.119 --> 01:09:30.560
point where I couldn't function and I lost my job.

839
01:09:31.359 --> 01:09:35.760
It happened three times four It happened three times officially,

840
01:09:36.039 --> 01:09:37.960
but it happened in the past when I was younger.

841
01:09:38.279 --> 01:09:41.159
I just didn't really know what was going on. I

842
01:09:41.279 --> 01:09:44.239
kind of a little bit more clued up about what's

843
01:09:44.319 --> 01:09:50.720
happening now, and I had to drop everything. And it

844
01:09:50.800 --> 01:09:55.319
was a case of like, I was not so much juggling,

845
01:09:55.439 --> 01:10:02.079
but carrying such a heavy weight of different things, to

846
01:10:02.119 --> 01:10:08.199
the point where if I just had to let them go.

847
01:10:08.920 --> 01:10:12.880
But if i'd have taken a break, as this lady

848
01:10:12.920 --> 01:10:19.399
the other day, that reminds me. I can't remember the toffee,

849
01:10:19.800 --> 01:10:25.279
the toffee thing, but that chocolate. I embarrassed myself so badly.

850
01:10:26.159 --> 01:10:28.000
But anyway, this woman, I saw her again. I think

851
01:10:28.039 --> 01:10:30.720
today it was yesterday, but a couple of days ago,

852
01:10:31.880 --> 01:10:34.600
me and Vinnie were in the park. We see this

853
01:10:34.680 --> 01:10:39.399
lady with these two big, massive bags. They were bigger

854
01:10:39.439 --> 01:10:45.439
than she was, both of them, and the bags weren't

855
01:10:45.439 --> 01:10:47.399
on wheels, but she was no, I don't know. She

856
01:10:47.840 --> 01:10:52.119
was struggling with the bags. She put them down, and

857
01:10:54.079 --> 01:10:56.239
I think she was looking at her hands. See see

858
01:10:56.880 --> 01:11:03.039
it's obviously she was struggling with the bags. So after

859
01:11:03.039 --> 01:11:07.840
I stopped laughing, I went over to help her, and

860
01:11:09.239 --> 01:11:10.800
you know, Vinnie had to pick me off the floor

861
01:11:10.840 --> 01:11:13.279
because I found it so funny. I didn't I didn't

862
01:11:13.359 --> 01:11:18.039
laugh blind me, so I went over. This is kind

863
01:11:18.079 --> 01:11:19.720
of a bit silly. I went over to help her,

864
01:11:19.800 --> 01:11:22.960
but I always like the other side of the park,

865
01:11:23.720 --> 01:11:27.079
and I was shouting, well, calling out aloud, not shouting

866
01:11:27.119 --> 01:11:29.000
shouting because I do. I do have a very loud

867
01:11:29.039 --> 01:11:32.800
voice on a shout, so I don't shout, but like,

868
01:11:33.800 --> 01:11:39.520
excuse me, excuse me, bag lady. I realized that probably

869
01:11:39.520 --> 01:11:42.239
wasn't a good thing to shout out, lady with the bags,

870
01:11:43.760 --> 01:11:48.279
excuse me, wiggy. No, I didn't show that, but just

871
01:11:48.319 --> 01:11:51.840
like I was trying to get her attention, but she

872
01:11:51.960 --> 01:11:57.359
wasn't hearing me, and I'm like, it seemed like the

873
01:11:57.479 --> 01:11:59.640
closer I got to her, the further she got away.

874
01:12:00.000 --> 01:12:02.239
One of those visual weird things you know that you

875
01:12:02.319 --> 01:12:07.279
see on strange movies and cartoons, and that I couldn't

876
01:12:07.279 --> 01:12:10.680
catch up to her by walking. But I didn't want

877
01:12:10.680 --> 01:12:17.159
to run because I've heard comments about what I look

878
01:12:17.239 --> 01:12:20.600
like when I run. Another dog walker told me I've

879
01:12:20.640 --> 01:12:25.479
seen you run, and I thought, wow, you kept that

880
01:12:25.600 --> 01:12:28.199
hidden in your pocket because I was making fun of her,

881
01:12:28.239 --> 01:12:30.760
and she said, oh, I've seen you run, and like,

882
01:12:32.279 --> 01:12:34.760
so she was holding onto that one for a rainy

883
01:12:34.840 --> 01:12:40.760
day got me right back. I guess I run a

884
01:12:40.800 --> 01:12:45.760
little bit like I probably run the way I looked

885
01:12:45.840 --> 01:12:48.479
like I run, So if you was to see me,

886
01:12:48.520 --> 01:12:54.359
you just looked at me. That's how I run. Yes,

887
01:12:54.479 --> 01:12:58.560
it's not necessarily a good thing, so I'm walking really fast.

888
01:12:58.720 --> 01:13:05.439
Eventually she puts the bags down and I say, excuse me, hello.

889
01:13:05.720 --> 01:13:08.359
I didn't want to tap her on the shoulder. I

890
01:13:08.399 --> 01:13:09.960
didn't well, I didn't want to touch I don't want

891
01:13:09.960 --> 01:13:13.119
to touch anyone, but I don't want to startle or anything.

892
01:13:13.560 --> 01:13:16.479
I couldn't get in front of her because the two

893
01:13:16.520 --> 01:13:19.760
bags were there blocking the whole thing, and there was

894
01:13:19.760 --> 01:13:21.720
a car to the side of us. I couldn't get around,

895
01:13:23.000 --> 01:13:27.000
and luckily she turned around and said hello. She said

896
01:13:27.319 --> 01:13:31.159
what I said, Are you're okay? He said? What's God

897
01:13:31.159 --> 01:13:33.439
to do with you? I said, I wonder if you

898
01:13:33.439 --> 01:13:35.720
need a So you look like you're struggling with the bags.

899
01:13:36.439 --> 01:13:40.199
She said, looks like you're struggling with your belly. Like, Wow,

900
01:13:40.720 --> 01:13:43.840
this isn't going how I thought it would go. I said,

901
01:13:44.479 --> 01:13:47.600
do you want me to give you a hand? She said,

902
01:13:47.960 --> 01:13:50.319
give me a hand? What do you mean? I said,

903
01:13:50.359 --> 01:13:53.119
you want me to carry the bags for you? She said,

904
01:13:53.119 --> 01:13:55.000
doesn't look like you'd be able to carry anything. I

905
01:13:55.000 --> 01:13:56.560
don't think even if I empty the bags, you'd be

906
01:13:56.600 --> 01:14:01.520
able to carry the empty bags. You're so weak. Okay,

907
01:14:01.600 --> 01:14:05.640
none of this happened, but that is what Vinnie is

908
01:14:05.680 --> 01:14:11.159
telling people. He lies all the time. He's things happened

909
01:14:11.159 --> 01:14:14.720
because we have such a boring life. He has to

910
01:14:14.760 --> 01:14:18.079
make stuff up. So he's when he when he meets

911
01:14:18.119 --> 01:14:21.199
up with Archie. I heard him the other day like

912
01:14:21.880 --> 01:14:24.439
he sees Archie. This is Archie's mom that was making

913
01:14:24.439 --> 01:14:29.720
fun of me walking running and stuff. And they were

914
01:14:29.800 --> 01:14:32.319
just he was off, he was on the lead, but

915
01:14:32.359 --> 01:14:33.920
I was talking to his mum and they were just

916
01:14:34.079 --> 01:14:36.880
like taking turns urinating on each other, which is weird.

917
01:14:37.720 --> 01:14:44.880
They literally do do that. And I heard Archie. Archie

918
01:14:44.960 --> 01:14:48.880
said stuff like, so what's he been up to this week?

919
01:14:49.560 --> 01:14:54.600
I thought, what, what's who's been up to? And then

920
01:14:54.640 --> 01:14:58.960
he and then he said to him he had some chocolate.

921
01:14:59.840 --> 01:15:03.159
H you wouldn't believe what happened. He just had two

922
01:15:03.159 --> 01:15:07.840
bits of chocolate. It was melted chocolate. And I thought eight.

923
01:15:08.520 --> 01:15:13.439
Then he stopped, stop talking about me. Why are you

924
01:15:13.479 --> 01:15:16.159
telling him? He said, because you need to tell the story.

925
01:15:16.199 --> 01:15:17.079
You've been talking about it.

926
01:15:17.279 --> 01:15:19.520
You keep mentioning it, but you haven't actually told that

927
01:15:19.640 --> 01:15:22.479
story about the chocolate yet and how you got embarrassed.

928
01:15:23.720 --> 01:15:26.760
You know, you can't keep putting it off. You've been

929
01:15:26.800 --> 01:15:30.800
talking for about three hours now, and besides, this is

930
01:15:30.840 --> 01:15:34.239
supposed to be you know, let me boil your pain away.

931
01:15:34.600 --> 01:15:39.319
You've just been talking about absolute rubbish for the last

932
01:15:39.399 --> 01:15:43.680
seven hours. So it's gone up from three hours to

933
01:15:43.800 --> 01:15:50.760
seven hours. Yeah, including this conversation, it's probably about nine hours.

934
01:15:51.560 --> 01:15:56.520
I said, look, they kind of speak, can you. I said, yes,

935
01:15:56.560 --> 01:15:59.239
I can speak sometimes I have a bit of a stutter.

936
01:16:00.960 --> 01:16:03.520
He laughed, which I think is rude.

937
01:16:04.239 --> 01:16:09.600
And I said, look, the fact is, I said to him, look,

938
01:16:09.680 --> 01:16:13.399
there's more did you do consider than maybe even though

939
01:16:13.399 --> 01:16:16.960
it just seems like I'm talking about random things that

940
01:16:18.119 --> 01:16:24.079
possibly some of this might be useful at the very

941
01:16:24.199 --> 01:16:31.199
least as a distraction technique and maybe relaxation and stuff

942
01:16:31.239 --> 01:16:39.920
like that. He said no, why not? Why? I said, Look,

943
01:16:40.680 --> 01:16:44.279
you've lived here for two years and what four or

944
01:16:44.279 --> 01:16:47.880
five months? Nearly nearly two years, over two years and

945
01:16:47.960 --> 01:16:56.640
four months and for eight so two and a third years.

946
01:16:57.560 --> 01:16:59.960
Why did you say no to that question? You don't

947
01:17:00.079 --> 01:17:02.680
think that maybe I know that, maybe you know that

948
01:17:02.760 --> 01:17:06.039
I know what I'm doing. He said no. I said

949
01:17:06.039 --> 01:17:10.720
why not? He said, because my dog. That's fair enough.

950
01:17:12.880 --> 01:17:18.079
While you're having a conversation with a dog. I had

951
01:17:18.079 --> 01:17:26.319
no answer for him. Movie screen reframe it's another thing.

952
01:17:26.880 --> 01:17:31.760
Imagine you're watching yourself behaving earnestly on a cinema screen.

953
01:17:32.239 --> 01:17:37.119
Then playfully change the film. We play serious scenes with humorous,

954
01:17:38.159 --> 01:17:43.720
playful interactions, shifting your emotional response to laughter or gentle amusement.

955
01:17:46.439 --> 01:17:50.319
I think sometimes just remembering something that happened that was funny.

956
01:17:51.520 --> 01:17:56.399
Is you know, something you see on TV, or something

957
01:17:56.399 --> 01:17:58.960
you see in a movie, or something you heard someone say,

958
01:18:00.319 --> 01:18:05.359
and just remembering it, it can just be funny. It

959
01:18:05.439 --> 01:18:10.479
changes because when you laugh or if you find something humorous,

960
01:18:10.680 --> 01:18:15.319
it changes how you feel. It changes for all of us,

961
01:18:15.399 --> 01:18:22.920
you know. So there's a mirror smile technique. Imagine yourself

962
01:18:23.000 --> 01:18:27.279
standing in front of a mirror looking overly, earnest then

963
01:18:27.359 --> 01:18:31.960
gradually see your reflection breaking into a warm, spontaneous smile.

964
01:18:32.680 --> 01:18:37.119
Feel the ease and enjoy this springs as seriousness dissolves. Naturally,

965
01:18:39.239 --> 01:18:42.640
it sounds a horror movie. So you look at in

966
01:18:42.640 --> 01:18:47.840
the mirror and your reflection starts laughing at you. Wow, Okay,

967
01:18:47.880 --> 01:18:51.920
I mean that that's a bit freaky. I mean it

968
01:18:52.000 --> 01:18:56.960
might be really good, but that would I would definitely

969
01:18:56.960 --> 01:19:02.600
be wondering what was been put in my drink. I

970
01:19:02.600 --> 01:19:09.319
shouldn't be making fun of the techniques, but yeah, I

971
01:19:09.359 --> 01:19:15.279
think sometimes there's a technique of it's an old It's

972
01:19:15.319 --> 01:19:20.479
not my technique, it's an old technique where if you

973
01:19:20.760 --> 01:19:27.239
if there was an incident that you struggled thinking about,

974
01:19:27.279 --> 01:19:32.119
because it's just like an interaction, a verbal interaction at work,

975
01:19:32.239 --> 01:19:39.039
or something that's just just left an unpleasant feeling, you

976
01:19:39.079 --> 01:19:43.039
can kind of have that memory. But then you know,

977
01:19:43.119 --> 01:19:45.239
say it's your boss telling you off or having a

978
01:19:45.319 --> 01:19:52.560
go at you, or you can imagine behind them like

979
01:19:52.680 --> 01:19:59.520
a mermaid dancing behind them, or like all the other

980
01:20:00.039 --> 01:20:04.319
managers just like doing a little strip tease behind your

981
01:20:04.399 --> 01:20:08.279
manager when he's being so serious and or you're like

982
01:20:08.520 --> 01:20:11.760
just something silly like that. I mean, you can you

983
01:20:11.760 --> 01:20:14.560
can be extreme with it as well, make it even funnier,

984
01:20:15.199 --> 01:20:19.119
don't make yeah, something that makes you laugh, but or

985
01:20:19.199 --> 01:20:29.319
you can just imagine that maybe they've just but you know,

986
01:20:29.600 --> 01:20:34.079
partially naked, that in a way that they didn't realize.

987
01:20:34.159 --> 01:20:41.159
Maybe there's it was undone and you know, it could

988
01:20:41.199 --> 01:20:47.119
be anything, just if it makes you laugh. Or imagine

989
01:20:47.159 --> 01:20:54.319
them with maybe every time they talk, a piece of

990
01:20:54.399 --> 01:21:00.439
carrot falls on the floor, piece of broccoli, bits of food,

991
01:21:00.920 --> 01:21:03.600
so there's like this big pile of food on the

992
01:21:03.680 --> 01:21:06.319
floor in front of them as it falls out of

993
01:21:06.319 --> 01:21:11.560
their mouth whenever they talk, or maybe every time they

994
01:21:11.600 --> 01:21:16.560
talk they just shrink. So the more they moan, the

995
01:21:16.680 --> 01:21:22.079
smaller they get, and their voice starts to get squeaky.

996
01:21:22.239 --> 01:21:26.399
You know, just little things like that. And imagine a friendly,

997
01:21:26.479 --> 01:21:30.319
humorous version of yourself, a comedian or playful inner guide

998
01:21:30.840 --> 01:21:36.359
who whispers humorous comments into your mind during earnest moments,

999
01:21:36.600 --> 01:21:42.119
making it impossible to remain overly serious. I've had this

1000
01:21:42.199 --> 01:21:50.600
in the past at the really wrong times and where

1001
01:21:50.720 --> 01:21:56.439
I just I've just been thinking about the wrong thing,

1002
01:21:58.640 --> 01:22:07.079
and it it's weird. It's kind of say, definitely changes

1003
01:22:07.119 --> 01:22:12.560
how you feel if you start like just it's kind

1004
01:22:12.600 --> 01:22:17.239
of just whispering to yourself, like even if it's if

1005
01:22:17.239 --> 01:22:19.920
someone's saying something to you and is all this goodness

1006
01:22:20.000 --> 01:22:26.119
blah blah blah blah blah blah, and or you imagine

1007
01:22:26.199 --> 01:22:28.840
like just like I'll bet you need a big poo,

1008
01:22:28.920 --> 01:22:33.680
don't you. Or you can imagine what they're thinking while

1009
01:22:33.680 --> 01:22:37.119
they're talking. You know, it's like if it's an interaction,

1010
01:22:37.199 --> 01:22:40.399
I mean, but you can imagine they're thinking to themselves

1011
01:22:41.840 --> 01:22:47.720
or or you know whatever it could be. I wish

1012
01:22:47.760 --> 01:22:54.399
I hadn't had that last cup of coffee and they're

1013
01:22:54.399 --> 01:22:58.319
needing to go to a toilet. Or maybe they just

1014
01:22:58.479 --> 01:23:01.600
realized that they're left the big damp patch on their

1015
01:23:01.640 --> 01:23:06.960
trousers and I'm hoping that no one notices it, but

1016
01:23:07.119 --> 01:23:12.760
you notice it. So yeah, there's a soap bubble Technique's this?

1017
01:23:14.039 --> 01:23:15.520
I mean it's going to have something to do with

1018
01:23:15.680 --> 01:23:23.319
bobbing popping bubbles. Visualize your earnest thoughts in caseed with

1019
01:23:23.560 --> 01:23:27.880
soapy bubbles. Gently pop each bubble, experiencing the release of

1020
01:23:28.000 --> 01:23:36.680
seriousness as each pops, replaced by calmness, ease, and gentle amusement. Ah.

1021
01:23:37.159 --> 01:23:39.279
I mean, I'm not quite sure what soap is, but

1022
01:23:39.479 --> 01:23:43.000
I have to look that one up. A feather touch

1023
01:23:43.199 --> 01:23:48.439
technique picture a feather, a feather, a feather gently brushing

1024
01:23:48.479 --> 01:23:53.439
away seriousness from your forehead, shoulders, and chest. Softly sweeping

1025
01:23:53.520 --> 01:23:57.880
earnestness away, leaving you feeling light freeer and gently amused.

1026
01:24:00.439 --> 01:24:03.439
I mean when I call that woman. The lady caught

1027
01:24:03.520 --> 01:24:05.960
up with her and just said, look, I'm not trying

1028
01:24:05.960 --> 01:24:09.359
to you know, I'm just going to. I saw you

1029
01:24:09.359 --> 01:24:12.079
as struggling with your bags. Can I help you pick

1030
01:24:12.079 --> 01:24:14.920
them and carry them? And she said, okay, thank you.

1031
01:24:15.439 --> 01:24:18.079
I said, you're going to have to take Vinido because

1032
01:24:18.079 --> 01:24:22.000
I can't. I can't do both. And she said, I

1033
01:24:22.039 --> 01:24:25.039
forget it then, and she didn't see she took him.

1034
01:24:25.039 --> 01:24:26.960
I said, can you keep it on a Can you

1035
01:24:27.039 --> 01:24:28.640
keep them on a short lead though, because it's got

1036
01:24:28.640 --> 01:24:31.960
a habit trying to run in the road. She said,

1037
01:24:32.000 --> 01:24:34.680
this is getting more this is this more problematic than

1038
01:24:34.720 --> 01:24:37.479
carrying the bags? And how many more rules are there?

1039
01:24:38.359 --> 01:24:42.239
I said, no more rules. That's it. So we cheerfully

1040
01:24:42.239 --> 01:24:43.800
walked back to where she lives. She lives at the

1041
01:24:43.880 --> 01:24:45.920
end of the road. I didn't know where she lived,

1042
01:24:45.960 --> 01:24:52.880
but I was thankful it wasn't too far and that

1043
01:24:53.000 --> 01:24:56.960
was it, really, And I thought, what if only I

1044
01:24:57.000 --> 01:25:02.520
had done what she did? Is she carried the bags.

1045
01:25:03.239 --> 01:25:05.960
I think she carried too much. She had too much

1046
01:25:06.000 --> 01:25:10.520
to carry and I don't think that was particularly good.

1047
01:25:11.039 --> 01:25:18.079
She's fairly elderly age wise, maybe in her seventies, elderly,

1048
01:25:18.119 --> 01:25:19.720
I don't know if that's the right word anymore. But

1049
01:25:21.000 --> 01:25:24.399
she's probably possibly carrying too much because they were heavy.

1050
01:25:24.479 --> 01:25:30.439
They were heavy bags, but she was putting them down,

1051
01:25:30.960 --> 01:25:38.600
having arrest, then carrying, then putting them down. I think

1052
01:25:38.680 --> 01:25:43.920
someone that takes themselves seriously perhaps has a tendency of

1053
01:25:43.960 --> 01:25:50.960
carrying those bags and keep adding more and won't put

1054
01:25:51.000 --> 01:25:54.760
them down, refusing to put them down until they have

1055
01:25:54.840 --> 01:26:00.560
no choice. So that happened to me a few times,

1056
01:26:01.119 --> 01:26:03.800
where instead of just putting the bags down, having a

1057
01:26:03.840 --> 01:26:09.720
break and taking a rest from caring about anything, which

1058
01:26:09.760 --> 01:26:15.199
again I said, it's a weird concept to not care

1059
01:26:16.199 --> 01:26:19.399
for a period of time, not care about anyone, not

1060
01:26:19.520 --> 01:26:24.279
care about anything, including yourself, including your loved ones, including

1061
01:26:24.359 --> 01:26:28.760
the day, including your job, including where you live, including

1062
01:26:28.800 --> 01:26:33.279
your health, anything, letting go of all that stuff just

1063
01:26:33.359 --> 01:26:38.239
through a period of time. And when you do that,

1064
01:26:38.359 --> 01:26:45.399
there's some freedom there and things like you physically, you

1065
01:26:45.479 --> 01:26:50.279
just feel relaxed. There's nowhere else, there's no other way

1066
01:26:50.319 --> 01:26:58.439
to feel because it's free, it's freeing. But then the

1067
01:26:58.520 --> 01:27:01.319
benefit of when you go back, you know, when you like,

1068
01:27:01.520 --> 01:27:04.319
I say, go back, but when the recordings finished or

1069
01:27:04.359 --> 01:27:07.960
the session's finished, whether it's listening to me or whether

1070
01:27:08.000 --> 01:27:10.720
it's it could be doing yoga, it could be doing meditation,

1071
01:27:11.199 --> 01:27:13.920
it could be just going for a nice walk, anything

1072
01:27:13.960 --> 01:27:18.760
where you can just move everything else away and ignore that,

1073
01:27:19.600 --> 01:27:21.960
take a break from that stuff, just don't care about

1074
01:27:21.960 --> 01:27:26.680
it for a while and let go of any guilt

1075
01:27:26.720 --> 01:27:29.600
that you might have about not caring about it. You've

1076
01:27:29.600 --> 01:27:34.359
also got to not care about the guilt because ultimately

1077
01:27:35.239 --> 01:27:38.520
you don't really you're not really not caring. Of course,

1078
01:27:38.560 --> 01:27:41.199
you still care, but you're letting it go. You're having

1079
01:27:41.199 --> 01:27:46.159
a break from it. You know. It's the same way

1080
01:27:46.199 --> 01:27:48.800
as you don't eat when you're on a toilet. The

1081
01:27:48.840 --> 01:27:52.079
two don't really go together. Well though, the process is

1082
01:27:52.159 --> 01:27:54.840
kind of the beginning and ending of the process, but

1083
01:27:55.520 --> 01:28:01.119
you know, it's two separate things. So they may say,

1084
01:28:01.119 --> 01:28:03.159
how does everything things to come back to pooing with you?

1085
01:28:03.199 --> 01:28:07.359
Doesn't it? I said no, And then I think about

1086
01:28:07.359 --> 01:28:09.960
it and like, yeah, it does things, it doesn't it. Oh, well,

1087
01:28:11.920 --> 01:28:15.319
you've got the laughing stream. Imagine stepping into a warm,

1088
01:28:16.039 --> 01:28:25.039
clear stream stream. Imagine okay, clear stream whose water contains laughter,

1089
01:28:25.199 --> 01:28:33.279
joy and playfulness, feel earnestly being washed away, effortlessly replaced

1090
01:28:33.279 --> 01:28:40.920
by a joyful, carefree attitude. I mean, I think that's

1091
01:28:41.039 --> 01:28:47.680
part that can be a benefit of dressing up. And

1092
01:28:47.840 --> 01:28:50.279
I know I've heard that quite a few people dress up,

1093
01:28:50.479 --> 01:28:55.439
like dressing up or maybe acting, doing drama, taking on

1094
01:28:55.479 --> 01:29:01.720
a different role because they have a break from themselves.

1095
01:29:01.720 --> 01:29:05.640
Maybe at the weekend they'll go out and there'll be

1096
01:29:05.680 --> 01:29:10.119
a different person, or maybe even moving to a different place,

1097
01:29:11.880 --> 01:29:16.199
a new job. It's almost that you get a chance

1098
01:29:16.279 --> 01:29:26.720
to reinvent yourself. So oh so before I go, I've

1099
01:29:26.720 --> 01:29:29.439
got to tell you that story about the chocolate. This

1100
01:29:29.600 --> 01:29:37.560
is it's just so embarrassing, right, my friend opposite needs

1101
01:29:37.600 --> 01:29:42.000
his stuff removed. He's sort of like got fridge, he's

1102
01:29:42.039 --> 01:29:46.039
got I think the freezing easygo because it's it's rusty

1103
01:29:46.079 --> 01:29:48.399
on the outside, and he's now just got this brand

1104
01:29:48.439 --> 01:29:54.039
new kitchen in he said, all but it works. Yeah,

1105
01:29:54.479 --> 01:29:57.840
but just because it works doesn't mean you need to

1106
01:29:57.920 --> 01:30:02.279
keep it. I mean, it's it's probably about thirty years old,

1107
01:30:03.239 --> 01:30:08.079
and it's rusty. It's literally rusty on the outside. It's awful,

1108
01:30:10.239 --> 01:30:12.159
and I'm not sure how safe it is either, if

1109
01:30:12.159 --> 01:30:18.119
it's that old. But we've organized for him to get

1110
01:30:18.359 --> 01:30:22.079
a new but it's a second anthriage, but from Del Boy,

1111
01:30:22.119 --> 01:30:26.319
who's another neighbor who buys and sells stuff. So he's

1112
01:30:26.359 --> 01:30:30.359
got it in his garage. So we're going to get

1113
01:30:30.359 --> 01:30:34.399
that when the kitchen's finished in a couple of weeks.

1114
01:30:35.960 --> 01:30:43.640
So I'm going I go for a walk, I said

1115
01:30:43.680 --> 01:30:49.560
the word. I took Vinnie out, so yes, I had

1116
01:30:49.560 --> 01:30:53.760
the chocolate. Anyway, I'm finishing what I'm doing. I go out,

1117
01:30:55.159 --> 01:30:57.960
take him out and just walk around. I must have

1118
01:30:58.039 --> 01:31:00.479
been out for about I don't know how for an hour.

1119
01:31:01.359 --> 01:31:03.960
He was just smelling the grass as he does normally.

1120
01:31:09.159 --> 01:31:11.960
Did I see anyone? Oh? Yeah, I saw there was

1121
01:31:12.000 --> 01:31:15.520
one man that said a load to him, and he

1122
01:31:15.600 --> 01:31:18.359
actually said thank you for stopping and talking to me,

1123
01:31:18.720 --> 01:31:24.119
so that was nice. And then he said, why are

1124
01:31:24.159 --> 01:31:29.119
you holding your hand out? I said money. You don't

1125
01:31:29.119 --> 01:31:33.000
get a conversation with me for nothing. It is I

1126
01:31:33.159 --> 01:31:40.199
charge a pound a minute. We laughed, and I saw

1127
01:31:40.239 --> 01:31:46.800
a cut I think I saw another dog owner. Wasn't

1128
01:31:46.800 --> 01:31:52.520
a lot going on. Actually, I took my hat off,

1129
01:31:54.520 --> 01:31:56.119
so I have my hat on, but it was too

1130
01:31:56.159 --> 01:31:59.880
warm to have my hat on. The thing is I

1131
01:32:00.680 --> 01:32:04.840
roughly remembered saying that to somebody that I had my

1132
01:32:04.920 --> 01:32:06.920
hat on, but then I took it off because it

1133
01:32:07.000 --> 01:32:12.920
was warm. I don't know who it was. Anyway, we

1134
01:32:13.079 --> 01:32:15.439
come back, he did a did he went to a toilet,

1135
01:32:16.279 --> 01:32:20.720
got rid of that and picked it up, used the

1136
01:32:20.720 --> 01:32:25.680
bag this time, less washing, less soap, you know, and

1137
01:32:25.880 --> 01:32:33.159
so get back and I think, I'm just on the

1138
01:32:33.199 --> 01:32:42.159
way upstairs and I see the the person that takes

1139
01:32:42.199 --> 01:32:47.319
the rubbish like he's like a it's certainly like take

1140
01:32:47.399 --> 01:32:50.720
stuff and pick stuff up for people in that, you know,

1141
01:32:51.119 --> 01:32:54.600
big things and stuff. And I asked him about because

1142
01:32:54.600 --> 01:32:56.079
I spoke to him before, and I said, is there

1143
01:32:56.079 --> 01:32:59.039
any can you help with the with my friend's stuff?

1144
01:32:59.079 --> 01:33:02.159
So we said a couple of weeks time, So I

1145
01:33:02.279 --> 01:33:04.399
arranged that with him, and I said, he may just

1146
01:33:04.399 --> 01:33:09.960
give me a knock, and then I said not now

1147
01:33:11.039 --> 01:33:14.399
I'm not in my head, so he's okay. So I

1148
01:33:14.479 --> 01:33:19.680
went went not gave my neighbor knock and said, here's

1149
01:33:19.680 --> 01:33:23.039
what's going on. You see you down there? I said,

1150
01:33:23.199 --> 01:33:24.960
if you come out and just look at that van.

1151
01:33:25.880 --> 01:33:29.279
He spent about ten minutes step coming out of the door.

1152
01:33:32.039 --> 01:33:34.119
I don't know why he spent so. I know he's

1153
01:33:34.159 --> 01:33:39.039
nearly eighty, but he really it's almost like you're moving

1154
01:33:39.119 --> 01:33:42.239
him really slowly on purpose there. I mean it was

1155
01:33:42.359 --> 01:33:48.760
like super slow. Me guaranteed if I said to him, oh,

1156
01:33:49.399 --> 01:33:57.800
the chip vans out there, he'd have moved super fast anyway.

1157
01:33:58.680 --> 01:34:02.279
The I just explained to him what's going to happen

1158
01:34:03.760 --> 01:34:06.159
that I've organized for him to have the old stuff

1159
01:34:06.159 --> 01:34:07.760
that he's got a cooker as well that he doesn't

1160
01:34:07.840 --> 01:34:12.239
use that's going out the new It's old. All this

1161
01:34:12.359 --> 01:34:14.800
has been there for a long long time. He's got

1162
01:34:14.800 --> 01:34:17.640
the same cooker as me, really, and he's got a

1163
01:34:17.680 --> 01:34:19.720
fridge that's going to go into the same gap as

1164
01:34:19.720 --> 01:34:22.479
where the cooker was because he uses the air fryer,

1165
01:34:23.520 --> 01:34:32.199
doesn't need doesn't need a cooker. So I do that

1166
01:34:32.319 --> 01:34:35.560
and like, okay, everything's fine. He wants to talk about golf,

1167
01:34:35.600 --> 01:34:40.239
and I'm like, no, I can't talk about golf because

1168
01:34:40.439 --> 01:34:42.359
I showed a bit of interest in golf, and he

1169
01:34:42.520 --> 01:34:46.199
just he thinks I like golf. I don't. I don't

1170
01:34:46.239 --> 01:34:49.359
dislike any sport. I'm just only interested in boxing. It's

1171
01:34:49.399 --> 01:34:53.520
the only one I've got, seriously, no interest in any

1172
01:34:53.560 --> 01:35:01.279
other sport. You know, boxing I know about. That's the

1173
01:35:01.359 --> 01:35:05.039
only sport I really know about. That I know quite

1174
01:35:05.039 --> 01:35:07.399
a bit about, and I've been following it since I

1175
01:35:07.439 --> 01:35:17.960
was a kid. So anyway, I get indoors. I think

1176
01:35:18.199 --> 01:35:24.680
the delivery comes, so I've ordered the delivery before I

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01:35:24.720 --> 01:35:29.479
went out. I go back and sit down. The delivery comes,

1178
01:35:30.279 --> 01:35:35.399
and so I walk outside. Oh no, this is what happens. No,

1179
01:35:35.640 --> 01:35:38.760
I got it the wrong way around. I come upstairs.

1180
01:35:39.079 --> 01:35:42.600
The delivery comes. I then go downstairs help with the delivery.

1181
01:35:43.239 --> 01:35:46.359
Then I see the person outside speak to him about

1182
01:35:46.399 --> 01:35:50.840
the fridge because I had uber it's deliver me some groceries.

1183
01:35:52.079 --> 01:35:55.800
And then I knocked on my friends at the neighbor's door,

1184
01:35:56.279 --> 01:35:58.640
explain to him what's going on. Two weeks time. They'll

1185
01:35:58.640 --> 01:36:02.000
take that stuff and all that and then we'll come in.

1186
01:36:02.319 --> 01:36:05.800
Then we Then I came into my flat put the

1187
01:36:05.840 --> 01:36:11.159
stuff away. Vinny. He had some treats. He loves them. Yeah,

1188
01:36:11.199 --> 01:36:13.199
you heard the word treats, didn't you, sign mate, I

1189
01:36:13.239 --> 01:36:18.479
shouldn't be saying that. And then I came with treats

1190
01:36:18.560 --> 01:36:21.279
and I sit down and I thought, oh, I need

1191
01:36:21.319 --> 01:36:24.239
a wei wei, so I go into the into the bathroom,

1192
01:36:24.880 --> 01:36:28.520
go into the kitchen. Wow, I nearly said, that, didn't

1193
01:36:28.560 --> 01:36:31.960
I no. I went to the bathroom and did did

1194
01:36:31.960 --> 01:36:37.199
a we wie wash my hands, and you know that's

1195
01:36:37.279 --> 01:36:39.279
quite often I do. I just was look in the

1196
01:36:39.319 --> 01:36:43.199
mirror and just feel sorry for myself for a few minutes.

1197
01:36:45.399 --> 01:36:48.039
I couldn't leave what I saw. There was toffee sticking

1198
01:36:48.079 --> 01:36:51.199
out my beard, all over my bed from the the

1199
01:36:51.239 --> 01:36:57.279
caramel Cabri's dairy milk caramel so the the caramel midd

1200
01:36:57.359 --> 01:37:00.920
or whatever. It was sticking in my bed because my

1201
01:37:00.960 --> 01:37:03.159
beer is now too long to even feel it, so

1202
01:37:03.159 --> 01:37:05.319
it wasn't against my skin, but it was just all

1203
01:37:05.439 --> 01:37:13.920
dripping down. I couldn't believe it. I was walking around

1204
01:37:14.520 --> 01:37:23.079
with that on my chin for the last hour. I've

1205
01:37:23.119 --> 01:37:29.960
been embarrassed before many times, many many, many times. But

1206
01:37:30.039 --> 01:37:40.680
this this was yeah, this was wrong. It was just

1207
01:37:40.680 --> 01:37:47.279
just anyway, that's it. Really. I hope this has been

1208
01:37:47.920 --> 01:37:51.079
mildly helpful. I can't see how it would be. But

1209
01:37:51.159 --> 01:37:55.119
if it was, then good. If it wasn't, then I

1210
01:37:55.159 --> 01:37:58.279
hope it was. I got no idea how long I

1211
01:37:58.319 --> 01:38:02.279
was talking for it seems like a long time, but

1212
01:38:02.319 --> 01:38:04.319
then in a way it doesn't. Should we have a

1213
01:38:04.359 --> 01:38:09.840
look accord to one hour and over an hour and

1214
01:38:09.880 --> 01:38:16.000
a half, I've been talking blind me. So I'm going

1215
01:38:16.079 --> 01:38:22.399
to go give vinnya another t R e e e

1216
01:38:22.399 --> 01:38:29.479
e e e e e e e T. And that's

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01:38:29.520 --> 01:38:33.000
that's it for me for now. So thank you for listening.

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01:38:33.319 --> 01:38:35.920
Remember to be kind to yourself, because you do deserve

1219
01:38:36.000 --> 01:38:41.479
to be happy a be gentle with yourself. Notice how

1220
01:38:43.319 --> 01:38:46.399
the way you feel has changed since you started listening

1221
01:38:46.439 --> 01:38:52.439
to this. And if this is useful and it helps beneficial,

1222
01:38:53.920 --> 01:38:58.640
maybe let me know lot other people know share the

1223
01:38:58.760 --> 01:39:04.840
love man. Just I sometimes think that it's almost like

1224
01:39:04.920 --> 01:39:08.079
on people's dirty little secret. You know, they found me

1225
01:39:08.119 --> 01:39:10.479
on a weird part of the internet. It's like I

1226
01:39:10.560 --> 01:39:16.239
stop telling anyone else. I wonder if people were embarrassed

1227
01:39:16.239 --> 01:39:22.039
about me. I don't know. Anyway, Thanks for listening and

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I will be back again soon. Take care, lots of love, bye,