May 7, 2025

(music) BODY SCAN | Let me bore your pain away #33 | Jason Newland | 7th May 2025

(music) BODY SCAN | Let me bore your pain away #33 | Jason Newland | 7th May 2025
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Hello, and welcome to Jasonnewland dot com. My name's Jason Newland.

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Please only listen when you can safely close your eyes,

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and this is let me boil your pain away. So

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only listen to this recording when you know the cause

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of your chronic pain and you have permission to listen

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to it from your doctor or professional medical healthcare practitioner.

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This is not a replacement for medical medicine, medications and

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our replacement for medical advice. It's definitely not medical advice.

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All this is is just me waffling on about subjects

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pertained to chronic pain. That's pretty much it. And if

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it's useful some people find it useful, then brilliant. It's

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really that. I mean, this is kind of an extension

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to my well, I would say probably a family member,

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a close family member to my let me bore you

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to sleep podcast. It's the same kind of process. I've

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got Vinnie in the background chomping on a bony thing.

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Then maybe a background sounds. I mean, it probably will

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be because downstairs are still having their bathroom fitted. I've

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been doing it for about seventeen years now, and sometimes

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I exaggerate, but I never have done so far never exaggerated.

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I never exaggerated about a thousand times a day. I

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was thinking, this is one of those recordings that the

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more you listen, the more benefit you get potentially, and

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it is what it says like just it can be

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used as a distraction. And I don't know why I'm

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explaining at the beginning of every recording what the recording is,

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because I don't do that with the let Me Buy

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You to Sleep recordings. But I guess even though this

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is the thirty third one that I've done, there's still

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a degree of newness involved in it, I think for

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me and potentially a there's going to be people that

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haven't listened to these recordings before. So it's kind of

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just hello, if you're new, just letting you know what

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it's about. I guess. So I've done thirty two in

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the past, this is the thirty third, and I kind

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of just choose a subject related to helping people with

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chronic pain and then I just chat about it. So

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today I'm going to be focusing on the body scan.

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What is a body scan, where did it originate from,

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different types of body scans, and how it can be

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used for I'll talk about my own experience doing body

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scans and how I found it useful. So it's one

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of those things you know, just gonna I'll go into it,

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maybe try and come from different angles. He's been very

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noisy back there and me it does happen sometimes, but hey,

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I'm can I do he's a little sausage or it's

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said the word sausage. Shouldn't say the word sausage. He

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hasn't heard it yet, but yeah, he gets excited by

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that word a bit like me and chocolate. If I

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heard a word chocolate, whatever I'm doing distracted, like did

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someone say chocolate? So I think he likes the word

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chocolate as well, but he's not allowed to eat chocolate

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of course, being a doggie. And so I'm going to

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go through the body scan. Now this could be like

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a distraction. You might find that when you listen to

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my voice, your mind starts to slow down. You feel

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more relaxed within yourself. You know, your muscles relax, especially

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today because we're talking about a body scan, which is

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a really good way to relax. So yes, that's what

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I shall still be doing today. So what is a

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body scan? I guess not everyone's going to know what

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it is. I. I did the body scan long before

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I learned what it was. I didn't know it was

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called a body scan, and I kind of I found

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out when I joined start going to a Buddhist center

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in two thousand. In November two thousand and two roughly,

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and I it was a Wednesday night. I was going

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through a lot of panic at the time. I was

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having anxiety attacks. I didn't really know what they were.

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I had been to the doctor and he told what

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they were, but I just didn't. It was just beyond

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my comprehension what was going on. It just didn't It

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was weird, beyond weird. I just didn't know what to

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do with this new, you know, thing that's popped up.

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And I kind of thought to myself, maybe I need

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to learn to relax. I need to do something physical,

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something I'd need to proactive. It kind of sounds weird,

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isn't it, to relax proactively. It's almost like you'd think

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relaxation would be just really easy, which I find it

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to be now, perhaps back then not so much. So.

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I went along to this group, this Buddhist center. There's

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a bunch of people in there, and I didn't feel

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it all relaxed because I was around all these new people,

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very friendly, but still didn't know anyone. The meditation that

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we did was mindfulness, that was it was mindfulness of brieving,

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and then they would do alternative week. Alternative week, so

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one and they yeah, one week it would be mindfulness

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of brieving. The following week it would be the meta Bargener.

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So mindfulness of brieving is a meditation where you just

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focus on your breath. You just focus. Yeah, that's certain.

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Really just focus on your breath, don't try and control it,

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you just focus on it. I found that the easiest

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one to do. My throat's going weird to that I

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need some water, so I found Yeah, I did find

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the mindfulness of breathing the more simpler one. The Metabavner

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was again it was in stages, but it was focusing

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on sending out well wishes, sending out good feelings towards people.

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And I I struggled with that one, I'll be honest,

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I did. Yeah, yeah, I struggled with that one. Struggled

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with that one for years in fact. But the mindfulness

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of preve and was the easiest one. But before every meditation,

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the meditation teacher would do a body scan, which was

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almost my favorite part, so that it would just be starting.

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It'd be sitting there. Some people would be lying down

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if they've got physical stuff they can't if they can't sit,

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some people be on a cushion, people on chairs, and

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just how whatever is most comfortable, and I would, Yeah,

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the meditation teacher would focus on just basically starting to

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the top of the head and moving down to the feet,

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but not asking us to relax, not asking you to

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relax your forehead or your eyes, but just to focus

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on the different parts, notice how they feel, and accepting

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how the different parts of your body feel, which I

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guess may in some circumstances seem almost alien. And it

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did to me in some ways to accept something that

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you perhaps don't like. So for example, I'm just trying

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to think if I had like a knee when I

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was trying. When I first got there, I tried to

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meditate sitting on cushions, which was painful. Had I gave

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it up after about two years three years now I

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kind of just no, I'm sitting on a chair from

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now on. It was, Yeah, it was two thousand and

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five that I decided no more cushions. I just it

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got to the point where had about sixteen cushions all

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kind of balanced on top of each other to try

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and make it easier for me to feel comfortable when

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I was sitting. And one day I fell off, and yeah,

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made everyone laugh, and it wasn't good. Disturbed the meditation.

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Literally I was up nearly as high as a ceiling

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all these cushions. But I decide from then on to

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sit in the chair. Although I missed looking down at everyone.

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Literally I can meditate and look at everyone at the

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tops of their heads. It was weird, and so I

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used to get problems with my knees when I was

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trying to sit on the cushions, but it was only

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during the sitting sitting cross legged, not in a full

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lotus position, because I did not have I've never in

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my life had that flexibility, not even as a kid, well, okay,

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as a very young kid, because I used to be

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able to bite my own tone. Now, so I clearly

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did have flexibility. But as a it might be a

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hip thing. I don't know, but I don't I've never

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had the as like a teenager onwards, never had wonderful

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flexibility as far as being able to do it as

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splits or anything like that, just having to be able

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to do it. And I used to do karate and

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stuff and even like kicking head height, I could do it,

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but it was Yeah, a lot of the other people

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could do splits, and they could pretty much, yeah, be

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a lot more flexible with their legs than I was.

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I just it's the way we're built, isn't that. It's

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just my body type. I'm all built for eating pies

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and watching television. Ah, that's stoke, but yeah, it's I'm not.

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It was a bit difficult, so my knees would hurt

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during the meditation, and it was quite difficult when we

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were doing. For me, I found it a bit difficult

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in a sense of an annoyance, the idea of going

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through my body and then focusing on my knees and

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being fine with how they were, just accepting and that's

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how they felt, and not trying to change how they felt.

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But something did happen, which was it kind of surprised

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me that they would. The physical discomfort was in my

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knees would diminish, would reduce, sometimes quite dramatically, almost like

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it didn't matter anymore. You might hear some banging downstairs.

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But if I waited until there was no noise downstairs,

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then I would not well, I wouldn't be doing any recordings,

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to be fair, So that's not you know, it's not

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much use. I'd have to wait until five o'clock four

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or five before I could do a recording. And you know,

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it's eleven o'clock in the morning. In the afternoon, it's

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eleven o'clock in the morning, and I want to do

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something useful. So here I am. If the noise is annoying,

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then just turn off. And there's other things. I've got

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so many recordings that don't have hammering. I don't know

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someone with a hammer downstairs banging, you know, So that

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isn't my normal background sound. Perhaps I should have on

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my website like non hammering sounds and help hammering sounds,

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so people that enjoyed the sound of building work going

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on in the background, they can listen to those recordings. Maybe.

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But I was surprised is what surprised me about the

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body scan, which kind of became my firm favorite for me,

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and I would have been quite happy to have just

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done a body scan and nothing else because it helped me,

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first of all, get in touch with my body and

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to move away from my mind, but in touch my

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body in a different way to how I'd been experiencing recently.

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At that time, because of the panic attacks, I was very,

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very nervous and very concerned about any kinds of feelings

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I had in my body. I'd go into kind of

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panic mode. I mean, once my mobile phone went off,

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it was it was in my pocket. I was in

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my back pocket, I think because I was at work

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and it was on vibrate and it went off, so

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I felt this vibration and me bum. I went into

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a full blown panic attack, like instantly, and then I

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realized it was my phone. I laughed, well, I kind

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of laughed. I'd wiped the tears away, and I found

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it funny. The panic attack ended as instantly as it started,

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which made ME realize that actually I was allowing external

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events to affect me even when I'd got it wrong.

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And also I was expecting. I was constantly at that

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time expecting to have these feelings. I was expecting a

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panic attack to start at any moment. At that time.

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I was, and I would probably say that's pretty much

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all I was thinking about mainly at the time. For

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a good couple of years. So when on for a while,

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mainly two thousand and three that was the worst one,

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and then two thousand and four, and by the end

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of two thousand and four it I kind of got

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a group of it a bit more, but it took

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a while to get my head around how to deal

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with it and everything. But anyway, this isn't about chronic

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this isn't about panic attacks. But there's something to be

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said about expectation. I was expecting it, so I got it,

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and then it started. You know, something in my mind

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kind of thought, what if I expect something different? Then

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what if I expect to feel good? Why if if

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I expect to feel relaxed? Because I was literally I

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was kind of you know those ships in the old

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days and they have someone in the what is it

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the peep hole, whatever, you they'd be right in the

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crow's nest. That's what it isn't it that there's someone

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in the crow's nest with binoculars or with a telescope

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looking around. That's almost like I had that constantly, someone

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looking part of my brain, looking for the next panicky moment.

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And you know, if you're looking out if if I

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suppose if a ship's already been attacked by another ship

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and managed to survive and got away. So the person

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in the crow's nest is going to be looking out

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for ships in a really serious way. So everything they

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see is a potential ship. So they might just see

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it might be a whale jumping out of the water,

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and then might think ship to ship. All AHOI I

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don't know what I'm turned into pirates now, so apparently

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they're pirates, but it's kind of it's that expectation, and

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I've known people, I'm sure you've probably known people as well,

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that tend to fear the worst they expect with some

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people are proud of that, and I expect the worst,

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therefore I'm never disappointed. You must have heard people say

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that in the past. I know I have, and it's

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I understand the concept, but it's very negative, and someone

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that expects the worst all the time are more likely

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going to get the worst, And even if they don't

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get the worst, they're possibly going to experience it as

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being the worst. If they're expecting disappointment and expecting negativity,

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that might be all they're going to see. You know,

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I saw this YouTube video. It might have been a skit.

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It might be, it might not be real or anything.

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But this this woman buys her daughter a car and

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it's like a BMW or something, and the daughter. It's

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in America, so her daughter is about seventeen, maybe sixteen,

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because you can drive quite early in America compared to

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where I live. And this the daughter is having a

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go at the mom. So the mom's got a birthday

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present for a daughter. Maybe I think it's like a

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seventeenth birthday and a daughter starts having to go. So

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it's the wrong color. It's the wrong color. Yeah, and

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oh yeah, because it was it was an electric car.

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She didn't want an electric car. It was one of

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the famous electric cars. I forget what they're called. I

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don't want one of them. I want to BMW. That's it.

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I want to BMW. But this is better than a BMW.

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I want to BMW. This is more expensive than a BMW.

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I want a BMW. And it's the wrong color. And

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it looked quite real, to be fair, based on how

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the mother was responding, because it was yeah, I mean,

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it might say. It might just been scripted kind of

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comedy video. I couldn't tell you, but I've known people

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that have been like that, not on that extent. I've

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not known anyone, not known anyone to get angry because

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they've got a car that. I mean, I don't drive,

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but I would still be happier someone bought me a

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car just for the fact that. What an amazing gift

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and someone would go to that effort to do that,

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even if I couldn't drive, which I can't, but it's

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you know, it's like, what a mass How can you

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not have gratitude for that? Wow? I remember, yeah, years ago,

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I got some what was it it was Iceland. So

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I used to go to Iceland a lot. This is

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the shop supermarket, and I had a club card thing

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with them, and I was building up credit and whatever,

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and they sent me a voucher for twenty five pound,

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which is pretty good, going to be fair, that's a

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lot of money's worth of shopping to get a twenty

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five pound voucher back after I think like two or

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three years I think it took to get that, and

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I didn't have much money, and it was my friend's birthday,

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so what I thought, You know what, I've got nothing

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to give him. Really, I'll give him this twenty five

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pound voucher because then he can go and get some food.

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And like, back then, i'd say twenty five pound. Would

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it's not necessarily going to buy a whole week's worth

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of food, but it would have. It would have been

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probably at least half the week's food, you know, it

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would have been. It's twenty five pizzas the worst case scenario,

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because I used to do pizzas for a pound back then.

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So this is probably about six seven years ago. And

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so my friend, okay, happy birthday. There you go. He

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had someone else in the room with him, and I'm

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literally just I think I might have gone to the toilet,

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and I come out and I hear the other person

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saying to my friend, how much money if you can

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get from it for it? For that voucher. So they're looking.

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I don't know, my friend. I think if I hadn't

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been there, my friend might have gone for it as well.

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I don't know. I said no, but they basically just

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wanted to sell the voucher so they can get some cash.

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So they probably seld a voucher for like ten grid

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it's like or fifteen quid or whatever. You know. It's

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like I just I found it unbelievable even now, becase

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I'm still talking about it. I think gratitude. I don't

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know anyway, expectation. It's easy to be disappointed if we

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expect to be disappointed, you know, if with that attitude,

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with the sound of banging downstairs, I love the sound

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of building work. I don't know about you. I do

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find a little bit distracting, to be honest with you.

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Vinny got given a bone yesterday who was a lamb

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bone from a neighbor, and he's had an upset stomach

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since eating it. I had to take him out to

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the garden three times. It's honestly, it's tummy and he

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won't eat. He won't eat any food. All he wants

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is the bone back. And I took the bone away

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from him. It had food on it, had to, you know,

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so he ate that. But he's it's really upset, honey.

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And now he's just rested. So hopefully later on I

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put some food out for him, but he's not eating it,

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not touching it. So I'm hoping he'll get He's telling me,

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you'll get back to normal. And I know that's not

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relative to what we're talking about. But what I did

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find though this is this is a bit strange, and

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this is I think it was two thousand and four.

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I was meditating on my own upstairs because I worked

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in the shop downstairs. That's when I had the vibrating

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bum experience. And it was a gift shop. So I

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was upstairs in a Buddhist center in that I was

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in the shrine room, just meditating. So this would be

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kind of about this time of the year two thousand

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and four, twenty one years ago. Wow. And so I

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had this pain in my knee, just like normal doing

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the body scan. It wasn't bugging me as much. I

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kind of got used to it because I knew that

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as soon as I stood up, shook me legs off,

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shook me legs off, but you know, like just let

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me legs kind of stretch out a little bit. I

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didn't ask for help with that, but but I got

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some weird looks, I imagine. But then my knees would

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be fine after that, just you know, took a couple

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of minutes to just get back to normal. On this occasion,

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my knee, for some reason, it fascinated me. And it

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was only one knee. It was only my right knee

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that was really problematic. The left knee was just not

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really bothering me. So I'm doing the body scan as

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I always did. Sometimes I just do the body scan.

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I wouldn't do anything else. Sometimes I just do the

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mindfulness of brieving meditation and nothing else. But i'd always

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do a body scan first. So I'm doing the body

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scan and I'm focusing. I get down to my knee.

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So I'm focusing on my knee and I start to

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get curious and as a focus, it's I kind of

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it's like I'm visualizing the knee because I see my

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knee enough times over the years. I've had to wash

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it a few times, you know, so I know what

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my knees look like. So I received a focus focused

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on getting distracted by this sound. I focused on my knee,

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and what I was noticing is that.

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It wasn't quite as solid like this physical sensation and

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this displeasure, this unpleasant feeling whatever you want to call it.

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I'm trying to, you know, avoid using a P, A

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I N word. And I noticed that it wasn't like

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what is it? It's a feeling. So we have feelings,

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have physical feelings, we have emotions, but there was emotion

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connected to that feeling, because if there wasn't, it wouldn't

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bother me. Like logically, if there was no emotions connected

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to that physical feeling in my knee, I wouldn't even

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be focused on it. It would not affect me one

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little bit without the emotions. The physical side is just

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it's just physical, isn't It's just a feeling, just a sensation,

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physical sensation that can be interpreted in different ways. When

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look at a baby or a little toddler falls over,

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looks at the parent or the adult that they're with

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to find out whether to cry or laugh, it's that simple.

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It's the same physical sensation that they've got and they're

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quite able to feel it, but they don't know what

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emotion to attach to it yet. As an adult, we've

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learned you know kind of which things to attach, which

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emotions to. But then I suppose we can relearn and

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change those connections side and maybe you know, maybe maybe

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turn back the time to getting in touch with that

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toddler's brain in that moment and thinking is I mean,

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you can look down at that part of your body,

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or you can you can look at it as a

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toddler would look at it, is it is it dangerous

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or not? Is it's a danger signal or not a

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danger signal, or is it just a feeling? And if

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you know the cause of it, and you know that

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it's not dangerous and you're fine, and you know to

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look after yourself and you don't need that, you don't

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need that physical sensation like a toddlers told that when

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the parents smiles or laughs, that todder laughs and smiles

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and runs and maybe carries on plane and they might

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have a big old scuff on their need blood skirting out.

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I'm choking. Wow, that's not funny. But I'm just saying

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the kid doesn't care. All the kids, all the little

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toddler wants to know is are they okay? But they

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don't know if they're okay. They have to kind of

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get it from the adult or maybe their older sibling

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or a teacher, whoever, you know. Great, And now a

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plane this time of year, we have these aerodynamic heads

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that like to I've had this ten years. They like

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to fly up high and then just drop down like that.

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And for some reason they always have to fly just

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above this building. Okay, it might not be just above

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this building, but it's this my little airspace, and I

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don't necessarily own it, but I like to think that

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I've invested some time into the airspace, this little bit

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of just you know, just this little bit of.

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Air.

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Perhaps I don't way have to fly in it. This

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is turned into a moaning session. So I realized, as

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I was focusing on the knee, what is this. I'd

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also been reading a book John Cabots in which is

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what was it called? I used to call it non

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non catastrophizing, something like that, And so he was in

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my into mindfulness meditation, so I was into like, I

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got very interested in chronic pain from a long time ago,

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from the early that I'd say about nineteen ninety nine.

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But I've never really had anything to do with myself.

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I got my me arthritis in my lower back, and

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I got a shoulder injury. That it was a shoulder injury.

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Now it's it was a problem for many yeah, for

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blimeing well over ten years. But it's not really much

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of a problem anymore, which is good. But the the

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thing that I noticed when I was focusing on my

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knee when I was meditating, was it wasn't static. It

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wasn't really It's like what was it. Is it real?

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If it's real, why can't I hold it in my hand?

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Why can't I just pick it up? If it actually exists?

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I mean, I know my knee exists because I can

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pick it up. I can't. I mean, technically, I just

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can't just pick it up. You know, hasn't got a

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handle on it. But I can put my hand on it,

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I can feel it. I can get that physical sensation

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and I kind of put pressure, and I'm doing it

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now actually, And for anyone looking through the window, it

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look like I'm just fondling my knee whilst talking into

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a microphone. But then, to be fair, they can't really

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be thinking that I'm a pervert because they're the one

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looking through the window with the binocular, isn't they sitting

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in the tree. So yeah, they had the weird ones.

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But I noticed that not all of it was uncomfortable.

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Not all of it was unpleasant. There was different sensations.

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The more I focused on the knee, I realized that

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parts of me felt fine. So like part of your

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body feels fine, maybe part of your body feels really

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really pleasant right now, you know. Listening to my voice,

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my boring, squeaky voice, maybe it sets off a sense

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of calmness, comfort, especially if you listen to me regularly.

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Something happened. I don't quite know what it is, my

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superpower of being just tediously boring with all my pointless stories.

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Maybe I don't know. And it seems to have the

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effect of slowing down the mind, the thoughts, relaxing your body.

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And because there's a place I think in your mind

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and I can kind of get in touch with it

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if I close my eyes and I look up a

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little bit with my eyes closed, and there's a certain

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feeling that it's very kind of serene. It's almost like

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a maybe like a cloud of safety, or like a

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bubble or a room or a cave something where everything

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is left behind. You can just step in to this

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or step onto that cloud, and even the man with

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a hammer downstairs doesn't affect it. Things that maybe bothered

472
00:40:08.800 --> 00:40:13.000
you before don't seem to matter anymore when you're in

473
00:40:13.039 --> 00:40:22.400
that state of comfort and calmness, looseness. So I noticed

474
00:40:22.400 --> 00:40:24.559
that I kind of got into that zone a bit,

475
00:40:25.679 --> 00:40:33.239
and I started focusing on my knee, and I noticed

476
00:40:33.760 --> 00:40:38.440
I've also noticed that Vinnie's staring at me, literally staring

477
00:40:38.480 --> 00:40:44.920
at me. He's looking at my knee. It's weird. He's

478
00:40:44.960 --> 00:40:48.000
trying to catch a fly or fly has been tormented

479
00:40:48.119 --> 00:40:52.199
him for the last two days. I don't know if

480
00:40:52.199 --> 00:40:53.960
it's the same one because I've got the window open,

481
00:40:54.039 --> 00:40:57.599
so another one might come in to join it, perhaps

482
00:40:57.760 --> 00:41:03.559
having a party. And I started focusing on my knee,

483
00:41:03.920 --> 00:41:09.480
focusing on different areas, realizing that it wasn't money, it

484
00:41:09.599 --> 00:41:15.760
was part of money, and even then it was different

485
00:41:15.840 --> 00:41:23.679
parts felt differently, had different physical sensations. So what I

486
00:41:23.719 --> 00:41:29.280
did is I tried. I decided to focus on the

487
00:41:29.320 --> 00:41:38.960
strongest feeling, which was unpleasant, the most unpleasant feeling I

488
00:41:38.960 --> 00:41:42.840
could focus on, and focusing on that, just that part

489
00:41:45.039 --> 00:41:49.280
just I kind of had this question in my mind,

490
00:41:49.400 --> 00:41:57.400
where is it? Where is it? The whole idea like

491
00:41:57.840 --> 00:42:01.280
can I hold it in my hand or no? Well,

492
00:42:01.280 --> 00:42:06.519
where is it? Then? Known as we all do that,

493
00:42:07.480 --> 00:42:12.840
all physical sensations are created by our brains, so we

494
00:42:13.000 --> 00:42:17.760
know that, so technically it's not coming from the knee,

495
00:42:17.840 --> 00:42:23.480
it's coming from the brain, so the brain. At the time,

496
00:42:23.519 --> 00:42:27.679
I didn't realize that the brain was inter interpreting that

497
00:42:27.800 --> 00:42:33.480
feeling like as a kind of a danger signal. So

498
00:42:33.559 --> 00:42:37.880
therefore needed to have that physical sensation as a warning

499
00:42:37.960 --> 00:42:48.079
to me, but in reality, I was just meditating. I

500
00:42:48.199 --> 00:42:52.440
think he's now farted. Now. I'm not surprised because he's

501
00:42:52.440 --> 00:42:57.920
had a bad stomach, but that is something else. Either

502
00:42:57.960 --> 00:43:06.079
he's farted or someone's spraying the fields, spraying the crops

503
00:43:06.119 --> 00:43:14.079
in the local fields, because that is four. But it

504
00:43:14.119 --> 00:43:17.639
seems calm, so it's good. I just wanted to be better,

505
00:43:18.159 --> 00:43:23.519
feel feel a bit better inside. He seems very relaxed now,

506
00:43:23.559 --> 00:43:27.239
which is nice. It will be concerned because he's sitting

507
00:43:27.239 --> 00:43:31.800
on my foot. I'm focusing on this part of my knee,

508
00:43:31.960 --> 00:43:39.280
thinking okay, so I know that there's no reason to

509
00:43:39.360 --> 00:43:46.880
have that. I know that you know there's no there's

510
00:43:46.920 --> 00:43:51.440
no warning, there's no real reason, there's no benefit to

511
00:43:51.559 --> 00:43:58.679
it logically, so I'm focusing on it. I'm thinking, okay,

512
00:43:58.679 --> 00:44:02.880
where is it? Then? And I was repeating that to myself,

513
00:44:02.960 --> 00:44:09.880
where is it? Where is this feeling? Where is it?

514
00:44:10.920 --> 00:44:15.800
And something strange happened. It started to move. It started

515
00:44:15.840 --> 00:44:18.639
almost like it was trying to hide from me, which

516
00:44:18.719 --> 00:44:25.480
was weird. So I focus even more and it was

517
00:44:25.519 --> 00:44:29.159
moving again, still within my knee, but kind of moving around.

518
00:44:29.880 --> 00:44:35.840
So I followed it, and I kept following it, and

519
00:44:35.920 --> 00:44:38.000
every time I followed it, it's almost like it was

520
00:44:38.079 --> 00:44:41.000
taking me somewhere, and I was following it, going deeper

521
00:44:41.039 --> 00:44:49.320
and deeper, and I came to this point where it

522
00:44:49.360 --> 00:44:57.000
wasn't there, and my knee felt fine. There was no

523
00:44:58.119 --> 00:45:03.800
just a normal feeling in money just felt absolutely fine,

524
00:45:04.719 --> 00:45:11.039
as it normally would do. And I could not figure

525
00:45:11.079 --> 00:45:20.320
that out. It seemed so unusual. Why where's it gone?

526
00:45:22.079 --> 00:45:23.800
I knew I didn't need it. You know you don't

527
00:45:23.840 --> 00:45:33.480
need it, But where's it gone? Because as we know,

528
00:45:33.519 --> 00:45:37.480
it's obvious, isn't it if you know the cause and

529
00:45:37.559 --> 00:45:47.960
you realize it's not necessary anymore. I suppose it changes

530
00:45:48.079 --> 00:45:59.360
the way that you perceive those physical sensations and that expectancy.

531
00:46:00.079 --> 00:46:02.440
I do find it interesting, though, the whole idea of

532
00:46:02.800 --> 00:46:11.599
actually we expect what's come before. So it's kind of strange.

533
00:46:11.639 --> 00:46:18.440
I could not find that physical feeling that I was

534
00:46:18.519 --> 00:46:27.320
looking for, and I thought, for a second, I've discovered.

535
00:46:28.280 --> 00:46:33.840
I've discovered something magical, and I had a name. I

536
00:46:33.880 --> 00:46:38.480
was going to call it. Find focus therapy. And by

537
00:46:38.599 --> 00:46:43.920
focusing on something really magnifying the notice, you know, the

538
00:46:45.079 --> 00:46:54.800
magnifying the magnification. Okay, in the same way is you know,

539
00:46:54.920 --> 00:47:00.639
if you was to look at anything, if you magnify enough,

540
00:47:00.920 --> 00:47:07.599
you realize there's nothing is solid. It's that the things

541
00:47:07.599 --> 00:47:09.760
that we think are solid and we touch, like this desk,

542
00:47:10.119 --> 00:47:15.079
it's solid. But if you magnify enough, you realize that

543
00:47:15.079 --> 00:47:18.920
it's not. It's made of molecules and there's gaps between

544
00:47:18.920 --> 00:47:23.119
the molecules. Doesn't mean you can put my finger for it.

545
00:47:24.639 --> 00:47:34.400
But ultimately it isn't what we think it is, and

546
00:47:34.440 --> 00:47:42.199
that physical sensation isn't what I thought it was. And

547
00:47:42.239 --> 00:47:47.880
once I've realized that, it changed something in your brain

548
00:47:48.880 --> 00:47:58.960
where you start to realize that actually, instead of expecting

549
00:47:59.679 --> 00:48:07.000
that old feeling when I meditate, maybe I'll have this

550
00:48:07.159 --> 00:48:14.360
new feeling. And it was kind of like a ah,

551
00:48:14.400 --> 00:48:22.239
that's interesting. And then I fell off my cushions because

552
00:48:22.239 --> 00:48:26.719
I were like sixteen high, and that's when I hurt.

553
00:48:26.760 --> 00:48:34.079
That's when I hurt my shoulder. Oh no, that's not true.

554
00:48:35.119 --> 00:48:38.599
I hurt my shoulder on his shelf. I literally stood

555
00:48:38.679 --> 00:48:44.880
up and banged it on a shelf. It was ridiculous.

556
00:48:45.199 --> 00:48:57.039
That was weird, but hey, it was something I was Oh,

557
00:48:57.519 --> 00:49:03.480
it's lad get tired, tired, tired. It's nearly twelve o'clock,

558
00:49:03.559 --> 00:49:08.880
so I'm duing my mid morning nap, I think, especially

559
00:49:08.880 --> 00:49:11.480
as he's had me up half the night in and

560
00:49:11.480 --> 00:49:18.559
out of the garden. He's very good. He's such a

561
00:49:18.559 --> 00:49:23.280
good boy though, really, see it waits. He's so patient,

562
00:49:23.880 --> 00:49:25.800
and you know, I wouldn't even care if he had

563
00:49:25.800 --> 00:49:29.400
an accident indoors. It's not his fault, but he won't.

564
00:49:30.760 --> 00:49:33.199
He holds it in. He holds it in. He just

565
00:49:33.320 --> 00:49:41.000
won't do that. And he's just yeah, it's so good. Really.

566
00:49:42.320 --> 00:49:43.920
I mean, he had a couple of accidents when I

567
00:49:43.920 --> 00:49:47.719
first got him, because he got so excited that he

568
00:49:47.800 --> 00:49:50.599
kind of weed a little bit. And then another time

569
00:49:51.719 --> 00:49:53.519
he did. I didn't know why he was waiting by

570
00:49:53.559 --> 00:49:56.440
it by the door, because he was doing that as

571
00:49:56.480 --> 00:49:58.920
soon as he moved in, moved, you know, because he

572
00:49:59.599 --> 00:50:01.840
was waiting through his previous owner to come and get him.

573
00:50:01.880 --> 00:50:04.079
I guess. So he was waiting by the door, but

574
00:50:04.119 --> 00:50:06.599
I didn't realize he was waiting because he needed the toilet.

575
00:50:08.360 --> 00:50:11.159
But once I realized that, you know, it's kind of

576
00:50:11.199 --> 00:50:22.800
about getting in sync. I suppose a little bit. Oh,

577
00:50:22.800 --> 00:50:26.119
I do need to I need to have a little

578
00:50:26.239 --> 00:50:30.519
lie down. So I've not really gone into like the

579
00:50:30.559 --> 00:50:34.559
body scan, but I have in a sense of the

580
00:50:34.639 --> 00:50:44.440
body scan led me to discover a way to focus.

581
00:50:46.119 --> 00:50:48.639
It's like a different kind of focus. It's like focusing,

582
00:50:48.760 --> 00:50:58.280
but not not focusing necessarily with your thoughts, more focusing

583
00:50:58.840 --> 00:51:02.800
just on how you feel. So it's kind of almost

584
00:51:02.800 --> 00:51:05.679
that you take. You're moving away from how from your brain,

585
00:51:06.360 --> 00:51:13.119
from your mind to your body, and by accepting how

586
00:51:13.159 --> 00:51:24.000
your body feels, all the different parts, something seems to change.

587
00:51:25.280 --> 00:51:28.760
Our body scan is brilliant for well, in my opinion,

588
00:51:29.639 --> 00:51:33.559
not just my opinion, but brilliant for calm in the mind,

589
00:51:34.199 --> 00:51:41.840
for destressing the body and the mind, for relaxing, for

590
00:51:42.000 --> 00:51:48.199
helping with you know things are anxiety, tension, stress, and

591
00:51:48.239 --> 00:51:55.119
also mindfulness is used to help people with chronic pain

592
00:51:55.159 --> 00:52:00.960
as well. So I went I went to this thing.

593
00:52:01.000 --> 00:52:04.400
I think it was two thousand and might have been

594
00:52:04.400 --> 00:52:07.960
two thousand and six, maybe two thousand and five, but

595
00:52:08.119 --> 00:52:10.199
I think it was two thousand and six. I went

596
00:52:10.239 --> 00:52:19.519
to a It was a Buddhist meditation thing. So let

597
00:52:19.559 --> 00:52:26.159
me ever look mindfulness Buddhist. I'm trying to see what

598
00:52:26.159 --> 00:52:29.280
it's called. Because I went to it. It's a training

599
00:52:29.480 --> 00:52:46.679
course Buddhist chronic pain pain meditation of course. Ah god,

600
00:52:46.800 --> 00:52:47.880
what was it called?

601
00:52:51.000 --> 00:52:51.199
Oh?

602
00:52:51.400 --> 00:52:56.400
I found it being a Buddhist approach to pain wild mind.

603
00:52:56.519 --> 00:52:58.840
So let's ever look because this is a lady that

604
00:52:58.880 --> 00:53:14.199
I studied with or trained with. And wait, I can't

605
00:53:14.239 --> 00:53:22.480
find where E is. I'm just trying to find right.

606
00:53:22.559 --> 00:53:28.000
This was first published in two thousand So video Mala

607
00:53:28.880 --> 00:53:35.039
video Maala So she founded co director of Breath Works,

608
00:53:37.239 --> 00:53:44.320
offering mindfulness based strategies for living well. And also she

609
00:53:44.639 --> 00:54:00.599
did the Yeah, it was a chronic pain. There was

610
00:54:00.639 --> 00:54:02.239
a name for it. I can't remember what her name

611
00:54:02.440 --> 00:54:06.440
was now for the course, but I did it. So

612
00:54:06.719 --> 00:54:09.559
I did that two thousand and five, two thousand and six,

613
00:54:10.639 --> 00:54:14.159
and it was very very much based on the body scan,

614
00:54:14.960 --> 00:54:22.480
very much based on mindfulness and meditation, but not trying

615
00:54:22.639 --> 00:54:27.119
to control the mind, not trying to control the physical sensations,

616
00:54:27.519 --> 00:54:34.360
not trying to control the body, but acceptance, you know,

617
00:54:34.599 --> 00:54:43.480
being with how you feel and realizing that you got

618
00:54:43.559 --> 00:54:51.639
the it's not it's a feeling and when you actually

619
00:54:51.880 --> 00:54:57.559
focus on how you feel as a whole, like all

620
00:54:57.599 --> 00:55:03.119
of your body, focusing on just one part of your body,

621
00:55:03.800 --> 00:55:06.880
which because if you give ninety percent or eighty percent

622
00:55:06.960 --> 00:55:11.199
or even sixty percent of your attention to a part

623
00:55:11.199 --> 00:55:17.239
of your body to physical discomfort or mental discomfort, you're

624
00:55:17.239 --> 00:55:20.159
going to feel crappy. You know. It's just this, that's

625
00:55:20.159 --> 00:55:26.000
just natural. But you can't focus on you can't focus

626
00:55:26.079 --> 00:55:29.119
seventy percent on one part of your body and also

627
00:55:29.199 --> 00:55:34.000
focus on the rest of your body. It's just you know,

628
00:55:34.360 --> 00:55:37.239
once you start focusing on all of your body and

629
00:55:37.320 --> 00:55:43.559
maybe moving that focus around, as in with a body scan,

630
00:55:43.719 --> 00:55:47.599
moving from your your eyes down to maybe your jaw

631
00:55:48.360 --> 00:55:54.440
and your teeth, your mouth, your tongue, your throat, maybe

632
00:55:54.599 --> 00:55:58.880
your ears, the back of your neck, and it's moving

633
00:55:59.079 --> 00:56:01.840
down your body, you know, maybe the top of your back,

634
00:56:02.199 --> 00:56:08.079
the middle of your back, your lower back, your chest,

635
00:56:09.280 --> 00:56:19.800
your stomach, your shoulders, forearms, elbows, you know, your wrists,

636
00:56:19.960 --> 00:56:27.480
your hands, your fingers, your hips. You're green. You're green,

637
00:56:29.039 --> 00:56:32.639
I'd say green, you're groin, That's what I was trying

638
00:56:32.639 --> 00:56:39.519
to say, you're green groin your buttocks, you know, and

639
00:56:39.519 --> 00:56:42.599
they just all the way down to your feet and

640
00:56:42.639 --> 00:56:50.239
your toes. So yeah, I was I found it fascinating

641
00:56:54.000 --> 00:57:04.039
because at the time, then flies not on my foot. Really,

642
00:57:04.440 --> 00:57:13.280
he's getting excited about that fly. I I did have

643
00:57:15.519 --> 00:57:19.159
problems with my shoulder when I went there, but that

644
00:57:19.440 --> 00:57:25.960
was yeah. I mean, the shoulders should have healed at

645
00:57:26.000 --> 00:57:33.199
that point and calcium or ever had been I don't know. Basically,

646
00:57:33.239 --> 00:57:37.159
the bones were rubbing on each other or something. And

647
00:57:44.920 --> 00:57:48.880
what I was gonna say, there's people slamming their doors.

648
00:57:48.880 --> 00:57:52.119
It's a lot of noise out here today. What I'm

649
00:57:52.159 --> 00:57:55.880
interested in is where's my phone gone? I had a

650
00:57:55.960 --> 00:58:03.719
phone when I came. It's disappeared, so it's amazing. I

651
00:58:03.800 --> 00:58:08.119
found it really good. The body scan is I started

652
00:58:08.280 --> 00:58:12.480
doing it in my own time at home because you know,

653
00:58:12.519 --> 00:58:17.079
once a week wasn't enough. I started doing it because

654
00:58:17.119 --> 00:58:23.280
I found it calmed your mind, calms your mind, and

655
00:58:23.320 --> 00:58:26.679
that's what I did it. That's what I needed at

656
00:58:26.719 --> 00:58:30.880
the time. But then when you calm your mind, you

657
00:58:30.960 --> 00:58:35.639
also calm your body. Your relax your mind, you relax

658
00:58:35.719 --> 00:58:40.000
your body, you relact your body, your relax your mind.

659
00:58:40.639 --> 00:58:44.079
And that's something I discovered quite early on when I

660
00:58:44.119 --> 00:58:48.239
was doing free pain relief with people in two thousand

661
00:58:48.280 --> 00:58:56.079
and six. Sometimes it was just relaxing them and it

662
00:58:56.440 --> 00:59:01.559
half to the physical discomfort if not more, just by

663
00:59:01.639 --> 00:59:11.679
simply talking them through a body scan and relaxation without

664
00:59:11.719 --> 00:59:20.519
any kind of hypnotic stuff, no suggestions, just simply relaxing

665
00:59:24.239 --> 00:59:32.400
cut that physical discomfort by at least fifty percent, and

666
00:59:32.480 --> 00:59:35.920
they were always surprised, and there was quite often now

667
00:59:36.159 --> 00:59:38.320
the whole there was an old thing that people used

668
00:59:38.320 --> 00:59:42.400
to do, and I couldn't believe it is afterwards they

669
00:59:42.519 --> 00:59:47.719
try and get it back. They'd be like, where's it gone?

670
00:59:49.840 --> 00:59:51.679
Why is it not feeling the way it did? And

671
00:59:51.719 --> 00:59:54.960
they'd be like trying physically to get a feeling back

672
00:59:55.039 --> 00:59:57.920
that was there before that they didn't want. They'd literally

673
00:59:57.960 --> 01:00:02.559
come to me to help to reduced that unpleasant feeling.

674
01:00:04.280 --> 01:00:06.960
And after listening to me, there was like trying to like, oh,

675
01:00:08.039 --> 01:00:11.559
they be moving their their limb or moving their neck

676
01:00:11.639 --> 01:00:15.119
or whatever to try and get the feeling back, Like

677
01:00:15.280 --> 01:00:21.119
why are you doing that? But I guess you know

678
01:00:21.159 --> 01:00:26.519
when it comes to when it comes you know, we

679
01:00:27.639 --> 01:00:34.559
are in the Western world kind of raised to be reliant,

680
01:00:34.760 --> 01:00:38.199
I guess on medication as I am, like we all

681
01:00:38.239 --> 01:00:44.880
are to a degree, and I think when it comes

682
01:00:44.920 --> 01:00:55.079
to these kinds of things, it's often the last, the

683
01:00:55.199 --> 01:01:01.760
last thing that people do. It's the final thing, you know,

684
01:01:04.320 --> 01:01:09.360
whether it's hypnosis, whether it's some kind of talking thingy

685
01:01:09.519 --> 01:01:13.000
boring thing that I'm doing. This is generally not the

686
01:01:13.039 --> 01:01:16.440
first thing that people do to help to try and

687
01:01:16.480 --> 01:01:27.599
help themselves with that physical issue that was an issue before. Yeah,

688
01:01:27.639 --> 01:01:31.400
it's weird, but I'm the same I've had. I remember

689
01:01:31.519 --> 01:01:35.320
years ago, I had someone say to me, I should

690
01:01:35.320 --> 01:01:41.400
try this, And as soon as they started talking, they like, yeah,

691
01:01:41.400 --> 01:01:43.920
you should try this. It's really good. Worked for me

692
01:01:45.079 --> 01:01:48.679
if some kind of alternative therapy or something like that,

693
01:01:49.119 --> 01:01:52.039
or some herbal thing, and I was saying, yeah, you

694
01:01:52.039 --> 01:01:55.760
should try it's really good. It really helped me. I swear,

695
01:01:55.840 --> 01:01:59.079
as soon as they said the words you should try this,

696
01:02:00.039 --> 01:02:04.199
my brain switched off. I stopped listening to them. It's

697
01:02:04.239 --> 01:02:06.480
almost like I was I might work might as well.

698
01:02:06.519 --> 01:02:08.159
I just put my hands over my ears and go

699
01:02:08.639 --> 01:02:11.800
la la la la la la la la la Na

700
01:02:11.920 --> 01:02:17.800
na na na na because I wasn't listening. It's the

701
01:02:17.840 --> 01:02:19.760
same kind of mode that I go into when I

702
01:02:19.800 --> 01:02:22.880
ask someone for directions. You know, if I'm in the

703
01:02:22.920 --> 01:02:25.760
middle of nowhere, i'd sort of if there's a car park,

704
01:02:25.920 --> 01:02:29.039
someone in there high sorry to disturb yours. You can

705
01:02:29.079 --> 01:02:33.159
tell me where the crown and whatever, you know, wherever

706
01:02:33.239 --> 01:02:38.199
I'm looking for pub or you know, going back, even

707
01:02:38.320 --> 01:02:41.440
like thirty years, like, I'll be like, can you tell

708
01:02:41.440 --> 01:02:44.159
me where this place is, where the local bus station

709
01:02:44.400 --> 01:02:48.400
is or the train station, and then tell me. And

710
01:02:48.480 --> 01:02:51.800
as soon as I said, well, if you go and

711
01:02:51.880 --> 01:02:55.960
a point, and I would literally internally be going blah

712
01:02:55.880 --> 01:02:59.840
blah lah nah nah la la la la nah nah nah,

713
01:03:00.719 --> 01:03:06.760
I just wouldn't listen. But I needed that information and

714
01:03:07.159 --> 01:03:12.199
it was useful. It's useful information that can have a

715
01:03:12.800 --> 01:03:20.480
well in the moment, it's important. But I no, no, no, no,

716
01:03:20.920 --> 01:03:23.480
la la. I didn't even know I was doing it.

717
01:03:23.559 --> 01:03:25.000
I don't know why I was doing it. I didn't

718
01:03:25.000 --> 01:03:28.199
know why I was doing it. And I'd walk away

719
01:03:28.320 --> 01:03:32.320
like I think they sometimes they call up and say, no,

720
01:03:32.519 --> 01:03:35.559
that way, you go in the wrong way. I said, sorry,

721
01:03:36.239 --> 01:03:38.159
I get my luck when you point left, I just

722
01:03:38.239 --> 01:03:42.239
need to go right. And he said, I wasn't pointing left.

723
01:03:42.239 --> 01:03:45.199
I was pointing a head. It's not left or right,

724
01:03:45.239 --> 01:03:47.840
it's straight ahead. I said, you know what I mean.

725
01:03:48.920 --> 01:03:54.719
No I don't, so yeah, it's it's not always easy

726
01:03:54.760 --> 01:03:59.079
to reach people as I'm not always being easy to reach.

727
01:04:01.119 --> 01:04:05.519
But sometimes we've something like this a recording where you've

728
01:04:05.519 --> 01:04:13.199
just got some strange English, weird man just babbling on.

729
01:04:16.360 --> 01:04:20.199
Sometimes it can actually have an effect and you won't

730
01:04:20.239 --> 01:04:26.239
know why. You won't really may not care why, and

731
01:04:26.280 --> 01:04:28.800
you might have been going lah lah nah nah as

732
01:04:28.880 --> 01:04:36.159
soon as I started talking. But then you may notice

733
01:04:36.920 --> 01:04:40.519
an hour at the end of the recording, do you

734
01:04:40.599 --> 01:04:47.199
feel differently? Something's changed? And a lot of people will

735
01:04:47.239 --> 01:04:52.039
probably think, like, don't understand what's changed? What what's happened?

736
01:04:52.079 --> 01:04:55.559
Why do I feel different? Won't give me any credit,

737
01:04:55.840 --> 01:04:57.800
even though the fact that you've been listening to me

738
01:04:57.880 --> 01:05:03.360
for an hour. My NN did that seriously, my own

739
01:05:03.440 --> 01:05:08.840
then the most important person in my life. She had ostroporosis,

740
01:05:09.119 --> 01:05:12.599
so I went and did this. I talked to her

741
01:05:12.639 --> 01:05:16.519
for about an hour to help her to to relieve

742
01:05:16.599 --> 01:05:19.639
that physical discomfort, and it was if she had a

743
01:05:19.679 --> 01:05:23.880
really quite bad. She was elderly, so my bone's basically crumbling.

744
01:05:25.960 --> 01:05:28.920
So at the end of it, she was like, oh

745
01:05:29.000 --> 01:05:31.239
that feels nice. I can lift my arm. She can

746
01:05:31.320 --> 01:05:36.159
never lift her arm bove her head normally, but she's like,

747
01:05:36.159 --> 01:05:41.159
I can lift my arm that's weird. Oh, and she said,

748
01:05:42.119 --> 01:05:43.880
and then first of all, she tries to get it back,

749
01:05:43.920 --> 01:05:46.519
of course, like you know, like she was trying to

750
01:05:46.519 --> 01:05:49.119
get the feeling back. What are you doing? Then? I

751
01:05:49.159 --> 01:05:51.559
don't know it just I don't understand why where's it gone?

752
01:05:51.880 --> 01:05:54.880
I'm going to look for it now, like no, don't

753
01:05:54.920 --> 01:06:00.239
look for it. And you know what she said to

754
01:06:00.199 --> 01:06:02.719
have been the sun. The sun must have been shining

755
01:06:02.719 --> 01:06:05.400
on my shoulders just warmed it up. That's why it

756
01:06:05.440 --> 01:06:10.039
feels better. I said, Okay, then not the last hour

757
01:06:10.320 --> 01:06:12.519
that I've spent sitting here in the kitchen with you,

758
01:06:14.039 --> 01:06:18.400
talking to you with the specific aim of relieving that

759
01:06:18.519 --> 01:06:22.480
physical sensation in your shoulder and in you in any

760
01:06:22.679 --> 01:06:28.000
kind of back area, but mainly in the shoulder. So

761
01:06:28.079 --> 01:06:31.440
that had nothing to do with it. So this is

762
01:06:31.480 --> 01:06:35.719
even my nan, who probably cared more for me than

763
01:06:35.719 --> 01:06:39.960
anyone ever has possibly, So even you know, I know

764
01:06:40.000 --> 01:06:43.280
how it works. It's it's natural to kind of look

765
01:06:43.320 --> 01:06:47.400
for it, like where is it and then to not

766
01:06:47.840 --> 01:06:51.079
kind of know why why is it gone? Where's it gone?

767
01:06:51.079 --> 01:06:55.000
Why is it gone? Why is it changed? But it's

768
01:06:55.079 --> 01:06:59.719
changed because you've decided to allow it to. It's changed.

769
01:06:59.719 --> 01:07:07.760
Because use just by spending time listening to me, even

770
01:07:07.800 --> 01:07:11.639
if you are internally going la la la la la la, Nah,

771
01:07:13.159 --> 01:07:17.480
You're still hearing what I'm saying. You're still hearing the words,

772
01:07:17.519 --> 01:07:24.760
and you're hearing the meaning behind all the words, even

773
01:07:24.800 --> 01:07:34.719
though there's banging again downstairs. So this wasn't necessarily a

774
01:07:34.760 --> 01:07:39.559
great description of the body scan. Thinking about it, I

775
01:07:39.639 --> 01:07:42.000
think I talked about myself a bit too much maybe,

776
01:07:42.000 --> 01:07:47.480
but it's okay. Trust me, it's okay. So I'm going

777
01:07:47.559 --> 01:07:50.280
to go. Thank you for listening. Let me know how

778
01:07:50.280 --> 01:07:54.039
you get on. This might seem a bit chaotic, a

779
01:07:54.079 --> 01:07:58.440
bit weird, a bit strange. How do you feel? That

780
01:07:58.719 --> 01:08:02.800
is the tester. Do you feel more relaxed? Do you

781
01:08:02.880 --> 01:08:07.039
feel more comfortable than you did before? That's the only

782
01:08:07.079 --> 01:08:12.280
thing that matters, let me know, So thank you for listening.

783
01:08:12.360 --> 01:08:16.319
Remember to be kind to yourself because you do deserve

784
01:08:16.359 --> 01:08:20.760
to be happy, and be gentle with yourself because you

785
01:08:20.800 --> 01:08:29.520
deserve to feel safe. Lots of love, Bye,