June 13, 2025

(music) BABBLING ON | Let me bore your pain away #38 | Jason Newland | 13th June 2025

(music) BABBLING ON | Let me bore your pain away #38 | Jason Newland | 13th June 2025
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Hello, and or welcome to Jasonnewland dot com. My name

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is Jason Newland. Please only listen when you can safely

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close your eyes. This is let me bore your pain away.

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And I'm here with little Vinnie, Little Vinnie Andre new Land.

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It's cuddled up by my side. For some reason, he

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hasn't touched his dinner or his breakfast yet. I'm not sure.

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I'm not sure if he realizes it's there because he's

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been in bed. He was in bed all night, then

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he got up. I took him out three w alk

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then they came back and he went back to bed again,

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and now he's got apricod.

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There's about half ten in the morning Thursday, the.

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Friday, rather the thirteenth of June two thousand and twenty five.

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So as it's Friday the thirteenth, it'd be I think,

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quite a good thing to talk about stupid stitions. I

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mean superstars. I call it stupid stitions, but superstitions and

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ultimately mindset, I guess, isn't it is what we expect.

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So I'm incredibly pleased with myself for coming up with

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stupid stitions. Although I might not come up with it,

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I might have heard it someplace. That's a problem with

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being so highly educated. I made have ready to one

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of my millions of nols that I've looked at. Can

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imagine if I'd read every book I bought, I'd have

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a vocabulary. I can't even spell the word vocabulary. I mean,

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I know roughly how it's spelled, but I don't know

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how many l's or how many hours vogue cabulary. I

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think it's two hours, might be one l might be

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two hours. I don't know how many yeah, vocapito for Yeah,

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I don't know how any fs there are, but how well? Really,

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you know what he's been There's this fly, but it's

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not like the other flies. It's literally it's settling. So

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he's been flying. He's been following a fly, trying to

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catch a fly for I must not been in a

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room for years. I mean, it's probably different flights. The

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problem is big gap there wasn't there. He doesn't know

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what to do if the fly just stays there, Like

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there's a fly on my right knee right now, I'm

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moving my knee, flies still there. That's an unusual thing,

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isn't it. I think the fly is injured or he

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just doesn't care. Vinnie's inches away, and he won't do

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anything because the fly. Because he's moved towards a flight

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and a fly stays there. He doesn't know what to

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do with that. Do you look at a fly in it? Look? Nope,

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he's got no interest. If the thing won't fly away,

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he won't chase it. Isn't that strange. It's almost like

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he's sulking now, not the fly, the Vinnie. He won't

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even look at me. He's looking away Vinny any Nope,

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he's just facing the other way, just completely blanking me.

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It's still a caddling me, but it's just nope, doesn't

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there's an ichonology in me at all. Yeah, that fly

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is still on my right knee still now, even after

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all that. I don't normally let flies just get cozy

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on me, but I'm kind of fascinated with what's going on.

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So I think this. I think the fly has got

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issues flying because it's really moving his wings around a lot.

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But it definitely can fly, So I don't know what's

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going on. Maybe it's a baby. I think it might

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be a baby fly because it is small. It's not

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a big fly. It's a really really small fly. But

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not a small fly, but a small big fly. That

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makes sense because you know, you've got sun flies that

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are small, sunflies that are big. But big flies aren't

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born bigger, they become big, and small flies are not

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probably born as big as they were. Then they have

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to grow, don't they, So they were even smaller. But

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this fly is just a lot of movement, a lot

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of movement for a fly. I want to say. It's

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on my knees, not on my actual flesh, my flesh. Well,

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it's been a weird that's a weird word, isn't it. Flesh.

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It's not on my actual knee, it's not on the bone, flesh,

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it's not on my skin. So I've got, you know,

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got we're clothes. Vinnie's still ignoring it, and that flies

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ignoring me and Vinnie, Oh, well, I'm just going to

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leave it. What's flying off now? That's on the left

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knee again. It's come back, So I think it's just

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a baby be a baby be A baby fly is

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just coming and I don't know what it's up to.

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Sometimes focusing on the most mundane things can actually be

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useful in a weird way to take your mind off

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of stuff, to redirect your thoughts. So this is I

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think this is going to be one of those let

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me bore your pain away recordings where I perhaps don't

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really stick to a subject. But the bottom line or

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the test, the test is is a useful Do you

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feel different at the end of the recording to how

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you felt before the recording? You know, in a positive way?

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Do you feel more relaxed. Maybe you already feel more relaxed.

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Maybe your mind just starts to slow down and that

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focus that perhaps you have before, maybe focusing on one

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part of your body that you didn't want to focus on.

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It's like one of those things. The more you try

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not to focus on something, the more you seem to focus.

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I mean. If you meet someone, I mean it's just

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natural human nature. If someone says to you, oh, I

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was going to introduce you to my dad or I'm

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going to introduce you to my girlfriend or whatever, and

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but just need to warn you, please don't stare and

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say why why they say, oh, because they've got a

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swatsticker on their forehead, a tattoo. So please don't stare.

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You can't help it. You're going to stare. It amazes

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me how you know you see I see people with

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like really I remember what's you saw someone like really

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bright green hair, really great bright green hair and pink glasses.

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What else they were for? They were like, yeah, they

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were dressed as what was it like? You know those

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remember the French aristocrats with the I don't know if

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we had them in this country as well, with the

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big puffy white wig things, and they had white makeup

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on and I guess that's white face, isn't it why,

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And they'd have a handkerchief and they'd be all fluffy

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clothes and eh, you be talking about that and very

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high aristocratic people and they I'm guessing if they if

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they're in France, they're probably here as well, because you

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know Frances led the way in fashion, isn't it. So

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I'm guessing properly in that time Minny, you know, mate,

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how come your bellies wear? Did you little little wearie dribble?

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What was it mean? And ask me? And so this

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person was wearing that stuff really really really baggy trousers

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but fluffy at the bottom, and it looked like they

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had a parachute on their back. It wasn't open. So

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you know, I'll be able to I wouldn't say it

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looks like if they had a parachute open. It was

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like they had a parachute, but it looked like a

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I mean, it might have just been a backpack with

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a tent inside or something, but it was a big backpack.

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It did look and it had a little cord. Admittedly

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that might just been just because it had a lot

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of zips, so maybe that was just the cord for

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the main zip to make it a little bit easier

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to open the bag. So it might not have had anything.

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I mean, it might have added that little cord on

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because it was fluffy. It was like quite felty, that

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makes sense, and shredded, so it was I don't know,

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it's very very artistically done. And these boots that were huge,

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huge boots they had I don't know what there was

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and I'm almost like metal underneath the boots because it

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was cracking the pavement like not that sounds more like

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sucking the payment, doesn't it, but really really really really

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like that. And I remember I looked at them and said,

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what are you looking at? It's like you, I can't

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help it. So if you don't want people to look

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at you, don't If I go outside and I wear shorts.

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And if I wore a T shirt that only went

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down to just above my belly button, right, you know,

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it's stopped at my belly button. I don't know what

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kind of T shirts they are. I've never had one,

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but I've seen them. I can't really moan at people

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for staring. It's, you know, it's like you're staring because

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you're supposed to stare. It's it's hard not to, you know.

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It's human nature to look at weird things. And my

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belly is a weird thing. It's one of the way

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the wonders of the world that flies just land on

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my hand, and I don't like it anymore. I don't

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like it landing on my flesh. It's very cocky, very

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cocky fly, very arrogant or fearless. I mean arrogance and fearlessness.

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May be give me quite close cousins, I guess in

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some ways, you know, that field of indestructibility, a feeling

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of no one can hurt me. I'm too important. Yeah,

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I think that's what the fly's doing. I'm not sure

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I'd say another thing that calms me down, turning off

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the news. Honestly, sometimes I let the news on and

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I'll be watching it. I turn it off. I turn

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the TV off and I listen. There's nothing, but it's

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not always nothing. Sometimes it's a bit of activity. But

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right now I can hear the birds in the trees.

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Vinny's jittery, but he's lying comfortably. He is calm, but

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he's occasionally like he senses he has like a spider

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sense or Jack Russell's sense of a fly. The fly

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is teasing him. The weird thing is, I don't know

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where it is. I can't hear it. It's not big

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enough to hear the fly, you know, because big flies

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you can hear him from him. Ah, this is not

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it's not big enough. It's like it's almost auditarily invisible.

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And that contrast to turned the television off after watching

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the news and hearing the peacefulness of relative silence. Really,

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I can hear a faint, a faint sound of a train.

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I'm not near a train track, but I'm not far

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away from a train track, if that makes sense. I

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mean I could I could get to the train track

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ten minutes. I could walk to the train track five

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maybe fifteen minutes. I'm just thinking it is, but it's

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it's a very it's quite clear area that's fields, so

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that the musical sound of the trains whizzing by do

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you kind of echo through the fields. It's quite faint.

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I don't know why, but they tend to did their

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horns at night, the trains. What would they do it

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at night? I never really understood that. Lots of things

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I didn't understand. I was watching A Deal or No

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Deal the very last five minutes of the program on

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TV yesterday, and they don't have the big money anymore.

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They used to have like two hundred and fifty grand.

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I think the highest they go up to. I think

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it is one hundred and twenty five now, which is

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I don't understand why it's less money when twenty years

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ago it was twice as much. You'd think with inflation

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it'd be like a million, but it's not. In fact

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it My one hundred grand might be the top one,

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I'm not sure, but it's definitely not two hundred and

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fifty grand anymore. I mean, that's part of the reason

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of watching it. It's just most of them don't win anything,

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or I don't win much, and I can't remember if

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I ever saw anyone win the full amount I might

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have done, because I used to watch it every day

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twenty years ago. I used to watch it with my

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nan on a Friday. He still love watching it with her,

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guaranteed get a phone call, you know, and it would

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just be coming up to the very last bit, you know,

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the last ten minutes of the show, and my dad'd

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phone and MYNN it's like, oh, your dad's said, your

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dad's on the phone. He wants to talk. He said, no,

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I'll call you back at the after this finishes. And

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she get annoyed with me, I said. She said, you

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can't put television first, or you for your family. I said, okay,

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I understand that, but what's the point in spending fifty

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minutes watching a program or fifty five minutes watching something

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where the whole thing is building towards the last little bit,

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and then we don't watch the last little bit. What's

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the point in that is there's no point, there's no

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point in the watching it of it if you're not

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going to get to see the end. And she said,

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you do what I say in my house. Now, get

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on that phone and speak to your daddy. And I said, no,

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I'm forty two years old now, you can't tell me

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what to do. And she said, we're not going to

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go wait war And I said, what's that? She said,

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oh wow, I'm so furious. And I said, doesn't matter.

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I don't care, and I stuck my tongue at her.

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I did, and I ran. I ran out of the house,

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and I thought, you know what, I want to go back.

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I went back. I tapped on the window, the living

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room window. She looked at me, and I looked through

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the glass and I just I went on, did a raspberry?

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None of that happened. Why am I telling? Why am

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I saying this stuff? The bit that did happen is

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there'd be phone calls. And I never realized why, why

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would always phone me? Just at that time, because he

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lived in the same town as her and I was

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visiting from a different town. I found out one day

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when I was in the toilet. I went to the

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toilet during a break and I heard her on the

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phone to my dad son, grandson's here. She didn't talk

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like that, but she was very posh. Hello, son, Just

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let you know that your son, my grandson is here. No,

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I don't want you to wait till he comes out

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of the toilet. But if you can please phone about

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five minutes in five minutes time, so we can completely

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ruin the televisional experience of deal, I know, deal for

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him and then we can all have a good laugh

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about it when he's gone. Is that okay? Thank you son?

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All the best Tatar And of course I thought, I

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can't believe this. All these years she's been phoning him

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and letting him I mean, not phone is his son,

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she can cause phone him, but phoning to let him

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know that I was here, like I'm watching deal or

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no Deal. Get your priorities right now. I realize some

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people might not agree with my interpretation of what's important.

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And it's not like one thing's more important than the other.

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It's just what it is. There's no point watching the

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whole show and then missing the last bit. There isn't,

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especially when it happens every single Friday, like no No,

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that was twenty years twenty BlimE me twenty one years ago,

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twenty one years ago today, it's twenty one years ago today.

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See twenty one seconds agool, just twenty one seconds agool

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twenty one seconds ago. That was an amazing song. What

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was that? Early two thousands and one by one, Like

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every single one of them left the group to go

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to prison. It was weird, and there was about forty

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forty of them in the group, which meant no one

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was making any money. I'm pretty sure I got to

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number one and it was a big hit. But even

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then you're not gonna be to make much money because

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it has to be split all those ways. Like I'd

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be lucky if they came out of ten grand each

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twenty one twenty one seconds aol. Also the battle clavas on.

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I know someone has got a picture of her boyfriend.

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It's a picture of someone that she's a fan of

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on her phone and she showed me, and there's a

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picture of a bloke in a balle clover. It could

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be anybody. It could literally be anybody. How he's supposed

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to know that that's the person that you like, is

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wearing a black balaclava. You literally cannot see his face.

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You can't even see all of his eyes. It'd be

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different if you could kind of see the eyes, and

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you know, maybe you could see the lips and maybe

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the nose, the ears, but you can't see any of that.

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It's literally covered. And you can see a little bit

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of the eyeballs, and that's pretty much it. For some reason, Finny,

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mister Jolty, it's weird because he keeps going to bite

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something that isn't there, so that fly must be moving

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really fast, and I think it's frustrating. I think, if anything,

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he's a little bit embarrassed because it's happening to him

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and he seeing me looking, and he's a little bit

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embarrassed to have that happen. I'll put my glasses on.

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My eyes are feeling a bit strained. There's no difference mine.

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I suppose I opened my eyes. Maybe, yeah, a bit

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about I do need to get my eyes tested. So

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you might be thinking, what's Ballyticlava's and very colorful clothing

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and flies on my knees and watching Deal or No Deal,

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turning the news off and listening to the birds singing

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in the trees, and how far away the train track is,

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and what's that got to do with anything?

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It's is a value is a value question. It's a

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valued question, but it could be a distraction. And I said,

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I've been doing this for a while now, and you

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can notice how you feel. And the idea it's not

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a secret, really, The idea is for you to feel

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better afterwards than you did before, and to also feel better,

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feel different, feel more relaxed, feel more comfort physical comfort

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in your body during and afterwards than you did before

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you decided to listen to my squeaky voice.

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That is the overall aim of well. I could say

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one hundred percent of my recordings that I make, whether

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it's for chronic pain, whether it's for relaxation, whether it's

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for stress relief, whether it's for stop spoking, whether it's

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for now biting, whatever it is I'm doing, the idea

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is do you feel better at the end of it.

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At the very minimum. That's the least that I am

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aim for the very least. I'm not aiming for the least,

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but I'm saying that's the worst case scenario is you

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feel more relaxed. You might be annoyed. You might oh,

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I've just wasted my time listening to that weird man.

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But at the same time, how do you feel? Because

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I realized that sometimes listening to me, it won't seem

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like I'm just going to Potentially it might feel as

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though I'm just very unprofessional and I'm just talking absolute

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rubbish ballards, as I like to say, and there's an

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argument to say that you're correct in that assumption. But

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then you think, well, why am I doing this, why

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am I making this recording? What is my aim? What

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is my goal? And then how do you feel different

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from how you felt before? And you're the only one

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that can really answer that question. You know that I'm

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being very serious and very solemn and very oh taking

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myself seriously right now because I said answer instead of

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answer were, which is what I normally say. I'm going

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to say answer now so you can answer that question.

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You're the only one that knows how you feel. And

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sometimes it can be a bit of a surprise, possibly

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even if shock to the system, to feel different and

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not know why. It might even be a little bit annoying.

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You know, It's like, I remember, I've heard people say

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to me, I don't I don't get it. How come

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I feel different now? How come I feel better? I've

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just listened to you talking absolute bollocks for an hour,

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which I would absously, I wouldn't never say a naughty

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word like that listen to and it's like, yeah, well,

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it's the end result that matters, isn't it. So if

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you've got if you let's say, if you've got puncturing

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your dinghy, right, I don't know anyone that's even got

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a dingy. I don't know why I'm talking about dinghies,

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but like a rubber dinghy. It's something really weird happened

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just then. This is really weird. I'm sorry. It just distractedly.

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A videy's like trying to catch this fly. So he's

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like jumping up and snapping his feet together. His feet

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is his jaws together. He just did it, but it

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aimed at me, and we ended up being face to face,

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like literally probably about five inches away. Maybe we just

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stared at each other. He looked embarrassed, and he's looked

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at me like for way too long, and then he

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just turned and went and sort of laid back down.

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So it's almost like the flyers flying to me, and

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he tried to follow it and he ended up just

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staring him. He had to be there. It was. It

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was funny. I don't know why. It was just it

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was his look of embarrassment. I'm sure he probably he

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might not even have that the ability to be embarrassed,

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but I know he does. I've seen it too often.

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I know. It's like oh, we're putting human emotions onto

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an animal. I don't know. I've seen they're like, okay,

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so for animals, dogs don't have emotions to know, okay, right,

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we've never met a dog. Then if you never spent

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enough time with a dog, if you think dogs don't

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have emotions, wow, do they have emotions. He sucks, he

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gets angry, he is playful, get he's in a good mood.

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Sometimes sometimes he's in a grumpy mood. He's yeah, or

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he tries to boss me around. He's got loads of emotions.

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He's a funny old chap and he's got a lot

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of freedom with me because I just let him be

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however he is, regardless of how annoying it sometimes is.

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This is being naughty, but I just let him. I

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let him express himself however he wants to. So if

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he's in a bad mood and he's being grumpy and snappy,

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I'll just leave him alone, let him be like that.

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He's a funny old fella. I realized I saw a

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dog similar dog to him, fifteen years old. For when

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he's fifteen, I'll be sixty six. We will literally be

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pension us together. There will be old men old men

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walking along together. I just hope one of us can

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find the way home anything. I wonder which one to

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be walking slowest, because he likes to walk slow now,

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and I've always walked slow. I'm just a slow walker.

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But he loves to just one of the things he

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likes to do. I mean, he does like to run around.

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He's got a long lead and he runs around. I

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can't let him off the lead. But he likes to

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sniff the grass the ground, which I know a lot

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of dogs do, and he'd happily. I think it's sometimes

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you'd happily just spend an hour just sniffing around one

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little bit of grass, or just walking around the field

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or the park, just sniffing bits and bobs, and he's

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happy doing that. That's just what he likes to do.

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You did it, gay, You went and snapped again, and

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he ended up staring at me. M I don't know why.

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I don't know why. It's funny, but that bit then

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when you don't ended up right close to my face

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just staring at me. He knows I'm talking about him

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now as well. The reason I know is because it's

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ear wiggles whenevery one knows he's talking about him's ear wiggles.

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If I say, Vinnie, you're listening, Vinnie, I know you

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are wig your ear. If you're listening to me. We

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called your ear. If you're listening to Vinnie that I'll

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be specific. We call your right ear if you're listening

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to me. Okay, I do. I'll try another way. He

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likes to do the opposite to what I tell him, Paul,

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what I ask him. So don't wiggle your right ear. Vinny,

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keep your right ear completely still. Don't move your right ear.

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So there he knows. I want him to see. He

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knows what I'm doing. His right ear is just floppy. Now,

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don't move your right ear. I think he just started.

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It wasn't as well a big gush of beer. It

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was like real, real, kind of easy, an easy release,

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a very slow release, like like that or the flies

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back on my left leg. Now. Now, if you find

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these recordings completely pointless, please do let me know, because

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you know it's not. It's well. If you like them,

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please let me know, because I know people listen to

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them every time. Make them people listen. And I think

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from our perspective of I think a lot of therapists

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and a lot of people that make recordings, so I

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know this is on a podcast, but to me, every

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recording I do is an individual recording. And I was

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doing recordings before I was making podcasts. So I was

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making audio recordings long before I even knew what podcast was,

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and only a short time after podcasts started, and before

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podcasts became popular. Yes, only reason they became popular, No,

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but you know I was. I was doing podcasts two

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thousand and six. I was doing recordings two thousand and six,

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and I think I started adding them to a podcast

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maybe end of two thousand and six to two thousand

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and seven, I was making recordings. I'm not sure why

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I start. What was I talking about? There was there

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was a there was a point to this what I'm saying.

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But I think what I was trying to say is

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what I do is very different from what anyone else does.

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It doesn't mean that it's no one else. I mean,

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it might be some people copying me now, but I

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don't I doubt it. I don't think anyone would listen

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to me and think, you know what I'm going to do,

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that I'm going to do exactly what he does. I'm

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very unlikely. I wouldn't even copy me, so don't forget

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anyone else would. But I do something different. I don't

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think it's better or worse. It's probably worse, probably work

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hell of a lot worse than everyone else, maybe, but

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for some people it would be a lot better for

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some people. Listening to my voice, no matter what I

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talk about, helps you to release tension and stress from

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your body, almost instantly causes your mind to start to

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slow down and your body to relax. And when your

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body relaxes, all of your body relaxes, not just parts

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of it. When your hands relax, your needs relax, your

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shoulders relax, your back relaxes, your chest and breasts and

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your stomach relax, your buttocks, your grin relax, your hands,

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your arms, your spine, your face, your eyes, your jaw,

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your nose, your mouth, your tongue, your lips on your face,

465
00:43:23.320 --> 00:43:31.840
your hair, your knees, your calfs, your shins, your thighs,

466
00:43:34.239 --> 00:43:36.960
the tops of your thighs, the sides of your thighs,

467
00:43:38.159 --> 00:43:42.880
the backs of your thighs, your inner thighs. The same

468
00:43:42.960 --> 00:43:46.360
with your arms. You've got the backs of your arms,

469
00:43:47.400 --> 00:43:49.960
upper arms, You've got the front of your upper arms,

470
00:43:50.199 --> 00:43:53.719
or of biceps. You've got the sides and you've got

471
00:43:53.760 --> 00:44:00.800
the bottom or the back of them, your armpits. I

472
00:44:00.800 --> 00:44:04.159
don't know why it's called arm pits. It just seems

473
00:44:04.199 --> 00:44:06.000
to be. I know, it's like the end of the arm.

474
00:44:06.039 --> 00:44:10.679
But pits. It's never that's never used as a good word,

475
00:44:10.719 --> 00:44:15.679
isn't it. Someone said, oh, how is the wedding cake

476
00:44:16.000 --> 00:44:19.000
or is the pits? No, they would take that as

477
00:44:19.000 --> 00:44:25.920
an insult. It was just the pits. But what's wrong

478
00:44:25.960 --> 00:44:32.840
with armpits? It's it's just another part of the body.

479
00:44:34.079 --> 00:44:38.679
I mean, why, why is it a negative word? I

480
00:44:38.719 --> 00:44:43.840
don't understand it. It's also a part of the body

481
00:44:43.880 --> 00:44:50.719
that's ignored in relaxation recordings, I've found the arm pits.

482
00:44:50.800 --> 00:44:53.400
There's a few parts of the body they're ignored. So

483
00:44:53.480 --> 00:45:01.480
there's the arm pits, that's one. What other parts sometimes

484
00:45:01.519 --> 00:45:08.760
the elbows are just ignored, or the I guess the

485
00:45:08.840 --> 00:45:11.639
elbow pits. You know, the bit in the middle where

486
00:45:11.639 --> 00:45:18.119
you where your arm ben So sorry, it couldn't think

487
00:45:18.159 --> 00:45:20.239
of the word. I was going to say, crosses where

488
00:45:20.239 --> 00:45:26.079
your arm crosses that little bit and the equivalent on

489
00:45:26.119 --> 00:45:30.599
your legs, you know, oppositely, your knees, that bit underneath

490
00:45:30.639 --> 00:45:39.280
there it's doing again trying to catch that little fly.

491
00:45:43.400 --> 00:45:46.960
And also you've got you know, sometimes with a relaxation

492
00:45:47.119 --> 00:45:52.679
session and focus on the back of the neck because

493
00:45:52.800 --> 00:45:55.360
for me, that is a place that does have a

494
00:45:55.360 --> 00:46:06.639
tendency to need relaxing. And then you've got the front

495
00:46:06.679 --> 00:46:10.280
of the neck. And to me, that's kind of broken

496
00:46:10.320 --> 00:46:12.559
into two different parts because you've got the front of

497
00:46:12.559 --> 00:46:14.599
the neck, which would be the muscles of the neck,

498
00:46:15.599 --> 00:46:20.239
but then inside it's the throat. So there's the muscles

499
00:46:20.280 --> 00:46:24.800
of the throat. But a part of the neck that

500
00:46:24.920 --> 00:46:30.079
is quite often almost ignored in my experience of listening

501
00:46:30.559 --> 00:46:36.000
to realaxixation recordings is the sides of the neck, which

502
00:46:36.039 --> 00:46:38.159
is just as important as the back of the neck.

503
00:46:40.239 --> 00:46:46.639
It's also a part that needs or can benefit from

504
00:46:47.079 --> 00:46:56.840
feeling calm. Then there's the scalp, so you've got you know,

505
00:46:57.000 --> 00:47:01.960
from your on top of your forehead upwards. I mean,

506
00:47:02.000 --> 00:47:04.639
technically your forehead is part of your scalp, isn't it.

507
00:47:06.360 --> 00:47:09.679
There isn't it? So the forehead, I mean it used

508
00:47:09.679 --> 00:47:12.079
to be like, oh, your the scalp is kind of

509
00:47:13.000 --> 00:47:20.800
the hairline, but my scalp has grown or shrunk. Catch

510
00:47:20.880 --> 00:47:23.519
that you could say it's shrunk because there's less hair line,

511
00:47:23.920 --> 00:47:27.679
So my scalp is actually shrunk. But it hasn't. So

512
00:47:27.880 --> 00:47:35.559
the scalp is the foreheads and it's pretty much the

513
00:47:35.639 --> 00:47:42.599
whole of the head, isn't it. You know, the idea

514
00:47:42.760 --> 00:47:45.920
is just on top. It's just that bit on top

515
00:47:47.079 --> 00:47:49.480
where I used to have hair, Just that bit that's

516
00:47:49.519 --> 00:47:53.840
the scalp. The whole thing's the scalp, the sides, the back,

517
00:47:54.880 --> 00:47:57.840
the sides, behind the ears, that's all part of the scalp.

518
00:47:58.400 --> 00:48:03.400
Anywhere that feels you can feel it. It's there. It's

519
00:48:03.480 --> 00:48:10.159
all the way down to your neck, it's all the

520
00:48:10.199 --> 00:48:22.679
way down to eyebrows, your forehead. So it's quite a

521
00:48:22.760 --> 00:48:28.000
large area really, And of course it's there to protect us.

522
00:48:29.400 --> 00:48:35.519
It's nature's own headguard. Really, isn't I suppose her own helmet.

523
00:48:42.320 --> 00:48:45.119
It's really weird. The word helmet was hilarious when I

524
00:48:45.159 --> 00:48:51.480
was about twelve. It was the funniest word in the world. Helmet.

525
00:48:53.440 --> 00:48:56.360
I still use it as a term, like, stop being

526
00:48:56.400 --> 00:49:06.199
such a helmet. For years it's not it's funny now,

527
00:49:06.559 --> 00:49:11.079
I don't know. I haven't been called a helmet for

528
00:49:11.159 --> 00:49:20.519
quite a while, But focusing on the scalp is such

529
00:49:20.559 --> 00:49:27.119
a large part of the head really, the scalp and

530
00:49:27.159 --> 00:49:31.840
the brain. The rest is just a few bits and

531
00:49:31.880 --> 00:49:35.960
bobs in it. But you've got your jaw, you know,

532
00:49:36.000 --> 00:49:40.119
if you like, think of it from a perspective of

533
00:49:40.280 --> 00:49:50.400
what the head is made of. There's the ears, the eyes,

534
00:49:54.800 --> 00:49:59.440
and then you've got your jaw. Everything else is just

535
00:49:59.559 --> 00:50:02.119
bits added on, isn't it. And the jaws kind of

536
00:50:02.159 --> 00:50:15.559
added on. The nose is added on. Yeah, So it's

537
00:50:15.639 --> 00:50:27.280
kind of the weird thing about it is that whole

538
00:50:27.360 --> 00:50:32.199
area protects a part of your body, the brain, which

539
00:50:32.280 --> 00:50:40.599
has no pain, which I think causes confusion when it

540
00:50:40.639 --> 00:50:44.960
comes to things like headaches, because we feel that there's

541
00:50:45.000 --> 00:50:50.960
a pain inside their head, but there isn't. They can't

542
00:50:50.960 --> 00:50:55.199
be physically impossible to have a pain in the head.

543
00:50:55.360 --> 00:50:57.400
In the brain rather, you know, in the say in

544
00:50:57.440 --> 00:51:06.000
the middle, there's no pain senses there. It just feels

545
00:51:06.039 --> 00:51:08.519
like this. You know, I'm not saying that the person

546
00:51:08.639 --> 00:51:12.920
not feeling because they are feeling stuff, but there are

547
00:51:12.960 --> 00:51:22.199
no pain sensors in the brain, like literally, scientifically, factually

548
00:51:22.760 --> 00:51:25.679
not saying for the sake of it, well, there must

549
00:51:25.719 --> 00:51:31.079
be no, no, there really isn't. There's no pain sensors

550
00:51:31.119 --> 00:51:38.719
in the brain. Yet the brain produces pain, ironically, and

551
00:51:38.840 --> 00:51:45.559
pleasure and comfort and all the other feelings we have

552
00:51:45.800 --> 00:51:53.880
comes from the brain. Can you hear him? It's so

553
00:51:54.159 --> 00:52:00.519
fidgety today? Why you're so damnish? Figerate ty figerated tea anybeen?

554
00:52:02.519 --> 00:52:09.559
He still hasn't had his breakfast. I don't know why.

555
00:52:10.239 --> 00:52:12.559
So in a way, really, if you think about it,

556
00:52:14.719 --> 00:52:21.400
phantom limb pain is almost the same as having in

557
00:52:21.440 --> 00:52:23.559
some ways I'm not saying to say, but in some

558
00:52:23.599 --> 00:52:28.280
ways it's a similar thing to having a feeling that

559
00:52:28.320 --> 00:52:34.960
you've got a pain in the middle of your head,

560
00:52:35.280 --> 00:52:38.880
because you can't have a pain in your leg that's

561
00:52:38.960 --> 00:52:42.599
not there's obviously, or your arm to say arm leg,

562
00:52:42.840 --> 00:52:48.960
whatever limit is. You can't physically have a pain in

563
00:52:49.000 --> 00:52:53.199
that part of the body, you know, because it's not there.

564
00:52:53.320 --> 00:53:09.519
It's just obvious. So it's a brain thing. Was that

565
00:53:09.559 --> 00:53:12.320
an uncomfortable pause? I like to leave little pause like

566
00:53:12.360 --> 00:53:16.679
that sometimes. Is he going to talk again? Has he finished?

567
00:53:16.800 --> 00:53:18.679
Is he just going to make a sandwich? What's what's

568
00:53:18.719 --> 00:53:30.039
going on? So I'm thinking one of things with phantom

569
00:53:30.119 --> 00:53:35.679
limpain that I realized a long time ago, nineteen years ago,

570
00:53:36.719 --> 00:53:41.360
is the first thing you do. Don't tell someone that

571
00:53:42.480 --> 00:53:45.960
you know. If someone comes in and they've lost an arm,

572
00:53:46.039 --> 00:53:48.599
don't tell them that they haven't got an arm. They

573
00:53:48.679 --> 00:53:52.800
know that. No one needs to be told that. It's

574
00:53:52.920 --> 00:53:55.119
the most ridiculous thing in the world to tell someone that.

575
00:53:55.119 --> 00:53:58.199
It's like. You might think that's what I've already done

576
00:53:58.280 --> 00:54:01.440
just now, but it wasn't. I was just pointing facts out,

577
00:54:02.119 --> 00:54:08.840
but in a sense of it's impossible for that arm

578
00:54:08.960 --> 00:54:12.320
to her, but it's not impossible for them to feel

579
00:54:14.519 --> 00:54:20.519
that pain in the arm. It's a different thing. In

580
00:54:20.559 --> 00:54:26.760
the same way as we can feel lots of different

581
00:54:26.800 --> 00:54:31.400
things that aren't necessarily real. We can feel things that

582
00:54:34.920 --> 00:54:39.719
we don't know why we feel them. I mean, why

583
00:54:39.800 --> 00:54:45.480
the heck with something is possibly pointless and absurd, maybe

584
00:54:45.920 --> 00:55:02.559
as this recording caused you to feel relaxed. So how

585
00:55:02.679 --> 00:55:10.199
I view things like vantom limb pain is being respectful

586
00:55:11.599 --> 00:55:13.920
try And I know perhaps I don't come across as

587
00:55:14.000 --> 00:55:16.440
very respectful, and I do I am, I might. I

588
00:55:16.599 --> 00:55:19.840
just I like to mess around and stuff, but ultimately

589
00:55:22.639 --> 00:55:29.920
treat that person's limb like it is there and relax

590
00:55:30.000 --> 00:55:42.039
it because they already know it's not there, right, it's

591
00:55:42.639 --> 00:55:46.159
they don't need to be told that they can see

592
00:55:47.400 --> 00:55:53.480
with the brain. We can't see that there's no physical

593
00:55:53.559 --> 00:55:58.320
sensations in the brain because we can't see our brain

594
00:55:58.400 --> 00:56:13.239
can we simple that, So it's a little bit difficult.

595
00:56:13.719 --> 00:56:19.199
It's more of a a bit of a brain teaser, actually,

596
00:56:19.920 --> 00:56:26.960
excuse the pun, because if you can't actually, if the

597
00:56:27.000 --> 00:56:34.280
brain has no physical senses sensation, how can there be

598
00:56:35.239 --> 00:56:39.840
physical sensation or the experience of it from that part

599
00:56:39.880 --> 00:56:49.480
of the head. And it's a it's a weird I

600
00:56:49.639 --> 00:56:51.639
just find I find a bit of a weird thing

601
00:56:51.679 --> 00:56:58.800
to even try and think about because it doesn't logically,

602
00:56:59.360 --> 00:57:05.320
it doesn't makes sense. But that's possibly more to do

603
00:57:05.400 --> 00:57:10.119
with my lack of education maybe, but just from a

604
00:57:10.239 --> 00:57:17.639
very basic perspective is where I come from. Now. No,

605
00:57:17.719 --> 00:57:24.280
it's not very scientific or particularly academic, but my opinion

606
00:57:24.400 --> 00:57:32.119
is probably enough, not enough information to do a Ted

607
00:57:32.199 --> 00:57:38.280
talk thank you everyone by you know, I don't know

608
00:57:38.280 --> 00:57:43.079
if that would really go down too well. Vinny just can't.

609
00:57:43.440 --> 00:57:46.280
He annoys me sometimes when he does this, though, because

610
00:57:46.280 --> 00:57:49.039
if I'm doing a relaxation session where I'm just really

611
00:57:51.960 --> 00:58:04.079
focus yourn needs doing one of the instead having him

612
00:58:04.159 --> 00:58:07.800
jumping up and down all the time. It just it's annoying.

613
00:58:08.719 --> 00:58:15.880
But that's me doing a sleep recording or a relaxation recording. Nay,

614
00:58:16.840 --> 00:58:29.519
mast reag focus on your thing it Now, that's not

615
00:58:29.679 --> 00:58:36.679
what I sound like. That's me. That's my impression of myself. Wow,

616
00:58:37.320 --> 00:58:43.679
I'm now caricaturing myself. I'm caricaturing a caricature of myself.

617
00:58:46.199 --> 00:58:51.760
I'll talking about caricatures. When I was in Bulgaria, it

618
00:58:51.880 --> 00:58:55.400
was in this club or pub whatever, it was in

619
00:58:55.440 --> 00:58:59.880
a hotel, and there was this caricature man walking around.

620
00:59:00.039 --> 00:59:09.360
He wasn't a caricature. He was drawing caricatures and he

621
00:59:09.800 --> 00:59:15.280
did my picture. I was like, oh okay, cool he did,

622
00:59:15.519 --> 00:59:19.639
and he did all of our pictures. There was about

623
00:59:19.679 --> 00:59:23.320
six of a center group, and we paid him the

624
00:59:23.400 --> 00:59:28.360
money and then just you know, later on before let's

625
00:59:28.360 --> 00:59:32.000
have a look at the pictures. It was quite dark,

626
00:59:32.039 --> 00:59:34.320
so he couldn't really see him. They were they were

627
00:59:34.320 --> 00:59:42.400
literally the same. They were like the same picture. They

628
00:59:42.480 --> 00:59:48.440
were like you could hardly distinguish between each picture. He

629
00:59:48.559 --> 00:59:57.000
was just drawing the same picture every time. And some

630
00:59:57.039 --> 01:00:01.559
people might be like, oh, I gave him money, good money,

631
01:00:02.960 --> 01:00:12.800
I just found hilarious. It's you know, I'm not big caricatures. No,

632
01:00:13.639 --> 01:00:19.760
not for me, not really, not for me, because either

633
01:00:19.800 --> 01:00:24.199
they do focus on they make the bigger parts bigger

634
01:00:25.679 --> 01:00:31.280
than they in the smaller part smaller. So if you've

635
01:00:31.280 --> 01:00:35.519
got small ears, they'll give you like microscopic ears. Well,

636
01:00:35.559 --> 01:00:39.679
if you've got larger's, I'll give you wings. You know.

637
01:00:39.800 --> 01:00:42.119
That's that kind of thing. And I'm not yeah, I'm

638
01:00:42.119 --> 01:00:51.239
not sewing to that. So yeah, not really in caricature pictures,

639
01:00:53.159 --> 01:01:04.880
it's not my team. Another part of the body which

640
01:01:04.920 --> 01:01:07.480
doesn't get focused on, and I'm not being rude here,

641
01:01:08.880 --> 01:01:13.519
but the bum there's a lot of tension held in

642
01:01:13.519 --> 01:01:18.760
the bum sometimes and the groin, like the bum and

643
01:01:18.800 --> 01:01:23.199
the groin, the you know, that whole area. There could

644
01:01:23.199 --> 01:01:27.280
be a lot of tension kept in that part. And

645
01:01:27.320 --> 01:01:29.599
I suppose what it's called the privates for a reason.

646
01:01:29.639 --> 01:01:32.519
It's private and we should mention it. Me me, me, me, me,

647
01:01:32.519 --> 01:01:42.039
me that actually it's a really important part that needs

648
01:01:42.119 --> 01:01:50.320
relaxing sometimes. And I don't know, just it's hard to

649
01:01:54.119 --> 01:01:57.480
hard to really focus on an area without it coming

650
01:01:57.519 --> 01:02:01.800
across as a bit weird maybe, but there's nothing weird

651
01:02:01.840 --> 01:02:04.519
about it. It's just a part of the body. It's

652
01:02:04.559 --> 01:02:09.880
now weirder than your toes or your fingers or your ears.

653
01:02:12.039 --> 01:02:14.760
You know, it's just another part of the body which

654
01:02:16.719 --> 01:02:26.000
produces whatever. You know that it's just there. It's just

655
01:02:26.480 --> 01:02:30.480
really if you think about your private parts like you're

656
01:02:30.559 --> 01:02:35.239
growing and your bum and that, if you compare it

657
01:02:35.280 --> 01:02:37.719
to the rest of your body, all you're doing basically

658
01:02:37.880 --> 01:02:46.039
is the body is the land. So if you've got

659
01:02:46.039 --> 01:02:47.800
a big bit of land, or let's say you've got

660
01:02:47.800 --> 01:02:51.400
a mountain, it's the body is the mountain or the land.

661
01:02:51.480 --> 01:02:57.320
And then you've got the midsection of the body, which

662
01:02:57.400 --> 01:03:04.400
could be like a volcano. So I don't know how

663
01:03:04.400 --> 01:03:08.480
that works, but you know, I'm just what if you're hungry,

664
01:03:08.480 --> 01:03:10.840
if any, why don't you make your dinner instead of

665
01:03:10.920 --> 01:03:13.920
hunting a fly that you wouldn't even notice if you

666
01:03:13.960 --> 01:03:16.599
did eat it. Please don't eat it. But if you did,

667
01:03:17.159 --> 01:03:20.079
it's so tiny you wouldn't even I mean, that fly

668
01:03:20.119 --> 01:03:22.199
he could fly into his mouth when he was yawning

669
01:03:22.400 --> 01:03:27.559
and he wouldn't even know. Yeah, he's hunting it, and

670
01:03:27.679 --> 01:03:29.639
note easy hunting it is doing it in a very

671
01:03:29.760 --> 01:03:32.119
lazy way, because he's just laying on the sety with

672
01:03:32.159 --> 01:03:38.480
me expecting it to come to him. That's a problem

673
01:03:38.559 --> 01:03:45.280
this generation. Did you ever hear that other news or

674
01:03:45.320 --> 01:03:52.199
in newspapers or online people moaning about this generation? Do

675
01:03:52.239 --> 01:03:54.239
you know what if Facebook had been around for the

676
01:03:54.320 --> 01:03:59.039
last hundred years, you could listen, you could watch videos,

677
01:03:59.079 --> 01:04:04.480
you could read Facebook posts from one hundred years ago,

678
01:04:05.000 --> 01:04:10.880
two hundred years ago, exactly the same people in their

679
01:04:10.960 --> 01:04:17.039
forties and fifties and sixties and seventies moaning about the

680
01:04:17.159 --> 01:04:23.280
young people. Oh, they don't know. They only have the

681
01:04:23.400 --> 01:04:27.119
discipline that we had. They don't do this, they don't

682
01:04:27.159 --> 01:04:32.519
do that. They don't know. I heard the same things

683
01:04:32.519 --> 01:04:35.760
when I was a kid, and my parents said the

684
01:04:35.800 --> 01:04:38.599
same things when they were kids, and no doubt my

685
01:04:38.679 --> 01:04:42.719
grandparents heard the same things when they were kids. It's

686
01:04:42.760 --> 01:04:49.159
the standard thing, people just moaning. You know, it's something

687
01:04:49.199 --> 01:04:53.199
I did you ever hear someone say, was the music

688
01:04:53.280 --> 01:04:57.719
today is ridiculous? It's rubbish? Or this wasn't like the seventies,

689
01:04:58.320 --> 01:05:03.760
hasn't been a decent song? Sincenineteen seventy nine. Like, really,

690
01:05:06.800 --> 01:05:09.960
I lived in the seventies. I was born in nineteen seventies,

691
01:05:10.000 --> 01:05:15.400
So I had a full ten years nearly well August seventy.

692
01:05:15.519 --> 01:05:18.400
But you know, I had a decade nearly of living

693
01:05:18.480 --> 01:05:23.039
in the seventies, and admittedly there was some great music,

694
01:05:24.519 --> 01:05:32.519
but there was some proper stinkers that really, I mean

695
01:05:33.320 --> 01:05:36.039
they were scraping a bowl sometimes on top of the

696
01:05:36.079 --> 01:05:42.840
pops songs that really didn't go anywhere. They were really

697
01:05:42.920 --> 01:05:45.559
I think the seventies at times were struggling a little bit.

698
01:05:47.840 --> 01:05:50.880
They just didn't know what they was, did they? Is

699
01:05:50.920 --> 01:05:56.440
it disco? Is it punk? Is it rock? What is it?

700
01:05:56.519 --> 01:06:00.480
Is it new romance? That's like the end of the

701
01:06:00.519 --> 01:06:04.239
seventies early eighties, that's when it all kind of came

702
01:06:04.280 --> 01:06:09.920
together a bit. The last five years of the seventies

703
01:06:11.079 --> 01:06:15.119
turned into the something different, like was it the new

704
01:06:15.199 --> 01:06:18.800
Romantic wave or whatever? And you had all the big

705
01:06:18.880 --> 01:06:26.079
bands of the early eighties. I suppose my favorite is

706
01:06:26.119 --> 01:06:29.360
probably the early eighties, but just as from a childhood perspective,

707
01:06:30.559 --> 01:06:32.599
but just to say all has never been any good

708
01:06:32.679 --> 01:06:37.000
song since whenever, Like, shut up your face, what you're

709
01:06:37.079 --> 01:06:44.159
talking about, that's just that's just buying into getting old,

710
01:06:44.840 --> 01:06:48.760
just buying into old age. Like I'm now an old fart,

711
01:06:48.880 --> 01:06:52.920
so I must I'm going to stop liking music that

712
01:06:53.800 --> 01:06:56.039
you know, from a certain time. I can't like music

713
01:06:56.079 --> 01:07:02.079
that's from today now, I refuse. You know, there's savoy

714
01:07:02.199 --> 01:07:06.199
Is done a few years back that very few people

715
01:07:06.320 --> 01:07:10.360
actually read a book once they leave school, but once

716
01:07:10.400 --> 01:07:14.159
the least words don't read a book, not any book

717
01:07:14.280 --> 01:07:25.000
ever again, almost like the majority of people in the

718
01:07:25.000 --> 01:07:32.840
Western world would never read another book. And that's just wow.

719
01:07:37.440 --> 01:07:40.239
So you think if the only knowledge people get is

720
01:07:40.280 --> 01:07:43.880
from the news, from television, from the internet, that's the

721
01:07:43.920 --> 01:07:49.559
only information they get, or from other people, they can

722
01:07:49.679 --> 01:07:53.039
be very limited. It's almost I think one of the

723
01:07:53.079 --> 01:07:58.840
things of reading is it kind of teaches you. I

724
01:07:58.840 --> 01:08:03.599
don't know, it's I don't know. I just I think

725
01:08:03.679 --> 01:08:06.920
reading is useful, that's all. I'm just trying to think.

726
01:08:07.000 --> 01:08:09.679
What I'm saying, does it help you to think for yourself?

727
01:08:11.039 --> 01:08:15.920
I think if you get enough different opinions, enough different viewpoints,

728
01:08:17.279 --> 01:08:19.880
you get to the point where you've got no other

729
01:08:19.960 --> 01:08:29.560
option than to think for yourself, because it's much easier

730
01:08:29.800 --> 01:08:34.840
to have one viewpoint. You know, to live in a

731
01:08:34.880 --> 01:08:39.399
place where everyone pretty much thinks the same believes the

732
01:08:39.479 --> 01:08:47.479
same stuff has the same mannerisms, has the same even

733
01:08:47.520 --> 01:08:53.319
the same sayings, you know, the same, just the same

734
01:08:54.560 --> 01:09:08.199
all individuals, but at the same time very similar saying

735
01:09:08.239 --> 01:09:13.319
things like no smoke without fire. That's one of the

736
01:09:13.359 --> 01:09:21.279
idiotic things that Wow, see you're saying basically, everyone's guilty too,

737
01:09:21.600 --> 01:09:24.399
that's it. If you accues of something, then you're guilty.

738
01:09:25.000 --> 01:09:30.600
No smoke without fire ning, y, Well, it depends what

739
01:09:30.640 --> 01:09:36.680
your classes smoke because smoke bombs, that's not fire, and

740
01:09:37.840 --> 01:09:40.880
something can burn without being fired, and cause smoke can't it.

741
01:09:42.079 --> 01:09:46.119
I mean, I've I've overcooked, I've burnt food in the past.

742
01:09:46.560 --> 01:09:51.039
That's called smoke. Wasn't on fire, just burnt burnt food.

743
01:09:52.279 --> 01:09:57.279
If you've dropped a big, massive, ten ton bag of

744
01:09:57.399 --> 01:10:05.159
flower on the floor, that's going to look like smoke,

745
01:10:07.800 --> 01:10:10.239
you know, that's basically and it might not be smoke,

746
01:10:10.279 --> 01:10:13.720
but it's going to look like smoke. So yeah, the

747
01:10:13.800 --> 01:10:18.960
whole idea of all no smoke, no, that's just ridiculous.

748
01:10:20.039 --> 01:10:21.760
I actually know somebody used to say that it's like

749
01:10:22.960 --> 01:10:26.239
it's it was hard because I was saying, you realize

750
01:10:26.239 --> 01:10:29.399
that's a really dumb saying. Well, my parents used to

751
01:10:29.479 --> 01:10:36.399
say that. I said, well, you call it my parents

752
01:10:36.479 --> 01:10:41.520
dumb said, No, saying dumb things doesn't mean someone's dumb.

753
01:10:43.560 --> 01:10:49.800
But that is a dumb saying. It's just if you've

754
01:10:49.800 --> 01:10:53.479
got any kind of brain power, you'd realize if you

755
01:10:53.560 --> 01:10:58.720
really look at the saying, then you'd know that's the

756
01:10:58.800 --> 01:11:02.880
idea of saying no smoke about fire. That everybody. I mean, yeah,

757
01:11:02.880 --> 01:11:04.880
we're all guilty of something. I suppose, haven't we. But

758
01:11:06.279 --> 01:11:10.000
if someone gets accused of, I don't know, stealing the

759
01:11:10.000 --> 01:11:17.319
crown jewels, then they must be guilty. Like no, they

760
01:11:17.399 --> 01:11:22.680
might have accidentally, maybe they were drunk. They walked into

761
01:11:22.720 --> 01:11:26.560
the palace, didn't mean to, you know, perhaps they were

762
01:11:26.560 --> 01:11:30.319
looking for Burger King and they just stumbled down some steps,

763
01:11:30.439 --> 01:11:33.520
walked through the wrong door, and there you are the

764
01:11:33.600 --> 01:11:37.720
crown and all the prince, the King's jewels and stuff.

765
01:11:37.800 --> 01:11:40.760
So and he thinks, oh, I'm at the Burger King

766
01:11:40.800 --> 01:11:43.399
because that's the Burger King, isn't it? With the crown

767
01:11:43.439 --> 01:11:45.680
in that So thinking I wonder what it's like to

768
01:11:46.239 --> 01:11:51.680
have the Burger King's crown. And then he thought, oh,

769
01:11:51.760 --> 01:11:54.039
maybe I remember they were giving stuff away, weren't they

770
01:11:54.079 --> 01:11:57.720
inn Burger King. I didn't realize it would be jewels,

771
01:11:57.760 --> 01:12:00.600
priceless jewels. So he just put the crown on his

772
01:12:00.680 --> 01:12:04.079
head and he doesn't intend to take it home with him,

773
01:12:04.079 --> 01:12:05.720
but he thought he might as well just walk around

774
01:12:05.760 --> 01:12:09.159
town giving it the bigin, you know, seeing that people

775
01:12:09.199 --> 01:12:18.920
treating a bit more respectfully. He gets arrested. Oh automatically guilty. No, see,

776
01:12:18.960 --> 01:12:20.359
there's more to it. It's just like.

777
01:12:21.840 --> 01:12:29.680
Everyone trying to simplify everything again yeah again again again,

778
01:12:29.800 --> 01:12:32.239
yeah yeah, yeah, so.

779
01:12:32.399 --> 01:12:38.920
Yeah that's it. Really, So how do you feel? Miss?

780
01:12:38.920 --> 01:12:40.039
Some people I.

781
01:12:39.960 --> 01:12:45.399
Am annoyed keep talking about crown jewels being Oh those

782
01:12:45.520 --> 01:12:48.880
crown jewels have been in the Raw family for hundreds

783
01:12:48.920 --> 01:12:52.760
of years. How dares someone looking just for a burger

784
01:12:53.399 --> 01:12:54.760
steal the crown jewels?

785
01:12:54.880 --> 01:12:58.720
Right, it didn't really happen. It was just an analogy.

786
01:12:59.359 --> 01:13:03.920
It was just little story. Wasn't real. It wasn't real.

787
01:13:07.239 --> 01:13:12.399
But he didn't talk about stupid stitions. Yeah I know.

788
01:13:12.520 --> 01:13:15.800
I did a whole recording on stupid stitions years ago,

789
01:13:16.439 --> 01:13:26.279
and it's it's in the same category as no smoke

790
01:13:26.359 --> 01:13:32.760
without fire or no no good deed goes unpunished. I mean,

791
01:13:32.800 --> 01:13:41.880
how negative is that? It's Come on, people, let's just

792
01:13:44.439 --> 01:13:47.720
I think there should be some kind of law just

793
01:13:47.880 --> 01:13:54.880
like so we we we ban those sayings, just ban them,

794
01:13:55.119 --> 01:13:58.520
like no, they're now as bad as some of the

795
01:13:58.560 --> 01:14:00.720
other words that we're not allowed to say. So I

796
01:14:00.800 --> 01:14:08.159
was going to say, no, I cannot say that. Wow,

797
01:14:08.319 --> 01:14:11.840
they'd have to have a whole I have to build

798
01:14:11.880 --> 01:14:16.000
another thousand prisons in the country just for people that

799
01:14:16.159 --> 01:14:22.760
use cliches, old sayings, things just they say I don't

800
01:14:22.760 --> 01:14:24.960
even know what they don't think about what they're saying.

801
01:14:25.560 --> 01:14:28.600
I'm saying it because my fervor said it, my mother

802
01:14:28.720 --> 01:14:32.039
says it, and I'm just saying it. My friends say

803
01:14:32.079 --> 01:14:35.840
it on an end of virtual I called my friends

804
01:14:36.800 --> 01:14:40.800
and this. I do find that funny. Sometimes I've met

805
01:14:40.800 --> 01:14:43.760
people in the past and I'm like wow, just it's

806
01:14:43.800 --> 01:14:46.319
blown me away with maybe they're from a different place

807
01:14:48.439 --> 01:14:52.520
and everything they says original to me, It's like wow.

808
01:14:54.439 --> 01:14:57.800
And then you visit where they live and everybody's saying

809
01:14:57.840 --> 01:15:02.960
the same things, everybody's got the same mannerisms, and you

810
01:15:03.039 --> 01:15:08.279
realize there's a very little original about that person. What

811
01:15:08.399 --> 01:15:11.640
you perhaps liked about them is you thought with maybe

812
01:15:11.640 --> 01:15:20.920
it was their personality, but it's almost not pretend personality,

813
01:15:20.960 --> 01:15:28.800
but going along with it personality and mimicking. I used

814
01:15:28.800 --> 01:15:31.920
to do that. I used to be quite highly influenced

815
01:15:31.920 --> 01:15:34.840
by who I was around. So if I was around

816
01:15:34.880 --> 01:15:37.960
someone that said you know what I mean, you know

817
01:15:38.000 --> 01:15:40.000
what I mean, you know what I mean, they did

818
01:15:40.000 --> 01:15:41.920
that a lot, I'd start saying it, you know what

819
01:15:41.960 --> 01:15:47.319
I mean, you know what I mean in it. And

820
01:15:47.359 --> 01:15:48.640
there was a lot of that in London when I

821
01:15:48.720 --> 01:15:52.880
lived in London. In it and they're like, you get me,

822
01:15:54.760 --> 01:15:59.479
swear down. I think even swear down with something that

823
01:15:59.520 --> 01:16:02.239
people say it as a joke and then started to

824
01:16:02.279 --> 01:16:07.640
say for real. And I struggle when I hear someone

825
01:16:08.159 --> 01:16:11.640
talking really seriously about something and they say swear down,

826
01:16:12.319 --> 01:16:15.880
like you know, I'm being honest, I'm being truthful, swear down,

827
01:16:16.239 --> 01:16:21.279
I'm like, I can't. I can't take that seriously. It's

828
01:16:21.359 --> 01:16:31.800
difficult anyway. That's that's what I worry though. You know,

829
01:16:31.920 --> 01:16:34.159
I don't want to imagine a police for a knock

830
01:16:34.199 --> 01:16:37.720
on doors saying I'm sorry, there's been an accident and

831
01:16:38.920 --> 01:16:43.880
I'm fortunately this has happened, and I'm like, no, no, really, yeah,

832
01:16:43.960 --> 01:16:48.079
swear down, Oh no, that was worse and what you

833
01:16:48.199 --> 01:16:58.640
just told me. H. But anyway, it's time to have

834
01:16:58.680 --> 01:17:07.479
some So this is really just it's a bit of

835
01:17:07.479 --> 01:17:10.239
a silly, bit of a messing around kind of recording.

836
01:17:13.840 --> 01:17:16.199
Has it calms you down? Has it relaxed you a

837
01:17:16.199 --> 01:17:20.439
bit more? Do you feel different? That's the bottom line.

838
01:17:21.399 --> 01:17:27.680
Do you feel better than how you did before? I remember,

839
01:17:27.760 --> 01:17:30.079
don't be taking anything serious like I say, I'm just

840
01:17:30.159 --> 01:17:37.199
messing around. It's no serious really if I'm being serious

841
01:17:37.279 --> 01:17:42.479
or no, because then I talk like this, and now

842
01:17:43.640 --> 01:17:52.359
the next thing I say needs your full attention. I

843
01:17:52.359 --> 01:17:54.159
don't know what it would be, but you know it's

844
01:17:54.239 --> 01:18:05.760
like I I'm here to make a statement. Woo woo,

845
01:18:05.760 --> 01:18:13.359
woo woo woo. Yeah, I don't know. None of my

846
01:18:13.560 --> 01:18:20.479
recordings really are supposed to be taking seriously. They're like

847
01:18:20.520 --> 01:18:31.720
a little play around, maybe useful, maybe not. Maybe relaxing,

848
01:18:33.319 --> 01:18:42.079
maybe peaceful, perhaps just a bit of a distraction from

849
01:18:42.079 --> 01:18:58.000
what was, And sometimes that's useful and beneficial. Now that

850
01:18:58.079 --> 01:19:00.880
brings me the end to this recording. So I'm going

851
01:19:00.960 --> 01:19:04.199
to go thank you. I'm going to go thank you

852
01:19:04.960 --> 01:19:07.960
so thank you for listening. Remember to be kind to

853
01:19:08.000 --> 01:19:11.680
yourself because you do deserve to be happy, and be

854
01:19:11.880 --> 01:19:24.920
gentle with yourself. You deserve to feel safe. Lots of love, Bye,