April 26, 2025

(music) (5 hours) Sending Healing | Let me bore your pain away #29 | Jason Newland | 26th April 2025

(music) (5 hours) Sending Healing | Let me bore your pain away #29 | Jason Newland | 26th April 2025
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Hello, and welcome to jasonneuland dot com. My name's Jason Newland.

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Please only listen when you can safety closure eyes. This

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is let me boil your pain away, and also only

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listen when you have permission from your doctor because you

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do need to know the cause of the chronic pain before.

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I would advise before listening to any recording. And this

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is also not a replacement for professional therapy or advice.

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I'm just a random English person talking, That's it. But

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at the same time, hopefully I've got something useful to say.

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So this is not a sleep recording, this is not

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a hypnosis recording, this is not therapy. This is just

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me talking about Well today I'm going to talk about

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sending healing to others and I'm just going to discuss

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that and how doing that can be useful for you

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to give yourself more comfort. And it's kind of a

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weird concept. And I'm not coming from a spiritual perspective.

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I'm not coming from a religious perspective, just coming from

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a I suppose a scientific plus tried and tested perspective.

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You know, overuld last probably hundreds of years, to be fair,

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imagination has been used to help people to increase comfort

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and to change the way you feel, just by our thoughts,

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by your thoughts. Now, Vinnie is in the background, chomping

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on a bony thing, so you may hear him. Also,

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his neighbors in the garden, so you might hear a

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little bit from that. Hopefully there shouldn't be too much

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background sound, but if there is, I'm just going to continue.

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Unless a helicopter lands in the garden or something like that,

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that would be weird. But yeah, I don't think there's

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enough room in that little garden for a helicopter. No,

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I don't think so. Mikay Perry might land in what spaceship.

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In that case, I will stop the recording because I'll

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just assume she's come to take me out on a date.

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I don't worry, Katie, don't. I've got to change the suit.

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It's fine.

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We'll go out like this.

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It's fine, it's okay. Or you want me to change

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and have a bath, Okay, I can do that. You

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want me to have a bath, and you want me

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to wash my hair and have a shave. Forget it, Katy,

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you just go away, can't. No, No, you're too needy,

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you want too much from me. So I'm going to

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start by talking about the science of imagination and pain relief.

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So I try and looking do a little bit of

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research into the science. I've been making recordings to help

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people with chronic pain for nineteen years now, so it's

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not a new thing for me. But I do think

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that sometimes factual stuff really can help us. It helps me,

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but I think it can help to almost open that

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door to allow the ideas to kind of circulate and

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percolate and be absorbed and to wrap your mind around

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some of the ideas that I'm going to be discussing.

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So I'm going to kind of start off with some facts,

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some scientific facts. So guided imagery it basically involves visualizing

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calm or a healing scenario, and it can lead to

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significant pain reduction. And there's also can lead to deep

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deep relaxation, can lead to sleep, can lead to feeling

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more confident about something upcoming, like an exam or job

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interview or driving test, you know those kinds of things.

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It can make you by visualizing something. It can help

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you prepare for an event that's coming up. So maybe

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you're going on stage. It can prepare you for that

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so that you feel more positive about that. So, yeah,

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it's lots of different things studies and I don't I mean,

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I can try and read out some of the studies.

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But studies have shown that visualization the technique can improve

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mobility and reduce the need for pain medication in some conditions,

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such as arthritis. Now I know someone well, I don't

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know them really anymore, but I used to know them

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quite well who actually had their leg amputated using hypnosis

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and had a local anesthetic. I mean, you can't not

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have local anesthetic really, I think it would be illegal

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to do it otherwise. But you didn't get put under

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general anesthetic, and he used self hypnosis throughout the whole process.

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There's no amount of money in the world you could

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offer me to do that, even though I feel a

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fairly you know, I'm fairly kind of a little bit knowledgeable,

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I guess about hypnosis, but I wouldn't want to be

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awake during that. But he chose to do that. Maybe

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it was a medical reason he didn't want to go under.

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Perhaps he just wanted to have a nice meal before

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the whole operation, because you can't do that with anesthetic,

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with general anesthetic, can you? Maybe you wanted to eat

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a burger during I don't know if that's a thing.

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Mindy was a vegetarian, so it would have been tofu?

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Was it torfu? Tofu?

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Mind you?

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If it was a tofu burger, I think I'd rather

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be knocked out. I'd rather go without any food than

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eat a tofu burger. Just yeah, it's just personal preference.

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But yeah, it's just it can be done. And also

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I did some hypnosis, or I did some visualization, let's say,

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because hypnosis, you could argue, is very much visualization with suggestions.

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And I had this lady back in two thousand and six.

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She needed a double lung transplant. She asked me. She

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was a friend of a friend, so she asked, my friend,

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can you ask him to come and see me? And

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I did. It was on a Saturday afternoon, about four o'clock,

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and she had an appointment to go into Yeah, she

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had to go to the hospital Tuesday morning, the following

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Tuesday or the next Tuesday to have tests, medical tests

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to ensure that she was able to have this transplant.

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You know, she was compared stable, she was physically able

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to go through it. But the problem is she'd already

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turned up something like twice before and couldn't step inside

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the hospital because she had a phobia of hospitals. And

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this was just beyond you know, this is way way

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bigger than that as well. And the doctors or the

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specialists said to her, if she didn't come into the

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hospital and have the tests on this Tuesday, she would

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be removed from the This is what she told me,

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she'd be removed from the transplant list. So she kind

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of had to go or not have the transplant. Now,

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one of the weird parts of this is, firstly, I

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didn't know who she was, never met her before I

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got taxi to her house. I went into her went

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to her house, she was there, and she was on oxygen, and.

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There was a.

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Zero rapport between us, Like it's like she didn't like

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me instantly, which has happened before, surprisingly but not usually

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that quickly BlimE me. She just really didn't seem like

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she even wanted me to be there, which I suppose

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in a way she possibly didn't. But back then, I

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never gave up, and I spent two and a half

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hours with her, and in the end she just she

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had to concede. I guess she had to just give

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in and go along with what I was trying to do,

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which was to relax her and get her to feel

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comfortable and to rehearse going in there and feeling calm

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and all that stuff. And I did everything within my

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knowledge in those two and a half hours. I came

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from every single angle, and eventually I broke through that

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wall that she had. Even so I didn't feel particularly

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confident that I had. But at the end of it,

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she liked me. She seemed to like me. I mean,

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I don't know if she was just smiling because she

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liked me, or because I was leaving her house. It

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might have been that I'm getting rid of him if

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he's going. And so I spoke to her on the

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day before she was going into hospital, did I I

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might not actually know she she went to hospital. She

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contacted me when she got out. So she was in

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there for like a day and a half, I think,

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having tests, and she sent I spoke to her on

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the phone. I've actually got a letter that I got

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her to do a testimonial for me, which says I

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should read I should find these they're in the storage somewhere.

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That it was easy.

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She went in there. She couldn't believe how easy it

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was to just go into the hospital. She was laughing

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with the nurses and laughing with the other patients. Zero

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zero stress, zero attention, no discomfort really, And it's quite

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weird because within I think a week and a half

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she got the operation. Is one of those just went

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really quick. Happened very quickly, and I visited her in

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the hospital in the transplant place, and she was She

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said that she was relaxed, she was calm throughout the

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whole thing. Yeah, she was nervous, and who wouldn't be.

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It's a natural I mean, you're about to have two

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organs replaces going to be nervous, But she wasn't, didn't

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have the anxiety that she'd had before, and she went

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into hospital had it done. I visited her, I think

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probably a couple of days after she'd had the op,

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and she was up and about. I mean, she had

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to be careful, but she was able to move around

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and I was going to do some There's a bit

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of pain relief with her as well, which is quite

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difficult because the nurses kept coming into the room and

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they weren't quiet, really loud, and it's quite hard in

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a hospital setting to ask people to be quiet. Really

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because also it's different people coming and going constantly, so

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it was just one person. It's like, can you just

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give us twenty minutes so we can just you know, talk,

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And so I didn't get I didn't get very far

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with that. But there's a couple of more a couple

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of more examples as well of preparing. So I had

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another lady who was a friend of She was the

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wife of a friend I had who had to have

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a mistectomy and reconstruction for surgery as well, all at

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the same time. She was terrified of going into the

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hospital and worried about, you know, the pain and all

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that stuff as well, which is, as I said, it's

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the most natural thing in the world, isn't it to

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be worried about something like that. I think worried is

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an understatement, to be fair. So I went and visit her,

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and I spent probably a couple of hourgetherra and she

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went and had the operation. I saw her probably five

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days before the op. She had the operation, she came

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out of it, she had minimal pain, hardly any distress

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or tension. And again I kind of went from every

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angle with her because back then in two thousand and six,

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two thousand and seven. You know, in my kind of

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early days of seeing people and doing online stuff, I

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was not ferocious. That's not the right way, but I

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was very like a dog with a bone. I wasn't

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going to give up. And when I got someone in

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front of me, I want to get the job done.

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If someone wants to someone comes for a phobia of

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a bridge, I've got to sort that out. And it's

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the most important thing in the world in that moment

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for me, nothing else is more important than getting them

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where they want to be, which is being able to

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walk across a bridge completely relaxed. So I don't have

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that pressure now because I'm dealing with I've one line,

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so I don't, you know, not speaking directly to people.

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I know I'm speaking directly to you, but it's you're

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not in the same room as me saying that's the thing.

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If he's stuck in the room with me, I will

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keep going until it's done, and I will keep going

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on and on and on, and then I think sometimes

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it is it sounds it's in a nice way. I

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wasn't like shouting.

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You must relax.

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Obviously, but it's by not giving up I think that

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sets the tone as well as I think in a

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sense of making his recordings, still doing this after nineteen years,

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I've not quit. I've not given up. And I think

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if someone like me who's making his recordings will not quit,

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will not give up, keeps going regardless, then that can

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also be a little bit of a message to those

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people listening to keep going, never quit, unless it cause

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it's cigarettes, then please quit, you know, because cigarettes aren't great. Apparently,

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So she sent me a letter as well saying thank you.

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This is a lady that had misectomy, and she was

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calm and relaxed, pretty much felt comfortable after the op

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as well, and becovered much quicker than the doctors could understand.

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They couldn't believe. She actually got released in the hospital

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a lot quicker than they would normally release people. I'm

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not saying it's because of me. I mean, I'd like

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to think it is, but it's really it's because of her,

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because of her own mind and because of how she

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had changed the way that she was thinking. So you

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change the way you think about something that's going to happen,

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well about how you feel, and you realize that actually

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you can feel relaxed, you can enjoy comfort and physical sensations.

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Is it weird having him crunching on a bone been

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making I haven't. I haven't actually had a bone for him.

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They're not bones, but they're kind of these bony things.

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I haven't had any for two weeks, and I've got

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in the pack yesterday and I forgot how noisy they were.

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Obviously he attributes to the noise with his teeth. Teeth,

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so they were surprised at how she was able to

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recover so quickly and be able to leave the hospital.

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And I got some I actually got some long term

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update and yeah, she did really well, recovered perfectly and

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still going strong. So this was nearly twenty years ago.

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There was another person who was there, another person operation.

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Oh yeah, and as again, and I'm talking about quite

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serious stuff. I will move away from this, but this

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is just examples. It's partly to show off how great

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I am, but also just to let you know that

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how in quite extreme situations. And I think you can

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agree both of those are quite extreme. I mean compared

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to I've got our rights in my lower back, which

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I can't compare that to someone having a double transplant

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of their lungs, you know, as far as the level

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of tension and stress and anxiety. But that's not to

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play down how I feel, because we all feel differently,

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and our feelings are Your feelings are legitimate and just

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as important as anybody else's. And the last person and

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I talk about is this, who was it? All? Right? See?

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This was like a false offer you ever give? You

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ever offer someone something and you don't mean it? Should

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I explain what I mean? Have you ever liked in

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a at a friend's house, or you're at work and

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it's someone you get on really well with and you say,

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what are you doing a weekend or what were you

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doing there? I'm just planning what you're planning for? Oh

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I'm moving at the weekend and you shout out, would

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you need a hand? Empty offer? An empty offer? Didn't

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mean it? Why did I say it? Did not mean it?

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And a couple of times I've had someone say, yeah, okay, thanks,

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but I.

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Didn't mean it.

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I didn't want to waste my saturday helping someone move.

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I mean genuinely, I'd just It's not that I didn't care,

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I just didn't want to do it. So, yeah, it's

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those kinds of things. Or my dad does this. When

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we're at dinner table and there's one Yorkshire pudding left right,

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my dad will say, does anybody else? Does anybody want

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that last Yorkshire pudding? It's an empty offer. He wants

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everybody to say no so that he can have it

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because he wants it. That's why he's always asking. I say, oh, yes, thanks,

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I'll have it, and I take it. I don't. I

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go to take it and I look at his face

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and I say, only kidding, because I know he wants it.

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Why doesn't he just grab it? And whoops, I'm knocking

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stuff over. So it's like an empty offer. It's not

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nothing bad in it. It's just like he's not really

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wanting anyone else to take the Yorkshire pudding. Although we

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did have a Yeah, there was once when we locked horns.

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I really wanted the Yorkshire pudding, so did he, so

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we had half leach. I don't think he's ever forgiven

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me for that. I'm sure I over heard him in

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the kitchen with my stepmom saying we will write him

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out of the will now. I think you're ow that

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was an expense of half a Yorkshire pudding, that three

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hundred pounds. I was going to get in a will

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whow So this friend, this is an empty offer that

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I offered someone I was at college with who I

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got on pretty well with. This was okay, this was blimey.

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I was at college of her two thousand and three,

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so this was in two thousand and six. She asked

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her It's beginning probably about April May time, two thousand

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and six, around about this time, so twenty nineteen years ago,

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through another friend, because I hadn't really seen her for ages,

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through another friend who contacted me and says, do you

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want to do you want to come to what's her name?

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She's getting married? I said, what, she's getting married, and

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you're invited to come to the stag Night. No, it

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wasn't invited to go. What she wanted was me, because

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we did meet up sporadically, you know, for lunch and

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stuff for all the people. It was a message, of course,

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and she wanted me to stand there as a dorman

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for the hen knight. Did I say stag night for

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the hen night? And I was going to stand there

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on the door and tell people, you know, have a

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door list, and all the women that came in, I'd

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have to tick them off and everything on the door list,

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and I thought, yeah, why not. And it turned out

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I didn't know this but her. It's really quite a

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sad story, but it was very sad. Her husband to

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be was terminal and he was getting married. They were

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getting married to I think she'd I think they both

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always wanted to get married and had been together a

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long time, so they got married. So this was the

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hen night. So I went along to that and I

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did that, and then they invited me in. Hen nights

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are brilliant. I mean I've never I've been to hem

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nights as in a nightclub when I was there, but

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I've never actually been invited to a hen night a room.

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Just yeah, it's great, a lot of fun. I went

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to the wedding, but just a reception. Bit again, I

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didn't she didn't like me enough to invite me to

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the actual wedding, which is fine. I'm not bitter. In fact,

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i'm still mentioning it nineteen years later. So I went

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to do reception, but at the end in the evening

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in the pub, I met him for the first time.

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And because the person I was going with she was

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my friend as well, we went there. She had a

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present for him or for them, and I thought, I

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ain't got no money, I don't know what to get.

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I'll get a card. And then I thought, I know

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what i'd do. I'll make some little vouchers, just a

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few pieces of paper offering five, like a voucher offering

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five three hypnosis sessions. Okay, empty offer.

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It really was.

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I didn't expect. I just thought it saved me spending

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any money, and you know, it's done. It's a gift.

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So that's what I did. And I was never charging

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anyone anyway, so it's not really it's not like I

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was anyone. I did see a didn't charge. It was

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all free when I was doing the Chronic Pain Relief

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Service and doing the rehab relaxation groups and stuff like that.

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So I gave this gift to them both in a card.

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It didn't even see it. They didn't open it in

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front of me. They must have opened it when they

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got home. And I thought, that's all right, got away

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with that. Didn't save me ten twenty good or whatever.

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I don't think I was quite that. I wasn't quite

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that tight, but it was, you know, if money was

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a little bit tight at that time, even though I

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was working, I just I didn't know what to get.

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What do you get to someone you don't know very well? Yeah?

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So I left it at that. I get a phone

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call while I'm at work from my friend that the

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one that just the one that I speak to regularly,

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not the one who's married to the man. She says,

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he wants to see you. I said, who wants to

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see me?

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He said?

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She said, whatever his name was? I said, who was that?

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She said, what's the name of his husband?

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Oh?

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Okay, what do you mean he wants to see me?

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She said that he's in hospital. He has to have

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a medical procedure we has had before, which was really horrible,

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and he won't have it done unless you turn up,

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unless you come along and talk to him. See, this

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was weird because I don't know why I didn't know him.

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I shook his hand at his wedding reception. He never

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met him before, hadn't seen her for a couple of years,

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probably or a year and a half other than at

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the hen night. And he's seems to have this faith

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in me that I'm going to be able to help.

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I'm basically a stranger, and nobody he knew would know

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if I was iny okay. Maybe my friend knew that

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I was okay at what I did, but his wife

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didn't anyway, So I was I don't know if I

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or was it two thousand and seven? It might have

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been early two thousand and seven. Actually, no, I'm pretty

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sure it's two thousand and six. Well, I went there

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after work. I think it's when I was doing a

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Friday finishing at two o'clock on the shift. So I

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went there. Some of these details might be completely wrong,

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but it doesn't matter. Unless you like things to be correct,

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then it does matter, I suppose, but then you're never

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going to know you I mean, I can't prove what time,

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what day was that I went there. I really don't know.

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So I went to the hospital, went to the cancer ward,

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and I went. I met my friend first, the one

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that was did I no, I didn't, actually wasn't with me.

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I went as went up to the thing. I didn't

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know where I was looking. Luckily, and the person I

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was in college with was there, so she waved and

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I went over and he was behind the curtain, so

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I so I went. You know, I pulled the curtain over,

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so you're right, I said, yeah, he said, obviously, I'm

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not am I. I said, okay, fair enough, So why

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would you ask me if I'm all right? I'm in hospital?

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I said, all right, I'm not not charging you, am I?

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He said sorry. So we had a little kiss and

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then I I basically didn't know what I was going

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to do. I really didn't know. But what I did have.

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It in.

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A huge amount in me was the wish to help

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other people. I wanted to help him as much as

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I've ever wanted to help anyone in my life. You know,

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I couldn't have wanted to help.

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Him more.

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Than if i'd see a puppy fall into a river.

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You know. It's that kind of not quite that extreme level,

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but it really did feel like a life for death situation,

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although it wasn't, but to me it felt like that.

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So they asked the nurses to leave us alone for

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half an hour. That is, his wife said, I'm gonna

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go and get a cup of coffee on the stand

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out of reception. Make sure no one disturbs you. Pull

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the curtains around. Now. It was super noisy in there.

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I mean, the only way to make it noisier is

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if a brass band walked through seriously or a jet

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pilot went past, honking its horn like the dukes of hazard.

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It was very noisy, and there's you know, there's nothing

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wrong with that, it's just how it is very noisy environment.

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But it didn't seem to matter because he was about

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to have this procedure. He refused to have it done

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until I'd spent some time talking to him. So I

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spent half an hour focusing on relaxing him and preparing

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him for the procedure. He knew what the procedure was.

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I didn't need to know about it. He knew what

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it was because had it done before, so he knew

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exactly what was going to be done. But in his

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imagination it went well. In his imagine nation it felt

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he felt relaxed. And for me, however, weird this is

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I was sending from my perspective, I was sending relaxation

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to him. I was imagining that I was sending him

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healing and I was sending him comfort. And if I'm honest,

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that is what I've always done when I was face

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to face with someone doing chronic pain relief or whatever

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the hypnosis thing would be. When that eyes closed, I

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would imagine sending the feeling that they want to them

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now what that does. Regardless of whether or not it

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helped them, it helped me. And that's something that I

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kind of noted in my head because although it did

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make sense from a meditative state, from a meditation angle,

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I still thought there's something in this. But I wasn't

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doing it so that I could feel more relaxed. I

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generally wanted him or whoever I was with, to feel

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to feel more comfort in that part of your body

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that needs to have more comfort. And at the end

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of it, he felt really relaxed. He was absolutely zero discomfort.

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Bearing in mind, you know, he had a really serious

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condition and it's maybe the first time he had zero

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discomfort for a while. I left him alone. He went

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and had his had his procedure, and I spoke to

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him probably the next day to see how he was,

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and I'd already received note that it had gone really well,

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and it wasn't. It was completely different this time because

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he expected it to go well. He expected to feel

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comfort and confident, he expected to feel relaxed, and there

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was that kind of because it has an effect when

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he obviously doesn't it when if you expect calmness and

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comfort it's gonna have that positive reaction for you. I mean,

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it's just standing. It's not it's not even it's not

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even scientific. Really, it's just obvious, isn't it. And it's

475
00:35:56.599 --> 00:36:03.599
as obvious as gravity. So mind you do sometimes wonder

476
00:36:04.079 --> 00:36:11.000
Daddy long legs? How how has nature created Daddy long

477
00:36:11.079 --> 00:36:18.599
legs one of the most poisonous insects, but can't bite,

478
00:36:18.920 --> 00:36:22.559
there's no way of releasing the poison, cannot fly in

479
00:36:22.599 --> 00:36:30.920
a straight line, even if it was offered a million pounds. It's, yeah, phenomenal.

480
00:36:31.679 --> 00:36:34.360
I love Daddy longlegs. I like them a lot. I

481
00:36:34.440 --> 00:36:35.760
used to eat them when I was a kid, so

482
00:36:35.960 --> 00:36:38.519
I'm not proud of that, you know. But I was

483
00:36:38.559 --> 00:36:44.159
like three years old, so okay, I was forty five.

484
00:36:44.360 --> 00:36:48.800
But you know, it doesn't matter. When you got a

485
00:36:48.800 --> 00:36:53.320
hospital out of hospital and they couldn't they couldn't do anything.

486
00:36:53.639 --> 00:36:55.800
They couldn't. All they could do is treat it. There

487
00:36:55.840 --> 00:36:59.599
was nothing else that they could do. So it's you know,

488
00:36:59.599 --> 00:37:01.519
I don't get all heavy and talk about that. But

489
00:37:02.360 --> 00:37:04.199
I did visit him at home and do some pain

490
00:37:04.239 --> 00:37:09.079
relief with him, and that also helped. And it seemed

491
00:37:09.880 --> 00:37:16.440
something a bit strange that he not strange, but because

492
00:37:16.440 --> 00:37:22.159
he'd already spent time listening to me, he felt more

493
00:37:22.199 --> 00:37:29.000
relaxed just me being there, just hearing my voice. And

494
00:37:29.519 --> 00:37:32.639
that's another thing that I kind of ticked like that

495
00:37:32.679 --> 00:37:35.519
I just kind of remembered in my mind for future

496
00:37:35.599 --> 00:37:38.960
with the audios, because I was making videos and audios

497
00:37:38.960 --> 00:37:41.920
back then, but I was quite early into doing that.

498
00:37:43.519 --> 00:37:48.400
I was focusing more on real life people sort of.

499
00:37:50.559 --> 00:37:51.639
Yeah.

500
00:37:52.039 --> 00:37:57.440
I mean the first recordings that I yeah, I think

501
00:37:57.480 --> 00:38:00.679
the first recordings I uploaded to the end that were

502
00:38:00.840 --> 00:38:06.559
actual live recordings that I had done with the drug

503
00:38:06.599 --> 00:38:10.880
rehab and the alcohol charity groups, the relaxation groups I did.

504
00:38:11.239 --> 00:38:14.639
So I would record them on a little dickation thing

505
00:38:16.280 --> 00:38:20.440
and then uploaded to my website or uploaded to I

506
00:38:20.480 --> 00:38:25.760
think MySpace, and then you know, wherever else I could find.

507
00:38:27.199 --> 00:38:36.000
That's before I started doing videos. So we got the

508
00:38:38.119 --> 00:38:44.000
level of comfort up, the distressed way down, so he

509
00:38:44.079 --> 00:38:50.760
felt comfortable again, and then he had the thing is

510
00:38:55.159 --> 00:38:56.880
it would have been better to have both of them

511
00:38:56.920 --> 00:39:01.360
sit in there, because her stress levels were a level

512
00:39:03.760 --> 00:39:07.199
I mean, you know, for good reason. She also needed

513
00:39:07.239 --> 00:39:12.440
to relax deeply, and so he was kind of quite

514
00:39:12.559 --> 00:39:17.559
jovial and calm. But she wasn't. Again, she's not a judgment.

515
00:39:17.599 --> 00:39:20.199
I mean this is you.

516
00:39:22.079 --> 00:39:30.199
Know, who would be calm in that situation. But it

517
00:39:30.320 --> 00:39:35.519
was just nice. It felt nice to know that. Actually imagination,

518
00:39:36.159 --> 00:39:38.360
because even if it's me talking, you're the one doing

519
00:39:38.360 --> 00:39:45.000
the imagining. You know. If I say, for example, visualize

520
00:39:45.039 --> 00:39:55.519
a gentle warm beam of light moving to a part

521
00:39:55.519 --> 00:39:59.159
of your body that you would like to have more comfort.

522
00:40:01.079 --> 00:40:10.639
Visualize that gentle warm beam of light maybe traveling from

523
00:40:10.679 --> 00:40:16.079
the heart of someone that you love deeply, maybe someone

524
00:40:16.119 --> 00:40:18.920
that you used to love deeply, maybe someone's not around anymore.

525
00:40:19.119 --> 00:40:21.920
But imagine that beam of light shining down from heaven

526
00:40:23.119 --> 00:40:34.840
into your part of your body. It has an effect

527
00:40:37.239 --> 00:40:40.280
changes how you feel. So I'm the one saying it,

528
00:40:40.320 --> 00:40:49.880
but you're the one imagining it. So there's certain things

529
00:40:50.000 --> 00:41:01.079
mental imagery affects the brain activity. So when you imagine,

530
00:41:01.159 --> 00:41:03.840
is this something that's done with things like skiing and golf,

531
00:41:04.480 --> 00:41:08.119
practicing in your mind, in your in your remind in

532
00:41:08.159 --> 00:41:15.760
your mind imagining it, or practicing taking basketball shots things

533
00:41:15.800 --> 00:41:19.760
like that actually, or rifling, you know, do it like

534
00:41:21.840 --> 00:41:26.679
Olympic games? Things you know where you target practice or

535
00:41:26.800 --> 00:41:34.760
bow and arrow things. Mental rehearsing can be just as

536
00:41:35.079 --> 00:41:41.679
effective as physical rehearsals. You do need both, but someone

537
00:41:41.719 --> 00:41:46.320
that mentally rehearses, as opposed to someone that just physically rehearses,

538
00:41:48.920 --> 00:41:57.519
has an edge. It affects the the muscles, it affects

539
00:41:57.599 --> 00:42:02.960
the movement, it affects how we feel, and it changes

540
00:42:03.119 --> 00:42:09.800
expectation because, as we all know, if we expect, really

541
00:42:10.119 --> 00:42:16.639
really expect things to go well, generally they do. And

542
00:42:16.679 --> 00:42:19.039
there's a good example of this. There's two really good

543
00:42:19.039 --> 00:42:23.960
examples of and they've done this in research. It's an

544
00:42:24.000 --> 00:42:30.159
old thing, but two tests. So if you have someone

545
00:42:30.639 --> 00:42:35.679
on a typrope walk in on a tightrope that knows

546
00:42:35.719 --> 00:42:38.199
how to do it but isn't particularly good, but they

547
00:42:38.360 --> 00:42:42.079
you know, it's not a long typrope or actually no,

548
00:42:42.159 --> 00:42:45.239
let's say a planka would forget the typerope, so just

549
00:42:45.239 --> 00:42:51.320
a planka wood, it's on the floor. They'll walk along easy,

550
00:42:51.440 --> 00:42:54.679
you know, they walk six foot maybe ten foot planka

551
00:42:54.719 --> 00:43:00.800
would they'll walk on it, but it's six foot in

552
00:43:00.840 --> 00:43:09.079
the air, or put it three foot in the air. Well,

553
00:43:09.119 --> 00:43:11.039
even if they fall off, they're not going to hurt themselves.

554
00:43:11.159 --> 00:43:14.880
Or two foot in the air changes how they feel

555
00:43:14.920 --> 00:43:23.480
about it. So if they imagine to themselves, everything's fine,

556
00:43:24.840 --> 00:43:27.039
even the one on the peak on the floor. If

557
00:43:27.039 --> 00:43:29.920
those imagine, you know, let's say it's a twelve fifteen

558
00:43:29.960 --> 00:43:37.280
foot and they say to themselves, I'm going to do

559
00:43:37.320 --> 00:43:40.400
this easy. This is easy, this is easy, this is easy.

560
00:43:40.719 --> 00:43:42.800
I'm going to do this easily, and do this easily,

561
00:43:43.559 --> 00:43:46.880
and they will. But some people, if they if you

562
00:43:46.880 --> 00:43:49.360
get them to say I'm going to fall off, I'm

563
00:43:49.360 --> 00:43:51.000
going to fall off. I'm going to fall off. I'm

564
00:43:51.000 --> 00:43:54.000
going to fall off, and get them to rehearsed out

565
00:43:54.039 --> 00:43:56.039
before they do it, and then get them to say

566
00:43:56.079 --> 00:44:00.400
that either out loud or to themselves, then chants are there.

567
00:44:00.400 --> 00:44:02.880
We will actually fall off, even when it's on the floor.

568
00:44:05.760 --> 00:44:08.440
Another one would be if you put a bunch of

569
00:44:08.519 --> 00:44:15.840
plates or maybe glasses with whining on a tray or

570
00:44:15.920 --> 00:44:21.199
water on a tray, and you're walking through a busy restaurant.

571
00:44:22.119 --> 00:44:24.599
You can walk into the other side of the restaurant. Now,

572
00:44:24.639 --> 00:44:29.199
if you're saying to yourself or you expect everything to

573
00:44:29.199 --> 00:44:35.360
be fine, it's going to be fine. But if you're

574
00:44:35.400 --> 00:44:37.360
saying to yourself, I'm going to drop it, I'm going

575
00:44:37.440 --> 00:44:39.320
to drop it. I'm going to drop it. I'm going

576
00:44:39.400 --> 00:44:42.400
to drop it. I'm going to drop it. Then the

577
00:44:42.480 --> 00:44:45.519
chance that you're dropping it is quite high. So we

578
00:44:45.599 --> 00:44:50.320
affect ourselves by what we think. If before that all

579
00:44:50.320 --> 00:44:51.800
it did was focus I'm going to drop it.

580
00:44:51.800 --> 00:44:53.280
I'm going to drop it.

581
00:44:52.920 --> 00:44:54.920
For about half an hour before they actually got there.

582
00:44:56.639 --> 00:45:03.960
It's it's again this is so obvious in that, but

583
00:45:04.079 --> 00:45:12.000
mental practice can enhance motor processes control, and also mental

584
00:45:12.039 --> 00:45:20.920
imagery can reduce physical discomfort as well, and it can

585
00:45:20.960 --> 00:45:26.199
affect the healing processes that can activate the same brain

586
00:45:26.320 --> 00:45:32.400
regions as the actual experience, So you're actually activating the

587
00:45:32.440 --> 00:45:34.320
same part of your brain as you would if you

588
00:45:34.360 --> 00:45:41.480
were physically doing that thing, which is kind of amazing. Really,

589
00:45:44.880 --> 00:45:47.320
it's almost like the brain doesn't know the difference between

590
00:45:47.719 --> 00:45:53.800
doing it and thinking about it, which then really brings

591
00:45:53.880 --> 00:46:02.320
to just really really focuses on the idea of what

592
00:46:02.360 --> 00:46:05.800
do you say to yourself, What do you feel about yourself,

593
00:46:06.920 --> 00:46:14.639
what do you expect? Because that has an effect. How

594
00:46:14.679 --> 00:46:19.800
you feel about yourself affects how you feel, how you are,

595
00:46:20.039 --> 00:46:25.719
how you behave in the same ways what we think

596
00:46:25.760 --> 00:46:30.079
about someone else, you know. I don't know about you,

597
00:46:30.119 --> 00:46:32.920
but there's been times when I've I've gone into a

598
00:46:32.960 --> 00:46:38.480
situation and I've expected that person to be rude and

599
00:46:38.559 --> 00:46:43.719
really rehearse that in my mind, there's no benefit of

600
00:46:43.800 --> 00:46:46.320
doing that. But it's just stuff that I've done in

601
00:46:46.360 --> 00:46:49.239
the past, not on purpose, just it was just going

602
00:46:49.280 --> 00:46:52.320
on and on. I didn't necessarily know how to stop

603
00:46:52.360 --> 00:46:56.159
it at the time, and I'd go into that scenario

604
00:46:57.920 --> 00:47:00.280
and I would dislike that person and I would feel

605
00:47:00.320 --> 00:47:09.159
that they disliked me, but actually they probably didn't, or

606
00:47:09.159 --> 00:47:14.159
maybe they did. Maybe my attitude was not nice because

607
00:47:14.199 --> 00:47:17.679
I had, as zig Ziggler would say, I had stinking thinking.

608
00:47:22.480 --> 00:47:27.280
There's no thing called a thing called mirror therapy where

609
00:47:27.320 --> 00:47:31.119
patients for your reflection of their unaffected limb and can

610
00:47:31.119 --> 00:47:34.559
trick the brain into perceiving movement in the affected limb,

611
00:47:35.280 --> 00:47:40.000
thereby reducing physical discomfort. So if you've got a mirror,

612
00:47:40.079 --> 00:47:42.000
Let's say someone's got a problem with their left hand

613
00:47:42.719 --> 00:47:47.800
and that's the problematic hand. For example, put a mirror

614
00:47:48.559 --> 00:47:51.119
the right hand. You know, it looks like your left

615
00:47:51.119 --> 00:47:57.119
hand is there, and you can focus on your left

616
00:47:57.119 --> 00:48:01.239
hand and looking at that image, looking that mirror image.

617
00:48:01.639 --> 00:48:08.639
Just imagine it's feeling calm and relaxed, and someone could

618
00:48:08.639 --> 00:48:11.440
actually stand there, be next to you and just tap

619
00:48:13.000 --> 00:48:15.920
tap that hand, that right hand, and you can feel

620
00:48:15.960 --> 00:48:20.440
that it feels fine, and that's not how the left

621
00:48:20.440 --> 00:48:25.360
hand would feel normally. It changes the way your left

622
00:48:25.360 --> 00:48:31.119
hand feels. It's also being done with people who have

623
00:48:31.239 --> 00:48:35.760
lost a limb in a way to relax. So that's

624
00:48:35.760 --> 00:48:39.719
someone that's maybe got phantom they call it phantom, but

625
00:48:39.800 --> 00:48:44.320
you know, got problems, still got discomfort in let's say

626
00:48:44.519 --> 00:48:47.320
a hand that's not there anymore. So they can use

627
00:48:47.360 --> 00:48:50.599
that mirror technique. So what they do is they're looking

628
00:48:50.599 --> 00:48:56.519
at image and they really relax that hand that they're

629
00:48:56.559 --> 00:49:03.880
looking at in the mirror, which in turn reduces that

630
00:49:03.960 --> 00:49:08.960
physical discomfort that they were having before. And it's a

631
00:49:08.960 --> 00:49:13.760
brain thing. It's actually it feels real because the brain

632
00:49:16.079 --> 00:49:19.639
on a level of course knows it's a mirror, but

633
00:49:19.719 --> 00:49:25.599
in another way doesn't. That's quite interesting. I think you

634
00:49:25.719 --> 00:49:30.239
got neuro feedback so using I mean I don't have that.

635
00:49:30.440 --> 00:49:32.960
I wish I did have access to this stuff. It

636
00:49:32.960 --> 00:49:35.679
would be so much fun. But you can use real

637
00:49:35.719 --> 00:49:43.840
time brain imaging to learn to control the physical sensations

638
00:49:44.159 --> 00:49:49.679
and to activate those related brain regions, which can lead

639
00:49:49.719 --> 00:49:56.039
to significant reductions in that you know, discomfort you had before.

640
00:49:58.880 --> 00:50:02.480
And I think also you got things like biofeedback machines

641
00:50:03.440 --> 00:50:07.480
and I'd love to get one of those skull cap things,

642
00:50:07.519 --> 00:50:09.320
you know that they put on with all those wires

643
00:50:09.719 --> 00:50:12.320
and you can just see which parts of the brain

644
00:50:12.360 --> 00:50:17.079
are being activated. I'm pretty sure the.

645
00:50:16.880 --> 00:50:17.920
More you.

646
00:50:20.119 --> 00:50:22.519
The more time you spend with one of those hats on.

647
00:50:23.239 --> 00:50:24.840
I won't call them hats, but I don't know what

648
00:50:24.880 --> 00:50:28.679
the correct term is looking at that image, the more

649
00:50:28.719 --> 00:50:34.519
you can start activating different parts. Because now they've got

650
00:50:35.079 --> 00:50:41.840
limbs like mechanical robotic limbs that can be activated by

651
00:50:41.880 --> 00:50:45.840
the brain, by the person's brain, Like they can imagine

652
00:50:45.840 --> 00:50:49.320
the hand and the right finger move in and it moves,

653
00:50:51.079 --> 00:50:55.400
which is phenomenal. I mean, it's just it is. I

654
00:50:55.440 --> 00:51:00.400
know the bionic Man had this fifty years ago, but

655
00:51:01.239 --> 00:51:04.119
you know he had six million dollars to play with,

656
00:51:05.000 --> 00:51:12.800
didn't he. But this phenomenal stuff. And there's technology now

657
00:51:12.880 --> 00:51:18.440
where someone that's maybe quadriplegic can use a computer with

658
00:51:18.519 --> 00:51:23.760
their mind and can you know, play a game or

659
00:51:23.920 --> 00:51:28.679
type stuff out talk you know type stuff to talk

660
00:51:28.719 --> 00:51:33.800
out to screen. You know, it's like phenomenal, amazing. So

661
00:51:34.159 --> 00:51:38.599
this is only going to improve and get better. I

662
00:51:38.599 --> 00:51:40.800
don't know why I said improve and get better because

663
00:51:40.800 --> 00:51:45.639
it's the same thing, isn't it. So I'm just looking

664
00:51:45.679 --> 00:51:48.760
at the practical sides of this. This is much more

665
00:51:48.800 --> 00:51:53.239
sensible than yesterday's recording. Oh so pleased because you know,

666
00:51:54.159 --> 00:51:58.119
I'm winning a weird I mean, they're not supposed to

667
00:51:58.159 --> 00:52:03.400
be super super serious. Sometimes I go off on a tangent.

668
00:52:04.480 --> 00:52:13.760
So the practical, some practical techniques you can explore when

669
00:52:13.800 --> 00:52:18.360
it comes to imagining for ourselves, because this is really

670
00:52:18.400 --> 00:52:23.280
about imagining sending healing to someone else. But it's kind

671
00:52:23.320 --> 00:52:27.920
of first Awards exploring the power of your mind from

672
00:52:27.960 --> 00:52:34.440
a scientific perspective, not from a wah wah or from

673
00:52:35.400 --> 00:52:40.039
a spiritual perspective that not everybody would potentially agree with.

674
00:52:40.800 --> 00:52:42.920
But when it comes to science, when it comes to

675
00:52:43.800 --> 00:52:48.599
should we say fact, something that's been studied for decades

676
00:52:48.599 --> 00:52:57.960
and decades and decades, you can pretty much have a

677
00:52:57.960 --> 00:53:04.440
bit of faith in that something that you can research yourself.

678
00:53:06.039 --> 00:53:09.559
You know, I think it's quite nice sometimes to say, Okay,

679
00:53:09.599 --> 00:53:16.519
well I want to find out, what's this? What's guided imagery?

680
00:53:16.880 --> 00:53:19.760
What's this bloke talking about? Guided imagery? Is it a

681
00:53:19.760 --> 00:53:22.960
real thing? And you can you can see you can

682
00:53:22.960 --> 00:53:25.679
google it or whatever, and it is. What's this mental

683
00:53:25.960 --> 00:53:32.599
imagery and brain activity? You can search it, neuro feedback,

684
00:53:32.800 --> 00:53:34.960
you can search it. It's all, you know, it's all

685
00:53:35.000 --> 00:53:39.360
on the internet. There's books written about it, there's lectures

686
00:53:39.400 --> 00:53:40.840
on YouTube.

687
00:53:41.199 --> 00:53:42.840
It's this is you know.

688
00:53:44.239 --> 00:53:48.559
There are inventions being created probably every day based on

689
00:53:49.960 --> 00:53:57.480
this technology that's continually growing. So if you're going to

690
00:53:57.519 --> 00:54:03.599
do something for yourself, and we mentioned and like a

691
00:54:03.639 --> 00:54:09.400
healing visualization, I saw about that beam coming down and

692
00:54:09.440 --> 00:54:11.800
going into that part of your body that you would

693
00:54:11.840 --> 00:54:18.119
like to have more comfort, So that's something you could do,

694
00:54:18.199 --> 00:54:21.760
or imagine healing moving into that part of your body.

695
00:54:21.880 --> 00:54:24.119
You can imagine healing moving into the top of your

696
00:54:24.119 --> 00:54:27.639
head is something that I quite like to do. And

697
00:54:29.199 --> 00:54:34.280
for some reason, it's kind of it's yellow, but it's liquid,

698
00:54:35.760 --> 00:54:41.440
almost like sunshine. And imagine it pouring into the top

699
00:54:41.440 --> 00:54:45.119
of my head and it's moving through my body all

700
00:54:45.119 --> 00:54:50.480
the way down to my toes and just filling, gradually

701
00:54:51.119 --> 00:54:58.599
filling my entire body, you know, fingers, hands, feet, legs, knees,

702
00:54:59.679 --> 00:55:11.119
thar is, bum groin, lower back, upper back, stomach, chest, arms, shoulders, neck, throat,

703
00:55:13.719 --> 00:55:23.400
the jaw, my ears, my nose, my eyes, my face,

704
00:55:24.639 --> 00:55:29.119
my scalp, and then I imagine it overflowing a little

705
00:55:29.119 --> 00:55:35.480
bit like a volcano but less hot, you know, healing

706
00:55:36.400 --> 00:55:40.760
and then overflowing so it's covered. It's you know, it's

707
00:55:40.800 --> 00:55:46.079
filled inside my body, and now it's overflowing to cover

708
00:55:46.159 --> 00:55:51.199
your skin. So now it's covering the outside of your

709
00:55:51.239 --> 00:56:00.239
body with this healing liquid energy. So that's the thing

710
00:56:00.280 --> 00:56:01.639
I do because it feels quite nice.

711
00:56:01.679 --> 00:56:02.280
I think.

712
00:56:03.920 --> 00:56:08.039
You've got a positive imagery that you can do. Encourage,

713
00:56:08.960 --> 00:56:12.280
you can envision, you can think about a place where

714
00:56:12.320 --> 00:56:18.639
you feel safe and comfortable. And I suppose it's not

715
00:56:18.760 --> 00:56:24.639
everybody's into visualization. I'm not great myself a visualization. I'm

716
00:56:24.679 --> 00:56:28.039
pretty good when I'm asleep. I'm good a lot of

717
00:56:28.039 --> 00:56:38.000
things on i'm asleep, especially sleeping. But you've got the ideas.

718
00:56:38.039 --> 00:56:41.360
You use as many senses as you can. So if

719
00:56:41.400 --> 00:56:48.800
it was, for example, laying next to a lake, maybe

720
00:56:48.800 --> 00:56:51.880
it's a place from the past that you loved that

721
00:56:51.960 --> 00:56:55.119
you used to lie down and feel so relaxed. So

722
00:56:55.159 --> 00:56:59.559
you can perhaps smell the air, smell the trees, the flowers,

723
00:57:00.159 --> 00:57:05.239
hear the lake gently tinkling by or whatever they do sprinkling,

724
00:57:06.599 --> 00:57:14.800
and maybe hear a cow in a field going, I

725
00:57:14.840 --> 00:57:19.440
don't know whatever sounds that you would hear, maybe another

726
00:57:19.559 --> 00:57:24.760
cow going mm hmmm, because it couldn't hear what the

727
00:57:24.800 --> 00:57:27.159
other one was saying because I'm talking too much and

728
00:57:27.199 --> 00:57:30.039
they can't hear over me. But you know, whatever it

729
00:57:30.039 --> 00:57:34.239
could be, you can imagine how it feels to have

730
00:57:34.639 --> 00:57:38.920
the ground support in your body, or maybe you're in

731
00:57:38.960 --> 00:57:44.199
a hammock or sitting in a chair in a that

732
00:57:44.239 --> 00:57:48.039
are like a beach bed thing whatever whatever it is

733
00:57:48.159 --> 00:57:54.280
that feels comfortable. And then maybe you can also have

734
00:57:54.440 --> 00:57:59.320
like all a taste. Maybe you can, because sometimes if

735
00:57:59.320 --> 00:58:02.239
you're in a beach, for example, you can maybe taste

736
00:58:02.360 --> 00:58:08.239
the salty air of the sea, and then you've got

737
00:58:08.280 --> 00:58:12.280
the feeling not just a feeling of being supported by

738
00:58:12.360 --> 00:58:16.239
the chair or the ground, but maybe the feeling of

739
00:58:16.960 --> 00:58:20.360
a breeze on your face or on your hands, on

740
00:58:20.440 --> 00:58:27.039
your body. So you know, it's kind of that's just

741
00:58:27.280 --> 00:58:34.920
an example. It could be anything, and it can be

742
00:58:34.960 --> 00:58:39.440
a way to let go and to feel comfort, because

743
00:58:40.679 --> 00:58:43.760
the good thing about it is you think you're kind

744
00:58:43.760 --> 00:58:48.800
of outside because you're imagining it, you start to feel

745
00:58:48.800 --> 00:58:56.199
it in your own body, and that comfort you're imagining,

746
00:58:59.159 --> 00:59:01.440
you're it's like you're your mind doesn't know the difference,

747
00:59:02.039 --> 00:59:06.320
or your brain doesn't know the difference, and you just

748
00:59:06.320 --> 00:59:12.000
feel relaxed. You've got positive injury, so I've got that.

749
00:59:12.000 --> 00:59:15.559
You've got mirror visualization, So I already kind of talked

750
00:59:15.599 --> 00:59:22.559
about that, but you could do it in a different way.

751
00:59:22.639 --> 00:59:25.239
You could actually imagine the mirror. I've done these kind

752
00:59:25.239 --> 00:59:31.639
of recordings before where you imagine yourself looking in the

753
00:59:31.679 --> 00:59:43.239
mirror and see yourself feeling really relaxed, really peaceful, and

754
00:59:43.400 --> 00:59:46.000
just notice how that feels as you look at yourself

755
00:59:46.679 --> 00:59:55.400
feeling really relaxed and really peaceful. And I've done like

756
00:59:55.519 --> 00:59:59.800
magic mirrors in the past. Word ask you to step

757
00:59:59.800 --> 01:00:05.239
in to that feeling experience again. So maybe it's a

758
01:00:05.239 --> 01:00:09.679
feeling for the past when you felt so relaxed and calm.

759
01:00:09.960 --> 01:00:14.679
Then you step in there and absorb and reexperience that

760
01:00:14.760 --> 01:00:22.559
feeling of calmness, looseness, and then you can step out again,

761
01:00:22.800 --> 01:00:26.320
but you can leave that old feeling that was there

762
01:00:26.360 --> 01:00:29.800
before you can leave that in the mirror and step out,

763
01:00:30.679 --> 01:00:35.639
just bringing the good feelings, just keeping the sense of comfort.

764
01:00:40.800 --> 01:00:43.480
So there's lots of different things you can do. So

765
01:00:43.599 --> 01:00:48.320
these are things you can do for yourself. Now, this

766
01:00:48.400 --> 01:00:57.639
session really is about sending healing to others, and I

767
01:00:57.679 --> 01:01:02.159
think it's there's different ways to look at this. I'm

768
01:01:02.199 --> 01:01:05.559
going to look at both the positive and the negatives

769
01:01:05.599 --> 01:01:09.920
of sending of the way we think towards other people,

770
01:01:10.679 --> 01:01:15.199
because both are valid, and the negative explains the positive

771
01:01:15.800 --> 01:01:23.480
in a way. It does that make sense. So our

772
01:01:23.599 --> 01:01:31.559
thoughts towards other people amplifies our own pain. Now, anyone

773
01:01:31.719 --> 01:01:35.119
can argue this, but this is fact. No one can

774
01:01:35.280 --> 01:01:38.639
really really argue. And I know some people that I'm

775
01:01:38.679 --> 01:01:41.159
never going to forgive the person. Why would I forgive

776
01:01:41.239 --> 01:01:45.599
someone for what they did? But the point of forgiveness

777
01:01:45.639 --> 01:01:51.400
is not to let them off. It's to help you.

778
01:01:53.480 --> 01:01:57.039
It's to let yourself off. It's not to release them,

779
01:01:57.079 --> 01:02:01.199
it's to release you. And I don't know if that's

780
01:02:01.239 --> 01:02:05.199
always explained, you know, like we need to forgive other

781
01:02:05.280 --> 01:02:10.000
people as forgive, and it can be a bit like

782
01:02:10.519 --> 01:02:16.559
just go away. Of course I'm not. It's almost as

783
01:02:16.639 --> 01:02:20.880
if they're being asked, well, by forgiving that person, I'm

784
01:02:20.960 --> 01:02:23.519
going to say that it's okay what they did, and

785
01:02:23.559 --> 01:02:29.159
it's never okay, and it isn't that Forgiving someone's not

786
01:02:29.199 --> 01:02:32.960
saying it's okay. Forgiving someone is not letting them off.

787
01:02:33.480 --> 01:02:39.719
It's not releasing them, it's releasing you. It's healing you.

788
01:02:41.920 --> 01:02:46.599
So that's an example where I'm going with this. This

789
01:02:46.679 --> 01:02:48.719
is I'm not going to focus much on the negative.

790
01:02:48.800 --> 01:02:53.280
But the fact is, if if we're angry towards someone,

791
01:02:55.760 --> 01:03:01.159
how does that feel for us? Because we're kind of

792
01:03:01.400 --> 01:03:05.079
when we think about someone and we're angry towards them,

793
01:03:05.559 --> 01:03:09.360
we're basically sending angry, negative energy to them in our

794
01:03:09.400 --> 01:03:13.559
minds and all it does is bounce off of them,

795
01:03:13.800 --> 01:03:21.239
comes back to us increased, it increases. And there's an

796
01:03:21.239 --> 01:03:24.320
old Buddhist or it might be zen or Buddhist term

797
01:03:24.880 --> 01:03:28.320
saying being angry. If someone is like someone chucking hot

798
01:03:28.360 --> 01:03:30.840
coals at you and you catch them in your hand,

799
01:03:33.280 --> 01:03:36.639
that's what anger's like. You're worse off than they will.

800
01:03:37.239 --> 01:03:40.559
You know, you're angry. They they got rid of the

801
01:03:40.599 --> 01:03:43.360
hot coal, you're still holding it and it's burning a

802
01:03:43.360 --> 01:03:49.719
hole in your hand. So someone chucks a hot coal

803
01:03:49.760 --> 01:03:55.079
at you, move out away. That's their stuff, isn't it.

804
01:03:55.119 --> 01:03:57.920
That's their anger, and you can let them keep it.

805
01:04:00.920 --> 01:04:06.760
There's another thing that is probably worth looking at, thinking about.

806
01:04:07.199 --> 01:04:09.199
And I spent a lot of time around people that

807
01:04:09.239 --> 01:04:15.360
were unwell and something I've noticed, I mean, talking is important.

808
01:04:16.559 --> 01:04:19.679
Talking is really important, having someone to talk to, to

809
01:04:19.800 --> 01:04:26.199
discuss things with, someone to be kind to you and

810
01:04:26.280 --> 01:04:33.119
to show consideration and love, someone to show caring. But

811
01:04:33.159 --> 01:04:37.559
there's also a level of it comes a time when

812
01:04:39.360 --> 01:04:42.480
when you look at the situation, how much time you

813
01:04:42.599 --> 01:04:47.000
spending or how much time is that person spending focusing

814
01:04:47.119 --> 01:04:55.360
on the negative wanting to tell everyone about it. And

815
01:04:56.320 --> 01:04:59.719
I don't know if you notice some people and again

816
01:04:59.760 --> 01:05:03.159
it's not a criticism really because they don't know what

817
01:05:03.199 --> 01:05:07.639
they're doing, but they talk in a way of they're

818
01:05:07.679 --> 01:05:15.760
explaining how they feel and explaining in graphic detail how

819
01:05:15.800 --> 01:05:20.440
awful they feel. And while they're saying it, they're saying,

820
01:05:21.000 --> 01:05:24.039
and you feel this, and then you feel this there,

821
01:05:24.320 --> 01:05:26.960
and then you feel that there, and then this happens

822
01:05:27.119 --> 01:05:29.599
and then you feel like this. They're using that word,

823
01:05:29.760 --> 01:05:32.599
you feel like this. As they're explaining how they feel

824
01:05:34.199 --> 01:05:37.880
and that's fine if I'm telling you about something really positive.

825
01:05:39.760 --> 01:05:43.159
If I want you to feel really relaxed and to

826
01:05:43.199 --> 01:05:47.280
feel really calm, I can tell you about something that

827
01:05:47.400 --> 01:05:51.840
happened where I felt really calm and relaxed and peaceful,

828
01:05:52.440 --> 01:05:54.559
and I can talk to you about how it felt,

829
01:05:54.920 --> 01:05:59.880
because you know I was lying lying on this. Something happened. Actually,

830
01:06:01.239 --> 01:06:04.559
it was during quite a weird period. I was kicked

831
01:06:04.559 --> 01:06:06.039
out of where I was living. What I had to

832
01:06:06.039 --> 01:06:09.119
find someone new to live. It was a student accommodation,

833
01:06:09.320 --> 01:06:13.800
so to be fair, I had finished college seventeen years earlier.

834
01:06:14.320 --> 01:06:20.920
But it was getting a little bit too much, and

835
01:06:20.960 --> 01:06:23.639
I sat down on his chair that reclined a little bit.

836
01:06:24.000 --> 01:06:26.159
This was in the counseling office that I used to work,

837
01:06:27.920 --> 01:06:34.280
and every muscle in my body relaxed. So if i'd

838
01:06:34.280 --> 01:06:36.599
explain this to you for you to have this feeling,

839
01:06:37.280 --> 01:06:44.599
I'd go through like every it was like your shoulders relaxed, Yeah,

840
01:06:45.039 --> 01:06:50.159
your hands relaxed. It's like explaining to you how to

841
01:06:50.360 --> 01:06:54.920
do it. But when someone's ill, you don't want them

842
01:06:54.920 --> 01:06:57.800
to explain to you how to be that way, Or

843
01:06:57.800 --> 01:07:01.079
when someone's going through physical comfort, we don't want to

844
01:07:01.079 --> 01:07:05.840
hear how to do it, even though they're not really

845
01:07:05.880 --> 01:07:09.880
trying to tell people how to do it, So it

846
01:07:09.960 --> 01:07:14.320
might be useful just to notice. I try and notice

847
01:07:14.360 --> 01:07:16.840
if I ever do that, which I'm sure I do,

848
01:07:19.039 --> 01:07:23.559
and I try and change it in the same way.

849
01:07:23.800 --> 01:07:26.920
Even just by talking about how it felt for me,

850
01:07:27.920 --> 01:07:31.960
it still can have an effect on you or the listener.

851
01:07:32.880 --> 01:07:37.480
If I'm talking about how just relax in my back,

852
01:07:38.079 --> 01:07:43.559
my shoulders, my hands felt heavy but almost light at

853
01:07:43.559 --> 01:07:49.480
the same time, and it kind of was just weird

854
01:07:49.559 --> 01:07:56.440
how when my hands felt relaxed and heavy, my feet

855
01:07:56.559 --> 01:08:01.880
seemed to copy. And then for some reason, I notice

856
01:08:01.960 --> 01:08:08.800
my eyes and my eyes for some reason, when my

857
01:08:08.880 --> 01:08:15.719
eyes are relaxed, my jaw becomes relaxed. And when I

858
01:08:15.960 --> 01:08:18.600
raise my eyebrows with my eyes closed and look up,

859
01:08:20.319 --> 01:08:24.800
there's a certain feeling I get, almost like being in

860
01:08:24.840 --> 01:08:31.640
a bubble of safety where no physical feeling touches me.

861
01:08:32.920 --> 01:08:37.600
It's just comfort. It's almost like being in some kind

862
01:08:37.640 --> 01:08:49.359
of imaginary safe womb, completely safe everything I need, peaceful,

863
01:08:50.760 --> 01:08:53.159
don't have to do anything, don't have to say anything,

864
01:08:55.000 --> 01:09:06.159
don't have to think about anything, really peaceful place. Okay,

865
01:09:06.199 --> 01:09:09.239
I just heard the biggest yawn in the world from downstairs.

866
01:09:10.479 --> 01:09:14.119
Maybe she's listening to me. Maybe I'm talking too loudly.

867
01:09:14.199 --> 01:09:20.279
I'll send her to sleep. So these things, by sending

868
01:09:21.239 --> 01:09:25.760
thinking angrily or thinking negatively towards someone has an effect

869
01:09:25.880 --> 01:09:39.640
on us. So if that's the case, then obviously thinking

870
01:09:39.800 --> 01:09:48.319
positively has the opposite effect. According to this, I found

871
01:09:48.319 --> 01:09:50.720
a two thousand and one study in the Journal of

872
01:09:50.880 --> 01:09:57.960
Behavioral Medicine showed that people who practice forgiveness had lower

873
01:09:57.960 --> 01:10:02.239
blood pressure, heart rate, and parted less pain than those

874
01:10:02.359 --> 01:10:08.880
who were held onto resentment. Again, I mean, I'm pretty

875
01:10:08.880 --> 01:10:12.199
because I'm so so old. I've met a lot of

876
01:10:12.239 --> 01:10:19.079
people full of resentment. It seems they're not happy, and

877
01:10:19.199 --> 01:10:22.439
the resentment doesn't give them anything. There's no there's no

878
01:10:22.560 --> 01:10:27.760
upside to it, there's no benefit to it. Pride, maybe

879
01:10:28.760 --> 01:10:32.800
I will not forgive. Yeah, but if the forgiveness isn't

880
01:10:32.840 --> 01:10:38.000
for the other person, it's for you. Really isn't for them,

881
01:10:38.279 --> 01:10:47.960
it's for you, And negativity it traps us. We keep

882
01:10:48.000 --> 01:10:53.159
ourselves If you if you're focus on replaying arguments, wishing

883
01:10:53.199 --> 01:10:57.279
them harm, blaming them, all that stuff, we keep ourselves

884
01:10:57.319 --> 01:11:03.359
locked into that feeling. Flip at the other side, sending

885
01:11:03.399 --> 01:11:12.520
people kindness, wishing people well, sending healing, it freezes us.

886
01:11:12.560 --> 01:11:14.960
But if it was to lock us into anything, or

887
01:11:15.000 --> 01:11:23.920
lock us into feeling, what would that feeling be, positivity, feeling, kindness, healing.

888
01:11:26.800 --> 01:11:31.600
It's quite weird, though you think about it, is to

889
01:11:31.680 --> 01:11:33.800
be able to still be angry about something that happened

890
01:11:33.840 --> 01:11:39.279
such a long time ago, holding us back. What's the

891
01:11:39.319 --> 01:11:45.239
point in that, you know, it increases it just it

892
01:11:45.279 --> 01:11:50.239
makes everything worse. So that's why I'm focusing on the

893
01:11:50.239 --> 01:11:55.000
opposite of that. But I thought I just mentioned the

894
01:11:52.960 --> 01:11:57.239
the negative side just so we can kind of get

895
01:11:57.239 --> 01:12:02.439
more of a grip on the positive side, because even

896
01:12:02.479 --> 01:12:11.680
though it's obvious, I think it's sometimes useful to say.

897
01:12:12.319 --> 01:12:18.000
So you can send, imagine sending healing to somebody, doesn't

898
01:12:18.000 --> 01:12:21.800
matter if they need it. I would argue that everybody

899
01:12:21.960 --> 01:12:24.479
could do with some healing. There's no one in the

900
01:12:24.520 --> 01:12:26.439
world that would like turn down a bit of healing,

901
01:12:26.479 --> 01:12:29.479
a bit of love, bit of kindness, whether they know

902
01:12:29.560 --> 01:12:33.800
it or not. I think everybody could use that from

903
01:12:33.840 --> 01:12:41.840
all around the world. And you can send healing in

904
01:12:41.920 --> 01:12:45.600
your mind to anybody. It can be someone that you know,

905
01:12:46.159 --> 01:12:48.119
it could be someone that you love deeply. It could

906
01:12:48.159 --> 01:12:51.600
be someone that you don't know at all. He's someone

907
01:12:51.680 --> 01:12:57.680
the complete stranger. It doesn't really matter. So there's different

908
01:12:57.720 --> 01:13:03.560
ways you can send the healing. You just imagine it.

909
01:13:05.680 --> 01:13:09.000
You can take a breath in, filling yourself with calmness

910
01:13:09.000 --> 01:13:14.520
and relaxation as you excel, imagine sending that calm breath

911
01:13:14.560 --> 01:13:20.399
towards the other person that you're imagining. So each in

912
01:13:20.600 --> 01:13:26.239
how every time you breathe in it can recharge you

913
01:13:27.520 --> 01:13:35.800
with more of that sense of peace, more of that

914
01:13:36.000 --> 01:13:40.000
sense of calmness, more of that sense of healing, And

915
01:13:40.079 --> 01:13:42.560
every time you breathe out, you send it out again,

916
01:13:44.079 --> 01:13:45.720
And you can keep doing that for as long as

917
01:13:45.720 --> 01:13:52.720
you want. You could, technically, I suppose, do it all

918
01:13:52.760 --> 01:13:57.319
the time, but then not choose a particular person, just

919
01:13:57.319 --> 01:14:02.640
to let that healing with every exhale just spread to

920
01:14:02.720 --> 01:14:12.039
anyone and everyone whoever needs it. You can do a

921
01:14:12.079 --> 01:14:14.359
thing as well, where you can loosen your own body

922
01:14:14.399 --> 01:14:18.720
with each breath, so when you breathe in the healing,

923
01:14:21.520 --> 01:14:27.039
it moves into your body because in the same way, ironically,

924
01:14:27.560 --> 01:14:30.199
the same way that when you send out anger to someone,

925
01:14:30.439 --> 01:14:34.640
you get it back and it's stronger the anger is

926
01:14:34.680 --> 01:14:46.760
stronger the same as with the healing. You send out love, healing, respect, kindness, comfort, relaxation, peacefulness.

927
01:14:47.079 --> 01:14:52.640
You send that energy out, it doesn't bounce off the person.

928
01:14:53.439 --> 01:14:56.880
They absorb it, but it also comes back to you

929
01:14:59.279 --> 01:15:04.560
and it turns in to this continuous back and forth

930
01:15:04.920 --> 01:15:09.239
of healing and comfort. And the more you send, the

931
01:15:09.239 --> 01:15:15.399
more you get back, because it just grows, just the

932
01:15:15.399 --> 01:15:21.479
way the anger can grow, Resentment can grow, healing can grow,

933
01:15:23.359 --> 01:15:32.039
Peacefulness grows, peacefulness, just thorenity, whatever words you want to use. Really,

934
01:15:32.920 --> 01:15:35.600
and it's something I used to like to do. If

935
01:15:35.640 --> 01:15:39.960
you can hear the screeching in the garden, bliss them,

936
01:15:40.079 --> 01:15:43.720
I'm going to send peace and love. It worked, they've

937
01:15:43.760 --> 01:15:47.279
gone away. So I used to do this on a

938
01:15:47.359 --> 01:15:52.279
bus well, I would imagine that, do you know sprinklers,

939
01:15:52.319 --> 01:15:54.600
like if there was I guess a fire or whatever,

940
01:15:54.960 --> 01:15:56.840
or if you put little light and there were a sprinkler,

941
01:15:56.880 --> 01:15:59.479
which I set it off of the whole bus. Maybe

942
01:16:00.199 --> 01:16:05.239
I used to imagine that sprinkler was be sprinkling and

943
01:16:05.319 --> 01:16:10.520
invisible sprinklers of healing would spray over everybody on the

944
01:16:10.560 --> 01:16:17.640
bus and completely just cover them with healing, with peace,

945
01:16:18.439 --> 01:16:26.279
with relaxation, and it was weird because people seemed to

946
01:16:26.279 --> 01:16:28.439
go quiet when I did it. I'm not saying this

947
01:16:28.479 --> 01:16:30.880
for any reason. It might be more to do with

948
01:16:30.920 --> 01:16:33.840
the fact that I just farted and no one else

949
01:16:33.880 --> 01:16:36.159
wanted to be blamed for it. I don't know, but

950
01:16:38.479 --> 01:16:41.039
it felt good to me. I'm not just letting the air,

951
01:16:41.119 --> 01:16:47.359
letting the gas out, but imagining that the healing was spreading. Yeah,

952
01:16:47.399 --> 01:16:49.680
the bus driver went around and opened all the windows.

953
01:16:52.319 --> 01:16:55.000
You could also picture writing a letter of card or

954
01:16:55.039 --> 01:16:58.399
a card in your mind full of kind, healing words.

955
01:16:59.399 --> 01:17:02.359
Now I've done this years ago. I was really going

956
01:17:02.399 --> 01:17:05.359
for a difficult time, and I wrote a letter to

957
01:17:05.479 --> 01:17:08.880
the person, not just telling them how I felt, but

958
01:17:08.920 --> 01:17:15.079
also kindness as well. It helped, really helped. But imagine

959
01:17:15.119 --> 01:17:17.880
sending a letteral card in your mind, full of kind,

960
01:17:17.960 --> 01:17:21.920
healing words to someone that could be anyone, doesn't matter

961
01:17:21.920 --> 01:17:25.319
who it is, but you seal it in an imaginary

962
01:17:25.399 --> 01:17:27.640
envelope and you mail it through the air to them.

963
01:17:28.520 --> 01:17:30.520
You don't have to know the exact words. It can

964
01:17:30.600 --> 01:17:33.359
just be a feeling. You just put a feeling in

965
01:17:33.359 --> 01:17:38.800
that envelope, sending the feeling of comfort, just trusting it.

966
01:17:41.039 --> 01:17:43.039
But as you send it off, you can feel a

967
01:17:43.119 --> 01:17:47.399
lightness in your body. There's so many different things. You

968
01:17:47.439 --> 01:17:50.319
can hold them in a healing bubble, which kind of

969
01:17:50.439 --> 01:17:53.279
like you know when we're looking up with your eyebrows

970
01:17:53.479 --> 01:17:56.880
vison and you can look up into that healing bubble,

971
01:17:57.119 --> 01:18:02.720
maybe join them, maybe have them join you peacefulness, or

972
01:18:02.760 --> 01:18:11.319
maybe just imagine they're in their own healing bubble, just

973
01:18:11.359 --> 01:18:20.560
giving them some space to calm, feel relaxed. Also, remember

974
01:18:20.680 --> 01:18:23.720
that we're all sharing the same oxygen, the same breath,

975
01:18:24.600 --> 01:18:29.199
we're really sharing the same air, and we are all

976
01:18:29.239 --> 01:18:33.680
connected by energy, so we can choose whether it's positive

977
01:18:34.439 --> 01:18:38.319
energy or otherwise. I'd go for the positive. It makes

978
01:18:38.399 --> 01:18:43.000
more sense. And the more kindness, the more relaxation, the

979
01:18:43.000 --> 01:18:46.760
more healing you send out, the better that you feel.

980
01:18:48.720 --> 01:18:53.920
There's little, tiny little things you can do. Just smiling

981
01:18:54.000 --> 01:18:57.840
gently when you're thinking of a person, even if it's

982
01:18:57.920 --> 01:19:00.640
just in your own mind, just thinking kind be towards

983
01:19:00.640 --> 01:19:12.319
someone can help you feel better. Sometimes Whispering kind words,

984
01:19:13.159 --> 01:19:20.960
just like things like comfort or feeling relaxed, because that

985
01:19:21.039 --> 01:19:22.880
goes both ways. It can go to them, it can

986
01:19:22.920 --> 01:19:30.479
go to you. Just whispering those words you don't have

987
01:19:30.520 --> 01:19:34.000
to believe anything mystical. Just allowing your mind to care

988
01:19:34.840 --> 01:19:41.279
can activate deep, deep biological shifts really can affect you

989
01:19:41.920 --> 01:19:48.600
in a really big way. Positive and sending the healing,

990
01:19:48.800 --> 01:19:52.239
it's not about fixing the person. It's not about anything

991
01:19:52.279 --> 01:19:55.600
like that. It's just simply offering space for positivity and

992
01:19:55.680 --> 01:19:59.000
renewal for them and for you, knowing that that will

993
01:19:59.000 --> 01:20:04.720
come back. Doing it for that reason giving, not wanting

994
01:20:04.720 --> 01:20:08.680
anything in return giving, But the fact is it does

995
01:20:08.760 --> 01:20:16.439
come back. And also kind imagination. It changes body chemistry,

996
01:20:16.600 --> 01:20:21.079
leading to lower physical perception so you feel better, It

997
01:20:21.079 --> 01:20:30.960
improves your immune responses and better overall well being. So

998
01:20:31.600 --> 01:20:33.800
positive I mean, you know, you could say, well, this

999
01:20:33.880 --> 01:20:37.439
is just about positive thinking, but it's much much more

1000
01:20:37.479 --> 01:20:41.359
than that, much much more than that. And it's not

1001
01:20:41.399 --> 01:20:45.720
about pretending. You know, you're not trying to force yourself

1002
01:20:45.760 --> 01:20:48.039
to love everyone. You don't have to like them or

1003
01:20:48.079 --> 01:20:52.960
forgive everything they've done. It's about choosing what you carry

1004
01:20:53.079 --> 01:20:57.520
inside you. And when you send a healing, you're not

1005
01:20:57.600 --> 01:21:00.159
letting them off the hook. Like I said earlier, you're

1006
01:21:00.279 --> 01:21:10.079
unhooking yourself from the suffering. So ultimately, sending healing isn't

1007
01:21:10.159 --> 01:21:13.520
just a gift to them, it's a gift you give

1008
01:21:13.600 --> 01:21:19.039
to yourself a softer body, a calmer mind, and a

1009
01:21:19.119 --> 01:21:24.560
heart free enough to finally maybe just hurt a little less,

1010
01:21:25.560 --> 01:21:31.800
feel more calm, feel more relaxed, allow your body to

1011
01:21:31.920 --> 01:21:39.000
also improve. So thank you for listening. Remember to be

1012
01:21:39.199 --> 01:21:42.239
kind to yourself, because you do deserve to be happy

1013
01:21:43.439 --> 01:21:49.479
and be gentle with yourself. You deserve to feel safe.

1014
01:21:50.079 --> 01:22:04.640
Lots of love. Bye. Relax in a more deep and

1015
01:22:08.479 --> 01:22:15.840
meaningful way, maybe in a way that can not just

1016
01:22:16.159 --> 01:22:26.239
allow you to feel calmer now and throughout the time

1017
01:22:26.920 --> 01:22:35.279
we spend together here, not just relaxed at the end

1018
01:22:35.319 --> 01:22:39.760
of the recording when it's finished and you can enjoy

1019
01:22:39.960 --> 01:22:57.359
that sense of comfort and peace, but also I think

1020
01:22:57.399 --> 01:23:08.600
it would be nice to have those feelings of relaxation

1021
01:23:10.920 --> 01:23:25.159
continue for longer after the recording has ended, so that

1022
01:23:25.279 --> 01:23:37.760
you can still benefit from listening to my voice, maybe

1023
01:23:37.800 --> 01:23:49.159
in a few hours time, perhaps tomorrow, and then by

1024
01:23:49.279 --> 01:23:57.239
listening regularly, especially if you find like some people do,

1025
01:23:57.600 --> 01:24:02.079
and myself as well. Sometimes I've find one particular recording

1026
01:24:02.760 --> 01:24:11.600
that really resonates with me, and I just listened to

1027
01:24:11.640 --> 01:24:24.600
it over and over again every morning, every evening. There

1028
01:24:24.640 --> 01:24:29.640
was this recording from We're going back to about nineteen

1029
01:24:29.720 --> 01:24:37.479
ninety nine. It wasn't hypnosis, but it was a guided visualizations.

1030
01:24:37.600 --> 01:24:44.600
It kind of was hypnosis, really, and I managed to

1031
01:24:44.640 --> 01:24:48.159
find it again and it still has the same effect

1032
01:24:48.680 --> 01:25:00.199
on me. And part of it was the person's voice

1033
01:25:00.720 --> 01:25:10.279
relaxed me. She just felt so peaceful, and I'd look

1034
01:25:10.479 --> 01:25:17.439
forward to listening to her in the morning and in

1035
01:25:17.520 --> 01:25:28.800
the evening, and I knew before even pressing the play

1036
01:25:28.840 --> 01:25:37.000
button that since I've done that, pressed the play button.

1037
01:25:37.800 --> 01:25:48.760
This was in the days of CD players pressed the

1038
01:25:48.840 --> 01:25:54.199
play button. In fact, it might have even been a

1039
01:25:54.239 --> 01:25:58.800
tape tape recorder. I'd lie down on the bed and

1040
01:25:58.840 --> 01:26:17.319
then even without necessarily listening to her words because I

1041
01:26:17.399 --> 01:26:24.880
had them memorized. Really, it was as if my body

1042
01:26:26.800 --> 01:26:40.239
knew exactly what to do, and the muscles just almost

1043
01:26:40.319 --> 01:27:00.760
went into automatic relaxation, and I remember my mind would

1044
01:27:00.760 --> 01:27:01.399
slow down.

1045
01:27:07.000 --> 01:27:07.439
Now.

1046
01:27:09.399 --> 01:27:16.079
Now, I was listening to this recording in the early

1047
01:27:16.199 --> 01:27:21.960
days of learning hypnosis, and long before.

1048
01:27:23.159 --> 01:27:25.119
I ever made any.

1049
01:27:26.720 --> 01:27:32.159
Videos or audio recordings myself, because I didn't start doing

1050
01:27:32.199 --> 01:27:45.720
that till two thousand and six, but I knew, I

1051
01:27:45.800 --> 01:27:59.319
knew how helpful I found being able to just let go,

1052
01:28:02.319 --> 01:28:07.720
to have that trust in the person that I'm listening to,

1053
01:28:15.399 --> 01:28:23.479
knowing that it's going to be just as relaxing, if

1054
01:28:23.560 --> 01:28:32.960
not more so. Each time you hear my voice, you

1055
01:28:33.000 --> 01:28:41.560
may feel the same. Some people.

1056
01:28:43.640 --> 01:29:02.960
Have been listening to me for over a decade.

1057
01:28:55.680 --> 01:29:00.359
Maybe not solidly, obviously not twenty four hours a day,

1058
01:29:01.479 --> 01:29:09.720
but maybe people come back. Some people maybe listen every day.

1059
01:29:19.720 --> 01:29:25.680
That's something that I do which you may not realize

1060
01:29:28.119 --> 01:29:46.680
by listening, is when I record these recordings. Now, for example,

1061
01:29:51.239 --> 01:29:59.000
I also am affected by the words that I say.

1062
01:30:04.279 --> 01:30:13.640
So if I set you focus on your feet, notice

1063
01:30:13.720 --> 01:30:20.920
your feet relaxing, I will be focusing on my feet.

1064
01:30:25.840 --> 01:30:43.239
I will be noticing my feet relaxing. If I said,

1065
01:30:43.359 --> 01:30:51.039
focus on your hands, and maybe notice the difference between

1066
01:30:51.079 --> 01:31:01.920
each hand, perhaps notice the the in the room, a

1067
01:31:02.039 --> 01:31:06.680
temperature of the room. On the backs of your hands,

1068
01:31:14.479 --> 01:31:18.399
you may start to notice what almost feels like a

1069
01:31:18.520 --> 01:31:26.600
very light breeze, even though there may not be any

1070
01:31:26.960 --> 01:31:31.880
type of breeze at all where you are right now.

1071
01:31:40.079 --> 01:31:50.680
And as you become aware of your hands, I'm also

1072
01:31:51.039 --> 01:32:19.239
aware of how relaxed my hands our feeling now and

1073
01:32:19.399 --> 01:32:26.319
when it comes to potentially drifting off to sleep, which

1074
01:32:26.399 --> 01:32:40.479
may be the reason you're listening. I also feel drowsy

1075
01:32:42.760 --> 01:32:54.880
when I make these recordings. I also notice.

1076
01:32:52.960 --> 01:32:54.520
My mind.

1077
01:32:55.720 --> 01:32:56.239
Drifting.

1078
01:33:04.159 --> 01:33:16.760
In fact, at times I've actually fallen asleep without even noticing,

1079
01:33:21.600 --> 01:33:30.760
and then I carry on talking. And it's only when

1080
01:33:31.039 --> 01:33:40.159
I listen back to do the editing I hear snoring,

1081
01:33:42.039 --> 01:33:49.359
and I think, I don't remember snoring. I remember talking.

1082
01:33:52.199 --> 01:33:59.399
This snoring was a pig turned up. That's why I

1083
01:33:59.479 --> 01:34:07.600
sound like when I snore. How I get read into

1084
01:34:07.680 --> 01:34:27.039
the whole experience. I don't know how you feel. How

1085
01:34:27.159 --> 01:34:34.119
relaxed do you feel in your feet, how relaxed.

1086
01:34:37.279 --> 01:34:39.119
You feel in your hands.

1087
01:34:54.199 --> 01:35:06.399
I have noticed more and more that the more relaxed,

1088
01:35:08.159 --> 01:35:24.000
deeper level of comfort you feel, the easier your breathing becomes.

1089
01:35:30.560 --> 01:35:47.199
It's almost like that additional muscle relaxation. So this allows

1090
01:35:47.279 --> 01:36:18.359
you to breathe easier mhmm, without necessarily focusing on your breath. However,

1091
01:36:18.600 --> 01:36:35.560
being able to notice the ease.

1092
01:36:38.520 --> 01:36:39.359
In which.

1093
01:36:46.640 --> 01:37:09.319
You breathe so naturally, you breathe so very easily and smoothly.

1094
01:37:37.000 --> 01:37:55.880
Whenever I imagine my breathing improving. When I've got my eyes closed,

1095
01:38:01.880 --> 01:38:14.760
I tend to visualize a beautiful field with trees and

1096
01:38:15.000 --> 01:38:48.560
flowers producing all that life giving oxygen, and it feels

1097
01:38:48.680 --> 01:39:10.439
nice too, if nothing else, just taking some time away

1098
01:39:15.159 --> 01:39:58.439
from everything, enjoying that feeling of peace, serenity with a

1099
01:39:58.800 --> 01:40:50.720
joyful heart. Time seems to just drip by, so very slowly, relaxed,

1100
01:40:56.600 --> 01:41:35.720
so deeply, peaceful, completely unattached to any thoughts whatsoever in

1101
01:41:35.880 --> 01:42:40.279
this moment, completely free, noticing that your mind has slowed down.

1102
01:42:48.560 --> 01:43:35.279
Slowed down because nothing really requires your attention. You can

1103
01:43:35.520 --> 01:43:51.640
enjoy the physical sensations of allowing the stress to dirip

1104
01:43:52.399 --> 01:44:12.199
out of your body, repairing out of every part of

1105
01:44:12.399 --> 01:44:36.920
your body and being released from your brain. Leange your

1106
01:44:37.039 --> 01:45:11.479
mind slowly but surely. The muscles in your.

1107
01:45:11.560 --> 01:45:45.560
Legs relax ras res so.

1108
01:45:45.920 --> 01:46:26.800
Very deep, relax so deeply. And the feelings, the pleasant

1109
01:46:27.000 --> 01:46:51.880
feelings in your arms and shoulders, deepening each part of

1110
01:46:51.880 --> 01:47:03.199
your body further mm hm and deeper.

1111
01:47:13.239 --> 01:47:28.760
And deeper, not.

1112
01:47:28.960 --> 01:47:35.199
To sin, the feelings in the back of your neck,

1113
01:47:58.319 --> 01:48:37.760
the feelings in your roosts, muscles in front of your body,

1114
01:48:48.119 --> 01:49:31.600
I will say, feeling pace deep. There's a sense of

1115
01:49:31.880 --> 01:49:40.840
pace spreads through your very core.

1116
01:50:11.399 --> 01:50:32.000
Even when you focus on your mind, your mind becomes.

1117
01:50:38.600 --> 01:52:01.479
Be and slower, even deeper, relax a fairy slow, your stomach,

1118
01:52:15.600 --> 01:52:58.640
peacefull in your stomach, held back. Notice, Notice how relaxed

1119
01:53:03.000 --> 01:53:41.039
you now feel in the hole of your back, in

1120
01:53:41.079 --> 01:53:50.119
a spy from your brain all the way down the

1121
01:53:50.159 --> 01:54:00.960
middle of your back, sending and receiving millions of messages

1122
01:54:01.600 --> 01:55:28.439
every day, deep comfort, increasing deeply relaxed, your knees, reles,

1123
01:55:31.960 --> 01:55:41.119
spreading those signals down your spine or cord into air,

1124
01:55:41.479 --> 01:55:59.920
every part of your body, your sins and your cor

1125
01:56:00.079 --> 01:56:55.800
off muscles, your elbows, Feelings of peace and tranquility spreading

1126
01:56:56.560 --> 01:57:09.039
through your body, tips of your toes, to your eyes,

1127
01:57:13.439 --> 01:57:37.880
your fingers, all the wait till you'll know it. Back lettinger, retinker.

1128
01:58:04.279 --> 01:58:05.159
Pace.

1129
01:58:20.439 --> 01:58:21.199
To drift in.

1130
01:58:28.640 --> 01:58:47.159
Mind, just wander in a way happy to let go,

1131
01:58:50.359 --> 01:59:51.680
let go completely, let go, so tranquil you, oh body,

1132
01:59:56.000 --> 02:00:24.439
enjoying a sense listening God.

1133
02:00:26.640 --> 02:00:28.840
He nore.

1134
02:01:36.800 --> 02:02:23.039
Hey, enjoy the space, this space.

1135
02:02:25.520 --> 02:02:26.680
Of peace.

1136
02:02:29.800 --> 02:04:33.479
And safety, so very letting go.

1137
02:04:51.399 --> 02:04:52.880
Maybe we can just.

1138
02:04:55.680 --> 02:05:04.520
Focus on the different parts of your body, just to

1139
02:05:04.800 --> 02:06:33.640
notice you forehead and your eyes mutual, so loose, noticing

1140
02:06:33.680 --> 02:07:53.479
in the sense of complete freedom, absolute freedom day day

1141
02:08:05.840 --> 02:08:49.239
peace form energy, pace to breeze so much.

1142
02:08:49.159 --> 02:09:53.960
Ease ye lows. You may.

1143
02:09:57.760 --> 02:10:57.600
Or may not have noticed your mind drifting peaceful more,

1144
02:10:58.119 --> 02:11:12.600
an even more deep play in the direction of total

1145
02:11:17.239 --> 02:13:14.239
blissful pace blisphul pace directed to pace Colm so calm,

1146
02:13:26.079 --> 02:14:37.680
let him go, peace of mind re boty s rex ciryx.

1147
02:15:02.399 --> 02:15:25.520
A body feels almost invisible, so very relaxed.

1148
02:15:28.199 --> 02:15:35.680
And peaceful, So.

1149
02:15:43.359 --> 02:16:00.439
Pacem uh.

1150
02:16:07.319 --> 02:16:07.960
Let go.

1151
02:16:24.039 --> 02:16:47.239
So so And you could start to notice that you

1152
02:16:48.719 --> 02:16:59.959
are feeling more relaxed, even though I've not purposely focused

1153
02:17:00.159 --> 02:17:08.360
to your mind upon that sense of physical comfort that

1154
02:17:08.479 --> 02:17:15.840
is growing within you throughout your body, and your mind.

1155
02:17:17.600 --> 02:17:18.920
Starts to slow down.

1156
02:17:23.840 --> 02:17:31.079
And that could be almost in recognition of I guess

1157
02:17:31.440 --> 02:17:43.959
my speech not being particularly fast, and things just generally

1158
02:17:45.600 --> 02:17:56.639
feel calmer. Just by listening to my voice, you give

1159
02:17:56.680 --> 02:18:03.600
yourself an opportunity to take a break from the day,

1160
02:18:05.760 --> 02:18:13.280
take a break from your life as it is, and

1161
02:18:13.360 --> 02:18:21.159
to give yourself a rest, giving yourself permission to take

1162
02:18:21.239 --> 02:18:26.799
some time off and to allow your body to relax

1163
02:18:28.479 --> 02:18:36.680
and allow your mind to slow down, which in turn

1164
02:18:39.040 --> 02:18:48.120
releases the tension any stresses that you had in your body.

1165
02:18:50.600 --> 02:18:54.520
It's almost as if the parts of your body just

1166
02:18:54.799 --> 02:19:06.520
open up, allowing the negativity out and at the same

1167
02:19:06.600 --> 02:19:17.920
time replacing that negativity with positive healing energy, which then

1168
02:19:18.079 --> 02:19:27.360
fills your body up and your mind to also starts

1169
02:19:27.399 --> 02:19:42.559
to appreciate those feelings of increasing confidence and an almost

1170
02:19:43.200 --> 02:19:59.440
uplifting feeling, positive healing, an energy that spreads through your

1171
02:19:59.479 --> 02:20:10.719
body like a wave of comfort. And all this comes

1172
02:20:10.799 --> 02:20:22.879
from just allowing yourself a few minutes, maybe half an hour,

1173
02:20:23.319 --> 02:20:28.799
however long you want it to be, to just rest

1174
02:20:33.440 --> 02:20:42.319
and allow your mind and your body to almost reset

1175
02:20:43.000 --> 02:21:01.680
itself to the settings of comfort and relaxation, calmness, which

1176
02:21:01.719 --> 02:21:14.879
allows more room for feelings of pleasure and happiness to

1177
02:21:15.159 --> 02:21:24.600
move around your body and into your mind, almost as

1178
02:21:24.600 --> 02:21:33.760
if your mind and your body are sinking together, almost

1179
02:21:34.079 --> 02:21:48.120
mirroring each other with that growing positivity and calmness. And

1180
02:21:48.200 --> 02:21:56.040
it feels nice, really does feel nice to know that

1181
02:21:56.120 --> 02:22:05.319
you are the one that has allowed yourself to feel

1182
02:22:05.760 --> 02:22:14.079
more comfort and to experience.

1183
02:22:15.680 --> 02:22:17.079
More of this.

1184
02:22:18.600 --> 02:22:34.280
Deep relaxation spreading throughout your body. And as I focus

1185
02:22:35.360 --> 02:22:41.559
on each part of your body, you can notice that.

1186
02:22:41.319 --> 02:22:42.280
That part.

1187
02:22:46.000 --> 02:22:59.200
Becomes even more relaxed just by focusing on it, becomes

1188
02:22:59.360 --> 02:23:12.200
even more or calm and comfortable, just by focusing, and

1189
02:23:12.360 --> 02:23:17.879
as I move down your body, starting at your head,

1190
02:23:20.559 --> 02:23:25.879
the parts that you have already focused on will continue

1191
02:23:27.200 --> 02:23:34.360
to relax deeply, and those parts that have not yet

1192
02:23:34.520 --> 02:23:47.399
focused on or just automatically release any remain intention in

1193
02:23:47.559 --> 02:23:51.920
anticipation of even more comfort.

1194
02:23:52.680 --> 02:23:53.559
About to come.

1195
02:23:59.040 --> 02:24:05.479
Now, I'm going to start by focusing on your forehead.

1196
02:24:07.760 --> 02:24:12.920
Just being aware of the feelings of your forehead.

1197
02:24:16.120 --> 02:24:16.639
And then your.

1198
02:24:16.559 --> 02:24:24.079
Background sounds like mister Herbert the Pigeon can just allow

1199
02:24:24.159 --> 02:24:31.319
you to feel even more relaxed. Just means you're in

1200
02:24:31.399 --> 02:24:39.479
the moment. This isn't this isn't a sterile environment. This

1201
02:24:39.639 --> 02:24:47.479
is the world. I live in the countryside, so there's

1202
02:24:47.559 --> 02:24:57.959
lots of nature sounds around. So as you focus on

1203
02:24:58.000 --> 02:25:04.840
your forehead, just notice how it becomes even.

1204
02:25:04.600 --> 02:25:06.319
More relaxed as you.

1205
02:25:08.440 --> 02:25:17.520
Focus only on my voice and that part of your body.

1206
02:25:20.879 --> 02:25:29.200
Moving down to your eyes, focusing on your eyes, noticing

1207
02:25:31.639 --> 02:25:41.360
how your eyelids feel so heavy yet so light at

1208
02:25:41.399 --> 02:25:49.399
the same time, and all the muscles around your eyes relaxing.

1209
02:25:50.680 --> 02:25:51.360
Completely.

1210
02:25:56.040 --> 02:26:03.719
Moving your focus down to your mouth, your lips, your tongue,

1211
02:26:04.920 --> 02:26:13.639
your teeth, your comes, the whole of your mouth, relaxing.

1212
02:26:16.319 --> 02:26:19.120
Calm and lease.

1213
02:26:23.319 --> 02:26:31.120
If you focus now on your jaw, not just the

1214
02:26:31.239 --> 02:26:36.440
parts of your journey, your mouth, your chin, but all

1215
02:26:36.479 --> 02:26:41.079
the way up the size of your face to your ears,

1216
02:26:43.239 --> 02:26:55.040
the hole of your jaw, feeding more relaxed.

1217
02:26:58.760 --> 02:27:06.879
Calm.

1218
02:27:07.319 --> 02:27:16.479
Focusing on your neck, the front of your neck and

1219
02:27:16.520 --> 02:27:29.559
your throat relaxing and loose and calm, the sides of

1220
02:27:29.639 --> 02:27:34.479
your neck, right and left side.

1221
02:27:34.280 --> 02:27:35.159
Of your neck.

1222
02:27:37.879 --> 02:27:53.719
Relax and lease and calm. And now the back of

1223
02:27:53.760 --> 02:28:06.639
your neck, focusing on the back of your neck, letting

1224
02:28:06.799 --> 02:28:11.520
go of any tension that may have been there before,

1225
02:28:13.319 --> 02:28:24.600
and enjoying that sense of increasing comfort and release.

1226
02:28:27.319 --> 02:28:31.319
Then you can experience in the back of your neck,

1227
02:28:37.600 --> 02:28:40.000
moving down your back.

1228
02:28:42.079 --> 02:28:47.360
And moving either side of your spine right from the top.

1229
02:28:47.200 --> 02:28:48.239
Of your back.

1230
02:28:49.799 --> 02:28:53.520
All the way down to the bottom of your back,

1231
02:28:59.479 --> 02:29:10.920
down to your lower back. As you move up and

1232
02:29:11.040 --> 02:29:20.120
down your spine, you can feel the muscles either side

1233
02:29:20.159 --> 02:29:34.879
of your spine relaxing even more. And as those muscles relax,

1234
02:29:37.000 --> 02:29:44.959
that sense of comfort starts to spread outwards from your

1235
02:29:45.000 --> 02:29:54.559
spine into both sides of your back, the top of

1236
02:29:54.639 --> 02:30:01.559
your back, the middle end your lower back. And as

1237
02:30:01.600 --> 02:30:09.120
you scan gently and slowly up and down your back,

1238
02:30:11.479 --> 02:30:15.840
there's the muscles in the top of your back relax

1239
02:30:16.399 --> 02:30:24.000
and become looser. The muscles in the middle of your

1240
02:30:24.079 --> 02:30:31.520
back also seem to just almost divide from each other,

1241
02:30:32.440 --> 02:30:39.120
separating and.

1242
02:30:36.399 --> 02:30:45.079
Almost melting, And in your lower back.

1243
02:30:48.600 --> 02:31:01.399
There seems to be an extra special feeling of comfort.

1244
02:31:01.399 --> 02:31:03.799
The spreads into your hips.

1245
02:31:06.040 --> 02:31:14.000
Sit down your lower back, into your hips, into the

1246
02:31:14.079 --> 02:31:22.840
area where your cosicks are, and into your buttocks, and

1247
02:31:22.920 --> 02:31:32.159
all those muscles that spread bring your lower back into

1248
02:31:32.200 --> 02:31:45.799
your hip area, start to melt, start to really let go,

1249
02:31:52.360 --> 02:31:59.600
and even nowhere about to focus on your shoulders. Your back,

1250
02:32:00.159 --> 02:32:12.440
your spine will continue un til let go, continue to relax.

1251
02:32:15.239 --> 02:32:18.840
So calmly.

1252
02:32:23.520 --> 02:32:29.280
Then she focus on your shoulders. You may notice they're

1253
02:32:29.360 --> 02:32:44.200
already feeling really loose, They're already.

1254
02:32:46.600 --> 02:33:04.040
Feeding calm.

1255
02:32:59.440 --> 02:33:12.200
If those muscles then move from your neck into your

1256
02:33:12.239 --> 02:33:31.000
shoulders feel so soft and gentle, so smooth.

1257
02:33:36.559 --> 02:33:46.840
And calm.

1258
02:33:49.000 --> 02:34:01.399
The feeling in your shoulders seems to spread it deep

1259
02:34:01.559 --> 02:34:11.319
into your shoulders, a sense of relaxation, not just traveling

1260
02:34:11.840 --> 02:34:29.079
deeply into your muscles, but also relaxing the bones and

1261
02:34:29.360 --> 02:34:37.600
moving all the way to underneath your arms, relaxing the

1262
02:34:37.760 --> 02:34:43.079
whole area between the tops of your shoulders and underneath

1263
02:34:43.120 --> 02:34:53.200
your arms healing.

1264
02:34:54.000 --> 02:34:54.719
You feel so.

1265
02:34:56.600 --> 02:35:10.680
Relaxed and comfortable in your shoulders, which sense that's deep

1266
02:35:11.520 --> 02:35:22.879
healing message into your arms.

1267
02:35:29.079 --> 02:35:30.479
You may feel.

1268
02:35:31.879 --> 02:35:36.920
Almost as if your arms are not even there because

1269
02:35:37.040 --> 02:36:13.040
they're so relaxed, so deeply relaxed, so so calm.

1270
02:36:13.559 --> 02:36:20.879
So this.

1271
02:36:28.079 --> 02:36:38.200
The feels spreading all the way down your arms to

1272
02:36:38.280 --> 02:37:08.159
your elbows, including your elbows, circumfort spreads away into rests,

1273
02:37:11.000 --> 02:37:27.079
your form nder wrists so heavy, yet at the same

1274
02:37:28.239 --> 02:38:37.840
time sunlight and gentle fred sip now on your hands, hands.

1275
02:38:42.879 --> 02:39:08.120
So peaceful in your hands with a sensor.

1276
02:39:11.040 --> 02:39:12.920
Real pace.

1277
02:39:24.520 --> 02:39:38.959
Just seems to feel so familiar on your hands, relax

1278
02:39:40.239 --> 02:41:45.760
deeply else things it's fits you think it tips, mak

1279
02:41:45.920 --> 02:42:15.840
your attention to affront to your body sharp cuts. Then

1280
02:42:16.399 --> 02:44:36.360
focus to legs, muscles in your figs, names s, relax, cough, muscles,

1281
02:44:36.399 --> 02:46:42.120
just shads. How cuzzy I see.

1282
02:46:42.239 --> 02:46:53.239
Then you faint so pays off.

1283
02:46:55.280 --> 02:47:51.520
C can't serit peaceful, circom serve peaceful, sycom so.

1284
02:47:53.440 --> 02:47:54.600
Peace for.

1285
02:48:03.479 --> 02:48:05.399
Relax same.

1286
02:48:10.360 --> 02:48:16.440
Peace fall calm.

1287
02:48:24.559 --> 02:48:32.120
Let that deep relaxation to spread your chest your story

1288
02:48:35.879 --> 02:48:46.600
so relaxed, lets me go.

1289
02:48:50.319 --> 02:48:59.200
Everything.

1290
02:49:02.280 --> 02:49:08.280
So I'm gonna start counting down now from twenty down

1291
02:49:08.319 --> 02:49:16.520
to one. You can imagine in a way it's like

1292
02:49:17.239 --> 02:49:23.719
just walking down some steps and each step or twenty steps,

1293
02:49:23.760 --> 02:49:33.159
and each step represents a level of comfort. Each step

1294
02:49:33.440 --> 02:49:49.000
represents a deepening of that comfort, and the furvies you

1295
02:49:49.120 --> 02:49:55.200
walk down those steps, the deeper and more relaxed you feel.

1296
02:50:01.879 --> 02:52:49.559
So starting with number twenty twenty, nineteen, eighteen, seventeen sixtyhhhhhhhh

1297
02:53:52.239 --> 02:57:38.879
three fourhhhhh f s.

1298
02:56:42.479 --> 02:56:43.239
Too well.

1299
02:57:01.559 --> 03:01:17.040
No usussions.

1300
03:01:01.120 --> 03:04:54.520
Eight sevenhhhhhh six five.

1301
03:05:05.479 --> 03:09:15.040
Us using.

1302
03:09:51.639 --> 03:10:59.159
One, as you focus on your eyes, We're gonna countdown

1303
03:11:00.079 --> 03:11:15.360
ten down to one, focusing just on your eyes, your eyelids,

1304
03:11:15.799 --> 03:11:24.559
the muscles around your eyes, your eye walls themselves, a

1305
03:11:24.760 --> 03:11:41.680
whole area that makes up your eye. And as we

1306
03:11:41.920 --> 03:11:50.319
count down from ten down to one, whilst focus in

1307
03:11:50.399 --> 03:12:05.879
on your eyes, you become twice is relaxed with each

1308
03:12:06.239 --> 03:12:19.159
number counting down that you may find the all you.

1309
03:12:18.920 --> 03:12:20.760
Want to do is just.

1310
03:12:22.639 --> 03:12:29.840
Drift off to sleep. And if that's what you want,

1311
03:12:32.879 --> 03:12:45.920
then just allow yourself to do that. Now, focusing on

1312
03:12:46.000 --> 03:12:53.360
your eyes, I'm going to begin counting down from ten

1313
03:12:53.680 --> 03:14:35.040
down to one right now, nine.

1314
03:14:08.920 --> 03:15:05.280
Eight seven.

1315
03:17:06.680 --> 03:18:18.559
F four.

1316
03:19:31.319 --> 03:21:24.040
Three ms.

1317
03:21:20.319 --> 03:21:22.479
Would be exclude.

1318
03:22:05.479 --> 03:22:34.360
One, so counting down from ten to one, ten nine, eight, seven, six,

1319
03:22:36.559 --> 03:22:56.760
five four three two one. And maybe that was a

1320
03:22:56.799 --> 03:23:00.920
bit too quick in order to relax. Maybe it's a

1321
03:23:00.959 --> 03:23:07.159
bit too fast for you to notice the calming of

1322
03:23:07.200 --> 03:23:13.959
your body, maybe even a little bit of pressure there,

1323
03:23:14.079 --> 03:23:17.680
like you're counting down from ten to one. Would you

1324
03:23:17.719 --> 03:23:21.079
expect me to do? Man, expect me to just go

1325
03:23:21.200 --> 03:23:30.879
with floppy just because you're counting down. You can try

1326
03:23:30.879 --> 03:23:34.600
it again, but this time I'll go a bit slower

1327
03:23:36.639 --> 03:23:41.520
this time, as you focus on the whole of your

1328
03:23:41.559 --> 03:23:49.959
body before we focus on your legs. Just notice how

1329
03:23:50.000 --> 03:24:04.120
your body does start to feel more relaxed with every

1330
03:24:04.239 --> 03:24:57.079
number that I count down ten nine, eight, seven, six, five, four.

1331
03:25:04.159 --> 03:25:39.360
Three one.

1332
03:25:50.680 --> 03:25:56.399
I just notice how how you feel, generally, how your

1333
03:25:56.399 --> 03:26:11.319
body feels. It's not necessarily even about counting down from

1334
03:26:11.319 --> 03:26:19.040
ten to one. It's that space that you have, that

1335
03:26:21.600 --> 03:26:42.840
space between being active physically or mentally, just sitting or

1336
03:26:42.959 --> 03:26:43.920
lying down.

1337
03:26:44.280 --> 03:26:46.520
Just being there, not.

1338
03:26:46.440 --> 03:26:53.319
Doing anything, not saying anything, or needing to think about anything.

1339
03:26:54.079 --> 03:26:57.799
So it opens up a space, you know, a bit

1340
03:26:57.799 --> 03:27:08.600
of a space, a gap. And the more I came

1341
03:27:08.719 --> 03:27:13.319
down from ten to one, the bigger that gap becomes.

1342
03:27:16.280 --> 03:27:22.719
So there's that gap of calmness, of comfort and relaxation.

1343
03:27:28.600 --> 03:27:41.479
It's a nice feeling, and it moves those stresses or

1344
03:27:41.520 --> 03:27:45.399
discomforts physically or emotionally, moves.

1345
03:27:47.239 --> 03:27:47.639
Away.

1346
03:27:54.399 --> 03:27:55.479
Allows you.

1347
03:27:58.079 --> 03:27:58.639
To just.

1348
03:28:01.559 --> 03:28:07.920
Slow down. Someone to count a game from ten down

1349
03:28:07.959 --> 03:28:17.920
to one, and notice that gap widening, the gap, and

1350
03:28:18.040 --> 03:28:18.959
this is it widens.

1351
03:28:19.000 --> 03:28:20.079
It's almost like the.

1352
03:28:21.760 --> 03:28:25.319
Stress and attention falls into.

1353
03:28:25.000 --> 03:28:25.680
The gap.

1354
03:28:38.840 --> 03:29:34.920
And gives you that distance, that space. Now ten nine, eight, seven, six, five,

1355
03:29:46.000 --> 03:30:52.799
four three two one. How did your.

1356
03:30:54.840 --> 03:30:55.239
Body?

1357
03:30:55.520 --> 03:31:22.799
Phil Can you notice that? Do you feeling calmer? Are

1358
03:31:22.840 --> 03:31:51.879
you feeling more relaxed? As we now focus on your legs,

1359
03:31:53.280 --> 03:32:13.760
just your legs. You're just gonna start with focusing on

1360
03:32:14.159 --> 03:32:33.319
your thighs. Of course, it's not the most exciting thing

1361
03:32:33.479 --> 03:32:35.559
to be doing because.

1362
03:32:38.600 --> 03:32:40.200
I'm sure, like most of your.

1363
03:32:40.040 --> 03:32:51.760
Body is not a lot going on right now. Just

1364
03:32:51.920 --> 03:32:58.079
focusing on the whole of your thighs, the tops of

1365
03:32:58.120 --> 03:33:06.520
your thighs, your thighs, the bottoms of your thighs, your

1366
03:33:06.639 --> 03:33:12.000
outer thighs, and your inner thighs. Basically the whole of

1367
03:33:12.000 --> 03:33:14.879
your thigh that leads into.

1368
03:33:14.600 --> 03:33:15.440
Your hip.

1369
03:33:19.159 --> 03:33:29.959
And it goes down to your knee joints. Now, this

1370
03:33:30.079 --> 03:33:37.559
is a big area. It's a very heavy area. It's

1371
03:33:37.719 --> 03:33:44.159
very strong, probably the strongest muscles in your body or

1372
03:33:44.200 --> 03:33:45.079
in your thighs.

1373
03:33:55.159 --> 03:33:56.120
But I don't think we.

1374
03:33:57.799 --> 03:34:10.760
Perhaps give enough attention to our thighs. Perhaps we don't

1375
03:34:12.399 --> 03:34:32.840
acknowledge how important our thighs are to our lives, how

1376
03:34:32.959 --> 03:34:42.120
much they actually do for us all through our lives.

1377
03:34:49.239 --> 03:34:50.920
And it may seem.

1378
03:34:50.799 --> 03:34:55.920
Sound really weird, but I think that all of.

1379
03:34:55.840 --> 03:35:03.440
Our body parts space actually have. Thighs need some TLC,

1380
03:35:06.639 --> 03:35:08.319
a bit of love shown.

1381
03:35:08.959 --> 03:35:09.440
A bit of.

1382
03:35:15.959 --> 03:35:28.559
Acknowledgement, thank you, gratitude for our thighs do for us.

1383
03:35:35.079 --> 03:35:40.760
And I know this may sound a bit strange. Maybe

1384
03:35:40.760 --> 03:35:43.799
you think, why am I Surely I should be out

1385
03:35:44.280 --> 03:35:52.760
in the garden hugging a tree or something. Well, it's

1386
03:35:52.799 --> 03:35:56.040
hard to set a microphone up on a tree. That's

1387
03:35:56.079 --> 03:35:58.559
why I'm doing this indoors. Otherwise I would be outside

1388
03:35:58.600 --> 03:36:02.399
hugging a tree. I can't see the television from three

1389
03:36:09.120 --> 03:36:13.360
if you move down to your knees, gain such an

1390
03:36:13.440 --> 03:36:23.159
important part. And I think we don't necessarily I'll speak

1391
03:36:23.200 --> 03:36:31.040
for myself. I don't necessarily appreciate all that my needs

1392
03:36:31.120 --> 03:36:36.000
to do for me until I have a problem with

1393
03:36:36.040 --> 03:36:41.319
my knee. It's occasionally if I ever maybe i'll bash it,

1394
03:36:41.479 --> 03:36:43.680
or it's aching.

1395
03:36:43.440 --> 03:36:44.239
For some reason.

1396
03:36:45.959 --> 03:36:52.200
It's then that I realize how much it does. You know,

1397
03:36:52.239 --> 03:36:55.239
the benefit of being able to.

1398
03:36:54.520 --> 03:36:56.600
Use my legs.

1399
03:36:57.719 --> 03:37:05.440
Without any kind of physical discomfort is a beautiful thing

1400
03:37:06.959 --> 03:37:14.639
that's possibly not appreciated until it's temporarily removed. You know

1401
03:37:14.719 --> 03:37:24.239
that's comfort. But as you focus on your knees, regardless

1402
03:37:24.280 --> 03:37:29.840
of how your knees feel, you can have that sense

1403
03:37:29.879 --> 03:37:32.920
of gratitude.

1404
03:37:33.639 --> 03:37:36.600
And love to your needs for all that they do for.

1405
03:37:36.559 --> 03:37:50.440
You, and you can still have that attention on your thighs.

1406
03:37:51.000 --> 03:37:57.440
Maybe notice how your thighs feel, Maybe you notice that

1407
03:37:57.559 --> 03:38:16.319
they are relaxing more deeply as you focus now on

1408
03:38:16.399 --> 03:38:20.959
the bottoms of your lex your shins, and your calf muscles,

1409
03:38:21.440 --> 03:38:29.159
the bones between your knees and your feet incorporate, and

1410
03:38:29.200 --> 03:38:41.559
of course your ankles so important. Anyone that's had even

1411
03:38:41.959 --> 03:38:48.719
like the slightest sprain of an ankle knows how how

1412
03:38:48.840 --> 03:38:59.000
much we take our ankles for granted. And it's kind

1413
03:38:59.000 --> 03:39:04.559
of strange in a way when you think that. You know, logically,

1414
03:39:04.840 --> 03:39:07.959
our wrists are a lot thinner than the rest of

1415
03:39:07.959 --> 03:39:12.680
our arms, which is Okay, it doesn't. I can't see

1416
03:39:12.680 --> 03:39:16.200
any problem with that because we're just picking stuff up

1417
03:39:17.760 --> 03:39:23.399
by our ankles so much thinner than the rest of

1418
03:39:23.440 --> 03:39:34.319
our legs, and from a physics perspective or logical even

1419
03:39:34.399 --> 03:39:40.120
it doesn't really make sense that all this weight would

1420
03:39:40.200 --> 03:39:47.399
ultimately be resting on your ankles then leading to your feet,

1421
03:39:51.959 --> 03:40:01.600
that thin area, thin bone. Yeah, so much great work

1422
03:40:03.719 --> 03:40:13.440
supports us, supports our body for a lifetime, helps us

1423
03:40:13.920 --> 03:40:23.319
to balance, It helps you to get around and be mobile.

1424
03:40:29.639 --> 03:40:30.840
And there's the calf muscles.

1425
03:40:30.920 --> 03:40:38.520
Of course, when I was younger, I couldn't see the

1426
03:40:38.559 --> 03:40:44.879
pointing calf muscles. Didn't seem to do anything. Okay, if

1427
03:40:44.920 --> 03:40:48.479
I walked around on tiptoes, then my calf muscles get

1428
03:40:48.559 --> 03:40:52.280
some work. But of course that's not true. The calf

1429
03:40:52.360 --> 03:41:02.000
muscles are being used whenever we use the legs and

1430
03:41:02.159 --> 03:41:14.719
your shins there to protect your lower legs, shaped in

1431
03:41:14.760 --> 03:41:15.399
a way.

1432
03:41:16.959 --> 03:41:19.079
Almost as a protector for the.

1433
03:41:19.040 --> 03:41:30.680
Bone, leading of course to your ankles.

1434
03:41:33.399 --> 03:41:34.239
And your feet.

1435
03:41:38.799 --> 03:41:40.799
But we're not going to focus on your feet. We're

1436
03:41:40.799 --> 03:41:47.079
just going to focus on the legs. I realize, and

1437
03:41:47.200 --> 03:41:50.920
now that I've mentioned your feet, you'll probably focus on

1438
03:41:51.360 --> 03:41:54.600
them anyway. So maybe I should focus on your feet

1439
03:41:54.600 --> 03:42:03.000
a little bit. You can have them your awareness the

1440
03:42:03.079 --> 03:42:06.639
same as you have your thighs in your awareness.

1441
03:42:07.440 --> 03:42:08.120
Even though we.

1442
03:42:08.120 --> 03:42:12.479
Haven't been focusing on your thighs a few minutes.

1443
03:42:13.879 --> 03:42:15.120
And we're focusing on.

1444
03:42:15.040 --> 03:42:32.399
Your ankles, there's still that sensation of comfort in your thighs,

1445
03:42:37.239 --> 03:42:45.239
and there's that movement of energy because the thighs hold

1446
03:42:46.559 --> 03:42:52.120
lots of different sensations. Of course, there's the muscles, the

1447
03:42:52.159 --> 03:43:04.600
big straw muscles that we have in our thighs, but

1448
03:43:04.799 --> 03:43:10.879
the skin on the outside of the thighs, as in

1449
03:43:10.920 --> 03:43:16.760
the outside of all of our body, can be very sensitive,

1450
03:43:20.600 --> 03:43:33.799
sensitive to the touch, sensitive to temperature, and inside your

1451
03:43:33.920 --> 03:43:41.399
thighs the bones, there's the muscle, there's the blood, vessels,

1452
03:43:41.520 --> 03:43:47.760
the arch trees, to all this stuff that's inside your thighs.

1453
03:43:51.760 --> 03:43:55.120
I guess sometimes it'd be nice if you could actually

1454
03:43:55.200 --> 03:44:02.639
put your fingers inside your thighs and mess up so

1455
03:44:02.719 --> 03:44:06.280
you can message on the outside, of course, but to

1456
03:44:06.319 --> 03:44:09.559
be able to get deep into the muscles, to be

1457
03:44:09.600 --> 03:44:14.760
able to just massage inside your thighs, message in the

1458
03:44:14.840 --> 03:44:23.840
bones of your leg, massage in all the veins, just

1459
03:44:24.079 --> 03:44:29.600
gently healing your thighs.

1460
03:44:32.840 --> 03:44:34.559
And you can move down.

1461
03:44:36.239 --> 03:44:41.360
Message and inside your knees, just message in those bones,

1462
03:44:42.319 --> 03:44:49.760
but with healing fingertips, spreading the healing energy deep into.

1463
03:44:49.440 --> 03:44:58.879
The choice of your knees. Of course, there's the back

1464
03:44:59.040 --> 03:44:59.680
of your.

1465
03:45:00.600 --> 03:45:05.399
Your need and the inside crease where your need is.

1466
03:45:07.000 --> 03:45:12.520
It's a very sensitive area. Very it feels very nice

1467
03:45:12.559 --> 03:45:17.159
when you stroke it. That might be because it's an

1468
03:45:17.200 --> 03:45:22.520
area that's not really touched very often. It's almost like

1469
03:45:22.559 --> 03:45:26.000
a hidden part, that crease.

1470
03:45:27.719 --> 03:45:32.319
In your legs. It's almost like a part that.

1471
03:45:34.040 --> 03:45:36.120
Has a sensitivity, which is.

1472
03:45:36.040 --> 03:45:37.079
A little bit different.

1473
03:45:44.879 --> 03:45:54.799
Of course, it's protected by your legs, so you can

1474
03:45:54.840 --> 03:46:07.079
imagine putting your fingers into that crease and folding between

1475
03:46:07.120 --> 03:46:12.200
your legs. You can just message with your fingertips. Imagine

1476
03:46:12.200 --> 03:46:18.920
your fingertips going inside, massage in the muscle or tissue

1477
03:46:23.200 --> 03:46:27.600
you can of cause, field the bones of your knees,

1478
03:46:28.959 --> 03:46:39.440
heading through your fingertips, and then as you go down

1479
03:46:42.280 --> 03:46:45.120
to your calf muscles, and that's the part. I'd like

1480
03:46:45.200 --> 03:46:49.920
to be able to really put my fingertips deep inside

1481
03:46:50.639 --> 03:46:54.479
my calf muscles and massage.

1482
03:46:53.920 --> 03:46:55.280
In every.

1483
03:46:56.479 --> 03:47:09.239
Single tissue of that muscle, healing every part and then

1484
03:47:09.319 --> 03:47:18.000
doing the same for my shins, massage, generally stroking the bones,

1485
03:47:19.719 --> 03:47:25.440
generally stroking them, healing in a loving way, because they

1486
03:47:25.479 --> 03:47:31.799
deserve to be treated. There's the precious bones.

1487
03:47:31.399 --> 03:47:31.920
That they are.

1488
03:47:33.239 --> 03:47:36.479
Because our legs are so precious as in all the

1489
03:47:36.520 --> 03:47:42.600
other parts of our body, the more precious of any chool.

1490
03:47:44.920 --> 03:47:45.639
On the planet.

1491
03:47:54.040 --> 03:48:04.280
When you start to think about your legs in this way,

1492
03:48:06.760 --> 03:48:16.799
it can change your perspective. In my soundbit, a bit

1493
03:48:17.040 --> 03:48:22.559
silly to start with, the idea of having love for

1494
03:48:22.600 --> 03:48:32.000
your legs, showing appreciation for your thighs, wanting to be

1495
03:48:32.040 --> 03:48:39.479
able to put your hands in your thighs, massage the

1496
03:48:39.600 --> 03:48:45.520
muscles and the bones, and to get your fingers deep

1497
03:48:45.559 --> 03:48:53.280
in there, releasing all tension. Just to show.

1498
03:48:54.840 --> 03:49:03.120
How much you care about your legs, what you care for,

1499
03:49:04.000 --> 03:49:12.239
what your legs do for you regularly, your needs, your cars,

1500
03:49:13.280 --> 03:49:14.159
your ankles.

1501
03:49:18.399 --> 03:49:26.239
The strength of your ankles, considering how thin they are

1502
03:49:26.280 --> 03:49:34.040
compared to the rest of your legs, especially your thighs. Yeah,

1503
03:49:34.079 --> 03:49:46.440
they're so strong, so flexible, absolutely amazing things. Your ankles

1504
03:49:46.520 --> 03:49:52.280
are truly a gift.

1505
03:49:54.159 --> 03:49:55.600
Because of what they do for.

1506
03:49:55.600 --> 03:50:07.680
You, supporting all that weight, regardless of how what weight

1507
03:50:07.760 --> 03:50:11.000
you are, even if you only eat ate stone.

1508
03:50:13.120 --> 03:50:16.520
There's still a lot of weight for these little ankles,

1509
03:50:20.079 --> 03:50:22.479
how a lot heavier than eight stone.

1510
03:50:23.719 --> 03:50:24.280
Double dock.

1511
03:50:27.760 --> 03:50:36.879
Yet my ankles support my body all the time. Whether

1512
03:50:36.879 --> 03:50:39.680
they do give off a sigh of relief when I

1513
03:50:39.799 --> 03:50:48.440
sit down, that's in fact, my whole legs though, my

1514
03:50:48.639 --> 03:51:04.959
feet feet als to go, my toes clap so happy.

1515
03:51:15.559 --> 03:51:25.159
Your legs really are amazing. And I know they're talking about.

1516
03:51:25.680 --> 03:51:28.000
Talking about your legs is probably.

1517
03:51:30.079 --> 03:51:33.879
Possibly one of the most most boring things I've ever

1518
03:51:34.520 --> 03:51:35.520
heard anyone say.

1519
03:51:36.399 --> 03:51:40.719
Possibly you're boring or not.

1520
03:51:42.360 --> 03:51:57.840
Everything I said is true. Your legs are amazing. Your

1521
03:51:57.920 --> 03:52:08.799
legs deserve the just respect they deserve to relax.

1522
03:52:10.159 --> 03:52:10.559
Deeply.

1523
03:52:17.799 --> 03:52:20.799
They deserve to take some time out of.

1524
03:52:20.840 --> 03:52:21.399
The day.

1525
03:52:23.360 --> 03:52:26.280
To just letro completely.

1526
03:52:43.559 --> 03:52:52.639
Relax. Really can relax.

1527
03:53:00.000 --> 03:53:03.879
Because the legs are so such a most you know,

1528
03:53:04.079 --> 03:53:10.079
very important part of your body. When you relax your legs,

1529
03:53:10.120 --> 03:53:17.360
the rest of your body also naturally follows in that

1530
03:53:21.079 --> 03:53:31.959
journey of comfort. Like I feel it in my hips.

1531
03:53:33.319 --> 03:53:40.440
My hips feel really loose, and also my lower back

1532
03:53:40.520 --> 03:53:47.120
as well. My lower back really feels it feels stretched,

1533
03:53:48.239 --> 03:53:51.239
even though I'm just sitting in a chair and there's

1534
03:53:51.360 --> 03:53:56.639
no stretching as far as I'm aware that I'm doing,

1535
03:53:57.639 --> 03:54:00.319
it's almost as if the muscles are just relaxed so

1536
03:54:00.520 --> 03:54:06.479
much that there is a natural stretch as a tension

1537
03:54:07.319 --> 03:54:28.639
has reduced a lot. And I'm now going to count

1538
03:54:28.680 --> 03:54:37.319
down from ten down to one, and you can continue

1539
03:54:38.399 --> 03:54:39.280
to film.

1540
03:54:40.719 --> 03:54:42.520
Wonderfully relaxed.

1541
03:54:45.680 --> 03:55:28.840
Ten nine, eight, seven, six, five four three two one relax.

1542
03:55:36.719 --> 03:55:41.000
So I'm just going to count down five down to one,

1543
03:55:41.760 --> 03:55:46.440
and as a countdown, if you just focus on the numbers,

1544
03:55:48.000 --> 03:55:56.479
just the numbers counting down, and notice how you feel.

1545
03:55:58.680 --> 03:55:59.920
In this moment.

1546
03:56:01.280 --> 03:56:05.719
As you hear the numbers counting down, knowing that those

1547
03:56:05.840 --> 03:56:18.959
numbers counting down represent you feeling calmer, not just in

1548
03:56:18.959 --> 03:56:24.840
your body, but also relaxing your mind.

1549
03:56:26.680 --> 03:56:27.959
Just notice how you feel.

1550
03:56:28.879 --> 03:56:34.799
There's nothing to do, there's nothing to say, there's nothing

1551
03:56:34.920 --> 03:57:18.000
to think about, starting with number five, four three two one.

1552
03:57:27.399 --> 03:57:39.879
How as you notice the gradual letting go the tension

1553
03:57:40.079 --> 03:57:47.280
in your body, you may also begin to notice and

1554
03:57:47.360 --> 03:57:56.399
be aware of how your mind is starting to slow down.

1555
03:57:58.840 --> 03:58:05.079
This is just a natural or thing that happens. It's

1556
03:58:05.159 --> 03:58:10.319
not really a special procedure. It's just natural because as

1557
03:58:10.440 --> 03:58:16.600
your body relaxes, your mind also starts to relax.

1558
03:58:17.680 --> 03:58:19.319
And the more your mind.

1559
03:58:19.120 --> 03:58:23.000
Relaxes, the more your body relaxes. It's just a continuous

1560
03:58:24.040 --> 03:58:36.799
circle of relaxation. And there's that calmness that comes from

1561
03:58:37.120 --> 03:58:42.879
relative quietness. You know, even even if this background sounds

1562
03:58:44.280 --> 03:58:53.040
either your side orline, it's still going to be quite calm.

1563
03:58:53.159 --> 03:58:55.840
You know, you haven't got the television on, there's no

1564
03:58:56.120 --> 03:59:00.319
music in the background, unless you're listening to the recorded

1565
03:59:00.399 --> 03:59:07.840
with music. Of course, you're very likely not going to

1566
03:59:07.879 --> 03:59:10.959
be sitting in a room with other people. Of course

1567
03:59:11.000 --> 03:59:15.559
you might be, but generally it's more ideal if you

1568
03:59:15.600 --> 03:59:26.559
can do this on your own, so no distractions, and

1569
03:59:26.600 --> 03:59:41.799
when you stop thinking about stuff, relaxation automatically rises. A

1570
03:59:41.959 --> 03:59:52.680
sense of comfort starts to grow, and without trying to

1571
03:59:52.719 --> 04:00:03.680
build it up into something fantastical or something magical, this

1572
04:00:03.840 --> 04:00:11.159
is just a natural process, something that's easy.

1573
04:00:13.079 --> 04:00:16.120
To accomplish.

1574
04:00:16.600 --> 04:00:20.959
In fact, it's almost you know, the sense of relaxing

1575
04:00:21.799 --> 04:00:26.360
completely happens really when you put no.

1576
04:00:26.399 --> 04:00:28.559
Effort into it.

1577
04:00:28.559 --> 04:00:34.280
It's not something that you can really force. It's something

1578
04:00:34.399 --> 04:00:45.159
that happens naturally. And part of the process of this

1579
04:00:45.440 --> 04:00:57.399
recording and others is simply two allow you to take

1580
04:00:57.479 --> 04:01:01.479
advantage of this space.

1581
04:01:03.639 --> 04:01:04.719
This time.

1582
04:01:07.399 --> 04:01:07.959
To just.

1583
04:01:12.040 --> 04:01:22.280
Let go, to just be here, to be in tune

1584
04:01:23.280 --> 04:01:35.399
with how you feel, yet with the intention of wanting

1585
04:01:35.639 --> 04:01:47.799
to relax deeply and maybe even to fall asleep, depending

1586
04:01:48.000 --> 04:01:53.040
on what it is that you wish for yourself.

1587
04:01:54.159 --> 04:02:04.600
In this moment. As we know, relaxing.

1588
04:02:05.520 --> 04:02:13.680
Is the majority of the process of falling asleep, the

1589
04:02:13.719 --> 04:02:17.319
actual fall, and the sleep part is the tiny bit

1590
04:02:17.360 --> 04:02:29.360
at the end. The deeper relaxed you become, the easier

1591
04:02:32.440 --> 04:02:46.559
you find yourself drifting. But you can also if you

1592
04:02:46.719 --> 04:03:03.360
choose stay focused on my voice and really enjoy the

1593
04:03:03.639 --> 04:03:40.040
process coradually relaxing each muscle in your body effortlessly and

1594
04:03:40.520 --> 04:04:07.399
just observing the sensation of letting go completely. This time,

1595
04:04:07.520 --> 04:04:16.319
I'm gonna count from six down to one. You can

1596
04:04:16.440 --> 04:04:26.920
notice your mind calming down more with each number.

1597
04:04:28.200 --> 04:04:29.639
That you hear me.

1598
04:04:29.639 --> 04:06:10.639
Say, naturally, feeling calm and slow, be peaceful, sex five, four, three,

1599
04:07:38.760 --> 04:07:52.559
being aware how your mind to slow right down, sinking.

1600
04:07:54.680 --> 04:07:55.200
Deeply.

1601
04:07:57.959 --> 04:08:15.000
It's a relaxation. And as you focus on your mind,

1602
04:08:15.280 --> 04:08:27.799
you may notice that there are some thoughts still there,

1603
04:08:27.799 --> 04:08:37.360
maybe some stubborn thoughts that for some reason perhaps need

1604
04:08:37.440 --> 04:08:38.120
your attention.

1605
04:08:44.920 --> 04:08:46.799
That's what you can do is.

1606
04:08:51.879 --> 04:09:04.399
Send love to those thoughts. Sprinkle those thoughts with love,

1607
04:09:06.120 --> 04:09:10.280
my little petals from my flower. Just sprinkle over them

1608
04:09:11.799 --> 04:09:19.000
petals feel good love towards those thoughts, to let those

1609
04:09:19.159 --> 04:09:25.680
thoughts smoke that you're not abandoned. The number you just

1610
04:09:26.079 --> 04:09:36.159
need them. You require them to just calm down, slow down,

1611
04:09:38.440 --> 04:09:53.440
quiet down for now, so as you focus on those

1612
04:09:54.079 --> 04:10:00.159
remaining thoughts. As we count down this time from seven

1613
04:10:00.159 --> 04:10:09.239
to one. With each number, just imagine sprinkling those flower

1614
04:10:09.360 --> 04:10:23.760
petals of love, kindness, gratitude.

1615
04:10:21.760 --> 04:10:23.440
Over those thoughts.

1616
04:10:28.040 --> 04:10:34.280
Which will allow them to just not away and relax deeply.

1617
04:10:38.440 --> 04:10:59.680
With every number, those thoughts will become more and more relaxed, starting.

1618
04:11:02.559 --> 04:11:55.040
If not the seven, six, five, four.

1619
04:12:20.879 --> 04:12:21.159
Three.

1620
04:13:29.799 --> 04:13:30.120
Let you.

1621
04:13:34.760 --> 04:13:56.120
Notice how relaxed your feeling in your body. We got

1622
04:13:56.120 --> 04:14:10.360
to focus on your hands because the oil axed your hands.

1623
04:14:10.479 --> 04:14:34.719
On the relax your body and mind. Do you focus

1624
04:14:35.000 --> 04:14:45.280
on your hands and your fingers. There's nothing needed to

1625
04:14:45.360 --> 04:14:51.120
be done, There's no clinching of fists of dance.

1626
04:14:50.959 --> 04:14:52.760
And the fingers or anything that.

1627
04:15:00.200 --> 04:15:14.559
It's just noticing and focusing on your hands. Noticing merely

1628
04:15:14.959 --> 04:15:39.239
feel because they are but asks your hands feel. I

1629
04:15:39.479 --> 04:15:52.040
can't how your mind feels comforts you feel throughout your

1630
04:15:52.120 --> 04:15:58.959
body jee.

1631
04:16:01.159 --> 04:16:03.959
May have.

1632
04:16:07.879 --> 04:16:28.799
Hardy latist you mind is starting.

1633
04:16:31.680 --> 04:16:54.360
To draft like sap. Just on your hands and fingers,

1634
04:16:59.040 --> 04:17:01.760
al and she.

1635
04:17:04.159 --> 04:17:15.600
Experience, I'm real deepening of that relaxation in your hands

1636
04:17:15.719 --> 04:17:23.159
and fingers, more.

1637
04:17:26.079 --> 04:17:42.440
And more relaxed with each number from eight.

1638
04:17:44.719 --> 04:18:00.360
Down to one, almost feel like healing, relax energy, read

1639
04:18:00.440 --> 04:18:21.399
it into your hands and fingers, becoming relaxing with each

1640
04:18:21.840 --> 04:18:39.040
number you hear, going down eight, down to one, to

1641
04:18:39.120 --> 04:22:46.280
drift down to drifting again. Started with number seven three,

1642
04:22:49.959 --> 04:22:59.440
just being here now, nothing to think about, nothing to do,

1643
04:23:00.879 --> 04:23:15.200
nothing to say, and everything just feels calm. This is

1644
04:23:16.239 --> 04:23:23.079
your natural state of being. This is how you just

1645
04:23:24.120 --> 04:23:31.079
normally feel when you take away on that other stuff.

1646
04:23:33.079 --> 04:23:38.159
That we add. I think like stress and where we're here.

1647
04:23:41.079 --> 04:23:42.280
I think.

1648
04:23:45.120 --> 04:23:57.120
Anxiety ten ship thinking about stuff. Take that away.

1649
04:23:58.159 --> 04:23:58.920
This is what we do.

1650
04:24:00.079 --> 04:24:00.239
Good.

1651
04:24:00.440 --> 04:24:17.079
Now you left with a real sense of diesels.

1652
04:24:17.479 --> 04:24:25.920
Which comes to you very quickly, because ansle is just

1653
04:24:27.040 --> 04:24:32.280
a feeling, a.

1654
04:24:32.440 --> 04:24:35.159
Feeling of confident.

1655
04:24:38.760 --> 04:24:42.760
Most as if you've got inside yourself, you've found a

1656
04:24:42.959 --> 04:24:45.719
special place where.

1657
04:24:47.920 --> 04:24:53.079
Everything is desil.

1658
04:24:55.879 --> 04:25:01.559
Place week in the film relaxed your mental.

1659
04:25:03.200 --> 04:25:08.319
Sense confident, the place.

1660
04:25:08.040 --> 04:25:09.600
Week be you.

1661
04:25:14.319 --> 04:25:22.040
We can accept yourself and you are the place where

1662
04:25:22.120 --> 04:25:23.159
you're not trying to.

1663
04:25:25.319 --> 04:25:38.920
Please anybody else. In place way, you can actually not

1664
04:25:39.280 --> 04:25:41.079
just love yourself.

1665
04:25:40.600 --> 04:25:46.040
But in some ways more importantly, you can like yourself,

1666
04:25:48.559 --> 04:26:04.840
appreciate who do you want, a sense of gratitude.

1667
04:26:05.680 --> 04:26:07.600
See the air around.

1668
04:26:15.079 --> 04:26:22.920
That's also a place where you can actually feel the

1669
04:26:23.239 --> 04:26:38.600
healing energy soaking into your body. Heaving energy soaking into

1670
04:26:38.639 --> 04:26:53.120
your body, heaving energy spreads through your veins, traveling to

1671
04:26:53.440 --> 04:26:57.559
each every single part.

1672
04:26:58.600 --> 04:27:02.360
Of your body.

1673
04:27:05.399 --> 04:27:09.799
You start to realize the actually a healing energy.

1674
04:27:12.239 --> 04:27:14.200
It's not just intered.

1675
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Into your brain, it's become a part of your brain.

1676
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The spinal fluid.

1677
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Is now mixed to be the energy, not.

1678
04:27:37.559 --> 04:27:46.680
Just allowing you to feel so much more relaxed and healthy.

1679
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In this moment, but.

1680
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Also we start to realize that actually.

1681
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What's happening now with.

1682
04:28:04.440 --> 04:28:14.159
The healing, relaxing energy spreading through your body is actually

1683
04:28:14.520 --> 04:28:24.760
changing your life. That's actually changing the way you're going

1684
04:28:24.799 --> 04:28:31.920
to feel, not just now, but tomorrow and the next day.

1685
04:28:33.639 --> 04:28:41.000
Is your health improves, not just your physical health, but

1686
04:28:41.120 --> 04:28:48.600
your mental health. Things that used to bother you in

1687
04:28:48.639 --> 04:28:56.280
the past for some reason, no longer have the effect

1688
04:28:56.760 --> 04:29:05.680
that they used to because something has changed deep within you.

1689
04:29:10.760 --> 04:29:17.159
Maybe things that used to cause you to feel anger

1690
04:29:20.959 --> 04:29:31.120
no longer have that power to control you the way

1691
04:29:31.159 --> 04:29:39.479
they seem to be able to before. As you realize

1692
04:29:40.200 --> 04:29:41.559
that you're the one.

1693
04:29:43.319 --> 04:29:45.120
Who decides.

1694
04:29:47.639 --> 04:29:55.760
What affects you, you're the one who decides.

1695
04:29:57.879 --> 04:30:08.959
To feel relaxed and can't when you choose to enjoy

1696
04:30:10.479 --> 04:30:16.479
noticing these natural developments.

1697
04:30:18.079 --> 04:30:21.159
And healing.

1698
04:30:21.399 --> 04:30:33.920
Continue to grow and improve your life day by day,

1699
04:30:35.879 --> 04:30:44.200
including of course, your ability to relax so much easier

1700
04:30:49.120 --> 04:30:58.760
and sleeping. It's the most natural thing in the world

1701
04:31:00.159 --> 04:31:08.680
to you, because falling asleep is something that you've done.

1702
04:31:11.520 --> 04:31:19.159
So many times in your life, and you know that

1703
04:31:19.399 --> 04:31:23.319
you were born, as we all were, with.

1704
04:31:23.920 --> 04:31:34.520
The ability to fall asleep naturally. We were born with

1705
04:31:35.079 --> 04:31:37.040
that ability.

1706
04:31:39.520 --> 04:31:41.360
To just drift.

1707
04:31:42.840 --> 04:31:57.360
Off into a deep, healing sleep. Even when we're kids, sometimes.

1708
04:31:56.920 --> 04:31:59.200
It's will fall asleep and we don't even want to

1709
04:32:01.200 --> 04:32:02.959
try to think stay awake.

1710
04:32:04.319 --> 04:32:07.760
Maybe it's a birthday in the morning, though it's Christmas

1711
04:32:08.000 --> 04:32:10.120
or holiday or something we.

1712
04:32:10.200 --> 04:32:14.959
Look forward to, don't want to go to sleep. But

1713
04:32:15.079 --> 04:32:20.159
the more we want to stay awake, the more we

1714
04:32:20.399 --> 04:32:21.959
just start to drift.

1715
04:32:25.760 --> 04:32:30.760
And the more you fights drifting, we right stop yourself

1716
04:32:30.840 --> 04:32:35.879
and drift in the same the detail is stronger that

1717
04:32:36.159 --> 04:32:47.520
drifting becomes because we're born not just with the need

1718
04:32:48.879 --> 04:32:56.959
to relax deeply and to naturally fall asleep, but it's

1719
04:32:57.079 --> 04:33:11.400
our birthright, it's part of our DNA, and sometimes as

1720
04:33:11.439 --> 04:33:17.000
we get older in life, perhaps at times we have

1721
04:33:17.720 --> 04:33:18.159
built in.

1722
04:33:22.880 --> 04:33:25.720
Relaxing completely.

1723
04:33:27.520 --> 04:33:40.840
It's not only a wonderfully pleasant experience, it's also really easy.

1724
04:33:52.240 --> 04:33:56.439
It's very very easy to.

1725
04:33:56.599 --> 04:33:56.959
Let go.

1726
04:33:58.959 --> 04:33:59.919
Because that's what it is.

1727
04:34:00.279 --> 04:34:00.759
It's just.

1728
04:34:04.200 --> 04:34:15.680
Decided to that game. And when you press the play

1729
04:34:15.759 --> 04:34:26.040
button on my recordings, you have given permission from my

1730
04:34:26.279 --> 04:34:35.439
voice to election. When you press that play button, you

1731
04:34:35.560 --> 04:34:44.279
have given me permission for my words to effect.

1732
04:34:46.319 --> 04:34:47.279
You in a.

1733
04:34:47.479 --> 04:34:53.720
Positive, openly, a positive.

1734
04:34:53.279 --> 04:35:11.919
Way, opening up mind to useful and.

1735
04:35:13.520 --> 04:35:16.360
Healing suggestions.

1736
04:35:20.919 --> 04:35:21.599
They can have.

1737
04:35:26.159 --> 04:35:33.560
Such a reason effect why how you feel right now,

1738
04:35:38.319 --> 04:35:49.599
as well as those changes that continue long after the recording.

1739
04:35:49.279 --> 04:36:00.400
Ends, those changes within you, they continue to flourish and grow,

1740
04:36:04.959 --> 04:36:14.639
transforming your life in positive, beautiful way.

1741
04:36:17.479 --> 04:36:25.080
Allowing you to move forward your life in the direction

1742
04:36:25.439 --> 04:36:28.880
the hugues for yourself.

1743
04:36:38.200 --> 04:36:49.919
This feeling, this feeling the you in experience and safety, comfort, calmness.

1744
04:36:57.759 --> 04:37:11.720
This feels so nice, such a healthy place to be,

1745
04:37:19.599 --> 04:37:25.000
and that postility grows within you.

1746
04:37:30.759 --> 04:37:42.720
In chi every day move forward, you had to find

1747
04:37:43.040 --> 04:37:53.279
that you're more but axed physically and in your mind

1748
04:37:54.840 --> 04:37:56.680
is relaxed.

1749
04:38:00.599 --> 04:38:05.840
And it's not that you're thinking slower. It's just that

1750
04:38:05.959 --> 04:38:13.919
your mind will be less locked up with unnecessary negativity

1751
04:38:17.880 --> 04:38:23.400
because from now your mind rejects negativity.

1752
04:38:27.400 --> 04:38:29.319
From now you're going to.

1753
04:38:29.439 --> 04:38:46.319
Start noticing when negativity arises. You can just say stop, stop,

1754
04:38:49.200 --> 04:38:51.159
and that negativity.

1755
04:38:52.880 --> 04:39:08.880
Will turn around and lave you alone. Stop and then

1756
04:39:09.040 --> 04:39:27.119
negativity disappear. And that you notice that you feel way

1757
04:39:27.560 --> 04:39:39.200
a relaxed then you've probably expected give now.

1758
04:39:42.520 --> 04:39:48.400
Co congratulate yourself because you're the person that has done this.

1759
04:39:50.159 --> 04:39:55.599
You are the one that has opened your mind up

1760
04:39:56.319 --> 04:40:05.159
to the simple faith. You can't feel more relaxed body

1761
04:40:05.880 --> 04:40:15.240
and in your mind, you've opened your mind up to.

1762
04:40:17.520 --> 04:40:18.639
The birthright of.

1763
04:40:18.759 --> 04:40:19.759
Being able to just.

1764
04:40:22.439 --> 04:40:37.240
Fall asleep easily. When he cheers, that's a nice feeling,

1765
04:40:38.919 --> 04:40:39.479
don't you think?

1766
04:40:42.240 --> 04:40:48.919
Who's nice? Doesn't it to feel calm?

1767
04:40:50.599 --> 04:40:51.520
Who lay here?

1768
04:40:51.680 --> 04:40:55.880
The energy is splitting through your body in your mind

1769
04:41:02.400 --> 04:41:13.200
to spend time a special place where Negativity can no

1770
04:41:13.439 --> 04:41:24.159
longer inter Negativity is bad. It's bad.

1771
04:41:25.560 --> 04:41:32.360
It's no one allowed entry, doesn't doesn't this doesn't deserve

1772
04:41:32.479 --> 04:41:34.840
to be here, doesn't been beyng here.

1773
04:41:38.560 --> 04:41:53.720
Negativity has no place in your life, which makes room for.

1774
04:41:54.040 --> 04:42:02.000
More comfort or relaxation.

1775
04:42:07.319 --> 04:42:07.599
Peace.

1776
04:42:24.759 --> 04:42:51.560
It was nice to that just everything. The count down.

1777
04:42:51.520 --> 04:42:59.479
Now from twenty down to one. They can continue to.

1778
04:43:02.959 --> 04:43:10.000
Cheer to sleep.

1779
04:43:13.520 --> 04:43:29.000
Different number, he would say, film twice relaxed. Who if

1780
04:43:29.040 --> 04:44:12.400
you choose film wise sleeping now twenty ninety eighteen seventeen

1781
04:44:20.159 --> 04:44:54.880
six stay fo two.

1782
04:45:04.119 --> 04:45:28.119
Nine night.

1783
04:45:44.759 --> 04:46:44.319
Six. This is your time. Just take a break, your

1784
04:46:44.479 --> 04:47:04.000
time relax so now you'll want it to slide down, to.

1785
04:47:04.159 --> 04:47:06.279
Give yourself permission.

1786
04:47:10.560 --> 04:47:12.319
To take a break.

1787
04:47:16.959 --> 04:47:25.360
From everything, and you will be a new person that

1788
04:47:25.520 --> 04:47:31.880
can make that decision. The only person who can actually

1789
04:47:32.040 --> 04:47:47.360
tell you why just relax, Just.

1790
04:47:51.040 --> 04:47:52.279
Take some time.

1791
04:48:01.759 --> 04:48:07.040
So you can focus on your body, getting in touch.

1792
04:48:08.360 --> 04:48:09.400
How you feel.

1793
04:48:10.799 --> 04:48:27.919
Physically and in the process of this party scarcely focus

1794
04:48:28.279 --> 04:48:38.799
on different parts of the body, those parts focus on

1795
04:48:39.479 --> 04:48:52.080
and observed, and the speed twisting these parts were putting

1796
04:48:52.119 --> 04:49:14.080
into the works. It's kind of expectant, expects, fear lest

1797
04:49:14.479 --> 04:49:22.520
listening to me, attention. It's focused.

1798
04:49:23.840 --> 04:49:24.680
On my words.

1799
04:49:29.840 --> 04:49:45.840
There's my words, I you the fuss parts import the

1800
04:49:46.040 --> 04:50:31.919
focus increases, it's actually, can't you mind? The Grada SISS

1801
04:50:40.680 --> 04:52:58.880
six started speaking shouts, scups, attections, speaking famous SAgs, facts, School.

1802
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Station six six step Step s