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Hello, and welcome to Jason Newland dot com.
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My name is Jason Land. Hello, Helloa loa lolo he lolo.
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This is q and A Friday. Let me boyd sleep
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QUNA Friday. Yeah, so little Phinney's here at my side
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like a good boy.
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Yes, he is a you.
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His little towels wagon waggon weaggling, wiggling, warbling waglin wagling. Yes,
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it's Friday, the eighth of August two thousand and twenty five.
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Please only listen when you can safety close your eyes,
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if I have not already said that. Earlier on, I
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did do a recording five bromyalgia relief hypnosis. So that's
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something I've done today.
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This week.
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What have I done this week? So I've got a
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Monday's boring objects. I did a whisper Monday, so one, two, three, four, five,
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six seven. So this will be my eighth record in
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this week. And I still got two more days left,
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two more days of the week, that is. And I
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ordered a window cover to try and soundproof the window,
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and that should be getting delivered at some point today.
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Would would be interesting to see how that works out.
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It's all worth a try, isn't it.
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It's worth a try.
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Yes, you know.
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So the last few days I've been trying to work,
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we're trying to trying to tidy up this place. I
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had a bit of a I don't know if it's
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an extrastential stench extra stench eel moment lately by having
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been over the last few weeks, I've been going through
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Uncle's sausages stuff, partly because he asked me to. You know,
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I wasn't just having a little nose and he wanted
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me to find some things. And then when I told
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him about the magazines and there's a little bit of
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a mouse issue, he said, well, firstly, he didn't want
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to go back to the flat, and I said, what
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about your magazines? And he said, well clear it out.
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So he asked me to clear the clear his flat out,
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get rid of the rubbish. So I did that and
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I did five bags to start with, and that was
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just stuff on the just stuff on the floor, biscuit
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wrappers and stuff like that, which I'm not going to
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judge him because I'm similar myself. Sometimes I blame it
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on Vinnie, but it's not really all him. I mean
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the bones that's Vinnie. And then I started going through
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his books and the you know, the books had to
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be chucked out, and his magazines, and I found photographs
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and I started putting stuff away just like that he
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might want to be kept, or maybe someone might want.
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You know, it's like the passport of his mum, his
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mum's old passport, and his mum's been she's been gone
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for a long time, yeah, decades, So it was kind of,
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I don't know, a bit weird. There's baby pictures of him. Well,
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I'm guessing they're him. I mean they're black and white
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pictures of a baby boy. I don't know if it's
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a boy, but a baby. Some kind of figuring it
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might be him. I mean, he didn't. It's hard to tell,
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to be honest, I just imagine it was. He had these.
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They're kind of hidden away in this container that you
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wouldn't even know anything was in it. And it was
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just a bunch of photographs and you know, that's personal stuff.
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But no one wants it. No one wants it, No
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one just there's without seeming harsh. I don't want it either.
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It's of no, I don't. I don't really collect stuff
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from my own life or my own family, never mind
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someone else's. But I thought there'd be someone that would
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because of you know, a part of me would like
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to think that maybe when my time's up, that somebody
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would want a keepsake.
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Of me.
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But I've come to realize that that's possibly not going
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to be the case. And I looked at all these books,
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all the things that he's collected over well, there it's
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a lifetime, I guess.
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Or being chucked out.
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Everything nothing, nothing being kept. It's like all his belongings gone.
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Every bit of clothing unfortunately can't be recycled as it were,
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can't be given to the second end shop. But everything
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that meant something to him material wise, he's gone. He's
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going to be chucked out, but you're taken by the council.
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Now.
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A lot of it is because it's of the mice
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and it's unhealthy, you know what I mean. This stuff
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has to be backed up. I went in there with
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gloves on and just trying to kind of sort it
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out because the council asked me to do it. And
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then the council has said they didn't need me to
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do it. They were going to come and do it themselves,
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and they were going to come and get the mice
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people into sought out the vermin, and they came today
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because I've had a key to his flat, so they
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came in. They I let them in and they went
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and did what they needed to do, and they're coming
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back in a week's time to sort of check out
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a situation. But he was taking photographs and he was
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looking and he said, well, it's pretty bad, but he
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did say he seems worse. It's basically hoarders. It's a
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horder situation because people and I'm he was a hoarder.
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But at the same time, a hoarder is just someone
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that's clicks things. You know, if you get into the
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big hoarder blah blah blah. You know, those those TV
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programs always showed the very, very most extreme cases.
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Now you know, where someone literally.
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They've got everything stacked up nearly to the ceiling, and
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it's interesting to watch because it's almost unbelievable that anyone
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could live like that. I saw his flat one that
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was halfway through being emptied back before Christmas, because he
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was a hoarder, and it was quite high, but it
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wasn't as high as a ceiling, but it was, you know,
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up to his knees maybe, yeah, yeah, up to his
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knees pretty much higher in some places you couldn't. I
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didn't even know he had a sofa until they had finished.
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I don't think he even knew he had a bed.
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I said, why do you sleep in your chair?
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He said, I don't know. I was meaning to get
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myself a bed, and then I made that bit up.
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Although he did sleep in the inner city and on
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the sofa a chair, actually he didn't sleep in bed.
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But it's just someone that gets out of hand, that's
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all it is with I think with the collecting, and
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I can't see he didn't like having someone coming in
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and taking his stuff, but he didn't have any choice.
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The counsel came in and basically told him they had
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to sort it out because of being a health hazard,
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of fire hazard and all that stuff. And this is
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you know about November time. But it was very distressing
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for him because he didn't have enough time to sort
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through his own stuff to choose what he wanted to keep.
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So what he did is he made sure that they
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didn't go into any of his drawers or any of
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his cupboards, which are also full of stuff. I found
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newspapers from nineteen ninety nine. I helped him move all
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the stuff the kitchen. Just before this is I think
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it's the start of the year he had a new
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kitchen put in. It might have been the end of
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last year. I lose track of time, but he had
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a new kitchen put in. So the week and before
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they came to do the kitchen, I helped him to
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move everything out of the kitchen into his bedroom and
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we were going through the drawers and I couldn't believe
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stuff we were finding. There was carrier backs that had
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been in there so long they've disintegrated, and it was
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kind of there was one that was so bad as
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like I said, sim uncle sausages, You're going to.
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Have to deal with this.
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This I'm not I'm not touching that draw You can
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deal without yourself. But you know, to try and help
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him out a little bit if I could. But the
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people from the council when they did what was subcontracted,
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when they did it, they didn't no surfaces were cleared
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from the looks of it, you know, nothing was no
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cupboards were looked in all the stuff where.
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I don't know.
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Basically, I think he needed to have been put into
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a hotel or go and stay somewhere for a week
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while the whole place was just emptied and bearing in
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mind his age, and he wasn't really so much able
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to look after himself. He was independent, but there were
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certain aspects that he wasn't doing great with, maybe doing
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really well compared to a lot of people his age,
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but he wasn't.
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He wasn't.
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He needed help, but he didn't ask for any help
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other than from me, And most of that was just
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helping with bills and talking to people on the phone
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and getting his front door sorted out, and helping get
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his kitchen cleared and help him with bits and bobs
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like that and ordering stuff on nine you know, things
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that he sort of didn't enjoy doing, but he it's
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just really weird.
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I went in there again.
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Today and showed the the mice men around and I said,
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I know it's really it's a bit grotty in these
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two rooms, but the kitchen in the bathroom are fine.
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The kitchens.
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I said, I think there's like rat droppings in the
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kitchen and he said, no, it's not rat droppings. They're
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like these beetle shellfings, like rad droppings, but they're not
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and the bathroom perfect Uncle Sausages hadn't hadn't even seen
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the finished article of his bathroom because it was in
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the process of being rebuilt, refurbished or whatever while he
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was He was still there when they started it, so
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they were there for the first week. He was there
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for the first week of them doing it from Tuesday
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to Friday, and a Friday night he went in tospital,
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so they hadn't I don't think they put the bath
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in yet. I hadn't put in and put the toilet in,
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but I hadn't put in. I can't remember. I'm pretty
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sure they asked.
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Me even what kind of tiles did he want?
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And I just said they were asking me, like, I
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don't know, but the because i' let them in every day,
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So you know, there was like the plumber, then there
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was the electrician, then there was the plaster, then there
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was the painter, all the different kind of trades people
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that came in, and he never got to see it.
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He never got to see the end result. And he's down.
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He's waiting, well, he was waiting later in the year,
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I don't know when, but this year, sometime in the
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next few months, he's going to have all new windows
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in there as well, so practically a whole new flat
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other than the living room and the bedroom, although that
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will now be all cleared out. And I mean they
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don't the council don't refurbish the flat when you don't
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like the living room in the bedroom. They they will
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strip the place, get everything out of there in this
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kind of situation. They did the same with my friend
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Luke downstairs, and Trina who also lived downstairs, did the
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same there as well, who she passed away as well.
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So this is a third third person who I've lived
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in this block with that's passed away in the last
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five years. It's crazy, really, Yeah, Trina was the first first, Yeah,
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it was the beginning of twenty twenty and Luke end
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of twenty twenty three November, and now Uncle Sausages. It's
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kind of weird. It's just just weird. But anyway, I
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don't want to keep talking about that.
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But orthough, I am.
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I'm starting to wonder though. This is I know, this
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isn't really anything to do with Q and a Friday,
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but you know, this let me boy to sleep is
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it's kind of like a I don't know, like a
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journal or a diary, a verbal you know, vlog blog,
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whatever you want to call it. And so I do
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talk about my life. I talk about what's gone on
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and how I'm feeling. I try to keep it light,
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and you know, I don't talk about things like this
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when it's not happening. You know, it's like like I'm
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constantly talking about bereavement and things like that. I'm not.
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I don't. If you listen regularly, you know that I
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do try and keep it quite light. And I'm trying
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to keep this.
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Light as well.
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It's just a little bit hard because there's also the reality,
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or at least my reality, of the situation, and it
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just seems like he's if I don't talk about him,
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he's forgotten.
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Now.
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It's not going to be forgotten or remembered by anyone listening,
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because no one listening knows him, you know, in the
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sense of you don't know, just like Luke or anyone