July 12, 2025

(music) (5 hours) Q&A Friday | LMBYTS #1391 | Jason Newland | 12th July 2025

(music) (5 hours) Q&A Friday | LMBYTS #1391 | Jason Newland | 12th July 2025
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Hello, and welcome to Jasonnewland dot com. My name's Jason Newland.

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Please only listen when you can safely close your ese.

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And this is.

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Q Any Friday.

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Let's say its story is rubbish, isn't that?

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Sorry?

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Sorry about that?

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It was terrible And before I proceed, I would like

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to say big thank you to.

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I literally just posted it.

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What on earth is going on?

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This is ridiculous.

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I literally just posted it on my Facebook group. For

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some reason, it's disappeared. That is really weird. How can

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it just disappear when I just posted it.

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There?

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It is wow? Right, I posted something on.

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My Facebook group, which is Jason Newland's boring group on

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faith book, And thank you for your kind and much

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needed PayPal gifts, Maria Ing and.

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Sepha, So thank you very much.

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Things have been going weird, you know.

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Financially, I spent a fortune. I spent my entire, my

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entire life's savings of over one hundred and seventy pounds

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on taxis and then all my other money that's been

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coming in getting them backwards and forward to the hospital

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to see uncle's sausages. But now I'm just going to

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have to I'm just gonna have to get the bus.

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It's just.

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I can't explain it is because I was taking stuff

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up for him, and also a taxi journey is twenty

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five minutes half hour. The buses can take up to

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two hours. There's two buses and waiting around and walking

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and stuff. So just from a perspective of time, so

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I choose a taxi. Although I don't necessarily enjoy traveling

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on the roads myself personally, but at the same time

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not I'm not a huge fan of public transport either,

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because I'm not used to going out. You know, this

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is the first time. I mean now I'm into the

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fourth week of traveling.

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It literally is it was three weeks ago.

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Yesterday that Uncle Sausages was taking hospital in an ambulance,

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and it seems like months ago. Seriously, he's now in

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the fourth ward that he's been in.

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This ward.

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I'm not a big fan of this ward. The last

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ward was nice. It was quite airy. There was big windows,

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it was bright in there, and it was more open.

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You could see the the re set you could see.

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I don't know, it's a lot. I can't explain it.

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I probably can, but this one is just a scene.

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Is a bit more closed off and not much air, and.

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It smells of.

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Farts and boredom in there.

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It's just.

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Among my uncle sausages. Is so bored. But what I

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did yesterday is I took him in my iPad and

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I subscribed for all the all the sports channels streaming,

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because he does have Sky, which is what he prefers,

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that's what his main place is, but he doesn't know

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the passwords, so if he was at home, he could

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just watch it. So I subscribed myself on there for him.

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And I took in there.

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So he's got Netflix as well, because he has Netflix

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at home. He's got Netflix now TV, which also has

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Sky Sports, Sky Movies and Sky TVs. He's got all those,

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all those different channels. He's Netflix. He needed because he

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wanted to watch the Serrano Katie Taylor fight because he's

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a big Katie Taylor fan. So I've got all that done.

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I've got radio channels apps downloaded for him, like Talk, sport,

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all the things that he likes, because well, he loves

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he loves sport, absolutely loves sport. I'd say he loves

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sport as much as Vinnie loves sausages. But I don't

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think that's possible actually, because Vinnie loves the sausages.

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He loves the sausages.

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Oh yes, yes, yes, so yeah, it's been weird.

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It's just been weird.

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But no matter how weird it is for me, it's

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a lot weirder for him, So.

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You know, getting a perspective on the whole thing. He

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phoned me up this morning saying, and I phoned me

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up last night because I was in bed. So I

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called him up this morning and he couldn't log into

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the into the sports channel. So I kind of went

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through it with him on the phone and got him

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back on there.

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That was hard work.

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Is literally working blind, isn't it like? Because I can't

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see what he's got, can't I can't do face to

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face FaceTime because the phone he's got it doesn't fit

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with a photophone the phone that I have. But managed

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to do it. I did say to us while the

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conversations going, just grab someone, ask someone to do it,

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because fifty percent of the population are going to know

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how to use an iPad. I would say, you know,

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there's some people prefer tablets that aren't Apple, some people,

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but you know, generally, I would say, a lot of

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people who can know how to use an iPad, probably

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way better than I do. I'm basic. Really, I just

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use the iPad for editing. It's quite good for editing

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stuff like that. And yeah, it was, So he's this,

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he's now being moved. He's in the discharge ward. So

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he's he's a waiting to go into either this is okay,

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I won't I won't to go into heavy stuff after this.

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Just he's waiting to go into care, how more hospice.

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That's basically the situation he's in. And physically I would

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done a bad stomach. He's fine, Like physically at the moment,

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he's okay. So he's doing pretty good, you know, really

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all things considered. And yeah, it's a weird one. He

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fowed me up last night moaning about the food. I

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don't like the food here. Yeah, you're in hospital, you're

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not supposed to like the food. It's a cliche. It's

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been a cliche since I was a kid that hospital

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food is awful.

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I mean, I don't know if it is or not.

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It's like school dinners are awful.

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I'm sure.

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That's not the case everywhere, but it's just one of

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those kind of cliches, isn't it. You don't expect hospital

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food to be good.

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I don't know, just.

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I don't remember what it was like. So I've been

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in the hospital twice when I was a kid, and

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I don't remember the food. All I remember is it

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was brilliant being getting our house for me at the

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hospital was a holiday, really, So I don't remember the

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quality of the food. But I did say to him,

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just ask ask someone if you can get something different,

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if you can get because he said it was hungry.

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Okay.

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So he said, you know, i'd pay someone to come

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up here in a taxi and pay for the taxi

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for them to come and go and get some food

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from the shops downstairs. And I said, well, i'd have

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done it for you while I was there, because I

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yesterday morning, I said, I didn't.

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You know.

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I kept saying to you, do you want anything from

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the shops, and you kept saying no. This is like

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three hours later and he's saying.

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No, I want to.

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I can't.

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I can't go back. I can't keep going backwards and forwards.

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You know, I've already been there. So I did a

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like probably three hours traveling today already or yesterday there

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and back and he was like, oh, the food's horrible.

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It's like.

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He just I thought the food would be the same

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whatever ward you was on, because don't you use the

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same contractor I can't imagine they'd have a different menu

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for a different ward.

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But maybe I'm wrong.

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But there wasn't a lot I could do, but I

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just said, so I said, look what I'd do, uncle

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is is I'll phone up the main reception in that

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wardre in in the block and ask if there's anyone

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that can go down with you to get some food,

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to go and buy some food. So he's not allowed

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to leave the ward. So for medical reasons, he's not

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allowed to leave the ward. So I said, okay, he said,

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all right, okay, So I've phoned up the reception right,

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So this this, this lady answered the phone laughing. So

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I guess she was having a giggle or whatever with

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a colleague. And to be fair, you know, if you

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can have a laugh in a place like that, then

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good on you. You know, need to need to break

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it up somehow. But then she became a little bit mmm,

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I can do you think the word piss taking with

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me a little bit a little bit rude? And I said, hi,

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it's you know, I'm just here for uncle's sausages. And

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basically he's he wants to he's wondering if he's aware

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of him getting some food. He wants to go down

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and get some food. And she said, and she laughed.

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I think she perhaps she was in a giggly mood,

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but it was a little bit annoying. She laughed, We

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serve food here, We have food here. I said, no,

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he's had his dinner, but he didn't like it. She

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laughed again at that, and I said, well, I didn't

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know if there was any way, because at this point

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I'm getting a little bit This is not the problem,

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is right. And I found this out the other day.

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They're all on really really bad money because most of

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them are not nurses or doctors. They're care workers on

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some of them on minimum wage agency or whatever. So

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you're going to get some that are there because they care,

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some are there because they just need the job. And

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in that kind of environment, if you've got someone there

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that's solely there because they can't get any other job

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at the moment, they might not be completely like with

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any job. And now I've had jobs or I didn't

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care about the job, so I didn't perhaps do a

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very good job. Admittedly, you know, this was like putting

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meters in boxes and or rubbing bits and meat to

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put stickers on. It didn't involve human beings that were

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seriously ill, you know.

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But I guess it's a little bit different, isn't it possibly?

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And then I said, I said, I said that here's

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a situation. Really, Uncle Sausages wants to know. He wanted

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me to ask you if there's any way of if

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there's a member of staff that could possibly take him

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down to the shops downstairs so he could go and

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get himself some food. She laughed again, and she said,

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we're not a delivery service, we're not shopping service, something

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like that. And I said, it's something funny and she

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stopped laughing, and she said, a wait a minute, I

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see what I can do. And she went quiet for

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a second and she came back said I'll try and

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have a word with someone, but I can't, you know, guarantee.

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I said, that's that's all I was asking. I know

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you're busy, you know, it's understaffed and really busy, you know,

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but he's the situation for me is like he's not

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asking for a pole dance. You know, he's not asking

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for extravagant things. He's not asking for caviat And if

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they're too busy to do it, then fine. But I

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don't think it should be weird to be able to

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ask for him to be able to eat something that's edible.

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Plus he's not used to eating food. I think it's

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the food. If anything, the food is probably too good.

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It's probably it's not that it's bad food. Probably maybe

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doesn't taste very nice. Mass produced food often doesn't taste

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very nice.

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It's hard to make it taste nice.

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I've worked in and catering, and it there's a degree.

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I don't know.

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It's harder to do it if you cook for twenty

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people or if you cook for two hundred. It's hard

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to get the same quality for two hundred meals as

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you would for two twenty. And again, I've worked in

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Catrid and I've seen it. I've seen two hundred meals

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come out on a Christmas dinner and plenty of complaints.

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This is too cold, this is too warm, this is

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too I'm not cooked enough. There was one woman in

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the comedy club. She actually or a man could have

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been a man who wasn't. And she came up and said,

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it could just well have been a man. I'm just

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I keep mentioning women as if like that's the only

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people I talked to.

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It just happens to be these stories I have spoken.

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I've spoken to men as well I have, and as

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far as you know, the comedy club goes, it was

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that men were just as disruptive as.

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You know.

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It's not really about that.

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This is about food. This lady, this customer, let's just

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say customer. This customer came up to the Yeah, she

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come to the manager. This was like a long time ago,

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it's about nineteen ninety nine or something, and she said

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she'd had a dinner. I think it was during the

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Christmas season, and she said, I asked for vegetarian meal

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because they booked the meals ahead, you know, people they

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booked tables for ten, twenty, thirty, forty whatever, and then

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they call the meals. So she ordered before she even

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got a vegetarian mill. They served a chicken, okay, And

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she came up and she said she had the plate.

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She said, I haven't eaten meat five years. I'm absolutely furious.

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And the manager said, so, what did we give you.

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She said chicken. He said, I think it was a

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lady manager of it just happens to be a lady manager.

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I'm not not like focusing on women in the story.

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It's just she was.

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Her name was Gina.

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I can't help that if that's just a fact.

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And she said, well, where's where is it? The customer

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said where what? Gina says, where's the chicken? She said,

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I ate it? She said, So this was more than

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a mouthful. It's not like she just had it was

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a chicken nugget and you thought it was a vegetarian nugget,

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and you put it in your mouth and you ate it.

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And then some one says, all these chicken nuggets are nice.

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What their chicken? I thought they were vegetan vegetarian, No wonder,

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they're tasting nice, and you know, but this was like

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a chicken meal. There were slices. In fact, it was turkey,

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I think slices of turkey. She hate the whole lot.

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So there was that weird question like, well why did

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you eat it? Then you must have known after the

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first mouthful that it was, you know, not vegetarian. And

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there's a very confused look on her face, almost like

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she was in a lot a lift and she smelt afart,

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but she didn't feel it. She didn't feel herself fart

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or him. Could have been a man in a lift

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smelt a fart but couldn't feel the fart, Like they

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can't be me.

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But who is it? Where's the fart coming from? It's

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not coming from my bum, because I can usually feel

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the air.

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Leaving.

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Yeah, it's it's.

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That you know that.

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There's a certain vibration that you only get with a

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fart and you don't get any other time, isn't there?

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I might be talking about.

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Farts just to ease ease the subject matter of Uncle's sausages. Possibly,

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but anyway she did. The lady on a reception at

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the hospital said, okay, and it's the second time in

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one week that I've had two people with that kind

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of weird attitude on the phone when I've been really nice.

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I mean, I always on the phone. I'm really good

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on the phone. I'm polite. I'm very calm and very

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like maybe too polite sometimes, but I really will you know,

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I'm good on the phone. I spent years working on

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the phone. I kind of managed to learn how to

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do it. I was a professional person on the phone.

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I guess well, in the end, she didn't send anyone,

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but I organized for someone else, his other visitor, to

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buy him some food. So I told her yesterday because

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she wanted me to sign sign a legal document or

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something given her rights her and another one of his

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friend's rights to be in control of his estate. Which

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this is all stuff that Uncle Sausages wanted me to do,

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so he's asked me to do this. So basically, Uncle

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Sausages has got two best friends in me. One's in

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another country who's his pastor that he knew for the

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first he's known his whole life since he was a kid,

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since he's about twelve years older than him or ten

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years old in him. And another person is known for

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forty years who lives in this country, lives in this area.

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She was down as his next to kin when he

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first went into hospital, because I was with him when

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he went into hospital, and I was with him for

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the first two weeks every single day, and then you know,

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every other day.

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I can't lost count of how many days I've been

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in there.

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So he put me down as his next to kin

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so that they could talk to me so that I

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could phone up and ask how he is, so I

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could ask the doctors questions and stuff like that. So

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I'm also down on his medical records as his next

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to king, but it's more just for that, it's no

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other reason. And because we got to the point where

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I'll be asking questions and they were saying, who are you.

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I'm with Uncle Sausages, but who are you? Are you

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his son?

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Are you?

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I said no, well, we can't talk to you then,

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so in the end Uncle Sausage himself said to them

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you can talk to it. This is my not being neighbor.

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That's what he calls me, not being neighbor. I don't

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know why I have to be rude in it. So

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now I'm down as that. But in order for his friend,

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were his two best friends, one abroad and one here

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to be in control of his estate, so looking after

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his the arrangements in a few months time. But you

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know about going too deep into it, they're going to

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be the ones that are going to be dealing with that.

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So I just had to witness it. So I put

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my signature and everything. So it's cool because I said

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to Uncle Sausages, I don't want anything to do with money.

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I don't want anything to do with that side of things.

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I can't be organizing events. I don't want to say

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the word, but I can't.

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I don't.

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Yeah, that's not really my thing. You need to that

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needs to be done by one person or someone that

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you've known a long time.

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So that.

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Something happened the other day, it was just weird.

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Two nurses or care workers came up to him and

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asked him if he was being taken advantage of by

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his visitors, but he would try to get money out

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of him. I couldn't believe it because I've gone in

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there at this point. I've been going in elite every

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day and the staff know my name. I know their name,

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some of them. And it was because Uncle Sausages asked

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his friend, the other one to go down to the

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cash machine take his card. He couldn't go down there

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with her, so he couldn't leave the ward draw money

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out for him.

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That was it.

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So he asked her to do this. She phoned him up.

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I wasn't there that night.

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She phoned him up.

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And said, Uncle Sausages, she's Auntie Landlord.

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She thinks she used to think.

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She used to be his landlord four years ago or something.

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So he suggests Auntie Landlord and she said, Uncle Sausages,

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the pin number you gave me is not working. So

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Uncle Sosages said, oh, but at this point he's got

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it on loud speaker because he can't he can't hear

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very well. Generally he can't hear very well, and he

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he's got it on loud speaker. And I guess the

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staff are listening to this conversation and then eventually they

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sought it out and get the right pin. He gives

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her the card to take home with her. So Auntie

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Landlord leaves money with Uncle Ssages his money and he

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tells her to take the card because he didn't he

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didn't feel safe having a card in the hospital. He

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actually had it locked up because he fought his next

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or neighbor was going to steal it. There you go,

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And I say next door neighbor that the person in

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the bed next to him.

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He got this.

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Yeah, a little bit of a conspiracy thing going on anyway.

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So Auntie Landlord took Uncle sausages bank card home home

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and a husband took it home on because Uncle Sausages

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requested this. I spoke to Sausages, and he's also said

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this as well.

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Well.

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An hour later, apparently Uncle Sausages was making a fuss

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saying that he couldn't find his card, couldn't find his

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bank cards.

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Someone stolen it.

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So the nurses care workers were looking around for it,

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and they phoned up. Yeah, they must have phoned up

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he Auntie Landlord because she's as direct next to kin

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to tell her and and she said.

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I've got it.

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He gave it to me to take home to bring

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home here.

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So because of that, I think the next day.

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Because Uncle Sostge's I guess was a bit confused about

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the situation or whatever.

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I suppose the whole like what's.

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Your pin number? And maybe that was confusing, plus the

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environment and that. But then he had Uncle Sostge had

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I came around to see him. I think the next day. No,

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is the day after that before I came.

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Oh wait a.

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Minute, no, it was, yeah, it was after I saw him.

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Apparently they came up to him and said, your visitors

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taking advantage you financially, they are they are you okay

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because of the whole you know, bank card fiasco. Now

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I understand, you know, duty of care and safety and

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I know some people do get taken advantage of us,

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I guess in these situations, but he's really not. It's

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the complete opposite. He's being cared for bearing in mine

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he's got. You know, there's no one there for him

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other than me and her really Auntie Landlord. He's mister Pastor.

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Is I like mister Pasty? Mister Pasty abroad he's actually

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he hasn't seen him for quite a few years.

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Probably.

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About five years the last time he saw him, and

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neither of them can travel, so realistically he's never going

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to see him again. But he does speak to him

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on the phone every day, so it's kind of it's

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this whole weird situation. Why did I mention mister Pasty,

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I don't know, but yeah, so he can't be there.

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It's only really me and Missus Landlord that can are

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able to come visit him. And it's weird because I

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was going to go and visit him. This was on

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a Thursday, so I saw him on a Wednesday. This

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is on a Thursday. They came round I think on

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the Friday, so Missus Landlord saw him on a Tuesday night.

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I've visited him on a Wednesday morning Thursday or Thursday

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they when the nurses came around and said to him,

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what did you know? Are you being the people trying

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to get your money? And he told me in the

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evening or the afternoon on the phone, and I thought, well,

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I need to say something when I go in there.

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But then he was moved to a different.

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Ward and it's so far out of the way, I'm

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not sure if I can remember where his old ward was.

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So honestly, it's the other side of the hospital there's

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the discharge ward. So this is his last stop before

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he leaves the hospital.

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He may be there, he still may be there a

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few weeks, but you know.

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Hopefully not Hopefully.

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I hope he's out body by the next within the

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next week that he gets moved to his new place,

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whether it's well, wherever it is, I hope that he

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he's just thinking that will be have a bit more,

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it'll be quieter. Hopefully he'll have his own room.

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He might not.

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I don't know quite how it works, but it would

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be Yeah, definitely, he'll get it'll just be better than

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because this place is.

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There's more people in the ward now than there was

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in the other wards. And yeah, it's a weird one.

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I don't know.

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It's almost like this with the other ward he was in,

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if someone needed you, you could the staff could hear

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them because they are going between wards. Here the staff

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can't hear because they're too far away because the wards

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are like a walk to get to the different wards

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within this block. Because the one he was in before

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there was ABC DN E and probably four beds in each,

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maybe six beds in some but I think four beds

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in each.

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That's four eight.

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So that's that's over seven beds altogether. And they were

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kind of going in between so there was always they

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could kind of keep an eye on everything.

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Here it's you.

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Know, when you're in a different ward because I don't

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know what you quanticot, but it's the.

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Yeah, it's it's not the same.

488
00:33:50.559 --> 00:33:53.319
I don't seem to have the definitely don't have the

489
00:33:53.319 --> 00:33:55.359
same amount of staff in because the one I was

490
00:33:55.400 --> 00:33:59.839
on before, the one he was on before, busy, busy, constant,

491
00:34:00.119 --> 00:34:04.880
you know, staff all the time here there, it seems

492
00:34:04.920 --> 00:34:10.559
to be a lot less going on. I'm sure that's

493
00:34:10.599 --> 00:34:14.000
just as great. It's just it's a lot less. But anyway,

494
00:34:14.119 --> 00:34:19.239
Uncle Sausages doesn't like it there, and he's been told

495
00:34:19.239 --> 00:34:22.800
off a couple of times, and he's not a big fan,

496
00:34:23.440 --> 00:34:26.199
as I'm sure most people are been told off.

497
00:34:29.000 --> 00:34:31.000
It's yeah, it's weird.

498
00:34:34.199 --> 00:34:36.440
Can you imagine getting to seventy eight and being told

499
00:34:36.440 --> 00:34:40.960
what You're not allowed to leave your bed, You're not

500
00:34:41.000 --> 00:34:42.079
allowed to have ice cubes?

501
00:34:42.079 --> 00:34:42.599
He was told.

502
00:34:42.679 --> 00:34:47.000
He said ice cubes are banned. I don't know if

503
00:34:47.000 --> 00:34:50.320
that's true or not. That's what he said. That's a

504
00:34:50.360 --> 00:34:53.440
weird one. I'm not sure what the context was of

505
00:34:53.480 --> 00:34:57.079
that conversation. Unless he was just chucking them at the staff.

506
00:34:58.239 --> 00:35:02.679
It should be banned, then, shouldn't they anyway if he

507
00:35:02.840 --> 00:35:12.000
was playing hockey with them or something cooling his nipples off.

508
00:35:12.119 --> 00:35:18.039
So Michelle says, does uncle Sauses have any family? You're

509
00:35:18.079 --> 00:35:20.679
so kind to be there for him. Oh, thank you, Michelle.

510
00:35:21.599 --> 00:35:24.920
I don't feel very kind. I don't not not. I

511
00:35:24.920 --> 00:35:28.840
don't feel very kind, But I don't feel I don't

512
00:35:28.840 --> 00:35:32.800
feel that I'm necessarily helping him.

513
00:35:33.039 --> 00:35:35.159
I do, but I don't. But I do, but I don't.

514
00:35:36.000 --> 00:35:41.280
It's I tell you what it is. He wouldn't be

515
00:35:41.320 --> 00:35:46.320
in hospital if it wasn't for me. I mean, I'm

516
00:35:46.360 --> 00:35:52.320
not the cause of his illness. Clearly I'm not the

517
00:35:52.320 --> 00:35:58.559
cause of that. But bearing in mind, he's very symptomatic

518
00:35:58.719 --> 00:36:04.320
free pretty much. I mean he's on medication, so yeah,

519
00:36:04.440 --> 00:36:07.679
his symptoms would be he'd have a lot more symptoms

520
00:36:08.119 --> 00:36:13.440
if he wasn't on medication. So in those three weeks

521
00:36:13.480 --> 00:36:18.360
since I saw him when he opened the door and

522
00:36:18.440 --> 00:36:24.599
he was yellow, and I basically bamboozled him or lambooned

523
00:36:24.679 --> 00:36:29.840
him or kind of pushed him into opening the door

524
00:36:29.880 --> 00:36:34.280
to a paramedics because he didn't want to. I kind

525
00:36:34.320 --> 00:36:36.760
of force his hand a little bit for that because

526
00:36:37.000 --> 00:36:40.679
I was so worried about him. And I was right

527
00:36:40.719 --> 00:36:43.400
to be worried about him, because it was way worse

528
00:36:43.440 --> 00:36:46.559
than I thought. I didn't think it was. I could

529
00:36:46.599 --> 00:36:52.840
see there was clearlya a jaundice situation, possibly just because

530
00:36:52.880 --> 00:36:56.519
of the coloring. But I thought it just it would

531
00:36:56.519 --> 00:37:01.679
be something simple, you know, just needed to some medication.

532
00:37:03.559 --> 00:37:04.400
And he'd be fine.

533
00:37:05.000 --> 00:37:13.519
I was wrong. But he didn't want to go in there.

534
00:37:16.400 --> 00:37:18.719
All he wanted to do is be left alone watch

535
00:37:18.760 --> 00:37:22.360
his sport at home, and just.

536
00:37:25.599 --> 00:37:28.320
I get it, I do well, I think I do.

537
00:37:29.440 --> 00:37:33.119
Not the sport parkers that wouldn't interest me, but just

538
00:37:33.239 --> 00:37:40.320
the wanting to be left alone. The chances I wouldn't

539
00:37:40.360 --> 00:37:46.840
be here now if I had done that, pretty big

540
00:37:46.920 --> 00:37:51.199
chances actually, And if he was here, it'd be in hospital,

541
00:37:51.880 --> 00:37:57.079
so you know, he would have ended up in hospital anyway.

542
00:37:57.480 --> 00:38:00.480
But it's I don't know. I think it's part of them.

543
00:38:00.480 --> 00:38:02.400
I think really dislikes me for that.

544
00:38:04.400 --> 00:38:08.880
He's mentioned it a few times. That Friday night.

545
00:38:09.199 --> 00:38:13.480
It's the infamous Friday night when I did everything I

546
00:38:13.480 --> 00:38:19.280
could to get him to listen to me because he

547
00:38:19.280 --> 00:38:25.440
wouldn't and clanned the door in my face that day.

548
00:38:27.000 --> 00:38:32.159
But at the same time, he agreed, you know, he

549
00:38:32.199 --> 00:38:34.599
agreed on the phone to see the paramedics. When they

550
00:38:34.840 --> 00:38:38.119
phoned him up, he answered the door and they were

551
00:38:38.119 --> 00:38:41.360
all going out. He didn't knock on my door nothing.

552
00:38:42.280 --> 00:38:45.079
So I went out to see how he was, and

553
00:38:45.119 --> 00:38:48.320
the paramedics said, all tame to the hospital, and Alex

554
00:38:48.360 --> 00:38:52.760
looked at me. I said, you want me to come,

555
00:38:54.199 --> 00:38:59.239
and he said yes, please. So from then on we're

556
00:38:59.280 --> 00:39:03.519
being good. But you know, he was just going to

557
00:39:03.599 --> 00:39:05.039
go on his own. I think the fact that he

558
00:39:05.119 --> 00:39:07.880
slammed the door in my face probably thought that I

559
00:39:07.960 --> 00:39:11.280
possibly wasn't the right person for him. To ask for

560
00:39:11.320 --> 00:39:13.480
help after he'd done that.

561
00:39:13.559 --> 00:39:17.320
But I've had worse.

562
00:39:17.559 --> 00:39:20.159
I mean, I've had slapped, doors slammed in my face before,

563
00:39:21.800 --> 00:39:28.199
I've had people say nasty things to me. But you

564
00:39:28.199 --> 00:39:30.199
should have seen me and Luke some of the things

565
00:39:30.199 --> 00:39:34.800
he said to me. But when you know someone's unwell,

566
00:39:35.639 --> 00:39:40.320
I think it's kind of making a few adjustments.

567
00:39:40.320 --> 00:39:41.880
I think he's required.

568
00:39:43.199 --> 00:39:45.840
So I've done that while he's been in the hospital

569
00:39:45.840 --> 00:39:49.840
as well, Uncle's Sausages. Kind of got to realize that

570
00:39:51.320 --> 00:39:56.400
he's going through something that I've never gone through. I've

571
00:39:56.440 --> 00:39:59.840
not really got any way of understanding what he's going

572
00:39:59.840 --> 00:40:08.840
through through. And because everyone experiences things differently anyway, you know,

573
00:40:08.880 --> 00:40:10.880
we can I mean you can say someone, you get

574
00:40:10.880 --> 00:40:14.199
ten people going through the same experience, you can swap

575
00:40:14.320 --> 00:40:18.119
notes and say, okay, well there's a few similarities in

576
00:40:18.760 --> 00:40:23.960
how we're feeling about this particular situation, but ultimately, when

577
00:40:23.960 --> 00:40:27.960
it comes to feelings, when it comes to emotions, it's

578
00:40:28.000 --> 00:40:32.400
going to be different for everyone. So I have no

579
00:40:32.559 --> 00:40:36.400
clue really how he's feeling. And he doesn't like to

580
00:40:36.440 --> 00:40:43.320
talk about his feelings unless he's angry, it seems to be,

581
00:40:43.800 --> 00:40:46.000
and it's usually got nothing to do with the situation

582
00:40:46.800 --> 00:40:50.719
is to do with an ouse, an outside thing, something

583
00:40:50.719 --> 00:40:54.719
that's annoyeding rather like the food and not being.

584
00:40:56.039 --> 00:41:00.000
Tasty or something like that. But he's not.

585
00:41:03.280 --> 00:41:06.639
Yeah, I guess they gain. I can't judge it because

586
00:41:10.000 --> 00:41:14.480
I have no idea. I got zero, zero idea what

587
00:41:14.519 --> 00:41:18.280
he's going through emotionally or physically.

588
00:41:18.360 --> 00:41:22.559
I don't know. I don't know. Oh, I know what

589
00:41:22.599 --> 00:41:24.679
he tells me, but I still don't know what it's

590
00:41:24.760 --> 00:41:35.760
like for him. So it's this been weird, been very

591
00:41:35.880 --> 00:41:36.679
very weird.

592
00:41:39.679 --> 00:41:39.880
Yeah.

593
00:41:39.960 --> 00:41:41.519
I just I hope that.

594
00:41:43.800 --> 00:41:47.159
Within the he's gone through a point where he.

595
00:41:47.199 --> 00:41:48.559
Was going to walk out.

596
00:41:49.360 --> 00:41:51.960
Now he's got to a point where he's just waiting

597
00:41:52.639 --> 00:41:58.159
to be moved, that that that mention of just walking

598
00:41:58.159 --> 00:42:01.320
out is gone now because he knows he's not allowed

599
00:42:01.320 --> 00:42:06.880
out and he knows that he can't. It's not going

600
00:42:06.920 --> 00:42:09.239
to work out if he just walks out. He realizes

601
00:42:09.280 --> 00:42:17.800
that now for a few medical physical reasons, and it

602
00:42:17.840 --> 00:42:20.760
seems to have come to accept that he can't just

603
00:42:20.840 --> 00:42:22.800
walk out of the hospital and come home.

604
00:42:26.000 --> 00:42:29.599
Not not not that he can't, but it'd be.

605
00:42:31.119 --> 00:42:35.679
Possibly unable to himself do it in a from a

606
00:42:35.679 --> 00:42:39.840
physical perspective, there's a few there's a few barriers, a

607
00:42:39.920 --> 00:42:44.480
few physical barriers, and also there's the medication which possibly

608
00:42:44.559 --> 00:42:49.360
having a bit of an effect on him, and if

609
00:42:49.360 --> 00:42:52.679
he walked out, he wouldn't have the medication, or if

610
00:42:52.679 --> 00:42:57.280
he did, would he take it? You know, stuff like that. So, oh,

611
00:43:01.079 --> 00:43:05.079
it's been very strange. Oh yeah, I had another one

612
00:43:05.280 --> 00:43:10.320
this lady. I phoned a taxi. All I did is

613
00:43:10.440 --> 00:43:13.599
I phoned for taxi. Can you please pick me up

614
00:43:13.599 --> 00:43:18.039
from the hospital and take me to this address or whatever?

615
00:43:18.199 --> 00:43:18.559
She said?

616
00:43:18.599 --> 00:43:21.519
Okay again she answered the phone and laughing.

617
00:43:22.559 --> 00:43:25.119
It's a weird one. Just I think it's the same person.

618
00:43:25.960 --> 00:43:32.280
And she's basically laughing at me when I was talking.

619
00:43:32.679 --> 00:43:34.960
It seemed to me because I've been on the other

620
00:43:35.079 --> 00:43:39.079
end of that situation where someone's making fun of the customer,

621
00:43:40.800 --> 00:43:44.079
whether it's because of the way they're talking, or because

622
00:43:44.119 --> 00:43:52.559
of their accent or maybe anything, or perhaps the two

623
00:43:52.679 --> 00:43:57.159
people on the other side are just you know, So

624
00:43:57.199 --> 00:44:00.440
it's got the person answering the phone, walking on the

625
00:44:00.440 --> 00:44:03.079
phone to the customer that they might have been in

626
00:44:03.119 --> 00:44:09.280
the middle of her something hilarious, who knows, or maybe

627
00:44:09.760 --> 00:44:13.199
she was watching a video on YouTube. At the same

628
00:44:13.239 --> 00:44:18.079
time as talking in anyone's guests, but super rude, just

629
00:44:18.199 --> 00:44:25.559
laughing at me. And again I was like okay, and

630
00:44:25.639 --> 00:44:30.639
I thought, maybe say not I'm just moaning, but maybe

631
00:44:30.639 --> 00:44:35.360
I am. If you pick it, it's I phone in

632
00:44:35.400 --> 00:44:39.519
for a taxi from the hospital. So the way my

633
00:44:39.679 --> 00:44:44.800
brain works it goes this way. Say if you're phone

634
00:44:44.840 --> 00:44:47.679
in for taxi and you're answering, you're answering the taxi.

635
00:44:48.079 --> 00:44:49.880
Yeah, your job is to.

636
00:44:49.840 --> 00:44:54.199
Answer the phone to organize a taxi for a customer

637
00:44:54.639 --> 00:44:59.960
and they're phoning from the hospital. Then treat that person

638
00:45:00.079 --> 00:45:00.679
with respect.

639
00:45:00.880 --> 00:45:02.679
I must say, treat everyone with respect.

640
00:45:04.440 --> 00:45:07.519
But nobody who's phone in for a taxi to be

641
00:45:07.599 --> 00:45:12.960
taken away from the hospital is being No one's been

642
00:45:12.960 --> 00:45:15.159
having a jolly. No one's been having a good time.

643
00:45:16.440 --> 00:45:22.880
Either there a patient, a visiting a patient, or they

644
00:45:22.960 --> 00:45:23.840
work in the hospital.

645
00:45:25.000 --> 00:45:29.400
That's kind of pretty much the three types of people

646
00:45:29.480 --> 00:45:29.840
that are.

647
00:45:29.760 --> 00:45:36.360
Going to be at the hospital, I want to say

648
00:45:36.360 --> 00:45:40.039
working there. Even people that work in costers, working w

649
00:45:40.079 --> 00:45:44.519
a smith. It's got had is an extra element to

650
00:45:44.639 --> 00:45:48.840
work in those places in a hospital that you wouldn't

651
00:45:48.880 --> 00:45:58.079
get in a normal costs or a normal supermarket. Because

652
00:45:58.119 --> 00:46:02.119
of just it's a different a voment. It's just it's

653
00:46:02.199 --> 00:46:07.760
not it's not easy. It's not an easy environment. So yeah,

654
00:46:07.800 --> 00:46:10.199
I was that was a weird because I don't get

655
00:46:10.239 --> 00:46:13.400
that very often when people are rude on the phone,

656
00:46:13.480 --> 00:46:19.159
but I had it twice this week. So this is

657
00:46:19.320 --> 00:46:20.800
what I'm going to let you know. This is how

658
00:46:20.840 --> 00:46:23.239
I talk when I when I phone up. This is

659
00:46:23.239 --> 00:46:27.239
what I first say to the person who answers the phone. Okay,

660
00:46:27.320 --> 00:46:30.000
so tell me whether or not this deserves for the

661
00:46:30.039 --> 00:46:32.599
other person to be rude to me. So this is

662
00:46:32.639 --> 00:46:36.760
how I spoke when I phoned up the hospital reception,

663
00:46:36.920 --> 00:46:40.159
you know, for Uncle sausages about getting him some food.

664
00:46:40.920 --> 00:46:43.599
And it is exactly the same way when I phone

665
00:46:43.679 --> 00:46:46.800
up for my taxi. So I'll be honest, right, you

666
00:46:46.840 --> 00:46:49.039
can write in the comments or whatever you want. Tell

667
00:46:49.079 --> 00:46:52.480
me if this really deserved for me for them to

668
00:46:52.519 --> 00:46:56.239
be rude to me. So you got like ring ring,

669
00:46:56.400 --> 00:47:03.800
ring ring, and it answers hello taxi or hello hospital.

670
00:47:04.800 --> 00:47:09.119
I said, yeah, now listen to me. I'm the boss.

671
00:47:09.880 --> 00:47:12.360
I want you to do what I say. I'm the

672
00:47:12.440 --> 00:47:16.400
king of the castle. You're the dirty rascal. Now take

673
00:47:16.719 --> 00:47:18.760
take a pair if you've got a pen, write this

674
00:47:18.840 --> 00:47:22.559
down because you're probably going to forget it. Come on now, chop, chop.

675
00:47:23.000 --> 00:47:24.559
What I want is this?

676
00:47:26.599 --> 00:47:26.760
Now?

677
00:47:26.800 --> 00:47:29.679
Tell me? Does that deserve?

678
00:47:31.480 --> 00:47:31.719
Does?

679
00:47:32.119 --> 00:47:35.320
Does that deserve for people to be rude to me?

680
00:47:35.400 --> 00:47:35.679
From that?

681
00:47:36.599 --> 00:47:41.480
It's a perfectly kind and gentle way to start a

682
00:47:42.360 --> 00:47:48.599
phone a telephone conversation. Don't you think It's like, yeah,

683
00:47:49.559 --> 00:47:54.440
oh I saw Shakira in an interview the other day.

684
00:47:55.039 --> 00:47:56.280
She's hardly changed.

685
00:47:58.760 --> 00:48:01.320
She just looks she just looks the same.

686
00:48:02.800 --> 00:48:05.760
It's like, I don't know, it's weird.

687
00:48:07.400 --> 00:48:09.400
Miss that means don't look exactly the same, but she's

688
00:48:09.400 --> 00:48:12.719
still She's just doesn't seem.

689
00:48:12.480 --> 00:48:13.840
To have aged hardly.

690
00:48:15.000 --> 00:48:15.639
It's weird.

691
00:48:17.519 --> 00:48:20.079
So did you ever see that thing on Facebook where

692
00:48:20.119 --> 00:48:26.199
they say, oh, guess who this celebrity is and they

693
00:48:26.239 --> 00:48:33.840
show you a picture of them now in their seventies

694
00:48:38.639 --> 00:48:44.360
and they're so surprised, like I can't believe it. There's

695
00:48:44.400 --> 00:48:46.559
seventy eight and they don't look like they did when

696
00:48:46.559 --> 00:48:47.480
they were twenty three.

697
00:48:48.920 --> 00:48:51.840
That's just crazy.

698
00:48:52.719 --> 00:48:57.719
It's like, why why have those photographs? At least we

699
00:48:57.800 --> 00:48:59.480
haven't got to put up with that. If you feel

700
00:48:59.519 --> 00:49:03.119
like you might be famous but for non famous people.

701
00:49:04.199 --> 00:49:05.039
We haven't got to have that.

702
00:49:05.320 --> 00:49:10.000
We to have publicly pictures of us when we was

703
00:49:10.039 --> 00:49:13.719
young compared to how we look now or when we're older.

704
00:49:18.559 --> 00:49:21.440
I don't know what's going on down there. A lot

705
00:49:21.480 --> 00:49:25.079
of noise, that's what's going on. I actually listened to

706
00:49:25.159 --> 00:49:28.239
my podcast the other day and I could hear and

707
00:49:28.480 --> 00:49:29.239
got to be out.

708
00:49:29.039 --> 00:49:32.679
There raw rah rah rah rah.

709
00:49:37.719 --> 00:49:38.440
I don't know why.

710
00:49:40.599 --> 00:49:45.519
So Michelle asks, yes, I'm still doing Q and A Friday,

711
00:49:45.599 --> 00:49:50.800
believe or not. Michelle asks, does Uncle Sausages have any family?

712
00:49:52.440 --> 00:49:52.559
Oh?

713
00:49:52.639 --> 00:49:53.400
Yeah, I've already done this.

714
00:49:54.000 --> 00:50:04.880
No, no, zero, zero family, none whatsoever. I think he

715
00:50:04.880 --> 00:50:15.280
he would probably class. I think he pretty much classes

716
00:50:16.119 --> 00:50:27.320
Auntie Landlord and Uncle Pasty to be his family. And

717
00:50:27.679 --> 00:50:32.400
I'm not be the neighbor, as I said. And also

718
00:50:33.679 --> 00:50:38.519
Little Vinnie. He loves Uncle Sausages, loves Little Vinnie. Little

719
00:50:38.559 --> 00:50:40.039
Vinie loves Uncle Sausages.

720
00:50:41.280 --> 00:50:41.760
He does.

721
00:50:42.440 --> 00:50:44.559
They talked to each other through the door what they

722
00:50:44.679 --> 00:50:48.239
used to. So I'll be in here and I'll mention this,

723
00:50:48.719 --> 00:50:50.679
I think. But i'd be in here, they'd be having

724
00:50:50.679 --> 00:50:54.159
this full on conversation through the doorway because the door

725
00:50:54.159 --> 00:50:57.320
would be locked closed. Because I didn't want him getting

726
00:50:57.360 --> 00:51:01.000
in and I and he'd be outside the door talking

727
00:51:01.239 --> 00:51:05.000
to Vinnie, and they'd be like talking like he would

728
00:51:05.039 --> 00:51:08.519
go on for about five minutes. I don't know what

729
00:51:08.559 --> 00:51:11.440
they were saying. I could hear what he was saying,

730
00:51:11.440 --> 00:51:15.800
but I couldn't. Vinnie was just going, oh, like that,

731
00:51:16.320 --> 00:51:22.880
maybe barking a bit. You can understand Uncle's sausages, couldn't you.

732
00:51:24.840 --> 00:51:28.880
He understands anyone that gives him sausages. He can just

733
00:51:28.880 --> 00:51:33.679
sew into their language. If sausages are involved, you turning,

734
00:51:33.800 --> 00:51:34.679
he turns into a.

735
00:51:34.599 --> 00:51:36.880
Genius, don't you. Vin.

736
00:51:39.360 --> 00:51:43.159
I'm getting a sense that someone's about to cut the lawn,

737
00:51:43.960 --> 00:51:47.400
That's what I'm getting. Did I tell you they took

738
00:51:47.400 --> 00:51:51.760
the scaffolding down outside? I feel like I'm giving you

739
00:51:51.760 --> 00:51:54.840
an update on the whole week because I haven't done

740
00:51:54.840 --> 00:51:57.960
as many recordings as I normally do, so I didn't

741
00:51:58.000 --> 00:52:01.440
do one Thursday. I'm doing this on Saturday, and that

742
00:52:01.440 --> 00:52:04.039
it's terrible. But I should have done this yesterday, but

743
00:52:05.239 --> 00:52:09.760
I was too tired yesterday. I got the weekend off

744
00:52:10.199 --> 00:52:15.440
to go today end Sunday off, and I'm going in Monday.

745
00:52:16.280 --> 00:52:16.960
And his.

746
00:52:18.880 --> 00:52:23.480
Auntie Landlord went in to see him last night. No,

747
00:52:23.519 --> 00:52:27.159
not last night, Thursday night, and she's going in tonight.

748
00:52:28.000 --> 00:52:32.679
So he's literally only going one day without seeing anyone.

749
00:52:33.800 --> 00:52:35.719
I kind of do the Monday. I'm trying to do

750
00:52:35.760 --> 00:52:38.840
it the Monday, Wednesday, Friday at the moment, but leaving

751
00:52:38.880 --> 00:52:42.320
those other days open in case he needs me to

752
00:52:42.360 --> 00:52:47.079
go in, so you know, they're still open, They're still available,

753
00:52:48.800 --> 00:52:50.840
and I have you know, last week I was going

754
00:52:50.880 --> 00:52:56.239
to have I did the whole week and then I

755
00:52:56.280 --> 00:53:02.199
was going to have Saturday and Sunday off, but Saturday

756
00:53:02.239 --> 00:53:04.119
morning he wanted me to go in, so I went in.

757
00:53:05.039 --> 00:53:06.719
So you know, if he needs me to go in,

758
00:53:06.800 --> 00:53:09.960
because for whatever reason, if I can't sort it out

759
00:53:10.000 --> 00:53:11.280
on the phone, then.

760
00:53:11.159 --> 00:53:11.760
I'll go in.

761
00:53:13.239 --> 00:53:15.320
Or if it just really needs be to go in,

762
00:53:16.159 --> 00:53:18.440
then I will if I can, if I can afford

763
00:53:18.440 --> 00:53:24.480
to get in. Oh god, yeah, yesterday he was going about,

764
00:53:25.039 --> 00:53:28.320
oh yeah, I'll get someone to buy off to get

765
00:53:28.360 --> 00:53:32.079
a taxi in and and get get the sandwiches from

766
00:53:32.119 --> 00:53:34.280
the petrol station across the road from where we live

767
00:53:34.920 --> 00:53:37.079
and bring them in to me, because that's what he

768
00:53:37.159 --> 00:53:39.159
used to do every day, go to the petrol station,

769
00:53:39.320 --> 00:53:44.199
buy some sandwiches, maybe a drink and then he'd come

770
00:53:44.199 --> 00:53:47.880
home and eat it. That would that would be his food.

771
00:53:47.239 --> 00:53:54.039
And I said, I'm not, you know, he wouldn't say.

772
00:53:54.079 --> 00:53:57.679
He didn't ask me directly. He said, if if only

773
00:53:57.719 --> 00:54:01.079
someone could do that. I kept saying to him, Look,

774
00:54:01.079 --> 00:54:04.599
I was there with you two hours ago, I was

775
00:54:04.679 --> 00:54:07.480
with you for three hours or whatever it was. I

776
00:54:07.480 --> 00:54:09.559
could have got you anything. I kept asking you if

777
00:54:09.559 --> 00:54:12.960
he needed anything. I mean, I can take him down

778
00:54:13.000 --> 00:54:14.840
in a wheelchair if he wants to go down with me.

779
00:54:15.400 --> 00:54:20.199
It's a ramp the whole way, and lifts and everything.

780
00:54:20.880 --> 00:54:23.719
So I've got that bumping bumping up and down the stairs.

781
00:54:24.719 --> 00:54:32.480
It'd be weird, isn't it. But I thought, no, I'm not.

782
00:54:32.719 --> 00:54:34.280
I can't.

783
00:54:34.320 --> 00:54:38.000
First all was gonna he wanted to pay for us.

784
00:54:38.000 --> 00:54:42.000
It's going to cost forty pound, well, seventeen pound there,

785
00:54:42.079 --> 00:54:46.280
seventeen pounds back. I always give twenty pound give a tip.

786
00:54:50.000 --> 00:54:52.639
But that puts me in an awkward position because firstly,

787
00:54:52.679 --> 00:54:56.559
I couldn't afford to spend that money myself, so I'd

788
00:54:56.559 --> 00:54:59.159
have to go there, walk all the way up to

789
00:54:59.199 --> 00:55:04.000
the ward, get that money from him, to take it

790
00:55:04.079 --> 00:55:06.639
back down to the taxi driver. So by this time,

791
00:55:06.679 --> 00:55:09.840
it's probably going to be twenty five pound because it's

792
00:55:09.840 --> 00:55:14.239
a long I'd walk so waiting time, you know. But

793
00:55:14.280 --> 00:55:16.599
then I'd have to ask him for money, which means

794
00:55:16.599 --> 00:55:20.000
going into the ward and the staff.

795
00:55:19.719 --> 00:55:21.880
Seeing him give me money.

796
00:55:22.599 --> 00:55:25.719
And I'm not prepared for that, especially after those nurses

797
00:55:26.679 --> 00:55:30.119
questioning him about it. So I thought, and I said

798
00:55:30.119 --> 00:55:31.920
that to him. I said, don't ever give me anything.

799
00:55:32.199 --> 00:55:35.239
I said, I've never, You've never. He's been offering me

800
00:55:35.280 --> 00:55:38.239
stuff for years whenever I help him out, so I

801
00:55:38.599 --> 00:55:40.800
can help you, and I've lent him some money and

802
00:55:40.840 --> 00:55:43.440
he always pays it back. It's only a couple of times.

803
00:55:43.920 --> 00:55:46.559
Helped him when he got locked out, Helped him with

804
00:55:46.599 --> 00:55:50.599
his bathroom, Helped him with just various different bits and bobs.

805
00:55:51.400 --> 00:55:52.199
Helped him get his.

806
00:55:53.440 --> 00:55:55.920
Water built down from ninety pounds a month to twelve

807
00:55:55.960 --> 00:56:02.239
pounds fifty. Literally, he's been ripped off by out about

808
00:56:02.239 --> 00:56:05.440
twelve pounds he's probably spent that he didn't need to

809
00:56:05.440 --> 00:56:10.960
spend over the last thirty years twenty five years. Helped

810
00:56:11.039 --> 00:56:13.920
him with his banking. Just because he can't hear on

811
00:56:13.960 --> 00:56:16.920
the phone, he can't hear the person he's talking to

812
00:56:17.119 --> 00:56:19.119
very well, So what I do is I do it

813
00:56:19.119 --> 00:56:21.280
with him, so he's in the room with me and

814
00:56:21.320 --> 00:56:24.880
we do it together. So it's just been the last

815
00:56:24.920 --> 00:56:30.480
year or so that we've been doing that and he's

816
00:56:36.119 --> 00:56:38.159
he's offered me stuff like I'll give you this, give

817
00:56:38.199 --> 00:56:38.400
you that.

818
00:56:38.719 --> 00:56:39.679
No, don't want anything.

819
00:56:41.280 --> 00:56:42.719
He got a.

820
00:56:45.119 --> 00:56:48.880
Like a loan thing which wasn't alone, but it was

821
00:56:48.920 --> 00:56:53.320
one that you don't have to pay back from the government,

822
00:56:53.800 --> 00:56:56.880
which was to help him with his flats. He has

823
00:56:56.920 --> 00:56:59.559
the problems with his flat, so to buy some new

824
00:56:59.599 --> 00:57:02.960
stuff and he needed it through his new kitchen.

825
00:57:03.000 --> 00:57:04.559
That's that was being done.

826
00:57:07.039 --> 00:57:09.719
He had four weeks to use it and he didn't

827
00:57:09.840 --> 00:57:14.800
use it, and the expirer date was the thirty first

828
00:57:14.920 --> 00:57:18.719
of I don't know when I think he could use

829
00:57:18.760 --> 00:57:22.920
it for anything he was, I think groceries whatever. So

830
00:57:23.199 --> 00:57:25.360
I think it needed to be using a supermarket. So

831
00:57:26.280 --> 00:57:29.199
what I did is I said, we need to use it.

832
00:57:29.280 --> 00:57:31.599
He said, no, no, you just have it. I said,

833
00:57:31.639 --> 00:57:33.280
I don't want it. It's not for me, it's for you.

834
00:57:34.239 --> 00:57:36.239
He said, well, you just just buy stuff for yourself.

835
00:57:36.280 --> 00:57:41.000
I said no, like three hundred and fifty nine pounds.

836
00:57:41.000 --> 00:57:44.280
I think it was like he said, we'll just chuck

837
00:57:44.320 --> 00:57:46.840
it away. Then I said, no, you wouldn't just chuck

838
00:57:46.920 --> 00:57:48.960
three hundred and fifty nine pound in the bit, would you.

839
00:57:50.400 --> 00:57:51.880
He said, I might do what's he got to do

840
00:57:51.920 --> 00:57:56.320
with you? He didn't say that, So I almost had

841
00:57:56.360 --> 00:57:59.639
to kind of talk him into coming in there, going

842
00:57:59.679 --> 00:58:02.599
on a copewter and him choosing what he wanted to

843
00:58:02.599 --> 00:58:06.679
buy for himself and then doing it on the card.

844
00:58:06.960 --> 00:58:08.880
He just didn't want to do it on He didn't

845
00:58:09.119 --> 00:58:11.599
know how to use the card, and I think he

846
00:58:11.679 --> 00:58:13.880
was a little bit afraid of it, which I understand,

847
00:58:15.000 --> 00:58:18.360
But it was just like, that's a lot of money

848
00:58:18.440 --> 00:58:22.639
to just let fall on the floor, especially as he

849
00:58:22.760 --> 00:58:26.880
needed he needed a kettle, He needed a what did

850
00:58:26.880 --> 00:58:35.679
he get kettle? Toaster, cutlery, dishes and plates, towels, all

851
00:58:35.719 --> 00:58:38.840
things like that through his new kitchen that he didn't

852
00:58:38.880 --> 00:58:43.920
have before, and a toaster or those you know those

853
00:58:44.199 --> 00:58:51.119
revel not the revel, but it's makes toasted sandwiches and

854
00:58:51.159 --> 00:58:53.440
a few other bits and bobs that kind of he

855
00:58:53.519 --> 00:58:59.480
really needed. And it's like, okay, well this is you

856
00:58:59.559 --> 00:59:03.599
got the livery. I said, it's going to be delivered

857
00:59:03.599 --> 00:59:09.239
to my address because this is my supermarket. That amusement

858
00:59:09.280 --> 00:59:13.400
on like online. But you need to keep the receipt

859
00:59:13.519 --> 00:59:17.039
and keep hold of it and know that you've got

860
00:59:17.079 --> 00:59:19.360
the stuff that I didn't order it myself for me.

861
00:59:20.159 --> 00:59:22.400
You know, it's just I'm trying to cover myself because

862
00:59:22.400 --> 00:59:25.880
that could look bad, couldn't it Like I've stolen his

863
00:59:26.000 --> 00:59:27.480
card or something, which I haven't.

864
00:59:28.320 --> 00:59:30.199
So all the stuff said is in his flat.

865
00:59:30.239 --> 00:59:35.360
Anyway, he started using some of it, but he was

866
00:59:35.400 --> 00:59:40.199
waiting for the because the kitchen hadn't been Yeah, at

867
00:59:40.199 --> 00:59:43.719
this point, the kitchen hadn't even been started, so it's

868
00:59:43.760 --> 00:59:47.679
about to be started, and we we had to get

869
00:59:47.719 --> 00:59:50.559
the Yeah, that's that's it. So we had all stacked

870
00:59:50.559 --> 00:59:53.559
in his bedroom while the kitchen was being done, and

871
00:59:53.599 --> 00:59:57.440
once the kitchen was finished, then he started taking the

872
00:59:57.480 --> 01:00:00.840
stuff into the kitchen. Really, quite a few of the

873
01:00:00.880 --> 01:00:05.800
boxes the other day. So yeah, but even then, like,

874
01:00:05.840 --> 01:00:12.400
oh you take it. No, I'm not taking it. I'm

875
01:00:12.440 --> 01:00:16.440
sure plenty of people will have done. But I just know, Oh,

876
01:00:16.679 --> 01:00:18.960
I'll give you some money. No, I don't want any money.

877
01:00:19.239 --> 01:00:22.480
I don't want his stuff. I don't want anything from him,

878
01:00:22.559 --> 01:00:24.360
just like come on, just.

879
01:00:24.480 --> 01:00:27.480
All I want, all I ever wanted.

880
01:00:27.280 --> 01:00:29.760
For him is for him, just to be safe and

881
01:00:29.800 --> 01:00:31.320
happy and help him out.

882
01:00:31.519 --> 01:00:32.760
If I can help him, I will.

883
01:00:33.920 --> 01:00:36.679
He's elderly, he's not that much older than me, though

884
01:00:36.719 --> 01:00:39.079
he's like twenty four years older than me.

885
01:00:40.840 --> 01:00:42.599
But what I see in him is.

886
01:00:44.119 --> 01:00:47.000
Kind of me in a sense, living on my own,

887
01:00:48.079 --> 01:00:54.159
got nobody, nobody to look after me, nobody visits, I

888
01:00:54.199 --> 01:00:55.039
don't let anyone in.

889
01:00:55.239 --> 01:00:56.599
I'm very very similar to.

890
01:00:56.639 --> 01:00:57.239
Him in that way.

891
01:00:57.719 --> 01:01:01.400
I live my own life, very independent. I only go

892
01:01:01.440 --> 01:01:03.239
out because of Vinny. If it wasn't for him, I

893
01:01:03.280 --> 01:01:11.400
probably wouldn't leave the house. And he's obsessed with football

894
01:01:11.519 --> 01:01:16.840
and sport. I'm obsessed with this stuff, so it's kind

895
01:01:16.840 --> 01:01:20.639
of I can see that similarity.

896
01:01:20.679 --> 01:01:21.440
We're both.

897
01:01:24.400 --> 01:01:32.920
Very verbal, very you know, talkative, chatty, energetic. I'm not

898
01:01:32.960 --> 01:01:35.519
sure how energetic I am, but he's a way more

899
01:01:35.639 --> 01:01:39.440
energetic than I am even now. But that's more to

900
01:01:39.480 --> 01:01:45.239
do with his passion. He's absolutely obsessed with sport, and

901
01:01:45.239 --> 01:01:48.760
that's what that's what that's what annoys me, probably more

902
01:01:48.800 --> 01:01:53.480
than annoys me about his situation, because he's more enthusiastic.

903
01:01:53.719 --> 01:01:56.920
In fact, I don't think I've ever met anyone more

904
01:01:57.039 --> 01:02:01.360
enthusiastic about being alive. Than him in my whole life.

905
01:02:02.000 --> 01:02:05.840
And I'm including the kids, I'm including everyone. The energy

906
01:02:05.840 --> 01:02:08.239
he's got, He's got the energy of a small child.

907
01:02:08.840 --> 01:02:13.800
It's endless. As far as his enthusiasm goes. Yeah, he

908
01:02:13.840 --> 01:02:16.199
can't run, it, can't probably climb a tree anymore.

909
01:02:16.199 --> 01:02:17.320
I don't mean it in that way.

910
01:02:17.159 --> 01:02:23.920
But his enthusiasm for football and for rugby and golf

911
01:02:24.079 --> 01:02:28.679
and stuff like that, and I've always found it annoying

912
01:02:30.679 --> 01:02:35.960
just because I'm not interested in sport other than boxing.

913
01:02:38.519 --> 01:02:40.320
And he can't match me with boxing because I know

914
01:02:40.320 --> 01:02:42.920
a lot more about it than he does. But I

915
01:02:42.960 --> 01:02:52.239
can't even when it comes to football, rugby, golf, tennis, cricket.

916
01:02:53.360 --> 01:02:55.840
I mean, that's a lot of sports. He knows the

917
01:02:56.000 --> 01:02:58.719
name well. His memory is not as good as what

918
01:02:58.760 --> 01:03:01.920
he used to be, but he's a bit more groggy,

919
01:03:02.000 --> 01:03:04.480
but again that might be due to the medication or

920
01:03:06.119 --> 01:03:10.960
the other things. So, but he's always been so passionate

921
01:03:11.639 --> 01:03:14.320
and that's the thing that I've respected. It's the thing

922
01:03:14.320 --> 01:03:16.639
that annoyed me just because he just.

923
01:03:16.559 --> 01:03:18.840
Talks and talks and talks and talks and talks.

924
01:03:19.119 --> 01:03:19.519
And.

925
01:03:22.079 --> 01:03:24.559
In the past I've told him, I'm not interested in

926
01:03:24.679 --> 01:03:27.840
what you're talking about not in a bad way. I

927
01:03:28.000 --> 01:03:31.440
just like, you know, I don't care about football. Yeah,

928
01:03:31.480 --> 01:03:34.960
you want to talk to me about football? And he

929
01:03:35.039 --> 01:03:37.880
laughs because he knows that I'm not that it's just

930
01:03:37.960 --> 01:03:46.000
not something I want to talk about. And but to

931
01:03:46.079 --> 01:03:52.280
have that passion, and he's so friendly to everyone generally.

932
01:03:52.320 --> 01:03:53.840
I mean he's a little bit grumpy at the moment,

933
01:03:53.880 --> 01:03:59.400
but hey, who could blame him, but generally he's friendly.

934
01:03:59.719 --> 01:04:05.039
He his start in the conversation is if he meets someone,

935
01:04:07.119 --> 01:04:10.920
if he hears the accent, or he can kind of

936
01:04:11.159 --> 01:04:15.639
roughly tell where someone's from.

937
01:04:14.039 --> 01:04:15.880
And he'll guess their football.

938
01:04:15.480 --> 01:04:18.960
Team that they support, or if you can't, he just

939
01:04:19.000 --> 01:04:20.599
say who's your favor football team?

940
01:04:20.880 --> 01:04:25.320
That's his opener. Or if he's never met the person.

941
01:04:25.559 --> 01:04:28.079
Because he met the lady that lives downstairs for the

942
01:04:28.079 --> 01:04:29.880
first time and he said, do you like sport?

943
01:04:32.280 --> 01:04:33.920
And I was behind him shaking.

944
01:04:33.599 --> 01:04:36.679
My head, say say no, say no, bit, do you

945
01:04:36.760 --> 01:04:42.239
like sport? And that's his opener because that's his passion.

946
01:04:42.320 --> 01:04:48.800
It's not just an interest, it's his whole life. Really,

947
01:04:48.880 --> 01:04:54.480
sport is his whole life. And I have nothing but

948
01:04:54.559 --> 01:05:01.199
admiration for anyone that can live their life life doing

949
01:05:01.280 --> 01:05:06.119
what they love. And that's what he's done. He's lived

950
01:05:06.119 --> 01:05:12.880
his life every day. Okay, I'm exaggerating because I'm not

951
01:05:12.920 --> 01:05:15.960
inside his head. I don't know how he feels every day,

952
01:05:16.000 --> 01:05:20.199
but it seems I get a sense that he wakes

953
01:05:20.280 --> 01:05:21.960
up when he goes to bed at night, he's looking

954
01:05:22.000 --> 01:05:25.280
forward to the next day, or he's looking forward to

955
01:05:26.000 --> 01:05:29.920
the next sporting event, which is usually because because he

956
01:05:29.960 --> 01:05:33.000
watched sports all over the world, whether it's because he

957
01:05:33.239 --> 01:05:37.320
cricket ten you know, all year round, so there's always

958
01:05:37.320 --> 01:05:44.639
something that he's looking forward to watching, and he wakes

959
01:05:44.760 --> 01:05:52.960
up with something to look forward to. And I think

960
01:05:53.079 --> 01:05:55.320
you can't put well personally, I don't think we can

961
01:05:55.320 --> 01:06:01.480
put a price on that it's something that it's a gift.

962
01:06:03.760 --> 01:06:08.559
I mean, maybe, you know, some possibly would argue that

963
01:06:08.559 --> 01:06:15.760
it's to be obsessed with something isn't necessarily good, which

964
01:06:15.840 --> 01:06:21.519
I understand if it is an obsession with something harmful

965
01:06:23.280 --> 01:06:26.119
that's going to harm harm the person, Yet it's not

966
01:06:26.159 --> 01:06:29.239
a good thing. If it's an obsession with another person

967
01:06:29.559 --> 01:06:33.480
who doesn't want you near them, you know, it does

968
01:06:33.599 --> 01:06:38.639
not interest that obviously, that could be very very difficult too.

969
01:06:40.079 --> 01:06:44.280
But he's obsessed. He's not obsessed in He doesn't drink alcohol,

970
01:06:44.400 --> 01:06:47.519
doesn't do anything. Just he watches sport.

971
01:06:47.639 --> 01:06:50.199
And he reads about sport, and he talks about sport.

972
01:06:50.880 --> 01:06:51.519
He loves it.

973
01:06:54.159 --> 01:06:57.760
And that's in a way, and I don't mean this

974
01:06:58.119 --> 01:07:02.639
in a bad way. When I started doing They Let

975
01:07:02.679 --> 01:07:05.960
Me Boy to Sleep, Okay, right when I started doing

976
01:07:06.000 --> 01:07:10.719
They Let Me Boy to Sleep podcasts, I was thinking

977
01:07:10.719 --> 01:07:14.599
about two people that I've met in my life as

978
01:07:14.599 --> 01:07:24.800
an inspiration for doing this, Okay, one was him.

979
01:07:24.840 --> 01:07:25.920
It's not that he's boring.

980
01:07:26.320 --> 01:07:26.800
It's just.

981
01:07:31.119 --> 01:07:33.320
I'll try I've tried to explain this quite a few

982
01:07:33.320 --> 01:07:38.360
times in the past. It for me, if you're not

983
01:07:38.480 --> 01:07:43.320
interested in the subject it's boring doesn't mean the subject's boring.

984
01:07:43.719 --> 01:07:48.400
It's just from a personal perspective. You know, I've got

985
01:07:48.440 --> 01:07:55.239
no interest in trainspotting, for example, but I've got nothing

986
01:07:55.280 --> 01:08:02.639
but admiration for trainspots because they're happy, they're enjoying themselves,

987
01:08:03.239 --> 01:08:06.360
they're doing something that you know, I bet the ones

988
01:08:06.440 --> 01:08:09.159
that are maybe working all week that's what they're looking

989
01:08:09.199 --> 01:08:14.800
forward to doing at the weekend, having.

990
01:08:14.559 --> 01:08:17.600
A great time because they're doing what they love doing.

991
01:08:19.159 --> 01:08:22.319
So whatever it is, whether it's martial arts, whether it's

992
01:08:25.119 --> 01:08:29.800
I don't know, being a leader in the Scouts, or writing,

993
01:08:30.199 --> 01:08:35.800
doing jigsaw puzzles, watching television. I don't think it matters fishing,

994
01:08:36.199 --> 01:08:36.880
whatever it is.

995
01:08:39.279 --> 01:08:43.159
If you absolutely love doing something and you get a

996
01:08:43.239 --> 01:08:47.279
chance to do it more often as often as you

997
01:08:47.520 --> 01:08:48.039
want to.

998
01:08:50.720 --> 01:08:53.279
In a way, that's kind of like a dream, you know.

999
01:08:53.720 --> 01:09:03.920
It's like a dream scenario. And it hasn't cost him

1000
01:09:04.000 --> 01:09:06.800
much in a way of money. I mean, he's probably

1001
01:09:06.800 --> 01:09:10.119
spent He's spent a lot of money traveling around, going

1002
01:09:10.079 --> 01:09:14.000
into different sporting events when he was younger, but he

1003
01:09:14.119 --> 01:09:17.600
hasn't done much traveling in the last five years. When

1004
01:09:17.640 --> 01:09:21.119
I first met him, he was out and about all

1005
01:09:21.159 --> 01:09:25.760
the time, you know, he was away going abroad to

1006
01:09:25.840 --> 01:09:30.279
watch sporting events, going to football, coming back early hours

1007
01:09:30.279 --> 01:09:34.960
of the morning. In two thousand, that kind of changed,

1008
01:09:35.840 --> 01:09:39.399
So the last five years really slowed down.

1009
01:09:39.800 --> 01:09:41.439
It might have just been a physical thing.

1010
01:09:41.479 --> 01:09:44.680
He just maybe he struggled to get around as much,

1011
01:09:45.680 --> 01:09:48.880
which I struggled a little bit, you know, with my

1012
01:09:48.960 --> 01:09:53.159
back in that and I'm just still a kid, really,

1013
01:09:53.199 --> 01:09:58.439
and I compared to him, I'm still a baby.

1014
01:09:59.359 --> 01:10:01.520
Okay, So.

1015
01:10:03.760 --> 01:10:05.920
What I did is I looked at that situation of

1016
01:10:06.079 --> 01:10:14.039
someone talking about their particular interest to someone that has

1017
01:10:14.399 --> 01:10:17.640
zero interest in that subject.

1018
01:10:20.600 --> 01:10:21.920
So what I thought I'd do.

1019
01:10:22.039 --> 01:10:27.920
Is that I'd kind of do that kind of podcast talking,

1020
01:10:30.039 --> 01:10:33.239
but also it's a mixture of myself as well. Well,

1021
01:10:33.279 --> 01:10:40.960
obviously what I talk about is myself. I mean, probably

1022
01:10:41.000 --> 01:10:46.920
Sleepy Boring Objects was the Monday's Boring Objects that's kind

1023
01:10:46.920 --> 01:10:50.600
of based on that. Really he's talking about something that's

1024
01:10:51.000 --> 01:10:52.800
going to be interesting.

1025
01:10:52.319 --> 01:10:55.279
To some people, boring to a lot of other people.

1026
01:10:58.039 --> 01:11:00.000
And then I added myself to it in a sense

1027
01:11:00.199 --> 01:11:06.560
of someone told me, well, you know, they message or

1028
01:11:06.880 --> 01:11:09.920
left a comment on a YouTube video which was just

1029
01:11:10.399 --> 01:11:13.560
Jason Chatz where I was talking about my life, and

1030
01:11:13.600 --> 01:11:16.840
they said, I fall asleep every time you talk, even

1031
01:11:16.880 --> 01:11:22.239
when you're not doing hypnosis. And I thought, oh, okay,

1032
01:11:22.359 --> 01:11:29.039
it's interesting. And then I've got another friend who see

1033
01:11:29.119 --> 01:11:32.000
none of these people are boring, including myself, I hope,

1034
01:11:32.399 --> 01:11:35.039
but none of the people are boring that I'm talking

1035
01:11:35.039 --> 01:11:39.039
about these friends. But it's just if you talk at

1036
01:11:39.119 --> 01:11:42.039
someone about a subject that they're not interested in, that

1037
01:11:42.119 --> 01:11:46.560
person is going to glaze over. And I've seen people's

1038
01:11:46.560 --> 01:11:52.720
eyes glaze over multiple times. I only started noticing it

1039
01:11:52.760 --> 01:11:57.920
when I was in my late twenties. I suppose once

1040
01:11:57.960 --> 01:12:02.800
I started learning about hypnosis. So I started realizing that, Okay,

1041
01:12:03.640 --> 01:12:08.720
I'm basically zoning people out when I'm talking to them.

1042
01:12:09.039 --> 01:12:09.520
I didn't know.

1043
01:12:09.760 --> 01:12:13.560
I didn't know what I was doing, so I wasn't

1044
01:12:13.600 --> 01:12:16.079
purposely doing it. Then I played around with it a bit.

1045
01:12:18.520 --> 01:12:26.000
So the other person is somebody, another close friend that

1046
01:12:26.039 --> 01:12:28.439
I've known a long time. I don't see anymore much,

1047
01:12:28.520 --> 01:12:34.479
but still someone that's close to my heart. And this

1048
01:12:34.600 --> 01:12:42.399
person would talk, but then they go off and they

1049
01:12:42.439 --> 01:12:44.760
talk about something else. Then they talk about so they

1050
01:12:44.800 --> 01:12:51.720
talk about Bob, and then they talk about Then they'll

1051
01:12:51.720 --> 01:12:57.159
be talking about Steve, who was Bob's friend, and then

1052
01:12:57.359 --> 01:12:59.920
then they zone in on Steve. Then they talk about

1053
01:13:00.079 --> 01:13:06.920
Steve's sister, who went to college with Adrian, who was

1054
01:13:06.960 --> 01:13:13.760
in a rock band. And that rock band was also

1055
01:13:15.439 --> 01:13:21.880
Oliver Pete and Roger now Pete. He used to like

1056
01:13:22.000 --> 01:13:26.520
to he used to work in like a florist, and

1057
01:13:26.680 --> 01:13:30.439
his favorite music was Elwen John. And he saw Ellen

1058
01:13:30.520 --> 01:13:35.039
John in concert and he met this He met his

1059
01:13:35.119 --> 01:13:39.079
girlfriend at that concert, Ellen John's concert, and they had

1060
01:13:39.079 --> 01:13:46.800
a baby, and that baby grew up to be, you

1061
01:13:46.800 --> 01:13:48.359
know what I mean, It's like just go on and

1062
01:13:48.399 --> 01:13:52.159
on and on and on, and you can't follow it.

1063
01:13:52.159 --> 01:13:57.319
It's almost impossible to follow. And within that it'll talk

1064
01:13:57.359 --> 01:14:06.359
about music, songs, movies, and just like I can't follow this.

1065
01:14:12.119 --> 01:14:14.960
And he was the expert at that, but he didn't

1066
01:14:14.960 --> 01:14:15.560
mean to do it.

1067
01:14:17.479 --> 01:14:18.159
He just did it.

1068
01:14:18.640 --> 01:14:23.680
He just followed his thought pattern and it was hard

1069
01:14:23.680 --> 01:14:26.000
to follow. And I'd like to bring it back, bring

1070
01:14:26.039 --> 01:14:31.720
it back, because I genuinely can't do that. If I'm

1071
01:14:31.760 --> 01:14:36.560
with someone, you know, I like the conversation to be focused.

1072
01:14:37.199 --> 01:14:39.359
If I'm in a room with someone in it's that one,

1073
01:14:39.560 --> 01:14:42.319
you know, it's a give and take conversation, which is

1074
01:14:42.359 --> 01:14:46.399
what conversations kind of supposed to be, isn't it not talking.

1075
01:14:46.119 --> 01:14:47.880
At them like I am here?

1076
01:14:49.279 --> 01:14:54.560
Then I really needed to be focused and to stick

1077
01:14:54.640 --> 01:14:59.439
to the point, which is weird considering I don't stick

1078
01:14:59.479 --> 01:15:06.439
to the point necessarily when I'm making recording. But when

1079
01:15:06.479 --> 01:15:08.760
I talk into a microphone, I didn't realize I did

1080
01:15:08.760 --> 01:15:13.359
it until probably you know, much later on.

1081
01:15:15.319 --> 01:15:18.439
That once I just go into.

1082
01:15:20.039 --> 01:15:21.319
I don't know if you want to call it a

1083
01:15:21.359 --> 01:15:26.159
stream of consciousness, just talk, talk, just I guess just.

1084
01:15:26.079 --> 01:15:27.039
Talking out loud, isn't it.

1085
01:15:27.079 --> 01:15:31.720
That's all it is, talking out loud, just my internal

1086
01:15:31.800 --> 01:15:40.159
dialogue being external, I suppose. And I kind of mixed

1087
01:15:40.159 --> 01:15:42.199
it up a bit when I first started, I was

1088
01:15:42.239 --> 01:15:49.039
trying to get a happy relaxation and include hypnosis and

1089
01:15:49.119 --> 01:15:54.439
then talking perfect on purpose, really slowly.

1090
01:15:56.479 --> 01:15:58.319
But then it felt false to me.

1091
01:16:00.319 --> 01:16:00.840
This is right.

1092
01:16:00.880 --> 01:16:03.039
At the beginning, it didn't feel quite myself.

1093
01:16:04.000 --> 01:16:11.600
And now I just am me. This is me whatever,

1094
01:16:11.640 --> 01:16:14.359
this is, This is me now. It might not be

1095
01:16:14.439 --> 01:16:17.840
me tomorrow, but this is me now. This is the

1096
01:16:17.920 --> 01:16:22.439
speed I'm talking out. I'm not controlling the speed. I'm

1097
01:16:22.560 --> 01:16:28.520
not controlling the speed. I'm not controlling any aspect of

1098
01:16:28.600 --> 01:16:29.479
how I talk.

1099
01:16:29.800 --> 01:16:30.359
This is me.

1100
01:16:31.880 --> 01:16:35.199
Talking normally. This is how I talk. If I'm not

1101
01:16:35.359 --> 01:16:38.840
if there's no if there's no one else around, if

1102
01:16:38.880 --> 01:16:41.760
there's other people around, I would probably talk a bit quicker.

1103
01:16:41.920 --> 01:16:52.399
Maybe it's a whistle ending, I would say quicker, And

1104
01:16:52.640 --> 01:16:58.600
I don't purposefully go into a sort of a weird tangent.

1105
01:16:58.680 --> 01:17:02.520
It just happens naturally, you know. So nothing is planned.

1106
01:17:02.640 --> 01:17:06.039
Nothing I say is planned in these recordings other than

1107
01:17:06.119 --> 01:17:09.720
answering questions, which I'm supposed to be doing today with

1108
01:17:09.840 --> 01:17:17.079
the Q and a Friday, So Michelle, Uncle Sausages doesn't

1109
01:17:17.119 --> 01:17:22.159
have any family. But I feel like I've expanded a

1110
01:17:22.159 --> 01:17:25.239
bit more on that because I pretty much that's all

1111
01:17:25.239 --> 01:17:26.399
I talked about, isn't it today?

1112
01:17:26.520 --> 01:17:33.319
So far? You can you hear that there's a helicopter.

1113
01:17:33.960 --> 01:17:35.680
It sounds like more than one helicopter.

1114
01:17:38.119 --> 01:17:42.159
NG says.

1115
01:17:42.199 --> 01:17:45.920
In one episode you talked about the biscuits, the biscuit

1116
01:17:45.960 --> 01:17:51.119
habits in England. I thought that it was very funny.

1117
01:17:51.359 --> 01:17:51.920
Well, thank you.

1118
01:17:54.520 --> 01:17:56.079
That's a stupid plain man.

1119
01:18:00.520 --> 01:18:02.800
It's the same one that used to they go over

1120
01:18:02.840 --> 01:18:07.800
this just over where I am. I like, dip down

1121
01:18:07.840 --> 01:18:17.039
and then swerve right over my flat. Do the English

1122
01:18:17.119 --> 01:18:19.960
have any other quirks? I hope the word quirks doesn't

1123
01:18:20.039 --> 01:18:29.000
have a negative connotation. No quirks is fine, It's yeah,

1124
01:18:29.239 --> 01:18:32.399
No quirks is fine. I'm trying to think talking about

1125
01:18:32.399 --> 01:18:38.319
the weather that's a very English thing. It's probably the

1126
01:18:38.319 --> 01:18:42.520
most English thing there is talking about the weather and

1127
01:18:42.640 --> 01:18:48.399
moaning about the weather. Another thing is blaming everything on politicians.

1128
01:18:49.199 --> 01:18:52.760
But I think that's possibly a universal worldwide thing.

1129
01:18:52.880 --> 01:18:53.359
Possibly.

1130
01:18:53.520 --> 01:19:03.159
I don't know, Uncle Sausages everything it's Starmer's fault. I

1131
01:19:03.199 --> 01:19:05.119
think at some point he even blamed his illness on

1132
01:19:05.199 --> 01:19:09.840
Starmar's like, you can't blame him for everything. Our Stalmas

1133
01:19:09.880 --> 01:19:16.840
the current president of England or whatever it is. So

1134
01:19:19.279 --> 01:19:22.800
but she's a nice lady though she's a nice Starmer.

1135
01:19:23.119 --> 01:19:30.039
It's a very nice Shakira Shakira Starmer. I hope that

1136
01:19:30.119 --> 01:19:33.720
the weather. I would guess the weather is really the

1137
01:19:33.920 --> 01:19:42.760
thing moaning negativity as well, but not necessarily meaning to

1138
01:19:42.760 --> 01:19:46.479
be negative. So let's say one person might you might

1139
01:19:46.479 --> 01:19:53.359
go up to someone, so, how you doing? Not too bad?

1140
01:19:54.039 --> 01:19:56.800
The that's kind of an answer. It's just a negative answer,

1141
01:19:57.319 --> 01:20:01.760
but it's not kind of in a negative way. They

1142
01:20:01.840 --> 01:20:03.399
might be having a really good day, so I'm not

1143
01:20:03.439 --> 01:20:11.079
too bad. It could be worse, could be dead. And

1144
01:20:11.319 --> 01:20:15.239
that is honestly, it's like it is quite negative, but

1145
01:20:15.479 --> 01:20:23.439
it almost doesn't feel negative. For example, you might get

1146
01:20:23.439 --> 01:20:25.840
it a little bit more nowadays, but if you go

1147
01:20:25.920 --> 01:20:30.600
into a shop here until recently, you would not hear

1148
01:20:30.640 --> 01:20:35.239
the words have a nice day. That was an alien

1149
01:20:35.520 --> 01:20:42.159
phrase in England. I've noticed it a little bit more

1150
01:20:43.560 --> 01:20:53.319
maybe have a good day, But it's because it's false.

1151
01:20:53.520 --> 01:20:56.479
If it's in this country. It's false because English people

1152
01:20:56.560 --> 01:21:01.039
generally don't. Maybe the younger general do, but just my

1153
01:21:01.159 --> 01:21:03.520
generation or whatever, we don't say.

1154
01:21:04.039 --> 01:21:06.800
Have a great days.

1155
01:21:07.960 --> 01:21:10.640
But I've noticed some younger people do seem to say it,

1156
01:21:11.319 --> 01:21:15.119
and it it's a little bit of a jolt for

1157
01:21:15.239 --> 01:21:18.680
me because I'm not used to it because I never

1158
01:21:19.920 --> 01:21:23.840
My dad's generation didn't say it. My generation didn't say it,

1159
01:21:23.920 --> 01:21:26.880
my granddad's generation didn't say it, and I think the

1160
01:21:26.920 --> 01:21:29.600
generation after me didn't say it. But now maybe the

1161
01:21:29.640 --> 01:21:33.920
younger ones. I guess my grandchildren's generation if I had grandchildren,

1162
01:21:35.239 --> 01:21:40.319
and perhaps, But then sometimes it sounds a bit threatening,

1163
01:21:40.680 --> 01:21:45.000
like yeah, you have a good day, Like really, it

1164
01:21:45.000 --> 01:21:47.399
didn't sound like you want me to have a good day. Yeah,

1165
01:21:47.439 --> 01:21:49.960
you take care of it, you look after yourself. Yeah

1166
01:21:50.760 --> 01:21:54.119
that sounds threatening, So yeah.

1167
01:21:53.960 --> 01:21:57.239
I don't. I don't. That's not how I was.

1168
01:21:58.239 --> 01:22:01.640
It's not the England that I kind of really grew

1169
01:22:01.720 --> 01:22:01.960
up in.

1170
01:22:03.199 --> 01:22:03.640
It was.

1171
01:22:05.760 --> 01:22:08.680
Negative, but not really negative.

1172
01:22:11.479 --> 01:22:13.520
It just I don't know how to explain it.

1173
01:22:13.560 --> 01:22:21.079
And it just passed down, wasn't it just passed down people.

1174
01:22:21.840 --> 01:22:24.680
I think it's quite natural for people just to talk,

1175
01:22:25.119 --> 01:22:28.119
have expressions and they don't question anything. They just say

1176
01:22:28.159 --> 01:22:31.279
what they were taught to say, say what their parents said,

1177
01:22:31.800 --> 01:22:34.640
use the same expressions as their friends, and then just

1178
01:22:34.640 --> 01:22:40.239
go through life doing that. But other people might question,

1179
01:22:40.399 --> 01:22:44.439
like why am I saying this? I started doing that

1180
01:22:44.479 --> 01:22:48.840
probably in my late twenties. I stopped saying not too bad,

1181
01:22:50.920 --> 01:22:54.600
so I thought, this is really negative. This is this

1182
01:22:55.239 --> 01:22:56.319
I started to notice.

1183
01:22:56.560 --> 01:22:57.119
I noticed.

1184
01:22:57.239 --> 01:22:59.920
I noticed when I was a teenager, but I became

1185
01:23:00.079 --> 01:23:05.560
a bit more aware of it. And there's other things

1186
01:23:05.600 --> 01:23:09.560
that are some statements like oh, no good deed goes unpunished,

1187
01:23:10.439 --> 01:23:13.439
or that's in the same category as there's no smoke

1188
01:23:13.479 --> 01:23:19.159
about fires. Just stupid stupid sentences like that. It doesn't

1189
01:23:19.199 --> 01:23:23.119
mean the person who uses those sentences are stupid.

1190
01:23:22.680 --> 01:23:28.880
But they're not useful. It's not useful stuff.

1191
01:23:28.560 --> 01:23:33.119
To be saying, no good deed goes unpunished. Okay, so

1192
01:23:33.199 --> 01:23:36.720
don't do anything nice for anyone you no smoke about fire.

1193
01:23:37.039 --> 01:23:40.079
So everybody is guilty because use that's what it's usually

1194
01:23:40.279 --> 01:23:42.199
used for, isn't it. So I was being accused of

1195
01:23:42.199 --> 01:23:43.399
something that they must be guilty.

1196
01:23:44.560 --> 01:23:47.239
Okay, well, just get rid of the courts, bring back

1197
01:23:47.279 --> 01:23:53.159
the fire in squads, baby, No, So what's the other

1198
01:23:53.199 --> 01:23:58.800
one plan for the plan for the best, but it's

1199
01:24:00.119 --> 01:24:01.239
hope for the best, but.

1200
01:24:01.279 --> 01:24:02.279
Plan for the worst.

1201
01:24:04.079 --> 01:24:07.640
Really no, Yeah, so.

1202
01:24:07.880 --> 01:24:10.680
I don't really sign up for some of those old

1203
01:24:10.840 --> 01:24:16.239
sayings that some people still hold on to because it's

1204
01:24:16.279 --> 01:24:20.520
a negative country. And maybe it's because it's such a

1205
01:24:20.560 --> 01:24:21.399
gray country.

1206
01:24:22.439 --> 01:24:23.720
Not the whole of the country, but.

1207
01:24:25.399 --> 01:24:27.760
There's times of the year when it's just very gray

1208
01:24:28.760 --> 01:24:31.239
because we don't get a huge amount of sunshine. Even

1209
01:24:31.239 --> 01:24:34.520
though it's we're having a nice bit of sunshine now,

1210
01:24:35.319 --> 01:24:38.319
there's large parts of the year where because we have

1211
01:24:38.439 --> 01:24:40.840
seasons here and.

1212
01:24:42.159 --> 01:24:46.520
Only one season is really well springs not too bad.

1213
01:24:46.560 --> 01:24:50.279
Actually not too bad. That's another expression, not too bad.

1214
01:24:50.960 --> 01:24:57.239
How are you not too bad? Still alive? My dad

1215
01:24:57.279 --> 01:25:01.000
says that I phone him up at this so Daddy said, yeah,

1216
01:25:01.079 --> 01:25:06.399
still above ground, still above ground, Like not something you

1217
01:25:06.399 --> 01:25:08.199
want to hear. That he's in the middle of having

1218
01:25:09.840 --> 01:25:13.079
serious medical treatment at the moment, four weeks of it.

1219
01:25:13.840 --> 01:25:15.640
I know it's his humor and stuff, but it's like

1220
01:25:16.520 --> 01:25:17.560
his wife said to him.

1221
01:25:17.439 --> 01:25:22.960
Stop saying it, daddy, because it's weird. Wonder why she

1222
01:25:22.960 --> 01:25:27.079
calls him daddy. That's strange. And Jason's daddy.

1223
01:25:27.159 --> 01:25:30.000
She calls him m hm.

1224
01:25:31.039 --> 01:25:33.560
I actually send him when I send him Christmas cards

1225
01:25:33.600 --> 01:25:36.079
or Birthday cards, I just put his address on it

1226
01:25:36.159 --> 01:25:40.399
and at the top of us says dad, Dad, Daddy,

1227
01:25:41.079 --> 01:25:49.199
that's his name, Daddy, Dad, Daddy. Trying to think of

1228
01:25:49.399 --> 01:26:00.800
any other weird stuff in the country. Uh, yeah, nobody

1229
01:26:00.960 --> 01:26:04.920
likes rain, even though technically it's one of the most

1230
01:26:04.960 --> 01:26:10.079
important weathers that we have, especially for the agri culture,

1231
01:26:11.600 --> 01:26:16.159
you know, all the food and stuff. But yeah, it's

1232
01:26:16.199 --> 01:26:19.760
a universal dislike for rain.

1233
01:26:24.000 --> 01:26:24.600
But then.

1234
01:26:26.039 --> 01:26:29.079
Another thing is sort of starting to think of, like, oh,

1235
01:26:29.399 --> 01:26:33.239
it'll soon be Christmas. You'll hear that in like February

1236
01:26:33.720 --> 01:26:37.760
will soon be Christmas. Or if it's a really nice day,

1237
01:26:38.079 --> 01:26:42.000
so it's soon be winter. It's almost like by cheering

1238
01:26:42.039 --> 01:26:46.159
them being negative to cheer yourself up. It's a weird one,

1239
01:26:46.399 --> 01:26:48.479
like or you're enjoying yourself on the beach today.

1240
01:26:49.399 --> 01:26:52.079
A couple of months time, will we freezing cold?

1241
01:26:52.520 --> 01:26:58.239
Yeah, it's I think it's just a I think it's

1242
01:26:58.239 --> 01:27:03.239
maybe just a humorous things. I tell you what we

1243
01:27:03.319 --> 01:27:06.039
are good at England, and I don't know other countries

1244
01:27:06.119 --> 01:27:08.319
might be just as good a here, but I don't

1245
01:27:08.359 --> 01:27:09.520
have anything to compare with.

1246
01:27:11.520 --> 01:27:15.239
But what I noticed that since I've lived here most

1247
01:27:15.399 --> 01:27:15.920
of my life.

1248
01:27:15.920 --> 01:27:17.439
I've lived in island for a little bit, but I've

1249
01:27:17.439 --> 01:27:24.399
lived here my whole life pretty much gallows humor, and

1250
01:27:27.039 --> 01:27:30.600
it's just that kind of laughing in the fate. Well,

1251
01:27:30.960 --> 01:27:33.640
if you're not gallows humor as good, but if you don't,

1252
01:27:33.680 --> 01:27:38.880
then it's basically just it's called that because it's maybe

1253
01:27:38.960 --> 01:27:43.880
a very unpleasant experience or situation and managing to see

1254
01:27:44.159 --> 01:27:45.640
a joke in it, to.

1255
01:27:45.840 --> 01:27:48.159
Make light of it, just to make it more.

1256
01:27:50.479 --> 01:27:54.479
I don't know, palatable, I guess, you know, just to

1257
01:27:54.479 --> 01:27:57.479
make it a bit easier to get through it. So

1258
01:27:57.600 --> 01:28:03.159
I think gallow humors so that the English people tend

1259
01:28:03.239 --> 01:28:09.399
to have inherited being able to make fun of situations

1260
01:28:09.439 --> 01:28:14.279
and to say stuff that isn't true but as a joke.

1261
01:28:15.359 --> 01:28:15.560
You know.

1262
01:28:15.760 --> 01:28:16.239
So, like.

1263
01:28:18.359 --> 01:28:22.800
I was talking to someone the other day and we

1264
01:28:22.800 --> 01:28:31.079
were talking about yeah it was it was in the lift,

1265
01:28:32.039 --> 01:28:38.319
and I was with this another neighbor, and this person

1266
01:28:38.439 --> 01:28:43.119
was talking about their father and how she'd go through

1267
01:28:43.159 --> 01:28:47.920
this big court case because her father had been misterated

1268
01:28:48.000 --> 01:28:51.840
in this care home, which is sort of super serious

1269
01:28:51.880 --> 01:28:52.399
and everything.

1270
01:28:54.359 --> 01:28:55.279
And as we came out.

1271
01:28:55.319 --> 01:28:59.279
She said, oh, I have to She said, I have

1272
01:28:59.279 --> 01:29:02.680
to remember that care home. I thought, okay, you know,

1273
01:29:03.439 --> 01:29:05.840
to make sure no one goes there. She said, I

1274
01:29:05.600 --> 01:29:09.479
was trying to send my mum there, but she was

1275
01:29:09.520 --> 01:29:10.039
just joking.

1276
01:29:10.199 --> 01:29:12.039
It's just like because it.

1277
01:29:12.039 --> 01:29:18.479
Was such a serious, serious conversation and she was in hospital.

1278
01:29:19.920 --> 01:29:21.560
Herself. She was an oxygen so.

1279
01:29:21.479 --> 01:29:26.600
She really didn't need a super serious conversation. And I've

1280
01:29:26.720 --> 01:29:30.319
just been visiting Uncle's Sausages and I'd seen her as well.

1281
01:29:31.039 --> 01:29:37.079
So it's that kind of humor that's inappropriate, but at

1282
01:29:37.119 --> 01:29:44.359
the same time cuts through the tension and gives maybe

1283
01:29:44.399 --> 01:29:53.399
a momentary release, you know. And she wasn't making fun

1284
01:29:53.439 --> 01:29:55.439
of the situation. She wasn't making fun of that.

1285
01:29:55.760 --> 01:29:56.399
She was just.

1286
01:29:58.199 --> 01:30:01.600
It was a need to gallows human, that's all it is.

1287
01:30:02.119 --> 01:30:04.399
I'm sure people that worked on the gallows and that's

1288
01:30:04.479 --> 01:30:07.600
people that used to you look it up if you

1289
01:30:07.600 --> 01:30:13.479
don't know what gallows is. It's it's a way of dealing

1290
01:30:13.479 --> 01:30:21.960
with the emotions. Really, people deal with things differently. And

1291
01:30:22.000 --> 01:30:24.159
I said, I'll see if I can get uncle Sausages

1292
01:30:24.199 --> 01:30:28.399
in there. I didn't, or maybe I did. Maybe it's

1293
01:30:30.880 --> 01:30:34.840
because some people get confused and say, oh, the subject.

1294
01:30:34.880 --> 01:30:36.920
If you talk about subject, then you're making fun of

1295
01:30:36.960 --> 01:30:42.159
the subject. And it's not the case necessarily. It's just

1296
01:30:42.399 --> 01:30:47.720
you're you're making a situation absurd, something serious, turn it

1297
01:30:47.720 --> 01:30:51.439
into an absurd thing to make it a bit more

1298
01:30:51.600 --> 01:30:52.840
easier to digest.

1299
01:30:53.439 --> 01:30:56.600
Perhaps, But hey, I'm not here to.

1300
01:30:59.079 --> 01:31:04.760
It's not a tadlick BlimE me dev asks me all no,

1301
01:31:05.680 --> 01:31:09.199
Tammy says, please send loves and hugs to Uncle Sausages.

1302
01:31:09.880 --> 01:31:12.520
Give Vinnie a belly rub for me, and you're a

1303
01:31:12.520 --> 01:31:16.159
big virtual hug for being an awesome person at this moment,

1304
01:31:16.239 --> 01:31:19.560
I'm giving Vinnie. He likes I tell you what he

1305
01:31:19.600 --> 01:31:22.640
does like to be rubbed. I shouldn't leave a big

1306
01:31:22.680 --> 01:31:25.199
pause sit there earlier, they should. I he loves his

1307
01:31:25.399 --> 01:31:29.680
chest being stroked. That's almost like one of his favorite

1308
01:31:29.680 --> 01:31:33.920
things ever. Honestly, I think he'd lay there for hours

1309
01:31:34.000 --> 01:31:39.000
just having his chest stroked. So, yeah, that's his favorite things.

1310
01:31:39.039 --> 01:31:42.880
I'm doing that now. Hey, y you only little chest stroked?

1311
01:31:45.479 --> 01:31:48.279
Hey, yeah, he likes.

1312
01:31:48.119 --> 01:31:49.239
That, so thank you.

1313
01:31:49.279 --> 01:31:54.920
Tell me, And I'm hoping Uncle Sausages is okay.

1314
01:31:54.960 --> 01:31:55.760
He's going to just.

1315
01:31:58.880 --> 01:32:00.840
Yeah, I'll probably talked about them too.

1316
01:32:00.920 --> 01:32:01.399
Much, but.

1317
01:32:03.720 --> 01:32:04.680
It's what I tend to do.

1318
01:32:04.720 --> 01:32:08.479
I talk about what's going on in my life. Dev says,

1319
01:32:08.680 --> 01:32:13.640
best wishes for Uncle Sausages. Just wondering have you tried

1320
01:32:14.560 --> 01:32:18.199
ready made Angel Delight dessert selling in Sainsbury's.

1321
01:32:20.079 --> 01:32:20.840
I wish i'd.

1322
01:32:20.680 --> 01:32:22.520
Seen that before I did my order. I just got

1323
01:32:22.720 --> 01:32:27.640
a few groceries Angel Delight. I did not even sold

1324
01:32:27.640 --> 01:32:28.199
it anymore.

1325
01:32:30.119 --> 01:32:30.760
I could do some.

1326
01:32:31.239 --> 01:32:33.239
I tell you what I used to like. The answer

1327
01:32:33.239 --> 01:32:39.720
is no, but I'm gonna. I'm definitely going to. Thanks Dev.

1328
01:32:40.960 --> 01:32:43.840
Tell what I oh, what.

1329
01:32:43.760 --> 01:32:45.479
I want to do now I can't do it.

1330
01:32:45.520 --> 01:32:49.600
But what I want to do is make myself a

1331
01:32:49.720 --> 01:32:54.439
Nickerbocker Glory or some kind of Sunday you know, So

1332
01:32:56.439 --> 01:33:04.960
Angel Delight, some ice cream, maybe some sponges like those

1333
01:33:05.000 --> 01:33:10.720
little sponge fingers through so it won't be a nicker

1334
01:33:10.760 --> 01:33:13.600
Bocker Gloria as in a big tall thing, but maybe

1335
01:33:13.640 --> 01:33:18.600
just in a bowl. Mix it together perhaps, and some.

1336
01:33:21.159 --> 01:33:22.880
Like a Cabri's flake.

1337
01:33:25.600 --> 01:33:29.800
Yeah, I turn it's weird, right. I don't know if

1338
01:33:29.840 --> 01:33:34.520
you if you feel the same. I like Cabri's flakes,

1339
01:33:38.159 --> 01:33:40.800
but there's something about Cabri's flakes when they're on an

1340
01:33:40.800 --> 01:33:47.119
ice cream. See, I don't get excited about Cabrig's flake

1341
01:33:47.399 --> 01:33:51.640
if I buy any shop. But if I buy an

1342
01:33:51.680 --> 01:33:54.479
ice cream, if I'm out at the beach or you know,

1343
01:33:54.560 --> 01:34:01.479
somewhere with Ie buying an ice cream, that flake becomes

1344
01:34:01.560 --> 01:34:05.560
the most amazing thing in the world. And it's only

1345
01:34:05.640 --> 01:34:08.800
half a flake. It's not even a full flake, generally,

1346
01:34:09.000 --> 01:34:16.359
for half of a I think it becomes the pivotal

1347
01:34:17.279 --> 01:34:22.199
focus of my life. It's the most exciting thing that's

1348
01:34:22.279 --> 01:34:26.680
ever happened to anyone ever, that chocolate flake in the

1349
01:34:26.720 --> 01:34:30.319
ice cream at the top, sticking out the ice cream, well,

1350
01:34:30.319 --> 01:34:34.640
without the chocolate flake, as she's boring ice cream with

1351
01:34:34.880 --> 01:34:35.720
the chocolate flake.

1352
01:34:37.199 --> 01:34:37.680
It is.

1353
01:34:41.319 --> 01:34:42.319
It's the universe.

1354
01:34:42.520 --> 01:34:42.800
It is.

1355
01:34:44.920 --> 01:34:50.960
Just infinite happiness. It's weird, isn't it. Don't you think

1356
01:34:54.199 --> 01:34:55.920
I want an ice cream now? For some reason?

1357
01:34:58.439 --> 01:34:59.000
This is bad?

1358
01:34:59.039 --> 01:35:04.000
Okay, it's too bad. But and I've been given permission.

1359
01:35:04.079 --> 01:35:07.439
Okay, so it's not like I'm doing anything wrong. But

1360
01:35:07.560 --> 01:35:09.760
Uncle Sausages said that I can just help myself to

1361
01:35:09.760 --> 01:35:12.880
what's in this freezer. And I looked in this freezer

1362
01:35:12.920 --> 01:35:15.640
yesterday because I had to go in there. I didn't

1363
01:35:15.680 --> 01:35:17.039
have to go in a freezer. But I had to

1364
01:35:17.079 --> 01:35:18.279
go in there to sign.

1365
01:35:18.159 --> 01:35:22.119
A thing, and he got some.

1366
01:35:22.520 --> 01:35:29.880
They're not Cornetto's, but they're Sainsbury's versions of Cornetto's.

1367
01:35:35.000 --> 01:35:36.000
I think I might.

1368
01:35:37.199 --> 01:35:41.199
I'm thinking of going and getting one, but he did

1369
01:35:41.239 --> 01:35:43.680
say to me, help yourself because he's not eating them.

1370
01:35:43.840 --> 01:35:47.000
And I can't take frozen stuff into the hospital because

1371
01:35:47.000 --> 01:35:49.000
I've been melted by the time I get there, I'll

1372
01:35:49.079 --> 01:35:51.840
just be a mush and just be a trail of

1373
01:35:53.119 --> 01:35:57.359
ice cream dripping out of my pocket. Because that's why

1374
01:35:57.399 --> 01:36:01.000
I put the cornetto in my pocket. I probably wouldn't

1375
01:36:01.039 --> 01:36:09.760
help to keep it frozen with it. Vinnie's been a

1376
01:36:09.760 --> 01:36:12.159
good boy today, he said a little bit of a

1377
01:36:12.199 --> 01:36:15.800
bark earlier, but generally the rest of the day has

1378
01:36:15.840 --> 01:36:18.800
been good, haven't you, Vinny, You've been a good little boy.

1379
01:36:19.960 --> 01:36:23.640
I'll tell you another thing I really like. Oh, there

1380
01:36:23.720 --> 01:36:26.600
was a thing when I was a kid. There was

1381
01:36:26.680 --> 01:36:34.920
this squirty stuff that you could put on ice cream,

1382
01:36:35.239 --> 01:36:41.319
and it was chocolate or chocolate with let's say mint

1383
01:36:41.359 --> 01:36:43.840
flavored chocolate, and it would go hard.

1384
01:36:46.479 --> 01:36:46.680
Yeah.

1385
01:36:47.279 --> 01:36:54.520
You just basically squirt it on the ice cream.

1386
01:36:51.880 --> 01:36:52.800
And it would.

1387
01:36:54.680 --> 01:36:59.720
Freeze quite quickly hard, so you are sloppy, and then

1388
01:37:00.079 --> 01:37:03.239
it'd be a crust. He'd have to break through the

1389
01:37:03.319 --> 01:37:08.560
chocolate to get to the ice cream.

1390
01:37:08.640 --> 01:37:12.760
I liked that, I really really liked that so much.

1391
01:37:14.840 --> 01:37:20.079
But then other companies started producing it, maybe the supermarkets

1392
01:37:20.119 --> 01:37:23.560
made their own version, and it didn't work. It just

1393
01:37:23.760 --> 01:37:28.880
sort of just laid there like a puddle of poo.

1394
01:37:28.960 --> 01:37:30.319
I don't know, it just laid that.

1395
01:37:30.399 --> 01:37:34.920
It wasn't a nice it didn't get all hard, and

1396
01:37:35.800 --> 01:37:37.000
you know, it's.

1397
01:37:36.800 --> 01:37:39.000
Like, what's the point.

1398
01:37:40.640 --> 01:37:40.920
But that?

1399
01:37:41.039 --> 01:37:42.640
And I don't remember what it's called. It had a

1400
01:37:42.680 --> 01:37:49.520
specific name, and it was brilliant. I can even slightly

1401
01:37:49.560 --> 01:37:54.560
remember the packaging. It was so good, but don't know

1402
01:37:54.560 --> 01:38:04.039
what happened to it if it seemed still around. Worse

1403
01:38:04.399 --> 01:38:07.239
worse things happen at sea. That's another thing I used

1404
01:38:07.279 --> 01:38:09.720
to hear a lot when I was kid. Now that's

1405
01:38:09.800 --> 01:38:17.880
not that was just weird, just things like that. Another

1406
01:38:17.880 --> 01:38:20.600
thing like that. There'd be like this, these sayings that

1407
01:38:20.640 --> 01:38:24.000
people would say to each other, almost like it was

1408
01:38:24.119 --> 01:38:26.279
they said it for the first time or heard it

1409
01:38:26.319 --> 01:38:28.800
for the first time, but they probably all both heard

1410
01:38:28.800 --> 01:38:31.479
and said it hundreds of times before in their life,

1411
01:38:32.000 --> 01:38:34.520
yet found it hilarious to say it, and they'd say

1412
01:38:34.560 --> 01:38:35.279
it and then they'd.

1413
01:38:35.119 --> 01:38:38.000
Laugh, like, ah, maybe not like that.

1414
01:38:38.079 --> 01:38:45.399
But one example, if someone said, oh, in hell, you know, swearing,

1415
01:38:45.640 --> 01:38:50.039
but like maybe they've stubbed their toe or lost their

1416
01:38:50.079 --> 01:38:54.640
car or whatever and lost their family in the poker

1417
01:38:54.640 --> 01:38:59.880
game out it's just something minimal and it's oh in hell,

1418
01:39:00.119 --> 01:39:03.680
and someone else that could heard and say that said, oh,

1419
01:39:03.720 --> 01:39:14.880
I hope so, because there's no TV there right right right, Okay.

1420
01:39:16.680 --> 01:39:20.039
I mean the first time it probably was absolutely hilarious.

1421
01:39:21.760 --> 01:39:26.520
But after five six hundred times of saying it, you

1422
01:39:26.560 --> 01:39:27.039
know what I mean?

1423
01:39:27.279 --> 01:39:27.680
In't it?

1424
01:39:28.239 --> 01:39:28.359
Hm?

1425
01:39:28.439 --> 01:39:28.520
Hm?

1426
01:39:29.880 --> 01:39:32.319
You get me. I don't know.

1427
01:39:32.479 --> 01:39:35.680
There was this I remember there this bloke at work.

1428
01:39:36.399 --> 01:39:39.880
I had this job in a factory, and for some

1429
01:39:40.039 --> 01:39:44.600
reason he decided to attempt to pick on me blessing.

1430
01:39:45.600 --> 01:39:46.760
And I was a young bloke.

1431
01:39:46.840 --> 01:39:50.119
I was in my early twenties, my twenty one probably,

1432
01:39:51.079 --> 01:39:53.000
and he used to shout stuff out from the other

1433
01:39:53.039 --> 01:39:55.840
side of the room. It's a big old room, and

1434
01:39:55.880 --> 01:39:57.039
he decided to call.

1435
01:39:56.880 --> 01:39:57.640
Me ugly.

1436
01:39:59.359 --> 01:40:02.560
And it was an we drunk he was he was

1437
01:40:02.920 --> 01:40:06.760
he was drunk, and I kind of put up with

1438
01:40:06.800 --> 01:40:10.800
it for a little while, but he kept shouting stuff

1439
01:40:10.800 --> 01:40:17.119
out and then laughing hysterically. No supervisor to say anything,

1440
01:40:20.159 --> 01:40:21.880
and in the end I got a little bit annoyed

1441
01:40:23.119 --> 01:40:29.279
a little bit, so I turned around and I started speaking,

1442
01:40:29.319 --> 01:40:31.079
and everyone stopped working and watched.

1443
01:40:32.119 --> 01:40:33.840
There was only like six of us in there, so

1444
01:40:33.840 --> 01:40:37.479
it wasn't like there was all seven thousand people in

1445
01:40:37.560 --> 01:40:38.279
the stadium.

1446
01:40:39.039 --> 01:40:41.720
It was just a few people. And I shouted over

1447
01:40:41.760 --> 01:40:50.359
to him. I said hi, I said, do you wanna okay,

1448
01:40:50.359 --> 01:40:52.560
I used, I used nice words. Do you want to

1449
01:40:52.640 --> 01:40:53.239
sleep with me?

1450
01:40:54.079 --> 01:40:57.640
Martin? That might be his name, it was his name.

1451
01:40:58.119 --> 01:41:00.439
Do you want to sleep with me Martin? I said no.

1452
01:41:01.399 --> 01:41:03.039
I said, well, why do you care what I look like?

1453
01:41:05.319 --> 01:41:08.239
And the rest of the people in there clapped and cheered,

1454
01:41:08.760 --> 01:41:13.119
carried me on their shoulders. All around London, you know,

1455
01:41:13.399 --> 01:41:15.000
there was open top buses of.

1456
01:41:15.119 --> 01:41:17.359
People, fireworks going off. It was brilliant.

1457
01:41:18.319 --> 01:41:20.199
So I was quite pleased with that at the time,

1458
01:41:22.199 --> 01:41:25.880
and after that he was nice to me. Turned out

1459
01:41:25.920 --> 01:41:28.920
he did want to sleep with me. Yeah, we were

1460
01:41:28.960 --> 01:41:30.760
together for about five years. It was lovely.

1461
01:41:32.239 --> 01:41:33.720
Oh it's a weird though, isn't it.

1462
01:41:33.760 --> 01:41:37.039
So when you've got a story like an origin story,

1463
01:41:37.079 --> 01:41:39.560
you know, in the beginning of a relationship that was

1464
01:41:39.560 --> 01:41:40.439
always a bit weird.

1465
01:41:41.079 --> 01:41:43.800
So how did you and Martin meet? You and Jason?

1466
01:41:44.800 --> 01:41:50.880
Okay, Well, Martin was being horrible to me. I never

1467
01:41:50.880 --> 01:41:55.439
had a relationship. I wonder how much stuff of what

1468
01:41:55.520 --> 01:41:59.920
I say people believe that the first bit was true,

1469
01:42:00.079 --> 01:42:01.439
that the story.

1470
01:42:01.119 --> 01:42:02.000
Did happen, But.

1471
01:42:03.359 --> 01:42:04.760
He was, he did, he.

1472
01:42:04.680 --> 01:42:09.920
Did become kind of friends. Actually, I just don't. I

1473
01:42:09.920 --> 01:42:13.600
think he just couldn't control his mouth. Once you realize

1474
01:42:13.640 --> 01:42:14.159
that it's.

1475
01:42:14.119 --> 01:42:15.119
It's not really.

1476
01:42:16.439 --> 01:42:18.840
Because it's weird because someone was in his probably fifties,

1477
01:42:20.079 --> 01:42:23.720
late forties, fifties, probably about my age, and he was

1478
01:42:23.800 --> 01:42:25.720
mouthing after people in their twenties.

1479
01:42:26.319 --> 01:42:29.000
It's never a good idea, you know.

1480
01:42:29.199 --> 01:42:34.880
It's almost like a ridiculous thing to do, because the

1481
01:42:34.880 --> 01:42:38.720
odds are against you, against a young person in their prime,

1482
01:42:39.720 --> 01:42:42.720
against an old fart like me, you know.

1483
01:42:43.960 --> 01:42:47.600
So yeah, it's.

1484
01:42:46.479 --> 01:42:48.760
See, I'm aware of that, but he didn't seem to

1485
01:42:48.800 --> 01:42:51.039
be aware of it, because.

1486
01:42:50.760 --> 01:42:57.000
The you could defuse. It's quite weird actually, because my

1487
01:42:57.199 --> 01:42:58.319
job was.

1488
01:43:00.319 --> 01:43:06.680
Wiping frozen meat, trying to get the ice off so

1489
01:43:06.760 --> 01:43:08.239
that the person next to me I put it on

1490
01:43:08.279 --> 01:43:10.920
the scales. The person next to me would then get

1491
01:43:10.960 --> 01:43:13.520
the ticket, the weight of it, the ticket of acoet

1492
01:43:13.520 --> 01:43:15.760
of machine, and then put the ticket onto the meat.

1493
01:43:16.199 --> 01:43:18.319
My job was to make that bit of an area

1494
01:43:18.439 --> 01:43:21.119
so that he could get the ticket on. So I'd

1495
01:43:21.119 --> 01:43:23.199
be scraping and it'd be hard work for me.

1496
01:43:23.760 --> 01:43:24.039
Martin.

1497
01:43:24.119 --> 01:43:28.159
He just breathed on the meat and it just melted once.

1498
01:43:28.239 --> 01:43:32.640
The whole thing just melted and turned into a into

1499
01:43:32.680 --> 01:43:35.920
a mush, A whole leg of lamb just melted in

1500
01:43:35.960 --> 01:43:38.520
front of him. In fact, he cooked it. We had

1501
01:43:38.560 --> 01:43:39.319
just had time to eat.

1502
01:43:39.319 --> 01:43:41.720
It was lovely. Just breathe on that, Martin.

1503
01:43:43.000 --> 01:43:43.479
I want to see.

1504
01:43:43.520 --> 01:43:45.600
It was like a walking barbecue.

1505
01:43:46.520 --> 01:43:51.039
Oh, anyway, I'm going to go. So I talked enough

1506
01:43:51.039 --> 01:43:54.319
about silly things and serious things.

1507
01:43:54.520 --> 01:43:54.920
I try.

1508
01:43:55.359 --> 01:43:58.600
I don't want these recordings to be serious. I genuinely

1509
01:43:58.640 --> 01:44:04.199
don't try keep it as light as possible. It's I

1510
01:44:04.279 --> 01:44:06.680
think one of the problems is when I'm talking about

1511
01:44:06.680 --> 01:44:10.800
my life, this is the main thing that's going on

1512
01:44:11.319 --> 01:44:16.960
in my life at the moment, So therefore it's the

1513
01:44:17.000 --> 01:44:19.479
thing that I guess I'm going to be focusing on,

1514
01:44:20.399 --> 01:44:26.600
you know what I mean. So there we have it,

1515
01:44:27.359 --> 01:44:29.000
or there we have it. We have it we have it.

1516
01:44:29.079 --> 01:44:35.680
We have it, so thank you for listening. Remember to

1517
01:44:35.720 --> 01:44:38.199
be kind to yourself, because you do deserve to be

1518
01:44:38.239 --> 01:44:43.880
happy and be gentle with yourself. You deserve to feel safe,

1519
01:44:45.760 --> 01:44:46.359
lots of love.

1520
01:44:48.800 --> 01:44:49.159
Bye.

1521
01:44:59.119 --> 01:45:13.680
Relax in a more deep and meaningful way, maybe in

1522
01:45:13.720 --> 01:45:19.279
a way that can not just allow you to feel

1523
01:45:20.640 --> 01:45:29.880
calmer now and throughout the time we spend together here,

1524
01:45:31.920 --> 01:45:37.600
not just relaxed at the end of the recording when

1525
01:45:37.600 --> 01:45:44.279
it's finished and you can enjoy that sense of comfort

1526
01:45:44.439 --> 01:45:59.359
and peace, but also I think it would be nice

1527
01:45:59.479 --> 01:46:19.279
to have those feelings of relaxation continue for longer after

1528
01:46:19.359 --> 01:46:29.920
the recording has ended, so that you can still benefit

1529
01:46:32.800 --> 01:46:40.079
from listening to my voice, maybe in a few hours time,

1530
01:46:42.000 --> 01:46:55.479
perhaps tomorrow, and then by listening regularly, especially if you

1531
01:46:55.640 --> 01:47:00.880
find like some people do and myself as well. Sometimes

1532
01:47:00.920 --> 01:47:07.199
I find one particular recording that really resonates with me,

1533
01:47:11.560 --> 01:47:14.039
and I just listen to it over and over again

1534
01:47:16.199 --> 01:47:29.239
every morning, every evening. There was this recording from We're

1535
01:47:29.239 --> 01:47:35.000
going back to about nineteen ninety nine. It wasn't hypnosis,

1536
01:47:35.079 --> 01:47:40.399
but it was a guided visualizations. It kind of was hypnosis, really,

1537
01:47:42.840 --> 01:47:48.039
and I managed to find it again and it still

1538
01:47:48.119 --> 01:47:53.720
has the same effect on me, and part of it

1539
01:47:53.880 --> 01:48:00.880
was the person's voice.

1540
01:48:01.760 --> 01:48:02.439
Relaxed me.

1541
01:48:06.279 --> 01:48:12.479
She just felt so peaceful, and I'd look forward to

1542
01:48:12.640 --> 01:48:19.079
listening to her in the morning and in the evening.

1543
01:48:25.479 --> 01:48:34.479
And I knew before even pressing the play button that

1544
01:48:34.840 --> 01:48:39.199
since I've done that, pressed the play button. This was

1545
01:48:39.600 --> 01:48:50.560
in the days of CD players pressed the play button.

1546
01:48:53.960 --> 01:48:56.840
In fact, it might have even been a tape tape recorder.

1547
01:48:58.119 --> 01:49:05.920
I'd lie down on the bed and then and even

1548
01:49:06.039 --> 01:49:20.000
without necessarily listening to her words because I had them memorized. Really,

1549
01:49:24.680 --> 01:49:30.640
it was as if my body knew exactly what to do,

1550
01:49:35.439 --> 01:49:57.239
and the muscles just almost went into automatic relaxation, and

1551
01:49:57.399 --> 01:50:11.039
I remember my mind would slow down. Now. Now, I

1552
01:50:11.159 --> 01:50:17.680
was listening to this recording in the early days of

1553
01:50:17.800 --> 01:50:28.479
learning hypnosis, and long before I ever made any videos

1554
01:50:28.600 --> 01:50:33.319
or audio recordings myself, because I didn't start doing that

1555
01:50:33.479 --> 01:50:47.840
till two thousand and six, I knew, I knew how

1556
01:50:49.640 --> 01:51:03.439
helpful I found being able to just let go, to

1557
01:51:03.560 --> 01:51:08.760
have that trust in the person that I'm listening to,

1558
01:51:16.439 --> 01:51:23.199
knowing that it's going to be just as relaxing, if

1559
01:51:24.600 --> 01:51:34.000
not more so. Each time you hear my voice, you

1560
01:51:34.039 --> 01:51:45.680
may feel the same some people have been listening to

1561
01:51:45.760 --> 01:51:59.640
me for over a decade. Maybe not solidly, obviously not

1562
01:51:59.640 --> 01:52:02.600
twenty four hours a day, but.

1563
01:52:04.680 --> 01:52:06.000
Maybe people come back.

1564
01:52:07.840 --> 01:52:23.439
Some people maybe listen every day. There's something that I do.

1565
01:52:24.840 --> 01:52:34.680
Which you may not realize by listening, is.

1566
01:52:38.720 --> 01:52:44.960
When I record these recordings.

1567
01:52:46.359 --> 01:52:46.760
Now.

1568
01:52:46.880 --> 01:52:59.439
For example, I also am affected by the words that

1569
01:52:59.520 --> 01:53:11.079
I say. So if I set to you focus on

1570
01:53:11.119 --> 01:53:20.960
your feet, notice your feet relaxing, I will be focusing

1571
01:53:21.079 --> 01:53:21.960
on my feet.

1572
01:53:26.880 --> 01:53:28.880
I will be noticing.

1573
01:53:31.239 --> 01:53:45.760
My feet relaxing. If I said, focus on your hands,

1574
01:53:48.560 --> 01:53:58.079
and maybe notice the difference between each hand, Perhaps notice

1575
01:53:58.199 --> 01:54:04.279
the air in the room, a temperature of the room.

1576
01:54:06.119 --> 01:54:16.520
On the backs of your hands, you may start to

1577
01:54:17.079 --> 01:54:25.159
notice what almost feels like a very light breeze, even

1578
01:54:25.239 --> 01:54:29.479
though there may not be any type of breeze at

1579
01:54:29.479 --> 01:54:42.479
all where you are right now. And as you become

1580
01:54:43.119 --> 01:54:57.520
aware of your hands, I'm also aware of how relaxed

1581
01:54:57.800 --> 01:54:59.079
my hands.

1582
01:55:00.000 --> 01:55:05.520
Our feeling now.

1583
01:55:20.199 --> 01:55:26.039
And when it comes to potentially drifting off to sleep,

1584
01:55:27.119 --> 01:55:39.680
which may be the reason you're listening, I also feel

1585
01:55:39.840 --> 01:55:55.560
drowsy when I make these recordings. I also notice my mind.

1586
01:55:56.760 --> 01:55:57.279
Drifting.

1587
01:56:05.199 --> 01:56:17.800
In fact, at times I've actually fallen asleep without even noticing,

1588
01:56:22.640 --> 01:56:24.399
and then I carry on talking.

1589
01:56:30.439 --> 01:56:32.119
And it's only when.

1590
01:56:32.079 --> 01:56:41.199
I listen back to do the editing I hear snoring,

1591
01:56:43.079 --> 01:56:50.399
and I think, I don't remember snoring. I remember talking.

1592
01:56:53.039 --> 01:57:00.439
It's snoring was a pick turned up. That's why I

1593
01:57:00.520 --> 01:57:08.640
sound like when I snore. How I get read into

1594
01:57:08.720 --> 01:57:28.079
a whole experience. I don't know how you feel. How

1595
01:57:28.199 --> 01:57:35.159
relaxed do you feel in your feet, how relaxed.

1596
01:57:38.319 --> 01:57:56.880
You feel in your hands. I have noticed.

1597
01:57:58.920 --> 01:58:00.079
More and more.

1598
01:58:05.800 --> 01:58:18.479
That the more relaxed, deeper level of comfort you feel,

1599
01:58:22.159 --> 01:58:38.319
the easier your breathing becomes. It's almost like that additional

1600
01:58:41.479 --> 01:59:02.439
muscle relaxation. So this allows you to breathe easier without

1601
01:59:03.920 --> 01:59:29.000
necessarily focusing on your breath, however, being able to notice

1602
01:59:35.239 --> 02:00:05.079
the ease in which you breathe so naturally. You breathe

1603
02:00:05.560 --> 02:00:49.239
so very easily and smoothly. Whenever I imagine my breathing improving,

1604
02:00:54.960 --> 02:01:08.319
when I've got my eyes closed, I tend to visualize

1605
02:01:10.399 --> 02:01:24.800
a beautiful field with trees and flowers producing all that

1606
02:01:26.840 --> 02:01:59.600
life giving oxygen. And it feels nice too, if nothing else,

1607
02:02:02.800 --> 02:02:29.880
just taking some time away from everything, enjoying.

1608
02:02:35.399 --> 02:02:37.479
That feeling of.

1609
02:02:41.319 --> 02:03:27.920
Peace, serenity with a joy for heart. Time seems to

1610
02:03:28.079 --> 02:04:03.199
just drip by, so very slowly, relaxed, so deeply, peaceful,

1611
02:04:13.119 --> 02:04:59.239
completely unattached to any thoughts whatsoever in this moment, completely free,

1612
02:05:22.399 --> 02:06:13.760
noticing that your mind has slowed down. Slowed down because

1613
02:06:13.960 --> 02:06:42.520
nothing really requires your attention. You can enjoy the physical

1614
02:06:42.880 --> 02:07:00.079
sensations of allowing the stress to drip out of your body,

1615
02:07:01.119 --> 02:07:24.840
reppa outs of every part of your body and being

1616
02:07:25.199 --> 02:08:02.479
released from your brain. Change your mind slowly hmm, but

1617
02:08:03.199 --> 02:08:46.520
surely the muscles in your legs relax ras re so

1618
02:08:46.920 --> 02:09:27.119
very deeply, relax m so deeply. And the feelings, the

1619
02:09:27.319 --> 02:09:52.640
pleasant feelings in your arms and shoulders, deepening each part

1620
02:09:52.760 --> 02:10:04.239
of your body further and deeper.

1621
02:10:14.279 --> 02:10:15.239
And deeper.

1622
02:10:29.720 --> 02:10:36.239
Not to sin, the feelings in the back of your neck,

1623
02:10:59.359 --> 02:11:47.039
the feeling senior wrists, muscles in front of your body,

1624
02:11:49.199 --> 02:12:32.640
I will say, eating, peaceful, deeping. There's a sense of

1625
02:12:32.920 --> 02:12:42.199
pace spreads through your very cool.

1626
02:13:12.439 --> 02:13:33.039
Even when you focus on your mind, her mind becomes.

1627
02:13:39.640 --> 02:13:58.800
Be and slower, ben.

1628
02:14:00.319 --> 02:15:19.279
Deep, relaxing, so fairy, slower, your stomach he's falling, your stomach.

1629
02:15:40.800 --> 02:15:41.479
Held back.

1630
02:15:46.880 --> 02:16:00.520
Notice Notice how relaxed.

1631
02:16:04.039 --> 02:16:42.000
You now feel in the hole of your back in

1632
02:16:42.120 --> 02:16:43.239
a spy.

1633
02:16:46.920 --> 02:16:51.680
From your brain all the way down the middle of

1634
02:16:51.719 --> 02:17:03.440
your back, sending and receiving millions of messages every day,

1635
02:17:14.440 --> 02:18:34.079
deep comfort, increasing deeply relaxed, your knees, relax spreading those

1636
02:18:34.319 --> 02:18:43.559
signals down your spine or cord into air, every part

1637
02:18:43.920 --> 02:19:30.440
of your body, your shins, in your calf, muscles, your outbows,

1638
02:19:46.600 --> 02:19:59.600
Feelings of peace and tranquility spreading through your body, m

1639
02:20:03.680 --> 02:20:19.959
tips of your toes, to your eyes, your fingers, all

1640
02:20:20.000 --> 02:21:05.760
the way till you'll know it. Back lettinger, rediatinker, pace,

1641
02:21:21.600 --> 02:21:47.239
drift in mind, just wander in a way happy to

1642
02:21:47.479 --> 02:22:51.760
let go, let go completely, let her said, tranquil, the

1643
02:22:51.920 --> 02:25:04.079
whole body enjoying a sensor listening God, Hey, nore hey,

1644
02:25:12.799 --> 02:25:24.079
enjoying the space, this space.

1645
02:25:26.559 --> 02:25:27.719
Of peace.

1646
02:25:30.840 --> 02:27:53.840
And safety, sur ery, letting go. Maybe we can just

1647
02:27:56.719 --> 02:28:05.559
focus on the different parts of your body, just to

1648
02:28:05.840 --> 02:29:34.680
notice your forehead and your eyes uptual, so loose, noticing

1649
02:29:34.879 --> 02:31:07.280
the sense of complete freedom, absolute freedom, day day, peace

1650
02:31:07.639 --> 02:32:54.319
form energy, pace, to breathe so much easy las you

1651
02:32:54.520 --> 02:33:41.760
may or may not if men test your mind, drifting

1652
02:33:43.639 --> 02:34:08.360
peaceful may any even more deeply in the direction of

1653
02:34:13.120 --> 02:35:54.079
dital blissful pace, blissful pace, directedhhhhhhhh.

1654
02:35:42.399 --> 02:35:43.959
Te to pace.

1655
02:36:08.280 --> 02:37:05.959
Colm, so calm, let him go, peace of mind, relaxed.

1656
02:37:09.479 --> 02:37:29.680
Body c rex.

1657
02:37:37.440 --> 02:37:40.159
Cy relaxed.

1658
02:38:03.399 --> 02:38:26.639
Her body feels almost invisible, so very relaxed.

1659
02:38:29.200 --> 02:38:45.360
And peaceful. So pace from.

1660
02:39:00.959 --> 02:39:45.440
Right, let go so so fir and you could start

1661
02:39:45.879 --> 02:39:55.399
to notice that you are feeling more relaxed, even though

1662
02:39:55.559 --> 02:40:06.840
I've not purposely focused your mind upon that sense of

1663
02:40:07.200 --> 02:40:12.639
physical comfort that is growing within you throughout your body,

1664
02:40:15.799 --> 02:40:16.879
and your mind.

1665
02:40:18.639 --> 02:40:19.959
Starts to slow.

1666
02:40:19.680 --> 02:40:31.719
Down, And that could be almost in recognition of I

1667
02:40:31.760 --> 02:40:44.239
guess my speech not being particularly fast and things just

1668
02:40:44.520 --> 02:40:57.360
generally feel calmer. Just by listening to my voice, you

1669
02:40:57.479 --> 02:41:04.639
give yourself an opportunity to take a break from the day,

1670
02:41:06.799 --> 02:41:14.319
take a break from your life as it is, and

1671
02:41:14.399 --> 02:41:22.200
to give yourself a rest, giving yourself permission to take

1672
02:41:22.280 --> 02:41:27.840
some time off and to allow your body to relax

1673
02:41:29.520 --> 02:41:37.680
and allow your mind to slow down, which in turn

1674
02:41:40.079 --> 02:41:49.239
releases the tension any stresses that you had in your body.

1675
02:41:51.639 --> 02:41:55.559
It's almost as if the parts of your body just

1676
02:41:55.840 --> 02:42:07.559
open up, allowing the negativity out and at the same

1677
02:42:07.639 --> 02:42:18.959
time replacing that negativity with positive healing energy, which then

1678
02:42:19.120 --> 02:42:28.399
fills your body up and your mind to also starts

1679
02:42:28.440 --> 02:42:45.920
to appreciate those feelings of increasing confidence, an almost uplifting feeling,

1680
02:42:47.959 --> 02:43:02.040
positive healing, an energy that spreads through your body like

1681
02:43:02.120 --> 02:43:12.399
a wave of comfort. And all this comes from just

1682
02:43:15.959 --> 02:43:24.760
allowing yourself a few minutes, maybe half an hour, however

1683
02:43:24.840 --> 02:43:29.479
long you want it to be, to just rest.

1684
02:43:34.479 --> 02:43:35.520
And allow.

1685
02:43:37.639 --> 02:43:47.639
Your mind and your body to almost reset itself to

1686
02:43:48.319 --> 02:44:04.000
the settings of comfort and relaxation, calmness, which allows more

1687
02:44:04.120 --> 02:44:17.559
room for feelings of pleasure and happiness to move around

1688
02:44:17.799 --> 02:44:26.040
your body and into your mind, almost as if your

1689
02:44:26.120 --> 02:44:36.719
mind and your body are sinking together, almost mirroring each

1690
02:44:36.920 --> 02:44:52.520
other with that growing positivity and calmness. And it feels nice,

1691
02:44:52.879 --> 02:44:58.799
really does feel nice to know that you are the

1692
02:44:58.879 --> 02:45:08.920
one that has a loud yourself to feel more comfort

1693
02:45:12.159 --> 02:45:15.120
and to experience.

1694
02:45:16.719 --> 02:45:18.040
More of this.

1695
02:45:19.680 --> 02:45:35.079
Deep relaxation spreading throughout your body. And as I focus

1696
02:45:36.399 --> 02:45:42.600
on each part of your body, you can notice that.

1697
02:45:42.360 --> 02:45:43.319
That part.

1698
02:45:47.040 --> 02:46:00.440
Becomes even more relaxed just by focusing on it, is.

1699
02:46:00.440 --> 02:46:01.680
Even more.

1700
02:46:03.479 --> 02:46:14.200
Calm and comfortable just by focusing. And as I move

1701
02:46:14.600 --> 02:46:22.479
down your body, starting at your head, the parts that

1702
02:46:22.520 --> 02:46:29.799
you have already focused on will continue to relax deeply,

1703
02:46:32.559 --> 02:46:38.639
and those parts that have not yet focused on or

1704
02:46:38.719 --> 02:46:50.559
just automatically release any remain intention in anticipation of even

1705
02:46:50.920 --> 02:46:54.600
more comfort about to come.

1706
02:47:00.120 --> 02:47:03.079
Now, I'm going to.

1707
02:47:03.200 --> 02:47:10.520
Start by focusing on your forehead. Just being aware of

1708
02:47:10.559 --> 02:47:20.680
the feelings of your forehead and any background sounds like

1709
02:47:20.879 --> 02:47:26.040
mister Herbert the pigeon can just allow you to feel

1710
02:47:26.120 --> 02:47:36.159
even more relaxed. Just means you, in the moment, this

1711
02:47:36.280 --> 02:47:39.079
isn't this isn't a sterile environment.

1712
02:47:40.440 --> 02:47:41.440
This is the world.

1713
02:47:44.840 --> 02:47:50.920
I live in the countryside, so there's lots of nature

1714
02:47:51.399 --> 02:48:03.120
sounds around. So as you focus on your forehead, just notice.

1715
02:48:02.719 --> 02:48:07.600
How it becomes even more relaxed as your.

1716
02:48:09.479 --> 02:48:16.760
Focus only on my voice and that part of your body.

1717
02:48:21.920 --> 02:48:30.239
Moving down to your eyes, focusing on your eyes, noticing

1718
02:48:32.680 --> 02:48:42.399
how your eyelids feel so heavy yet so light at

1719
02:48:42.440 --> 02:48:48.920
the same time, and all the muscles around your eyes

1720
02:48:49.159 --> 02:49:03.600
relaxing completely. Moving your focus up to your mouth, your lips,

1721
02:49:04.040 --> 02:49:13.920
your tongue, your teeth, You comes the whole of your mouth, relaxing,

1722
02:49:17.360 --> 02:49:27.680
calm and glase. As you focus now on your jaw,

1723
02:49:30.680 --> 02:49:35.799
not just the parts of your jawney, your mouth, your chin,

1724
02:49:37.040 --> 02:49:40.520
but all the way up the size of your face.

1725
02:49:41.319 --> 02:49:55.319
To your ears, the hole of your jaw feeding more relaxed.

1726
02:49:59.479 --> 02:50:00.239
I can't arm.

1727
02:50:08.360 --> 02:50:17.520
Focusing on your neck, the front of your neck and

1728
02:50:17.559 --> 02:50:30.600
your throat relaxing and loose and calm. The sides of

1729
02:50:30.680 --> 02:50:39.639
your neck, right and left side of your neck relax

1730
02:50:40.120 --> 02:50:55.360
and lace and calm. And now the back of your neck,

1731
02:50:58.639 --> 02:51:08.639
focusing on the back of your neck, letting go of

1732
02:51:08.840 --> 02:51:15.760
any tension that may have been there before, and enjoying

1733
02:51:16.079 --> 02:51:25.639
that sense of increasing comfort and release.

1734
02:51:28.360 --> 02:51:32.360
Then you can experience in the back of your neck,

1735
02:51:38.639 --> 02:51:41.040
moving down your back.

1736
02:51:43.120 --> 02:51:47.879
And moving either side of your spine right from the

1737
02:51:47.920 --> 02:51:53.319
top of your back all the way down to the

1738
02:51:53.360 --> 02:52:10.600
bottom of your back, down to your lower back. And

1739
02:52:10.719 --> 02:52:17.920
as you move up and down your spine, you can

1740
02:52:18.040 --> 02:52:22.479
feel the muscles either side of your spine.

1741
02:52:24.200 --> 02:52:26.239
Relaxing even more.

1742
02:52:33.719 --> 02:52:40.520
And as those muscles relax, that sense of comfort starts

1743
02:52:40.600 --> 02:52:50.719
to spread outwards from your spine into both sides of

1744
02:52:50.799 --> 02:52:57.879
your back, the top of your back, the middle end

1745
02:52:57.959 --> 02:53:07.440
your lower back. And as you scan gently and slowly

1746
02:53:08.639 --> 02:53:14.239
up and down your back, there's the muscles.

1747
02:53:13.680 --> 02:53:17.559
In the top of your back relax.

1748
02:53:17.440 --> 02:53:25.040
And become looser. The muscles in the middle of your

1749
02:53:25.120 --> 02:53:32.559
back also seem to just almost divide from each other

1750
02:53:33.479 --> 02:53:45.280
separating and almost melting, and in your.

1751
02:53:45.239 --> 02:53:46.120
Lower back.

1752
02:53:49.639 --> 02:54:02.440
There seems to be an extra special feeling of comfort.

1753
02:54:02.440 --> 02:54:04.799
The spreads into your hips.

1754
02:54:07.040 --> 02:54:15.040
Sit down your lower back, into your hips, into the

1755
02:54:15.120 --> 02:54:23.879
area where your cosicks are, and into your buttocks, and

1756
02:54:23.959 --> 02:54:28.440
all these muscles that spread.

1757
02:54:29.360 --> 02:54:38.000
Bring your lower back into your hip area, start.

1758
02:54:38.360 --> 02:54:53.879
To melt, start to reading, let go, and don't even

1759
02:54:53.959 --> 02:55:01.000
know where about to focus on your shoulders. Back in

1760
02:55:01.159 --> 02:55:12.799
your spine will continue to let go, continue to relax

1761
02:55:16.280 --> 02:55:28.879
so calmly, and then you focus on your shoulders. You may

1762
02:55:29.040 --> 02:55:45.319
notice they're already feeling really loose, they're already.

1763
02:55:47.639 --> 02:56:01.200
Feeding calm and fear.

1764
02:56:05.559 --> 02:56:13.879
Those muscles then move from your neck into your shoulders.

1765
02:56:20.399 --> 02:56:32.040
Feel so soft and gentle, so smooth.

1766
02:56:37.600 --> 02:56:49.959
And calm, and.

1767
02:56:50.040 --> 02:57:02.920
The feeling in your shoulders scenes to spread deep into

1768
02:57:02.959 --> 02:57:13.399
your shoulders, a sense of relaxation, not just traveling deeply

1769
02:57:13.719 --> 02:57:21.280
into your muscles, but also relaxing.

1770
02:57:23.280 --> 02:57:24.760
The bones.

1771
02:57:30.079 --> 02:57:36.760
And moving all the way to underneath your arms, relaxing

1772
02:57:38.559 --> 02:57:43.360
a whole area between the tops of your shoulders and

1773
02:57:43.559 --> 02:57:49.639
underneath your arms healing.

1774
02:57:55.040 --> 02:57:55.760
You feel so.

1775
02:57:57.639 --> 02:58:09.680
Relaxed and comfortable in your shoulders, which sense that's.

1776
02:58:11.360 --> 02:58:13.440
Deep healing.

1777
02:58:16.399 --> 02:58:24.680
Message into your arms.

1778
02:58:30.120 --> 02:58:31.520
You may feel.

1779
02:58:32.920 --> 02:58:37.959
Almost as if your arms are not even there, because

1780
02:58:38.079 --> 02:59:14.040
they're so relaxed, so deeply relaxed, so so calm.

1781
02:59:14.600 --> 02:59:21.520
So this.

1782
02:59:29.120 --> 02:59:40.520
That feels spreading all the way down your arms to elbows,

1783
02:59:44.040 --> 03:00:13.639
including your elbows, circumforts spread away into rests, your forearments

1784
03:00:14.239 --> 03:00:29.920
und your wrists so heavy, yet at the same time.

1785
03:00:37.200 --> 03:00:42.920
Slight and gentle.

1786
03:01:07.079 --> 03:01:07.920
Like sip.

1787
03:01:10.319 --> 03:01:38.200
Now on your hands, my hands.

1788
03:01:43.920 --> 03:02:08.559
So peaceful in your hands with a sense of.

1789
03:02:12.079 --> 03:02:13.520
Real pace.

1790
03:02:25.559 --> 03:02:40.000
Just seems to feel so familiar. On your hands, relax

1791
03:02:41.280 --> 03:04:46.959
deeply Else I things things you think it taps maing

1792
03:04:47.000 --> 03:05:05.120
you attention to beffront to your body, sharp cuts a

1793
03:05:16.360 --> 03:06:42.280
man new focus to lights mysels.

1794
03:06:43.079 --> 03:06:44.600
And your thighs.

1795
03:07:00.879 --> 03:07:43.040
And knees, so relaxed, car of muscles, just shins a puzzie.

1796
03:07:43.239 --> 03:09:46.000
I see then you faint.

1797
03:09:52.719 --> 03:09:54.159
Sir pays on.

1798
03:09:56.319 --> 03:10:52.520
CycL sait peaceful, sircom serve peaceful sycom so.

1799
03:10:54.479 --> 03:11:06.440
Peace for RelA same.

1800
03:11:11.360 --> 03:11:13.799
Please fall.

1801
03:11:17.120 --> 03:11:33.559
Calm, love and deep relaxation to spread your chest story.

1802
03:11:36.920 --> 03:11:47.719
So relax, lets me go.

1803
03:11:51.360 --> 03:11:54.440
Everything.

1804
03:12:03.319 --> 03:12:09.319
So I'm gonna start counting down now, from twenty down

1805
03:12:09.360 --> 03:12:17.520
to one. You can imagine in a way it's like

1806
03:12:18.280 --> 03:12:24.760
just walking down some steps and each step or twenty steps,

1807
03:12:24.799 --> 03:12:29.719
and each step represents a level of comfort.

1808
03:12:33.200 --> 03:12:36.399
Each step represents.

1809
03:12:37.920 --> 03:12:50.399
A deepening of that comfort, and the furvies you walk

1810
03:12:50.479 --> 03:12:56.239
down those steps, the deeper and more relaxed you feel.

1811
03:13:02.920 --> 03:15:50.440
So starting with number twenty twenty, nineteen, eighteen, seventeen sixteenhhhhhhhh

1812
03:16:53.280 --> 03:20:35.440
three fourhhhhhhhh f s.

1813
03:19:43.520 --> 03:19:44.280
Too well.

1814
03:20:02.399 --> 03:22:01.440
No no.

1815
03:23:04.440 --> 03:24:03.200
Usus eight.

1816
03:25:02.079 --> 03:26:40.280
Shhhhhhhhh six.

1817
03:27:55.000 --> 03:32:30.600
Five using.

1818
03:32:52.680 --> 03:33:59.399
One no, as you focus on your eyes, an a

1819
03:33:59.520 --> 03:34:11.000
count hour from ten down to one, focusing just on

1820
03:34:11.159 --> 03:34:22.120
your eyes, your eyelids, the muscles around your eyes, your

1821
03:34:22.159 --> 03:34:27.200
eye walls themselves, a whole area.

1822
03:34:29.719 --> 03:34:39.360
That makes up your eye.

1823
03:34:42.159 --> 03:34:49.559
And as we count down from ten down to one,

1824
03:34:49.920 --> 03:35:03.920
whilst focusing on your eyes, you become twice is relaxed

1825
03:35:06.120 --> 03:35:19.200
with each number counting down that you may find the

1826
03:35:19.319 --> 03:35:25.840
all you want to do is just drift off to sleep.

1827
03:35:28.799 --> 03:35:35.440
And if that's what you want, then just allow yourself

1828
03:35:35.520 --> 03:35:50.200
to do that. Now, focusing on your eyes, I'm going

1829
03:35:50.280 --> 03:35:55.200
to begin counting down from ten down.

1830
03:35:55.040 --> 03:38:04.280
To one right now, nine eight seven.

1831
03:40:07.719 --> 03:41:19.120
F four.

1832
03:42:32.360 --> 03:44:26.879
Three us.

1833
03:45:06.520 --> 03:45:29.319
One. So counting down from ten to one ten nine

1834
03:45:29.559 --> 03:45:57.319
eight seven six five four three two one. And maybe

1835
03:45:57.399 --> 03:45:59.920
that was a bit too quick in order to run

1836
03:46:00.120 --> 03:46:04.040
as maybe it's a bit too fast for you to

1837
03:46:05.319 --> 03:46:13.959
notice the calming of your body, maybe even a little

1838
03:46:14.000 --> 03:46:17.799
bit of pressure there. Like you're counted down from ten

1839
03:46:17.879 --> 03:46:21.600
to one. Would you expect me to do man, expect

1840
03:46:21.600 --> 03:46:22.399
me to just to go with.

1841
03:46:22.479 --> 03:46:25.000
Floppy just because.

1842
03:46:24.719 --> 03:46:34.360
You're counting down. If you try it again, but this time,

1843
03:46:34.440 --> 03:46:40.680
I'll go a bit slower this time, and you focus

1844
03:46:40.799 --> 03:46:44.719
on the whole of your body before we.

1845
03:46:44.840 --> 03:46:51.200
Focus on your legs. Just notice how.

1846
03:46:51.040 --> 03:47:05.159
Your body does start to feel more relaxed with every

1847
03:47:05.280 --> 03:47:57.799
number that I count down ten, nine, eight, seven, six, five, four,

1848
03:48:05.200 --> 03:48:56.719
three one. I just notice how how you feel, generally,

1849
03:48:57.120 --> 03:49:00.360
how your body feels.

1850
03:49:04.799 --> 03:49:06.920
It's not necessarily even about.

1851
03:49:11.000 --> 03:49:18.280
Counting down from ten to one. It's that space that

1852
03:49:18.360 --> 03:49:37.159
you have, that space between being active physically or mentally

1853
03:49:38.079 --> 03:49:47.239
to just sitting or lying down, just being there, not

1854
03:49:47.479 --> 03:49:54.399
doing anything, not saying anything, or needing to think about anything.

1855
03:49:55.120 --> 03:49:58.840
So it opens up a space, you know, a bit

1856
03:49:58.840 --> 03:50:09.600
of a space, a gap. And the more I came

1857
03:50:09.760 --> 03:50:14.360
down from ten to one, the bigger that gap becomes.

1858
03:50:17.319 --> 03:50:23.760
So there's that gap of calmness, of comfort and relaxation.

1859
03:50:29.639 --> 03:50:31.079
It's a nice feeling.

1860
03:50:36.239 --> 03:50:39.479
And it moves those.

1861
03:50:40.799 --> 03:50:46.760
Stresses or discomforts physically or emotionally, moves them.

1862
03:50:48.280 --> 03:50:56.479
Away, allows you.

1863
03:50:59.120 --> 03:50:59.680
To just.

1864
03:51:02.600 --> 03:51:03.280
Slow down.

1865
03:51:06.879 --> 03:51:09.360
Someone to count a game from ten down to one,

1866
03:51:09.760 --> 03:51:20.000
and notice that gap widening, the gap, And as it widens,

1867
03:51:20.040 --> 03:51:26.719
it's almost like the stress and attention falls into the gap.

1868
03:51:39.879 --> 03:51:51.959
And gives you that distance, that space. Now ten.

1869
03:51:56.239 --> 03:52:47.840
Nine, eight, seven, six, five, four.

1870
03:53:05.639 --> 03:53:53.520
Three two.

1871
03:53:40.959 --> 03:53:50.760
One.

1872
03:53:53.079 --> 03:54:14.159
How did your body feel? Can you notice that?

1873
03:54:14.200 --> 03:54:16.120
Do you feeling calmer.

1874
03:54:23.719 --> 03:54:23.840
There?

1875
03:54:23.879 --> 03:54:52.879
You're feeling more relaxed as we now focus on your legs,

1876
03:54:54.319 --> 03:55:14.799
just your legs. We're just gonna start with focusing on

1877
03:55:15.200 --> 03:55:34.360
your thighs. Of course, it's not the most exciting thing

1878
03:55:34.520 --> 03:55:41.079
to be doing because I'm sure like most of your

1879
03:55:41.079 --> 03:55:52.799
body is not a lot going on right now. Just

1880
03:55:52.959 --> 03:55:59.120
focusing on the whole of your thighs, the tops of

1881
03:55:59.159 --> 03:56:05.239
your thighs, the sides of your thighs, the bottoms of

1882
03:56:05.319 --> 03:56:12.360
your thighs, your outer thighs, and your inner thighs. Basically

1883
03:56:12.479 --> 03:56:16.200
the whole of your thigh that leads into your hip

1884
03:56:20.200 --> 03:56:23.319
and it goes down to your.

1885
03:56:24.840 --> 03:56:25.520
Knee joint.

1886
03:56:30.680 --> 03:56:37.959
Now, this is a big area. It's a very heavy area.

1887
03:56:38.440 --> 03:56:44.440
It's very strong, probably the strongest muscles in your body

1888
03:56:45.120 --> 03:56:59.440
or in your thighs. But I don't think we perhaps

1889
03:57:01.399 --> 03:57:14.159
give enough attention to our thighs. Perhaps we don't acknowledge

1890
03:57:14.799 --> 03:57:34.239
how important our thighs are to our lives, how much

1891
03:57:36.799 --> 03:57:43.159
they actually do for us all through our lives.

1892
03:57:50.280 --> 03:57:56.159
And it may seem sound really weird, but I think

1893
03:57:56.200 --> 03:57:56.959
that all of.

1894
03:57:56.879 --> 03:58:07.760
Our body parts, especially our thighs, need some TLC, a

1895
03:58:07.799 --> 03:58:08.680
bit of love.

1896
03:58:08.639 --> 03:58:10.479
Shown, a bit of.

1897
03:58:17.000 --> 03:58:29.600
Acknowledgement, thank you, gratitude for our thighs do for us.

1898
03:58:36.159 --> 03:58:41.799
And I know this may sound a bit strange. Maybe

1899
03:58:41.799 --> 03:58:44.840
you think, why am I Surely I should be out

1900
03:58:45.319 --> 03:58:53.799
in the garden hugging a tree or something. Wow, it's

1901
03:58:53.840 --> 03:58:55.680
hard to set a microphone.

1902
03:58:55.200 --> 03:58:55.879
Up on a tree.

1903
03:58:56.879 --> 03:59:00.319
That's why I'm doing this indoors. Otherwise I would be outside.

1904
03:59:01.680 --> 03:59:10.360
I can't see the television from the tree. If you

1905
03:59:10.440 --> 03:59:15.680
move down to your knees gain such an important part.

1906
03:59:19.959 --> 03:59:21.159
And I think.

1907
03:59:21.000 --> 03:59:28.639
We don't necessarily I'll speak for myself, I don't necessarily

1908
03:59:28.680 --> 03:59:34.479
appreciate all that my needs to do for me until

1909
03:59:36.000 --> 03:59:39.479
I have a problem with my knee. It's occasionally, if

1910
03:59:39.520 --> 03:59:44.600
I ever maybe i'll bash it or it's aching for

1911
03:59:44.639 --> 03:59:51.559
some reason. It's then that I realize how much it does.

1912
03:59:53.040 --> 03:59:56.319
You know, the benefit of being able to use my

1913
03:59:56.520 --> 04:00:06.239
legs without any kind of physical discomfort is a beautiful

1914
04:00:06.280 --> 04:00:15.559
thing that's possibly not appreciated until it's temporarily removed. You

1915
04:00:15.600 --> 04:00:22.559
know that's comfort. But as you focus on your knees,

1916
04:00:24.600 --> 04:00:30.280
regardless of how your knees feel, you can have that

1917
04:00:30.520 --> 04:00:33.959
sense of gratitude.

1918
04:00:34.680 --> 04:00:37.399
And love to your knees for all that they do.

1919
04:00:37.479 --> 04:00:50.520
For you, and you can still have that attention on

1920
04:00:50.600 --> 04:00:51.440
your thighs.

1921
04:00:52.040 --> 04:00:53.319
Maybe notice how.

1922
04:00:53.200 --> 04:01:05.360
Your thighs feel, Maybe notice that they are relaxing more

1923
04:01:07.120 --> 04:01:18.840
deeply as you focus now on the bottoms of your legs,

1924
04:01:19.200 --> 04:01:25.120
your shins, and your calf muscles. The bones between your

1925
04:01:25.959 --> 04:01:31.639
knees and your feet incorporate, and of course your ankles

1926
04:01:33.920 --> 04:01:45.040
so important. Anyone that's had even like the slightest sprain

1927
04:01:45.159 --> 04:01:52.280
of an ankle knows how how much we take our

1928
04:01:52.360 --> 04:01:53.559
ankles for granted.

1929
04:01:59.440 --> 04:02:01.479
And it's kind of strange in a way when you

1930
04:02:01.559 --> 04:02:01.959
think that.

1931
04:02:04.440 --> 04:02:08.479
You know, logically, our wrists are a lot thinner than

1932
04:02:08.559 --> 04:02:12.639
the rest of our arms, which is okay, it doesn't

1933
04:02:13.159 --> 04:02:16.280
I can't see any problem with that because we're just

1934
04:02:16.319 --> 04:02:17.399
picking stuff up.

1935
04:02:18.799 --> 04:02:20.559
By our ankles.

1936
04:02:21.559 --> 04:02:31.559
So much thinner than the rest of our legs, and

1937
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from a physics perspective or logical even it doesn't really

1938
04:02:36.200 --> 04:02:43.479
make sense that all this weight would ultimately be resting

1939
04:02:44.479 --> 04:02:54.520
on your ankles then leading to your feet, that thin area,

1940
04:02:55.959 --> 04:03:05.600
thin bone. Yeah, it does so much great work. Supports us,

1941
04:03:05.680 --> 04:03:15.680
supports our body for a lifetime, helps us to balance,

1942
04:03:17.840 --> 04:03:22.959
It helps you to get.

1943
04:03:22.840 --> 04:03:31.879
Her around and be mobile. And there's the calf muscles.

1944
04:03:31.959 --> 04:03:39.559
Of course, when I was younger, I couldn't see the

1945
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point in calf muscles.

1946
04:03:41.680 --> 04:03:42.840
Didn't seem to do anything.

1947
04:03:44.360 --> 04:03:48.840
Okay, if I walked around on tiptoes, then my calf

1948
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muscles get some work.

1949
04:03:51.399 --> 04:03:52.760
But of course that's not true.

1950
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The calf muscles.

1951
04:03:53.879 --> 04:03:57.920
Are being used whenever we use the legs.

1952
04:04:03.000 --> 04:04:16.040
And your shins there to protect your lower legs, shaped.

1953
04:04:15.680 --> 04:04:20.120
In a way almost as a protector for the.

1954
04:04:20.079 --> 04:04:31.719
Bone, leading of course to your ankles.

1955
04:04:34.440 --> 04:04:35.280
And your feet.

1956
04:04:39.840 --> 04:04:41.840
But we're not going to focus on your feet. We're

1957
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just going to focus on the legs. I realize, and

1958
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now that I've mentioned your feet, you'll probably focusing them anyway,

1959
04:04:53.559 --> 04:04:55.440
So maybe I should focus.

1960
04:04:55.079 --> 04:05:00.920
On your feet a little bit. You can have them

1961
04:05:00.959 --> 04:05:02.680
in your awareness.

1962
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The same as you have your thighs in your awareness.

1963
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Even though we.

1964
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Haven't been focusing on your thighs a few minutes.

1965
04:05:14.920 --> 04:05:16.559
And we're focusing on your.

1966
04:05:16.799 --> 04:05:33.399
Ankles, there's still that sensation of comfort in your thighs,

1967
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and there's that movement.

1968
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Of energy.

1969
04:05:44.079 --> 04:05:51.159
Because the thighs hold lots of different sensations. Of course,

1970
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there's the muscles, the big strong muscles that we have

1971
04:05:56.159 --> 04:06:09.520
in our thighs, but the skin on the outside of

1972
04:06:09.559 --> 04:06:14.920
the thighs, as in the outside of all of our body,

1973
04:06:15.680 --> 04:06:27.280
can be very sensitive, sensitive to the touch, sensitive to temperature,

1974
04:06:33.799 --> 04:06:41.319
and inside your thighs the bones, there's the muscle, there's

1975
04:06:41.399 --> 04:06:46.239
the blood, vessels, the ar trees, to all this stuff

1976
04:06:46.280 --> 04:06:55.399
that's inside your thighs. I guess sometimes it'd be nice

1977
04:06:55.440 --> 04:06:59.840
if you could actually put your fingers inside your thighs

1978
04:07:00.360 --> 04:07:05.600
and a message, so you can message on the outside,

1979
04:07:05.840 --> 04:07:08.760
of course, but to be able to get deep into

1980
04:07:08.799 --> 04:07:13.639
the muscles and to be able to just massage inside

1981
04:07:13.639 --> 04:07:20.719
your thighs, message in the bones of your leg, massage

1982
04:07:20.719 --> 04:07:30.639
in all the veins, just gently healing your thighs.

1983
04:07:33.879 --> 04:07:35.600
And you can move down.

1984
04:07:37.280 --> 04:07:41.920
Message and inside your knees, just message.

1985
04:07:41.399 --> 04:07:44.920
In those bones. But with healing.

1986
04:07:44.719 --> 04:07:50.799
Fingertips, spreading the healing energy deep into.

1987
04:07:50.479 --> 04:07:53.360
The choice of your knees.

1988
04:07:58.719 --> 04:08:02.559
Of course, there's the back your your need and the

1989
04:08:02.719 --> 04:08:09.719
inside crease where your need is. It's a very sensitive area.

1990
04:08:11.719 --> 04:08:16.040
Very it feels very nice when you stroke it. That

1991
04:08:16.200 --> 04:08:19.120
might be because it's an area that's not.

1992
04:08:19.079 --> 04:08:24.600
Really touched very often. It's almost like a hidden part,

1993
04:08:25.959 --> 04:08:27.040
that crease.

1994
04:08:28.799 --> 04:08:33.360
In your legs. It's almost like a part that.

1995
04:08:35.079 --> 04:08:46.360
Has a sensitivity which is a little bit different. Of course,

1996
04:08:46.360 --> 04:08:56.879
it's protected by your legs, so you can imagine putting

1997
04:08:57.760 --> 04:09:08.760
your fingers into that crease your legs, folding between your legs.

1998
04:09:09.440 --> 04:09:14.079
You can just message with your fingertipst you your fingertips

1999
04:09:14.120 --> 04:09:24.520
going inside, massage in the muscle or tissue. You can

2000
04:09:24.600 --> 04:09:30.879
of course field the bones of your knees heading through

2001
04:09:30.879 --> 04:09:39.920
your fingertips, and then as you.

2002
04:09:39.920 --> 04:09:40.760
Go down.

2003
04:09:43.319 --> 04:09:46.159
To your calf muscles, and that's the part I'd like

2004
04:09:46.200 --> 04:09:50.959
to be able to really put my fingertips deep inside

2005
04:09:51.680 --> 04:10:00.639
my calf muscles message in every single tissue of that muscle,

2006
04:10:02.200 --> 04:10:12.239
healing every part, and then doing the same for my shins,

2007
04:10:15.319 --> 04:10:23.559
massage and generally stroking the boness, generally stroking them healing

2008
04:10:23.719 --> 04:10:28.319
in a loving way, because they deserve to be treated.

2009
04:10:30.879 --> 04:10:35.040
There's the precious bones that they are, because our legs

2010
04:10:35.040 --> 04:10:38.440
are so precious as in all the other parts of

2011
04:10:38.479 --> 04:10:42.079
our body, the more.

2012
04:10:41.920 --> 04:10:46.680
Precious of any chore on the planet.

2013
04:10:55.079 --> 04:11:05.360
When you start to think about your legs in this way,

2014
04:11:07.799 --> 04:11:08.319
it can.

2015
04:11:08.319 --> 04:11:19.479
Change your perspective. In my soundbit bit silly to start.

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04:11:19.159 --> 04:11:25.920
With the idea of having love for your legs, showing

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04:11:26.040 --> 04:11:34.239
appreciation for your thighs, wanting to be able to put

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04:11:34.280 --> 04:11:42.920
your hands in your thighs, massage the muscles and the bones,

2019
04:11:44.680 --> 04:11:50.399
and to get your fingers deep in there, releasing all tension.

2020
04:11:53.280 --> 04:12:02.879
Just to show how much you care about your legs. Now,

2021
04:12:02.920 --> 04:12:08.920
what you care for what your legs do for you regularly.

2022
04:12:11.239 --> 04:12:15.200
Your kneeds, your cars, your ankles.

2023
04:12:19.440 --> 04:12:27.280
The strength of your ankles, considering how thin they are

2024
04:12:27.319 --> 04:12:35.079
compared to the rest of your legs, especially your thighs. Yeah,

2025
04:12:35.120 --> 04:12:47.479
they're so strong, so flexible, absolutely amazing things. Your ankles

2026
04:12:47.559 --> 04:12:53.239
are truly a gift.

2027
04:12:55.200 --> 04:12:56.719
Because of what they do for.

2028
04:12:56.639 --> 04:13:08.719
You, supporting all that weight, regardless of how what weight

2029
04:13:08.799 --> 04:13:14.360
you are, even if you only eat ate stone, there's

2030
04:13:14.399 --> 04:13:17.559
still a lot of weight for these little ankles.

2031
04:13:21.120 --> 04:13:25.360
How are a lot heavier than eight stone double down.

2032
04:13:28.840 --> 04:13:37.879
Yet my ankles support my body all the time. Whether

2033
04:13:37.920 --> 04:13:40.719
they do give off a sigh of relief when I

2034
04:13:40.840 --> 04:13:45.520
sit down, that's I've had my whole.

2035
04:13:45.360 --> 04:13:46.000
Legs though.

2036
04:13:49.399 --> 04:13:52.040
My feet feet also go.

2037
04:13:54.000 --> 04:14:18.159
My toes clap so happy. Your legs.

2038
04:14:19.159 --> 04:14:27.000
Really are amazing. And I know they're talking about. Talking

2039
04:14:27.040 --> 04:14:29.040
about your legs is probably.

2040
04:14:31.120 --> 04:14:35.040
Possibly one of the most most boring things I've ever

2041
04:14:35.559 --> 04:14:36.559
heard anyone say.

2042
04:14:37.440 --> 04:14:41.799
Possibly you're boring or not.

2043
04:14:43.399 --> 04:14:58.879
Everything I said is true. Your legs are amazing. Your

2044
04:14:58.959 --> 04:15:09.840
legs desert not just respect. They deserve to relax.

2045
04:15:11.200 --> 04:15:11.600
Deeply.

2046
04:15:18.879 --> 04:15:22.239
They deserve to take some time out of the day

2047
04:15:24.399 --> 04:15:53.680
to just lecker completely relax. I really can relax.

2048
04:16:00.959 --> 04:16:04.920
Because the legs are so such a most you know,

2049
04:16:05.120 --> 04:16:11.120
very important part of your body. When you relax your legs,

2050
04:16:11.159 --> 04:16:18.399
the rest of your body also naturally follows in that

2051
04:16:22.120 --> 04:16:33.000
journey of comfort. Like I feel it in my hips.

2052
04:16:34.360 --> 04:16:41.520
My hips feel really loose, and also my lower back

2053
04:16:41.559 --> 04:16:48.159
as well. My lower back really feels it feels stretched,

2054
04:16:49.280 --> 04:16:52.360
even though I'm just sitting in a chair and there's

2055
04:16:52.399 --> 04:16:53.959
no stretching.

2056
04:16:56.079 --> 04:16:57.680
As far as I'm aware that I'm doing.

2057
04:16:58.680 --> 04:17:01.239
It's almost as if the must ors that just relaxed

2058
04:17:01.280 --> 04:17:06.879
so much that there is a natural stretch as the

2059
04:17:07.040 --> 04:17:29.319
tension has reduced a lot. And I'm now going to

2060
04:17:29.399 --> 04:17:36.920
count down from ten down to one, and you can

2061
04:17:36.959 --> 04:17:40.319
continue to fil.

2062
04:17:41.760 --> 04:17:43.559
Wonderfully relaxed.

2063
04:17:46.719 --> 04:18:06.040
Ten nine, eight, seven, six, five.

2064
04:18:10.360 --> 04:18:29.920
Four three two one relax.

2065
04:18:37.760 --> 04:18:42.040
So I'm just going to count down five down to one,

2066
04:18:42.799 --> 04:18:47.479
and as a countdown, if you just focus on the numbers,

2067
04:18:49.040 --> 04:18:57.159
just the numbers counting down, and notice how you feel

2068
04:18:59.680 --> 04:19:04.319
in the moment as you hear the numbers counting down,

2069
04:19:05.360 --> 04:19:07.920
knowing that those numbers.

2070
04:19:09.840 --> 04:19:15.000
Counting down represent you feeling.

2071
04:19:17.440 --> 04:19:25.239
Calmer, not just in your body, but also relaxing your mind.

2072
04:19:27.680 --> 04:19:29.079
Just notice how you feel.

2073
04:19:29.920 --> 04:19:35.840
There's nothing to do, there's nothing to say, there's nothing

2074
04:19:35.959 --> 04:19:43.559
to think about, starting with number five.

2075
04:19:51.959 --> 04:20:34.959
Four three two one. How as you notice the gradual.

2076
04:20:37.120 --> 04:20:46.120
Letting go the tension in your body, you may also

2077
04:20:46.680 --> 04:20:49.479
begin to notice and be aware.

2078
04:20:50.959 --> 04:20:52.520
Of how your mind.

2079
04:20:53.239 --> 04:21:01.280
Is starting to slow down. This is just a natural

2080
04:21:01.959 --> 04:21:09.959
thing that happens. It's not really a special procedure. It's

2081
04:21:10.040 --> 04:21:15.399
just natural because as your body relaxes, your mind also

2082
04:21:16.079 --> 04:21:17.159
starts to relax.

2083
04:21:18.719 --> 04:21:20.399
And the more your mind.

2084
04:21:20.159 --> 04:21:24.040
Relaxes, the more your body relaxes. It's just a continuous

2085
04:21:25.079 --> 04:21:37.799
circle of relaxation, and there's that calmness that comes from

2086
04:21:38.159 --> 04:21:43.920
relative quietness. You know, even even if there's background sounds

2087
04:21:45.319 --> 04:21:51.479
either your side or mine, it's still going to be

2088
04:21:51.600 --> 04:21:55.959
quite calm. You know, you haven't got the television on,

2089
04:21:56.520 --> 04:22:00.879
there's no music in the background. You're listening to the

2090
04:22:00.959 --> 04:22:08.719
recorded with music. Of course, you're very likely not going

2091
04:22:08.799 --> 04:22:11.719
to be sitting in a room with other people. Of

2092
04:22:11.719 --> 04:22:16.479
course you might be, but generally it's more ideal if

2093
04:22:16.520 --> 04:22:21.360
you can do this on your own, so no distractions,

2094
04:22:27.479 --> 04:22:37.840
and when you stop thinking about stuff, relaxation.

2095
04:22:38.959 --> 04:22:51.079
Automatically rises. A sense of comfort starts to grow, and.

2096
04:22:52.799 --> 04:22:58.200
Without trying to build it up into something fantastical or

2097
04:23:01.440 --> 04:23:10.159
something magical, this is just a natural process, something that's

2098
04:23:11.319 --> 04:23:20.280
easy to accomplish. In fact, it's almost you know, the

2099
04:23:20.559 --> 04:23:27.399
sense of relaxing completely happens really when you put no.

2100
04:23:27.440 --> 04:23:29.600
Effort into it.

2101
04:23:29.600 --> 04:23:32.000
It's not something that you can really force.

2102
04:23:34.680 --> 04:23:44.280
It's something that happens naturally. And part of the process

2103
04:23:44.440 --> 04:23:49.239
of this recording and others.

2104
04:23:50.440 --> 04:23:52.079
Is simply.

2105
04:23:53.319 --> 04:24:02.520
Two allow you to take advantage of this space.

2106
04:24:04.680 --> 04:24:09.000
This time, to just.

2107
04:24:13.079 --> 04:24:23.319
Let go, to just be here, to be in tune

2108
04:24:24.319 --> 04:24:25.040
with how you.

2109
04:24:25.000 --> 04:24:33.959
Feel, yet with the intention.

2110
04:24:35.639 --> 04:24:47.120
Of wanting to relax deeply and maybe even to fall asleep,

2111
04:24:48.280 --> 04:24:53.479
depending on what it is that you wish for yourself

2112
04:24:55.200 --> 04:25:10.280
in this moment. As we know, relaxing is the majority

2113
04:25:11.479 --> 04:25:15.959
of the process of falling asleep. The actual falling asleep

2114
04:25:16.040 --> 04:25:22.799
part is the tiny bit at the end. The deeper

2115
04:25:24.120 --> 04:25:25.120
relaxed you.

2116
04:25:25.239 --> 04:25:34.360
Become, the easier you find.

2117
04:25:35.639 --> 04:25:51.680
Yourself drifting. You can also, if you choose stay focused

2118
04:25:52.840 --> 04:26:05.959
on my voice and really enjoy the process.

2119
04:26:09.639 --> 04:26:41.600
Corradually relaxing each muscle in your body effortlessly and just

2120
04:26:42.200 --> 04:27:01.799
observing the sensation of letting go completely.

2121
04:27:07.840 --> 04:27:11.879
This time, I'm gonna count from six down to one.

2122
04:27:17.040 --> 04:27:20.319
You can notice your mind.

2123
04:27:22.639 --> 04:27:27.879
Calming down more with each number.

2124
04:27:29.239 --> 04:27:30.440
That you hear me.

2125
04:27:30.680 --> 04:29:11.719
Say, naturally, feeling calm and slow, to be peaceful, sex five, four, three,

2126
04:30:39.760 --> 04:30:56.200
being aware how you might to slowe write down, sinking deeply,

2127
04:30:59.000 --> 04:31:16.000
need to relax station and as you focus on your mind,

2128
04:31:19.840 --> 04:31:29.159
they notice that there are some thoughts still there, maybe

2129
04:31:29.319 --> 04:31:31.079
some stubborn thoughts that.

2130
04:31:33.559 --> 04:31:39.079
For some reason perhaps need your attention.

2131
04:31:45.959 --> 04:31:47.520
That's what you can do is.

2132
04:31:52.920 --> 04:32:05.399
Send love to those thoughts. Sprinkle those thoughts with love,

2133
04:32:07.159 --> 04:32:13.319
My little petals from a flower. Just sprinkle over petals

2134
04:32:13.399 --> 04:32:20.600
feel good love towards those thoughts to let those thoughts

2135
04:32:20.799 --> 04:32:27.639
know that you're not abandoned. A number, you just need them,

2136
04:32:28.840 --> 04:32:40.840
You require them to just calm down, slow down, quiet down.

2137
04:32:44.479 --> 04:32:56.239
And now so as you focus on those remaining thoughts.

2138
04:32:57.520 --> 04:33:01.559
As we countdown this time from seven down to one.

2139
04:33:03.159 --> 04:33:17.200
With each number, just imagine sprinkling those flower petals of love, kindness,

2140
04:33:18.799 --> 04:33:30.639
gratitude over those thoughts, which will allow them to just

2141
04:33:32.119 --> 04:33:47.840
not away relax deeply very number, those thoughts will become

2142
04:33:48.080 --> 04:34:42.639
more and more relaxed. Start if not a seven, six, five.

2143
04:34:55.599 --> 04:36:48.279
Four, Let you notice how relaxed your feeling in your body?

2144
04:36:56.680 --> 04:37:10.000
We got to focus on your hands gives the oil

2145
04:37:10.279 --> 04:37:11.599
extra hands on.

2146
04:37:14.040 --> 04:37:35.720
The wax your body and my dogue. Yes, you focus

2147
04:37:36.040 --> 04:37:46.279
on your hands with your fingers. It's nothing needed to

2148
04:37:46.360 --> 04:37:52.159
be done with my clenched fists of dens.

2149
04:37:52.000 --> 04:37:53.479
And the fingers d.

2150
04:38:01.240 --> 04:38:04.639
It's just not to say I fuck.

2151
04:38:06.520 --> 04:38:31.240
On your hands, not to see how you feel, because

2152
04:38:31.439 --> 04:38:41.439
the A but asks your hands feel I can't by your.

2153
04:38:41.599 --> 04:38:53.520
Mind feels comforts you feel around your body?

2154
04:38:59.439 --> 04:39:02.439
Gee y.

2155
04:39:12.240 --> 04:39:29.799
I tiste you starting.

2156
04:39:33.080 --> 04:39:55.799
Tread said, just up your hands and angus.

2157
04:40:00.119 --> 04:40:00.799
A man.

2158
04:40:02.759 --> 04:40:15.040
Chain experience, a real deepening of that relaxation.

2159
04:40:15.720 --> 04:40:29.040
In your hands and fingers, a more relaxed.

2160
04:40:33.759 --> 04:40:35.040
Each number.

2161
04:40:43.000 --> 04:40:52.959
Eight down to one, plust.

2162
04:40:54.279 --> 04:40:55.959
Feel like he.

2163
04:40:58.119 --> 04:41:05.720
Relax in the cheek, spread it into your hands. Vengers

2164
04:41:09.040 --> 04:41:35.799
my comment, relaxing each number, write down at down to one,

2165
04:41:40.000 --> 04:41:45.439
to drift down to drift in a cake.

2166
04:41:50.000 --> 04:41:51.319
To start it with.

2167
04:41:55.919 --> 04:45:57.840
Num seven three, Just be here, nothing to think about,

2168
04:45:59.560 --> 04:46:03.040
nothing to do, nothing to say.

2169
04:46:07.000 --> 04:46:18.520
And everything just feels calm. This is your natural state

2170
04:46:18.639 --> 04:46:26.119
of being. This is how you just normally feel.

2171
04:46:27.919 --> 04:46:47.720
Take away and understand that stress of work science Dan,

2172
04:46:57.040 --> 04:47:18.720
take that away out that those sense of pass which

2173
04:47:18.959 --> 04:47:33.840
cost a buick, because absomly he's just a fee feeling

2174
04:47:34.880 --> 04:47:57.000
of confidence, most gotten sight, someone found specialness, things like

2175
04:47:57.200 --> 04:48:06.159
it's sweat in the films, a sense of comments.

2176
04:48:08.759 --> 04:48:09.159
That we.

2177
04:48:16.680 --> 04:48:41.479
Accept yourself, that sea that sweet actually not just for yourself,

2178
04:48:43.319 --> 04:48:45.639
someone's importantly.

2179
04:48:45.680 --> 04:48:47.000
Kind of like yourself.

2180
04:48:49.759 --> 04:49:28.479
A sus sense of gratitude and energy soaking into body,

2181
04:49:36.159 --> 04:49:56.520
energy soaking into hid in, spreads through wains traps every

2182
04:49:56.799 --> 04:50:10.720
sun start realized age.

2183
04:50:13.520 --> 04:50:15.880
You just want to tax your mind.

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Spoiled feel its.

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Just need to feel such as.

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Also starts

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Sink U