April 14, 2025

(music) (5 hours) NEGOTIATION | Let me bore your pain away #22 | Jason Newland | 14th April 2025

(music) (5 hours) NEGOTIATION | Let me bore your pain away #22 | Jason Newland | 14th April 2025
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Hello, and welcome to jasonnew Land dot com. My name

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is Jason Newland. Please only listen when you can safely

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closeize this is let me boil your pain away. So

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basically what this is just me chatting. That's all. It is,

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really just chatting, having a little look look at different

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techniques that might be useful, and that's what it is.

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So how it works really is I ask you to

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gauge the chronic pain level, the discomfort level zero to

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ten on a scale, ten being the worst, zero being

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the lowest, where is it right now? And then at

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the end I ask you to do that again and

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notice how it's changed. Now this works on different levels.

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There's I mean, there's the distraction of listening to me

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rambling on so that can all always be a useful thing.

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There's the focusing on now because as you listen to

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my voice, you're focusing on this moment instead of thinking

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about the past or thinking about the future. So you've

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already reduced the physical discomfort by two thirds because you're

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not thinking about the previous you know, the past pain.

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You're not thinking about or expect in future discomfort. You're

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just focusing on where you are now, and then as

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we go through and just chat, there's relaxation. You know,

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your body starts to relax, your mind slows down, and

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that in itself also naturally, in its own way, automatically

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reduces chrodict pain. So there's a lot going on. It

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might just seem like it's a random chat about nothing,

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and in some ways that is exactly what it is.

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But underneath that, underneath the pointlessness of me talking, there

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are also underlying benefits. Just what I said, you know,

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the distraction focusing on now, the focusing on my voice,

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the relaxation that automatically happens. And there's this metal thing

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sticking out of my desk and I keep banging on it.

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I want to get rid of it.

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It's like a.

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I used to use it to hold the headphones. I

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don't know what it's for. I don't know why I

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screwed it into the desk to start with, because in

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a way, I just need to get a screwdriver. I

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don't even I don't think I even own a screwdriver anymore.

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I want to get it eventually. I've been complaining about

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it for months. Eventually I'm going to remove it.

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Now.

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So I'm just thinking. Yesterday I did a recording and

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I've talked about some quite strange ideas, some quite strange

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techniques that have been used to help people to help

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you reduce that physical discomfort. And I thought to myself,

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and I said this out loud yesterday as well, maybe

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I'll go through some of those techniques and just devote

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a whole recording to each one. So I think I'm

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going to do that, and you can just follow me along.

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So I'll be doing the techniques myself. I'll be playing

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around of it, having a bit of fun with it.

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One of the main things really is that this is

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not a serious recording. It's also important that you only

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listen with the permission of your doctor, and you need

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to know the cause of the chronic pain, that physical

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discomfort before listening any further. So, if you do not

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have permission from your medical practitioner or doctor to say

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that it's chronic pain and there's no harm in reducing it, okay,

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that the physical discomfort is not actually needed, no longer required,

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unless you have that permission, then please turn the recording

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off and go and do something else more enjoyable. Perhaps

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So that being said, I shall continue you. And as

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I was saying, this is not supposed to be a

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serious recording. It's a serious subject, but I like to

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do things lighthearted and with a bit of fun, try

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not to take myself too seriously. So I'm coming from

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this different perspectives. The first perspective is from a like

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a hypnosis NLP. That's a neuro linguistic programming counseling kind

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of perspective. Just trying to help people, trying to be

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of use, be useful, do something that helps, and that

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is the bottom line. If what I do helps them, brilliant,

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please continue listening, tell other people, Let other people know

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that this is useful. If it's not useful, then you know,

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I apologize. It's not going to be for everyone. But

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you know, I make a lot of recordings. I've made

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thousands of recordings over the years. I've been doing this

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for nineteen years now online, so a little bit of experience.

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But I'm not an expert on anything. I never pretend

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I am and never will pretend I am an expert

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on anything. I know a few things, but we all do,

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don't We We all know a few we all know something.

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We all know a few things. And when you're interested

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in the subject, you get to know more about it,

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and I can only I can only really learn stuff

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when I'm interested. That's the only time it really sticks

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in my brain for some reason. And one of the

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things that I've been I wouldn't even say passionate about.

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I would say probably.

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A bit.

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I don't know what the right word is. I mean,

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I am passionate about it now, But in the past,

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I was a bit obsessed with anything to do with

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chronic pain, chronic pain relief. I was studying via books

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and textbooks, not at college or anything like that, but

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I was. And then when the Internet came along, like YouTube, rather,

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the internet was around, but you know, I started studying it.

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I got interested in chronic pain back in about nineteen

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ninety nine, and it wasn't until two thousand and four

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that I started a free chronic pain relief service in

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my local town. But for two years I got no takers, like,

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no one was interested apart from my nan. I did

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some hypnosis with my nan because she had osteoporosis, so

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her bones were crumbling. A lot of that was it

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wasn't just due to age, because it runs in the families.

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It's hereditary, but her her age did definitely have her

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have a bearing on it, because she was very elderly

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at the time. And it wasn't until two thousand and

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six when I relaunched myself, relaunched a free pain relief

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service locally, and I put some money into it, got

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some leaflets, built a new website. All this stuff advertised

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a bit because I had a job at the time,

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so I could invest a little bit advertising, and it

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took off. I started to get people that were calling

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me up, and at the beginning, I was actually going

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around their house. They were getting a family member or

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they themselves were picking up from Blockbusters Video funny enough,

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just near where I used to live, and they'd take

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me to blame me, yeah, Blockbuster Video, and they'd take

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me to their house and I'd do some hypnosis or

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relaxation and different techniques to help them to feel more relief.

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And this is only based on now this is coming

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from the people themselves, so it's not my personal opinion,

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but this is what everyone told me, and every single

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person at the time told me that it helped the

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pain level reduced. So I had one hundred percent success

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rate according to it. I mean that you never know.

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They might have lied some of them. They might just

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said it to make me feel better about myself. It's possible.

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But according to then, you know, it was one hundred

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percent success. I've never had one hundred percent success righting

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anything in my entire life, so that was quite nice.

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I don't know how many people I actually saw during

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that period. I don't know, maybe one hundred, one hundred

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different people, maybe maybe more. So it went on. Yeah,

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I did it for about eight months. Yeah, so that

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was that was good. And then I decided to start

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doing stuff online, making recordings online, because it just to

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me it seemed like, you know what, because I used

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to get people to say, well, it's nice to listen

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to you, and it's nice to see you once a

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week or whatever. People used to come and do groups

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with me for relaxation, and they'd say, well, I'd quite

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like to be able to hear you like other times.

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So I did some CDs where I just recorded live recordings,

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like live sessions, and I kept running out of CDs

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because they were so popular. I want to say popular.

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I mean just was running out of CDs. There wasn't

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thousands of CDs, but it was costing because I was

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volunteering the two charities Rehab and Alcohol Charity when we

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were doing the relaxation groups when I was running them,

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so it was just costing the charities a bit too

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much money, like making the CDs. So in the end

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I thought, i'll I'll put them on my website. So

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I put the live recordings. I started recording all my

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new recordings. Every time I did a live recording in

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a group, and I was doing maybe four a week

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at one point, I would upload them onto my website.

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Then I started putting them onto podcasts, and then YouTube

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came along. I think ninety two thousand and seven hours

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on MySpace, I think two thousand and six. I was

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uploading them and they were getting a lot of good feedback.

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Awful quality sound, really bad like an old digital recorder.

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It was really bad, seriously bad quality sound, but people

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seem to like it. And it kind of went from there.

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Oh I got itchy bum See my professionalism comes out sometimes,

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and I just continued. I then went on to become

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a counselor, got a degree in counseling, had numerous different

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trainings and hypnosis and different things like that. Read a

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lot of books, and since two thousand and six, I've

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been making recordings online videos and audio recordings. So it's

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over nineteen years. So I've got a little bit of experiences.

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It doesn't mean I'm many good, but.

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I kind of.

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I think it was it. I might be rubbish at

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what I do, but at least I'm confident. I'm confident.

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I'm incompetent, but confident. Yay, I don't know. I kind

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of figure. I mean, I get a little bit of

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feedback from people saying that it's helpful. I mean, I

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had one today actually on my Facebook group, which is

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Jason Newland's Boring group, And you might be thinking, when

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you're gonna get on with the chronic pain relief? All right, okay,

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but I just let me just have a look at this.

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For those that haven't, I've had a few nice comments

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on that group lately. There's Rich I think, let's look.

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It's hard to find them because I do so many

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recordings these days. Rich was said, Hey, Adjacent, your podcast

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has become my new favorite. I listen almost every night,

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thanks for the Sunday papers. Has to let me boy

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to sleep podcasts, So I do I kind of have

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a different theme throughout the week with the let Me

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Boy to Sleep, Monday's Sleepy Bit, Boring Objects, Tuesdays Trivia Tuesday,

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Wednesday's Whisper Wednesday or was it Wednesday whispers Whisper Wednesday? Thursday,

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don't really have a set one for that. Friday's Q

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and a Friday Saturday's Saturday Summary, which is just the week,

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a summary of the week that's gone by. And in

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Sunday Sunday Papers, which is I go through the newspapers

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on Sunday, usually just one newspaper because it takes me

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forever to get through it. So yeah, and what do

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you say, which says I do like some of the rags,

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like The Inquirer. Okay, I should have I should have

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pointed that outs I did mention that I couldn't find

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I didn't have it on the app. The National Inquirer. Alright,

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I'm going to have to go back. There was something

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else on here. I think it was Hilary Greg says,

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I'm so impressed that you're still churning out sleep. Churning,

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churning out I like that word, churning sleep hypnosis videos.

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After all this time, you must have the YouTube record

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for the most videos like this. I haven't seen anyone

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even close. I missed your live so yeah, thanks Greg,

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I mean doing it in a while, now doing it

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a while? Oh yes, Jackie says, I so love. Oh

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I've only I didn't realize I didn't see this one, Jackie.

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I'm sorry that I did not reply to your comment

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on there because I didn't see it. Jackie says, I

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so love and I so appreciate how you completely leave

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politics alone when you talk to us folks, it means

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a heck of a lot. And know that we know

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that you and know that we know that you know

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exactly what we know and how much we are all

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suffering together. Okay, yeah, I don't thanks. I'm going to

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put a bit of comment on this reply. Thank you

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just only just see this. It's I do try and

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steer away when I do. It's not just the newspapers,

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but generally if I can. I okay, I'm struggling to

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find stuff here, right I am. There is another way

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I can do it. Actually, let me see there was,

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Hillary wrote. If I go to Hillary, I should be

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able to see click on that she'll be able to

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see stuff she's posted on my Thank you for Okay,

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now I can't find it. I'm sorry, I can he

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find it? Oh well, but I did read it out

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at the time. There's too much stuff on the group.

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When I do my recordings, I do generally miss out politics,

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don't talk about politics, don't talk about horrible news stories,

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which is most news stories to be fair, and I

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talk about my own life, so not everything's like. I'd

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sometimes broach a few subjects that maybe are not like

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perfectly wonderful, but generally I try and keep it as

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light as possible. I do. But you know, if I

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was if I was in hospital, I would let you

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know that I was in hospital, and I would tell

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you why I was in hospital in my recordings. I

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wouldn't like just not make any recordings and pretend it

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didn't happen or you know, it's not doesn't mean i'd

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go into graphic detail about the castration or whatever it is.

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I went in there for castration blind me, so yeah,

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it's I try and keep it light. But you just

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said castration that's not light. Yeah. No, I didn't know

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that was going to pop out of my mouth. So

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just gives you an idea I've got I should I

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if I could find the letters that I had. I

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still got letters that I received back in two thousand

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and six, two thousand and seven from people that I

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saw during that period for the chronic pain relief, and

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it was I kept them so lovely. I've got a

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few letters sent from people here as well, and messages,

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loads of message but I didn't. I don't know where

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I stored them. They've got to be somewhere. I wonder

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where they are. Also, let you know that my on

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my websites because I do the Q and a Friday

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every Friday now, I've been doing that for a year.

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There's a little form you can fill in, or you

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can go to the page. There's a natural page for it,

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and it is basically if I go to view site,

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I said, look the very very top of the page,

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just below the latest recordings. Ask me anything dash Q

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and a Friday submission, just your name, email, just post

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a message and I will read it out the question

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and answer the question in the next Q and a Friday.

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Or if you go into the menu, you can actually

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go into the list of pages Q and A Friday questions. Again,

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it's just that page and that form on its site

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in one page so it just gives us another way

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of doing it. Because last week I only got one

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question and I posted it. I posted like any questions

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for Q and A Friday on Wednesday of last week,

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and I didn't get any I think it just got

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lost because of all the recordings I've been making. It

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just kind of got camouflaged, as it were, it went missing.

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So I'm trying to avoid that happening again. You know,

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I was partly thinking, is it because you don't want

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Q and a Friday anymore? Is it run? Is it

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run its course? Or just because people didn't see it,

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didn't see the question. So now anyone who visits let

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anybody who visits my website, I have a little bit

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of stutter sometimes it's just like, you know, I don't

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know why. I have a little bit of stutter, a

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little bit of a lisp, a little bit of it.

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I've got a little bit of everything. You know, it's

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a nice little mix. I would say forty eight percent Irish.

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I don't know if you knew that. I don't mention

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it very often, but yeah, so here we are. Yesterday

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was very busy. I had the most amount of listeners

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that I've had for ages and ages. I mean, if

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I go for the last the current year, the last

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twelve months, No, that's by month. So so yeah, thirty

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the last thirty days. Yesterday was the biggest amount of

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listeners I've had, and two days before that was the

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second biggest. I'm just going back. So what March? So

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if I go to March, yep, even in March, not Inmhing.

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In March. February Oh no, I did ever. Okay, So

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it's the biggest I've had since the fourteenth of February.

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Fourteenth of February is that valen Time's Day? Is that

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fourteenth February? Do you think people listening? Because there's all

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these people out there that just love me secretly love well,

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if you love me so much? Where was my Valentine's chocolates?

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Don't care about the cards? Can't eat the cards chocolates?

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Where is my Valentine's gifts? And well cards? Even balloons?

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Air fair a yacht? My Valentine's yacht? Where was Where's

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my Valentine's Mercedes?

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Yes?

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Yes, I had one, two, three really good days in February,

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but February fourteenth was probably even better than yesterday. Yeah,

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I wonder why that is? How strange? Not really strange,

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But I'll tell you what has happened. Though, I'm getting

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more and more people visiting my website and listening on there.

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So I'm pleased about that because you know, it's cost

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me money to have that website going, so it's quite nice,

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quite nice to think that people are actually listening on there.

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I mean yesterday and not the day before the day

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before that. So what was it yesterday Sunday and from

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I had the most I think I've ever had on

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my website Jasonnewland dot com. This is a bit of

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it relaxes you. I just chitter and chatter and just

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blah blah blah. So I don't know why sometimes I

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feel the need to just do an introduction to what

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let me bore your pain away is. And I think

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the way I've been talking about the the what's it

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like the past? You know, when I was doing recordings

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and when I was seeing people in person, and it's

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like I'm trying to not justify, but almost trying to

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convince you that I'm worth listening to. But there's no

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point in that. It's really it's up to each individual

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person and thousands of people every day listen to me.

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But it doesn't mean that. I mean, it doesn't mean

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it's always the same few thousand people. It might be,

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it might be new. There might only be six people

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that listen to me every day, and there might be

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like three thousand new people that listen to me once

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And think, what on earth is he talking about?

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What if I landed in? This is so weird. I've

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arrived in a weird space, a weird podcast.

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It is thought.

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Hopefully not, but it might happen. I mean, I've always

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been a bit strange. I like to think in a

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good way, but maybe there is no good way and

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strange I don't know. So here's what I was thinking, right,

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I quite like the talking pain negotiation. This was number

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eight on the list of these ten techniques. Now I

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hadn't really heard it described this way. So I go

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into chat GPT. I asked the questions, and this is

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the four point five, which is the good for writing

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and exploring ideas, use advanced reason. I think four point

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five is the newist, that's the best one. I'm not

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one hundred percent sure, but I kind of know my

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way around this stuff anyway, and I've done some of

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these techniques in the past, but didn't have a name

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for them. So there's one called the blue ascension method.

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I have never used the word sex X extension, ascension

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as C N S I O N. I've never even

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said that word before. Maybe yes I I did, but

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before that ascension and know what it means, I just

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never used that word rise. I would probably use floating

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off and it is just getting tying helium balloons to

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stuff and just allowing it just to flow, flow away

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or blow away or fly away or float away. But

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that's not the technique I'm going to focus on. And

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I want to focus on the talking negotiation. And I've

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also done a version of this before. I didn't again,

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I didn't call it that. I guess I probably wouldn't

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have called it a technique ever, just something where when

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you are relaxed, your mind has slowed down. And you

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may have noticed that now anyway, because you listen to me.

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I mean, the word bore is in the title of

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this recording, and it can be and you know what,

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the way I see it, something that's boring to one

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person could be super interesting to another person. Now, if

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I was going to stand here and talk stand. I'm

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not standing if I was going to sit here. I

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don't know why I did. I made that distinction because

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there's no way of you known, is there. But I

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suppose I imagine if you're listening into kind of a

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relaxing sit sort of recording like this, I can't You're

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probably not imagining that I'm standing here on one leg

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balancing an egg on my head and juggling knives or

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you know, it's like you kind of know that that

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wouldn't be very relaxing with it. So the negotiation I

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have sometimes it's just nice to get in touch with

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that part of you and instead of doing what's natural,

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because a natural thing to do with a feeling of

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discomfort is to try to avoid. It's just the natural

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thing to do, but it's not necessarily the useful thing

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to do. Sometimes it really is the useful thing to do.

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It's the best thing to do. Sometimes. You know, if

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someone's needs to run and you know, I say someone's

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got a broken leg, they know they can't put any

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pressure on it. But if there's an emergency and that

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person has to get out of a building or has

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to move very quickly, then it's good that they you know,

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they can focus on it or completely try to ignore

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it rather because that helps them to get out of

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that situation. So someone's like needing to get down some

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stairs because there's an emergency and everyone has to get

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out of a building. They're not going to be like

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focusing on the on their broken leg, like, oh, let's

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focus on it. No, they're going to be like, sod

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the leg, I'm getting down these stairs. Not allowed to

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use the lifts. So that wouldn't be It wasn't because

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the emergency is just I've got a habit of farting

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in lifts. See, that's where the professionalism goes wrong. I mean,

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I genuinely, this is genuinely. I was going to write

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a book about therapy, about being a counselor with one

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of my colleagues, and I thought, I'm not going to

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do a book about how to be a counselor. I'm

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not going to do a book because you know, I was.

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We were both, you know, in the first few years

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of being professional counselors. So and we work together quite

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often in this at the same time in the same building.

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So I got to know her, and I thought it'd

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be nice if we wrote a book together, but for

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student counselors, people that were just starting out, maybe just qualified,

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and you know, I went through some of the ideas.

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Just the things that come up that aren't taught in

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the counseling course, not taught. Maybe they might be in

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some courses, but they weren't sort of covered in the

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counseling degree that I did, and just things like it

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could be lots of different things, like lots of just

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little things. I mean, there's one definitely weird thing that

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happened when I had a well twice, I had a

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woman come back. This is when I was training and

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I was at college and she came to the rooms

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in the college and I finished the session. Then I

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saw another person and then I saw I think I

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had three people in a row. And I was coming

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ready to leave at six o'clock. There was nowhere else around.

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And I come out of the door and she's there.

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I mean, there's a lock on the door, so people

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can't just walk in and out. It's a therapy room.

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You can get out the easy enough. But then she

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was there like saying, oh, and she was hovering. I said,

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how are you able to hover? I mean that you're

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defining gravity. No, she wasn't actually hovering, but she was like,

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you know there, and she was asking me if I

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wanted to go for a coffee and spend some time

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with her, and I said no, Well I kind of

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trying to say, like, you know, I can't, it's not allowed.

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And she was seemed very upset, you know, just generally,

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I said, know what to do, and it was there

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was no one to call, there was nobody around who

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it was. I felt a bit vulnerable, to be honest,

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and that was a situation that I didn't know, you know,

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like what do we do in these situations. I had

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another client who actually asked me out for a date

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and I wanted to say yes, but I said no,

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because you know, I just not can't be dating. I mean,

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if the therapy has finished what she came to me for.

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She was on the waiting list for so long. By

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the time she actually got to see me, nearly everything

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was sorted. It was a very practical situation that had

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caused emotional distress, but most of it was sorted. And

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I think part of the reason why she stayed for

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six weeks because we enjoyed chatting. I think, you know,

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she just uses six sessions up to just chat me.

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To start with, it was about a situation, but it

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was kind of sorted after the first week or so,

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any remnants of it. And she asked me on the

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last session, I wanted to go out on a date.

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And I didn't tell her I did. I mean, the

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fact is I did. I didn't. I didn't tell her

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did but I did.

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Know.

473
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What I mean is I didn't tell her that I

474
00:39:55.280 --> 00:39:58.559
liked her, because I did. I fancy her, but I

475
00:39:58.599 --> 00:40:05.679
didn't tell her that because it seemed unprofessional. So I

476
00:40:05.840 --> 00:40:09.320
just said, oh no, I can't, I explained to her,

477
00:40:09.760 --> 00:40:16.079
just can't do it, not allowed I could lose my career. See,

478
00:40:16.119 --> 00:40:19.719
at the time, I thought I had a career. And

479
00:40:19.760 --> 00:40:25.639
then a few months later, this is true that all

480
00:40:25.719 --> 00:40:29.320
the government cuts, that all the government funding stopped, so

481
00:40:29.400 --> 00:40:32.679
I basically lost all my work apart from four sessions

482
00:40:32.679 --> 00:40:36.320
a week, and I ended up having to get another job,

483
00:40:36.880 --> 00:40:41.599
like a normal job. So you know, I might have

484
00:40:41.679 --> 00:40:47.719
missed out on the the romance of my life, but hey,

485
00:40:48.039 --> 00:40:50.519
it seemed like the right thing to do at the time.

486
00:40:52.400 --> 00:40:58.800
So there and then, So if you're listening, this is

487
00:40:58.880 --> 00:41:03.960
like blimey, twelve years ago. It's a long time ago, now,

488
00:41:08.599 --> 00:41:14.400
I was. My concern was that what if we went

489
00:41:14.440 --> 00:41:18.840
out and she decided she didn't like me, and I

490
00:41:18.960 --> 00:41:23.039
can I continued to be a counselor She'd have the

491
00:41:23.159 --> 00:41:27.039
power at any time to pretty much end my career.

492
00:41:29.360 --> 00:41:31.880
So I thought that I'm not gonna not want to

493
00:41:31.920 --> 00:41:36.920
give anyone that power. If I'd known that the job,

494
00:41:37.039 --> 00:41:40.199
the career, whatever I thought it was, was about to

495
00:41:40.320 --> 00:41:44.039
end quite soon, then I'd have had a different attitude.

496
00:41:45.599 --> 00:41:49.199
But then I saw my supervisor, who I saw every week,

497
00:41:49.920 --> 00:41:53.960
and she said, oh, you can date, potentially date someone,

498
00:41:54.400 --> 00:41:56.599
but you have to leave it a certain amount of

499
00:41:56.599 --> 00:42:04.000
time after the therapeans. Okay, now you tell me, but

500
00:42:04.039 --> 00:42:05.920
at that point it is too late. I didn't have

501
00:42:05.960 --> 00:42:10.719
any other information. I never stored people's telephone numbers or

502
00:42:10.760 --> 00:42:14.199
anything like that. It was always on the paperwork and

503
00:42:14.280 --> 00:42:18.519
once the once the sessions were finished, that went back

504
00:42:18.559 --> 00:42:22.400
to the charity. And that's the last I'm not condn't

505
00:42:22.400 --> 00:42:25.159
even tell you what names. Don't have anyone's names or

506
00:42:25.199 --> 00:42:32.199
anything on my phone. So who was only ever for

507
00:42:32.280 --> 00:42:37.079
six weeks sometime to get extensions? But it wasn't it

508
00:42:37.239 --> 00:42:40.320
wasn't long enough to really be saving people's names on

509
00:42:40.360 --> 00:42:49.320
my phone, so I didn't do that. So, yeah, the

510
00:42:51.119 --> 00:42:52.960
I don't know how I got on talking about that,

511
00:42:53.119 --> 00:43:01.559
but I quite liked the idea of negotiation, the idea

512
00:43:01.719 --> 00:43:09.199
of I don't know, there's a fine line between negotiating,

513
00:43:09.239 --> 00:43:13.079
because you think of a negotiating it's almost like, Okay,

514
00:43:13.239 --> 00:43:20.679
that feeling is kind of is that physical discomfort, that

515
00:43:20.840 --> 00:43:24.119
sensation that was a problem before you started listening to

516
00:43:24.159 --> 00:43:31.480
this recording? Is that taking that body part hostage? That's

517
00:43:31.480 --> 00:43:33.639
what when I think of negotiations, I think of like

518
00:43:33.760 --> 00:43:38.599
hostage negotiations. I know you can have business negotiations. You

519
00:43:38.679 --> 00:43:42.199
can have I suppose you can negotiate the price of

520
00:43:42.320 --> 00:43:46.440
something to try and get it lower or higher, depending

521
00:43:46.440 --> 00:43:54.920
on which side of the desk is sitting. But do

522
00:43:54.960 --> 00:43:57.840
you think it from that perspective that I suppose in

523
00:43:57.880 --> 00:44:00.320
some ways it can feel like that, can't it. So

524
00:44:00.440 --> 00:44:07.599
someone's got an icky knee and there's discomfort there, I

525
00:44:07.599 --> 00:44:10.239
guess it can feel like that's taken over the knee,

526
00:44:11.000 --> 00:44:13.280
like it's taking the knee hostage, or even the whole

527
00:44:13.360 --> 00:44:20.239
leg hostage when it's a small part of the leg.

528
00:44:21.440 --> 00:44:23.679
And it's an important part of the leg, but it's

529
00:44:23.719 --> 00:44:26.519
a small part compared to the rest of the leg,

530
00:44:27.199 --> 00:44:32.000
you know, the ankle, calf, shins, thighs. The thighs are

531
00:44:32.000 --> 00:44:35.239
a big, big, old chunk of the of the leg,

532
00:44:35.280 --> 00:44:45.760
onna especially mine. I actually have the biggest thighs in history.

533
00:44:46.199 --> 00:44:51.159
I do. I can. Actually I remember walking through a forest,

534
00:44:51.159 --> 00:44:54.400
I started a fire just from the friction of my thighs.

535
00:44:54.639 --> 00:44:56.199
It didn't happen. Don't know why I'm saying it.

536
00:44:58.079 --> 00:45:03.719
So you got your knee, and just one small part

537
00:45:04.280 --> 00:45:08.360
of the knee can sometimes feel like it's taken your

538
00:45:08.400 --> 00:45:14.519
knee hostage because of a physical sensation. I mean sometimes

539
00:45:14.559 --> 00:45:23.679
I guess when we try to ignore or distract ourselves

540
00:45:23.679 --> 00:45:31.599
from a physical sensation, it can maybe be harder to

541
00:45:31.840 --> 00:45:38.199
know exactly how much of that body part is in

542
00:45:38.239 --> 00:45:50.280
reality being affected by that physical sensation. However, when you

543
00:45:50.360 --> 00:45:52.880
do focus on something, I mean, there can be too

544
00:45:53.000 --> 00:45:56.519
much focusing as well. I mean, how many people do

545
00:45:56.599 --> 00:46:00.880
you know in your life who constantly going on about

546
00:46:00.880 --> 00:46:02.880
how their their illness.

547
00:46:02.599 --> 00:46:04.039
Or their whatever.

548
00:46:04.719 --> 00:46:04.920
All.

549
00:46:05.000 --> 00:46:08.079
It's like it's almost like you want to avoid if

550
00:46:08.079 --> 00:46:10.079
you see them in the street, you want to avoid them.

551
00:46:10.559 --> 00:46:13.440
You want to kind of cross the street or jump

552
00:46:13.480 --> 00:46:17.159
down a manhole, or just you know, wish you could

553
00:46:17.800 --> 00:46:23.079
call a helicopter to come and pick you up, but

554
00:46:23.159 --> 00:46:26.480
you know you can't because have seen you. And even

555
00:46:26.480 --> 00:46:29.320
though you might you might really love them, you might

556
00:46:29.320 --> 00:46:32.840
absolutely adore the person, but it's like your heart sinks

557
00:46:32.880 --> 00:46:35.679
a little bit. Ah, I've got to listen to all

558
00:46:35.679 --> 00:46:41.880
their problems now for the next year, which seems like

559
00:46:41.920 --> 00:46:43.719
a year, it will only be five minutes. But just

560
00:46:44.960 --> 00:46:49.880
that is time distortion when someone's going on and on

561
00:46:50.119 --> 00:46:55.000
and on about all their woes and about their suffering,

562
00:46:55.760 --> 00:46:58.440
and it doesn't it's not going against it. I'm not

563
00:46:58.519 --> 00:47:03.719
mocking the suffering. It's just it's very hard I find

564
00:47:03.960 --> 00:47:09.159
and maybe you do too, to Sometimes you listen to it,

565
00:47:09.320 --> 00:47:13.920
especially if you're in a good mood. So I had

566
00:47:13.960 --> 00:47:18.159
a friend who sometimes I'd just like, oh, I'd knock

567
00:47:18.199 --> 00:47:21.960
on the door. I dread it because I knew it'd

568
00:47:22.000 --> 00:47:25.679
be like in a a not great place. And on

569
00:47:25.719 --> 00:47:28.400
that particular day, I was in a good mood. I

570
00:47:28.440 --> 00:47:30.760
was in a really good mood. I was uplifted, I

571
00:47:30.800 --> 00:47:37.559
was enjoying the day, just enjoying being alive. Generally, you know,

572
00:47:38.000 --> 00:47:43.280
just yeah, things are okay, and then there's like knock knock, knock.

573
00:47:44.480 --> 00:47:49.679
Ah oh man, and this is someone that I cared

574
00:47:49.719 --> 00:47:53.000
for deeply, So it wasn't that I was being rude.

575
00:47:53.079 --> 00:47:53.519
It's just.

576
00:47:55.280 --> 00:48:01.199
It's just really really realistically like sometimes oh well, I

577
00:48:01.239 --> 00:48:08.920
got distracted by Vinnie Barkin. But yeah, it's sometimes in

578
00:48:09.000 --> 00:48:13.239
the same way when there's someone is like they're constantly

579
00:48:13.360 --> 00:48:19.480
focusing on the negative. It's almost like that increases the negativity.

580
00:48:20.119 --> 00:48:25.559
And someone's always focusing on the physical discomfort that maybe

581
00:48:25.559 --> 00:48:29.599
they had, they seem to get more of it. So

582
00:48:29.639 --> 00:48:31.760
we get what we focus on, we get what we

583
00:48:31.840 --> 00:48:34.960
think about, get more of what we think about. So

584
00:48:35.000 --> 00:48:42.039
when you start thinking about feeling relaxed and feeling calm,

585
00:48:42.280 --> 00:48:45.480
having your mind slowed down, and having that part of

586
00:48:45.519 --> 00:48:56.880
your body feel more calmer, more looser, So it kind

587
00:48:56.880 --> 00:49:01.840
of in that middle bit where you're not focusing on it,

588
00:49:01.880 --> 00:49:06.320
but you're not ignoring it. You're not pushing it away,

589
00:49:06.400 --> 00:49:15.039
but you're not pulling it towards yourself. It's a fine line.

590
00:49:15.440 --> 00:49:23.800
But then it's no longer fine. It's just normal. It's

591
00:49:23.840 --> 00:49:31.920
almost there's a certain state of mind. It might at

592
00:49:32.000 --> 00:49:35.199
first sound a little bit negative, but it can be

593
00:49:35.239 --> 00:49:41.519
negative depending on the situation. But sometimes just not caring.

594
00:49:44.320 --> 00:49:46.320
I don't mean about the other person. I'm talking about

595
00:49:47.480 --> 00:49:54.880
the body part, which was problematic before you start listening

596
00:49:54.920 --> 00:49:59.920
to me. Sometimes it's like, you know what, I think

597
00:50:00.159 --> 00:50:07.119
care about that at the moment, I'm not bothered. And

598
00:50:07.159 --> 00:50:12.159
then you stop pushing, you stop pulling. You know, it's

599
00:50:12.400 --> 00:50:24.880
almost like you're pushing against the door, and you realize

600
00:50:25.039 --> 00:50:30.239
that actually you keep pushing it, trying to push it open,

601
00:50:30.280 --> 00:50:35.360
trying to push it open, and then you stop. You're like, say,

602
00:50:35.440 --> 00:50:39.400
you know what, I don't care anymore. I can't bother that.

603
00:50:39.840 --> 00:50:45.360
You know it will open eventually. And then someone just

604
00:50:45.400 --> 00:50:49.840
comes in from outside and the door opens inwards, not outwards.

605
00:50:51.239 --> 00:50:59.079
It's an inny not an OUTI And you realize you

606
00:50:59.159 --> 00:51:04.360
put that effort into something that was pointless. It's a

607
00:51:04.400 --> 00:51:06.400
little bit well, it's probably nothing like this, but I'm

608
00:51:06.440 --> 00:51:09.599
going to give this as an analogy. I got I've

609
00:51:09.599 --> 00:51:12.599
got a fence outside was a gate fence with a gate,

610
00:51:13.320 --> 00:51:16.840
and the gate bangs, especially when it's windy, like all

611
00:51:17.199 --> 00:51:24.239
day long. So on a windy day, the gate just

612
00:51:24.400 --> 00:51:28.559
like opens and closes there's no lock thing, you know,

613
00:51:28.639 --> 00:51:31.440
the you know the I was going to say, the

614
00:51:31.519 --> 00:51:33.840
wazz or whatever. It is a thing that you pull

615
00:51:33.920 --> 00:51:39.440
up that's broken so that the gate just closes. It

616
00:51:39.480 --> 00:51:42.239
doesn't actually close properly either, so that's why it keeps

617
00:51:42.280 --> 00:51:46.719
like blowing open and closing with the wind. Like. It's

618
00:51:46.760 --> 00:51:49.119
not like full on slamming, but it can be annoying.

619
00:51:51.760 --> 00:51:53.440
He used to wind me up. I used to keep

620
00:51:53.440 --> 00:51:57.119
going out there closing the gate, like pushing it closed

621
00:51:58.519 --> 00:52:01.199
so it's stopped banging for a while. Then someone would

622
00:52:01.199 --> 00:52:05.000
come in and they'd leave it open and have to

623
00:52:05.039 --> 00:52:10.320
go down again and close the gate. And then I realized,

624
00:52:10.400 --> 00:52:14.760
you know what, I'm just not going to bother anymore,

625
00:52:17.639 --> 00:52:22.840
keep getting up walking down. And this was in the winter,

626
00:52:22.960 --> 00:52:25.639
so it was cold, so I had to put some

627
00:52:25.679 --> 00:52:31.559
pants on. Well it's not the only reason, I mean,

628
00:52:33.119 --> 00:52:38.559
some of the neighbors complained, but anyway, I just thought,

629
00:52:42.719 --> 00:52:51.679
I don't care, and that attitude changed my response or

630
00:52:51.719 --> 00:52:57.920
my reaction to hearing the gate like slamming. I mean,

631
00:52:57.920 --> 00:53:05.039
it's not even slamming, it's just banging occasionally. It's to

632
00:53:05.159 --> 00:53:10.639
the point where I don't even notice it anymore now

633
00:53:10.679 --> 00:53:12.039
all I've got to do is try and find a

634
00:53:12.039 --> 00:53:16.079
way to do that with Vinnie's barking. But there's no

635
00:53:16.119 --> 00:53:18.599
way of knowing when he's going to do it because

636
00:53:18.639 --> 00:53:21.840
he just starts barking. He's barked about six times during

637
00:53:21.840 --> 00:53:26.880
this recording, and he goes from zero to a million

638
00:53:27.000 --> 00:53:31.719
in like a second. Because my neighbor opposite is having

639
00:53:31.840 --> 00:53:35.400
a new kitchen put in, so the work appeared. People

640
00:53:35.400 --> 00:53:38.880
are up and down the stairs. They hardly barked it

641
00:53:38.920 --> 00:53:46.199
all last week today for some reason. What it is?

642
00:53:46.239 --> 00:53:52.960
It sounds almost like there that someone's touching the front door.

643
00:53:57.280 --> 00:54:00.199
That's what's weird about it. Because I actually went out

644
00:54:00.199 --> 00:54:03.760
there myself earlier, thought someone and puts something through the

645
00:54:03.800 --> 00:54:05.880
letter box or someone was at the front door, knocked,

646
00:54:06.320 --> 00:54:11.320
no one there, so I think that might be what

647
00:54:11.360 --> 00:54:15.199
it is. Well, and it's unlikely that they're coming and

648
00:54:15.280 --> 00:54:17.920
knocking on the door and just but it does sound

649
00:54:17.960 --> 00:54:21.679
like someone's pushing against the door, which is why you're barking,

650
00:54:21.719 --> 00:54:26.280
isn't it. I told him after he's a bit grumpy

651
00:54:26.320 --> 00:54:29.840
with me now, I was like, just stop it.

652
00:54:29.920 --> 00:54:30.360
Please.

653
00:54:33.599 --> 00:54:38.360
Didn't bother you last week, did it? You weren't bothered

654
00:54:38.400 --> 00:54:40.599
last week by it, and this has been going on.

655
00:54:40.800 --> 00:54:44.679
This is the third week it's being worked on. So

656
00:54:44.719 --> 00:54:49.159
it's Monday today, all week last week and in the

657
00:54:49.199 --> 00:54:53.679
previous week it started on Thursday, so this this is

658
00:54:53.719 --> 00:55:00.320
a third week like actual weeks. Don't be grumpy, Vinny,

659
00:55:01.679 --> 00:55:05.000
I just want you to stop barking and a guard

660
00:55:05.079 --> 00:55:08.920
to me. He growls at me. I do not be

661
00:55:09.000 --> 00:55:20.559
growning at me, little growner, little ground with such a

662
00:55:20.599 --> 00:55:28.000
little sausage. You know that. Ah, So sometimes you know,

663
00:55:28.039 --> 00:55:34.760
the whole idea of like negotiating with it, it feels like

664
00:55:34.920 --> 00:55:45.480
maybe just giving it some space sometimes just a little

665
00:55:45.519 --> 00:55:49.039
bit of acknowledgement, you know, like we were a baby,

666
00:55:49.239 --> 00:55:51.199
I said, I used to always like give the analogy

667
00:55:51.320 --> 00:55:58.360
with with the thing that we're focusing on, that physical feeling,

668
00:55:58.599 --> 00:56:02.000
that sensation that you used to have before you listen

669
00:56:02.039 --> 00:56:07.239
to this recording, almost like a baby crying. And sometimes

670
00:56:07.239 --> 00:56:11.599
a baby cries for no other reason they other than

671
00:56:11.639 --> 00:56:14.400
they just want to be held or they just want

672
00:56:14.480 --> 00:56:18.840
to be to see a parent or a friendly face.

673
00:56:20.280 --> 00:56:23.760
They might not need changing, they might not need food,

674
00:56:24.360 --> 00:56:26.760
they might not want to play, they might not want anything.

675
00:56:26.760 --> 00:56:29.880
They're just happy just to see your face, or to

676
00:56:29.920 --> 00:56:34.480
have a cuddle and they go back to sleep. Sometimes

677
00:56:34.480 --> 00:56:37.880
that's all they need. And I think it's the same

678
00:56:38.159 --> 00:56:42.280
with what we're talking about. Sometimes it can be like

679
00:56:42.320 --> 00:56:49.400
a baby just wants a bit of love, maybe because

680
00:56:49.440 --> 00:56:56.559
you think about it. In reality, we can have respect

681
00:56:56.880 --> 00:57:04.320
and caring towards our body, But how much positivity do

682
00:57:04.400 --> 00:57:08.960
we have towards that part of the body or that

683
00:57:10.159 --> 00:57:19.000
small part that it's been playing up. I'm guessing not

684
00:57:19.119 --> 00:57:22.880
much kindness there at all, which it makes sense, you know,

685
00:57:22.880 --> 00:57:28.639
I'm not judging it. But if it's an ongoing situation,

686
00:57:29.239 --> 00:57:34.480
an ongoing condition that you don't really need anymore, you

687
00:57:34.519 --> 00:57:39.079
don't need that physical sensation to let you know and

688
00:57:39.119 --> 00:57:41.719
to remind you that just to be a bit more

689
00:57:41.719 --> 00:57:46.119
careful with that part of the body. Once you remember that,

690
00:57:48.880 --> 00:57:52.039
you don't need to be reminded. That alarm doesn't need

691
00:57:52.079 --> 00:58:00.840
to go off. And sometimes I think with alarms, maybe

692
00:58:01.400 --> 00:58:07.599
you can just make it a little bit less sensitive.

693
00:58:11.199 --> 00:58:13.119
Do you ever get like car alarms and you put

694
00:58:13.119 --> 00:58:15.280
them in for the first time or you get them

695
00:58:15.320 --> 00:58:21.159
new for the first time, and literally every time there's

696
00:58:21.880 --> 00:58:26.599
a butterfly goes past, the alarm goes off. Someone sneezes

697
00:58:26.920 --> 00:58:33.920
in the next town. Your car alarm goes off too sensitive,

698
00:58:34.639 --> 00:58:37.840
it needs to be retuned or maybe just needs to

699
00:58:37.920 --> 00:58:40.960
wear in so that it gets back to normal, because

700
00:58:41.000 --> 00:58:43.320
you know, it's not supposed to go off just because

701
00:58:44.360 --> 00:58:50.840
a little gust of wind. And then you get it changed,

702
00:58:50.880 --> 00:58:54.679
you get it refitted or fine tuned, or just leave

703
00:58:54.719 --> 00:58:57.000
it as it is if you don't like your neighbors.

704
00:58:57.000 --> 00:59:04.119
I suppose so that could be something a way of

705
00:59:04.199 --> 00:59:08.440
looking at this situation. We just fine tune it so

706
00:59:08.559 --> 00:59:13.880
that it's no longer as sensitive. You know, the alarm

707
00:59:14.000 --> 00:59:18.320
doesn't need to go off unless it needs to go off.

708
00:59:24.880 --> 00:59:33.239
And there's something quite useful about that, quite helpful. I

709
00:59:33.239 --> 00:59:36.239
think I realized what it is what he's barking. I've

710
00:59:36.239 --> 00:59:41.320
got the bathroom window open, and I think it's rattling

711
00:59:41.360 --> 00:59:43.480
the door, and that's what he's That's what you're hearing,

712
00:59:43.519 --> 00:59:52.280
isn't it. I'm sorry, Vinie, it was my fault. I'm sorry.

713
00:59:53.039 --> 00:59:57.079
Now he's hearing something outside. It's not all he is

714
00:59:57.119 --> 00:59:58.880
like he's so. I suppose he's got the window in

715
00:59:58.920 --> 01:00:02.480
the bathroom open, outside in the in the garden. There's

716
01:00:02.519 --> 01:00:06.000
always the odd stuff going on because he hears like

717
01:00:06.000 --> 01:00:10.360
other dog's barking or kids playing, and because the kids

718
01:00:10.360 --> 01:00:15.119
are on holidays, so you can hear that all isn't you.

719
01:00:15.840 --> 01:00:22.800
He always listening, taking it all in. He's stay he

720
01:00:22.880 --> 01:00:26.719
haven't got a staring contact with me. I want to

721
01:00:26.920 --> 01:00:28.719
I can stay with you. I want to steal your

722
01:00:28.760 --> 01:00:32.159
tails a regularly. When we've done this, I'll get you

723
01:00:32.199 --> 01:00:36.000
a t R e A T A t r e

724
01:00:36.000 --> 01:00:40.719
e e E T I will. I won't say the

725
01:00:40.760 --> 01:00:45.679
word because then you won't leave me alone. So in

726
01:00:45.719 --> 01:00:51.800
a way, you could just ask, and I've done this

727
01:00:51.840 --> 01:00:57.159
in the past, and I've done it myself, ask the

728
01:00:57.199 --> 01:01:08.079
part of your body just to feel more comfortable, to relax, safely,

729
01:01:08.159 --> 01:01:11.840
leave your body just you know, give you a rest.

730
01:01:15.840 --> 01:01:19.239
And sometimes you can just do that and literally just

731
01:01:19.360 --> 01:01:28.000
sit back and wait. Trust that your body's listening, that

732
01:01:28.079 --> 01:01:31.480
your unconscious mind is listening, that you know there's that

733
01:01:31.639 --> 01:01:37.400
alignment between your mind and your body because it's constantly

734
01:01:37.400 --> 01:01:46.159
you know, there's that constant continuity, continuity, that connection that's

735
01:01:46.199 --> 01:01:51.039
always there. I know that I've been focusing on the

736
01:01:51.119 --> 01:02:02.440
knee just as an example. But when you decide to

737
01:02:02.599 --> 01:02:10.639
just you know, ask politely, just you know, maybe just

738
01:02:12.519 --> 01:02:19.960
give me a break, please feel comfortable, feel more relaxed.

739
01:02:24.519 --> 01:02:27.760
You can put it in a sentence like I'd like

740
01:02:28.000 --> 01:02:32.880
my whatever part of the body to feel more relaxed.

741
01:02:35.880 --> 01:02:43.719
You could say it three times and then just wait

742
01:02:44.440 --> 01:02:49.559
and observe, or maybe just carry on with what you

743
01:02:49.559 --> 01:02:59.039
were doing. Because when you focus on feeling more relaxed,

744
01:03:01.159 --> 01:03:05.440
as I said earlier, you you think about it, you

745
01:03:05.519 --> 01:03:07.639
get more of it, You get more of what we

746
01:03:07.719 --> 01:03:17.760
think about. So you're focusing on calmness, looseness, peaceful, and

747
01:03:17.800 --> 01:03:37.480
that's what you get more of naturally easily. So that

748
01:03:37.519 --> 01:03:39.840
brings me to the end of this recording, which was

749
01:03:39.920 --> 01:03:42.519
very much a neta. Really it was just a chat

750
01:03:42.960 --> 01:03:49.320
a chitty chatter neta. It's going to take me ages

751
01:03:49.360 --> 01:03:54.000
to edit it because of all of the Finny's barking breaks,

752
01:03:55.280 --> 01:03:57.679
So that's going to be interesting to trend. It's going

753
01:03:57.719 --> 01:04:00.760
to take me probably about an hour just to edit

754
01:04:00.760 --> 01:04:06.519
the thing. Yes, because of you. You want to treat?

755
01:04:08.199 --> 01:04:11.199
Are you hungry? Do you want your dinner? Do you

756
01:04:11.199 --> 01:04:18.159
want some food? What do you want to treat? I

757
01:04:18.159 --> 01:04:22.079
don't know anyway, I'm going to go. Thank you for listening.

758
01:04:22.320 --> 01:04:25.239
Remember to be kind to yourself, because you do deserve

759
01:04:25.280 --> 01:04:31.400
to be happy and be gentle with yourself. You deserve

760
01:04:31.519 --> 01:04:36.119
to feel safe, lots of love.

761
01:04:38.960 --> 01:04:39.320
Bye.

762
01:04:46.960 --> 01:05:01.519
Relax in a more deep and meaningful way, maybe in

763
01:05:01.559 --> 01:05:07.119
a way that can not just allow you to feel

764
01:05:08.480 --> 01:05:17.760
calmer now and throughout the time we spend together here,

765
01:05:19.760 --> 01:05:25.440
not just relaxed at the end of the recording when

766
01:05:25.480 --> 01:05:32.119
it's finished and you can enjoy that sense of comfort

767
01:05:32.320 --> 01:05:47.199
and peace, but also I think it would be nice

768
01:05:47.320 --> 01:06:03.119
to have those feelings of relaxation can continue for longer

769
01:06:06.760 --> 01:06:16.639
after the recording has ended, so that you can still

770
01:06:17.280 --> 01:06:27.159
benefit from listening to my voice, maybe in a few

771
01:06:27.199 --> 01:06:43.039
hours time, perhaps tomorrow, and then by listening regularly, especially

772
01:06:43.039 --> 01:06:47.519
if you find like some people do and myself as well.

773
01:06:47.679 --> 01:06:54.679
I sometimes I find one particular recording that really resonates

774
01:06:54.719 --> 01:07:01.119
with me, and I'll just listen to it over and

775
01:07:01.159 --> 01:07:14.519
over again every morning, every evening. There was this recording

776
01:07:14.800 --> 01:07:21.639
from We're going back to about nineteen ninety nine. It

777
01:07:21.239 --> 01:07:26.360
was it wasn't hypnosis, but it was a guided visualizations.

778
01:07:26.480 --> 01:07:33.480
It kind of was hypnosis, really, and I managed to

779
01:07:33.519 --> 01:07:37.039
find it again and it still has the same effect

780
01:07:37.559 --> 01:07:49.199
on me, and part of it was the person's voice

781
01:07:49.599 --> 01:07:59.800
relaxed me, just felt so peaceful, and I'd look forward

782
01:08:00.239 --> 01:08:06.920
to listening to her in the morning and in the evening.

783
01:08:13.320 --> 01:08:22.359
And I knew before even pressing the play button that

784
01:08:22.680 --> 01:08:27.079
since I've done that, pressed the play button. This was

785
01:08:27.439 --> 01:08:38.439
in the days of CD players press the play button.

786
01:08:41.840 --> 01:08:44.680
In fact, it might have even been a tape tape recorder.

787
01:08:45.960 --> 01:08:54.319
I'd lie down on the bed and then even without

788
01:08:54.880 --> 01:09:07.840
necessarily listening to her words because I had them memorized. Really,

789
01:09:12.520 --> 01:09:18.520
it was as if my body knew exactly what to do,

790
01:09:23.279 --> 01:09:45.119
and the muscles just almost went into automatic relaxation, and

791
01:09:45.239 --> 01:09:58.880
I remember my mind would slow down. Now. Now, I

792
01:09:59.319 --> 01:10:05.560
was listening to this recording in the early days of

793
01:10:05.640 --> 01:10:16.359
learning hypnosis, and long before I ever made any videos

794
01:10:16.479 --> 01:10:21.159
or audio recordings myself, because I didn't start doing that

795
01:10:21.319 --> 01:10:35.800
till two thousand and six, I knew, I knew how

796
01:10:37.520 --> 01:10:51.319
helpful I found being able to just let go, to

797
01:10:51.399 --> 01:10:56.600
have that trust in the person that I'm listening to,

798
01:11:04.279 --> 01:11:11.039
knowing that it's going to be just as relaxing, if

799
01:11:12.439 --> 01:11:21.840
not more so. Each time you hear my voice, you

800
01:11:21.920 --> 01:11:22.800
may feel the same.

801
01:11:29.159 --> 01:11:30.520
Some people.

802
01:11:32.560 --> 01:11:44.920
Have been listening to me for over a decade. Maybe

803
01:11:45.000 --> 01:11:50.439
not solidly, obviously not twenty four hours a day, but

804
01:11:52.560 --> 01:12:04.119
maybe people come back. Some people may be listen every day.

805
01:12:08.640 --> 01:12:14.600
That's something that I do which you may not realize

806
01:12:17.000 --> 01:12:35.560
by listening, is when I record these recordings. Now, for example,

807
01:12:40.119 --> 01:12:52.000
I also am affected by the words that I say.

808
01:12:53.159 --> 01:13:02.520
So if I set you focus on your feet, notice

809
01:13:02.640 --> 01:13:09.840
your feet relaxing, I will be focusing on my feet.

810
01:13:14.720 --> 01:13:32.119
I will be noticing my feet relaxing. If I said,

811
01:13:32.239 --> 01:13:39.920
focus on your hands, and maybe notice the difference between

812
01:13:39.960 --> 01:13:50.840
each hand, Perhaps notice the air in the room, the

813
01:13:50.960 --> 01:13:55.600
temperature of the room. On the backs of your hands.

814
01:14:03.399 --> 01:14:07.279
You may start to notice what almost feels like a

815
01:14:07.399 --> 01:14:15.479
very light breeze, even though there may not be any

816
01:14:15.880 --> 01:14:20.800
type of breeze at all where you are right now.

817
01:14:28.960 --> 01:14:39.600
And as you become aware of your hands, I'm also

818
01:14:39.920 --> 01:14:51.600
aware of how relaxed my hands are feeling.

819
01:14:53.039 --> 01:14:53.399
Now.

820
01:15:08.039 --> 01:15:13.880
And when it comes to potentially drifting off to sleep,

821
01:15:14.960 --> 01:15:27.560
which may be the reason you're listening, I also feel

822
01:15:27.720 --> 01:15:43.359
drowsy when I make these recordings. I also notice my mind.

823
01:15:44.600 --> 01:15:45.119
Drifting.

824
01:15:53.039 --> 01:16:05.640
In fact, at times I've actually fallen asleep without even noticing,

825
01:16:10.520 --> 01:16:19.640
and then I carry on talking and it's only when

826
01:16:19.920 --> 01:16:29.039
I listen back to do the editing, I hear snoring,

827
01:16:30.920 --> 01:16:38.239
and I think, I don't remember snoring. I remember talking.

828
01:16:40.920 --> 01:16:48.319
This snoring was a pick turned up. That's why I

829
01:16:48.359 --> 01:16:58.479
sound like when I snore, I get really into the

830
01:16:58.479 --> 01:17:16.720
whole experience. I don't know how you feel. How relaxed

831
01:17:16.760 --> 01:17:26.880
do you feel in your feet, How relaxed you feel

832
01:17:27.039 --> 01:17:53.680
in your hands. I have noticed more and more that

833
01:17:53.880 --> 01:18:10.079
the more relaxed, deeper level of comfort you feel, the

834
01:18:10.279 --> 01:18:30.880
easier your breathing becomes. It's almost like that additional muscle relaxation.

835
01:18:35.199 --> 01:18:56.199
So this allows you to breathe easier without necessarily focusing

836
01:18:58.439 --> 01:19:24.439
on your breath. However, being able to notice the ease.

837
01:19:27.439 --> 01:19:28.319
In which.

838
01:19:35.520 --> 01:19:58.199
You breathe so naturally. You breathe so very easily and smoothly.

839
01:20:25.880 --> 01:20:43.600
Whenever I imagine my breathing improving, when I've got my

840
01:20:43.720 --> 01:21:02.359
eyes closed, I tend to visualize a beautiful field with

841
01:21:02.680 --> 01:21:36.720
trees and flowers producing all that life giving oxygen. It

842
01:21:36.840 --> 01:21:53.000
feels nice to, if nothing else, just taking some time

843
01:21:58.880 --> 01:22:47.239
away from everything, enjoying that feeling of peace serenity with

844
01:22:47.279 --> 01:23:23.760
a joyful heart. Time seems to just drip by so

845
01:23:24.960 --> 01:24:14.720
very slowly. Relaxed, so deeply, peaceful, completely unattached to any

846
01:24:15.680 --> 01:25:19.119
thoughts whatsoever in this moment, completely free, noticing that your

847
01:25:19.359 --> 01:26:06.520
mind has slowed down. Slowed down because nothing really requires

848
01:26:06.600 --> 01:26:36.960
your attention. You can enjoy the physical sensations of allowing

849
01:26:37.199 --> 01:26:50.000
the stress to drip out of your body, Dripping out

850
01:26:50.039 --> 01:27:19.199
of every part of your body and being released from

851
01:27:19.239 --> 01:27:59.760
your brain. Hte your mind slowly but surely. The muscles

852
01:28:00.039 --> 01:28:47.039
in your legs relax res relax, so very deeply, relax.

853
01:28:51.640 --> 01:28:53.239
So deeply.

854
01:29:10.479 --> 01:29:20.680
In the feelings, the pleasant feelings in your arms and shoulders,

855
01:29:38.560 --> 01:30:18.239
deepening each part of your body further and deeper and deeper, magicine,

856
01:30:21.479 --> 01:30:48.560
the feelings in the back of your neck, the feelings in.

857
01:30:48.399 --> 01:31:37.920
Your wrists, muscles in front of your body. I all say,

858
01:31:47.720 --> 01:32:27.239
feeling peaceful, deep, There's a sense of pace spreads through.

859
01:32:28.560 --> 01:32:30.119
Your very cool.

860
01:33:00.560 --> 01:33:20.960
Even when you focus on your mind, her mind becomes.

861
01:33:27.520 --> 01:33:46.119
Be and slower, even.

862
01:33:48.199 --> 01:35:06.560
Deeper, relaxing, so very slow, stomach peaceful in your stomach,

863
01:35:28.680 --> 01:35:48.319
You're back. Notice Notice how relaxed.

864
01:35:51.920 --> 01:35:53.920
You now feel.

865
01:36:02.680 --> 01:36:35.000
In the hole of your back. In a spy from

866
01:36:35.039 --> 01:36:40.079
your brain all the way down the middle of your back,

867
01:36:43.359 --> 01:37:03.800
sending and receiving millions of messages every day, deep comfort,

868
01:37:06.720 --> 01:38:23.399
increasing deeply relaxed you mes relegs, spreading those signals down

869
01:38:23.560 --> 01:38:32.560
your spine or cord into air, every part of your body,

870
01:38:47.159 --> 01:39:35.439
your shins and your calf muscles, your elbows, Feelings of

871
01:39:35.640 --> 01:39:52.880
peace and tranquility spreading through your body, tips of your toes,

872
01:39:57.119 --> 01:40:08.680
to your eyes, your fingers, all the way till you'll

873
01:40:08.760 --> 01:40:25.840
know about I'm letting her, re letting her.

874
01:40:53.159 --> 01:41:10.119
Pace to drift in.

875
01:41:17.520 --> 01:41:46.000
Mind, just wandering away, happy to let go, let go completely,

876
01:41:48.079 --> 01:42:45.640
to let go, said tranquil, the whole body enjoying a

877
01:42:45.920 --> 01:45:10.159
sensor listening that he nore hey, enjoying the space, this

878
01:45:10.840 --> 01:45:43.760
space of peace and safety, so very.

879
01:45:51.039 --> 01:46:25.319
Relaxed, us munities, the.

880
01:46:25.760 --> 01:46:54.640
US lady.

881
01:47:21.680 --> 01:47:22.239
Letting go.

882
01:47:40.279 --> 01:47:47.880
Maybe we can just focus on the different parts of

883
01:47:48.039 --> 01:48:22.439
your body, just to notice you foolhead and your eyes

884
01:48:55.680 --> 01:49:42.159
Chu so Louise, noticing the sense of complete freedom, absolute freedom,

885
01:50:28.239 --> 01:50:41.680
dress day, dress.

886
01:50:42.159 --> 01:50:56.000
Day, He's fall.

887
01:50:57.600 --> 01:52:20.800
Energy peace to breeze, such ease, Yeah, loose.

888
01:52:42.119 --> 01:52:43.039
You may have.

889
01:52:46.640 --> 01:53:32.920
Or may not have noticed your mind drifted, peaceful.

890
01:53:46.279 --> 01:53:55.800
Move been even more deeply in the direction of.

891
01:54:00.960 --> 01:54:42.880
Total blissful pace, blisshul pace, drest.

892
01:55:30.239 --> 01:56:02.319
Tie to pace, So.

893
01:56:14.960 --> 01:56:15.560
Let him go.

894
01:56:40.479 --> 01:57:51.960
Peace with mind. Body so relaxed, so relaxed. A body

895
01:57:52.720 --> 01:58:32.920
feels almost invisible, so very relaxed and peaceful, so paceful.

896
01:58:56.199 --> 01:59:34.560
Lead so m H. And you could start to notice

897
01:59:34.960 --> 01:59:43.960
that you are feeling more relaxed, even though I've not

898
01:59:45.720 --> 01:59:56.399
purposely focused your mind upon that sense of physical comfort

899
01:59:57.159 --> 02:00:03.960
that is growing within you throughout your body, and your

900
02:00:04.079 --> 02:00:14.640
mind starts to slow down. And that could be almost

901
02:00:14.840 --> 02:00:24.399
in recognition of I guess my speech not being particularly fast,

902
02:00:30.960 --> 02:00:41.319
and things just generally feel calmer. Just by listening to

903
02:00:41.479 --> 02:00:50.079
my voice, you give yourself an opportunity to take a

904
02:00:50.199 --> 02:00:56.960
break from the day, take a break from your life,

905
02:00:58.159 --> 02:01:07.039
as it is, to give yourself a rest, giving yourself

906
02:01:07.199 --> 02:01:14.439
permission to take some time off and to allow your

907
02:01:14.520 --> 02:01:20.439
body to relax and allow your mind to slow down,

908
02:01:24.520 --> 02:01:32.439
which in turn releases the tension any stresses that you

909
02:01:32.640 --> 02:01:42.560
had in your body. It's almost as if the parts

910
02:01:42.600 --> 02:01:47.720
of your body just open up, allowing the negativity out

911
02:01:54.600 --> 02:02:00.600
and at the same time replacing that negativity with positive

912
02:02:01.800 --> 02:02:09.960
healing energy, which then fills your body up and your

913
02:02:10.119 --> 02:02:24.000
mind to also starts to appreciate those feelings of increasing

914
02:02:26.279 --> 02:02:43.119
confidence and almost uplifting, feeling, positive, healing, an energy that

915
02:02:46.760 --> 02:02:50.880
spreads through your body like a wave.

916
02:02:52.840 --> 02:02:53.640
Of comfort.

917
02:02:58.439 --> 02:03:08.680
And all this comes from just allowing yourself a few minutes,

918
02:03:10.560 --> 02:03:13.560
maybe half an hour, however long you want it to be,

919
02:03:15.479 --> 02:03:29.279
just rest and allow your mind and your body to

920
02:03:29.439 --> 02:03:46.000
almost reset itself to the settings of comfort and relaxation, calmness,

921
02:03:50.319 --> 02:03:59.640
which allows more room for feelings of pleasure and happiness

922
02:04:03.680 --> 02:04:12.520
to move around your body and into your mind, almost

923
02:04:13.319 --> 02:04:17.880
as if your mind and your body are sinking together,

924
02:04:22.159 --> 02:04:31.840
almost mirroring each other with that growing positivity and calmness,

925
02:04:36.920 --> 02:04:44.359
And it feels nice, really does feel nice to know

926
02:04:44.640 --> 02:04:53.520
that you are the one that has allowed yourself to

927
02:04:53.800 --> 02:05:02.880
feel more comfort and to experience.

928
02:05:04.600 --> 02:05:05.720
More of this.

929
02:05:07.520 --> 02:05:22.680
Deep relaxation spreading throughout your body. And as I focus

930
02:05:24.239 --> 02:05:30.000
on each part of your body, you can notice that

931
02:05:30.199 --> 02:05:44.720
that part becomes even more relaxed just by focusing on it.

932
02:05:47.279 --> 02:05:53.560
It becomes even more calm and comfortable.

933
02:05:55.479 --> 02:06:03.000
Just by focusing. And as I move down.

934
02:06:02.960 --> 02:06:10.399
Your body, starting at your head, the parts that you

935
02:06:10.479 --> 02:06:20.439
have already focused on will continue to relax deeply, and

936
02:06:20.560 --> 02:06:26.600
those parts that have not yet focused on or just

937
02:06:26.800 --> 02:06:39.039
automatically release any remain intention in anticipation of even more

938
02:06:39.800 --> 02:06:52.279
comfort about to come. Now, I'm and start by focusing

939
02:06:52.960 --> 02:06:59.399
on your forehead, just being aware of the feelings of

940
02:06:59.520 --> 02:07:09.680
your fore and then your background sounds like mister Herbert

941
02:07:09.760 --> 02:07:15.279
the Pigeon can just allow you to feel even more relaxed.

942
02:07:19.159 --> 02:07:25.279
Just means you're in the moment. This isn't this isn't

943
02:07:25.319 --> 02:07:26.880
a sterile environment.

944
02:07:28.279 --> 02:07:29.239
This is the world.

945
02:07:32.720 --> 02:07:38.760
I live in the countryside, so there's lots of nature

946
02:07:39.279 --> 02:07:49.760
sounds around. So as you focus on your forehead, just

947
02:07:50.039 --> 02:07:57.800
notice how it becomes even more relaxed as you focus

948
02:08:00.119 --> 02:08:04.600
only on my voice and that part of your body.

949
02:08:09.800 --> 02:08:18.079
Moving down to your eyes, focusing on your eyes, noticing

950
02:08:20.520 --> 02:08:30.239
how your eyelids feel so heavy yet so light at

951
02:08:30.279 --> 02:08:36.760
the same time, and all the muscles around your eyes

952
02:08:37.000 --> 02:08:51.399
relaxing completely. Moving your focus down to your mouth, your lips,

953
02:08:51.880 --> 02:08:58.800
your tongue, your teeth, your gums, the whole of your

954
02:08:58.920 --> 02:09:14.319
mouth relaxing, calm and loose. As you focus now on

955
02:09:14.520 --> 02:09:21.439
your jaw, not just the parts of your jaw near

956
02:09:21.520 --> 02:09:25.920
your mouth and your chin, but all the way up

957
02:09:26.680 --> 02:09:33.000
the size of your face to your ears, the hole.

958
02:09:33.439 --> 02:09:37.560
Of your jaw, feeding.

959
02:09:41.359 --> 02:10:04.319
More relaxed and calm, focusing on your neck, the front

960
02:10:04.399 --> 02:10:06.399
of your neck and your throat.

961
02:10:08.279 --> 02:10:13.039
Relaxing and loose and calm.

962
02:10:17.199 --> 02:10:23.000
The sides of your neck, the right and left side

963
02:10:23.199 --> 02:10:41.479
of your neck relax and loose and calm, And now

964
02:10:41.800 --> 02:10:48.560
the back of your neck, focusing on the back of

965
02:10:48.680 --> 02:10:58.840
your neck, letting go of any tension that may have

966
02:10:59.039 --> 02:11:11.600
been there for and enjoying that sense of increasing comfort

967
02:11:12.399 --> 02:11:19.640
and release. Then you can experience in the back of

968
02:11:19.720 --> 02:11:32.600
your neck, moving down your back and moving either side

969
02:11:32.680 --> 02:11:36.720
of your spine right from the top of your back

970
02:11:38.680 --> 02:11:42.279
all the way down to the bottom of your back

971
02:11:48.359 --> 02:11:59.720
down to your lower back. As you move up and

972
02:11:59.800 --> 02:12:08.520
down down your spine, you can feel the muscles either

973
02:12:08.680 --> 02:12:22.199
side of your spine relaxing even more. And as those

974
02:12:22.399 --> 02:12:31.399
muscles relax, that sense of comfort starts to spread outwards

975
02:12:33.399 --> 02:12:42.920
from your spine into both sides of your back, the

976
02:12:43.079 --> 02:12:46.600
top of your back, the middle and your lower back.

977
02:12:50.119 --> 02:12:57.239
And as you scan gently and slowly up and down

978
02:12:57.479 --> 02:13:02.840
your backs, the muscles in the top of your back

979
02:13:04.039 --> 02:13:12.640
relax and become looser. The muscles in the middle of

980
02:13:12.720 --> 02:13:20.359
your back also seem to just almost divide from each other,

981
02:13:21.359 --> 02:13:37.560
separating and almost melting, and in your lower back. There

982
02:13:37.680 --> 02:13:50.359
seems to be an extra special feeling of comfort. The

983
02:13:50.680 --> 02:13:56.680
spreads into your hips, sit down your lower back.

984
02:13:56.760 --> 02:14:04.720
Into your hips, into the area where your cosix are,

985
02:14:08.319 --> 02:14:08.960
and into.

986
02:14:08.760 --> 02:14:15.079
Your buttocks and a wise muscles that spread.

987
02:14:17.199 --> 02:14:18.520
Bring your lower back.

988
02:14:20.760 --> 02:14:33.000
Into your hip area, start to melt, start to reading,

989
02:14:34.199 --> 02:14:46.079
let go, and even nowhere about to focus on your shoulders.

990
02:14:47.840 --> 02:14:54.840
Your back and your spine will continue to let go,

991
02:14:57.880 --> 02:14:59.680
continue to.

992
02:15:00.279 --> 02:15:04.239
Legs so.

993
02:15:07.119 --> 02:15:07.720
Calmly.

994
02:15:12.399 --> 02:15:17.319
And as you focus on your shoulders, you may notice

995
02:15:17.760 --> 02:15:42.079
they're already feeling really loose. They're already feeding calm.

996
02:15:48.359 --> 02:15:49.520
The feeling.

997
02:15:53.399 --> 02:16:01.680
Those muscles. The move from your neck into your shoulders

998
02:16:08.279 --> 02:16:37.680
feels so soft and gentle, so smooth and calm, and

999
02:16:37.879 --> 02:16:50.719
the feeling in your shoulders seems to spread deep into

1000
02:16:50.799 --> 02:17:00.319
your shoulders, a sense of relaxation, not just travel lay

1001
02:17:00.719 --> 02:17:09.040
deeply into your muscles, but also relaxing.

1002
02:17:11.159 --> 02:17:12.559
The bones.

1003
02:17:17.879 --> 02:17:24.559
And moving all the way to underneath your arms, relaxing

1004
02:17:26.440 --> 02:17:31.159
a whole area between the tops of your shoulders and

1005
02:17:31.399 --> 02:17:32.600
underneath your arms.

1006
02:17:36.920 --> 02:17:37.680
He Then.

1007
02:17:42.879 --> 02:17:43.559
You feel so.

1008
02:17:45.479 --> 02:17:57.600
Relaxed and comfortable in your shoulders, which sense that's.

1009
02:17:59.200 --> 02:18:01.200
Deep healing.

1010
02:18:04.239 --> 02:18:21.719
Message into your arms. You may feel almost as if

1011
02:18:21.799 --> 02:18:28.319
your arms are not even that, because they're so relaxed,

1012
02:18:31.520 --> 02:18:41.879
so deeply relaxed, so.

1013
02:18:46.120 --> 02:19:02.520
So calm, so.

1014
02:19:09.319 --> 02:19:09.600
Loose.

1015
02:19:16.959 --> 02:19:27.079
The feelings spreading all the way down your arms to

1016
02:19:27.200 --> 02:19:48.479
your elbows, including your elbows. Comfort spreads.

1017
02:19:52.440 --> 02:19:53.239
Your way.

1018
02:19:55.760 --> 02:20:11.040
Into wrists four arms, saynder wrists so heavy.

1019
02:20:14.319 --> 02:20:30.719
He had at the same time sunlight and gentle.

1020
02:20:54.920 --> 02:20:55.959
Frey sent.

1021
02:20:58.159 --> 02:20:59.159
Now on.

1022
02:21:01.879 --> 02:21:25.799
Your hands, your hands.

1023
02:21:31.760 --> 02:21:34.520
So peaceful.

1024
02:21:35.639 --> 02:21:36.879
In your hands.

1025
02:21:55.319 --> 02:21:56.440
With a sense of.

1026
02:22:00.159 --> 02:22:01.680
Your pace.

1027
02:22:13.440 --> 02:22:14.360
Just seems to.

1028
02:22:18.600 --> 02:22:22.319
Feel so familiar.

1029
02:22:25.760 --> 02:24:04.239
On your hands, relax deeply else your fingers it's you

1030
02:24:04.440 --> 02:24:53.200
think it tips may your attention from your body s comfortable.

1031
02:25:04.200 --> 02:26:29.440
Then you focus legs like musculs.

1032
02:26:30.920 --> 02:26:55.120
In your thoughts names I relax.

1033
02:27:22.360 --> 02:29:31.680
Calf muscles just shads a beausie and the fathing.

1034
02:29:33.239 --> 02:30:36.680
Fats sir, piece of circom sit peaceful, circom so peaceful, sycom.

1035
02:30:40.280 --> 02:30:54.559
So peace fa b sner.

1036
02:30:59.239 --> 02:31:00.959
Piece fall.

1037
02:31:05.000 --> 02:31:18.920
Calm, a lout of that deep relaxation, to spread your

1038
02:31:19.440 --> 02:31:51.399
chest in your storm. Lets you go everything. So I'm

1039
02:31:51.399 --> 02:31:57.600
gonna start counting down now, from twenty down to one.

1040
02:32:03.520 --> 02:32:06.719
You can imagine in a way it's like just walking

1041
02:32:06.840 --> 02:32:12.680
down some steps and each step or twenty steps, and

1042
02:32:12.799 --> 02:32:23.159
each step represents a level of comfort. Each step represents

1043
02:32:25.760 --> 02:32:38.239
a deepening of that comfort and the furvies you walk

1044
02:32:38.319 --> 02:32:44.040
down those steps to deeper and more relaxed you feel.

1045
02:32:50.760 --> 02:34:38.520
So starting with number twenty twenty, nineteen, eighteen seven, ten

1046
02:35:24.879 --> 02:38:24.879
sixteenhhhhhhhh three fourhhhhhhh four.

1047
02:39:31.360 --> 02:46:05.280
Too well, nohhhhhhhhhh.

1048
02:43:50.000 --> 02:44:50.239
Eight si.

1049
02:45:01.000 --> 02:46:57.479
Us six.

1050
02:47:42.840 --> 02:48:51.280
Five us.

1051
02:49:02.159 --> 02:51:08.959
Four us.

1052
02:52:40.520 --> 02:52:40.760
One.

1053
02:53:30.639 --> 02:53:47.680
Now, as you focus on your eyes, you're gonna count

1054
02:53:47.799 --> 02:53:59.559
down from tenning down to one, focusing just on your eyes,

1055
02:54:03.360 --> 02:54:11.879
your eyelids, the muscles around your eyes, your eye walls themselves,

1056
02:54:13.399 --> 02:54:30.399
our whole area that makes up your eye. And as

1057
02:54:30.520 --> 02:54:39.040
we count down from ten down to one, whilst focusing

1058
02:54:39.319 --> 02:54:54.639
on your eyes, you become twice is relaxed with each

1059
02:54:55.120 --> 02:55:07.559
number counting down that you may find the all you

1060
02:55:07.840 --> 02:55:16.680
want to do is just drift off to sleep. And

1061
02:55:16.840 --> 02:55:23.399
if that's what you want, then just allow yourself to

1062
02:55:23.559 --> 02:55:38.159
do that. Now, focusing on your eyes, I'm going to

1063
02:55:38.319 --> 02:55:57.200
begin counting down from ten down to one right now, ten.

1064
02:56:23.159 --> 02:56:58.360
Nine eight.

1065
02:57:43.639 --> 02:59:55.920
Snu ey.

1066
03:00:04.200 --> 03:01:07.040
Us four.

1067
03:02:20.239 --> 03:04:54.520
Three four.

1068
03:05:01.000 --> 03:05:11.399
So counting down from ten to one.

1069
03:05:13.280 --> 03:05:15.920
Ten nine.

1070
03:05:17.399 --> 03:05:45.120
Eight seven six five four three two one. And maybe

1071
03:05:45.239 --> 03:05:48.159
that was a bit too quick in order to relax.

1072
03:05:49.399 --> 03:05:53.639
Maybe it's a bit too fast for you to notice

1073
03:05:53.879 --> 03:06:01.959
the calming of your body, maybe even a little bit

1074
03:06:02.000 --> 03:06:06.120
of pressure there. Like you're counted down from ten to one.

1075
03:06:06.200 --> 03:06:09.600
Would you expect me to do man, expect me to

1076
03:06:09.600 --> 03:06:13.639
just to go with floppy just because you're counting down.

1077
03:06:19.200 --> 03:06:22.520
You can try it again, but this time I'll go

1078
03:06:22.559 --> 03:06:29.600
a bit slower this time, as you focus on the

1079
03:06:29.760 --> 03:06:33.879
whole of your body before we focus on your legs.

1080
03:06:36.319 --> 03:06:37.440
Just notice.

1081
03:06:38.639 --> 03:06:51.440
How your body does start to feel more relaxed with

1082
03:06:52.719 --> 03:07:53.319
every number that I count down ten nine, eight, seven, six, five, four, three,

1083
03:08:06.840 --> 03:08:44.520
two one, And just notice how how you feel generally,

1084
03:08:44.959 --> 03:08:59.239
how your body feels. It's not necessarily even about counting

1085
03:08:59.399 --> 03:09:06.520
down from ten to one. It's that space that you have,

1086
03:09:07.840 --> 03:09:26.319
that space between being active physically or mentally to just

1087
03:09:31.040 --> 03:09:36.200
sitting or lying down, just being there, not doing anything,

1088
03:09:36.440 --> 03:09:43.040
not saying anything, or needing to think about anything. So

1089
03:09:43.719 --> 03:09:46.760
it opens up a space, you know, a bit of

1090
03:09:46.799 --> 03:09:57.799
a space, a gap. And the more I came down

1091
03:09:57.840 --> 03:10:05.200
from ten to one, big of that gap becomes. So

1092
03:10:05.319 --> 03:10:17.760
there's that gap of calmness, of comfort, relaxation. It's a

1093
03:10:17.920 --> 03:10:31.920
nice feeling, and it moves those stresses or discomforts physically

1094
03:10:32.120 --> 03:10:44.239
or emotionally, moves away allows you.

1095
03:10:46.959 --> 03:10:47.479
To just.

1096
03:10:50.479 --> 03:10:57.200
Slow down. Someone to count again from ten down to one,

1097
03:10:57.600 --> 03:11:07.840
and notice that gap widening, the gap, And as it widens,

1098
03:11:07.920 --> 03:11:13.920
it's almost like the stress and attention falls into the

1099
03:11:14.040 --> 03:11:31.879
gap and gives you that distance, that space.

1100
03:11:34.280 --> 03:11:39.719
Now ten.

1101
03:11:44.079 --> 03:13:10.479
Nine, eight, seven, six, five, four three two.

1102
03:13:28.799 --> 03:13:29.040
One.

1103
03:13:40.920 --> 03:14:02.079
How did you body feel now you notice that? Do

1104
03:14:02.200 --> 03:14:03.479
you feeling calmer?

1105
03:14:11.559 --> 03:14:12.840
Are you feeling.

1106
03:14:14.799 --> 03:14:42.200
More relaxed? As we now focus on your legs, just

1107
03:14:42.360 --> 03:15:03.760
your legs. We're just gonna start with focusing on your thighs.

1108
03:15:18.559 --> 03:15:22.840
Of course, it's not the most exciting thing to be doing,

1109
03:15:23.639 --> 03:15:30.000
because I'm sure like most of your body is not

1110
03:15:30.079 --> 03:15:42.280
a lot going on right now. Just focusing on the

1111
03:15:42.399 --> 03:15:48.479
whole of your thighs, the tops of your thighs, the

1112
03:15:48.760 --> 03:15:55.399
sides of your thighs, the bottoms of your thighs, your

1113
03:15:55.520 --> 03:16:00.840
outer thighs, and your inner thighs lead the whole of

1114
03:16:00.920 --> 03:16:03.680
your thigh that leads into.

1115
03:16:03.520 --> 03:16:04.159
Your hip.

1116
03:16:08.040 --> 03:16:18.799
And it goes down to your knee joint. Now, this

1117
03:16:19.000 --> 03:16:26.440
is a big area. It's a very heavy area. It's

1118
03:16:26.600 --> 03:16:33.000
very strong, probably the strongest muscles in your body or

1119
03:16:33.079 --> 03:16:49.440
in your thighs. But I don't think we perhaps give

1120
03:16:49.600 --> 03:17:01.959
enough attention to our thighs. Perhaps we don't and acknowledge

1121
03:17:02.639 --> 03:17:22.040
how important our thighs are to our lives, how much

1122
03:17:24.680 --> 03:17:38.159
they actually do for us all through our lives. And

1123
03:17:38.280 --> 03:17:44.079
it may seem sound really weird, but I think that

1124
03:17:44.280 --> 03:17:52.200
all of our body parts, especially our thighs, needs some TLC,

1125
03:17:55.520 --> 03:18:08.719
a bit of love shown, a bit of acknowledgement, thank you,

1126
03:18:11.879 --> 03:18:24.360
gratitude for our thighs do for us. And I know

1127
03:18:24.559 --> 03:18:30.600
this may sound a bit strange. Maybe you think, why

1128
03:18:30.680 --> 03:18:33.360
am I sure that I should be out in the

1129
03:18:33.479 --> 03:18:42.000
garden hugging a tree or something. Well, it's hard to

1130
03:18:42.040 --> 03:18:45.239
set a microphone up on a tree. That's why I'm

1131
03:18:45.280 --> 03:18:48.159
doing this indoors. Otherwise I would be outside hugging a tree.

1132
03:18:49.559 --> 03:18:58.200
I can't see the television from the tree. If you

1133
03:18:58.319 --> 03:19:03.479
move down to your knees gain such an important part.

1134
03:19:07.840 --> 03:19:12.920
And I think we don't necessarily I'll speak for myself here.

1135
03:19:15.440 --> 03:19:20.479
I don't necessarily appreciate all that my needs do for

1136
03:19:20.639 --> 03:19:27.120
me until I have a problem with my knee. It's occasionally,

1137
03:19:27.159 --> 03:19:32.120
if I ever maybe i'll bash it or it's aching

1138
03:19:32.319 --> 03:19:38.680
for some reason. It's then that I realize how much

1139
03:19:38.840 --> 03:19:42.479
it does. You know, the benefit of being able to

1140
03:19:43.399 --> 03:19:51.719
use my legs without any kind of physical discomfort.

1141
03:19:52.600 --> 03:19:54.440
Is a beautiful thing.

1142
03:19:55.840 --> 03:20:03.479
That's possibly not appreciated until it's temporarily removed. You know

1143
03:20:03.639 --> 03:20:13.120
that's comfort. But as you focus on your knees, regardless

1144
03:20:13.159 --> 03:20:18.680
of how your knees feel, you can have that sense

1145
03:20:18.799 --> 03:20:24.719
of gratitude and love to your knees for all that

1146
03:20:24.840 --> 03:20:37.079
they do for you, and you can still have that

1147
03:20:37.239 --> 03:20:42.159
attention on your thighs. Maybe notice how your thighs feel,

1148
03:20:44.319 --> 03:21:02.360
Maybe notice that they are relaxing more deeply as you

1149
03:21:02.520 --> 03:21:07.719
focus now on the bottoms of your legs, your shins

1150
03:21:08.600 --> 03:21:15.079
and your calf muscles, the bones between your knees and

1151
03:21:15.200 --> 03:21:28.399
your feet incorporated. Of course, your ankles so important. You know,

1152
03:21:28.479 --> 03:21:33.239
anyone that's had even like the slightest sprain of an

1153
03:21:33.280 --> 03:21:41.399
ankle knows how how much we take our ankles for granted.

1154
03:21:47.280 --> 03:21:49.280
And it's kind of strange in a way when you

1155
03:21:49.399 --> 03:21:54.959
think that. You know, logically, our wrists are a lot

1156
03:21:55.120 --> 03:22:00.520
thinner than the rest of our arms, which is doesn't

1157
03:22:01.159 --> 03:22:04.479
can't see any problem with that because we're just picking

1158
03:22:04.559 --> 03:22:05.079
stuff up.

1159
03:22:06.680 --> 03:22:08.159
Our ankles.

1160
03:22:09.399 --> 03:22:19.319
So much thinner than the rest of our legs. And

1161
03:22:19.479 --> 03:22:23.959
from a physics perspective or logical, even it doesn't really

1162
03:22:24.040 --> 03:22:31.319
make sense that all this weight would ultimately be resting

1163
03:22:32.360 --> 03:22:42.319
on your ankles then leading to your feet, that thin area,

1164
03:22:43.799 --> 03:22:53.399
thin bone. Yeah, it does so much great work. Supports us,

1165
03:22:53.520 --> 03:23:03.479
supports our body for a lifetime, helps us to balance,

1166
03:23:05.680 --> 03:23:12.159
It helps you to get her around and be mobile.

1167
03:23:18.479 --> 03:23:26.280
And there's the calf muscles. Of course, when I was younger,

1168
03:23:26.680 --> 03:23:29.959
I couldn't see the point in calf muscles. Didn't seem

1169
03:23:30.000 --> 03:23:35.079
to do anything. Okay, if I walked around on tiptoes,

1170
03:23:35.879 --> 03:23:39.760
then my calf muscles get some work. But of course

1171
03:23:39.799 --> 03:23:43.920
that's not true. The calf muscles are being used whenever

1172
03:23:44.040 --> 03:23:55.959
we use the legs and your shins there to protect

1173
03:23:57.920 --> 03:24:06.559
your lower legs, shaped in a way, almost as a

1174
03:24:06.639 --> 03:24:18.920
protector for the bone, leading of course to your ankles

1175
03:24:22.319 --> 03:24:28.879
and your feet. But we're not going to focus on

1176
03:24:29.000 --> 03:24:31.079
your feet. We're just going to focus on the legs.

1177
03:24:33.040 --> 03:24:34.319
And I realize.

1178
03:24:35.920 --> 03:24:39.639
That now that I've mentioned your feet, you'll probably focus

1179
03:24:40.079 --> 03:24:43.159
on them anyway, So maybe I should focus on your

1180
03:24:43.200 --> 03:24:49.040
feet a little bit. You can have them in your

1181
03:24:49.079 --> 03:24:55.479
awareness the same as you have your thighs in your awareness,

1182
03:24:56.319 --> 03:25:00.200
even though we haven't been focusing on your thighs for

1183
03:25:00.200 --> 03:25:05.280
a few minutes. Let me focus in on your ankles.

1184
03:25:10.959 --> 03:25:26.159
There's still that sensation of comfort in your thighs, and

1185
03:25:26.239 --> 03:25:35.719
there's that movement of energy because the thighs hold lots

1186
03:25:35.760 --> 03:25:41.239
of different sensations. Of course, there's the muscles, the big

1187
03:25:41.639 --> 03:25:53.719
straw muscles that we have in our thighs. But the

1188
03:25:53.920 --> 03:25:59.799
skin on the outside of the thighs, as in the

1189
03:26:00.079 --> 03:26:05.600
outside of all of our body, can be very sensitive,

1190
03:26:09.479 --> 03:26:22.680
sensitive to the touch, sensitive to temperature, and inside your

1191
03:26:22.840 --> 03:26:30.280
thighs the bones, there's the muscle, there's the blood, vessels,

1192
03:26:30.440 --> 03:26:36.200
the arch trees, to all this stuff that inside your thighs.

1193
03:26:40.680 --> 03:26:44.000
I guess sometimes it'd be nice if you could actually

1194
03:26:44.079 --> 03:26:51.520
put your fingers inside your thighs and a message. So

1195
03:26:51.639 --> 03:26:55.120
you can message on the outside, of course, but to

1196
03:26:55.159 --> 03:26:58.440
be able to get deep into the muscles, to be

1197
03:26:58.479 --> 03:27:03.639
able to just message inside your thighs, message in the

1198
03:27:03.719 --> 03:27:12.719
bones of your leg, massage in or the veins, just

1199
03:27:12.959 --> 03:27:25.760
gently healing your thighs. You can move down message and

1200
03:27:25.879 --> 03:27:31.440
inside your knees, just message in those bones, but with

1201
03:27:31.799 --> 03:27:38.959
healing fingertips, spreading that healing energy deep into the choice

1202
03:27:40.360 --> 03:27:48.319
of your knees. Of course, there's the back of your

1203
03:27:49.479 --> 03:27:56.319
you need the inside crease where your need is sorty

1204
03:27:56.559 --> 03:27:57.559
sensitive area.

1205
03:27:59.440 --> 03:27:59.719
Three.

1206
03:28:00.399 --> 03:28:04.200
It feels very nice when you stroke it. That might

1207
03:28:04.319 --> 03:28:08.440
be because it's an area that's not really touched very often.

1208
03:28:10.479 --> 03:28:17.360
It's almost like a hidden part, that crease in your legs.

1209
03:28:17.479 --> 03:28:24.799
It's almost like a part that has a sensitivity, which

1210
03:28:24.840 --> 03:28:35.280
is a little bit different. Of course, it's protected by

1211
03:28:35.360 --> 03:28:46.760
your legs. So you can imagine putting your fingers into

1212
03:28:46.879 --> 03:28:56.559
that crease in your legs foward in between your legs,

1213
03:28:57.280 --> 03:29:01.920
you can just message with your fingertips. Imagine your fingertips

1214
03:29:02.000 --> 03:29:12.879
going inside, massage in the muscle tissue you can cause

1215
03:29:13.040 --> 03:29:19.680
field the bones of your knees healing through your fingertips,

1216
03:29:27.120 --> 03:29:32.399
and then as you go down to your calf muscles,

1217
03:29:32.799 --> 03:29:34.520
and that's the part I'd like to be able to

1218
03:29:35.360 --> 03:29:42.680
really put my fingertips deep inside my calf muscles, massage

1219
03:29:42.799 --> 03:29:51.840
in every single tissue of that muscle, healing every part,

1220
03:29:57.799 --> 03:30:05.200
and then doing the same for a shin MASSAGEY generally

1221
03:30:05.399 --> 03:30:12.520
stroking the bones, generally stroking them, healing in a loving way,

1222
03:30:13.799 --> 03:30:20.200
because they deserve to be treated as the precious bones

1223
03:30:20.280 --> 03:30:24.920
that they are. Because our legs are so precious as

1224
03:30:25.000 --> 03:30:29.680
in all the other parts of our body, the more

1225
03:30:29.760 --> 03:30:31.479
precious of any chore.

1226
03:30:33.799 --> 03:30:34.520
On the planet.

1227
03:30:43.079 --> 03:30:51.079
When you start to think about your legs in this way,

1228
03:30:55.639 --> 03:31:02.319
it can change your perspective. It might sound a bit

1229
03:31:05.399 --> 03:31:09.680
a bit silly to start with the idea of having

1230
03:31:10.559 --> 03:31:20.559
love for your legs, showing appreciation for your thighs, wanting

1231
03:31:20.719 --> 03:31:24.600
to be able to put your hands in your thighs,

1232
03:31:26.840 --> 03:31:33.200
massage the muscles and the bones, and to get your

1233
03:31:33.319 --> 03:31:41.840
fingers deep in there, releasing all tension, just to show

1234
03:31:43.719 --> 03:31:51.399
how much you care about your legs. Much you care

1235
03:31:51.760 --> 03:31:59.639
for what your legs do for you regularly, your needs,

1236
03:32:00.079 --> 03:32:12.840
your cars, your ankles. The strength of your ankles, considering

1237
03:32:13.079 --> 03:32:17.559
how thin they are compared to the rest of your legs,

1238
03:32:17.719 --> 03:32:31.360
especially your thighs. Yeah, they're so strong, so flexible, absolutely

1239
03:32:31.680 --> 03:32:35.799
amazing things. Your ankles are.

1240
03:32:39.440 --> 03:32:41.079
Truly a gift.

1241
03:32:43.079 --> 03:32:52.159
Because of what they do for you, supporting all that weight,

1242
03:32:54.159 --> 03:32:58.559
regardless of how what weight you are, Even if you

1243
03:32:58.680 --> 03:33:03.399
only eat eight stone, there's still a lot of weight

1244
03:33:03.680 --> 03:33:10.319
for these little ankles now are a lot heavier than

1245
03:33:10.399 --> 03:33:20.360
eight stack. Double down, Get my ankles support my body

1246
03:33:21.120 --> 03:33:27.719
all the time. What they do give off a sigh

1247
03:33:27.719 --> 03:33:32.920
of relief when I sit down. That's you've had my

1248
03:33:32.959 --> 03:33:41.840
whole legs thick, my feet feet or to go. My

1249
03:33:42.040 --> 03:34:12.239
toes clap so happy. Your legs really are amazing, And

1250
03:34:12.360 --> 03:34:16.000
I know they're talking about. Talking about your legs is

1251
03:34:16.120 --> 03:34:22.760
probably possibly among the most most boring things you've ever

1252
03:34:23.440 --> 03:34:31.719
heard anyone say. Possibly you're boring or not. Everything I

1253
03:34:31.879 --> 03:34:47.760
said is true. Your legs are amazing. Your legs deserve

1254
03:34:48.840 --> 03:34:57.680
not just respect, they deserve to relax.

1255
03:34:59.040 --> 03:34:59.399
Deeply.

1256
03:35:06.719 --> 03:35:10.040
They deserve to take some time out of the day

1257
03:35:12.239 --> 03:35:33.360
to just let go completely. Your legs.

1258
03:35:38.479 --> 03:35:41.520
Really can relax.

1259
03:35:48.799 --> 03:35:52.719
Because the legs are so such a most you know,

1260
03:35:53.000 --> 03:35:58.920
very important part of your body. When you relax your legs,

1261
03:35:59.000 --> 03:36:06.239
the rest of your body also naturally follows in that

1262
03:36:10.000 --> 03:36:20.799
journey of comfort. I can feel it in my hips.

1263
03:36:22.200 --> 03:36:29.319
My hips feel really those and also my lower back

1264
03:36:29.399 --> 03:36:36.000
as well. My lower back really feels it feels stretched,

1265
03:36:37.120 --> 03:36:40.159
even though I'm just sitting in a chair and there's

1266
03:36:40.280 --> 03:36:45.520
no stretching as far as I'm aware that I'm doing.

1267
03:36:46.520 --> 03:36:49.159
It's almost as if the muscles are just relaxed so

1268
03:36:49.399 --> 03:36:55.319
much that there is a natural stretch as the tension

1269
03:36:56.239 --> 03:37:17.479
has reduced a lot and I'm now going to count

1270
03:37:17.559 --> 03:37:27.799
down from ten downs one. You can continue to fill

1271
03:37:29.600 --> 03:37:31.319
wonderfully relaxed.

1272
03:37:34.600 --> 03:37:38.959
Ten nine.

1273
03:37:41.760 --> 03:37:53.799
Eight, seven, six, five.

1274
03:37:58.200 --> 03:38:02.280
Four three.

1275
03:38:06.159 --> 03:38:10.920
Two h.

1276
03:38:17.120 --> 03:38:17.719
Relax.

1277
03:38:25.600 --> 03:38:29.399
So I'm just going to count down from five down

1278
03:38:29.479 --> 03:38:33.920
to one. And as a countdown, if you just focus

1279
03:38:34.040 --> 03:38:41.959
on the numbers, just the numbers counting down, and notice

1280
03:38:42.879 --> 03:38:50.879
how you feel in this moment as you hear the

1281
03:38:51.000 --> 03:38:59.079
numbers counting down, knowing that those numbers counting down represent

1282
03:39:00.120 --> 03:39:09.079
you feeling calmer, not just in your body, but also

1283
03:39:11.360 --> 03:39:18.520
relaxing your mind. Just notice how you feel. There's nothing

1284
03:39:19.239 --> 03:39:24.559
to do, there's nothing to say, there's nothing to think about,

1285
03:39:27.639 --> 03:39:40.280
starting with number five, four.

1286
03:39:49.559 --> 03:40:06.840
Three to one.

1287
03:40:16.280 --> 03:40:22.680
How as you notice the gradual.

1288
03:40:24.959 --> 03:40:25.520
Letting go.

1289
03:40:27.879 --> 03:40:35.159
The tension in your body, you may also begin to

1290
03:40:35.479 --> 03:40:42.760
notice and be aware of how your mind is starting

1291
03:40:43.200 --> 03:40:51.159
to slow down. This is just a natural thing that happens.

1292
03:40:53.799 --> 03:40:59.000
It's not really a special procedure. It's just natural. Because

1293
03:40:59.040 --> 03:41:04.959
it's your body relaxes, your mind also starts to relax.

1294
03:41:06.559 --> 03:41:10.239
And the more your mind relaxes, the more your body relaxes.

1295
03:41:10.360 --> 03:41:20.840
It's just a continuous circle of relaxation. And there's that

1296
03:41:22.120 --> 03:41:30.000
calmness that comes from relative quietness. You know, even even

1297
03:41:30.040 --> 03:41:37.000
if there's background sounds EIBE, your side online is still

1298
03:41:37.479 --> 03:41:42.760
going to be quite calm. You know, you haven't got

1299
03:41:42.799 --> 03:41:48.000
the television on, there's no music in the background, unless

1300
03:41:48.000 --> 03:41:55.440
you're listening to the recorded with music. Of course, you're

1301
03:41:55.600 --> 03:41:57.719
very likely not going to be sitting in a room

1302
03:41:57.760 --> 03:42:02.319
with other people. Of course you might be, but generally

1303
03:42:02.520 --> 03:42:05.639
it's more ideal if you can do this on your own,

1304
03:42:07.360 --> 03:42:17.399
so no distractions, and when you stop thinking about stuff,

1305
03:42:24.000 --> 03:42:34.280
relaxation automatically arises, a sense of comfort starts to grow,

1306
03:42:38.799 --> 03:42:45.440
and without trying to build it up into something fantastical

1307
03:42:45.879 --> 03:42:57.600
or something magical, this is just a natural process, something

1308
03:42:57.760 --> 03:43:07.920
that's easy to accomplish. In fact, it's almost you know,

1309
03:43:08.040 --> 03:43:14.920
the sense of relaxing completely happens really when you put

1310
03:43:15.079 --> 03:43:18.959
no effort into it. It's not something that you can

1311
03:43:19.079 --> 03:43:30.680
really force. It's something that happens naturally. And part of

1312
03:43:31.120 --> 03:43:41.319
the process of this recording and others is simply two

1313
03:43:42.920 --> 03:43:53.280
allow you to take advantage of this space. This time,

1314
03:43:56.200 --> 03:44:07.200
it's just let go to just be here, to be

1315
03:44:07.840 --> 03:44:21.239
in tune with how you feel. Yet with the intention

1316
03:44:23.479 --> 03:44:34.959
of wanting to relax deeply and maybe even to fall asleep,

1317
03:44:36.120 --> 03:44:41.280
depending on what it is that you wish for yourself

1318
03:44:43.040 --> 03:44:58.120
in this moment. As we know, relaxing is the majority

1319
03:44:59.319 --> 03:45:03.280
of the process as of fallen asleep, the actual fall,

1320
03:45:03.319 --> 03:45:06.719
and the sleep part is the tiny bit at the end.

1321
03:45:10.120 --> 03:45:24.799
The deeper relaxed you become, the easier you find yourself drifting.

1322
03:45:34.239 --> 03:45:40.719
But you can also if you choose, stay focused on

1323
03:45:40.920 --> 03:46:09.200
my voice and really enjoy the process, gradually relaxing each

1324
03:46:09.680 --> 03:46:36.239
muscle in your body effortlessly and just observing the sensation

1325
03:46:41.559 --> 03:46:57.200
of letting go completely. This time, I'm going to count

1326
03:46:57.280 --> 03:47:07.360
from six down to one, and you can notice your

1327
03:47:07.520 --> 03:47:17.840
mind calming down more with each number that you hear

1328
03:47:18.200 --> 03:48:06.799
me say, naturally, feeling calm and slow, peaceful sex five

1329
03:48:26.879 --> 03:50:33.440
four three one, being aware of how your mind to

1330
03:50:33.879 --> 03:51:02.280
slow right down, sinking deeply into relaxation. And as you

1331
03:51:02.520 --> 03:51:11.159
focus on your mind, you may notice that there are

1332
03:51:11.319 --> 03:51:21.440
some thoughts still there, maybe some stubborn thoughts that for

1333
03:51:21.600 --> 03:51:34.680
some reason perhaps need your attention. That's what you can

1334
03:51:34.840 --> 03:51:48.159
do is send love to those thoughts. Sprinkle those thoughts

1335
03:51:52.719 --> 03:51:58.639
with love, my little petals from a flower, just sprinkle

1336
03:51:58.680 --> 03:52:05.760
it over them, petals, feel good. Love towards those thoughts.

1337
03:52:06.360 --> 03:52:12.840
To let those thoughts know that you're not abandon the number.

1338
03:52:14.120 --> 03:52:15.479
You just need them.

1339
03:52:16.719 --> 03:52:28.639
You require them to just calm down, slow down, quiet down.

1340
03:52:32.319 --> 03:52:44.120
For now. So as you focus on those remaining thoughts

1341
03:52:45.360 --> 03:52:49.440
as we count down this time from seven down to one.

1342
03:52:51.000 --> 03:52:59.959
With each number, just imagine sprinkling those flower petals of love,

1343
03:53:00.120 --> 03:53:17.959
of kindness, gratitude over those thoughts, which will allow them

1344
03:53:18.120 --> 03:53:34.360
to just not away relaxed deeply. With every number, those

1345
03:53:34.559 --> 03:55:10.360
thoughts will become more and more relaxed. Starting with number seven, six, five, four, three.

1346
03:56:01.520 --> 03:56:01.799
One.

1347
03:56:18.680 --> 03:56:36.120
Lets you now notice how relaxed you're feeling in your body.

1348
03:56:44.520 --> 03:56:57.719
We got to focus on your hands because the more

1349
03:56:57.840 --> 03:57:05.479
relaxed your hands are relax your body and mind.

1350
03:57:05.600 --> 03:57:26.719
Don's you focus on your hands and your fingers.

1351
03:57:32.280 --> 03:57:37.000
There's nothing needed to be done. There's no clenching of

1352
03:57:37.319 --> 03:57:41.639
fists or dance in the fingers or anything like that.

1353
03:57:49.079 --> 03:58:02.600
It's just noticing and focusing on your hands not to

1354
03:58:02.719 --> 03:58:24.559
simrely feel because the more but asks your hands feel,

1355
03:58:28.079 --> 03:58:37.280
the calm why your mind feels, and the comforts you

1356
03:58:37.520 --> 03:59:05.040
feel throughout your body. Gee may have already noticed you

1357
03:59:09.600 --> 03:59:40.440
mind is starting to dress. Like said, just on your

1358
03:59:40.600 --> 03:59:57.719
hands and fingers a loving and cheap experience. I'm real

1359
03:59:58.360 --> 04:00:11.760
deepening of that relaxation in your hands and fingers, more

1360
04:00:14.959 --> 04:00:34.440
and more relaxed. With each number from eight down to one.

1361
04:00:39.479 --> 04:00:50.840
You can almost feel that healing, relaxing energy spreading into

1362
04:00:50.959 --> 04:01:14.040
your hands and fingers, becoming relaxing with each number you hear,

1363
04:01:18.040 --> 04:01:38.840
coming down eight down to one, drifting, drifting again. Started

1364
04:01:39.120 --> 04:05:44.879
with number eight seven three, just being here now, nothing

1365
04:05:45.000 --> 04:05:55.600
to think about, nothing to do, nothing to say. Everything

1366
04:05:56.000 --> 04:06:06.920
just feels calm. This is your natural state of being.

1367
04:06:10.600 --> 04:06:15.520
This is how you just normally, if you're when you

1368
04:06:15.760 --> 04:06:24.879
take away all that other stuff that we add and thinks,

1369
04:06:24.959 --> 04:06:41.079
like stress and where we're over thinking anxiety ten generally

1370
04:06:41.360 --> 04:06:47.440
thinking about stuff. You take that away, which is what

1371
04:06:47.600 --> 04:06:47.840
we do.

1372
04:06:48.600 --> 04:06:49.479
What you do now.

1373
04:06:55.920 --> 04:07:07.360
You left with else sense of peacefulness which comes to

1374
04:07:07.479 --> 04:07:21.079
you very quickly because ansombly, it's just a feeling, a

1375
04:07:21.319 --> 04:07:29.920
feeling of comfort, almost as if you've got inside yourself.

1376
04:07:30.239 --> 04:07:45.159
You've found a special place where everything is basil place

1377
04:07:45.360 --> 04:07:53.239
where in the film relaxed as your actual sense of comfort,

1378
04:07:56.399 --> 04:08:05.680
a place where you can be here, we can accept yourself.

1379
04:08:06.959 --> 04:08:11.920
If you are in the place where you're trying to

1380
04:08:14.280 --> 04:08:29.360
please anybody else place week again, actually not just love yourself,

1381
04:08:29.479 --> 04:08:34.920
but in some ways more importantly, you can like yourself,

1382
04:08:37.440 --> 04:08:54.719
appreciate who do you want, a sense of gratitude. Sit

1383
04:08:54.879 --> 04:09:05.799
the air one around here. That's also a place where

1384
04:09:06.040 --> 04:09:16.360
you can actually feel the healing energy soaking into your body.

1385
04:09:23.040 --> 04:09:35.360
Healing energy soaking into your body. A healing energy spreads

1386
04:09:36.360 --> 04:09:47.520
through your veins, traveling into each every single part of

1387
04:09:47.680 --> 04:09:57.479
your body, and you start to realize that actually a

1388
04:09:57.799 --> 04:10:06.520
healing energy it's not just entered into your brain, it's

1389
04:10:06.600 --> 04:10:18.559
become a part of your brain. The spinal fluid is

1390
04:10:18.680 --> 04:10:29.239
now mixed to hear the energy, not just allowing you

1391
04:10:29.520 --> 04:10:37.559
to feel so much more relaxed and healthy in this moment,

1392
04:10:42.079 --> 04:10:51.440
but also you start to realize that actually, what's happening

1393
04:10:51.719 --> 04:11:02.959
now without a healing, relaxing energy spreading through your's actually

1394
04:11:03.399 --> 04:11:13.600
changing your life. It's actually changing the way you're going

1395
04:11:13.719 --> 04:11:20.479
to feel not just now, but tomorrow and the next day.

1396
04:11:22.399 --> 04:11:29.879
As your health improves, not just your physical health but

1397
04:11:30.000 --> 04:11:37.440
your mental health. Things that used to bother you in

1398
04:11:37.559 --> 04:11:45.120
the past, for some reason, no longer have the effect

1399
04:11:45.639 --> 04:11:54.559
that they used to because something has changed deep within you.

1400
04:11:59.600 --> 04:12:06.040
Maybe things that used to cause you to feel anger.

1401
04:12:09.879 --> 04:12:20.000
No longer have that power to control you the way

1402
04:12:20.040 --> 04:12:28.079
they seem to be able to before. As you realize

1403
04:12:29.079 --> 04:12:41.520
that you're the one who decides what affects you, You're

1404
04:12:42.040 --> 04:12:51.920
the one who decides to feel relaxed and calm when

1405
04:12:52.799 --> 04:13:07.159
you choose to enjoy. Noticing these natural developments and the

1406
04:13:07.360 --> 04:13:18.920
healing continue to grow and improve your life day by day,

1407
04:13:24.799 --> 04:13:33.040
including of course, your ability to relax so much easier

1408
04:13:38.040 --> 04:13:47.120
then sleep in it's the most natural thing in the

1409
04:13:47.280 --> 04:13:56.319
world to you because for in, the sleep is something

1410
04:13:56.479 --> 04:14:07.319
that you've done so many times in your life, and

1411
04:14:07.520 --> 04:14:11.280
you know that you were born, as we all were,

1412
04:14:12.120 --> 04:14:22.040
with the ability to fall asleep naturally. We were born

1413
04:14:23.360 --> 04:14:33.840
with that ability to just drift off into a deep,

1414
04:14:35.120 --> 04:14:46.479
healing sleep. Even when we're kids, sometimes we will fall

1415
04:14:46.520 --> 04:14:50.719
asleep when we don't even want to try to tell

1416
04:14:50.879 --> 04:14:55.239
us stay awake. Maybe it's a birthday in the morning,

1417
04:14:55.440 --> 04:14:59.719
or it's Christmas or holiday or something we look forward to.

1418
04:15:00.360 --> 04:15:04.399
I don't want to go to sleep. But the more

1419
04:15:05.000 --> 04:15:09.840
you want to stay awake, the more we just start

1420
04:15:09.959 --> 04:15:18.680
to drift. And the more you fights drifting, which right

1421
04:15:18.760 --> 04:15:24.920
to stop yourself and drifting asleep, the depot is strongerout

1422
04:15:25.040 --> 04:15:36.440
drifting becomes because we're born not just with the need

1423
04:15:37.760 --> 04:15:45.840
to relax deeply and to naturally fall asleep, but it's

1424
04:15:45.959 --> 04:16:00.079
our birthright, it's part of our DNA. And sometime and

1425
04:16:00.120 --> 04:16:04.559
so as we get older in life, perhaps at times

1426
04:16:05.479 --> 04:16:19.479
we have forbiten relaxing completely. It's not only a wonderfully

1427
04:16:19.879 --> 04:16:43.879
pleasant experience, it's also really easy. It's very very easy

1428
04:16:45.280 --> 04:16:48.959
to let go because that's all it is.

1429
04:16:49.159 --> 04:16:49.639
It's just.

1430
04:16:53.159 --> 04:17:04.559
Decided to let go. And when you press the play

1431
04:17:04.680 --> 04:17:14.920
button on my recordings, you have given permission from my

1432
04:17:15.159 --> 04:17:24.319
voice to relax. When you press that play button, you

1433
04:17:24.440 --> 04:17:35.239
have given me permission for my words to effect you

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in a positive only a positive way, opening up your mind.

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To useful.

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And healing suggestions. They can have such an aways and

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effect on how you feel right now, as well as

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those changes that continue long after the recording ends. Those

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changes within the continue to flourish and grow, transforming your

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life in pause to beautiful way, allowing you to move

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forward in your life in the direction that you choose

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for yourself. This feeling, this feeling that you can experience

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a safety, comfort, calmness, This feels so nice, such a

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healthy place to be, and that positivity grows within you

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in every day moving forward, you're hard to find that

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you're more relaxed physically and in your mind's more relaxed.

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And it's not that you're thinking slower. It's just that

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your mind will be less knocked up with un necessary

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negativity because from now on, your mind rejects negativity. From

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now you're going to start noticing when negativity arises. You

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can just say stop, stop, and then negativity will turn

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around and leave your alone. Stop and then negativity would disappear.

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And that you notice that you feel way more relaxed

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than you probably expected. You can now congratulate yourself because

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you're are the person that.

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Has done this.

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You are the one that has opened your mind up

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to the simple facts that you can feel more relaxed

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in your body and in your mind. You've opened your

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mind up to the birthright of being able to just

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fall asleep easily when you cheers. And that's a nice feeling,

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don't you think it feels nice? Doesn't it? To feel calm?

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Who hear the energy is spreading through your body in

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your mind to spend time a special place where make

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it seem pity can no longer enter. Negativity is banned.

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It's bad, it's not allowed entry. It doesn't doesn't this

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doesn't deserve to be here, doesn't be long here. Negativity

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has no place.

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In your life, which makes room.

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For more comfort or heathing, or relaxation or peace. He

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feels nice as that.

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Just they go.

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Everything.

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I'm a count down now from twenty down to one.

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He can continue to relax, cheish core to sleep. Every

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number he will say, film twicic is relaxed. Would you

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choose from PHILM Twice sleeping now twenty ninety eighteen seventy six,

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stay fifty two.

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Nine eight.

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Seven six five. This is your time to just take

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a break, your time relax, to allow your mind to

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slow down, to give yourself permission to take a break

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from everything. Endure the only person that can make that decision.

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You're the only.

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Person who can actually tell you why just relax, to just.

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Take some guy.

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Off so that you can focus on your buddy, getting

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in touch with you, how you feel and in the

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process of this body scared way, focus on different parts

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of your body, those parts you focus on and observe

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even though you're not purpose the requesting.

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Those parts of your body to relax. It's kind of expected.

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You expect when you listen to one wos to.

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Feel words naturally because when you're listening to me, your

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attention is focused on my words, and as my words

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guide you to focus on those parts of your body,

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your focus increases, perspectually, calms your mind. My comes now,

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body relaxes and.

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Ups down, relaxes, not really started to focus.

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On your body.

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Feel.

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That would be the energy spreading through your body, pushing

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out stress, attention, he pots body, skins.

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And blood, all of your womens, sart, your brain, the muscles,

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all the fact everything, your hair, on your body. It's

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fuelled by.

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Your brain. Fill the imagy comfort, relaxation.

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Increases, increases, wait, mind.

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Starts to feel perhaps speak to rousy.

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Because it's not needed.

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They starts.

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To dreven.

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If that's what's needed. So if you're listening to this

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when you need this stick vexation, that's what you get.

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You need this.

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To sleep actually easily to find dads. That's awesome. Whoever

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accuse my aspell play button on the podcast.

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Listen to me care.

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You putty and your mind in thanks, give them put

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your mind to relax. You have talked to sleep if

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that's what he wants, and that's.

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My different thoughts.

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No body.

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Start you.

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Fr gu said different, not of your body.

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I'm just so the real eyes.

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So good.

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Into my voice different not of my body sposed because

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I like.

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It's basically more in a sleep soun.

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A going to.

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Attract to continuous to speak.

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That's the question time experienced the b about to sleep

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at how sleeps.

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Pass?

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So you say, have sides.

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To fast.

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You feel the.

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WHI spoke as you sent.

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X x.

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Starts people.

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Shop and SUPs yesssss. It's like this again, people, it's

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this time before your mouth lips.

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With your mouth.

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You said, thinks.

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Of each one, got to strike some quite your.

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Glands now six two sss on.

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You stopped.

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such shout school.

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