April 17, 2025

(music) (5 hours) EARNEST | Let me bore your pain away #25 | Jason Newland | 17th April 2025

(music) (5 hours) EARNEST | Let me bore your pain away #25 | Jason Newland | 17th April 2025
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Hello, and welcome to Jasonnewland dot com. My name's Jason Newland.

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Please plish plesh pledge only listen when you can safely closize.

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So this is let me boil your pain away. It's

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basically just me wabbling on about various things you can

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hopefully help to reduce the physical sensations of your chronic pain. Ultimately,

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I guess it's just I mean that it's very base.

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It could be a relaxation session, you know, just a

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distraction maybe, and only listen, of course, I said when

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you can safety close your eyes, but also with the

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permission of your doctor, because you do need to know

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the cause of the chronic pain. You need to know

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the cause of the pain basically before you listen. And

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I would advise that about any thing, any kind of

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real life therapy as well. Find out the cause first

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before you get any kind of treatment. Although this isn't treatment,

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and this is not a replacement for treatment. This is

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just a middle aged Englishman just talking. I saw this

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is if it helps, brilliant and I hope it does.

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But I'm not a replacement for anything else. The only

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thing I could really replace is you know, if you

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had a really boring friend who used to talk to

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or listen to, because let's face it, maybe they just

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talked at you, and maybe they've moved away and you

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don't have contact with them anymore. I can be a

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replacement for that some boring person talks at you. Or

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if you've got someone that likes to eat all your

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chocolate and maybe they're not around anymore for whatever reason,

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I can replace that person because I do or I

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love chocolate. I could go on, but I won't. I

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was going to say, if you've got someone that maybe

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that you don't see anymore, that had a really weird beard,

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that's me as well. I'm thinking of growing my beard,

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like really big, like it was twenty twenty. It was

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so big even scared the cashier at the garage with

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the petrol station. She because I had I was trying

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to wear a mask, and the mask basically just didn't

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even cover it. It was just that the mask looked tiny,

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my head looked massive, and when I trimmed it, she

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said to me, I'm so glad you got rid of

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that beard. I used to get so scared when i'd

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see you walking up here. So it was just a beard,

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she said, yeah, but it was. It was just so wide.

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So what do you mean She said, you were knocking

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things off the shelves, dreating a little bit. He said,

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you'd like people keeping a distance here, not because they

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had to, because I didn't have any choice. Because your

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beard was about six foot long. She went on a bit.

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She went over the top with this. It wasn't six

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foot long. It was quite big. There's actually a video

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of me on YouTube somewhere, a couple of videos with

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that beard, and it's really large, like really a big,

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fat beard. It was. Some may argue that's not relevant

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to the recording, and I would say, yeah, yeah, maybe

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maybe not. Depends. I might talk about beards, I might

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not talk about beards. I never know what I'm going

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to talk about. Oh yeah, So I have a Facebook group,

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Jason Newland's Boring Group if you want to get together

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with other people that like the recordings I do, and

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you can also sell me messages on there. I've also

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got a YouTube channel where I now post every new

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recording I do, including all six versions without music, five

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and ten hours about music with music, five and ten

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with music. So that's the new thing I'm doing. It's

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just another place where you can listen to my podcasts

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and my website Jasonnewland dot com. Well, by the way,

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the YouTube channel is at Jason Newland and you show

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a website. All the latest recordings are on there and whenever,

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if you would like to ask me a question or

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submit a quequestion for the upcoming Q and A Friday,

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which I do every week, then please go on there

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and you can fill a form in this tiny little

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form with your question and your name. That's pretty much it,

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and I will whatever questions I get between each Friday,

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so between finishing the Friday and a Friday recording and

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the next beginning of recording it, whatever questions I get

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during that week I will include, and I'll mention your name.

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I only mentioned first names, and I'll try and answer

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the question. Some could would argue that I perhaps don't

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answer the questions correctly, but there is no right and

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wrong way to answer a question you might ask. You know,

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for example, you might ask me what was the first

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first time I wore a tie and or the first

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time I wore a suit? And I might tell you

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about a bicycle that I had that got a puncture

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and I had to push it all the way up

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a hill. So there's no guaranteed that I'm going to

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necessarily focus on the question. I might get a little

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bit sidetracked. Sometimes I do try and bring it back,

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but you know, these occasions when I'm not as focused

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as maybe some may wish I was. I'm quite happy

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with the way I do it, but I don't always

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I try and answer the questions, but sometimes I get

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a question it's a little bit like, oh, I have

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to be careful because, you know, especially if it involves

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other people in my life and I don't. I can't

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you know, if they listen to this, I have to

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be careful. They don't say anything derogatory, you know, So

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I have to. But generally, any question, if I can

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answer it, I will. If I can't, I'll still answer it.

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But it might be but plus I didn't even finish

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that sentence. Plus you can ask me the same question

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every week for a whole year, and you'll probably get

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a different answer every week, because it depends what my

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mood is depends And also, you know, sometimes I'll answer

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a question on Q and a Friday, and I'd be

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sitting over there afterwards thinking, especially when it thinks like

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what's your favorite movie or what's your favorite soul or

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And I was thinking, oh, wait a minute, no, my

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favorite movie is that this you know?

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Not kind of.

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I forgot to mention this thing, or you know, it

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reminds me, blind me to about again. This is a

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true story. Someone came to me and they had a

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phobia or not a phobia, but they just traveling to

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the airport. Because this person has gone on holiday, traveling

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to the airport was causing like a lot of anxiety

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and the person couldn't figure out why. It's like, I

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don't know why. It's like he had a phobia. He

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had a phobia of traveling to the airport in a car,

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like get a taxi, I think, or drove I don't know.

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And I was like, okay, you got an issue with

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a plane. No, I ain't got an issue with a plane,

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is it? You've got an issue with the people you're

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going with? Not really? I mean, I got three kids,

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but you get used to the math for a while,

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don't you what. I can't leave my own these days,

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got to take them with you, okay. And it was like, okay,

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trying to figure it out. She came and this might

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have been a hypnosis. I don't know if it's a

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hypnosis or it was counseling. I can't remember in what

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what words were going into head I had on that day. Anyway,

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after about the third session, she said, she mentioned that

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she'd been in a car crash on the way to

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the airport, like about five years ago, quite a serious

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car crash. Like okay, it's the dots weren't joining in

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his mind, I'm saying his in her because I can't

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remember if it was a bloke or woman. I've got

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no idea, don't care. But they didn't. They didn't have

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like it seems so obvious, like, well, obviously if if

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you've got this issue because something bad happened, something you

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know quite you know hard happened on the way to

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an airport, because traveling to the airport wasn't something that

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they did regularly. It was like a once a year

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thing or twice a year. I don't know. And unless,

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of course he was an air like it could have

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been a pilot. I suppose. No, no, I don't think

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he was a pilot. So it's amazing that sometimes you know,

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forgetting things, and it's it's all about forgetting things I

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remember on my chairs falling apart. I keep picking at

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the Do you know I've got like a gaming chair?

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I don't. I'm not a gamer. The last time I

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even attempted to play a computer game two thousand and five,

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and somebody sold me their game Boy. I think it

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was game Boy? Is it game Boy? What is it?

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Not the Xbox? But the other one? Is it a

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game Boy? So he sold me that, and I was like,

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I don't know what to do with this. The chair

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is not falling apart because I've had it for twenty years.

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I just haven't. I keep picking it. I'm just thinking

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if that was my fingers I was picking it. I

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don't have no fingers left. So yeah, there's been times

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when I've forgotten about my lower back. See, I've very,

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very skillfully pulled it back to the reason I'm doing

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this recording, and I'm very pleased with myself. Perhaps I

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shouldn't have mentioned it because it takes away the potential

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cleverness of what I did. But now thinking about it,

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maybe it wasn't that clever. Maybe it was just too

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I kind of get a senses like the arrows are

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basically pulling at the point of the fact that he's

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now mention in forgetting. He's going to start talking about

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forgetting about the pain. That's what you're going to do now,

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isn't it? Ah? Yeah, but not always put my finger

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in my ear. I just pulled out some ear wax,

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is it? Do you ever wonder like white ear wax

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is such a weird color? See, I have to be

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careful with my ears. Not because they're so big. I

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don't get them get stuck in between buildings because made

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are so big. No, not because they're that big, lthough

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they are fairly big, although until it's weird. I had

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a friend at school and he had his ears pinned back.

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He actually went and had an operation. His it didn't

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even stick out.

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I didn't.

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It's just like.

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It wasn't even to me that noticeable. You know, it's weird.

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It's like I thought my ears probably stuck out just

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as much as his did. But he, you know, he

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had a thing about it, so he got his ears

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pinned back. And yeah, I think that's another thing about distraction,

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isn't it is? Because I'm trying to keep coming back

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to my lower back. But when I was thinking about

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my friend's ears, I don't get I don't spend a

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lot of time thinking about his ears, by the way.

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I mean, it's like back when I was about eleven

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or twelve, so so it's, you know, a few years ago.

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It's over fifteen years ago, so I don't spend a

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lot of time thinking of his ears. But when I

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was thinking of his ears, I wasn't folk be on

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my lower back. And you might be thinking that's because

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he had such big years. He didn't, And it's rude.

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Don't make fun of my friend who I haven't seen

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for forty years. I suppose technically, is he still a friend?

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I don't know. See I'm the way I see it,

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and it's weird. But I've got what di I left

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school in nineteen eighty six, so it's nearly forty years ago,

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is that right? Eighty six, ninety six, two thousand and six,

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twenty sixteen, twenty twenty six, so many years time, So

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it's thirty nine years. There are people I went to

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school with who are still have high regard for, and

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I haven't seen them pretty much since I left school.

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Like a song called Stephan or Stephan Stefan, I remember

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his surname, I remember what he looked like he was

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tall and he was cool, and I remember him. I

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just he was on these people. He's someone that I

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kind of want to be like. Obviously nothing like him,

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but I would, you know, if I could have chosen

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to be like anyone, probably in my year, he would

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have been one of the people I've chosen to be like,

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because he was he was a man, that's the one thing.

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He was already a man physically, but he seemed to

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be a man mentally as well. It was more clue together,

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it was more sensible. He wasn't scared of anything. He

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just is strong. But it was also nice, you know.

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He looked out for people, and I just, yeah, it's weird.

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I'm hoping that the older I'm not going to say

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his name, but the I and N E E E

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e e E doesn't start shouting because of the conversations,

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the very loud conversations going on in the garden yesterday. Man,

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they were playing music, but I think they're doing it

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from a phone, so it's just all distorted from a distance.

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It's distorted, isn't if you hear someone's phone music. And

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I had it blasting like all day, all all day,

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right till about eleven at night.

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I was like, what the heck?

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It was very strange. I hope that's not a sign

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of things to come. I can I can imagine I'm

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getting going to get a letter. Dear Jason. I quite

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like some of you will let me boy just you

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let me bore your pain away recordings. But you did

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one third, say the seventeenth of April, and it was

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more like, let me bore you by moaning about stuff.

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Let me moan at you and we you know, just

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just moaned all the way through it. How is that useful?

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It's useful to me. Lets me get rid of it.

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I feel better now, Oh, letting all the negativity out more.

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I'm not moaning. I'm just pointing out. You want to

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hear a moan, this is a moan, but it's not really.

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It's kind of as a funny moan. I can't believe

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this happened. I'll tell you in a minute. So when

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I was focusing on my on my friends, fokinging, focusing

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on my friend's ears. To be fair, actually, anything I

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do when I make these recordings, my lower back relaxes.

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There's something about my voice. I'm not saying that in like, oh,

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I have such a calm voice. I don't mean like that,

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but just there's something about recording or doing these recordings

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that has a tendency to relax me. Sometimes I do

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feel tired when I make them a yawn. Sometimes my

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body feels well. My whole body feels quite relaxed right now.

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But my lower back I'm focusing on it. That's where

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the old arthritis is in my lower back, left side,

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and you know, I'm kind of stretching it. I can feel.

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That.

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It's this I don't you know. You know when you

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have local anesthetic, so you can still feel the pressure,

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but you can't there's no physical discomfort, but you can

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feel the pressure. So if a dentist is doing stuff,

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or maybe you're having stitches and giving you local anesthetic

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in your hand or your foot or whatever. I had

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it when I had an ingrind tonail sorted. Once I

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had a local anesthetic, and it's weird. You can feel

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the pressure, but it's like that's it. It's a bit

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like that. I can kind of I'm pressing on my

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lower back, not hard, just so I can feel I

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can feel it, but it's just nothing. It just feels

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the same as the other side. Really, it's kind of weird.

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A what was I going to tell you? All Right,

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I went out today, So I was in here and

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I was just doing some What did I do? Yeah,

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I was just finishing up with because I do the

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recordings and I upload them and after editing them and

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all that stuff, there was a few bits and bobs

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I needed to do. One of those things was to

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add the images to some of the podcast episodes. So

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I did that. So that took a little while. Itchy bump, Sorry,

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oh that's better. The buttock I should say buttock really,

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just in case you think, well, should you came wash

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your an, shouldn't you? I've got trousers on, so I

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need to cut my fingernails. Actually, So I was just

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finishing off some of the I would class it is

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administration stuff, you know, some of that stuff that needed

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to be done. And I had two pieces of chocolate.

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I don't generally eat chocolate, but on this occasion I

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had a dairy milk caramel Kapy's Dairy Milk caramel bar

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with two bits left from last night. But it was warm,

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and I thought to myself, it seems a shame to

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not eat it right now. It just do you know,

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you ever get that that situation think it just seems

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like the right thing to do. It's just seemed like

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if you if you're walking down the street and you

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see someone struggling with an elderly person struggling with some

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really really heavy heavy shopping, and then you see someone

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like a young woman who's maybe uh struggling to do

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a bolly get out, you know, maybe she's her hairs

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getting wet. So you go and help the young person.

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The attractive I'm joking, joking and joking, so you help

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the person needs help, and it feels like the right

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thing to do. That's how I am with the chocolate.

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It's but morally, it felt the right decision to eat

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that chocolate. There's only two pieces. I mean, I lost

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the stone. Well, I lost the stone in the heart

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and said I've lost the stone and I've not put

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it back on. I lost the stone in half and

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I put half a stone back on. So technically I

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suppose I can't.

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Really be.

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Dancing around doing somersaults making out that one are good

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because I've not put the weight back on, because technically

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I've put one third of it back on. But if

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you move away from that, I'm still I'm fifteen, not

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sixteen stone. So that's good. What I'll be by Christmas

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I might be seventeen stone. I don't think so well

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that bit of melththing. Honestly, I've got this bracket on

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this desk. It reminds me. Okay, you ever see it's

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a wonderful life. And they've got he's got that banister,

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like the thing that he holds onto the banister right

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at the top of the bottom of the stairs and

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it just comes off, and he's like, oh damn banister.

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And then when he comes back off the pier and

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all his family there and all his friends come to

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save him financially, and the old old man Zion Zion

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or whatever it is, is playing, and you know, he

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goes upstairs to see his daughter because he's Juju, because

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he had a petal. It's didn't he in a in

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his pocket Juju's pedal us pedal and and he puts

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his hand on the banister and it comes off like

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oh oh, and he's happy, where like an hour earlier

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he was like annoyed. He's like, oh girl, And I

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was like, oh, it was a bit like that, I

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lost my training fought there. What was I talking about?

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I was talking about eating chocolate and I ended up

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focusing on a banister on Oh, this metal thing, it's

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like that. That's it, this metal thing on my desk.

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And it's not like a banister because that would be

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weird because it's nothing like that. But it's something that's

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just annoying me, and I just like, I wish I

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could do something about it, but that that would involve effort,

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and it's just there. I just need this screwdriver. But

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I lent my screwdriver to my neighbor, and my neighbor

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never re basically gave it back. I don't know read

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it was going to be repeated, reported, reprieved returned, that's

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it never returned it or I've got an email. Three

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we we kind of did everything we could to ruin

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the Marvel franchise. I still stick with Marvel, even though

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Disney really have gone out of their way to destroy it.

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I don't know why, because that was I mean, they

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have the rights, they owned Star Wars and the Marvel

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all the Marvel movies and stuff, and I don't know,

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I'm not quite sure why they've kind of done what

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they've done. And they really need some pr they need

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someone to have a word with some of their stars

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as well, just to be quiet when they're promoting a movie.

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It's really I reckon that snow White. If it had

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got good ratings, regardless if it was good or not,

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it might be a really good movie. I don't know,

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I've not watched it, but if it had good ratings,

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it would have been probably the biggest hit of the year,

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even if it wasn't particularly good, just because it's a

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Disney movie. It's a remaker one of the most famous

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Disney movies of all time, and it's got some famous

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people in it, and you know, it's got wonder Woman.

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She's in it, isn't she. It just shows you how

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easily because of social networking, social media, the Internet and

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all that stuff. It's like they go to town in

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a much a stronger way than the national press ever

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used to. It used to be like a slow burning

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thing with the newspapers. You know, they try and do

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something and if everyone else followed then it would be good.

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Sometimes it wouldn't work. And they did go on recently

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about it was Stephen Frye. So Stephen fry made a

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controversial comment Stephen Frye contraversy contra this is recently and

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oh he's got another one now. The thing is, I

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don't know if it was it was accused of making

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racist and sexist jokes or I don't know what it was.

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Oh yeah, I know what it was. He made had

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been criticized for controversial comments regarding some yeah, quite serious stuff.

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They posted it whoever it was online. No one showed

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the slightest bit of interest because he would have been well,

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he wasn't canceled, and it seems like he's above being canceled.

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Some people just are above that. Russell Brand seems to

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be above that. John Tate what was his name, Tate?

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Wherever that name is the bloke Tate? What's his first name?

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Tate used to be tit and lyon if you put

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Tate in Jenny used to be like Tate and Lyle Sugar.

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That's weird. I put in Tate into Google enough, it's

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coming up other than okay. If I just check Tate

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Modern Hotels, Andrew is it Andrew? I bet if I

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just put Andrew, it'll probably come up in the distance.

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And that was a very slurpy word andrews Andrew Andrew, Yeah,

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a n the first word Andrew Tate's the first person

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that comes up as soon as I put a in,

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So Andrew Tate is. It's quite funny because the what

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Ricky Gervai said that Andrew Tate is what a fourteen

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year old boy thinks a man is supposed to be like.

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And I thought it's quite funny because he's not really

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representative of the male population. I would say it's kind

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of a fantasy, kind of. I don't know, it's weird.

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I mean it's see in England we saw Andrew Tate

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years ago, long before he was famous worldwide, long long

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long before, because he was in Big Brother. And I

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don't know if he was. He wasn't even in what

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year was that? What year was he in Big Brother?

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He don't off cut? What does he say about Okay?

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As a look. I honestly some of the rubbish he

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comes out with. See, I quite like people that come

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out of crap because it's funny, but it doesn't you know,

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people just say stuff like it's it's almost like they

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is created kind of like a Frankenstein's monster or AI.

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They sort of said, okay, create the perfect version of

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a misogynist, like the perfect version that has every single

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misogynistic attribute. And he seemed to have come out the

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other end. I think I've got no issue with him.

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I don't know him, but he's There's a lot of

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that stuff online at the moment. I watch a lot

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of the YouTube channels, and I do. I see some

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of these YouTube channels, and there's quite a few really

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popular YouTube channels that are so anti the opposite. Sex

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is ridiculous. I don't understand it. I think women are lovely,

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not all of them, but not all men are either.

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Not all anyone thinks lovely, but everyone's got something good

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about them. Big Brother twenty sixteen, So it wasn't celebrity

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Big Brother ever. No one knew who he was. He

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was just some he had hair back then, he was

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a bloke, and they kept talking about him being a

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kickboxer champion, and he was. He was controversial, argumentative, but

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he was unknown, and he had a weird accent, a

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mixture between English and American. He came under scrutiny for

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previously having made homophobic and racist posts on Twitter. He

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was removed from the show after six days, which produces

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saying it was because of events outside the house. Oh okay,

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well that didn't come up when I talked about that.

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When I was trying to look at people for people

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that had been kicked off a big brother. How well,

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I think I wanted to talk about Taiti Peti, but

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Taiti so as distractions. I mean, in some ways, you know,

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I'd rather have an apritis than be him, you know. So, yeah,

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it's weird. I don't understand. I do sometimes wonder how

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do people get to be so angry take themselves so seriously,

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and that is something that can really get in a

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way of relaxing. See that over the years a lot

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where some people just take themselves a little bit too seriously.

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It's not that they should see themselves as a joke,

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of course not, but or sometimes like really earnest people,

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they said, look if I've got the right the word

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right earnest. The word earnest is defined as being characterized

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by or proceeding from, an intense and serious that in mind.

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Yeah serious, I do get it right. It implies seriousness

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and determination, often indicating that someone is sincere and committed

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to their intentions or actions. And there's nothing wrong with

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sincerity blind me. So it's an amazing trait. And being earnest,

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you know, if you're climbing a mountain, or you're searching

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for someone's missing, or you know, you're trying to say

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someone's life or yeah, being earnest is it's an amazing characteristic.

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But in just everyday life it might not be always useful,

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especially with physical issues. And I've noticed that I've known

470
00:37:25.639 --> 00:37:28.679
a lot of people over the years that have just

471
00:37:28.760 --> 00:37:34.400
been very very I don't use the word earnest, but serious,

472
00:37:34.519 --> 00:37:39.800
very taking themselves serious, maybe taking other people serious, taking

473
00:37:39.840 --> 00:37:50.039
their own views really seriously. And I understand, you know,

474
00:37:50.360 --> 00:37:55.599
it's probably quite hard for some people to realize that

475
00:37:55.679 --> 00:38:00.400
their views are only really important to them, and maybe

476
00:38:00.480 --> 00:38:03.559
people that have the same views, but there are millions,

477
00:38:03.960 --> 00:38:08.119
if not billions, of people around the world don't feel

478
00:38:08.119 --> 00:38:13.159
the same way. So it doesn't mean that they're right,

479
00:38:13.840 --> 00:38:17.320
doesn't mean that you're right or I'm right. We're just right.

480
00:38:17.400 --> 00:38:21.440
For us, it's our opinion and it's how we choose

481
00:38:21.519 --> 00:38:24.840
to think and live our life. But then when you

482
00:38:24.880 --> 00:38:27.039
break it down, how much it is is it free

483
00:38:27.119 --> 00:38:30.679
choice of thinking if we're being indoctrinated into it, being

484
00:38:30.719 --> 00:38:35.360
born into it, Because you know the amount of things

485
00:38:35.360 --> 00:38:41.360
that I've probably indoctrinated from living in this country. I

486
00:38:41.360 --> 00:38:47.840
mean when I was a kid, I grew up. Eventually

487
00:38:47.960 --> 00:38:55.559
I grew up, and there was a certain mindset, very

488
00:38:56.400 --> 00:39:02.440
dismissive mindset to anyone that was out of the norm.

489
00:39:02.800 --> 00:39:08.280
People with disabilities were generally you wouldn't see them, maybe

490
00:39:08.400 --> 00:39:12.880
people in wheelchairs, but outside of that, they'd be locked up.

491
00:39:15.239 --> 00:39:17.719
You know, there was the care and the community kind

492
00:39:17.719 --> 00:39:20.719
of came in in the nineties where people were allowed

493
00:39:20.760 --> 00:39:29.960
to live outside of hospitals. There was a real misunderstood

494
00:39:30.800 --> 00:39:36.360
It wasn't misunderstanding, it wasn't even attempted understanding of differences.

495
00:39:36.960 --> 00:39:42.280
So any kind of difference was mocked. And yeah, a

496
00:39:42.280 --> 00:39:48.119
lot of time it was funny in a way if

497
00:39:48.159 --> 00:39:51.360
you're not the one being mocked, but if you are

498
00:39:51.400 --> 00:39:54.079
the one being mocked, it's probably not quite as humorous.

499
00:39:55.159 --> 00:39:58.719
And I had been the one being mocked, and I

500
00:39:58.760 --> 00:40:04.840
didn't enjoy it, and I learned from that until the

501
00:40:04.880 --> 00:40:09.199
next time I decided to mock someone. No, I don't. Generally,

502
00:40:09.800 --> 00:40:15.440
I like to go the other way, so well used to.

503
00:40:16.079 --> 00:40:21.920
If I see someone mocking somebody, I join forces with

504
00:40:22.039 --> 00:40:25.719
the other person that's being mocked and turn it on

505
00:40:25.800 --> 00:40:30.559
them and either coach them on what to say, or

506
00:40:30.639 --> 00:40:33.800
just join in and sort of say and basically be there,

507
00:40:35.360 --> 00:40:40.360
be their voice temporarily, because I've known people that won't

508
00:40:40.400 --> 00:40:43.559
say anything back. They just sit there or stand there

509
00:40:43.639 --> 00:40:47.960
and let it happen. And I can't. I can't allow

510
00:40:48.039 --> 00:40:53.000
that because I'm earnest. I'm very serious about things like that,

511
00:40:54.159 --> 00:41:01.519
serious and the determined. So sincere admitted to my intentions

512
00:41:01.599 --> 00:41:04.679
or actions, I'm just trying to learn what the word

513
00:41:04.760 --> 00:41:16.119
ernest means. What's that famous book Earnest something Earnest? So

514
00:41:16.199 --> 00:41:21.079
that is something I've noticed. Is So you thought I

515
00:41:21.119 --> 00:41:24.280
was going to talk about forgetting things. No, no, no,

516
00:41:24.480 --> 00:41:29.320
mind you. There has been times when I've just forgotten

517
00:41:30.199 --> 00:41:35.480
about my back. I mean, there was one time when

518
00:41:35.480 --> 00:41:38.119
I fractured my back in two places. The week I

519
00:41:38.159 --> 00:41:46.920
got Vinny, I had a well it wasn't a walking stick,

520
00:41:46.960 --> 00:41:52.800
but it was very sturdy umberella with like a a handle,

521
00:41:52.880 --> 00:41:55.639
and I used it as a walking stick just to

522
00:41:55.639 --> 00:41:57.920
help me get through because I was mad.

523
00:41:58.159 --> 00:41:58.599
That was.

524
00:42:00.719 --> 00:42:06.639
Ooh, that was a very interesting time. And then one

525
00:42:06.679 --> 00:42:09.199
day I went out about it and I forgot that

526
00:42:09.280 --> 00:42:14.719
I needed it, and I realized that I was really

527
00:42:14.760 --> 00:42:20.159
making a meal of it. I was almost over exaggerating

528
00:42:20.239 --> 00:42:25.159
my limping and I didn't realize I was doing that

529
00:42:25.559 --> 00:42:30.000
until I forgot to take the brolley out. I mean,

530
00:42:30.039 --> 00:42:32.360
I wasn't walking normally and I still had a limp,

531
00:42:32.519 --> 00:42:38.840
and I was being careful. But it almost like made

532
00:42:39.039 --> 00:42:46.480
brought me down to earth to realize that if I

533
00:42:46.519 --> 00:42:51.599
was able to forget that I needed some kind of support,

534
00:42:52.719 --> 00:42:58.119
then I possibly didn't need the support. And then I

535
00:42:58.119 --> 00:43:02.280
fell over, so I did need it. I haven't full

536
00:43:02.360 --> 00:43:07.840
nervous since. BlimE me. That was weird. My friend said,

537
00:43:07.920 --> 00:43:12.559
you know, like we had snow that week, so last

538
00:43:12.599 --> 00:43:15.559
time we had settled snow. So this is over two

539
00:43:15.679 --> 00:43:21.119
years ago, two years and four months. That's the last

540
00:43:21.119 --> 00:43:23.960
time we had in where I live. I mean, had

541
00:43:24.000 --> 00:43:28.800
any kind of settled, proper settled snow where it settled,

542
00:43:28.800 --> 00:43:30.119
you know what I mean, like it is there for

543
00:43:30.159 --> 00:43:34.760
a few days, and that it all melted on that day.

544
00:43:34.840 --> 00:43:38.360
I think it was a Wednesday or Thursday, all melted.

545
00:43:40.719 --> 00:43:43.760
It didn't stay settled for a long time, maybe a

546
00:43:43.880 --> 00:43:48.079
few days, maybe five days. I don't know. I lose track,

547
00:43:51.480 --> 00:43:53.559
and all I'm doing is just my friend knocked on,

548
00:43:54.039 --> 00:43:56.960
No shouted up. It's a bit late at I to

549
00:43:57.039 --> 00:44:00.719
be doing that, but he showered up to bring Vinnie

550
00:44:00.719 --> 00:44:04.519
down or go in the garden. Logi and Vinnie and

551
00:44:04.519 --> 00:44:06.920
and I've only had Vinnie literally for a week. That

552
00:44:07.000 --> 00:44:09.000
was the first week of having him, so there's a

553
00:44:09.039 --> 00:44:12.960
lot of excitement about having him here. And Logi loved him,

554
00:44:13.119 --> 00:44:17.239
Vinnie log Vinnie loved Luke, he loved Logi. He loved

555
00:44:17.280 --> 00:44:20.800
going in out of that flat. You know, this was

556
00:44:20.920 --> 00:44:23.559
all new for him. He was having time of his life.

557
00:44:25.159 --> 00:44:27.880
I guess he's you know, I think he'd have preferred

558
00:44:27.880 --> 00:44:29.880
to be downstairs and to be up here with me.

559
00:44:31.119 --> 00:44:35.920
But I think he's he's given up on the dream.

560
00:44:36.039 --> 00:44:39.559
I think he's just he's settled. I think that's the

561
00:44:39.599 --> 00:44:41.440
most I could ever really hope for anyone with me.

562
00:44:41.480 --> 00:44:44.760
It's just to settle, just to That's what I was

563
00:44:44.800 --> 00:44:48.320
hoping in life for. Like relationships, I don't need anyone

564
00:44:48.360 --> 00:44:49.840
to fall in love with me. I just want someone

565
00:44:49.960 --> 00:44:55.119
just to just to settle, just to to give up

566
00:44:55.119 --> 00:44:58.639
looking for something better. That's all I want. There's not

567
00:44:58.719 --> 00:45:07.320
much to ask. Oh that's terrible. Oh some water. I

568
00:45:07.400 --> 00:45:11.719
got a little delivery earlier, some food to get me

569
00:45:11.800 --> 00:45:17.000
through till next week, because tomorrow is good Friday, then

570
00:45:17.039 --> 00:45:21.840
it's well, it's basically Easter weekend, so I think everything

571
00:45:21.920 --> 00:45:24.639
kind of goes back to normal Saturday. Then it's Easter

572
00:45:24.719 --> 00:45:28.960
Day Sunday, Easter Monday or good sort of like a

573
00:45:29.000 --> 00:45:34.039
bank holiday Monday, and then things go back to normal Tuesday.

574
00:45:34.760 --> 00:45:38.559
So I'm going to be other than doing what well

575
00:45:38.559 --> 00:45:43.920
I should be doing what normally do really, yeah, making

576
00:45:43.960 --> 00:45:48.880
recordings and watching some Telly. I hope to watch them

577
00:45:48.880 --> 00:45:53.559
Telly over the weekend. I just started watching the movie,

578
00:45:53.880 --> 00:46:00.719
but I thought was getting on. It's like, I mean,

579
00:46:00.800 --> 00:46:05.480
now it's quarter three and I almost feel like I

580
00:46:05.519 --> 00:46:10.280
haven't done anything today. It's kind of weird. So I

581
00:46:10.320 --> 00:46:13.320
thought I might as well just get on and make

582
00:46:13.400 --> 00:46:23.320
a recording. But that's seriousness. I have mentioned this before.

583
00:46:26.039 --> 00:46:32.960
I'm not one hundred percential how to really kind of

584
00:46:33.119 --> 00:46:41.079
move well, I've been there myself. Sometimes I'm there sometimes

585
00:46:41.079 --> 00:46:50.920
I'm super serious. But generally, I think having I'm not

586
00:46:50.960 --> 00:46:53.199
going to say a sense of humor, because serious people

587
00:46:53.199 --> 00:46:55.039
can have a sense of humor as well. I think

588
00:46:55.079 --> 00:46:57.400
everybody's got a sense of humor. It's just different for

589
00:46:57.440 --> 00:47:03.280
each person. But to be a bit more lighter, to

590
00:47:03.360 --> 00:47:09.000
be a bit what does it take for you to

591
00:47:09.079 --> 00:47:12.880
feel less serious? I mean, the fact is some people

592
00:47:12.880 --> 00:47:16.320
have got a lot of serious stuff going on, So

593
00:47:16.800 --> 00:47:21.840
it's I would never really say to someone generally unless

594
00:47:21.840 --> 00:47:26.480
I learn them very well to just try not to

595
00:47:26.519 --> 00:47:33.559
take themselves too seriously. But then you can take other

596
00:47:33.679 --> 00:47:39.679
things seriously without taking yourself seriously, can't you? Is is

597
00:47:39.719 --> 00:47:44.559
that possible? Is it possible to take a break from

598
00:47:44.559 --> 00:47:50.280
all that stuff? And because remembering, we get what we

599
00:47:50.320 --> 00:47:56.639
think about, so whatever we focus on has an effect

600
00:47:56.920 --> 00:48:01.760
on how we feel. I mean, this is just scientific fact,

601
00:48:02.559 --> 00:48:06.320
not an opinion. I was angry. That sound quite aggressive.

602
00:48:06.440 --> 00:48:11.519
It's not an opinion, it's fact. I'm taking myself I

603
00:48:11.599 --> 00:48:14.440
being very earnest, that's going to be the word this

604
00:48:14.599 --> 00:48:17.440
That's what it's going to be called. Earnest. That's what

605
00:48:17.519 --> 00:48:23.320
I'm going to call this recording earnest. I'm never going

606
00:48:23.400 --> 00:48:26.280
to use the word ernest again after this. It's not

607
00:48:26.320 --> 00:48:31.880
one of the words I use. I don't know why

608
00:48:31.920 --> 00:48:33.760
I just said, like really old fashioned?

609
00:48:35.320 --> 00:48:35.800
What is that?

610
00:48:36.039 --> 00:48:39.760
What is that book? Something Earnest? It's a very very

611
00:48:39.840 --> 00:48:44.039
famous book. I'm going to look it up, the book

612
00:48:47.440 --> 00:48:54.519
The Importance of Being Earnest Oscar Wild. I've never read it.

613
00:48:55.119 --> 00:49:09.760
I never read it Ernest. Okay, let's have a look.

614
00:49:10.519 --> 00:49:18.480
I'm just gonna have a look for something. H this

615
00:49:18.639 --> 00:49:26.840
is gonna be weird. I'm gonna ask, all right, here

616
00:49:26.840 --> 00:49:33.519
we go and ask chat GPT do you.

617
00:49:35.800 --> 00:49:36.599
Do you have.

618
00:49:38.280 --> 00:49:55.840
Any techniques just to stop being earnest? Okay, here we go.

619
00:49:55.920 --> 00:49:59.599
Let's see what it comes up with. Do you have

620
00:49:59.639 --> 00:50:05.360
any here knows his techniques for stopping being earnest? So,

621
00:50:05.519 --> 00:50:10.360
although I mean recently I've been making recordings and I've

622
00:50:10.480 --> 00:50:18.039
kind of focused on some relief techniques and stuff, this

623
00:50:18.199 --> 00:50:21.599
is a little bit different, but it's kind of a distractions.

624
00:50:22.440 --> 00:50:26.320
I didn't tell you, did I about the chocolate? Oh,

625
00:50:28.079 --> 00:50:30.800
I'll tell you in a minute. It's honestly, I'm embarrassed

626
00:50:30.800 --> 00:50:35.320
by it. I'm actually embarrassed, and I can't believe no

627
00:50:35.400 --> 00:50:43.400
one told me so this is. Oh, it's given me

628
00:50:43.440 --> 00:50:49.039
a whole I just want. Oh no, okay, now it's

629
00:50:49.079 --> 00:50:51.480
given me lots of like a whole thing. I don't

630
00:50:51.519 --> 00:50:57.360
want a whole thing. Just if I say stop, just

631
00:50:57.880 --> 00:51:08.119
ten different techniques techniques, right, I don't want a whole

632
00:51:08.360 --> 00:51:19.239
hypnosis script, just ten different techniques. Just interested because I

633
00:51:19.320 --> 00:51:22.039
know some things. I know some things. I'm so clever.

634
00:51:23.440 --> 00:51:28.920
There are ways of It's about dislodging. It's about moving

635
00:51:28.960 --> 00:51:32.639
away from a fixed mind. I'm not reading this off

636
00:51:32.639 --> 00:51:34.280
the screen, by the way, I'm still waiting for it

637
00:51:34.280 --> 00:51:46.440
to load up. Moving away from that fixedness. I suppose

638
00:51:46.480 --> 00:51:51.000
in a way, it's like stretching exercises for your mind,

639
00:51:51.920 --> 00:51:54.960
stretching your mind so you have a bit more flexibility.

640
00:51:56.440 --> 00:51:59.840
So it is what's coming up with this, the playful observer.

641
00:52:00.239 --> 00:52:06.199
Imagine yourself stepping outside your body, observing yourself interacting earnestly

642
00:52:06.280 --> 00:52:12.039
with others, but also seeing the humor in these moments.

643
00:52:12.559 --> 00:52:18.239
Notice the playful absurdity in being overly serious. Okay, so

644
00:52:18.280 --> 00:52:23.239
imagine it is a good example. I've seen that. I've

645
00:52:23.280 --> 00:52:29.639
seen it when and sometimes it can be so I've

646
00:52:29.679 --> 00:52:30.599
seen people.

647
00:52:30.320 --> 00:52:40.159
If it's just like an average joke that sometimes people

648
00:52:40.639 --> 00:52:42.960
won't laugh because it goes against their.

649
00:52:44.920 --> 00:52:47.719
You know, it's a subject matter that they don't like,

650
00:52:48.480 --> 00:52:55.039
which is understandable. But if something when something makes someone laugh,

651
00:52:56.519 --> 00:53:03.960
it's uncontrollable, like real laughter. Something might be humorous, like yeah,

652
00:53:04.039 --> 00:53:08.239
it's funny, but something that makes you just really laugh,

653
00:53:08.320 --> 00:53:13.360
you know, proper, proper laugh, that's uncontrollable. That's out of

654
00:53:13.400 --> 00:53:16.920
our control. We know what uncontrollable is, okay, fair enough

655
00:53:17.119 --> 00:53:23.960
blind me. It's so serious it's it's out of our control.

656
00:53:24.079 --> 00:53:29.119
So it doesn't mean So if if someone told me

657
00:53:29.159 --> 00:53:33.079
a joke about the Pope that made me laugh, doesn't

658
00:53:33.079 --> 00:53:36.159
mean that I'm against the Pope or I find anything

659
00:53:36.239 --> 00:53:40.119
funny about the Pope water skiing or whatever the joke

660
00:53:40.199 --> 00:53:44.400
would be. You know, it's just that it made me laugh,

661
00:53:44.760 --> 00:53:51.199
and it wasn't. It caught me off guard. And that's

662
00:53:51.239 --> 00:53:55.079
something I think some people struggle with, like you can't

663
00:53:55.159 --> 00:53:59.800
laugh at that, can't laugh at this? Well, and I'll

664
00:54:00.039 --> 00:54:04.559
should handler he said, you know, with stuff that's serious now,

665
00:54:04.599 --> 00:54:07.119
and you're like, one day we'll laugh about this. Why wait,

666
00:54:09.320 --> 00:54:13.159
why I laugh about it now? And I'm not talking

667
00:54:13.159 --> 00:54:19.079
about super serious, horrible things, but I remember there. I

668
00:54:19.119 --> 00:54:22.960
had a neighbor who had an ambulance called and if

669
00:54:23.000 --> 00:54:27.320
they hurt, this person heard the ambulance drivers or the

670
00:54:27.360 --> 00:54:33.840
paramedics joking, and I had to explain to him that

671
00:54:35.400 --> 00:54:41.719
it's it's a natural thing to do. They're not laughing

672
00:54:41.840 --> 00:54:47.280
at you, they're not laughing at your situation. Basically, it's

673
00:54:47.320 --> 00:54:49.960
a thing called gallows humor. And he had not heard

674
00:54:49.960 --> 00:54:52.159
that because he's young, very very young, hadn't heard of

675
00:54:52.199 --> 00:54:55.599
the term. So I had to explains it's basically, they're

676
00:54:55.639 --> 00:55:01.280
doing such a difficult job at times that the only

677
00:55:01.360 --> 00:55:04.119
way to really cope with it is by laughing at

678
00:55:04.119 --> 00:55:07.480
what's going on. They're not really laughing at what's going on.

679
00:55:07.519 --> 00:55:12.000
They're not they find something's funny, but you know, it's

680
00:55:12.039 --> 00:55:16.079
a way of coping. And it's just similar with I'm

681
00:55:16.079 --> 00:55:23.320
sure with the police, with doctors, nurses, with even in counseling.

682
00:55:23.400 --> 00:55:27.039
It was sort of you know, even in the call center,

683
00:55:28.920 --> 00:55:33.000
but laugh at someone make fun of a customer, or

684
00:55:33.079 --> 00:55:35.320
make fun of a team leader that was a bit

685
00:55:36.119 --> 00:55:40.400
over the top, you know, moaning and stuff. Just it

686
00:55:40.440 --> 00:55:46.360
was a way of letting that tension out, a way

687
00:55:46.400 --> 00:55:54.079
of release, you know. So it's not necessarily that you

688
00:55:54.199 --> 00:56:00.159
find it funny like that you find their situation funny,

689
00:56:00.320 --> 00:56:05.239
or you're really mocking them. It's just that it's a

690
00:56:05.280 --> 00:56:10.519
way to let out, a way to release. Oh, brilliant,

691
00:56:10.559 --> 00:56:13.960
you've now explained humor to us. Thanks. No, I'm not

692
00:56:13.960 --> 00:56:18.480
trying to explain humor to here. I'm saying that this

693
00:56:18.599 --> 00:56:25.719
is what I told this person, that sometimes people will laugh,

694
00:56:25.800 --> 00:56:33.360
but they're not really laughing at you. Now, I still

695
00:56:33.400 --> 00:56:37.599
have to convince myself that if someone's if I'm walking

696
00:56:37.639 --> 00:56:40.800
down the street in my shorts and every single person

697
00:56:40.840 --> 00:56:43.800
points at my legs and laughs, they're not laughing at me.

698
00:56:43.840 --> 00:56:48.800
They're laughing with me. Okay, there's the bloom release. Picture

699
00:56:48.840 --> 00:56:54.519
your earnest thoughts and serious feelings as helium ballooons, generally

700
00:56:54.639 --> 00:56:57.880
letting them go one by one, watching them float peacefully away,

701
00:56:58.320 --> 00:57:02.400
feeling lighter and freer as each balloon disappears into the sky.

702
00:57:04.119 --> 00:57:08.559
That's just another version of the helium release or the

703
00:57:08.599 --> 00:57:16.119
stress release. Another version of that is you can imagine

704
00:57:16.159 --> 00:57:20.559
getting all the all the things you're concerned about, putting

705
00:57:20.559 --> 00:57:25.159
them into a wheelbarrow, pushing a wheelbarrower towards a hot

706
00:57:25.199 --> 00:57:29.559
air balloon, you know, ones with the baskets, and then

707
00:57:29.760 --> 00:57:34.000
just the baskets, got a couple of pieces of wood

708
00:57:34.079 --> 00:57:39.480
like a ramp, push the wheelbarrow in, empty it in there,

709
00:57:40.559 --> 00:57:44.199
pull up the side of the basket and then just

710
00:57:44.280 --> 00:57:46.840
cut the cut the cord or the rope that's keeping

711
00:57:46.880 --> 00:57:53.880
the hot air bloom on the ground. And watch all

712
00:57:54.159 --> 00:57:59.880
that crap, all that stress, all that negativity, discomfort, just

713
00:58:01.159 --> 00:58:09.079
slowly rise slowly and just notice how good it feels.

714
00:58:09.199 --> 00:58:11.679
I used to have that feeling when I would whenever

715
00:58:11.719 --> 00:58:14.800
I got into a ferry and I would leave this country.

716
00:58:16.719 --> 00:58:21.559
I always felt a relief as I moved away from

717
00:58:21.599 --> 00:58:25.639
the shore, you know, whether it's going to Belgium, whether

718
00:58:25.679 --> 00:58:32.360
it was France, Ireland. That's the only three different places

719
00:58:32.360 --> 00:58:39.519
I've been to on a ferry, France, Belgium, and Ireland. Yeah,

720
00:58:39.559 --> 00:58:44.800
I think that's it. Oh Island Man as well, so four.

721
00:58:46.079 --> 00:58:49.480
I always had that same feeling. Although I wasn't able

722
00:58:49.519 --> 00:58:51.880
to watch with the Isle of Man one the winds

723
00:58:51.920 --> 00:58:56.679
were too strong. We won't even land outside, but all

724
00:58:56.719 --> 00:59:00.280
the other fairies it was lovely. Just it was like

725
00:59:00.639 --> 00:59:04.440
in a negative way, like all England Blue wasn't like that.

726
00:59:04.559 --> 00:59:05.039
It was just.

727
00:59:07.280 --> 00:59:07.840
Ah.

728
00:59:08.000 --> 00:59:13.760
It was that separation. It was that that break, that

729
00:59:15.840 --> 00:59:23.320
physical separation of being away from well, basically I was

730
00:59:23.400 --> 00:59:27.679
leaving everything there. I was leaving any worries, any concerns,

731
00:59:28.559 --> 00:59:33.239
my past. Everything was there and I was moving away

732
00:59:33.280 --> 00:59:36.480
from it. It was nice, felt nice. It feels nice

733
00:59:36.519 --> 00:59:48.159
even imagining it, to be honest, Yeah, I can feel

734
00:59:48.199 --> 00:59:51.280
like that. Sometimes you can leave stuff like in the

735
00:59:51.320 --> 00:59:54.719
hot air blown. You can leave the physical discomfort. You

736
00:59:54.760 --> 00:59:57.239
can leave that on the shore as well as you

737
00:59:57.320 --> 01:00:00.960
move away on the boat. You can leave that at

738
01:00:01.000 --> 01:00:08.679
home whenever you go out. There's so many little things

739
01:00:08.719 --> 01:00:15.239
you can do that. I know it's imagination, but sometimes

740
01:00:17.199 --> 01:00:22.960
you know, if you carried around a little pad with you,

741
01:00:24.239 --> 01:00:32.039
piece of paper, I'm not talking about big pad, just

742
01:00:32.079 --> 01:00:36.239
a little pad, just a little just you know, it

743
01:00:36.320 --> 01:00:42.440
doesn't have to be anything big, and but you could

744
01:00:42.480 --> 01:00:44.559
do this at home as well. But whenever you get

745
01:00:44.559 --> 01:00:50.440
a feeling, whenever you get a feeling you don't enjoy,

746
01:00:50.480 --> 01:00:53.440
whether it's a thought that you're not enjoying, whether it's

747
01:00:53.480 --> 01:00:59.719
a physical feeling that just feels quite horrible. You could

748
01:00:59.719 --> 01:01:03.960
write how you feel down, rip it off the pad,

749
01:01:04.079 --> 01:01:07.440
off the pad whatever, screw it up and just put

750
01:01:07.440 --> 01:01:12.159
it in the bin. Or if you live around here,

751
01:01:12.280 --> 01:01:15.800
just check out a window for the for the cleanest

752
01:01:15.840 --> 01:01:20.719
to pick up in a month's time by doing their nappies.

753
01:01:22.159 --> 01:01:26.039
Oh dear, honestly, there's there's a there's a flat downstairs.

754
01:01:26.320 --> 01:01:30.599
There's eggshells all outside the kitchen window, on the floor outside.

755
01:01:33.880 --> 01:01:40.639
How what they were chucking nappies out the front? It's

756
01:01:40.639 --> 01:01:43.800
on camera. They've got the other people oppositely got on camera.

757
01:01:44.199 --> 01:01:50.960
But how how what part of the brain needs to

758
01:01:51.000 --> 01:01:57.440
be turned off to be cooking and then just chucking food,

759
01:01:57.519 --> 01:02:00.559
chucking empty eggshells out of the kitchen window. What part

760
01:02:00.599 --> 01:02:02.360
of the brain has to be switched off to do that,

761
01:02:02.760 --> 01:02:07.960
or to check a dirty nappy out of the living

762
01:02:08.039 --> 01:02:12.639
room window. I mean, maybe we can switch parts of

763
01:02:12.679 --> 01:02:18.599
the brain off, maybe the part for that bit of

764
01:02:18.639 --> 01:02:25.000
your body that you want to feel relaxed. Maybe switch

765
01:02:25.079 --> 01:02:27.159
that part of the body, that part of the brain off,

766
01:02:28.760 --> 01:02:32.599
just that one small part, and I guess there's I mean,

767
01:02:32.599 --> 01:02:36.880
if you think about it like a traffic light system.

768
01:02:37.400 --> 01:02:40.280
So you've got that part of your body is green

769
01:02:40.480 --> 01:02:49.400
as yellow and it's red, so red kind of means

770
01:02:49.679 --> 01:02:52.000
it can Each color can mean what you want them

771
01:02:52.079 --> 01:02:56.039
to mean, so you can just change the color. Maybe

772
01:02:56.039 --> 01:03:02.000
the one in the middle is you know, hm, one

773
01:03:02.079 --> 01:03:11.039
color is maybe unpleasant feeling and then the other color

774
01:03:11.199 --> 01:03:15.840
would be feeling relaxed. I mean I want to go,

775
01:03:16.000 --> 01:03:26.880
like you know, stop, go and prepare to go. Although

776
01:03:27.079 --> 01:03:33.400
in this country, there that there's something that happens turning

777
01:03:33.400 --> 01:03:35.960
off part to your brain. When people get a driving

778
01:03:36.000 --> 01:03:40.280
license in this country, they get a part of the botomy,

779
01:03:41.119 --> 01:03:43.920
and what happens is they get a part of their

780
01:03:43.960 --> 01:03:48.800
brain removed, the I don't know the sensible part. That

781
01:03:48.960 --> 01:03:53.679
only really it activates when they're in the car. The

782
01:03:53.719 --> 01:03:57.000
rest of the time they're fine, but something happens. So

783
01:03:58.440 --> 01:04:05.440
they learn that red is stop, Green is go. Yellow

784
01:04:06.480 --> 01:04:09.079
depends on where you are. So if you're stopped at

785
01:04:09.079 --> 01:04:14.920
the traffic lights, yellow means prepare to go, and when

786
01:04:14.960 --> 01:04:17.159
it goes to green. So if you're on red yellow,

787
01:04:17.360 --> 01:04:21.480
prepared to go ready and when it goes to green,

788
01:04:21.559 --> 01:04:24.079
you can go. And if you're pulling up to traffic

789
01:04:24.159 --> 01:04:27.119
lights and it's on green, then it turns to yellow,

790
01:04:27.880 --> 01:04:32.599
prepare to stop, and it goes to red. Now you

791
01:04:32.639 --> 01:04:34.760
might drive up and not know what it is. It

792
01:04:34.840 --> 01:04:36.480
might just be on a yellow, so you don't know

793
01:04:36.760 --> 01:04:40.079
if it's about to stop or if it's about to go,

794
01:04:40.599 --> 01:04:45.159
so you slow down. You become very aware of it preparing.

795
01:04:47.000 --> 01:04:50.719
That's kind of what it's supposed to be, says the

796
01:04:50.760 --> 01:04:53.519
man that's never actually driven a car. I did add

797
01:04:53.559 --> 01:04:57.679
three driving lessons, so there. But what it turned into

798
01:04:58.679 --> 01:05:02.840
is in this country, the part of the brain it

799
01:05:02.840 --> 01:05:07.239
gets switched off when you get your driving license is

800
01:05:08.760 --> 01:05:16.800
you when you're driving up towards the traffic lights and

801
01:05:16.840 --> 01:05:21.000
it's on yellow. What that means to the person in

802
01:05:21.039 --> 01:05:26.039
their brain is speed up. Whether it's going to green

803
01:05:26.119 --> 01:05:28.039
or whether it's going to red. They don't know. If

804
01:05:28.039 --> 01:05:33.199
it's on yellow, speed up. That's what it means. If

805
01:05:33.199 --> 01:05:35.159
you're know any of the traffic lights. But if you

806
01:05:35.199 --> 01:05:39.880
see that, if you're sitting at the traffic lights and

807
01:05:39.920 --> 01:05:46.119
you've stopped because it's been on red, the yellow, instead

808
01:05:46.119 --> 01:05:51.599
of meaning prepare for green when you can start driving again,

809
01:05:52.800 --> 01:05:58.880
yellow means go to the driver's brain, so it goes

810
01:05:58.880 --> 01:06:01.880
from red to yellow, it means I can just go,

811
01:06:01.960 --> 01:06:04.039
and that's not what it means. It means prepared to go.

812
01:06:05.159 --> 01:06:08.559
You don't go yet until it goes to green. So

813
01:06:09.000 --> 01:06:12.599
something happens to driver's brains and it's weird. I just

814
01:06:12.639 --> 01:06:19.199
don't know what it is. It's I guess, it's just

815
01:06:21.480 --> 01:06:24.039
I don't know. I really I don't who knows, I

816
01:06:24.039 --> 01:06:31.000
don't know. There's a die down dial down technique. Visualize

817
01:06:31.039 --> 01:06:36.880
a controlled dial clearly marked earnestness. It was high, slowly

818
01:06:36.920 --> 01:06:41.519
and deliberately turned the dial down, feeling more playful, relaxed,

819
01:06:41.559 --> 01:06:45.679
and less serious of each reduction. So I've done the

820
01:06:45.800 --> 01:06:50.360
die down technique in the past quite probably quite a

821
01:06:50.360 --> 01:06:58.360
few times. But imagine if you just did do that

822
01:06:59.480 --> 01:07:04.800
with your level of seriousness, if you know, if that's

823
01:07:04.840 --> 01:07:12.199
the case, being able to relax because you know, I

824
01:07:12.239 --> 01:07:14.719
this is something I've said for years and years and years.

825
01:07:16.599 --> 01:07:19.719
When you're listening to me, they say, if you're lying

826
01:07:19.760 --> 01:07:24.199
down or you're sitting down, you're giving yourself half an hour,

827
01:07:24.400 --> 01:07:28.119
an hour, or whatever time it is to just take

828
01:07:28.159 --> 01:07:34.800
some time out and not care about anything. Don't take

829
01:07:34.840 --> 01:07:38.440
anything I say seriously because I'm just talking a load

830
01:07:38.440 --> 01:07:42.400
of rubbish. Most of the time. This is just time

831
01:07:42.440 --> 01:07:58.360
out from life and nothing matters right now. And I

832
01:07:58.599 --> 01:08:02.840
try to put this idea forward, and I know it's

833
01:08:03.320 --> 01:08:11.519
a weird or weird concept sometimes because I don't know

834
01:08:11.559 --> 01:08:15.239
if it might come across as me saying, you know,

835
01:08:15.719 --> 01:08:18.520
nothing in your life matters. And I'm not saying that

836
01:08:18.520 --> 01:08:22.159
that's a really ridiculous thing to say. I'm saying that,

837
01:08:22.880 --> 01:08:26.800
for the period of time that you're listening to my

838
01:08:27.039 --> 01:08:35.760
super exciting voice, take a break from that stuff that literally,

839
01:08:36.560 --> 01:08:46.279
don't care about anything nothing, whether it's illness, other people's illness,

840
01:08:48.119 --> 01:08:53.680
I'm talking anything, let everything go. If you're able to

841
01:08:53.720 --> 01:08:57.520
get into that zone of not caring but not in

842
01:08:57.560 --> 01:09:01.039
a way. Of course you still care, but you're taking

843
01:09:01.039 --> 01:09:06.239
a break from it. You're having to rest from it.

844
01:09:06.439 --> 01:09:12.560
And we all need to put stuff down sometimes. I

845
01:09:12.560 --> 01:09:17.359
mean talking from my own perspective. A few times over

846
01:09:17.359 --> 01:09:24.760
the years, I ended up carrying too much stuff like baggage, stress, tension.

847
01:09:25.640 --> 01:09:28.960
It made me ill to the point where I couldn't

848
01:09:28.960 --> 01:09:33.359
function and I lost my job. It happened three times

849
01:09:33.680 --> 01:09:36.680
four It happened three times officially, but it happened in

850
01:09:36.720 --> 01:09:39.119
the past, when I was younger, I just didn't really

851
01:09:39.119 --> 01:09:42.800
know what was going on. I kind of a little

852
01:09:42.800 --> 01:09:47.119
bit more clued up about what's happening now. And I

853
01:09:47.119 --> 01:09:51.359
had to drop everything. And it was a case of

854
01:09:51.439 --> 01:09:57.800
like I was not so much juggling, but carrying such

855
01:09:57.840 --> 01:10:02.920
a heavy weight of different things, to the point where

856
01:10:06.520 --> 01:10:09.239
if I just had to let them go. But if

857
01:10:09.239 --> 01:10:15.159
i'd have taken a break, as this lady the other day,

858
01:10:15.359 --> 01:10:20.560
that reminds me. I can't remember the toffee, the toffee thing,

859
01:10:20.840 --> 01:10:26.640
but that chocolate. I embarrassed myself so badly. But anyway,

860
01:10:26.640 --> 01:10:28.399
this woman, I saw her again. I think today it

861
01:10:28.520 --> 01:10:32.079
was yesterday, but a couple of days ago, me and

862
01:10:32.159 --> 01:10:36.399
Vinnie were in the park. We see this lady with

863
01:10:36.520 --> 01:10:40.079
these two big, massive bags. They were bigger than she was,

864
01:10:40.119 --> 01:10:46.039
both of them, and the bags weren't on wheels, but

865
01:10:46.119 --> 01:10:48.760
she was no, I don't know. She was struggling with

866
01:10:48.800 --> 01:10:54.479
the bags. She put them down, and I think she

867
01:10:54.560 --> 01:10:57.680
was looking at her hands. See see it's obviously she

868
01:10:57.760 --> 01:11:03.880
was struggling with the bags. So after I stopped laughing,

869
01:11:04.479 --> 01:11:09.840
I went over to help her, and you know, Vinnie

870
01:11:09.840 --> 01:11:11.359
had to pick me off the floor because I found

871
01:11:11.359 --> 01:11:14.239
it so funny. I didn't I didn't laugh blind me,

872
01:11:15.159 --> 01:11:18.720
so I went over. This is kind of a bit silly.

873
01:11:18.720 --> 01:11:20.479
I went over to help her, but I always like

874
01:11:20.520 --> 01:11:25.079
the other side of the park, and I was shouting, well,

875
01:11:25.319 --> 01:11:28.279
calling out aloud, not shouting, shouting because I do. I

876
01:11:28.319 --> 01:11:30.359
do have a very loud voice from a shout, so

877
01:11:30.399 --> 01:11:37.720
I don't shout, but like, excuse me, excuse me, bag lady.

878
01:11:38.479 --> 01:11:40.840
I realized that probably wasn't a good thing to shout out,

879
01:11:41.159 --> 01:11:47.399
lady with the bags, excuse me, wiggy. No, I didn't

880
01:11:47.399 --> 01:11:49.560
shout that, but I just like I was trying to

881
01:11:49.560 --> 01:11:54.399
get her attention, but she wasn't hearing me, and I'm like,

882
01:11:56.640 --> 01:11:58.600
it seemed like the closer I got to her, the

883
01:11:58.640 --> 01:12:01.720
further she got away one of those visual weird things

884
01:12:01.760 --> 01:12:05.319
you know that you see on strange movies and cartoons,

885
01:12:05.319 --> 01:12:08.680
and that I couldn't catch up to her by walking.

886
01:12:10.119 --> 01:12:16.439
But I didn't want to run because I've heard comments

887
01:12:16.479 --> 01:12:19.800
about what I look like when I run. Another dog

888
01:12:19.840 --> 01:12:24.359
walker told me I've seen you run, and I thought, wow,

889
01:12:25.000 --> 01:12:27.439
you kept that hidden in your pocket. So I was

890
01:12:27.479 --> 01:12:29.279
making fun of her, and she said, oh, I've seen

891
01:12:29.319 --> 01:12:33.920
you run, and like she was holding onto that one

892
01:12:33.960 --> 01:12:38.840
for a rainy day got me right back. I guess

893
01:12:38.840 --> 01:12:45.159
I run a little bit like I probably run the

894
01:12:45.199 --> 01:12:48.000
way I looked like I run, So if you was

895
01:12:48.079 --> 01:12:52.520
to see me, you just looked at me. That's how

896
01:12:52.560 --> 01:12:57.319
I run. Yes, it's not necessarily a good thing, so

897
01:12:57.359 --> 01:13:01.159
I'm walking really fast. Eventually she puts the bags down

898
01:13:03.640 --> 01:13:06.279
and I say, excuse me, hello. I didn't want to

899
01:13:06.319 --> 01:13:09.000
tap her on the shoulder. I didn't well, I didn't

900
01:13:09.000 --> 01:13:10.680
want to touch. I don't want to touch anyone, but

901
01:13:10.720 --> 01:13:14.159
I don't want to startle or anything. I couldn't get

902
01:13:14.159 --> 01:13:17.359
in front of her because the two bags were there

903
01:13:18.439 --> 01:13:20.199
blocking the whole thing, and there was a car to

904
01:13:20.239 --> 01:13:25.000
the side of us. I couldn't get around, and luckily

905
01:13:25.039 --> 01:13:29.520
she turned around and said hello. She said what I said,

906
01:13:29.840 --> 01:13:31.640
Are you're okay? He said, it's God to do with you.

907
01:13:32.680 --> 01:13:34.199
I said, I wonder if you need a So. You

908
01:13:34.199 --> 01:13:37.159
look like you're struggling with the bags. She said, looks

909
01:13:37.159 --> 01:13:41.159
like you're struggling with your Belly's like, Wow, this isn't

910
01:13:41.159 --> 01:13:44.560
going how I thought it would go. I said, do

911
01:13:44.560 --> 01:13:47.600
you want me to give you a hand? She said,

912
01:13:47.960 --> 01:13:50.319
give me a hand? What do you mean, I said,

913
01:13:50.359 --> 01:13:53.119
you want me to carry the bags for you? She said,

914
01:13:53.119 --> 01:13:55.000
doesn't look like you'd be able to carry anything. I

915
01:13:55.000 --> 01:13:56.560
don't think even if I empty the bags, you'd be

916
01:13:56.600 --> 01:14:01.520
able to carry the empty bags. You're so weak. Okay,

917
01:14:01.600 --> 01:14:05.640
none of this happened, but that is what Vinnie is

918
01:14:05.680 --> 01:14:11.159
telling people. He lies all the time. He's things happened

919
01:14:11.159 --> 01:14:14.720
because we have such a boring life. He has to

920
01:14:14.760 --> 01:14:18.079
make stuff up. So he's when he when he meets

921
01:14:18.119 --> 01:14:21.199
up with Archie. I heard him the other day like

922
01:14:21.880 --> 01:14:24.439
he sees Archie. This is Archie's mom that was making

923
01:14:24.439 --> 01:14:29.720
fun of me walking running and stuff. And they were

924
01:14:29.800 --> 01:14:32.319
just he was off, he was on the lead, but

925
01:14:32.359 --> 01:14:33.960
I was talking to his mum and they were just

926
01:14:34.079 --> 01:14:36.880
like taking turns urinating on each other, which is weird.

927
01:14:37.720 --> 01:14:44.880
They literally do do that. And I heard Archie. Archie

928
01:14:44.960 --> 01:14:48.880
said stuff like, so, what's he been up to this week?

929
01:14:49.560 --> 01:14:54.600
I thought, what, what's who's been up to? And then

930
01:14:54.640 --> 01:14:58.960
he and then he said to him we had some chocolate.

931
01:14:59.640 --> 01:15:03.159
M you wouldn't believe what happened. He just had two

932
01:15:03.159 --> 01:15:07.840
bits of chocolate. It was melted chocolate, and I thought eight.

933
01:15:08.520 --> 01:15:13.439
Then he stopped stop talking about me? Why are you

934
01:15:13.479 --> 01:15:16.159
telling him? He said, because you need to tell the story.

935
01:15:16.199 --> 01:15:18.520
You've been talking about it. You keep mentioning it, but

936
01:15:18.560 --> 01:15:21.000
you haven't actually told that story about the chocolate yet.

937
01:15:21.239 --> 01:15:24.640
And how you go embarrassed? You know, you can't keep

938
01:15:24.680 --> 01:15:28.479
putting it off. You've been talking for about three hours now,

939
01:15:29.600 --> 01:15:33.119
and besides, this is supposed to be you know, let

940
01:15:33.159 --> 01:15:36.399
me boil your pain away. You've just been talking about

941
01:15:36.479 --> 01:15:42.000
absolute rubbish for the last seven hours. So it's gone

942
01:15:42.079 --> 01:15:47.920
up from three hours to seven hours. Yeah, including this conversation,

943
01:15:48.359 --> 01:15:55.279
it's probably about nine hours. I said, Look, they kind

944
01:15:55.319 --> 01:15:57.319
of speak, can you. I said, yes, I can speak

945
01:15:57.840 --> 01:16:01.560
sometimes I have a bit of a stutter. He laughed,

946
01:16:01.760 --> 01:16:06.720
which I think is rude. And I said, look, the

947
01:16:06.800 --> 01:16:11.039
fact is, I said to him, look, there's more did

948
01:16:11.039 --> 01:16:14.600
you do consider than maybe even though it just seems

949
01:16:14.680 --> 01:16:19.880
like I'm talking about random things that possibly some of

950
01:16:19.960 --> 01:16:24.880
this might be useful at the very least as a

951
01:16:24.920 --> 01:16:35.079
distraction technique and maybe relaxation and stuff like that, He said, no,

952
01:16:36.680 --> 01:16:37.079
why not?

953
01:16:38.239 --> 01:16:38.479
Why?

954
01:16:38.840 --> 01:16:42.439
I said, Look, you've lived here for two years and

955
01:16:42.800 --> 01:16:47.359
what four or five months, nearly nearly two years, over

956
01:16:47.399 --> 01:16:53.039
two years and four months and for eight so two

957
01:16:53.079 --> 01:16:58.640
and a third years. Why did you say no to

958
01:16:58.720 --> 01:17:01.880
that question? You don't think that maybe I know that,

959
01:17:01.960 --> 01:17:04.479
maybe you know that I know what I'm doing? He

960
01:17:04.520 --> 01:17:07.960
said no. I said why not? He said, because my dog.

961
01:17:09.800 --> 01:17:14.520
That's fair enough. Why you're having a conversation with a dog.

962
01:17:17.800 --> 01:17:25.800
I had no answer for him. Movie screen reframe it's

963
01:17:25.840 --> 01:17:30.560
another thing. Imagine you're watching yourself behaving earnestly on a

964
01:17:30.760 --> 01:17:35.680
cinema screen. Then playfully change the film. We play serious

965
01:17:35.720 --> 01:17:41.800
scenes with humorous, playful interactions, shifting your emotional response to

966
01:17:41.880 --> 01:17:48.520
laughter or gentle amusement. I think sometimes just remembering something

967
01:17:48.520 --> 01:17:54.199
that happened that was funny. Is you know something you

968
01:17:54.319 --> 01:17:57.319
see on TV, or something you're seeing in a movie,

969
01:17:57.439 --> 01:18:04.119
or something you heard someone say, and just remembering it,

970
01:18:04.119 --> 01:18:06.479
it can just be funny. It changes because when you

971
01:18:06.560 --> 01:18:11.920
laugh or if you find something humorous, it changes how

972
01:18:11.960 --> 01:18:16.279
you feel. It changes for all of us, you know. So,

973
01:18:20.199 --> 01:18:23.680
there's a mirror smile technique. Imagine yourself standing in front

974
01:18:23.720 --> 01:18:28.399
of a mirror looking overly, earnest then gradually see your

975
01:18:28.439 --> 01:18:33.399
reflection breaking into a warm, spontaneous smile. Feel the ease

976
01:18:33.439 --> 01:18:39.640
and enjoy this springs as seriousness dissolves naturally. It sounds

977
01:18:39.640 --> 01:18:43.159
a horror movie. So you look at in the mirror

978
01:18:43.680 --> 01:18:47.960
and your reflection starts laughing at you. Wow, Okay, I

979
01:18:48.000 --> 01:18:52.159
mean that that's a bit freaky. I mean it might

980
01:18:52.199 --> 01:18:57.039
be really good, but that would I would definitely be

981
01:18:57.880 --> 01:19:03.039
wondering what was being put in my drink. I shouldn't

982
01:19:03.079 --> 01:19:09.560
be making fun of the techniques, but yeah, I think

983
01:19:09.720 --> 01:19:15.399
sometimes there's a technique of it's an old It's not

984
01:19:15.479 --> 01:19:21.159
my technique, it's an old technique where if you if

985
01:19:21.159 --> 01:19:27.560
there was an incident that you struggled thinking about because

986
01:19:27.560 --> 01:19:32.119
it's just like an interaction, a verbal interaction at work,

987
01:19:32.239 --> 01:19:39.039
or something that's just just left an unpleasant feeling, you

988
01:19:39.079 --> 01:19:43.039
can kind of have that memory. But then you know,

989
01:19:43.119 --> 01:19:45.239
say it's your boss telling you off or having a

990
01:19:45.319 --> 01:19:52.560
go at you, or you can imagine behind them like

991
01:19:52.680 --> 01:20:01.279
a mermaid dancing behind them, or like all the other managers,

992
01:20:01.359 --> 01:20:04.840
just like doing a little strip tease behind your manager

993
01:20:05.119 --> 01:20:08.640
when he's being so serious and or you're like just

994
01:20:08.920 --> 01:20:11.920
something silly like that. I mean, you can you can

995
01:20:11.960 --> 01:20:14.560
be extreme with it as well, make it even funnier,

996
01:20:15.199 --> 01:20:19.119
don't make yeah, something that makes you laugh, But or

997
01:20:19.199 --> 01:20:29.319
you can just imagine that maybe they've just but you know,

998
01:20:29.600 --> 01:20:34.079
partially naked that in a way that they didn't realize.

999
01:20:34.159 --> 01:20:41.159
Maybe there's it was undone and you know, it could

1000
01:20:41.199 --> 01:20:47.119
be anything, just if it makes you laugh. Or imagine

1001
01:20:47.159 --> 01:20:54.319
them with maybe every time they talk, a piece of

1002
01:20:54.399 --> 01:21:00.439
carrot falls on the floor, piece of broccoli, bits of food,

1003
01:21:00.920 --> 01:21:03.600
so there's like this big pile of food on the

1004
01:21:03.680 --> 01:21:06.279
floor in front of them as it falls out of

1005
01:21:06.319 --> 01:21:11.560
their mouth whenever they talk, or maybe every time they

1006
01:21:11.600 --> 01:21:16.560
talk they just shrink, so the more they moan, the

1007
01:21:16.680 --> 01:21:22.079
smaller they get and their voice starts to get squeaky.

1008
01:21:22.239 --> 01:21:26.399
You know, Just little things like that, And imagine a friendly,

1009
01:21:26.479 --> 01:21:30.319
humorous version of yourself, a comedian or playful inner guide

1010
01:21:30.840 --> 01:21:36.359
who whispers humorous comments into your mind during earnest moments

1011
01:21:36.600 --> 01:21:42.119
make it impossible to remain overly serious. I've had this

1012
01:21:42.199 --> 01:21:50.600
in the past at the really wrong times and where

1013
01:21:50.720 --> 01:21:56.439
I just I've just been thinking about the wrong thing,

1014
01:21:58.640 --> 01:22:07.079
and it it's weird. It's kind of say, definitely changes

1015
01:22:07.119 --> 01:22:12.560
how you feel if you start like just it's kind

1016
01:22:12.600 --> 01:22:17.239
of just whispering to yourself, Like even if it's if

1017
01:22:17.239 --> 01:22:19.920
someone's saying something to you and is all this goodness

1018
01:22:20.000 --> 01:22:26.119
blah blah blah blah blah blah, and or you imagine

1019
01:22:26.199 --> 01:22:28.840
like just like, I'll bet you need a big poo,

1020
01:22:28.920 --> 01:22:33.680
don't you. Or you can imagine what they're thinking while

1021
01:22:33.680 --> 01:22:37.119
they're talking. You know, it's like if it's an interaction,

1022
01:22:37.199 --> 01:22:40.399
I mean, but you can imagine they're thinking to themselves

1023
01:22:41.800 --> 01:22:47.720
or or you know, whatever it could be. I wish

1024
01:22:47.760 --> 01:22:54.399
I hadn't had that last cup of coffee and they're

1025
01:22:54.399 --> 01:22:58.319
needing to go to the toilet. Or maybe they've just

1026
01:22:58.479 --> 01:23:01.600
realized that they're left the big damp patch on their

1027
01:23:01.640 --> 01:23:06.960
trousers and I'm hoping that no one notices it, but

1028
01:23:07.119 --> 01:23:12.760
you notice it. So yeah, there's a soap bubble Technique's this?

1029
01:23:14.039 --> 01:23:15.520
I mean, it's going to have something to do with

1030
01:23:15.680 --> 01:23:24.520
bobbing popping bubbles. Visualize your earnest thoughts encased with soapy bubbles.

1031
01:23:24.960 --> 01:23:28.960
Gently pop each bubble, experiencing the release of seriousness as

1032
01:23:29.039 --> 01:23:36.520
each pops, replaced by calmness, ease, and gentle amusement. Ah.

1033
01:23:37.159 --> 01:23:39.279
I mean, I'm not quite sure what soap is, but

1034
01:23:39.479 --> 01:23:43.000
I have to look that one up. A feather touch

1035
01:23:43.199 --> 01:23:48.439
technique Picture a feather, a feather, a feather, gently brushing

1036
01:23:48.479 --> 01:23:53.439
away seriousness from your forehead, shoulders, and chest, softly sweeping

1037
01:23:53.520 --> 01:23:57.880
earnestness away, leaving you feeling light, freeer and gently amused.

1038
01:24:00.439 --> 01:24:03.439
I mean, when I call that woman. The lady caught

1039
01:24:03.520 --> 01:24:06.039
up with her and just said, look, I'm not trying to,

1040
01:24:07.319 --> 01:24:09.439
you know, I'm just going to. I saw you as

1041
01:24:09.479 --> 01:24:12.279
struggling with your bags. Can I help you pick them

1042
01:24:12.720 --> 01:24:15.560
and carry them? And she said, okay, thank you. I

1043
01:24:15.560 --> 01:24:18.479
said you're going to have to take Vinido because I can't.

1044
01:24:18.479 --> 01:24:22.600
I can't do both. And she said, I forget it then,

1045
01:24:22.960 --> 01:24:25.800
and she didn't see she took and I said, can

1046
01:24:25.800 --> 01:24:27.319
you keep it on a Can you keep them on

1047
01:24:27.319 --> 01:24:29.199
a short lead? Though, because it's got a habit trying

1048
01:24:29.199 --> 01:24:32.600
to run in the road. She said, this is getting

1049
01:24:32.720 --> 01:24:35.600
more this is this more problematic than carrying the bags?

1050
01:24:36.079 --> 01:24:38.880
And how many more rules are there? I said, no

1051
01:24:38.920 --> 01:24:42.760
more rules, that's it. So we cheerfully walked back to

1052
01:24:42.800 --> 01:24:44.359
where she lives. She lives at the end of the road.

1053
01:24:44.880 --> 01:24:47.399
I didn't know where she lived, but I was thankful

1054
01:24:47.439 --> 01:24:53.560
it wasn't too far. And that was it, really, And

1055
01:24:53.600 --> 01:24:58.560
I thought, what if only I had done what she did?

1056
01:24:59.760 --> 01:25:04.880
Is she carried the bags. I think she carried too much.

1057
01:25:05.199 --> 01:25:09.479
She had too much to carry, and I don't think

1058
01:25:09.520 --> 01:25:14.199
that was particularly good. She's fairly elderly, I don't know

1059
01:25:14.399 --> 01:25:18.399
age wise, maybe in her seventies, elderly, I don't know

1060
01:25:18.479 --> 01:25:22.560
that's the right word anymore. But she's probably possibly carrying

1061
01:25:22.600 --> 01:25:27.159
too much because they were heavy. They were heavy bags,

1062
01:25:29.239 --> 01:25:32.960
but she was putting them down, having arrest, then carrying them,

1063
01:25:33.199 --> 01:25:40.439
then putting them down. I think someone that takes themselves

1064
01:25:40.439 --> 01:25:45.479
seriously perhaps has a tendency of carrying those bags and

1065
01:25:45.600 --> 01:25:52.439
keep adding more and won't put them down, refusing to

1066
01:25:52.439 --> 01:25:58.600
put them down until they have no choice. So that

1067
01:25:58.720 --> 01:26:02.199
happened to me a few times, where instead of just

1068
01:26:02.279 --> 01:26:05.960
putting the bags down, having a break and taking a

1069
01:26:06.039 --> 01:26:10.600
rest from caring about anything, which again I said, it's

1070
01:26:10.840 --> 01:26:17.159
a weird concept to not care for a period of time,

1071
01:26:17.319 --> 01:26:21.800
not care about anyone, not care about anything, including yourself,

1072
01:26:22.159 --> 01:26:26.119
including your loved ones, including the day, including your job,

1073
01:26:26.239 --> 01:26:31.199
including where you live, including your health, anything, letting go

1074
01:26:31.239 --> 01:26:34.359
of all that stuff just through a period of time.

1075
01:26:37.319 --> 01:26:43.239
And when you do that, there's some freedom there and

1076
01:26:43.439 --> 01:26:49.319
things like you physically, you just feel relaxed. There's nowhere else.

1077
01:26:49.479 --> 01:26:53.319
There's no other way to feel because it's free, it's freeing.

1078
01:26:58.039 --> 01:27:00.720
But then the benefit of when you go back, you know,

1079
01:27:00.800 --> 01:27:03.239
when you like, I say, go back, but when the

1080
01:27:03.319 --> 01:27:07.439
recordings finished, or the session's finished, whether it's listening to

1081
01:27:07.479 --> 01:27:09.560
me or whether it's it could be doing yoga, it

1082
01:27:09.600 --> 01:27:12.039
could be doing meditation, it could be just going for

1083
01:27:12.079 --> 01:27:16.920
a nice walk, anything where you can just move everything

1084
01:27:16.920 --> 01:27:20.960
else away and ignore that, take a break from that stuff,

1085
01:27:21.079 --> 01:27:25.680
just don't care about it for a while, and let

1086
01:27:25.800 --> 01:27:28.560
go of any guilt that you might have about not

1087
01:27:28.680 --> 01:27:30.840
caring about it. You've also got to not care about

1088
01:27:30.840 --> 01:27:37.159
the guilt because ultimately you don't really you're not really

1089
01:27:37.199 --> 01:27:40.359
not caring. Of course you still care, but you're letting

1090
01:27:40.399 --> 01:27:45.359
it go. You're having a break from it. You know,

1091
01:27:45.439 --> 01:27:47.199
it's the same way as you don't eat when you're

1092
01:27:47.239 --> 01:27:51.279
on a toilet. The two don't really go together. Well though,

1093
01:27:51.279 --> 01:27:54.119
the process is kind of the beginning and ending of

1094
01:27:54.159 --> 01:28:00.479
the process, but you know, it's two separate things. So

1095
01:28:00.479 --> 01:28:02.439
they may say, how does everything seems to come back

1096
01:28:02.479 --> 01:28:06.680
to pooing with you, doesn't it? I said no, And

1097
01:28:06.680 --> 01:28:08.439
then I think about it and like, yeah, it does things.

1098
01:28:08.479 --> 01:28:13.319
It doesn't it. Oh, well, you've got the laughing stream.

1099
01:28:13.760 --> 01:28:20.960
Imagine stepping into a warm, clear stream stream. Imagine okay,

1100
01:28:21.479 --> 01:28:27.079
clear stream whose water contains laughter, joy, and playfulness. Feel

1101
01:28:27.399 --> 01:28:37.079
earnestly being washed away, effortlessly replaced by a joyful, carefree attitude.

1102
01:28:40.039 --> 01:28:44.159
I mean, I think that's part that can be a

1103
01:28:44.199 --> 01:28:48.800
benefit of dressing up. And I know I've heard that

1104
01:28:48.920 --> 01:28:52.760
quite a few people dress up, like dressing up or

1105
01:28:53.159 --> 01:28:57.239
maybe acting, doing drama, taking on a different role because

1106
01:28:57.279 --> 01:29:03.439
they have a break from themselves. Maybe at the weekend,

1107
01:29:03.479 --> 01:29:06.640
I'll go out and there'll be a different person, or

1108
01:29:06.640 --> 01:29:12.600
maybe even moving to a different place, a new job.

1109
01:29:14.520 --> 01:29:18.159
It's almost that you get a chance to reinvent yourself.

1110
01:29:23.399 --> 01:29:27.079
So oh so before I go, I've got to tell

1111
01:29:27.079 --> 01:29:32.600
you that story about the chocolate. This is just so embarrassing, right,

1112
01:29:34.920 --> 01:29:40.479
my friend opposite needs his stuff removed, and he's sort

1113
01:29:40.479 --> 01:29:44.199
of like got fridge. She's got I think the freezing

1114
01:29:44.239 --> 01:29:47.319
easygo because it's it's rusty on the outside. And he's

1115
01:29:47.319 --> 01:29:50.399
now just got this brand new kitchen in he said,

1116
01:29:50.439 --> 01:29:56.439
all but it works. Yeah, but just because it works

1117
01:29:56.520 --> 01:30:00.199
doesn't mean you need to keep it. I mean, it's

1118
01:30:00.359 --> 01:30:05.439
it's probably about thirty years old, and it's rusty. It's

1119
01:30:05.479 --> 01:30:10.720
literally rusty on the outside. It's awful, and I'm not

1120
01:30:10.720 --> 01:30:12.840
sure how safe it is either if it's that old.

1121
01:30:14.119 --> 01:30:18.960
But we've organized for him to get a new but

1122
01:30:19.600 --> 01:30:23.239
it's a second anthriage, but from Del Boy, who's another

1123
01:30:23.319 --> 01:30:26.640
neighbor who buys and sells stuff. So he's got it

1124
01:30:26.640 --> 01:30:31.000
in his garage. So we're going to get that when

1125
01:30:31.359 --> 01:30:36.399
the kitchen's finished in a couple of weeks. So I'm

1126
01:30:36.479 --> 01:30:44.239
going I go for a walk. I said the word

1127
01:30:44.840 --> 01:30:50.399
I took Vinnie out, so yes, I had the chocolate. Anyway,

1128
01:30:50.760 --> 01:30:55.640
I'm finishing what I'm doing. I go out, take him

1129
01:30:55.680 --> 01:30:58.359
out and just walk around. I must have been out

1130
01:30:58.359 --> 01:31:01.439
for about I don't know how for an hour. He

1131
01:31:01.560 --> 01:31:09.359
was just smelling the grass as he does normally. Did

1132
01:31:09.399 --> 01:31:10.199
I see anyone?

1133
01:31:10.199 --> 01:31:10.279
Oh?

1134
01:31:10.359 --> 01:31:12.960
Yeah, I saw there was one man that said a

1135
01:31:12.960 --> 01:31:16.720
load to him, and he actually said thank you for

1136
01:31:16.840 --> 01:31:23.359
stopping and talking to me, so that was nice. And

1137
01:31:23.399 --> 01:31:25.000
then he said, why are you holding your hand out?

1138
01:31:25.039 --> 01:31:30.199
I said money. You don't get a conversation with me

1139
01:31:30.279 --> 01:31:36.279
for nothing. It is I charge a pound a minute.

1140
01:31:36.560 --> 01:31:40.880
We laughed, and I saw a cut. I think I

1141
01:31:41.039 --> 01:31:47.880
saw another dog owner. Wasn't a lot going on. Actually,

1142
01:31:51.159 --> 01:31:55.359
I took my hat off, so I have my hat on,

1143
01:31:55.479 --> 01:31:57.159
but it was too warm to have my hat on.

1144
01:31:58.920 --> 01:32:03.359
The thing is I roughly remembered saying that to somebody

1145
01:32:04.199 --> 01:32:06.239
that I had my hat on, but then I took

1146
01:32:06.279 --> 01:32:10.119
it off because it was warm. I don't know who

1147
01:32:10.199 --> 01:32:14.359
it was. Anyway, we come back. He did a did

1148
01:32:14.560 --> 01:32:18.199
he went to a toilet, got rid of that and

1149
01:32:19.840 --> 01:32:23.199
picked it up, used the bag this time, less washing,

1150
01:32:23.399 --> 01:32:32.279
less soap, you know, And so get back and I think,

1151
01:32:32.319 --> 01:32:41.119
I'm just on the way upstairs, and I see the

1152
01:32:41.119 --> 01:32:45.359
the person that takes the rubbish like he's like a

1153
01:32:46.319 --> 01:32:49.199
it's certainly like take stuff and pick stuff up for

1154
01:32:49.239 --> 01:32:53.319
people in that, you know, big things and stuff. And

1155
01:32:53.439 --> 01:32:55.359
I asked him about because I spoke to him before,

1156
01:32:55.399 --> 01:32:57.239
and I said, is there any can you help with

1157
01:32:57.279 --> 01:33:00.840
the with my friend's stuff? So we said a couple

1158
01:33:00.840 --> 01:33:03.359
of weeks time, So I arranged that with him, and

1159
01:33:03.720 --> 01:33:08.960
I said it may just give me a knock, and

1160
01:33:09.079 --> 01:33:11.960
then I said not now I'm not in my head,

1161
01:33:12.760 --> 01:33:16.079
So he's okay. So I went went not gave my

1162
01:33:17.000 --> 01:33:21.079
neighbor knock and said, here's what's going on. You see

1163
01:33:21.119 --> 01:33:24.000
you down there, I said, if you come out and

1164
01:33:24.000 --> 01:33:27.279
just look at that van. He spent about ten minutes

1165
01:33:27.760 --> 01:33:32.680
step coming out of the door. I don't know why

1166
01:33:32.720 --> 01:33:35.760
he spent so. I know he's nearly eighty, but he

1167
01:33:35.880 --> 01:33:40.359
really it's almost like you're moving him really slowly on

1168
01:33:40.399 --> 01:33:45.479
purpose there. I mean it was like super slow. Me

1169
01:33:45.640 --> 01:33:50.119
guaranteed if I said to him, oh, the chip vans

1170
01:33:50.159 --> 01:34:00.159
out there, he'd have moved super fast. Anyway. The I

1171
01:34:00.319 --> 01:34:04.279
just explained to him what's going to happen that I've

1172
01:34:04.359 --> 01:34:06.399
organized for him to have the old stuff that he's

1173
01:34:06.439 --> 01:34:08.319
got a cooker as well that he doesn't use that's

1174
01:34:08.359 --> 01:34:12.800
going out. The new is old. All this has been

1175
01:34:12.800 --> 01:34:15.079
there for a long long time. He's got the same

1176
01:34:15.079 --> 01:34:18.199
cooker as me, really, and he's got a fridge that's

1177
01:34:18.239 --> 01:34:20.000
going to go into the same gap as where the

1178
01:34:20.039 --> 01:34:24.279
cooker was because he uses the air fryer, doesn't need

1179
01:34:24.560 --> 01:34:33.199
doesn't need a cooker. So I do that and like, okay,

1180
01:34:33.239 --> 01:34:36.359
everything's fine. He wants to talk about golf, and I'm like, no,

1181
01:34:36.840 --> 01:34:41.239
I can't talk about golf because I showed a bit

1182
01:34:41.279 --> 01:34:44.279
of interest in golf, and he just he thinks I

1183
01:34:44.439 --> 01:34:47.359
like golf. I don't. I don't dislike any sport. I'm

1184
01:34:47.399 --> 01:34:52.520
just only interested in boxing. It's the only one I've got, seriously,

1185
01:34:52.560 --> 01:34:58.239
no interest in any other sport. You know, boxing I

1186
01:34:58.319 --> 01:35:03.359
know about. That's the only sport I really know about.

1187
01:35:03.600 --> 01:35:06.439
That I know quite a bit about, and I've been

1188
01:35:06.439 --> 01:35:12.039
following it since I was a kid. So anyway, I

1189
01:35:12.159 --> 01:35:23.600
get indoors. I think the delivery comes, so I've ordered

1190
01:35:23.640 --> 01:35:27.079
the delivery before I went out. I go back and

1191
01:35:27.159 --> 01:35:33.720
sit down. The delivery comes, and so I walk outside.

1192
01:35:33.840 --> 01:35:36.039
Oh no, this is what happens. No, I got it

1193
01:35:36.039 --> 01:35:40.159
the wrong way around. I came upstairs. The delivery comes,

1194
01:35:40.520 --> 01:35:43.520
I didn't go downstairs help with the delivery. Then I

1195
01:35:43.600 --> 01:35:47.840
see the person outside speak to him about the fridge

1196
01:35:48.000 --> 01:35:52.239
because I had uber it's deliver me some groceries. And

1197
01:35:52.319 --> 01:35:55.800
then I knocked on my friends at the neighbor's door,

1198
01:35:56.279 --> 01:35:58.640
explain to him what's going on. Two weeks time. They'll

1199
01:35:58.640 --> 01:36:01.960
take that stuff and all that and then we'll come in.

1200
01:36:02.319 --> 01:36:05.800
Then we Then I came into my flat put the

1201
01:36:05.840 --> 01:36:11.159
stuff away. Finny he had some treats. He loves them. Yeah,

1202
01:36:11.199 --> 01:36:13.199
you heard the word treats, didn't you sign mate? I

1203
01:36:13.239 --> 01:36:18.520
shouldn't be saying that. And then I came with treats

1204
01:36:18.560 --> 01:36:21.319
and I sit down and I thought, oh, I need

1205
01:36:21.319 --> 01:36:24.600
a wei wei. So I go into the into the bathroom,

1206
01:36:24.880 --> 01:36:28.600
go into the kitchen. Wow, I nearly said that did night.

1207
01:36:28.680 --> 01:36:28.720
No.

1208
01:36:28.800 --> 01:36:32.279
I went to the bathroom and did did a we

1209
01:36:32.279 --> 01:36:37.760
wie wash my hands, and I mean that's quite often

1210
01:36:37.760 --> 01:36:39.800
I do. I just was look in the mirror and

1211
01:36:39.880 --> 01:36:45.439
just feel sorry for myself for a few minutes. I

1212
01:36:45.439 --> 01:36:48.199
couldn't leave what I saw. There was toffee sticking out

1213
01:36:48.319 --> 01:36:51.800
my beard, all over my bed from the the caramel

1214
01:36:53.319 --> 01:36:57.680
Cabri's dairy milk caramel so the the caramel midd or whatever.

1215
01:36:57.680 --> 01:37:01.239
It was sticking in my bed because my beer is

1216
01:37:01.279 --> 01:37:03.520
now too long to even feel it, so it wasn't

1217
01:37:03.520 --> 01:37:06.199
against my skin, but it was just all dripping down.

1218
01:37:10.479 --> 01:37:14.840
I couldn't believe it. I was walking around with that

1219
01:37:15.079 --> 01:37:23.800
on my chin for the last hour. I've been embarrassed

1220
01:37:23.800 --> 01:37:32.520
before many times, many many, many times, but this this

1221
01:37:32.760 --> 01:37:43.239
was yeah, this was wrong. It was just just anyway,

1222
01:37:45.239 --> 01:37:48.880
that's it. Really. I hope this has been mildly helpful.

1223
01:37:49.720 --> 01:37:51.720
I can't see how it would be, but if it was,

1224
01:37:51.760 --> 01:37:55.760
then good, If it wasn't. Then I hope it was.

1225
01:37:57.000 --> 01:37:59.039
I got no idea how long I was talking for.

1226
01:37:59.720 --> 01:38:02.840
It seems like a long time, but then in a

1227
01:38:02.880 --> 01:38:07.720
way it doesn't. Should we have a look? One hour

1228
01:38:07.760 --> 01:38:10.960
and over an hour and a half, I've been talking

1229
01:38:11.159 --> 01:38:21.119
below me. So I'm going to go vinnya another t

1230
01:38:21.279 --> 01:38:24.239
R e e e e e e e e e

1231
01:38:24.239 --> 01:38:30.760
e T. And that's that's it for me for now.

1232
01:38:31.479 --> 01:38:34.800
So thank you for listening. Remember to be kind to yourself,

1233
01:38:34.880 --> 01:38:37.880
because you do deserve to be happy. A be gentle

1234
01:38:37.920 --> 01:38:44.680
with yourself. Notice how the way you feel has changed

1235
01:38:44.800 --> 01:38:49.439
since you started listening to this. And if this is

1236
01:38:49.600 --> 01:38:55.319
useful and it helps beneficial, maybe let me know lot

1237
01:38:55.359 --> 01:39:02.279
other people know share the love man, just I sometimes

1238
01:39:02.319 --> 01:39:06.600
think that it's almost like on people's dirty little secret.

1239
01:39:07.199 --> 01:39:08.920
You know, they found me on a weird part of

1240
01:39:08.960 --> 01:39:11.640
the internet. It's like that I's not telling anyone else.

1241
01:39:14.880 --> 01:39:20.159
I wonder if you were embarrassed about me. I don't know. Anyway,

1242
01:39:20.199 --> 01:39:26.199
Thanks for listening, and I will be back again soon.

1243
01:39:28.279 --> 01:39:43.399
Take care, lots of love, bye. Relax in a more

1244
01:39:44.399 --> 01:39:54.479
deep and meaningful way, maybe in a way that can

1245
01:39:56.000 --> 01:40:05.319
not just allow you to feel calmer now and throughout

1246
01:40:06.359 --> 01:40:15.520
the time we've spend together here, not just relaxed at

1247
01:40:15.520 --> 01:40:19.720
the end of the recording when it's finished and you

1248
01:40:19.760 --> 01:40:30.119
can enjoy that sense of comfort and peace, but also

1249
01:40:37.640 --> 01:40:44.119
I think it would be nice to have those feelings

1250
01:40:44.159 --> 01:41:00.399
of relaxation continue for longer after the recording is ended,

1251
01:41:05.479 --> 01:41:17.680
so that you can still benefit from listening to my voice,

1252
01:41:18.039 --> 01:41:29.520
maybe in a few hours time, perhaps tomorrow, and then

1253
01:41:29.640 --> 01:41:37.640
by listening regularly, especially if you find like some people

1254
01:41:37.720 --> 01:41:41.279
do and myself as well, I sometimes I find one

1255
01:41:41.319 --> 01:41:51.680
particular recording that really resonates with me, and I just

1256
01:41:51.800 --> 01:41:57.439
listened to it over and over again every morning, every evening.

1257
01:42:05.079 --> 01:42:09.720
There was this recording from We're going back to about

1258
01:42:09.880 --> 01:42:14.880
nineteen ninety nine. It was it wasn't hypnosis, but it

1259
01:42:14.920 --> 01:42:20.000
was a guided visualizations. It kind of was hypnosis, really,

1260
01:42:22.479 --> 01:42:27.680
and I managed to find it again and it still

1261
01:42:27.720 --> 01:42:33.359
has the same effect on me. And part of it

1262
01:42:33.479 --> 01:42:48.319
was the person's voice relaxed me. She just felt so peaceful,

1263
01:42:50.359 --> 01:42:56.880
and I'd look forward to listening to her in the

1264
01:42:56.920 --> 01:43:07.600
morning and in the evening. And I knew before even

1265
01:43:08.359 --> 01:43:16.800
pressing the play button that since I've done that pressed

1266
01:43:16.840 --> 01:43:25.399
the play button, this was in the days of CD

1267
01:43:25.600 --> 01:43:34.279
players press the play button. In fact, it might have

1268
01:43:34.359 --> 01:43:38.800
even been a tape recorder. I'd lie down on the

1269
01:43:38.840 --> 01:43:52.600
bed and then even without necessarily listening to her words

1270
01:43:55.560 --> 01:44:04.920
because I had them memorized. Really, it was as if

1271
01:44:04.960 --> 01:44:16.199
my body knew exactly what to do, and the muscles

1272
01:44:16.439 --> 01:44:37.800
just almost went into automatic relaxation, and I remember my

1273
01:44:38.000 --> 01:44:51.920
mind would slow down. Now. Now, I was listening to

1274
01:44:52.000 --> 01:45:01.239
this recording in the early days of learning hypnosis, and

1275
01:45:01.479 --> 01:45:10.399
long before I ever made any videos or audio recordings myself,

1276
01:45:11.600 --> 01:45:14.960
because I didn't start doing that till two thousand and six,

1277
01:45:21.840 --> 01:45:37.800
I knew, I knew how helpful I found being able

1278
01:45:37.840 --> 01:45:46.920
to just let go, to have that trust in the

1279
01:45:47.000 --> 01:45:57.359
person that I'm listening to, knowing that it's going to

1280
01:45:57.439 --> 01:46:08.239
be just as relaxing, if not more so. Each time

1281
01:46:08.479 --> 01:46:16.720
you hear my voice.

1282
01:46:13.520 --> 01:46:22.199
You may feel the same. Some people.

1283
01:46:24.319 --> 01:46:36.680
Have been listening to me for over a decade, maybe

1284
01:46:36.760 --> 01:46:42.199
not solidly, obviously not twenty four hours a day, but

1285
01:46:44.319 --> 01:46:59.399
maybe people come back. Some people maybe listen every day.

1286
01:47:00.399 --> 01:47:06.359
That's something that I do which you may not realize

1287
01:47:08.760 --> 01:47:27.359
by listening, is when I record these recordings. Now, for example,

1288
01:47:31.880 --> 01:47:37.960
I also am affected by the words.

1289
01:47:38.960 --> 01:47:49.039
That I say. So, if I set you.

1290
01:47:50.039 --> 01:47:59.680
Focus on your feet, notice your feet relaxing, I would

1291
01:47:59.680 --> 01:48:10.920
be focusing on my feet. I will be noticing my

1292
01:48:11.119 --> 01:48:28.239
feet relaxing. If I said, focus on your hands, and

1293
01:48:28.359 --> 01:48:37.840
maybe notice the difference between each hand. Perhaps notice the

1294
01:48:40.640 --> 01:48:45.840
air in the room, the temperature of the room. On

1295
01:48:45.920 --> 01:48:57.199
the backs of your hands. You may start to notice

1296
01:48:57.840 --> 01:49:05.079
what almost feels like a very light breeze, even though

1297
01:49:05.119 --> 01:49:09.399
there may not be any type of breeze at all

1298
01:49:11.000 --> 01:49:23.279
where you are right now. And as you become aware

1299
01:49:23.439 --> 01:49:37.520
of your hands, I'm also aware of how relaxed my

1300
01:49:37.800 --> 01:50:03.560
hands are feeling now. And when it comes to potentially

1301
01:50:04.000 --> 01:50:09.800
drifting off to sleep, which may be the reason you're listening,

1302
01:50:15.479 --> 01:50:30.119
I also feel drowsy when I make these recordings. I

1303
01:50:30.279 --> 01:50:35.119
also notice my mind.

1304
01:50:36.359 --> 01:50:36.880
Drifting.

1305
01:50:44.800 --> 01:50:56.720
In fact, at times I've actually fallen asleep without even

1306
01:50:56.880 --> 01:51:10.399
noticing m and then I carry on talking and it's

1307
01:51:10.399 --> 01:51:19.439
suddenly when I listen back to do the editing, I

1308
01:51:19.600 --> 01:51:28.880
hear snoring and I think, I don't remember snoring. I

1309
01:51:28.920 --> 01:51:39.800
remember talking. This snoring was a pick turned up. That's

1310
01:51:39.800 --> 01:51:47.640
why I sound like when I snore, I get really

1311
01:51:47.880 --> 01:52:01.359
into the whole experience. I don't about how you feel.

1312
01:52:07.520 --> 01:52:14.119
How relaxed do you feel in your feet, how relaxed

1313
01:52:17.960 --> 01:52:39.000
you feel in your hands. I have noticed more and

1314
01:52:39.199 --> 01:52:58.159
more that the more relaxed, deeper level of comfort you feel,

1315
01:53:01.760 --> 01:53:17.920
the easier your breathing becomes. It's almost like that additional

1316
01:53:21.079 --> 01:53:42.039
muscle relaxation. So this allows you to breathe easier without

1317
01:53:43.520 --> 01:54:08.600
necessarily focusing on your breath. However, being able to notice

1318
01:54:14.880 --> 01:54:16.199
the ease.

1319
01:54:19.199 --> 01:54:20.079
In which.

1320
01:54:27.279 --> 01:54:50.000
You breathe so naturally. You breathe so very easily and smoothly.

1321
01:55:17.640 --> 01:55:35.359
Whenever I imagine my breathing improving. When I've got my

1322
01:55:35.479 --> 01:55:54.119
eyes closed, I tend to visualize a beautiful field with

1323
01:55:54.439 --> 01:56:08.039
trees and flowers m producing all that life giving oxygen.

1324
01:56:28.079 --> 01:56:43.439
And it feels nice to, if nothing else, just taking

1325
01:56:43.720 --> 01:57:21.399
some time away from everything, enjoying that feeling of peace

1326
01:57:26.399 --> 01:58:10.920
serenity with a joyful heart. Time seems to just drip by,

1327
01:58:15.439 --> 01:59:00.479
so very slowly, relaxed, so deeply peaceful, completely unattap matched

1328
01:59:05.199 --> 02:00:02.680
to any thoughts whatsoever in this moment, completely free, noticing

1329
02:00:03.039 --> 02:00:54.000
that your mind has slowed down. Slowed down because nothing

1330
02:00:56.800 --> 02:01:23.720
really requires your attention, you can enjoy the physical sensations

1331
02:01:28.000 --> 02:01:34.119
of allowing the stress to drip out of your body,

1332
02:01:40.640 --> 02:02:04.439
drippear out of every part of your body and being

1333
02:02:04.800 --> 02:02:43.479
released from your brain. Hue your mind slowly but surely.

1334
02:02:50.319 --> 02:03:27.720
The muscles in your legs relax res rexs so very deeply,

1335
02:03:37.520 --> 02:04:08.520
relax so deeply. And the feelings, the pleasant feelings in

1336
02:04:08.600 --> 02:04:33.159
your arms and shoulders, deepening each part of your body

1337
02:04:36.439 --> 02:04:43.960
further and deeper.

1338
02:04:53.920 --> 02:04:54.880
And deeper.

1339
02:05:09.359 --> 02:05:39.039
Noticine, the feedings in the back of your neck, the

1340
02:05:39.199 --> 02:06:15.560
feelings in your wrists, muscles.

1341
02:06:16.920 --> 02:06:18.399
In the front of your body.

1342
02:06:28.760 --> 02:07:12.880
I also feeling peaceful deeply. There's a sense of peace

1343
02:07:17.399 --> 02:07:57.319
spreads through your very core. Even when you focus on

1344
02:07:57.359 --> 02:09:17.840
your mind. Her mind becomes be and slowerven deeper, relaxing,

1345
02:09:20.399 --> 02:09:58.279
so very slow. Your stomach taste fell in your stomach,

1346
02:10:20.439 --> 02:10:40.079
your back. Notice, Notice how relaxed.

1347
02:10:43.680 --> 02:10:45.680
You now feel.

1348
02:10:54.439 --> 02:11:26.760
In the hole of your back. In a spy from

1349
02:11:26.800 --> 02:11:31.840
your brain all the way down the middle of your back,

1350
02:11:35.119 --> 02:11:38.079
sending and receiving.

1351
02:11:39.720 --> 02:11:43.039
Millions of messages every.

1352
02:11:42.800 --> 02:11:57.079
Day, deecomfort.

1353
02:11:58.520 --> 02:12:12.720
Increasing deeply relaxed.

1354
02:12:41.680 --> 02:13:16.800
Him legs, spreading those signals down your spine or cord

1355
02:13:21.199 --> 02:13:40.039
into air every part of your body, your shins and

1356
02:13:40.159 --> 02:14:31.800
your calf muscles, your elbows, feelings of peace and tranquility

1357
02:14:35.720 --> 02:14:49.800
spreading through your body, tips of your toes, to your eyes,

1358
02:14:54.119 --> 02:15:12.760
your fingers, all the way. Do you know about I'm

1359
02:15:12.960 --> 02:16:14.199
letting go, Rea, letting go pace, drift in mind, just

1360
02:16:14.680 --> 02:16:40.639
wondering away, happy to let go, let go completely lecker,

1361
02:17:06.159 --> 02:17:38.559
so tranquil, the whole body enjoying a sense.

1362
02:18:02.920 --> 02:18:03.600
Listening that.

1363
02:18:07.319 --> 02:20:03.760
He moreace, joy space, this space.

1364
02:20:06.159 --> 02:20:07.280
Of peace.

1365
02:20:10.479 --> 02:21:44.239
And safety, safe, very relaxed.

1366
02:21:13.479 --> 02:21:37.319
Us ussis.

1367
02:21:45.760 --> 02:22:37.520
Leading letting go. Maybe we can just focus on the

1368
02:22:37.680 --> 02:23:13.000
different parts of your body, just to notice you forehead

1369
02:23:13.280 --> 02:24:20.000
and your eyes. June Sol noticing a sense of complete freedom,

1370
02:24:32.079 --> 02:25:47.319
absolute freedom, dress day, dress day. He's on.

1371
02:25:49.360 --> 02:26:28.440
Energy paste to breeze, so.

1372
02:26:28.600 --> 02:27:12.600
Much ease, yeah, loose.

1373
02:27:33.879 --> 02:27:34.799
You may have.

1374
02:27:38.360 --> 02:28:38.319
Or may not have noticed your mind drifted peaceful, move

1375
02:28:38.799 --> 02:28:47.600
in even more deeply in the direction of.

1376
02:28:52.719 --> 02:29:04.239
Total blissful pace, bliss.

1377
02:29:04.120 --> 02:30:54.079
For peace, raft to to to pace, So.

1378
02:31:06.719 --> 02:31:07.319
Let him go.

1379
02:31:32.200 --> 02:32:18.520
Peace with mind by so reax claxed.

1380
02:32:43.040 --> 02:32:46.239
A body feels almost.

1381
02:32:47.360 --> 02:33:16.319
Invisible, so very relaxed, paceful, so.

1382
02:33:24.000 --> 02:33:41.239
Pace RELI.

1383
02:33:47.959 --> 02:33:48.799
Like God.

1384
02:34:11.360 --> 02:34:29.479
M and you could start to notice that you are

1385
02:34:29.719 --> 02:34:41.239
feeling more relaxed, even though I've not purposely focused your

1386
02:34:41.440 --> 02:34:49.840
mind upon that sense of physical comfort that is growing

1387
02:34:49.959 --> 02:34:58.799
within you throughout your body, and your mind starts to

1388
02:34:58.920 --> 02:35:08.959
slow down, and that could be almost in recognition of

1389
02:35:11.239 --> 02:35:23.319
I guess my speech not being particularly fast and things

1390
02:35:23.760 --> 02:35:33.799
just generally feel calmer. Just by listening to my voice,

1391
02:35:36.879 --> 02:35:43.840
you give yourself an opportunity to take a break from

1392
02:35:43.879 --> 02:35:50.399
the day, take a break from your life as it is,

1393
02:35:53.840 --> 02:36:01.440
and to give yourself a rest, giving yourself permission to

1394
02:36:01.559 --> 02:36:06.799
take some time off and to allow your body to

1395
02:36:06.959 --> 02:36:16.639
relax and allow your mind to slow down, which in

1396
02:36:16.799 --> 02:36:24.680
turn releases the tension any stresses that you had in

1397
02:36:24.799 --> 02:36:34.600
your body. It's almost as if the parts of your

1398
02:36:34.639 --> 02:36:46.680
body just open up, allowing the negativity out and at

1399
02:36:46.719 --> 02:36:54.959
the same time replacing that negativity with positive heathing energy,

1400
02:36:58.079 --> 02:37:02.639
which then fills your body up and your mind to

1401
02:37:04.319 --> 02:37:22.440
also starts to appreciate those feelings of increasing confidence and

1402
02:37:22.639 --> 02:37:39.879
almost uplifting, feeling positive, healing, an energy that spreads through

1403
02:37:39.959 --> 02:37:50.600
your body like a wave of comfort. And all this

1404
02:37:50.959 --> 02:38:03.000
comes from just allowing yourself a few minutes, maybe half

1405
02:38:03.040 --> 02:38:06.879
an hour, however long you want it to be, to

1406
02:38:07.239 --> 02:38:09.000
just rest.

1407
02:38:14.079 --> 02:38:15.040
And allow.

1408
02:38:17.280 --> 02:38:27.239
Your mind and your body to almost reset itself to

1409
02:38:27.399 --> 02:38:43.559
the settings of comfort and relaxation, calmness, which allows more

1410
02:38:43.719 --> 02:38:57.079
room for feelings of pleasure and happiness to move around

1411
02:38:57.399 --> 02:39:06.040
your body into your mind, almost as if your mind

1412
02:39:06.159 --> 02:39:16.760
and your body are sinking together, almost mirroring each other

1413
02:39:17.799 --> 02:39:29.840
with that growing positivity and calmness, And it feels nice,

1414
02:39:32.479 --> 02:39:38.360
really does feel nice to know that you are the

1415
02:39:38.520 --> 02:39:51.879
one that has allowed yourself to feel more comfort than

1416
02:39:52.040 --> 02:39:54.639
to experience.

1417
02:39:56.360 --> 02:39:57.479
More of this.

1418
02:39:59.280 --> 02:40:14.440
Deep relaxation spreading throughout your body. And as I focus

1419
02:40:16.000 --> 02:40:21.760
on each part of your body, you can notice that

1420
02:40:21.959 --> 02:40:36.479
that part becomes even more relaxed just by focusing on it.

1421
02:40:39.040 --> 02:40:48.680
It becomes even more calm and comfortable just by focusing.

1422
02:40:52.760 --> 02:40:58.479
And as I move down your body, starting at your head,

1423
02:41:01.239 --> 02:41:06.479
the parts that you have already focused on will continue

1424
02:41:07.879 --> 02:41:14.959
to relax deeply and those parts that have not yet

1425
02:41:15.159 --> 02:41:28.040
focused on or just automatically release any remaining tension in

1426
02:41:28.200 --> 02:41:42.440
anticipation of even more comfort about to come. Now, I'm

1427
02:41:42.479 --> 02:41:48.959
going to start by focusing on your forehead. Just being

1428
02:41:49.079 --> 02:41:57.719
aware of the feelings of your forehead and any background

1429
02:41:58.000 --> 02:42:04.840
sounds like mister Herbert the Pigeon can just allow you

1430
02:42:05.040 --> 02:42:12.079
to feel even more relaxed. Just means you in the

1431
02:42:12.200 --> 02:42:18.639
moment This isn't this isn't a sterile environment.

1432
02:42:20.040 --> 02:42:21.000
This is the world.

1433
02:42:24.479 --> 02:42:30.520
I live in the countryside, so there's lots of nature

1434
02:42:31.040 --> 02:42:41.520
sounds around. So as you focus on your forehead, just

1435
02:42:41.799 --> 02:42:49.559
notice how it becomes even more relaxed as you focus

1436
02:42:51.879 --> 02:42:56.360
only on my voice and that part of your body.

1437
02:43:01.559 --> 02:43:09.840
Moving down to your eyes, focusing on your eyes, noticing

1438
02:43:12.280 --> 02:43:22.000
how your eyelids feel so heavy yet so light at

1439
02:43:22.040 --> 02:43:28.479
the same time, and all the muscles around your eyes

1440
02:43:28.760 --> 02:43:43.159
relaxing completely. Moving your focus down to your mouth, your lips,

1441
02:43:43.639 --> 02:43:50.280
your tongue, your teeth, and your gums. The hole of

1442
02:43:50.440 --> 02:43:57.799
your mouth relaxing, calm.

1443
02:43:58.920 --> 02:43:59.479
And loose.

1444
02:44:03.959 --> 02:44:12.239
As you focus now on your jaw, just the parts

1445
02:44:12.280 --> 02:44:16.680
of your jaw near your mouth and your chin, but

1446
02:44:16.879 --> 02:44:21.000
all the way up the size of your face to

1447
02:44:21.120 --> 02:44:29.319
your ears, the hole of your jaw, feeding.

1448
02:44:33.120 --> 02:44:39.760
More relaxed and calm.

1449
02:44:47.959 --> 02:44:57.040
Focusing on your neck, the front of your neck and

1450
02:44:57.159 --> 02:44:58.159
your throat.

1451
02:45:00.120 --> 02:45:04.799
Relaxing and loose and calm.

1452
02:45:08.959 --> 02:45:14.760
The sides of your neck, the right and left side

1453
02:45:14.959 --> 02:45:19.799
of your neck, relax and.

1454
02:45:21.319 --> 02:45:34.920
Loose and calm. And now the back of your neck.

1455
02:45:38.239 --> 02:45:48.239
Focusing on the back of your neck, letting go of

1456
02:45:48.440 --> 02:45:55.319
any tension that may have been there before and enjoying

1457
02:45:55.680 --> 02:46:08.600
that sense of increasing comfort and release. Then you can

1458
02:46:08.760 --> 02:46:20.239
experience in the back of your neck, moving down your back,

1459
02:46:22.920 --> 02:46:27.760
moving either side of your spine right from the top

1460
02:46:27.840 --> 02:46:28.719
of your back.

1461
02:46:30.440 --> 02:46:31.719
All the way.

1462
02:46:31.719 --> 02:46:44.360
Down to the bottom of your back. Down it's your

1463
02:46:44.479 --> 02:46:55.000
lower back. As you move up and down your spine,

1464
02:46:57.159 --> 02:47:01.559
you can feel the muscles either side of your spine

1465
02:47:03.799 --> 02:47:18.360
relaxing even more. And as those muscles relax, that sense

1466
02:47:18.479 --> 02:47:28.920
of comfort starts to spread outwards from your spine into

1467
02:47:29.159 --> 02:47:35.760
both sides of your back, the top of your back,

1468
02:47:36.639 --> 02:47:42.879
the middle end your lower back. And as you scan

1469
02:47:44.600 --> 02:47:52.399
gently and slowly up and down your back, there's the

1470
02:47:52.559 --> 02:47:58.399
muscles in the top of your back relax and become looser.

1471
02:48:02.760 --> 02:48:08.760
The muscles in the middle of your back also seem

1472
02:48:08.879 --> 02:48:18.360
to just almost divide from each other, separating and almost melting,

1473
02:48:24.159 --> 02:48:30.120
and in your lower back there seems to be an

1474
02:48:30.200 --> 02:48:44.360
extra special feeling of comfort. The spreads into your hips

1475
02:48:46.680 --> 02:48:54.520
sit down your lower back, into your hips, into the

1476
02:48:54.719 --> 02:48:55.600
area where your.

1477
02:48:55.600 --> 02:49:00.760
Cosix are, and into your.

1478
02:49:00.680 --> 02:49:10.200
Buttocks and aise muscles that spread bring your lower back.

1479
02:49:12.520 --> 02:49:13.559
Into your hip.

1480
02:49:13.399 --> 02:49:33.040
Area, start to melt, start to reading, let go and

1481
02:49:33.239 --> 02:49:39.760
even know where about to focus on your shoulders. Your

1482
02:49:39.959 --> 02:49:50.600
back and your spine will continue to let go, continue

1483
02:49:51.440 --> 02:49:52.959
to relax.

1484
02:49:55.920 --> 02:49:59.440
So calmly.

1485
02:50:04.159 --> 02:50:09.079
And if you focus on your shoulders, you may notice

1486
02:50:09.520 --> 02:50:24.879
they're already feeling really loose. They're already.

1487
02:50:27.239 --> 02:50:33.680
Feeding came.

1488
02:50:40.559 --> 02:50:52.719
Fearing those muscles. The move from your neck into your

1489
02:50:52.879 --> 02:51:11.479
shoulders feels so soft and gentle, so smooth.

1490
02:51:17.200 --> 02:51:18.000
And calm.

1491
02:51:29.639 --> 02:51:32.000
The feeling in your shoulders.

1492
02:51:38.840 --> 02:51:47.319
Seems to spread deep into your shoulders, a sense of relaxation,

1493
02:51:48.559 --> 02:51:59.840
not just traveling deeply into your muscles, but also relaxed

1494
02:52:00.120 --> 02:52:12.159
in the bones and moving all the way to underneath

1495
02:52:12.200 --> 02:52:20.680
your arms, relaxing a whole area between the tops of

1496
02:52:20.799 --> 02:52:24.639
your shoulders and underneath your arms.

1497
02:52:28.719 --> 02:52:29.200
Healing.

1498
02:52:34.680 --> 02:52:35.319
You feel so.

1499
02:52:37.239 --> 02:52:48.719
Relaxed and comfortable in your shoulders, which sense that.

1500
02:52:50.959 --> 02:52:53.040
Deep healing.

1501
02:52:56.000 --> 02:53:13.479
Message into your arms. You may feel almost as if

1502
02:53:13.559 --> 02:53:20.079
your arms are not even that because they're so relaxed,

1503
02:53:23.280 --> 02:53:33.639
so deeply relaxed, so.

1504
02:53:37.879 --> 02:54:01.360
So calm, so loose.

1505
02:54:08.760 --> 02:54:19.879
That fins spreading all way down your arms, two elbows,

1506
02:54:23.639 --> 02:54:40.239
including your elbows circumfort spreads.

1507
02:54:44.200 --> 02:54:45.000
Your way.

1508
02:54:47.520 --> 02:54:48.840
Into wrists.

1509
02:54:51.680 --> 02:54:54.239
Your forearms, and your.

1510
02:54:54.280 --> 02:55:06.840
Wrists say so heavy, yet at.

1511
02:55:06.920 --> 02:55:18.000
The same time, sunlight.

1512
02:55:20.639 --> 02:55:22.479
And gentle.

1513
02:55:46.680 --> 02:55:47.520
Frey sap.

1514
02:55:49.920 --> 02:55:50.920
Now on.

1515
02:55:53.600 --> 02:56:17.479
Your hands, my hands.

1516
02:56:23.520 --> 02:56:25.680
So peace.

1517
02:56:27.399 --> 02:56:28.799
In your hands.

1518
02:56:47.079 --> 02:56:48.200
As a sense of.

1519
02:56:51.680 --> 02:57:06.120
Real pace just seems to.

1520
02:57:10.360 --> 02:57:14.799
Feel so familion.

1521
02:57:17.520 --> 02:58:56.040
When your hands relax deeply, else your fingers things you

1522
02:58:56.200 --> 02:59:45.000
think it's hips may your attention front your body s comftable,

1523
02:59:55.959 --> 03:02:14.520
my man, you focus muscles in your fiss s calf

1524
03:02:14.719 --> 03:04:36.600
mussels just shads plausi the feathing feats sir, peaceful circom

1525
03:04:42.520 --> 03:05:24.120
sick peaceful sircomm so peaceful.

1526
03:05:26.879 --> 03:05:32.159
Sycom so.

1527
03:05:34.120 --> 03:05:35.440
Peace fa.

1528
03:05:44.120 --> 03:05:46.319
B ser.

1529
03:05:51.040 --> 03:05:52.760
Piece fall.

1530
03:05:56.159 --> 03:06:13.079
Cycom that deep relaxation. Just spread your chest stom.

1531
03:06:25.879 --> 03:06:26.840
Let you go.

1532
03:06:31.000 --> 03:06:31.639
Everything.

1533
03:06:42.920 --> 03:06:48.920
So I'm gonna start counting down now from twenty down

1534
03:06:48.959 --> 03:06:57.079
to one. You can imagine in a way it's like

1535
03:06:57.879 --> 03:07:04.319
just walking down some steps and each step or twenty steps,

1536
03:07:04.399 --> 03:07:15.760
and each step represents a level of comfort. Each step represents.

1537
03:07:17.520 --> 03:07:18.760
A deepening.

1538
03:07:20.280 --> 03:07:30.600
Of that comfort, and the furvies you walk down those

1539
03:07:30.760 --> 03:07:43.680
steps that deeper and more relaxed you feel. So starting

1540
03:07:43.840 --> 03:11:33.120
with number twenty, twenty, nineteen, eighteen, seven, ten, sixteenhhhhhhhh three

1541
03:12:15.879 --> 03:14:23.879
fourhhhhhh four too well.

1542
03:18:31.879 --> 03:18:42.239
Hhhhhhhhhhh eight.

1543
03:19:41.680 --> 03:24:05.159
Si us us six five four.

1544
03:24:17.040 --> 03:25:01.479
Dass us.

1545
03:26:17.360 --> 03:27:32.520
Us one.

1546
03:28:22.079 --> 03:28:22.799
And now.

1547
03:28:27.159 --> 03:28:39.799
As you focus on your eyes, you're gonna count down

1548
03:28:40.239 --> 03:28:51.360
from ten down to one, focusing just on your eyes,

1549
03:28:55.120 --> 03:29:03.639
your eyelids, the muscles around your eyes, your eye walls themselves,

1550
03:29:05.159 --> 03:29:22.159
our whole area that makes up your eye. And as

1551
03:29:22.280 --> 03:29:30.799
we count down from ten down to one, whilst focusing

1552
03:29:31.079 --> 03:29:46.399
on your eyes, you become twice is relaxed with each

1553
03:29:46.879 --> 03:29:59.280
number counting down that you may find the way you

1554
03:29:59.520 --> 03:30:01.319
want to two is just.

1555
03:30:03.319 --> 03:30:05.399
Drift off to sleep.

1556
03:30:08.399 --> 03:30:15.000
And if that's what you want, then just allow yourself

1557
03:30:15.120 --> 03:30:29.760
to do that. Now, focusing on your eyes, I'm going

1558
03:30:29.879 --> 03:30:39.840
to begin counting down from ten down to one right now,

1559
03:30:48.399 --> 03:34:47.440
ten nine eight snu I.

1560
03:35:52.760 --> 03:36:03.799
Four us.

1561
03:37:12.000 --> 03:41:33.920
Three SWO.

1562
03:40:01.280 --> 03:40:03.159
Counting down from ten to one.

1563
03:40:05.040 --> 03:40:07.680
Ten nine.

1564
03:40:09.159 --> 03:40:36.879
Eight seven six five four three two one. And maybe

1565
03:40:37.000 --> 03:40:39.920
that was a bit too quick in order to relax.

1566
03:40:41.159 --> 03:40:45.399
Maybe it's a bit too fast for you to notice

1567
03:40:45.639 --> 03:40:53.719
the calming of your body, maybe even a little bit

1568
03:40:53.799 --> 03:40:57.879
of pressure. They're like, you're counting down from ten to one,

1569
03:40:57.959 --> 03:41:01.639
would you expect me to do expert me to stick

1570
03:41:01.680 --> 03:41:11.120
all with floppy just because you're counting down. If you

1571
03:41:11.319 --> 03:41:15.079
try it again, but this time, I'll go this slower

1572
03:41:17.280 --> 03:41:22.159
this time, then you focus on the whole of your

1573
03:41:22.200 --> 03:41:30.559
body before we focus on your legs. Just notice how

1574
03:41:30.680 --> 03:41:44.760
your body does start to feel more relaxed with every

1575
03:41:44.920 --> 03:42:26.639
number that I count down ten nine, eight, seven, six, five,

1576
03:42:37.079 --> 03:43:36.280
four three one, And just notice how you feel, generally,

1577
03:43:36.719 --> 03:43:51.000
how your body feels. It's not necessarily even about counting

1578
03:43:51.159 --> 03:43:58.280
down from ten to one. It's that space that you have,

1579
03:43:59.600 --> 03:44:18.079
that space between being active physically or mentally to just

1580
03:44:22.799 --> 03:44:28.000
sitting or lying down, just being there, not doing anything,

1581
03:44:28.159 --> 03:44:34.799
not saying anything, or needing to think about anything. So

1582
03:44:35.479 --> 03:44:38.520
it opens up a space, you know, a bit of

1583
03:44:38.559 --> 03:44:49.559
a space, a gap. And the more I came down

1584
03:44:49.600 --> 03:44:56.959
from ten to one, the bigger that gap becomes. So

1585
03:44:57.079 --> 03:45:09.520
there's that gap of calmness, of comfort, relaxation. It's a

1586
03:45:09.680 --> 03:45:23.680
nice feeling, and it moves those stresses or discomforts physically

1587
03:45:23.879 --> 03:45:26.000
or emotionally moves.

1588
03:45:27.879 --> 03:45:28.280
Away.

1589
03:45:35.040 --> 03:45:36.000
Allows you.

1590
03:45:38.719 --> 03:45:39.239
To just.

1591
03:45:42.239 --> 03:45:48.920
Slow down, someone to count again from ten down to one,

1592
03:45:49.360 --> 03:45:54.639
and notice that gap widening.

1593
03:45:56.239 --> 03:45:56.719
The gap.

1594
03:45:58.520 --> 03:45:59.000
And as it.

1595
03:45:59.079 --> 03:46:05.559
Widens, it's all slight. The stress and attention falls into

1596
03:46:05.639 --> 03:46:23.639
the gap, gives you that distance, that space.

1597
03:46:26.040 --> 03:46:31.399
Now ten.

1598
03:46:35.840 --> 03:47:02.760
Nine, eight, seven, six.

1599
03:47:15.239 --> 03:47:15.799
Five.

1600
03:47:26.680 --> 03:47:45.760
Four three.

1601
03:48:01.840 --> 03:48:36.719
Two one. Now, how did your body feel.

1602
03:48:38.680 --> 03:48:38.879
Now?

1603
03:48:51.559 --> 03:49:03.520
Can you notice that? Do you feeling calmer? Are you

1604
03:49:03.799 --> 03:49:32.200
feeling more relaxed as we now focus on your legs,

1605
03:49:33.920 --> 03:49:54.360
just your legs. You're just gonna start with focusing on

1606
03:49:54.840 --> 03:50:13.959
your thighs. Of course, it's not the most exciting thing

1607
03:50:14.120 --> 03:50:20.639
to be doing, because I'm sure, like most of your

1608
03:50:20.719 --> 03:50:32.360
body is not a lot going on right now. Just

1609
03:50:32.559 --> 03:50:38.719
focusing on the whole of your thighs, the tops of

1610
03:50:38.799 --> 03:50:44.840
your thighs, the sides of your thighs, the bottoms of

1611
03:50:44.920 --> 03:50:51.920
your thighs, your outer thighs, and you're inner thighs. Basically

1612
03:50:52.079 --> 03:50:55.760
the whole of your thigh that leads into your hip,

1613
03:51:00.200 --> 03:51:02.559
goes down to your.

1614
03:51:04.440 --> 03:51:05.159
Knee joints.

1615
03:51:10.319 --> 03:51:17.520
Now, this is a big area. It's a very heavy area.

1616
03:51:18.040 --> 03:51:24.000
It's very strong, probably the strongest muscles in your body

1617
03:51:24.760 --> 03:51:39.000
or in your thighs. But I don't think we perhaps

1618
03:51:41.040 --> 03:51:53.719
give enough attention to our thighs. Perhaps we don't acknowledge

1619
03:51:54.399 --> 03:52:13.799
how important our thighs are to our lives, how much

1620
03:52:16.440 --> 03:52:29.920
they actually do for us all through our lives. And

1621
03:52:30.040 --> 03:52:35.840
it may seem sound really weird, but I think that

1622
03:52:36.040 --> 03:52:43.959
all of our body parts, especially our thighs, needs some TLC,

1623
03:52:47.280 --> 03:53:00.479
a bit of love shown, a bit of acknowledgement, thank you,

1624
03:53:03.639 --> 03:53:16.120
gratitude for our thighs do for us. And I know

1625
03:53:16.319 --> 03:53:22.360
this may sound a bit strange. Maybe you think, why

1626
03:53:22.440 --> 03:53:25.120
am I sure? How I should be out in the

1627
03:53:25.239 --> 03:53:34.000
garden hugging a tree or something. It's hard to set

1628
03:53:34.040 --> 03:53:37.200
a microphone up on a tree. That's why I'm doing

1629
03:53:37.280 --> 03:53:39.920
this indoors. Otherwise I would be outside hugging a tree.

1630
03:53:41.319 --> 03:53:49.959
I can't see the television from the tree. If you

1631
03:53:50.079 --> 03:53:55.280
move down to your knees gain such an important part.

1632
03:53:59.559 --> 03:54:04.680
And I think we don't necessarily I'll speak for myself here.

1633
03:54:07.159 --> 03:54:12.239
I don't necessarily appreciate all that my needs do for

1634
03:54:12.399 --> 03:54:18.879
me until I have a problem with my knee. Occasionally,

1635
03:54:18.920 --> 03:54:23.920
if I ever, maybe i'll bash it or it's aching

1636
03:54:24.079 --> 03:54:30.440
for some reason. It's then that I realize how much

1637
03:54:30.600 --> 03:54:34.239
it does. You know, the benefit of being able to

1638
03:54:35.159 --> 03:54:44.399
use my legs without any kind of physical discomfort is

1639
03:54:45.200 --> 03:54:53.920
a beautiful thing that's possibly not appreciated until it's temporarily removed.

1640
03:54:55.079 --> 03:55:02.079
You know that's comfort. But as you focus on your knees,

1641
03:55:04.239 --> 03:55:09.879
regardless of how your knees feel, you can have that

1642
03:55:10.159 --> 03:55:16.280
sense of gratitude and love to your knees for all

1643
03:55:16.440 --> 03:55:28.639
that they do for you. And you can still have

1644
03:55:28.799 --> 03:55:33.920
that attention on your thighs. Maybe notice how your thighs feel.

1645
03:55:36.079 --> 03:55:54.040
Maybe you notice that they are relaxing more deeply as

1646
03:55:54.079 --> 03:55:58.680
you focus now on the bottoms of your legs and

1647
03:55:58.799 --> 03:56:05.920
your shins, your calf muscles, the bones between your knees

1648
03:56:06.799 --> 03:56:14.520
and your feet, incorporating of course, your ankles so important.

1649
03:56:20.040 --> 03:56:24.639
You know, anyone that's had even like the slightest sprain

1650
03:56:24.760 --> 03:56:31.719
of an ankle knows how how much we take our

1651
03:56:31.959 --> 03:56:40.520
ankles for granted. And it's kind of strange in a

1652
03:56:40.559 --> 03:56:46.120
way when you think that. You know, logically, our wrists

1653
03:56:46.319 --> 03:56:49.159
are a lot thinner than the rest of our arms,

1654
03:56:50.280 --> 03:56:53.799
which is okay, it doesn't I can't see any problem

1655
03:56:53.799 --> 03:56:59.319
with that because we're just picking stuff up. Our ankles

1656
03:57:01.159 --> 03:57:11.079
so much thinner than the rest of our legs, and

1657
03:57:11.239 --> 03:57:15.719
from a physics perspective or logical even it doesn't really

1658
03:57:15.799 --> 03:57:23.079
make sense that all this weight would ultimately be resting

1659
03:57:24.079 --> 03:57:34.120
on your ankles then leading to your feet, that thin area,

1660
03:57:35.559 --> 03:57:45.200
thin bone. Yeah, it does so much great work. Supports us,

1661
03:57:45.280 --> 03:57:55.239
supports our body for a lifetime, helps us to balance,

1662
03:57:57.639 --> 03:58:10.559
helps you to get around and be mobile. And there's

1663
03:58:10.600 --> 03:58:18.479
the calf muscles. Of course, when I was younger, I

1664
03:58:18.520 --> 03:58:21.799
couldn't see the point in calf muscles didn't seem to

1665
03:58:21.920 --> 03:58:27.840
do anything. Okay, if I walked around on tiptoes, then

1666
03:58:28.000 --> 03:58:31.760
my calf muscles get some work. But of course that's

1667
03:58:31.840 --> 03:58:35.840
not true. The calf muscles are being used whenever we

1668
03:58:36.280 --> 03:58:49.799
use our legs and your shins there to protect your

1669
03:58:49.920 --> 03:58:58.920
lower legs, shaped in a way, almost as a protector

1670
03:58:59.399 --> 03:59:14.120
for the bone, leading of course to your ankles and

1671
03:59:14.239 --> 03:59:21.159
your feet. But we're not going to focus on your feet.

1672
03:59:21.280 --> 03:59:25.600
We're just going to focus on the legs. I realize,

1673
03:59:27.680 --> 03:59:31.399
but now that I've mentioned your feet, you'll probably focus

1674
03:59:31.840 --> 03:59:34.920
on them anyway, So maybe I should focus on your

1675
03:59:34.959 --> 03:59:40.799
feet a little bit. You can have them in your

1676
03:59:40.840 --> 03:59:47.239
awareness the same as you have your thighs in your awareness.

1677
03:59:48.079 --> 03:59:52.000
Even though we haven't been focusing on your thighs a

1678
03:59:52.120 --> 04:00:03.200
few minutes and we focusing on your ankles, there's still

1679
04:00:03.280 --> 04:00:18.360
that sensation of comfort in your thighs, and there's that

1680
04:00:18.799 --> 04:00:28.840
movement of energy because the thighs hold lots of different sensations.

1681
04:00:30.319 --> 04:00:35.159
Of course, there's the muscles, the big straw muscles that

1682
04:00:35.319 --> 04:00:48.159
we have in our thighs, but the skin on the

1683
04:00:48.280 --> 04:00:53.760
outside of the thighs, as in the outside of all

1684
04:00:53.840 --> 04:01:02.680
of our body can be very sensitive, sensitive to the touch,

1685
04:01:05.479 --> 04:01:18.799
sensitive to temperature. And inside your thighs the bones, there's

1686
04:01:19.840 --> 04:01:24.639
the muscle, there's the blood, vessels, the ar trees, to

1687
04:01:24.799 --> 04:01:34.520
all this stuff inside your thighs. I guess sometimes it'd

1688
04:01:34.559 --> 04:01:38.680
be nice if you could actually put your fingers inside

1689
04:01:38.760 --> 04:01:44.159
your thighs and a message, so you can message on

1690
04:01:44.280 --> 04:01:47.520
the outside, of course, but to be able to get

1691
04:01:47.719 --> 04:01:51.600
deep into the muscles, to be able to just message

1692
04:01:52.639 --> 04:01:57.520
inside your thighs, message in the bones of your leg

1693
04:02:00.079 --> 04:02:13.760
muchin or the veins. Just gently healing your thighs, you

1694
04:02:13.840 --> 04:02:20.959
can move down message and inside your knees, just message

1695
04:02:21.040 --> 04:02:28.000
in those bones, but with healing fingertips spreading that healing

1696
04:02:28.239 --> 04:02:39.040
energy deep into the choice your knees. Of course, there's

1697
04:02:39.079 --> 04:02:44.719
the back of your you need the inside crease where

1698
04:02:44.719 --> 04:02:52.520
your need is. It's a very sensitive area. It feels

1699
04:02:52.600 --> 04:02:56.600
very nice when you stroke it. That might be because

1700
04:02:57.479 --> 04:03:02.440
it's an area that's not really touched very fair. It's

1701
04:03:02.600 --> 04:03:10.159
almost like a hidden part that crease your legs. It's almost.

1702
04:03:12.159 --> 04:03:12.879
Like a part that.

1703
04:03:14.680 --> 04:03:25.920
Has a sensitivity which is a little bit different. Of course,

1704
04:03:26.000 --> 04:03:36.479
it's protected by your legs. So you can imagine putting

1705
04:03:37.360 --> 04:03:47.200
your fingers into that crease in your legs, fowld in

1706
04:03:47.319 --> 04:03:51.280
between your legs. You can just message with your fingertips.

1707
04:03:52.479 --> 04:03:58.639
Imagine your fingertips going inside, massage in the muscle or

1708
04:03:58.760 --> 04:04:08.079
tissue you can cause, field the bones of your knees,

1709
04:04:09.639 --> 04:04:19.440
heating through your fingertips, and then as.

1710
04:04:19.360 --> 04:04:20.280
You go down.

1711
04:04:22.920 --> 04:04:25.719
To your calf muscles, and that's the part I'd like

1712
04:04:25.799 --> 04:04:30.520
to be able to really put my fingertips steep inside

1713
04:04:31.280 --> 04:04:40.200
my calf muscles, massage in every single tissue of that muscle,

1714
04:04:41.799 --> 04:04:51.719
healing every part, and then doing the same for my shins.

1715
04:04:54.920 --> 04:05:03.120
Massage in generally stroking the bones, generally stroking them, healing

1716
04:05:03.360 --> 04:05:07.440
in a loving way, because they deserve to be treated

1717
04:05:10.479 --> 04:05:14.639
as the precious bones that they are, Because our legs

1718
04:05:14.680 --> 04:05:18.000
are so precious as in all the other parts of

1719
04:05:18.120 --> 04:05:26.280
our body, the more precious of any jure on the planet.

1720
04:05:34.680 --> 04:05:42.840
When you start to think about your legs in this way,

1721
04:05:47.399 --> 04:05:54.079
it can change your perspective. It might sound a bit

1722
04:05:57.159 --> 04:06:01.440
a bit silly to start with the idea of having

1723
04:06:02.319 --> 04:06:12.200
love for your legs, showing appreciation for your thighs, want

1724
04:06:12.280 --> 04:06:16.360
them to be able to put your hands in your thighs,

1725
04:06:18.600 --> 04:06:24.959
massage the muscles and the bones, and to get your

1726
04:06:25.079 --> 04:06:33.600
fingers deep in there, releasing all tension. Just to show

1727
04:06:35.479 --> 04:06:43.159
how much you care about your legs, what you care

1728
04:06:43.520 --> 04:06:51.440
for what your legs do for you regularly, your knees,

1729
04:06:51.799 --> 04:07:04.600
your calves, your ankles, the strength of your ankles, considering

1730
04:07:04.840 --> 04:07:09.319
how thin they are compared to the rest of your legs,

1731
04:07:09.479 --> 04:07:23.120
especially your thighs. Yeah, they're so strong, so flexible, absolutely

1732
04:07:23.440 --> 04:07:27.559
amazing things. Your ankles are.

1733
04:07:31.200 --> 04:07:32.840
Truly a gift.

1734
04:07:34.840 --> 04:07:43.920
Because of what they do for you, supporting all that weight,

1735
04:07:45.920 --> 04:07:50.319
regardless of how what weight you are, even if you

1736
04:07:50.440 --> 04:07:55.479
only ate stone, there's still a lot of weight for

1737
04:07:55.600 --> 04:08:02.079
these little ankles. How am I a lot heavier than

1738
04:08:02.159 --> 04:08:12.120
eight sting double down, get my ankles support my body

1739
04:08:12.879 --> 04:08:19.479
all the time. What they do give off a sigh

1740
04:08:19.520 --> 04:08:24.680
of relief when I sit down, that's you've had my

1741
04:08:24.719 --> 04:08:34.479
whole legs though. My feet feels go my toast clap

1742
04:08:35.879 --> 04:09:04.319
so happy. Your legs really are amazing, And I know

1743
04:09:04.799 --> 04:09:11.159
there talking about talking about your legs is probably possibly

1744
04:09:11.360 --> 04:09:16.159
among the most most boring things you've ever heard anyone say.

1745
04:09:17.040 --> 04:09:24.520
Possibly you're boring or not. Everything I said is true.

1746
04:09:27.000 --> 04:09:41.840
Your legs are amazing. Your legs deserve not just respect,

1747
04:09:47.680 --> 04:09:49.440
they deserve to relax.

1748
04:09:50.799 --> 04:09:51.200
Deeply.

1749
04:09:58.479 --> 04:10:04.079
They deserve to take time out of the day to

1750
04:10:04.280 --> 04:10:40.879
just let go completely. Your legs really can relax because

1751
04:10:40.959 --> 04:10:44.879
the legs are so such a most, you know, very

1752
04:10:44.959 --> 04:10:50.680
important part of your body. When you relax your legs,

1753
04:10:50.760 --> 04:10:58.000
the rest of your body also naturally follows in that

1754
04:11:01.760 --> 04:11:12.559
journey of comfort. I can feel it in my hips.

1755
04:11:13.959 --> 04:11:21.079
My hips feel really loose, and also my lower back

1756
04:11:21.159 --> 04:11:27.760
as well. My lower back really feels it feels stretched,

1757
04:11:28.879 --> 04:11:31.920
even though I'm just sitting in a chair and there's

1758
04:11:32.040 --> 04:11:37.280
no stretching as far as I'm aware that I'm doing.

1759
04:11:38.280 --> 04:11:40.959
It's almost as if the muscles are just relaxed so

1760
04:11:41.159 --> 04:11:47.079
much that there is a natural stretch as the tension

1761
04:11:48.000 --> 04:12:09.239
has reduced a lot. And I'm now going to count

1762
04:12:09.319 --> 04:12:19.600
down from ten downs one. You can continue to fill

1763
04:12:21.360 --> 04:12:50.440
wonderfully relaxed ten nine, eight, seven, six, five, four.

1764
04:12:53.559 --> 04:12:58.120
Three two.

1765
04:13:02.520 --> 04:13:20.360
Why relax? So I'm just going to count down from

1766
04:13:20.479 --> 04:13:24.959
five down to one. And as a countdown, if you

1767
04:13:25.120 --> 04:13:32.000
just focus on the numbers, just the numbers counting down,

1768
04:13:33.079 --> 04:13:36.959
and notice how you feel.

1769
04:13:39.319 --> 04:13:40.479
In this moment.

1770
04:13:41.920 --> 04:13:46.319
As you hear the numbers counting down, knowing that those

1771
04:13:46.479 --> 04:13:59.520
numbers counting down represent you feeling calmer, not just in

1772
04:13:59.600 --> 04:14:08.159
your body, but also relaxing your mind. Just notice how

1773
04:14:08.239 --> 04:14:14.079
you felt there's nothing to do, there's nothing to say,

1774
04:14:14.760 --> 04:14:41.559
there's nothing to think about, starting with number five, four, three,

1775
04:14:52.159 --> 04:15:14.440
two one. And as you notice the gradual.

1776
04:15:16.719 --> 04:15:17.280
Letting go.

1777
04:15:19.840 --> 04:15:26.959
The tension in your body, you may also begin to

1778
04:15:27.239 --> 04:15:34.520
notice and be aware of how your mind is starting

1779
04:15:34.959 --> 04:15:42.920
to slow down. This is just a natural thing that happens.

1780
04:15:45.559 --> 04:15:50.760
It's not really a special procedure. It's just natural because

1781
04:15:50.840 --> 04:15:56.719
as your body relaxes, your mind also starts to relax,

1782
04:15:58.360 --> 04:16:02.000
and a more your mind relaxes, the more your body relaxes.

1783
04:16:02.120 --> 04:16:12.600
It's just a continuous circle of relaxation. And there's that

1784
04:16:13.879 --> 04:16:21.760
calmness that comes from relative quietness. You know, even even

1785
04:16:21.799 --> 04:16:28.760
if there's background sounds, even your side online, it's still

1786
04:16:29.280 --> 04:16:34.520
going to be quite calm. You know, you haven't got

1787
04:16:34.559 --> 04:16:39.760
the television on, there's no music in the background, unless

1788
04:16:39.760 --> 04:16:41.600
you're listening to the recorded with music.

1789
04:16:41.719 --> 04:16:48.920
Of course, you're very likely not going to be sitting

1790
04:16:48.959 --> 04:16:52.159
in a room with other people. Of course you might be,

1791
04:16:52.319 --> 04:16:56.680
but generally it's more ideal if you can do this

1792
04:16:56.879 --> 04:17:08.360
on your own, so distractions and when you stop thinking

1793
04:17:08.440 --> 04:17:23.920
about stuff, relaxation automatically arises, a sense of comfort.

1794
04:17:25.239 --> 04:17:34.079
Starts to grow, and without trying to build it up

1795
04:17:34.159 --> 04:17:45.239
into something fantastical or something magical, this is just a

1796
04:17:45.520 --> 04:17:58.000
natural process, something that's easy to accomplish. In fact, it's

1797
04:17:58.120 --> 04:18:05.000
almost you know, the sense of relaxing completely happens really

1798
04:18:05.120 --> 04:18:10.079
when you're put no effort into it. It's not something

1799
04:18:10.200 --> 04:18:18.200
that you can really force. It's something that happens naturally.

1800
04:18:21.159 --> 04:18:28.440
And part of the process of this recording and others

1801
04:18:30.079 --> 04:18:42.040
is simply two allow you to take advantage of this space.

1802
04:18:44.280 --> 04:18:45.040
This time.

1803
04:18:47.959 --> 04:18:58.959
It's just let go to just be here, to be

1804
04:18:59.559 --> 04:19:15.280
in with how you feel, yet with the intention of

1805
04:19:15.600 --> 04:19:26.719
wanting to relax deeply and maybe even to fall asleep,

1806
04:19:27.879 --> 04:19:33.040
depending on what it is that you wish for yourself

1807
04:19:34.799 --> 04:19:49.879
in this moment. As we know, relaxing is the majority

1808
04:19:51.120 --> 04:19:55.559
of the process of falling asleep. The actual falling asleep

1809
04:19:55.639 --> 04:20:02.440
part is the tiny bit at the end. The deeper

1810
04:20:03.719 --> 04:20:26.000
relaxed you become, the easier you find yourself drifting. But

1811
04:20:26.120 --> 04:20:32.719
you can also if you choose stay focused on my

1812
04:20:32.959 --> 04:21:01.840
voice and really enjoy the process, gradually relaxing each muscle

1813
04:21:06.479 --> 04:21:33.319
in your body effortlessly and just observing the sensation of

1814
04:21:33.639 --> 04:21:34.239
letting go.

1815
04:21:40.680 --> 04:21:41.399
Completely.

1816
04:21:47.440 --> 04:21:51.479
This time, I'm going to count from six down to one.

1817
04:21:56.639 --> 04:22:06.200
You can notice your mind calming down war with each

1818
04:22:06.760 --> 04:24:58.200
number that you hear me say, naturally, feeling calm and slower, peaceful, six, five, four, four,

1819
04:25:19.399 --> 04:25:28.959
being aware of how your mind to slowed right down,

1820
04:25:32.239 --> 04:25:55.959
sinking deeply into relaxation. As you focus on your mind.

1821
04:25:59.479 --> 04:26:00.360
May just.

1822
04:26:02.639 --> 04:26:10.399
There as some thoughts still there, maybe some stubborn thoughts

1823
04:26:10.600 --> 04:26:18.719
that for some reason perhaps need your attention.

1824
04:26:25.600 --> 04:26:26.959
That's what you can do is.

1825
04:26:32.520 --> 04:26:45.040
Send love to those thoughts. Sprinkle those thoughts with love

1826
04:26:47.000 --> 04:26:53.239
all petals from a flower. Just sprinkle over petals, feel

1827
04:26:53.280 --> 04:27:00.680
good love towards those thoughts to let those storks smooth.

1828
04:27:03.040 --> 04:27:07.239
You're not abandon the number. You just need them.

1829
04:27:08.479 --> 04:27:20.399
You require them to just calm down, slow down, quiet down.

1830
04:27:24.079 --> 04:27:35.879
For now. So as you focus on those remaining thoughts

1831
04:27:37.120 --> 04:27:41.200
as a countdown this time from seven down to one.

1832
04:27:42.760 --> 04:27:56.799
With each number, just imagine sprinkling those flower petals of love, kindness,

1833
04:27:58.440 --> 04:28:10.280
gratitude over those thoughts, which will allow them to just

1834
04:28:11.719 --> 04:28:27.040
not away relaxed deeply. With every number, those thoughts will

1835
04:28:27.120 --> 04:30:53.479
become more and more relaxed. Starting if number seven, six, five, four, Yes,

1836
04:31:10.479 --> 04:31:27.879
let's you now notice how relaxed your feeling in your body?

1837
04:31:36.280 --> 04:31:49.479
We got to focus on your hands because the more

1838
04:31:49.559 --> 04:31:57.200
relaxed your hands on, the more relaxed your body and mind.

1839
04:31:57.360 --> 04:32:12.760
Do y.

1840
04:32:14.600 --> 04:32:24.719
You focus on your hands and your fingers. It's nothing

1841
04:32:25.280 --> 04:32:30.000
needed to be done. There's no clenching of fists or

1842
04:32:31.040 --> 04:32:43.360
dens and the fingers right that, it's just noticing and

1843
04:32:43.719 --> 04:33:10.959
focusing on your hands, not to singarly feel a kiss

1844
04:33:11.040 --> 04:33:20.799
them more, but asks your hands feel. I can't why

1845
04:33:20.880 --> 04:33:39.319
your mind feels comforts you feel throughout your body. Gee

1846
04:33:41.840 --> 04:33:56.840
may have already noticed you.

1847
04:34:01.799 --> 04:34:05.159
D is.

1848
04:34:07.959 --> 04:34:34.040
Starting to dress like said, just on your hands and

1849
04:34:34.319 --> 04:34:53.599
fingerus allowing a cheapxperience. How real deepening of that reaxation

1850
04:34:55.319 --> 04:35:13.639
in your hands and fingers a more relaxed with each

1851
04:35:13.919 --> 04:35:35.959
number from eight down to one. Almost feel that healing,

1852
04:35:37.720 --> 04:35:57.159
relaxing energy spreading into your hands and fingers, becoming more

1853
04:35:57.319 --> 04:36:19.639
relaxing each number, cutting down eight down to one to

1854
04:36:19.799 --> 04:36:36.080
drift down to drift in a cake sponted with number

1855
04:36:43.119 --> 04:38:25.720
eight se f.

1856
04:39:10.560 --> 04:40:32.799
Three just being here now.

1857
04:40:36.360 --> 04:40:42.400
Nothing to think about, nothing to do, nothing to say.

1858
04:40:46.919 --> 04:40:58.680
Everything just feels calm. This is your natural state of being.

1859
04:41:02.360 --> 04:41:07.319
This is how you just normally if you're when you

1860
04:41:07.520 --> 04:41:11.680
take away all that other stuff.

1861
04:41:13.720 --> 04:41:14.680
Can add.

1862
04:41:16.159 --> 04:41:18.919
And thinks like stress and way head.

1863
04:41:21.720 --> 04:41:23.159
O thinking.

1864
04:41:25.759 --> 04:41:28.360
Anxiety INTENSI.

1865
04:41:33.119 --> 04:41:39.400
Thinking about So you take that away is what we

1866
04:41:39.520 --> 04:41:48.400
do do now left with.

1867
04:41:51.159 --> 04:42:04.680
A real sense of insurance which comes to play because

1868
04:42:04.799 --> 04:42:15.279
ants please is just a feeling of feeling of confidence.

1869
04:42:19.400 --> 04:42:24.560
Most as if you've got inside yourself, you found a special.

1870
04:42:24.200 --> 04:42:26.319
Place where.

1871
04:42:28.599 --> 04:42:40.759
Everything is pasiful place week in the film relaxed and

1872
04:42:40.959 --> 04:42:41.759
your act.

1873
04:42:43.880 --> 04:42:50.400
Sense of confidence a place week beak.

1874
04:42:56.279 --> 04:42:57.439
Except yourself.

1875
04:42:58.720 --> 04:43:03.880
If you are play swear you out, jot.

1876
04:43:05.319 --> 04:43:08.080
And release anybody.

1877
04:43:07.560 --> 04:43:14.200
Else play sway can.

1878
04:43:15.720 --> 04:43:21.639
Actually not just love yourself.

1879
04:43:22.720 --> 04:43:25.560
In some ways more importantly, you can.

1880
04:43:25.799 --> 04:43:30.799
Like yourself, appreciate.

1881
04:43:31.560 --> 04:43:32.680
Who do you want?

1882
04:43:41.479 --> 04:43:43.240
A sense of quatitude.

1883
04:43:46.319 --> 04:43:47.919
See the air of the ground.

1884
04:43:55.720 --> 04:44:05.279
That's also a place where connection. Feel the healing energy

1885
04:44:06.360 --> 04:44:19.840
soaking into your body. Healing energy soaking into your body,

1886
04:44:25.000 --> 04:44:34.360
A healing energy spreads through your vece travel into each

1887
04:44:35.799 --> 04:44:37.759
every single part.

1888
04:44:39.240 --> 04:44:39.919
Of your body.

1889
04:44:46.040 --> 04:44:53.159
You start to realize, actually a healing energy it's not

1890
04:44:53.520 --> 04:45:00.279
just entered into your brain. It's become a part about

1891
04:45:00.400 --> 04:45:08.000
your brain. The spinal fluid.

1892
04:45:10.279 --> 04:45:18.279
Is now mixed to hear the energy not just.

1893
04:45:20.400 --> 04:45:26.880
Allowing you to feel so much more relaxed and healthy

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in this moment, but also you start to realize and actually,

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what's happening now that healing, relaxing energy spreading through your body,

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it's actually changing your life such the changing the way

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you're going to feel not just now, but tomorrow and

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the next day because your health improves, not just your

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physical health, but your mental health. Things that used to

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bother you in the past, for some reason, no longer

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have the effect that they used to because something has changed.

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Deep within you.

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Maybe things that used to cause you to feel anger.

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No longer have that power.

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To control you.

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The way they seem to be able to perform.

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As you realize that you're the one who decides what

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affects you, You're the one who decides to feel relaxed

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and calm.

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When you choose.

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To enjoy noticing these natural developments, hearing continue to grow

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and improve your life day by day, include of course,

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your ability to relax so much easier and sleep in.

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It's the most natural thing in the world to you

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because for in the sleep is something that.

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You've done.

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So many times.

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In your life. And you know that because we all

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were with.

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The ability to fall asleep naturally boor with that ability

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just drift off into a deep, healing sleep.

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Even when we're.

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Kids, sometimes you will fall asleep.

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And we don't even want to.

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Try to think stay awake. Maybe it's birthday in the morning,

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or it's Christmas or a holiday.

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Or something we look forward to. Don't want to go

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to sleep. The more we want to stay awake, the

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more we just start to drift.

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And the more you fights drifting, which might still be

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something drifted asleep, deeper and stronger without drifting becomes because

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we're born not just with the need to relax deeply

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want to actually fall asleep, but it's our birthright, it's

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part of our DNA, and sometimes as we get older

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in life, perhaps at times we have forgotten relaxing completely.

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It's not.

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A wonderfully pleasant experience.

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It's also really easy. It's very very easy to let

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go because that's what it is.

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It's just.

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Deciding until they go. And when you press the play

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button what we call a things, you have given her permission.

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From my voice.

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To relaction.

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Where is that play button?

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You have given me permission for my words to effect

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a positive a positive way, opening up.

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Your mind to you.

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Useful and healing suggestions. You can have such a pas

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and effect how you feel right now as well as

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those changes that continue long after the recording ends. Those

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changes within the continue to flourish and grow, transforming your

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life in positive, beautiful way.

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Allowing you to move forward in life.

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In the direction of the ch is for yourself. This feeling,

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this feeling in experience of safety, comfort and harmless. This

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feels so nice, such a healthy place to be h

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and that positivity grows within it.

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In every day and move forward. You had to find them.

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More relaxed.

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Physically and in your mind's lat And it's not that

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you're thinking, it's just that your mind would be less

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knock down unnecessary negativity.

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Because of now your.

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Mind rejects negativity.

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Now you're going to start noticing when negativity arises.

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You can just say stop.

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Stop, the negativity.

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Will turn around and leave your mind.

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Stop and then negativity.

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Disappear. And did you.

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Notice that you feel way on relaxt And you probably expected.

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Now you can.

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Congratulate yourself because You're the person.

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Has done this.

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You other one that has opened your mind up to

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the simple faith. You can feel more relasting body.

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End in your mind. You've open your mind up to.

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The birthright of beemilt.

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Just foll asleep easily with the chops. That's a nice feeling.

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Do you think.

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Who's mice does that? It's just feel who may hear?

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And energy is spreading through your body in your mind.

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Spend time.

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A special place where negativity can no longer be. Negativity

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is bad, it's bold, it's not allowed, and dream doesn't doesn't.

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This doesn't deserve to be here. It doesn't be long here.

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Negativity has no place in your life, which makes room

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for a more comfort, more human.

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Or relaxation.

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Or peace. There was as.

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It was just.

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Like everything. The cow cow now twifty downs mo.

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Pas came to blacks shoes to sleep differ Melbo, he said.

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The voice is rested. Will you change the twenty.

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Ninety eighteen seventy six steps speak chops ss