June 10, 2025

(music) #48 Comfort Chart - Stress & Pain Relief (Jason Newland) (10th June 2025)

(music) #48 Comfort Chart - Stress & Pain Relief (Jason Newland) (10th June 2025)
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Hello, and welcome to Jasonnewland dot com. My name's Jason

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Newland and I'm here cuddling my little boy, Vinnie Vinnie

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Solo solo. That was him saying no by flapping his ears.

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Well maybe it's he might have been saying hello. I

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don't know, so please only listen when you can safely

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close your eyes. This is going to be a stress

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and pain relief session. Stress and pain relief. Yeah, stress

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and pain relief.

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That's it.

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So it's one of those recordings which basically can be

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listened to whether you're trying to reduce your stress or

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whether you're trying to reduce your chronic pain. So you

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must know cause of the chronic pain if that's why

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you're listening, and get permission from your doctor before listening. Now,

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I'm not really going to ask you to do much.

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I'm just gonna waffle on. I mean, he's going to

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fidget a little bit until he gets comfortable and then

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hopefully he will settle down. He's a little bit thrown

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off because I haven't got my chair in recline position,

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so my feet are on the ground. Because when I've

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got in a reclined position, my neck goes back, and

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it's a little bit uncomfortable sometimes to talk like that

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because it's yeah, it's almost my neck is at a

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weird angle. Sometimes I'm makeay doing that, but you know,

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it depends. But he's calmed down now, so I'm just

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going to talk and maybe you can feel different. So

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let's do a quick kind of body scan. Just focus

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on how you're feeling. How does your face feel, how

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does your head feel, your eyes, your jaw, your neck,

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How does your shoulders feel, your arms, your wrists, your

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hands and your fingers, How does your back feel? How

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does your chest and your stomach feel, your hips, your legs, feeds,

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and your toes. Now, I can't focus on a particular

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part of your body to relax because I don't know

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what part of your body needs the most attention to

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let go to feel different. Well, you can do now.

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You can just focus on that part of your body

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which maybe has been problematic. And if you're listening to

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stress relief, well, I find there's usually a part of

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my body that feels the most stress, the most uptight.

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Quite often that'll be maybe in my lower my lower back,

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maybe sometimes my back of my neck, my shoulders, used

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to be in my stomach when I had stomach muscles,

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but now it's just flab there, So yeah, I don't

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get so much tension in my belly anymore. But we're

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all different, we all feel it differently. Some people would

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feel in their forehead and their eyes, the jaw a

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tense jaw. So you can just focus on where that

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feeling is that you'd like to change, that you like

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to for it to feel different. And we're going to

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do something a little bit different. We're going to focus

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on the comfort level. How comfortable is it from zero

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or maybe minus zero, so minus fifty to plus fifty

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or minus twenty to plus twenty, Where would it be

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on that scale of comfort?

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Where is it now?

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And now focus on the other parts of your body,

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you know, as a whole, Where are those parts? How

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does the rest of your body feel on that scale

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of comfort in this moment? And now as you focus

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on your mind, where is your mind on that scale

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of comfort? And is there a part of your body

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that feels really really comfortable? So if you can serve

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through your body, notice a part of your body that

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feels really like the most comfortable out of your entire body,

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And where is that on the scale now as you

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listen to my voice, maybe that feeling's going up. And

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as you focus now on the initial feeling, now this

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if there's any change on the scale there, perhaps it's

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feeling more comfortable now, even though I haven't actually done anything.

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But then again, how often do feelings change apparently on

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their own anyway, without any obvious reason. Now again, focus

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on the rest of your body. What level of comfort

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is the rest of your body?

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Now?

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Has that changed? How much has that increased? It might

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just be a sense of well being. It might just

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be that you're giving attention to a feeling of comfort

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that was already there, but you just weren't paying attention

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to it before, But now you are. The whole thing,

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isn't it. We we notice things that we focus on.

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It's an old game that I used to play when

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I was a kid. Me and my brothers, we used

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to like decide for a journey. I'm going to notice

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yellow cars, and I tell my brothers, you notice the

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red one, and you notice blue cars. And when we

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got to the journey, or maybe we got to the

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the petrol station or whatever, you know, we would sort

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of I tell them that we'd all count and would

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share how many we found. And it's amazing how many

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yellow cars I noticed that I wasn't noticing before. That's

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the one thing that amazed me. They're a thing that

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surprised me is my brothers never played the same They

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didn't play the game. They're always just like, oh, I forgot,

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Why do you say you're going to do it? Then?

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But what we focus on is often what we get

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more of. It's almost like we're requesting it in a

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weird way. So as you focus on your mind, how

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does your mind feel on that scale of comfort? Maybe

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your mind slowed down, maybe the volume has reduced, maybe

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your internal dialogue has changed somehow. Some people may find

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that their internal dialogue, your internal dialogue almost slows down

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to the speed of my voice and feels relaxing. And

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this type of speed and relaxing voice is often incompatible

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with worrying about things. It doesn't fit together. You know,

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someone says to me, all, how you doing a soul? Yeah,

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I'm just worried. You don't sound worried, Yeah, just I'm

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just concerned. Mm hmm, yeah really angry? You're angry? Yeah? Yeah,

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it doesn't really.

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Think, does it.

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When your voice is slower, not in a controlled way,

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but just in a natural way, you know, not even

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like I think they'refore, you know, not that kind of

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because that can be quite angry and tense. So you're

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not necessarily emphasizing every syllable. There's a much quieter, a

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much slower pace. And now as you think and focus

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again on the most comfortable part of your body, where

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is that now on the scale of comfort? The scale

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of comfort? I think I'm going to call this recording

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that the scale of comfort. It sounds like a book.

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Maybe maybe it could be a book, a very boring book.

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Maybe you're starting to notice the emotions changing your emotions,

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because after I find that when you, yeah, pretty much

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give yourself permission to relax, give yourself permission, it takes

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some time out and listen to me, where's my stomach gurgles?

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I think it's time to eat. That's good, not that

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my I don't think I really need to eat too much.

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The one title of a recording that you're never going

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to hear me do is how to stop being distracted.

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I'm clearly easily distracted. I distract myself seriously. If a

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fly flew past, I might spend the next hour talking

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about a fly living in a tree knitting hats for

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a living. I don't know. You may have noticed a

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lightness within you, a lightness, a kind of or maybe

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a sense of relief, and those feelings of your mind.

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It's your focus on your mind and all of those

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different comfort levels maybe start to kind of mix together,

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maybe become mildly overlapping, perhaps even from a distance, looking

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the same rising up. And the thing is, as you

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are in touch with the feelings that come from noticing

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the comfort levels in your body and in your mind raising,

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there can be a sense of maybe a sense of achievement,

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just something nice to know that, because sometimes feeling good

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is just nice to feel good. It's nice to feel uplifted.

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It's nice to feel comfortable for no reason, just to

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enjoy the feeling of positivity, the feeling of pleasure. Maybe

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even a sense of enthusiasm coming through. I'm sure why

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I said enthusiasm as of just enthusiasm. That's a bit

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with a weird way to say it. Enthusiasm. I guess

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that's what happens when I don't prepare what I'm about

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to say. I don't think that would come as a

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shock to anyone that I'm not reading off a script. Yeah,

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probably wouldn't have anything about flying the script, or probably

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wouldn't have me correcting myself on my pronunciation. I always

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thought that that word should be pronounced pronunciation, because about

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how you pronounce a word in my stomach gurgling. Wow.

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I guess it's also, from my perspective, can be useful

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to take a break from seriousness, have a rest from drama,

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or that internal moaning voice that you maybe we all

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have at times, that negativity that sometimes if it's not

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kept in check.

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And get a little bit out of hand, sometimes needs

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to be put back in its box, where.

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You could say tension and any kind of unpleasant feelings.

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Sometimes they need to be put onto the naughty step.

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My gurgling tummy needs to be put onto the naughty

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step as well. I think, mind you, that would annoy

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the negativity, wouldn't it. Imagine if the negativity was on

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the naughty step, would my gurgling tummy it's just been

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moaning the whole time.

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Why'd you keep gurgling?

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Why did you keep gurgling? Maybe not? The problemly is

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my stomach. I'd have to be there as well. I

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wouldn't it. I can't take my stomach off, so it'd

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be me sitting there on the naughty step, and there's

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no room for anything else. I got such a massive bump,

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So yeah, i'd take up all a step, all of

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the naughty steps. I probably wouldn't be able to. There'd

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be no room for negativity. There's no room for negativity.

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It gets pushed away, or there's a chance it might

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be on the step, but I actually sit on it

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and squash it, So negativity squashed. Those bad feelings are

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just squashed by my big flat bump. Those feelings that

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were there before.

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Squashed.

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And that's not a good sound effect for what would

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sound like, because unless my bomb was wet. I suppose

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I just got out of the swimming pool. I'd say

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the swimming pool, like I go swimming. Yeah, I can't

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remember the last time went swimming, probably thirty five years ago, probably,

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So maybe getting out of a bath and just sitting

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down so I could get out of the bath and

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just sitting down on the concrete steps. I said, that's

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a naughty step. You wouldn't want to be sitting on

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that step. Before I sat down so yeah, definitely, it

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would pretty much get rid of all because say, not

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just negativity. I mentioned, all the neighbors would move out

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as well. Probably the whole road would probably go running.

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Us.

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Of course I had some clothes on, but anyway, we

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don't really need that visual dory. I said it before,

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but no one seems to believe me. I'm actually taller

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when I sit down. Then I don't want to stand

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up because my big bomb, so say, when I sit

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down in my head actually touches the ceiling when I

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sit on the floor. Some may argue, what's that I'll

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do if the subject at hand? Maybe it's a distraction.

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I don't know, I'm not sure. Ultimately, it's about how

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you feel. How do you feel now compared to how

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you felt before? That's really all that matters.

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As the.

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Listening to me is real accent, and when you relax,

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your whole body feels different, Your mind slows down, your

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emotions change, you feel lighter as a person emotionally, maybe

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even physically. What could happen, though, unfortunately, because of what

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I've been saying, you might now have a choice to make.

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So whenever you feel sorry and you're like we always

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feel sorry for ourselves. Sometimes I do, and maybe you

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get a twinge, or you get that feeling of discomfort

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that you used to have. You suddenly start thinking of

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my big fat bun sitting on the naughty step, water

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dripping everywhere, neighbors running screaming. A weird visual, but helicopters

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flying over all you can see is just my head

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sticking out of the ceiling, out of the roof, so

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much taller when I sit down. I don't know why

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it'd be helicopters, to be fair, just drop it down.

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Some clothes for me to put on, not like I'm

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King Kong or something. BlimE me. They probably just be

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normal sized clothes. Maybe, but perhaps that image tickles you,

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And I don't mean like like being tickled under your

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armpits or whatever. I can't remember the last time I

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got tickled under my arm pits. I had a girlfriend

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that did it once and I did a massive fart

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because I was laughing, and I did a massive fart

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and that made me laugh, but it seemed to ruin

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the moment. That's what I said to her. You know,

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I made it. This made it feel like in future,

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no more tickling at funerals. So we kind of that

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was okay after that, They have to have boundaries sometimes.

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So how do you feel, how you feeling physically, how

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you feeling in your mind overall on that comfort chart?

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Where are you if you put it all together, where

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are you on that comfort chart? Maybe it's all blurred

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into one. Maybe you don't even care now about the

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comfort chart. Perhaps you're just enjoying how you feel right now, calm, loose, positive.

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Maybe there's just very little going on in your mind

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because you don't need to think about anything, and it

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feels so nice to just take a break from that.

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Feels so nice to give yourself permission to relax deeply,

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And that brings us to the end of this recording.

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Remember to be kind to yourself because you do deserve

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to be happy, and be gentle with yourself easier to

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feel safe. Lots of love, Bye,