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Hello, and welcome to Jason Newland dot com. My name
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is Jason Land. Hello, Helloa loa lolo he lolo. This
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is q and A Friday. Let me boyd sleep QUNA Friday.
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Yeah, so little Phinney's here at my side like a
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good boy.
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Yes, he is a you his little towels wagon waggon weaggling, wiggling,
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warbling waglin wagling. Yes, it's Friday, the eighth of August
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two thousand and twenty five.
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Please only listen when you can safety close your eyes,
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if I have not already said that. Earlier on, I
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did do a recording five bromyalgia relief hypnosis. So that's
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something I've done today.
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This week. What have I done this week? So I've
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got a Monday's boring objects. I did a whisper Monday,
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so one, two, three, four, five, six seven. So this
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will be my eighth record in this week. And I
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still got two more days left, two more days of
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the week, that is. And I ordered a.
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Window cover to try and soundproof the window, and that
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should be getting delivered at some point today. Would would
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be interesting to see how that works out. It's all
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worth a try, isn't it.
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It's worth a try. Yes, you know.
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So the last few days I've been trying to work,
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we're trying to trying to tidy up this place.
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I had a bit of a I don't know if
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it's an extrastential stench extra stench eel moment lately.
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By having been over the last few weeks, I've been
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going through Uncle's sausages stuff, partly because he asked me to.
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You know, I wasn't just having a little nose and
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he wanted me to find some things. And then when
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I told him about the magazines and there's a little
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bit of a mouse issue, he said, well, firstly, he
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didn't want to go back to the flat, and I said,
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what about your magazines? And he said, well clear it out.
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So he asked me to clear the clear his flat out,
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get rid of the rubbish. So I did that and
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I did five bags to start with, and that was
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just stuff on the just stuff on the floor, biscuit
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wrappers and stuff like that, which I'm not going to
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judge him because I'm similar myself. Sometimes I blame it
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on Vinnie, but it's not really all him. I mean
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the bones that's Vinnie. And then I started going through
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his books and the you know, the books had to
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be chucked out, and his magazines, and I found photographs
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and I started putting stuff away just like that.
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He might.
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Want to be kept, or maybe someone might want. You know,
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it's like the passport of his mum, his mum's old passport,
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and his mum's been she's been gone for a long time, yeah, decades,
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So it was kind.
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Of, I don't know, a bit weird. There's baby pictures
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of him.
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Well, I'm guessing they're him. I mean they're black and
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white pictures of a baby boy. I don't know if
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it's a boy, but a baby. Some kind of figuring
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it might be him. I mean, he didn't.
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It's hard to tell, to be honest, I just imagine
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it was. He had these.
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They're kind of hidden away in this container that you
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wouldn't even know anything was in it. And it was
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just a bunch of photographs and you know, that's personal stuff.
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But no one wants it.
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No one wants it, No one just there's without seeming harsh.
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I don't want it either. It's of no, I don't.
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I don't really collect stuff from my own life or
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my own family, never mind someone else's. But I thought
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there'd be someone that would because of you know, a
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part of me would like to think that maybe when
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my time's up, that somebody would want a keepsake.
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Of me. But I've come to realize that that's possibly
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not going to be the case. And I looked at
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all these books, all the things that he's collected over well,
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there it's a lifetime, I guess, or being chucked out.
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Everything nothing, nothing being kept. It's like all his belongings gone.
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Every bit of clothing unfortunately can't be recycled as it were,
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can't be given to the second end shop.
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But everything that meant something to him material wise, he's gone.
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He's going to be chucked out, but you're taken by
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the council. Now. A lot of it is because it's
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of the mice and it's unhealthy, you know what I mean.
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This stuff has to be backed up. I went in
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there with gloves on and just trying to kind of
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sort it out because the council asked me to do it.
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And then the council has said they didn't need me
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to do it. They were going to come and do it.
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Themselves, and they were going to come and get the
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mice people into sought out the vermin, and they came
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today because I've had a key to his flat, so
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they came in. They I let them in and they
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went and did what they needed to do, and they're
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coming back in a week's time to sort of check
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out a situation. But he was taking photographs and he
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was looking and he said, well, it's pretty bad, but
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he did say he seems worse.
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It's basically hoarders. It's a horder situation because people and
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I'm he was a hoarder. But at the same time,
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a hoarder is just someone that's clicks things. You know,
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if you get into the big hoarder blah blah blah.
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You know, those those TV programs always showed the very,
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very most extreme cases. Now you know, where someone literally
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they've got everything stacked up nearly to the ceiling, and
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it's interesting to watch because it's almost unbelievable that anyone
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could live like that. I saw.
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His flat one that was halfway through being emptied back
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before Christmas, because he was a hoarder, and it was
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quite high, but it wasn't as high as a ceiling,
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but it was, you know, up to his knees maybe, yeah, yeah,
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up to his knees pretty much higher in some places
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you couldn't. I didn't even know he had a sofa
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until they had finished. I don't think he even knew
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he had a bed.
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I said, why do you sleep in your chair? He said,
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I don't know. I was meaning to get myself a bed,
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and then I made that bit up. Although he did
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sleep in the inner city and on the sofa a chair,
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actually he didn't sleep in bed. But it's just someone
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that gets out of hand, that's all it is with.
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I think with the collecting, and I can't see he
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didn't like having someone coming in and taking his stuff,
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but he didn't have any choice. The counsel came in
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and basically told him they had to sort it out
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because of being a health hazard, of fire hazard and
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all that stuff. And this is you know about November time.
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But it was very distressing for him because he didn't
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have enough time to sort through his own stuff to
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choose what he wanted to keep. So what he did
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is he made sure that they didn't go into any
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of his drawers or any of.
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His cupboards, which are also full of stuff. I found
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newspapers from nineteen ninety nine.
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I helped him move all the stuff the kitchen. Just
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before this is I think it's the start of the
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year he had a new kitchen put in. It might
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have been the end of last year. I lose track
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of time, but he had a new kitchen put in.
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So the week and before they came to do the kitchen,
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I helped him to move everything out of the kitchen
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into his bedroom and we were going through the drawers
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and I couldn't believe stuff we were finding. There was
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carrier backs that had been in there so long they've disintegrated, and.
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It was kind of there was one that was so
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bad as like I said, sim uncle sausages, You're going
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to have to deal with this. This I'm not I'm
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not touching that draw You can deal without yourself. But
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you know, to try and help him out a little
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bit if I could. But the people from the council
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when they did what was subcontracted, when they did it,
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they didn't no surfaces were cleared from the looks of it,
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you know, nothing was no cupboards were looked in all
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the stuff where I don't know. Basically, I think he
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needed to have been put into.
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A hotel or go and stay somewhere for a week
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while the whole place was just emptied and bearing in
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mind his age, and he wasn't really so much able
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to look after himself. He was independent, but there were
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certain aspects that he wasn't doing great with, maybe doing
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really well compared to a lot of people his age,
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but he wasn't.
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He wasn't. He needed help, but he didn't ask for
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any help other than from me, And most of that
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was just helping with bills and talking to people on
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the phone and getting his front door sorted out, and
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helping get his kitchen cleared and help him with bits
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and bobs like that and ordering stuff on nine you know,
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things that he sort of didn't enjoy doing, but he
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it's just really weird. I went in there again.
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Today and showed the the mice men around and I said,
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I know it's really it's a bit grotty in these
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two rooms, but the kitchen in the bathroom are fine.
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The kitchens. I said, I think there's like rat droppings
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in the kitchen and he said, no, it's not rat droppings.
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They're like these beetle shellfings, like rad droppings, but they're
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not and the bathroom perfect.
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Uncle Sausages hadn't hadn't even seen the finished article of
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his bathroom because it was in the process of being rebuilt,
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refurbished or whatever while he was He was still there
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when they started it, so they were there for the
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first week. He was there for the first week of
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them doing it from Tuesday to Friday, and a Friday
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night he went in tospital, so they hadn't I don't
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think they put the bath in yet. I hadn't put
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in and put the toilet in, but I hadn't put in.
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I can't remember. I'm pretty sure they asked me even
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what kind of tiles did he want? And I just
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said they were asking me, like, I don't know, but
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the because i' let them in every day, So you know,
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there was like the plumber, then there was the electrician,
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then there was the plaster, then there was the painter,
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all the different kind of trades people that came in,
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and he never got to see it. He never got
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to see the end result. And he's down.
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He's waiting, well, he was waiting later in the year,
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I don't know when, but this year, sometime in the
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next few months, he's going to have all new windows
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in there as well, so practically a whole new flat
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other than the living room and the bedroom, although that
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will now be all cleared out.
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And I mean they.
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Don't the council don't refurbish the flat when you don't
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like the living room in the bedroom. They they will
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strip the place, get everything out of there in this
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kind of situation. They did the same with my friend
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Luke downstairs, and Trina who also lived downstairs, did the
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same there as well, who she passed away as well.
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So this is a third third person who I've lived
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in this block with that's passed away in the last
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five years. It's crazy, really, Yeah, Trina was the first first, Yeah,
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it was the beginning of twenty twenty and Luke end
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of twenty twenty three November, and now Uncle Sausages. It's
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kind of weird. It's just just weird. But anyway, I
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don't want to keep talking about that.
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But orthough, I am. I'm starting to wonder though.
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This is I know, this isn't really anything to do
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with Q and a Friday, but you know, this let
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me boy to sleep is it's kind of like a
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I don't know, like a journal or a diary, a
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verbal you know, vlog blog, whatever you want to call it.
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And so I do talk about my life. I talk
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about what's gone on and how I'm feeling. I try
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to keep it light, and you know, I don't talk
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about things like this when it's not happening. You know,
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it's like like I'm constantly talking about bereavement.
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And things like that. I'm not. I don't.
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If you listen regularly, you know that I do try
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and keep it quite light.
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And I'm trying to keep this light as well.
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It's just a little bit hard because there's also the reality,
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or at least my reality, of the situation, and it
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just seems like he's if I don't talk about him,
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he's forgotten.
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Now.
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It's not going to be forgotten or remembered by anyone listening,
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because no one listening knows him, you know, in the
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sense of you don't know, just like Luke or anyone
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else sort of in my life. You don't know these people,
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but it kind of keeps I feel like it keeps
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them alive, keeps as long as the memory is alive,
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it keeps them alive, Like you know, really famous people