(Short Voice) #9 Focus - Let Me Bore Your PAIN AWAY (Jason Newland) (10th April 2024)

Hello and welcome to let me bore your pain away, pain away, bore your pain away. Now this recording is I guess it's a mixture of my Let Me Bore You To Sleep and a chronic pain relief hypnosis session kind of. So please only listen when you can safely close your eyes.

My name is Jason Newland, my website is jasonnewland.com. I have multiple podcasts available. So just check it out. Let Me Bore You To Sleep.

And they're just lots of different ones. I've just put my name into Google. So I'm on Apple podcasts, Spotify, Spreaker, all those different ones, lots of different ones.

So the point of this recording kind of is that there's no point to this recording, other than you can tell whether or not it's been useful by how you feel during and before during and at the end of the recording. So how you feel now how you feel throughout, and also how you feeling at the end. You can tell yourself you can tell for yourself whether or not you have gained any benefit from listening to me droning on, on and on and on and on.

And I realized that this is a very different way to be combating or, you know, looking at ways of reducing the physical sensations of chronic pain to just, you know, Let Me Bore You To Sleep. Let me bore your pain away. It's kind of a weird title, isn't it? I guess.

However, this is this is what I do. It's not for everyone. But it could be.

So just in case, I guess really get a gauge of where you are now, where your pain level is now. And I won't be using the word pain throughout the recording just right now as we're focusing on it. If you was to give it a zero to 10, zero being zero, no pain at all.

And 10 being the worst possible that it could be. Now, another really important thing to say is, before listening to this or any pain relief recordings, find out the cause of the physical unpleasantness. See a doctor, physician, medical practitioner, whatever it is that you need to see.

Make sure you know the cause. Because masking pain is not a good idea. Because pain is there.

Acute pain is there for a reason. So acute pain, an injury, appendicitis as acute pain, you wouldn't want to be masking that because then the appendix might burst, which can be very problematic. Happened to my brother.

Very, he got sepsis. He survived but he was it was close. It was so that wasn't good.

I had appendicitis but mine just got took out. So you need to know the cause. That's why I focus on chronic pain.

The difference between physical acute pain and chronic pain is really a case of chronic pain is not necessary. We don't need chronic pain. Chronic pain is arthritis.

Chronic pain is was a million and one different things. But basically, it's not required. It's there.

It's useful. It's there for a reason. To let you know quite often to be careful with a part of your body.

So for me, I've got arthritis in my lower back. And it's a warning to just take it easy a bit, you know, because if I do anything too strenuous, I feel it afterwards. So it just is a bit of a warning sign.

But at the same time, I don't need it to be there all the time. It's not doing me any good for my back to be hurting me when I'm watching television, or just walking to the shops. There's no no use to me at all.

And there's lots of that kind of chronic pain where the part of your body is actually healed. There's no real reason for it to be there. There's no use necessarily.

Other than basically, to just be careful, which we should do anyway with our bodies, especially as we get older, just be a little bit more careful than perhaps we were when we were kids. I discovered that when I fell down the stairs over a year ago and fractured my back. I guarantee that if I'd have fallen down the stairs when I was 10, a couple of bruises, that's all I'd have got.

If I was so light, I probably would have just floated down to be honest. Not quite as light these days. So I could be boring and keep talking about chronic pain.

I've been studying chronic pain since 2002. Pretty much right before that, but I kind of really got into it around 2002. And I don't want to bore people with that because if you've got it, then you've got it.

The reason you've got it is whatever the reason is. There's no way of me knowing. But do you need it? Man, I think the answer to that generally is not really.

It's there for a reason. But if it's warning you and you now heed the warning, then it doesn't need to be there. And I've said this before, it's kind of chronic pain is a little bit like a faulty car alarm.

You know, those car alarms, you know, when you've got a neighbor and the alarm keeps going off every time a bumblebee farts. It's like, wow, stop it. Shut up.

I'm trying to sleep. Well, it sometimes feels that chronic pain can be a bit like that. It's just it's not needed.

Sometimes it's just unnecessary completely. You know, the person's body is healed. There's no logical medical reason for there to be any pain there at all.

I remember a doctor said to me years ago is human beings are very habitual and we get used to things quite easily. And. For example, if you someone's got a cough, chest infection that drags on, it can be left with a cough, not because I got a cough, because they're just habitually doing it like that and almost cause himself to cough because it's become almost automatic.

Someone with a broken leg, when a broken leg heals, they have to learn to start walking normally again because they may have spent the last six weeks trying very, very, very strongly to avoid putting any kind of weight on that leg. And then the last two or three weeks, maybe they can put weight on it, but they don't. They don't.

They don't even know they probably can in the last week or so. They still put in very minimal on because they got used to not doing it. But once the plaster comes off, you can't continue to hobble around.

You need to get back to walking normally. The way you used to walk, maybe. I noticed this when I broke my toe a few months back.

I kicked the wall while I was asleep. I was dreaming. I was a football star or something, and I kicked the wall, broke my toe, big toe.

I was hobbling around. I still had to go out because I got my little dog Vinnie, had to take him out a few times a day. So I was hobbling around.

It got to the point where my calf muscle was more painful than my toe because I was walking wrongly and I was putting different weight on my foot to what I would normally do. And it was cramping my calf muscle up and it was really painful. So I had to learn, not learn, but like force myself to not walk exactly the way I used to, but to walk as flat as I could.

So obviously not bend my toes, but get as flat down instead of pretty much walking on my heel, which then caused my muscles to relax and to pretty much go back to how they were. Although I think there was part of me wanting to know that I got a broken toe. Gave me something to talk about.

I don't know. It really hurt. I couldn't wear any socks for like two months, which means not only did I suffer, but my shoes.

Wow. The socks had a nice holiday. Not have to be on my smelly feet.

So, you know, there's lots of different techniques that can help you to reduce the physical sensation that you might have. And sometimes just a distraction. Sometimes, you know, just focusing on something else other than that part of your body can make a difference to how you feel, make a real difference.

Sometimes focusing on the particular area, although it's kind of the opposite to what you would normally want to do. But when you do do it, something tends to change because if you do it with a different attitude, when you focus on that part of your body without, without the stress or the tension or the negativity or whatever, which is natural to have, but if you do it without that stuff, without those emotions, then it's just a part of your body.

It goes back to being what it was before.

A part of your body. And it's almost like you've taken the label away. You've just viewing it the way you do.

So maybe there's an issue of one leg. You start viewing that leg the way you do the other leg, the leg that's fine. And start realizing that there's a degree of relaxation that occurs in that part of your body that can actually happen very naturally without you trying to cause that part of your body to relax deeply.

It just kind of seems to happen on its own. And the reason it happens is because you allow it to happen because you've opened your mind up to realize that when you listen to my voice, you're not, you're no longer stuck in that frame of mind of only thinking of the physical sensations in that part of your body as being one type. Because physical sensations can be all types.

If you can have one type of physical sensation, then you can have another. And no feeling stays the same constantly. No emotion stays the same.

We're fluid, aren't we? We're fluid people. We don't think about exactly the same thing all the time. We don't say the same word all the time.

We don't have the same wants all the time. Sometimes we're hungry. Sometimes we're thirsty.

Sometimes we want to watch television. Sometimes we want to talk. Sometimes you want to go to bed.

Sometimes you blah blah blah, you know, we're not just one thing. Sometimes you'll focus on your left leg. Sometimes you might focus on your right ear.

Because there's a lot more going on in your body than just that one thing that perhaps before you started listening to this, you maybe were giving it too much attention. But through the lens of negativity, which as I said earlier, is very natural. The idea of looking at that part with positivity probably feels a bit weird.

But that part of your body isn't just the physical sensations that it's been lately. There's more, more other sensations, other physical feelings. And it's also connected to other parts of your body, ultimately connected to all parts of your body.

So there's always other feelings that you can experience that's going on the whole time. There's always sounds that you can hear. I've got people in the garden talking loudly.

There's the temperature of the room, which is a bit too warm, to be honest. But I can't have the window open because of all the noise outside. But I have to have the door closed because otherwise I'll hear Vinnie barking if he starts barking at the front door.

Technically, I could take my jumper off. I could take my coat, gloves and hat off, my fur and my underpants, but that's for another day. I'll do that another time.

There's so many things we can focus on, like what we see, what you can smell, just the senses, you know, what you can taste. When you're eating something, let's say you have a, if you like chocolate, for example, and you have a bar of chocolate, you're tasting that. Now I'm guessing you're not focusing on your feet when you're eating the chocolate, probably not focusing on your shoulders or your back or your face.

You might not be focusing on what you can hear. You still hear stuff, but you can't not hear that stuff in the garden. I don't know if you can hear it, but it's very, it's just constant.

It's lovely. I love it. The only time I can make a recording where there's no noise is the middle of the night, which is not really ideal, to be honest with you, because I sleep at night.

I'm asleep. And it's not as if it's like a purposeful distraction. To focus on, you know, what you're eating, or focused on what you're seeing, or focus on what you're hearing, or focus on a certain part of your body, which isn't the part that you were focusing on before.

Or maybe noticing the part of your body that perhaps was problematic before you decided to listen to me. And starting to realize and give a bit more appreciation to that part of your body, and what it has done for you over your lifetime. You know, for example, if it's a hand, or a knee, or an elbow, or a shoulder, or a mouth, or foot, or whatever it is, every part of our body has been of service to us, has served us for decades and decades and decades, depending obviously on how old you are, but for a long time, the entirety of our lives really.

So it's more than just a physical feeling. It's also connected to other parts of the body that are also more than just a physical feeling. I mean, there's some techniques where if one of the parts of your body has been problematic, let's say the right hand and the left hand's fine, or the left knee and the right knee's fine, or whatever like that, then sometimes by going between each part of your body, back and forward, back and forward, just noticing the difference and noticing the subtle changes as you focus on each part.

And, you know, let's say the left knee's got a bit of a problem, and so you focus on the right knee and notice how loose that feels, how relaxed the right knee feels, and you go back to the left knee. And the weird thing about it is every time you go back to the left knee, you're taking some of that relaxation with you. It's carried, you know, a bit like a bee with pollen, you know, it's stuck to you and it's being moved and transferred to the left knee.

And then it goes back to the right knee. Because the right knee's feeling fine, it's protected, it feels okay, whatever's stuck from the left knee, the negativity maybe, that gets moved, but that falls off halfway through the journey. It doesn't make it back to the right knee, because it's not substantial, it's not it's not as real, it's not as strong as the positive, healthy feeling, the feeling of relaxation and calmness.

And you keep going between knee, backwards and forwards, and each time, and I'm using the word knee, it could be elbows, it could be shoulders, it could be eyes, it could be ears, it could be feet, toes, calf muscles, legs, buttocks, it could be testicles, it could be breasts, it could be fingers, wrists, forearms, thighs, and when now things that have two, eyes, ears.

Of course, there's parts of us that only have one part, but it's like a large part, like the neck, got the front of the neck, the sides of the neck, the back of the neck, which connects, of course, the head to the body, and the sides lead to the shoulders, the back leads to the spine, the whole of the back of the neck, the front leads into the chest, so it's that connection, so it might just be one part, but it reaches into every other part, just like the little finger,

it feels like it's kind of on its own, and it's, you know, just, it's just there, but ultimately it's connected, connected to your hand, therefore connected to the other fingers, connected to your arm, which connects to your body, and so everything's all connected, there's nothing that isn't connected inside you, inside us, and for some reason, I don't know why this is, when I start thinking of the body as a whole, not a whole as in Doug, Doug a whole, I mean it's a whole thing, holistically, I guess,

it seems harder to just focus on one part without the rest of the body kind of interfering, or getting involved, or noticing, or realizing, and when the rest of the body starts to notice that maybe one part has what seems like blockage, like a blockage of healing energy coming in from the rest of the body, that part which has been problematic in the past, starts to be a bit bombarded really from all sides, and it's a little bit like, I guess it's like an island that just gets completely flooded,

like a little island in the middle of the ocean, but every day the water rises and completely covers it, and it's no longer an island, but before it's covered, it feels like it's on its own, completely separate from everything else, completely separate from the water, but once the water rises up, it becomes part of the ocean, it's not a separate island anymore, and I kind of get a sense that seems to sometimes feel that way about certain parts of your body that maybe used to be difficult to deal with,

and now something's changed, and you start to, I don't know, start to notice that you feel different, you feel different, not just physically different in that part of the body, but maybe you notice that the border around that part that maybe you were focusing on, almost like, well, this is an island on its own, and then you realize that there is no border, you realize that it's not an entity on its own, it's not separate from anything, and because the body's so large, there's so many parts, you know, the skin,

inside and outside, all the different limbs, all the different parts of your body, including, of course, your head, your scalp, your brain, so when you've got that small part of your body, even though it might feel like a large part, ultimately compared to the rest of the body, it's relatively small, and I kind of get the analogy I quite like, is if you've got a cup full of water, and you put a teaspoon of salt in, the water's going to taste horrible, unless, of course, you like salt water,

but it's not healthy to eat or to drink, I don't think, but you know, you're going to taste it, and it's going to be all salty, if you did the same into a bath full of water, and then you've got a cup, and try to find, it disperses, you can't taste the salt, because it's gone, it's dissolved, it's spread out, and that's the same with a lot of physical feelings, do the same thing, when you realize that you've transferred from that, just being in one small space, being that cup,

to realize, and actually, the whole body wants to look after itself, your whole body wants to look after you, and it's almost coming to your rescue, in a way, by saying, hey, just relax, just relax, man, just allow your body to do what it needs to do, in order for you to feel more relaxed, and more comfortable, more peaceful, more able to have some trust in your own mind, and your own body, to let things that you don't need, to just disappear, to dissolve, I guess, a bit like the salt in the bathtub,

it's gone, like that island, before the sea rises, and you can see the sea rising, and gradually, the island disappears, now, your body really is an amazing thing, all of our bodies are, I mean, it's phenomenal, really, when you think about it, that just by giving yourself permission to relax, just allowing yourself to let go completely, but not trying to do anything, and that's one of the things I quite like about these recordings, because you're not doing anything, you're just sitting, listening to me waffle on, you may fall asleep,

you might get so bored, that you drift off, you may just feel more relaxed, and that's something that I noticed years ago, back in 2006, used to be the, kind of the headline of my website, is, relaxation equals physical relief, from, you know, any unpleasant feelings, it's just a relaxed mind, equals a relaxed body, and a relaxed body equals a relaxed mind, and it just, it's that circle of comfort, that just continues, and it's quite nice, it's very easy, it's very natural, because we were born with the ability to relax,

we were born with the ability to drift off to sleep, very easily, so easily, in fact, you watch any little kid, they can fall asleep, whilst eating their dinner, they can fall asleep whilst playing, they can fall asleep in the middle of a conversation, and if you ever see a kid, especially when there's other people in the house, and they don't want to go to bed, because they don't want to miss what's going on, and they're trying to force themselves to stay awake, and they keep nodding off, and then open eyes again,

and then they keep nodding off again, and they drift, and they open their eyes, and they drift down again, and it's a similar kind of thing with physical sensations in your body, when you might be trying to, for some reason, just it's human nature, I think, trying to get it to go back to the way it was, like, well, no, I've been through a lot with this, and listening to some weirdo on a podcast, it doesn't make sense for me to feel more relaxed, and for me to have some relief,

and you know, maybe some people are trying to get it back, but like that little kid, that keeps nodding off again, it's like I'm trying to get it back, and you just, you drift off again, and it drifts off as well, I suppose, like trying to read a newspaper in a hurricane, you know, you can try, you can try, you can sit on a park bench, somewhere safe, of course, on a really windy day, I say safe, not near trees, or anything that might fall on you, but you know,

if you're in the garden, it can be a really, really windy day, and it doesn't matter how determined you are to read that newspaper, comfortably, and relaxed, it's not going to happen, because it's going to get blown all over the place, because that's what happens when it's windy, and you try and read a newspaper outside, there's not a lot you can do about it, just like when someone's really tired, and they close their eyes, and every time they close their eyes, it's harder to open their eyes, so you know,

someone's trying to stay awake during a lecture at college, or at school, or trying to stay awake during a movie, now I do this for boxing, they'll be boxing on early hours of the morning in America, because I'm in the UK, so I have to get up early hours, and sometimes by 3.30, 4 o'clock, I just want to go to sleep, but the main fight hasn't been on yet, and it's just about to start, and I'll keep closing my eyes, and then opening them, and closing them, and then opening them,

and I've been doing this routine for since I was, the early 90s, I remember trying to stay awake to watch an Evander Holyfield fight, and I stayed awake, and then I fell asleep, and I woke up, pretty much the fight was over, but I was so tired, and the more I tried to stay awake, the more tired I became, and it's weird the way our brains seem to sometimes be like that, like the more you try and find a feeling that used to be there, the more it tends to evade you,

and almost like it's hiding, I remember going to the doctors, and I had a pain in my body, a pain in my stomach or something, and he said where is it, and I couldn't tell him, it hid, the physical discomfort hid, and I'm like why are you hiding, and I thought it hid, it just disappeared, it'd gone, and that was annoying, because I'd gone to the doctors to try and get it checked out, like and it was just not there, or I guess it's similar to having a shy bladder,

you know you're in a public, toilets and men, we use urinals, but there's also normal toilets, but usually it's mainly urinals, so you'd be standing next to another human, with you know, trying to go to the toilet, and I used to find I'd get a very shy bladder, I don't mean shy, it didn't make any weird noises or anything, or turn pink, but you just didn't want to do anything, and that made it even worse, because then there'd be a queue in that why is he taking so long,

what's he actually doing, that's too long for a wee, should we call the police, so yeah it was, you can't force yourself to urinate, not really, you can't force yourself to want to feel hungry, you can't force yourself to lots of things, because so much of what we do is natural, including feeling tired, or feeling awake, or being excited about something, it's just natural feelings and emotions that we experience, I guess, and I suppose, I suppose, I suppose, even when you do focus back on that part of your body that you was focusing on before,

you decided to listen to me prat along for an hour, or whatever it's been, 10 minutes, no 40 minutes, things change, the physical sensations change, the way you think about things change, and it's not something that we necessarily need to feel in control of, it's just the way things are, no feeling stays the same, no physical sensation stays the same, and which in some ways, maybe we would argue is a shame, but in reality, even the most pleasurable sensations wouldn't be necessarily useful in all situations, you know, for example,

going to a funeral, why is Jason smiling ecstatically, it's like no, because you wouldn't want to feel orgasmic all the time, 90% of the time maybe, but not all the time, so even really pleasant feelings aren't necessarily ideal all the time, I remember, it was the day before my grandmother's funeral, and I went to dinner with a friend and her kids, and at one point she said, oh I'm just trying to cheer you up, and that is not what someone that's going through grief needs, people, bereavement isn't something to be cheered up,

it's not just a mood, you know, or cheer you up, no, she didn't understand that, which is fine, and I didn't want to be cheered up, I wanted to feel crappy, because that's how I naturally felt, and I was upset about the situation, you know, I wasn't interested in laughing, which makes you think, why did I go out for lunch or whatever with them, I must have been a really crap host, I think I had a burger, I think, I'm not sure, there was one thing I did years ago,

this is in 2004, I was in a Buddhist shrine room, and I was meditating, and I had a pain in my knee, so I just sat there, and I focused on my knee, and for some reason, I decided to, instead of focusing on it, and like, oh, and just moaning to myself, feeling like a victim or something, you know, I'll feel sorry for me, which I've spent a lot of my life doing, I used to love, love being like that, I try not to so much these days,

or I could try and distract myself, which is a useful technique, but for some reason, I decided to just focus on it, and look for it, where is it, where is that physical sensation, where is it, where's that feeling, can you hold it in your hand, is it a tangible, is it actually a thing, that you can physically see, hold, and touch, in other words, is it real, can you hold it, can you find it, where is it, where is it, so what I did is, I focused on my knee,

and the more I looked for the physical sensation that I've been having, and it was, it was fairly painful, because I think it was, I was trying to meditate with my cross legs, and I don't have the, I didn't have the flexibility then, never mind now, and every time I couldn't find it, I'd go deeper into the knee, I'd focus even deeper in, go inside, go inside, keep going inside, to the point where, it was nowhere to be seen, it's almost like I'd gone inside it, and realized that it wasn't there,

there isn't anything that I could hold in my hand, and say, this is that feeling, and that, that was a fairly big turning point for me, because from then onwards, for years, I used to do that, even when I was walking, sometimes I'd, I don't know if I had a, before I didn't realize I had arthritis in my lower back, so I used to be walking, and I'd get hurt, and I'd basically do that with my lower back, I'd just focus on it, and keep going in further, focusing further,

focusing further, even with my eyes open, I could do it, and it would just eventually just disappear, and something is, well I noticed that sometimes, just by listening to someone talk, even if it's not really particularly interesting, you know, as interesting as this has been of course, something happens, something changes, and it's quite, you feel nice, you feel nice to know that we're always changing, always, we never stay the same, and the fact that by focusing on a part of your body, and then going deep inside that part of body,

looking, really looking, searching for that physical sensation, I know it kind of, it goes against this stuff, in a sense, you're looking for something that you don't want, but the more you look, the less you can find it, and every time you do find it, if you do, just step inside, and start looking, and every time step inside again, and just do it as many times you need, where you feel peaceful, where you feel relaxed and calm, and it can, really can have, make an impression on you, have an effect,

positive, knowing that we're always changing, and the way you feel now, will be different to the way you feel in an hour's time, maybe, or the way you felt an hour before now, and one of the reasons I don't focus on breathing, is because whenever I do one of these recordings, which is quite slow, your breathing just slows down in its own time, slows down, which leaves less for you to do, less to focus on, and less to be concerned with, and I'm really finding myself getting tired now,

falling asleep would be very easy for me right now, very easy, so I'm going to bring this recording to an end, I know it hasn't lasted long really, although it has been over 50 minutes I think, and some would argue that I haven't really said anything, and I might agree with that, but ultimately it's about how you feel, how you feel now, how you felt before, how you felt during, and how you feel afterwards, and every time you listen to my voice, whether it be one of these podcasts,

whether it's Let Me Bore You To Sleep, whether it's, I don't know, relax and sleep hypnosis daily, you may notice that you just feel more relaxed, naturally, effortlessly, and it's a nice feeling, it's a really nice feeling to just let go, and to let go, calmly and loosely, that brings us to the end of this recording, thank you for listening, remember to be kind to yourself, because you deserve to be happy, be gentle with yourself, lots of love, bye