(music) The power of relaxation Let me bore your pain away #13 Jason Newland

Hello and welcome to jasonnewland.com. My name is Jason Newland and this is Let Me Bore Your Pain Away. The weather's changed a lot. The last few days has been almost summery, but not, not summery as in temperature, but bright, sunny, I guess sunny and bright are the two.

It's not gonna be bright unless it's sunny really, is it? Yeah, so it's been sunny and bright. And I think the old tree fleas have been flying around and getting me. So, so, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa.

Please only listen when you can safely close your eyes. And find out the cause of your chronic pain before listening to any recordings that may help you to reduce that physical pain. Make sure you find a cause first and get permission from your medical practitioner before ever watching a video or listening to a recording that helps you to reduce or to remove any kind of physical pain.

Okay, so providing you've done that, we shall get on with the recording. So what I do, I do things a little bit different to how I think other people do it. It doesn't mean that it's better or worse, it might be worse.

But it's what I do. So my background is hypnosis, going back a long time. NLP, I'm a qualified counselor, well I was a qualified counselor, I don't counsel anymore.

I got a degree in counseling. Started studying hypnosis in 1998. So yeah, I've been around a bit.

Now I'm just round, because I'm fat. Lovely. So all I'd ask you to start with is gauge what level the physical pain is now.

I'm not gonna use the word pain anymore after this little bit. Okay, I'm just gonna use the term physical discomfort. Because I don't really want to be focusing on that particular word because it's not a nice word.

Doesn't, it's not the kind of word you think or unless of course you're into S&M and stuff like that, then maybe you might be into that, you know, candle, hot candle wax and stuff. Never quite figured that one out. You know, I had a girlfriend once, hard to believe it's true.

And I remember she like getting a candle out. And first of all, I thought, you know, it was quite a big candle. And I was a little bit worried.

You know, I'm not sure if I could come and accommodate it. And then she says she's she likes it. So I thought, okay, must be a power cut or something.

Next thing I know, I'm going, ouch, ouch, ouch. And yeah, not really. Not really my thing.

But I won't be using the word pain. I won't be talking about candles either, probably. Although there is something about candles.

I think one of the things is a Buddhist saying that one candle, you can light a million candles with just one candle. You know, one candle lights and another lights and it can go on for literally for 1000s of years just from one candle, the light from one candle. But unfortunately, it's not very relevant to this recording.

I don't know why I thought about it. So I'd like to do is gauge where you are on your scale of pain, being 10 being zero, 10 worst zero, like nothing. And this isn't about eliminating that physical discomfort.

It's about reducing it. It's about noticing how it changes. And how naturally the way we feel changes all the time, constantly going in and out of different feelings.

Sometimes, you know, for example, you're possibly not focusing on your feet. Well, you are now though. And you won't focus in maybe on your hands, but you are now or the back of your neck or your jaw.

Now you're focusing on your jaw. It's just standard things like that. I know I'm, I'm kind of egging you on to notice those parts of your body.

But that also happens naturally. You know, when you're eating, you're going to notice your mouth moving. When you're walking, you're going to notice your feet moving.

If you're in a wheelchair, you're going to notice how it feels when you're pushing the wheels with your hands. If you're rowing a boat, why would you be rowing a boat, but some people do row boats, you're going to notice how that feels on your back. And the feeling of being cramped in that little dodgery do thing.

Canoe, that's it. I didn't like canoes. I'm not prejudiced against canoes.

I just don't. It's like, why? I understand as a form of transport, canoes were amazing. You know, they were useful, they were used, and, you know, by indigenous tribes and stuff, different parts of the world.

That's, that's, that was transport. They didn't have trains, or ferries or planes back then. Or yachts.

So they had to make do with or bridges even. So to get across they, I realize you might be thinking, we know what canoes do, you don't have to explain that they float on the water and go across from land to land. But that's not what they're useful now, it's more like a sport.

And, but parachuting. Why? Why? Anyway. So focusing on where you are now, it can be a distraction.

Sometimes listening to me can be a distraction. And you like think, oh, okay, what the heck is he talking about? He's just talking about nothing. And that is part of what this is, is me talking about nothing.

Sometimes I might feel like that. And I might also stutter as well, I've got a little bit of stutter sometimes, with the S's for some reason, which is weird, because it's really hard for a stutter. It's hard for a stutterer to say stutter.

And I don't always stutter, but just sometimes. It's not like a regular thing. It's like a hobby, a part time job.

And I got a bit of a lisp as well. A lisp, that's another word you can't say about lisping, isn't it? A lisp. It's like, it's like they're trying to make fun of people.

It's like illiteracy. Hard to spell. Thesaurus, practically impossible to spell.

I don't know what he's doing down there. So it's about noticing how you feel at the beginning, and then how you feel at the end. Now there's a few different ways that you can reduce your chronic pain.

One of them, which I discovered, probably about 2006. So it's 19 years ago, I used to do a free pain relief service in my local town. I started off going to people's houses, and then they came to me because I had a little office.

I just did it on a Saturday morning. And I was working full time as well. So there's a free little free service.

But I noticed that relaxation just by relaxing automatically reduces physical issues. Whatever the physical issues are, relaxing just makes you feel better. You know, I want to say better, I mean, you feel calmer, you feel more physically in tune, maybe have a bit more physical energy.

Maybe you can even notice the parts of your body that feel good. Because that's something that and um, I got chronic pain myself, I got, I said the word, I've got arthritis in my lower back. So, and I've had this for a long time.

It's gradually got worse over years, it's wear and tear and whatever. I'm old, very old. As well as backflips.

No, I never done a backflip, a black flip a black back flip. Never did a backflip wouldn't know how to. I like the idea of it, though.

Not now. But when I was younger, because I used to see it on TV and the athletes and stuff during Olympics and like, how do they do it? And how do they manage to land without hurting their fingers? That's why because, okay, got bendy backs, but they have to have bendy fingers because the way they land, almost like on their fingertips and then roll over. So I never had a chance to do that.

I did have a chance. I mean, my teacher did sort of kept saying, I'll go and do a backflip. You can do it.

It's fine. And apparently he he got struck off eventually. And we got a new maths teacher got replacement.

So the PE teacher wasn't really that interested. He only liked the lads that because we've always single sex like where we did sports. He was like the lads that were athletic, and that could play football and play rugby and they're just, you know, that were sporty and were good at stuff like that.

And I'm still looking for something that I'm good at. 54 years and I've not found anything yet. I'm good at watching television.

I'm good at eating chocolate, if that can be a skill. But yeah, I'm still waiting to find something that I'm actually can excel at. But playing football wasn't it.

So relaxing is the whole kind of not something that can be forced. But for me, there's two workouts, there's more than two ways to relax. I'm just thinking there's there's a really good way to relax, I suppose.

But you know, there can be sometimes relaxation happens instantly. And I find that's the best type. Sometimes, you know, when it's just, you know, you're literally just, maybe you've had a busy day, and you sit down.

And that sitting down, putting your feet up, whatever feels amazing. Or it's a bit like eating, eating when you're hungry. Like when you're first couple of bites of whatever it is you're eating tastes amazing.

It just even if it's not great food, if you're hungry enough, it tastes good. Like just a bit of toast is amazing. When you're hungry, you know, just something little like that.

So that natural ability to, because we've all got the natural ability to relax, you know, it's just just in inbuilt with us, just you've only got to look at a baby. I mean, they can relax in a second. They can fall asleep within an instant.

They might not stay asleep, because they're, because they're babies. But they can, you know, I've seen, you see even toddlers, little kids, like three, four, five years old, maybe not five, but you know, toddlers fall asleep while they're eating. I mean, you don't normally, you don't see that in adults unless they've got, you know, what's that, that disorder where people fall asleep, not kleptomaniacs.

That's a different thing. I forget what it's called now. It's gone out of my head.

I got an uncle that was like that. He took his driving license away. Yeah, apparently, I mean, he admitted to it, he didn't, didn't have an accident or anything.

But there was one point where him and my aunt both fell asleep at the same time. And they, my auntie woke up. And I think my uncle woke up, he was driving.

And he realized that my auntie was asleep. And like, I wake up, why are you asleep? And he realized that he'd been asleep. And they were like, I don't know how long they were driving with their eyes closed.

But it's not good. So he stopped driving. And more information they needed.

I'd see him sometimes and it's like that was gone. Now I'm used to people's eyes glazing over when I talk to them. Because apparently, according to some resources, I don't have the most exciting voice.

And I don't talk particularly quickly. I mean, I don't know if that's true or not. But I'm not one of these YouTube, but I can't do that.

I don't. I struggle to listen to people talking really quickly. I think it's just because everything, everything works slowly on me.

I'm slow at practically everything. The only thing I'm not slow at is the thing that I'd like to be slow at. But let's not go down that little rabbit hole.

I even know someone I remember years ago, this is when we talk about urine now, sorry. We went to a hospital with a friend, we were visiting someone. And when we got there, it was like a car park, but it was in the middle of nowhere.

And we've been driving for about two hours. For some reason, I don't know if he got lost. And so we had to kind of go in the bushes.

It wasn't on the hospital property, but it was it might have been I was trying to anyway, we both needed a toilet. He needed a toilet. So there were some bushes.

It was a middle of nowhere honestly, no one around. I don't normally urinate in public. Just trying to fit all the things I've covered so far.

So hot, wet candles, hot wax, and now public urination. It's not how I thought this was going to be going. But you know, bear with me.

It's not really relevant either. I don't even know why I'm sticking the story. But he was probably in his 50s then.

Yeah, he was in his 50s. He's about 70 now. He's about he's got a good 1617 years older than me.

So I'm going to a toilet. I'm doing a urination. He's doing a urination.

We're emptying our wee wee. We're doing a wee wee each. And we're not together when I stand in there, there's no need.

Well, we are standing there, but we're like, different sides of the bush, not opposite sides. Otherwise you might get wet. But just, you know, different parts of the bush.

But close enough to here. And I swear his when he went to the toilet, it felt like a bottle of water, a little bottle of water had just been poured down the toilet, like, but maybe half a bottle of water just emptied instantly. I don't know if that shows it.

He's got a really, really good prostate. Because sometimes I have to stand for a little while and wait. And just like, okay, I thought I needed to go.

I mean, I think last week, I read about half a book waiting. I didn't. I don't know why I said that.

It was a book on relaxation. Why mention it? I've already said it didn't happen. Why am I mentioning the book? I don't know.

I don't always know what I'm going to say in these recordings. But how are you feeling though? That's the thing. How do you feel in that part of your body? Are you feeling more relaxed than you were before? Or I mean, you might just be annoyed, you might be like, oh, you keep going on about nothing.

Which would my question would be why are you still listening after 20 minutes? If it's that annoying. But if you feel more relaxed, then something's happened. And that might be worth exploring, right? Okay.

How can this baldy man with a squeaky voice? I don't know if I've got a squeaky. It's my voice squeaky. I don't know.

But how can a baldy man a big fat baldy man old really old and probably smells of licorice? Why would I smell of licorice? I don't even eat licorice. Keeps talking about farting. I've not even mentioned farts yet.

Yeah. How can him talking about nothing affect how I feel so that I feel more relaxed and calmer? And how is that possible? How? How? Why? When? What reason? So I don't know. It's I kind of do.

I might know a little bit. I know a little bit about some stuff. But ultimately, it's about the effect.

What's the results? Is it useful? If it's useful, good. If not, go do something else. But if it is useful, isn't that interesting? It may not even be interesting.

Even if it's useful, it might be boring. Which is why I've got the title. Let me bore your pain away.

Because that's what this is. It's a little bit like my Let Me Bore You To Sleep podcasts. The difference is, I do focus more.

It might not seem like it. But this is way more focused than the Let Me Bore You To Sleep. Way more focused.

And if you don't believe me, go and listen to one of those. You won't even like what on earth am I talking about? But this is more focused because I do talk about, you know, techniques and different things that might be useful for increasing comfort. Because that's the thing.

I know sometimes with my back, I can focus on it. And almost sort of not notice the other parts of my body that are feeling fine. And my back is only like, it's only the bottom part.

It's only the left hand side. So what is that probably not even 5% of my body, probably less than 5% of my entire body. Yet, why would I give that dominance? Why would I give all my attention to that? When 95% of my body also deserves my attention.

You know, if you've got 10 children, you're not going to completely ignore one of them, are you? And that'd be 10%. So you had 20 children. But you know, if you've got 10 children, you're not going to ignore one.

Like, I mean, unless they're really annoying, but like me, but you're not, you know, you can't like, or you're not going to give all your attention. I just realized I should have done it all around. Let's forget that happened.

You don't give all your attention to just that one child. So you've got 20 children, you only give your attention to just one child. That makes more sense.

I could edit that other bit out, but I'm not going to. Because I'll forget. So you're not going to give attention to that one child if you had 20 children, or let's say it's a birthday party is 20 children there.

And you're just observing maybe your parent and all your kids have invited all their friends around or whatever, or grandkids, or it's a big family gathering, a bar mitzvah or whatever. Okay. If you're standing or sitting there, and you've got 20 children all playing around and talking and screaming and shouting and laughing and white stuff.

Try and pinpoint one of them. Try and listen. I mean, I'm not I don't mean like, like, yeah, I know him because it's my grant.

I don't mean that. I don't sort of like don't name one of them. Try and pinpoint like, listen out for just one of them out of the 20 voices that are being high pitched voices.

It's difficult. So you're going to probably give more of attention to all of them, like as a kind of en masse, not necessarily hearing everything that everyone's saying, but just hearing the overall noise. Because it changes from sound to noise, doesn't it? Unless of course you want it to be relaxing, then it's just sound.

The word noise, it does give a little bit of energy, a little bit of maybe negativity to the word. You know, it's like the sound is like just sound. Because no one ever.

No, no one ever like moans about a neighbor. I wish they'd stop with all that sound. No, it's noise, isn't it? ringing them up? Can you keep the sound down? No noise.

Anyway. You can give all your attention to that one child. Even if everyone's all quiet, you still have to include all the others.

So or if you're running a choir, with adults, and there was 20 adults, you wouldn't just let one sing, and everyone else just had to keep quiet. You might give them a solo, but you don't let them sing the whole thing on their own. Unless they've paid you money.

But then it's not really choir is it? A choir isn't one person. A choir isn't a solo. It's a choir.

I'm very serious about that. It's a very serious subject. So why would I give all my attention to just that part of my back? When I've got quite a big back, big fat, smelly back.

That's terrible. I shouldn't say stuff like that by myself. But you know, there's a lot there in my back, my body, my chest, my stomach, my arms, you know, just like, you know, normal stuff that we have.

Head, eyes, jaw, bum, feet, toes, hands. It's difficult to just focus on one part. When you think about it, it's like, okay, if I mention your right knee.

So you can kind of get in touch with how your right knee feels. But at the same time, so I'm doing that, I'm focused on my right knee. Now I'm also aware of what my voice, like my throat, like, you know, because I'm talking, I'm aware of my mouth moving.

So I'm focused on my right knee. But at the same time, I'm still hearing my voice. So even when you focus on your right knee, you're still focusing on my voice.

So there's a percentage of your attention given to me, a percentage of your attention given to your right knee. And that sounds like the beginning of some kind of weird poem, doesn't it? But at the same time, I'm noticing how my feet are. I'm noticing in how nice it feels when I close my eyes.

I love closing my eyes. I don't mean like it's my favorite thing to do. But it's it's nice.

I mean, it doesn't really fit into a category of hobbies. Yeah, imagine. So what would you do for a hobby? I close my eyes.

Sounds weird. You thought about Scrabble or taking up chess? Badminton? Nope, I like to close my eyes. It just might be come across as a bit strange.

But it does feel nice. A lot better than running around on a squash court. Not that I've ever run around on a squash court.

I've never even been in a squash court, I don't think. I've always got a little bit confused about squash. Why is it called squash? But also, I don't know how it works.

I think there's lines, you have to get it above a line. But then you got using all four walls. It's surely the other person could get in the way.

And that's not fair. It seems to me it's more like a one man or one person game. Yeah, maybe not.

I suppose not if you're competing against someone else. And what if someone comes in the door while you're playing? They could get hit by the ball. And I don't know what kind of balls they are.

I know they're round, I assume they're round. But if they're hard, or if they're if they're soft, but they tend to make quite a bit of sound when they hit the wall. This is based on American TV shows generally.

And I'm sure we have squash in this country as well. Orange squash is the only thing I ever really indulged in. It was weird, though, because when I was a kid, it's all about sugar.

Everything was sugar, sugar, sugar, sugar, sugar, sugar. It's almost like, you know how with AI, we're, you know, those are really positive about AI, starting to think that the medical advances that have already started and could come through in the next, you know, 10 years or so, would completely change all of our lives. I don't think it may be in the, you know, the 70s and 80s, they had that same positivity about dentists, that maybe one day, we'll start growing three sets of teeth.

So instead of just the first teeth, right, you know, falling out, the second teeth being it maybe would have another set of teeth. But it didn't happen, did it? That's why they maybe that's why they said I have sugar with everything. Sugar is the super, super food.

It's good for your teeth. It's not is it? It's really not. I do like sugar.

I remember, I don't eat sugar anymore. Like, not that I used to eat it. I used to like sugar cubes.

There was a time in the 80s. So I'm going back, maybe even in the early 90s. You go into a cafe or caf and there'd be a bowl of sugar cubes.

You have your coffee or tea or whatever, and you put the sugar cubes in. And I used to just eat the sugar cubes. Like a horse.

It was lovely. I remember my nan, she was about, I mean, she someone said to her, who was I think one of the kids said to her mum, How many sugars have you had? Have you put in your tea? And she said seven. And this stuff is my auntie, maybe my uncle said, you can't have that much sugar.

It's bad for you. It's not good for you. And my nan turned around, laughed and said, I'm 95 years old.

Come back to me when you're 95. Like, I've got, don't can't tell a 95 year old that anything that they're doing is bad for them. It's ridiculous.

Like, come on. I mean, they're 95. Besides, she had no taste buds hardly.

So having 35 sugar bags in a cup of tea, like a barrel, was the only way that she could really taste it. But the way she told the story was funny. It's like, okay.

I'm 95. It's bad for me. And she once said, you know, my last two doctors are dead.

My last, her last two previous doctors had died. She's still alive. Well, she's not now, but she was still alive.

It's hard to kind of take medical advice from someone who, yeah, bless her. That was funny. I did do some pain relief with my nan.

She had osteoporosis, which is still a potential with me. It runs in the family. And I've had so many broken bones over the last few years that it's a chance it could be, could be that.

But doctors don't seem to be concerned. And I'm not really that bothered either. But you know, so the bones were crumbling.

And it was just both my aunties have got it. And it was because of her age as well, but her shoulders, and this is, she's probably in the eighties at this point, actually. 2006.

So she would have been about now she'd have been at 89, 88. Blimey. So I went around those and I did a record.

I didn't do recording. I made a recording, but that was separate. I actually did some relaxation hypnosis to focus on relieving her shoulder and to increase relaxation in her shoulder and her part of her back.

So we're in the kitchen. And she's in a chair, I'm in a chair. And I'm talking to her and she keeps talking like and so I'm kind of not asking questions, but kind of, you know, just kind of asking questions, and she's answering them, and they're like, I don't need to answer.

And it was a bit weird. I think it's my nan. It was just a weird situation, really.

At one point, I had to say, can you just stop eating the biscuits? This, you know, you need to at least concentrate. She said, but I'm thirsty. I said, well, eating biscuits isn't going to help you first.

She said, no, it isn't. But, but it helps because I'll have a cup of tea and it's just really nice. I said, you've got seven sugars in there.

She said, yeah. I said, okay. In the end, she like put a tea down and yeah, turn the kettle off.

Just like continuous tea coming. She put the phone down. And she said, okay.

And she gave me her attention. So we do it for about half hour by hour, half an hour, maybe 40 minutes. At the end of it, she was like that, doing what a lot of people do, like trying to get it back.

It feels really relaxed. It's nothing there. Try and like, get the feeling back how it was before, even though it's gone or reduced.

And then she said, oh, must be because of the sun, the sun shining in there must be the sun that caused that. It's like, or Nan, Nanny Newland. It could be the fact that I just spent 40 minutes, 42 and a half minutes focusing on helping to relieve your shoulder.

Maybe a bit of both, to be fair, a bit of sun shining, definitely would have been useful. But she's like completely dismissed what I've been doing for the last 42 and a half minutes. I've never been so angry.

But it's funny. It was funny. Just like, we've been here for seven hours.

14 cups of tea. Like what we've been doing this like, this is a reason I came round. She said, are you going to cut my grass? I said, yeah, not right now.

I thought we were going to do this to help your shoulder. She said, I help my shoulder if you cut the grass. How's it going to help your shoulder if I cut the grass? Because if you don't do it, I'll have to do it and that will hurt my shoulder.

Okay. So yeah, I used to cut the grass for once a week. Yeah, so it's about how you feel.

It's about not just the part of your body that you're focusing on before, but the whole of your body. Because there's a lot more there, isn't it? Once the energy starts to flow a bit more naturally, and you're breathing may have slowed down naturally. A certain calmness comes over you.

Should I say the word naturally again? I don't know, maybe. And it can feel nice. Nice knowing that we all know that we can relax.

We all know that we can let go. We've all done it. There's not one person listening or watching this that hasn't relaxed.

Not one person. Everyone is relaxed at some point. And sometimes I've had a lot of people in the past tell me that they'd never felt so relaxed.

It's almost like they'd never, they thought they'd relaxed before, but until they'd listened to me and drifted off. I didn't realize back then it was through boredom, but I found out later on that I didn't have any therapeutic skills. I was just very tedious, very boring.

And when I talk, your brain just switches off. Everything calms down, your mind slows down, and your body just relaxes. Because when your mind relaxes, your body relaxes.

And when your body relaxes, your mind relaxes. Blah, blah, blah. And then it can be a surprise.

Like, I don't understand it. Why do I feel different? Why? It makes no sense. Why do you feel different now to how you did before? Maybe it's because you drifted off.

Maybe you stopped listening. Maybe you started thinking about nice things, laying in the sun, letting all your body just melt away. It's a feeling that I, the first time I noticed this, there's two things I used to do when I was a kid to relax.

One, well three, reading is one thing I used to really find it was nice, it was relaxing. The first thing when I was a kid, because the second one really, other than reading was more when I was in my teenage years and becoming an adult. When I was a kid, I used to love lying down on the bed, listening to music.

It might sound like well, yeah, doesn't everyone know? But yeah, possibly everyone does love doing that. But I really found it helped me to calm down because I was a bit of a stress head when I was a little kid, very uptight, wasn't the most relaxed kid, you know. And lying down, no human around, no one to talk to, no explaining myself, no having to fit into, you know, other people's, what they expect, just being nothing, just lying there, listening to music, whatever it is.

I mean, back then, it could be the Bee Gees, it could be Madness, the Monkees, Buddy Holly, you know, whatever, just all the greatest hits, albums. Now that's what I call music. I used to listen to those.

There's one album I really liked. And it was, it wasn't mine, it was the parents. And it was themed music from famous movies, like Superman and E.T., Close Encounters of Third Kind, The Fish Full of Dollars, Few Dollars More, 2001 Space Odyssey, Star Wars, Star Trek, probably, you know, those kind of really big orchestral songs that were just huge, huge numbers, and famous as well.

Well, you know, even now, probably, I might not be able to tell you where the sounds are from, the music's from, but I'd recognize it. I'd definitely recognize the Fish Full of Dollars, because they're like, ooh, doo, doo, doo. That was that, like that, wasn't it? And doo, doo, doo, doo, doo, doo, doo, doo, doo, doo, doo, doo, doo, doo, doo, doo, doo, doo, doo, doo, doo, doo, doo, doo, doo, doo, doo, that's Superman.

I think, yeah. Anyway, that's something that I noticed was good for helping me relax. And as I got older, there was something that naturally, I didn't actually have to do anything this well, I had to do something to get there.

But I noticed when I was on a ferry, leaving England. So that feeling of being on the ferry, watching the shore, moving away from Dover or from wherever port I was at, I could just feel that all the stress leave my body became, it's almost becoming lighter and heavier at the same time. Like heavier, heavy with comfort, but lightness with relaxation.

And such an amazing feeling. I didn't really notice it until I was, was 18. It was the first time I got a ferry on my own.

It was to Belgium. I wasn't on my own, but I, you know, I was with some friends, but they were inside. I was just, you know, I like to just be there and watch the, like to watch the takeoff, in ship terms, the takeoff, whatever it's called.

Launching, is it launching? A catapult. And there's been times when I felt a bit like that on trains as well, just leaving, going somewhere. Just, yeah.

Try to blow out the right side of my mouth so I don't blow onto the microphone, just in case you wonder why I'm going like that. It's weird that sometimes just by remembering, thinking about something that's happened in the past, when you felt relaxed, just by remembering that, it can cause you to feel more relaxed. And it's not even like I'm saying, I remember a time when you were just really chilled out.

Maybe you were on holiday, sitting by a pool or laying down. And I'm not going to say I'll step inside your body, just notice how it feels and whatever. Notice how the sun feels on your skin and notice some of the sounds you can hear.

So you can get in touch with that feeling. I'm not saying that stuff. It's just thinking about those moments that we felt comfort and calmness and felt happy.

Even if it's just a feeling, like a short feeling that maybe didn't last very long, but it's still there. It's still in your mind. It's still available.

And what I noticed, this is just personally for me, when I close my eyes, when I focus on that feeling, pretty much just behind my eyelids, I suppose kind of near the top, near the bridge where the eyebrows kind of are. That feeling there is something. There's a peaceful sense.

I don't know why. I know you might not experience it. You might experience it.

You might not have done before, but now you do because you never noticed it before. But it's a peace, just like focusing on that, almost like looking at it. Well, they got your eyes closed.

You probably could still see the light. If I look at one of the lights, I can still see through my eyelids, the light. I can't see, you know, specific things, but it's about looking up a little bit.

There's a sense of comfort, and it may affect your body so that you feel even more relaxed physically. It's definitely got a connection with the mind. And it's almost like it opens the door to more relaxation and a safe space, a place that's just, I guess we all need somewhere within us to go where it's calm.

And for me, that seems to be a place that just by looking up when my eyes are closed, and not straining, I'm not trying to look inside my own brain or anything, but just looking up a little bit and noticing there can be actually a pleasant, pleasurable, indeed, feeling that comes from your eyes that may spread through your body. And it's a feeling of comfort. I'll give it a feel, that's the word I'm going to give it, but it might have a different word, a different name for you.

It might feel different. I definitely feel my face relaxing even more. And the weird thing about it is because when I'm doing these recordings, I open my eyes and I close my eyes.

And every time I close my eyes, I feel even more relaxed. And it's becomes harder to open my eyes. And I try not to sit here the whole time with my eyes closed.

Firstly, because I'm making a video of this, I don't want to want to be able to look at the camera a little bit. But on the other side, I may well drift off and fall asleep. And it's hard to talk when I'm asleep.

Especially as I snore, I really snore. I shake the whole building. And then I snore.

No, I do. I do. I do shake the whole building.

What do I do? Jump up and down? Yeah, thanks. Not that big. Blimey.

Rude. I do snore. Finny snores as well.

Finny's a little boy down there. He's asleep, I think. See, even me talking bores him, like completely bores him to sleep.

It's amazing. I think I'm interesting. I'm the only one.

I say I can make someone laugh I'm actually, I'm a very interesting person. Everyone laughs at that. Like it's a joke.

It's not a joke. They're trying to think out where the punchline is. Where is it? Why are they laughing? Sometimes I have to look down to make sure I've got trousers on.

Not again. The amount of weddings I've ruined. But it feels nice.

I like having my eyes closed. And even now, as I'm focusing on my neck, I'm moving my head around a little bit, and the back of my neck feels very calm. Front of my neck, my throat, even though I'm talking, still feels relaxed.

My mouth, my teeth, my tongue. And I hold my face, my nose, my jaw. My jaw feels really loose.

Sometimes it can feel a little bit stiff. But it's feeling quite loose right now. You think my jaw does get a lot of work, doesn't it? All the talking I do.

It's overworked sometimes. I'm not talking, I'm eating. Chocolate.

I don't eat chocolate. I don't know why I say that. Not true.

I do sometimes eat chocolate. But not generally. It's not something I spend a lot of my time doing, eating chocolate, to be honest.

And as I focus down to my lower back, it doesn't really feel any different to any other part of my body right now. It sometimes feels a little bit like... Do you know an example? If you was to pour... If you had a glass of water and you poured you know, like half a cup of salt or half a glass of salt into that water, other than the fact that the water would probably overflow, but you had a drink of that and it would just taste awful.

Like, you wouldn't be able to drink it.

It'd be like... Yet if you went into a swimming pool that was just full of clean drinking water, no one else around. So you've got no kids with Verrucas running in and out because obviously that's not good for drinking, is it? Verruca juice? No, no thanks. So, and you pour that same amount of salt in the middle of that swimming pool.

I'm not going to go through the logistics of how would you get it into the middle of the swimming pool. But just imagine maybe you had a little helicopter and you just dropped it into the middle of the swimming pool and just let it dissolve. And then you just put a glass, let it dissolve, leave it for a little while, let it all spread.

What's the chances of you tasting that salt when you have a glass of water realistically? And that's seems to be what happens with my lower back when I'm just doing recordings like this. Even though I'm just talking nonsense some of the time. Most of the time? Okay, all the time.

It seems to be that the rest of my body almost supports my back. It's like the rest of my back, my arms, and my legs, and my stomach, and my chest, and my head are all saying, come on, it's fine. We'll take the rest of the weight, just relax.

Realizing that that one part of the body isn't separate from the rest of the body. It's part of the rest of the body, and the rest of your body wants to take care of it. Because it's literally connected.

It's like closer than family. You know, because it's part of the larger part. Even though it's only a small part, the larger part takes care of it.

So that that part can just relax. Maybe just go to sleep without needing to be concerned about anything. Knowing that that part is safe.

Peaceful. Relaxed. Yeah.

And it's all down to really noticing how you feel now, compared to how you felt before. So you know, if you were to look at that, if you, you know, maybe in your mind, remembering what number you gave it before we started talking, and what would you give it now? What number has it gone down to now? And how surprised are you that listening to complete whatever this is, listen to me just talking about stuff.

Maybe a lot of it is irrelevant.

Some would argue pointless, boring stuff. Yet, for some reason, it's been useful. And the way you feel has changed.

Changed. In a way that may surprise you. Maybe you're pleased.

Maybe you're confused. Which makes sense. I mean, like, how could listening to this, this man with this wonderful voice, full head of hair, this young, vibrant man, how dressed so smartly, how can he have had such a positive effect on your well being, on your physical comfort? I don't know.

I don't have the answers. All I can do is just keep talking. As long as people listen, I will keep talking.

And at the moment, people are still listening. And so yeah, it'd be good to hear what results you had. If you haven't already fallen asleep.

Now, this brings us to the end of this recording. So please remember to be kind to yourself. Because you do deserve to be happy.

Lots of love. Bye.