(no music) #12 Relax & Sleep Hypnosis Daily (Jason Newland) (25th May 2019)

Hello, welcome to Sleep Hypnosis Weekly.com. My name is Jason Newland and this is Deep, it's not Deep, it's Sleep Hypnosis Weekly. I do too many podcasts, I forget what I'm doing. Please listen to this when you can safely close your eyes, there's a new recording every Friday.

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And please share, share this recording, share the podcast, share the video if it's on YouTube, if you like, onto Facebook or Twitter, just let more people know really, if it's something that you benefit from, then there's going to be other people that also may benefit. So that'll be groovy. Right, no idea what I did last week, I have no idea what recording I did, what I talked about.

With the daily stuff that I do, I kind of have a bit of a memory of what I did yesterday, because it's a week ago, I forget. So I guess there's always going to be a bit of an overlap, because it's the same subject. It's about finding new ways to calm your mind, to let go of those thoughts, to relax your body, and to drift into a calm, safe, healing sleep.

So I suppose in a way, my voice is going weird for some reason. I had a little bit of a cough earlier, so hopefully I'll be okay. Do you ever have that when your voice just goes strange? It sounds like my throat was webbed or something, start talking like that.

It's very strange. In a way, what's happening with these recordings, not just these, but you know, other stuff that I do, is it seems like there's this, like a tunnel, which kind of leads to sleep, leads to just drifting off. And kind of every time I make a new recording, it's like I'm putting a new doorway, a new entrance into that tunnel.

So although this might be number 12, or number 13, I don't know, one of them, in this podcast. So that's, you know, 12 or 13 different doors. As well as the hundreds of other doors that I've made with my other podcasts over the years, since 2006.

Plus your own doors that you've made. If you think about it, since you were born, how many times do you think that you've been asleep? I mean, you're looking at thousands and thousands of times, I love a lot. And I'm 48 years old.

So I can't even count the amount of times I've been asleep. I'd need a calculator. And even then, you know, there's been times when I haven't slept.

There's been times when I've slept more than twice in a day. So, you know, it's still in the thousands. So if you were to think of, if you were to think of insomnia as being like a a patch of dirt at the bottom of your garden.

Or it could be mud, dirt, whatever you want to call it. And there's seeds, there's these seeds. And we're given a kind of connect the grass as insomnia.

So clearly, the grass needs to grow from the seeds. In order to do that, it needs to be left alone. It needs to have the water from the rain, I suppose, the sunshine, you know, all those things.

You think every time you sleep, every time you have slept, you're walking around on that piece of dirt. And if you've ever tried to grow grass on your lawn, you know that walking on it is one way of preventing it from growing. Plus, you've got the birds that will come down and eat the seeds.

You've got, you know, the weather conditions which can sometimes get in the way of the grass growing. So the odds against that grass actually growing, even if you weren't to walk on it, isn't great. Sometimes you need to keep laying the seeds.

In order to grow the grass. In fact, when I was a kid, I remember my dad trying to grow some grass in the garden. There was a patch that just was bare and nothing he did.

You know, no amount of seeds could encourage that, you know, the grass to come. It just, nothing. Of course, me walking around in it every day probably didn't help.

And in the end, he had to get turf. We bought turf and he put it in and it's all there. And the thing is with grass, because I never realised really, again, you connect in grass with insomnia.

I never realised because I thought glass went down to the middle of the planet when I was a kid. It might seem strange, but, you know, I thought glass was like trees and it went down, you know, hundreds and thousands of feet into the earth. When in fact, if you look at turf, you can see that it doesn't go down that far.

It doesn't have to go down far in order to grow. And if you want to remove grass, you've only got to dig down a little way. And grass can be removed from the garden.

Very easy to remove. It's not as deep seated, not as deep rooted as perhaps we once thought. Again, it's similar to the insomnia.

It can seem, you know, because when you look at big grass, big patch of grass, maybe like a golf course or something like that and you think, wow. Of course, it's a lot. It's a lot of ground.

But then if you see there's patches where people have been playing golf and they've perhaps got the skill, the golf skill of me and they keep missing a ball. It only takes a couple of misses before that grass, that surrounding grass is being chopped away and gone. And it's just mud.

So the grass doesn't go down very far. So, you know, with a golf course, it can seem like, wow, that's so much. All you would need was a tractor pointing to the ground and just to skim a few inches off the top.

That's the grass gone. But when you think about it in that way, you realize that actually these, this thinking of something being more than it is starts to change. It's kind of almost like a, a tooth.

You know, when you're a kid and you've got a tooth and it's, your teeth are solid, aren't they? You're solid and you're eating for years, you know, if it's fine. And then when you get to, I don't know, seven or six, five, maybe older even, they start to get loose because they're your baby teeth. But sometimes you can have your baby teeth until you're like 10, 11 even.

Depends on the person. That one thing that once seemed completely solid is now loose and it comes out easily. It's then you realize that actually teeth are not attached to your head.

They're attached as far as, you know, in your gum, but they're not actually, the teeth are not attached to your jaw in the same way as your fingers are attached to your hand. So there's that looseness, there's that pliability in thinking. That plasticity of thought.

When thinking about insomnia, that actually it isn't this fixed thing. It isn't a scary monster that has control. Doesn't have any control.

It's not a monster. It's not something that's out to get you. And sometimes it can seem like that, you know, like, why is my mind doing this to me? When your mind isn't doing anything other than just thinking.

And as I may have said in the past, the fact that your mind is thinking and you may have complete clarity and all your attention may be focused on those thoughts is actually a gift to know that your brain and your mind is actively working. Which is a wonderful thing. It's just bad timing.

That's all. It's just bad timing. And it's nobody's fault.

I mean, trains are great when they turn up on time. But if you need to catch a train at nine o'clock in the morning, but it turns up at two o'clock in the morning, that's no good to you, is it? Because you're in bed. In the same way, the mind, the thinking, it's not necessary at two o'clock in the morning when it may be at nine o'clock in the morning.

That full awakeness and thinking and alertness is a great thing to have when it's time to get out of bed. It's a great thing to have when you're traveling to work, when you're at work, or whatever it is you're doing at college, or even if you're not working. Whatever activity that you choose to involve yourself in during your day, it's nice to have that alertness and to have your mind working for you and being able to think, work out solutions.

To be able to enjoy the process of being alive when you're awake, but when you are asleep, or when you choose to go to sleep, that's your time. Separate from that part of you that's wide awake and alert and enjoying the day and focusing on whatever it is that you're doing. Because sleeping doesn't need focusing on, doesn't need thinking about.

With sleeping, there's very little that needs to be done. It's just laying down on your bed, if that's how you sleep. Your head touches a pillow, your body relaxes and your mind slows down.

That's all that is needed, nothing else. And that can be a bit of a, I don't know, it can sometimes feel a little bit, like less than what you're capable of doing. When you know you're capable of thinking and, you know, problem-solving and planning and all those things which involves your brain, which is a great thing to be able to do those things and to think logically, philosophically, you know, all that stuff.

But not when you're in bed, not when it's time to sleep. You can leave those thoughts outside your bedroom door. The same as you don't eat a sandwich while you're on the toilet, you know, a toilet isn't a place to eat.

It's a separate thing. If you've been out in the snow, chances are you'll leave your boots outside the door before you go into the house, possibly, so you don't bring the ice and snow in. Of course, you might like ice and snow in your house.

You might actually bring a wheelbarrow full of it and build a snowman in the living room. That's up to you. You can leave your thoughts, worries, plans, concerns, wishes, dreams, all that stuff, leave it out.

Leave it at the door. Leave it at your bedroom door. And then when you get into bed, that stuff's there.

You don't need it. You may be into ballroom dancing. You don't sleep in your ballroom gown or your big tuxedo suit thing.

You may love deep sea diving. You don't go to bed with your flippers on. And you snorkel.

It's a separate thing, completely separate. Nothing to do with going to bed. Nothing to do with going to sleep.

I can guarantee that if I went to bed with a snorkel on and flippers, that big gas chamber, you know, if I've been deep sea diving, a big mess, a big boat at the side of the bed, I would, I'd struggle to sleep. That's my chair, by the way. If you hear squeaks, it's the chair.

It's a separate thing. When you lay down on your bed, your head touches the pillow. That's a signal for your body to relax and your mind to slow down.

Completely separate from any other activity that you do. Because your dream life is separate. Your dream life starts when you're asleep.

You don't need to bring anything to the table. You don't need to bring anything to bed with you. You don't need to bring a list of things to dream about.

You don't need to bring a list of things to do once you're in bed. Because all you need to do is just lie down. Do what you did when you were a baby, when you were, you know, all the way through our lives.

You lie down, your head touches the pillow, and you just drift off to sleep, and your mind slows down. And you know, one thing that a lot of people do that is completely pointless, and it has the adverse effect is that part, you know, some people say, try and force themselves to go to sleep. Or start arguing in their head, why am I not asleep yet? I have to go to sleep, I must go to sleep.

Please let me go to sleep. And I've done it myself, and it's very natural to do that. But it's not helpful.

Because somewhere within you, when you're doing that, is you're blaming yourself, or having a go at yourself. You're trying to force a natural process which can't be forced. If anything, the opposite works.

When you don't care if you sleep or not, that's when you fall asleep easily. Sometimes trying to stay awake is a thing that will send you to sleep. But I say, why try to do anything? Because you're lying in your bed, head touches the pillow, you relax your body naturally, that's just natural stuff.

What else is going to happen? Apart from you falling asleep, what other options are there? What do you expect to happen? There's nothing that's going to happen, it's just, you're just lying there. And you can enjoy the feeling. Because I love lying down on the bed.

To be fair, regardless of what time of the day or night, I just like laying down on the bed, because I'm very lazy. But I do like that feeling of just closing my eyes, and having a break, having a rest. And just, I actually feel quite grateful, because I listen to the birds in the garden.

Because at the time I go to bed, they're up and they've just woken up now as I'm doing this recording. Because I can only make recordings when I'm awake. So if I was asleep, I wouldn't be able to make this recording.

So it's not necessarily going to be at the same time that you're sleeping. As if you're listening to it to go to sleep, or just so your mind can be, you know, changed. To direct your thought in a different way.

So that you're no longer criticising yourself, or having a go at yourself for not being, you know, able to sleep instantly at will. But don't forget that our minds are not trained dogs. You can't say sit to yourself, sit, stand, fetch.

Because we wouldn't want someone else saying that to us. I'm sure if you're walking in the park and somebody yelled at you, and chucked a stick and said, fetch, you probably wouldn't be hugely impressed. Unless it was a pre-planned, enjoyable activity that you'd like to share.

In the same way, why tell your mind, go to sleep now, go to sleep, sleep. Doesn't like to hear that, doesn't like that tone. But if you're gentle, and instead of criticising, or instead of wording it like, why can't I sleep? You can say gently to yourself, time to sleep.

I love sleeping. I feel so comfortable. This is nice.

Sleeping so easy. Effortless. I feel so relaxed.

So relaxed. Of course, you don't have to say anything, because you don't have to do anything. This is about wrapping your mind around the idea that actually sleeping is something that you were born to do.

There's very few things that we are born to be able to do. Most animals are born, some are able to walk straight away, some are able to feed themselves straight away. But humans, we're born completely helpless.

There's very few things that we can do. We can cry. We can hear, we can smell, we can see, we can suck milk, and you know, we can move parts of our body, but not necessarily know that we're doing it, and not necessarily be able to purposely do it, not when we're first born.

And we can sleep. Again, we don't know we're doing it. We don't know what it is.

We don't care what it is, because we don't question it. This is one of the few things that we were born able to naturally do. We're able to laugh.

Babies can laugh. I'm just not always sure if they're laughing or they're doing a poo, but they still make the facial expressions. Lots of different emotions.

They don't know what's going on. They don't know what the emotions are. They don't care, because it doesn't matter.

All that matters is the baby's healthy. Parents don't care why they're smiling. They're just happy their child's smiling.

The baby's not bothered. He's probably just laughing at all these funny looking humans. I think he's probably thinking, what on earth are they? What is this place? And they can fall asleep in a second.

Have you ever seen a child try and stay awake? It's not just babies. Children of all ages, you know, trying to force themselves to stay awake. Falling asleep.

I've seen babies do that even when they're eating. So falling asleep is the most natural thing in the world. And you may say, but JJ, you said this before.

You said this 10 years ago in a session I heard. You said this in 2006. You said it in 2009.

2013, 15, 17. You said it so many times. It's because it's true.

It's a very simple truth. We were born to be able to sleep. One of my recordings is called, Sleeping is Your Birthright.

And it is. It's one of the greatest things we've inherited. As a human.

We've all inherited it. And just because somewhere along the line, somewhere along your life, maybe some changes have happened. Which has kind of affected that smooth movement from lying in your bed, with your head touching the pillow, your body relaxing, your mind slowing down, and just smoothly drifting into sleep.

If you think back to the past, there was a time when you'd go to bed and expect to fall asleep. You know, you're old enough to comprehend what was going on, you know, within the sleeping part. You're not a baby anymore.

But you expect to fall asleep. It's just part of the process. Maybe you clean your teeth.

Go to the toilet. You know, whatever you need to do. And you go into your bed.

Change into your pajamas. Or you know, whatever your routine is. Lay down, put your head on the pillow.

Sounds like you've got like a detachable head. The way I say that, doesn't it? Lay down and put your head on the pillow. So you lay down, your head touches the pillow, your body relaxes.

It's a natural process. And the weird, you know, as long as you've got a comfortable bed. But the weird thing is, even if you don't have a comfortable bed, you know you're going to wake up comfortable.

I was saying the other day, if I woke up on a bed of nails, I would still not want to get out of bed. I'd still feel completely relaxed and comfortable. So why wait until you wake up to have that feeling of complete comfort? It's going to happen anyway.

Why not just have it earlier? You know, that feeling where you, perhaps the alarm's gone off. And you put your alarm clock on snooze. And how easy it is to drift back to sleep.

How easy and instant. You're dreaming again. You're fully asleep.

Why wait until the alarm goes off? Why not just have that feeling of just drifting off, completely, so tired. When you first go to bed, it seems to make more sense. Because it's just a feeling.

It's just a feeling. That you can notice more and more when you go to bed. How you feel.

Way more relaxed. It may feel, in some ways, strange. If it's been a while since you, you know, easily and naturally drifted off to sleep.

But a bigger feeling you'll have is that sense of familiarity. That sense of how things used to be. When it comes to sleeping deeply.

Sleeping easily. Because sleeping isn't something that we need to learn. Staying awake is something we need to learn.

Not need to. But something that you have learnt. So it's a case of choosing to go back to the real you.

That part that sleeps easily and naturally. That part that you were born with. It's always been there.

It's just reminding yourself. Just like that grass in the garden. The seeds that won't grow because you're constantly walking on it.

Because the birds are coming down and eating the seeds. So the grass never gets a chance to grow. Or in some ways, listening to this, it's like getting that tractor.

And just tearing up the grass. Removing it completely. So that grass, which was the insomnia, is just completely uprooted.

Especially then you realise that it wasn't as deeply rooted as you once thought. Just like the old analogy is now, the sandcastle. It doesn't matter what you do.

It doesn't matter how amazing that sandcastle is. When the tide comes in, the sandcastle will be washed away. Always.

So really that's all that the insomnia is. It's a sandcastle. Not a nice sandcastle.

Not necessarily a bad sandcastle. Because it's okay to be indifferent. Why add emotions to something that doesn't deserve emotions added? Because ultimately, insomnia is something that has been created within you.

And you don't, you know, that part isn't aiming to hurt you or to cause you problems. That part doesn't realise that it's doing that. It's just bad timing.

Your brain becomes active at the wrong time, when it doesn't need to be. Just like eating a sandwich on the toilet is not the right time. Practising your violin on a bus, a public bus, that's bad timing.

There's always a time and a place for different things. Farting during a wedding ceremony is actually something that I enjoy doing. So we'll keep that in.

That's, that's quite good timing. Especially when they say, does anybody have anything to say before we continue with this ceremony? Or forever hold your peace. That's a good time to let off a big, loud fart.

That's why I take a big loud, I take a loud speaker with me. Those ones, that tannoy system thing. Timing.

It's all about timing. If you're into watching football, you don't turn the football, you don't turn the television on after the game's started, or after the game's finished. You turn it on before the game's started.

Because you want to watch it. There's no point turning it on two hours later, because it'll be over. So there's always different ways of looking at things.

You could say, you could say all the birds outside is bad timing. For me, when I'm making a recording for sleep. Is it bad timing on my part, or on their part? I sent leaflets to all the different nests to ask them to be quiet when I make a recording.

But they decided to carry on anyway. It's natural, isn't it? It's what they do, it's natural. Just like sleeping, it's natural.

Birds wake up, they twerp and not twerp. They make their noise, whatever you want to call their noise. They sing, they dance.

They're all having showers and having a cooked breakfast or whatever they do. Getting the kids ready for school. And I feel there's something to be said for the peace of mind that comes with realizing that sensation of just drifting to sleep.

That point, that moment, it's really nice. It's just a nice feeling. It almost feels like it's a train that you're getting on.

And then just, you sit down and it just takes you to where you're going. And it arrives at the time when it's time to go to sleep. It's a nice feeling to realize that actually the most natural thing in the world has always been available and will continue to be available in a much simpler way.

By not needing to do anything. It's kind of the opposite of doing things. You don't need to do anything in order to fall asleep naturally.

Just the energy that comes from listening to me. Listening to this recording and maybe all the other recordings. Changes that part of your mind, that part of your brain responsible for allowing your sleep patterns to change in a way that benefits you.

That allows you to just drift off naturally and easily and securely and safely in the knowledge that when you do wake up the next day or in seven hours time, eight hours time, whatever. That you feel relaxed and calm and you know that you had a good sleep. And you feel so refreshed and you realize that the words that I've been saying are true.

That sleeping really is your birthright. That sleeping really is the most natural thing in the world for all of us. It's as natural as breathing and all those other bodily functions that take no conscious effort.

It's all part of the same process as sleeping. You just don't have to think about breathing, it just happens naturally. And so does sleeping, easily and naturally, safely, feeling so relaxed, so calm, so open to the possibilities of anything.

Just how easily you will now drift into a deep, healing, natural sleep. Deep, healing, safe, natural sleep, so calm, so relaxed, so why not just let go, completely. And embrace this natural gift of sleep that you were born with.

The ability to relax completely your body and your mind and drift, really, really drift deeply and sleep.