(no music) #13 Relax & Sleep Hypnosis Daily (Jason Newland) (1st June 2019)

Hello and welcome to SleepHypnosisWeekly.com My name is Jason Newland, this is Sleep Hypnosis Weekly and the reason there was a pause before, well after welcome to is I completely forgot the name of the website. Which should be quite easy considering it's the title of this podcast. But there you go.

Please only listen when you can safely close your eyes as it may cause sleepiness. I make these recordings at quite weird times and I've been putting up soundproof like studio, recording studio foam pads on my walls or in my living room where I am now with the hope that I'm going to be able to make recordings during the day because the room will be quieter because probably in the last year I've been doing stuff during the night and I don't really want to stay up all night anymore because right now it's 8.35 in the morning.

I know that's not, I mean technically it doesn't matter when I make them because I need to be awake when I make a recording and also 8.35 here in the morning could be evening time where you are depending on where you know if you're listening at, well you're not going to be listening at exactly the same time that I record it because I've not uploaded it yet but you know I mean if you're in Australia you're like 8.30 in the evening or whatever time.

So my plan is to try and make them during the day because that just seems better for me especially with the summer coming up. Having to wait till 3 in the morning until it's pretty quiet. Although the weird thing is it is quieter regarding you know neighbours and traffic and stuff but the one thing that's really noisy is the train.

So I've got a train up the road. There's not a train, there's a train track where trains go through or over and for some reason they bib their horn. It's like ooo ooo, it's really really loud.

Don't do it during the day but they do it at night time, not early evening, not even midnight. Well sometimes midnight but it's early hours of the morning. Like that.

Admittedly that's not a very good impression of the train but I can't do a very good impression of the train. I mean trains look very different to me. So yeah but also if I did a really big loud screech that wouldn't fit in with the you know the ambience of a sleep session.

So just to let you know that there are other podcasts that I do, also for insomnia and sleep. Let Me Bore You To Sleep is one. I'm just giving you a little taste of that, me just rambling on about nothing.

And that's LetMeBoyToSleep.com and I've got a Deep Sleep Whisper hypnosis podcast. There's now, is there a hundred recordings of that one? I think, yeah it's getting on to a hundred if it hasn't reached it. I haven't made one for about six days.

I've had a little bit of a, quite a lazy week as far as making recordings. But I have been fairly busy on the website, you know building websites, you know the backs, not the backside stuff, that's a wrong word, but the back end stuff, the you know behind the scenes kind of stuff on the website. So it takes, it's quite time-consuming.

And it's gonna be some of you that are thinking, maybe people that haven't listened to this before, maybe people that have, are thinking, are you gonna get on with it? Send me to sleep, now! And I will get on with it now. But there's something to be learnt from listening to me, talking about stuff that maybe you don't wanna, or you're not interested in, you know. And you know, when you're wanting to, me to do something else, you're wanting me to speak slowly and continuously and focusing on blah blah blah, whatever it might be.

But there's something about that state of mind where you're, well not you, but you know whoever, is not doing it myself, the impatience, the expectation that something should be different from what it is. That somehow, our version of how things should be, it's kind of difficult to deal with how things are sometimes. There's too many sometimes in that sentence, isn't there? Thinking about it though, doesn't that add more pressure on you, fighting against reality?

And we all do it, we're all fighting against reality.

Not in a seriously mental illness way, because you know, there are illnesses where reality, you know, there's problems with reality. I'm not talking about that kind of stuff, I'm talking about just general, general day-to-day things. And you may think, well what's this got to do with sleep? Well, this could have everything to do with sleeping.

Because if you've got a mind that is overactive when you're trying to sleep, and there's stuff going on, then perhaps that needs addressing. Not just the activity, but the content of the activity. Usually, I focus just on the overall activity, and to reduce, to slow down.

Not to eliminate, because you know, I don't like the word eliminate. But even when all your thoughts are forgotten, they're never forgotten because we have a memory, but it can seem like there's nothing happening at all for a period of time leading up to sleeping. Because clearly the brain is active when we're asleep, otherwise we wouldn't have dreams.

I had one weird dream last night, which just shows we're active, the brain is active, the mind is active. I think I touched upon this last week, if the brain is active, super active when we're asleep, why would we need it to be inactive when we're going to sleep? And I just put this question to you to ponder, but maybe we don't. Maybe we don't need a mind that is silent in order to sleep.

And maybe somewhere along the line, somewhere along the way, somewhere in life, somewhere, we've heard that that's the process of sleeping. And with hypnosis, it can seem like the process, it can accelerate feelings, reduce feelings, calm your body, calm your mind. Feeling calmer is not the same as having an empty mind.

And there are people that spend a lifetime trying to empty their mind with meditation, and they'll go and sit on a mountain somewhere, and they'll meditate many, many hours a day in order to get to that point. And it's not because they want to be asleep, because they want to be awake. Think about that.

Having an empty mind means being awake, but not an empty mind, a clear mind, because it's not empty. The mind is never empty. But it's allowing thoughts to go, allowing thoughts to drift away, not holding on to them, regardless of what they are.

So the more empty your mind is of thoughts, in meditation terms, the more awake you are. Isn't that ironic? So maybe it's the type of thoughts, I say maybe, I think it's hugely possible it's the type of thoughts that we have that affects the ability to just drift off naturally. Because really, insomnia is just constipation.

It's the equivalent to having a constipated anus. You're tired, you go to bed, you need the toilet, you sit on the toilet, but nothing happens. The natural process isn't occurring for some reason.

And it may be due to stress, tension. It may be different reasons. So with constipation, what we do, you can take over-the-counter medicines.

I think prune juice is something that you can have, apparently. I'm saying that like I'm pretending never to have had constipation, but I have. Never had prune juice though.

And it's something about that flow, again I'm talking about, I'm not talking about constipation anymore, but there is that similarity in the sense of a blockage. Something that's stopping the flow. Just like on a train, you know with the trains, going back to trains, if one train breaks down, that can mess up the whole of the network in that area.

Not just that area though, because it can then make delays the other side of the country. Not just on the trains, but maybe on the planes. So it can have an effect, a blockage can have an effect.

So it's those thoughts then, the type of thoughts that maybe we're having, that maybe need to be let go. Or maybe it's not the thoughts, maybe it's the thoughts that we're having that's preventing sleep, or has been. It's the idea that we need to be completely silent in our minds, completely silent in our minds.

And I'll tell you something, if you think it's easy, it might be easy for some people, but my suggestion is go to a meditation class, and sit for maybe 20 minutes, half an hour, in a group, and all you're doing is just counting the breaths, that's it. I did that, I started doing that in 2002. So now 2019, so it's, I haven't done it lately, if I'm honest, I do, because I do the hypnosis, I kind of get all trancy and go along with what I'm kind of saying, if that makes sense.

Because I'm influenced by what I say to myself. Although I'm saying this to you, I'm also hearing it myself, just in a way that you are influenced by what you say to yourself. Also by what you say out loud to others.

It's interesting, isn't it? When you think about it, what we say to other people affects us possibly more than it does the other people. And I'm not talking about aggressive stuff, just general, maybe something that's not quite so positive. I love to tell people that I'm rubbish at maths.

I don't know why I like doing that. I love it, I don't get a stiffy when I'm telling people, you know, it's not that exciting. But I do get, I do have that image of myself, based on previous experience, to be fair.

But the more I tell other people, the more I'm probably hurting myself and limiting myself. And locking myself into that little prism that I've made for myself. So if you were to tell someone, I sleep easily now.

I sleep really soundly. Falling asleep is easy. If I dream, I dream.

If I wake up, I wake up. I just go back to sleep. It doesn't matter.

Don't have to be asleep for eight hours, solid in a continuous row. There's no laws that says we have to be asleep the whole time. We are allowed to wake up.

We need to go to the toilet, or get out, you know, have a drink of water or something. You are allowed to do that. Going to bed doesn't mean laying there like a little statue for eight hours, completely unconscious to the world for eight hours, or however long.

That might be the case. I think we've all experienced that sense of just falling asleep through exhaustion, yeah, and waking up in the morning and a bit of sleep the whole time. And it's, I quite like it.

But it only happens maybe a couple of times a year where I'm just completely gone for the whole time. For me, you know, I'll wake up maybe a couple of times during the night and I'll sleep easy. I'll go fall back to sleep instantly.

It might be an age thing, but quite often I'll need to get up at least once a night to go to the toilet, to do a wee wee. And even though I might have been up for a few minutes, when I go back to bed, I sleep pretty much instantly. And I can be examining what is that feeling when you wake up, you know, in the middle of the night.

It might just be because of, you need to do for whatever reason, you know, maybe you need to go to the toilet, maybe there was a, you know, it could have been anything. It's the, you know, a sound that kind of broke you up, or maybe the dream you were having wasn't useful to you. So your mind wakes you up to get out of that dream, which was, maybe it's done, maybe the usefulness of it has been fulfilled.

You don't need it anymore, so now you're awake. You wake up, and there's not a huge amount going on in your mind when you wake up, and then you just go back to sleep again. So it's not about emptying the mind, it can be about just allowing the mind to slow down, which it will do naturally anyway, but to have that feeling of, I suppose, not worrying about anything.

I mean, it isn't part of the pleasure of being in bed, laying in bed, a comfortable bed, feeling safe, but it's a place where, I mean, literally, it's a place where dreams are made. It's a place where you can imagine new things, imagine, you know, how great your life is going to be in the future. Because what I discovered, well, I didn't discover it, it's not like I can, I can't copyright it or sort of own the blueprint of this particular thought.

I realised recently, well, it's not recently, it's a while back, but guided thinking can actually lead to sleep. So instead of, there's lots of different ways to, you know, get to the point of just crossing that bridge into sleep from wakeness. A good way is to just be exhausted, I suppose, that's one way physically.

But I don't really do, you know, I used to work in very physical jobs when I was younger. So sleeping is just usually very easy. Just naturally, you know, because of the physical element and exhaustion and everything.

But I find that when I start thinking about, like purposely thinking about something, my mind starts to slow down on the other stuff. So for example, I like to imagine, you know, say I'll go to sleep, I'll just lie there and I'll think about the stats. I know this is a, this is probably quite a boring thing for some people, but for me, it's not boring.

And I think about the stats of my podcasts and the websites and how it's grown and how it's going to grow. And I start working out, you know, the future. I bore myself so much, I'm going to fall asleep any minute, I think.

Just to let you know as well, hypnosis is just wrapping your mind around an idea. Not just, it can be a mixture of different things. So I'll be lying in bed, working out kind of what kind of stats I'll be getting, you know, in five years time.

Sometimes it even goes as far as when I'm in my seventies. I don't, I don't, I'm not there, going through each day, because obviously that would take hours because I'm such a young man. But sometimes I'll just skip forward and say, okay, I wonder what it'd be like when I'm in my seventies and I'm still doing this and I wonder how different I'll sound.

And I don't know, I just, I don't, maybe I do bore myself to sleep, because I know it doesn't sound very exciting when I say it out loud. But I think there's part of me when I'm doing that, there's part of me wants to stay awake to work it out because I'm enjoying it. Because I'm enjoying the feeling, the imagination of being, maybe being successful or, you know, having helped lots of people.

Perhaps just the idea of still being alive, you know, in 30, 50 years, whatever it is, it takes me to 70, because I'm so young. And, oh, 20 years, okay. I'm 48 at the moment.

I'll be 49 in August. And then a year to the big five-oh, which is fine. So, I think sometimes I'll be trying to stay awake, because I want to work it out in my head.

And I want to, I'm enjoying imagining it. And I just drift off to sleep. So, maybe there's something about thinking about nice stuff.

I'm using the words nice stuff, pleasant stuff. And you may say, why are you using the word stuff? It's because we're all so different, that a pleasurable thought for you may not be pleasurable for me, you know. So, but it's about you, it's about what? Nice thoughts, pleasant thoughts.

It doesn't have to be pleasant, pleasurable, you know. In fact, I would say there's some thoughts that I would probably avoid, if I'm honest, things that may be stimulating, like physically. So, it might get in the way of being able to, you know, just relax and drift off.

Another thing I like to think about is, I imagine winning the lottery. But big, you know, like winning a lot of money, so that I can help lots of people. So, I have this, I suppose, like a process, because I've had these little thinking periods for many years.

And I just imagine, you know, getting myself a, I don't think about the actual win, which is funny, isn't it? I've never thought about that before. I never think about winning it, I just think about having won it. So, what happens next? I don't think about the process of winning or, you know, getting all excited or anything like that.

Because I'm laying in bed, I don't really want to get excited or start focusing on winning the lottery. It's more a case of what happens next. So, I skip straight to that.

And, you know, I've got this whole scenario going, where I have a, you know, like I rented my own, not little, but my personal accountant, my little accountant. And so, we go, or he goes, or she goes. It's a man for some reason, but it doesn't matter.

It's not really relevant. It has to be one or the other. Or, yeah, it's a human.

And he goes with a suitcase to different people from my life, from the past, including, you know, just people maybe that I don't even know anymore. But then he gives them cash, you know, maybe 50 grand. And then he just leaves it with them, leaves the suitcase with them, 50 grands of cash.

And I quite like that idea of doing that around, you know, with different people that have helped me out. And then having like a party or something, a family gathering, and then, you know, having a suitcase for each person. You know, like giving a million pounds to Andre, 11 million.

And, you know, I make it, it's quite basic stuff, really. I don't get too exotic with it all. But it feels nice.

It's not stimulating. It's relaxing, I find. Because it is fantasy.

And you may say, well, you may win the lottery. I don't do the lottery. So I can't, you know, you've got to be in it to win it, I think is their slogan.

Well, I'm not in it. Yeah. That's why the lottery scenario is just that.

And I don't mind. Because it feels nice. I feel generous.

I feel kind. It feels nice. That's it.

And that feeling is not something that I try and hold on to. And it's definitely not something I try and push away. It's just there.

And I want to think about more. Sometimes I want to think, okay, who else can I give money to? And then I'll just, I start to drift away and I'll come back like, oh, yeah, what was I thinking? And then every time I drift off, I drift off for longer and longer. And eventually, that's it.

And that's kind of the process of sleeping. Because I think that, I don't know about children nowadays at school, but when I was at school, I never used to get taught about sleeping. I used to get told off for sleeping in class.

The thing is, I didn't just fall asleep at my desk, I actually had a fold out bed. So, yeah, I was kind of a bit too obvious of mine. I thought about getting a hammock.

But unfortunately, the teacher wouldn't allow me to put palm trees inside the classroom. You need palm trees with a hammock. And the sea as well.

I don't think hammocks are comfortable. Not the ones that are just like, you lay in them and they just like, and just, no. I do quite like rocking chairs.

Sometimes just thinking about trivial stuff can be useful as well. Because it doesn't get in the way of that process of just drifting to sleep. Because, you know, the drifting.

So, you think about something and then you get distracted. Your mind will be distracted and then suddenly you kind of wake up. And it's like, oh, I drifted off.

And you're back. And it's not long before you're back drifting again. But this time for longer.

And then you're back. And each time you drift, you go deeper. And it lasts longer.

And that's very much like a hypnotic induction. Which is, what's it called? Fragnate? What is it called? Fragnation or, not defragnation. Defrag, that's the, that's what you do.

I don't think they do it anymore. But it used to be a defrag on the fractionation, that's it. Fractionation.

Where, this is where you close your eyes. You know, I'll talk to you and talk about maybe focusing on your eyelids and your forehead. Back of your neck and your chest.

Now open your eyes. And you know, I don't want you to open your eyes now, but it would be that kind of thing. And then close your eyes again and go down.

And each time the person closes their eyes, they go deeper. And that seems to be what the our minds naturally do with sleep. You may wake up, drift off, then wake up again, drift off.

And it happens when I've meditated in the past. You know, the counting down, or counting to one to ten on each out breath. You know, it's like one, that kind of thing.

But after doing it for a few minutes, sometimes I get completely carried away with my thoughts. And then I become aware, like, okay, what am I doing? That's it. And I just become completely... And in meditation, that is a sign that if you notice that you're doing it, and you go back and count from one again, noticing it is the... that's a great sign that you're doing well.

Because some people think that you should be able to sit down in meditation, completely empty your mind the first time, and for it to stay that way forever. But even people that do it for many hours a day, the fact that they're still doing it means that they haven't reached that point where there's no activity. Again, they're, they're attempting for being awake, not being asleep.

Meditation is not sleep. Unless you do it right, then it can be a wonderful sleep. I've fallen asleep.

If I meditate laying on my back, that's it, I'm going to sleep. Not because I want to, but because that's what naturally happens when I lie down. So that can be something you could try as well.

In bed, you could just count to 10. I haven't got a worry about breathing, you're breathing anyway, you're naturally, you don't need to count the breaths as far as... Yeah, actually, count the breaths, if you want to. So basically, every time you breathe out, you count 2, 3, 4, you know, and so on.

And what happens is, it's so boring and tedious, unless you get a kick out of counting to 10. And your mind starts to just slow down, really relaxed, really calm, really relaxed, really calm. Because the mind, your mind knows what's needed.

It can do it on its own, without involvement from us. Just feeling calm, it's nice. It's just so relaxing.

So calm, so relaxed. It feels nice and calm.