#1027 Living in Ireland - Let me bore you to sleep

Hello and welcome to Let Me Bore You To Sleep. My name's Jason Newland. Please only listen when you can safely close your eyes.

A bit of gas. Nice. How is this? I'm actually hungry.

My stomach's a bit, you know when your stomach makes noises and basically feed me now. Just kind of doing that at the moment. Which is okay.

I've got the cooker on and so that's heating up and then what I'll do is in half an hour's time I'll put some food in there and then it takes half an hour to cook and then I'll decide to eat when I finish the podcast. It's all worked out wonderfully. Vinnie's friend's been away for a couple of days and he just got back so he's excited.

Wants to go and spend time with him. So yeah, today I did a couple of recordings today actually. This is the third one.

Vinnie's in the background crunching as per usual. I did two recordings. I did, what did I do? I'm forgetting myself what I did.

I did Relax Asleep Hypnosis Daily, number 204, Slowing Down Your Mind. And then I did a Jason's Bedtime Storytime, number 28, Little Tim and the Magical Forest. Now that's the first time I've done a daily hypnosis recording since the 5th of July.

So what is it now? The 3rd of August. There's nearly a month and the Bedtime Storytime. Wow, blimey mate.

The last time I did one of them was on February the 7th last year. So it's nearly a year and a half ago. It's strange, isn't it? I mean, I don't know why it's been so long.

I guess laziness, I suppose. But well, I did one today anyway. So it took me, I mean, whether you like the picture I'd made or not, it took ages to do.

You probably won't even believe it, but the actual image, and it's not, it's not going to win any awards, but it took me quite some time to put that together. Way too much time, in fact. But there you go.

Blimey. So yeah, so that took a while. So it's, I've spent quite a few hours today doing this old stuff.

Doing it. Doing it. Other than that, so I've done a full 360 since last night.

Patreon's gone. Lasted for about five hours, I think. And so a big thank you to Joel who did subscribe, but I've kind of renewed the money, if that's the word.

Sent the money back and thanked Joel. But it's one of those things where if it has to kind of work straight away, it's not something that I can just let grow because, because it's income, it needs to be enough to live on, or not at all, if you know what I mean. So yeah, I've got, I took the adverts off of the podcasts as well, because that was one of the main benefits I was offering for Patreon people, members, audience, is to be able to listen advert free and also have early access.

So you won't have early access, but you'll have free, yeah, advert free for a while on the podcasts. And, yeah, I'm just, I'll leave it at that really. It's a big build up to nothing.

Oh, dear. That's unlike me. Oh, wait a minute.

It's very like me. It's almost identical to me. You make a big deal about nothing.

Nothing comes out of the big deal. Why'd you make a big deal to start with? I don't know. So today, seven and a half thousand so far.

It's not a hugely busy day on podcasts. But it's all right. It's okay.

I took Vinnie out. One, you know, he woke me up at I think it was two o'clock this morning. Woke me up like proper hassling me to get out of bed.

So I did, I took him out for a walk, which is weird at that time of night, because it's very dark outside. No street lights. And then he wanted to actually go for a walk, like proper walk.

Not just like outside to do a wee, but a proper hike. Yeah, yeah, he did. He had his, he had a backpack, sandwiches packed, hot flask of coffee, and he was all prepared.

Hiking boots. It is like, yeah, everything. Some skis just in case.

Parachute just really just in case like proper attempt, of course. I pushed that too far, didn't I? Really? That was silly start with then it just became just. Yeah.

So yeah, I ended up staying up and having breakfast just starting the day early. Because I thought I'd do that and then I'll maybe make a recording and I didn't feel like going back to bed. Just didn't feel like going back to sleep because of the interruption.

Now I've had a few days, because was it Thursday now? Pretty much a pretty good, maybe two or three days where it's been fairly quiet. Because a few of the people who live here have been away. And there's been less door slamming, which means there's been less hearing the door slam, but also Vinnie's not barking constantly because of the door slamming, because it just triggers him.

And it's been quite nice just to have a bit of peace, you know, a bit of peace and quiet, even during the day, just not having the door slamming, being able to just relax, chill out, uninterrupted. That's quite nice. So, you know, I've made the most of it.

It's now come to an end. So it's all right. It's fairly a bit quieter now at times than it used to be.

There's times when it's very, very noisy in the garden over the years during the summer. I really like proper congregation of people in the garden drinking and just having fun, I guess. Either my side of the fence or the other side of the fence.

But it could be quite loud, which meant I wouldn't really be able to do much in the way of podcasts or videos during that particular space of time, you know. But there hasn't been much of that recently. I mean, there's someone moved in locally that's got a few dogs and they're barking and Vinnie's barking.

I think they're basically just talking to each other, which in a sense is quite cute. But Vinnie was proper howling, like a wolf. Proper, proper howling.

So I don't know what that's about because I'm not a dog whisperer. Although I do sometimes whisper to him. Does that make me a dog whisperer? I don't know.

Part time? Yeah, I don't know. Maybe. Possibly.

He just had a really good time over the park. A local neighbour, her kid loves Vinnie. So when she sees him, she's like, oh Vinnie.

She plays with him and he was basically playing with a bunch of kids while the parents sat down at the benches. Vinnie was running around the field or the park with them and he loved it. Absolutely loved it.

I do think that he'd be happier in a big family just because of how much energy he's got. If he had, you know, like five kids, two adults, and maybe four other dogs. I mean, he'd just be happy.

He'd be constantly active, stimulated. And it might surprise you. But I'm possibly not the most exciting person to live with.

Might surprise you. It might not surprise you, but it might surprise you. But it might not, you know.

So, we'll have to wait and see. We'll have to wait. See what happens.

I mean, hopefully, I like to think he'll calm down a little bit as he gets older, but it's almost like being in a relationship again, you know, am I enough? He's a dog, but I want him to be happy. I do genuinely want him to be happy and be fulfilled, have his emotions emotionally fulfilled and be a happy little boy. And he is a happy little boy, but I don't, I'm not sure if he's getting everything he needs.

But part of that is because he's so blimmin' greedy. He's never satisfied. It's always more, more, more, more, more.

But he's not like that with food. I can leave food out and he won't touch it. He won't just eat and eat and eat and eat and then pop.

He just, he just wants, I don't know, when it comes to playing, he wants to play and he wants to continue playing and continue playing. Or when he goes out, he wants to, he doesn't want to come out of the park. He just sits down and pushes his feet on the ground to stop me from pulling him.

Not realizing that he's very easy to pull because he's so little. But I don't, you know, I generally don't pull him. I try and get him to come to me because, because I am, I am a dog whisperer of course, that's why.

He doesn't, he doesn't listen to me. I need to, maybe, maybe I need to go and be looking to learning some techniques to train him. You know, I've been using very basic techniques to, you know, trying to get him to cross the road slowly, saying the words slowly, slowly, and he listens and he does do it, but not all the time.

Trying to get him to, you know, wait, he will wait at the kerb before crossing until I say okay. But not all the time, you know, sometimes he will pull into the road. I don't let him.

Occasionally, he manages to catch me off guard, which is a little bit worrying. But it's just, I don't know what it is about him. He's constantly, I don't know.

I really don't know. That's why maybe I'll need to start looking into it. Maybe there's a specific way to train Jack Russell's that's different to, well, I guess the word specific didn't need the word different, but it's different to others, other kind of breeds of dogs.

I don't know why dogs are dogs, but I guess they're not really, are they? Well, they are. They are dogs, but some dogs tend to have different temperaments, given the opportunity. He was born to hunt.

He was bred, like he was invented. His breed was invented, created to hunt. So he gets into that mode, you know, picks up the scent of something, and he just follows it.

And he will keep going. And he, sometimes he smells a dog, one of his friends, and he will lead me to the dog. And the dog downstairs ran out.

That's a few months ago. He ran out, and we didn't know where he was. And Vinnie took me to him.

He was all the way around the back. We couldn't see where he was. He wasn't barking or nothing.

But Vinnie could smell him, and he took me right to him. It's kind of weird, like a dog, a doggy hide and seek. There's some people, they call it hide and go seek.

We don't call it that here. We call it hide and seek. Hide and go seek.

And here's another word. There's a word I heard someone say. I was watching boxing, and it was Terence Crawford and Spence Jr. were fighting.

It was a huge world title fight. And, okay, right. So was it Terence? Terence Crawford.

But they pronounced his name. I watched a few of his other fights, or, you know, highlights, just to have a look at him. So he's Terence Bud Crawford.

But nickname starts. Okay. No, it wasn't Terence.

It was. No, it was. Okay, let's have a look.

Let's have a look. Let's have a look. Why is that? Blimey.

Oh, okay. What other fight is this? Um, let's have a look. Oh, oh, oh, oh.

What's his name? Why are they not showing? Okay, Jamel Charlo. Jamel Charlo. So Jamel Charlo, that's the person I was checking for.

They call him Iron Man. His nickname is Iron Man. I didn't know that until I was watching his fights.

The pronouncer, and this is a different commentator on the different fights, will pronounce it Iron. Iron Man. Iron.

It's Iron. Iron. So maybe leave me a comment.

For those of you that pronounce it incorrectly, pronounce it Iron. It's not one of those ask Arx situations. This is Iron.

Iron. Iron. It's just, it's not ironing.

It's ironing. I don't think it's different anywhere else. I think it's the same.

Whether you're in America, Australia, New Zealand, England, Scotland. I don't know about Scotland. I'm not sure.

Iron. Iron. Yeah, I think it would just be iron.

Jai. Yeah, I think because I don't think G is, I think, I speak to people, I think Jai instead of G. Yeah, so you know, people pronounce things differently, but iron. It's not iron.

Iron. I just found that strange. Maybe I'm being strange.

How is iron pronounced? Pronounce. Iron. Iron.

What's the correct way to pronounce iron? How to pronounce iron in British English and American English? Learn how to, why is, why is iron pronounced iron, but not iron? Iron. Yeah. I don't know why the reason for it is.

Iron man. No. Pumping iron.

Iron. Pumping iron. But then I'm looking at it and it kind of makes sense to be iron, doesn't it? Iran.

Iran. What very, very strange word. Iron.

Iron. Now I just want to say iron. Iron.

Oh, how do, what's the correct, put the correct, is the R in iron silent? Look at this. This is from NBC.org.br. Is the R in iron silent? The R in iron is not silent. According to this, you pronounce it like in the words red run, et cetera.

Wow. Absolutely wrong. Blimey.

Oh, it's forbidden. Maybe it's not allowed me to go there. Don't go there.

Okay. The reason why the R in iron is absent in British English is because there is the, or the R is followed by a consonant. Now followed by N in a, in British English.

I don't know what that was is non rhotic meaning the R is only pronounced when followed by a vowel. I didn't understand a single, I understood the words, the individual words, but as a sentence, I didn't. Noun or vowel.

I don't, what is that? What's a noun? What's a vowel? What's, what's all that about? English was my best subject and I don't know what a noun or vowel is. I don't know what a consonant is. I do, but I don't, but I do, but I don't.

It's just, why do, why can't Brits, why can't Brits pronounce R? Yes, we can. Red. It's very easy.

Red. One. I was running down the street.

Stop being so rude. So it's easy to pronounce. Why can't Brits pronounce R? This is not a matter of grammar.

It's just an accent or dialect. Americans typically used heavier R pronunciations while British use lighter or non-existent R pronunciations. You will be understood either way.

So it doesn't really matter. It matters. Which British accent is rhotic or rotic? Southwest England.

Why, what does rhotic mean? The rhotic varieties of English include the dialects of Southwest England, Scotland, Ireland and most of the United States and Canada. The non-rhotic varieties include most of the dialects of modern England, Wales, Australia, New Zealand and South Africa. Now South Africa is a different, a very different accent, isn't it? There's like a bit of rolling of the old tongue.

I think from what I've heard, I've met a few South Africans and I saw Nelson on TV a few times. That's my Nelson. Maybe I can't really do it very well, but why do Brits say free instead of three? Not everyone says free instead of three, but it does sound quite similar.

Three and free. It was, what time is it? It was, what time is it? It was, what time is it? It's three o'clock. What time is it? It's three o'clock.

How much does that use condom cost? It's free. Or it's three pound. It's three, three pounds.

I guess it does sound different. I'm not paying three pounds for you, Johnny. But yes, what letters do British people not pronounce? Not pronouncing the T sound in the middle of middle or final position of words is a pronunciation feature that is widely known to be associated with London accents.

However, what most people aren't aware of is that the glottal stop, glottal stop has spread far beyond London. Why do Brits pronounce clerk as Clark? Because that's the correct way to pronounce it, is my answer. And I think it's in the 18th century, it says here, A H says, who's A H? People began are dropping in southern England and clerk came to be pronounced clack.

Clack. So to pronounce that, that's not Clark, Clark. Clerk, Clark.

That's K L A K, not K L A A A A A K. Oh, dear. Or if you want to pronounce it phonetically, C L A R K like they did earlier. This pronunciation, pronunciation.

I think pronunciation should be pronounced pronunciation because it's all about pronouncing, isn't it? Pronunciation, pronunciation spread to educated speakers elsewhere. And you're likely to hear it today on the BBC with a broad sound. And are are muted.

It sounds almost like clock. Really? I'm thinking that people with we've all got different ears, I guess it'd be weird if we all had the same ears. I mean, how would we share them out? But if you what I'm guessing if you're from even in my country, we have so many different accents.

And it can take a little bit of a little bit of ear training to accustom my eyes to a new accent. I'm talking maybe just a second, maybe a couple of minutes, maybe 10 years, but it's it takes a little while to kind of get your Oh, what's being said? Like, okay, if if you're used to being around people with the same accent as you that that's my experience.

But there was so many different accents.

I've never really understood why there's so many in such a small place. Such as this. So just you know, there's each person's got about three different accents.

It's amazing. And then you've got the mixed accents of the parents. So they say if the parents come from a different place.

Even as simple as one parent was from Wales and the other parents from Scotland. That kid, if the kids at home with the parent from Wales, most of the time for the first couple of years, three years, whatever before going to school. And then the rest of the time there with the Scottish parent, it could be like a very mixed accent.

And then they go to school, and they might be living in Liverpool, which again is another very strong accent, very different accent. So, you know, I've seen people that have a different accent when they're at home to what they do when they're at school. They'll fit in with the rest of the kids, then they'll go home and talk in a different accent completely.

I didn't even notice accents when I was a kid, I didn't notice it. I did one of my best mates was Scottish, so I knew he had a Scottish accent. And I met his parents.

And his mom, his mom was, I think, class region, very strong, very strong accent. But his dad was, I think, from Edinburgh. So his was much more.

I think I'm partly making this up. But he, he, his was a lot. I don't want to say gentler, because there's nothing wrong with his mom's accent.

She was a lovely person. But it's just a different accent, you know. But he, he, when he was at home, he was so much more Scottish than when he was out.

And I noticed that with Andre, the original Andre. So he, when I first started working with him, he hadn't lived in London for particularly a long time. And he was from Ireland.

And he very, he's very strong accent. And he slowed it down. He had to slow it down extra, extra more for it to be around me.

And but he did it. And, you know, he was fine with it. I think he had to almost talk in slow motion when he was around me.

So that must have been a bit annoying. Maybe. He didn't seem to be bothered.

But then when we moved, I moved to Ireland. A few weeks after he moved back. So I went and lived with his parents, well, him and his parents.

And suddenly, it's almost like someone wound him up, like, in the key in the back of his, in his back. And he started talking really quickly. With a really thick accent, not thick, you know, strong accent.

Really, it's like almost instantly, and it got stronger and stronger, the longer we were there. Because I was the only English person that he was around. And I'll be honest, when I was there, I didn't always know what people were saying.

I didn't. But I kind of, I didn't mind that because I've never, never really known what people were talking about. Sometimes anyway.

Just just like, what? Why are you telling me that? Why? What do you want? Who are you? And I pretty much got on with everyone. I mean, in them days, I was, I was fairly laid back. I was just trying to have a bit of fun, you know, trying to, trying to start a new life.

I, what did I do? So when I got over there, have I talked about me going over there before? I think I have. I think I have. I've probably told this story before.

I think most things I say is repeated at some point or another. So what happened is, I lived, I was living in a house. What actually happened is I moved out of my house, my room that I was living for, from 91 to 94.

So January 91 to summer, summertime 94. Summer, summertime, summertime. And I stayed with my friend, a different friend.

And then he came up to me at work. This friend said, Oh, yeah, we're being evicted today. When we get home, right? So he was big on sublets.

He loved to sublet for some reason, keeping off the grid or whatever, I don't know. But not a good idea. If you can avoid it, don't sublet.

It's just really not ideal. I've done it. One, two, one, two, one, two, three, two or three times.

And anyway, we did. We basically moved out and then I moved in with Andre while he was living with another friend from work. We all worked at the same place.

So me, Andre and this other man that was living there, it was his house. So we lived there. It was a council house.

And so we had the summer and then his mom and sister, his sister was living here. But his other sister came over with his mom. And she looked at how he was living and said, you're coming home.

You're coming back to Ireland. That was it. And he just said, Okay.

So he left with them, I think. And then they invited me. I think they invited me or I might have invited myself.

I think they invited me. Or maybe Andre asked if I could go. But either way, I got on really well with his mom.

And, you know, she said, Yeah, just, you can stay with us for a little while. While you get your feet. So I've already got my feet.

I've got my feet already. Thanks. She said, Yeah, stay.

And I think I mistook the word stay for stay forever. But hey, I was young and naive back then. So I moved to Ireland.

And yeah, so I think he was barking and I edited it out. So I went and stayed there. When it went to move to Ireland, I had this big old army rucksack, like, you know, I don't have big bags, huge thing.

So I put all my stuff in there. There's quite a bit of stuff, journals and things like that, and clothes and everything I could get into it. And I got to Ireland and they stopped me and searched me because of the big bag I had.

So interrogated me. Can you believe it? It's quite funny. And like, what are you doing? Where are you going? Because back in them days, you could go anywhere in Europe, pretty much and do what you want.

But they must have thought I was up to something but I said no. And when I opened the bag, I couldn't believe like, why have you got all these pads? So that's my journals. Oh, and in the end, they just let me go.

I think they might have phoned someone to see if I really was going there for what was the reason I said, but it's the second time I got stopped by customs. I got stopped when I went to Belgium, I think, once. Is it Belgium? Or is it Spain? Somewhere I got stopped.

So I didn't have a passport, like a proper full passport, probably Belgium because there was a time when you go over there and you just get like a day passport. Because we're in Europe and didn't really need, just had to get something to prove who you was like a bit of ID. So I'd get it this side and show them my national insurance number or something like that, you know.

And I got stopped because I didn't have a passport, even though I didn't need a passport. And it might be France, I think it was. I don't know, it was somewhere.

It was definitely somewhere. I'm not sure where. That wasn't Amsterdam.

It wasn't Bulgaria. It wasn't Spain. I don't think it was Spain.

Yes, I think it was, yeah. So I, I sound well, well travelled, don't I? So all these countries and I'm really not. The last time I went away, apart from the more recent journey, was in 2003 to Bulgaria.

So, you know, 19 years is, it's not regular, is it? You know what I mean? So I was in Ireland. Well, I was on a boat anyway. So was Amsterdam.

And so was Belgium. Spain was on a flight. Bulgaria was on a flight.

France was on a ferry. And yeah, I travelled all through the south of France when I was 18. And just hitched through with a friend, a new friend that I met, who was a hitchhiker.

And we became friends for quite a long time. From what, 80, 1989, all the way till about 2014. What was that? 89, 99, 2009, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, yeah, 25 years.

So I went to Ireland. And my plan was to live there forever. I wasn't going to come back, apart from to visit, you know, but that was it.

As far as I was concerned, I was getting in touch with my Irish roots, because my grandmother was, her side of the family were Irish. And both her parents were from Ireland, moved to London, had her, so she was born in London. But she was, you know, I mean, technically, she was English, but she was also Irish, because both her parents were Irish, going back probably thousands of years, maybe millions of years, I don't know.

Yeah, it's, just thinking back, I kind of, I liked it there, but it was very, just very strange, very different from anywhere I'd ever been before, or anywhere I've ever been since. Yeah, it was a very strange, strange environment. But I did like it.

But it was just different, so different from anything I'd known before. And I do wonder if I could go back, blimey, if I could go back, would I have stayed longer? Possibly, but then I'd have missed out on what happened the next year. And there's stuff, because, you know, everything leads to kind of the next thing.

And if I hadn't come back, then I wouldn't have ended up going, I was, I lost where I was staying, I had to move out, I ended up working at Butlins. Now, that was an experience that was worthwhile, that was really, I'm glad I did it, because it's just something that is just a very unusual thing to do. It's a holiday camp, for those who don't know what it is.

So Butlins, there's two main ones in this country, Butlins and Pontins, I think. But then you've got other places like SeaWorld, I think, are also kind of like holiday camps as well. And other holiday camps, of course.

But, and then being a security guard in 96 to 97. However strange it may seem, I'm kind of glad I did that. I think it, it was something I needed to go through.

Again, very strange job. Very different, different kind of weird situations I got into. And then if that hadn't, you know, gone the way it did in 97, my life would be very different, because I wouldn't have had the involvement with the comedy club.

And the support, because my friends supported me a lot, helped me get through a very difficult period. And which then led me to going into like the self help for myself kind of, you know, situation, trying to, he's making so much noise. But all that stuff led towards hypnosis.

In January 98, I started reading hypnosis books. And then kind of, that led to eventually, by doing this, I guess, you know, so that with other things in between. So without that, I very much doubt I ever would have discovered, I wouldn't be doing this if it wasn't for, if I hadn't left Ireland.

But then if I hadn't gone to Ireland, to start with, if I hadn't done all the different things I did throughout my life, I wouldn't be here. Which wouldn't be completely a bad thing. But you know, it's in a sense of, it's weird, isn't it? It's very strange.

So that's it really. I was looking at a plug socket. You know, we switched the light on and off, light socket and just reminds me of a face.

Just keep thinking of Ed Sheeran. It's like, it doesn't look like Ed Sheeran. I'm just, I don't know why.

Just, it's weird. So yeah, that's it really. He was barking and then he stopped.

I gave him some treats and then he come back in. I chucked the treats on the bed. So he ate them and he came back in and carried on crunching his bone, happy as, well he had a drink as well, so I gave him some water, because he had run out of water nearly.

And now he's happy again. Maybe just having a little bit of my attention was what he required. Perhaps, I don't know.

Again, I'll have to try and, I'll wait until he's asleep and I'll whisper in his ear, What do you want? What do you want? Behave yourself. Stop acting like a dog. You know, I just, positive suggestions.

Maybe I'll do it in his language. Woof, woof, woof, woof. To be fair, I don't think I could do the whining.

He's way too good at whining. I don't have the ability. He's, he's got it really down really well.

Really, really, lots of really's involved in that description. Consonants. I need to start learning some stuff.

I sometimes think of kind of, because I didn't really learn too much at school, I, I jumped ahead a bit. So it's almost like I was learning more complicated stuff before I'd even learnt the, the foundations. Which means perhaps I didn't understand the complicated stuff as well as I would have done if I'd known what came before.

But then some people say if you're going to learn a subject, start now. Start with the latest knowledge and then work your way back to the beginning. Rather than starting at the very beginning and then working your way forward to now.

So, you know, studying psychology or psychotherapy, you don't start with Jung and Adler and, you know, old Froude. You start with whoever I don't know who's, who's relevant these days in the psychotherapy world. But it's, it's kind of there is where it starts.

That, that's kind of what's been advised from a few people that I've looked at and listened to. But I don't know. It is good to get, to get to see where the foundation's from.

But what I've done in the past is with, for example, hypnosis books or Buddhism or I'm trying to think of what other things I've been interested in over the years. But just as an example, I'll read book after book after book and quite often they'll cover the same stuff. So it kind of becomes fairly cemented in there because they'll might cover it, but in a different way.

So I'll learn it a little bit differently. So it kind of becomes part of me, maybe. He's such a whiner.

Oh, now I know he whines. I know, I know he whines now. He's actually showing me because he's sniffing.

Right. I'm going to go. Thank you for listening.

Take care. Bye.