#153 Let me bore you to sleep - Jason Newland (21st May 2019)

Hello and welcome to LetMeBoreYouToSleep.com My name is Juicy JJ Newland and this is Let Me Bore You I invite every particle of you to sleep. Please, please, please, please, please, only, only, only listen, listen to this recording when you can safely close your eyes. So, I'm trying to think how many recordings I've done now.

I think this is the 153rd. So I'm going to, when I get to the 200 mark, I'm going to have to do a little special one, maybe a live broadcast, something like that. I think every centenary, every time we get to the next hundred, I think we should have a little celebration, a little party.

A little party, yeah, party. And, so we're not that far off of that. What is it now, May the 20... 21st I think today, May the 21st.

So, you're looking 30 May, June, you know, 10th of July or something, we'll be at 500-ish, you know, in July time. So that would be nice. I try and do one every day, but I don't always manage it because I've actually been really busy with, well, sleeping, but been busy with the websites.

I've been working quite a bit on the jasonnewland.com website. And just, I said this before, it's just a lot of work. A lot, it's not hard work, it's a lot of repetition.

But it's the never-ending website that is. But what I need to do is, most important, to stop deleting the website and stop rebuilding it. I need to keep it up and keep it up.

I need to keep building upon what's already there. And because it costs money to keep the website running, and sometimes I can't afford to keep it running, I have to shut it down temporarily for a month and then I can pay for the monthly fee to keep it up again. It's not a huge amount, it's about $25 a month or something for the jasonnewland.com website.

But there's also all the other websites I've got, and there's Zesprika, which hosts all the podcasts, that's $50 a month. And the WordPress, which I use for five other websites, including this one, the LetMePullYouToSleep.com, the DeepSleepWhisper.com, the SleepHypnosisWeekly.com, and the FreeHypnosisMP3s.com. Plus there's another one that I've not got running yet, because it won't connect to the domain for some reason. So yeah, there's a lot that goes on behind the scenes, and I'll be honest, sometimes I just can't be bothered, because it's boring, it really is, at times.

But it's just about keeping motivated. Ideally, I'd just be recording, just making recordings, and that would be it. But there's the promotion side of things, and the marketing, whatever you want to call it.

I'm just trying to build something, trying to reach out, reach a larger audience, help more people. That's really what it's about for me. And, you know, I know every now and then I do thank you, but, you know, I genuinely mean it, I really appreciate you listening to me.

And because it gives my life meaning, genuinely, it gives my life meaning for me to have an audience. So those 2,000, I don't know if it's 2,000 people, but I get 2,000 plus downloads a day, and sometimes 3,000, you know, it depends on the day. But I'm, you know, assuming it's like one person, I can't, unless people are downloading lots.

But it's a nice amount of people, and it's growing all the time, and I just want to sort of say that I appreciate you. And I know that we don't have much contact as well, no physical contact, and not any kind of real life interactions, I suppose, but I hope you realise I am a human being. I'm not just a voice on a computer, or on a phone, or on your tablet, or on your podcast.

You know, I'm human, and you're human too, and there's a connection. And I kind of feel that by you listening, you're also connecting with the other people that are also listening regularly. And this podcast does have a regular audience.

There's a regular people come listen every day, and listen to each one. Not just here, but also on YouTube, to a lesser extent, because there's a smaller audience on YouTube at the moment. And most of my audience is with the podcasts.

But Spotify is growing, and most of the audience, most of my audience comes from iTunes, but Spotify is increasing. It's getting much, much more of an audience on Spotify. TuneIn, Stitcher, and Spreaker, of course, and also the website, the letmeboytosleep.com website, is becoming more popular.

I say popular, but more visited, that's what I mean by popular. So, you know, Spreaker is the home for all of my podcasts, and will continue to be so. I'm happy with Spreaker, and it's taken me many years to find a podcast host, which I'm happy with.

I did like, what's the one I liked? It's orange. It's got an orange logo. I forget, I forget the name of it now, but I've used every single podcast, pretty much, that there is.

Every podcast host, and they're all good. I don't think any of them are bad, but some of them have got a lot of limitations for someone like me, who has such a huge catalogue of recordings. And it's not just that I've got over a thousand recordings, but a lot of them are long, you know.

All of these ones are about an hour, at least, pretty much, just on this podcast, just for the Let Me Bore You To Sleep ones. So that's 150 plus hours on its own. And most podcasts don't cover that amount of, a lot of them don't cover that amount without charging quite a bit of money.

So I'm thinking of actually looking into getting an affiliate with Spreaker and maybe, you know, not promote it, but like suggest Spreaker to people and have a link so that I can make a couple of pounds if people sign up, because I genuinely really, really love Spreaker. You know, I'd never ever, I'd never recommend something that I didn't believe in. But I think Spreaker for anyone podcasting and really looking to gain an audience and wanting to maybe turn it into a, something really, you know, the song is really important to them, reach a larger audience, maybe even earn a living out of it eventually.

It's possible. You need a lot of people listening. But, you know, it's got advertising potentials on there.

And I have adverts at the beginning of the recordings, but only at the beginning. And I could have them in the middle and I could have them at the end as well. But that's too jarring for people, because a lot of my stuff, even the, I do whisper stuff, whisper hypnosis, but even the talking ones like this, it's still, I'm still talking softly.

You know, I'm not, I don't think shouting would be very good for sleeping, you know, unless someone was working in a steelworks or something and they were listening to it, but then they shouldn't be listening to it if they're working. I suppose if someone was trying to get to sleep and they lived near a really busy airport, perhaps they'd need me to be shouting. I don't know.

I've never lived near an airport. But I imagine it's, you'd need some pretty good thick double glazing, treble glazing windows or whatever. So yeah, I'm just gonna, I'm just talking about stuff really, just what's on my mind at the moment.

And yeah, I just wanted just to say thank you. And if you fancy letting me know what you think about what I do, if you, you know, if you benefit, then please let me know. I've got a specific Facebook page just for this, just for the Let Me Bore You To Sleep.

So if you go to Facebook, just type in Let Me Bore You To Sleep, the page should come up and you can just like it if you want. It's not private. It's not, you know, it's open to anyone and you can like it.

And then every time I make a new recording, I post it on there as well, as well as on the website. So it gives you an opportunity if you wanted to, you know, send me a message. And yeah, so that's, it's always nice.

So one of my favorite things is to hear that what I'm doing is actually useful, because it's kind of the only reward, really, as far as doing this. I can imagine that what I'm doing is useful. I can tell myself that.

I can look at the stats and think, well, if it wasn't useful, people wouldn't be listening. You know, I could think logically like that. But I still don't know.

You know, I still, without knowing, I don't know until I'm told. Does that make sense? So it's nice to get a bit of feedback. And it'd be really cool if more people perhaps shared the posts, you know, so if you did go to the page on Facebook and you could share the post.

Share it, share the, you know, if you go on and it's like, you see this 153, let me bore you to sleep, 21st of May 2019. And you could share it onto your own page, your own Facebook page. And or maybe you're in an insomnia group, a Facebook group for insomnia.

Maybe post it there. Because I can't do that myself. I can't just post stuff into groups.

I used to, years ago. But they don't like it if you're not a member or if you're not actively involved or if you're not known. They say, oh, you're just advertising.

When even though it's a free service. So I've kind of had a few run-ins over the years with Facebook groups. So I kind of steer clear a little bit from doing that.

Even though I'm sort of trying to help. But you know, you can, if you wanted to, you could help me doing that. You could post it on Twitter, Instagram.

Tell your friends, tell your family. Set up your own website advertising me. Not advertising, but you could post, embed my audios, my podcast sessions into the website.

You could put a review, do reviews. Wow, I'm so full of ideas today. But you know, ultimately, I've kind of got this far without any of that help.

I've had a few people, you know, have kind of maybe shared it in groups and stuff on Facebook. But I don't get many people share the posts. It's all kind of, sometimes it feels like people find me by accident.

And then they're like, wow. Well, not wow, but there might be wow, there might be like, well, it's all right, I suppose. But it'd be really lovely to, it'd be quite nice to sort of search, let me boy to sleep and Google it and to have something more than just what I've posted.

Yeah, that'd be quite cool. I need a champion. I need a marketing manager.

So if you'd like to be my marketing manager and not get paid anything, then yeah, you're welcome to the job. It's all yours. You know, the thing is, there are people listening to this.

I know through a fact there's someone out there listening to this that probably really could put me on the map by sharing this on their Twitter or Facebook or on their website. Someone that has a bit of sway, someone who's maybe got a large audience. You don't even have to have a large audience, you know.

Ultimately, it's about helping. So every person that this helps is another person that you've helped. Because think about it, I've made the recording, but if you've made it possible for someone else to hear my boring voice and my boring stories, then you're the reason that they're able to maybe get more sleep and to have that improvement in mental health, physical health, and perhaps whatever other benefits may come from increased sleep.

I mean, there's so many benefits. It's individual to each person. So you'll actually be helping other people.

I think that's quite exciting, really. See, I've got a friend who... And I tell him this. I tell him that if it wasn't for him, then the thousands of people over the years that have been touched by what I've done, what I've recorded and stuff, wouldn't have been helped if it hadn't been for him.

Because he helped me and he guided me into getting into this stuff to start with. In the first place, he's the one that gave me a leaflet about an NLP course. I didn't know what NLP was.

I'd never heard of it. So I went online. I mean, this is 1990, probably like late 97, maybe November time.

So I googled it and I look, oh, what's this all about? I've got a tape, a tape set about NLP. Listen to it. And then I started talking about hypnosis because NLP, Neuro Linguistic Program, is based on a few different things, but hypnosis is a big foundation to it.

So that got me thinking about hypnosis. And in 98, I couldn't afford to go on the course. So it was like a training, NLP training.

So I thought, well, I'm not doing that because it's money that I don't have. But I did, I got more interested in hypnosis. So I started, and then NLP.

So kind of June 1998, I started studying hypnosis and NLP. And I joined a course, like an evening course, in like introduction to NLP. And again, I learned a bit about hypnosis there as well.

And he supported me with that. He helped me to pay for it. Didn't cost a lot, but he was very supportive as well, just positive towards it.

And my first ever client, once I'd trained in NLP and did the hypnosis training, my first ever client in either 99 or 2000, was he let me use a room in his business for free to see this client. And she was a musician. And she had some, it was about self-esteem, self-belief issues.

And she told me that I helped her. She said that it was beneficial, the session I did. But it was the first time I'd ever been face-to-face with a person outside of training.

And it felt really good. I didn't charge any money for it, it was free. And I didn't intend to charge her anything.

I think she wanted to pay me. And then at the end of the session, she left, and my friend who let me use the room, he told me that he was proud of me. And I would say he's the first person probably in my life to ever tell me that he's proud of me.

And even since then, probably the only person. And he's older than me, he's like my dad's age. So he's 25 years older or something, 23 years older than me.

And still a friend, still a good friend now, 20 years later. I've known him since 1991. So I've known him for a long time.

And when I speak to him, I say to him that the people that I've helped along the line, along the road, including the people that I counselled when I was a counsellor, when I was working as a counsellor, the people that are maybe alive now, that maybe wouldn't be if they hadn't come for counselling, it goes back to him helping me. Him supporting me. And that kind of... So if it wasn't for him, I wouldn't be here doing this now.

So now you've got someone to blame. And it's not just him, it's other people that can be thanked or have contributed a lot to me being where I am or with the hypnosis and helping a larger group of people. My friend, I've known her since 2003.

And I did a therapy course with her, which was holistic therapy, massage, reflexology, aromatherapy, that thing. So I did a course with her. I didn't actually complete the course, but she did.

But I became good friends with her, still am. And I kept going on about it, saying, oh yeah, I'm a hypnotist. And this was the early 2000s, you know, 2003.

She said, well, why aren't you seeing clients then? At the time, I had a job, and I was more into the kind of academic side of it. You know, I had a big book collection, tape, video, audio, CD, DVD, all kinds of stuff that I'd collected over the last... well, since 1998. And she kept saying, well, don't you see, I've got a friend that needs to help with this, and I've got a friend, and I say, oh, maybe another time, maybe.

And I kept putting it off. And then I started the free pain relief service in 2004. But nobody... I was putting leaflets through people's doors.

Nobody called me. No one showed any interest. But she was saying, well, why don't you see my friends? And I said, no, it's okay.

Because I just, although I wanted to do it, I was scared as well of doing it, which might sound a bit strange. And then 2005 came. I did some more hypnosis training.

And I decided, that's it, I'm going to... I'm really going to go through it now. I'm going to try and turn this into something. I'd already been working on websites.

I'd already built a website for the pain relief service. Wasn't getting any interest from anyone. And then in 2006, I decided, yeah, I'm going to start seeing clients, definitely.

Definitely, definitely. And started the free pain relief. I kind of gave it another boost and put some money into it.

Got some... Well, I paid for advertising in the paper and paid for professional leaflets and all that stuff. Built another website, which was called Free Pain Relief, as well as having the jasonnewland.com website. The domain, but I didn't have... I wasn't doing anything with that at that time, but I was... I did, in the end, in probably about April, May 2006, I started using that website as well.

But anyway, I still kind of was nervous about doing anything. And then my friend, she said, I've got a friend, her friend, another friend of hers, needed hypnotherapy to help her to deal with nerves regarding a driving test. But it wasn't just a driving test.

It was the driving instructor's test. So her livelihood depended upon her passing this test. And if my recollection, she'd already failed it once or twice.

So I think this is her last opportunity to take it. And I was put on the spot. And I just backed down.

I said, okay, I'll do it then. And they both came round my house. So my friend's friend, the one with the driving test, and my friend both sat there, the other side of the room, while I talked.

And I did kind of my first professional hypnosis session, which was, I had done others, but this was the first one that really meant anything, that I was relied upon. I'd done stuff with friends and family, relaxation stuff. But this was the first one that had, I suppose, pressure connected to it.

And I sat there for about an hour and a half with her, talking. My friend also went into some kind of a trance as well. And then she had a test.

This was on a Friday, I think it was on a Friday evening. And she had the test on a Monday, something like that. And she passed really well.

She did really well. And ended up not only getting a job as a driving instructor, but she ended up starting her own school. And that led to other things, because my friend started sending more people to me.

And then other people started sending people to me, or me to them. And also the pain relief, the free pain relief service, suddenly became alive, and people were phoning me. So suddenly I went from wanting to do it, but preferring to talk about wanting to do it, than actually doing it.

And suddenly I was, not forced, but I kind of had to show my cards. I kind of had to either do it, or shut up. And nearly everyone that I saw, apart from a few driving tests, which weren't sort of serious stuff, it was nerves and anxiety, but it wasn't anything extreme.

But outside of that, most of the people I saw were quite extreme. Another friend sent me to her, a friend of hers, who needed to have lung transplants, and had huge anxiety about the whole thing. And so I was with her for about three and a half hours.

And then another friend of mine, who was also on the massage course, her husband was in hospital with terminal illness, and I went in there and helped, did some hypnosis for him. And it's like suddenly all these people wanted me to help them. And I didn't feel prepared for it, but I did it.

And that is, and then the pain relief stuff, people with all kinds of really quite serious conditions. Also I started seeing people for other things, the OCD, anxiety, phobias, things like that. It just snowballed.

And so 2006 and 2007 was kind of my coming out period, as far as hypnosis goes. That was my expanding, finding out if I can actually do it. And I could.

And at the same time I started volunteering in 2006 for two charities, one for alcoholic issues and another one for drug rehab. And I was dealing with people that were seriously, got serious problems. And I was helping with that, doing group sessions, as well as working at the same time.

Because I was doing all of it for free. And then there was the building the website, and starting in 2006 the free hypnosis audios, the videos, and all that stuff as well on top of that. But none of that would have come about, that part, if it hadn't been for my friend, it wouldn't have come about in the same way.

I may still just be talking about it. One day I'm a hypnotist, I've got all this training and all this knowledge, but I'm going to do it one day. Instead I can say I did it, but I was kind of pushed into it by my friend.

So she's partly responsible for me making this. And because this is where these came from, from me doing that, from me starting to record my sessions. But then there's someone else who worked for the charity, for the alcohol charity.

People kept asking, after doing the relaxation groups, they'd say it's nice seeing you once a week, twice a week or whatever, but they'd like to be able to listen to you every day, because it's so relaxing. So between me and my colleague who worked at the charity, we kind of both had ideas at the same time, but he did the design, I recorded it, I had the equipment to record the session, I gave it to him, he put it onto a CD, he designed the cover, and everything, I wish I had at least one of those. And he made quite a few and they just went, he just gave them away to people.

And we did the same with the drug rehab centre as well. So in a sense, the recording side of things was not his idea so much, but he participated in that idea, which then led me to, because after doing that, people, the CDs kept running out. And then I thought, I'll make an MP3, I'll stick them onto the website, jasonnewland.com website, and that's what I started doing.

So I started giving people the website address, so that they could listen back to the recordings that they'd already listened to, like the sessions that they'd been in. So I started recording most of the sessions I did, and providing there wasn't too much background sound or coughing or anything like that, I'd put that on the website for people to listen to. So again, he's this man at the charity, he's someone that, if it hadn't been for him, I may not be here doing this.

And then if it hadn't been for that charity, both those charities, because they both had counsellors helping the clients, the patients, and I really liked the counsellors, all of them. They were so nice, so friendly, so kind, so gentle, all of them, that I met. And I thought, that's what I want to be like.

I want to do hypnosis, but I want to do it like that. I want to be a counsellor, but also do hypnosis. And I remember I actually went into the office, because I got on really well with the people, pretty much everyone that was involved in the charities, and the alcohol charity, it was called Norcas, and I went in and spoke to the manager, and I said to her, I sat down and said, can you help me? I'm really interested in counselling, can you tell me what I would need to do to become a counsellor? Because I had no idea, I hadn't got the faintest idea what the process was for that.

So she went to a filing cabinet and brought out a load of stuff and said, well, there's this route, there's this route, there's this, these are the different organisations that you could train with. There was some in the town that I was living in, which would be like diploma courses, but then that was quite expensive to pay out of my own pocket, because at this point I was working part-time. And then there was one place which was a university course, and the first two years was the diploma, which would qualify me as a counsellor.

The third year was the degree, so it was a three-year degree, full-time. So if I finished after two years, I'd have the diploma, which would be a higher education diploma or something. The third year was the degree with honours, the bachelor degree with honours.

And I just thought, you know what? This sounds good. And I wasn't sure. And then shortly after that, my job said to me I could no longer be part-time, I had to go full-time or leave.

That was the two options. So I chose to leave, because I didn't want to go full-time anymore, because of all the extra work I was doing, the volunteering, the hypnosis side of things. That was when I was happiest.

I enjoyed the job I had as well, but part-time. And if they'd have left me to stay part-time, I'd still be there. I wouldn't, because they closed down, but they hadn't closed down.

But then I wouldn't have gone on and got a degree at that time either, so it worked out okay. But I left, and I thought, what should I do now? And I applied for the degree course. Didn't think I was going to get accepted on the course, but I was.

I applied for financing, student loans, grants and all that stuff. Didn't think I'd get it, but I was accepted. And I started in the October 2007.

But in the process, it meant I moved to a different town, and I no longer had the momentum that I'd built with the charities, with the pain relief service, all that stuff. That all ended, because I moved. I tried to relaunch the pain relief, the free pain relief service in the new town, but it got pretty much no interest.

So I just focused on the online videos and audios, the hypnosis stuff, and of course the degree. And I qualified as a counsellor in 2009, and I got the degree 2010. And it was November 2010 that I had my ceremony.

And I started working as a counsellor in 2009. As soon as I was qualified, I volunteered in a charity, and started my private practice. And in 2010, after I'd graduated, in 2011, I started getting extra work with MIND, which is a big mental health charity.

And I was pretty much a full-time professional counsellor, with most of my work coming from charities. So all of that comes from people that have helped me, that have steered me, and maybe pushed me a little bit into helping others, or doing something that perhaps I didn't necessarily feel ready for. There was one situation where, this was in a drug rehab centre, and the main man, there was two people that ran it.

One was a counsellor, and one was the... they were both kind of like the bosses. And the counsellor, who was in charge of all the counsellors, he said, would you come and assist me in a training? I said, okay. I said, what's the training? He said, it's going to be... I don't know what it's called, like aggression, anger.

Anger control. I said, oh, all right. And there was about probably 20 men.

There was only men in there, there was no women. It's just, I don't think it was, it wasn't a men-only situation, it just, that's all there was at the time. There was like 20 men, and nearly all of them were actually in prison.

They were just allowed out to attend this training. Like they had day release. But they were... and I'd never been in that situation before.

And three quarters of the way into the session, and all my job really was to just turn the pages on the board, maybe do a little bit of role play, and I just kind of, he led me the way, you know, I just sort of did what he said. And he got a phone call, and he said, oh, I've got to go, it's an emergency. And he handed me a thing of what we're going to talk about next, and he said, oh, could you just finish it for me? So I was there on my own, not knowing what I was doing.

And it was only for about 15 minutes or 20 minutes, but it was like, whoa. And very, very strange situation, because I didn't really know what I was doing. I didn't know, I was no expert on anger control.

I know from the kind of techniques and, you know, hypnosis-y stuff and therapeutic ways of reducing anger and stuff, but this was a set-out course. This was all organized, and it was, I kind of had to follow instructions from a book, you know, with handouts. So it was an interesting time.

But I know that if I'd have stayed in that town and not moved, I would have had a job at both of those charities, because it was there. I would have been offered a job. I would have been doing all right.

But it just didn't work out like that. I moved, because it's hard to be in a university that's in a completely different town. Also, I kind of had to get out of where I was living as well, so I needed to move.

I couldn't find anywhere that I could afford in the town that I was living. So I ended up moving to the town near where I was going to be studying, and I found a cheaper place to live. Strange, isn't it, how things work out? And now I'm still here.

I'm still in the same town. And it's, what, 12 years ago. In fact, was it 2019 now? Coming up to the summer holidays.

So it literally would be 10 years ago that I qualified as a counsellor, as a person-centred counsellor. 10 years. Wow.

I do sometimes like the idea of maybe going back into, like having some private practice, you know. I'd love to, like the idea of having an office, an office where I can work from and see maybe three, four people a day for counselling or hypnosis or whatever was required for that person, really. And also to maybe use that space to make recordings as well.

I thought that'd be quite cool to have that. But it's just really expensive to rent an office. So maybe one day, though.

Because a lot of therapists, they rent a therapy room by the hour. And I did that for years. And I never enjoyed the process, to be honest.

You know, is the room available? It's 4.30 this Thursday coming. And, you know, you kind of got a lot of balancing, like organising it with the person that runs the therapy room or owns the business that has the room. And then there's the patient or the client, and trying to like then phone them up saying, yeah, sorry, I can't do 4.30, but I can do 2.45. You know, it'd be nice to have like the same space where people can come and you can say, well, we can do 3.30, we can do it every week for the next six weeks, if you like, and then go from there.

And you've got this, you know, it's booked. Maybe get myself a receptionist. Maybe Andre could be the receptionist.

Yeah, that'd be funny. I'd like to have an office where he can run around and do whatever he wants to do. I don't like, you know, it'd be weird for me to be out all day and not see him.

I'm so used to seeing him that I'm not normally out for more than a few hours at a time, but to be out all day and then only seeing him for a few hours, and then he goes to bed. That doesn't seem... I like spending time with him. Even if it's just going for walks or just knowing he's in his bag.

And I'm here. I know where he is, I know he's okay. Or seeing him running around, playing and jumping up on me continuously, trying to get onto the table and cause havoc.

He loves to knock stuff off the table. So yeah, I kind of... I like spending time with him. He's my boy, you know, what can you say? He's my son.

And he's now... Realistically, he's now middle-aged, really. He's nearly four years old. And he's kind of... Yeah, reaching middle age, but he's never... He's always going to be like a kid, really.

Although he does get grumpy sometimes. He does, especially when he's in his bag and I go to cuddle him, to stroke him, and he pushes me away with his hand. He's like, go away, I'm sleeping.

It's very cute. So I'm going to end this here. I realize it's not been particularly humorous or anything, but it's still been boring, I think, so that's good.

At the same time, it's just talking about some stuff, talking about my life. I haven't really discussed this, I don't think, before. Not like this.

It's kind of, in a sense... I mean, I think this started off me with the sort of gratitude towards you for listening, but also to those that have had an impact on me that has led me to do this. So to thank them, and also to give them credit for the benefit that they've given, the benefit that other people gain from listening to the recordings. And that credit goes to them, as well as me.

If that makes sense. And it just shows how we can impact other people's lives in a really positive way, without even maybe being aware of it. So that's me for the day.

I'm going to go and upload this and put it onto the internet. So thank you for listening. Hopefully this was boring enough to send you into a nice sleep.

And I shall speak to you tomorrow. Tomorrow. Bye.