#96 Relaxation Hypnosis for Stress, Anxiety & Panic Attacks - NOISE SENSITIVITY - (Jason Newland) (13th February 2020)

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Now, today, I want to talk about noise sensitivity, or sound, excessive sound sensitivity. But let's use the word noise sensitivity. That would be the the correct term, I think that most people would use.

Or not enjoying noise. Now, I realize this may not apply to everybody that listens to this podcast. And so I understand if it's not something you want to listen to.

In fact, you might call you, you might find it too noisy. So especially with this little ferret running around, for some reason. So what I thought I would do is actually open up a bit, tell you about my personal experiences with my I guess sensitivity is if I use that term sensitivity to noise.

And although technically, you could say, well, it's got what's that got to do with stress and anxiety. It caused stress and anxiety in me. And it still sometimes does.

But less so than it used to. So I don't think I'm making recordings just about just to think of anxiety and stress as being something that happens without anything else connected. You know, in the sense of maybe a panic attack can, you know, I've had it happen in the past when I was in a bookshop looking at a book, and there was no trigger there at all.

So if someone was to say to me, which is kind of a standard thing for someone to say something like, well, what's wrong? What's happened? What's caused you to feel that way? What's caused you to have this reaction? What triggered it? When actually there isn't a trigger or not an obvious trigger. You know, I suppose it's a bit in the sense like chronic pain. If someone's got chronic pain, you don't ask them what's caused it.

If you know that they've got chronic pain, they've got a shoulder injury that's healed, but not properly healed, you know, in the sense that there's still nerve damage or there's still, you know, it's quite ongoing. You kind of accept, well, that's the reason. But, you know, it's like there needs to be a connection, needs to be a logical explanation.

However, life isn't kind of always as simple as that. But there are other times when it is. It's a reaction.

So being sensitive to sound and having loud noises would increase my anxiety a lot. You know, I'm talking, it wasn't just anxiety and stress, it was all like anger as well. And it's taken me, well, it took a long, long time for me to go from being able to to be able to get to the point where it doesn't affect me nearly as much.

That's not to say that if I'm in bed and like today, for example, downstairs, they were drilling, there was electricians down there drilling and making a lot of noise and it was shaking my flat. I woke up to that and I wasn't madly impressed, if I'm honest. And sitting there watching telly and having that drilling, I wasn't enjoying it.

But I wasn't angry, I wasn't fuming, I wasn't stressed. And I think part of the stress and anxiety came in the past is the anticipation of a noisy neighbor. So let's say I had a noisy neighbor that maybe had lots of music loud.

So when the music was on, there'd be stress levels risen, I'd get angry. But other times when I'd be sitting at home and there'd be no sound at all, my stress levels would be rising thinking and expecting the noise to start. And inevitably, well, quite often it did start because someone that's noisy, I don't know, maybe I don't have that, there's a sense of consideration that doesn't seem to be within their grasp sometimes.

It's that level. Maybe in other scenarios that they're really sensitive and caring and considerate, but some people just think, well, I'll have my television as loud as I want, I should be able to play music as loud as I want, regardless of how thin the walls are. I still sound angry, don't I? But I'm not, I'm not, you know, I kind of accepted it.

I've lived in enough places to realize. You know, the ironic thing about this is as I'm making this recording, I've got Andre, my ferret, running around, climbing into carrier bags and making way too much noise. And it's annoying me.

But that's kind of funny, isn't it? Though I'm talking about how noise doesn't really affect me anymore. I'm half like when I just chuck him out the window. That's more because it wouldn't bother me if he was just doing that because I'm trying to do a recording.

Anyway, he's going to do what he does. He lives there. I'm his lodger.

So there you go. Right back to the recording. So I used to, my first memory of having problems with noise was with my brother.

I was on the top floor of our house, but two older brothers were living on the top floor with me. And my oldest brother was playing music very loud. And I kept knocking on his door saying, can you turn it down? Because I had to get up early in the morning to do my paper round.

I was at school still, I was probably 14 then. And he was probably about 18, so he'd left school. And his reaction was basically tough.

So my reaction was anger. And I wanted to, genuinely I wanted to hurt him. I did, I wanted to punch him.

I didn't, but I wanted to. But because he just, more because of his attitude than because of the music. But from then on, I just had a real issue with, it wasn't just the music, it was the attitude of the people that had the music when I'd complain.

Because ultimately, no one likes to be complained to. No one likes to be told what to do. And what I realised over the years is, when you knock on someone's door saying, can you maybe turn the music down please? They'll say, oh, sorry.

And pretty much guaranteed within 20 minutes or 10 minutes even, the music will be loud, perhaps louder than it was before. And, you know, at times I've heard a conversation repeat afterwards saying, how dare he knock on my door? You know, sort of. So I stopped doing that after a while, because it can get a little bit heated.

But I used to go off, used to really, really lose it when I'd get disturbed. In fact, I got disturbed when I was disturbed, if that makes sense. And it was the anxiety, it did cause stress.

In the moment, it caused stress afterwards, because I felt guilty for what I'd done or what I'd said. I didn't do anything too bad too often, but I kind of felt guilty for what I wanted to do. And there was that whole trying to kind of even out in my head, because logically, I knew that I was acting or overreacting.

I mean, you know, really reacting, overreacting. But emotionally, it didn't make any difference. So when I managed to get logical and managed to calm my mind down, I then felt guilty and felt bad.

And I felt anxious, partly because I'd gone against what I believed was real, what I believed was the right thing or the right way to act, is to not act with violence or violent words or violent thoughts. And in the same way, not to... I just felt guilty, basically. And then there was the anxiety of expecting it to happen again.

And it did happen again, over and over again, for years and years and years. So all the different places I've lived, and it's probably why I've experienced it so much, because I've lived in many, many, many different places, more than the average. And I've moved home, I don't know, nearly 50 times since I left school.

So I've lived in lots of different places and experienced different types of people living with them or living in a room, in a house, sharing a house. And there's a place in London where the door kept slamming. All of the doors were almost like, I don't know what they were, but they just slammed.

They closed on their own, which is a fire door thing when they're supposed to. But just because a door closes on its own and slams, doesn't mean you have to let it slam. And this is when I was 18 or 19.

And I said to the ladies downstairs, can you stop letting your doors slam? Nope. And I did, I used to punch the wardrobe and the wall in the room I had, because I used to get so frustrated. And then I'd be lying in bed thinking, I'm going to get woken up by that.

Because sometimes it'd be late at night, I had an early start, and I'd get woken up by it early in the morning before I had to get up. So that caused a degree of anxiety and stress for me. Another time, even people that I get on with, I struggle a bit when they're noisy.

So I lived in a place before moving to London, and there was a couple there, I got on really well with them. But they loved playing loud opera music, really loud. And I was constantly asking them to turn it down.

Because I had to get up at five o'clock in the morning, because I had a little cleaning job that I had to go to. And they just, but I liked them. But it's the whole, I had anxiety from that, not knowing, are they going to do it again tonight? Is it going to start up again in an hour? Because they'd be up all night drinking and listening to music.

And yeah, my nerves, it just, I was young enough for it not, didn't seem to affect me as much as it would now. Living in that environment would be practically impossible for me. Just the whole constant barrage of loud sound is not, although I can deal with loud sounds that happen occasionally, I couldn't not constantly.

I'd have to move. So it's, that's, that's one of those things, that's one of those situations that happened. There is a really weird, and this is embarrassing, I feel a bit, well, it's kind of embarrassing to really mention it.

But this is a long, long, long, long time ago. Back in the 90s, so just give you an idea how long ago. And the, I got woken up by someone knocking on the door, and they were reading the meter.

It was like half seven in the morning or something. And then by the time I got downstairs, they'd left. And I went out holding a screwdriver, screaming at this person.

And again, embarrassing, terrible behavior. Awful. But it's almost like I lost my mind.

It's because I was constantly being woken up where I lived. And, and I was, I was awake during the night, quite often, but getting woken up during the day, which is kind of normal practice. Most people are awake during the day.

And I felt bad about that. I'd done worse than that as well, later on, but that was bad. And luckily, I just managed to go inside and calm down.

The thing is, the screwdriver was on the side, it was near the phone. I didn't sort of grab, didn't, didn't have a screwdriver in my bedroom, planning to hurt anyone. I just ended up looking down and had a screwdriver in my hand, as I was shouting at this bloke.

And he was being rude back to me, which is, I suppose, fair enough. But he was like, well, I'll do what I want. I'll knock on the door whenever I want.

It was, yeah, it was quite a difficult thing to deal with. And again, my stress levels rose. I didn't class it as stress back then.

I just classed it as feeling really, really tense. Really, really tense. And so I didn't use words like anxiety or stress, didn't understand what they were.

I had no interest. And back then, I'd have classed it as weakness. It's true, that's what it was.

I would have classed it as weakness. What you mean, you're stressed, you're anxious. Even though I'd already been given stress, I'd already been put on medication for stress in 95.

Even after that, I still really, at that time, I don't think I really recognised it. I didn't really take the stress and anxiety seriously until I had the panic attacks in November 2002, when it really kicked in. Before that, even having been diagnosed with stress and having been ill for 10 months prior to that, I didn't take it seriously.

I didn't really acknowledge it. But I was affected by it. And looking back to my childhood, I was affected by stress.

I was a very stressful child. And what I used to do is, I'd bottle everything up. And then I'd explode.

But not angrily, just in tears. As a couple of times, remember one particular time, I was, I think I was eight. And I went into the kitchen and my stepmom was in there.

And she said, what's wrong? And I just burst into out crying. And I was howling. And I didn't know why.

I didn't know why. She was like, what's wrong? What's wrong? I said, nothing. Nothing had happened.

It was just an accumulative build-up, you know, of various, I guess, just being a kid. And I absolutely exploded. There was nothing bad happening at school.

It was, you know, everything's, in fact, that's probably one of the best times of my life. When I was seven, between seven and eight, the family was a happy family, pretty much. There was a school, you know, everything was nice.

It was a really good time. But I just, I don't know what it was. I just built up this stress, which I wouldn't have classed it as stress, because I didn't even know what stress was.

I had no concept of it at that age. All I knew is, it was like when my stepmom said, what's wrong? She'd opened, she just, I was a shaken can of coke, or lemonade, or something, or a shaken bottle, and she just undid the lid. And I just, everywhere.

Completely exploded. Released. And I did feel better afterwards.

So it was a cathartic experience. But, and very weird, though. And I remember it.

I don't remember it like it was yesterday, because clearly it wasn't yesterday. It was 40, what, 41 years ago. So it's a long time ago.

But I remember it. And it happened a few times, actually. And it still happens.

See, I'm telling you stuff that is really personal here. I don't know why, but I know why it's personal, but I don't know why I'm telling you. And things build up.

And then I start crying uncontrollably. And it's really, really rare. It happens maybe once every couple of years.

Sometimes it doesn't happen for two or three years. But when it happens, I just lose it. But not emotionally lose it, in the sense of not knowing where I am, or wanting to do anything bad, or anything like that.

It's just a complete emptying, or release, or just too much stuff in there. And it just pops, almost, like a fizzy drink that's been shook. And the last time it happened that I remember is when a friend of mine said something to me.

And it wasn't even that bad, but it was quite cruel, actually. And I came back up here, and and I was upset with what had been said to me. Especially, I was trying to do that person a favour, trying to help them.

And they basically just was a bit cruel, but not horrible, not really badly, but just dismissive, and a bit unkind, really, but not probably not meaning to be. But I just completely lost it. And this was about three years ago.

And I never kind of could tell what it was like, what was it about, why, you know, what did it compare to, until my Nan died. And the first, when my Nan was ill, before she died, she was ill, and I think she broke her hip again. And she, and my dad phoned me saying, oh, your Nan's ill.

I said, well, I can come and see her. And his attitude was like, there's no point, which was upsetting to me. And I put the phone down, and I just lost it.

And that was, and I completely exploded, you know, a bit like popped, like the fizzy drink. And that's the first time it happened with, for a reason, like that I could actually see a reason for it. Like a proper, you know, and this is quite a long time ago, back in 2013 or something.

And then, my, probably the last, the next time it happened, when there, I could see a reason, was at my Nan's funeral. And I just lost it again. But it made sense then.

It was grief, and it was, and it was a relief, a relief, a release of those feelings that were kind of clogged up. But it felt different, because there didn't feel like there was stress involved. It felt more natural.

You know, it's grief, we're supposed to get upset. It's like, you know, that's what I've always been taught. You cry at funerals and all that stuff.

So, it felt natural, although I did really blubber, really lost it. Everyone else was composed, and I was just, I was about to start punching the floor. It was ridiculous.

But, I, other times, I know I'm, I was talking about noise and sound, sensitivity to loud sound. And I will come back to that, because I've managed, I've managed to stray off into the territory of built-up stress and anxiety. So, I don't know how many other people, maybe you have that, that have experienced that feeling of just exploding, and just, you know, like a fizzy drink, the lid's taken off, and all the overflow.

And that's part of the reason why, when I started making relaxation sessions, you know, back 14 years ago, I started trying to include the idea of an overflow. You know, like with a bath or a sink, so that if it gets too high, the water starts to move out of the bath or the sink, because there's that hole isn't there, which is at the top of the sink.

I don't know what you call it, but the overflow hole.

I guess that's what it's called. And just in the same way as a toilet, a toilet can't overflow, because it has a mechanism doesn't it, so that it can't, the water level can't go above a certain level. So, I tried to include that idea in quite a few of my earlier relaxation recordings and almost kind of implant the idea and allow it to be there, to automatically work when needed, to come to action when required, instead of being too explicit with it.

Just, you know, that's a good idea actually, because then there's less build up. In fact, it can never build up. So, I don't know how many people listening to this actually relate to that small child of eight years old, that I was completely oblivious to what was going on.

All I knew was that I was crying uncontrollably. And before that, I was rigid with, I guess, tension. I didn't have the words, but it was tension, physical discomfort, tense muscles, and probably way too much going on in my head.

And not able, didn't have the ability to deal with that stuff. So, I think sometimes with the sound, with the noise sensitized thing, being a bit sensitive to noise, is when I've lived in places where there's a constant barrage of noise, or even intermittent, you know, it might be every few days, it builds up. I kind of start getting that build up of stress, the anxiety, the stress of when it happens, then the anxiety of will it happen, the expectation that it will happen.

And then the worry of what will I do if it does happen, because, you know, I am officially a moody old git. I'm officially got a mood disorder, and my moods depends, what I do depends on my mood. I'm very controlled, not controlling to other people, but very able to control what I do, much more than I used to be able to.

And maybe not more than I used to be able to, but more than I realized I was able to. That's probably a better way of saying it, because no one has to wait to be 45 or 49 or 35 in order to be able to make changes. It's within everyone from any age.

It's just sometimes, well, I definitely didn't believe I was able to, not for a long time. But then I spent most of my life thinking I was really, really thick, really stupid, unintelligent. That's what I believed.

That's what I was told. So I believed it. So our beliefs affect what we do and how we act, which means maybe it's time to look at some of those beliefs.

So as far as the sound issues go, I'm a lot better than I used to be. I don't react as much to background sounds. But I've also got coping mechanisms in place for background sounds.

So if I've got a noisy, I don't know, if I've got a lot of noise going on outside, so let's say, I don't know, the lawns, we have these hedge trimmers that come around, and they spend hours in the garden trimming hedges. They just seem to spend hours doing it. So I've got headphones that I can put on and listen to music or watch a movie, watch Netflix, and I can't hear the hedge trimmers when I'm doing that.

Other times, I just don't care about it. I get myself into a level of thought where I'm not bothered. I can even lay in bed and fall asleep to that sound, which is something that I never would have been able to do in the past.

Not that I never would have been able to, but I never knew that I was able to. Yeah, I need to, I think we can, I want to stop, I don't just want to stop myself from limiting my future possibilities, or limiting what I do now. I want to stop limiting what I could have done.

It doesn't change the fact of what I did do. But I want to stop limiting the past, in a sense of saying, well, I had no choice. I couldn't do anything then.

Well, yeah, different circumstances, a bit of knowledge, a bit of education. I may well have been able to do that. I may have been able to be an accountant or a lawyer, different circumstances, but I didn't have those circumstances, didn't have any belief.

I didn't go to university till I was 37, and I got my degree when I was 40. I didn't believe I could do that when I was in my 20s. I wanted to, I wanted to believe it, to be honest.

It wasn't even a case that I wanted to have a degree, but I didn't, I truly didn't believe it. And if you really, if someone truly doesn't believe something, that is a huge obstacle. That's a, that's a massive big banana skin in front of you.

Okay. So other things I've used over the years to help is earplugs. So I've managed to, I started using earplugs when I was in bed and it did make a difference.

It meant I could sleep and I didn't hear the background sounds. Maybe I lived near, I used to live near a busy road, really busy road. There was a quiet period between about two in the morning and five, and then it got busy again, lots of lorries.

And so, yeah, I'd get woken up. I don't mind the sound of traffic, to be honest with you. It's quite soothing now.

Didn't back then though. So I used to wear earplugs. And all I would say, if you do wear earplugs, don't push them in too far.

I want to give you some practical advice there. Don't push them in too far because I did that. And I perforated one of my eardrums, which gave me, I forget what it's called, but basically my balance went.

So whatever that thing is where you kind of, there's a term for it, but my balance went. And I couldn't believe that just a perforated eardrum could do that. So the eardrums are very, very important.

So, and I wore earplugs for years and I only perforated my eardrum once. I just pushed it in too far. So just make sure you don't push them in too far, that's all, if you do end up wearing earplugs at some point.

So for me, that was a practical solution because I couldn't find any other solution. And now I don't wear earplugs. I did when I first, where was I living before? Yeah, I do have earplugs here.

So I've always got them in case I need them. I've got a big box of about 30 or something. So it's 30 sets.

So they're there. They're in the cupboard. If I ever need to wear them, they're there.

So if I have, for example, today the electricians have been drilling all day. If I needed to sleep, luckily I didn't because I slept during the night. If I needed to sleep, desperately needed sleep, I would put the headphones, the earplugs in.

Because that possibly would have been the only thing that I could have done because the noise was too much. It wasn't. The sound of drilling isn't, I don't find it very therapeutic.

It's not very relaxing. But that's just me. I've also got headphones.

So loud sounds on a bus. I'm sensitive. I'm still sensitive to sound.

I am. I'll admit it. I am.

But I'm less reactive. Does that make sense? I don't react aggressively. I don't feel anxious in the same way expecting to feel unwell.

Because it used to affect me physically. I'd feel unwell by it. I'd be so tense and just so angry and not able to express myself.

And yeah, it was pretty awful. But now I've got these ear headphones and they're really good headphones. And they're noise cancelling headphones, which means when I've got them on and I'm listening to music, I can't hear pretty much anything.

I can't really hear anything going on outside of the headphones. So I wear them. I wear them when I'm on the bus.

So that I'm not, because I find, I know, I feel like I should be talking as being, having been completely cured of everything and be, you know, like a lot of, you know, sometimes read books by people or listen to someone and they've got all the answers and they've got all the, and they've done it all themselves and they're perfectly well now. I'm not coming from that perspective, which I'm sure you're aware of.

But some things that I may be, that maybe don't work for me as well, may work for others.

Some things that work for other people or don't work for other people might work really well for me. So we're all different. So I think anything's worth a try.

So what I do is I have the headphones on because then I can't hear what anyone else is saying. And that's nice. I like that.

Again, it's just a personal thing, but I noticed that my stress levels, and I've talked about the headphones before, I think my stress levels are much lower when I've got the headphones on. And other things you could do, soundproofing. You could soundproof the place.

There's different, that does, that costs money, of course, but there are ways of changing. Sometimes it's changing your environment. Sometimes it might mean moving.

I know that's extreme for a lot of people. It was never extreme for me. I could move with 10 minutes notice.

I was always ready to move. Not now, but I used to be. And I mean, I moved, I'm sure I moved twice in one week.

Plus, you know, sleeping on people's couches and stuff when I was younger as well. But there is, I don't know, there are ways of changing, you know, making changes. I always remember this, someone I counseled, and he's had noisy, I think he had lots of kids playing outside, but they weren't kids, but there was like a playground or a little field outside where he lived.

But they were there late at night making loads of noise, shouting and screaming and whatever. And he was getting really ill with it, probably physically ill by the stress and anxiety. And I made a suggestion to him.

And, you know, being a counsellor is not supposed to really make practical suggestions. But I thought, well, I can relate to what he's saying. So I said that to him, I can relate to what you're saying.

In a sense of, I've had many years of issues with noisy neighbours and I've struggled to deal with a lot of loud noise over the years. And I told him that I wear earplugs, because he was talking about seriously doing something really bad. And I said to him, and he had his house for sale, so he put his house up for sale, because he couldn't stand living there anymore.

But in the meantime, because the house was taking too long to sell, he was talking about doing perhaps the worst thing that he could do. So I said, look, get some earplugs. It works for me.

And he said, you know what, I never even thought about doing that. It's kind of the most obvious thing in the world, isn't it? When you think about it. But not everything's obvious is obvious.

Wear earplugs. But then some people, I know some people like this, would be so bloody minded, so adamant in their own righteousness of being right, that they refuse to do anything to help themselves. So someone would suffer through it, being some kind of a martyr, but at the same time getting ill, refusing to wear earplugs, because why should I have to wear earplugs? Which is true, they shouldn't have to.

But if it helps, even if they're only on a temporary basis, if it helps, then do it. Why should anybody ever have to go on dialysis or have a blood transfusion? Why should anyone ever have to have an operation? Why should anyone have to have diabetes? Why should anyone have to do anything? It's life, isn't it? We have things happen. And if someone's got diabetes, they either take the insulin or they die, basically.

I think it's kind of an extreme situation. But they can say, well, why should I have to take that? You haven't got diabetes. You haven't got diabetes.

No one I know has got diabetes. Why should I have to take insulin four times a day or whatever it is? Well, the fact is, you don't have to. But you're going to be very, very, very ill unless you do.

It's a choice. And people don't like hearing that. Because it's almost like you can't be a martyr or feel sorry for yourself when you realise it's a choice.

It's really hard to keep the anger going when you realise that actually it is a choice. No one can make you take insulin. Unless you're in a hospital bed and you're tied down and they're injecting it into you.

No one can make you take insulin. But if you don't, you're in trouble. You know, if the person is diabetic, of course.

And that's just a small version of that. I mean, there's way more serious situations in a sense of if someone needs help and they won't take it, they won't accept help, or they won't do anything to help themselves. So if someone's going through stress and anxiety, financially unable to deal with it financially, having financial problems, but refuse to get help, refuse to get some kind of financial advice, and then they're offered the choice of, well, bankruptcy is the only option, but their pride won't allow it.

Well, no one else goes bankrupt, which obviously is not true. But in their mind, they might say, well, no one else that I know has gone bankrupt. Why should I go bankrupt? I've worked too long, too hard for this.

So they keep going. And the thing that I probably don't mention very often, probably because I don't really like to think about it, but stress can lead to illness, physical illness. We all know that.

But it can also lead to extreme physical illness, where you can't come back from it. And I think it's, if possible, try not, you know, to everyone, try not to let it get to that point. Again, an obvious statement, but something that probably a lot of people will never listen to, because of their so-called pride, or their wanting to be right, needing to be right.

The refusal to be a loser, which is possibly what some people would think it is. Personally, I think if someone's got a business, and it doesn't work, they're not a loser. Because they've started a business, and they've done everything they can, and it hasn't worked.

Because not all businesses work. That's the fact. Because if they did, then, well, it wouldn't work, would it? Because everybody would have a business.

And we need other people to be doing other things in society. If everyone had their own business, you know, a successful shop, who would deliver the mail? Who'd drive the buses? Who'd, you know, do all the things like that? Can't believe I'm talking about driving buses now. So you can go for practical help with stress.

And as we were talking, you know, before, about loud sounds, unnecessary noise. I used to punch the walls. I used to punch stuff, which is a really, really bad habit to have.

Really ridiculous, silly thing to do, because it damages, physically damages the person who does it. You know, the amount of time I broke my right hand twice, at least twice officially. But I think I've probably broken fingers and stuff in the past.

I just couldn't move anything for a few weeks. So I suppose what I'm trying to say, and yep, it's taken a while, is there are ways around things. There are ways to cope and deal with stuff, stress-related.

It's just finding them. Finding the ways that are useful for you, that work with you, that work for you, that help you. And not everything is going to help everyone.

You know, I did a stress relief exercise using a tennis ball or a sock, two socks rolled together. That's going to help some people. Some people think it's ridiculous, wouldn't even try it, because I think that's silly.

Other people might do it and think it's still silly. Other people might do it and get kicked out of the supermarket. I mean, who knows? The thing is, the mentality to open your mind to the possibilities of change, to the possibilities of something helping, because there's always going to be something that can help you, always.

It's just finding it. That's all it is, just finding it. And as far as the noisy neighbours, stuff like that, learning to relax and be calm is useful.

And maybe looking at practical ways to change how you feel, like headphones, earplugs. Extreme situation, move. Move if you need to, but that's an extreme situation, no? And it's not for everyone, and it's not fair to have to move.

But just remember, everything's temporary. And even if someone's making noise, they will stop eventually. And I could go on, there's other experiences I've had, but I won't, because, you know, I've done some, I've just, yeah, I've had some silly reactions to loud noises in the past.

But that's, that's not me anymore. Anyway, I want to go. I wish you lots of love, and remember to be kind to yourself, because you deserve to be happy.

Bye.