Alex York - Bedfordshire Hypnotherapist
Alex York BA (Hons), Dip Hyp CS, Dip PC
“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.”
I am a therapist who offers a unique blend of psychotherapy and hypnotherapy.
Before becoming a therapist, I was always fascinated by the mind, how it works and always trying to underst different styles of therapy and techniques to help my clients. I continue to learn from every client I meet and have come to realise thath no style of therapy is complete in itself and in some way each client will define their own therapy.
Hearing about other people’s experience of counselling raises a common concern, ‘I didn’t get anything back’. Silence and frustration can be a key component in therapy but it needs to be used effectively at the right time. I keep the dialogue going and we share ideas.
Often I will recommend books or things to watch that may help or inspire you and some times I will set challenges between sessions.
I work in short-term goal focused therapy and long term relational therapy and with all clients I hold these values throughout:
- Equality – We work together, talk and share as equals
- Openness – We create an environment where we can share thoughts and feelings and how we experience each other. If you want to know what I think or feel about something, you are always free to ask.
- Feedback – We review therapy, set goals and and keep open a dialogue about how you feel about the way we’re working
We will work with the unconscious, understanding the script we have written for ourselves, be
coming aware of your unconscious needs and understanding why mistakes are being repeated.
We look to break cycles of thought, feeling and behaviour that hold you back.
Sometimes we work on retraining the brain and habits, other times the therapeutic relationship will be what brings about change.
Training, qualifications & experience
I work full-time as a therapist in my private practice. Before becoming a therapist, I was always fascinated by the mind, how it works and always trying to understand myself and the people around me. I graduated in Philosophy in 2004 and then spent a couple of years working without much focus. (This bit wouldn’t go on a CV…)
I then decided to go travelling for a year, both with friends and then travelling on my own. It was travelling on my own that broke me out of auto-pilot and opened me up to different cultures, people, ideas and emotions.
On my return, I started volunteering with the Samaritans, a 24 hour phone line for people experiencing suicidal thoughts and emotional distress. The two years I was there was a real eye-opener, both in hearing what people had to go through and understanding the emotional struggle we all have. The skills and principles I picked up there form a large part of my practice today. The art of listening and being present with someone while abandoning judgement is a cornerstone of my therapy.
While I didn’t underestimate the great help this counselling style service could provide, I grew frustrated with the limitations that came with it. I started studying and training in hypnotherapy and psychotherapy and began to understand ways to help bring about change within people.
After gaining my first diploma in hypnotherapy and counselling, I started to practice privately and carried on studying further in psychotherapy. I continued to learn about the role our unconscious played in our behaviour and how to change the script we’ve already written for ourselves.
Qualifications and accreditation
- Diploma in Hypnotherapy & Counselling Skills
- Professional Diploma in Psychotherapy & Counselling
- Advanced Diploma in Psychotherapeutic Counselling
- BA in Philosophy
- Accredited Member of the National Hypnotherapy Society
- Accredited Member of the National Counselling Society
Areas of hypnotherapy I deal with
- Addictions *
- Alcohol abuse *
- Anger management
- Anxiety *
- Chronic Fatigue Syndrome*
- Depression *
- Drug abuse *
- Eating disorders *
- Exam stress
- Fear of flying
- Food addiction *
- Gambling addiction *
- Insomnia *
- Irritable bowel syndrome
- Low self-confidence *
- Low self-esteem
- Obsessions and compulsions *
- Pain management *
- Panic attacks *
- Phobias *
- Post-traumatic stress disorder *
- Public speaking
- Quit smoking
- Relationship issues
- Sex addiction *
- Sexual issues *
- Sleep disorders *
- Sports performance
- Stress *
- Stuttering *
- Weight loss
* If you have been diagnosed or suspect you may have one of the medical conditions starred above, you should consult your GP for advice, diagnosis and treatment and always inform your health professional before starting any alternative or additional therapies or treatments.
I have worked in a number of different ways with clients and I adapt my therapy according to each person's needs.
I work in short-term intensive therapy and also in long-term weekly therapy.
The length of each session and the cost are reflective of your needs and the way in which we will work together.
To enquire about my fees, please contact me on 07812995804 and we can discuss this in more detail.
For a greater understanding of the way I work, I have given a synopsis for the following treatments:
Anxiety comes in various forms whether it be panic attacks, constant worrying or social anxiety. It is a part of the unconscious survival mechanism that will lead us away from threats in our environment. It’s fantastic for keeping us safe from saber-toothed tigers, not so great when we want to talk in public, get on the tube or simply go to sleep.
Our fight or flight mechanism can often become too trigger-happy for various reasons. In therapy we can begin to understand your anxiety. There are many techniques and strategies we can make specific to your life and help reduce the anxiety very quickly and prevent the fight or flight trigger.
The probability of panic attacks can be greatly reduced and you can learn how to stay on top of them. We can work on how to deal with the ‘what-if’ thinking and the catastrophising which can lead us into a panic. We can build your confidence
Hypnosis can be a powerful tool in dealing with anxiety. It can help break the link between the trigger and the anxious reaction. Your thoughts can become calmer as we work with the unconscious and help you heal and feel good about yourself again.
In longer-term work, we can look to go beyond just coping but to really connect with who you are and what you want. When you really know and value yourself, everything else can fall into place.
There are many causes of depression, from repressed anger to never discovering or accepting who you really are.
We will start work from the first session on ways to cope with the depression; how to deal with negative thoughts and how to maintain your employment or relationships. We will have a clear goal in mind.
I will spend time getting to know and understand you, not just the story you tell people but who you really are. The way we relate to each other and the way you treat yourself is at the core of my approach.
We will be two people sharing thoughts and emotion and working with the unconscious to begin to bring about the change you’re looking for.
Compassion is what the therapeutic relationship can cultivate, for your self and your past. We work together in this process to allow you to experience yourself with freedom, working through any emotion or way of being that hold you back.
Therapy can help you understand your relationships, not just the romantic types but the relationships with your family, friends and peers.
Many relationships have powerful controlling feelings that are hard to fully understand or express. Sometimes there is an absence of feeling which is equally confusing. Is the relationship you’re in healthy for you? If not why are you still in it or how can you improve it?
The starting point for any understanding of your relationship is an understanding of yourself. Therapy allows you to look for patterns in thought, feeling and behaviour. You can gain insight to fully understand your past and to know yourself more in the present. Working with me will help lift those blind spots of self-awareness and we can begin to help improve your relationships.
The way I work with individuals in helping them with their relationships is by looking at the immediate impact on their everyday lives. If someone is in a dysfunctional or damaging relationship, it may be causing anxiety or depression of some kind. We can work in a number of ways depending on what you’d like help with. It may include improving communication, changing behaviours, helping with intimacy or putting up protective boundaries.
Hynosis can be a powerful tool in helping you to give up the habit. I have worked in a number of ways with smoking and base this treatment on the depth of the habit with clients. For some, the one-off session will work, for others, longer treatment is needed.
So why is it so hard to stop smoking?
There is often an unconscious need that smoking is meeting. It’s not logical and you are more than likely to be unaware you have it.
We will attempt to discover the unconscious reason why you smoke. Perhaps you have convinced your unconscious it’s a good way to deal with stress. Smoking could be fulfilling a need for routine in an otherwise emotionally chaotic life. Smoking may also stop you feeling lonely or anxious. There are an indefinite number of reasons why people smoke, for effective treatment it is important that you are prepared to examine yours in detail.
The therapy also involves the use of hypnosis in cementing your desire to stop smoking. Your own suggestions of the life you want and the person you want to be will be used during hypnosis to resolve that conflict between the conscious and the unconscious. You will no longer be struggling with yourself to stop smoking as every part of you will see yourself as a non-smoker.
I also record the hypnosis session so you can listen to the recording in your own time. This allows the hypnotic suggestions to be further ingrained into your unconscious.
An emotional relationship with food is firmly established as an infant. A baby is distressed when hungry, they cry for their mother and they are not only given food but attention and comfort. As a child it’s common to have been encouraged to eat everything on your plate and rewarded with dessert for achieving this. Another classic example is the inevitable tears of a child falling over only to quickly be happy again when given sweets.
There is no quick fix or piece of magic in stopping the comfort eating. The hypnosis doesn’t change the way your brain is wired in just a few weeks. It takes time and discipline to cultivate the free-will needed to lose weight in a healthy way.
The therapy I offer focusses on your emotional attachment to food. We look at the patterns in your life that may be contributing to your need to eat. Sometimes we eat when we feel vulnerable and it’s important to find a healthier way to nurture this vulnerability. Using the powerful effect of hypnosis we can help you to look after yourself emotionally in other ways rather than turning to food or drink.
We will use hypnosis to be in touch with your unconscious emotion and to use your suggestibility to gain motivation, to be more conscious of your needs and to help give you more control when it comes to eating. I will be able to provide you with a hypnosis recording to listen to inbetween sessions.
The relationship between us and understanding all aspects of your life is also a large part of the way we work together. The varied way in which I work will help you bring more balance to your life.
- Also registered with Counselling Directory